LadyGang - Ali Fedotowsky Celebrates LadyGang's 1st Anniversary - Ep53

Episode Date: December 6, 2016

Ali Fedotowsky returns to celebrate the LadyGang's one-year anniversary! She was guest number 1, secretly preggers at the time, and dishing on upcoming wedding plans! Well, now she's back as mom to the beautiful Molly Manno and telling it like it is when it comes to pregnancy, child birth, and new baby sleep deprivation! She's also talking a bit about the wedding that really WILL take place early next year! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey guys, it's your Lady Gang, Becca Tobin, Kelty Knight, and Jack Vanek. Thanks so much for subscribing on iTunes, and thank you, thank you, thank you for supporting the great sponsors who make it possible for us to have this much fun with you for free every week. Well, what is this? Welcome to the Lady Gang. That's amazing. Say that again.

The Lady Gang. Things are about to change around here. Each week we catch up with Hollywood's hottest girl posse. Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek. Hello, hello, hello, lady gang. Happy birthday to us. We did it. We did it.

I can't believe it. We're one years old. We're one. This is seven in dog years. I feel so old for being one. I do too. We have gained so many wrinkles, many dimples on our asses. But let's say something nice.

It's been great. We love you guys for listening. Yeah. and without you listeners we would not be back here every week talking about pooping and farting and tampons and sex and we just love you guys and and because of you guys listening we really appreciate it we get to have fun so selfishly for me that's the the reason to do this yeah yeah get to talk shit drink champagne it's great and also i want to verbally thank both of you too because you know not to get all choked up here but it's been a lot of work you know it's been

a lot of work to get this off the ground we almost got sued once we had some scary moments we almost got ourselves in a lot of debt and um and you know we haven't made a penny yet and we're gonna make money this year i think maybe but we want that check man but you know we're just doing our best and and it's been really great this has been a fun ride i've learned a lot about myself and my analness oh my god i've learned a lot about our bodily functions i've learned a lot about myself and my laziness same um but yes thank you everybody um if you are listening for the first time that's kind of crazy but welcome um i'm becca tobin actress and blogger across from me kelty knight entertainment host and um instagram's it girl yeah and to my right

jack vanik ceo and clothing designer of jack vanik um our fun fact is that we're celebrating our first birthday and that's all that matters yep we made it um all right and oh i guess we can announce that we're going to do a season two oh my god you guys we got picked up for another season we got picked up we got the green light i was nervous we were nervous if we're going to be successful enough to be able to bring you this again and they said yes and so you have us for another 52 weeks of your life so on that note so good week emoji and it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no um all right well i am monopolizing the good week yes you are because i got married i never mrs becca rebecca martin never i know becca martin if you when we

started lady gang you would have told me on our first birthday becca will be married i would have been like what are you talking about i wasn't even engaged at that point no no when you when you showed us the engagement ring pick i still thought you were joking it's true um so do a lot of people becca thanks guys um we want to tell you all the details but we're saving that to get you over to our website and our blog because we're sharing some really really fun details that only you guys will get to get feast your eyes on feast so um that was our collective good week and then i'm gonna go into bad week which i feel like i shouldn't have one this week is that weird yeah i feel like you need to skip a bad week i would say like the stress leading up to the wedding is

pretty bad yeah i'm not gonna lie about that but then it's real yeah it's real you just need to like you know bask in the good week of being married for a second before you get pissed off about something it's true i can't like you're probably gonna have a uti like in the next couple of days. Oh, for sure. Alcohol, no water and sex. Yeah. So you're so much. All right, Kelty. Well, I know it's our birthday and I didn't plan this to be, you know, a belated wedding gift slash birthday present for the lady gang, but I have had the worst bad week of all the bad weeks in the history of lady gang. Please tell us. So we all know that I get up very early in the morning have i told you that in the past 52 episodes i don't think so so it actually

happened this morning so i didn't have a lot of sleep i woke up and i had to be at work extra early so it's 4 45 a.m and it's pitch black and what i have a little like my bathroom is attached to my bedroom and i always do the same three things every morning i can get out the door in five minutes i brush my teeth i take my pill and i put face cream on i sleep in my pajamas and i go to work on my flip-flop and pajamas so like there's no getting ready there's no turning on a light i try to like get in and get out so i don't wake up my husband so this morning i go into the bathroom and like and i'm kind of still like oh it's a melon i'm real tired and i go to take a sip of water out of the tap to take my pill and i knock out my front tooth

and i brought a photo to show you i knock out my front tooth it falls so i have veneers and i got them when i was in high school because i had babies chiclet teeth and so my whole veneer and there's not much tooth underneath falls out in my hand thank god it didn't go down the drain and i go to chris and i go chris and he goes what babe and i go i lost my tooth and is it so good jack describe it oh my god you look like you're 85 years old my god and so then i put my tooth in a plastic bag and it's now 5 a.m and i text my bosses and i say well i'm not coming to work today i have no front tooth and they're like what blah blah blah and so then i have to sit there in bed with chris and try not to talk because it actually hurts till 8 a.m when

the doctor opens is your is your like baby tooth my baby tooth is sensitive because it's been filed down so it's like the root is basically just there oh my god so that's not even the best part guys there's so much more oh my god so that's already horrible and i'm like terrified and honestly anyone that's had like extreme have you ever had extreme dental work no like i've regretted getting veneers my whole life i had really bad teeth but i like wish i had just owned my like bad chompers instead of doing the veneers because you're just you dream every night you're gonna lose your teeth you're gonna lose your teeth like it's such a weird feeling i think it's maybe how girls with fake boobs feel jack no anyway so anyway so i'm laying there and at eight o'clock

I call the dentist I'm like emergency he's like come in right away so I get in my car and then I remember last night when I was driving home from um you needed gas work I needed gas and I thought I'm probably gonna run out of gas on the way to work in the morning but it's okay because I'm gonna go get gas as soon as I get to work so I get in the car and I'm like running to this appointment and then I'm like oh my god out of the gas so I pull up to the gas station and I start trying to get the gas in my car and it's one of those machines that only uses a debit card i don't understand this when did we start using debit cards at gas stations i'm so confused i'm putting it i'm taking out nothing's happening i take the nozzle out i put in the car nothing's happening

i'm like well maybe this till is broken i drive to the next till i put my thing it doesn't work i'm like fuck this i get in my car one tooth ziploc bag my other tooth i drive down highland i find another gas station i put it in the thing fine whatever anyway and then to finish it off happy ending my tooth is back on so they use the same tooth they use the same tooth they cemented it and he goes it's gonna last if it lasts three days it'll last another year great so he's like it'll either fall off in three days and I'll have to go back or like it will last so we don't know yet let you know so then last thing I'm going uh I now I have the day off work so I was like well I'm gonna get some things done I have to get my blood taken a lot because I'm on this medicine so

I'm like let me go get my blood done so I don't have to do it next week so I go get my blood done and I sit down in the blood chair already having a no tooth morning. And the woman's like, oh, I'm a student. Is that OK? No. Oh, my God. And I'm like, well, no, you're going to end up with a numb arm like me. Did you have a student once? No, but I got a shot. My arm is still numb like six months later. OK, so I'm like, yeah, yeah, it's fine. What else can go wrong today? This woman, I'm sitting there and I always look away when they put the needle in so I can do whatever. And she's like, OK. And she like jams it in. So I've never had a student do my blood. she jams it in so hard and then she can't get the vein so she's fishing around with the needle in

the vein it was horrendous and then she's like are you okay and i'm like you're doing great honey and i'm trying to be positive you're so nice i would have slapped her across the face i would have too anyway then i was here earlier and the light fixture fell on me and i just thought this is a hell of a day wow i don't know if you can you let me win do i win do i even like need a good week mine's so stupid compared to yours what is it well wait first i have a question can you talk more about me though i'm feeling no that's awful no do you regret getting your veneers is that something because my teeth are all messed up because i grind them no don't do it no veneers well the thing is is that he explained this is kind of an interesting thought he he was like

you basically have a bad 90s boob job in your mouth i know that sounds crazy but like yeah boob jobs are so good now that like you got them so long ago i got them when i was in high school was like 99 in canada well hey but it was probably free what they did when you got veneers like 15 years ago yeah right sorry free health care veneers no we paid for them if it's cosmetic you have to pay i'm kidding you know can't just get like a facelift whenever you want in canada it's a jolly country it's not that jolly so anyway back then they they really filed down your regular teeth to be very tiny little nubs cringe it's horrible and then they put the teeth on top like crowns now what do they do the front of it now they just kind of file down a little bit

and then put a casing on it so you have the strength of like your whole tooth under there i just have like a tiny niblet of a tooth under there it's disgusting one of my friends has veneers and she has knocked her front tooth out many times by eating a sandwich a sandwich a sandwich yeah i knocked my front tooth on a teacup once it's horrible i would live in fear about knocking my teeth out but let me just say that you're that person when i watch movies and i see someone do this one thing i'm like people don't do that in real life put your mouth under the tap to take a pill or to drink water i'm like anytime i see that in a movie i'm like that's not real people don't do that but apparently they do so thank you for clearing that chris has always

says to me kelty you're such a hurricane that like you just are breaking things on your way like because my computer's always broken my phone's always broken like i've just my hair's falling out like it's just like you gotta chill out you're stressing yourself out i'm not going to um do you even want to do your bad week do i need to yes it's not good i'm gonna save it for next week i just had a uh a thought though why are you taking things for your bones oh because of the accutane no just because her you have the skinniest wrists and forearm like your bones are the smallest i've ever seen on a human do you think she's getting osteoporosis and i just want to make sure you're taking care of your bones you need to know while we're talking about your

teeth falling out doesn't she have the skinniest back up my tooth fell out because i knocked it No force onto a metal faucet. And your tooth also fell out because it was a fake tooth. But it had me thinking about you being a hurricane and you were flailing your arms around like that. And I was like, those are the skinniest arms I've ever seen. You are looking really skinny. Yeah.

It's like, it's kind of weird. It's great though. Maybe you're like, I don't know. What's that movie about that guy that like aged super quickly? It's already been a bad enough day, Becca. I don't need any of this judgment. I'm telling you how skinny you are. Yeah, you're right.

It's like when people are like, oh, you need to gain weight. You're like, what a bad day. All right. anyways we're done here i forfeit my good week um what's coming up we got a mom talking about hemorrhoids yep now back to the lady gang well guys since it is our birthday happy birthday to us number one we've invited back our very first lady gang guest ever to celebrate with us she is the woman who kicked it all off for us and was cool enough to say yes

and I will come on your podcast even though we had no idea what we were doing. The show's much better now we like to think. She's a former bachelorette turned queen of affordable style on her blog allyloves.com and most importantly we have a bone pick with her because Becca do you remember? Yep. The last time she came we had this whole thing where we're like

it's a boozy mimosa brunch, we're gonna drink champagne and our first guest ever was like oh no I'll just have water and we thought well what a piss in the dark how boring but the reason that she wasn't drinking champagne is that two weeks later she announced that she was pregnant i'm guilty also we had a whole conversation where we were talking about wedding planning and i was like you should just get pregnant and you were like and you must have been just dying inside no pause i'm not done oh more intro a year has passed

and now she is the mom to beautiful daughter molly who has ps almost as many instagram followers as me and she was just born welcome back ali oh my gosh it's not okay are you guys happy to have me back or is this like i'm so excited that you came back because you kicked it all off and honestly you know from the lady gang a big thank you though because you know now we can get anyone not true not true still you're the biggest guest we've ever had in a year but you know it was a big thing that you said yes and you came on and you were probably throwing up so how long did you keep the secret that you're pregnant well first of all i've listened to so many of you guys podcasts over the last year and you've had some incredible guests and congratulations happy

birthday um but uh gosh how do i keep it a secret i don't know i just lied a lot were you guys trying um yeah we tried for we were trying we tried for three months a lot of people try forever and can't get pregnant so we got really lucky uh but yeah we were trying which was so stupid because we were planning a wedding at the same time and i'm like well let's just keep trying because we never no and then we got pregnant and so the wedding has not happened yet no so we put the wedding on hold because is it still on hold no we are getting married yeah you're keeping in a secret the date yes the date is set it is early 2017 do you have a dress i do are you doing new year's eve no i think you have a friend that did that once um anyway so okay not new year's eve so good

well you know weddings are great we just had the blast congratulations you're married look at you look at me i'm just a blushing bride yes you are you're the blushingest bride ali we're so glad you're here because we've been we've had some moms on and none of them talk real like you so update us a yeah how's your vagina what happened after birth how was the birth welcome back how was the birth um horrible was it horrible when did you start feeling it well actually i don't even know if i've talked about this but my doctor broke my water by accident how do you do that i was in uh it was like a week before i was due and it was eight days before i was due and i was on and those days matter when you're that far along um and i was on her table and she was feeling to

feel if i was dilated and she stuck her finger out there and she's like oh and you're not really you're like maybe almost maybe an inch like a tight inch yeah and uh i was like okay so can you do that membrane sweep thing they like sweep your membranes it's called yeah get things going because you were done being pregnant i was so over it i was in pain i was it was the worst so she she's like yeah i'll do that so she sticks her fingers up and they basically like i don't know for sweep the inside of you and pop do you hear it oh it's like a pop an audible pop and like a water oh my god it was crazy water went everywhere all over i go and kevin looks at her and goes has this ever happened and she's like nope never i was like oh my god like this is bad like this

wasn't supposed to happen so then we they put two maxi pads on me so i'm yeah it was a lot i'm too deep at that point waddling out of her room to go straight to the hospital because we're like we're having a baby today and oh my god oh my god walking through the hospital like kevin dropped me off so he could go to the ballet it was like bad and wouldn't take the car so he dropped me up to the hospital and said he said the way he found me was he followed the trail of water all the way through the hospital oh my gosh and that's what two maxi pets did it seriously it feels like you're peeing your pants non-stop and you just can't stop peeing does it feel like anything or it's just water did it hurt it feels like you're peeing i mean it really that it didn't hurt no no

but it was just i remember i started shaking and hyperventilating and i just looked at him and we both started crying we're like oh my god we're having our baby today like this is great it's funny because we actually took a photo of the two of us in like the reflection of a window right before we went into the appointment because i'm like i just have a feeling like this is gonna be the last photo isn't that crazy weird but you know what if if she could pop it i mean i don't know anything about anything but i feel like by the time you get to the car or like that night it would have popped on its own like clearly you were ready to go i hope so because sometimes i think i'm like was she ready like was she was supposed to be born when she was oh my god that is crazy it

is crazy did you have like an easy delivery after that oh gosh no no no um i don't even know we're fascinated by this story is so long but i'll try to make it quick but i mean no essentially they had to induce me because my contractions weren't progressing on their own because my water was broken artificially yeah artificially so they had to give me pitocin which is awful everybody it is wait what is it it's a drug that basically makes your uterus contract so think of in most i've never had a natural birth so i don't know but everything i've read has said basically like a natural birth like the contractions hurt but they're much more bearable pitocin contractions are hell on earth oh my god it is and you didn't have a um oh no i did oh i did trust me as soon

as i got there i'm like when can i get the epidural they're like whenever you want which i didn't know i always thought that you had to wear off and you had to wait till a certain point that's not the case anymore they basically put it in you put it in a drip iv and you can oh yeah drugs the whole time like right away i did kind of want to wait a little bit and i did because i wanted to feel what real childbirth felt like you know so i was like okay i'm doing this i'm doing this and then my doctor comes in she's like why are you still doing this and then i went from zero to 60 in two seconds i was screaming and then of course the anesthesiologist couldn't come because he was backed up so then i had to go through like two hours of screaming my head off

and anyway like are you crying like are you screaming like hysterical like the in agony can you imagine would you ever scream because you were in pain right like when you hit your toe or like you know no that's like

ow that's like that like this is like like you would turn into a wild beast woman yeah like that's the best way to describe it

was the pain a lot like were you like minutes in this pain or was it like pain out pain out it was like pain for a minute

and then it's supposed to stop in between contractions but I had a lot of back labor and back labor doesn't really stop in between contractions

so anyway I did get the epidural long story but it didn't work i mean it worked on half of my body but didn't work on the other side my sister i was in labor for 22 hours what um and it didn't really work and like the left side of your body it worked yes it worked actually worked on my left you're exactly right it did not work on my right um and it in there was like time for it coming in the right but then it would go away and then i mean there's so many things and it was i feel like i've like mentally blocked it out of course but like at one point the nurse turned it off by accident and my doctor yelled

at her she's like what are you doing and then when it's turned off they can't just flip a switch and turn it back on like turning it off they have to call the anesthesiologist back up and then at one point they like pumped me full of so many other drugs because it wasn't working that i started throwing up and convulsing um multiple times i couldn't even hold molly i got to hold her for two seconds when she came out but after that they had to take her because i was in i was in more pain after she came out than before because i was full of so much drugs they didn't work i was in so much pain i was throwing up i was convulsing um she came sunny side up which basically most women can't push a baby up who's facing up because they can push her out the doctor said because um

it's like too hard they have to go to an emergency c-section but somehow i got her out you are a goddess so i have actually i had a birth photographer so i actually have a picture of her coming out of face up facing me because she's face up and me looking at her for the first time it's the most incredible photo um i actually i should share it i feel like maybe maybe i'll like blur out my vagina maybe you could put like a fun emoji there yeah like a sunflower or an egg or like a sun sunny side up it's so cute crazy and so how was kevin kevin bald his eyes out i mean it's so funny because i told them before i was like you need to say stay like north of like my waist i do not want you down there looking at what's going on you're never gonna want to have

sex with me again right see what happens down there and so i told him that but as soon as like we got into it he just wanted to see because basically i was pushing for two hours so once you're finally dilated you can start pushing in two hours is a really long time to push so as that was happening the doctor kept saying her head's poking out and kevin wanted to see i'm like i'm not gonna deny him that so and you're in so much pain you just don't even care like at one point i actually told them to bring me or they asked if i wanted a mirror and i was like yeah which normally i would have been like hell no when you look i oh yeah i watched it by the way i also watched some other really nasty stuff down there like did you poop say it no no i did hemorrhoids

hemorrhoids i watched one i was like well you watched it we just talked about this on another episode my sister had like a bundle of grapes coming out of her butthole yeah like pretty much what happened it's really i watched a bubble come out i was like what the heck wait what are you pushing i don't want to know it's awful but the reason i wanted the mirror is because i would push and you and i was kind of numb but not really numb because the drugs weren't working so you don't really know how far she's coming out and then when you are done pushing because you have so many drugs in you um if you decide to do that and i kept telling them to give me more when they weren't working um they i wanted i couldn't tell if she was like slipping back in so by putting the mirror

there i could see how i could clench and hold her in that position and then give another push to get her out so as soon as they put the mirror there i got her out within like 15 minutes but before that i was pushing for an hour and 45 minutes that's crazy did you have a bikini wax no before but i i've had laser down there okay so you weren't like okay she wasn't like coming out of the forest no no no no no that concerns me that's a really getting caught like at that moment you didn't know you were gonna have a baby so you could have like been a day away from your next whatever and then you're like a wildebeest and i just think that that's scary looking down there other than you and your mirror and the doctor and your husband and the photos that live forever

yeah it's so gross that like i would say you wouldn't care but then again it's so gross that anything you can do to make it not better but i love how real you are though because i mean you wouldn't have known the baby was coming so you didn't have your lashes done you didn't have to blow out oh like you're not a typical celebrity or did you have it i had been getting lash extensions at that point okay like when i see we're ready so that's smart yeah i feel like it's a good way that like your lashes will be there if at any point you're gonna get lash extensions it's for that i think that's a great idea and um i didn't have someone come do my makeup but i was like at one point like going through contractions like putting on makeup makeup and lipstick and

like trying to look presentable i love that oh yeah i totally i do the same but you know what since facetune you don't even have to do that i didn't facetune anything i should have you should you could have you can always facetune a little bit of something a friend of mine had a baby and i'm like how do you look like that like right after hours after and she's like girl i don't look like this like i don't know like i put blush on with face too like mascara through face too and i'm like genius amazing now you're not like a real celebrity mom because all the other celebrity moms we know of like seven nannies and a chef and i said to ali you know we're texting and i said listen it's the lady gang's one year anniversary like you were our first guest will you come back

i know you're so busy with a brand new baby and she was like well as long as it works our schedule because we don't have any help we just work between kevin and i schedule this is insane to me yeah it's really tough honestly i mean i'm so lucky you're still regular like it's crazy well i want a nanny but um i mean it's hard i'm really lucky that i work on my blog so i work from home um and that's you know a blessing but uh yeah it's it's hard i mean because we don't have family either that's the one thing it's what if you have family around you don't need a nanny or babysitter or anything but we don't have family i mean his brother lives like 45 minutes away but that's different it's not a mom you need your mom yeah you know when you're a mom uh so yeah it's tough

but i need it i want are you sleeping like how's the sleep situation no not at all she uh is waking up every two and a half to three hours sometimes every hour and the thing is when she was two months she was waking up or she was sleeping almost eight hours and then she went through a sleep regression at three months and now so the eight hours thing was like maybe a handful of nights but um now she's waking up consistently for the last month every two and a half hours so imagine like not ever getting more than two hours of sleep ever crazy for a month like it's it wears crazy that's insane i'm driving sometimes and i'm like i zone out and i don't know where i am oh my god there's all these like half-asleep moms on the road everywhere like we're all doomed

like everyone stay off the roads have you found time to like reconnect with kevin or is it just like survivor mode yeah no i mean honestly like and sometimes i think like oh my gosh like we're getting married soon and like i want like to be in that like honeymoon phase and like right now they're just there is no like you just can't romantic date night like let's have sex like it's like no you're sleeping in the other room and if i'm laying in bed i'm not having sex with you i'm sleeping yeah leave me alone yeah no but i love that it is so hard and um i don't like to talk about like motherhood is like a negative thing because i feel like one thing that pissed me off so much when i was pregnant is so many moms would be like just wait like just wait until

this and i was so mad that everyone made it so negative like i was like kevin and i like made a promise to each other like we're gonna be positive about this no matter what but we're gonna be real about it it's super hard it is the hardest thing ever but you have to like go with it laugh with it yeah you know deal with it it helps that she's so cute she's she's adorable she's so cute thank god you're good at instagram so we can really all enjoy her 20 000 whatever followers it's her own damn Instagram I was like oh what's Allie up to

and then you're tagging her and I'm like did they make her an Instagram and I was like wait how did she get on how many followers does she have do you guys think

I'm super lame no I think it's smart and I wish that my parents had done it when I was born like how cool would that be when she grows up

and she gets to see like a progression of things and all my friends have them for their kids you can also create a career for her like in a crazy way in a realistic way

you can definitely create you can make money after a baby college fund Hey, Gerber, are you listening? Right. She wants her endorsement. But maybe not immediately, but it's like, hey, here's this, like, new way of making

money, and I'm, like, helping you out, girl. Yeah, it's just her. That's what I think. And you're going to take pictures of her and post it anyway, so you might as well make some doll bills. And also, as someone who follows a lot of female bloggers for, like, outfit or lifestyle inspiration, there's nothing worse than when, this has happened to me many times, when your favorite blogger has a baby, and then the blog that was, like, fashion and home goods

turns baby, and you're like, where's my inspirational West Elm post? Like, I appreciate that you're still doing your fashion and your affordable and your cute boots for fall on your Instagram and a Molly picture once in a while. And then if I want to like really get deep in your child, I can head over to her Instagram and see like every moment. That sounds very strange. No, that's smart. I think it's good.

Yeah. No, that's, that was the main point. I knew I wanted to share a lot of pictures of her, but I didn't want to make it my, you know, my personal Instagram all about her. But yeah. So on a positive note, what has been the best part? Has there been a moment where you just thought this is why I did this? um i mean are you too tired right now it's like she keeps you up all night there's no no no i can't

believe how lively you are by the way oh thank you gosh i don't know i drink a lot of coffee like just FYI we don't have children and you look better than all three of us and you're way more you have way more energy than we all do yeah not true you're super well do you have like 10 jobs so i don't know how you function on a daily basis um but the best thing has there been a moment where you're like i'm a mom right now like it's all happening i mean it's so hard to say everything's good i mean you know like there's even the nights where i'm waking up in the middle of the night every two hours they're good you know because it's just i see her and then she like smile she always smiles i mean like in the middle of eating she'll be like on the boob and then look up at me

and smile and it's just like the sweetest thing ever yeah um i'm like i don't know if this is super sweet or a little weird uh but yeah i mean she's giggling so much right now like kevin and i live to make her smile i mean we spend our entire days just you know doing everything we can to get a smile out of her so there was like hidden cameras in our house people be like what these people are crazy like the sounds we make and the things we do but yeah it's all good i mean it's all good and honestly like in a little bit of a selfish way it's awesome because i'm like this is so cool like this is my dna like in this little human that looks like me and is mine like i think i always think of her as mine but she's her own human like in person so i shouldn't think of her

that way but i'm always like you're mine i love you um so it's all good last thing before we go to a fun game i prepared for us um what would you say to all the women out there that are you know our ages and thinking like kids no kids should i should i not like i'm not talking to moms that are you've known you want to have children since you're eight years old kelty's asking for herself i'm asking for myself what's going on with you when are you having babies well that so when you turn like 30 something every single day someone's like when you have a baby when you're having a baby what do you think about you know because we live in this generation where a lot of women are deciding like kids aren't for me like it's not the baby boomer generation where every mom has

four babies right and it's okay to say that right yeah of course i think so for sure what do you say like it's so much work that you know you should really really want to have a baby or what it's funny because when we decided like it was on fourth of july and we were both drunk in our pool like making out we're like let's have a baby i'm pretty sure we're like let's start practicing right now uh but that's amazing so we you know at the time like i had no idea what a responsibility it was and looking back if i could do anything differently i would have partied a little bit more i know it sounds crazy but i would not even party traveled and just like lived it up a little bit more and kevin and i actually said we decided fourth of july we were going to start having

trying like in september so we thought we would take the rest of the summer and like have our last hurrah is what we called it well we were in bed by every night by eight o'clock during our last hurrah feels like such a hurrah to me maybe it was because i'm not sleeping now that's what you were doing so then we were like you know what i think it was like august we're like let's just start trying at the beginning of august because obviously we're ready because we're going to bed at eight o'clock every night but i wish that we didn't let ourselves i wish that we like went to vegas one last time and did all these like last things um but i will say you have to i will say that it it is impossible to have it all i really do think that now i think

that you can strive to have it all as a mom but i don't think you can yeah one thing i will say is that like working multiple jobs and doing a lot of things like when you're ready kelty um my advice like for someone like you would be like you need to be ready to like put some things on the back burner because it is a full it is a full-time and a half job it's not a full-time job it's it's it's an 80 plus hour you know 120 hour a week job it's just all the time all night long all day so you just have to be willing to sacrifice but i have a question for you did it put things into perspective like in a way that you could not have had not having the baby like with your career where you get so invested and you get so heartbroken over not getting opportunity

like jobs or whatever and it's all about like the next job and the next thing and the paycheck and this and that like having her and be honest because a lot of people are like it just puts in perspective that those things aren't that important, but I have trouble feeling like I'm not going to still be as concerned about my career when I have the baby. It doesn't, it doesn't just answer your question. Like, well, let me say this. For instance, my blog has become more important to me. Like I'm like, I need to make the money. This girl's got to have a good life. I want to provide for her. I want to give her a sibling. We need to make as much money as possible so we can give our you know our family a good life but on the other flip side um i was offered a pilot a

week ago and i turned it down um yeah so uh and i turned it down they came back double the money offering me to do the show and i just said i'm sorry but it would take so much time away from molly and i'm i'm able to make a living working from home and being with her all the time and to take this job i'd be away from her all week working 12 hour days like it's not worth it to me yeah Before her, I would have jumped at the job when they were offering me half the money. Yeah. You know, I would have been like, yep, I'm in. TV show, like a talk show, I'm in.

Let's do this. Yeah. And yeah, so it's different. Like my time is so much more valuable to me now that I won't do it for just any job. Yeah. But like making money is more important to me than ever. Good to know. Okay, what's going on?

Now, here's the lady gang. Let's play a game. Yeah. This game is called Playdate or Hate. But here's the thing. No hate, Kelsey. I hate the word hate. So I thought like...

Playdate or no thanks. No, that's a... Playdate or late? Like you're late to the playdate is the bad? Play or nay. Play or nay. There we go. That's so good.

I don't know what we're doing, but those things sound great. Well, it was supposed to be Playdate or Hate. And basically, we're going to name some famous moms and their children. And we are all going to decide if we would want to have a playdate with them if we were moms. Oh, my gosh. okay so play or nay let's start with beyonce and blue ivy oh nay i say nay too i don't think it's that fun no it probably sucks and then yeah blue ivy gets all the attention and your kid will just get like kicked in a corner but at least blue ivy looks like jay-z and not beyonce so mean well i

feel like blue ivy there's even if they're trying to be the best parents ever and like make sure she knows discipline like she's spoiled no matter what you know and so i don't want like molly learning that like that's yeah or looking at her and being like why not me mommy why don't i have a giovanni dress why can 20 of our houses fit in one of their houses like okay um kim k and northwest nay i say yay to ballet class and they can each wear their little ball mom blazers over their tutus who's buying your kids blazer we're just borrowing one from martha's closet doesn't she has a billion of them i'm gonna say yay only because i love chris jenner i mean you've met chris jenner plenty yes kelty um and she's just so awesome that like i'd want molly to like know

her because i feel like she's such like a boss lady and could like you're like grandma date really actually i just want her to teach me stuff so i would like have the kids play and i'd be off trying to like pick chris jenner's brain or oh chris kardashian now right right she went back yeah oh she did i didn't know that player name i would say yes for the same kind of reason but for scott disick to hopefully show up because i love him you guys kim kim and uh northwest got the shaft nobody you're like i just want chris and i'm like um okay j-lo and her twins who p.s we don't see much of how old are they i don't know any like six but who who should he marry to she had baby with mark anthony oh i'm gonna say nay because that sounds boring yeah it sounds

super boring yeah i'm gonna say nay and i don't really know why i'm totally mom judging pass but yeah i say nay but then i'm a little yay because i kind of want to go to j-lo's house and see like what skin cream she's using on that okay um okay mariah carey and moroccan and monroe dem babies you should call them dem babies yay all the way and only because it would be such a spectacle like i'm so curious of what goes on in that house in that world uh so i feel like Just to check it out. I'd be like, sure, Molly, go play with that little one and get totally messed up. The kid named Moroccan.

Interesting names. Moroccan and Monroe. Damn babies. I'm going to say yay, just because Mariah Carey would be a hoot to watch as a mother. A hoot. Does she drink? I hope so. I think so.

I would like to have a little wine drunk with her. No, she drinks champagne in the bubble bath. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I just want to see what she looks like, too, because you know Mariah Carey travels with her own lighting team. Yes. Becca met her. becca met her last i don't know a couple weeks ago a couple weeks ago met her and

she didn't have we were not at a place she could have brought her lighting people so i think that i got the real mariah which was you know it's like you don't ever want to see people like you don't want to see mickey mouse without his hat like without his head no like like the mickey mouse at disney you don't want to see him walking around the park with just the body suit and not the head part that's sort of what it felt like it was like not quite the full mariah she's she said that she didn't know if it was really her or somebody like impersonating her really and you know what it's okay if she's you know everyone needs off time but the problem is she gives us a false impression of that she's facetuning herself all the time that's the problem it's

unrealistic expectation it is when does mariah mariah's world start it's soon it's like this week or next week i think it might have already started i'm so excited i can't wait let's have a girl group she's watching um okay two more madonna and lord dis lordis lordis jack uh god it looks disgusted right now lordis i think it's lord lordis and this is madonna's daughter is it yeah she's like 15 she's older she's oh she's beautiful too well i'd have her babysit my kids then yeah okay yeah i guess you can't have a playdate with molly's like what will i do with lordest i would never trust a 15 year old to watch my child now that i like when i used to babysit like when i was like 12 i would babysit all these kids and looking at that now i would

never ever let a 12 year old or even a 15 year old watch my child you gotta be like 30 yeah i wouldn't even let me watch my show i wouldn't either you have to be old enough to go to real jail and not juvenile if you kill the kid like if something were to happen that's the rule i like that's the way you yeah yeah you have to go to real jail if you mess up i can send you to real jail last one yolanda and bella and gigi oh my god not even a play date at this point i just you know what i got off topic at the end i just went deep into like famous moms and daughters they just keep getting older now they're like our age well i'm gonna say yay i think yolanda seems like a hoot i like yolanda yeah yeah i i don't know i guess yay on those that was really

anticlimactic yeah yeah that's a weird ending well on that note first of all ali again thank you for being our first guest ever it really meant a lot to us and also coming on and being so honest about your birth and being a mama because you're hemorrhoid yeah because well listen i think sometimes people sugarcoat it especially celebrities and they're like it was the greatest moment of my life and i just i've always appreciated you being real and i appreciate it even more so ali has her life figured out and when we come back she's going to help you figure out your lives while we give you bad advice hey ladies ask the lady gang okay so i mean you know how this goes you've answered our questions before you've helped get some good advice

i don't remember did she not no we did but like did we give good advice it was only our first advice i'm sure that she probably gave good advice we probably gave terrible advice so you know the drill so things have changed okay so if you guys want to write in a question for ask the lady gang write us on our website theladygang.com and make your question short so we don't have to edit them our first question comes from don't you want to give them a coupon code oh shit if you guys want 20 off jackfanded.com use coupon code lady gang can i just say i'm obsessed with your brand it is so good every day i'm like i like that i like that tell me what you want girl it's awesome i'll give you whatever all right jack always gives things to celebrities

it's so fun okay our first question comes from melissa she says i'm 21 years old and i started a casual relationship with a 27 year old i lost my virginity virginity to him and despite him telling me he doesn't want a relationship much of our time spent together is similar to a couple he cooks me dinner has bought me presents we've gone out in public together i've met some of his friends etc should i bring up the idea of a relationship again how do you know when friends with benefits has gone too far wait how old is she 21 and he's 27 i mean she's got to just get out if he's telling you he doesn't want to be in a relationship he doesn't want to be in a relationship i think girls think oh well he just doesn't think that and i can change him and all

those things no it's not true the guy that i dated before i went on the bachelorette he did the same thing to me we were together all the time he took me out to dinner and he was like super rich so we go to these super fancy places and but he always told me i don't want to be with you yeah but i thought we were together because we did all these couple of things together and he was the worst thing that ever happened to me so girl get out i agree yeah i think so i think it's probably pretty telling that he's telling you he doesn't want a relationship but it can't be more black and white than that i mean i guess you could try your last ditch effort could be like are we having sex with other people like are we monogamous and if he says yes we're monogamous then you can be

like you've just been tricked into a relationship because like isn't that all that it is exactly so like guys are just afraid of the label exactly and if he doesn't want to call you his girlfriend that's another issue but yeah you might actually still be his girlfriend i think he's probably sleeping with other people i but you should find out and also like make sure he also might lie though he's also 27 so you should be using condoms and yeah that's what i was gonna say while this is all happening and you're figuring it out don't get an std so make sure you are it is always shocking to me how many women even our age not old like me but like y'all's ages are using condoms it's crazy oh my god it's terrifying i i'm terrified please wrap up that

peen psa use a condom god please you should just send them out to people is forever continue so is general awards oh yeah use condoms girlfriend that's so scary okay our second question comes from kylie she says i'm so not like this but i've been flirty with a co-worker lately a married one i absolutely want nothing to happen but we work on a lot of accounts together and our friends too should i cut off the extra chat with him completely yes yes gosh oh that makes me so mad like i don't even know what to say but yes cut off that's terrible does he have kids you know he's married but maybe there's children involved does because kev's kind of a babe does he have girls at work that like are loving him a little um i don't know she's like maybe i

mean i mean i would think so yeah i mean when he's at work i'm sure like when they have guests come in especially like when they're not celebrity guests if they're just like you know listeners to this show i'm sure that they are all up on him but um i trust him i've never i never even think about it ever i think about it all the time oh really no really you're surprising i don't know i think don't be that girl there's like one pact you can make as a woman and is like don't be the whore because it will happen to you and then you'll be so mad at that other girl like just don't that like relationship karma comes and bites you in the ass a hundred percent the guy that you really love one day will be cheating on you and some girl would be like he told me you guys had

an open relationship no they didn't they don't he's probably at work being like we're gonna divorce anyway haven't you seen every love movie ever they're gone girl that never works out they're not breaking up no it's gone girl a love movie he tells her that they're gonna get divorced but doesn't tell her it's not love it's more of a murder the love movie of becca in her early 20s was you were the other woman no every guy that i would meet not every guy but like being in new york and dating like older guys they'd always be like i'm going through a separation that was never true never true never true you have to get it in writing from the woman you're separating from You need to have like a drink with her, talk it out, make sure it's done.

Men are dirty. They're, yeah. I love you so much. Okay. Okay. Our last question comes from Elsie. From the hills? I don't want to wait.

Wait, what's the song? The rest is still unwritten. Yes. I think you started singing the O.C. I did. I was confused where we were and like going at that moment. Okay. Elsie says, my boyfriend and I have been together for four years.

we both decided to go back to school this year i'm 22 and he's 26 and he quickly made friends with a small group of girls in his class i'd love for my boyfriend to be able to have fun to have a fun night out with his class without me tagging along and hating it or staying up all night worried is this normal how do i ease my mind and get rid of these jealous and anxious feelings am i traumatized over my past experiences did she say if they're going to the same school um she didn't know i would say yes you should be worried and go and hang out in that group that's different when you're that young yeah you can't help but flirt and get involved so she needs to like join that group of friends also being a previous predator i feel like if there was a cute

boy that i was like flirting with and getting to know and like blah blah blah if if he incorporated his girlfriend into the social activities and I became friends with her it was a sudden like automatic like would never happen between me and the guy but if this guy had this mystery girlfriend that we only ever heard about and she never showed up to hang out socially

I didn't create a relationship with her and I could ignore her when I was making out with him a lot easier yes that's so true you gotta be friends with the enemy I was a previous predator for sure I was too yeah but like you have to be manipulative and be a smart girl

lc and you become best friends with all these girls yeah no you'll be you'll be close to your enemies so then hopefully they're not a total terrible person totally and i will i just want to add in one caltheism which is like lc you have to trust your gut too like if you're not able to sleep and you really are feeling like something's going on something's going on yeah you know like something's going on your gut knows and if he's not inviting you to these things like which i don't know if you he is or he's not like if he's not inviting you that's a humongous red flag get out and also every once in a while like sneak up like he'll be like we're going to the bowling alley and just be like oh my god me and my girlfriend decided to come to i didn't know

you're wearing this bow now like just make sneak attacks but like why is he also hanging out with just a random group of girls or any other guys hanging out in this group like what just seems very strange yeah we don't like it i'll see the rest is still unwritten such a good on that note ali what have you been shopping lately on your blog i saw the boots oh my gosh i'm like my blog is suffering right now very well because like i'll just post what i wear to you know go grocery shopping or you know like very like good but really like if you see all these bloggers that's one thing that makes my blog different one my blog isn't as fancy and it's the outfits aren't like as cute and polished and put together but that's because

they're real outfits you know like this outfit i have on now here i'm gonna blog about this probably in a few days because it's just a real casual outfit that i wear so my blog doesn't look as nice as other bloggers because of that but it's real clothes that real girls want to wear and it's the holiday so are you doing like a gift guide or anything that we can go buy all our friends gifts i think so that's okay so check out ally loves but it's not loves as in ally loves her daughter molly it's ally loves l-u-v-s yes thank you and thank you for uh looking at it i'm like so brain dead right now that i like write my posts on a day-to-day basis so you're like are you doing a gift guide i'm like yeah i think so let me write that down

like i'll go home and write my blog tonight i'll just like i'll come up with something like from a photo i took at lunch a few days ago and write one for tomorrow like i just fly by the seat of my pants i love that and make sure that you follow ali at ali fedotowski on instagram and twitter and also if you want to get real tricky follow molly molly mano well quick question are you did you take your husband's last name i'm going to you are yeah not professionally not professionally yeah are did you legally are you going ali mano wanted to do it professionally so bad because i hate my last name because it's so hard to spell and nobody can say it i go on talk shows they're like ellie frederowski like nobody can say it and every like i like did a google analytics and

basically when for my website yeah one of the main terms people search that brings them to my website is my full name so my publicist was like you cannot yeah no do this and i'm like i can't it it just hurt so i am changing it legally but professionally i'm not which i'm so bummed about because i'm so sick of the fetish house gets so long and annoying but now you can call and make like reservations at restaurants and you can be like ali mano oh i already i have like a double personality it's like oh yeah i like that but i already do that when i sign up for things now i sign up ali mano already even though we're not married yeah it's easier you guys are very cute okay well congratulations on everyone's happiness and your new baby and thank you for coming back

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