Keep it Positive, Sweetie - Beyond The Jersey

Episode Date: August 14, 2026

Who are you when the thing that introduced you to the world is no longer the thing that defines you? This week, Crystal sits down with basketball legend, analyst, and coach Ty Young for an honest conv...ersation about life after the game, reinventing yourself, and discovering purpose beyond the jersey. It’s a conversation about identity, fulfillment, and becoming the woman behind the titles.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Starting point is 00:02:36 The world is quick to celebrate what we do, but eventually all of us have to answer a much bigger question. Who are we when the titles are stripped away? Today we're talking about identity, reinvention, and the woman behind the jersey, my girl, Ty Young. Today's guest is a champion in every sense of the word. Tai Young is a professional basketball champion, analyst, coach, entrepreneur, and one of the most recognizable voices in women's basketball. But today, we're going beyond the accolades to talk about the woman behind the career. Kids telling, please give a very warm welcome to my friend, Ty Young.
Starting point is 00:03:16 Ty, how are you doing? I'm doing great. We got you here. I'm here. Finally. Finally, finally. You having a good summer so far? I'm having a great summer.
Starting point is 00:03:25 Good. What is like the highlight of your summer so far? covering the WNBA games and just being able to spend time of my friends Yeah, I love that I saw you recently when Atlanta Dream played Indiana theater That was a good game
Starting point is 00:03:40 And we sat in a hot parking lot and talked for like an hour Right When I was in there to the players was leaving Literally That's a long time You know you said you used to be the last one coming out So I know I'm like yeah we've been here a minute Yes, yes
Starting point is 00:03:53 But it's always good to catch up with you Happy to have you on So we can learn more about you But before we get into it, we're going to play a little game called The Scouting Report. Okay. All right. Shout out Shelly for creating these fun games for us. You have spent your career scouting opponents.
Starting point is 00:04:08 Today we're scouting you. So I'm going to throw out a few qualities, and you tell me if they're already a part of your game or if there's something you're still working on. Okay. All right. The first one is confidence. Part of my game. I already knew that one. Vulnerability.
Starting point is 00:04:22 Part of my game. Okay. Good. Yeah. Patience. still working on it I've gotten better but I'm still working me too love
Starting point is 00:04:32 part of my game I know she's a lover girl discipline part of my game probably like instilling you since a young girl yeah for sure and balance still working on it I think it's hard right
Starting point is 00:04:45 yeah it is and when you think of balance you think about like work and your family and your friends in your time I think the biggest component that I'm still working on is my time. Wow. Me too. I think I try to carve it.
Starting point is 00:05:00 Because my schedule is so busy, which I'm sure yours is too, a lot of times it's hard to carve out that time for ourselves. But when we do, we realize how much we needed it. Absolutely. I know for me, like, if I get like a little moment, and I'm like, wow, I didn't realize how much I needed this, just to be quiet, be by myself, kind of restored. I can tell when I get overstimulated, I'm like, all right, I got to go home.
Starting point is 00:05:20 I got to decompressed. Don't nobody call me because I'm overstimulated. Yeah, same. the same way. And my team knows. They were like, yes, she's had enough. Leave her alone. Leave her at low. Why are you laughing with? I was like, hey, Amy fella, he's like, I got you, I hit you later. Yeah, now he'd be knowing or I'll be like, I'm, he'd be like, okay, I got it. He's like my buffer between a lot of things. Anyway, I want to get into you, the tie before basketball, like the star that we know, the legend that we know. Who was tie before?
Starting point is 00:05:57 all the cameras. Just a silly kid that was spoiled. I'm always been big with my family and the baby of the family. So it was just about doing things and getting my way. How many?
Starting point is 00:06:12 Torturing my siblings. I have an older brother and sister and I have an older step system. Okay. Amazing. So you're the baby. What was that like? So there were times where my siblings would want to go play and not really feel like they have to babysit me so they want me to come and my mother would be like take y'all sister with you so I felt like I've always
Starting point is 00:06:33 you know wanted to be around them and do the things that they did but there were times where they didn't want to feel like they were babysitting I mean I understand yeah I was me and my brother were raised together and we're eight years apart okay so I actually felt like he was my child a lot of times like just when he got older and I was driving I would take him to school like I would make sure he got ready yeah you know I was responsible making sure he had breakfast you know taking his vitamins which is so funny we were leaving moving out of the house and they were cleaning out the garage and all the vitamins were like all the, he wasn't taking his vitamins going out of the window.
Starting point is 00:07:06 I was like, he was not taking those vitamins and I was like, I wouldn't either because I'm like, I hated swallowing. I just got to a point where I can actually like swallow like a, you know, people like this phone back. That's me. I used to always have to take syrup because I couldn't take the pills. I was like, okay. And I was like, that was me too. But it was so funny.
Starting point is 00:07:23 They were like, they were all in the garage. She said, y'all didn't wait until you got down the street. Right. At least, yeah, try to hide it. Right. He's like, nah, I'm good. When did basketball become something that you were interested in? Like, what was the first spark?
Starting point is 00:07:37 So we had a goal in our backyard when we were younger and our parents were together. And my brother and my sister would play, but I was more so always trying to follow behind my brother. And so it started with him and with him beating me all the time. So that's what started my competitive nature because it's like, I'm not about to let you keep beating me. And so I just started to love the game from my brother. Yeah. And then from there, like, when did you know, like, this is something? Or when did your parents or was it a coach that said, hey, she got something?
Starting point is 00:08:07 Maybe middle school. I loved it. And I played at the Girls Inc. Prior. But middle school, I was bench, right? Like, I didn't play until maybe, like, our last game of the season. And I scored, like, 20-some points. And my coach was like, oh, she's really improved her game, you know?
Starting point is 00:08:25 and I was, I was, I had a smart bow. So I was like, I didn't improve my game. He never gave me a chance to play. And so it was in that moment that I knew that I was a lot better than the other kids he had planned before me. Yeah. And I just continued to take it more serious. But I always loved it, but it's just like it was always a little roadblock in between.
Starting point is 00:08:46 Yeah. And when you had that opportunity, he was like, I'm about to show you. Yeah, for sure. Yeah, you got that little edge, a little tip on your shoulder. I had that chip where I'm like, all right, I'm about to prove all of y'all. And so then high school, I first started off on JV for one day. And they realized I was so much better than the other girls.
Starting point is 00:09:05 Yes. I moved up to varsity. So I started to see it, you know, come a lot faster than it started off. And then I played AAU. And my AAU coach was talking to me about my versatility, being able to play multiple positions because I was stuck on being on a guard. Yeah. And that's when I started to see me be versatile.
Starting point is 00:09:25 and be a lot better than some of the girls I was playing with. Yeah. And a lot of people don't understand how much goes into being an AAU player. Yeah. You're in school, and then, like, you're traveling so much. Did that take a toll on you at a young age? Was there every moment where you were like, oh, my gosh, or you just love the game so much you were excited about it?
Starting point is 00:09:42 I love the game so much, but I also was a busybody. So moving and traveling didn't really bother me. And I played AAU and Raleigh, which is two hours away from where I live. So I had to travel extra because we didn't have like a really good team in my city. Wow. So is that something where the coach scouted you from Rale and was like, we want her? So my cousin was a coach for the Gardner Flames at the time. Now they're the Carolina Flames, but he was a coach for the team and basically was talking to my mom about me coming to play.
Starting point is 00:10:17 Oh, that's good. That's a good position to be in when you, especially on the road, your mom knows you with family. Right, right. So you got somebody looking out for it. Sometimes it's like if the parents can't travel, they're with people that they hope are taking care of their children. And we couldn't, you know, because she had other kids and like the money. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:10:32 It's expensive to you. It was expensive. And we didn't have like sponsors and things that the kids are getting now. Yeah. So we had to make it work with what we had. I love that. If basketball didn't come up, what do you think you would be doing now? Maybe running track.
Starting point is 00:10:50 I was also in the band. What? What? instrument did you play time i played the drums i was a snare drummer and i was first chair in middle school and high school my band director wanted me to continue in college and i was like nah i'm not about to be a band geek i'm i'm playing ball so have you picked up the drums at all like just to play around since you got no i haven't in so long and i always said when i bought my house years ago when i got my first house i was going to buy a drum set and i never did you never did okay do you think it's
Starting point is 00:11:17 something you may do just for fun later i think so like i still love it when i go to church i I always watch the drummers. So it's something that still stands out to me. Yeah. But, oh, so when I was in New York, maybe like a few years ago, we was in Times Square. And it was a guy out drumming on the snare drum. And I went over and I played the drums with him. I think I even posted on my social media.
Starting point is 00:11:39 Oh, that's fair. And so it brought bad memories, you know, like I still remember some of the beats. But it's still a love of mine. I had a band moment where I played the clarinet for like a week. And I was like, yeah, don't want to do this. And then in church, I hated wearing panty hose. So I was like, if I play the drums, I can wear pants because I got to have my legs open. Anything to, like, not wear panty hose in a dress.
Starting point is 00:12:03 I was like, get me. So did you play the drum in church? No. My mom would say, girl, you can wear these panty holes in this dress and getting that choir is what you're going to do. That sounds like my mom. Seriously, that's funny. And that's exactly what I did. I also had a basketball moment.
Starting point is 00:12:17 My mom played basketball. She was like a star in our town. And we had intramural. like in high school, intraments, how you said, in high school. And I had a really good day that day. And the coach came and was like, you're actually really good. Like, I can work with this. And I said, okay.
Starting point is 00:12:34 So I was a cheerleader and a dancer. And I went to my mom and we were at gymnastics at night. And I kept falling on my head trying to get this backflip. And I was like, I don't want to do this anymore. I want to play basketball. I tell you, my mama put me in that corner. She said, hey, you listen here. You're going to get this backflip.
Starting point is 00:12:51 and you're not going to embarrass me. I got a legacy. You're going to do these flips. You're going to do these flips. I'm the ball playing the family. I really feel like I got hoop dreams. I could have done it. Mama said no.
Starting point is 00:13:08 She said you're going to mess up my legacy. It's funny. You know, that's funny because a lot of parents that play, they're like, okay, my kid's going to play. Whether you mess up my legacy or not. Right. And mom was like, no, baby. We're doing these flips.
Starting point is 00:13:21 Uh-huh. Exactly. It reminded me of Tim Hardaway, Jr. recently getting his father's jersey. Yeah. And first his dad was like, nah. Yeah, it's my jersey. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:13:32 I was like, I know what that kind of feels like. They're like, no, we're not doing that. I got a story to tell. That is too funny. Mama's like, no baby. Not doing it. So, needless to say, her legacy is still intact. That's right.
Starting point is 00:13:47 Keep Mama legacy alive. Exactly, exactly. looking at the younger version of yourself what have you worked hardest to hold on to from young time? My that's a good question probably like my love, my faith,
Starting point is 00:14:09 my family just the morals on how I was raised even as an adult no matter what I'm going through no matter what I'm doing I'm always thinking like okay my mother's watching my family is watching and that's something that's been stilled in me since a kid. I love that. And I can see that when I say your reputation, reputation proceeds itself. Like when you walk into room, everybody's like, man, tie so solid.
Starting point is 00:14:34 Like before I knew you, I knew how cool you were just based off our mutual friends. So I can tell that something you take serious now I'm actually knowing you. I appreciate that. Yeah. Let's talk about the pivot. I was talking to Shelley about this. I know a lot of athletes. like since middle school when the first person saw like she has something or high school
Starting point is 00:14:54 Ty has something everything is catered around the athlete to get her to the point that we want her to get to which is the WMBA so your whole life everybody's catering to you catering to you then the WMBA is over you're retiring that morning you wake up and it's no going to the gym to the training facility people tie what do you need what do you want to eat like everybody's waiting on your hand and foot what's you're doing? Yeah. What did that moment when you were like, wait a minute, this is a pivot, this is a shift, or were you already preparing for that before it ended?
Starting point is 00:15:26 No, I wasn't preparing at all. She said, not at all. So my last season of actually playing was 2019. And when I had my ex-in meeting, I was supposed to go back to Las Vegas for 2020, which was during that time the bubble, right? Yeah. But before the season started, I got a call about them not having a roster spot for me. So in my mind, I was preparing for another WBA season, but it didn't happen.
Starting point is 00:15:54 So I went into like a short depression stage because I didn't know what was next. You know, like it stopped so abruptly. And me and my mom, we did a fast together. But fortunately for me, because I was already building a brand while I was playing and I, you know, had relationships and I started my TY1 clothing business, I was able to start a pivot there. It was difficult, you know, because like I said, I wasn't prepared. But I did have something that I could focus on and put my passion into even more.
Starting point is 00:16:27 And that's what started to pivot. I started to build more into my brand and continue to network and build on the relationships that I had. Yeah. Wow. I can imagine how, like, not being prepared. Because all the times people know, yeah, I'm getting older that time, you know, so let me figure out if I'm going to coach or be an analyst. or build a brand, like whatever the case ain't be.
Starting point is 00:16:48 But I can't imagine. I can because it's similar to TV. Like you think you got a show, you think you're getting renewed. And he's like, we're doing the numbers. They got to renew us. Yeah. And then it's like, yeah, you're canceled. Like, I've seen it happen so many times.
Starting point is 00:17:00 It happened us last year with basketball wives. Wow. Oh, it's over with? Yeah. It's canceled. She's sad. Oh, my gosh. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:17:10 Because that was a hit show. Yeah, it was, and it was like doing well. but even with that, you know, I haven't worked in a year after that until I just, you know, started this analyst out with the WBA. Wow. So there's been many pivots that I had to do where it wasn't really a major plan that I had because I'm banking on what I'm doing, like what's in front of me, you know? Yeah.
Starting point is 00:17:33 And that's the type of person I've been. I've always focused on what was in front of me and not try to go too far ahead. Yeah. And so it's been times where I've had moments that people wouldn't even know because I'm still smile and I'm still, you know, being positive. And I'm really at home, like, in the dark going through, like, things of life, those pivots. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:17:52 But with my faith and with my family, I've been able to prevail. And that's why that's something that I hold on and I value a lot. It's faith, family, like love because that's how I was raised. I love it. And I love that your mom prompted you to fast and that she did it with you. Yeah. A lot of people don't understand the power of fasting. Let's talk about that and talk about what you fasted from.
Starting point is 00:18:13 and like how that what guy reveals you in that moment it was um for one like social media um and then like doing the food like not eating um during a certain time um and it's part like being disciplined yeah um you you're taking away things that you truly love and that you probably spend so much time on and i didn't really know much about fast but i know my mother always did it yeah and one of the big things also she always pointed out was paying my tides baby and so yes let's talk about that so you know those too but it was like i said i was in a dark moment and i didn't know what to do and and i had my mom who was like look we're going to fast together and and that's how it started and it took me to another level because during that time you're
Starting point is 00:19:00 taken away from social media are you taking away from things that you always honed on and you're praying yeah and so you know prayer works and i know that because i've been in these places where that's all I had to rely on. And, you know, thanks to my mom, because before she even became a pastor's wife, she was always in the church and she was always instilling in us. Like, we're going to church, we're going to pray. And even before I really knew, you know, what it meant, it was just something instilled. And it's funny because we always talk about train up a child in the way they should go
Starting point is 00:19:33 and they'll always return to the Lord. And I know for me, I definitely was a prodigal daughter. Like I went out and wild out and then God met me where I was. and I was like, I knew I had to lean on him. And it was in that moment that I built relationship with him. And I think as adults, we find that moment where God is like, all right, now it's me and you. This ain't on your mama no more.
Starting point is 00:19:53 She did her part. Now it's us. And you realize God is all we have. And there's been so many moments where I had to lean on that. But you talked about tithing. As a kid, my parents always said, whatever you get makes you give. For my very first job, you put just 10% aside for church. I'm like, yes.
Starting point is 00:20:11 And I remember my dad was building some apartments in the town that we lived in, and I had tied. And then a few days later, like, some more money came to me out of nowhere. So I, like, drive over to the apartments. I'm like, Dad, Dad, he really works. I swear. He was like, what happened? I was like, well, I tived my check from the pool and the movies. And I was like, and then this happened.
Starting point is 00:20:35 And he was like, yeah, he was like, honor what God gives you. He said, it may not come back in money. He said, but if you don't do it, it may come in a flat tire. Now you've got to buy a new tie. Like, you'll start having to spend more money than what you would have because certain things just start to fall apart because you're not honoring what you have. And I was like, wow, I never thought about that.
Starting point is 00:20:54 And there were moments where I fell from that. And I could see everything starting to go on. Rumbling, yeah. Rumbling, tie. Do you hear me? I'm looking around like, oh, Lord. You know I should have took that sacrifice and paid them time. Listen.
Starting point is 00:21:06 But it is like you learned because in those moments, it's like, all right, you got a job, you make it a little bit. You're like, now how I'm supposed to put 10% because how I'm going to pay for this and I got this? But then when you actually do it, you make that sacrifice and that's the biggest thing is the sacrifice. And you do it.
Starting point is 00:21:22 And then the blessings come, you're like, this is what they was talking about. I made the sacrifice and you don't know where it's coming from, but that's when the faith come in. Come on. She's preaching, y'all. But I'm telling you because, like, I'm a living testimony. Like, it's been so many times where I don't have no work.
Starting point is 00:21:39 I don't have things coming in. I'm like, all right, like, what is next? Yeah. But you lean on God and you lean on your faith and you know that you've been disciplined. You did the sacrifices. And the blessings come, you like, thank you, Lord. Like, this is what it's about. Yeah, no, it really is.
Starting point is 00:21:53 And I'm seeing it from me, like, talking about not having a lot where I'm making $600 every two weeks. And then I'm like, this $60, I need it. I'm like, I need this. Lord, are you sure? And then a blessing come. And then understanding like, because we're, honored that he's able to trust us with the
Starting point is 00:22:13 abundance, you know? And I continue to practice those same principles now that I have an abundance of money. And I'm like, wow, God, I see what you're doing. And I give so much credit to my parents for instilling those principles in me. And a lot of people now, they're like, I ain't given to the church, da, da, da, da, I'm like, listen.
Starting point is 00:22:33 I mean, when I didn't have a church home, I would pour into foundations or making sure I'm helping people or churches that have poured into me. I would get to those if I didn't have like a home church. And then when I found the church that I loved, I would still get to my home church back in Tennessee, but then I would give to the church that was really important to me here in Atlanta. And it didn't matter.
Starting point is 00:22:52 I'm like, listen, you can't worry about like what's happening. That money is guides. I swear, and that's the biggest thing, like when I see on social media are just in life people talking about the church home, are they talking about these people not right? But that's not on you. That's not on you. And only if you, you know, have that faith in that relationship,
Starting point is 00:23:07 you would truly know, like you said, because I'm paying my ties, whatever y'all decide to do with that, that's not on me. Like, I'm doing my part and I have my relationship with God. But even as, it started as a kid. Like, before I understood and my mom was like, all right, get ready for church. And I would act like I was sick because I didn't want to go to church. I wanted to sleep in. So she's like, okay, if you're too sick to go to church, you're too sick to go outside.
Starting point is 00:23:33 You're too sick to play. I'm like, wait a minute. Oh, look, God. I didn't. Yeah, I ain't. I was sick for that. I feel better now. So it started early in my mom's house.
Starting point is 00:23:43 But now I could be hanging out, and it doesn't matter what time I get home. I'm getting up and I'm going to church. Same. Same. Or I will book a flight to get back home for church. I don't play about that. Same. Yes.
Starting point is 00:23:55 And if I'm out of the country, I can't get here. I'm watching online. I got to get that. I need that for the week. You know, that's my fuel. But that comes with relationship. Yeah. You know, when you start to honor that the same way we honor our friendships,
Starting point is 00:24:07 our relationships with our parents, our significant others. God wants the same attention. He's a jealous guy. So I think when you build that relationship and you don't want to let them down, the things that keep you in alignment with him become more important. Yeah.
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Starting point is 00:26:54 She was prominent around the same time. Yeah. Then Mary Steenberg. Why are you guys talking to me? I'm worried. Did you understand the movie? Why are you talking so down to me that you think I don't understand your little play, play game? I just really.
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Starting point is 00:27:40 trading the pity for possibility. Every time I tried to be alone, I kept meeting people, and they were like, you smiled at us. Not a lot of people smile around here. I can wait four hours for the next bus, or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle. It's when you're alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is, and not the lies you're sold about it. So whether you're a solo travel veteran or you're too nervous to book your first trip, I hope you listen to Solita on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. You talk a lot about faith, and I know you had a lot of pivots, and you talk about dealing with depression.
Starting point is 00:28:22 What is one moment that you can share with us that you really had to lean on God? I have a lot of more. I would probably say, like, recently, you know, after I did basketball wives and they canceled it. and even before then, you know, I was coaching and then our head coach got fired. So ultimately we all, you know, lost our job. And then I did the show.
Starting point is 00:28:53 And after that, I didn't know what was next, you know? And I know I still wanted to coach. But then there was things like, okay, well, well, I still be able to coach because I just did this reality show, you know? And it's always different judgments. Right.
Starting point is 00:29:08 And so not working and you're spending money and you don't know where it's going to start coming back in from, you know, you just see this money going out and not none coming in. That's stressful. And, you know, like my life didn't change, but I had to make changes. And I had to just pray and hope that something will come, you know, because I didn't really know what to do. Right.
Starting point is 00:29:32 And I was still trying to figure out, can I still coach? What is it that I want to do? And, you know, I just prayed and I just, you know, talk to my family. I, and I was going to church. And I was going to church a lot more because I'm like, okay, God, like, now you're doing this in my life because I always pointed back to him, you are telling me that you need more for me. Yep.
Starting point is 00:29:54 And that's exactly what I did. And then I got, you know, I started getting phone calls for different job opportunities. And they all came, you know, from out of nowhere. Yeah. And that was the sign. Like, I'm pouring in. I'm doing what I'm supposed to. I'm being disciplined in the midst of going through what I'm going through.
Starting point is 00:30:11 Yeah. And now, like, the blessings are here. They're coming. And I just, every day, I'm just like, thank you. Even as far as, like, my skin clearing up, you know? I'm like, I was going through some stuff, you know? And I just, I'm just grateful. But it was just recently, you know, that I was in those dark places and I was stressed out.
Starting point is 00:30:30 Yes. Because I didn't know. And the blessings just started pouring and coming. And that's why I say, like, I'm always with my faith. I'm always grateful and I'm always thankful because I have. several times where I've been in those dark spaces and God has brought me through. No, definitely. I love that.
Starting point is 00:30:47 And I think a lot of times when we're in those moments, God pulls us closer to him. And then the things start happening. We get so busy that we lose that relationship again or that time. Like, I got to get up. I got to do this. I got to do this. And God's like, I'm still here. Like, I still need that time that I needed before I started giving you all this.
Starting point is 00:31:06 So I think a lot of people, I tell people like, once you get it, you got to continue to spend that time with him. Like you said, I'm grateful. Thank you, God, for these lessons because you know it's from him. And when you get caught up in the moments where you're going through things, you know, we have a problem where we try to stay busy. We try to find ways to cope with it. And I did that. Like, I would go out and I will be hanging out and I would go have drinks with my friends.
Starting point is 00:31:30 But ultimately, that's not fixing anything. It is not. It's making it worse because now the next day I'm tired and I don't want to do nothing. So it was like, I had to sit with myself. And that's what I did. I learned to sit with myself and I learned to pour in and go to church and focus and pray. And so that's really what it was. No, for sure.
Starting point is 00:31:51 I get it. I love that, Ty, because I did not know this about you. I just learned that your mother was a first lady and that you're a stepfather, a pastor. But knowing that you have that, I can tell that you're covered. You know, you can see that you have a light about you and only God's children really carried a light. So I see it on you. But to hear the stories is really dope. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:32:13 I love that. And I love that you're so open about sharing the things you've been through because one thing about this platform is that they see, they see Tai Young on basketball-wise. They see the WMBA player. They see the coach. They see everything, but they don't see like how you say, I can be smiling. But when I go home, I'm in this dark place. Yeah, I'm going to do it.
Starting point is 00:32:33 Yeah. And I think people need to see more of that so they can know, like, hey, I can continue be positive even if I am going through this. A lot of times we allow that darkness to consume us and it's hard to get out of it. So thank you for just being open. I just wanted to say that. For sure, see, we talked about that vulnerability. And I've learned over the years to be better with that.
Starting point is 00:32:52 And also I have to shout out to Mo, you know, being more like one of my best friends. But she helped me to even, even when it comes to expressing yourself like with messages, with dating, like communicate. Yep. And be vulnerable, you know, because I'm putting it out there, let you know, how I feel and it's on you on how you take it. Because before I'm like, I'm not writing that. I'm not doing
Starting point is 00:33:15 this, you know, like I'm not expressing like, you ain't going to know how I feel. Yeah, you know, and now I'm like, I'm going to let you know how I feel and I'm in tune with my emotion and who I am. So yeah, so I learned the vulnerability over time I've gotten a lot better. Good, I love that and shout out
Starting point is 00:33:31 our good sis'am. We appreciate it. I love that. That's good. You need friends like that. Absolutely. That'll help you just grow and continue to develop because a lot A lot of times we lose good people because we don't communicate or because we don't know how to express. And then sometimes you lose people because you do know how to do it. And those people can go on. They can get the.
Starting point is 00:33:48 Yeah. They can go on. Keep it moving, sweetie. Right. We already have inside jokes, y'all. Keep it moving, sweetie. You talk about relationships. You have on social media, you're active and you have been crowned like this lover girl.
Starting point is 00:34:14 Like, everybody is. loves Ty. And I want to know what has, what has it been like having your relationships kind of like, I know for me what it's been like when people being in a lot, I'm like they find out who you dating and then it's picked apart. Do you prefer that or do you like to keep things private? I've always been like a private person. Not until when I first did reality TV has my relationship become public.
Starting point is 00:34:40 And you have a lot of people that will see things on the internet. and feel like they know you and don't know you at all you know and prior i used to you know would go back and forth until i learned i'm like this is what y'all want so i ignore it because i'm like you don't know me and if you want to judge me off of something you see or something somebody else said i have nothing to do with that right the people that know me know who i am and i and i take value in my people but it you have to have tough skin you know because people will say anything on internet to try to tell you down. And if you're not confident in who you are and where you come from and what you're
Starting point is 00:35:20 doing, that will happen to you. Yeah. But because from the ground, I've got, you know, my love and my attention and who I am from my family that I don't rely on what other people think of me. No, for sure. And that's how I keep going. That's good. I love that.
Starting point is 00:35:35 Same with me, I didn't understand what I was signing up for. And I'm sure the same for you when you were signing up for television, thinking like, okay, this will be fun. This is another way to have exposure to continue to grow my brand. You're probably looking at it from that lens, not understanding everything that comes along with being in the limelight. And for me, it was a big adjustment too. Like in the beginning, I was taking everything they said personally.
Starting point is 00:36:00 I was like, oh, my gosh, they don't know me. You don't know me. And then it was like, you don't know me. Like, first it was like, they don't know me. Like if they only, yeah, I want to explain everything. And like, no, that's not what it is. And then finally I was like, they don't know me. Exactly, they don't.
Starting point is 00:36:18 So why are you sitting here going back and forth people who don't know you for real? And those people who are naysayers and negative, I shouldn't be giving them my energy anyway. So I totally understand that. What was the biggest adjustment after going on television that you had to kind of shift? Because it was a, I mean, you were on TV for a basketball, but now we're seeing your whole life. Yeah. it was different, right? You know, I think me playing basketball and having critics in that game as well,
Starting point is 00:36:50 it helped me when I was doing TV and get, you know, critics for, you know, trying to talk about my relationship are who I am. I already, you know, had a wall because I had to deal with it with basketball. You know, if you have a bad game, they talking about you, like, get her out of here. She sucks, you know, and that's, I had to let it go in one there. and out the other because now I have to prepare for my next game. Right. So that kind of prepared me for TV.
Starting point is 00:37:16 But like you said, I had to learn that these people don't know me and not to have to explain myself in it because who I am in my relationship has nothing to do with those people point of view. And you would spend your whole life trying to explain who you are to people that don't know you. So those are things that I learned. but from being who I am, I never let it stop me from being the lover. And if I am in a relationship, I'm going to love my person regardless.
Starting point is 00:37:47 And I'm not shy of that. Yeah. You know, and that's just what I stand on. And that's one thing I always say. Like, if I'm dating somebody seriously, like in a relationship, you're going to know. Because I don't have to hire my person to be private. Right. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:38:01 And I feel like there is a difference in being private and like being sneaky. That is a big difference. You just said something there. It's a big difference between being private and sneaky or hiding your person. And I totally agree with that. I'm the same way. I'm private and definitely not see if you see it. You saw us.
Starting point is 00:38:25 You was like, hey, I have to do it. But we're not hiding it. You mess with anybody. I'm like, I'm not hiding if you see it, you see it. But I'm not going to just put it out there for you all to see so that you can tear it apart. And, you know, some things I feel like they're so. invested in us, you know, and they love us that they just want to
Starting point is 00:38:46 make sure that our person is right for us. But only we can decide that, right? So, I'm the same way. Definitely private, but not sneaky. If you see it, you see it, you know? Right, I'm not hiding. Exactly. Your stepfathers are the pastor, your mom's the first lady,
Starting point is 00:39:02 watching their relationship up close and personal. What did that teach you about love? It teach me balance, you know, but also that relationships take work and my mother always said that and I didn't really understand you know until I became of age that you will have differences but it becomes you have to make compromises and you have to make sacrifices and I realized that if two people want a relationship to work it will work
Starting point is 00:39:31 my parents have been married 22 years now and they started dating when I was in high school junior high school got married when I was a senior but just seeing their growth and how they are with each other. They protect each other. They have each other's back, but it's not like my dad won't get on my mom nerves or vice versa, but they take care of each other in ways that works for them. And it gives me hope to have that one day because I see it right in front of me
Starting point is 00:40:03 and I admire it and I love it. And the other day I asked, I'm like, is it weird for me to be obsessed with my parents? because I just admire, you know, how they are. Yeah, same. Because it's not like everything is always perfect. Right. But I see two people that fight for each other.
Starting point is 00:40:21 And that's why I know in relationships, you know, you will go through things. But if we both wanted to work, it's going to work. Exactly. And social media, a lot of times don't show you that. It shows you that you have all these options. And if it ain't working over here, let me go over here because this would be better for me. But that ain't going to work if you're not working on yourself. and two people are trying to make it work together.
Starting point is 00:40:42 Come on, talk about it. That is so good. You were young when your parents met. Did you see the love that he had for your mother immediately, or was it one of those things where he had to kind of, like, prove himself? And how did you feel about this new man coming into the home? I saw it immediately because my dad, my stepdad was intentional. You call him your dad.
Starting point is 00:41:01 Yeah, I call him dad. Yeah, same with my mom, I call him mom. Because he was a dad to me, you know, And my, even with my biological father, he passed away in 2015. But my dad, Daddy John is what I call him. He was just intentional from the beginning. I just, I'm an observer. So I watched how he like just took care of my mom, how he opened the door,
Starting point is 00:41:24 how he made sure she gets to her seat, how he, like, watches her. And I've seen it early, you know, like without saying anything, I would just watch how he would take care of her and how he would look after me early. You know, like I'm a high school kid. Like I'm not a baby. You don't really have to take care of me. Yeah. But he stepped in and was willing to do it. So that showed me the type of man that he was, not only to my mom, but the man he is and how he was to my mom's kids. No, for sure. I love that. And that's important when parents are stepping in to children that aren't their biological children. You got to make sure that you treat them as your own. And I'd say my mother passed when I was two. My dad remarried, my stepmom. mom, but I call her mom because she's all I ever knew. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:42:09 So I totally get that. And when a person comes in and really steps in as a mother or father figure, that is who they are. You know, so I totally get that. And I love that because not everyone is as fortunate. Right. Yeah. And the same with my parents. They've been together 30-something years now.
Starting point is 00:42:24 And not everything is perfect. Yeah. But I've seen them argue. I've seen them make up. Yeah. I've seen them be like, all right, whatever. My dad now, like, they can disagree. And it's just like, all right.
Starting point is 00:42:36 So what will we go eat? Yeah. When you have that comfort, you know, and you know, like, this is my person. It doesn't matter if you're having a bad day or not. I know you're going to be home. I know you're going to be there. Exactly. You know, like you're not going to go out because you're mad at me, you know?
Starting point is 00:42:49 So I just see it. I'm just like, I can't wait to have something like that. How can we? I feel like that may be a lost art in our generation. And the way it's going. You know what I'm saying? It's like we want and we aspire to have what our parents had. And grateful that we had the example.
Starting point is 00:43:09 But sometimes we're dating people who didn't have that example. So we're all, let me get off your toes. That would get off of them. No, seriously, and that's the thing. People don't have the example. And people don't know what they don't know. So in their mind, it's like, yeah, no, I'm not doing that. Or I'm not doing this.
Starting point is 00:43:29 Or why should I have to compromise? You know, it's just like, you don't know. Yeah. So. That's real. They don't know. Yeah. Behind every night spent making the kids' lunches, there's a lot of suspense.
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Starting point is 00:44:06 Hey, Portlandia fans. Carrie Brownstein and Fred Armisen here. You know us, or rather you know them. Tony and Candice, Nina and Lance, Spike, and yes, The Chicken. We've played a lot of iconic characters over the years, but today we're showing up as ourselves to tell you about Podlandia, AEO rewatch, our brand new podcast. Each week, we'll revisit an episode of Portlandia from the very beginning, breaking down the sketches, exploring the backstories of our most iconic characters,
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Starting point is 00:45:06 Ayo rewatch on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hey, this is Hayes Davenport. And Sean Clements. We host the podcast, Hollywood Handbook. Every episode we're trying to help our guests improve their careers by mainly focusing on how they can help us improve our careers. The show is famously super accessible so you can easily jump into any of our 650 episodes and understand what's going on. We recommend some of our recent episodes with Ben Stiller. The definition of what is a movie is kind of.
Starting point is 00:45:35 kind of changed anyway, too, right? What do you think it is now? It's images and words being spoken, captured by some sort of technology. Danny McBride. He loves Mouthins. Oh, that's fantastic. And you make it on, you make your own. That's great.
Starting point is 00:45:50 I call him Terro Reed. It's a good name. They're all named after cast members of American Pie. Yeah. Oh, gotcha. I call, I don't, I never looked up if she was in this, but I call him Leachie Sobiesky. Yeah. I don't think she was an American Pie.
Starting point is 00:46:05 but I still like that. Haven't looked it up. She was prominent around the same time. Then Mary Steenbergin. Why are you guys talking to me? I'm worried. I'm worried. Why are you talking so down to me
Starting point is 00:46:16 that you think I don't understand your little play game? I just really, I get it. I'm trying to set you up for success here. Listen to Hollywood Handbook on the I Heart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. On Solita, we share the messy stories of traveling alone as a woman. Your duolingo is not going to come back to you when a man is inside of you.
Starting point is 00:46:41 Oh, no. I'm Julie Pinero, and I travel by myself because it's a rare space where I can say yes without asking anyone else first. I'm on a mission to reclaim the word solita, trading the pity for possibility. Every time I tried to be alone, I kept meeting people, and they were like, you smiled at us. Not a lot of people smile around here. I can wait four hours for the next bus or this random dude is offering me a ride on his motorcycle.
Starting point is 00:47:10 It's when you're alone that you're most receptive to the world as it is and not the lies you're sold about it. So whether you're a solo travel veteran or you're too nervous to book your first trip, I hope you listen to Solita on the IHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts,
Starting point is 00:47:26 or wherever you get your podcasts. Now I want to ask you something and this is maybe a little personal And if we can just edit it up, just preface. You are, you come from a home that is rooted in faith, but you are in same-sex relationships. When did you know?
Starting point is 00:47:46 And then what was that conversation like with your mom? And was that harder? Did she argue? My parents were like, we already do that. Or did they already know, did she already know? She knew, but I think she felt it was a phase. So the first time I ever dated a woman, I was in college. Okay.
Starting point is 00:48:04 And during the time, I was still dating guys, but never at the same time. And so the last part was the last guy that I was like in a relationship with. Like I stopped talking to him and my parents loved them, right? They thought like, oh, he's going to be the one. That's like, no. She's like, praise the Lord. Yeah, right? And so it's funny because my mom was asking me about the guy and my dad was like,
Starting point is 00:48:30 Linda, Tim was not stunting that guy, you know? like, and they say it's like, Daddy John is like, she's not studying that guy, right? And so it was never a conversation that we had. It was just like, you know because you don't see any guys around. And one time, you know, my girl at the time came home and, you know, she stayed with me. But my mom didn't know. She's like my friend home with me.
Starting point is 00:48:59 Yeah, and I'm funny about people in my space. Yeah. I don't like people in my space. I don't like sharing my bed. Like unless, you know, it's my person. Same. So my mom was like, well, you don't want your sister to sleep with you, but you didn't have a problem when your friend came and stayed and slept with you.
Starting point is 00:49:11 And I'm like, uh-uh. I wish you were right, mama. I have no rebut. You know, like. So I think the main thing, you know, like I said, she thought it was a phase. And she was like, well, I'm going to keep praying prayer works, you know. And I think it was. when I told her I was going to propose in that relationship.
Starting point is 00:49:36 And she just broke down crying and she's like, please don't. And my mom is my heart. So now I'm getting emotional. I'm like, my, I got to call you later. Because this is the day before I'm about to do it. Oh, my gosh. So I still went through it because for me, I'm like, I honor and I respect my parents, but I don't live my life, you know, for my parents.
Starting point is 00:49:59 but it was never like a sit-down conversation. It was just more so like you see and you see what's going on. Yeah, yeah. That's good. I mean, Dave John funny. The girl, Daddy John was like, she is not. What? Daddy John was like, please stop bring this guy up to my baby because this ain't that.
Starting point is 00:50:19 Right, right. And I know a lot of Christian households can, that can be a division. Yeah. You know, and my parents always said that if one of us decided that's what it was, that we're going to love you the same. Yeah. You're our child. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:50:31 And we love you. And you got to start your own salvation. Between you and God, whatever, you know what I'm saying? But we're going to love you regardless. And that's my parents. They're like,
Starting point is 00:50:38 we love you. And my dad had to step in during that time. He's like, you know where we stand. Yeah. You know how we are. But we're going to love you regardless and we're going to always be here for you.
Starting point is 00:50:47 I love that. So I'm grateful because there are a lot of people that is in, you know, my position who parents disown them. Yes. And my parents love me down. So I'm grateful for that. because I know it's hard.
Starting point is 00:51:00 You know, as humans, we want our parents. Yes. No matter how old we get, you know. And the older we get, the more we want them. The more we want them. And so I am grateful for that. Yeah, that's beautiful. Have you ever had any internal, like, spiritual moments
Starting point is 00:51:13 where you kind of battled with that between you and God where you're like, kind of like struggling with that? Not. I know this probably is how crazy, but not much, like, of a struggle. Because for me, I'm like, God knows, you know, what I'm feeling and what's going on. Like he's watching everything, right? And like I told my mom before, I'm like,
Starting point is 00:51:35 I don't want to do something. Like, is this bad because I don't want to do something that I don't like or, you know, I'm uncomfortable with? So I'm like, am I supposed to be with a man and marry a man because that's the right thing to do even though it's what I'm uncomfortable with? You know, so I, it's times where I used to be in my head and think about it. But now I don't. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:51:58 So, yeah. I'm just like, God knows what's going on. He's watching me. Now, was there like, I know a lot of women, they, I mean, not to stay on this too long, but I know a lot of women, it's something that happens with a man where they're like, I'm done. Like, they'd have one of my friends.
Starting point is 00:52:14 I think you may know her, but she was like, yeah, I'm good. And she never turned back. Wait, with, like. With guys, she was done. Don't with God. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that was me.
Starting point is 00:52:23 I'm just like, I like, I like women more. And I don't, I was never one to. go back and forth. Like, or I mean, I was never one to be at the same time. Like, I'm dating a guy and I'm dating a woman. Like, no. I will be with a woman. Okay, that's not I'll date a guy.
Starting point is 00:52:38 But I'm like, I don't want to date a guy. Yeah. I'm cool, you know? And it's not like I don't find me unattractive. I just have no desire to be with them, like, at all. So I'm fine. I'm good where I'm at. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:52:50 Okay, last question. Is you single or not? I'm single. I've been single for a long time now. Really? Yeah. how are you enjoying this single phase of life? It's refreshing, you know, because...
Starting point is 00:53:04 Shelly's over there like, yeah. Get to the teeth. Yeah, get in there. No, it's really refreshing, you know, because like I say, I'm a person that pours. I pour into my person. You show up, too. I show up and I'm going to fight for my relationship, like, until I just can't no more. And so now I'm finally, like, focused on me and doing what I feel best is best for me.
Starting point is 00:53:26 Like, I'm not even dating nobody right now. And normally I like to date, you know, like I like to have like a little companion or whatever, but I just been in this space. I am a lover girl. Like, and it's hard been a lover girl in this generation. Listen, because they don't want to be loved. They don't. They don't know what love is, honestly. But I just, I'm in this space because it's hard dating.
Starting point is 00:53:47 Like finding somebody that wants the same thing as you, you know, people be lying all the time. And I don't have, I'm about to be 40. I don't have time for that. So I'm like, until God actually. sends the person to me like I'm not out looking I'm not out like trying to you know be a match whatever I'm just like when it happens when it's supposed to happen so I'm gonna tell you I just had earned your leisure on yesterday and they're doing a singles night it's like a lounge when they're gonna bet them I'm scared going there I said I'm gonna go girl you go into the single lounge
Starting point is 00:54:24 I said listen I said go ahead and bet them for him to the side for her I need somebody to vet them for me because, like, one of my friends say, you're going to be picking them right. I might need a veteran for real. Right, for real. Like, because I do like, I'm the type of person I want my friends to introduce me to people. Yeah. Because I need somebody to vouch for the person. Right.
Starting point is 00:54:44 To be like, no, this is a good person. I think y'all should just meet, have some dinner because I'm drink. I was like, I say coffee. But, like, a lot of people like, just go have coffee. I'm like, I don't drink or something. I don't drink or something. And meet new people. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:54:57 But I'm like, but sometimes one lady came up to me, y'all, if they said, Cient child, and she was like, my cousin is just in love with you. And she was like, he used to play football. She's like, he's very handsome. Yeah. Child, they want to pull that picture up. I said, call him, press that column. Then she pulled a picture up.
Starting point is 00:55:16 I was like, you want to call. Don't call them stink. Your eyes don't work. Your eyes don't work. Like, no. But you know, the thing is, too, even with Fritz vouching, a friend knows a person as a friend they don't know them as a partner
Starting point is 00:55:31 so it's different yeah because somebody could about someone as a person as a friend like oh this is a great friend of mine and then you start dating and you're like this person is terrible yeah like they might be a great friend but they are not a great person for a partner yeah that's yeah a lot about that that's good yeah that's real it's tough out here it's hard in these streets listen but then too when you have so many people that
Starting point is 00:55:57 know, are coming after you, how do you know the right one? That's another, how do you know they want you for you or like, Ty Young? They want the experience. Yeah, they see the life you live in. I'm not all here to teach people and get them the experience. This is, I learned my place. Listen, okay, no. You got to. I'm not getting this T Young experience. That's right. Listen, to you prove yourself, okay? That's real because people see the life you live. They see the people that you are attached to. Yeah. And they want a part of
Starting point is 00:56:25 that. Sometimes they're there for the wrong. reason. So how do you even decipher who is for you? Is it a feeling or is it just time to get to know somebody where you can kind of see their characteristics? I don't know. You're like, clearly. Clearly, I don't know, right. Like, but no, I think it takes time. And for me, like, I'll be talking to myself at home sometimes. And I was saying, I have to do a better job at vetting people. You know, like, I see a person. I'm like, oh, she's pretty. I like her smile. We have great conversation, but you really have to vet people, you know, to see like what they've been through and, and who they are around and how they handle their self, because the beginning
Starting point is 00:57:07 is always fun. It's always nice. You're always going to get the great part. But then it's like, okay, how are you in the midst of trials and, like, going through things? Like, how are you during that part? So I don't know, but I'm learning, I'm learning, you know, as I've learned myself more, too, that I have to do a better job at vetting.
Starting point is 00:57:28 Me too. Because I'm also an impact. So I'd be feeling bad for people. Yeah. Girl. You're trying to say, folks. Yeah, and I'd be setting myself up. Like, you cannot fix this person.
Starting point is 00:57:39 You can't, like, heal them. You know, so that's why I am by myself right now, and I'm just taking my time and letting things be as they may. That's good. And sometimes you just need that time, you know. And then a lot of times you got to, I think one question we had to start asking people is, have you done the work, you know, are you healed?
Starting point is 00:57:59 Have you been to therapy? People lie. She said, people like, you right. People lie. Who are you talking to? Listen, because people look at me like, oh, you only like these types of hub. I'm like, these people lie, okay? I say for the beginning, you know I'm a lesbian, right?
Starting point is 00:58:19 And I say, you know, I want a family in these things, you know what I mean? Like I'm not putting on no mask. Like I am who I am. And so that's why I say I have to see, you know, like who wants to experience and who really wants to date me. So obviously, you know, like I have to do better at deciphering. Yes. The ones. Yeah.
Starting point is 00:58:39 I'm going to stay on you that. I'm going to come home. And I'm going to take the accountability, you know, like I have to do better. So that's what I'm doing. That's good. I'm with you. I'm with you. I got to do the same thing because I'll think that I found.
Starting point is 00:58:54 something good. And then, you'll say a few months fast by it. It's like, that gold or turn to bronze. Baby. Copper. Got a little penny. My bad.
Starting point is 00:59:11 Listen, so good. It's the coffee. It's the coffee. And my Lani is still kicking. I'm like, I want to know before we get out of here, who is tied beyond the jersey? Where do you see yourself going next?
Starting point is 00:59:27 I know you're doing your analyst thing. What else do you want to do and what else do you aspire to be? Definitely I want to do more of being an analyst. I never imagined myself doing that, but I really enjoy it. I really love still being around the game, being able to break it down
Starting point is 00:59:45 and being able to tell stories and speak from an experience as a 12-year vet, but also as a one-year coach. And I want to continue to be able to host, you know, like, like even if I started a podcast, but just being able to host events and have conversations with people
Starting point is 01:00:04 because there's a lot that I've experienced, you know, in my life and I don't speak on as much. Yeah. But I feel like conversations are important. Like real conversations. Yeah. So I don't think you need to jump on that. No, seriously.
Starting point is 01:00:18 Because there are a lot of new fans into women's sports. Yes. You know, in the decades and the generations of it, it's so much that the new. things don't know. But I see me continuing to speak on sports, but also, you know, for my life, one day having a family and just having that stability and not just being me. I can also see you writing a book.
Starting point is 01:00:44 I am. I am writing a book. Okay. I just finished my proposal. For real? Yeah. I can see it. Yeah.
Starting point is 01:00:50 She's a profit, y'all. No, listen. And I have so much. I know. Yeah. I can't wait to read it. York Times best son author. I can't wait.
Starting point is 01:00:59 It's a lot. It's a lot. We'll add it to the book club. Yeah. For real. You know, so. And I just, and I'm just grateful, you know, because my life, like you said, we, people don't know what you go through.
Starting point is 01:01:10 And we all have the decision if we go out to sink or swim. Yeah. And I continue to swim. Yes. You do. Ty, I love that. Thank you so much for sitting with us. For sure.
Starting point is 01:01:20 This has been an amazing conversation. I got to know you better. I know our audience got to know you better. Where can we follow you? We're going to support you and everything you have going on. Instagram is Ty Young 11. I have Twitter, but I don't really tweet. Just threads is the same.
Starting point is 01:01:35 Oh, yes. You know on threads too. I've been on threads. I've been on threads. I have TikTok. I have funny stuff on TikTok. TikTok, T-Swagging 1. Okay.
Starting point is 01:01:44 And shop my clothing gear, TY1.1.com. Yes, get it. Please get it. Shop. We want to sell it out. Let's do it, y'all. Ty, thank you so much. Thanks for having me.
Starting point is 01:01:53 This was a joy. We did it. Ty, thank you so much for reminding us that while titles may open doors, they should never define who we are. Thank you for sharing your journey with such honesty and for showing us what it looks like to keep growing and keep becoming. Thank you for listening. And if this conversation encourages you, like, subscribe, and share with someone who's navigating a new season or discovering who they are behind their title. And don't forget to join the sweetie social club, guys. We are open.
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