LadyGang - Flashback Friday: Hang with The LadyGang!

Episode Date: November 3, 2023

The LadyGang are dishing on their worst celebrity encounters (and yes, they are naming names)! They're also doling out some great career advice that does not end with "drink a bottle of wine," outing what it really means to have a "squad," and one of them may or may not be singing a time or two. Original Airdate: March 1 2016 Check out our amazing sponsors!!! Uncommon Goods: To get 15% off your next gift, go to UncommonGoods.com/ladygang  KiwiCo: Get your first month FREE on ANY crate line at KiwiCo.com/lady See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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wearfigs.com and use code figs ca for 15 off your first order that's wearfigs.com code figs ca well what is this welcome to the lady gang that's amazing say that again the lady gang things are about to change around here each week we catch up with hollywood's hottest girl posse kelty knight becca tobin and jack vanik welcome welcome welcome to the newly named lady gang why because we got sued it was a dark time the month was dark but we have a new name and honestly we feel light as a feather with our new name we didn't get sued i'm kind of excited about the name because the lady gang is like inclusive everybody can be a part of it we don't think we're better than you because we kind of make part of our game we're so excited you guys are

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now before we start i do want to say one thing we need the lady gang to grow and you guys our gang has to help so if you like this episode which i think you will please share it with your friends post on your facebook retweet our tweets um post on your instagram and share it with your friends because we really want this to be the biggest global gang of ladies ever yes well said kelty even though you have that scratchy smoker's voice. It's so sexy. Just give it to me. Make out with me or something. I used to scream into my pillow at night

hoping I'd wake up with a raggedy voice. Like last night. Now we're just stuck with these annoying high-pitched voices. I'm meant for animation. I can't believe I have not done an animated movie yet. I just sound like a dumb valley girl. Okay, well what is it time for?

Good week. Yes it is. Bad week. Oh no. Okay, so who wants to kick this off? Jack? Okay, so I had a really good, good week. What? Well, I mean, it's actually not that good. I had a really funny good week.

Okay. So I go to Starbucks every morning because my Keurig broke and I just refused to put the vinegar in it. So I'm spending a lot of money on coffee instead at Starbucks. Vinegar, that's the dumbest thing you ever have to do. You're supposed to put the white vinegar in it, right? Yeah, I did it. It's gross.

It probably makes your coffee taste like vinegar. for pretty much the rest of the time you have it okay so they won't be sponsoring the podcast unless they want to because i love it i'm just too lazy to put the vinegar in anyways so i went to starbucks the other day and there's this homeless guy that like always hangs out around the starbucks he kind of looks like willie nelson he wants to be like a willie nelson impersonator he's like he's really awesome i give him money like anytime i see him we have like little chats or whatever and the other morning i was uh going into starbucks and he usually has like a cup of coffee because he's outside of starbucks or whatever and so i offered to like get him a cup

of coffee and he's like oh yeah that would be amazing um can i have a venti sugar-free caramel macchiato with like extra whipped cream no no you're serious and i was like yeah i mean you know what you want dude i guess i'll give it to you so i went and i got myself an ice you did not buy a homeless man $9 Starbucks. I bought myself a tall iced coffee for one 95 and I got him like a six 50 drink. But I'm like, this is the epitome of LA. Like only in LA would that happen? He's a hustler. Have you heard about the homeless people that make like a hundred thousand dollars a year? Oh yeah. They could have jobs, but instead that's why, you know, Jack, I love your hippie soul, but I never give anything to a homeless person. I would rather my money to go to an organized

charity no that's true um i i have a little bit of a phobia of new york homeless people because i had been accosted on so many several so many subway rides i've been accosted i've gotten my ass like grabbed from underneath by a man one guy just started jerking off so that was really that was the final straw for me i was like well you and i'm out new york all right so that was your good i think it was a good week i just thought it was his good week for sure it was i didn't really have that much other of a good week so his good week transfers over to me i like that did you have a bad week um yes and this is okay so i've been inspired by becca talking about her bodily functions and get ready hold on can we just say that the episode where becca talked about sharting

her pants has been her most popular ever everybody loves it well then you're gonna love today's also for me okay i'm gonna talk about the lesser of my disgusting stories so the other night i went to eat at sugarfish which is like the best sushi place in la everybody's obsessed with it and there's always celebrities there so of course this time when i went in the whole cast of how to get away with murder was sitting right next to me now it's a little starstruck because i would just die if any of them came on our podcast so i'm sitting there i'm eating my sushi i haven't told you guys about this but i have like a weird problem with my esophagus that like sometimes food gets like lodged in it okay and this is a problem that happens almost all the time anytime i'm out

to eat like i'll have to like take a second and wait for the food to kind of go down are you eating too quickly i'm eating too quickly yeah and i that's when i don't eat and i'm like really hungry and i get excited so i take a big bite and i don't chew and then it just gets lodged right so i was eating a bunch of sushi sushi got lodged inside my esophagus and sometimes when this gets bad it starts like moving back up my esophagus so i was sitting there and it started to do that and like i need to go to the bathroom just in case something happens so i'm like waiting in line for the bathroom there's a girl in front of me she was taking forever and i just feel it like moving up and up my esophagus and as this girl like opens the door to come out it hits my

gag reflex and no you didn't you threw up in sugarfish like into the toilet outside in the it was like i made it just into the toilet oh god but it it's terrifying guys that could have been at a table have you had a doctor like tell you why you do this yeah i mean it everybody has said i have a small esophagus if this happens to anybody out there please tell me if there's the problem i should be aware of is that that girl probably went to her table and she was like oh hollywood no i know i'll just throw it up her dinner i know and this this this has happened a couple times where like we'll come up and hit my esophagus and i'm like everybody probably thinks i'm bulimic awesome that is the weirdest thing i've ever heard anything like that i'm gonna google

that i've tried web md for yours i have throat cancer according to google really one time i pinched a nerve in my toe and i looked it up and i had toe cancer how do you pinch a nerve in your toe by wearing heels oh my god only you jack vanek only you anyway so that's my bad week i threw up in front of the cast of how to get away with murder it sucked god okay i'm gonna go okay um my bodily function is way more exciting than yours by the way okay good week so i'm waking up in the morning i'm going through my usual like you know media outlet you know online sources blah blah blah blah whatever trying to just be like a well-rounded american so what do you read us weekly yeah right so i get to twitter and one of my favorite magazines that i follow on twitter

posts an article and the headline is this woman can lift seriously heavy objects with her vagina i saw this what huh yep wait how do you lift with the vagina so she puts a jade egg with a string tied around it into her vagina and whatever object her little heart desires she lifts it or ties it to the other end of the string and lifts it with her vagina is this like in like extreme kegels yeah extreme she's 44 wow she's a sex and relationship coast uh coach she enjoys surfing traveling and yoga and lifting things with her vagina now do they have pictures of this If you guys look on Instagram, you can just put in the hashtag things I lift with my vagina. Wait, can you show me real quick?

Yeah, I'll show you guys. Hold on. Have you ever been to Thailand and seen a sex show? No. No. I'm going to tell you. Vaginas can do amazing things. I, at the sex show in Thailand, I saw a woman blow out like 10 birthday candles with her vagina.

i saw a woman pull a hawaiian lei out of her vagina and then put it around her neck i mean that's fine all you have to do is stuff it up there but how do you blow air out of it i have and then i also saw a woman um shoot ping pong balls out of her vagina what here's the thing though do you think her sex life is good because if she can hold that jade ball in her vagina she must be able to like contract i could do that everybody can do that well that's what i'm saying extreme you can't squeeze a penis in your vagina when it's in there you can squeeze it yeah you know you're doing it right now all right so anyways what while you guys are sitting around listening to this also go and look at the hashtag things i left my with lift with my vagina there's

a picture of this woman and like from a photo shoot literally holding a chandelier between your legs oh my god this is a beautiful photo photo anyways that's my good week because it really clearly wasn't that eventful but i just thought it was amazing that people like this are out there in the world like and that she's like 44 yeah it's incredible i mean you think maybe if you have an extreme awesome vagina you're like 18 are you ready for my bad week yep here's my here's my bad week yes now i'm gonna preface this with a little part of my favorite comedian amy schumer's stand-up just remember this while i go into my story so when she does her stand-up she in her act she has a joke where she'll say something along the lines of tonight i have one

goal to take off my underwear at the end of the night and have it not look like i blew my nose into it oh yeah life goals life goals and she's like oh i take off my underwear and i'm like oh charlotte's web was filmed in here okay so all you girls know what we're talking about everyone knows what we're talking i know okay sunny side up so i last night i've had a crazy crazy week i'm working on this project that i'm i'm working 12 hours a day um i'm going to work every day in like sweatpants and like my eyes are barely open and um my car looks like i'm living in it because it's like when you're kind of running around like the busier you get the crazier the stuff in the car is that you find so i'm emptying out my car last night i get home i'm exhausted

and i grab like a bundle of clothing like like dirty clothes that i oh my god i know where this is going okay so i go inside um so my boyfriend comes to visit he gets in town today and he goes to get his coffees this morning and he sends me a picture text and it's a pair of my underwear and two little tiny ankle socks very like and he he does my laundry or he helps me do laundry a lot and he's really good at folding like i'm like you're the best at folding so he really knows my clothing so he takes this picture and it's on the ground and i'm like it's on concrete like where is this where is he like where is this and then i'm like oh my god it's my parking garage and and i'm like oh my god he's like did you lose something and i'm like um yeah i must have uh

dropped that on my way inside of the apartment the other day he goes well uh your neighbors are probably thrilled i just moved them from the middle of the parking garage the middle and i just texted him i i almost didn't have like i was so ashamed and i was like uh yeah those are my dirty clothes from my car it's mortifying and he's like yeah they were they weren't laying in a very flattering position either and they were obviously they were they were soiled yeah when they when he says not the most flattering position first thing that goes through my mind is like do do stain but no that actually hasn't happened to me in two weeks days anyways no and i'm like oh no so he picks it up and he brings it inside like a true gentleman a real gentleman wouldn't have

even told me that he found my underwear sunny side up in the middle of the parking garage in my building yeah so there's my there's my bad week that wasn't that bad are you kidding me That was worse than that. No, I think dirty underwear is like something I'd hide from everyone. I would rather someone see my dirty tampon than my dirty underwear. 100%. Because everyone knows that tampons are dirty, but there's like this whole myth that you take off your lacy underwear and it's just like pristine.

It's like as good as new. And it's not. Guys, life is hard down the road. Yeah, my boyfriend also sent me a snail emoji. Snail trail. Yeah. smell trout first of all uh bad week uh if you guys can't tell i'm very sick but or you're just a you know i'm a smoker i am committed to my career and so would i ever call in sick to the

lady gang podcast no i'm gonna show up and make the rest of you sick tomorrow no um i have been on um since monday five planes in five days and in four different cities because it's a crazy time in my life um and so that's just my bad week is that i'm sick for you you're traveling so much poor me i was how was the bread basket in first class i was in business class for one flight here's the thing i will say i will say i felt so sad for myself because i do feel so sick and then i was like oh god i have another flight at 6 a.m and i was like it's so quiet here in the first class lounge i laid down on like a couch and took a nap until they were like miss night your flight's boarding do you want help with your bag i'm like i do want help with my bag

and then i got on and i was in seat i was in seat 1a which is like the first seat in first class and it's a pot all to yourself. And I laid down and I took a Xanax and I was like, Oh, I'm just so sick as I put like the fluffy comforter over me and laid my chair flat. You're embarrassing. Meanwhile, some, some guy in economy has like daggy fever using a neck pillow. Okay. I do have a really good, good week, bad week though. So here's what happened to me. I was in Zara because I ran out of clothes. Love Zara. Yeah. Love Zara. And I was really excited and I wasn't my best. I wasn't cute, 100%, but I wasn't ugly. I was like 50% like cute chopping out, you know? And I'm by the skirts and three like kind of cute college age guys were like looking at me. And I was like,

oh, whoa, they're looking at me. And then this guy comes up to me and he's like, Hey, um, where do I know you from? And I was like, I get this all the time from TV. No, I was like, I don't know. I was like, oh, do we know each other? And I'm trying to pretend like we're the same age. Like maybe we've hung out together. No, there's a decade between us. You're like, I'm a cap a meal. Yeah. And where is this? Is this in LA? In LA at the Grove. Yeah. And he goes, um, he's like, no, I know you from somewhere. And I was like, I said to him, Oh, well, you know, I, I get that a lot of people don't know my name, but like, cause they see me in the sports bars on TV. And I was like, I work on a TV show.

And he was like, Oh yeah. He's like, where have we met though? And I was like, I don't know. And he's like totally hitting on me and i was like i still got it i'm so hot in zara and then their free three friends were all like giggly and i was like kind of like was he hot he was super hot and i was like was he like probably 21 22 like young but like cute and like they had like yeezy boots on like they were like cool you know wasn't like old gross guy it was like someone that people would be like if you're 21 you'd want to date this guy so we're talking not really and i was like, okay, I was like, and then I like moved down to the blouse area and I was like, okay, have a nice day guys. And they're like, oh yeah, well let's keep talking. And I was like, no, no.

I was like, I got to find someone to wear, like see you later. And I was like, or you could have been like, I have a husband. 21 year old boys don't even notice there's a ring on that finger. They don't notice and they don't care. So then I was like, oh my God. And then I like go down the escalator and Zara and I'm waiting to check out. And I was like, wow, you know, Kelty, you still got it. Like you're not even a hundred percent pretty right now. You're just at your 50% best. But like those guys really thought you were their age. And you know what? It was just like my birthday week, right? 34. I was like, Ooh, you know? And I was like, I still got it. I'm hot. And then I'm like, just look at an Instagram. And then I look over to the right

and these three boys are now hitting on someone else no and that girl was like really 21 just okay you know and i was like what's happening did you check your purse were they actually pickpocketing no then i look across the zara and these guys are youtubers and they are filming themselves picking up girls at zara wait tell me they have you kelty night asshole being like well i'm on tv oh my god do we know who they are we have i have no idea and so i started trying to like figure out who they were but they were so cocky and i was like of course they're probably huge youtube so if anyone knows what this trio of guys is on youtube and then i was instantly mortified that i was like i am on tv you know but don't you have to sign like a waiver for that

well they didn't make me sign a waiver i was thinking about that today they didn't make me sign a waiver so i do feel like i'm probably safe because i was also not funny but i was you know hurt my feelings that is so for one moment in time i was really hot and then instantly my dreams that is a good week instantly flip-flopped into a bad week that is incredible i'm obsessed with that story thanks i was like oh haha it's gonna be a hidden camera and it was oh my god well i'm gonna shove my face with about a hundred more m&ms yep you're listening to the lady gang okay we're back um we're we're gonna talk about our worst celebrity encounters oh every one of them i'll just tell mine i'll tell mine it's jake jelen

hall i'm gonna name you're ready you're ready you're ready i'm gonna tell the bomb i'm gonna dropped the bomb now i have since made up with jake gyllenhaal but were you guys in a feud we weren't in a feud but here's the truth every time someone would say you know the question i get asked the most about my job is like who's the worst celebrity in hollywood well there's lots but i'm not going to name their names because i will give them the benefit of the doubt but jake gyllenhaal i was always like jake gyllenhaal and then every woman i know was like what i love jake and i was like, no, he is not a nice person because of this. I was on the carpet for one of his movies and I was interviewing him. And what happens is when you're doing red carpet interviews is there's

a lot of action, there's a lot of movement. And so when the person stands in front of you and it's your time to interview, I always do what's called like a warmup, which is just like, oh my God, your dress is beautiful. Or like, I love that ring or wow, your hair color's great. Or like great suit, Jake. And I do that because I need my cameraman to have five seconds to like get that person in focus we're not going to air that that's not the meat and potatoes of what i want to ask you but like i need that five seconds to make sure the mic's on like etc so jake comes down it's his movie p.s it's cold out the carpet's outside i've been waiting for like three hours for you to show up jake anyway so i have the mic and i'm doing my warm-up and the movie he had a

big neck tattoo and jake dylan house super sexy and in the movie is super sexy what movie um it was called um passenger no uh oh i can't remember it was with hugh jackman was in it and it was like a kid gets taken away oh the it's not brother oh yeah yeah i know what you're talking about um they're like yeah that like kid gets i don't know i can't remember i saw i'll tweet it um anyway so i said to him i said i said oh jake um that you should win an oscar for sexiest neck tattoo like laughing just my warm-up question and he looked at me in the eye and was like and then walked away i didn't even give you your interview he didn't even do an interview he looked at me like i had just said jake you have a tiny penis i said you were sexy that's

like code for tiny penis you never know i have no idea so ever since that day i was like you know what we're here to support you we're here to support your movie that's not nice so anyway Two years goes by and I don't see Jake again And this whole time I've been like Jake's my least favorite person in Hollywood Then he did this movie called Southpaw Which was excellent And I got assigned to the press junket

And I was like I can't believe they're making me interview Jake Chilling off Anyway I was going to win Jake over I wore my sexiest pantsuit I put on a nice smelly perfume I had like really beautiful hair And I was like I'm going to win him over

So he sits down and I was like jake you're gonna win an oscar and he was like he was like what anyway we had the best interview ever he was so nice you guys like he was so lovely it was there's a male actor for you it was right is that what happened anyway i'm like telling him he's gonna win an oscar like oh of course like oh my god hey anyway he was so nice neck tattoo that's why i got this i guess he was so nice the whole interview was amazing from then on i've seen him and he's like hey county how are you honestly my director the next day wrote me an email when he was like cutting the piece and he said he said i think jake gyllenhaal wanted to marry you that's how

much he liked me in this interview so anyway that's my worst celebrity encounter turned into jake you're fine that's not that bad wow i mean i don't i see i've never had a celebrity knock on would ever be like nasty to me or you know treat me badly or I don't know like I have had I have had situations though where I've worked on projects with some a-list people and um I think the most disheartening thing about about that is is you see nine times out of ten that these people are actually um not who you want to grow up to be like being a young-ish actress i mean i'm getting up there but these people are older than i am you know i would say like late 30s 40s and um they've had the dream careers like everything you can ever dream for as a little

girl if you want to become an actress and you meet these people and you realize that sometimes getting everything that you want actually makes you a dickhead and um super entitled yeah and super entitled and what i've also noticed is that they're so out of touch with the world and they're so incapable of having human interaction with people who are civilians um that i actually kind of feel sorry for them i watch their and their like conversations with crew members or you know costume designers or whatever whatever it may be and I'm like watching and it's like

it's like an alien trying to connect with with humanity it's really sad and they're not even necessarily like terrible people but as an actress watching that in my mind I make the mental note of being like you know what sometimes it isn't all just wonderful

roses and they do these interviews in these magazines these people especially these women and they want you to to read them and to be like they're just like us like look at how normal she is taking her kids to school look how normal she is walking out the door with no makeup drive a car yeah like it it's like shocking to me that these people are so far from normal and by that i mean just just out of touch and like i mean it on their own plan it's truly truly truly jack have you ever had a celebrity encounter that didn't involve the bed did you just call me a slut no i think a star

effer i am not i'm just kidding you're really not i actually can't even think of a single celebrity that i've had sex i've had a pro wrestler that's like a celebrity what did he give you like the slam rap macho man it was literally exactly how having sex with a pro wrestler would be like if you imagine it in your mind it was very intense and aggressively athletic was it hot yeah but it's not like i got off from it wasn't sexy or anything right um i guess well okay so i'm obviously not in the entertainment world so i don't encounter celebrities until now as much as both of you do but i will talk about the one that i think that got away from me in the celebrity world jake gyllenhaal it's not jake so when i was like 21 i lived next door to liam and

chris hem the hemsworth and yeah in west hollywood we lived in the same apartment complex them two and this guy yanni all lived in literally like a one maybe one bedroom with a office or something like that they're just like squished into it and it was like right when liam was dating miley and like all that kind of stuff was going on miley what's good was she up at your house she would come to the apartment like all the time but then it was before chris hemsworth was anything he hadn't even been in like star trek yet or anything like that and you know everybody like in our apartment colleagues would always be hanging out we'd like go up to their apartment to hang out and i never thought about how hot he is because as a 21 year old i was like chasing after scrawny

musicians that would like treat me badly or whatever and you made a grave error i made an error in life because he could have been my husband but then he got married to some like hot australian model who is really hot she's also like yeah she's like the hottest i mean it's not that your boyfriend is so bad which oh my god by the way jack what i'm i'm we're almost gonna unfriend you no uh i'm that annoying person but you just took the words out of my mouth i i know i said that on instagram i'm like i'm officially the annoying person that posts on your instagram and like i've been to his he posts way more yeah uh-huh also i have a i have to talk to him about something because i went down in the depths of his instagram when you get into a

new relationship you have to delete the old relationship i know there's pictures with him and some girl at the ritz at point dana point you know we've talked about this it's time to come down well especially when you don't have a lot of posts on instagram it's like four posts away you a picture with another girl you gotta you gotta nip that in the bud i know also what is that protocol like do you go through your social media after a breakup or once you're with the new person and do you raise everything i feel like if like i said it's like if you don't have that many posts and you could easily go down and be like because i've posted me and my ex-boyfriend from two years ago but i have probably 2 000 posts in between those so you're not gonna like see it i think

i think you have to do i think you have to he's deleted some of them i don't know why some why not all i don't know i don't know i'm like yeah you're gonna have a fight tonight make up sex tomorrow that's fine anyways but yeah chris emsler with the one that got away that's the moral of that story hey ladies ask the lady gang all right guys so this is my favorite part of the podcast because we get to give people advice sometimes terribly sometimes not so terribly sometimes maybe just telling people to drink a bottle of wine because that's what we did the other week yep for every question did we yeah yes did you not listen to it come on becca you gotta listen to your own podcast i haven't had a chance yet i like cringe listening to my voice

okay yeah me too so this is now changed to hashtag ask the lady gang ask the lady gang so don't ask the other thing that we used to be we can't even say it it's like voldemort you cannot be named or whatever old name that shall not be said so don't say voldemort okay our first question comes from at tess r hunter on twitter i'm assuming um she says my boyfriend of a year broke up with me after the breakup and again after christmas i messaged him to stop talking to me since he was trying to engage in small talk i wanted space to heal so that maybe we can be friends one day i have to work with him in the summer and i don't know how to approach this situation please help oof i i personally believe well i personally have never talked to an ex after i've broken

up with them i believe in a very clean break yes because it's it never does any good if you're breaking up you're probably breaking up for a reason and that just is going to hurt somebody on one end i think the only time it works like for instance i had a boyfriend when i was in grade 11 who's now like traveling the world and helping people in cambodia and has a really cool life it's been 17 years like yeah and sometimes we message on facebook and i'm like oh my god your life looks great yeah like that's a deck if there's been a decade of space and you feel like you can come around and have like you're married off and whatever then it's fine but i think that the small talk of it all like it's just impossible to be friends with someone that you used to love

and it's just like what's the end game in that you know and also if you didn't make it as a couple like are you meant to be that good of friends like i think it's always awkward and weird yeah i mean and if you are forced to work with him over the summer first of all if if you have to work with him over the summer this is what i'm going to give you like the tough love very adult adult advice um that i wish someone had given me i know it's really tempting to put yourself in those situations where you're like, I'll go to work every day and I'll look cute and I'll make him eat his words and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like that is never, ever, ever going to turn out the way that you want it. He will have a lot of sex with you this summer, but guess what?

You're going to be single at Christmas again. So it's like, if you can get out of having to do that, that is like the, probably the biggest thing you can do. The most adult thing that you can do. And, um, if you do that, the universe will probably open up the doors to Prince Charming to you. Cause that's another thing is by kicking these old guys back, put them back in the trash can where they belong, put them there, shut the lid because then you're allowing some other really great things to come into your life. I am a firm believer that if you don't do that and keep these guys around to give you attention or to give you company or like the random, you know, hook up here and there, the universe will hold out on you. Well, and it's like, you've talked about the

energy bank that whole analogy that you're using the other show and i've had a couple friends that continue to you know hold on to these like masochistic relationships just because they're lonely or they're unconfident and finding something else or whatever and it's just i feel the key to like finding happiness in my relationship now is i was very very open and receptive to it because i didn't have anything like holding me back even like little things and like little things that just made me feel better because yeah i just wanted somebody pretty it's You need to be open and receptive to something good and not putting your energy in these other places.

And the last thing I will just add is that something I have learned because I'm not strong like Jack and Becca, I have definitely been in a place where I've like tried to like be at the party that the person's at so they could just see how great I am. Like I am that wimp is that no matter what, the person is never going to say the thing that you want them to say. Because the thing you want them to say is, I love you. I was wrong. We're meant to be together.

You're the best and the prettiest. And, like, you broke up for a reason, and they're just never going to say that. So avoid the disappointment. All right. What's next, Jack? Okay. So second question is from Stephannbusc on Twitter. She says, if you're pretty sure your boss hates you, is it better to kill them with kindness or stay under the radar?

Oof. You guys will be good at this. I've been my own boss my entire life. I'm going to say this. If your boss hates you, just ask yourself one question. Are you annoying them? No, I'm dead serious. Like, I think I'm a pretty reasonable person.

But anytime I've worked with people or had people work for me, I don't hate them. But they could go home and be like, oh, like, what's this, like, vibe I'm getting? Like, what is that? You know, your boss is probably pretty busy and has, like, a million other things on their brain. So their job is actually not to make you happy, unfortunately. That's not their primary job. But your job, unfortunately, is to make them happy. So it's going to be an imbalance all the time.

but I've often had experiences where I'm like, if that person would just stop annoying me, it's not a person like, I don't hate them. I don't think they're bad. I don't think they're bad at their job. This might not be the case for it, but look at yourself, like step outside of yourself, get a little self-awareness, ask for a little feedback. Maybe you're asking too many questions. Maybe you can't do anything right. Cause you're not listening. Like, you know, we all make those mistakes, but I think when I see my friends who have trouble with their employees, it's always the first, like the first complaint is they just bug the shit out of me. Yep. A hundred percent. And I also think, um, I've definitely be in situations where,

um, and not just bosses, but like other workers, like, um, people that I have to work with. And I've tried to walk in the room and be like, I want to make it clear that I'm not begging what you're raking and i don't want to be a part of this it always comes back to bite you in the butt my husband told me once the best advice and he was like which everyone has heard keep your friends close and keep your enemies closer like you don't have to kill anyone with kindness but if you really despise someone or something that someone's doing is driving you crazy and you feel like can't you see i hate you so much you have to swallow all those urges down and just be like Uh-huh. Sure. And then go home and write in your gratitude journal because this, the, the, the real world, not everyone's going to like you and you're not going to like everyone, but those people that you don't like that you have friction with, they're going to also tell all their people about you. And it's better to just fly under the radar, keep to yourself and pretend like you don't notice they're acting that way.

Also, like, killing with kindness is so transparent. Don't do that. I know. Just be good at your job and fly under the radar. Yeah, if you're not genuine. Just kind of, like, hide out. Hide out and, like, don't put yourself, like, I've had bosses in the past where, like, if I'm around them too much, then it starts going, like, kind of badly, you know?

Like, I hide out. Like, just hide out, and when you're needed, be there, be great, and when you're not needed, be out of their sight. Yeah. All right. That's great answers, guys. I'll take that into consideration. Thanks, Jack.

I'm going to be my own boss. okay so the last question is from email from khadijah abdi so pretty it's a beautiful name i butchered it she says i used to have a lot of friends growing up but they were all unhealthy and made me feel bad about myself and my accomplishments i've cut them out of my life and i feel happy for that but i've never felt so alone did i do the right thing it's a hard one this reminds me of a third eye blind lyric and what is it i've never been so alone and die i've never felt so alive i don't know why i just tried to sing anyways that is the singer hardly um well i'm gonna say if it's between if it's a if it's between friends you

make you feel bad about yourself and being alone you gotta suck it up and just deal with being alone and then it's time to branch out and see people who have who are like-minded and who are also trying to accomplish things just like you and who are supportive. It's really hard to find those girls out there, especially if you're younger. I think we're wired. It's so unfair how women are wired. It is just our nature to not want to support each other. But there are people out there who do. It's the minority. I think it also has to do with you need to be confident in yourself because people are going to come and go in your lives no matter what, whether that be on your accord or their accord. And you have to be comfortable with like the company you keep when

you're alone. And also listen, taste swizzle made it like this thing that everyone has to have a squad. She's like 19 best friends in her squad. That's not real life. You know what? And those are probably not her best friends anyways. A hundred percent. If you have one friend that is like your go-to person, if you have two friends, how lucky are you? You have one person that you can trust that's one and that person can be your mom that person can be your sister like you don't you don't have to have a million friends and if they're making you feel bad about yourself i think i think a real friend has two jobs number one a real friend is the someone that can come to you and say your bangs are horrible or you're acting like an asshole or like this is not the

right relationship for you like you want your friends to sometimes give you that tough love and that's really hard right like you don't get that from everyone but your friends are also need to be your cheerleaders and if they're not happy for you kick kick rocks awesome that was really fun i i feel like we had a real deep conversation today we really we don't always have to be ridiculous well i mean i talked about my dirty underwear um guys we have some amazing amazing shows coming up in march honestly the celebs that are stopping by are getting better and better we're so excited make sure that you subscribe on itunes it's very important um we want to thank you so much for listening to the lady gang podcast leave us five stars also it really upsets me when

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