LadyGang - FLASHBACK FRIDAY: Carmen Electra

Episode Date: July 21, 2023

The ageless model, actress and singer pops by the LadyGang to talk about how she overcame her self-doubt in Hollywood and her uniquely unconventional relationship with her ex-husband before giving some tips on how she maintains her beautiful complexion in her finer years. Original Air Date: Oct 30 2018 Check out our great sponsors! SKIMS: Go to SKIMS.com - place your order - and select "podcast" from the dropdown menu! Plus, get free shipping on orders over seventy five dollars! Thrive Causemetics: Get an exclusive 20% off your first order at ThriveCausemetics.com/ladygang  KION: Save 20% on monthly deliveries and 10% on one-time purchases at GetKion.com/ladygang See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey Lady Gang, welcome to Flashback Friday where we bring some of our favorite Lady Gang episodes from the vault to you in the feed. We have over 600 episodes of this podcast and whether you're an OG and you've heard this episode before or you're a new listener and we're just bringing this up and you had no idea we had this person on our podcast, well you're welcome. Small caveat here, we are an imperfect group of trio of ladies and we've been podcasting for almost six and a half years. If something we said in this podcast doesn't align with Lady Gang 2020, please give us grace for instance there was a period on lady gang where i was not into taylor swift it was a reputation era i wasn't feeling what she was begging but now i'm like a swifty again and so

i just don't want you to hold me to that because we're all growing and learning and our opinions change pretty much every day without further ado welcome to flashback friday well what is this welcome to the lady gang that's amazing say that again the lady gang things are about to change around here each week we catch up with hollywood's hottest girl posse kelty knight becca tobin and jack vanik hello hello and welcome to the lady night i'm becca tobin here with kelty knight and jack vanik i'm so excited i'm so excited this is a get you guys we i mean we have some cool people on this podcast but this this is she's an icon icon icon status status let's hurry up with our good week bad yeah let's get through this because we've got people it's time for good week yes it

is bad week oh no jack oh kelsey i'm just gonna call on you by all means go first my jack thank you my good week is i have a new amazing binge worthy tv show and i am i feel like i use this all the time what is it have you ever heard of love island it's like big brother meets bachelor in paradise but it's british and they have all these single people out on an island and they tape them 24 7 and it's all surveillance kind of cameras there's no like cameras that walk around and follow them i don't know those are called single cam handy cam like like a steady cam so it's all just all these cameras set up and all of their interviews are just like old school confessional where they just sit down and talk and it is so dramatic and amazing and it airs

their live so people can watch it and then vote people off and then if you're new on the island you've seen everything that's gone on so you can like oh so they add people they add people they kick people off you have to couple up with somebody i've been watching it on hulu it's been around for like five years so there's a bunch of seasons but wow it's amazing and anybody that loves the bachelor would love it because it takes up are you leaving us for a show am i gonna go on love island i don't think so just wondering absolutely not love island my bad week is um i mean we get enough like hater comments on our uh reviews and stuff and now that i've started another podcast that i am not an expert in the field whatsoever i get some new hater comments

oh and they're true crime hater comment true crime hater comment here's my favorite title Why is Jack Bannock on this show? Comment. She's the least qualified and kind of stupid. I'd rather hear the experts slash professionals talk about these cases, not the basic chick that snorts on the lady gang. How dare she? Three stars. Three stars?

Yeah. Wow. Okay. Well, you do you. What's worse? If our show comes out and people are like, oh my God, like Jack is so bad. I hate her. I hate her.

but then they're like but i love the show or is it better to just be like i love jack so much but this show sucks dick like for myself which is worse or for you i think you i'm not voting on this yourself i mean they're both bad but maybe if the show's great then you're like i suck then i and we get a second season but i'm still making as much money as you assholes so yeah you laugh your way to the bank i mean people are definitely gonna hate me and that's okay i'm like i don't think they're gonna hate you i think they're gonna be i like it it's like sex in the city no one wanted to be the miranda but there's a miranda out there you know what i mean i think a lot of people identify with you i think so too that's what i'm saying for each of us there'll be

people who hate you and there'll be people who love you people say to me and i see on instagram or whatever that they are the kelty but and i think this is the reason why not that i don't think there's a lot of people that take that away from her no no but i think that people that are type a are so type a that they're like oh my god that's me i make a million less too i know you know it's so true okay okay here's my bad week who shall be called on next here's my bad week as a home okay as a homeowner i've been very lucky knock on wood and it's an older home but when we bought the house this isn't wood when we bought this isn't either nothing on the wall knock on the wall okay that's not wood how's or no i hate not being a black oh

my god there's no way i found it okay so i've been pretty lucky even though it's an older house like everybody's like get ready for home ownership yeah yeah worse you're gonna be fixing things and blah blah blah blah like whatever whatever it's fine so i go to open up the pantry door the other day the whole thing the entire thing with like 85 spices on the rack comes crashing down and slams down on my foot can't it's not an easy fix it ripped away from the wall so there's that then the next day no hot water nothing no hot water call the plumber oh you need a new hot water what hot water heater and we have to bring it up to code and in the room outside it's like outside the house yeah in like a little shed area there's rat shit everywhere everywhere because

apparently the rats go there to warm up warm how do you know this because i'm a homeowner yeah but Like, how – I thought I could dodge this bullet. No. You can't dodge rats. No one can. No. And did you get a tankless? We're not talking about this on the podcast.

It's way too boring. It's way too boring. A tankless was, like, three times the price. I know. But – And a lot longer. But anyway, okay. It's the worst.

It's okay. Here's my good week. Please don't play with that. Oh. Love you so much. Actually, I put it in. And the podcast is over. I hid them all under the thing so no one would play with them.

Okay. I'll tell you. My good week is also about a TV show. Oh. Ours? No. oh my good week is oh my god it's been so fun filming the lady no said everyone ever yeah so i feel like ever since like gossip girl and like all those shows went off the air i really have

felt empty not really but there hasn't been something to fill it i really like a shitty like not shitty but like melodramatic blah blah you on lifetime you filling that void for me it's Penn Badgley so he was in Gossip Girl who he was like my my choice if I could have my pick

yeah he was hot and he's so good in this and he's so he's so creepy sexy in this and I'm like I think I found my new Gossip Girl

like 10 years later I've never even heard of that show it's on Lifetime which is weird cause like I feel like Lifetime went all true crime yeah I mean it has to do with a little crime

you wish no it has there's a little bit of a crime oh there's a little crime there's a little sex it's dark at their makeouts

and sex ooh sex so hot I love watching young people have sex so sexual I remember that when I would have sex

when the lights were on missionary sex with the lights on so wonderful what's your your turn Kelty my good week is that

I was recently in the UK and I saw a sign for a show that I feel like I need to host be on

or be an actor in I don't know are you an actor now? well no i don't know what the show is because i haven't been able to find it anymore so i'm i'm gonna have the lady gang like get involved but it's called the ultimate warrior show and i saw the poster in london and i didn't like really have time to get deeply involved in like what the show was but based on the title alone it's my show and so if it is a competition and there's any money to

be won uk lady gang please reach out to me and let me know how i can apply because i think i would the excellent on the ultimate warrior show wow that's that's great thank you bad week no that's my good week i said bad week oh oh like get to it yeah okay my bad week is kind of sad oh god well so this week i think that i had my first ever you know how people are like oh my god i have a nervous breakdown i'm gonna have a nervous breakdown and i think i had my first nervous breakdown or anxiety break anxiety attack yeah because this is what it felt like my head went all tingly I couldn't feel my hands I couldn't feel my feet I thought I was hyperventilating I could not stop crying and it was like half of my brain was like I know what I know I need to

calm down like calm down it's all gonna be okay but the other half of my brain was like there will be no calming down and I feel so good to feel like am I high am I drunk am I orgasming am I feeling the worst I've ever felt in my life it was like a full break and it happened around something we were doing together with lady gang and i i think this is like my bad week because i've never really felt like this i've always been a warrior and i've been emotional but i've never had like a full crack open it was the best thing ever because now i'm like healed like i'm like i'm a lotus it happens again right i'm sure it will but i did want to say you know we always like laugh and talk about our vaginas and stuff but it's pretty cool that like in the past three

years that we've developed a friendship where when like shit like that happens we can all like i tried to call you i know i was talking to becca sorry um but you know it's like i don't know i think you guys could tell that i was like getting stressed out and like losing my mind but now like to have that was really scary but it's also nice to like i know you suffer with anxiety but like have people around you that are like hey like we like want you to be better than this so like pull it together and like you know so anyway to all everyone struggling out there you will get through your anxiety attack and brighter days will come that's nice speaking of i have even more anxiety now after seeing our guest because her little baby will never be that hot never

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Now back to the Lady Gang. Our guest today has been a Hollywood staple for decades and was first discovered by no big deal Prince. Did you guys know that? No. No. In fact, as a star on Baywatch, she threw out the notions that women could only be hot or smart

and she slow motion ran into stardom and our hearts she's a host an author a model a movie star a video game character a guest judge on my favorite show so you think you can dance and also britain's got talent which i've never seen um a tv star appearing on hit shows like jane the virgin and house but most importantly many many many many moons ago when i had a mullet i went and saw carmen perform live at the crazy horse paris in las vegas you did she has more dancing talent in her pinky toe than most of us do in her entire bodies.

It was crazy. She's a full package, triple threat, and she recently broke the damn internet. More on that a little bit later, but please welcome to the Lady Gang,

Miss Carmen Electra. Woo! Welcome! Oh my God, can I hug you for that intro? Do you like it? I have one correction. Yeah.

You said she threw out the notion that women could be hot and smart. I think you meant hot or smart. Oh yeah. I kept reading back on that. I was like,

wait a second. Wait a minute, what does that mean? it's true you know what it's because i'm nervous because when i saw you at the crazy horse there was this number where it was like you were in a box and they had all these wires and you were like playing off them it was the greatest thing to the to the point where it was so good that then a couple i mean many years later the victoria's secret fashion show happened in paris and i took my co-host kevin frazier we're there working and um and i was like what should we do in paris i was

like no no we gotta go to the crazy horse paris it is the greatest show you've ever seen in your life the girls are so talented you're gonna love it so i take him and his wife yes the crazy horse there it was fine it was no carmen electra crazy horse there was no girl doing that dance which was like mind-blowing i know i was like i i was honestly when i'm in rehearsals and everything i I was looking at those girls because they're six feet tall. I mean, you know, leggy, very leggy. You know, there is a certain style you have to learn. So we had a lot of rehearsals just to prepare for it.

But I don't know. Maybe it's because of that number in particular. It was kind of like a jungle. You can just take it. It was like a jungle. You made the show the fiercest it's ever been. It was like a jungle number, like aggressive. so you know

that kind of was my style of dance that I mostly did and I don't know I just went for it but I love that show so much but thank you that's a huge compliment because I just adore that show

and felt honored to do it speaking of being naked on stage I'm just kidding you broke the internet it's like a week now the internet has been broken we haven't picked it up off the floor no girl i was like let me just see carmen's coming tomorrow let me see what's going on with her and like i saw it a week ago and then i was like oh no new outlets are posting it every single

day so if you haven't seen it for all of our listeners carmen is can i say how old you are is that okay sure no i love 46 years young it has a body that is banging and such a youthful energy But she does these photos with this famed photographer, Eli. Eli, who is like such an artist. He works with Kanye, shoots his campaigns. It's crazy. Just did all of Gaga's, you know, shoots. It's insane.

So that's why I really wanted to work with him. And if I was going to go, you know, take the clothes off again. Yeah. You know, he was a guy. This was it. This was a guy. The photos are stunning. I mean, they're so, like, they're editorial, but they're so beautiful.

but on top of that like i i'm like getting closer to 40 and i'm like oh no this is never going to be good again like it's starting to fall apart it's not very and now i'm like well no like carmen's like she's 46 and she's the most banging body i've ever seen so like yay to you for like getting rid of the age and like that i don't know so tell me honestly i just feel how i feel and a lot of people will want to sort of control who you should be because of a number and you know we all are who we still are you know what i mean like there's still a child inside of us there's the wounded little girl or whatever yeah and you know i just i don't believe in that i mean And when, like, I don't know, for instance, like I look at Madonna and, you know, like some of her latest campaigns for her skincare line, she is killing it.

And, you know, you have to follow your heart and do what you want to do. And if you feel, you know, within yourself that you, you know, don't want to do those things, that's your choice. And that's, you know, you can't really listen to what people, you know, try to mold you to be, you know, in my career that happened to me. Yeah. And so I just, you know, I've had the attitude of like, you know what, I'm going to do what I want to do. Yeah. And that's it, you know, and if people don't like it, I'm sorry. You'll understand.

You'll understand. Because when you're in your 40s, you realize like people will say, oh my God, you're still a baby. It's so interesting. it's just the number doesn't really matter and doesn't well especially when you look like you look yeah i'm like that's why that's actually exactly why do you crazy do you feel like internally that you feel well like my mom always says that she has the same mind as she did when she was 25 like she still feels young that's absolutely 100 correct i i feel sometimes i feel like i'm in my 20s wow but it's just a lot of knowledge you learn you learn a lot through the

years you become a lot wiser but it doesn't mean that you don't want to go to disneyland and wear a silly like you know your mini mini mouse ears and play skip around like i mean i'm the most childish person ever and i'm not you know i'm not gonna let anyone take that away from me boom well then i got annoyed with you so now i've had two things where i'm like i'm in love with you i'm loving because then i was like well how what did she do to get into this amazing shape like i mean you never went out of shape which i think is the big secret but i've fluctuated i just know how to hide it when you know it's appropriate and i have noticed changes that is just something you can't avoid yeah well the article is like trying to stay active is like the key thing okay here's

why i'm annoyed the article goes the article goes what did carmen elector do to get this hot body and she's like i just drink water and dance no i know that's not true okay so just tell me right now what is the diet what are you eating for breakfast if you're just dancing and drinking water. So am I girl. And I'm not looking like that. Okay. So I, I let, I do like to eat super healthy and you know, that usually consists of protein and vegetables, which I learned from a friend, um, who was a bodybuilder, you know, just keep the protein coming in. And so I'll go to that. But if I crave something, I'm air, I'm going to eat it. Bowl of air. I love sugar. Okay. I love sugar, cake, bakery goods, you name it.

And if I have a craving, I'm going to go with it. So are you just dancing? Like, are you going to the gym? Do you go to, like, a Barry's? I'm not dancing right now. Yeah. But, you know, I do yoga. And I started doing that, like, not a lot of yoga, just a little in the morning, you know.

And I don't know. It varies. Sometimes I take a little bit of a break. But I've been dancing since I was five. And so I think that muscle has memory. And when I do start feeling out of shape and I see things that I don't like, I know, like, okay, get it together. You know what I mean? And then I'll get a little bit more strict with myself.

I started boxing. And that's fun. I like it. See, when I see something, then I'm like, oh, I'm going to eat all these Tim Tams because that'll make me feel better instantly. I think it's cool to try a lot of different things because you can get really bored. Yes. Like I was just the treadmill.

I was on the treadmill. Boring. Just on the treadmill. Then I started hiking and I got bored with that. So, I mean, I don't know. I just mix it up. What is the advice you'd give yourself in your 30s? Because we have a new thing where we don't say our ages.

We just say, I'm 30s. Except for you said mine. Well, I asked your mom. I don't care. but i'm 40s so like what is one thing you would tell yourself in your 30s that our 30s should use and what is one thing you would tell yourself in your 40s like advice or just like what advice would i give myself yeah in my 30s yeah like when i was in my 30s what would you give your younger self i don't care what you're saying to 12 year old carmen like i want to know what are you saying

to yourself because we're not 12 yeah in my 30s um have like completely have gratitude for having a job that you love because that you know there's nothing that will make you happier and love to do the work that you do yeah so find a job that you love and and um I kind of took a little bit of a break because I'd been you know going for so long grinding for so long and I kind of needed I just wanted not to feel judged like I just wanted to you know um I don't know and it like I was doing things but I just started turning down things and now that I look back like am I crazy why did I turn that down I'm like that's insane I probably would have shortened that phase Because I think it's okay to step back and have time for yourself.

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True or false, did you go to high school in a cliche? True. Oh, my God. Did he have rusted tips? I can't remember. But you did a play together, right? We did. Peter Pan, yeah.

And you were Tinkerbell? Tiger Lily. Oh. And he was Peter Pan? He was one of the Lost Boys. Oh, my God. That's amazing. They could see him now.

You know what I mean? That's so crazy. Do you ever see him out and about at things? I have, but not as recent. Wow. No. That's crazy. Last thing before we go to your advice.

One of the things that I love the most about people is when they can make fun of themselves. Yeah. I'm the queen of that. oh my god i mean there's a lot of hits on your instagram of this but so carmen posts the 1998 cover of people's worst dressed issue september 14 99 and she's on the cover and she's in a hot pink crop top which jack we're filming our television show right now and jack has worn a crop top every every day shoot to the fact that when we did our 26 segments crop top all of them everyone okay well you're not worried about your body that much though not that part no no that's

a good part to the point where the network was like hey um for the photo shoot like jack can't wear a crop top that's how many i was banished from crop tops and i'm like i don't own a non crop top so i don't know but picture this carmen's wearing this like hot pink crop top matching pant outfit but has fringe all down the sleeves oh my god and she's like in the middle and she's just like yeah and like right on the cover first of all let's just remember that people used to do a worst dressed like issue where it was just all it's so mean it was so mean best and worst dress oh it was best and worst so did you win the ultimate worst dressed yeah i was on the cover so good the worst dress i would be honored i would chill in that outfit i would wear that

right i'm honored absolutely i'm honored now but i was working with mtv and there was something that I don't know if any of you guys would remember, but it was called rock and jock and there was a seventies theme and they would, they would sort of bring in, wait, so this was a costume. Yeah. And they thought it was a real life outfit. Yeah. Oh, that's not fair.

But let me take it back. That's not fair. I have worn. You, you want some outfits. Many that were similar. Maybe just without the fringe. You know what I'm saying? So.

So you're like accurate. you know you know i gotta keep it real i gotta keep it real that was a costume the others were not the others were not did you keep any of those outfits please can i buy one off i have like a ton of stuff yeah i kept a lot you need to do like a museum showing oh but that was the pink people magazine cover outfit i mean there was a 70s theme i was courtside reporter and there was there was like not paparazzi but like a press like little red carpet press line and um and i didn't think anything of it so i was i was like hey you know i'm like working for mtv where like like it was fucking go wrong you're an mtv college golden years for sure yeah the

crazier you are the better like it was just hold on i have it here i want to show you have rivalries with like like wait you've got like power to the people stand oh my god i love it but also like drew barrymore cameron diaz like brandy i mean no big deal it's a good company at the time though i felt like oh my god i love that i felt sad at the time because i was like you know it was a costume the start they hired a stylist and we went to like into these archives and that was it not you know like on singled out the show i did we always wore crazy stuff you know but there wasn't like a press line so right this was it they got the professional photo but now i love it now i love it i think it's funny it's hilarious i still think it's a good outfit so in that moment i was

like oh oh i love it oh my god yeah really i'm so famous um i was upset i was hurt i was genuinely like I feel so misunderstood can I write a letter that this is a costume but no I love it congrats I love it so much

I want a little girl advice from you because recently you posted a picture with Dave and I know you guys are still friends I think one of the questions we get all the time from our girls is like can you be friends with an ex and I always say absolutely not like it's over forever but then i was like going through your instagram which p.s if you're not

following carmen electra very cute very kitschy very fun um but like then i saw the picture i was like oh maybe you can't so can you with some oh with some you can't with some it just you can't i haven't found one of those that you can yet i feel like you can when you still don't want to have sex with them yeah like when you've lost that whatever that is that makes you want to have sex with them is when you can't i just think we just i don't know we have a really special connection yeah and our relationship was really based on i think um our friendship as well yeah and we always had fun together um and so i don't know we just we can do it we can do it And we just, we laugh at each other and we talk about, you know, what's really going

on in our lives. There's no secrets. Yeah. And we also tell each other we love each other, you know? And so, I don't know. I think that he's just, you know, an easy person to talk to. Yeah. And that's why we've been able to remain friends.

So ladies out there, Carmen can do it. The rest of you, absolutely not. Never. was there a period of time though that you couldn't be friends did you take a break and then come back to the friendship yeah yeah I mean that makes sense there was kind of a break yeah definitely

um yeah and then we would talk every you know I mean it's still it's not like we are right you're not best friends hanging out every day yeah yeah yeah you know what I mean or talking on the phone all day long and stuff like that but we check in on each other all the time that's nice for you guys I'm happy for you but it's nice

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And we're back. So we have our listeners write us in some questions, and we try to give them okay advice. Okay. And no pressure, but most of them will do exactly what you say. they're listening to you not us okay our first question comes from diamond dilemma and now all the girls have to write in their like fake names because they've gotten in trouble for real names too many people are listening and so it'll be like sasha i heard you talking about me on the lady gang podcast you passive-aggressive bitch like their friends being like well i heard your

question and now you're broken up with your boyfriend so yeah so now we're anonymous yes okay um so diamond dilemma says i've been married for three years to a wonderful man back when my husband proposed it was with a beautiful diamond ring he received from his grandma after she passed away i recently took it to be appraised and it turns out that the appraiser told me the ring is made with artificial diamonds i.e worth practically nothing i was shocked but honestly it doesn't matter much to me since it still has sentimental value should i tell the truth or lie and make up a respectable amount that could be worth if it were real diamonds. I don't like the idea of lying to him, but I also don't want it to become a potential issue for us

and for him to feel bad about it every time he sees it, a.k.a. every day. Help me. I do want to say that I edited this a little bit. She went to go get appraised so she could put on our homeowner's insurance. Oh. Okay. So she wasn't just going for the appraisal. She was just going to try to get that insurance, honey.

You should have done that. Thank you. That's sticky. Yeah, this is a tricky situation because obviously, you know, he is really proud of it. I think if, you know, I personally wouldn't say anything. I would just, it obviously has the same meaning. You know, it's very special to him. It's very special to her.

yeah i think sometimes you know we can have a tendency to just blast out something unnecessary and it ends up hurting someone a little bit and there was no need to even go there yeah so i i think i would just carry on and you know love and appreciate and that 10-year upgrade honey's gonna be expensive for him and i guess she really won't need um you know the insurance on the jewelry so just kind of let that money yeah hey just let it slide and yeah no just be you know it just might make the whole relationship awkward i think it could i mean like emasculating him a little bit maybe like you don't want to no i don't know it wasn't his fault unless it's not absolutely not his fault you know it was

by the cz's i mean not like a cubic circle not in a gift but like there's sometimes where i'm like oh look at the cz looking real shiny becca would never get pulled by cz anyway no i wonder if you're right not not me um i feel like if you fight dirty like me like when you get into fights i can't control the things that come out of my mouth so i think that that might come out at some point for me so maybe just don't get drunk and start fighting because you can't hold it back Ask Zach. I am terrible. No.

I mean, but it's not his fault. It's not his fault, so let it go and, you know. It's your little secret with his dead grandma. Oh, God. Exactly. See you in heaven, Grams. Maybe she didn't even know. She definitely wouldn't have known.

She wouldn't have known. Especially not back in the day. Yeah. Back in the day. Back in the day. My best friend got proposed to with a fake ring and found out halfway through the engagement. She still married him. And he, like, purchased it?

He replaced it. Yeah, but that says a lot about somebody's personality. Yeah, she found out that it was fake. Did he know? He knew. Oh, he knew. Oh, really? I wouldn't have married him.

That's not what I'm saying. If you know, that's one thing. Yeah. If you don't. He didn't know. It doesn't sound like he knew. This guy definitely doesn't. I don't think he knew.

I think she should just let it go. Yep. Completely put it out of her mind and continue on as things are going. sounds like three years this is truly a success yeah listen to the podcast we've been in this now for three years and we're like you know on the brink of a divorce but it's been a good ride i think the good thing is if she loses it oh well you know you have to replace it yep yep all right next question comes from anonymous anonymous says i've been with my boyfriend for two years now and the sex is bad like always been bad sex toys can't fix it bad

if you not have a penis how bad could it be and okay i'm gonna continue jesus i lost my virginity to my current boyfriend seven years ago in high school but i moved away to pursue bigger life dreams and learn what good sex was before life circumstances sucked me back into the depressing vortex of my miserable hometown i love her i recently turned 24 and now that everyone my age is popping out their annoying unphotogenic second child my quarter life crisis is calling for me to play catch up somehow is she one of us do you think i would be settling for a relationship with cringe cringy sex is there hope seriously how do you deal with sex that physically compels you to close your eyes it's your happy place oh no it's over it's done i mean becca's never

speechless dark sex is such an important part of a relationship i mean we're all speechless how is this gonna work i wish she got more specific about why it was bad i know is it bad because but it doesn't matter you guys she has to close her eyes in crappy place it doesn't matter no but she said we've used toys sex therapy at all yeah i mean i think maybe this is me i just don't have skills in the bed and the thing okay it would be one thing if she had lost her virginity to him and then he's the only person that she slept with she's gone away she's had sex with other guys she knows it's so it's not a her like she is having problem like having an orgasm or something like that but she's madly in love with him yeah she did not say that she's been with him for two years

and the sex is bad in all caps all caps um you know um if she's tried a lot of different things i i don't toys i mean i don't know porn i i don't know what to say i have to say she's 24 she thinks that she is old yeah you're not you're not oh please my advice you are just starting your life if my advice is get the hell out of your hometown don't have a baby in a town you don't even aren't excited about go start your life over talk to your boyfriend on skype when you're lonely and like start again and find a new hot boyfriend like this is not your person nobody's even in a relationship until they're in their 40s like thank you then you'll realize don't have a baby just because and don't get out of your hometown i mean still 40s it doesn't are you looking for a guy

needs to i might have a guy run i've dated i've dated a little probably not good enough for you okay what's the next question i feel like what man can like confidently go on a date with carmen that's what i'm saying really yeah oh yeah oh my god no i didn't even tell my husband you were here today he would have shown up i'm not kidding mine too you're like an untouchable force for men i feel like i think so too yeah i think well maybe it's just from the images you know the images no you're sitting here right now and i'm like before i met you but yeah girl don't come to any of our parties we've been happy to have you on the podcast but don't sit next to me at party girl have a lonely life stay away from us oh my god i'm just kidding you're so cute okay

last question another anonymous um she says i'm 24 and have been with my boyfriend for almost two years he's my first real boyfriend we live together both want to settle down one day not for at least three or four years though she's a planner and think and think that there's a good chance that we could work out recently recently though i've been having some FOMO about being single in my 20s before my boyfriend I didn't have much experience in bed and now I can't shake the feeling like I need to confirm that he's my match I haven't met anyone I could see myself with since being with my boyfriend but it's like I want to hit the pause on my relationship and then come back to him when I'm ready I know this is hella selfish but I can't tell if it's just

harmless FOMO or if this means something is up with a relationship have any of you guys ever felt this way and how would you suggest that I get past this feeling I've had this happen to me you have yes i had a boyfriend break up with me and his words to me during the breakup were i don't want to be with you but i don't want you to be with anyone else we were like 23 like okay well that's not gonna work out and also it is how this works it is really selfish of you and you know what you should be a good person and you should be honest with this person and be like i really love you and i hope our paths meet again but like right now i gotta go live my life and you will always regret it at 24 oh my god go do stuff i think in your 20s you need to have fun

and just like live and um she like almost had a hair tie that's how much karma wants you to live you need to live honey there's nothing wrong with being selfish especially at that age when you have nothing tying you to somebody like that is the age to be selfish and figure out what you want and experience a bunch of guys and have sex with a bunch of guys and let's just be honest It's very rare, especially these days with social media and everything being so available that you will end up being with the person you're with in your 20s. That's so true. So, I mean, I say live your life. Have as much fun.

Enjoy being young in your 20s. I can't believe someone thought they were old. yeah just like you know and you might find him again later in life and then she also might experience other guys and find out that he wasn't the guy for her too exactly just because that's all you know it also pigeonholes your thinking in my 20s i broke up with my boyfriend the day before my 21st birthday because i had a visual of me getting rowdy and sleeping with a stranger and I wanted to do that but I broke up with him

so that I could that's nice of you Becca you have such high morals that actually is great at least you didn't cheat on him exactly look at your morals he's like your birthday's tomorrow

I was like exactly I mean that's pretty I gotta get drunk he was not happy he was not happy yeah but that's pretty mature of you at that time I'm sure she was a total bitch

when she did it I was a real bitch I love it well listen if you I don't love you anymore bye I gotta have sex with somebody else I felt like you gave

some really good advice for this sign off just in case you guys hadn't seen it because you're not in the news business i just want to bring that up holy shit there's like i mean yeah where was that also that hair and makeup is like so hot i mean it was so this one's my favorite actually i almost canceled the shoot why look at that because i asked your tiny little butt you're so cute i asked my publicist um if you know was there going to be a stylist yeah because you know i've shot new to playboy yeah many times and there always is like a clothing style yeah yeah yeah you start with something on you like yeah

and you kind of strip down but like you know you we always had shoes on right and so jewelry yeah just like certain little touches the girl an earring yeah a garter i don't know um just little tiny little things to i don't know that's just how how i've always shot my nudes um so i i started freaking out and i and i almost wanted to cancel because they said well there's no publicist and i mean i'm sorry there's obviously a publicist there's no stylist yeah yeah yeah i'm sorry i don't drink coffee i think i'm still half asleep no i love this um where's my soda no so no stylist um and i was like what am i gonna be barefoot and naked like that's weird yeah yeah yeah like that's weird to me like super vulnerable and doesn't it like just sound like well you weren't

naked you had a smoky eye uncomfortable like you know there was a silk blanket you know yeah um it was hot but you know uh actually eli the photographer went to the swift store and got like the like this really fun like red white and blue corset top and some boots and we shot on a motorcycle and then after that then basically i was barefoot naked but um they give you the facade that like here's a costume now yeah but they're making me feel comfortable but it was all very spontaneous and i had no idea going into it what exactly we were shooting oh it was amazing and like i i just again i think it is so great that you put yourself out there again and like showed off your hard work and this body and the personality like it's just it's awesome it's so

inspiring for all of us like it's just it's very very cool and if you want to subscribe to the church of carmen electra you may follow her on instagram preach at carmen electra um and you should definitely follow along she's so fabulous and we hope you'll come back to lady gang oh next time you want to you know tell us about your water and your dancing yeah love you so much so down and we will see you next tuesday Join the Lady Gang every Tuesday at iTunes and at podcastone.com. That's podcastone.com. Thanks for listening.

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