LadyGang - Adrienne Bailon-Houghton

Episode Date: May 16, 2023

Television host, actress and former member of The Cheetah Girls, Adrienne Bailon-Houghton is getting real with the ladies on her fertility journey, wedding tips and what it’s like working with Keltie. Plus in a special game, Love Adrienne, she’s sharing her best relationship advice. LadyGang is sponsored by BetterHelp! Visit BetterHelp.com/ladygang to get 10% off your first month! AG1: Go to AthleticGreens.com/ladygang for your FREE 1-year supply of Vitamin D AND 5 free travel packs with your 1st purchase! ThirdLove: Visit ThirdLove.com to get $15 off your first purchase! Angi: Download the free Angi mobile app today or visit Angi.com to get professional help on your next project! Progressive: Quote at Progressive.com to join the over 29 million drivers who trust Progressive!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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So head on over to youtube.com slash the Lady Gang. Subscribe today, watch our podcast and also watch some great episodes of a TV show canceled way before it's time. Thanks in advance for your support. Well, what is this? Welcome to the Lady Gang. That's amazing. Say that again. The Lady gang things are about to change around here each week we catch up with hollywood's hottest girl posse kelty knight becca tobin and jack vanik hello hello hello welcome to lady gang i am becca tobin here with jack vanik and kelty i would do anything for a similar bar oh my god whoa that sounds great so good i was in a smoothie place in sun life smoothies in hugh in austin houston who lives in houston i was in houston and someone was in this crazy health food smoothie

shop with a six-pack i would do that exactly like these this is what i really want these cancel themselves that is your logic oh my god you would do that totally cinnabon yeah especially the mini cinny the mini cinny because you don't have to eat so much of the blandness to get to the good part all the good stuff i don't want the edges no just the interior Although as I get older, I do enjoy the edges because I don't want so much sweet right away. It's like a- Oh, yeah. It's a palate.

Dessert palate. Jared- Sorbet. Jared makes the mini cinnies. And they're so fucking good. As good as real cinnamon? Oh, no. You just buy-

Their brand. No. You just buy Pillsbury Doughboy, like the- Oh, yeah, yeah. Whatever the hell it's called. And you cut it? And then you just do butter, cinnamon, put them in like little mini muffin tins. Wow, I can see why you're marrying that man.

No one's ever made me a mini cinny. i know it's the mini cinnies god damn it okay are you ready yeah what if you could have anything to eat or drink right now in this moment right this second honestly a mini city no we have to find our own okay um i have to really conjure of what i want at this very moment at this very moment i mean sugar's on my mind sugar's on my mind but i have some great sour candies we can take with us i can't do sour candy okay i also have so much chocolate crumble cookie i don't like a cookie anymore i'm over it that is insane chocolate chip cookies my favorite a blizzard a blizzard a butterfinger a blizzard no cookies and cream or heath okay heath bar okay sorry i just love

like a kombucha i actually do love kombucha but not not if i could have everything yeah i'd have the cine and that was have you seen the bagels that they've injected the cream cheese in the middle of yeah they're called bantam bagels the little ones no it's a full bagel it looks on the outside it appears to be a normal bagel it's been injected yeah and you bite into it like and there's cinnamon and there's like the cream cheese inside well they used to have the little mini bagel holes that they'd sell at starbucks and they're so good they were the best that was a really good time yeah they were on shark take you want to know phantom bagels yeah can you get them i don't know not right now you want to know something really sad no i don't know i can't have

carrots i'm allergic is that bad i feel like i haven't had a carrot in years i love carrots are easily disposable from it oh jesus okay let's do this all right it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no i'll tell you it's so sad i can't have carrots i mean also i've never seen you eat a carrot in my life well you haven't seen you've eaten many meals with me in the last six months i'm a carrot how did you decide that you were allergic so my new one of my new doctors did a whole like deep like what is really going on is it gluten-free you know like I was inspired by Becca yeah what's really happening yeah so these are the things that I'm really allergic to carrots beef okay swordfish weird uh but like what do you what happened because I've done this before

I've done like the blood panel allergy test and I'm like it's not the same it's not the same Cause a lot of times I feel like that one tells you that you're allergic to what you just ate. They're like, there's too much peanut butter. Like, well, I had a peanut butter bagel this morning. So that's probably why. Like this one was like actually like real, like things that will inflame you. I don't know why carrots came up, but I love a carrot.

What about gluten? Gluten? Yes, of course. But he did explain to me that is a spectrum. Yeah. Celiac. Yeah. No, I don't have celiac.

No, I know. It's a spectrum of like what you can tolerate. so like for instance just i want to say this if we go on the way to our event that we're going to today and we pass the cinnabon and we need to stop i could have a mini cinny i'm not gonna feel good after i've told you this i know no i know forever no i know yeah it's not like you're dying you shit yourself on tour because you hadn't had it in so long i know you deprived yourself you need exposure therapy yeah okay let me expose you i will let me shove this in a mini in your mouth okay um here is my bad week jack vanek ruined my life oh she ruined my life i thought i'm set

the renovation is complete lady gang is going great we uh i got shows going i'm feeling good my hair is healthy jack vanek comes out of nowhere where is this going i don't know with a spider monkey named winston oh god that was jared and i have done nothing but research where do i need to move how do i get a spider monkey how do you keep care of them is it safe for them is it good for them is this illegal by the way it's illegal in california to have a spider monkey i think most places nope there's like 15 states in america wisconsin all these different places you can't have spider monkeys it's a lot of work you have to then i went down winston Winston has a sister

There's all these friends The diapers Where does Winston live? I have no idea The whole situation And then they have The whole jungle gym for him Which they have to steam clean

Once a week And then I was like Am I into this? But like My new life goal Is to have a spider monkey Spider monkey Or

Is there a spider monkey retreat? Because I do feel like I could go for a week I could be a part Of spider monkey world Yeah And then I could revert Back to my regular life

Yeah yeah yeah You just get your facts Like is there somewhere Where spider monkeys That need help live that they need volunteers for one week every summer please let me know i'll do this with you the spider monkeys the way that this winston grabs the dad's hand and puts it on his little head saying pet me that sounds like having a toddler forever and that sounds like a

it's a whole that is a nightmare you're better off having a child that grows up to be 18 moves the out of your house and then can wipe your ass when you need it i'm just wondering worrying about the disease that's one of the things we need to look up yeah like do you need to get i am not supportive of this and i will not work amongst people who live with spider monkeys i'll go with you okay thank you winston's so cute and you ruin me all the time because you she posted i wasn't into the frogs i'm not in the fish that have weird human faces but when you posted winston i was like god damn it that was what initially got me into tiktok was a family with a monkey really yes that monkey died which one um what was her name about the mini horse that died too all the cute animals

die no the the the uh yeah and the raccoon died too that i used to follow i'll tell you okay do you think there's people who have famous dog accounts yes keep them alive yeah getting replacements like so that they can for sure i would do that for sure what are they gonna do when beth dies there's no dog like beth no i know and she got a brother but he died oh my god this is getting dark okay here's the good news good news i've got she's like a cockroach though she does stay around for a long time i've got new hot hot tits i mean hot tips not hot tits i don't have those for sure hot goss hot goss um i have new james webb telescope news good week james tell james webb telescope jared knows exactly what i'm talking about because he loves the james

So a telescope. Oh, let me guess. It's telling you what happened 10 years ago. No, like three billion years ago. Found six galaxies. I mean. Six ancient galaxies. The James Webb telescope looked back 300 million years.

This is really happening right now on Earth. I mean, but like. Cool. I just don't. You know what? Everything. The more that we're learning, the more I'm like, none of this is real. No.

This isn't real. also it doesn't matter nothing matters nothing you're not going to live to be on that galaxy you're not even going to live like five billion years ago so you're not no but what i'm saying is that they've just now discovered it from five billion years ago like what are you going to do with that information jerry and kelty well wait when was the big bang that's so yeah well that was my next thing i was going to say thanks jared for bringing it up you're great but the big bang was still a theory nobody knows if that happened well now this is saying basically that the big bang theory did not happen which means the big bang theory repeats on cbs need to be replaced

with superfan repeats immediately and i stand my case jack take it away that was a really nice circle wow thank you okay my good week is something that i think you're gonna appreciate okay because it has to do with manifestation oh god because i now have a new 10-year goal oh 10 years from now she's gonna get a job ladies and gentlemen i want to be the owner of a jersey mike's franchise 10 years seems like it's way too long really like far away yeah they're expensive they're like 500 000 to start you should do that instead of buy a house i know yeah you should it would probably be way more profitable should we do a lady gang jersey mike i would dude do you know how much that would crush jersey mike the one that you can't know

that's jimmy johns okay jersey mics okay my obsession for jersey mics runs really deep so i looked up the origin story and the guy that started it is like about this so wholesome like true american dream did i put my pants for jersey mics that was jimmy johns great jersey jersey mics is our thing maybe we should open a lady gang jersey mics okay you can't decorate a little adjacent to the sandwich shop that katie and um no because ariana are opening up built-in fan base because it's jersey mics how well do those stores do super well do we know this thousand dollars have you done enough research no but i will okay if this is something i'll let you know i will have you know my dad does own some franchises of some fast casual dining he is

the expert on knowing if this is something we should that we should dip our toes in fast casual i think that is casual that is jersey mics right yeah it's fast casual yeah because it's not fast food it's not like McDonald's I'm basically a franchise heiress cash sorry about it we should make like okay ask him about it I will he will literally tell me in five seconds if it's a sound investment I mean Jersey Mike's are like everybody loves it okay you love it and so you're a little skewed on like what people love everybody loves it not we can do a poll but not everybody I don't want to eat a sandwich every day you don't need it every day we have Mike's Mondays Mondays are for Mike's. But also, you know, what's not going to

bode very well is the documentary that came out on Netflix, Game Changers, where it's talking about plant-based diets being what we should be doing right now. You know, nobody is going to make the change. I hate to break it to you. I'm currently in the change. It's not going to last. Of course not. You're in the change. People love me and they're always going to eat me.

I actually, Zach did point out that I go days without eating meat and I don't even notice. So I could be a good candidate for this. I do too. But like, I mean, Mike's has a really good vegetarian sandwich too. I was just gonna say i used to veggie sub is delicious you know what it's so good i'm gonna try today because i used to really like going to subway and the meat really freaked me out there yeah i would

just do straight up cheese and tons of veggies so good and now i'm like sort of off subway in general so jersey yoga mat stuff yoga when they found the same they were using the chemicals that they make yoga mats with oh yeah yeah and then i know someone who allegedly got this thing called black hairy tongue yeah i still google it in case they want to sponsor me gross anything attached to a gas station i can't eat that i mean yeah but i would try the vegetarian jersey mics you could even do like jersey wakes you could do uh um they're like philly cheesesteak like cooked veggies too oh yeah all right okay you know what i'm not opposed but i'll ask tom tobin what he thinks about fast casual ask him about it i think he's gonna like it so you're manifesting that that's

my 10 years well well now if it's gonna be late i'm gonna basically be dead but okay i can't even see home buying in my future so i'm like really putting it as a reasonable goal understandable jersey my seems good okay okay so my bad week is um so i'm finally at the point of my relationship with jared that i mean i've always been like okay farting in front of him like tooting like whatever i don't like it this i've gotten to the point where i am letting him rip with no regard it does not matter if he is i'm sitting on his lap it doesn't matter if he is right next to me like and it's to a point where it's like you know if you like have to fart like maybe you like kind of go in the other room like i'm just like letting them loose does not matter dream

girl this has only happened in the past maybe two weeks you said you know what i think this might be something i'm not kidding you this might be something in a relationship kelty i don't know if you fall into this but there was a period of time where this happened with zach and i and i got real comfortable doing it and also the eye contact and also like the lifting of a cheek like shameless shit okay but i will have you know that somehow it was it was not even a conscious choice decision whatever you reverted back i have not farted in front of him in so long the other day we were talking about farting and he's like did you change your diet of or something because like the way you used to fart with me was like i think it might be like our weird way of

like trying to scare them off before they marry us to make sure we're like are you in this like really this is the real me this is it and it's no zach you didn't change your diet we all fart just as much no i have stopped farting as much my body was like you gotta get it all out and see if this man's gonna stick that's interesting and i don't fart as much that's a good theory nothing has changed i mean it's about to because i'm gonna be plant-based and i'll keep you posted the twos will be coming they're stinky as because your body is like I need more meat you use the same voice as I'm Peggy I need more meat it's my Peggy voice okay oh my god all right so I have a my bad week

is I've realized something about myself which actually is a perfect segue perfect I am a yo-yo hydrator oh yes i'm so glad you both know exactly yeah i'm talking about it is so frustrating to me that i can go weeks of getting my normal like 60 ounces of water every day i'm good i'm good i'm good and then i just hit the limit where i'm like when can i stop thinking and drinking water yeah when can i stop thinking about drinking water it's never going to be automatic and i'm a yo-yo did i'm a yo-yo hydrator yeah i feel that it sucks i'm like that but it's always like the time i need like when i'm hung over i don't drink any water and i'm like this is the time i need it and i'm like not for me it's so weird now i'm going you know i'm on day like three of maybe four ounces

of water a day i gotta be honest with you um i was just talking about this at my doctor's office it you need a system it you have to look at it because i'm sick of systems i know what do you mean a system because you have your system hydration system right here and i have my new i got looped into the tiktok i got the stanley cup and i know it's so lame but it really is the best cup i've ever owned in my life why i'm not telling you till they pay me but it's great and i bring that cup everywhere everywhere can i just say something about the hydration situation you need a hydration system no i get it because when i don't carry this with me i don't drink but let me tell you something okay i listened to a podcast they just actually recently changed over to

podcast one because they're the greatest i've had it podcast is so great and they talk about all the things they've had it with and everything that they've had it with we pretty much are very aligned on yeah and one of the women jennifer welch is like she's this badass uh interior designer in arkansas but she's just like no nonsense and she goes to europe all the time she travels whatever and her partner her co-host she calls her pumps is her nickname and she's always got 32 ounce jugs of things and the things and she gets in the car with her jugs and her and jennifer was like i just got back from europe and i want you all to know there's not one dumb bitch walking around europe with a stanley cup or a giant jug of water because

they do what normal people are supposed to do you sit down and you have a meal and you have a couple glasses of water then you're good for the next couple hours and then you go to your next place you go home maybe you get yourself two more glasses of water and that's you're good like she's like no one in europe is doing this weird thing well it's like consumerism it's all we do it's all we are suckers i did see a tech talk about like when you ask for a glass of water in europe and they give you a glass and it's like this much no ice yeah like thank you so much i'd rather spit in my own mouth yeah i'm peggy but anyways i know i need a hydration i'm a yo-yo hydrator yes anyways but here's the good news i found a really good thing that we can all say

to ourselves when things start to really spiral out of control which we're bordering on my friends have a three-year-old daughter named winnie and she's so cute she might be four by now she's adorable winnie winifred can't even get over it and zach was staying with them because he was in atlanta and something happened she got really frustrated about something and she was like closes her eyes deep breath peace begins with me oh my god where the hell did you hear that from in school i love it is she in a catholic school no peace like like inner peace oh like peace begins with me so it's like everything's spiraling out of control but you can find the peace within yourself and i was like winnie nailed it yeah five six seven eight peace begins with me

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see her amazing house, you can check out her YouTube and her beautiful posts for Love Always Adrienne. Please welcome to the podcast, the bitch who's busier than me, Adrienne Bailon-Houghton. Kelsey, I have never had a better introduction in my life and I keep smiling so hard that my headphones keep falling out. You do make us feel like we have done nothing with our lives. geez no girl tell everyone your weekly schedule right now because she technically lives in new york city guys whoa i live in new york and took a job in los angeles that work i work four days a week monday through thursday and so every thursday night i am on a red eye to new york with my nine month old son and then we're in new york friday saturday sunday and then monday

morning i'm back on a flight to la okay every single week you're doing this yes with your son who's nine months correct oh first of all you're super i don't care anything else on your schedule taking a nine-month-old on a red eye or just across the country in general like are you giving him benadryl you would think but here's the thing i have a sleepy baby i have a baby that loves to sleep so I thank God that I feel like after six years of trying to have my son God was in baby heaven like listen let's send her a nice one the bitch has been through a lot you know what I mean yeah so I am grateful and it's actually genius to do the red eye because he's so tired I can't keep him up if I tried he's just like knocked out before we even take off I like

have to force him to either take his pacifier or his bottle so that his ears can adjust the altitude and that's like stay away hello and then he's knocked out me on the other hand i can't sleep on flights because i really have been trying to get over a fear of flying and the fact that i fly twice a week oh wow is uh it's pretty interesting i've started to call planes spooky tubes because i don't understand how they work and i'm like growing a fear of flying the more you fly the more you get afraid it's what i found when i was flying the most was when i was getting the most nervous what is that and i feel like after all these years it would get better and i i've like claimed and i've like said out loud i'm not afraid like i thought that that would help

yeah but i still if the turbulence comes i am holding on to the seat and calling out on the name of jesus same girl if you see me on a plane prepare yourself oh my god well i won't see you bitch, because you got nine jobs. You're probably in first class. We're in coach. Oh yeah. Oh my God. Well, it is, um, infertility awareness month and Adrian had the most amazing time I was, we were planning, we were picking shoes and then she went to New York city and she lit up the empire state building in honor of this very important month. And I thought it was so fitting to have you on because we have our own infertile queen infertile myrtle um becca who has been you know through the ringer two you guys have a very similar length of story and i just thought

you know you have such a great story adrian and both of you have such beautiful children that you really do i think give so much hope to those women out there that are like this is never going to happen for me. And I'm on round 87. How many rounds of IVF did you do? I did eight rounds of IVF and yeah, eight rounds over the course of five years. Yeah. So it was like, I had a few canceled rounds, which I didn't even know existed. Becca, did you know about canceled rounds when they shoot you up for like two weeks? And then they happen to look and be like, actually there's nothing here they've been stimulated they're yeah they're like there's nothing for me to go in and retrieve i'm like i'm having my egg retrieval on friday they're like no you're not they can't tell

that they're not they're not growing so they want to stimulate enough so so like they're shooting you up that's what's in the shots it's supposed to stimulate your ovaries like yeah follicles to make eggs and there if there's like one small thing or it's not growing it has to measure what is it 19 something i don't know what the number it's 19 millimeters there you go boom i was like centimeters like that would be huge millimeters and that's when that's like okay that's when we can retrieve that's when we can retrieve over there on the left that's when we can yeah when they would go in there they'd be like okay we see three and then they expect for those to grow over the period of time that you're shooting up if you come in on like the 12th day and they have

not grown there's nothing for them to go retreat so that happened to me a good four times so half of my IVF cycles were failed did you I have a lot of girls who ask me uh kind of like who are in the multiples of the egg retrievals like if changing clinics was something that they should do and like we've always given the advice that like my my friends who kind of deal in this field they're like it's not you're leaving the clinic not for any other reason but to change the energy of what's going on it's like you can't blame the doctors you can't blame the clinic but like if you've had fail for failed retrievals like it's time to check out another shop but a lot of people feel really loyal and so having like and as a woman i don't know if you had this at

all like you do start to connect and bond with your doctor and you're like especially like the girls that are walking you through this, like, you get so attached to them. But in my case, I didn't make any announcement. I did do that. I did three rounds of IVF at SCRC. Dr. Suri, who's awesome. But Dr. Suri was really honest with me. Now looking back in retrospect, I'm like, I was a little frustrated with Dr. Suri, but Dr. Suri was telling me the truth. and maybe I wasn't in the right mental space to receive that truth so I wanted to convince myself that this was a money grab that maybe they you will convince yourself of everything like this can't be true they're telling me it's failed so that I can pay for another one you know I got

it like I was conspiracy theory like on another level and uh I did the first round of IVF with him i got nothing so i ended up going to retrieval it was a full i i retrieved i think four eggs which in itself i had another girlfriend of mine retrieving at the same time and she's like i got 22 yeah then you wake up and they tell you how many you got and they're like we got four and i was like wait like but my friend got 22 why do i have four and that's when he was like this is why you need to be doing this and kind of doing it more than once because you need to try to batch as many eggs as possible so that we can then fertilize them with your husband's sperm and batch as many embryos, because then comes the part of implantation and you just want to have

options. I thought this all sounded like you want my money. Like, I don't know why I just, I couldn't believe that it really was that my body wasn't working correctly or that like, I just, I couldn't wrap my mind around it. And the words around it. But yeah, so I did the first one I got four eggs I went through all of the biopsies I did you um test all of your embryos I did yeah yeah so we did all the genetic screening and all of that and at first I was so excited because I was like on the 14th day they're gonna tell me if I have girls if I have boys like I'm gonna find out right like that's what I was excited about in the beginning which sounds so wildly ignorant now looking back but um pretty much i was sitting at a hair salon

and i was so i was kind of bragging to my hairstylist i'm like oh today they're gonna let me know if i have girls i think it's gonna be like two girls two boys i'm gonna have an option of both and i was under a dryer and the doctor calls and i'm like this is the call and he proceeds by saying i've got bad news and i remember i was disappointed but oddly enough as a woman i was more embarrassed that the woman i had told five minutes ago that i didn't have what i thought i had does that make yes stupid or is that stupid no it's not it's like for some reason i'm sure it's like comes from a place of shame because what you're you feel like naive i mean i i i remember saying on this podcast like years and years and years ago i was like oh i'm

never gonna have trouble getting pregnant like i've had some some practice runs you know like i've had like and i said this thing and i remember like after dealing with like my you know second failed uh pregnancy i was like that what made me cringe like all over body i was like what if somebody pulls that clip up what if somebody does this what i'm like and now i'm like so what if they can do you know it's like that's where i was that's what i thought and i'm sure there's plenty of girls out there that are thinking the exact same thing. Yes. Yes. And maybe they can look to your story and be like, Oh, maybe that's not going to be the case for me. And it's okay to be optimistic too. Like you were being optimistic. Why do we, we don't have to like

beat ourselves up for putting manifesting or trying at least to manifest something better than what is the outcome. Yeah. I tried to look at what was, you know, sometimes painful medications. I don't know if you took, um, the one that burns like acid under your skin the nighttime. Yeah. Tried to take me out. Yeah. So I tried to turn that into, but I get to find out and maybe we can choose and I get to choose the timing. Maybe I can even pick like when, and at that point I was at on the real and we had that huge summer hiatus and I had seen Tamara give birth, uh, like literally she gave birth on July 1st, had the whole summer to enjoy four months until we came back in September. And I was like, that's my timing. That's my time. I get to keep

my job. I get to have like maternity leave for like, it's going to be perfect. I thought I could time all these things out. And just looking back, it's, it was a very different experience. So I ended up getting nothing that first IVF cycle. That's what he told me on the phone was literally, yeah, you got nothing. And I was like, what does that even mean? Like, what do you mean? I got nothing he's like all of them actually tested abnormal so the quality now of my eggs wasn't great and so I had four abnormal eggs and he was like we should try to go again as soon as possible like we should go again and at first I was like so sad so embarrassed that like I had to I remember walking out of the salon and just like pulling myself together and being like oh wrong call

and just feeling embarrassed and I now look around what the hell was I embarrassed about but that's how I felt and then it was then I got angry then I was mad because I was like so what happens to the money and what happens to like like do you give me do I get my money back like yeah I get a refund like this didn't work out like what happens and they're like no then you you have to go again and it was I ended up doing it a second time and that's when I got my son and a female embryo ended up doing it a third time failed cycle where they got nothing and after the third failed cycle with surrey that's when i left to go to dr wong and with dr wong i then ended up getting another female embryo another failed cycle

and crazy enough ever is from dr surrey that first round back in 2017 wow which is crazy my son was in the freezer for five years before he was born that's so weird i'm like it's so weird the other day my husband was like so wait if we have another kid technically it's like a twin to ford because they were so crazy created so weird they were created at the same time like yeah it's so so bizarre yeah so weird so you have embryos in the freezer right i do so does jack really yeah jack okay so you pay rent right like you pay rent on a monthly basis kelsey they literally send us like you you pay to keep them stored the storage fee it ain't cheap what made me so emo my son was born in august and i think it was like october my mom um handles like my

finance stuff and she got a check in the mail from where my babies are stored and she they we got a check from them and she was like i received the check and so i'm gonna call and find out why they're giving us money and i was like okay and when she called they were like you overpaid because i guess it was on auto pay you overpaid and baby boy embryo number one is not in the freezer anymore and i started bawling my i know this sounds so weird but to know that i was he was in there for so long and he's not there he's he's with us now oh i could cry about it right now i don't know why that like made me so emo i was like oh my gosh that's wild but yeah we got money back because he was here in person i need to make sure i got my money back for my my little boy yeah they got

they can't charge you for that. Get that money back. Oh my God. You will not be overcharging me. Oh my God. Okay. So Adrian and I were talking last night when we were doing a news about weddings. Okay. So, and I was telling you, Adrian, so Jack, Adrian had a France destination wedding in Paris. And so Jack in September is doing a France destination wedding. And I feel like you have very, I mean, your style is very different but you have similar lusts for life adrian like will give you a party

she will give you a theme she will have everyone wearing the colors like she's very she's a jack in that oh yes and so you want photos the key to this is photos is capturing the moment the reality is this party is going to go by like this but those photos the video footage will last forever So I actually did something kind of crazy, which I don't know if people, if this is a normal thing, I had never heard of this before, but I got married, had the ceremony. Obviously I had a photographer watch me get ready, videographer, all of that. Then as for the cocktail hour, because we had a people magazine exclusive, I had to haul ass straight away to the Eiffel tower to get that photo because they had to have

it. I think the rule is if you're giving people a wedding exclusive, they have to have the photo proof of the wedding within, like, two hours of the marriage. Oh, my God. Yes. So, I, like, which I wanted to take that photo anyway. So, literally, my husband surprised me with, like, this beautiful vintage Rolls Royce waiting for us. We had French fries in the car. We had the cutest picture of us in a Rolls Royce dress and, like, eating fries in the back of the Rolls Royce.

And it zoomed, zoomed, zoomed us. we were at the Plaza Atene which was literally two seconds from the Eiffel Tower so we went we took our photos got right back cocktail hours over for our entrance into our reception wow all that to say that was the only photos I posed for for my entire wedding I like that posed was the Eiffel Tower photos everything else was candid because I did not want it to feel like a photo shoot yeah i have been in enough weddings where it's like five hours for photos and so this might sound crazy but i enjoyed my wedding we got tons of candace granted yes there was some post photos like where you know people my family i think at the reception we did like a family shot a group

photo and that was it right all my mom putting my veil on was candid like everything else is candid okay the next day a bitch put that wedding dress right back on i went right back into hair and makeup and we spent the whole next day walking around paris doing our photos no and i'm obsessed with my pictures because i got two looks i actually felt like my hair was too curled the day of my wedding so the second day the hair fell a little bit better i got a second chance at my wedding photos because i did them the day after this i i i fear for my hangover the next day and how that would transfer into wedding photos so i actually didn't do them until like four o'clock the next day interesting because i also had jet lag so we did a whole brunch and then like i got

to go upstairs shower hair makeup walk around and just kind of like take my time and take pictures no rush jack what if you did this the day before your wedding so smart i could do that and then you get like a trial run of the whole look too but then he'd see me in the dress then and then you miss that moment of like the first you're not doing a ceremony are you yeah we are okay never mind yeah but you could do your solo photos yeah you could do your solo photos i could i know because i have this i have like super fomo like i want to be a part of the party like that's i'm trying to do everything to make my wedding not wedding feeling like i wanted to just feel like this massive party so i don't want to be taken out for like two hours to do photos so this is

this is inspiring but i gotta figure out how to do it out for 30 minutes zoom there zoom back um okay three tips wedding tips they're quick hold hands hold hands the whole damn time and i'm going to tell you why or attempt to at my rehearsal dinner me and my husband we made a pact we're like we're going to hold each other's hands because someone told me that most of the time at your wedding you're getting pulled apart you're actually never even going to see him because he'll be with his family on one side of the dance floor. You'll be with your family or your friends

on one side of the dance floor. And you end up telling stories to each other about the wedding versus having the same memories. So if you want the same memories, if you say, we're going to hold hands, we walk, we greet people together, so that we get to share in the same memories. The second one was eat.

Eat before you go because the reality is you're not going to eat. You're not going to eat the dinner that you paid so much money for for everyone else to enjoy you're not going to eat it people are going to be harassing you telling you to take pictures standing you up you're never going to get to sit and eat that meal so we actually ordered the fries and the what the heck is the ham and cheese sandwich over there my brain isn't working croque monsieur yeah yes we ordered two croque monsieur and that's what we ate because we knew we were never going to get a chance

if you can be intentional about eating the meal because i feel like you know if you pay 200 bucks for a plate or whatever it is enjoy your meal and what the hell is the third thing i love that jack you need like a platter of chocolate chip cookies and a bunch of sandwiches in your room like whatever your favorite food is i'm i'm really great at carbo loading because i will be drinking you know a lot during so i'm like when you're getting ready yeah i think i got that one and don't get and obviously don't get too too wasted but in your case you're like turn up everyone kept trying to give me champagne when i was getting hair and makeup done and i was like absolutely not i need to have like a clear memory of this moment like i want to be so present i'm

very i'm a hopeless romantic so i like wanted it to be like so about us and i wanted it to feel like it was just about me and him and the rest of y'all are just here for spectator purposes but this is our moment that's sweet but i'm just trying to party i hear that i hear that so turn up girl turn all the way up get the shots going not that not see i'm a champagne girl so i could do champagne all day but i love that yeah the headache that would be waiting for me it does it does okay lastly uh because john you know john pascarella our biggest fan is gonna listen to this john is one of our executive well both of our johns uh i love them they are redmond and john pascarella they're amazing and i know they're gonna listen to this and so um hey adrian how's

have been working at e-news it has been awesome okay i gave her my underwear like on day one yeah literally kelty has the best energy i've never met more of a girl's girl um and it's just fun i feel like most of the time they have to shut me up in between the packages because i'm talking over the intro of the next thing but i actually get my news from e-news like i don't know what the hell is going on i watch the package i'm like and it's me asking kelty i'm like kelty how old is she she's married to him how long have they been married they're like you're coming back in three two and i'm still chatting with kelty so we are having fun i can't like i just can't be more grateful for like a great work environment people that laugh non-stop and it's been awesome

feel like a freaking rock star really is and my favorite thing about adrian is well it's not my favorite thing but she's a fellow short queen like becca i think adrian's 411 becca i am i'm sure i got you beat but you teeny tiny girl i'm five three so adrian has like a little box that she stands on to be the same height as everyone and it's like so so so cute but the funniest part about it is like i'll walk out and i'll be like oh i'm wearing these giant shoes she's like no it's fine and literally like i could like put my arm on her head and she's just like She nicknames me Polly Pocket. I was just saying that.

I love it. And then I harass her about, like, how she stays so fit. I harass Kelty about, like, what should I be eating? What workouts I should be doing? First of all, Kelty is the last person you should ask what you should be eating. For about a year, she ate Klondike Bar for dinner. Oh, she's told me that. She's doing better now.

She's not the wellness queen that you want her to be. No, don't follow her directions. But she gets a fountain of information. I just feel like she knows what I'm supposed to be eating. Yes. So she has the information. Like the other day, she said, do you eat sauerkraut? Like, make sure that you have miso because it has this in it.

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Okay. So here's some of the questions. These are all relationship because in honor of your YouTube channel. Okay. I love this. How do you politely ask your partner to improve themselves without demasculating them, mascutizing, whatever it is, or like putting up their ego? And I'm already an alpha female. So I have to be very careful with this because I can be very like bossy. So I think for me, anytime I want to see an improvement in my husband, I try to improve it in myself first and like verbalize it. I'm working on this. Can you help me by partnering with me to work on this? Does that just sound wildly manipulative or like, no, it sounds like you're the smartest woman on planet earth. So like, if I like simple things, if I feel like he's been

drinking, like, or like, if I feel like we should be eating healthier, right. I'll be like, babe, it's so hard for me. I'm like, I really am going to eat healthy for the next two months. Like, it's really hard for me. If you're then eating bad, like then I want to eat bad. Can you partner with me so that we both can do it so that like, we can see improvement. I want us to have like hot bodies together. Like it's about togetherness or I'm trying to think for somebody who maybe wants their man to like improve sex. Then I'd be like, yo, the way I'm putting in these uh what the wow my brain i was gonna say the keto the way i'm putting in my ketos no the way that i'm getting these kegel exercises in you know there's an app i actually do know this

you do you do the app kelty did you tell me the app i do the squeeze along on tiktok every day there's actually an app now i gotta find out what the name is and it gives you the pulsate and like how you should do it with a song and everything you it's like like to youtube or tiktok um so i'm like do we do this together fun fact men absolutely can do those same exercises and it makes sure that their penis is a muscle like if they can't put something on it and lift that thing like this they need to up their up their their their workout like up the workout and it actually is also incredible for their prostate it's amazing like there's so many benefits to men doing kegel exercises as well if your man can't listen to can you keep up baby boy and do

the beat with his penis and tap along we can't get down it doesn't work like i'm morning exercises i'm just mortified for chris knight because you know what's happening as soon as he's home do you watch the exercise oh hell yeah it might be a turn on and everything like let's see what we got going on oh what is the strength unless it's not unless it's not listen unless baby boy can't keep up exactly literally so i feel like there's so many ways that if you're just like we're in this together or you want more sex and you're like let's see who can make it competitive be like who can initiate more and then it just becomes like an initiating overload of like i'm gonna love it you're gonna make like it just i think if you love somebody you figure it out you

don't want to hurt their feelings that's not the goal you'll figure it out unless you're me i'll hurt your feelings a little bit um okay jack you were the last on record of these four ladies uh to be with a boy before you found your fiance what does it mean when a man says i love you but I don't want a relationship. I've had a few of these. I've had a guy that broke up with me because he liked me too much. He said that he just couldn't handle it. I think men are very black and white. And, uh, I don't think it's too complicated where, you know, I love you, but I can't do this. It's like, they don't want to be with you. They're just an idiot and they don't know how to pad it correctly. So they're just going to make up some fake idea that they

love you to just try to, you know, make it not that much of like a gut punch, but you know, if they wanted to, they would, I think is watch the movie. He's just not that into you. Exactly. It's like that country song that is, if he wanted you or if he wanted to, he would, yeah. It's like across the board. If he wanted to call you, he would, if he wanted to text you, he would, if he wanted to take you to dinner, he would like men are not complicated. Like Jack was saying it's so black and white well and it's like i think it takes finally being with like the right person to be like oh that was easy like it doesn't have to be so hard and you don't have to be chasing after him and it doesn't have to be confusing and anxiety inducing but unfortunately

it is usually because these are the facts i haven't really had like a boy experience but i've had these experiences where i knew like i knew it needed to be short because otherwise it was boy territory like it was okay so he never was my boyfriend yes yes yes okay he never was my boyfriend but I did go on dates with a rapper type but I knew that that wasn't going to be like a relationship right yeah yes yeah well that's like the difference of when you're in a place as a woman where you're feeling your self-worth and when you're not when you're feeling like shit you're gonna go after that guy you're gonna be like yep I knew it from the beginning it was so much fun it was like a fun thing but not like i i knew yeah and funny enough

i actually ended up while i was like messing with this guy i ended up um meeting uh rob kardashian at the time and i had to call him and tell him like yeah i can't talk to you or mess with you anymore because like i found someone that's actually going to be a boyfriend and i want to be his girlfriend i'm like i want to be with him and he laughed at me he laughed at me and was like have fun with that oh no and i was like oh but that was his personality like very arrogant like okay well i guess all right and like was very confident that i'd be back or whatever but yeah oh my gosh okay last question can guys and girls be friends after they hook up or date and i think this is an interesting question for you adrian because you just brought up rob like i know you're

still friends with lots of the girls and the family and like you were together for a long time but like is it awkward to stay friends with the family are you guys still friends like how to so weird to me I've only had four boyfriends in my entire life Aaron Flores was my first boyfriend for 10 years my second boyfriend ever was Rob which was only for two years my third boyfriend was Lenny who was who I was engaged to I was for seven years and now my husband like I'm with people for years but it's funny to me that like obviously Rob is the one people remember the most because like he was yeah yeah he's he's rob kardashian and but that was actually my shortest relationship it was only for two years seven years okay but can you stay friends let's vote

can you stay friends like can you be like but now we're friends i see i think i i think i totally could be friends with rob i i absolutely think i could i i'm friends with aaron oh my god aaron came okay after i got married um my family i got married in november and we came back and christmas eve i threw the christmas eve party and it was all parisian theme for my family that couldn't afford maybe to get on a ticket to come to paris so it was like another celebration my first boyfriend the one that i was with for 10 years the guy that took my virginity was there met my husband and was like hanging with us and i love him i love his family his mom was my mom's maid of honor at her wedding and we're mad cool i'm actually friendly with all of my exes

and that's good yeah and so i absolutely believe this can happen as long as the two people have moved on if one of you guys still wants to be with the other it's not gonna work you're right i am so the opposite every single one of my exes is dead to me they can all go to hell i've never once ever stayed friends with an ex i'm like the ick switch has been flipped that's because jack you didn't date a decent guy until jared that's true yeah you did not have a guy who was worth even being friends with yeah none of my guys are bad guys it just didn't work out or they just weren't like they're not like terrible guys even if they cheated on me i don't think that they're terrible guys i just think like like i would say rob's case

like really young i would say me and lenny just we knew that we wanted two different things in life aaron i was young i was the one that cheated so i i just think they're not bad people yeah you were dating bad people i know i just i'm so jealous of your dating history that's incredible i'm telling you i'm a long-term person i like would have sex with somebody and be like so we're getting married tomorrow right like like this is it like we're locked in we're done like we slept together once twice oh bitch we having a baby like we're going half on it like this is a thing so i always wasn't like these super long-term relationships i love it um well i'm so glad this finally happened adrian and i want to let everyone know obviously to watch e

news mondays to thursdays at 11 p.m um you can follow adrian at all of her socials at adrian bylon but most importantly i gotta be honest with you if i'm gonna tell the girls to go to one thing this girl's jewelry line she I came to my dressing room one day she gifted me the whole thing like all the earrings all the necklaces but here's the thing I get stopped on the street literally people are like oh my god look at that diamond necklace it's not it's from Adrienne's jewelry line affordable I think it's like 25 dollars and it looks so real and I don't worry when I'm on the plane I don't worry when I'm in the water in Tahiti I'm wearing my diamonds like I am literally kim kardashian in the ocean my diamond earring like i'm not worried and it's such beautiful

stuff and super affordable so we'll link it and it's like one i just love it i actually thought that diamond necklace that you were wearing for so long was real yeah that's hers and it's yours it's really good and like that was the point we even recreated my engagement ring because people were like oh my god and i'll wear like i'm getting ready to go to europe in a week and a half and i'm gonna put this in a safe and wear my my fake version that everyone else can wear too it's wild smart it's really smart i love it so much and then i don't feel so bad when i break things or get lotion on them or whatever and like you know we got to save where we can um adrian you're a delight lady gang you're a delight you guys are awesome we will see you next tuesday see you next

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