LadyGang - Chris Medina

Episode Date: September 11, 2017

Renowned Psychic Chris Medina joins the Lady Gang Your Life line up to bring talk about how he found his gifts...and gives some spooky readings about the future! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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Things are about to change around here. Each week, we catch up with Hollywood's hottest girl posse, Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek. Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to The Lady Gang. I am Becca Tobin, actress and blogger and podcaster. Across from me is Kelty Knight, entertainment journalist. She's on every red carpet looking super chic. And to my right is Jack Vanek.

She creates chic clothing. So chic. Oh, the chicest. Jack Vanek clothing and home goods and so many things. Oh my gosh, home goods. That sounds so nice. Home goods. I think that's trademarked.

Correct me if I'm wrong. okay so my question this week is what is your favorite like place you shop when you want to get like a steal speaking of home goods a steal like is it a forever 21 is it a tj maxx home goods that's mine mine's a mine's a poshmark oh yeah definitely i love a poshmark oh yeah it's great you know when i found it to be real real the most helpful poshmark for theme parties oh i was just gonna say for costumes i get all my costume stuff it's so good because you can find literally anything for like eight dollars yeah okay um and now it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no healthy would you like to start yes i would like to start uh bad week so i was married on

august 17th 817 and chris and i have always held this number really near and dear to our hearts we've like a travel journal and it says like 817 and we we like say it to each other we use this code a lot adorable it's the code for murder wait when police get a call and someone has been murdered they're like we have an 817 that's amazing i wonder if there's one for me mine's a one two three wait you want december 3rd oh uh 12 3 okay well we'll check it out 12 3 12 3 there we go 12 oh wow that's bummer i know that's actually amazing so romantic murder murder um okay good week so i was in a little bit of a scuffle um with another woman and i wasn't my best self i don't think this person was their best self either and my makeup artist gave me

some advice that she said came maybe from aa but she i thought it was someone the best has some great no like really great so she goes kelty the only thing you can do is clean up your side of the street wait i literally i have a friend who uses this all the time and i love it yeah and so was so smart because i thought you know what you're right i can't change that person's mind about me and i can't really fix anything that's happened but i can go and be like hey i'm sorry i was a dick here and here and here and moving forward i would like us to be cool and i can just like clean up my mess and feel better about it and that's like it you know so from now on whenever there's like dirt in our lives we just should focus on cleaning up our side of the street that

is an aa thing by the way it is right i love it sounds very a i like it i feel like i need to go to a just for like life for yeah yeah sort of like a therapist jack um so since you guys wouldn't let me add a word of the week my good week is a new word okay sadsturbation when you're sad and you masturbate masturbating while sad i've done that sadsturbation i've done it before like the sadsturbation my girlfriend broke up with me so i'm left to sadsturbate it's amazing okay i love it um great okay my my bad week it was weird um so i was having a sunday fun day as i do um you love sunday pretty much every weekend and i was drinking at this bar called venezuela house by the beach quite tipsy and i see a really hot older man walk in the door old in his 40s

but he's holding like a baby and i and he goes to walk by me and i'm like oh my god your baby is so cute and he's like oh you want to hold her gives me his random freaking baby and then leaves and just goes to the bar and leaves me with his baby no i'm like you're so lucky i'm not insane what yeah his baby look me with the baby wait this is weird we should report this it was really really did he just stay there for a long time how were you holding how long were you holding the baby for like a good 15 minutes well he like went to the bar to get a drink who brings a baby to a bar i don't know and it's a very loud bar too like gets rowdy as hell i'm not into it was really weird so um if you're listening random man that i never got your name you're lucky i'm not a

psychopath and didn't run off with your baby you were bombed holding infants i know sounds like this isn't my fault all right well my bad week is that i went out of town and zach texted me a picture of a dead rat outside of our kitchen door oh wait you were out of town yeah and he woke up in the morning a big black fat rat like was it like eaten like no this is the creepiest part i would have preferred if it had been attacked because we have like raccoons and like all those kinds of things like in the canyon but like it was it looked like it had just died of old age next to our kitchen door it was old i don't know or poisoned i don't even know but like now i just like i know that rats are around but like i don't want to see that i don't want

to see it also when yeah that you don't know how to die it's disgusting that's weird um here's my good week um i you know i have like i go through phases where i watch shows every night before i go to bed and i just got through i got through parenthood a couple months ago like you do like the whole like all the shows with many many seasons and i have been doing the office with zach amazing good one and i have to say that i watched it in the beginning but i now watching it i appreciate it so much but also the fact that every single night i have something to look forward to because it's like every night you get in bed and you turn on the office and i think i might be a little in love with john krasinski oh my god everyone is a dream i didn't get it

I didn't get it in the beginning. It's because it's his personality. It's totally his personality. But it's weird. It's weird. Yeah, he's such a dream. Because he's not, like, really classically handsome or anything. But he kind of is.

I'm not. He's kind of dorky. Dark, dorky, hot. He's a dorky hot, yeah. All right. Who's coming up, Kelty? You guys, we have a psychic here. This is the newest episode in our Lady Gang Your Life series.

And we're going to find out if our past lives or future lives are great. Okay, what's going on? Now, here's the Lady Gang. So excited. Okay, welcome back, everyone, to our Lady Gang Your Life series. Our guest today was blessed with second sight. Now, he states he generally wishes to assist those who really appreciate honest guidance for their own personal journey, whether it is closure from a loved one or other emotional situation,

an alert to a personal or family member's illness, or just general direction when making new choices or lifestyle changes. I love that. sometimes people call this being a clairvoyant or a psychic. We don't love that because it's kind of negative even though I think it's positive. So we're going to put him to the Lady Gang test

to have him read us and then someone from our staff that he wouldn't have been able to Google. Perfect. Welcome to the Lady Gang, Chris Medina. You're so cute in real life. And he brought us flowers and I think booze.

Open it up. Okay, let's see what it is. This is very classy, you guys. Yeah. Take a Lady Gain Your Life lesson out of this. Yeah. Your first gift to ever. Oh, my goodness.

And it's fancy. It comes in its little holder and everything. Oh, shit. This is amazing. It's wearing like a windbreaker. Okay. I'm getting a feeling that we're very happy. Yes.

Yes, yes. And since it's gold, I mean. It's amazing. It's bringing you guys better vibes and, you know. Oh, my gosh. Hello. when did you know that you were like seeing feeling things that normal people don't oh my god ever since i can remember really yeah ever since i was a little kid what were you seeing

as a little kid ghosts really in being able to read people it started off with being able to read people more um i tell the story all the time my dad is a biker i grew up in palmdale um as a little kid and uh he would have he would do what bikers do invite his friends over and get stoned and him and his friends would be in a room um smoking out having you know having the time in their lives my dad would uh ask me what i thought because he picked up on that i was psychic by observing me in the car next to other people that were driving alongside of us and he'd be like what do you what why are you looking at them oh and i would tell him i'm getting this this matter this person's sad because blah blah blah so he would test me on that and when his

friends would come over they'd get stoned and he would um have me read them so yeah interesting beginnings the only real exposure we've had to this is like tyler henry of has he's a clairvoyant he has a show on e and he like writes down and he says that he feels things like he'll feel cold or he'll feel pain in his chest is that how it comes through for you do you see or do you feel or hear or like i see feel in here really like yeah like if a woman's pregnant um i read a couple of celebrities that were pregnant that didn't tell me i went in there they specifically did not tell me they were pregnant and they were like can i get you anything you know water anything i'm about water and some crackers and they're like why and i'm like because i feel a little

nauseous i'm like are you pregnant oh interesting and they were over there like they were pregnant they were like yes you wouldn't be able to tell yeah i'll pick up on pregnancy or if somebody has like a stomach issue like um there was a woman that i read that had crohn's disease and i kept burping and having like all this like weird attack on the phone and i was like she's like are you okay and i was like i feel like i want to throw up i'm sorry and she's like well what's wrong i said do you have like some sort of issue like crohn's disease or some kind of stomach issue that that's kind of making you nauseous or you feel like you want to throw up all the time and she said yeah she suffers from crohn's disease whoa that's crazy yeah so it's

physical and physical smell um see hear all the above does it ever freak you out yeah it does especially at night i can't turn it off like when people tell me oh you know i can just turn it out or i tune it off or i or i surround myself with this positive light and you know just wish it away i can't do that shit like in the middle of the night you're like feeling people from the house next year or something i'll be lucky if i sleep three or four hours a night i'm up the whole night yeah what what does a ghost look like to you like when you see a ghost like tell like we just see it in the movies and it's like either it's patrick swayze or it's like casper so like what is what do you see um i rarely see the actual physical form of the ghost what i'll see is what

they look like when they were alive or what they look like right now like i read um some lady invited me to her home she wanted me to give her a house reading she's like can you read my house i'm having all these issues here and i said yeah i'll go in there i said but i need you to stay outside and i'm going to bring my friend in so i can have her take notes on what's going on here because i don't know i don't know the house i wanted to be authentic and we went through we searched the whole house and did everything and i found out there was a the person that lived there had an eating disorder and then there was a guy that built the fireplace there that was real happy and i could see him standing there stoking the fire even when it was hot and then we went into

her room and i walked in and i closed my eyes and i looked and in i know it sounds hokey but like in my mind's eye i saw a room crowded filled with filled with spirits but they were lights and then one one ghost or if you want to call it ghost spirit entity whatever in front of me it was an old lady and um you guys are gonna get grossed out she uh i can smell urine and shit on top of whatever the lady saged the house with that day and perfume so the room is spinning and this lady sitting there she's looking at me and she and i made contact with her and i was like do you her mind was off i was like she looks like she has alzheimer's or dementia and so um i got out of there i literally almost threw up in that room i went outside and the lady's like are you okay i

said no i said what the are you doing in there and she's like what do you mean and i was like my guy my guys whatever i usually call them they were like she's she's wishing for them to come she's putting out there saying any any spirits or or people that haven't crossed over are welcome here this is a safe haven come here i said are you saying that and she's like yeah i just want to be in tune with whatever's around i said stop saying that i said that room is crowded you're not letting you're not letting them go i said who's the old lady with like dementia and goes she she goes she's embarrassed because she she knows that she's gone to the bathroom on herself and she's just looking at me and she and she's the woman started crying it was her great-grandmother

okay most incredible reading of your life like when did something happen and you were able to read someone and like drastically change their life i i can't pick one i'm always doing that really yeah that that's what i want to do i want to change i have people uh i give readings like almost on a daily basis helping people change lives empowering them i just got a uh an email the other day with this woman saying that she moved and she moved from where she was at to la to pursue that she what she wanted to do so yeah i mean i can't yeah that's hard okay here's the thing i think this is real in person like when you're sitting next to me i'm like oh there's some like deepness in his eyes but like over the phone it seems like how could this possibly work

over the phone yeah how do you connect with somebody over the phone if i can't if i'm struggling with something like if i see something and i'm kind of like conflicted with what's going on i'll ask them to send a picture but the majority of the time i don't need it really i And just pick up their vibes. And that's what separates me from everybody else. Because they're like, well, he's reading them. He's reading their emotions. Or he's reading their body language and how they're reacting to what you're asking.

I can't see you over the phone. That is true. It's more impressive. Yeah, it's more powerful. Yeah. Okay. What is like the meanest thing? Do you have haters?

Because people don't believe it. Like some people don't. I have haters. I have people that think that I'm above everybody else that's doing this. Oh. Like in the community? Like in the community. is the community like is it like fight club a little bit there's a yeah interesting what about

like get together and have like gatherings they'll have like yeah they'll have those little parties whatever and i'm not you know it's not for you no what about the houses when you're driving by and you see some like weird house but it also has like a neon sign that says psychic is there psychic there in that you don't know when they're like i can tell you more for two hundred dollars and then i'll burn a nine foot candle to take all the entities and spirits out of your life I don't want to talk shit, but, you know. Yeah. It's shit.

Okay. All right. So we're going to start with Jack. This is Jack Vanek. Hi. And she's wonderful. And what do we need to do to prepare for our readings? Like, what do you...

Okay, you just take it away. Take it away, Chris. So the very first thing that I ask people is, before you answer this, I don't discuss death and I don't scare people. Right. So is there any... With that being said, is there anything that you want me to stay away from? No.

Okay. i'm picking up with you that there's some changes coming up as far as is what's when i say changes i'm talking about life life soulful changes that are coming up for you i feel like i feel like what they're trying to tell you and when i say they i mean guides angels whatever is that you want to call it i think it's hope but i just say they um getting you to notice things that you need that you need to change about yourself i feel like you what you want to do is that you want to start shedding some of these things that you that have been tying you down over the last few years and kind of get it kind of get rid of it once and for all because you stood i don't know if you feel

that way but i feel like you struggle back and forth with not wanting to lose a certain part of you as you're changing and as you're growing or whatever worried that maybe that if you don't want to become i don't know if it's i don't know if it's a pride or ego thing but not wanting to be too soft in these changes or lose sight of who you are right and i feel like that's not going to happen i feel like if above all if it your your integrity and the way that you come across is going to stay that way but it's like it's it's lightening up being able to kind of take a step back and just yeah let go a little bit yeah professionally that's like right whoa damn i like can't talk about this on the podcast but that's like so we'll have to do like a check back

yeah i mean talk to me in like three or four months and that's like the most right on it's probably gonna happen before the end of this year please god that just freaked me out me too because you know what we're talking about yeah i know like insane weird wow okay okay well hey chris welcome to the podcast do you want to i want to go next okay okay um hi i'm kelty knight i'm actually very nervous i'm quite nervous no don't be nervous just let go just i'm not i would never tell you anything i have like borderline diarrhea so in case you're feeling that that's me my butt was tingling do you have kids okay what's up with the issue with having kids so don't do well you don't have to tell me yeah don't tell me um i want to tell you as chris

aside from the psychic thing i mean well well first do you want to have kids i mean i don't know how deep you want me to go because i feel like i feel like there's kind of a uh an in between there whether you whether you do and then worrying about maybe having it i don't know if your age plays a factor into it and wondering if not that's what i'm picking up for you that's what they're telling me is that you need to come to some decisions soon about doing that it's so funny so i just had my eggs tested like three weeks ago and it came back that like my eggs were really low and my doctor was like that's crazy she literally was like if you're gonna harvest like if you're gonna do embryos or like freeze eggs now is the time because like you're 35 and you have like

0.37 or whatever and like you're supposed to have five when you're like 20 of level five and like she's like this is the time to do it and i'm very conflicted because i'm a career woman and like listen to chris do it yeah no and i love my kids i love my life now but like i don't want to be 55 and regret it you know that's what i feel like is going to happen with you if you don't make that decision you're going to end up regretting it and i feel like kids are in your future as well too at least one so and i'm going to tell you it's not going to change who you are or whether you're still going to be able to do what you want to do it will all fall into place when it happens holy shit wow thank you for that yeah no i'm great with that that's like nice to hear though

it is nice to hear it really is it's literally if like you asked me what's the missing piece of your life what's the thing you're confused like i love my husband i have a great life i have great friendships my family's good like my career is good and i'm just like very torn at that moment So that's crazy. Well, the reason I always tell people when they're asking me to give them a futuristic type reading, I don't like to, I don't like to overstep my boundaries and give them something that's going to be too, too revealing because then it could change the way they go about doing it or they'll get scared or whatever. With you, I don't, I just think that you're, it's, it's all, it's all mental for you. I think, again, it will all fall into place. You will still be able to do what you want to do.

And I think it's going to kind of change your personality a little bit when you have, when you do it. So more neurotic? No. I think she'll chill out. I think you will too. My sister chilled so much. she was you really we've discussed this yes and people i mean i just feel like the people that that listen to you or that or or that about you or or that are with you like in your support team

your friends your fans everything would see those changes in you taking place and the other things for you to talk about with them so wow okay wow i've been dying to get a hold of you oh shit yeah my diarrhea no no no i would never scare you i there's so much there stop me from wrong and again feel free to call bullshit at any time that's what i tell everybody um but when i do hit things just say yes confirm um but don't give me don't give me any more okay you i feel i feel like there's there's a lot of to me there's a lot of sadness inside of you i don't know if that if that resonates with you i just feel like there's there's things that that i don't want to get too personal and reveal shit that you don't want me to talk about in front of other people but i feel

like there's things that you need to let go of or make amends with um as far as i'm gonna i don't know why why i'm gonna say this but in regards to life does that make sense like and i feel like it's past things that that that are that are still like that are still on your mind or that you that you're that that that that play in and out that kind of i'm not saying it's up it's not prevent I'm not saying it's preventing you from, from going forward or the future, but it's things that you need to let go of and just kind of, I will never forget, but you know, like what I, what I get from, what I get from the whole, what I want to say to you is I don't, I won't forget you or forget what happened.

I just need to put this behind me now. Does that make sense? Yeah. Yeah. And I feel it's going to sound hokey. I feel like when that happens or you, or you're, or you're ready to make that, make that transition I feel like if you want to call me your guides, your angels, I feel like your guides, your angels are trying to get you to see these things or trying to put these things in your way to get you to deal with it, to put it behind you so that way you can make room for all the positive things that's coming. I don't see anything negative in your future as far as like, you know, something horrible happening to you.

I just feel like there's something that's preventing you from fully letting go, from fully spreading your wings and being able to go forward. and it seems like it's personal it seems tight in your chest for some reason is that too dramatic or pretty good we can talk about it later if you want that's good

Trooper and Kiki wait I have a question can you read me future for regarding love regarding love yeah he's gonna be short sorry bitch are you involved in a relationship right now oh that was no yeah i i'm gonna say within the next

three years for you as in what as in being able to call it something official does that make sense like being able to say that like i you know i i just feel like do you want me to give it i mean give it away do you do i want you to give it away i just i feel like you're not gonna but you're not gonna you're not gonna take it serious at first you're not gonna know whether or not that person because there's a there's a part of that doesn't want to let go or be made a fool of when it comes to men so i don't know if that i i think that when this happens you're not going to be sure where he's coming from and you're going to question it and not and not fully like i'm not saying that you can't trust him or that you're not going to be able to trust him but it's you

there's there's stuff that goes on in your head wondering whether or not you're going to be made a fool of so it's going to take i feel like it's going to start off really good you're you're you're going to be the reason why there's going to be hesitation not him and i feel like he's going to be older and i feel like he's gonna be a professional because i see i see nice clothes so i see someone that dresses up but he's gonna be i don't know how he has a job he has a job i have a question chris when you were like reading me and you're like babies like what like what was the sensation you just like it just comes in your mind like baby something something i saw a clock and baby with you in your mind and just in your in your i know it's gonna say it's

so hokey to say but no but it's not you know being able to pick up what you just kind of like see like symbolism or this is so cool okay we want to bring in kiki woodward her real name's kristin but we yeah we call her kiki and she booked she books our show so she helps us like get you here you're she's the one to talk to she's coming in right now are you freaked out my heart is racing yeah honestly i thought you were full of shit until just now like when we booked you I was like I think this guy's gonna be full of shit like I don't believe it yeah I was like no way there's no way it's true

and now you like that is I think you guys are the only ones that knew that I got my eggs tested on my husband like no one else would even know I haven't talked about it at all and people are gonna be like we don't know whether to believe him or not but I don't do any of the background check for the shows but you couldn't have you couldn't even if you had

googled me never in a million years would it have come up no same with my show you couldn't have known anyway yeah okay this is kiki hey i'm kiki don't be nervous it's fine okay so with you with you this is going to get a little part this is going to i don't know i feel like with you like there's more that you want to do with your life and things that you want to accomplish so i don't i with you i get in i know i get the symbolism of spreading your wings and wanting to wanting to do something different and change what's going on in your

life right now make some major changes and start settling into who you are as a person that's so wild yeah i don't want to be shitty or shit on you but i mean there's there's some there's so much more that you could be doing with yourself and you have all these great plans and it's not going to happen unless you do something about it so i would start working on it and start making those making making way or at least starting to venture out and doing that and i don't have you lived here all your life no i don't see you living here for the rest of your life either me neither and i would say i'm surprised if you were here for another year and a half well oh i don't know if you have a lease signed or something yeah i'd be i just i feel

like once once i feel like once you get going as far as like make taking those steps and you're to change or to polish up your life does that make sense once that habit is going to start rolling things are going to start happening for you because you're making that effort to do and that's what your guides are telling me to tell you wow are you single right now no oh where does you live here oh how long have you guys been together a year who's charlie his roommate or his old roommate what's up what what is the significance of charlie in your life he's he's his best friend what's going on with charlie does that make any sense to you about why he would come up in your reading why he would come up no think about that there's some there

there's some significance of of charlie in your or uh either what he's doing or what he's about that you need to pay attention to. Are you in love with Charlie? No, this is life. Are you guys getting engaged? Has Charlie been helping him pick out a wedding ring? No. You don't know. No, no, no.

You're not going to talk about that? Okay. Charlie. I feel like that's the most important thing right now. I feel like with the relationship already being the way it is and it's already kind of going, that the next thing for you is to start brushing up your life and start polishing it up. Chris. are there things that you've been thinking about i mean when you get this deep into something of

course you yeah start to have those thoughts but it's nothing like that i see immediately it's good experience for you but again this is stuff that that's preparing you to do what you want to what you want to do so are you saying that i'm gonna go break off and do my own thing or i don't know it hasn't you're you're still pondering what you want to do you're not sure if you want if you want to do something like or something completely different i don't i don't i feel like whatever do i'm going to give i don't want to do i'm going to give it away i feel like what you're going to be doing is more personal to you where it's going to i don't know if you have visions of working out of your home but i see you starting it out of your home for a little bit okay okay cool wow what do

you think kiki guys it's real did you believe it oh snap i didn't believe it going into it yeah i'd had i'd seen medium shows yeah and it seemed kind of like baloney yeah um but this is blowing my mind is it like i know you can't really listen you're at work so you can't really talk about but like has your life situation like next steps been on your mind at all it really has been how old are you 28 wow i don't know if you guys would you say that's like saturn return your saturn returns oh yeah shit changes girl oh yeah it does return to saturn it's like your whole second birthing it's amazing it's great it's when the you're gonna have to tell me about that later you can tell it tell everyone i think we've talked about it before but it's like the it's the it's

the karmic lesson it's making sure that you're up to par where you need to be in your life and if you're not it's gonna take trust me it will kick you in your ass it it does what it needs to do to make sure that you're doing what you have to be doing and sometimes people go kicking and screaming i went kicking and screaming and it didn't work so well for me even though i knew better but i feel like again so that so with that being said 28 a year and a half i'd be surprised if we're still here okay wow damn i love that do you see the future for the lady gang are we gonna be at big stars the biggest stars yeah i just i i don't have anything negative to say i just think that you

guys are i mean i don't think it's going to last a whole lifetime i think it's going to bring you what you guys need in order for you guys to kind of go your own ways okay lady gang's breaking up will rachel bloom ever come on just kidding i'm just kidding okay um that was that was amazing chris stick around because when you come back um kinky virgin has a question ask the lady gang and we're back there's a good question you can go home keith i know you want to go home she's like it's six o'clock i gotta go home okay bye love you so long thank you for coming okay okay um before we start ask lady gang if you guys want 20 off of jack bannock.com use code lady gang and get some sassy things okay so for this part of the podcast we have

our listeners writing questions and we give them advice all right let's do it all right so our first question comes from taylor taylor says i've been with my boyfriend who i love very much for about a year now he's still really close to his college group of friends and hang out with them a couple times a year at the last two events his ex who he dated through college has been there and i have ended the night in tears they broke up years ago but are still friends since this group is so tight it's hard to see them casually talking and laughing when they were once in love like we are he said he'd not hang out with her but that would cause only problems with his friends which i don't want to do i can either deal with it and get over it eventually or end things what's your

advice she's jealous of the ex this taylor yes okay taylor i'm gonna say that you need to if even if it doesn't work out with this one you're still going to carry that shit over to the next relationship so use this as a tool for growing and kind of getting getting getting yourself out of it and realize that people are going to still be friends with exes that's the world that we live in um you can't do anything about it um all you're going to do is to come off as jealous and you know but take this as a good lesson and learn from it because again you're the ugliest trait a woman can have besides not saying please and thank you is being jealous jealous and needy and clingy and weird like it's so ugly so if you want to be the major

babe that keeps your hot boyfriend satisfied like just don't be that girl like you won you got the guy yeah it's like we've had a couple questions like this it's like he chose you he's not with her they're not together for a reason and if it only happens a couple times a year like suck it it's not like he's being inappropriate exactly it's not like he's going down on her in front of you yeah or whatever or something like that becca anything i think you said it all yeah he's not with her yeah he's with you okay this is this is the good question from kinky virgin i think that's code yeah do you her first name's not kinky all right she says i'm a 25 year old virgin but i'm not a regular virgin i'm a cool virgin i'm a cool bread i've had pretty much every sexual experience

you can have without actual penetration blowjob shower hookups you name it i've done it as long as it does not involve the p and the v i've had flings with guys over the past few years which has led me to be stuck in what i have deemed the virgin vortex i see a cute boy we kiss we talk we do some fiddle and diddle then it comes to time to have sex but because it quote unquote means something and i've been told too many times i can't be that person for you because i like you too much as a human by the way what the hell does that mean um in this reverse culture of sex first and a relationship second i might be a virgin forever so here's my question do i bang a random hot man to just get over it she hasn't yet and i'm pretty sure she's around with a lot of hot

guys so i'm gonna tell her that this is um what i want to say to her is that quit teasing these guys you've done everything else you might as well just let him have it amen that's a really good answer um i would say yes random guy your first time is always gonna suck no matter what and i was a virgin until i was 23 so it's like i think you get to a point where you're like actually an adult and then still being a virgin is now become part of your identity and it's a whole thing and then it gets it's so serious and you know people are way more experienced than you so it's gonna be really hard for you to find the right person and have like the right sexual experience and then you're gonna tie so much to it it's just like get it out of the way

it's gonna suck and then find somebody you actually really like without the pressure also it's not like algebra it's not like you have to have a tutorial on how to do it it seems like you are pretty like well versed with the genitals yeah like she's like a so like you don't even necessarily have to tell somebody if you're you feel like you're gonna scare them off by being like i'm a virgin um i mean don't let that person be like a total douchebag like make it be a nice guy but maybe don't tell him i mean i don't know that that's like but it's really none of his business i don't have sex with somebody and say i've had 85 partners like let's do this so ready to get dead you know what i mean like it's nobody's business if you're gonna know what to do

when the time comes so like let's just do it and if it's consensual yeah yeah it's fine it's fine and also like girl i'm sorry live your best lives if you want to wait until you get married to have sex that's fine i love all the lady gang members you're each special snowflakes like you do not want to marry someone that's bad in bed so like please test drive because it can really take a relationship from a 10 to a zero real quick oh my god although i suppose when you're doing the fiddle and diddle you could tell like how he's gonna be yeah that's true i feel like yeah okay I love how she wrote, by the way. Fiddle and Diddle is my new favorite thing.

She's so funny. I love her. The Fiddle and Diddle. Kinky Virgin, we wish we knew your real name. The classic Fiddle and Diddle. Classic. Classic move. Our last question comes from Kara, and she says,

I've been struggling so much since I've graduated college with a major in graphic design. I've had a lot of meltdowns, and sometimes I think to myself why I chose a major and that I'm not good enough. I love art, but I can't seem to get people to appreciate my work. Any advice? I have a full-time job, and I can't get people to appreciate my work. No one's going to appreciate your work if you don't think it's good yourself. Yeah, you're already putting that vibe out there that it sucks. I feel like with this girl, I'm going to go in psychically.

I'm going to say that with this girl, this girl, I always say, when all else fails, go within. People don't do that. People are like, oh, my God, what do I do? When all else fails, self-control, go within. Think about what it is that why you're not happy doing what you're doing. I feel like with her, she's got a lot of things that she's piled on because she's already put it out there and said, this is what I'm going to do. And she feels like if she goes against it, that it would be, I guess, a failure or you didn't complete that or whatever. Right.

Yeah. I think it's very difficult to get anyone to tell you to your face that you're great. Because the truth is, is that if you're in graphic design, my sweet darling Cara, people are going to hire you to make them look better. They're going to hire you to make their ads or their posters or their movie posters or whatever. So you're like a worker bee in the beehive. And unfortunately, that job comes with, you know, very small sprinklings of praise. So you just have to, like Chris said, like believe in yourself from the inside out. Know what you do is great.

And don't rely on other people to tell you it's great. Like some people that listen to the Lady Game podcast, they don't like it. And they leave us mean reviews on iTunes. And we don't care. Those are trolls, though. But we don't care. we're like we're like this i still like doing it so screw you well and as long as people aren't being like outright assholes to you like at least you're doing something that you love and you got

a major within the arts and if you're a creative person that'll bring you some joy you're there's a lot of people that are working jobs that they hate so instead of thinking of it so negatively find out what is wrong with why they don't like it and kind of go from there you know i'm saying yeah yeah becca i said it i was like if you don't think your stuff's good yeah no one else will well we do think Chris is good holy crap you can check out

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