just a little shady - I'm 30... Feel Old Yet? - Ep. 4

Episode Date: December 29, 2025

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hello and welcome back to the podcast if you are watching or listening to this episode we have officially passed christmas which also means i have officially joined brittany in the 30 club so exciting how do you feel probably the same yeah um while we're filming this i'm technically not 30 yet just like to point that out there um but if you're watching i am and i feel like a lot of people use my aging as a measurement of their aging and with that um we're also going to talk about a few other things that make us feel old in pop culture later this episode so if you love to hear those references and really just millennial out and feel old yourself stay tuned for that but yeah i'm 30 and We just celebrated my 30th birthday once.

By the time this comes out, we will be celebrating again because, to be fair, I didn't know the first celebration was happening. For the first time since my engagement party, I was genuinely surprised. Oh, good. Yeah. And I think it's kind of wild because normally, especially when it comes to hosting stuff or parties, I love, I live for that stuff. I eat it up. So everyone kind of lets me be that control freak. um however my dad decided to surprise me in the best way possible honestly too because it worked out

perfectly i had no clue this was happening although i was with everybody who surprised me the day before and somehow they all kept it to themselves and i walked out to get on the bus with my family to go to the lions game as we do and my friends surprised me and we're there um and all in their party hats too, of course. And I genuinely was like, oh, wait, what? And part of me was mainly just flashing in my head how the previous day, we were all together. All day. Yeah, all day. For Brittany's birthday. And I had gifted her a lion's vest thinking, okay, she can wear this to a future game, not knowing the future would be the next day. And I also had gifted myself that same lion's vest. So when I went to get dressed for the game on Sunday, I put the vest on and I thought to myself, should I really wear this before Brittany gets the chance to wear it because I just gifted her it.

But I'm like, she'll never even know I wore it because truthfully, I was like, I'm not going to probably take any pictures and like she'll never know. I'm just with my family. So I walk out and I see Brittany surprising me for my birthday in the vest I got her for her birthday and we're also matching. So that went through my head. And then it also went through my head that the previous day we were talking about how we were all going to get together for my birthday for a lunch that I planned, just like a casual lunch to get everyone together. But that I'm like, oh my gosh, how many times am I going to make everyone celebrate my birthday? I fear we couldn't celebrate enough. 30 is a milestone.

So I feel like even if we wanted to celebrate the whole entire month, that would be warranted. I wish the game wouldn't have ended up being the most stressful last few minutes of a game ever. I also wish that a lion's hand didn't get punched in the face while we were there. Yeah, yeah, I suppose. It was just like a weird game all together. I'm like, of course, this is the one time, like, we all get together and go. And it's like the weirdest situation. We left the game.

We spent half the game Googling, like, how is this player still playing after they punched somebody in the face? didn't make sense and then we spent the whole car ride home Googling like what just happened because even at the last moment we were staring at the scoreboard going like wait what what did they just say what did they just say and they were just like games over bye and it didn't help because i don't know how it was like shown on tv but if you were in ford field they changed the last score about three or four times like they kept like i think i have a video of it where they would change the score till it was like okay we won it's on the scoreboard yay but like we were like apprehensive to say yay and then it went back to like what the score ended up being it was so three times yes elena kept saying she goes how do you

win a game three times just to actually like lose the game it literally made no sense it was kind of one of those moments i'm going to be honest and we haven't talked about this in a long time but like where i thought to myself the script is somewhere because it it was so unreal that it could not be real every call i was just flabbergasted at what was being said and like in my mind and this is like just like because i'm a lion's like fan and love them so much you almost said i'm a lion's player i did i don't know why in your heart i don't know um 30 has brought out me saying some my brain's just not working like it used to but i was like no way we lose this game Like something in my soul was telling me like we are going to win in like these last two minutes in that last drive I said there's no especially with like the Steelers kicker missing their field goal attempt how yeah I don't know like the stars were aligning and it felt that way three times over and then they just didn't yeah and it was pretty um that part of it was disappointing all and all though still really fun um good times but

not disappointing and fantasy football related and I won't get into all the details but I did briefly talk about how I was doing very terrible in fantasy football this is my first time playing I had no idea what I'm doing and for the first like four or five weeks I didn't even change my team out when like people were not players around by weeks because I was just like oh what and then finally when I started winning I somehow ended up coming back and being in the championship for my fantasy so I'll have to update you guys in the future on how that plays out um just know if you know nothing about fantasy all you need to know i was the underdog and i am coming out on top and if you love a good underdog story stay tuned hopefully i win um but we'll see um but with all that let's get into some

stuff besides me being old and i frankly you're also i too am old so i'm speaking on both of our behalfs other stuff that makes us feel old that's just the facts um first of all mean girls and 13 going on 30 came out when we were nine years old and when you think about that and now we're 30 that just feels like that should not be legal that feels so long ago it does and like honestly when I think about these movies, I feel like they've been a part of me for my entire life. Yes. Like, I don't know a world without those

two staples. But something about realizing we were nine years old when they came out, like, I feel like if you would have told me, oh, Mean Girls was 10 years old. I would have been like true. Of course it is. Yeah, we're not that. No. It's 21 years old.

No, and that does not, it doesn't seem like we were 9, 21 years ago. But also in the same year. the notebook came out which actually doesn't does not add up that actually makes us ancient because when the notebook came out and i feel like even kids younger than us now think of the notebook as from i don't know the 1960s like something about the notebook feels like it came out so long ago like no it seems like a classic that was a classic had been at least 20 years before we were born and i that is what i truly genuinely thought

happen when I was 10 years old I would say I don't know how I missed the notebook coming out being at the movie theaters I guess it was probably like what rated like PG-13 at least so like we probably wouldn't have been going to the movie but like mean girls I was watching that first

thing when it came out probably saw it in theaters so it does not compute to me that that came out in the same year as all of those movies well also like you were saying these movies to our kids will be like what our parents say was in the 80s a thousand percent and when our parents say to us oh yeah this this and this movie from the 80s we're like oh my god why are you talking about something that was so long ago get over it and now we're like wait we are that to the kids younger than us we have our 80s movies now we have our classics that we will hang on to and rewatch for years to

come and when we want to put them on with our kids in the future they're going to be like i don't want to watch this old movie i mean maybe not maybe they'll have appreciation for cinema because for classic amazing cinema are great movies each and everyone the notebook i've only watched a handful of times i could probably actually like tell you the amount because i just it takes too much of an emotional toll on me i've watched it like the first time i watched it i watched it one time in this house um i had like slept over on the couch and i like put it on at like eight in the morning and like i just remember i was like full on sobbing and i think like evan had came out of like y'all's room to like begin his day and he was just like what are you doing you okay in the morning

crying the couch um yeah all of those make me feel super old i just don't like thinking that we have our 80s i don't like i don't i it just makes me feel like what do you mean be allowed no well also tv characters that feel like they are ancient artifacts that are actually just simply our age um lizzie mcguire well lizzie is older than us barely i think what four years six okay six years older than us that feels like i thought lizzie mcguer existed for 20 years before we got to know her. Yeah. And it's just not true.

Because, like, we were, like, almost at that age of watching Disney Channel when Liz McGuire was, like, in its prime. And, because we only had, like, what, two seasons? Yeah, we didn't barely get to enjoy it as much as we would. Like, seeing, like, people are, like, older than me, like, older cousins, like, watch, like, that on TV. And, like, I wasn't quite, like, there yet with watching it. so just the math is a math thing here same also like sweet life Hannah Montana those things are

non-existent anymore they're they feel like the staples of Disney that we the golden age when we think of Disney that those are the characters that we think of and like they don't even exist in these children's brains let alone I don't even think Disney Channel exists anymore it's only Disney Plus, isn't it? Disney Plus exists, but the great thing about Disney Plus is I believe that from what I hear from like folks that have like elementary school age kids is like Disney Plus is actually like really great because it's allowing kids to get into those shows. Like my hairstylist, she was telling me like like two weeks ago that her son just had Wizards of Waverly Place on and like she walked downstairs and she was like, what are you watching? This.

is from my age that's cool but I wonder if kids put those on and think they like this is old because I know even when even now if I put on a show from like 2002 I can tell love it I'm nostalgic for it but like I know that this was made so long ago so do they love it yeah I think that that I'm not sure but from what I've heard just from like some people like some of the decom like think like high school musical like i don't think that's like on this list that we have but like people are saying like no our movies are standing the test of time and i don't know if that's like people are looking at and it's like oh that's classic like i don't know i think about like the breakfast club like i really liked that movie in high school but that was probably like you know what i mean even for me those movies

when you put them on i'm like oh like you can tell like it's an old movie like you know right away and I feel to ask that we are we our classics have reached that to the younger generations also Dora the Explorer was 25 years ago when that premiered that's insane to think about and I think we said this on our bonus content at some point like she would be a full grown adult and I don't like that she she should be 10 and we should be 10 we should yes I would prefer to be 10. 10 seems like a great age to be. I mean, maybe not forever, but. Think about this. Rugrats premiered in 1991. Before we were born. Okay, but Tommy Pickles would only be 35. When I hear in 1991, I'm like, oh, my God. That's so long ago. It's,

what an old show. And then I'm like, wait, he's our age. Yeah. Oh, my God. Don't say that. it's just blues clues premiered in 1996 again i hear that wow what an old show nope no younger than us in fact it's it's as old as brian kids born in 2005 are 20 which that's really hard for me to conceptualize because i just feel like if you were born in the 2000s like you should be crawling yeah five years old maybe Yeah, that's how, like, we're not too far away from being born in the 2000. But it was the 90s. I know. That's something that always gets me to is like, I feel like we should be 90s kids.

But whenever I like, oh, back in the 90s as a 90s kids, I did this, this and this. And like some of it, it's like, I'm like picking at straws to like be a 90s kids. But like we are actually true 2000s children. Like that's our pop culture moments. What we remember. Yeah. Those are the first times you remember. Yeah.

Yeah, it's, I don't know. I can't fathoming. Kids born in 2010 or 15. I'm like, you shouldn't be, you should be in elementary school. You should be in diapers. Like, I don't know. I don't like it. The babies that were on teen mom are teenagers.

They could be the teen mom. I'm surprised that they haven't tried to turn that into it, like, some kind of show kind of rebooting everything that'll be next i'm telling you i just wonder what age does the generation below us think is old because to us old i remember being a kid and thinking 20 was old yeah and that's simply not the truth it's very far from it what age did the kids below us think was old did they think 20 was old or do they just think 30 was old was that their like did the marker grow up 10 years no i fear it could still be 20 like they probably think we're ancient

like dinosaurs like about to croak kids have like no concept of age or time honestly I don't have a like concept I've like said this as a joke before but like honestly even like looking at a lot of people older than me like when people are like well like I and I don't know when this comes up

but like trying to describe somebody's age or guess somebody's age like my guess always used to be like I don't know 35 36 like that was like I have a really hard time engaging people's ages, which is like, I guess maybe a good thing because like everyone would be like, oh my gosh, thank you. Like even if they're older, but. Well, I feel that our generation is also the one who started doing that on TikTok where we'd be like, guess our age. No one can guess that we're 30 and then the comments just absolutely roast them. You thought you didn't look 30? Like,

I would be terrified to do that and think. Well, that's why you're not doing it. That's that trend that's like, why would I, it was like, did you see the trend on TikTok where it was like, why would I, or like, don't feel, first quotes, don't make fun of them, that could be you. And then in quotes, it was like, why would I ever post myself on TikTok saying, guess my age? Yes. Like I wouldn't put myself in that situation, basically. But, I don't know, I get, we got breakfast on my 30th birthday and our waiter could not fathom.

that I was 30 years ago because that was the first he literally greeted our table hello what would you like to drink oh we're good with waters for now oh what brings you before he could even say like what brings you out today no okay she is 30 he asked what brings you guys out are you celebrating something and I said she's 30 yeah but real quick I didn't mean it in a negative way I just wanted him to know that we are here for a milestone and we want our Pepsi's crisp and our bacon crisp and our hash brown's crisp dude that was the point oh my gosh I love diner breakfast I think me and Brian might get a diner breakfast soon that's good we're talking about today we're like we should do that sometime over the next few days I know that was a good we did a nice little

birthday situation. We went to Pilates and breakfast on Britney's actual birthday. We sure. And that was a lot of fun and that that seems like a very 30 tells you our age as well. You know it really does and you know how me and Brian spent that night? We went to a little little winery and played Uno. That's wholesome. It was a very wholesome birthday. That's funny. Well let's get into some not wholesome things. Shady stories. Let's get into this week's shady stories on the patreon bonus content we are going to be doing naughty or nice pop culture moments from this year and talk about if we think that they categorize as naughty or

nice so if you want to see that make sure you join the patreon bonus content but for now let's get into the shady stories starting with shady story number one hello ladies here's my shady story i'm eight months pregnant and my best friend had a baby six months ago she doesn't live in the same country as me and before she had the baby we talked about me going to visit her when i asked her what dates she would prefer to me take vacation for work she said we couldn't set a date for me to visit yet because her parents and her husband's parents also wanted to visit the baby after he was born so i would go after they visited she had her baby and i was already pregnant and in the same month i went on maternity leave from work i have a health condition that met i had to

stop working for the rest of my pregnancy i ended up not being able to visit her and because I didn't feel comfortable flying for several hours alone, being pregnant, and she ended up not having her family visit her also. After having the baby, she started what I believe was postpartum depression. I told her that she should seek help, but at first she didn't think it was necessary. Well, in the past two months, she started therapy because she recognizes that she has postpartum depression, but she blames me and my family for not visiting her and says that's the reason that she's in this state. She says she had created these expectations and that they were not met, which is why she's so hurt.

I've already told her that I understand why she's hurt, but given my condition, I couldn't cross the continent to visit her. When I told her that, she didn't answer me, she changed the subject, but a few days later, she was again blaming us for her postpartum depression. I don't know what to do anymore because I'm in the final stages of my pregnancy, and I can't waste any more energy on this issue when I feel like she doesn't want to listen to me. right now she hardly talks to me we go days without speaking and honestly i feel very sad because i thought that at this stage i would be able to have my best friend support and share our experiences but no every time i try to tell her something about my pregnancy she ignores me and responds as briefly as possible i know i didn't do anything wrong i was putting myself in my future child first but she makes me feel very guilty about it and i feel like i have zero support from her at this stage am i wrong for choosing to

prioritize myself definitely no um but i will say postpartum as i gently touched on previously is such a weird emotional time for a lot of people and thankfully i didn't experience postpartum depression like full-fledged at it's what it can be so i can't speak on what she's going through but i feel like potentially just blaming or feeling like she's putting it on you, I feel like you can't necessarily hold that against her. And I'm sure at some point she'll come out of that and like her hormones are go back to normal and hopefully she'll pass that stage and realize like she wasn't actually upset at you. She was just upset. That will hopefully pass as well. So I feel like both of you are kind of in the right in your own ways and maybe temporarily you won't be friends and then

eventually you'll just both appreciate each other for being moms because it's hard couldn't have said it better myself I'm not a mom so I feel like I feel like everything you said it's a nail on the head yeah there was a book that I got and I can't remember the name I'll have to find it and link it but one of my friends got it for me after I had Elliott and I think it was like good moms something and it made me feel so much better after too because like I think it was like good moms have scary thoughts and it's just kind of like all the emotions and thoughts that you have after pregnancy that you don't know or you kind of hear about but you don't actually like know or think until you actually go through it and then you're like oh my god is this normal is this normal

I remember that there was a period after I had Elliott that I would say to everyone, I'm like, how's he going to know? Like, I'm his mom. Like, if I had any help whatsoever, like, I don't know. If I wasn't with him 24-7, I was like, how does he know why I'm his mom? I don't know. It was just like the weirdest thought that I kept going through. I don't know.

It was just like a weird feeling and a weird experience. And, again, obviously that's past. Like, he's well aware. that i'm his mom but i don't know it was a weird thought that i had and talked about like the weird anxiety thoughts that you would have like oh my gosh you'd wake up in the night thinking you're sleeping with your baby and you weren't just stuff like that i feel like you it's a phase and hopefully you know when you guys come out of it both of you'll be on the other side shady story number two so in march of 2023 i met a girl we'll call her casey we linked up because she saw

a poetry pose that I had made asking about an open mic. We started talking and she came over that night. We talked for about an hour and went back to her place and things got spicy. We were somewhat involved for about a week before she broke

it off. She proceeded to tell me that she wanted me in her life. Fast forward to 2025. A couple days ago, I told her how I felt and she couldn't have been and it couldn't and she said it couldn't happen BF or not. I told her that I would probably have to end the friendship if I wanted a GF.

She got upset and she didn't want to talk for two or three days. That entire time she was posting on social media about how she was confused in her. Another day rolls around and she snapchaps me like nothing happened. We haven't talked since the last snap exchange, but she hasn't been some, she hasn't been subliminal on any social media following that she's still with her current man and i'm stuck with friendship that she claims to appreciate i may very very well have to terminate at some point in the future yeah i mean i feel like this is just one of those classic scenarios where like you can't be friends after you like try to yeah be together like have feelings for each other it

just never works out um so that makes sense i don't know what what her goal is and like wanting to remain friends i don't either um but i did it did lead me to question do people still like sub post like yes they do yeah i mean yeah oh yeah you just said yeah i feel you just recently sent me something you're like this was a sub post or whatever but it's not well it used to be a sub tweet and now now it's like sub post or like sub well twitter is not twitter right i feel like a sub tweet i feel like it's more so like people will post things like repost things that are instagram stories but like captions or yeah captions like very clear intentions or like you know something so like you fully understand like why i guess yeah it's not some tweets anymore it's like sub insta stories yeah it's a little

yeah it's a little um it used to be so direct so that that ages us as well it does it does i think it's still direct on facebook i fear people honestly will go as facebook is a crazy place to me i feel like yeah like they have no chill over there i do not participate in posting on the facebook for that reason people use it as their journal and i'm not about it instead write your shady stories into our shady stories and then we'll talk about exactly in a safe space shady story number three in 2022 i met my dad's friend's son during a family vacation in the Maldives. Maldives? Maldives?

We were both 14, spending time together every day, talking, laughing, and slowly catching feelings without even realizing it. When the vacation ended and we went back home, we continued chatting and everything felt easy and natural. Then over something small and stupid, the kind of thing that only matters when you're young, we stopped talking.

It didn't last long, but for some reason, I couldn't fully forget him. It wasn't love. It just felt unfinished. Three years passed, and I'm 17 now, and I caught myself. thinking about him sometimes even though the story had been so short on my birthday this year he messaged me out of nowhere and we started talking again and it felt like time hadn't passed at all

back in 2020 we even had an inside joke about a girl in his class and i would joke and say you liked her and he'd always reply no she's just a classmate and it never felt serious just playful teasing after we reconnected i found out that he and that girl had actually been dating for a year i needed clarity so i asked him directly when they broke up because i didn't want to be the third person in anyone's story. He kept skipping the question and avoiding a clear answer. Eventually, he admitted that they had only argued and were still actually together. At the same time, he told me that throughout their relationship, he couldn't stop thinking about me, and he always felt like she wasn't the one. I told him many times I didn't want to ruin anyone's relationship, and if he

wasn't ready to end things properly, we should stop talking. He finally told her everything, and I believed that meant that I could talk to him freely and honestly without feeling guilty. For about a month, everything between us felt perfect. We talked every day, shared our thoughts, and I genuinely felt happy. Then he slowly started changing. He became colder, less present, and when I asked what was wrong, he said he was just busy preparing for university. Something fell off, but he wouldn't open up. When I finally pushed back, to be honest, he admitted that everything between us was fine at the beginning, but now he wasn't sure about me, and he kept thinking about her. That broke my heart because I warned him from the beginning not to start anything if he wasn't sure. I got angry that he wouldn't

have told me the truth if I didn't force the conversation. That night I said goodbye and told him I don't want to talk anymore, but I cried the entire night. The next day my parents took me on a road trip and we got into a serious car accident. It took me two months to fully recover and during that time I felt broken both emotionally and physically. The same day, I saw that he and that girl started following each other again. That's when it really hit me. He went back to talking to her the very next day after we stopped. I took all of it as a sign from God that I didn't need him in my life. I don't have anything against that girl. Honestly, I hope she understands the real issue with someone who didn't know what he wanted. So I made a choice and I stopped wasting my energy on boys like him

and started focusing on myself, my studies, and my future. Slowly, life really did get better. I've already been accepted to my dream university in Italy, and that acceptance felt like proof that sometimes losing the wrong person makes space for the right life. Period. Honestly, period. No. That makes me really sad that you cried the entire night. I think we've all been there.

Also glad the car accident, you ended up being all right. Sounds like everyone ended up being all right. Yeah, thank goodness, because that is very scary. But no, I think that this person was not meant to be in your life forever. And I saw a thing online recently where it's like some kind of, I don't know, probably a theory, but like once like you've decided to take somebody of your life, then you like miraculously like don't see them ever again. Like even if like they live around the block for you or whatever it is and I don't know

exactly how this relates to it. But like something tells me that that's going to happen here with this person. Like the moment that you're like, you know what? I'm going to live a better life for me. I'm going to do my thing. you will never see him or that girl again you're going to go on to do better things you're going to have great time at university and you're you're going to be the right person it's going to be good i feel like kind of what you're going with is like out of sight out of mind yeah um in a way

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