Kyle Kingsbury Podcast - #31 Aaron Alexander
Episode Date: April 30, 2018We sit down this week with Aaron Alexander a second time to uncover much more than movement this go round. Aaron Alexander on Instagram Twitter Facebook and Youtube Check out Aligntherapy.com Fr...ee Audible trial at audibletrial.com/align Connect with Kyle Kingsbury on Twitter and on Instagram Get 10% off at Onnit by going to Onnit.com/Podcast Onnit Twitter Onnit Instagram
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slash on it welcome to the on a podcast we've got a very special guest the first
guest in on it history well since i took over in on it podcast history to join the the show
a second time uh aaron is a very close friend of mine. He stayed at my house
this week while we're out here at Onnit. Oddly enough, when I had my own podcast prior to coming
here, he stayed at my mom's garage, which my wife and son and I were all living in when he was
getting ready to move from Bend, Oregon down to Santa Monica, where he currently runs his amazing
podcast, The Align Podcast. He also has a wealth
of knowledge on movement. He's a specialist when it comes to movement and body work. He's certified
roofer. He has a number of different applications for massage therapy and manual work and just
truly an exceptional human being. I will have him on again. So hopefully this is an Aaron Alexander
overload because guess what? He's coming back again. And I had an absolute blast with him.
Also jumped on his podcast as well as a guest.
And we ran a couple with Aubrey Marcus.
Aaron Alexander got to jump on AMP, the Aubrey Marcus podcast,
and he had Aubrey Marcus as a guest on his show.
So make sure you check all those out as well.
Thanks for tuning in.
On It podcast.
My boy, Aaron Alexander here, movement specialist,
is trying to get into full lotus in a chair that doesn't look like that's
accomplishable.
It's not happening.
Yeah, I don't think you can do half.
It's okay.
I don't think my knees can handle that.
This is about adaptation.
It's an opportunity for new adaptation. We'll get adaptation mic a little bit closer here there we go so we got you back in
austin we're here we're fucking here man i'm pumped got you back at the crib funny funny story
the last time uh you stayed at the house with tasha and Bear. I was living in mom's detached garage.
I love mom's detached garage.
You were moving from Bend, Oregon, down to Santa Monica, California.
Yeah.
And we've seen you since then, but obviously at Paleo FX and then out in Venice recently
when we did the Whole Foods launch.
Every Whole Foods in the nation.
Aubrey and I went out to LA for that.
But it's been a
wild ride and you've got you've got some you've really hit the ground running when you got to la
because obviously that's pretty much the mecca for amazing people to have on the podcast and you have
you know i told it wasn't blowing smoke up your ass when i said this before i think we've art i know i mentioned this on the first time you're you're ta-da you're the fucking first guy to be on on
its podcast twice with me as the host appreciate that yeah hell yeah brother and you're definitely
worth having back on again and again but um you know the thing i mentioned before on the first
go-round was how when i went on your show originally, I always try to download a few
podcasts of guests of special interest to me. And you had had a laundry list of people I wanted to
listen to. So I downloaded, I think, 10 or 12 episodes. But it's even more so now because being
in LA, you're surrounded by greatness. You get to chat with so many great people. And even if they
don't live there, so many people come through SoCal that you've been able to really iron out some great podcasts.
Yeah, it's been amazing.
The difference between getting to sit and connect with somebody in person like this versus doing the Skype thing, it's like taking the condom off for the first time.
Yes.
That's a great analogy.
It's like I've never had sex before.
This is great.
So coming from the Northwest, it was it was does that mean conversations are shorter it means i have sex with my podcast guests
i was gonna say like instead of you being able to last an hour on the mic you only get like
10 minutes in i don't know what's happening we gotta cut this short but yeah it's been really
good man it's been uh just getting to have that opportunity to connect
with people in a different way i think the whole idea of community and tribe building and all that
i feel like from the northwest there was like you know the sensation of connecting with a lot
of people which was great but it felt kind of like sterile or artificial and i have had a kind
of an interesting sensation of actually feeling more held, I guess you could say, or connected or kind of like a part of this, this tribe or this soup, which that's something we can probably pick at for days where it's just.
And that's West LA, right?
Where you have that tribe connection feeling.
Yeah.
Right. difference when i'm in socal between being on the coast in venice santa monica even culver city
which is slightly inland you know um redondo all those areas i feel definitely at home and at peace
whereas the second i get inland if i'm in hollywood or fucking downtown it's just madness yeah well
you got to drive everywhere yeah you know so every moment that you're spent sitting in your car for
one thing so i have like a i'm like a like one of the crazy people as as are you i have like a grounding cable
in my car you know and as i'm in there i got a foam roller around my thoracic spine area and i
sit in that fucking lotus position i put my car in cruise control i'm sure i shouldn't even mention
that on a podcast if you see me in the highway like be aware uh but pretty good with getting
legs down uh you know but we spend that time in that position in the car and that car,
as I've talked about ad nauseum,
that's a position of depression.
And so we,
we kind of start to aggregate that position of depression.
We're in there,
we're collapsing our lungs,
we're collapsing our heart,
we're pulling ourselves forward into this position that you would,
if your grandma just died,
you know,
we're hold ourselves in that position.
Breath is shorter. Everything. Everything. so all your physiological processes get down regulated
so you're in that for an hour now add anxiety right because i'm late now add i'm pissed off
because they cut me off right so all these are different lines that you're implementing adding
into your situation and your body doesn't know how the hell to turn off or to start to come into like more parasympathetic relest relest relax digest state now so i think that's a big part of that
experience like if you live on the beach and you can ride your bike places that's a different la
than if you live inland and you are dependent on driving everywhere that's big yeah jordan b
peterson was just talking about that in
his new book 12 rules for life an antidote to chaos he's talking about the first rule uh how
much our neurochemistry is in sync with lobsters and he dives into and they've talked about this
before i mean dr kelly stret talked about don't make the pain face when you're on a foam roller
if you make the pain face the muscle will not relax the fascia will not release if you smile through the pain there's a greater
chance that it'll release quicker right so the same can be extrapolated to the lobster where
you know in the lobster hierarchy number one on the list the top dog or the top lobster
is the most erect you know yoked boss lobster that kind of struts his stuff and then at the bottom is this
feeble weak you know i don't belong here you know a little lobster and the same thing goes for humans
you see the sad puppy dog and you're like oh what happened you know and it's always you know the
mopey whiny bitch and then you've got on the the other end of the spectrum somebody who stands tall
with their shoulders back nice and erect not only does that
exude confidence but there's a neurochemical response then from having a wrecked spine where
we have and science backs this we have higher serotonin output yeah and so we could see that
you know they're they're you know kelly kelly breaks this down i think in his his new book
maybe did this in desk bound uh i know he has another one about traveling on
airplanes oh i didn't know but um i thought i well stocked collie kelly i'm surprised kelly's
it's not out yet i'm wise to i'm hip to the game i know what's on the forefront here that's good
but uh in desk bound he talks about you know active sitting and passive sitting when do we
have a choice in the matter right we don't have a choice when we're driving we have to sit we do
have a choice in how we sit in that car that's it to an extent right and that's what you're alluding to
but certainly you know when we're working we can do standing desks we can have a foot fidgeter we
can do different things to mobilize the body because standing in places is not quite as bad
as sitting in place but it's not that much better whereas if we're moving around a
little bit moving our feet stretching our body that continues to pump blood through the system
that continues to oxygenate the brain we're we're we're really required to move we're not required
to be stagnant and still and so that's why he he really references references quite a bit of that
in desk bound and i know he's going to do that in uh airplane
airplane mode or whatever the title of this book is but yeah i that maybe with with uh his pull
we'll start to see a ton of people just walking the aisles on airplanes all of a sudden yeah yeah
i mean i'm there you're there where it's it's happening there's a minority of us that are
absolutely that awkward weird annoying guy that's doing lunges down the lane on the plane you know
my my intention while being on this body on earth is to make that be more you know normalizing that
where it's like oh i'm actually up regulating fucking everything by doing this you know maybe
if we had a little bit more you know liberation or freedom or i think it's fear of judgment is the big thing you know so when we're
in a community where people are broken or diseased or dysregulated if you're the one outlier that's
trying to up regulate then the other lobsters or crabs are going to pull you back into that bucket
it's like the crabs in the bucket you don't need to put a lid on it because yeah they'll
cut your freaking legs off to get you back in the bucket you know welcome to the united states
welcome to western culture you know so if you're the person that's doing a down dog or a handstand
or you know you mentioned kelly star the couch stretch and if you're doing that in public you're
going to get some looks and aaron you got quite a few looks at paleo effects dropping into that monster squat
it's put a new definition on ass to grass i think your ass was just like an inch off the ground
that's how deep it was down there and it was it was like every i don't know every 30 seconds you
just drop into that glorious squat well it's because i'm like a canary in the coal mine with
that so i've i have had uh the fabulous experience experience of having varicose veins in my legs.
And so maybe it's a genetic thing.
Maybe I was really into bodybuilding at a stupid young age.
It was like insecurity stuff that I've talked about previously as well.
Maybe I injured myself with that.
Whatever it is, my circulation in my legs isn't as fantastic as it potentially could be.
So I'm a lot like a celiac person except with circulation you know so i can feel that shit if i don't have and everybody can feel this you know so if you're a person that's that's in a
standing position like you're working working a you know in a cashier whatever it may be
i got this from actually kelly stripe uh they end up up regulating or creating more blood
in their body because they can't circulate it as well.
So their body now needs more blood to circulate
because if they're moving, they can circulate with less.
If you're just sitting in this static still position,
your body's like, shit, we need to,
all that blood's in your legs.
We need some blood in your brain
what can we do oh we'll make more so now you'd be a heavier blood bag right so figuring out like
okay what if we just kind of get out of that like blood bag territory and start kind of just moving
our bodies around like dance you know and dance is a big ask for people but maybe start off with
just like i was reading recently about i'm doing this this chapter
in a book and it's one thing i was getting into with is like walking you know and so the the
difference with you know the hatha tribesmen's walking versus like modern day walking i've seen
different numbers with this you got something no okay just yawning oh that was a yawn oh sorry i was trying to cover it up for the camera audit listeners falling asleep so uh hot's a chive man i get that i am fascinated even though
my face doesn't say someone scratches their face i'm always like i have shit on my face i know it
so i swear to god if you scratch your face one time during this situation it's gonna make me
feel incredibly insecure my beard twitches yeah
the muff dive um so we are the mustache ride not muff dive muff dive is a mustache right
is so for the folks listening at home would be pubic hair ah so if you muff dive you're going down on somebody okay and then a mustache ride is just you know someone going for a ride on the
mustache so there still is, they compliment each other.
And a snowball, are you familiar with snowball?
Oh boy, that's, yeah, that's where,
well, we do have an explicit podcast,
but yeah, that would be the.
No, we're not going to say what that is.
Okay, well, just Google.
That's too far.
Google the snowball.
Okay, in case there's, well, everyone has access to Google.
I was going to say, if there's children listening, we won't't say that but children know how to use google so we've already crossed
the line i don't even know if i said that right um so hot's a tribesman average walking distance
for a female from what i read i've read a couple different things what i just recently read maybe
fact check and look into this i read 3.5 miles a day is the average a strap gps units to these
people they measured it for lots of days.
How many steps is that?
12,000? 10,000?
I believe about 5,000.
I believe about 5 miles is about
10,000 steps.
So they're doing less than 10,000 steps a day.
The HOTSA.
We got to look into this. This is what I read later.
I don't know what it translates to the steps.
So I can send you the article that I was reading from this.
We'll link to it in the show notes.
Link to it in the show notes.
Yeah.
But I've also heard I've read some other stuff where it's like they're saying it's like a
lot more than that.
So let's let's research this a little bit.
But what I literally was just reading yesterday was that 3.5 miles for females and then double
that with males.
We can maybe look it up over here while we're here.
So seven miles on average for a man and one of the big things that was interesting with that was they called it they called it levy flight pattern or levy walking pattern is the way that
they do it so their movement ends up looking a lot more like that of somebody that's moving around
like a music festival or a college campus or Disney World or whatever where you kind of orb, bear your kid.
If you watch a little kid,
they don't have this linear style movement
where I go, it's like we have these right angles
like on the table, I go here and then I go right
and then I go left and I go,
and it's cubicle type motion.
So they kind of have this all over the place,
exploratory type, and then they get down on the have this all over the place exploratory time and then
they get down on the ground and they come up on the ground and they're back what we got we got
some we got some business five miles ryan pulled it up ryan you're allowed to speak buddy you can
get in there ryan jamie vernon jumps in yeah if we can do that kyle already gone while i was talking
they have an okay podcast i think the joe rogan experience he's jamie's a
lot of talk you got a voice ryan so 10 000 steps is about five miles give or take all right yeah
yeah so but what's interesting about that everybody knows about the 10 000 steps all that stuff uh
what i think is really interesting about that is more they call it super diffusive
movement patterning so super diffusive you have to say it that way you can
just say it like scatter diffusive i feel like an asshole when i say shit like that so as you're
moving around it's diffusing your movement a little bit all right so what we do is we're so
damn directive with everything we do you know we're so damn linear with okay i get here i get
this done and that goes against
our physiology it goes against our biology you look at something like heart rate variability
heart variability you're the healthiest when you're the most chaotic yeah when there's the
least amount of rhythm right bum bum bum bum bum bum that's it right so we think that maybe there
could be like a little bit of a chance that our heart rate
variability or the pattern that's the healthiest for our heart maybe that relates to our actual
extrapolates out to our physical movement maybe our everything the thing is when you say when you
say something like that everybody's like oh that's bullshit it's not connected and the truth is
everything's interconnected and we can reverse engineer all this shit all you have to do is
look at breath work in the nervous system yeah if you're in a fight or flight state sympathetic
state odds are you're breathing quickly the second you slow your breathing down and i think
aubrey has this in his book on the day six deep breaths was a study that scientifically proven to
lower blood pressure to shift you in a parasympathetic state rest and digest six deep
breaths that's it yeah right and
then we have different modes like four seconds in eight seconds out if you slow the exhale down
that shifts you into parasympathetic as well right it doesn't matter if your mind's fucking racing
if you just got fired if your wife just left you for another man or woman whatever the case is well
now we have different terms for genders but yeah but no we're not in fucking canada i subscribe to peterson
on that one the the point is like we can reverse engineer that right and they're just like the fake
it till you make it like why does it work to smile even if you're not happy it works to smile well
your muscles know that that fucking position of your face and that reverse engineers neurochemistry
it helps you feel better inside and it changes it all
the way through the system right so that that concept to me makes a ton of sense and yeah if
you watch aaron alexander walk at paleo fx or my son there's it's very fucking free and it looks
odd because it's different from the rest of the group right it's it's um you're very childish
aaron and i mean that in the fucking best way possible. Like you move very freely.
And obviously when we were, we went to, I think a rave,
my first rave, New Year's on 2016, right?
It was a year ago.
No, it was 2016 turning 2017.
Yeah.
We're out in LA.
Oh yeah.
That was special.
Your fucking dance moves were serious,
but there was ballet in there.
There was all kinds of shit.
And I was like, fuck, yes, get yes get it you know and it was cool and everyone there was digging it because it
was it was a place where it wasn't a hip-hop club you know it was like and not not that there's
anything wrong with that but you didn't have to dance like everyone else there and obviously
that shit was long past your thought process of whatever you know you gave no fucks yeah and i
hadn't experienced that until i was at spirit ranch in sedona and perangi put us through an ecstatic
dance and the way he did this was with blindfolds so you didn't have to worry about what other
people thought and the truth is i on paper didn't give a fuck but the second my wife started talking
before we realized we're gonna to wear blindfolds she was
like i'm going to be watching you the whole time i got totally fucking nervous yeah and then probably
was like no you won't be watching him at all everyone's gonna have blindfolds and i was like
yes i'm safe you know but it's that i that idea you know dance like no one's watching
the famous quote well it's very hard to accomplish that when you know people are watching or when you're
self-conscious.
And it's very easy to do that.
But I mean, just from this, this goes well past dance into the way we walk, the way we
act in front of others, the way we speak to one another, how we stand.
If you don't have a lot of self-confidence, you're going to stand like you don't.
You're going to stand like you don't mean what you're saying or that maybe I kind of
know what I'm talking about, but I'm'm not sure i'm not certain of myself well as jordan peterson ducks about like if you're
not sure of yourself no one else is going to be fucking sure of you that's for damn sure no one
else is going to take you serious if you don't take yourself serious and then i'm not saying like
i'm a very important person i have important shit to say it's just like this your demeanor
body language
says so much about a person far more than the words coming out of their mouth yeah right with
the uh just to kind of like put a cork on the jordan peterson lobster thing one of the interesting
parts of that was the lobsters that end up being defeated in their fight for territory they end up
um i keep saying up regulating but that's what
they're doing up regulating this octopamine is uh kind of like you know so serotonin is like
to feel good be assertive be strong yeah the negative hormone counter to that is one that
we don't have yeah they do it's like the yeah it's like the dark matter of of that and so they end up
up regulating this octopamine stuff amongst other things that's the scientific
flashlight that's the nature of things we get attached to terms the reality of things is
probably way different than that but we say this term over and over again it's a story that we play
over in our heads octopamine remember that's what it is write it down you understand the whole
biological process of a lobster if you remember octopamine you know but they end up up regulating
octopamine let's call that the top of the vector, and then the whole cascade that's below that, whatever's attached to it.
And they end up leading, they recirculate that throughout their life.
So now every time they meet, say, it's a female or male or whatever it is, a relationship thing or a business thing or just whatever, they start leading with that octopamine stuff slash the rest of the cascades and now there's
that feedback and they come back into that it feeds back into itself so their posture changes
their neurochemistry changes the neurochemistry speaks to the posture posture speaks to the
neurochemistry you know so when we're in a place like on it and we're optimizing freaking everything
right we're what we're doing what the intention here is i would say we're doing, what the intention here is,
I would say we're like, I'm here this week,
is we're looking at all of these different prongs.
And for each individual,
one prong might speak louder than another prong.
We just did the PMF machine.
And it's like, oh, cool, it's going to talk to your shoulder.
Then it's going to talk to your low back.
And then it might talk to this.
There's no one right way that you have to enter the organism you know so some people
talk therapy that's going to nail it that's going to speak to their posture it's going to speak to
their neurochemistry somebody was like dude i don't want to talk i want to go out in a cave i
want to just sit by myself some people it's like oh you need placebo and you need supplements and
you need iv you know it's like any of those we can pull from all these different
angles and then what happens is people become dogmatic about their thing oftentimes because
they're selling something or they just you know are stuck in their dogma and they start preaching
as though that's the only way and then we start having fights and wars and now we're getting into
like religious conversation you look at a diet you know rob wolves talked extensively how fucking
dogmatic diet can be but yeah it's it there are it is a multi-pronged system as human beings are
and one one cool differentiator because i found that fascinating too in the lobster discussion
they're more likely then to back down from a fight because they believe they'll lose they're more
likely to not get laid and procreate after that a lot of times they'll shed their shell and go into a hiding
to regrow you know because they've been defeated and they carry that with them if you think about
that on human terms you think of a negative downward spiral we get in depression or different
things like that where if you've ever met an eeyore out there you know somebody who's like
oh i don't know you know and whatever you know this one bad
thing happened to them and then everything sucks after that right they can never pull themselves
out of a rut i've i've spent time there has been time in my life where it was really harder than
it is now because i lacked the tools necessary to pull me out and i talked about a bit about that
in the solo cast but the bottom line is different like you're saying different things speak to
different people for some people it's going to be. And that's one of the reasons we try to talk
about all these things on the podcast and you do as well. I think it's incredibly important
to give people more than one tool and to say, this can help you and this is why.
And then allow people to try. But that's the thing. It's not enough to know, we must do.
I love that from Bruce Lee. We got to fucking do it just try it out and there's something if people don't like exercise it's what exercise
are you doing right because there's something you will like even if it's just walking in nature
even if it's just hiking even if it's just doing tai chi in a park with a bunch of old folks and
then there is something it's also getting out of this again dogmatic idea
of what the heck exercise means exercise isn't crossfit necessarily exercise doesn't have to be
martial arts doesn't have to be dance it doesn't have to be bicep curls exercise could be looking
across the savannah right that's exercising your eyes i was talking about this on on aubrey's
podcast for just just a bit so i don't want to go too deep into here because maybe people jump
over on that side but we're contracting these ciliary muscles that allow the lens of our eyes
to change shape okay so when you're looking out into the distance those light rays are coming in
more at a straight angle so your eyes in order to receive that message they need to chill out
so the light can just poof straight back and all right so when you look across into
the mountain range or out in the ocean or up into the sky your eyes they need to relax to gather
that message that's why it's relaxing to look in the distance all right so when we're looking at
close up i want to look at my spirit crystal here all of a sudden now i'm focusing on that point
and that light's coming more at an angle right so now it's coming from here and then it goes at like kind of this angle.
Oop.
So maybe if people are looking at the video, it's kind of coming like this, like a triangle.
If you're just listening to this in your car, he calls his junk the spirit crystal.
So he looked down at his pants when he said, when I'm staring at my spirit crystal.
If you're staring directly at your cock, it's going to be looking wantingly at kyle so but from that so the light
i don't know why i'm getting all dorky with this but that light is coming at your eyes
at an angle so now your eye needs to compensate it needs to change the shape of that lens
to reflect refract refract that light there we go fracking. No fracking of the auto podcast.
But it needs to essentially work
in order to see that close-up image.
And what we're doing
throughout the world
is we're stuck staring into cell phones.
We're stuck staring into screens.
We're stuck inside houses
looking into paintings of nature
as opposed to going the freak outside
into nature.
And then what that does to us from a from a visual perspective it's making our eyeballs have to work you know what you see with this and like in like china is reading about this again because
i was doing this article thing on it uh their eyeballs are actually elongating like they come
out like well no they're the shape of the eyeball as opposed to
it being ovular and this nice light like oval type shape it's having to kind of like it's like
squeezing in a way it's it's getting longer so you're saying like that's why they have chinese
eyes jesus yeah so from the bay area i'm allowed to say this it's like i'm black i can make black
jokes no i'm 67 asians in my high school i'm allowed to say this it's like i'm black i can make black jokes
no i'm 67 asians in my high school i'm allowed to get away with it but everybody's wearing glasses
out there now yeah it's becoming a normal thing yeah right and so what that is you know a part
of that i think that's literally i'm getting back to how this is kind of tangible muscle crossfit
you know pulling stuff up type conversation what that is is our muscles need
to contract in our face to perceive our reality we're stuck in a contracted state we're stuck in
a stress state we're stuck in a sympathetic nervous system state we're trying to do all this stuff
to figure out how to get ourselves to be more parasympathetic on everything we possibly can
well that's that's if you're smart most people are
trying to work harder they're trying to do more they're trying to go go go how can i be more
productive how can i and really there's nothing wrong with looking at efficiency like aubrey wrote
it on the board this year uh to work smarter not harder right and i think that's very important
from the top down it's pretty nice to have that here and on it but um how many fucking type a's do you know that simply want more from themselves not more for
themselves they want to fucking work harder and they don't want to work smarter they don't want
to work in they don't want to work on getting into a parasympathetic state they think what
meditation is bullshit why why would that lead to more productivity why would that lead to
why is it important to have inner peace and and quiet mind yeah you know and i think that's it's
certainly a big thing for me that's helped me tremendously and it's and it's there's a reason
they've been talking about this for thousands of years it's something we need to adopt in the west
more of and again that's something also where for people listening where they're like i just you
know i can't fucking do it i can't sit quietly quietly in a room it's the same thing as saying
like well i so you don't like doing power lifting or you don't like doing crossfit there's thousands
of ways to exercise and move better there are thousands of ways to meditate and you know and
then we'll link to this in the notes but the science of
mindfulness by dr ronald siegel is one of the great courses available on audible.com for one
credit you get a harvard level level course on meditation and it'll dive into every different
type of meditation and that's given me many tools in that respect but how important is that yeah i
like that you had audible.com in there just so, just in case people don't, you never know.
People might not know.
From the great courses, but it's probably going to be more expensive than just using
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Oh, okay.
Go to my affiliate then.
I don't think Aubrey's down with the affiliates.
Oh, he didn't get down.
Although we may have sponsors eventually. no affiliate links at this point i'm
a lot looser than aubrey probably so people can jump over and well this is a company podcast for
crying out loud i mean it's not the kyle kingsbury show even though i'd like to think it is it is the
on it podcast so we're representing i'm sure you'll bleep out my whole affiliate thing so
no not at all i'm just joking we allow those that come on to promote what
what um were you going to drop your audible.com affiliate link that was oh i mean i could it's
yeah i don't even know what it is to be honest i think align audible.audibletrial.com slash align
i think that's what it is i'm pretty sure there you go throw that in there oh yeah so yeah do
that if you're gonna do the trial. Get on there. Why not?
It's pretty cool.
I get, we get like 15 bucks.
Throw a bone to my boy.
Throw a bone.
What's the deal?
So, what I was going to ask is how did you get out of your Eeyore stuff?
Is there any actual standout?
Well, yeah.
The first thing to do was to start moving again.
So, you know, I dive deeper into this.
I won't go into all of it.
If you're looking to see, you know, personal experience with depression and a lot of the things that I went
through, um, leaving college, then definitely listen to the solo podcast. But, um, I had
finished football, uh, at Arizona state. I knew I didn't want to finish school cause I had changed
my degree so many times. I didn't give a shit about what I was learning. I didn't want a desk
job, even though I have one now. Um um and i certainly loved being an athlete and that was
gone there was no way i was going to play pro i didn't want to play arena and um you know looking
at that i had lost all drive to do anything so and that coupled with the wrong pharmaceutical
drugs from doctors who wanted to just here let's patchwork this up with
valium let's patchwork this with xanax uh things like that i mean when you take anti-anxiety
medications i mean everyone's got fucking anxiety you take those medications what happens when you
stop you yo-yo back up into a state of anxiety and maybe even a worse place than you were because
you weren't addressing the issue and you haven't addressed anything underlying and it's the same thing gabber mate talks about with depression at the root of
all depression or you know and root of all addiction rather there's always something there
at the cause of addiction whether that's addiction to alcohol sex shopping tv you name it people are
far more fucking people are addicted to media than they would ever hope to say i felt addicted
when we got rid of our tv i was like there was a knee-jerk fucking reaction of like
fuck man i kind of wish we kept our tv and then once you get away from it you when you go back
to tv you're like what is this terrible machine garbage shit on today don't get me wrong i love
game of thrones there's a few things that i'll probably watch on the computer still but uh and you know we'll go to the movies here and there we got the
movie passes uh i'm not going off the grid with regards to all fucking media but at the same time
like having that break like i read more my wife and i talk more we have sex more often i don't
want to interrupt but i noticed something i guess i'm interrupting but i noticed something with tv
upon taking a big break i noticed a lot of tv shows are built for stupid people sounds horribly pretentious to say but
what it's what it's built for it's like you can kind of see into this it's it's the whole point
of is to keep you engaged look at most reality get you to the commercial and then like get you
to the next show whereas you get a book or you get a documentary what's the one with the fat kid oh i don't know the uh i don't say fat kid
more she is a fat kid i can see um uh they're kind of rednecks uh me ma is the name of the mother
i don't know it's like a little blonde girl rosanne no it's a reality show come on ryan
pull that shit up ryan anyways the bottom line is you're 100% correct. And that's the story with, you know, it's just an issue.
But go and get Honey Boo Boo.
That's right, son.
Honey Boo Boo.
You know this, man.
Honey Boo Boo.
How can anyone argue with that?
She's a fat kid.
And that's child abuse as far as I'm concerned.
But they don't know any better.
They don't know any better.
Obviously, look at them.
They don't know any better. So there's an out there they're listening um
get circling back to this depression business really it was about finding something i cared
about and and have like paul check talks about this what is your life's purpose without that
you know and i forget the quote but it's a man who knows his a man who knows his how
can accomplish any why yeah or no a man who knows his why can accomplish any how like how i agreed
with you yeah you're like yeah what an asshole no i was thought about it i was like wait hold on
you know your why like why am i doing this you'll figure out how to do it right so if you know the
why if you know the why of what your purpose is what why do i need to do this why is it important to me you'll figure out how to get it done and that really was so something
i was looking for was just to still be an athlete and really i had a lot of work to do on my
childhood i had a lot of work to do on leveling up myself you know to go back to check in all areas
so my diet was shit my movement practice had
become shit without a coach and teammates to train with um i didn't have purpose in life so
dr happy was fucked and i certainly wasn't sleeping well can you point out what dr happy
doctor so he has the four doctors dr quiet your sleep pattern your meditation practice working in
dr diet is obviously the food that you intake dr movement is your exercise
movement program stretching opening up mobility and then dr happy is your purpose it's it's how
often do you play and and play and celebration can get confused with getting shit faced on alcohol
which was something that i did regularly then yeah but ultimately that's depleting it's not
enhancing you know and there are far better drugs than alcohol i've
mentioned that many times on the show before but even in the absence of drugs just being able to
play without substance was something i couldn't do just being able to celebrate and enjoy life
without the need to get out of my head because at that point in my life i was uncomfortable in my
own skin right and i think that that's a big one for people to understand that you never will understand unless you can sit quietly or stand quietly or be
in nature and do a fucking meditation walk with no outside sources of information coming in. So
that's another one that's helped me level up is to not need to have audible or podcasts on while
I'm going for a walk. There's a time and a place for that where I want to process and learn. And there's also me time where I don't take anything in and I listen to
the birds chirp. I listen to cars drive by. I listen to the trees blow in the wind. That's
incredibly meditative in its own way. And I think those are, again, adding to the tools in the
toolbox. And the more of that stuff we have, the easier it is to reset. Because
if I'm feeling a little anxious or a little stressed and I sit in front of a TV and it
takes my mind off what's stressing me, I haven't fucking solved the damn thing.
All I've done is prolonged that. All I've done is let it stay inside me to fester and rot.
And it's still going to come back up at some point. And at that point, it's going to be worse
than had I addressed it in the first place by getting still quieting my mind and seeing like
oh i feel this way because this thing's going on let me dive into that for a little bit and then
you know oftentimes if i feel stressed or anxious now with the tools i will just sit in a room where
i'm i have no distraction or i'll walk home from on it i'm only a couple
miles away 1.3 miles 1.3 that's what i gather on my my ways 1.8 oh you did ways no don't do ways
oh because ways ways isn't as accurate as doing like uh on kyle's on kyle's gps it's like nine
miles well what's funny is the aura ring because because i'm a fat kid the aura ring the aura ring
says i did like five miles just because i'm like look i know i'm over my bmi is a little high
because the muscle but it ain't a five mile walk uh anywho though you know i think i think having
that drive and direction uh of what you want to do knowing why you're doing it and then you know
taking that and then adding more tools, you know, fighting taught me so much about
how to live better, you know, because it was very much a performance driven thing.
And then in that I saw benefit, like, why did I get into meditation? Well, I had to,
I was so nervous before fights. I had to learn how to quiet my mind for that.
That's why I learned about breath work in the first place. That's why I learned about Qigong.
That's why I learned about Tai Chi. Like first place that's why i learned about qigong that's why i learned about tai chi like all these things came in they had served a purpose for the
fight and then now that i don't fight anymore they're still incredibly valuable you know yeah
uh as you're saying that there's a yung quote that i probably have mentioned to you before but he says
um religion i'm going to paraphrase i'm going to mix it up he says
something along the lines of religion is a form of protection from direct experience with god
and you could say a similar thing or he said a similar another one where intellectualism
is a form of protection from direct experience or actual experiences you get it yeah i actually
look up the the proper proper way of saying it.
And I see that.
That's why I kind of mock myself when I say things like
super diffusive movement patterns
because I'm not speaking from my heart when I say that.
I'm going into the encyclopedia.
There it is.
Regurgitate.
Yeah.
So that's not like coming out and really connecting with me.
And so I kind of have this built-in like mocking that i do with it meanwhile i think it's valuable
information i wouldn't be saying it yeah and there's nothing wrong with making fun of yourself
yeah life isn't that serious yeah but along but along with that though so i think there is value
in going into just as like a metaphor going into some of those different intellectual kind of
chasms or explorations and you need to complement that with actually heartfelt experience you know
and so when you're out in nature you have the whole encyclopedia there you know you don't need
all this excessive information in fact there's a really good chance that if you feel
like you need to be inundated with that information all the time you're actually probably hiding from
something yeah you're distracting it's this i mean it's a better distraction than reality tv
to listen to a great book like uh you know great courses uh science of mindfulness dr ronald siegel
yeah or aubrey's new book yeah on the Own the Day. That's going to be dope.
There's actually a chapter where he talks about mindfulness or mindfulness.
So when you're in your car.
That's what we're saying.
Yeah.
When you're in your car, you can either be mindful and practice mindfulness meditation,
either with some light, easy listening music that's non-distracting or with no music at
all and the windows down.
Or you can mind fill with a
great podcast like the on a podcast or line therapy a line podcast you keep on line therapy
podcast that's right that's my fault because the website's align therapy.com so really that's my
website and it's a line podcast thank you for the correction i need to take a line podcast.com as
well i haven't done or amp you know aubrey marcus podcast or any of the fucking other great podcasts out there or you listen to audible.com and you ingest some awesome information right so i think mindfulness
mindfulness being a great practice when we're in our car because uh you know that can be one of the
most stressful times a day and all can and also can be something where it's you just feel like
you're never going to get that time back like what what a waste of time. But really like when I go on road trips,
I know I mentioned this before,
but I drove a thousand miles each direction of Greenfield.
And I had,
I think listened to three or four books on audible and four podcasts.
So like I felt just fucking quenched.
Like I leveled up the knowledge base on that.
Still had time to meditate in between.
I wasn't listening to him straight you know so the reality of it is is you really can uh turn that time into
very productive useful time where you gain for you and it's really it's not a matter of what do
i need to know for this or that it's just what what draws to you you know half the time half
i got 20 books on my desk that i haven't read that i have to read that i want to read part of those are for things related to on it you know regarding guests i'm
going to have on the show or supplements that i want to make things like that and then the other
part of that is just fucking spiritual and some are on psychedelics and some are on cool shit
that fascinates me and that's really what it's all about you know and going back and forth between
the stuff you need to know and forth between the stuff you
need to know for work versus the stuff you just want to know because that's what motivates you
to live better yeah i did a an interview with a guy that was uh he's a speed reader uh jim quick
that's the term it wasn't quick quick and i have been going back and forth we're gonna quick if
you're listening let's do this podcast already i want to get with quick let's sort quick if you're listening, let's do this podcast already. I want to get with quick. Quick, if you're listening, KWIK.
Do on its first.
And then if you have time for the scraps.
So what I was going to say about the speed reading is that...
What's the name of this guy?
I don't remember, to be honest.
It was a long time ago.
More than one speed reader in the world?
This was like three years ago.
And the podcast can't be found at this point
anyway because my itunes only goes back to 100 episodes you're on lipson i'm on lipson they can
get the archive yeah no i know it's there i just i almost like because i don't this is kind of
another side tangent i almost like listening to this podcast now i bet in six months i'll probably
think like i was a dummy whatever i was saying i was like
that's bullshit so essentially anything i'm saying right now like probably disregard most
of it unless you're listening to it currently then it's then it's amazing right it's amazing
you know in my in my mind um you know but one of the things he said was i was like oh what was it
he said the best book that you can read is the book that you actually read
dude that's similar to paul check what's the best meditation yeah what is the best form of
meditation the meditation that you'll do every day yeah right you know and that's what we do
and that's what we get a lot of a lot of uh unidentified folks out there and there's nothing
wrong with this i think however you do your thing is great.
But it's like, I do a book a day.
I do seven books a day.
It's like, okay, that's great.
I think also that's really unrealistic for a lot of people.
So I think we have a lot of
unnecessary pressure sometimes.
And so with that pressure,
it kind of forces us to squirt out
a bunch of
shit as opposed to really dropping into anything you just did a wanking off motion i did that
that wasn't the intention uh you know but i think that that's kind of like a pattern thing like how
you do anything is how you do everything so if you're the type of person that just blasts through
a book because you feel like you have this existential pressure of not being smart enough
if you don't that might spill into other parts of your life as well maybe that that spills into
the way that you connect with another person you know where it's like okay i'm like i'm doing sex
we're fucking yeah we're dropping in i got five minutes for you sweetheart before the next thing
the next thing you know but with that i think that there's a certain and this is something that that we gather from meditation from ecstatic states uh we kind of no we didn't uh steven kotler uh what's
his last book stealing fire yeah gets in a lot of these different things you know so a lot of times
we get wrapped up in like plant medicines as being like the way i think plant medicines is one of the
windows you know anything that gets you into a state of ecstasis is a window
you know and when what happens with that is time starts to slow down you know so anybody i
experienced this with with like cannabis thc for sure where all of a sudden you know i was in my
living room rolling over and drawing pictures of whatever it feels like wow it's three hours i look
at the clock it was like two minutes you know and i feel like there's almost something there where it's like
there's almost like a like a key to extending your life in a way this is some crazy shit i know
but our perception of this linear reality that we're in that's kind of all that matters you know
so if at the end of your life if your perception of life like wow that was a long good one yeah it was a long good one you know but if you fired through it and then you die
it's like oh shit what happened yeah yeah they i forget which which study it was but they interviewed
a bunch of people that were near death they were they knew they didn't have long to live and they
asked them a series of questions that were all similar on um what regrets they had things like that and like
there was a very there were very common themes among the group like 80 of them the answers were
all common and uh one of the one of the answers was i wish i had put more time into my friendships
and my relationships you know because so many people that are older you know i talked to my
old man he's remained for a few friends you know he has a few friends when he was growing up you
know and it's always like this idea like well you kept a lot of your friends from growing up and
like yeah man like we we go to go to a bachelor party next month in arizona there'll be 20 of us
there and that's because 10 couldn't make it you know're all still close. We had a group chat on the iPhone.
We fucking stay in contact.
Do all of us agree on everything?
Fuck no.
But I've known these guys since I'm 12 years old.
And we don't just keep that friendship because we've known each other for as long as we have.
We keep that friendship because we all fucking love each other, even if we don't agree on everything.
And I think that's important.
But they talked about friendship they talked about um wanting to get more out of life rather than
accomplishments you know like everyone looks back at this shit i need to do to leave a legacy and to
to be known to be remembered to do this to do that whatever that, whatever the driving force is for accomplishment as opposed to
experience. I wish I had traveled earlier than starting when I retired in the golden years.
You think about that, this idea that we have in the West that we'll work hard now to be happy
later. When I retire, I can go see the world. I can do all this. And it's like, well, maybe if
you took a little bit more time for yourself now,
slightly less productive, if you have a job that allows that,
you'd experience more now when it mattered.
You know, like I can't hike Kilimanjaro when I'm fucking 80,
but I'll hike the shit out of that next year.
You know, like there's all these things that we have an ability to do
when we're young and to experience.
And especially if you're single, like go to europe get it you know like explore have a fun
time yeah you know the analogy that's popped up for me over the years with that because i've
pondered on that that a fair amount because i've done a fair amount of like one-way tickets to
random countries and then just kind of backpacked or motorcycled or scootered around for
five six five to seven months and in those time frames there's a lot of moments of like what the
hell am i doing this is so stupid like i should be doing something more productive right now
um you know and with that one of the things that's popped up is the awareness that a hundred percent
of the time this is kind of what i say with movement every
moment is an opportunity to cultivate or build your mind and body right so as you're sitting
down you're exercising right you're working out the organization your pelvis and your spine and
all that was the same thing with the relationships that you're creating same thing with that the you
know that your intentions the same thing with the groups that you're surrounding yourself with
you know so if you're doing some shitty job that you're just trying to make some money and you do that
for five years because you want to kind of just do that and then i'm going to have fun in that
five years you grew a tree your roots have dug in now all the people that you know are in that
same shithole all of your intelligence all the stuff that you've read and studied,
it's rooted down in that.
So during that time frame,
you've grown this tree out of this thing
that actually makes you feel really uncomfortable
and feels like it's a disservice to you.
And now you're ready to uproot and do something else.
Maybe it works that way for some people
and they have a good transplant.
But I think for
the vast majority of folks that we maybe you know are more endeared towards or we respect or value
it's the people that just from an early on age they just kind of focused on their values you
know it's like yeah this has spoken to me since i was 12 and i think i've heard something like
that actually where um the thing that you
wanted to do when you were like 12 or something like that that's probably the thing that you're
kind of actually called to that might be bullshit but i think i've heard what did you want to do
when you were a kid oh i'm pretty sure let me think about that that's a good question i'm pretty
sure i've been i wanted to do oh no i wanted to do some bullshit i wanted to do i was no i don't
shit on my childhood dream.
No, when I was a little guy, I was influenced by my dad.
My dad was a stockbroker.
And he kind of encouraged me.
I still don't think I know what an investment banker is,
but I just know they made a lot of money.
And so my dad was like, that's where the money is, investment banker. So from a young age, I was like, I'm going to be an investment banker.
And then I got into some more truth and then it became physical therapy yeah i want to be a physical therapist now you live the dream here i am i'm doing kind of yeah whatever you call i mean
it's physical therapy but the easiest way to describe what i do uh it's like a hybrid of
physical therapy and manual therapy you know but yeah it's yeah here i am
doing the same same thing i've been doing i've got my first job doing personal training at la
fitness oddly enough and i live in la this is in lancaster pennsylvania uh doing personal training
and uh i was at 16 years old and i was like this is when on the mind pump i i alluded to it like
i was on steroids i was jacked up on every other supplement all insecurity trying to pile muscle on you know and trying to pile information on
reading every book that i could mostly insecurity based flex magazine flexing out yeah everything
men's health like all the like bullshit magazines and some other good stuff too
um but yeah started off from an early age and it's just been that's just been what's
what the path has been what about you i wanted to be an actor and it's probably because uh i would say like 90 because
of arnold schwarzenegger who had the prototypical male body like every every man totally natural
that's what yeah what else would you 22 inch arms yeah but no i mean i mean i still watch old
arnold movies i had i had bear watch i think a year ago i put on terminator 2 for him now if you're a parent you're probably cringing
thinking oh terminator 2 and the kid's 18 months old that doesn't sound right but uh
we turned it off the second he uh said your clothes give them to me and he rips the guy's
throat out bear looked at me he goes before he could say no and i was like okay buddy later on you'll realize he's the good guy and so
we turned that one off but uh bad parenting 101 um i think i got beat from my wife for that but uh
i fucking loved arnold man i loved arnold growing up i thought that was a cool thing and it's funny
because i've had the ability to do some different acting things not for a movie or anything like that but i told you about doing mafia 3 the video game for 2k games
and you mentioned gay porn yeah that started from the bottom now we're here right yeah that's it i
had to work my way up to the top acting now i'm a bear you had to fake um things but um i think
stallone started that way but uh i've heard some interesting things about stallone
i'm sure you have in la no in hawaii i heard a story i don't think i can mention it no you can't
mention that that would be hearsay we're not spreading rumors on this podcast we're spreading
truths i've heard interesting things that's all i'm saying okay stops there so so i you know i
had a chance to do when i was doing this video game doing all the stunt work as the main character
lincoln clay really rad right up my alley i get to beat the crap out of people and
throw people around and uh you know we have all the full body suit with the little balls on and
the infrared lights and then they wanted to give me some speaking parts because we had an actor
come in to do the voice of lincoln clay from new york great guy what i noticed was the actors and
this is not to shit on all actors from la but but the actors from LA versus actors from New York, there was a huge difference in
how serious they took themselves. And it was almost unbearable to be around the LA actors
because everyone had this cool new audition, this cool new thing. It's so important. And then the
New York people were like, yeah, man, I'm going to play on Broadway or I'm doing this and that.
I'm doing real shit yeah but it was just it was like this they didn't have a need for validation they didn't have a need to to tell you how important they are but as you do real
shit usually you don't have the need for the validation that's exactly like the guy who's
fought three times in an amateur level versus you know fucking daniel cormier like there's no chip
on his shoulder anymore he's proven himself right there's nothing left to prove and even if he loses it doesn't matter because he's he's he's
he's he's went out on his shield you know what i'm saying so there's a huge difference there
same thing with you know a young white belt versus an old black belt in jiu-jitsu you know
the old black belt generally speaking for the most part there are exceptions to every rule but that guy's going to be a little bit more level-headed a little bit more humble
simply just due to the fact they've already tapped a thousand times you know rogan's talked about that
jocko willings talked about that so yeah it's something that i noticed and then when i really
thought about that i don't think it's that fun to memorize lines you know when i did drama in high
school and things like that you're you're not being yourself you're being someone else you're being a character that's
not you and some people are really good at that um and i love watching film but i don't love
acting i don't love that because it seems fake and in a way it is you know it's not that those
people are fake they do a great job at being the other thing for a little while and then they go
back to being themselves hopefully they know what that is but you know for me i not that those people are fake. They do a great job at being the other thing for a little while, and then they go back to being themselves.
Hopefully they know what that is.
But, you know, for me, I don't think there,
there was too much other shit.
And then as I gravitated towards athletics,
it was like, okay, this is what I want to do.
Yeah.
Something I wanted to touch on previously is,
I think sometimes we can almost,
to a point of like,
we can pathologically become attached to being in an upright strong position to the point that that's actually an artificial position.
And there is something to faking it till you make it.
And then there is also something to being able to paint with all the colors.
You know and so that's something that I think that that acting there's a lot of value there.
Where you do explore all of these different parts or roles and in that you'll hear a lot of actors
say that like man like through discovering these roles i discovered so much about myself
you know so i really dug into that part you know but the reality i i think the reality is all of us
we have every color you know we lead with certain
colors i'm a blue you're you know whatever but the reality is i think if anybody experiences
anything we all have a little hitler in us we all have a little superman in us we all have a little
like every personality that's ever manifested in this in this globe here i think there's a little
something there and if you get charged up by somebody it's because you're probably speaking to some part of you that maybe you kind
of push down you don't like that yeah that's a randos said that right like the what you if
somebody says something or if you're around somebody and your knee-jerk reaction is you
don't like them for whatever reason it's usually the reflection of yourself in them that you're witnessing. Yeah, man. Right? Yeah. And so that's something with the postural thing,
standing up in superwoman position or superwoman position
and being up in this upright position,
I think that that actually can create dis-ease as well.
It can also make people uncomfortable.
So being able to, say, from if you are some form of therapist or any business
or relationship or anything you're connecting with another person and all you do is i'm strong
confident awesome guy or girl then that will potentially make that other person uncomfortable
you know so being able to play play with all of those different colors allows you to start to mix
and match with other colors.
That's true, but I'm not going to slouch necessarily for Eeyore just so Eeyore feels
more comfortable with himself.
I feel you.
And I think there is a certain value of, so this is like neuro-linguistic programming,
you know, so you start off and you can kind of, I don't remember the exact terms for it
right now, but you mirror, I think might be the term.
So that mirroring, essentially we value people that are like us.
That's why you and I hang out.
There's all sorts of things with you.
I'm like, with Kyle, I feel like I get it.
I feel this connection.
He's got a fucking freezer in his garage and he sits in it in the morning.
His cabinet's stuffed with supplements you know it's like there's all these different things that i'm like and i'm like
okay i'm like there's a lot other things other than that but i'm like i get it you know whereas
with somebody else that doesn't have a freezer in their garage and they're not such a you know
eccentric in that way we might find connections but it might not be quite as as easy
and uh i don't know where i was going with that actually i think i was just trying to say i like
you when you get you did a great job of that brother and you led with the best two things
that i own the supplement pantry there's no food in the pantry it's all supplements how does it
be food and then of course and then of course yeah i live in cold water and on supplements
that's what sustains me
and a little bit of sunshine i had a point you're talking about the eeyore why you might ask right
so you mirror yeah so with that with that mirroring you start off because we appreciate people that
are like us you can start off with that point of okay cool we're connecting i resonate with you i
attune with you i feel you i feel where you're at right from there
all of a sudden nlp terms it's something like guiding i think or leading it's one of those
something like that word from there you can start to take them on the path yeah so this is something
that i will consciously or i guess or subconsciously i guess consciously since we're talking about it
do with clients.
So if someone sees me for rolfing or manual therapy stuff,
then when they come in, I'm not just like,
bam, here we go.
It depends on who it is.
You slouch with them for a second and then slowly over the course of an hour,
you're back to a wreck.
A little bit.
Yeah, so when someone comes in,
I'm going to kind of mirror their patterns.
And if you do it too much, then they'll be pissed off and it's weird.
So it's that dance of being able to connect with that person exactly where they're at.
And then from there, you can slowly start to move towards the direction that maybe would
suit them better.
But in order to actually be able to take them by the hand, you first have to be on their
path.
So if you get somebody who complains a lot, you'll complain a little bit with them and then you'll first have to be on their path so if you get somebody who
complains a lot you'll complain a little bit with them and then you'll slowly start to speak good
about people yeah or maybe i'll slowly start so someone like i was talking about this with with
tosh um my wife oh sorry did you talk about her on yeah on here no it's totally cool to talk about
her but people don't know tosh they might think daniel tosh tosh.0 yeah yeah right so uh i was
talking about with this with your wife tosh and she said something about her knee that was like the the bad
knee or the something yeah you can't say shit like that whatever it was you know and so with her
she's at a place where i can be like oh like maybe it's your healing knee you know or maybe it's your
you know the knee that you're nurturing or maybe it's your your your student knee you know and she gets it she's she's right there she's like oh yeah i
know thank you somebody else i start off with that they'd be like this dude is a quack yeah right so
it's it's it's recognizing that i'm staying at your home we've connected we've had experiences
we've danced like weirdos at random places like we're already in a similar path so we can just say shit but somebody else that comes in
from new jersey and they're working at walmart and they have complaints about all their body and i
say speak to your student neither be like get this is over this is over get the fuck out yeah but if
i can spend you know maybe 30 minutes 45 minutes maybe two sessions maybe seven sessions
with the person all of a sudden they slowly start to drink the kool-aid and now we're we're starting
to be on a more congruent path and that's not just a manual therapy thing or any kind of therapy
thing that's just relationships i think yeah i dig that brother even though i'm hiding another yawn well shit that that that's that's an hour with on it we're gonna pick this right back up after
we had a nice little tobacco session oh we're gonna hit the tobacco we're gonna hit the tobacco
we're breaking about that news on not a line therapy podcast but a line podcast so we're
gonna have volume two on a line coming up uh uh here in a moment so you can
jump over it doesn't matter which one you listen to first i'm sure we'll have completely separate
topics or very similar topics both worth listening to where can people find you align therapy.com
align therapy.com align podcast i mostly post dick pics and ab shots so if you had a ball shot
taken down from costa rica with grit i think your
ben greenfield was in that photo too you couldn't see ben greenfield's balls though you could see
your giant ball sack in that photo on instagram so that was you had to zoom in that means the
person that reported it had spread their fingers to try to see between your legs realize they caught
a little bit of ball hair and decided oh this is bad but that person's listening what are you doing with your life yeah they're zooming in on balls everywhere to try to
see if they can catch just a side nipple or anything inappropriate if you have time to stream
through my feed and see that there's a little speck of ball and you have to go out of your way
to report that beat it nerd yeah get out of here get out of here awesome brother well it's absolute pleasure
where what else so what do you got on social uh align podcast everything's line podcast
linethipper.com uh if people have any interest in starting a uh starting to integrate better
movement into their daily existence i did a ridiculous thing with a guy called hunter
matz who you know he's the partner of brian callen and the mixed mental arts podcast i recommend that one
as well have you been on there no oh dude you gotta get on there well yeah we'll set you guys
up that'd be good um and yeah we did a little five day movement series start integrating better
movement into a hundred percent of your existence so you can jump on that from aligntherapy.com
awesome brother thanks for joining thanks sir Thanks for listening to the On It
podcast with my man, Aaron Alexander. Make sure you check out the show notes to find out all the
good ways you can reach him and get ahold of him and also visit aligntherapy.com. Thanks for listening.