LadyGang - Just Us: LG Gives Thanks

Episode Date: November 22, 2022

Giving thanks can make you happier and nothing makes the ladies more grateful than their community… oh and Ford’s laughter, Taylor Swift’s album and their family! Check out our amazing sponsors!!! Grab a bag of Spark this season when you go to advocare.com/lady and get 15% off your first order! Framebridge: Go to Framebridge.com and place your order today! Progressive: Quote at Progressive.com to join the over 27 million drivers who trust Progressive!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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kelty knight becca tobin and jack vanik hello hello hello welcome to the lady gang i am becca tobin here with jack vanik and kelty night in the flesh baby in the flesh just had some stomach issues in the bathroom we went for ramen and somehow these two how does i don't know how food can get through your intestine that fast to come out as diarrhea i'm telling you i i have the type of thing where it's instant it's instant it's like i'll finish a meal and need to get home within an hour not of a meal what is that i'm saying certain foods really i don't know if they're making their way through you or if they're just pushing the bottom it's pushing what else is in there out but but

what was it in like a like this you had spicy i had a spicy so spicy with a lot of veggies there's no meat in there right i'm like chili oil oh the chili oil i don't feel like i mean the spice but it didn't feel that spicy cabbage doesn't cabbage make you really cabbage was a choice i love cabbage was a choice cabbage are you kidding me at the end and i was like no she added it at the beginning it was the first she's like i want cabbage i can love cabbage that's so weird i love it like a coleslaw no i like coleslaw i i like it hot i like it in a soup and i like it in like a bowl it is my favorite food one of my favorite foods ever i think cabbage does make you yeah and kimchi with which is cabbage like extra cabbagey cabbage is my favorite like if you could

i'd kimchi to everything i would gut health baby congratulations i mean it is really good for you so it's probably why you're like it's cycling through you know what i mean yeah jealous okay but it was good no regrets no regrets i only regret it when i don't have a bathroom nearby yeah yeah you're safe here i'm safe we're not on the tour bus anymore yeah my god i got it i can't believe that only one out of three of us really shit our pants you know what i don't know why we have to bring this up every episode i forgot about it until this minute i was able to avoid the foods that make me really there was no cabbage on the bus there was not a lot of fresh fresh food is really what makes me go so i was eating as god packaged garbaged bullshit and i was just stopped

up really you know we were talking earlier about like food and bringing a joy and like do i really feel like i need like do i crave a food we just ate this delicious ramen and it's like the right amount of saltiness with like the hard boiled egg and it's very satisfying and it really like my whole soul feels warm and i thought about the time that you were like your body is a furnace and you need to feed it with warm yes i feel that's like my mantra your body is a furnace my body is a furnace i think the woman next to us actually as she was sitting down she was telling her teenage daughter something about the importance of warm food really it was it was weird you guys i never learned that until becca said it and then two weeks chinese medicine doctor on my tiktok said

it and then now i'm on the train well i remember when i used to go to a chinese doctor and they would always be like your feet are too cold and they would put a light a heat light just on my feet oh i don't know that's the lack of iron i feel like circulation i think i figured out my numb toes issue with my running oh really yeah i had an insole in my sneaker that somebody told me that i needed but it was making it so that my my sneakers were too tight just cutting off the circulation this is an interesting story sorry i got stuck in my cord this is an interesting story i was with christina before she gave birth a couple weeks ago and she was like you know she's at the end of her pregnancy and it was like a high-risk pregnancy she was pretty scared through

most of it and she was like i don't know i wonder if i need to go to the doctor i wonder i my hand my fingers are tingling my fingers are tingling like what is it we're looking it up and i was like listen like if you're scared just like go like yeah we don't know you know it could be anything and she realized it was just her socks were too tight oh my god she took off her socks you mean her toes were tingling no her fingers the circulation was like it was doing something weird she took her socks off and like two seconds later her fingers weren't tingling anymore that is crazy well also at the end of your pregnancy you're like everything was weird i mean let's be honest she didn't take her socks off i took her socks off her she can't reach she could not reach

it she made me go around the house she was like she's so particular and she made me go around the house and remake all the beds that her husband had made that in the morning because he didn't make them hotel style stop I love it that's such a nice thing for you to have she was like she was like I just hate the way Paul doesn't tuck in the like duvet and the pillows are off center and like can you and I was like I got this that's what auntie Kelsey is there are you good at making beds i mean i can be if i try i don't make my own bed chris makes my bed but um like i you know i can do anything well if someone asks me yeah and it's better when it's like somebody else's you take pride and i'm like oh look at these sheets so beautiful look at this comfort

i make my bed but it's kind of like a like a pseudo throw and go yeah it's not like a really meticulous talking about i love a great bed me too jared is so particular with the way that we make our bed we have like one of the um the weighted blanket like the quilted way to blanket that I have like on the end of the bed is like a decoration. And he, I've never seen somebody have such an aversion, like a visceral reaction to where we put the thing over and it kind of pulls up the side of the comforter. You like on the side of the bed and he like literally gets nauseous and it will almost throw up if it's not tucked underneath like perfectly. And I've never seen anybody. So I'm a particular person, but like he can't deal. Do you sleep with that weighted

blanket at the bottom of your bed no so then every night you just take it off yeah it's just silly it's just a decoration that's i think you could have a decoration that's not a weighted blanket well unfortunately i got it and then now i have it and i it's big what am i gonna do with it what are you gonna do put in the closet yeah exactly all right it's cute it's fine all right should we good week yeah it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no so my good week is is that I finally realized why I cannot spell. Okay. And I know as a New York times bestselling author and loser, um, that spelling is one of the worst things I, and I know there's spell check and our computer is auto-correct. And so we are the generation that like didn't learn to spell

until grade six. I had to learn how to spell words. And then after that, it's been pretty much done for you automatically. But I was recently in France, as you know, and I realized is the reason I can't spell is because in Canada, all the spellings are different. Everything's O-U-R like flavor, favorite, like, yeah, it's the European. And a lot of times things that are American with a Z, a Z or an S cause it's like the French a little bit. And so I'm looking at all these words and I was like, I knew that's how you spelled that, but it's not spelled that way in the States. And so I'm very confused about my I's, Z's, S's, E's, O's, U's, anything that has to do with one of those letters. It's all very confusing for me. And it's not my fault because

I'm a multicultural kind of gal. I feel like you misspell more than those types of words. No, but that's where it starts. It stems. But how do you explain not being able to pronounce exacerbate? Oh my God. That was so funny this morning. That's a hard word. Exacerbate? It sounds like masturbate. Exacerbate. Exacerbate is not a word. yes it is exacerbate exacerbate it's what you tried to say this morning but you said exacerbates or something it was a serious conversation so i couldn't stop you but it was so incredible i definitely clocked that exact moment as well exacerbate okay well i don't like to use big words i used to five word or not multicultural i'm so multi i've grew up in

many countries oh my gosh wait keep going sorry my bad week is that it actually has to do with our friend jerry mitchell so uh broadway producer is this the jerry you're so fine no yeah this is the jerry of jerry you're so fine okay the famous jerry broadway choreographer director producer um he got married last weekend and uh we he was my director in peep show in las vegas and um the whole peep show cast still has like a text chain even though it's been 15 years and Nick, who was the choreographer of the show was like, Hey, we're going to make like a peep show reel of like everyone wishing Jerry and his new husband, like, uh, the best wishes like from the peep show cast. So like before Thursday night, send me your 22nd video and I'm put it all

together. And I was like, Oh my God, this is so adorable. So then I get busy and I forget to do it until I'm literally looking through my emails on the plane on the way back from France. And I was like, Oh my God, it's going to be four o'clock. I'm going to miss out. I don't want to miss out. don't be that person. So I got on the plane, go in the airplane bathroom. Yeah. I took my top off. I did a nudie video where I was like, come on, peep, peep, happy wedding, Jerry from, from the mile high club or something like that. And that's a good idea. And I was like, I'm so cute. This is so amazing. The next thing I know, I send it on email over the plane or whatever. So scared. Who did you send it to? I sent it to Nick and I was like, here you go. He's like,

oh my god this is amazing i was like great um then i realized that nick i thought this was a video that was just going to get sent to jerry privately no it was posted on party they should no it was on nick's instagram wait i gotta see it i want to see this and we posted on lady gang and he is it nick um kinkle kinkle yes and he is like and i was like everyone else is fully clothed everyone else is like hey jerry loved working with you it's so great to see you and i'm literally do you want to see the inside of my vagina these girls are like hey jerry love you like i can't fast forward but i'll find my part she's like oh my god jerry and she's wearing the peep show shirt and she's like oh my god love you so much and then she's doing a little choreography i love you you're so cute

you're number one and then like this is what most videos are okay and then when we get to me i'll let you guys know it's women that are like mothers in their like mom clothes and it's yeah it looks like they're like just put a bra and put like her him and her like on a little bra and put her like on her boobs you know just like the sexiest that's great yeah it's really cute i cannot wait for yours okay it's like just a girl in her car anyway so then i wrote nick on the chat i was like wow i wish i had known this was for public consumption and he was like oh my god were my instructions not good i was like i just don't know that like me happy thanksgiving hosting the Thanksgiving day parade needs to be like topless in an airplane on like an Instagram video,

but whatever. It's fine. I don't care. I don't care. I did it anyway. That's it. Okay. So my good week is also a bad week because sorry to be holier than thou. Great. But I think having a child has made me so lazy with social media that now any kind of effort whatsoever to me is cringe. And I've decided I'm going to start giving out demerits for cringeworthy behavior on social media to each of you. And you've each won a demerit this week. Oh, great. This week. Yeah. Okay. Okay. So let me start with a round of questions. Go with Jack. Start with Jack. Okay. Jack Vanek. What?

How many years of this podcast have we had? Six. Now, what has been your overarching opinion on Taylor Swift in the six years? I know where this is going. We changed our minds. No, I haven't. Are you her attorney? Are you speaking on her behalf?

If you are, feel free. But do you want her representing you in the court of law? No. and cringe for the behavior on Instagram. Okay. Continue. How cringe master? No. How many times have we discussed Taylor Swift and out of 10 times of discussing Taylor Swift, how many times have you said, I don't get her. I don't get her pants. I'm not a Swifty. I don't get it. 10 out of 10, 10 out of 10. Even this last time that I was saying, Oh, hold on. Okay. Okay. Next, next question your honor yes um so in last week's episode after the uh the new album of miss swift

came out yeah release jack you went out of your way to make part of your good week bad week um something about miss swift yeah and that that opinion was quite stark starkly different yeah From previous opinions and you did come across as a genuine, you know, what's going on right now. I've changed. I've had a change of heart. Is this correct? I wouldn't consider it a change of heart.

I think that I appreciated a singular song. I wouldn't say that I'm going full blown Swifty. Okay. Well, I don't have that on record now, actually this song in particular from the whole album. Am I correct? Okay. okay okay next well it's is it a coincidence that the same time this episode of lady gang aired that over on tiktok the social media media out of six videos that jack has posted in the last week

three of said videos use a taylor swift sound you can't get away from her right now on tiktok it's every sound well it really is you can if you don't choose it i mean it was i'm just sorry i'm coming to the prosecution side for a minute i knew what you were doing when you defendants when you did the okay no i think she's prosecuting okay okay sorry sorry when you did the glimmer trend yeah i was like what's glimmer listen this is views and that's okay can i take a stand no one second. You're hold on. I just want to say that my assumption would be that you're planting the seed. You're a smart girl. Very smart girl. Okay. Now, TikTok means the world to you right now. And it became very evident that you've manipulated the lady gang audience into believing

you are a Swifty. You are masquerading around as a Swifty in order to get viral videos going. Cause you know, for those of you who are millennials and you don't understand what the we're talking about on Tik TOK, if you use certain songs that are going viral, which of course all of Ms. Swift's music is going viral, you are more likely to land on a for you page, which just means you're more likely to have more views on your video on Tik TOK. So that is my case. And I am sorry. I will let the prosecution also speak.

You are the prosecution. it's the one where you just walk it's so stupid you walk and then you turn and you shimmer your nails this one kid like this stupid dance and then that went viral and then it was like every other video jack dance i dance she danced this is two demerits for you you pretended to like taylor swift and you freaking did choreography on tiktok and two things standing choreography standing choreography so you know what you sit in choreography i am serving you with two demerits for cringe worthy social media. Own your cringe. Own your cringe. Listen, I will take the demerits and you found me out. That's exactly why I was doing it because I'm still shadow banned on TikTok

for posting the meth commercial from the nineties. I like went against community guidelines. So I was like, does anybody remember this commercial from the nineties on public television about meth? and like it's not like it was promoting meth that's not no it wasn't but it was like i was like what is a commercial that traumatized you as a child and that commercial was so scary i don't remember that one and i was like if it was if it was on public tv why can't it go on tiktok anyways ever since that moment a couple months ago i have been shadow banned on tiktok so i'm trying to get out of the shadow ban land you better better believe these swifties are coming for you you know what i do i and i have gotten so many dms being like you're a swifty now and i would like

to say i am not a goddamn swifty okay i'm not i like that one song and to be honest i don't even like it that much anymore because i've listened to it like 10 times and i'm like it's not creating your content you keep hearing it don't you okay well there you go oh i take it back miss night okay yes i have a question for you okay you you are on the stand right now okay for cringeworthy social media. What could it be? I'm sure it's about Taylor. No, no. Is it when Kelty got the Taylor Swift hand delivered box from Taylor? Kelty Knight. Oh God. We have had a few people running the Lady Gang social media over the years. Am I correct? Correct. As you can think of, give me an approximate date of when the last time we had an employee or

someone other than the three of us logged into the Lady Gang Instagram account, acting as Lady Gang on our behalf. When was the last time we had an employee, third party operating that operation? Well, our person just finished. She would repost. If it's a repost, it probably wasn't me. We had an employee. She just finished at the end of October and she reposted and sometimes commented. lucky i want to know where this is going for you it was not a repost or lucky for us shall i say i'm sure i did something is it your becca post no no that was me okay um there were while you were in france you posted an outfit picture yeah okay and i was like oh that's cute and it's like oh lady gang commented on oh my god oh yeah oh god i commented on my own picture

go get them okay yeah but yeah yeah i was like i knew it wasn't fran because who the refers to you as k no one not one none of me no i've never heard anybody not even her no i'm like this seems like she's trying to she's also posing someone else that she's not when did you you did this one other time and the comment was like so insane oh good week that was the other one you posted something that went down maybe going to mip okay it said you had your thing there were a couple a couple comments there and it's like lady gang commented on kelty knights and i'm like that's so weird i keep seeing this yeah and i swear kelty's the only person operating the lady gang account as of now yeah and you wrote good week and then there was another picture that had

fires fire flame emojis yeah so are you admitting to those three comments being from you from the late as posing as lady yes she needs that engagement yes no that's not why it's because mip was so boring i sat like i sat by myself and the whole world is asleep because of the time difference so i sat by myself in a little booth for like 12 hours straight and would you talk for like 10 minutes and then wait for two hours so i had a lot of instagram time and i was probably like flipping back before and saw my content was like leave a comment you know like yep you know honestly guilty all right well you guys have two demerits okay i mean if healthy are you issuing another an extra demerit on top of the taylor swift to jack in for another choreography demerit

oh for the glimmer no i'm not holding her accountable i'm just giving her a warning listen i'll let you know that'll never happen again i don't know i don't know as you were doing it i was oh oh she's gonna callie's gonna hang herself off the balcony yeah i could tell your taylor swift sweats yeah it's so soft cute it's oh that is a taylor swift sweat that is cute it's really good i'm still not a swifty okay you heard it here first jack um my good week bad week is pretty simple my good week was well it wasn't a good week but i went and got my body mapped and they found a precancerous mole so my good week was that i adulted and i went and i got it taken care of where was it on my stomach i got scooped out and stitched up and it's i feel like that's

one of those things you could like put it off they found one on jared he's still putting it off he probably won't ever get it taken off because he's just not good at taking care of his health doing life and doing life if i don't make him go so i was like you know what we got back from tour i'm like i'll go get it done it's like one stitch no big deal um so i was proud of myself and i did that so they did the stitch then i had to put a band-aid on it and i had a few different band-aids you change it every day and then i went deja vu why when you had a band-aid at one point and you did a spray tan yes did that happen like a playboy thing back in the 90s no this was recent but should i start doing that do you remember when there was the sticker i think

i should start doing that um no i i had band-aids over this thing it healed they took it off band-aids are done i get a spray tan and spray tan somehow adheres to old residue on band-aids of course and I went to when we were young fest you can still kind of see all of the residue from my band-aids people were asking me they're like what happened to you it looked like I had a gaping wound like three inches wide yeah it looked so gross and I'm like unfortunately it's in my midriff and I'm not gonna not wear it I'll tell you that right now that is such commitment to the crop I mean you that is truly shocking it literally like ruined my outfits because i looked just like it looked like it was a wound that i was not taking care of but all it was is my spray tan just like

attaching itself to old band-aid residue from like two weeks before um special sauce right now and sometimes it's like i get the spray tan do you guys see the ring around my neck right now yeah weird i don't know my spray tan because your necklaces sometimes maybe are not real gold oh they definitely are not okay and it's giving you like a skin thing that you can't see but is existing uh like a uh not a foam a um like a film a film thank you i mean you did get complimented on your spray tans at the lady gang show i did so you know what i gotta have them you when when your vibe is low you just gotta cover it up with the spray tan the vibe is low cover it with the spray tan. Maybe my new chapter will be spray tanning. Oh, I love that. Okay. After all the

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Gobble, mother f***ing gobble. I can't wait for dinner. Now, I have some research here for you. The Harvard Medical School released a research this year titled, Giving Thanks Can Make You Happier. I thought it was going to be a research about how people are at their all-time sad. I'm trying to bring us up. The word gratitude is derived from the Latin word gratia, which means grace, graciousness, and gratefulness.

In some ways, gratitude encompasses all these meanings. One group wrote about the things they were grateful that had occurred during the week. So they had this like test, right? Some people wrote about their daily intentions. After 10 weeks, those who wrote about gratitude were more optimistic and felt better about their lives. Surprisingly, they also exercised more and had fewer visits to the doctors. Um, and the people who did not keep the gratitude journals had more sources of aggravation. Do you keep a gratitude journal?

I don't. I feel like that's something that you should do. Okay. I have so many, so much pressure on my journals already. Well, it's like you're trying to make my life easier. I couldn't do that because I just can't keep up with a journal. Like there's just no way. Okay.

Um, but you're a journaler and I think that you could do it, could benefit by soaking it in and like being grateful for some good news for you. I've prepared a gratitude journal version of the podcast today so we can get a stop, a start. Okay, here we go. Ready? Number one, what family member other than your lover are you the most grateful for? This feels like picking your favorite child. I mean, I don't have many family members. I mean, I can't pick between my parents. That would be mean. Okay. So my sister. Okay. Jack. I mean, my mom because she's my bestie and i talk to her every day what about bill that's so wonderful i know i mean i can't they're basically the same person they're like attached to the hip they are

kind of like morphed into one okay you know you know that saying where there's a will there's a way yeah where there's a may there's a bill where there's a bill there's a may jared made it up isn't that cute that's really good that is really cute they're never separate no no they're always together have we ever seen no i have one time my mom one time i saw your mom without your dad i'll see my mom got uh injectables it together which is the only reason we got peels or something oh and my dad gets he gets so jealous when my mom gets botox without him she's like you're too far gone you can't get botox they look great wow they do look great okay right so tell us about something that you recently warmed your heart? I'll tell you mine. Okay. We were just at the

ramen store. You didn't say who your family member was. Um, the ramen store also we'll circle back. Ramen. Um, my, I think I'm the most thankful, uh, for my brother right at this moment. Cause he's in this stage of life where he's like my biggest cheerleader. So I'll be like, Hey, like I really stopped. I pooped my pants on the lady gang tour. He's like, yeah, you did. And it was the best shit you've ever taken. No matter what he said, what I say, I love it. Uh, so that's been really nice. Um, okay. So at the ramen store we were walking up, it's the, it's not how you're saying it's that you're calling it a store. It's a restaurant. Um, we were, we went for ramen and as we walked up there's this tiny little girl and she was a pink shirt and she was like full out

doing choreography dancing like just while she was waiting in line and i was like be free little one because the society is about to restrict you yeah in that moment what i was thinking because she like caught us watching and then kind of stopped and then stopped and what i wanted to do was start dancing also i know you know like girl keep dancing and i'm like it's your turn every time i walk in the room i watch the whole room glimmer oh god no okay jack something lately that's warmed your heart that's warmed my heart come on little emo child um well so it's been very nice for jared to move to california because he's gotten to know all of my friends and he's gotten like really integrated in my friend group and we were on tour obviously recently and um he was doing a festival

in new york at the same time that we were going to be in uh texas and i couldn't be there and my two friends brennan courtney went and hung out with jared by themselves without me cute and he just had the best time with them ever and he like considers them like two of his best friends and i just think it's really sweet that he has his own personal relationships with like every one of my friends like regardless from me and i just think that's really sweet is that weird because what if you have a fight and we have to pick sides we're on team jack i'm just letting you know the lady gang you have to go where you the person you met first yeah absolutely or is the person you're close i don't know maybe you're actually not sure the

good person or maybe you'll just never be wrong that's right it's true no becca what's warmed your heart um zach just sent me a video of ford making like growling noises and screaming he's like really finding his voice because for a while i was like this kid is not like even trying to make noise like it was really interesting because he's not a big crier so yeah he doesn't really like not emoting lies a lot so i was like maybe i have a mute that would be kind of cool and then zach sent me this i'll play some audio for you i won't bore you with my child but here we go okay we go that's Zach he's got a really raspy he's really doing his voices yeah he has a laugh that is so funny like he oh god I did the thing that I hate when people like my kid is so

funny i'm like your kid doesn't speak um but he has a funny laugh and i hope it stays funny he like has he sounds like he's you have a funny laugh i know but you have the most recognizable laugh in the world i hope he keeps it it's so funny he sounds it he sounds 90 years old oh my god yeah i love it a wheeze yes okay um let me see oh i love this this is gonna be really hard for us oh god yeah because it's the opposite of gratitude yes of what we would normally do because normally we'd just say things we're failing at name five things five five okay you know what i'm taking it down three things that you are doing well currently oh my god okay this is gonna be so hard on us this is excellent this is what a gratitude journal would do for me

i think i'm pretty ready okay oh good i'm only trying to think of one i'm great um three things i think that i'm i'm balancing motherhood the best i have since having a baby fabulous check um i am um i am doing really well at training because i set a goal for myself to run a half marathon I'm and listen I want you all to know that once this is done and I only updated you guys about the marathon before because Kelsey told me people were asking but I want you to know I'm not going to be one of those people that's like talking about your baby's cute and it's great you ran a marathon Becca I'm doing all the things I hate but anyways okay I'm happy I set my I set a goal for myself and I've pretty much stuck to it yeah that's good best as I possibly can as a

as a new mom, newish mom. Um, and then I have gotten better at, um, saying no, I've gotten better at preserving my energy and my, and not having so many obligations. Um, I've room to grow and it's still something I'm working on, but I'm really happy that I have, I have said no to a lot of things that I normally would have said yes to. And that doesn't really sound like i'm improving at it sounds like i'm an asshole but no it's actually important jack um how many are we saying three um i believe in you i well i'm gonna say one stupid one there's nothing stupid here in the lady gang um i have been really taking care of my dental hygiene recently wow that i feel very proud about um that's what does that involve what

does that entail i'm just doing like the a full floss every night and that can really fall out by the wayside really easily i'm doing a tongue scraping i'm doing a mouth wash i'm doing the toothbrush for two full minutes um so that's good one proud of you i think that i in the recent like past couple years i've been a lot better at like setting boundaries with like my professional life and time at managing my different, uh, things that I am doing because I'm very scatterbrained and I can forget about things very, very easily. So I think that I've been doing a little bit better about that, but I never will be amazing at it because that's just like my personality. Never say never. Um, and then I think that that was three. You know what you've been really good

at lately and I really applaud you for it. Not caring, carrying around this water bottle as many places usually do i was gonna bring it with us to whatever this is the first time i've seen the water bottle in a minute it's so nice you guys and i'm not doing a good job at drinking water i'm dehydrated i'd rather you just take that hit oh it really hurts my soul i think it's just like the can you just like half do half the size no refill it okay can you put a sticker of it no something inspirational no kelty what are you doing well at well um okay so since the last time i sent a hateful email oh my god kelly come here september 21st yeah it's been about two months and i have really been much better and aware at opening my emails with some what i would call

email small talk. Oh, how's your weekend? Or like, hi, Mary. Not just like going right into what I need from Mary, like a welcome, a hello, a cordial hello, whatever. You know, all you need to do is hi, name exclamation point. And then you can be a bitch. No, I know. I was, I was not doing that I didn't have time for that. So that's a B I will say that I have been, um, so much more lenient in a good way on my fitness journey. Um, I always feel like I need to be, I know I need to be active cause I am feeling so much better when I'm doing that. And I was a weightlifter for so many years, like doing, you know, you just said that like, not bad, but I was like, uh, the one thing you would never be. No, no, no, not like that. Like I lifted weights and I always worked

out in the evening. Cause I liked, I'm like most productive in the morning. So I like to get up, make my coffee, sit in front of the computer and work. And then I like to like take Callie for a walk and come back and do my workout and make dinner. And like, I have a whole afternoon vibe. And so I lived with like the overhead hanging gray sky of like, you got to work out today. you got to work out today. You got to write it in the Bujo. Like you got to cross the things off. And I've been very gentle with my body. And so I'm being very, um, I'm listening to her and I'm like, what do you want to do today? This actually started before tour. And I was like, I just want to do yoga. I just want to be stretching. And then I got like a little Pilates machine and I've been

like doing Pilates because it brings me so much joy to just like move my legs around in a dancey way. And I'm not like doing it for anything. Intuitive exercising. And I'm feeling very proud about that. And my last thing, what was my first thing? Oh yeah. My emails. Okay. My last thing. I do want to get to that though. Is, um, is that I, um, have not taken care of myself as a human being in about four years pre COVID I think was the last time I went for a well woman exam. I haven't had my body mapped. I haven't seen my thyroid doctor. I just keep having him, I keep doing appointments with him online and I want them over as soon as possible. So when he gets on, I'm like, I feel great, but I don't feel great. And I finally was like, stop copying this

on your to-do list every week. Call Lily Lee, your doctor, call, go, go, refill this. Like, and it keeps getting put off because I'm taking care of like everyone else. I started actually doing it and i made all my appointments for the fall good all my doctor's appointments my i have a cavity that i've had for like six months just living there hurting me every night when i go to sleep like i'm gonna actually put my doctor's appointments on the top of the list that's very there are people i've seen in social media that have been doing the like they do a whole day for all their doctor's visits like one day for the year yeah and i think that's kind of cool yeah that's what I do I do not one day but I'll do it like I'm like this is my doctor week yeah and I'll

just book all like my gyno my physical like all that shit one week just to get it over with and then you can just go get them at the same time every year that's true that's now I do have something that I want to have start happening okay and I'm so sorry we've made you work so hard in one direction and I may be pulling it back I'm actually sick and tired of small talk on emails. I'm tired of agreeing to, I want to say in the body of the email. Yes, that sounds good. Two o'clock works. I don't want to sign off. I don't want to say best. I don't want to have a signature. I don't give a shit. You know who it's from. It's like calling somebody, leaving a voicemail and then saying your number, right? I'm like, why do I have to say best Becca?

You know, it came from Becca Tobin's email. You have a signature, so you don't have to do that, but I don't want to set up a signature. Isn't it rude to just use a signet? No, I don't know. Why do I need to have that? You know who it's from. It's true because people like to just like, they like to toot their own horn. No, I'm sick and tired of the small talk because I just can't, you know what? I put off emails for so long because the thought of having to come up with all of the niceties, but I've been doing it lately and I think people have really been getting the wrong

idea about me, but you know what? Maybe it's the right idea. She doesn't around. She doesn't mince words and she doesn't have time for your bullshit. All right. Sorry. I'm so grateful. Wow. Happy Thanksgiving, everybody. Okay. Um, I have one last one when we come back. This episode of lady gang is brought to you by progressive insurance. Hey,

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was what do you really appreciate about your life? Second one was what was the day where you were like, ah, and like, what have you learned and why you're feeling grateful about that journey now? Okay. Um, a dark day that taught you a lesson, something that you really appreciate about your life or what you can do better and some someone who taught you about unconditional love i mean having a child is like everybody says it and they're like oh i'm not really sure but and also i feel the same way about orally still now that i have a child i want to just put it out there people are like oh the dogs become dogs when the babies come the dogs become dogs and i'm like not this dog thankful episode keeping it positive we all love your dogs i've never heard that you

haven't every single person like people like give their dogs away yeah so weird rude and like every person who has a kid when i would bring up orally they'd be like just wait just you wait and then i'm like well i guess i'm a better person than you morgan okay sorry continue okay that was great jack who's morgan some mom just so mad at this mom um can i answer answer any question i want yeah sure um i'm gonna answer the first one podcast jack you can do whatever you want how cool what was the first question the first question was who or what in your no what is something nice you did for another person this week that's not that wasn't one of the questions How about what do you appreciate about your life?

I said I had 14 questions. That was that one. What do you appreciate about your life? I appreciate that I was able to build a life that I want and build a life with freedom in it from the ground up and without giving any handouts. Like I've been working my buns off to create multiple businesses to live a lifestyle that I enjoy. So I enjoy actually doing the things and enjoy, um, work cause a lot of people don't. And I feel very fortunate that I'm able to have a job that I like to do. Ooh, I love this.

Okay. Um, let me see. Oh, unconditional love in the past or present. Hmm. Well, not Callie because as you know, it's very conditional here. And when she goes, when she goes, she goes, it's her time. It's her time. I do love her so much.

Um, oh, this is hard. who made this show? Um, is there a day, a dark day that taught you a lesson? Um, was it, did you have, you learned, learned anything from the New York times failure this year? Yeah. I mean, that's a good one. Um, I think like, I think in general, this entire year has been a lesson in, in what matters. Um, I absolutely still get off the thankful train or the train of mental wellness, if you will. Um, but yeah, I think like, uh, like failing at a bunch of stuff over the last few years and then it all kind of cultivated in like the project it was like i i was really upset in that one day but then i was able like i have

been with other rejections to get over it like really quickly and not like lying getting over it like i'm still salty about other things in my career that have happened more so than i am about the book like i really was like oh and because it you actually said something well jack when we're getting the coke and then becca on the street when i was crying cola everyone coca-cola yeah well we're secure in the bag it was like i you know it was it it really is a stupid thing to chase these titles and i have you know so many of them that it's like i don't need anymore you never needed them to begin with i know but it's not going to change anything it's not truly not changing anything. We didn't make any more money when we made the New York times list. No,

you don't. And it's like, but society puts these things like, you know, like when we did that episode and I was reading the goal posts to you and it's like, when I have this, when I have this, like I'll feel better, it'll feel settled. It'll feel like, okay, we did it. And it's just like, no, you're never actually going to probably feel better. And you're always going to be like some weird, insecure kid that's trying to get people to love you. And like you just, it's who I am, but it's like okay great like i don't know yeah i felt like i'm thankful for that and i also feel like the minute that i let go of like okay you know what just do you then like really good stuff started happening i love that yep so anyway lovely thank you all for watching i hope i'll see you all

on cbs i'm hosting the thanksgiving day parade i got a beautiful watching this wait you have your outfit yeah i got a beautiful coat on poshmark for 55 it's an old kate spade um coat that's yellow with fur on the sleeves and on the collar it's very power color it's very festive and i love it so much and happy thanksgiving everyone we'll see you next tuesday thanksgiving thanks for listening the lady gang is produced by alex ingber steve delameter and jared monaco make sure you subscribe rate and review our podcast and if you love it share it with your friends on social media like oh my god i just listened lady gang this episode's a great swipe up to listen and if you really want to which we know you do please follow us on social at kelty at

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