LadyGang - FLASHBACK FRIDAY: Dr. Emily Morse of Sex With Emily joins The LadyGang

Episode Date: December 23, 2022

Dr. Emily Morse, host of the "Sex With Emily" podcast, answers all the questions you're too terrified to ask anyone else including, the truth about the female orgasm, kegel camp, birth control, squirting, the great hair debate, lubricant, oral sex, and the elusive g-spot. Original Air Date: April 5, 2016 This Flashback is brought to you by Progressive! Quote your car insurance at Progressive.com to join the over 27 million drivers who trust Progressive!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey, Lady Gang, welcome to Flashback Friday, where we bring some of our favorite Lady Gang episodes from the vault to you in the feed. We have over 600 episodes of this podcast, and whether you're an OG and you've heard this episode before, or you're a new listener and we're just bringing this up and you had no idea we had this person on our podcast, well, you're welcome. Small caveat here, we are an imperfect group of trio of ladies, and we've been podcasting for almost six and a half years. If something we said in this podcast doesn't align with Lady Gang 2020, please give us grace. For instance, there was a period on Lady Gang where I was not into Taylor Swift. It was a reputation era. I wasn't feeling what she was begging, but now I'm like

a Swifty again. And so I just don't want you to hold me to that because we're all growing and learning and our opinions change pretty much every day. Without further ado, welcome to Flashback Friday. All right. If you celebrate Christmas, this one's for you. This is Sex with Emily. She was first on our podcast very, very early on because she was the one female podcast that I existed before lady gang there were so few when we started the podcast in 2015 i could count them on one hand and sex with emily was one she was so wonderful to us so opening we've shared many secrets and tools of the trade with her and and she's helped us over the years and we just love her this was an eye-opening episode you guys loved it i remember everyone was freaking out because

really this was the first time we got into like the lube conversation with sex and you know if you celebrate christmas it's christmas you may be on vacation you may be having sex very quietly and your in-laws you might be giving a blow job for a holiday gift i don't freaking know your life but i just thought it would lead us into the new year in a new sexy way get us a little like jazzy jazzy and we'd love emily and i thought it was the perfect episode to play so merry christmas have some sex and uh have a great weekend well what is this welcome to the lady gang that's amazing say that again the lady gang things are about to change around here each week we catch up with hollywood's hottest girl posse kelty knight becca tobin and jack vanik hello

everyone welcome to a very special episode of lady gang oh my gosh i've been looking forward to this all week you guys we have a very special sexy guest dr emily morse uh she's a sex expert She's going to do a special episode and really basically answer all of our questions. And you know we have some because you've heard the rest of the episodes. You know we're very confused. She, of course, is the host of the very, very popular and radical podcast, Sex with Emily. And she also has a site. Amazing.

But we want to welcome you. We want to make sure that you're heading over to iTunes, subscribing to the podcast, leaving us a five-star review. I think you're going to want to after you hear this one. You can always listen at PodcastOne.com or on the Podcast One app. You can also follow us at TheLadyGang, and this week is the week that we're going to hit. 10,000 followers. Yeah, it's going to happen. So go over there because we have something very special planned when we get that K-Basada number.

You can also go to TheLadyGang.com, sign up for our newsletter, and that's also, of course, where you can do your Ask the Lady Gang questions. I want to start today, just before we get into everything, with a very special email that we got regarding one of our episodes. that kelty was very confused about so it came from taylor swift the name is taylor swift the email address is taylor swift i'm too famous to give you my email at swift nation.com sounds real to me the subject is cockroaches at the zoo the message says all three of you lovely ladies now have your own cockroach named after you at the bronx zoo you're welcome love the podcast hug hug So either this is the real Taylor Swift and she loves the podcast and she heard us kind of bagging on her about the ridiculousness of the Grammys and she's now named the cockroaches

because you can name cockroaches after someone you hate. Or this is a super fan. She has a big vendetta against us. I want to look. I really, I'm going to do some digging and I'm going to find out what her like official or unofficial email. Well, we looked up SwiftNation.com and it does not exist. So we don't know who it was, but either way, here's the thing.

We like Taylor Swift. I just wasn't a fan of that moment So let's just be clear And Becca's holding her tongue Becca what's coming up It's because I'm in a burp Okay it's time for Good week

Yes it is Bad week Oh no Alright Jack I'm going first You're going first today Okay so my good week is Guess what I got

Oh my gosh She made it A too lazy to be crazy flannel Is that for me No, I need this one. You can buy yours on DocCom. No, I'll bring you one next week. My tool is to be crazy.

Flannels are available now. We're just peddling. Everybody needs one. Our wares. But everyone needs this so badly. This is like our own little mini inside joke that we've made. And now I think everybody deserves to be a part of it. I think I'm a part of pop culture in a cool way that I never have been before.

I know. Don't you feel included? I feel so included. This was inspired by both of you guys. well we're gonna instagram a picture of this because it's everything good job jack way to be a real entrepreneur you know i'm trying to do my thing so anyways that's my good week my my bad week okay so i feel like i am a pretty like open-minded person like i don't really judge people that much like just except for like all the time on this podcast but there's some there's

a few things in life that i think are like douchebag level five million okay and that really bother me okay one of those things are fedora hats another one of those things are e-cigarettes okay yeah and the third thing which you will disagree with me on are hoverboards no i agree oh no kelty definitely won't she spins her own cbs on her kelty loves hoverboards so and okay so i've had this my roommate and i have had we have this like the little things that we say and we say one of them is an e-cig is like a fedora for your mouth okay and the other one is a hoverboard is like an e-cig for your feet so all those things are like connected in my mind yes like it's douchebag yeah trifecta i appreciate that scott wrote a hoverboard while smoking an

e-cig didn't he wearing a fedora please god so the other day i was driving down the street and thank god it was not scott i would break up with him immediately i'm driving down the street in a normal like two-lane road right where there's like cars going through the streets and who rolls up next to me no just some adult male on a hoverboard wearing a fedora smoking an e-cig no way not kidding god sent that down from the heavens for you just so you know he's watching you know what and here's the thing too is i was right by my house and there's something weird about my street that every time i drive down my street like weird stuff happens and i'm like am i on the truman show like things will be like okay now ball go out but where's the kid and

then i have to like look for the kid and then it's like oh car crash right in front of my house there's always something happening and i'm like this was somebody's videotaping me right now for one second were you turned on no what like for one second were you like wow no i was wrong about the fedoras and the e6 no no that was like the worst thing that's ever happened to me i was very offended oh my god kelty can you beat that i can um you always can here's my good week it's very quick uh my husband was talking to me and he used the word colloquial and my panties got wet i thought your word was um bleak bleak wait that's just he used the word my husband has an amazing vocabulary and he was like it's very colloquial and i i just thought you're so smart and i'm so

turned on and i just thought it was such a great word this is the highlight it's hot it is hot and that was it like that's my i've honestly had a really i've had a horrific week and so there was one bright light of like my husband saying colloquial in a sentence and then the rest has been pretty shitty um tell us about it okay bad week please tell us so please tell us all the things you haven't already told us about your bad week okay so last um a couple episodes ago i talked about tiny mouse do you guys remember when i found the mouse and i rescued it in the tupperware and put it in the field did you found him dead on the side no listen to this so then i'm cleaning up again and i look over to the trash bin and i see another mouse hopping in the trash i told you

they were in your house i told you so now it's official i have mice so this is what happens i'm like oh my gosh tiny mouse was has a brother so i think okay the tiny mouse went in this there was two in the flowers and i didn't notice so then i close up the trash bag i make chris take the trash bag out we're sure we got the mouse because we're looking everywhere under the sink there's nothing and then i noticed that almost entirely underneath my sink you guys are gonna think i'm pigs but you know my house is sparkling clean yeah yeah uh the whole thing under the sink is just filled with mouse poop the whole thing and so i start taking out the trash bag box and like i open the trash bags and there's just mouse poop so like they've been in there for now three

weeks and so i have to stop you what'd you do with the tiny mouse's brother that was in the garbage well i took i tied him to bag and put it in the no i put it in the dumpster no i'm not being nice to the mouse anymore you guys you suffocated that mouse for saying i would turn the disposal on no i thought it was that's even worth worse because the disposal will kill oh my god i can't speak kill the mouse immediately yeah no now it's in hell in the dumpster and so slowly dying but listen no listen it gets worse you guys so then um so then i have to call the exterminator to like make sure there's no other mice right so he comes over and he oh no and he can't come for a day he's busy so i go down to home depot and i get the i'm trying to decide what mouse trap to

get so here's the options the mouse trap that you go it goes in and then when it tries to get back out a noose goes on it and it strangles it shut up secondly uh mouse trap it goes in and then it just chops it in half and then the why are these worse than like a normal mouse it's horrific um so the one I chose was the sticky foot one where it's just like a little pan of like sticky. You can't get out of another slow death. It's a horrific. So anyway, I clean out everything. We put the sticky trap down and I'm like, Hey, so here's the good news. I had to go to work. So I sent Elena, my assistant lady, I sent her the next day at 12 o'clock to meet the exterminator. And I was like, let me know how it goes. So she texts me and she goes, okay, so we boarded up the holes

and resealed all the pipes so you won't have any other problems um but there were seven tiny mice on the mouse pad this morning seven oh my god seven tiny were they alive i yeah that's the end of the story that sounds like coachella it was anyway i'm terrified it was horrible there's more mice i tried to be nice i tried to be hippie let me get the tiny mouse and save it nope those mice if you come in my house do you think they're ever gonna run your pita out again it's okay i didn't want to oh it's out that wins before any before mine okay but now you're gonna win yours mine okay um so my good week was i went to this spa in beverly hills it's a japanese spa saw this on your insta and you get your massage by this tiny little asian woman who puts literally

She's on your body on all fours. Her knees are in your hamstrings. Her elbows are in your back. It's like a Thai massage. It was amazing. Like, so good. And I'm not even really one of those massage people. I can, like, deal with it for 15 minutes, and then I'm, like, thinking about other, you know, whatever.

That's why you've got to have a strong, nice, full body on you. It was amazing. And then when you're finished, they bring in sugarfish sushi. What? Where is this? It's in Beverly Hills. What's it called? Tomoko or something.

That is my heaven. excuse my awful pronunciation it was amazing it was beautiful so that was like yourself right treat yourself i need to do that next week um okay so that was my good week here's my bad week okay last night i went to an event for um it's called a list and it's the a list it's like for a pr company for brands and all this stuff so the owner's this beautiful amazing generous woman who invites us to our house to try on jewelry and get clothes and like one of those really fun life on the a-list so famous so so famous no one's ever inviting us to this stuff i've never been you're not ready yet okay so i'm feeling like cute i got to like style myself which is always nice

no i got like normal adult clothing um and so i'm i'm i feel really cute and i'm not one of those people who ever looks in the mirror and i'm like i got it you know what i mean i i'm like this will do i'm fine like i'm very much aware of where i stand in the in the hollywood pyramid so i but i'm feeling pretty good and i go i go to this event and five minutes after getting there olivia colpo the one that was against me in the best dress miss universe miss universe i lost two she's haunting us she walks into this house and she didn't have her hair and makeup done professionally or from what i could tell because you can usually tell those things she like pulled her hair back like in a like easy bun she might have done a little something to her eyebrows had

on some mascara but that was like really it and i just like look at her and i'm like this is why i feel bad about myself living in hollywood she is like the most stunning human being on the planet she's also very cool and very sweet so i'm like oh i feel shitty about myself because like i'm just not like that girl an average girl you're not Miss Universe I'm not Miss Universe and it's like so upsetting and I'm also so Aryan which gets me really pissed off like she has like some sort of I can't offend people of my own color anyway she has some sort of sprinkle of something amazing and it's like as like a little Jewish white girl you're standing there like looking up at this like naturally tall magical creature and you're like where did i go wrong like where how how did my

mom just not find some like hot sexy cuban man you know it's like i love you dad but like why didn't she cheat on you you know seriously so like just moments like that where you go from feeling like top dog to you know you gotta get knocked down somehow or your head's too big anyways that's true please um i love that olivia and we actually asked her to be on the podcast and I don't think she said no, but her people said no. And I feel like we should. I think she'd be great on it. I think she'd be amazing.

We love her. But here's the thing. We're going to put her in a small black box and she'll do the podcast from behind that. So we can't see her and feel bad about ourselves. I'll just like start crying. I'm fine with that. All right. Should we move on?

I'm so excited. It's coming up. We're going to have Dr. Emily Morse here and she's going to answer, and we're calling this all the sex questions that you're scared to talk about with your friends. I love it. This episode of Lady Gang is brought to you by Progressive Insurance. Hey, Lady Gang, whether you love true crime or comedies, celebrity interviews, news, or even motivational speakers, you call the shots on what's in your podcast queue, right?

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Quote today at Progressive.com to try the Name Your Price tool for yourself and join the over 27 million drivers who trust Progressive. Progressive Casualty Insurance Company and Affiliates. Price and coverage match limited by state law. Okay, what's going on? Now, here's the lady gang. Okay, we have a very special guest today, Dr. Emily Morris. She was voted the number one dating and sex expert by datingadvice.com and the number one dating and sex expert to follow on Twitter.

She's proven to be the go-to thing for all sex and relationships. She's the author of the very popular book that I need to pick up, Hot Sex, Over 200 Things You Can Try Tonight. She's the host of Sex with Emily. It's a radio show and a podcast that you can listen to in your car, and it's awesome. She's appeared on pretty much every show that exists, Today Show, Dr. Drew, The Doctors, Bravo, Inside Edition, Watch What Happens Live, E! And we're very excited that you're here because I think our listeners are going to learn a lot. And I am going to learn a lot. I hope so.

Welcome. You guys are so fun. And you had cocktails. Yeah, there you go. I had champagne. It was a pretty good time. But then, yeah, champagne, same thing. And alcohol.

It's good. It's how you get people on your side. Yeah, it's how you have a little bit more. I was already in. And now I'm worrying. Perfect. So first of all, I want to know, what do your parents think of your career? That's a great question.

They're actually really supportive. My mom, at the beginning, she's like, you're doing what? Like your sex? What? like oh god my crazy daughter in california because i'm from michigan but it's been 10 years and i think it's just like she was like how are you gonna make a living doing that and for a long time i struggled because i did start a podcast 10 years ago when seriously people just figured out what it was maybe two years ago with cereal yeah yeah and she's like what are you doing i'm

like you know do what you love the money will follow you guys have this great questionnaire you're asking me here like about these do you talk about this that people should go to instagram see the questions this is awesome like one book every girl needs to read and stupidly baby after college i read do what you love the money will follow and i believe like what's my passion so i did a lot of different things and then i finally stumbled on something this is it i love sex talk so now that it is i've it's you know a living she's like fine with it she's as long as you're like paying your rent you're doing fine but they're not you know what's dad my father passed away when i was young but i often think god what would he what would he think no but

i think he'd be cool my whole family's just i think they get a kick out of me and you know what is yes it is sex with my mom so it's like oh she's got a show about relationships depending on who she's talking to like one of her clients right i'm like that's cool right exactly don't google my daughter but i think my family it's really you know entrepreneurial and doing my own things but isn't it crazy that there is that stigma oh because we're all having sex so why is it so weird to talk about it well that's why okay so right so that's the thing is that there's so much stigma with sex and i the reason why i started it was because i was confused about sex i was like why is everyone saying they're having the best sex of their life all the time because i just you

know i'm also like hard on myself so i'm like i certainly haven't had the best sex in my life so i just started interviewing people about their sex life and their relationship and that's how it started but yes it is still very taboo but my show's pretty i mean it's not like a dirty sex like you know show but it's informational and educational but you cannot get away from sex like when people unhear your form you're like what's your nickname i'm like sex like you're like oh there's sex hey sex like when you're at a bar my friend's like oh i want to introduce you to this guy like here's my friend's sex with emily i'm like so it is and people hear that and it's just you know they make obviously judgments but i love what i do and everybody has sex what is the number

one question you get asked um i get asked um you mean sex questions yeah like what when people find out what you do they want to know their thing what is the thing well their sex question i would say is um why can't i have an orgasm during intercourse interesting question yeah it is i mean because the thing is we're fed this myth that every woman just magically has like orgasms and like you know has you know firecrackers going off fireworks going off but only 30 of women can actually have one during penetration and of that 30 not every time like probably you know yeah half the time maybe this is one of the questions coming up so i want to get you to answer that um i want to know about the kegel camp okay because wtf i think i think i know the kegel is that when you lift the

golf balls with your vagina i don't know you have a camp where you're going to teach people and so what i wanted to do wait there's an actual i have an iphone app called kegel camp oh it's a kegel i'm not even saying it right no it's kegel kegel here's the thing we're all sitting here in chairs and most of the people that are listening are probably and so here's the thing explain what it is we're going to do one together oh i love this so here's the thing so they are the reason why you should do them women and men but women for women the men women do it the same way but it's our pelvic floor muscles right so over time the atrophy like they will get weakened um they will get weaker especially after like childbirth or just as you get older which means that you

sneeze and you pee you um which isn't fun urinary incontinence and also women who have trouble having orgasms it's like any other muscle the stronger you you make these muscles you build these muscles like do them for a month every day for five minutes like you will be having more orgasms you will be having more sex i'm buying it so how you do it is you um you know the okay when you the p-stopping muscles so when you stop and start the flow of urine someone's knocking on the door you're like those are the muscles so we're doing it so you're like okay find that muscle you tense it and you hold for five seconds and then you relax i've just been doing like well okay but you could start with like three seconds but you're supposed to hold them and

then relax them and then my app has 20 levels that you go through so it's like really hard it takes like weeks if you do it every day hold on but i now it's making me feel like i have to pee is that right i also have to pee just no well maybe we shouldn't do it but you could do it yeah it is normal but okay if you already peed then you're you're fine but there's all these great the thing about kegels is there's all these great tools now there's like kegel balls there's this yeah is it better to use something or is it good enough honestly you could do this like i have a friend who's she's a sexologist as well just like every time i'm on the phone i if i'm having a phone call like i just do like that's her trigger because people are like oh you can do

my traffic light but no one remembers and the reason why i created the app because i was like it has a reminder function so it's like time for kegel camp on my phone every day at 11 and i'm always like snooze because you know it's hard to do your own thing but then i eventually do them and i just you know and then you build up to like these levels but yeah you and it's i think you'll feel it like i feel it like i feel more turned on i feel like i can have different i know different kinds of like orgasms that are not usually as accessible um have you heard of the phenomenon naked stretching and yoga do you want me to tell you about it so i invented something great where um so if you don't feel like having sex or you're not really you know you're busy woman on

the go you can just get naked stretch like do a full yoga class and have your man just lay there and look at you. And I think they like it. Okay. But here's the thing that to me sounds like he's just going to be like, get over here because you're so hot and I'm turned on. Yeah. And then they have a bony. Then they have a bone. Then you're just, that's like foreplay. Like I can't imagine. So what if he's like taking care of business? Yeah. What if he's taking care of her? If you don't want to have sex and he takes care of business and it's over in 10 minutes, then you're not, you're good. And what do you think? I think that's fine. I mean, if you, if you're not in the mood for sex, which as long as it's not like a ongoing, like every night,

You're like, time for naked stretching. And you're going to often have sex with your husband? I'd be like, maybe every once, third day, have sex. But, God, there's so many times we're just not in the mood. And so, yeah, nothing wrong with him getting his and you getting your stretching. Naked stretching. I have no problem with that. Dr. Approved.

Dr. Approved. Hey. Okay. And you're stretching. And you're getting a workout. Which I love. I like it. Okay.

So what we did is we have so many female listeners. and I think we didn't want to have people tweet in our Instagram because we wanted them to stay anonymous. And so we wanted our listeners to have the opportunity to have a conversation with you and ask the questions that they are terrified to ask anyone else. Because here's the very interesting thing is that, you know, here we talk about a lot of things, but there is that stigma even with your girlfriends of like, you don't want to admit that you're the one with the whatever. No, absolutely. That's why I do radio and that's why I do podcasting because people can be anonymous. Okay. So here they go. These are the sex questions we're scared to ask our

friends. So all anonymous. Here's the question. First one, how wet is the right amount of wet? And what do you do if your vagina just is always dry? Oh, that's a great question. Okay. So first of all, there is a myth that how wet you are indicates your arousal level and it can fluctuate for a lot of women throughout the month. You can be around, you can be really, you know, you can be more wet than others you can be aroused and not be wet at all you can be really wet and not be aroused so that's just one thing i want to clear because you know guys are like oh she's not wet but that's really interesting did you guys know that no and i think there needs to be like a t-shirt yeah no seriously well you know let me tell you my dream so let me tell you the answer is that

lubricant like my issue is that like my dream one of them i should add this to my quiz uh lube on every nightstand like because lubricant is so underrated because people think and i think guys think this too they're like oh she's like there's a problem i'm not turning around enough so if we use lube she's dry it's my fault or there's discomfort like lube is something like you keep like tucked away if it's yeah if something's going wrong yeah something's wrong but i bring other no no i use lube all even if you're wet it just it just adds a little something to it because it's a different consistency yeah and i'm telling you like i've never like i think you can never have like too much lube in your life and leave it on your nightstand and make it part of your

so steps which you do just add you know it could be like medication she's taking it could just could be her natural cycle but i love and you don't buy the kind of the drugstore it's like don't buy astroglide what's your go-to do you have a go-to my favorite is pure it's uh p-j-u-r um and you know it's a little more expensive but it's you know probably like 15 16 a bottle but it'll have a little pump so it's easy you don't have to like oh wait hold on let me like you know i like little labor and look comes in like a classy bottle so it could be like face lotion but you just add a little bit but don't but but it's not but don't put on your face but i fear seriously think that women should not be ashamed of it because also there's studies that show that

women who actually added lubricant were more likely to have orgasms than not i believe that because it's a different even if you're right it goes away fuck but this is you just keep adding like i just always like the more leave the merrier sure and then you can put on your body rub around it's a good time okay i love that see we're so glad you're here we've already that's Now I'm not going to feel so bad when I'm dry as a desert out there. We're going to bring you some stuff next week. You guys are going to be on my podcast soon and I will

bring you some of it. Someone on Twitter actually was brave enough to ask. They wanted to know what a queef is. What a queef is? What's a queef? I don't think they're asking what a queef was. I think they're asking what do you do

when you queef? Is it embarrassing? How strict do you react? If you're in the middle of something, I say our sex is messy it's not always you know there's a lot of fluids there's a lot of noises there's grunts there's things you know and if you're with i say you just keep going like it happens it's a natural part of sex like you're going to queef you're going to do other things you don't want to do there's going to be weird liquid things are going to come out and i think you just keep going or you could like smile i mean i don't know i mean just keep going it's like totally natural

it happens like it means that you have the penis in and out and it's like you the air like it's air bubble it happens but you know how my trick is this so you know how like when once it starts it can't stop like the queefing are you the type of person where you're like if a little air comes out and then you're like i know 10 are following no no but okay um yes let's just say yes yes all the time so i should have tweeted this i should have emailed this question anonymously no but like i feel like i can't so once i feel like my first one i'm i'm paralyzed because i know that if i move if i do anything it's coming yeah so i started taking the sheet wait what the sheet and like muffling my vagina i muffled the vagina here's the thing you're probably not the only

person that i do it also when i go to learn something i also do it when i go to the bathroom because sometimes a little fart comes out you can't control it right you wrap your hand with toilet paper you put it over your butthole and it's called the muffler that is the best thing i've literally ever heard thank you damn that means a shirt is raising the room people are so this is comment they're so we're so self-conscious during sex like what's he thinking of my body and what's he thinking of my queefs and what's he thinking of you know whatever and i think like you know you know what he's in bed with you he's really attracted to you he's so excited to be having sex with you you think that because you queefed or you think that you gained a pound or

you did something funny that he's like gonna leave no men don't really care no not at all i mean hopefully you're with the guy who like gets it like that happens you know that leads us to our next question, which is like, what is he thinking when he is down there? Because here's the thing for lots of women, it takes a minute. Oh, you know what I mean? 25 to 40. And so you're sitting right. So you're sitting there and you're enjoying yourself, but is he thinking like, oh my God, can she just come already? Like what, what is she thinking? It depends on the guy. If you're with, if you're with a guy, the right guy, he's thinking, this is so great. I'm into it. And And I hope I can get her there.

They should feel honored. They should feel honored that they get to pray, that they get to bow at the beauty of your, you know, what's the word? What do you call it? Yoni. I hate that word. Vagina. What's a good word for vagina?

There isn't a frigging good word. There isn't a good word or not. I don't even like, on my show, I'm like, I hate saying vagina. I'm not going to say anything else. But like, he's, so yeah, but there are men who are like, not fans. Like, they're just not. And those are not the guys that you want to be with. Like, on Loveline, too, like, we were talking about Mike Hathaway, like, he's always like,

if you are a guy who doesn't like it you should be sent to syria if you don't like doing it and i've been with guys i just told a story about this as the storytelling thing i was like i i was with the guy once i was like what is the deal like what i finally said to him did he just not want to go down i was like what is the i mean i gave him three options i was like so we've been dating for like nine months like so it was long distance so okay i realized that you don't often perform oral i'm just curious like a do you think i don't like it b you're not sure exactly like what to do or what i like or three you're not that into it and he's like i guess i'm just not that into it i was like i'm not that into you so it is true that just like some women don't like

going down and guys some men don't like it either but i hope he's thinking like what can i do to please her and i get so many emails and calls about that guys are like what could i do how can i be better oral sex and i think that women we're so we're looking at the clock like it's been 10 minutes ago and hopefully you're with someone that you can both feel really comfortable and settle in and you know okay let it happen the great hair debate what are we supposed to do with the hair right like is the bush back is that like i don't know i well here's the thing i think we do have we have some older listeners we have younger listeners i think everyone's kind of wondering like what does everyone else's vaginas look like and i because you know when you're

dating right you don't want to scare off people like what are you supposed to do can you tell us please like what what is our jj gonna look like god i mean i think i think that you trim for sure shave trim and i think nothing or like like a landing strip is what is still what people are doing these days right and um you just i i think but also whatever you feel comfortable with like if you are happy rocking whatever you're rocking then a big old bush if you want the big old bush and you're like a bush's back do it like i don't like to say that this is like that but i i do think that what the norm is is that you know people are taking care of it they're trimming they're shaving they're taking it all off which to me is like kind of easier and i also got lasered

i get lasered it's the most amazing thing ever because i'm like but i didn't get it all lasered because i was like well what if the push comes it's like 10 i'm like what if the push does come back i want to push which i i hope never happens but i have a little bit of like yeah a little room for growth room for growth exactly i did not but whatever but i think and also i think you might be with a partner who's like you know what i think it'd be hot if you took it all off or you have to strip. So just, you know, discuss it, but also just do what feels good to you. Okay. Someone asked, um, what if you're having sex and you kind of start to smell yourself? Okay. So, um, if you start to smell yourself and it's like an odor that you're not used to,

typically it could mean that you have an infection. It could mean that like a bacterial infection or a UTI so common. And, um, or you might, you know, you might need to like go to shower or something but if you're clean and it's like a weird you know a smell that's not normal to you then you you might have an infection so just go to the doctor what if because listen vaginas have a scent yes they do and so what is it strange for you to be having sex and then smell that vagina scent i don't think that that's strange it's only strange if it smells like what it always smells like that's my vagina right that's good but if it's like oh that's an odd smelling vagina then there's then there's a problem and i think i get uh emails a lot of

calls also on love life from guys were like what do i do it smelled weird it's like you should just tell her like tell her you were like listening to sex with emily and babe i'm worried about you like i love this is not usually like i love going down you i love it being with you but but something's a little off oh my gosh if a man ever i would be mortified if he said nothing and then it was just like this big elephant in the room right like your big stinky vagina smelly all you would hope that you could smell your own self yeah i I mean, check it out. Make sure that you're clean, too, before.

Like, I always, like, you know, do the wipe-up before I'm with someone. I try to go to the bathroom. Greatest thing ever. Right. Baby wipes. Baby wipes. Carry them in your bag. There's all these, like, femme wipes, too.

Make sure they don't have any chemicals in them. A little lavender wipe. Yeah, like, just do a little something. Okay. We do have some young listeners. Okay. And we got a lot of emails that just said, how do I know when I should be having sex? What is sex going to feel like for the first time?

Okay. That's a great one. I actually just did a show on this, our virgin show. we just did a virgin show oh that's great yeah so they should check that out and text with emily but it's um god what you expect the first time i mean it's you're not going to see like rainbows and unicorns probably disappointment yeah it's not going to be everything that you you think it's cracked up to be um your partner's not expecting you to be perfect and to know every single move because it's your first time and hopefully if it is your first time that it's with someone that

you trust someone that you you know at least know well enough to know their character they're not can make you feel bad about yourself you know because it is a chart let's talk as women right i mean it's it's a charged thing like you always remember your first like you don't remember like the first time like you went on a bike ride or like the first time you did like you're like sex you remember so i would say make sure you're making a good choice about who it is don't be pressured into it and um but when you do decide you know there could be some pain there might be bleeding although there is a hymen myth that you know only like less than half of women bleed the first time so a lot of women like i didn't believe so i'm not a virgin like that's just a total myth

like so yeah half of women do so because you might tear it in other ways and just um just kind of go and be in the moment and um you know might be painful might you know but you're probably not gonna have an orgasm but you're probably not gonna see fireworks but um i think go slow if you experience any pain let your partner know and um again just hopefully you're with someone that you feel good about you trust oh okay um what's a g-spot and how do i know mine exists what's it supposed to feel like how does it work oh god this is a whole this could be this has been a whole episode um okay your g-spot is a called grafenberg spot actually against the the doctor who actually named it years ago he found it he discovered yeah what the heck was he doing so the

g-spot is about two inches inside your vagina so it's like uh it's it's in the anterior wall of your vagina so if you stick two fingers inside in a come hither motion going like towards your belly button okay towards your belly button it's about two inches inside and you'll feel like a rough kind of feels like a walnut shape and that is your g-spot why is it there what it's just you know what that's a really good question it's just it's from i don't even it's like an appendix you don't really need it exactly well like the clitoris too i mean you know 8 000 nerve endings like the only reasons the clitoris exists is for you know pleasure yeah so the g-spot but the problem with spot is it's so elusive is that so many women don't find it like during intercourse they think

well why do i not have one and so does everyone have one everyone pretty much has one or they could find one i mean there's some women like you're like i can't find it it's nowhere but for a lot of women who've never found it and they've had sex a lot like i don't understand or i've tried it so how you find it is first of all it's great to be turned on and to be aroused because it's more likely to swell and um all the you know blood will rush to that area so typically if you can have a clitoral orgasm you can knock that out and you'll be more aroused but also you can either stick two fingers inside you you can use a toy and you just start it's like a um it's not it's like a kind of you put pressure on it like with fingers or you can you could do it with

a penis or a toy and then a lot of women can orgasm typically it feels when you get to the right spot like you're gonna pee but you're not kind of like kettles but you actually can have an orgasm but i have to say that person my personal story is that i never found mine during sex like i just i was like i don't have one i'm one of those women and i went to work like i you know i think that the most especially for the virgins too the most important thing you can do which i meant to mention her is is is to spend time figuring out your own body and what makes yourself feel good and and it could take you time like i was looking for my juice pop for like years but then i really focused on it for like three months because i was like i'm really you like

went on a walk no i did like i moved to san francisco when i was i went on what you went on a walkabout to find your juice i literally like it was like a mission i was like i quest because I was like, I've had sex. What's the deal? And this is what, you know, it really was later in life. And I was like, God, I've got to find it. And so I had toys. I read all the books.

I used Lube. And I was just like patient with myself. I was like, oh, that's – and then you figure out where it is. And then when you're having sex with a partner, you can move in that way so you know where it is. I mean some women are just like, boom, I found it. But for a lot of women, it takes work and it might take you some time. Julia Roberts should have done that on Eat, Pray, Love. It should have been Eat, Pray.

Juice box. Juice box. Exactly. No, I have a friend. I've told this on my show, but in college, she's like, I've never had an orgasm, and she had an internship somewhere, and she spent every day for 30 days. She's like, I'm just going to find it, and she did. Like, the 27th day.

Wow. She was like, I did. So, some women, it's easier. Some women, it's not. But I say it's worth looking for. Worth looking for. Isn't it BS that we have to do all this homework? I know.

Because guys are like, boop, I'm done. Guys are like, I have a penis. It's so true. My four-year-old nephew can basically, like, he already gets it. I know. You know? It's so unfair. I mean, I'm not saying he jerks off.

right right but he's like it's like unbelievable he's not gonna have to do this when he's like 30 years old we're so complicated we're so complicated and for men they're like so when you say what's the guy thinking he might be thinking too can she show me what she likes because i'm not sure what i'm doing because everyone yeah we're so much more complicated with what we like exactly like his last woman like the last girl he's with like you know more mouth and more fingers this one hates finger like we're all different so once you've one figured out we just change because we're like that we're women we get to like change our minds and change what we like screw with men There's a lot of rumors about having a baby

It stretches out your vagina Your sex is never the same Can you talk to our Mamas out there about how they Are supposed to attend to Their vaginas Cagle exercises, I'm telling you They are a miracle, and here's the thing

In France, for aftercare Postnatal care, they actually We have this We work with this company called InControl And it looks like a rabbit vibrator but it's actually an electrostimulator that you put inside you and it's a vibrator and like a medical device in a way, but it,

it does your kygo exercises for you. And it's part of the, you just, that's what I do. And that's why they're so strong. And you use my app and I do them and it's like, you just put it into like stimulation and it just does it. You don't barely have to do anything.

So it's pretty cool. But you just lay there and you put inside you and it's got this electric, it's called in control of my website. It's called poor moi in control, the banner or something. And it's, um, it's the most amazing thing because i had my app because i was like this is because all my friends

who have kids are like why am i peeing like why i don't enjoy sex anymore and so it's because kegels but if you rather you buy if you buy the in control or you just do them on your own i promise you it takes like a month which is five minutes a day which is not yeah that's that much that's very fast okay really fast results so i would say after childbirth you got it you got to do it because you you literally you have stretched all your muscles and they are you know you're like peeing you're just it's not the same so you got to put them back together and you got to keep you got to keep doing them and also for the g-spot question same thing is that when i started um doing more kegels too i was able my let's just say my g-spot was much easier to find

the kegels are just it's the answer i know it's the green juice of your vagina literally that is so true and i feel like people don't everything just goes back to kegels it does it's weirdly it it does okay that's why you gotta go to kegel camp yeah okay next question couple more is it normal to squirt what should you do when it happens the first time you're hooking up with someone acknowledge it ignore it keep on keeping on um is it normal i mean i would say a lot of women do and again from the g-spot what's the squirting yeah can we talk about yes we can we absolutely also men think it's cool because of porn i'm so confused okay so 10 years ago nobody was really asking about squirting at all they were like when i started like oh you know they

We're talking more about other things. But it is because of porn. And I think a lot of guys find it, you know, really hot if you can squirt. And there's all these, like, things that you could teach yourself to. And, you know, you probably can if you sit and you put enough pressure on it once you find your G-spot and you want to go there. But why does hitting the G-spot make you squirt? Like, what is the –

So it's the – okay, so the fluid that comes out. People are like, is it urine? Because now there's, like, a big debate. Like, it's urine and she's peeing on me. So it's from the periurethral glands. The fluid is what comes out. But there are, like, traces of urine in it. But it's different fluid, comes from a different place, but it's – yeah, it might have – it's a different thing.

And women can squirt without having an orgasm, and you can also have an orgasm and squirt, but a lot of women just squirt, and it happens. And I think just keep – I think it's – he might say that's really hot, or she could just say, wow, I just squirted, but I don't think it's anything to be embarrassed. Again, it's just like the – it's like the other side of the grief. This is more fun maybe, but it just happens. yeah and guys that's why there's all these like videos like to learn how to squirt there's like courses right oh my god okay um i'm just gonna start peeing and be like oh my god i squirted sample there was more urine it smells like piss but it's squirt juice or whatever i don't even know what it is like whatever it is i'm hot bye um okay last one of our anonymous questions but

actually this this question we got about 20 questions of the same type of question good Um, and, but I want to read this person's in particular. She said, my boyfriend of five years can't give me an orgasm. Um, and this echoed what a lot of people said, which was, I can't have an orgasm, which makes me uninterested in sex, which makes me then turn down my person all the time. And I do, you know, I have sex just because, and I don't want to have to keep saying no help. Okay.

And this was a lot of, in various ways, asked the same exact thing. Such a good question. So the most important thing is that, so my boyfriend can't give me an orgasm. Nobody's giving you an orgasm. The most important thing I want to say to these women is that you have got to do your work. Like, figure out your body yourself. And I'm telling you, I'm telling you to spend time masturbating. Like, it's pleasure.

Like, I'm not saying, like, you got to go, like, do your taxes. It's like, and here's the thing. Like, again, it might not happen right away, but take your phone out of your room unless you want to watch porn or maybe on your computer, whatever you want. But like make a time that you're like, I'm going to sit here and I'm going to think sexy thoughts or read erotica or watch whatever it is that turns yourself on. And you just start like playing with yourself. Like you seduce yourself, you know, you think about, you know, use lube and use toys. Toys are amazing.

Oh my God. Toys are so under, I mean, people aren't using toys. Instant orgasm. Instant orgasms. I have this toy with a womanizer is amazing. It's like the 60 second orgasm. But I would say first try on your own because once you figure out your own body, then you'll be able to explain to your partner what you want and and so for someone again it just happens the

first time or it happens when they're riding a bike when they're like five which I that never happened to me either but um yeah that's why it's because you they have not spent the time learning their bodies and they're just thinking that magically he's gonna or she's gonna move some way it's gonna happen so this just tells me like do your homework um if you go to my site sex with emily.com we it's 10 years of like and we probably have like hundreds of articles on like self-pleasure, uh, master maze, masturbation month coming up. Like we do tons of this and it gives you like step-by-step, like what to do, what toys to use. Another thing I left out, like just how do you increase libido was one of the things that people had kind of added.

Okay. So no, that's another tough question I get asked. And also like another one is like mismatch libido is like my partner wants it more than I do. So libido is a really interesting thing. Um, there could be a lot of factors why your libido can decrease. And one of them, like one of the hidden like libido killers is birth control pill damn it and they do not jack just went on the boom which one well it's low low estrin okay i mean the thing is it affects every woman differently so if that's happening to you and i do not know why your gynecologists don't tell you this that that is a huge side effect and so if you're finding that like i went on the pill and i don't want sex you can switch it up like go play with it get try another

one. Um, also other medications, antidepressants kills your sex drive. Um, you know, any other kind of like a lot of other drugs. Um, but it can also be, you know, depression. Um, it could just be that, you know, there could be some other stress worry. So when you're describing like a normal sex drive is, is a normal person feeling like I need to have sex five times a day. Like what's a normal 17 year old boy is, but you know, as a woman who's listening, like if we want to be drive what's a normal sex drive no normal okay i'm not like normal sex drive or how many times a week are you asking like how many times a week that's another thing that's not there's no normal it's typically what if you're with your partner and you both agree that like you know three times

a week five times a week is great or one time a week you're both totally satisfied then that's great but if one of you want sex five times a week and one of you want sex once then you got to do some compromise and what i also want to say to a lot of the women is that it's kind of like you know when you don't want to go to the gym and it's like the last thing you want to do and then you're like i got a door and then you're like okay i put my shoes on and then once you get in you get out the door and the hardest part sometimes is getting out the door but once you get to the gym you're like okay i'm gonna go sex is a lot like that when you tell me you're stretching thing i was gonna say to you well maybe if you just aren't you kind of turned out from stretching

because typically if you just start doing it you're like oh you don't have to get into the you gotta get into it and whatever it is like also i think like think about like what turned you like sexy thoughts or whatever it is like erotica that like turns you on or maybe a lot of times words like for women yeah the brain is the brain organ like he could be texting you sexy things throughout the day like i can't wait to see you tonight and like you have like it's like foreplay yeah yeah like i would say foreplay starts after the last orgasm so like whatever you can do to keep your mind there but you know it's gonna it's gonna ebb and flow we get stressed we get busy but just look into a lot of those those things i mean never regretted an orgasm

You know, there's like a shirt that's like never regretted a workout. Yeah, exactly. I'm never like, oh, why'd I have sex? You're never like, why'd I go to the gym? That sucks. Never, ever. Once you get there. Yeah.

It's a really good analogy. What's, um, okay. So the, like a lady question was going to be one thing, but now I've in my mind, it literally just switched. And so I'm going to ask every single one of us, what is your thing? Like she just said, erotica, you know, your brain, like what is your turn on? becca's face is like no i'm just like i'm like damn it because i usually think of these beforehand you go first kelsey for me it's being warm like warm temperature like i know that's

crazy but like for me i'm always like i only really am like super turned on if i'm like warm like i like to be under the comfortable thing and so what about naked stretching are you call but then you get your body heat going yeah you i just like i like a warm house i like a warm room i like candles like i like candle atmosphere all the things that are warm wow for me yeah that's interesting you know i like dirty talk i like like a sexy text or like hey i was thinking about you and sexting and all that like the words get me turned on oh yeah i'm i'm 100 with you words for sure like tell me what this is another good thing for movement and i'm like little foreplay like tell them what you if you're like i don't know what to say like tell them how

hot it was last night and like name one specific thing that you remember like that was so hot when you blank or i like when you it's so easy just like little things that keep you going and feel your dirty i'm just like over here under the comforter so embarrassed like it's so warm wow okay every kind of it's all what has emily taught us which is just everybody everybody's different everybody so jack dirty talk dirty talk and then i don't know just seeing like your man turned on right and like really really wanting you yeah it makes you feel sexy yeah i think that's what it is it's like when you feel i don't know like desired yeah when you're feeling really good about yourself then it's like well and we've talked about this so many times we're like what

if he sees my cellulite what if it's like a guy if he's just so into you that nothing else matters and you're not worrying about your insecurities then i think that's like what is the sexiest thing that's true be present be in the moment like we're all we're as women like we worry so much and we just they're not noticing any of that stuff you know so i think we take ourselves out of the moment and the more you can just direct back to your body like what am i feeling okay i'm thinking i'm fat but go back to the moment like where am i this is what's happening i'm connecting with him like as much as it's like meditation like the more you can just train your mind to go back to the moment like i'm with this person this is great we're kissing oh my god my thighs

no back to kissing you know what i mean that's that was the question i was going to ask you because i think with women am i echoey no not anybody else just me with women it's the orgasm is like so much more mental than i think it is for a guy like you have to like hone in and be like i'm gonna orgasm this is gonna happen i have to not think about anything else and then for me it's like sometimes if i like i miss i feel like if i get off the train then it's like hard for me to get back on it and make it happen disappearing how about i had to break up with a guy because i kept seeing his mother's face and his i can't date a guy who looks too much like their mother i really can't yes now like since that happened when i started dating people on

like a first date yeah i would or like after it got to like a couple dates it's like once you see pictures of their parents or meet their parents right you you really like if he looks too much like his mother even the dad like i don't i don't want to like what's the dad's cute that's so funny that's different yeah you're like funny you think of the mother maybe they you shouldn't ask to see the mother maybe just like i don't want to meet your mom ever ever that's so when we get married yeah your mom's not coming it was maybe someone who's adopted oh yeah that would not have this problem but i do think it's so sorry no it's just it's i do think it's so interesting though listen we live in hollywood and we watch all these movies and like i think what you said is

very true because it's like it's a little bit harder than hollywood and the sexy texts and rihanna music videos are making it look it's also actually get off harder than it is for a guy like guys so i'm telling you it's a hard for women and that's why you should not be embarrassed to say you know what i'm gonna touch myself because here's the problem why most a lot of women don't have the orgasms during intercourse is because most women require clitoral stimulation most sex positions the go-to ones are not hitting your clitoris at all you're not getting enough stimulation and so you should not be shy about using your fingers your hands more lube a toy there's so many great little tiny vibrating toys like i love like the we vibe touch and like they're

like they fit in here the mimi by jay-z they fit in your hand it's like it doesn't look like this big scary thing but it's like a vibrator it gets you there like just do whatever you have to because you should have yours absolutely i love that i love that all right when we come back we're going to do some non-sex related questions so we can just get some advice some relationship and life advice from you boring let's talk about sex all right so you're gonna help us with some non-sex related sex related questions because you're just like a knowledgeable person and i think that you might be a little bit better at answering them than we are but before we start if you guys want to get 20 off on jackvanek.com

use code lady gang and buy a too lazy to be crazy flannel and we're all gonna be twins twins okay so the first question comes from sarah through email oh and if you guys want to write us um anonymous questions you can email hello lady gang at gmail.com and we'll try our best unless you're taylor swift and you're no longer anonymous or we're just gonna pretend everybody's taylor swift in our questions okay so first question comes from sarah through email and she says i have a horrible roommate first of all she's really rude and passive-aggressive and second of all she has an ocd clean she is an ocd cleaner and it's really stressing me out i've been living with her for a year and a half now and i can't take it one more second what can i do to make

it through the last three months until my lease is up and i can get the hell away from this biatch it's so bad being a bad living situation it's like roommates suck i've had roommates so long sarah are you messy that's what i was thinking too maybe your roommate's just like a normal cleaner isn't it nice that your roommate is i would be so pumped although she might be kind of one of those bees that like does it in front of you and like spiteful like if you have like a cup out she like takes the cup and like puts in the yeah that's awful i mean that's so hard months just suck it up and move through yeah three months i'll like fly by but maybe do your best to like you know maybe it's a good it feels better when you're a little bit cleaner like if you know

what's annoying her and it's like you can pick up you know put your bag in your bedroom just like do it well just keep your mess to your own room exactly like just throw yourself in your room just get in that habit because it's a habitual like you're like okay i'm gonna throw this in the living room but i'm actually i could walk into my room now because you got three months i mean she could confront her but what if it gets really you know i would i would there's a light at the end of that tunnel so it's just like don't confront but also this is a great metaphor for life because your whole life whether you're living with this this particular person or not is going to be you having to compromise and especially when you get in a long-term relationship

and you're living with someone guess what that person that you fall in love with that you love their peen and they found your g-spot they might leave their dishes they might want you to be ocd clean and so it's just about figuring out how to meet someone in the middle it's true there are worst things that your roommate could be doing too yeah what if i had one that i found pictures from after i moved out of her handcuffed to the radiator and having orgies on my bed on your bed how'd you find the pictures wearing a tank top do you still have that tank top i know i never saw it after her oh she stole it where did you see the orgy pictures in our dorm room oh yes wait this was in your dorm room yeah yeah she was my roommate and that's such a small orgy

you would be shocked it was like it was scenes out of like the greatest porn ever yep on my bed so you know what sarah just clean your dishes could be an orgy could be worth an orgy okay in your tank top that's so sad you never got it back okay our second question is from heather through email and she says i met a guy on tinder six months ago we started dating almost immediately because we hit it off so well when we first started dating i asked him if he was on facebook he said no fast forward to about a week ago and a girl popped up on the people you may know section my guy was in the picture with her i clicked on her profile and found out that she's been dating the same guy i've been dating since

2011 the moment i found out me and the guy broke up i think she deserves to know but i also don't want it to seem like i'm just trying to start trouble i definitely am not but i would want somebody to tell me in this situation what would you do wait they broke up in 2011 so she's she started dating this guy okay found out that he has been dating this other girl since 2011 but then when the this girl found out she broke up with the guy but now she wants to tell the other girl but doesn't know if she should do you paddle on that on you tattle on the guy and she's still dating the guy and she already no she's not she broke up with him but the other girl is still dating him i don't think so i mean yeah that's such a i don't know it's so hard like the girl

code thing but like i'm glad she broke up with him all right so she just saw the picture and if she was i thought she was still with him but i'd say i say no i don't know what do you guys think like i know there's a certain like right now rage you want to like you should know that he's a cheating i don't know becca now i don't know that yeah it is tough because it's like you think you're helping but then at the same time like maybe they have an arrangement maybe they're an open relationship i think she should just move on from this guy and it's like he's also Probably doing it with other girls. Yeah, and if she's been with him since 2011, unless she's Helen Keller, like, she's sensing that he's straight.

That's what I was going to say. You know what I mean? Like, she will see something. If he's on Tinder, somebody's seeing him on Tinder. You can't be on Tinder anonymously. So I'm sure that's either a ragement or she knows he's cheating on him and doesn't care. I think you should walk away and get back on Tinder. Yep.

Or not Tinder. I mean, first of all, I think you should go live your life. But also, I'm going to disagree with you guys. I think you should tell him or her. And the reason is that I was cheated on in a relationship for many years. And the people close to me knew and other guys that we were friends with, their girlfriends knew. And no one ever told me. Yeah, but that's friends.

That's true. That is friends. I had a couple girls. Wait, their friends didn't tell you or your friends didn't tell you? Like if we were in a circle of friends, right? Like if there were six of us that all hung out all the time. Those other girlfriends knew about the cheating and didn't tell me. Oh, I flipped their tires. Yes Your friend should tell you that's different. This is a stranger. I guess you're right

Yeah, anonymous like don't go down that road You don't need to but I also had one of the girls that he cheated on me with Write me a big email like I didn't know about i'm feeling so guilty. I didn't know about you He told me that you were just friends or you had an open relationship and then I was like I knew the lies He was telling so so then did that make you feel better? Are you glad I still hated her and I still hated him so you're right you know what after much thought well just walk away and live your best life you're like damned if you do damned if you don't there's not a good situation to happen in that i think the thing to walk away from is like you walked away from it so it's like you're you're stress-free

you're drama-free like just go right back on tinder and find somebody else and also is there like a facebook button where you can say like don't show me this again yeah i think there is that's what you need deactivate okay so our last question's from kate on email and she says i'm conflicted if you knew your friends were stealing doing drugs or other illegal things what would you do blackmail them and get a cut you're such a bad kid i'm kidding i'm kidding get new friends yeah yeah i mean she is but you know that's like another thing it's just don't get involved in drama that you're not involved in just don't do it and then get new friends people don't stop doing things like that unless they want to yeah you're not yet you tattling on them is not going

to do anything do you guys remember being young in like high school and stealing well yeah but like sometimes like young girls would plan interventions and they would like contact the parents of like a girl who was anorexic or a girl who was having anal in the locker room maybe it's just me um but like don't do that don't contact someone's parents unless they're like shooting up heroin they're gonna die like that never ever went over well yeah unless yeah unless there's like an immediate danger to their life you can go parent to parent like go to your parent they'll go to the parent like because that was always like a disaster i feel like there was interventions like once a week at my school i've never had one and also the thing is is that you

gotta let people make their mistakes i mean when i was in eighth grade my best friend katie stole a lip smacker from walmart and she got reprimanded she found out and then she had a life ban from walmart and like you have to make your mistakes and so you might be all highly high and mighty like holy grail where you're looking at these people like dealing drugs or stealing or whatever but at some point they're gonna get caught or something's gonna happen where either they become a drug dealer for their life or they get on the straight and narrow and you kind of have to let people live their lives make their mistakes without being too like mother trees yeah you can't tell anybody what to do people can change i mean banned from the cvs by my high school you were

yeah would you steal um lip lip gear like gear this is the 80s lip gear was so important it was the 90s it wasn't the brand lip gear oh it was just i thought so i was thinking of la gear the sneakers never mind no like lip accoutrement and so it was right by the corner of my high school and i went in there with some older girlfriends and we were shoplifting and we got caught and they're like never come in here again and then like my mom would sometimes drive me to school and she'd be like do you want to run into the cvs and get like a bottle of water for ballet and i'm like no but guess what i haven't i have not shoplifted since this same kind of thing happened to me but it was with my cousin stole a thong from jc penny when we're i don't know in fourth

grade and i was like i was this girl i was like innocent little i'd never do anything wrong so when she got like arrested into their jc penny jail i was so scared and freaked out that they thought i stole stuff too so they started like raiding my bags because i was like freaking out and like running away from them because my mom also told me not to talk to strangers but then i never stole anything ever but i never would after that and many of you ever shoplifted um i i did i stole a chocolate bunny once uh yes it was like an easter like candy like bunny thing and um and my friend was like a chronic shoplifter in seventh grade everybody was a chronic shoplifter jc penny as well at the mall and she stole lipstick

and the freaking security guards come out with the things and they took her beyond and I they have a JCPenney jail yes they do I remember this we had to call our parents

to come pick her up yeah I had to call my parents too it was horrible like it was like your heart just I hadn't stolen anything either but she didn't yeah and that

I had stole the bunny with her like a week earlier and then she like went full hardcore that was like at our local drugstore which wasn't even like a chain it was like the mom and pop thing

and then she went crazy stealing stuff and then yeah she did and then she got in trouble you know JCPenney It was freaking JCPenney, which is so funny. I'm like, what the hell?

It was the last time I was playing JCPenney. So the moral of the story is everybody steals in seventh grade. You make a shirt with something like, I'd rather be in JCPenney jail. JCPenney jail is the best thing ever. It's so fun. Because you know what it looks like, and it's like that weird cardboard wall. It smells like polyester. It's just a really small room.

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