LadyGang - Dorinda Medley

Episode Date: November 2, 2021

Fashion designer, TV legend and author, Dorinda Medley is stopping by to Make It Nice and give a closer look at her time on Bravo. Plus as someone that calls Berdorf Goodman her therapy and has been featured in Vogue, she’s sharing all the fall trends… that may include the coveted LG denim jacket! Check out our amazing sponsors!!! Bellesa: Go to bplus.co/ladygang to enjoy Bellesa guilt free! 18+ Travis Mathew: Searching for the Perfect Polo? Visit TravisMathew.com/podcast and use the code "LADY20" to get 20% off your first purchase! Everlane: Go to everlane.com/ladygang and sign up for 10% off your first order plus free shipping! ThirdLove: Get 20% off your first order at ThirdLove.com/ladygang  Chinet: Spruce up your party and learn more at MyChinet.com  Total Wireless: Do amazing with YOUR wireless plan at TotalWireless.com  Scream For Ice Cream: Sweeten up your sex life at screamforicecreamagain.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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one of our friends and my favorite humans on the planet is here. But before we get to that, it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no i'll kick it off okay um so i was given the task this week by the task master kelty knight to send a deck to someone and you know we pitch ourselves all the time we're used to like hey we're the lady gang you want to collab we're the lady gang we're so cool here's our deck here's our deck oh god oh god and so for the first time in my whole life, I actually read, read the deck instead of like, just glancing at it, making sure it's just beautiful because it always is. And, um, I look at the, uh, bios and I realized that, uh, Kelty, Jack and myself have each of us, our own bio. Oh God. And in Kelty's and Jack's it lists New York

Times bestselling author in Becca Tobin's. It does not. Well, you should have written your bio and included it. You know what? I know exactly why though. Why do you want to know why? yeah, you had too many things. I made the executive decision to take it out because I wanted to mention Glee, Turner and Hooch movies, all your other things. Okay. You had too many credits and you only got a space. Jack and I have accomplished less. So we could use a whole sentence of New York times bestseller. Did you, did she have New York times bestselling author originally yes and we had to cut down for space and so yeah but you had too many other things i had i could i can take something else out if you want no it's fine i could have read you know what

this is my fault i could have written you both and said hey guys you only get three lines which lines would you prefer um but i made the executive decision that becca has enough good shit in her life that it wouldn't matter you know yeah i don't have any like i don't have many accomplishments of like your accomplishments are much harder to put in one sentence yes they're more they're ideas rather than you know it's a whole lot of ideas it's a vibe check they're more they're more like an abstract she's like it's a feeling it's a way of being yeah it's a way of life jack vanek is a vibe and like you don't know how to like it's not like a she was then on it's not tangible yeah it's not tangible and like it's also like weird and people don't really understand it so it's hard

to make sound impressive katie perry's top eight or whatever and i should i need to start doing that you should it's funny yeah when the internet went out the when instagram went out the other day and then like i think there was an snl skit where pete was tom from myspace oh my god yes he's like oh i didn't see it didn't you they're like we could barely get the web pages to load it was amazing. Well, my space was the last frontier of good social media. Then it all just crashed. Anyway, Beck, I'm super sorry about all your success. Thank you so much. Okay. Well, it just is like an extra knife in the chest just because that book sucked the life out of me. And so then I didn't even get like the right credit for it.

Maybe it was for your own good though, just so you didn't have to like try to keep you humble. I didn't want anyone to ask you about it and be like, wow, you're a New York Times bestselling author. And you'd be like, yeah, that book, you know what I mean? I was trying to keep it positive about things that you were like, Babs the dog. Cool. Okay. So my good week is very, it's very short. We were going to the music festival a couple weekends ago here in Austin, ACL. We love it. And our friend Tim, I don't think I'm going to say his last name because I don't want to get him in any trouble, but he's like kind of a big wig with the festivals. And he's just this guy we've known forever from Atlanta. He's wonderful. So we're on our way to the festival

and we're kind of talking about how girls have been dressing at these festivals and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. And he's like, yeah, my favorite thing is when I look at somebody that's wearing a hoop earring, it's the bigger, the hoop, the bigger, the hoe. And that's like his new favorite saying. And so he's like, start taking stock, like the bigger, the hoop, the bigger, the hoe. So listen, don't take it too personally. We're all hoes sometimes. and we're all ladies sometimes it's lady in the street hoe in the street what is it lady in the street freak in the sheets yes okay so um but i just thought it was so funny so now every time i see a girl in a hoop i'm measuring the hoop and i'm measuring the hoe you're welcome i like i i

have a very small hoop in right now me well maybe because i'm like a refined hoe yeah i'm not allowed to be a hoe anymore you're like i used to be a hoe but they're in the jewelry box now i have Speaking of, can I actually, I'm sorry to go on a tangent, but I have, I need advice. Okay. So there's this girl who I know for a fact, um, kissed my boyfriend back in the day. Like she definitely was like a, a hoe. Like kissed him while you were dating him? Kissed him while I was dating him.

Okay. Ticks to the tango. Yep. Yeah, of course. Um, but she recently got married and I really, really, a mutual friend posted a picture from their wedding. And I like, really, it was really hard for me not to write. I guess anyone can make a hoe, a housewife. Jesus Christ. Wow. No, Becca Tobin, we have enough enemies, but like, I hate her i hate her so much um you know there are worse things to do you know that's not even

yeah when what age and what in my early 20s no you know was anybody faithful in their early 20s but like i still hate someone that kissed my boyfriend and i i've never kissed someone's boyfriend so i just feel like it's trifling jack jack big hoop vanic have you friendly she was friendly with me but she was friendly with me too though you know what yeah if it's a friend stranger yeah that's that's sketch not worth the comment not worth the comment damn it okay sorry all right you keep me in line who's next wow i'll go um my good week is a very simple good week uh seinfeld is on netflix for all to watch and i've started from the beginning i think i already jared and i tried to start from the beginning but we're really doing it

i'm doing it too are you did you notice in the pilot that in you know how during seinfeld they cut back and forth to jerry's sex yeah so in the pilot to set that up that that's what they're doing george says something like come on we're gonna be late for your show and then the scene cuts out and it's him on stage it's like the funniest thing to me because they never ever ever did it again no but it was so I was like did they think the audience wasn't gonna understand that that's what they were doing that is amazing I didn't pick up on that at all watch it it's so good oh my god it's so good and you know what Seinfeld from episode one brings it yeah it's not like one of those shows that took a while to like get funny or to like start packing on the

jokes like incredible from the very beginning so if anybody out there hasn't watched Seinfeld this is your time yeah my dad was even commenting on Seinfeld like at dinner the other night he I don't know how we freaking got on the top of conversation well because we're watching something else and George Costanza Jason Alexander he was in it and he was like oh it's George Costanza and I was like yeah and he goes you know who was great and I was like who dad he goes Cosmo Kramer great character great character George Costanza was kind of the only character that started out exactly who he was yeah he was really George from the beginning where everybody else's isms kind of came later he really was strong I really appreciate it because George was Larry and Larry Larry's

strong from the beginning but it is funny because I noticed um Kramer's first time that he enters Jerry's apartment he just kind of like opens the door and walks in so it took him a while to do the slide. So excited. Okay. My bad week is, um, I have like some kind of an ingrown hair, underground pimple turning into a boil situation on the side of my hip. Now I didn't even think that hair grew there to become an ingrown hair, but I am in massive pain and I can't wear underwear because it like rubs up against it. And I don't know what to do. Can you tell me, can we see it? where on your hip the side of your hip like where your hip bone is you can see it it's like where your hip bone is okay here oh wow do you did you uh hot compress no but i've tried to i've tried

to pop it and it's step one is a hot compress bitch are you in a thong and a sweatshirt yes because i can't put a pant on because of my ingrown hair cyst jack can't wear a pant at her best days we're podcasting nobody sees the bottom of me that was the point of zoom is because you don't have to wear pants i can't think of any more uncomfortable just like a chill thong like i would have put a boy short on you crazy well i wear thongs during the day and then the boy shorts at night i don't know this is this is my clearly you're in your daytime look so you needed your daytime thong my daytime look oh my god okay uh i have a good week for jack oh so i we've been talking for months about pillow gate whether you can travel with a pillow or not and then we found

the gucci holster for the pillow and then every time i'm on an airplane i'm not looking around for the other pillow people and i'm like as pathetic as i think they are yes no that girl actually looks cute anyway. And I'm looking at people and like how they bring their pillows, what they're covered in that they have, you know, like anyway. So this morning on Instagram, I was, you know, searching through the reels, seeing what comes up on my for you page as one does in bed at seven o'clock in the morning. Right. And a woman was like, also, I know you're a crazy overpacker because your suitcase was so full when we went to fashion week that we were given one pair of pant and two one pair of pants and two jackets and i had to take jack shit home

even fit one more pair of pants in her suitcase no crazy hack i saw on instagram this morning you take what would be the pillow okay fill it full of folded clothes t-shirts sweaters whatever put a pillowcase on it it flies free but wait what the prop this this is you take a pillowcase yes it's halloween you fill it with clothes and then you carry it on under your arm and say it's a pillow but it's actually filled with clothes but then that misses the point because the pillow is not in there it's just a pillowcase are you talking about i know what kelty's talking about and this is it's if you're an overpacker you can fill the pillow with because they don't count a pillow as a carry-on right i'm sorry you cannot that is a dirt bag move that is a that is not okay

I'm not saying it's okay or not okay I'm just saying if Jack needs to bring one pant and two jackets home from New York instead of shoving them in Kelty's thing it could be a pillow again where am I putting the pillow yeah I I did you not to bring your own pillow is what I'm asking you no listen I have been packing my pillow it smushes down pretty well even in a carry-on bag but I bought a pillow case protector to protect my pillow pillowcase from getting dirty in the suitcase. I still need this. It needs to be like fleshed out a little bit, this idea, but we're on the right track. I think it just means packing less. There's really no other guys. There's no other option. I've never met someone that had such a big suitcase and yet

nothing to wear, nothing to wear. Incredible. So many things, but yet not a dress shoe to be seen Anyway. Okay. Here's my bad week. I was on tour. I didn't, I didn't think we're going to fashion week. Good defense. Good defense. Okay. Um, I had the most incredible, uh, bad week. So I'm walking down the street and I'm not super dressed up. I was wearing like a jean, a sneaker. I was shopping so I was like kind of you know I'm not in my daytime thong and sweatshirt but I wasn't in like leggings or like not trying to be cute like I was like mildly cute and there's two guys and I know that it is very unfeminist for me to say this but as a woman on the verge of turning 40 I'm looking for a cat call I'm looking for a stranger to think I'm sexual I know you're not

supposed to say that I'm just like yeah you can being a feminist is saying what you want to say people not judging you for it okay and as long as it's not a shitty thing to say i think okay i'm i'm looking for someone to like whistle at me i because i'm so hard up for compliments yes so i'm walking towards these guys and they're like they didn't whistle at me but they talked about me as i came up to them and they're like oh yeah good vibe in the front and i was like yeah like i was feeling it as I was walking to them and I walked past them and I saw them turn their faces and check me out going back and they goes, Ooh, not sure about the back. Oh my God. Well, you don't have a rear end. Very flat buttocks. You're just a skinny person. I think that they were probably

just hoping you might have some sort of secret, but no, I don't have a good dunk. And I'm like, you know, it's just crazy to me how cool it is to have a big bum now. And like, i don't have a big bum i have a very flat bum can we talk about speaking of bums uh kim kardashian on snl with her her proportions like i mean it's unbelievable it's unbelievable and i kept thinking all these outfits she was wearing it must have been thousands of dollars in alterations for all of her all custom there's no there's no way that none of their like all of their clothes have to be custom made they have to her waist is like like so small and then she got that booty yeah yeah it's interesting amazing she looked amazing and she was really funny you guys i thought she

was really i watched the her opening uh the bachelor segment was hilarious her oj joke was real oh she real but also listen i think it's great she was on there i am not gonna be one of those haters but the reason she's funny is because the writers of snl are fucking funny and she trusted them yeah she just did what they said she was a good sport and just did what they said but yeah i mean credit where credit's due no absolutely her body looks insane her body's very small in real life what's crazy about it is that like she looks like she's tall with a massive ass but the ass is not actually that big isn't she like five two or something she's like five one and a half i think she's five three she's little little little and then she just happens

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is the woman who wore black thigh high latex boots to her book launch and called bergdorf's her therapy she's recently been featured in vogue and the new york times twice twice oh shit that is like surprising because prior to becoming a tv legend she created cashmere darling for princess diana and joan collins and when she's not entertaining us during our obey derobics class She's entertaining everyone at bluestone matter. And we mean, I know I, that's what I said. Bluestone, bluestone matters. I mean, everyone, and we have her now hosting the all former housewives, all stars season two. I'm so excited. Please welcome back to the podcast. The woman who made us famous by wearing our lady gang, Jean jacket on housewives on TV. We've never felt

more seen or gotten more dms dorinda medley wow that is still one of the most vetted jackets in my closet i think hannah lynch tried to covet it at one point but it came right back to me every time i wore that jacket someone would stop me we need to make more i guess and they started to see you should yeah they they would do things like oh my god is that your new brand i right can i be part of your lady gay i'm like well wait a second i don't know if i could rip this off but you could we wouldn't even be mad we'd be like nothing yeah that makes sense we have no money for legal counsel. Take it away, Dorinda. Okay. So first of all, I do want to talk about the book launch and the latex boots. You're such a bad bitch. Like I just like, I love you because it's

like, you know, Kim Kardashian was on SNL this weekend and she like had nine outfits just to arrive to the place. And I was like, you know what? Thank you for overdressing. It gives me excitement to my life. The fact that you are who you are and you're like, I'm going to wear a thigh high latex boot means i can wear a thigh high latex boot right absolutely absolutely but you have i always say in dressing first of all it's my go-to all the time you should wear the clothes the clothes should never wear you and if you're going to wear something very maybe risky like those laboutin boots i bought those years ago and i only wear them about twice a year and i'll never get rid of them like i'll be in the nursing home with those okay so okay but you have to choose

that one thing and then you have to sort of carefully dress around it like I don't dress in full outfits like that that was the first thing I thought I thought I'm gonna wear that boot now how do I build on it so I don't look like a tramp so it looks like Dorinda still so people are sort of a little bit like what but then you see the beautiful Fendi top which was very conservative so behind the podium I look very academic very like but then when you step out to the after party right that then you're kind of sexy and you got it going on see is this just an innate ability that you have because you have such a specific sense of style that not everyone can pull off i agree it's just so you and it's so chic like you've always had this i've always loved

fashion i've been fascinated with fashion i'm fascinated with color and it's so funny it doesn't just translate to my clothes it translates like if you ever came to bluestone manor i just i'm fearless with colors and I also love for people to you know I have a very busy mind a very colorful mind I you know I dream in color color and I want people to come into my life and meet me or be in my home and say I get it this is like you like when you see me it's so funny because my um Luke who Luke Anderson who's also my makeup artist he worked on Ladies of London for years and he worked with Caroline Stansbury, who's much more risky in her dressing and sexy. So when he first started to work with me, he said, Darlene, Darlene, why don't you take a risk and wear something a little

bit more adventurous? I said, well, I'll try. Do you know, it literally didn't work because I have a look, it works for me and I have variations on it, but pretty much I haven't, even when I did the reunions, I never tried to wear all these crazy ponytails. And it just was like, this is me. Okay. Yep. So the book, make it nice. First of all, congratulations on this. And then I guess the pressure of writing your life story so far, there's going to be more books. I know that, but did you feel a lot of pressure to, uh, you've had so many ups and downs. Um, did you feel the pressure to share it all? You know, it's so funny. Everybody asks me that question because I guess for a lot of people well you guys know I pretty I think one of the things

that helped me a lot being on reality tv is sometimes I was good sometimes I was terrible but I was always authentic okay and I was like oops you know what I mean sorry so you know and I feel like for the book for me it was really there was very little fear in writing it and and because I believe in life and I believe life is messy and I think people that tell you that life. Is it messy? I was just lying. It's just like those idiots we have in our life. They're like, Oh my God, I have so much sex with my husband. I'm like, they're getting divorced. Okay. Oh yeah. They're overcompensating for something. Yes. And I, I felt honored to tell my story. I felt honored. I felt really happy to help people follow the breadcrumbs. So,

cause you know, you get a lot of times and listen, I had a, I have nothing bad to say about Bravo. I, it gave me a beautiful platform. You know, I, it was a real healing period for me to sort of move away from life as a mother and a wife and a widow and sort of just be really focused on me and be whoever I wanted to be, which I thought was very freeing for me. But I also wanted people to be able to follow the breadcrumbs a bit because I wasn't made from Bravo. And I think people sort of just think you you started when you started bravo and you end when bravo ends i had a whole life you know that was the frosting and i wanted to show people the cake you know what i mean and let people know like i say in the book you know it was one patch in a lifetime quilt you know and

and i wasn't afraid to tell about the quilt you listen just like i say just like a quilt some patches are beautiful some patches ain't so beautiful but collectively you love the quilt you know I love this and I was wondering if um what that thing that you wrote about that has been sent back to you I think with every great book like there's always those moments where I'm like screenshotting I'm like look what's in the book look what's in the book what have fans like really resonated um I it's you know it's been different for it's there's actually been a couple of things I think people really now understand me not as a housewife but they're like oh now I get it now I I didn't realize you lived in so many countries I didn't realize I I think the thing

that was really interesting is I don't think people thought I grew up such an ethnic small town girl right because they you know they want to make you out to be this glamorous you know New York and and that always amazed me when I would when I was first on TV people like well what cares do you have you're rich you're this I'm like well I was really poor for a long time like this just didn't happen so I wanted people to know that I was not just handed stuff like I worked really hard as a woman and I had so many great successes so many great experiences but really a lot of times where I was like this is hard and I don't it might be easier just to go home and be that girl that was the that was the choice I mean I was as my mother said oh even if

you stayed in Great Branch you would have married the local lawyer which is probably true so I was better you know I'll try to elevate but it just wasn't enough for me like I wanted to really you know I have sort of an Icarus complex I like to fly very close to the sun in a sense it's my biggest downfall. I fly. I'm happy. I'm doing great. And then I get a little too close and then I burn and I go back to the ground and I, I heal. I get, I'm like, I flap my wings and then I go up. I'm like, Whoa. And then I get, no, this makes so much sense. Like to me, I'm feeling seen right now. Cause I feel like I'm the same where I'm like, I get, I know the lesson, like, don't get so close, but I can't help myself. And every time you get close, even after it's done and you've

got the singed wings, you're like, huh, kind of fun for a second. And then you learn something new about yourself. You know, maybe there were things that failed, but then there was something little that succeeded where you're like, yeah, your eyes get a little wide, more wide open with each journey you partake in each little mistake you make and I think the key about because I talked about this with my daughter because I just think young people are so hard on themselves now I think they have so much pressure to succeed and they don't have any sense of time like if you're not successful by 30 everybody's a mess you know you gotta have billions of followers and relevance and this and that and it's just not real I don't think I really even came alive

until I had my my you know until after I had Hannah like I was just sort of like figuring it out and I you know my 30s late 30s and early 40s is when I really got settled with myself because there's only that 20s and 30s as a young person it's so it was unsettling for me and I and I think it's even more unsettling settling for young people now because the pressure is huge the right and wrong are so much bigger and then it's all recorded like i could make a mistake on a weekend when i was 24 no one knew about it i just went to work on your boss would say how was your weekend great everything's great i'm great life's great you're like i haven't been to bed yet but i'm great no right just i saw the funniest meme this weekend on instagram and it said like

um yeah all these girls can dress like gen z can dress like they're growing up in the 90s but they'll never enjoy that feeling of like leaving home at seven o'clock and like your parents have no way to get in touch with you until you come home at 11 p.m like there were no cell phones like you couldn't there was no recording you would like maybe one camera if you had the money to get it developed at walmart on the weekend like there was no video of me there's literally no it wasn't even walmart to have it done you had to go to like a local place where they charge you $30. Then half the pictures were shit. No good old days. Amazing. So, okay. So the Dorinda isms are world renowned. And I want to know, like, if you had a couple that you could

share with us that are like the top favorite, like could be on the, what's it called? Like in the cemetery, you're like, I said to Hannah, I said to Hannah, I buy here, make it nice. One more time. You make it nice. I said, I just want you to know my gravestone. I want you to put you made it. She made it nice. That's amazing. Do you have, do you have a life motto? Yeah. And I don't think make it nice is about always making things pretty and things. It's more about a sentiment. It's about do your best, keep moving forward, follow your intuition. I think as you know for me as a woman sometimes I as a younger person I didn't follow that voice inside of me and how many of us have come out of a bad situation and said I knew it I knew that

wasn't you know and don't don't you know take be open to other people's opinions but listen to to yourself the most because we know what's good for ourselves health-wise spiritually wise physically wise opportunity wise we know and don't be afraid to say no you know my mother used to say to me all the time you you don't have to um you don't have to be where you never have to worry about insulting someone because i'll take the blame for it and i as a older person and that was because she was always convinced we're going to get kidnapped so someone said come over here and i didn't want to go over there my god if they know and you just say whatever you want i'll take the blame for it so but I kind of applied it to my later life and it wasn't until sort of my 40s

where I you know no it's not a bad word it just means sometimes that you're not up for it you're not going to be your best self and it's not doesn't serve you right that's okay to say that that doesn't serve me I decided after COVID which you know and being in quarantine you know spending such a lot of time up here with my family and I just don't have tolerance anymore for bullshit. I have really skimmed down my friend's list. I was much more tolerant before COVID. Like I would make excuses like this. Well, I know she can be a bad person, but you know, she doesn't have some good qualities. Now I'm like, no, she's just, we're not of like mine. Right. Yeah. And I want to spend my time creating and growing and building my brand

and whatever time left I have, I want to be with my family or be with my few friends. i feel like a lot of people during covid had that same sentiment where it's like cut the bullshit every and and also just saying yes to things that you didn't want to say yes to i think it's been like a collective thing i i know this happened even with fashion week you know it was like because i'd been in vogue and because twice nope nbd by the way the photos like everything about it is just chic shit only like congratulations to you it's such a big deal oh thank you because vogue is snobby they pretend like they don't watch reality television or want to be in that world and i'm like all you little editors know that you wow i work with this girl

liliana who's like amazing she she's so cool she's so young and i was sitting with her at burgdorf's after we did this shoot and i'm like what like why me yeah i i you know i don't get she's like well because you just have a style that just seems to be you know yes everybody can relate to young and old yeah i have a question i don't know how you feel about talking about housewives but it fucking sucks this year new york i will say this first of all any any girl that's a housewife they have to understand they hard drive some jobs so they're all very brave to do it people it's fun for you guys to watch but it is intense to do i can't imagine it comes up for anyone that tries to be on the show or is on the show not track um it was covid new york

city isn't our extra character you know when you take out the character like new york city we live and breathe and do if you look at the past scenes of us in new york city it is like an extra character so just that lady but i also think i wasn't there no i'm kidding i was just gonna say another lady was missing yeah we had two ladies missing it's true we had ladies missing and we felt it new york city one of them and i think it was i just think you know there seems to be and it's not me saying negative or positive there seems to be a change in all these reality tv shows something shifted and i think that's why there's a lot of these spinoffs now and mashups and you know maybe we all changed during covid maybe once and i don't really think if i was on

to tell you that you would have moved the needle that much i think it was just a tough year yeah everyone's mentality changed yeah even me i still watch i mean i've been obsessed with beverly hills but oh yeah i'm even sort of like i don't really want to watch this stuff anymore a little bit as much like I used to be a big watcher New Jersey so there maybe it's just a little shifting going on and maybe they need to you know really change it up in New York maybe it's time I don't know you know I don't talk to them about it because I decided when they put me on pause you know I was just like you know I can't I don't want to be one of these housewives that talk about it obsessively go on podcasts. I literally never spoke of it. I want to just go back and try to

use the platform to my advantage and grow it. Right. So then how did all-stars come about? How do you know about all-stars girl? It's all over the news and Instagram. Oh, are we not supposed to know? Are we not supposed to know? They say, yes, she does. Listen. Oh, okay I'll tell you what I know I think that Bluestone Manor is iconic I think she's a character in itself I think she's sort of an urban myth and I and I think it's so funny because whenever I like film sometimes in the blue room or do a cameo in the blue room people are like oh my god are you a Bluestone Manor it's almost like Disneyland now they don't they don't think it's real so and I think you know some of our greatest episodes were done at Bluestone Manor

dare i say yeah those dinner parties i mean those dinner parties and also too was interesting because the audience didn't really see all of bluestone manor you guys just saw a very small part of it so i think there was a beautiful opportunity to be reminiscent bring the audience back to what they know would feel good factor and also you know kind of bring the old school up again i mean the old school the icons the i said icons icons this is how iconic this is it we don't even we're not even allowed to know about it and yet we know about it there's tons of like memes and stuff already on instagram and then there's you guys are already making news for what you shot for a show that we're not supposed to know exists because there's already headlines about

beefs and fights and like already out there and we're not even supposed to know let me just tell this i went into saying i'm such a changed person i'm not going to be that i'm going to be very quiet and really understanding not you know just be my new calm self of course by the by a certain amount of it and old dorinda came right back i was like that's not well bitch okay back then so i just can't help myself my daughter said i am like a bird with a worm they just have to dangle it over just throw you back in there but you know what we don't want new dorinda okay We want Dorinda, Dorinda, the real Dorinda. And that's who she is.

When that period ended, whatever we did at Bluestone Manor, I went to my mother's house and I sat at a kitchen table. I'm like, my life is over. I love that because we're all a little Dorinda trying to be the best version of our Dorinda. And sometimes we fall back into old patterns.

It's very relatable. It is relatable. I feel seen. Okay. Wow. It's colorful. We're not going to let you down. That's for sure.

no i know and that's why i'm saying it becca like if new york is kind of in the sea like we have something great coming and so we're just like it's okay i'll just hold on hold on listen i don't think they can ever get rid of all the good old school girls because even if they got a whole new lot they must they got to always have them sort of check in because there's nothing like the old school right amen amen okay before we go uh to ask the lady gang i do want to ask you because you said you're watching like thoughts on beverly hills riveting riveting and it's heartbreaking because you watch it like a show but then you realize it's not just a reality show it's reality yeah and i've got to tell you it's just uh you you you just feel like you watch it and you're

like oh my god thank like how how does this end where are we going with this um so what a season And I heard they're already starting to film again. It's so good. Like they're filming already. Wow. I don't like to see. But I got to tell you what's incredible about that cast. I was reading something, or Hannah was reading something to me,

because she does Greek philosophy, about this idea of how you have to work as an army, as a team. Back then it was going to war, and how a war is just one piece with many legs. And if anybody works individually, then the whole, the piece doesn't work. So you have to sometimes take the fall for your colleague because for the bigger hole. And I thought that's what sometimes is missing housewives when they don't, you feel like those girls are a team. You feel like those girls are

out to make a good show. And they, you believe that they're friends in real life. Like you just, like you, you feel like they are in it all the time. That's a strong past. it is you're right they all kind of have the same motivation and it is to make a good show yes you can feel it yeah you know there's not all these individuals right and that's I think it makes it harder not only for the group because you don't have a trust with each other but also for the audience when because let's face it the best scenes are when the group's together and they all kind of are melding together yeah i just think it's insane that like i think it's insane that erica would continue filming like i mean obviously she has to make money i guess i just

think it's so crazy like if i was going through that i'd be like i'm not going on tv like what if she says no i mean you know you just never it's like you never we never know as if i've learned anything about after richard died as i just i don't want to until you walk in those shoes it's the only way she's staying sane sure no that's true otherwise what's the alternative she sits in her house just waiting yeah right that's so true on that couch yeah you're right it's like you crave familiarity too and that's like her family and you occupy your day what are you going to do sit in your house all day worry drink go crazy at least she can get up and be you know so much to be said even in bad times about having purpose i mean my after richard

past you know i was kind of doing that woe is me thing and my mother was like get up every day wash your face and take a walk sitting around this house is not doing anybody any good and she's right you got to get up every day and have purpose in good times and bad times you know it's really you know it's true that idle hands are for the devil they really are i'm terrible with idle hands yeah wow i mean the dorinda isms coming out like i've just learned i feel like every time we sit with you, I get smarter and better. I love it. There's been like 15 metaphors that I'm like, I'm going to write these all down. I'm literally like taking notes. Um, when we come back, Dorinda is going to fix your life. Today's podcast is brought to you by Everlane. So it is

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for dorinda medley or ramona singer because uh very ramona she says she doesn't know how to start a convo does anybody know of any good icebreakers to start talking to these sexy fellas i'm don't you have something about a recipe or they are decorating for christmas decorating for christmas i do have a very good second question you know what i think is a great icebreaker a big smile like a good stare and a big smile and then figure out a way to do a walk by yes walk by. I always loved a good, you, you make a little sexy eye contact and she's obviously confident. So make some eye contact. I mean, it's more than eye contact. There's all kinds. I mean,

she's an expert at it. I'm less good because I'm always so in my own mind, you know, but I think good. I, it just happened to me in the Bahamas. I was sitting and I was like, that guy's cute. And when they looked up, my instinct was to look away, but I just smiled and sort of like, And it was funny because it kind of started up a conversation. He was married, but that's okay. Conversation can go very far, but. Hey, male attention is male attention. You know what I mean?

He was looking, he was looking, honey. Okay. This one's for you. This next one's really good. It's right in your lane. It really. Okay. So second question comes from Katie.

She says, what are your favorite fall trends right now? Also, what do you think is going out of style that we should all ditch immediately? Hmm. Hmm. Okay. Well, I think that this, I love this look of the, I love this look of the oversized shirt with a legging and a nice boot. I just think it's so chic. And what's her name? That beautiful girl did all that Valentino stuff. Zendaya? Zendaya. Yeah. Some of those outfits she wore with the oversized shirts. And I just love that look. I think it's very chic and old world and just

beautiful daytime look um i also think patterns are in i think we're in the patterns are back patterns and tweets and all that kind of look is back you know what i think is out hold on for it i'm scared it's probably everything i wear yeah a little bouton heel i think we're i think so too i think the mary kate i love you ton i'm sorry because i have 42 pairs yeah 42 but I look at them and they're almost like like they're almost like my pre-covid life I'm like yes oh yeah I'm really into that new you know Manolo Blahnik mule with the little seal the mule the something the you know the the nice lower like I bought a beautiful Manolo Blahnik tight stretchy boot that only has about this I think the super high heel that I loved for years

i'm not seeing that a lot anymore it's because we want to be comfortable we just spent two years in like cozy things and then and also the difference in my night when my feet are comfortable versus like i could look amazing but if my feet hurt like i'm like when i'm wearing that big like i tried my own i'm like who do i think i am in this like i'm not a hooker and i'm not and i'm going to like what are we doing you know what i mean yeah that super high dress is sort of it's a much more casual chic thing going on like i love this sort of i'm doing a lot of either super printy or very monochromatic yeah oh yeah i love that it's funny the louboutin heel feels to me like a trip to miami like when i go to miami and i look around i'm like what the are you bitches wearing what

is your life where are you going in this outfit but now it feels like I unless I'm wearing something that's like kind of more casual like who do I think I am where am I going I am I just don't and I'm telling you it goes back to the thing I said you've got to wear the clothes you've got to wear the shoes can't wear you I put on my patent leather laboutons the other night and I'm like I look ridiculous like so you're gonna sell them what size are you I know I'm like so i have to sell them because a first of all my my arch dropped during covid so my foot's bigger because we all that muscle loosened up in our foot and more heels it's a phenomenon it's a true it's not sort of an urban legend there's a muscle here that holds up your arm because we all like

we're wearing barefoot or flat foot everybody's arch has dropped a little bit so it's gain you've gain length on your foot wow my mind is damaged she's smart wow she's also a doctor ladies and gentlemen okay our last question and this is just a really interesting story um comes from Alice she says I had been I had been anticipating getting engaged for several months after my boyfriend and I had looked at rings together he's always been very sweet and romantic so I was excited to see what he'd come up with ultimately he chose to do it on the couch at home right after we got in an argument and I was in a terrible mood. It's been months now. And I feel sad when people see the ring and asked how he proposed. How do you think I can move past this?

Ask for a redo. That's horrible. Horrible. Who would do that? Because you know, it's almost like he did it to get out of the argument. Or was the argument. If someone did that, I'd say, no, I'm not going to take a ring now. This is ridiculous. I'm not going to take a ring. And And I'm certainly not going to sleep with you for at least a week now. So get away from me. You can stay on the couch and sleep there. Yes.

I think she deserves a redo, a full redo. And I think she should remove the ring, put it at dinner when I say, listen, I love you very much. Super want to marry you. Don't like how this went down. I feel like it was less of an engagement and more of you trying to slip out of an argument. So I'm going to hand this baby back to you. I'm going to give you a couple of weeks to come up with a fabulous something.

So I have a beautiful story to tell. I'll meet you, you know, November 2nd at the Regents Hotel. Let's redo this. Amen. And if maybe that argument was you bitching about him not proposing, maybe you should also take responsibility and say, I could understand why you might have chosen to do this, but let's both apologize and let's do a redo.

Oh, that's so nice. Now I would say any of that, but you're so nice. Like your fault, do it again. Well, Dorinda and Lady Gang fans, Make It Nice is available now wherever you get your books. And it's the best season of the entire freaking year to follow Dorinda on Instagram. Oh, yes.

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