just a little shady - I HAD A BABY! Motherhood & Marriage Update - Ep. 1

Episode Date: December 5, 2025

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Hello and welcome back to the podcast. We are officially starting season four. And it's been a minute since we've been here and ended things with season three. A lot has changed. And contrary to what it sounds like right now, my voice is not one of those things. It just so happens that as soon as we announced the comeback of the podcast, I get a cold.

And we're not going to let that post-reveau. postpone us any longer so let's catch up on what's been going on since the last season of the podcast which feels like a lifetime ago and in a way was a lifetime ago because since then elliott's lifetime has begun and it's actually crazy when we ended Elliott arrived not long after so between season three and season four that has been the entirety of his existence here on this earth. I know. I'm officially a mamacita.

Heck yeah, you are. When that thing was going around, I'm like, I'm going to use that now. But yeah, so let's kind of start from the beginning. I'm not going to get into the whole birth story, although I really enjoy listening to those. So on our Patreon, that's going to be the bonus content this week. I'm going to tell a little bit about the birth story of Elliot and just my experience.

I felt like when I, I watched those on TikTok before I gave birth. It gave me a lot of, like, peace and kind of like what to expect. So I don't know. If you're into that sort of thing, join us on the Patreon. That's what I'm going to be talking about this week for bonus content. But we can kind of start at the beginning here because after Elliot was born and after most babies are born, you have to come up with their name. You sure do.

And honestly, this was something that I didn't realize I wasn't prepared. I wasn't prepared for of all the things I spent time preparing for before he came the name was not really one of them that was high on the priority list and I actually think for bonus content last season

we talked about naming him or did we talk about naming? I feel like we talked about the idea of talking about the idea of naming him. Well truthfully I didn't really have that many so I don't think we ended up actually doing it But that was, I had a list going as many people who are expecting to, or also, I don't know if you do.

But, like, I had a list going in my notes before I really. Okay. So, like, I feel like that's a normal thing. Before I ever had the thought of really actually having a baby, I had a list of names that I liked. But for some reason, when it actually came time and when Elliott was actually here, I was looking at all the names and I did not feel connected. to pretty much any of them. Like, I just kept saying, like, I don't picture this as him, which it's so weird. Like, how do you know?

He's a baby. He doesn't even look the same now as he did, you know, two months ago, let alone, you know, eight months ago. But I was looking at the list and I truly could not land on one. And so it got to the point. And Evan was the same way. Like, we both just kept being like, I don't feel like that fits him. I don't know.

Right. So we literally got to the point where. they were discharging me or going to be discharging me and we're like if you don't pick a name like we're going to have to give you paperwork that's basically saying you're responsible on your own for like submitting all the documents and making sure he gets a name and at that time too my brain was barely functioning so I'm like oh my gosh we have to do this before I leave because there's no chance we're going to like remember to submit all the documents after the fact so finally got to the point where we were down to two names, two totally different names.

Very, very different names. Which I'll just share. The other name was Rowan and then we had Elliott. And again, neither of these names were really like, I think I was panicking so much because I actually hadn't thought it through so much. And I felt like there's no meaning behind this. Yeah. There was no really meaning behind the names at the time that I felt. So I was like, you can't just pick it.

a random name it has to have meaning of some kind and also at that time we knew that we wanted his middle name to be marshal um after my dad and i was like he already gets evans last name and like carries his family's last name so like i want to carry something with my family too so we knew we wanted to do that so also every name we were picking we're like it has to go with that has to flow and truthfully at the end i was like i don't even care just like let's pick the name we like the best that we just think like fits him so we went with elliot and also at that time i was like oh cool like evans name is evan so it's like big e and little e and i actually think you're the one who texted me that initially i think i probably did oh i like elli because like big e and literally and i was

like oh okay like i love that now it's got like some meaning too yeah and then after when like we did the whole announcing and everything and then people like in the comments were like oh my gosh like she did like e m and m because like his last name is evan's last name and i was like oh my god it's like people actually think people were emotionally moved by your selection truthfully that's great like i'm glad there's more meaning to it than we initially meant but also i did feel like at the time i'm like this is definitely what people do when artists give like what people think are easter eggs or like secret meaning behind stuff and gave it meaning.

Like I was like, I actually didn't think of that, but I'll take the credit for it now. I felt like Taylor Swift. Yeah, I did. Like, I was like, oh, cool. Totally planned it. I'm so thoughtful and smart, but really I did not think of that. So that is how Elliott's name came to be Elliott. But also before that, obviously we like didn't have a chance to talk the baby shower.

was also after the podcast. The podcast ended. So we did do baby shower. And that was so fun, but also stressful because I ended up thinking that my baby shower was going to be like a month and a half or so, like before I was giving birth. And then it ended up only being like a few weeks, a couple weeks after that. It was a crazy turnaround. So I had to quickly unpennel.

and ready everything before I gave birth, which, again, if you want to hear that story, go to the Patreon to hear that. But, yeah, so Elliot actually, because of all of that, too, almost ended up being born on 313, which is Detroit's day, which we were like, oh, my gosh, that's so cool. There'd be so much, like, I know, it'd be so iconic. I know. But I was fine with it because also my Nana, who passed away, um, birthday was on the 15th so i was like i either wanted the 13th or the 15th and of course to be in the

happy medium that elliot is he was on the 14th so pie day pie day high day forever which i'm not mad at because you actually told me this too that if you're born on pie day you get like a bunch of free like you can get like free pizza for your birthday so yeah like people like businesses do it up for those born on pie day so going forward a lot of elliott's birthday parties will be including free pizza which i'm stoked about i'm sure he will be two one day um but yeah it was a good experience and it ended up being the perfect day but i will say postpartum not so perfect which obviously everybody talks about and a lot of people have their own experiences with I think I fell more into like, they call it at the hospital, at least that's what they were saying to me is like, well, you might get the baby blues and not like necessarily like postpartum depression or anything.

But I will say for like probably three days after I gave birth from there for like the next week or two, I would cry over the craziest thing. And it was so not funny. Now it's funny looking back, but at the time it was not because I actually was like so emotional. But I actually, we ended up coming home and Brittany was staying with the dogs while we were still at the hospital. And again, more to that story on Patreon. But so we ended up coming home to grab a couple more things. And Brittany was here with the dogs. And I remember like we were trying to rush to get back and we're walking out the door and I stay by to Brittany.

and I have all my stuff. I'm trying to remember everything I need to bring. And we get down the road. And thankfully we weren't that far. But we get down the road and I start going like, just sobbing. And Evan's like, what? Are you okay? Like what happened?

That's what happened? And I'm like, I didn't say bye to the dogs. He's like, it's okay. They don't know. They're fine. Yeah. And he's like, it's okay. okay it's okay i'm like it's not okay like i have a baby and i just forget about the dogs they're

gonna think i hate them and i'm like obviously panicking so evans like all right no problem we're gonna turn around it's gonna be fine because like at the hospital too they warned him like this is gonna be like a tougher time for her and whatever so he turns the car around lets me come in and say bye i come walking in just bawling i felt terrible i was like what's going on like are you okay what happened yeah so brittney is like um everything good there i'm like i didn't say bye to the dogs so i'm like oh i'm approaching the dogs trying to say bye which they don't know what's going on they were excited that i was coming back but also when i started approaching them sobbing they're like what's wrong with this crazy woman don't come and hear me um so yeah i ended up having to do that

And I think, too, a lot of my postpartum experience wasn't, like, necessarily depression, but more so anxiety. I had a lot of, like, intrusive thoughts all the time. I would fall asleep, and we obviously had Elliott and his bassinet, and I would, like, wake up thinking I had him in my arms and, like, panicking, but I didn't. And then, like, too, like, I would be walking randomly, like, oh, my God, what if I trip? And, like, just a lot of intrusive thoughts and anxiety, I think, was. more so my experience with it but i also know that's common i've seen a lot of videos i swear though the main thing i will say is i am so thankful for ticot and the internet because as much as we are like our phones are spying on us every time i was in need desperately of like a specific video to pop up

it always did ticot had it it did and i would like have a specific thought like oh my gosh am i a bad mom if I go work out or like my bad mom if I do this like just anything that I would think and I swear in my phone would always have a video right there to be like this is normal calm down you're okay you're okay and so I will say for that I am really thankful and also just because I am constantly Googling stuff what are babies supposed to be doing at six months yeah what are baby's supposed to be doing it you know and obviously every baby's different so you're not going to go straight off of that but it has made me feel a lot more calm about parenting and I genuinely don't know how our parents did it no I I think about that all the time all the technology all the resources that we have

today that once weren't here is astounding it's truly astounding and I'm very thankful yeah and I feel you will be too and I will say too and I know everybody says this before you have kids and like it makes you have so much more appreciation for your parents and like also just your current friends who have kids because obviously you like hear about it and you kind of know but until you like actually go through it and then you like just actually feel sorry for like not being there more for like those friends that have had kids are like gone through it so that's another experience that like it just makes you feel so like appreciative for like your parents and just have much more appreciation for like what your friends might have gone through I think the biggest thing for

us too is just like honestly the sleeping which I know everybody says it's still kind of like a struggle we're not like totally sleeping through the night but it's obviously way better than when you first come home um but i actually for me i felt like when i first came home it wasn't as hard even though i was like not sleeping as much and definitely losing more asleep but you're like so much adrenaline when you first come home and then like now since sometimes we'll get a good night sometimes we won't when we get a good night and then don't i'm like i forget how to function i'm like wait what what's i need sleep so it's been a lot of fun it's been eight months of like A lot of ups and downs and learning and fun and just a new life and a new appreciation for things.

But he's literally, like, I cannot believe how fast eight months has gone. I can't believe it. I truly can't. And every time I see him, I feel like he gets bigger and I'm like, where has the time gone? I don't. And I see him every day and I still think that some days I wake up, I'm like, did you grow three inches? What are you doing? Yeah, what's happening?

Calm down. But, yeah, I was sharing like some. pictures of him online and stuff but I think now like we're gonna take a little step back from it I was doing like the monthly pictures which I still think are so cute and we do still take them at home every month like one of the ones we do which I don't even think I posted was because he was born on pie day the pizza we do like a slice for every month he is um but I stopped posting those because the one day that I had missed um we it was actually like his whatever month it was I think it was maybe four or five months and we took them to the lion's game was the same day so I didn't like do the picture that day I did it after that and as soon as I didn't post the picture I got like some creepy messages being like where is the pick like people being like angry that I didn't post the picture I'm like you know what no you're not going to do this anymore yeah so we're taking a break from all of that um but I'm sure in the future will I'll still be sharing more and talking about you know all all the fun things he's doing but um what we did share we shared a lot of we shared a lot of a whole series of was brittany's house renovation um in the just a little reno series so i also i felt like since we were gone for so long i was like but it's okay we have something up our sleep else to share at the time in case you really, really missed us, you had the

Just a Little Reno series to watch, which was so much fun. It was a ton of fun. And like looking back, that also feels like a very, very long time ago, but that was the end of the pregnancy kind of. It really was. Really the last big thing that like we were working on and doing in the background of getting ready to have Elliott. Yeah.

But Bernie is living in the home. I sure am. It feels crazy that now I've been living in this home for what? Eight, almost nine months because we really were working until the wire until it was a very small window of time between us wrapping on the house and you having Elliot. And it's been literally a dream. Like I still can't believe like this is the house I get to live in. Like I'll get emotional if I think about it too much because I could have. never imagined getting to live in such a beautiful home and you did such a lovely like thoughtful

job on everything that you picked out for it me and brian will just be like sitting around the house because this is our first time living together and in a home and we're just like wow i can't believe this is our life and like this is the house we get to live in it's just like the coolest thing i love that i kind of miss it like sometimes yeah like i've gone back a couple times and i'll be like wow I forget like how much I love this place. I love the thought of ever leaving it pains me because it's you've got time. So much time. We're going to be in the house for a long time, but it is just so perfect.

And now it's decorated for Christmas. Well, I have to come see that. Yes, we have a tree up, all the things. Yeah, no, it was a very, if you haven't seen the series, definitely go watch it. It was a lot of fun. I feel like it showed like a little bit more of like us. talking but it really didn't but also it was just it's something I've been passionate about for a long time I've shared a little bit of my own house renovation there but Britney's house was really the first

project that like I fully helped like you know we opened up walls and we did like some crazy changes in the before and after even though the project in total I think was like maybe three weeks it was insane how fast the project went very fast but for that such a short timeline like it truly did go like do a drastic change and when i look at the pictures i'm like oh my gosh how did i do that in like that short of time it doesn't add up if you haven't seen it go watch um if you're into that kind of thing i always say like i compare i love hg tv i love like joanna gain stuff i love studio mcgee like all those things and i was trying to channel my inner Joanna and my inner Shea.

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So I got engaged, and if you have listened to this podcast, probably even one other time, I probably talked about wanting to get engaged because I wouldn't shut up about it for the last, basically since Brian and I started dating. Well, whatever it worked, he got the hint. You got the hint. And I'm just so happy. Haley was very much so part of it. It was a lot of, what I say, lying to me for a couple.

Because how long did you know that I was getting engaged before it actually happened? A long time. A long time. It was definitely at least like five months, I want to say. That's so extensive. Because like I knew when the beginning. of talking and the planning was going on yeah um so i was like a little bit involved with that but then obviously when i got closer and like actually the date was picked then i was actually having to

come up with lies um thankfully since elliot was like born not too long before that you'd be like what a month or so i got engaged at the beginning of may and then he was born in yeah so like a month give or take yeah that ended up working out in my favorite because whenever I had to like lie to Bertney about like not being able to talk or not being able to do something or even that day like not being able to like hang out or do something it just worked out because I could be like oh well easy to make the baby so easy to lie but she won't let it go but I swear I mean obviously if you know this you cannot ruin it for your friend you want them to be surprised so you did really good Brian did really good my family did

pretty good they were like my mom was like actively dodging my calls i think like the two weeks leading which is definitely suspicious for her it's very suspicious because her and i speak on the daily sometimes multiple times throughout the day on the phone so to be ignored didn't sit right with me um but i will say that like leading up to our proposal like i was very much so i wasn't trying to like snoop around for clues but i'm just a very aware person this woman you guys if i could tell you all the things that she did this specific day i mean i was like she knows she knows because even before the day happened and we were talking like we were just talking about her plans for that week and i was trying to do everything i could to like discourage her

from necessarily following through with her plans because she's telling me oh yeah we're going to the the lie was that it was her parents anniversary dinner and like they were going to go out with her parents for their anniversary and she's like telling me like i have this outfit she shows me it's white i'm like bitch so i'm like oh no no i like the other one better like just doing everything i could to like deter me deter her from thinking that it was because i felt that she knew but she wasn't saying it i wasn't going to say it so i'm like i like the other one better she's like oh well i might go get this tailored i'm like oh the tailor takes forever wear the other one like just trying to act I will say I was prepared to be prepared multiple weeks because I remember these phone calls

because I would tell her I'd be like well I can't get engaged X, Y and Z weekend because we have this, this and this and I I feel like people that have got engaged or about to get engaged like have these types of feelings but I would irrationally get pissed every time plans would come up and I'd be like well I know for a fact and I'm now not getting engaged. that weekend because we have this thing or that thing and I don't know I will just I was ready to be a fiance yeah and it finally happened I was getting very also frustrated with those phone calls and feelings because like I knew what was happening that it was already planned and already happening so like every weekend that would come by and she'd call me and be like well it's obviously not this weekend because now we're doing this and it'd be like a really fun plan and I'd be like like pissed at like not at the people that made the plans or the plans himself just like at the fact that it was then not happening and I kept being like just so silly happen when it's going to happen

just let it go and it ended up obviously working out it was the perfect day no it was every detail was thought through I know you and my mom and Tracy did like a lot of help with like getting the party set up and planned like you were there the day before like blow blowing up balloons and putting things together. And Brian was acting very casual. So I was like, what's going on here? But you guys literally, Brian, everyone did such a great job with it. I bawled my eyes out when he proposed.

And my family, his immediate family, and then Haley, Evan, Tracy, and Phil got to watch from afar. So, like, they couldn't hear what was going on. And I didn't even notice that they were there watching. until I looked around and there we were there y'all were and then we had a party yeah and then you're um I was I was thinking about this story and do you remember your like private Snapchat story that you oh yeah so we had a lot of fun um the day and did a lot of celebrating the day I was engaged because then on top of everyone that was there we had more friends were invited and we had a whole party.

And I guess I decided that it was the right thing to do to announce officially my engagement via Snapchat story singing The Spins by Mac Miller. And it is in all caps. I'm getting married in just videos of people around. Brian, nowhere to be seen. I don't know where Brian was in this moment. Your face was also not even in it. At no point does my face enter it.

You see my hand, though. I could very well have been just trying on somebody else's ring. And we were all just viving and having a good time. But people saw and people responded and we're like, are we really? Like, you're engaged. Like, because I hadn't posted anything. It was real life. You were comparing it.

Real time. No, it's literally the trend that's happening right now that I keep seeing of people being like my private story versus my public story. And it was like your private story was. you just and like everyone around it was just your hand everyone around drunkenly singing the spins yep no really additional context just i'm getting married yeah and then your public story and which ended up being like the next day was like the most wholesome smiley photo of you and brian with your ring and i'm like yeah this is that trend um in real time because that was her announcement to like, obviously it wasn't on like her public social media, but like a lot of people

you knew. Basically, majority of my like friends in real life who like were not necessarily there because it was a smaller party. We didn't invite everybody. We're seeing it and finding out in real time that I was potentially engaged and then got it confirmed the next day when I eventually posted. Yeah. But I feel like that was just ended up being the theme of the night was us karaoke to our phones and to each other in a way. Oh yes. Oh yes. Lots of singing. I, in my defense, that was like my first time really like not like being away from Elliott. Yes. And I may have had one too many of the margues that we had set up. The matrimony marks. Yes. They had a fun name. Yeah. I remember that. And for whatever reason, There's multiple videos of us, like, singing to the phone.

Very, like, 2000. Two thousand throwbacks. Yeah. Yeah, like, that was, like, what, like, people used to do in, like, 2016. We were living. Our best 2016 life that night. I performed the smallest man who ever lived by Taylor Swift. Extensively.

Extensively. I sang the entire song. People sat and watched. There was lights that went with it. It was your day. we were just living in it and i mean truly the whole video i there was interpretive dancing going on i mean you didn't miss a word no and you know one would think you know happiest day of my life newly engaged why would one sing such a sad song but it i felt it in my soul that it's just high

emotions it was so fun my emotions yeah it was a lot of fun and we what's weird about it is we're really not karaoke people no we're not that day we turned into so many songs were sung um a lot of singing a lot of good vibes yeah it was really fun yeah and now you're planning a wedding now I'm planning a wedding we're in full on wedding plan mode we've done a lot of the big stuff yeah it's exciting I'm so excited it's gonna be gonna be good yeah we I mean we we chose a really busy time to come back um but that's all right we're we're still planning to be back for our regularly scheduled programming once a week fridays 3 p m et here and on patreon bonus content you can watch or listen anywhere you get your podcast and yeah we're super excited to be back for this season and we'll

see you guys the next one bye everyone bye