Keep it Positive, Sweetie - ASK CRYSTAL w/ Crystal Renee Hayslett

Episode Date: February 16, 2025

This week, host Crystal Renee Hayslett is dedicating an entire episode to answer your burning questions. Known for her genuine and transparent conversations, Crystal is eager to connect directly with her audience, offering insights into her personal journey and the topics you’ve been curious about. Don’t miss this opportunity to hear Crystal’s unfiltered responses and get to know her on a deeper level.

Coming up on Keep It Positive, Sweetie. What is my take on someone who really loves God, but wants to have a little liquor too? Okay, well, as we all know, Jesus turned water into wine. Okay, and if you read the text, in the text it said they was already, they'd already gone through the first batch of wine, and it was like some really good wine, they was already you know I'm saying feeling it you know and then his mom was a go on and do that thing you do you know I'm

saying so he's like all right cool do what I said do she gave me the title you good and he said all right there so he went ahead and turn that thing that white in the wine, you know what I'm saying? ["Sweet Home Run"] Welcome to another episode of the Keep It Positive, Sweetie show, a safe space to heal, laugh, grow and love. I'm your host, Crystal Renee Hazlett, and today we are turning the spotlight on to you. Guys, I received so many heartfelt messages, thoughtful questions and inspiring stories from you all. In this special episode, I'll be checking my DMs and answering your questions and sharing my perspective on topics that matter most to you. So grab your favorite drink or dessert, get

comfortable, and let's embark on this journey of positivity and growth together. And remember, no matter what, we're going to keep it positive, sweetie. But before we get into the episode, we have to get into this outfit. Let's take a look in Crystal's closet. I am wearing a colorful cardigan from Zara. It's wool blend.

I love this. It's actually one of my favorite sweaters. It kind of gives me that collegiate feel I'm wearing some boyfriend jeans from Zara as well. My boots are Bottega Veneta. These are Some of my favorite boots have actually have two pair of these in different colors Love these. I am wearing a a tank also known as a wife beater from Tarjay and My signature jewelry and some Fendi earrings. That's my look.

All right, here goes nothing. One thing I regret never being able to do, and one thing I thank God for shielding me from, something I regret. I always say that hindsight is 20-20. Looking back at my younger years, when I had the opportunity to leave for college, I stayed in my hometown.

I think that looking back now, I would have definitely moved and I think that would have helped me develop faster or if I would have learned how to be on my own a lot quicker because I still had my parents. You know, I was able to say I needed some groceries. I was able to go to my parents and we had a big deep freezer in the garage. I could go get whatever I wanted from that deep freezer. A lot of the responsibility

that I would have had to learn very fast if I had moved away from home, I didn't have to learn. It's a blessing as well, but I think one of the things I would have done is definitely left and went to college somewhere else. But a grateful for the experience I had. One of the things I'm grateful God shielded me from, so many things. You know, there's so many times where I look back and I realize some of the choices that I made when I was younger weren't the wisest. And I thank him for shielding me from myself sometimes. You know, even now, I look back on like

that was nothing but God. So yeah, definitely some of the decisions. My self care ritual when I need time to myself, I usually catch a flight down to Miami just to spend time down there. That is my place of solitude. I love the water. When I'm there, I spend time at the pool or I'll go to the beach.

Even spend time alone. Sometimes people feel like isolation is not a good thing, but I feel like my isolation is more solitude, where I find peace to be at one with my thoughts and by myself. A lot of times when you're around a lot of people, you can be distracted by how you really feel. And sometimes you need to be centered and to do that is to find alone time with God.

So definitely going down to my spot in Miami just to refresh and refill my cup and get some sunshine. My top three hair products, right now I use SAKRETS hair oil, I love that. I use Maill's, it's one of their mint deep conditioners, Babasuid mint deep conditioner, love that. And then for these edges edges honey I use ORS's edge control. Okay so right now I'm using the entire Renutrient Collection by Estee Lauder top to bottom. I tell you guys I've been using it for over a year now. I started last January of 2024 and it has done wonders for my skin. Even the bags under my eyes from filming

and wearing a lot of makeup and having the makeup packed on throughout the day, I noticed like the bags in my eyes were insane. It was so bad. I was like, I look like I'm 70, you know? And you know, once I get that age, of course I will embrace whatever wrinkles I have because they're all a blessing.

But at this age, I'm like, I shouldn't, it shouldn't look like this. So it has worked wonders on that. I love Butta Skin. They have this amazing toner that helps my skin feel really refreshed. And Tatcha, Tatcha has this, it's a rice scrub, like that kind of exfoliates your skin,

but it's a gentle exfoliator. When I tell you my face feels like a baby, like it feels so soft when I use that. How is my dating life? Don't you want to know? Everybody wants to know. My dating life is great, you know, and as a public figure, there are a lot of things

that I share, but I've also learned to keep things private, and I think it is great because that is something that I choose to keep private. But yeah, it's going good. Am I going to do a Kips Tour? Yes, I'm going to do a Kips tour. I'm so excited about it and I hope to see you all there. I do. The first one was amazing and I cannot wait to see everyone and just see the community because it's so beautiful and bright and I cannot wait. So yeah, it's on the way. What is my secret to getting motivated? Well, I tell you guys, just full transparency, for the past few weeks, I've had a hard time going to sleep. So I find myself hitting the snooze button multiple times

and sleeping sometimes hours past the time that I try to get up in the morning and really not feeling as motivated as I usually do or as I try to be because I know that my motivation inspires other people to be motivated but I've had a bout of unmotivated energy like I just yeah I don't feel like getting out of bed and I'm not depressed or anything I'm just tired I'm not depressed or anything. I'm just tired. I'm not getting enough sleep because my mind is wandering. And sometimes I think that we have so much going on. It's hard to shut our brains off.

So when I'm not motivated, eventually after I've hit the snooze button 10 times, I say, all right, Crystal, enough. It's time to get up. And once my feet hit the ground, I say, all right, Crystal, enough. It's time to get up. And once my feet hit the ground, I say, thank you, Jesus. The energy comes and I just hit the day and do what I can. Sometimes it's all you can do. My favorite memory on Sistah's and my favorite memory on Zatima

for Sistah's favorite memory. One of my favorite things that we did with the sisters was I want to say the top of 2024. We got to go to the very top of the Empire State Building. It was, the view was absolutely stunning. It's an area that a lot of people don't get to go to. So to experience that with my sisters was amazing. On Zatima, one of my favorite moments is honestly

every day that I get to go to work with those people. You know, the Zatima cast is very special. Deval and I have an opportunity to go in and set the tone for the energy that we want on our set. And it literally flows from the cast, the crew, the executives. Like you just feel the energy from the moment that you walk into the building. Everyone's happy to be there. And it's just, yeah, I think that's my favorite thing is just getting to work with everyone. It's truly special. What is a career goal or dream that I have been afraid to chase? You know, I've always wanted my,

it started off as just wanting to be this incredible businesswoman that built an empire and seeing so many parts of the industry over saturated but having such great passions and all these different things there was this doubt in the back of my mind could I really thrive and and prosper in these certain areas so these are things that I'm working on this year and hopefully soon to come that I'm working on this year and hopefully soon to come that I'm actually going to go for it and that would be having my own

hair care line, having my own fashion line. I love fashion, you know, having my own lifestyle line, home. Like I want to do all the things and I don't want to put myself in a box but that would be something that I think I have kind of held off on for a while that I think I'm ready to run after now. One of my greatest challenges that I have overcome in the last year, and how did I rely on my faith to overcome it, I... Last year was a really tough year

because I feel like God was really just convicting me on a lot of things. He was working on me. And a lot of times when God is like really getting to you, the devil is so busy trying to distract you. And I found like a lot of things were kind of irking my spirit as it came to Christianity. And my partner was like, I just want to do what I want to do. Like, this is just too much. And, but that was nothing but the enemy because he knew what God was trying to use me for.

And in that trying to be transparent about my walk and understanding that, look, God knows where I am. But when you try to be open about it, it seems like the Christian community was the first to come and attack me. And I think that's one of the biggest things that I had to overcome because when you know that you are truly seeking God's face

and you're wanting to do right and changing things in your life, whether I publicize it or not, there's so many things in private that God is working with me on. And when I try to share my testimony and try to share my walk, people tear you down. And there was a time where I was like, I don't want to do this anymore. Like, I'm cool. You know what I'm saying? Y'all got it. And that was something initially I was done with, but God really worked with me. And I started leaning on him and asking him, God, show me how you want to

use me. Because I think I lost myself and just trying, God, show me how you want to use me, because I think I lost myself in just trying to do what everybody else was doing and okay, well this works, so let me try this, but I need to do exactly what God has for me because I'm nobody else. I'm uniquely made in his image, and because of him, I'm able to stand firmly

and confidently in my faith and talk about it. The wellness routine that I rely on most to de-stress would one be, well I'm giving a few because it's not just one thing, meditation. I have to sit still, breathe, and really listen to the word of God and just hear his voice. Sometimes we just be still. That's all you got to do is be still. Another thing is running. Like I used, I'm not like a outside runner. I'm a treadmill runner.

But it's something about getting a good run in. When I finish, I feel so good. And another thing would be massage. Like I love a good massage. That's time for me to disconnect. And I have to do a better job with that because sometimes like I'll still be on my phone. But yeah, definitely those three meditation,

running and massage. Yes, being a Christian in the public eye does have its challenges and I'm holding up well, you know. I ask God for guidance every day on how he wants to use me, how I can better steward over the platform that he's given me. And yeah, he's with me and I'm handling it really well. Thanks for asking.

Do I have to sacrifice other parts of my life to have the career that I want to have? Of course, I mean, with anything that is worth having will come sacrifice. For years, I felt like I sacrificed love, you know, and finding that. And there were times that I would pray to God and say, God, I feel like I have everything but this one thing. And what I realized was that God was preparing me for that moment because He knows me.

He knows me better than anybody and He knows I am. When I love someone, I go all in and I give it 1000%. But if I was giving that 1000%, I wouldn't be able to really put the energy and time into what I needed to do to build my career. So I think everything is in God's timing and he knows us better than anybody. But yeah, that would be one of the main things that I feel like I've had to sacrifice. On top of that, you know,

there are certain things you can't do. You can't move how you used to move. A lot comes with it. You know, you have to think about way more than you ever had to think when I was just regular crystal. I still operate as myself and feel like I'm still a regular crystal,

but I can't move like that. There's a lot of things that I had to change and sacrifices come with that as well. And salt and pepper, a sugar in my grits. Okay, I'm a country girl, y'all. And growing up, I was a sugar girl. Okay? I was a sugar girl y'all. And growing up, I was a sugar girl. Okay. I was a sugar girl, but I have since graduated.

And now I am a salt and pepper. I used to love cheese, but I stopped eating dairy recently. So I can't even say cheese grits, but those are my favorite, absolute favorite. But yeah, salt and pepper. I don't do the sugar anymore. What am I most looking forward to in 2025? I am most looking forward to completing every goal that I go after. You know, you start the top of the year with all these dreams and like,

all right, I'm going to do this, I'm going to do that. This year is the year of completion and that is, I'm most looking forward to just going and executing every single thing I want to go after. And my go-to karaoke song, I was just talking about this on Angie Martinez. It is Incomplete by Cisco. I know that it's a random song, but I love all the, ooh yeah. Yeah, it's like, it's so good. It's so good.

Go listen to the song. It's a great karaoke song. I'm telling you, when I'm with my friends and they play that song and we like singing together it's so much passion. And yeah, Cisco really did that. Well, that's a fun one. What would I tell my younger self?

I would tell her, do not be in a hurry to grow up. I can't count how many times I said, oh, I can't wait to get this house. I can't wait to grow up. Child, no. Cause it looked like it was so much fun to be an adult and do what you wanted to do. But little did I know that there's so much more

that comes with being an adult. So I would tell myself, just slow down and enjoy the moment and continue to enjoy it as you go through life. Where do I see myself in five years? I see myself I'll be married. I would love to be married by then. Possibly have a kid. I would love to see my businesses flourishing, thriving, making a difference in the community and hopefully worldwide through my foundation.

I want to start global initiatives as the foundation continues to grow. And I don't know, maybe doing more public speaking and different things like that. But yeah. Oh, and a talk show. I'm gonna have my own talk. This speaking and different things like that. But yeah. Oh, and a talk show. I'm gonna have my own talk. This is gonna be a talk show in five years.

All right. From my lips to God's ears. Come on. Y'all touch and agree with me. Everybody in the room. What books am I reading? Well, I'm glad you asked. So for the whole year,

I said that I wanted to read more and my word for the year was wisdom. I want to gain wisdom. As a child, I was an avid reader. I mean, I sat in my, I think it was because we had the book club where we would get the points and get the pizza, the little personal pan pizza.

So it was an incentive for me to read more. But it's something that I realized as I got older, I was like, oh my goodness, I'm losing my vocabulary. And I think that was because I wasn't reading enough. So this year I decided to pick up a book. So this is my third book this year. And right now I am reading The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins. This book is so good. It's all the rage. Everyone Everyone's been talking about it and it's really good when it comes to just allowing people to be them and not taking it personally because a lot of times we do that but also allowing ourselves to take accountability and look in the mirror and look inward as well. So loving this book. Shout out Mel. We need to get you on here girl because

you are that girl. And then shout out to Brenda Palmer, a good friend of mine who you all saw on one of our episodes. She gave me this book, it's called The Awe of God, and it is a daily read where you read it every day. And I love it because it talks about how when you fear God, it's a healthy fear.

It's really an admiration and an awe of God versus like, oh my gosh, yes, we're supposed to tremble in fear of him, but it should be this, the reverence of him should be so great that we are in awe of him. So absolutely love this book. It's by John Brevere. Shout out Brenda Palmer again for giving me this book. Get

you a friend that gives you books that are going to bring you closer to God. I love this one and it at the end of it's really short chapters and then at the end of it it gives you a little segment where you can make it personal and it gives you a passage it gives you points and things to ponder on and then it gives you a prayer and I'll just read this one for you guys. This prayer says, dear heavenly father, please forgive me for starting to obey what you told me to do, but not finishing. Just talked about that, finishing, completing.

Either by ignoring it or changing my mind because of not seeing it as self-serving. I repent this lack of holy fear and ask for your forgiveness. In Jesus' name, I pray, amen. My profession of the day is I choose to obey God's word to completion. So yeah, it's so good.

And I usually just read this after I read my scriptures in the morning, as well as journaling. So that's kind of my morning routine, which you didn't ask me, you just asked what books I'm reading, but I just kind of gave you all that. But yeah those are the two books I'm reading right now. Before I read, I just finished the Ruthless Elimination of Hurry. When I say game changer guys I am ready to simplify my entire life. You know it opened my eyes to a lot of

things and things that distract us from living more like Jesus and really focusing on him. There are so many things that distract us from living more like Jesus and really focusing on him. There are so many things that are in our lives that are complete distractions from what we should really be focused on. So that's another good book. Shout out Pastor Dr. Darius Daniels for recommending that book, really good book,

Game Changer, that I would implore you guys to read. I'm a bookworm now. Should we start a book club, Ashana? Yes. Yes. Let's do it. Let's do it. All right. Financial advice. I wish I knew when I was 21. This is a good one because y'all, that's why I'm so big on financial literacy because I made so many mistakes as a young one. Knowing that your income should be four times your rent. So backstory, I moved to Washington DC from Martin, Tennessee, when I stayed at home.

And I never told, I don't think I shared this with you, but my parents, my dad built every house that we lived in. And he also built some apartments because it's a college town. So we had 12 units. It was two buildings, 12 units. So in college, I stayed in one of the units, the rent was 350, I paid 87.50,

like, because my parents own the apartments. So going from that and then just being able to do whatever I wanted to do with my money, because my dad was like, just pay this, pay your utilities and we'll take care of everything else. He still paid my car insurance and car payments, all those things. And I moved out and I had no idea how to manage money.

I had no idea of the core financial literacy principles that I should know. And when I tell you, I learned so many hard lessons when I moved to DC. So that was one thing. And I even tell adults, because you'd be surprised how many people don't know that even later on in age,

that your income should be four times your rent. Also, you should pay yourself first. You know, you should save money every time you get paid, save, give yourself something to live off of, and then tithe. I wasn't saving anything. So that's another thing I would say. And then as you get more money and

you realize okay I've got a little nest egg here, take some of that and put it into an account that that grows interest where your money is making money. A lot of people don't know that there are different accounts that you can put that are interest-bearing accounts that you can put money into that can grow up to like sometimes I don't know what the highest I know like it can start off with even like 4.5 percent that can grow over time no matter how much you put in there so I think that if we knew more of that we would do better make better decisions so those are the things I definitely wish I knew I'm learning now and I'm trying to share as well. What is my dream role?

to share as well. What is my dream role? So many, but I want to work on a procedural. I love Law and Order. I can literally watch every episode and not get old. I just imagine if the rerun, if I've seen it again a million times, I love Law and Order. And I would love to do a show like that, play a detective, FBI agent. I love those type of shows. I also would love to do an action thriller. I want to do something like that. And a comedy, cause I think I'm funny. I mean, that's what people tell me. Yeah.

When is the album coming out? Honey, I want to know the same thing. Nah, I'm playing. We are working on the album. out? Honey, I want to know the same thing. Now play. We are working on the album. So many things going on. So scheduling, getting into the studio and working with the team schedule. So many different people that play a part in me

getting in the studio to create the music. I don't just go in by myself. So we are working on that and I've got some amazing songs already recorded and I cannot wait to share it with you. But just know that as soon as it's ready, you guys will be the first to know. Do I have any mentors? Yeah, I mean, I do.

I have amazing people in my life. Tyler Perry is one of my greatest mentors, someone that I call on pretty much about every facet of my life, whether it's relationally or financially, business decisions, career decisions, even ideas that I have. I talked to him about it because he's done it at the highest level and I'm blessed to have someone who has done it at the highest level to really get that insight as I continue to climb and try to go higher.

I would say, even like in this industry, I would say Deval Ellis, my co-star, is an incredible mentor because he's seen a lot and done a lot. He's able to help me navigate a lot of things. And I do the same for him on the business side. I may know something that he may not be privy to and we share we're not gatekeepers We share information, but he's also someone that I can go to him say hey D

Like I'm struggling with this how do you flash to handle this and and he gives the best advice And also mom and dad, you know, I still lean on them as well any strategies for planning out my content Let me tell you guys Being a content creator can take up so much time. I find myself when I'm really in my creator bag, it takes up a lot of time. So you do have to plan it out. So I try to take a day out of the week

to kind of plan what I wanna shoot, when I wanna drop it based around what episode is coming out, what time of the drop it based around whether what episodes coming out, what time of the month it is. There's so many things that go behind the strategy of when we put certain things out or pieces of content out. But yeah, I'm trying to get a handle on that because I want to be consistent,

but it also takes up a lot of time. So yeah, we're working on that. A day in the life when we're not traveling or working, I wake up, I'll get up, do my meditation, read my Bible, journal, and most of the time, just try to read a chapter of the book that I'm reading up for that time. And then I'll work out, I will run errands if I need to. Sometimes I don't leave

the house at all if I don't have anything to do. I love being home. I'm a homebody and chat with friends, binge watch my favorite TV show, and eat good. That's a day in the life. Yeah. And shop. I like online shopping because I don't like going into the stores. What is my take on someone who really loves God but wants to have a little liquor too? Okay. Well, as we all know, Jesus turned water into wine. Okay. And if you read the text, in the text,

it said they was already, they'd already gone through the first batch of wine. And it was like some really good wine. So they was already, you know what I'm saying, feeling it, you know? And then his mom was like, hey, go on and do that thing you do, you know what I'm saying?

So he was like, man, all right, cool. I wanna do that. Do what I said, dude. She gave me the toilet, you go. And he said, all right, babe. So he went ahead and turned that thing, that water into wine, you know what I said, do. She gave me the tight look, you go. And he said, all right, babe. So he went ahead and turned that thing, that water into wine, you know what I'm saying? So I don't think there's anything wrong with it

as long as you're not getting intoxicated. You have to know your limits. Of course you have to be safe. And I do feel that responsibly, there are a lot of studies that are coming out just saying that there's certain health risks. So you have to make sure you're drinking the right type of liquor,

that you're not just out here binge drinking, you know, and not being responsible with it. But I don't see anything wrong with it. I love me a glass of wine. I love me a lemon drop. And anybody got a problem with it, judge your mama, not me, okay? And that's that on that.

If I could raid any celebrities closet, who would it be and why? Okay. Celebrities closet, Rihanna's closet. I would raid Rihanna's closet. She is the ultimate fashionista. Like this girl can do no wrong in my book when it comes to fashion.

Like she just has it. She has the street style. She can be elegant. She's sexy. She's edgy. She's all the things. So Riri, I would come rate your closet for sure. Ha ha ha ha ha.

I'm a former cheerleader, but I'm also 42. I ain't about to do no toe touches, okay? He he he he. I'm like, pops up, I don't know what you're, no. He he he. What was my response when Patreon sold out the tote bags before everyone else got dibs? First of all, just mind blown.

I was on the phone with my team and we were like, yeah everything's flying like it was just selling like hotcakes and before we could even Open it up to the public like we literally had to up the numbers of inventory and order more stuff in real time and I just I give all glory to God because a lot of times you go into this and like we play it small and we're like Which was responsible we play it small. We're like, okay Let's just do this many of this and just see how it does.

But when I tell you, my Patreon, and kids family, everybody, you guys show up and show out for me every single time. And I do not take it for granted. And I know that everything we do, we put our best out for you guys. I make sure that we have the best customer service. If you have any issues, you call us and you email us and let us know

and we rectify it immediately. But one of them things I'm telling you, when we sold out, I was like, this is crazy. Like I was looking at my computer like, oh my gosh, it's still going up. I'm on the phone with Ashana, it was like, are y'all seeing this? And then we were like, okay, we got extended

so they can shop longer. It was just a lot of it. It was so much fun. And it just, it made me happy to know that I have people, real people that genuinely love me and support me because that's hard to find in this industry. And you work hard and you wanna provide different things for your community.

And you guys, you guys give me ideas on new things to come out with. So I'm grateful. Let's keep doing it. Let's keep selling out. We got something else coming soon. So let's do it again. Hmm. What is my favorite food?

It's so hard because I'm changing so many of my dietary choices that my favorite food is honestly Italian food, but there's cheese in every dish, mostly. Yeah, I'll still stay Italian. It'll forever have my heart. Yeah. We can't afford you and Beyonce. Listen, the dates are dropping soon.

Stay tuned. But I can tell you this. Mine is just one day. You can go see Beyonce. You have way more options to go see Beyonce. So you can spread it out. You know, we don't have to do it all at the same time. I think I come first anyway though.

So come see me, then go see my girl. Cause you know I'm going to go see my girl for real. Like, I love me some B. I got to go see her. But yeah, you can do both for sure. Please. Thanks. My favorite college memory, I would say honestly, it was when I won. It was 2003. I won Miss University of

Tennessee at Martin which put me in the Miss Tennessee pageant that was also my most challenging year in college because I tore my Achilles tendon and I remember at that time I was done cheering I was coaching assistant coach for the cheer squad and we were having open gym and I just like to flip and I remember One of the deltas because I was always flipping and she's like Chris. I always flipping this shit Then I tore my Achilles. She was like you was flipping this shit with you. I was like, yes And I remember at the time

My boyfriend he had just tore his, he was playing basketball, I tore his, and his went all the way up to, if you know Achilles, it's the back of your ankle and it coiled up to his calf muscle, so they had to literally do the incision all the way up to his calf and pull it down to join it back together. So as soon as I heard it pop, I just went down and grabbed it. I was like, oh my gosh, because I didn't want it to coil up if it completely torn. And I remember going to the doctor that night and it was a husband and wife doctor

and she told her husband, she was like, she has the Miss Tennessee pageant, you better make that scar as small as possible. And he did, he did a really good job on it. And gratefully, it didn't completely tear. It was literally just holding on by some strands. But I went on to compete in Miss Tennessee and it was an incredible experience.

It taught me so much just about community, about women and supporting women, the bond that we built together and competing in a healthy way. What are three important qualities that I look for in a man and what are three deal breakers? Oh, this is good. Important qualities, first and foremost, a believer of Jesus. I don't really, I used to put a huge emphasis on where they were in their walk, but you have to have grace for people

because I have to know that I was once in a different place and God works with us in his own timing. So just being a believer is the number one thing. Someone who's honest and someone who. Who is. Able to communicate their feelings, I love that in a man. Deal breakers would be lying.

It would be someone who is not, you don't have to be like, everybody's not gonna be as driven as I am, but I want someone who is not just content with just mediocre living. You know, like I want somebody who wants more and who strives for more and wants more out of life. So I guess that would go into somebody just being lazy and content. I don't like that.

And another deal breaker would be anyone who mistreats someone of service. I like anyone in the service industry. When I tell you the biggest turnoff for me is when someone is rude to someone that is working a job where they're here to serve other people. I don't play that. So that would be the main thing, my three things. Yeah. Have you lost many friends because of your celebrity status and your walk with God? I wouldn't say I've lost many friends. I would say that, or even with your walk with God, things are revealed and you may realize, okay, we're not in the same place.

And a lot of things that God convicts you on, if your friends are still doing that, you may not be able to hang with them or talk to them in the same way, because it's not in alignment with where you are with God. As far as like losing friends or anything like that, because of that, because of my celebrity or my walk, that has, I haven't lost a lot of friends, no.

If anything, it brings us closer, you know, and it also, when you have people around you that also want better for themselves or wanna level up, it inspires them. So if anything, it has brought me closer to my friends and I love them for that. How do I handle the negativity on social media and not let it get to me? You know, there are days where I feel like I'm good, you know, and then there are days where

I want to say something back or I want to respond and some days I do and then I delete it. or I want to respond and some days I do and then I delete it. But one thing I will say is that as a celebrity, I feel like people forget that we're human. I feel like people forget that if you have nothing nice to say, just don't say anything at all. Because if the roles were reversed and you were in my position,

would you want someone literally combing your entire life or judging every little thing you do with a fine tooth comb? I understand, I mean, everybody's entitled to their opinion, but not everything has to be said. And I just feel like there are times where I just really wanna put the keep your positive sweetie aside if I'm being honest, and let some of these people have it.

But he's still working on me, okay? But yeah, it doesn't feel good if I'm being honest. And I just, my hope is that people would see the humanness in celebrities and understand that we are just like you. We are not shielded from having emotions and feeling things when people talk bad about us. So just be kind. What is my dream vacation?

Oh, my dream vacation. You know, there's a few places I have not, I haven't been to Bali. I would love to go to Bali and maybe spend a month there. You know, I want to go somewhere and maybe just even hop around for like a month and just be free of work, completely disconnect and be around people I love.

Maybe find my family out for a portion of that. And then friends for another portion and maybe do a week by myself. That would be my dream vacation. How am I doing spiritually and mentally? I will say at the beginning of 2025, it's been a very heavy spirit, just everywhere. And we're doing our best to maintain

and doing our best to stay in good spirits and stay upbeat and positive. But for me to say that it hasn't had an effect on my mental and just wondering like, God, what are you trying to tell us? You know, spiritually I'm like, I'm talking to him like, God, what's the message? You know what I'm saying?

Help me understand what's going on so that I can be better prepared and help people navigate this season because it's a tough one. And then also I have so many different things on the table. I have an incredible team, but one of my faults in life is control.

I struggle with control and I struggle with wanting to be hands-on with everything because I'm such a creator and I like to, I like the whole process, but being a part of the whole process also is stressful at times and it takes away from you being able to be creative as a creator. And I think that with that added on to everything that's going on in the world. And spiritually, God convicted me on things. It has been, it's been a good and a tough season for me.

I'll open up about something. I know you mostly probably saw the Cray episode. He asked me, he was like, so I heard you not having sex till marriage. And I was like, I said it? He's like, well, I heard it somewhere. And I was like, no. I was like, that was a season in my life where I was like,

okay, God, I'm gonna do it your way. And I realized my whole life I was doing it my way. And then I was like, you know what? Like, okay, that was the first season, that relationship didn't work out. So I'm like, well, maybe doing it God's way in that area isn't the best way to keep somebody, you know, and which was dumb to even think. But recently, as I've been pouring more into my word and just seeking God, I was reading my Bible, y'all,

and I tell you, like, every time sexual immorality would pop up, I felt so convicted. I was like, dang, why is this bothering me? Like, it ain't really bothered me like this before. And it just, like, it kept convicting me. And I was like, all right, Lord, all right, this is what you want me to do, I'm gonna do it. And it was one of the hardest things

because you think like, if I tell this person, I'm taking this off the table, you know, what is that going, what's the ramifications of that? Can they handle that? Because sex has such a stronghold on people in relationships and God was like, either you're gonna trust me or you're not. So I took it off the table and I wept.

When I tell you like, it was like, I was in a fight. I was like, you know, you like, like your mom would wanna take the toilet that you know, like she knows it's not good for you. You're like, but I want it. It was like that. It was a fight with my daddy. And I was like, I was like, I can't do this.

And I was literally in my kitchen. I remember I was leaning on the edge of the counter and I was just bawling, crying. And in that moment, he just said, you gotta trust me on this. And I'm telling you, it was the best decision I made. And I knew I was serious about it when I threw my vibrator away.

Okay. And I threw it away on the day that my cleaning crew was coming because I knew if I didn't, I'd probably go back in that trash, dig it up, wash it out. Okay, Tia. I'm just being real, okay.

And I was like, if I'm gonna do this, and it took me a while to throw it out cause I would be right there in the drawer and I'm like, no, I ain't gonna throw that. I ain't, we took sex off the table. Let me just hold onto this, you know, until you get released every now and then. And God was like that too.

I said, all right, sheesh. So I took it and I threw it away. And there's moments where I have a little like itch where I'm like, I need to, you know what I'm saying, get some tension off. But he's like, no, pick up the word, read a book. These books are really helping. Read a book and work out and find other things to do

with your time. And that's probably just being obedient has been one of the best things. But spiritually, yeah, those are some of the things I've been going through and spiritual warfare is real. I watched a documentary, not a documentary, I watched a podcast where this woman was saying we give ourselves to people because we don't trust God that it's going to work the way he wants it to work. And it was so profound to me. I was like, she's so right. Like we try to put everything into our own

hands and control everything instead of letting God control it and living the way he wants us to live. So not saying I'm perfect in any way, just another moment where I'm sharing with you where I am in my journey. My celebrity crush who is my celebrity crush right now? Charlie's money's not married. So he's the address he's married now. Method man is married. Who else? Dancin it just got some abs now. Who else? Damson, it just got some abs now.

Alton Harris? Oh, Hodge. Aldis, Aldis, yes! Aldis Hodge. Yeah, he got me on that cross, baby. Look, Ashana. He got me on that cross. Aldous Hodge.

No, he's amazing. Incredible actor and a very handsome man. So yeah, I say my slip crush is Aldous. Yeah. Oh, Crystal's Gym for today's episode. If I had to say anything, I would say, y'all are so nosy, but I love it. I love it. One of the things you guys asked me a lot as we were going through the question was how are you doing? How's your mental? How's your spirit? And I appreciate that. I don't get asked that enough. And it lets me know that you guys

really, really care. And I appreciate you guys for that. Thank you all so much for spending the day with me and getting all up in my business. I had a great time answering your questions and giving you guys a deeper look into CRH. You can follow me on all social media platforms at Love, Chris, and Renee. You can also follow the show at Keep It Positive, Sweetie. If you want to write into our Positive Outcomes Listener Letter, you can send us an email at keepitpositivesweetie at gmail.com. In the meantime, in between time, you already know what to do.

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