LadyGang - Becca Tilley

Episode Date: January 28, 2020

It's a Keltie themed Good Week/Bad Week as we celebrate her birthday! Becca Tilley is also here to discuss all things Bachelor, how she got labeled as “the virgin," her friendship and work with Tanya Rad, and how Bachelor Nation affects the gram. Plus, the blue balls myth is debunked in Ask The LadyGang! Shout out to today's sponsors! Verishop – Go to verishop.com and use code LADYGANG for 15% off your first purchase.    Bioclarity – Go to bioclarity.com and use code LADY to get 15% off everything!  Daily Harvest – Go to dailyharvest.com and use code LADY to get $25 off your first box.  KiwiCo – Go to kiwico.com/lady to get your first month free.  Rothy’s – Go to rothys.com/lady to find your new favorite flats today.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Well, what is this? Welcome to the Lady Gang. That's amazing. Say that again. The Lady Gang. Things are about to change around here. Each week we catch up with Hollywood's hottest girl posse, Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek. Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to the Lady Gang.

I'm Becca Tobin here with Jack Vanek and Kelty Knight. Oh, you sounded so nice and smooth and radio voice. So dainty. Oh, wow. Should we start talking like this? I think it's because I'm nauseous because I ate so many gummy bears and grape leaves. You guys, I hate gummy bears. I hate the way they make me feel.

And then I eat them when they're in front of me, and then I feel sick. Same. Why is this? This is what happens with me with iced tea. It makes you sick. Like, it's 3 in the afternoon. I think I'll have an iced tea. But, like, when you drink iced tea on an empty stomach, it makes you feel gross.

Mm-hmm. So, it gives you the indigestion. All right. Becca? Is it time for it? Oh, sorry. I didn't know if you guys were done. Yeah.

Silence means we're done. I don't know. Okay, I'm ready. Okay, now it's time for. Good week. Yes, it is. Bad week. Oh, no.

I'm going first because mine's so good. Whoa. Bad week. Jack Vanek. I had. Oh, no. The most. I know you hate it when you talk about dreams.

In it. No. I had the most real, vivid dream that you came to me and Jerry came to me and you dumped Jerry because you moved to Australia to be with Liam Hemsworth. Oh, I would do that. It was so real that I woke up in the morning and was like, I got to text Jack. This is horrible. Oh, no.

I think she's making a big mistake. Oh, no. It was real. Jerry was so upset. he would be upset did i ever tell you about i had a dream i love diplo and i had a dream that diplo was trying to date me but he had jared's personality so then i dumped jared for diplo with jared's personality and then i told him about it in the morning i'm like i do it in real life sorry but wait was it diplo the dj yeah okay i love him i love his music i don't know if he like

really does it for me though like as a person well i love his doesn't he have like cornrows no no no he has like short hair does he have a goatee no he's hot and he has a great instagram persona but he would probably be the absolute worst person to date hold on i'm looking him up right now great instagram follow highly recommend oh yeah no this is exactly i'm thinking he's definitely worn cornrows before i don't think so yep googling really dip low corn yeah rose Tis Diplo. Yeah, he went, yes, this is him. Don't ever forget that that's Diplo.

That's not Diplo, that's Riff Raff. Oh, correct. Okay, never mind. Sorry, I was way off. I'm going to go back to texting while you guys argue about which DJ is dirtier. Okay, my good week. So, I can't remember who told me this, but as you know, I'm miles away from becoming an EGOT, which is when you win an Emmy, a Grammy, an Oscar, and a Tony.

I don't even think an EGOT you could qualify for the Emmy part because you don't have one for an individual performance. We've covered this. Actually, actually, no. John Legend used his producer Emmy on Jesus Christ Superstar to be an EGOT. So I could. But. No, don't fight me on this. He's a producer on it.

I'm still far away. Either way, she'll never be an e-got. Okay, rude. So I made up my own e-got. Oh, no. It's the Hapap. Hapap? I'm a Hapap.

Sounds like an STD. Host, producer, author, podcaster. If you do all four of those, you are also a Hapap. Good luck. Host, producer, author, podcaster. I feel like I could technically be those. I feel like everyone in America could be one of those and might be. does everyone have a podcast yes you can are you a published author anybody can self-publish a book

you know but they haven't i'm it's not whether you can it's did you but but anybody could somebody could start a podcast publish a book tomorrow couldn't go to broadway and be like hey can you please put me in a show yeah you can't ask to be put into a show you have to be cast in it so like it's way these are all the things that you could just do start yourself no no no no no no no i'm talking host like a national television show i'm not gonna make it the nat national hapap i'm just gonna make it a hapap host like a real red carpet live okay is that it rude are you gonna put hapap in your instagram bio yeah okay you're gonna love you're starting when this airs okay you're gonna love mine so i've decided my good week is that i've taken the reins of the lady gang podcast

and um since you don't get a quickie for your birthday as far as we know yeah we are gonna do a quick a birthday themed good week bad week for you my good week is that i get to take the reins and happy birthday to me happy birthday happy my bad week is this is that i had a great idea for your birthday present but you saw it because it was on my laptop and you were working on my laptop and there were like 10 desktop photos of Kelty that I pulled off the internet from Who Wore It Better, I was going to make a calendar. Every month would be a time she lost Who Wore It Better.

Wow, that is a great birthday present. However, here's what's really what I found out about Kelty when I did this. Every single time I Google imaged something, Kelty Knight Who Wore It Best, the only place I could find the photo was KeltyKnight.com. So I couldn't even find the original source of the photo. she took that shit and scanned it at Kinko's

from like the actual magazine it exists nowhere else but KeltyNight.com I have a question regarding that what's this new the new pic with you and Callie how'd you call that paparazzi oh yeah your paparazzi pic with Callie I don't know the paparazzi just showed up

at your house I was just walking her I was crazy your nice posed picture with Callie with full hair and makeup I didn't have any makeup on that's why Chris says that doesn't look like you I was like could've had no makeup on Do you want to stop eating on the podcast?

Sure. But it was my birthday. What else? What's your good week about me? My good week is that I could take the reins of this episode and make it a birthday good week, bad week, and the good week was that I found out that you are crazier than I even imagined. The only place these pictures exist are kelseynight.com.

Wait, but then you're also doing those pictures, and then what was the one of her and Ryan Ross? Okay, so I ran out of, there were only, like, nine. I know. And then I was like, shoot, I need to just do, like, embarrassing photos of her, so then i like googled like old kelty knight photos there's a plethora yes there was one that came up with her and ryan ross and it just was so special it was really i think that was during the era that he was wearing the rose vest oh yes it was a good era oh yeah you showed me this that

was the night we met at the vmas oh my god that fancy eye makeup well kind of hair extension was in your hair so many clip-in a clip-in okay a raccoon tail it was a it was full-blown like short blunt bob and it's like a long one long it's like a hair up i mean it's just like i would have cheated on me too you know yeah jack what's up um okay my good week there's this new series on wait it's supposed to be about me oh it's birthday centric for kelty oh so oh my god how did you miss this oh i thought that our good week was going to be like a collective good week of her birthday like a happy birthday kelty centric oh that's well let's do this what's your favorite thing about kelty she loves this game let's go around a circle and i'll say their

favorite thing about kelty okay well can i do uh a good week that's uh it's both it shouldn't be this hard what do you love about kelty well my bad week you're totally avoiding the question i've never seen jack so squeamish my bad week my me my bad week that i was going to do on a different episode that can involve both of you that's your guys's good week is both of you bitches are on wikifeet.com yeah for nice feet yeah and i am not you're on for mean feet i don't have a page oh that's better than being on for bad feet no both your guys's feet are great you have like we know it's better to not be on at all yeah as opposed to having busted feet well i have good feet if only people knew about them but they don't have good feet i don't know if you have

good feet and eight is not a good foot it's a six well i haven't gotten a pedicure in like a month so my my nails are not on point cool and since we're here what's your favorite thing about cal d yeah come on jack my success oh my god amen to that wow and uh who's coming up okay well becca tilly is here only asked her three times she finally is here i know finally hi i'm barbara aka your nursing educator on instagram i'm a registered nurse and i create content to help nursing students feel ready to take on anything and everything that comes with the job and trust me it's a lot here's one of my favorite and simplest pro tips upgrade your scrubs to fix figs are designed for us they are super soft lightweight and breathable with four-way stretch

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to fame while competing for love on two seasons of the bachelor and even though she did not receive the final rose that shit she made it much further than i did and is much too busy and successful to have time for love now between traveling the world working on clothing line collabs and creating content for her fashion and lifestyle blog she's always on the move not to mention she's a two-time people's choice award winner for her insanely popular podcast scrubbing in please welcome to the show third time's a charm becca tilly it has taken me a while to get here what the you're the hardest person to book yeah we've tried to get you on for i don't know since we started the podcast four years ago meanwhile tanya's here every week trying to get on yeah

i mean that sounds like tanya she like i think she secretly wants to be like the fourth lady she is she is so she's like settling for scrubbing in but i think she like ultimately her dream is a lady gang fourth member um what's it like to win that people's choice award take us well we need to talk about the fact that you won it when we were also nominated so we lost to you guys which And what's bullshit about that loss is that it was on E, the network that our TV show was on, and yet they still couldn't throw us a goddamn bone. They couldn't throw us a bone, which should have been a big red flag for us. Yeah.

Like, if they're not willing to fucking hijack their own award show for us. And listen, it was a big red flag. It was. We were like. Huge. Hilarious. But yeah, how does it feel? um if well i remember when we pulled up and we saw y'all there and i clicked i'm like they have

a tv show on eve that's nice that they invited us but all right we're like go ahead and give them the award so we genuinely were like yeah it was you were as shocked as we were that this shit wasn't rigged yeah we're like wow he is so honest and genuine the thing is is that it is rigged all those shows are rigged which is even worse yeah so i apologize for that it was hard to be at the same table it's hard to look you in the eye after that it felt slightly uncomfortable no we didn't know we found out later we left and we saw one of the eps of our show and we're like we didn't even find out at the show we were like oh who won and she's like and like ran away yeah did you get like a trophy yeah yeah well so tanya got the trophy they only give you one yeah you can buy

I'm more, but they gave you one. They gave us one. And then I got this year's. Must be nice. Wow, guys. We both got one. I don't have an award. So y'all maybe would have had to buy three or two extras.

So it probably worked out. Well, what's really cool is that. Kelty would have taken it. No. Well, I already talked about this, but before you got here, we're doing our Good Week, Bad Week, and I've made up a new, like, you know who there's the EGOT? Yeah. Like, Emmy.

Yeah, yeah. So there's a new one called HAPAP, which is. So she's made up herself. host producer author podcaster so you've got a podcast award now so you are on your way to being a hapap what do you have i have an emmy so she has the i have the host oh okay okay yeah i need a producer award and i need an author new york times bestseller list are you technically a producer on this yes okay but she doesn't want to admit that because then we could also be producers and we'd be on our way to have the hapap you're not gonna get a hapap how do you know i could

It sounds like a pap smear, and I don't want it. Anyway. Everyone wants to be a pap like us. Yeah. Well, I think that sounds better than the EGOT, whatever that is. Yeah. But I feel confident that I'm on my way. What else do I have to do?

Write a book. New York Times bestseller. Okay. A production award, like an Emmy, a Golden Globe, or something. And then an Emmy. That one sounds tough for me. That's the only one. The book I could maybe, Bachelor Nation might step up.

Misstep up. That's right. Yeah. Have to be a good one. Yeah. Who were your bachelors? Ben. Chris Soules and Ben Higgins.

What are your thoughts on them? God. Okay. I liked Ben, but Ben's both of them. Ben's, like, she's so far out of Ben's league. Oh, my God. No, I'm not even like. Who did Ben end up with?

He's with some random girl in Nashville. He ended up with Lauren Bushnell, but. She married Chris Lane. Right. See, even she had to ace his ass. He has a girlfriend now. Sure. It's not Becca Tilly.

You know what I mean? It's not this level. It's not People's Choice award-winning level. That is true. Two-time People's Choice. She's not on her way to win a... She's not a hip-hop encore. Are you, like, far enough outside of Bachelor land to, like, not have a contract so you can, like, say whatever you want about it?

Oh, yeah. Oh, okay. I'm, like, far... People, you know, people come up to me and say something about the podcast, finally, it's not Bachelor, and I'm like, wow. That's so nice. But it's one of those things, I would never have the podcast without The Bachelor, so I... I am happy to talk about it whenever it wants to be talked about, but I do feel like as the seasons go by, it's like you distance a little bit more and more.

Yeah, it's like me too. It's like no one cares about me on my season anymore, probably because they never did. Brad Womack, I was on the air for one day, so it was rough. Was it a good day, though? No. Not really. I hated the whole thing. It was a bad day.

Becca, if you ever need a laugh, Google Kelsey's elimination speech. It is the most wild thing I've ever watched in my entire life. and so kelty she says like four things that i'm like this is insane wait and so you it's crazy you were you went home one night one i went i made it past the first i made it past the first rose ceremony okay so night one cocktail hour rose ceremony and then kicked off at the next one but it all happened in 24 hours right it goes quick yeah it goes so quick so no dates for you i went on the date during the day the group date you did go on a group date yeah and i've told you this before my group date was the stupid ones they do at the beginning where everyone has to

be a character like we're gonna film a soap opera ours was like the we're reading we're making red cross commercials and so like emily maynard was gonna be sexy french maid that had to kiss him my character not pc by the way was butch woman with two broken arms no bush woman butch i'm pulling up a picture term butch that it said butch woman two broken arms if you watch like episodes are not okay oh no even friends if you go oh friends you're like it's so not pc i kind of miss it honestly yeah kind of miss some of the i mean some of it's like oh wow but some of it you're like man some of it would have some more freedom the shit that they used to allow on tv is cray cray anyway i need to talk to you about something you posted on instagram recently yes

i love this you did it as a story oh oh yeah as a post and i'm gonna read it because i think everyone needs to hear this and i am not a proponent of like cheesy quotes this wasn't cheesy though but that's it was like or inspirational or whatever i'm always kind of like yeah go yourself you don't really feel that way this is very poignant and important becca says i had a moment the other day that really changed my perspective on how i view my physical appearance i was thinking no one has ever impacted me by being beautiful or having a perfect body. It might get my initial attention or even be inspiring, but it's never been the reason I remember them. I'm impacted by people for their kindness, their loyalty, their patience,

their generosity, their vulnerability, et cetera. I've never said she changed my life because she was pretty and skinny. I may have. No, we spend so much time worrying about the thing that means the least to people. Well, and the question somebody had asked, it was like during an ask me anything or whatever and it was what was it like something like how do you deal with insecurity yeah like self-confidence insecurity yeah that's one of the most poignant things i've ever read like involving self-worth and like body image and all that stuff it actually was like the first time that i had ever it was like a light bulb me too that i was like oh my god it's so crazy the things that we beat ourselves up about and we kill ourselves over no one cares i mean sitting when

when I had the thought I was literally sitting in the bathtub and I was like grabbing onto my like stomach roll and like literally it just hit me I was like no one when I see people at an event they're not like oh Becca looks pale or Becca needs her Botox done or Becca looks like she's gained weight like no one's ever thought that but they might be like oh Becca was really nice to me when no one else was talking to me yeah or Becca complimented me on something that I didn't even notice about myself. And it's like, those are the things that I remember about people. And of course I had like guys being like, Oh, I remember a hot girl. And I'm like, this isn't geared towards you. Not the audience. Yeah. But it was really cool. The response, just like when I put it on

my story, people wrote me and it was the same moment that I had when I had the thought myself was like this light bulb where I was like, Oh my gosh, we literally are so hard on ourselves about things that no one else cares about. And like, like I said, you might look at someone and be like oh my god they have the best arms or i want i want my arms to look like that but it's more of a aspirational thing it's not that deep right and it's like also those thoughts are kind of um they just kind of fly through your head anyways it's not like you're like you said it's like they're not going to change your life in any way at all so it is a very fleeting kind of a thing that we end up beating ourselves up about so much but that was such a wonderful post i love man like

it's one of the best things that i've literally ever read about that same so that was very impactful i'm sure like a lot of people on that note i want to ask you this do you ever want to demotivate tanya that's like asking us yeah yeah like do you ever want to be like you know what i'm ready to go back to tanya 1.0 like i need you to stop 3.0 she's on 3.0 like i need you to stop making egg breakfasts and doing your runs like are you ever like can we just hate things for a minute well i always laugh because she'll like put something on her she'll talk about doing something and i'm like i know what you're gonna do because i know what your story is every single day i know your schedule i know you're gonna post a video of you running with the song

yeah tanya time and then she's gonna be singing along to the song afterwards skipping and then she's gonna post her egg pods going into the oven and then she's gonna post like a lyric like yeah moment you know so I don't I never have to wonder what she's up to or if her schedules change because it's not consistent I am so not like Tanya so my thought process is like I wish I had a little bit of that so because we couldn't be more opposite like she wants to run a half marathon together and I'm like you don't know I feel like you're not my best friend because you know that I won't do that I'm like I resonate with you that's you're you're my person I love Tanya but nothing about her it's like is like what I how I act yeah I think it's just and I

I'm I try to be positive like if I have a moment where I'm feeling like bummed or whatever I try to get into that grateful mindset but sometimes I just don't get there yeah yeah tanya gets there yeah like i feel like tanya gets there every time yeah she's very triggering for people because it's usually because you want to be able to do that like yeah i look at her and i'm like i sometimes can't see her stories because i'm such a lazy piece of shit or hateful spiteful negative whatever and i'm like it just reminds me sometimes of how i'm not even close and so it makes me feel worse so i need to see and and what's crazy is that her reality it's it's that is real that's not her highlight reel that's her life yeah and so i'm like damn it i know that

she's actually this happy but that's why i also that's why i love tanya because it's real usually people like that are full of shit she's so genuine well because it is and they're trying to like yeah and they're trying to overcompensate for being in an asshole or dark or whatever but that's why i love tanya so much is like it's so just it's so authentically her that i love it i wish i mean i wish y'all could see the text when she's talking to a guy and needs like help responding she doesn't know what to say it is hilarious i'm like just say hi i mean it's so basic like it's not even something that you should have to think about but she's just so funny that way like she's genuinely just like herself and i think her fear is that she's too

much for someone else for a guy you know not for the right person though that's what i was saying i'm like that person's gonna celebrate that yeah absolutely does your husband celebrate you and you're like i'm not even close to 4.0 i mean i'm working on kelty 4.0 which is equal to tanya 1.0 oh wow but he does celebrate that but i'm i'm also fake i'm a nasty bitch but she yeah kelty's not like um like i'm not going on a run yeah i'm not making an egg pod i'll tell you that much but you have your own snickers yeah i am annoying yes that's something we do have in common does tanya stress you out because she's so different from me like like what becca said or does she is it just a lot um tanya stresses me out because she gets it done and people like her

I can only pick one of those two I can get it done Or people can like me But those don't They don't happen succinctly together You got the interview with Jennifer Aniston And it seemed like she liked you But then I asked her Dick Wad Mood

That's not the same Tanya's like I mean I asked her She asked Jennifer Aniston About Brad Rightfully so She also asked about The Bachelor Which I saw that little clip

Yeah, she likes The Bachelor. But anyway, you know. I need to talk to you about your obsession with Grey's Anatomy, too. Is it over? You guys. I'm having a hard time with it. Well, it's upsetting because. Is it still on TV?

Oh, my God. It was. Oh, my God. It's so crazy. No, it is. It's still on. I thought it's done. It's still going?

This season's the last season. How many seasons? 50? 16. Like Doctor Who. But the music is so good. The music's great. Do you still watch it?

No, I never. watched it okay i did but i it ruined it for me when i found out what a dick mcdreamy was in real life he was so nice to me met him and said he was amazing i think at work people have work but tanya probably also thinks everybody's amazing tanya brings out the best in most people too you're right you cannot be mean to tanya it's like kicking a puppy also chris harrison like introduced her oh yeah it felt like more of a legit famous person a famous person yeah he was nice to me when i worked with him but i was a backup dancer in his movie okay well i asked for a picture and he said yes which you wouldn't do with 200 extras you know what i mean oh yeah right

he he was bad he was i've heard horror stories allegedly that like didn't he divorce his wife and then marry her again or something they separated i don't know if the whole divorce he i think got kicked off because bad attitude allegedly and as an actor i just i have to believe that where there's smoke there's fire because everyone i've worked with where there's smoke there's been a huge raging fire like that everyone's trying to cover up but they did it was a dirty ending what they did they killed him right oh yeah they did nasty how did he die i have never i was sobbing on the speaking i have another topic after this i was sobbing i was visiting my parents back home and i knew it was coming i just wasn't sure i was it was gonna happen and the way it

happened my mom looked down at me I think on the couch and goes are you okay are you sobbing and I was sobbing and I was like it feels like my first boyfriend died oh my god how'd he die he got in a car wreck and so he lived he got in a car wreck after he like saved other people's lives of course obviously he gets hit leaving the scene and then you hear his thoughts about what they should be doing like get me a ct scan and they take him to like a random hospital and they don't know what to do and that's why he dies and you're damn oh it was and i'm telling you i was like something happened because they did him dirty but he was like so anyways they didn't get along allegedly yeah allegedly no but they used they felt like they did at one point they probably

did the beginning look at her little you're like look at me and this is so anti-tanya just shitting on people's dreams i know yeah we cannot let tanya well she can't know no she can never now i do want to ask you um mostly because we finally got you here um what is your secret to motivating your fan base like you guys beat the lady gang fine but like we have a pretty great gang that you know and like then now it's not a fluke you won twice in a for people's choice and you guys have like crazy fans so what's your secret to getting them to do what you tell them to do i mean we pay them i wouldn't be the first one no what well i'll tell you later person who got paid oh you know i'll tell you later what do you pay like a dollar what do you pay

to motivate somebody was paying their followers to engage on their instagram oh not like a direct payment but like doing like cash giveaways oh well yeah i mean one time chris had a band playing the today show like in that today show square and he paid people 25 a piece to go show up with a sign that's smart that is smart that's smart yeah but i i just had this thought the other day i don't mind the giveaways because like i have i know y'all probably all get so much stuff sent to you and i just need it gone but i kind of decided i'm gonna stop doing the like go like my pic and follow yeah for to enter the giveaway because it just feels right weird if i'm giving it away it should just be because i want to give it away exactly right i think that's nice why when

are the likes going to go away i know what happened to that we're still there too but some people but some people say that they that they can't see the likes really still see the likes yeah i can still see the like yeah i know a few people who don't see it i'm like what a peaceful time to i know that sounds nice why do they roll out this shit in waves well i haven't seen a second wave get it it was like the first wave got it and then that was it i thought it was just canada weird blame canada i have a question regarding that because the bachelor our nation's getting crazy right and people are now going on the show thinking that they can you know be becca tilly basically but it's interesting kind of seeing some people from kind of around

your time that were popular for a while and now it's starting to dwindle and then people think that they're gonna live off of instagrams for instagram ads forever and some people just stop caring about some of the other people so what do you think is the difference between yeah why do still care about you not even just you but like some people like give a shit about some of the people and then some people are just like i know the answer because she's actually interesting most people that go on that show are not interesting people it's weird because ben season was right after that was the first time that instagram was having like a moment for anyone coming off the show so when we were filming i had no like no one talked about it no one talked about like what would

be after that how many instagram followers it was just once it was over it was like oh i have all these new people following me and right cool like that was it yeah and then once my ex Robert he has an agency and they they do like brand deals and so he was like if you want to make this a you know career you can do it and so I I was like maybe I have one year to live in LA off my Instagram earnings right and then I guess I'll move back to San Diego so I had no idea but now I do feel like which it would be hard not to go on there and see the potential of what could come like it would be impossible i'm so grateful that i went on when it was not that my thought was like oh i can travel places and of course on chris's season i was in the midwest the whole time because he was a farmer

so we didn't travel anywhere you're like ohio yeah literally it was like south dakota which it was gorgeous but like i think you see it now and it's hard it's not so much about the love story anymore oh yeah people are just looking for an opportunity yeah i have a question what would what was your trajectory like what were you going to be doing before like for work before the bachelor you were so young right well I mean I was I was 26 but I worked for a chiropractor in San Diego I was like very content in my life I always say like I other than like just having better opportunities and more money to do stuff I am internally just as happy both then as I am now you know but um yeah I was just work I went back to work after both seasons finally after the second

season it was kind of like i'm a little bit antsy because everyone wanted to talk about the bachelor and it was like okay it's time to move on and there's another opportunity out there but my intention was never that i would be doing like this kind of stuff right so it's cool that i mean i still have that moment of being like uh it could go away at any second but but you're doing so much more things than just like oh i hope i get this next fabfitfun box deal which is did i did um um what flat tummy tea that one was in the beginning destroyed for that yeah yeah we had a diet product on our podcast and people were early on and we were like never again they quickly said we thought you were a role model and i thought wow i have a lot of pressure on me right now

it's weird though like you go on a show like that and my storyline ended up being that i was a virgin on the show because someone was crying about that they had actually i was crying on the couch saying i she was crying and i was like what happened and she goes i just told him i'm a virgin and i don't know how he really took it and without even thinking because i had intentionally not said anything because i knew it'd be my storyline but i was like oh i'm a virgin too and then like as i said i was like no and they instantly were like becca come itm confessional confessional so literally there was they wanted they were like say i'm a virgin so they use that clip for so many different like pieces did you have so much empathy for or sympathy for colton yeah but going i mean

you saw what um sean low his whole seat he was like the born again virgin and then when colton went on it's like you just kind of that's why i didn't say anything you know you kind of well they'll pick yeah they'll pick whatever and i felt like they made and i i mean i was proud of it i didn't i wasn't that i cared i just didn't i i knew it would be all about that it did end up being that and I felt like I was then my character line was kind of this like quiet meek virgin like that was my storyline so it was fascinating that once I said I don't know what what my story like character would have been had I not a real bitch was your family okay with it like when that became your calling her I mean yeah who doesn't want to hear that their little girl still

yeah i mean my you know i'm from like the south i'm from like a conservative christian family so they were obviously they were fine with that and like i said it was something i was proud of i didn't feel any shame in it i just was like i didn't want to be typecast as that girl right yeah absolutely but it was it wasn't a bad thing i don't think it i don't think it did me any harm but then you know you're not a virgin anymore and you're like am i supposed to announce like do Do I need to let y'all know? Do I need to do a... There's a press release coming.

Should I do an Instagram post about it? Yeah. You know, it's like a weird when they have a version of you that they know. Yeah. All right. When we come back, Becca's going to fix your life the way she fixed hers to be here finally with us. Fixed her schedule.

She fixed her skidge. You're listening to The Lady Gang. All right. So this part of the podcast, we have our listeners write in questions, give them advice. Dear Abby style. Love that. All right. First question comes from anonymous.

Anonymous says, Hey lady gang, although my boyfriend and I have great sex, a lot of the times I end up with sex hair that takes hours to brush and wash out my hair. That's really, my hair knots really easily. And while I like that he runs his hands through my hair when we have sex, I always have to deal with the inevitable rat's nest that follows. any tips on how to minimize the effort to taming my insane and irritating post sex do i know your foreplay is he gives you a french braid oh my god if a man knows how to give a french braid i'm worried

chris pratt french braids of course he does pratt yeah how do you know that he french braided on a ferris's hair on instagram once oh many years ago we've seen that hopefully maybe a dad that had a daughter could french braid i mean girl why are you not putting a top knot in a braid put it in a ponytail i feel like if this is your worst problem then like your life is pretty tight i'm like throwing up in a bun i'm confused shave it shave it all shave it off yeah i don't like shower cap sexer gives you like a little bit of volume i would just embrace it and just brush the top of it down you need a silk pillowcase and also maybe you're on the bottom too much hop on they're on top girl shower cap would probably end the whole sex thing all together you'd be

surprised becca you would be surprised what you can get away with many years into a relationship yeah that is a great answer just go on top or doggy or something there's only is he like running his hand is he like just he's not like get him a tangle teaser and be like if you're gonna touch it tangle tease give him like a doll no not at all okay i'm gonna go to the next question okay lily rose i hope you are okay with our saying your name i'm a 20 year old student currently in exchange in wales and i met the most wonderful guy on my first night here hot yes i ended up taking his virginity yes you did and we had a casual thing for a few months then last week he asked if we wanted to make things official and start dating which i was so excited about and

agreed though we both know i'm going to be home in a month we've agreed to stay positive while we still have time together but do you guys have any advice on how to end this i feel like i'm going to be heartbroken but would love some advice on easing this level because she knows she's going to leave and they're going to have to inevitably inevitably break up but couldn't they could they do long distance that would be horrible horrible idea international long distance is brutal like not even just being a part and how the travel time but the time change you know what it's like though it's like when you make a new friend and you're like you have this bonding experience like like for instance when i went to becca's wedding right like i met all of her home friends and we

were like thick as thieves for the whole weekend right like drinking taking shots like samantha you need a shot girl i got you like we were buddies and we like exchanged numbers and it's like we'll always be this way we'll always be best friends we were so tight and then like i don't remember this ever happened you text you text for a while and then it just fades off from my wedding that was just an example i didn't make any friends at your wedding i was gonna say i don't remember this happening at all over time you're just the texts are few or far between just like let it die off slowly it's kind of what happens like literally on the bachelor yeah you like you're like we're best all 25 of us are we're gonna stay yeah we went through this thing we're gonna stay in touch

forever and then all of a sudden you're like yeah it's a year later and you're like i got one girl and like every once in a while i see someone else instagram like me i'm like oh cool she's still there yeah like oh she's back in the dental office did you make any friends on the bachelor i did you did i stayed friends with emily maynard for a few years and i still follow ashley spivey was on my season and she's a book club and i follow her book club oh there you go there you go friends for but i mean not friends where i'm like she's not going to girls trip to mexico you know what i mean it's like ish friends but can we do you're saying you're going to mexico i do want to go to mexico she should after we freeze like she should just let it die slowly break up just leave and

it's eventually gonna die exactly yeah it's but you have to know that it's gonna end it's like an umbilical cord you know you can't keep it forever but just like have it dry out okay next question that is sick that was great wisdom but is it great wisdom oh and i had the visual i literally had a visual of an umbilical corded space just like i didn't say anything about space that's what came to my mind okay last question is anonymous i had a date with a guy who ended up coming back to my apartment hot we had sex and for full disclosure he had the biggest package i've ever seen slash been with it was a great first time but 30 minutes later when we went for round two i was too uncomfortable to continue because he didn't finish he refused to look or

talk to me as i tried to cuddle excuse me yes i was being kind of annoying about it and bugging him but i honestly didn't put it together that i blue balled him and he was pissed off yikes the next morning he texting me texted me jokingly that we probably won't have sex again because he doesn't want a repeat at least i think he's joking i've never had a guy be this upset over being blue balled is this normal or should i ditch him completely i have something to say i can settle this right away because i just had a conversation with zach guess what ladies blue ball is a myth they don't get into pain when they don't ejaculate no it just goes away no it doesn't not dirt bag dude of course it goes away but they have what about like a morning wood they're not

gonna they're not gonna jack off every time they have a boner every morning blue balls is an international thievery of our emotions he's just like it's just frustrating because he's just like how it would be for us yeah but then you don't it's like you get horny and a boner and then it goes down and then you're fine her reason for not finishing is that it was uncomfortable because his penis was too big because they just had sex 30 minutes before you're welcome fucking asshole but also that guy yeah that guy forever making you feel bad for making him stop hurting you and your vagina well and blue balls is bullshit this guy's a piece of shit and that i hope he gets hit by a car well that is he's manipulative and he'll gaslight you and make you feel like

shit like that is a big sign you should be like yeah we're never having sex again yeah you're absolutely correct big you should say dick i had sex with you one and a half too many times Just have a nice life. Yeah. Take your big dick and shove it up your ass. Go fuck yourself. Ew. With your big dick.

And then text me his number. I want to fucking destroy him. Like sexually? No. She's so small. She can't do it. Don't nominate little Vege Becca. She's a 20.

No, I want to ruin his- She's a Polly Pocket of vaginas. I want to ruin his life. Ladies, if a man ever tells you that it hurts because he can't get off and you got a boner, it's a lie. When my vagina starts chafing. and I can't have any more sex with Chris Knight, I just stand up, and he can drop it off for the next two hours

until he gets there. Yeah, that's not my problem. Bye. I'm going to make muffins. Muffins? You just get up and walk away? Yeah. I'm like, oop, enough for me. I'm out.

I mean, he has a hand. You can lay in bed and lube up that hand of yours. It's so easy to take care of yourself. You can perv me in the shower, like, whatever. But I am now finished. The sexual moment. Yes. I hate him.

On that note. Not Chris Knight. No, no. This guy. That guy. Okay. On that note, we love Becca Tilly. You can follow her if you want to follow her 1.1 or 1.14.

I don't remember. Instagram followers that clearly love her. Way more than us. Way more. Way more. Well, not that much more than me. It's still like twice as much as you. Not even close.

Okay, let's not do this. Let's not do this. I don't know how many followers you have. She has 800,000. No, I'm almost 900,000. Oh, wow. Really? Bitches.

Okay. I want to have a hundred. Mine don't grow. I'm going to have a million effing parties. Mine haven't grown since The Bachelor, so it's all exciting. Okay. Mine just slowly dwindle. Because of Kelty.

They're like, oh, shit, she's friends with that girl on Vol. It's true. Okay, but you can follow Becca Tilly, at Becca Tilly. There's no more Macy's, like, left, right? You sold that shit out? You sold that shit out. No, it's there. It's still there.

It's available. Okay, go get their Macy's line. It's so cute. There's a really cute suit. and listen to Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tana Rad on iHeart Podcasts. When does that come out? Wednesdays?

Mondays, normally. Today, we did one for the holiday yesterday, but it came out today. Okay, great. We love you so much. Congratulations on being better than us, and we will see you next Tuesday. Thanks for listening,

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