LadyGang - FLASHBACK FRIDAY: Nene Leakes

Episode Date: November 4, 2022

RHOA star and fellow Glee alum Nene Leakes is here to talk all things Housewives, working relationships with people on and off the show, and her help answering Ask the LadyGang brings some important relationship wisdom and advice! Original Air Date: March 3rd 2020 This Flashback is brought to you by Rothys! Get $20 off your first purchase at Rothys.com/ladygang See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey, Lady Gang, welcome to Flashback Friday, where we bring some of our favorite Lady Gang episodes from the vault to you in the feed. We have over 600 episodes of this podcast, and whether you're an OG and you've heard this episode before, or you're a new listener and we're just bringing this up and you had no idea we had this person on our podcast, well, you're welcome. Small caveat here, we are an imperfect group of trio of ladies, and we've been podcasting for almost six and a half years. If something we said in this podcast doesn't align with Lady Gang 2020, please give us grace. For instance, there was a period on Lady Gang where I was not into Taylor Swift. It was the reputation era. I wasn't feeling what she was begging, but now I'm like a

Swiftie again. And so I just don't want you to hold me to that because we're all growing and learning and our opinions change pretty much every day. Without further ado, welcome to Flashback Friday. Ah, NeNe Leakes. So this episode was from March 3rd in 2020. It seems like it was so much longer ago but this is one of the last episodes that we did in our studio when I was at CBS and she came into the studio and I was thinking when I was going through all the episodes I was like I need more NeNe Leakes in my life like NeNe Leakes has kind of been out of the public eye and out of my like world for a couple years and I just really enjoy her and I think she's really funny and what else is great about this episode is not to say that Bravo stole the idea from Lady Gang but we

did have a discussion about sort of like an all-stars housewives and now they do the ultimate girls trip so really you're welcome bravo and bravo fans because it was our idea first anyway enjoy nina leaks she's incredible we need to get her back on the podcast have a great weekend well what is this welcome to the lady gang that's amazing say that again the lady gang things are about to change around here each week we catch up with hollywood's hottest girl posse kilty knight becca tobin and hello hello hello and welcome to the lady gang i'm becca tobin here with jack vannick and kelty knight whoa i wasn't even ready i know kelty really was shot out of a cannon um i will say that you love us so much no i love you all that you're so indefinitely this is the first

time in all the years we've done this where i'm like holy shit we built a company no i actually had that like i this whole time even when we had the tv show i'm like it's cool like we've got this whatever i'm like i am running with my friends a small corporation well because alex is running well because we're just going through like a hundred different things but then not really checking one off at a time we're bouncing from one to the other to the other to the other but Do you guys have anxiety about what happens after the tour this summer and the book comes out? Like, what are we going to do with ourselves? I know.

We only have life planned up to about July. No, that's not true. We have another fun thing in the fall coming. Oh, yeah, we do. Right. It'll happen. It'll be fine. It always happens for us.

I finished my renovation and I literally all weekend, I had no projects. There's nothing on my to-do list. And I was like, hmm, I started watching a Netflix series. Who am I? Interior Design Masters. Is it good? It's so great. I'm sure.

But I was like, hmm, now I think I'll look out the window. Did you get in your hot tub? I got in the hot tub, but I was like, I think I will. Can we come over for a hot tub? I want a hot tub and have a drink. It's so bad. It's so great. Can we do it next weekend?

Zach's out of town. Sure. I ordered a margarita. I got margaritas. I got the skinny girl margarita. Alcohol? No, you guys. I'm like a night drinker now.

Oh, my God. Isn't it fun? I'm not even a night drinker No Valentine's Day I was like let's make margaritas And Chris was like who are you And I'm in the hot tub and I even got special cups That you can drink your wine out of And then I drank a bottle

No but they're like non breakable Oh for the hot tub No glass by the pool We don't want to have to empty this tub out No glass by the tub And then the other day I made dinner And I just like busted out some pinot grigio With our dinner

This is where I'm at This is the stress level I'm talking about. I love this version of you, though. I do, too. I always, I love when you drink. I do, too. It's so fun, and you never do it. So I'm really excited about this.

You guys, you know what? Come over this weekend. Yes. We're going to hang out. We're going to have a hang. Can we do it? In the tub. For real?

And we'll podcast from the tub. I was going to say, can we not work? No, we won't work. We've only hung out once not working in our entire lives. What we should do is get in the tub and get drunk and then do work. Oh, work. Do a podcast. Drunk.

i don't know if you can podcast in the pool you could in my tub electrocuting no the things will be the box is out and our headphones are on but i aren't there still electrodes touching your head that's a great question you know what we'll have you try it first no because i was the only one that thought of the idea it's true my the backyard's a dream like you have to come over i'm very excited it's like a little spa wow hell yeah i want to come i had a fire this weekend i made S'mores in my fire pit? My chimney up? Oh.

Who am I? Chimney up? Oh, my God. Well, I mean, I think we know your good week, but we should probably hop into. Good week. Yes, it is. Bad week. Oh, no.

I'm kicking this off because you basically just told us your good week. Okay. Guys, I plugged my phone into my car to drive here today. And my Spotify came up. And who was on it? Could it be? The Lady Gang. it could be us do you know what's so weird is that now that we're newly on spotify it's not

been a long time at all i've the like luster of us showing up on itunes is like it was never that exciting except the day that we launched because it's like oh this is where podcasts live like yeah i mean i've obsessively looked at the charts oh yeah see that doesn't do it for years but what does it for me is like spotify something i listen to all the time that now we are showing up on it and all our shows too this really goes back to my full circle moment of turning into a rock star because not only are we going to tour on a fucking tour bus yeah now we're on spotify with all musicians did you ever think as a tone deaf non-dancer you'd be touring the country on spotify look at you big star i somehow circumvented the whole thing and didn't even have to have a musical

bone in my body you did yeah and when i left the trans-siberian orchestra tour i said this is going to be the saddest day of my life because i said nothing is better than living on a tour bus life is so simple and they still quote me on the tour bus about how life is so simple on the tour bus simple it's like moving summer camp and i think i kind of created this too because i knew i wasn't going to go back to the trans-siberian orchestra i'm certainly not talented enough to have a tour myself for music so somehow we create we creepily manifested getting back on a tour bus it's crazy yeah our tour bus is going to be so much better than any of the tour buses that i've gone on with my touring boyfriend i'm not sure it's going to be better than tso because i was

stoned and i ate chilies every night at like midnight and i gained 10 pounds i'm worried about i've already thought about the workout plan we're gonna have to have like a workout every morning i'll actually work out with you guys like it'll be yoga one day and it'll be cardio box yeah we should actually do some obey like streaming oh my god that'd be so that would be great like work out with us on the tour bus but we'll we won't be on a tour bus we'll be like in a parking lot at a rest stop we can do it outside of our trailer like everybody used to do on Warped Tour where they'd like be lifting these like 90 pound weights. I would love to see you lift a weight.

I'd love to see you lift anything. I don't know if I can. No, she couldn't. No. My bad week is it's sort of started as a good week. Summer House. Summer House is back on. Carl.

And my bad week about Summer House is this, is that I, you know how you go through life and occasionally in your thirties you get slapped in the face with the reality that you're never going to be young again. I know. It's such a weird feeling. This show does this to me. I, like, love watching it so much. But I feel like, aren't they around our age?

Well, I think some of them are. But the ones that aren't, like, the ones that are, like, the younger girls in their early 20s and mid-20s, I'm so jealous. Because, like, one of them is 26, and she has an older boyfriend. Her name is Paige. She's the cutest thing ever. She's got, like, a 36-year-old boyfriend who's, like, ready to wife her up naturally because she's adorable. But I just want to scream through the TV and just be like, live your life, girl. like she's living her life she's wearing short shorts she's showing her knees every night in

the hamptons she's drinking to excess she's having pool parties like it's just i want to be young again i do and it makes me sad i know because we're never going to be those people we're going to be in caftans in your hot tub drinking margaritas only at night you can't show those legs in the day yeah no i'm gonna go don't bring any cans or glass in my hot tub i don't want to have to empty the water and refill the ph will be all mashed up okay my good week your girl is officially looking to buy a house we have a great realtor for you and we'll split the deal do you get money if there's a fine i already gave it to her you did you bitch it's my guy who i gave to you i actually don't think you gave me his name i just said we're splitting it i think i have a

kelsey can have it it's no i don't it's fine i have a hot tub referral fee yeah he gives a referral fee if you give him a good buyer i gave her a good buyer she did oh so then it kind of makes sense that becca would refer like we're just referring it down the line but then he wasn't my most recent i had josh right exactly um anyway so where are we looking well you know i do need a renovation i think i do um i'm looking in silver lakes very randomly i wanted to be in the hills this too far away but my point of my good week is i have worked my balls off for the past 10 years i've been very good with my money and i haven't really given myself a pat on the back for really anything so this is a moment that i really thought about it and yeah i'm glad you feel good now

because when they start having you fill out the forms and they look into every area of your life and they'll be like so do you have four million dollars in backup saving saving.com saving saving saving and you're like no they'll be you'll feel so shitty they question you about they question you they're like so where have you lived why did you move apartments all the time who lived in phoenix like they're gonna they they go so deep in you they do just have my moment i know no have your moment no it's great it's gonna be so great now is great during sucks and then after is great and then it sucks again but then it gets good because what happens is okay so you buy the house and you're like oh my god pop the champagne i'm a homeowner and then you're like

holy shit, I own a house. I have a mortgage now. I'm going to die. How am I going to pay this every month for 30 years? Then you move in and you realize that no one put any heating ducts in your whole AC and you have to re and like your guy that did the inspection didn't find it. And you now had to spend $40,000 to have your house. Then you love it. And then something, then you're like, Oh my God, the house is amazing. And then you're like getting a neighbor war and you're like this house, I got to move or whatever, you know? Yeah. Neighbor wars, you know them. Yeah. well if i do get in a neighbor war i know who to call me not her tonight she doesn't get out of them but she fights she fights hard okay she is she's feisty my bad week is the other day i was

in starbucks and i was walking out with my drink and this older lady she stops me and she's like oh my gosh can i see your nails and i was like okay and i kind of i give her my hand she starts looking at my nails she's like he loves nails and points next to her and it's this like 95 year old man please tell me she offered you a hundred dollars to scratch his back no but he takes my hand and starts looking at my nails and he goes the money that i would pay to have you scratch my back no and then winks at me no that's a good week it's not i mean is it i guess i could have made some money from this man but it was freaking creepy and he's just like grazing my hand your nails are sexual i do have sexual nails and that man probably likes a little a little bleedy but

a little bully when my nails get so gross when my nails get long i get very paranoid about the germs under my fingernails i probably have some i mean you can see the germs underneath a little poop under there like yeah i bet you if you took a swab from under anybody's fingernails there's poop on them there's poop on your phone there's poop everywhere apparently there's more poop on your phone than a toilet seat yeah and we're putting that shit up right next to her mouth literally i like to wipe my phone on the rag though i do i clean my phone yeah a little and i'll tell you what's my turn with you sure okay sure i do have a good week should i do another good week or can that be my good week if whatever you want to do you know follow your

my my good week is quite fast so i was also excited that lady gang and all of our network shows are officially on spotify and i was like going through and google like putting in the names and seeing what would pop up and i found my new favorite band lady fang oh wow and the best thing about it is that then i listened to a little lady fang what do they sound like And then it's, like, kind of, like, neon trees-ish, like, very obscure-y. But are they, like, catchy? I don't know if catchy, but I just, it's a very quick listen. Should they open for us this summer?

Then I went to their bio to, like, see other pictures of them because they have, like, very weird makeup and stuff. And their Insta bio is, here to get you laid. And I think that Lady Gang. And Lady Fang. And, you know. There's a collab to be had with Lady Fang. They should come on tour with us and either open for them or they open for us. No, we would be the headliners.

Okay. Based on Instagram followers, which I don't like to base anything on because you can be a big star with a small following. That's true. Micro influence. Name one. Me. Okay.

Wait, there also is an amazing band named Lady Hawk. I know it doesn't rhyme. That's not the same. But it's... Don't try to take my thunder. Whatever. My last, my bad week. This is a little bit serious.

Okay. I don't think that Chris thinks I'm hot anymore. Why? I think that he is like, you know how people always say like, oh, even blah, blah, blah gets tired of f***ing Beyonce? Yeah. Well, but let me ask you a question. Do you find Chris hot?

Like in that I love you kind of way. Well, that's probably how he feels about you right now. I know. It sucks. Well, give what you get, bitch. That's true. I know. Wait, someone was recently.

I think Chris is hot, but like this whole long weekend I've been like laying around and I was like, you should be like, he used to be so perverted and he would always be like grabbing me and saying things. And then I was like, that's like, you're so perverted. Leave me the fuck alone. And now he leaves me alone and I don't want that either. You should make him drink more margaritas with you. I guess so.

I know. I think drinking. I drank margaritas. I was trying to make out with him in the hot tub and he was just like not even having sex in the hot tub yet. No. Oh wow. You might get a UTI after that.

Sex in the hot tub is kind of fun though. But it definitely gives you a yeast infection. The water's definitely going to come over the sides, though. Honestly, and we can't refill. It's too soon. We haven't even got the pH right. Like, we can't. And also, our neighbors can see right in.

Yeah, but that makes it fun. Okay, you know what? I think that you give what you get. My friend saw a healer, and he told her, whatever it is that you feel you're lacking in your life and you want more of, consciously go around and give that out to the world. So it's like if you think you want more money, you want more money, go and you give more money or more generous. If you want to be treated like a hot bitch, you make your husband feel like a hot bitch.

That's right. Hot bitch Chris. Okay. Well, I'm not going to. When we come back, we have a hot bitch. We have the hottest bitch. Hottest bitch. This episode of Lady Gang is brought to you by Rothy's.

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talking about glee she's an actress author television personality fashion designer producer and broadway star if there's anyone who can help me land the role of roxy heart it is this former mama morton from chicago she's brightened up the boardroom on celebrity apprentice and cha-cha'd her way into our hearts on dancing with the stars she's even cool enough to appear in the kim kardashian music video as herself damn her insta bio is sure to become the new lady gang manifesto major shit talker with a heart of gold and now she's heading out on ladies night out tour with some of the funniest ladies in hollywood please welcome to the lg nini leaks yeah everybody get up and start clapping wow that is quite the list of accomplishments i know i mean wait your instagram

bio is the best thing i've ever heard in my life it really is what does it tell me what it says what is it it says shit talker with a heart of gold that's it and i say that because it i mean i don't mean anything by it i'm just having fun yeah that's what we are sometimes we just want to hate on a girl's blouse yes can i just say something i'm just having fun the girls who are obviously not in the room with us all the listeners and some men yeah how have you you you're Benjamin buttoning. Yes. You look, I was going to say something like what is happening. Oh, thank you, honey. You know, you, I'm in television. I can't afford to look anything, but great. Everybody's judging these days. I mean, people are judging social media is judging.

You have to just look great. What is your secret? My secret is eat everything and go to sleep late at night. No, I'm just kidding. You know, I don't even exercise like that. Um, I just, my whole thing is just keep yourself up just keep yourself together plus i have a husband that likes to have a good-looking wife that's the key you and you can get him to pay for anything any treatment i know i know your ring is insane oh you look like you know when i do an instagram story and i flip over to the purple filter one to make you pretty before you tape it you look like that in real life switch it over thank you yeah like a and also thank you thanks to my my glam team they keep me together too

when I don't have makeup on you probably would run that's a lie so we were so excited you were coming on that we went into our Facebook group and we said we usually don't tell people who's coming on and we're like but Nini's coming and I know you guys are going to have questions

there were questions some of them are from them and some of them are for us but I first want to just say you were so brave and being so honest and open with Greg's struggle yeah and he's good he's great and oh my god what a thing to go through it was very hard uh it was the worst year of our life obviously we don't know what cancer is we never had cancer before

and um I was the caretaker and I wasn't great hard yeah and I and I wasn't great but and and I struggled a lot and uh American Cancer Society reached out to us I'm an ambassador for them and one of the things they said to me was that there's no right and wrong way to be a caretaker you know the care they have a support group for caretakers um it was just difficult yeah but i'm happy to say greg is cancer free yeah he looks amazing yeah congratulations right how did you celebrate when he got there we had a party yeah yeah we we posted it up you know on all over social media he said i want to have an old school party like everybody's dancing in the kitchen so we invited all the guests and everybody's like dancing around the kitchen and everything it was

really fun what would you tell we have a lot of girls that are dealing with someone in their lives that's struggling with cancer like what would be your best advice as a caretaker i would say make sure you take care of you yeah it's very important to take care of yourself i feel like i didn't take care of myself enough i i you know i dealt with greg a lot and it drove me nuts and it made us like clash and we were screaming sometimes and so i wish i had taken care of myself and i wish You know, be a part of a support group because I didn't know that existed, but there is support groups with caretakers. That's great.

That is great. It is true. All right. I want to get into the housewives. I know you do, girl. Okay. So, all right. So, no.

First of all, I'm going to start light. Favorite housewife that isn't you? Let me see. Any franchise. Yeah, any franchise. I actually have a couple of girls I'm really cool with. So, I feel like if I name one, I'm going to name all of them. Like, I'm really cool with Kyle Richards.

And I think every time I'm here in L.A., we have the best time. She's super fun. And you're both businesswomen. Yes. And actually, we just saw each other in New York doing business. And I'm friends with a lot of OGs now, okay? Because we all came in. And we have a special bond.

Teresa. Teresa and I have the best time together every time we see each other. She can party, right? Yes. And whenever she needs something, she reaches out and calls me. I really like her. And those are probably my two faves. Okay.

There are other girls that I think are great. If you had to make Housewives All-Stars and you could take a couple people from everywhere, and I'm not talking just people you want to hang out with. I'm talking about that would make the best television. Who would you put in the All-Star cast? I would put, what's her name? Beverly Hills. I already forgot.

She and I were on Celebrity Apprentice together. Lisa. No, not Lisa. um lisa renna lisa renna okay oh yeah i would have lisa renna because i think that you know she's great we were on celebrity apprentice she was not like that but you know on this show um i would i would i'll bring kyle on over okay and then um let me see where am i going new jersey you gotta have theresa always i mean like you got to have her and honestly if i was gonna have her and i know she's not a housewife but that danielle i think is something else

And I think she needs to come on over here and get a part of this group. I think it's going to be a, something's going to happen, girl. Something's going to happen. And I'll go to New York and I would get a Ramona. I have to have Ramona. Her and her eyes. Her dancing. Like, yes.

She's so off beat when she dances. It's insane. I've never seen anything quite like it in my life. No, it's amazing. And so I have to have her. And let me see who else is over there. Well, you're Atlanta. You're repping Atlanta.

No, I got to get me somebody else out of New York City. I would take Luann. I'm going to have an accountess. yes she'll be a hot mess and that'll be good it makes a good tv in atlanta oh god this is a good cast so far it's so good i'm watching i need to watch andy's literally listening being like and who else she's in atlanta oh are there any potomacs potomac oh i don't watch the show yeah but i i like that monique and so i would grab her and giselle okay yeah i mean i think that this needs to happen

you know what it has to be it just has to be it has to be all stars everyone goes on a girls trip because the girls trips are when the shit goes down yeah or like a cruise

or a cruise housewives cruise but you gotta have good people I mean if it's gonna be a show where you're gonna bring somebody from East so you gotta have some good people

what about Orange County Orange County I'm definitely gonna have to have Vicky because she screams all the time she's gotta come and scream a little bit

and I'll take Tamara too she'll be good drama oh my god You know, Vicky screamed her tail off. It's amazing. Well, you know, with Jersey Shore, not that you're anything like that, but they didn't know how to, like, now that they were all grown, they weren't sure how to do more Jersey Shore.

So they put, like, the beach house, and they all went to Miami for, like, two weeks, and that was the whole show. I would like. How was it? How was it when they went? How was Hamptons Retreat to Jersey? I mean, it was whatever. The Hamptons don't want us, honey.

We go over there and tell the whole place. They'll be like, get out and don't ever come back. You're like, you're a black woman. Get out. we need to go to miami too yes yeah oh miami would be tight miami would be okay so i'm well like i have an idea we have an idea why hasn't this happened yet it seems like something that should be happening it should have been happening because they would you know if it was me i would you know take and i would make a whole another show yes you know and it'll be a regular show

that comes on all the time with like this other cast of yes housewives all stars and the other thing i would do too i would have a talk show with five like just like the view but it's all housewives and they are sitting around the table like talking about all these different cities and pop culture but talk about all the cities all the different franchises and then just like a commentary because one thing about the housewives they are very opinionated and i feel like you're going to get real true opinions and drama they'll be arguing at the table with each other don't you know the view their ratings always go up when they have those arguments they'd be over there arguing about all kinds of things anything yeah so these girls could be arguing it will be drama

backstage i can't even imagine and then the contract negotiations forget about that's a whole nother thing girl now listen when the contract time listen even i want to take my wig and lashes off i mean no no and it takes so long it's a long negotiation people don't understand it's not like okay it's a call even if you you have an existing contract most people want to redo something that's in there right it tastes right are you are you i've heard rumors that you're the highest paid housewife you know i heard rumors that candy was the highest paid housewife yeah so i don't know i mean i don't know we don't know i think everybody you know kind of assumes what i do know is that i like my chick so you know i don't know what whoever's

making i don't really care when i negotiated my money i would negotiate the money that i wanted And you really can't worry about the next person because that's going to mess you up. For sure. You're going to be thinking about how much money she's making, $2 more than me. If she is higher paid than I am, she's not getting much more than me, baby. It may be $5 more so she can keep it. And she's also not doing 800 other things like you are. No, she's not.

Listen, I'm a real hustler. I literally have, I think, 10 jobs working on 15. That's right. Okay? And I always tell people that you have to make sure you have something else. When one thing goes away, you can grab at that, that go away, grab at that. You've got to have other things. Lots of eggs in lots of baskets.

Yes. You've got to work. You've got to be a hustler, girl, and it's not easy. No. This was a question that one of our girls wrote that I thought was so good. What's your preparation like for a reunion? Oh, now listen. How much thought process goes into, she said, how do you choose your look?

Do designers contact you? Do you have to worry about what the others are wearing? If you guys could see Nene's face right now. No, we have a theme. So we know what the theme is every year. Like champagne pop. Yeah, like whatever it is. And they tell us the colors that we can wear.

Champagne pop is good. So they give us the basis. You know, your theme is going to be Japan. So, and these are the colors that we're wearing, red or something. So you have to stay in that. Right. And then like a couple days before the reunion, a stylist has flown to Atlanta. And we take, we buy our own looks or we pull our own looks.

and then we take them to him and we try them on and they kind of tell us like, yes, no, maybe so. Oh, so you can't accidentally wear the same dress as somebody else. No, they already know. And then the night before,

it's like a no sleep night. The cars are picking everybody up at 6 a.m. in the morning. It's a very long day because I'm an OG. I don't get picked up at 6 in the morning. Thank you very much. I've earned my time, child.

Mine is usually at 7. One hour later. but it mean a lot because i feel like i don't take as long as some of the other girls take to get ready um and so once you get there when you walk in there's a lot of catering like for breakfast lunch and dinner is catered there and there's these rooms with everybody they're not rooms they're things they made because we do it in a hotel ballroom so they'll have on the name nini and i'll have a big peach and then whoever's next and whoever's next and they kind of work it not lining us up beside each other based off of if we're cool or not.

Right. You don't get to choose where you sit. They sit you. They sit us. And also, the dressing rooms are by who you're kind of cool with. So there's like three on this side and three over there. So they separate if you've got beef. They keep it separate until you get on stage.

Yeah, they don't want anything to happen. Because you can hear, you can also hear a little bit, like the person that's getting dressed next to you, because there's just a curtain separating you. So you can kind of hear what they're saying. so and then everybody is nobody's really talking to each other that day and i when you walk out i already know like looking at them like okay so they really they really are going to try me today i see you bitch i see you everybody's sitting there with their new shoes and new dresses on

i'm like girl it's a really i don't like the reunion it's no secret bravo knows i don't like and andy knows i don't like it um i don't like it because i feel like um i feel like it's like walking the highest rated thing you're doing it's like walking into the lines like why do i want to do that to myself why do i want to walk into the lion's den walk in there and then everybody's looking at you and judging each other like oh i don't like her dress her dress is ugly i was gonna get those shoes i'm glad i didn't you know like stuff like that i don't know what's out with my head your hair is too smooth too smooth I'm good now I'm good how did they find you originally yeah um I knew a girl that happened to know that there was a casting director out in

Atlanta looking for women who live behind the gate and so she wait that was the brief yeah that's what we want women who live behind the gate that is so rich if you remember Orange County when they first open when their first season they open up this yep right i remember you know these behind the gate so the girl that told me that i didn't think that she was like connected just a girl that you know chit chat whatever and so she was like um the orange county housewives are here looking for housewives i said that's so stupid why would housewives be orange county house maybe the orange county housewives in atlanta yeah and she said well they're looking for women that live behind a gate i said well honey you need to refer me because i live behind a gate

and so she did no and the lady called me up and she called me and i kind of blew her off and she was like well i heard about you and i want to talk to you and i was like right right right and then the lady kept calling me like girl are we doing this or not and i was like okay come on so that day that the lady was going to come over i started cleaning my house and i don't eat breakfast i'm not a real breakfast person and i drank a bottle of wine so when the lady in the morning yeah i forgot that i didn't eat though because i was cleaning up and i forgot i hadn't had anything and i had some wine then she was getting close to being there i got some wine and when she rang the doorbell i was like hello welcome and then she was like she's like booked

and busy and so she comes in and we talk and and just so happened my husband my son was in third grade and my husband and i we've never been good at homework and so my husband and and and my son was doing homework and they were trying to add and whatever multiply and both of us are in there like one two three she just thought it was hilarious and she left my house and as she got on my gate she said listen girl we love you so much who else do you know who are your friends and i said okay kim zoziak sheree whitfield no sean snow we cast i literally cast the whole show with these just talking you know what and then um that's why it was so good i did but they said to me we don't want a white girl okay we want this to be an all african-american cast and i said okay

okay so we gotta find somebody else and one day i happened to be in buckhead and saw our head of production and kim was with me and that's all yeah all they need to do is see her oh yeah and she you know she was potty mouthing oh my god i said this white girl wears a wig and smoke cigarettes like you got to talk to her like no she's a she we would work out at the gym together she would have on juicy sweats remember when juicy yeah she had every color she literally would get off the treadmill and be like and i was just like girl like i was so interested in her i was like this is amazing we gotta be yeah that's fascinating and then we found out we lived in the same neighborhood so when they saw kim and talked to her they were like forget it okay they were like

listen now we did say it was gonna be all black we're gonna put her in she's in and then you guys were up and down and up and down and now you've come around and you're fine yes it's very difficult to have a friendship on a show like that. It's just not going to work. I don't think so. I think that you'll be friends for a little while, but you have to fall out. I don't think you can be on a show like this and not fall out.

Is that because of... It's just the way the show is. The way that they kind of puppeteer? And you think if you were friends not on the show, your friendship would probably be more stable? You know what I say is that

if we weren't on a show together, all of us girls would be so cool of course yeah yeah that's so but that's why the show was so good because you guys actually were friends yeah yeah now when they cast it it's not friends now they're just like you'll still shut up and then you're not invested when they have a falling out yeah yeah because you weren't friends before before see you never yes see you never yes i'm gonna use that i like that see you never girl hello goodbye that's my new word maybe that's your new tagline can you give us one behind the scenes thing that we would i mean you gave us a little bit the reason that about producing like i was talking to you earlier you actually it's

obviously in your house but what's one thing that people wouldn't know about producing about production yeah about like making the show about making the show but they wouldn't know let me see what they wouldn't do you have any power off of like turn the cameras off no but after a while If you just crack up like, I can't do that. Yeah. And they'll be like, okay, okay. We'll come back. Let me give her a break.

We'll go outside and come back. Okay. That's kind of interesting. But the other thing is, we're kind of like family. Yeah. I don't know if people would know that we have a lot of the same producers year after year after year. They've been working on the show forever with us. Yeah.

They come into our house. I have food out. They eat. They bring food, too. But it's like they're in our home. Yeah. So we really are like family. Yeah.

Wow. So they know us really well because they've worked with us for a really long time. So they're kind of like, she's not going to do that today, I can tell you right now. Like stop poking her. Yeah, I just looked at her and I could tell she's not going to do it. Has it been surprising to you that through this avenue, which you were like, oh, I don't know, so many things. I mean, the fact that you were on Broadway multiple times, it's kind of bananas because it doesn't happen for everyone. Well, you know what?

Every once in a while. I was acting before. Right, right. I became a reality star, right? And so I can tell you this. I'm an original housewife. So the platform at that time was so big and amazing. It opened up many doors of opportunity.

Today, it still does, but not like when we first, when that show first jumped off. When it first jumped off, I mean, people were blowing our phones up to do any and everything. I mean, we were doing it all. and i just happened to be an original so i just got to do everything yeah so cool and it really really worked it was a water cooler people love the show they love it okay i think it's amazing i'm in the airport and guys come up to me they'd be like um can i take a picture with you because my wife love you and i'm like you you watch the show too baby they all do all the time they love to say they don't act like you don't you watch so true yeah he'll then they'll be like yeah i

can say yeah my wife makes me watch the show yeah that's what they say yeah um andy as a boss what about him is he great well he's a boss right you know we don't like when you get invited on watch what happens live you're like what what i mean jen your publicist in the corner being like No, no, no, Jen knows that. You know what, I'm skipping it. Jen seems, Andy seems great. Who this? Andy seems great.

Yeah, no, I don't, you know, I was about to explain to you that we don't deal with Andy like that. Like, not like that. We deal more with the Bravo people who are, you know, dealing with our contracts, the executives over there. Because Andy is talent now, but he's also the producer of our show. Right. And we deal with the head of True Entertainment, our production company. So when there's issues, we usually deal with them. And because I've known Andy for so long.

And if there's anything with me, then I just look down and he texts my phone. But we've known each other for so long. We'll text my phone, do we need to talk? What's going on? You know, that kind of stuff. Like in the ninth hour, if you need an Andy, like, Andy, you got to go do this for me. He's there for you. Oh, yeah.

I just pick up the phone and call Andy. Like, honey, I don't have time to email you or nothing. Let me just call yourself. fail unlike a lot of the other housewives i feel like he probably feels like he owes you for making creating an entire show successful well i mean you're welcome see you never not single-handedly but like it's without a doubt you brought the rating you know i don't know how they see it but i can tell you what i see because i was there i and i i outlasted all of the original housewives i feel like i carried this

show a lot i carried it a lot and that's just a fact i carried it a lot you know you you look you can't get on social media and hit memes and see nobody but me i'm a gif i think that you are the most memed person i am on reality and i need them to give me some money for that yeah you should be making that meme money you should be yes why don't i make that how can i can somebody help us anybody listen can you help us she needs a 16th job yes i need to understand why i don't even get five cents from it i kind of hate when i open up instagram and i see my face like coming up and down when people are using people are posting and i was just like that shouldn't be legal i didn't sign off on this bullshit no i didn't sign off on somebody just be posting me

they're like oh child a ghetto and then there i am tiptoeing across Oh, my God. I want to ask you a celebrity story. So I saw on your Instagram that you recently met Lizzo. Yes. Tell me about that moment because she's the best friend that we're all waiting to have. Oh, my God. So I didn't know that Lizzo liked me.

No, she came up to you. Yeah, but no, they told me that she'd been on Watch What Happens Live and she said that I was her favorite housewife. So I didn't know that she had done that. And I was at, we were at Diddy's house. Just at Did's. As you are. Just Saturday night at Did's. Just hanging out at Diddy's house.

you know just everybody's just hanging out and here come listen she got on her little booty shorts and stuff you know she's so confident i tell you i could never i could never be as confident as her and she was like oh my god there go nini nini you don't understand how i use your language all the time i say all the things that you say i bloop girl back she's just saying all this stuff and i was like oh my god and i was like absolutely girl did you ask me could we And so I took a picture with her. She's great. She's,

she's so bubbly. Yeah. She's oh my God. I, so I started following her. Oh honey, she'd be shaking her booty and everything. Oh,

she'd be on there. Now you need a royalty on her. If she's going to use, forget about the memes. I mean, you need the Lizzo. If she's going to use your boop, bop,

beep, you better get a rose. I was at a conference the other day because I own boutiques. So I was at a conference for clothes and this, this lady, she said, Stop by here and buy some of my things. I have sunglasses, and they're called Glam Babies.

Yeah. And you're like, I own that. I'm like, why didn't I just, you know, listen. There's a lot of things I've said I should. Glam Babies, that was the first thing I said. So she has a little line of sunglasses for babies, and she called them Glam Babies. And I was like, girl, now I made Glam Baby famous. Now here you go.

You got to trademark everything you said. And honestly, Marie Osmond was doing a commercial, and she said something like, I'm a glamour, I'm Marie Osmond, I'm a glamour. And I was like, there she goes. She a glamour. Oh, my God. Now everybody's a glamour. Imitation.

Yeah. You got to trademark this stuff. You do have to trademark that. Yeah, and I said bloop. And do you remember when the Kardashians had, Kim was doing, like, her, what do you call her little... Skims? No, the memes that she was doing, like, when she was...

The selfies? The boomerang? no like you can you can um what is it called no you no no you can put it on your filter so she had one that said bloop i was like wait now kim i thought we were cool how dare you start putting bloop up for sale honey i feel some kind of uh no you need like a team that just listens to everything you say and if it's something good like trademark it's true you to be making all that. Well, you know, I was on Kim's game too. I know that. Yeah. Yeah. As yourself, I sit in here. I was like, I was like, there's so many factors. I was like, I'm going to

need this one. All right. So, um, we are going to loot. You're very busy today. We're going to lose you. We're going to, when we come back, we're gonna do ask the lady gang like nicely quickly. Here we go. You're listening to the lady gang. All right. And we're back. So for this part of the podcast, we have our listeners writing questions about love, life, career, whatever. and we give them somewhat questionable advice, sometimes good. Okay, our first question comes from Two-Faced. She says, in a few months, two of my girlfriends are getting married, but there is one problem I'm struggling with.

About two years ago, I drunkenly hooked up with the brother of the soon-to-be groom. He has or had a girlfriend, and I'm about to go to the bachelorette weekend with her. I never felt guilty about the hookup because I wasn't cheating on anyone, but now that I've been around his girlfriend more, I've been feeling really shitty. She's always so nice to me, and I genuinely like her. I'm not tempted to tell her, but I feel like such a bitch from keeping this from her. I can't imagine what she'll think of me if she were ever to find out. Do I just keep pretending nothing ever happened between me and her boyfriend?

Am I a horrible person? What do I do? I think you need to keep pretending. And I actually know a situation like that. So do not tell. Yeah, I know a situation like that. It actually involves me. I am friends with two different girls.

and one girl is married and my other friend is single and she definitely hooked up with her husband and they are both around a lot of each other it's weird but he's not going to tell her the only person that would tell us her so i say no yeah i would say you know they weren't friends in the beginning yeah and she would be destroying their relationship so she needs to shut up you already slept with him that was enough girl now shut up yeah also way back in the day we talked about how sometimes when you think you're being honest it's actually just selfish because she wants to clear her conscience but that's not going to be the most productive thing for anybody well and the thing is the only reason why she wants to clear her conscience is because she's

around this girl if she wasn't she wouldn't give a shit but still they weren't friends right no and i'm telling you it's a bad thing to do yeah because she's gonna tell her it's gonna put some damage on their relationship just cut it out girl you've already done enough and she's not gonna be her friend after that no no she's gonna be like girl now y'all gonna be really awkward around each other well and then it'll ruin the girl's wedding yeah because it's just gonna be a bunch of drama you learned your lesson yeah don't do it again i mean where does she live at i need to go about her house you need to give her some words i wish we got addresses i know i need to go over our house and knock on the door girl don't do that uh-uh once is enough you just let the guilt

eat at you and then you never do it again no means no okay i don't think that's what what if he says no it means no don't do that okay second question comes from anonymous she says so i've been dating this amazing guy for over a year he's not the biggest guy i've ever been with but he's very much about making me making sure i'm happy in bed okay so not biggest as in penis okay i thought meant like miss muscly the penis is small penis is not the biggest only problem is that i've only got orgasm the only problem is that i've only orgasmed a few times from him It doesn't help that I fake it sometimes, leading him to think he's amazing and bad move. We've also gotten in this rut of no foreplay and just sex.

We both love each other, but I'm worried about his size not being enough. Any tips on what to do with somebody who might be a little below average? First of all, stop faking your orgasms. She need to stop doing that. That's a bad move. She need to stop doing that. Now, I used to date a guy back in the day. We just had sex and no foreplay because he was so good.

I was just like, just hurry up. Come on, Chad. Just run on over here quickly. Let's make this thing happen fast. But I don't know what she can do. Maybe they can invite some toys into the bedroom. Toys are great. Yeah.

Yeah, maybe they can do that. Also. Maybe that'll help. Because if you're a great guy, and also women, you have to teach guys. Yes. Sometimes you have to say, no, don't touch me right there. Touch me over here. Yeah.

Put your leg over there. Because guys are just so, ugh. Useless. You got to tell them certain things. Put your leg over here. Let me put mine over there. That's true. Well, they could stick their dick in anything and get off.

We need a little more. We need some guidance. A finesse. No, and again, okay, don't fake your orgasms, ladies, ever. Maybe they try a different position. And then also, if he's not having foreplay, he thinks you're getting off by sex. Yeah, he does. Now, listen, I'm going to tell you, I wouldn't date anyone that didn't have foreplay.

I'm sorry. I'm just sorry. Yeah. That's going to have to be number one. Teach him. no foreplay is a must don't even look at me if you don't want to do it bye and you can't grow a penis but like you can do shit with the rest of the parts of your body that don't need to be massive the small penis is not that you don't like sexually yes that's very important yeah okay last

question comes from nana yes nana it's my nana she wants to know if i'm coming over for dinner on sunday yes nana okay my husband and i have been together for seven years married for five the last year has been rough and it seems like we're on completely different pages we rarely talk about anything meaningful never go out on dates argue frequently and hardly show any romantic connection it almost feels like we aren't even dating just friends who've created life together who happen to sleep in the same bed my question is how do i know if my marriage is falling apart or if we are just going through a weird phase and how do i fix this it could very possibly be a weird phase I agree I mean I've I've been married for 20 something years and you go

through phases yeah and I think if it's worth having then I think they push through yeah but you know you can't go on forever that way something has to change so maybe you know a conversation a very open and honest conversation like we don't talk anymore yeah you know we don't go on dates you know I mean we're not having sex I mean I mean are we better friends than husband and wife You know, I think an honest conversation will work. What has gotten you out of a rut when you've been in, like, a long, poor rut? Well, the first thing that got me out was a divorce. That'll do it.

Everyone needs a good divorce. But, you know what, my husband was never a good communicator, and I had to teach him that we have to discuss certain things. It doesn't work, honey. Let's talk about this. Right. He used to say, when I say, I need to talk to you, he said, oh, God, what now? Of course, so many guys, yes.

I could stand when he'd say that. I'd say, shut up, and that's when you're going to make me mad now. Yeah. Because we really need to talk. So I've taught him, you know, to kind of communicate a little bit more. But we've communicated. And the other thing about Greg and I, I don't know about this couple, we like each other. You know, and liking is important.

And I know you love, that's one thing. But to like, you must like each other. Because you can love a lot of people. But I need to really like you. And so I really like him. He really likes me. Well, obviously. Honestly, I really like you too.

Same. Like, when you're ready for that second divorce, I'm also ready for a divorce. Girl, I want to be, girl, if I ever get a divorce, y'all don't want me out here in East Street. Oh, shit. No. NeNe Leakes, you've graced the Lady Gang today. Thank you for making the time in your busy schedule. And for ladies that need a night out on the town, head on over.

I looked for where to get tickets. They're available anywhere you get tickets. Stick back there. Access everywhere. The favorite place that we like is LadiesNightOutComedy.com. That's right. When are you in L.A.? They already did L.A.

We've already done L.A. And then March 22nd, we're in Las Vegas. How fun is that? Come on to Vegas because you get to see the show and gamble. Vegas is the best. It's the best. Ladies Night Out tour. NeNe, you're amazing.

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