LadyGang - Kyle Richards

Episode Date: May 19, 2020

The one and only, actress and RHOBH legend Kyle Richards is here to talk to us about how she deals with stress and conflict, how she likes to do her glam, and answers a few fun Housewives quarantine questions! Plus, the upcoming Halloween film!   Thank you to our sponsors! Baronfig – For 15% off your first purchase go to baronfig.com and enter c ode LADYGANG at checkout.  Best Fiends – Download Best Fiends for free on the Apple app store or on Google Play.  Caldrea – Get free shipping on orders of $50 or more when you shop online at caldrea.com.   Hammitt - Go to hammitt.com and chat with their team to mention you heard about them on LadyGang to get a special gift!  Talkspace – Get $100 off your first month when you sign up and use code LADY.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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The Lady Gang. Things are about to change around here. Each week, we catch up with Hollywood's hottest girl posse, Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek. Hello, hello, hello. Welcome to the Lady Gang. I am Becca Tobin here with Jack Vanek and Kelty Knight. Take five. take 17 only took us you know 15 minutes this time that's okay how are you giddy it's oh giddy I like that I like it too I like that you're sitting in your art room Becca I know it's your background's so beautiful thank you it was inspired by Leanne Ford

it was inspired by her she said to put all the art in one that you hated but my and and our decorator ashling that we've used forever she did the same thing at our old house so when i got the validation from the two of them i knew that this was the answer this is the secret professionals are telling you what to do you can't go around that can't argue no it looks really pretty actually thank you i like that there's not a lot of space between each of the arts there's so much of it so so much of it lucky lady that i am okay well now it's time for good week yes it is bad week. Oh no. I'll kick it off. Kick it off. So this is going to be such an annoying good week, but I had a very adult good week. Zach and I decided that since we aren't, I'm not

driving. I haven't been driving anywhere because if we go anywhere, it's the grocery store and we'll take his car. So my car has been sitting not used in the garage. So we called up the car insurance company, like all the commercials tell us to, and it's real guys. They will give you money back on your car insurance. And I feel like a walking pro like commercial right now, but it actually worked. Like we got a lot of money back saying that my car is technically in storage, not being used. And I'm such a reckless driver that we pay so much car insurance for me that now we save some money. So guys try it. I think that if you have two cars in one house, try one out, try it. Did you just pause it? Were you just like, I don't need until June?

Yeah. So now we, I mean, we can't drive it, but we just tell them we it's technically that the car is in storage and not being used. So now that we've been extended for the stay at home, we're like, we might as well, you know, cause I think I was paying a lot for car insurance because like I said, I'm a very reckless driver. Oh my God. I'm going to do that too. That's really do it. It's great. And it was like, it was worth it. So adult. So hot tip, hot tip, bad week. So Zach never has dreams. He's just not one of those people. He does. Oh no. Are you going to tell us his dream? No, no bitch. But so I am the one that always has crazy dreams and I always remember them. And I have a lot of, I have a lot of nightmares. I'm

very triggered in the day. If anything dark happens or whatever, it's a nightmare automatic. so but I'm always comforted because I'll wake up from my nightmare and he'll be there and I'll be like I just had a nightmare and he'll cuddle me it'll be so lovely well last night after like four nights in a row of really bad nightmares where I need to like stage my bedroom I woke up and I was like oh my god I had another nightmare he goes oh my god so did I oh no and it was the same genre that we were basically being fucking murdered in our house whoa so I have to do something. I got to clear some bedroom energy. Something is happening. Oh, did he need to like cuddle with you to make himself feel better too? We were both just sort of weirded out.

Like we just laid there awkwardly. Uh-huh. We saved the shit out of that creepy room. So it can't possibly be that room. True. It's not. I mean, the other part of it too is like we've lived in this house almost a year and I thought the energy was incredible. It's been so good. so i'm just really confused about what's going on so if anybody doesn't mean i mean there is a global pandemic you know true it's probably the pandemic causing us craziness um the house was built in the 90s so it's not that old it's got that 90s energy it's not like some really like old-timey ghost no you from like the 20s no old-timers what if it's kj appa like haunting you from next door now that riverdale is next door i saw him again taking out his trash and

his body right now is so good. And I can't, I think, I think I figured something out actually in my trolling on Instagram. So I was like, I need to confirm that that was KJ Appa. It was, and then he posted about working out and there's a guy who lives up the street, you know, the singer Cassie, her husband, and he's like this big personal trainer. And I think that KJ is working out with her husband. I went into a dive, you guys, but his bod looks great. Shout out to Cassie's husband. Wow. You really connected the dots on that one. Lady gang investigates. I'm scared of my ability to find shit out on Instagram. Scared. I know. It's terrifying. It's unparalleled. Okay. I'm going to go. Go. So my good week is one that Becca might be pissed off about and it's very

timely considering our guest of our quickie last week. I got a DM on Instagram by Bay Area Shoes and she says, you remind me of someone who should be on Summer House. Damn it. That's my dream. I know. I don't even know. Like, what about, is it because I'm like kind of successful, but like a total mess? Is that what? No, it's, it's because I just day drink all day. Oh, so I should take it as a compliment. Yeah, you should. You're fun and you like to party, but then the problem with you is that we've discussed it before. Like on, on Summer House, they have an insane ability to day drink into night drinking till 3am. You can't do that. You can't hang. It's the booger sugar. It's the booger sugar. It's the night skiing.

Allegedly. Yeah, totally. Okay. So my bad week, obviously times are like weird. And I've had a few moments where I kind of feel like it's like the end of days, like weird shit has kind of happened where it feels like, you know, the end of the world is coming. So Jared and I were driving on the freeway up to la recently and we're driving it's beautiful the windows are down and then like ahead of me i see this kind of dark cloud and then it starts coming closer and closer to my car then we hit it it was a swarm of beetles or bugs or other goopy whatever hundreds of these bugs smashed into my windshield covered the entire thing i've never seen anything like it in my entire life. Was it that murderous hornet bees that are going to come eat us? This was pre-murder

hornets. So I don't, I don't know, but I've never seen, it was like a black cloud approaching my car. And then the worst part about it was I didn't, one of my windshield wipers broke the day before. Then we're like trying to windshield wipe it out, but you can only see out of like a little, it was bad. And I don't know what the hell is going on. I bet you there's going to be so many um there's going to be so much roadkill coming up because the animals are not used to cars on the road anymore yeah now they're just so yeah they just don't know to be scared those bugs were just like you know we should just fly along the freeway in a huge swarm yeah they didn't they wanted the ocean beside there they wanted the pch they want that beautiful ride yeah beautiful

beautiful they all dead gross yeah it was disgusting so gross i hate it i hate a smushed bug because, you know, when you see them up close, they are so beautiful and majestic. Like I'm sure they had beautiful, like mirror colored wings and you know, like those weird, like shiny bodies. I've completely stopped killing bugs that I find in my house. Yeah. No, I love the bugs. I let them out. Yeah. Let them out. Let them live. Um, well my good week, bad week has to do with outside. So I'll start with the good. Um, as you know, I have a cool garden growing lettuce grow. It lives in my backyard and I have been gardening for the first time in my life. And it's not really gardening. It's like hydroponic. You

don't do anything except add like fertilizer once a week. Anyway, I'm flourishing. Like I'm making a salad every night from my own growings. Like it is a beautiful time. And I've realized that next to the Lady Gang Facebook group, the second greatest Facebook group on the planet is the lettuce growing group that I'm a part of. And it's just everyone that has this vertical lettuce grower. And we all talk about when we're going to harvest and what kind of water heater we're using. So I'm a full blown loser, but I'm so happy to have support in my community with my lettuce. And my bad week is that I found out that my spinach has bolted. I didn't know this was the thing, but I just want everyone to know because summer's coming, you might be planting your home

garden. So sometimes when a plant is not happy, instead of growing into like a little brain, like how you get spinach on like a little brain, what'll happen is it bolts out. Like it gets a big thick stem and then the leaves are all spread out. It's called bolting. And what happens is the plant is unhappy and it grows out big to try to find more sun. Don't look away like you're bored. this is so interesting jack i know jared just came home oh hi jared you want to hear about my whole thing anyway the plant like tries to get out to where it might get more sun or more happiness and it picks it up and you can't eat it it goes completely sour so what i found out when i my lettuce grow facebook group as i was like is this ready to harvest and they're like no you got to

take that out it's ruined you ruined it it didn't get enough sun so my spinach is bolted bad week wow guys sorry i'm gonna bolt myself in the lady gang i'm just gonna grow taller so that i can get more of the sunshine it's honestly firing it's survival you know survival let me live you know i might be on the back of this do that don't all plants do that yeah towards the sun they do but when it's too too much because it's like my lettuces and my cabbages are fine but the spinach is like it's like three feet long it's fine thank god we have a good guest today because we could have just lost you we almost lost you but don't worry we're gonna recalcitrate you shortly i'm sure kyle gardens now back to the lady gang our guest today is hollywood royalty she began on

little house in the prairie and ended up in a big old house in beverly hills she portrayed the infamous lindsey wallace opposite jamie lee curtis in the biggest horror movie of all time halloween and after halloween was remade and incredibly successful in 2008 and fans begged and begged for what was obviously missing from that remake we're not lindsey and so it was done she returns to her iconic role in halloween kills set to come out sometime this year possibly maybe we don't know the whole world is in flux she also has an empire of her own clothings books babies and is the fucking og of the og housewives on becca's favorite city beverly hill she is drop dead gorgeous and even prettier on the inside with decades of philanthropic work her latest focus

is raising funds for children's hospital los angeles this fall she co-hosted entertainment tonight with me from universal studios and was probably the best guest host we've ever had on the show not only can this woman read a teleprompter like a champ but guys she was on time you know how much time please welcome to the lady gang kyle richards thank you okay how's quarantine how are you ladies how's everything we're good we're hanging in and thank you so happy to see you thanks to housewives it's saving my quarantine it's like something to look forward to so thank you good to know are you are you just happy some of the torture a little bit worth it yeah i mean i've actually been really good considering i'm someone who suffers from anxiety i've done really

well during this quarantine for me and i think that's because i have all my daughters with me my husband so that makes me feel more safe obviously um but the show when it started airing definitely started going to the anxiety side and it's just not fun to watch sometimes all the stuff coming back and the tweets and the comments. It's just too much sometimes. Yeah. Do you get used to it over the years though? I mean, you've been doing this your whole life. So does it still like sort of sink into you and you feel it? In some aspects, yes. I'm like, oh, who even cares? I'm so sick of hearing that. I don't even care about that anymore. But then other things do bother me. So I really don't want to be that person. It sounds so stupid. I mean, I'm a mother,

I have four children, but I'm human and things can affect me sometimes. What can I say? I get my feelings hurt sometimes. I'm a normal human being. So the Halloween Kills movie, you're done it, done it, done it. Is it still coming out 2020 or do you know? Yep. Yeah. Still coming out 2020. Yes. We need it. what do you prefer more like being on set like that or being on set when you just get to be yourself? I prefer being on set as an actress and producer. I mean, obviously I, you know, loved doing the housewives. I've been here for 10 years, but it's just, it's just really a lot more difficult. You can't leave your work, you know, when you go home at night and it's people

say, does it spill into your personal life? It is our personal life. So it doesn't leave at all. And it's just hard emotionally. And for someone who has anxiety, it provokes my anxiety. And it's a lot more challenging, actually. It was easier going to work every day in North Carolina at 5 p.m. and coming home at 7.30 a.m. in the morning. And then it is on the housewife. So if that gives you any idea. Wow. I mean, do you have any advice? Because I'm somebody that suffers from anxiety with personal relationships. Like it's really hard to shake off an argument or so I just was wondering like what you have that times 20 obviously or a hundred. And so what are your tips to like shake off a bad encounter or like walk away and be able to be home and be

present with your family and not be thinking and replaying that thing over and over and over in your head again? I am the queen of that. So I don't think I'm the person to give advice for that. I have advice for other areas of your life, perhaps. That is not one of them. That's my specialty. Same. And if I care about somebody and there's been an issue, I will dwell and lose sleep over that and make me crazy. So whether it's a friend or my husband and I get upset with each other, I will obsess over that and torture myself. So I don't have an answer for you. great so I'm the same you're a Capricorn too aren't you yes that's what it is it's a Capricorn thing it's our curse it is our curse I so don't want to be that person and I just yeah no it's

zero words of wisdom for you my dear thank you so but does it make you feel better that there's other people like that it's like such a relatable answer though because I'm sure most people if you ask them, that question would come up with some bullshit answer that they'd preach on other people that doesn't actually work. So that is probably the most raw, honest answer. And people will love that. Celebrities will be like, I just get up in the morning and journal and drink a glass of water. What I do is I like to meditate and, you know, put my, you know, and my aura out there of positivity. No, I actually do meditate for my anxiety. Today, I was not having a good day, to be honest. The show and just everything with the show can just really be too much. And today

was one of those days. And I was like, okay. Well, I mean, as somebody who has watched the show since the beginning and is watching right now in real time, we are a week behind. So when this airs, the new episode will be out. I haven't seen that, but I will say I feel for you. I think that, um, it's very easy in these situations for the cauldron to spin and spin and spin and whoever gets spit out kind of stays there as the punching bag for a while. Um, and so that's a good way to put it. Yeah. It's, it's hard. I think everybody, it's like, it's like musical chairs, just nobody wants to be that person. And so you're all just trying to be on your best behavior, but as an honest person, sometimes that makes you the focus of all that bad energy. And so I definitely feel

like that right now. I feel like that in the last episode. I feel like that tonight and in tonight's episode. So I, yeah. And honestly, I'm trying to explain, and there's a lot of things we don't talk about on camera. We don't talk about the fact that there's a camera crew there or audio people there while we're filming you know the show it's our lives yes we're opening up our lives but we don't break that fourth wall as we call it of acknowledging that we're making a show um you know we did this season a little bit when you saw the bravo bravo bravo comments and things like that we're like okay i guess we're gonna break the fourth wall but like something i couldn't explain you know in on camera was that you know we sign up when we sign up to do the real housewives of

Beverly Hills, we're making a commitment. We're opening up our lives. It's a very, very big commitment. It's, you know, it's something that we're, you know, involved with year round. So it's, it's, it's a lot. And, you know, I was filming Halloween and I flew back from North Carolina to, you know, do the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills and be at Teddy's retreat and all that. So when, you know, they tell me, you know, okay, well, the car's coming at five in the morning, you got to drive out to what's it called to get in a car with Sutton and Erica and then drive another hour or whatever and i'm leaving my house at five in the morning i'm getting no time with my family i'm not even able to drive porsche to school and then dorit comes in you

know at one o'clock with having her hair and makeup done and i mean i'm like what are you talking about i flew from north carolina i put mascara on in the car so i could be you know in the car at 5 a.m and that was a big frustration you can't always explain every little detail with the audience, but I was just like, if you can't be here for Teddy and just show up on time, can you not at least do it for that part of your commitment? Because it's a big commitment and we all signed up to do this. Well, and you grew up in this business and of entertainment and you are obviously a professional. Yeah. And so like, that is your job to get in that car at 5am and that is your job to show up and not let people down. And so I think people get caught up in it

and they're like, well, who cares if this was friends getting together? Who cares if your friends three hours late and got their glam done it's like well it is friends but it's also your job well exactly it's like you know okay yes would I care if in in real life if my friend came late with her you know getting her hair makeup done I wouldn't care but I also do I also removing that part of it do I think it's weird to have you know do you and your friends get hair makeup done before you go work out I I live in the most ridiculous place in the world and I do not know people that do that. This is an excellent question because we had like a little conversation prior and we were discussing like sort of this idea of glam or slam. Like what are the housewife

rules as far as what you think is appropriate for having glam done? Because when you're on TV, you want to look your best all the time. But like, so, you know, at lunch, like do you wear a lash at dinner a full glam workout no glam like what are the rules so to me and you know over these 10 years of doing the show um well not i'm not i mean these past few years since people joined the show that do do that but like we never did that we only had hair and makeup for our interviews and if there was like some big event you know um i don't think season one i even did a big event it's only my interviews but um no I mean and if I'm gonna go work out you know on the show I'm gonna you know put maybe tinted sunblock and mascara on sometimes I don't have any on if you

see me at home um but because that's you know although I'm on television you know that's my real life I would never do that so yeah uh I mean I I would not do I wear as lashes in the day I'm sure I have but sometimes if I have left over and I'll like you know wash my face and leave just the eyes because I don't want to rip all my lashes out but as a general rule no do you think it's because you're so beautiful I mean I remember when you came to Universal Studios and we were I was standing next to you and I was like you're no your skin you have butter skin your skin is so pretty so I would just wear a tinted foundation or a tinted moisturizer and a mask it doesn't hurt well listen i mean like i said i mean we all like to look good and you know i get for certain

things whatever i just don't get um to the degree i really don't i think it's a little bit um it just it's just not i just don't relate to that at all well do you think we were discussing like if we agreed or not do you think denise has a right to sort of get mad about the three-way conversation when she's always having like a huge dick conversation? Well, here's the thing. So at that dinner, um, she, right before the women's are having that conversation was literally talking about the size of her husband's penis again. Yes. Again. So, and then, but I mean, to be honest, that felt like, I felt like she was setting everybody up that night, honestly, because she made a point to say to her daughter, my friends are being inappropriate. And I was like,

oh, here we go. And then later seeing her with her daughter, I was like, oh, okay. So here we go. So it felt like it was a screaming setup to me, to be honest. Same. Check. Okay. We had NeNe Leakes, who's another housewife from Atlanta, on the show a few months ago. And we made her make, which we think is a great idea. We were waiting for andy to call us um to make like an all-stars like housewives all-stars summer or something so i want to know who would be like on your all-stars team from all the shows do you watch any of the other shows um i do i mean i just you know to be honest like i'm on television i produce television i don't really watch television i've started more in the quarantine but i had to

catch new york of course um and then i have to watch orange county because we're the same producers same crew and everything so i'd like to see what's going on yeah but i was so shocked at the the whole drunken situation of the new york holy we were texting like my god i mean it would just never happen on our show like never ever no none of us have it in us ever ever i died i mean i would be like packing my bags and moving out of the country wait can somebody explain what so new york they went to the house in the hamptons ramona's house in the hamptons and it was like a frat party on steroids but with a bunch of like women in their middle age like it was just like drunk on another level it was like the movie the hangover and i mean we all

on the show have drank too much and said things and done things with regret blah blah blah and And then, I mean, like, after last season in Provence, Teddy and I were like, I can't even tell you. We were like, we were not okay for six months, the stress of how drunk we got in Provence and how ridiculous we were. And the next day, she was like, what did I say? Tell me what I said.

And I was like, why do you keep asking me? I don't know. Please leave me alone. So we were literally so stressed. And it is like nothing compared to what I saw. I mean, I don't, I really don't know what I would do. And then they have like kids and the kids see that. I was just like, Oh God.

Do you ever have moments where, cause I think about it all the time. Cause I always put myself in hypothetical being a real housewife position. She's going to be a housewife at some point. It's her dream. And I've always, the only thing I think is, do you have those moments where you're like, I'm not drinking this season? Cause you're just too afraid of losing control. No.

i'll tell you why i came on to this show like i didn't really know what sorry that's my sister again i didn't really know what i was um getting myself into but i always just said i'm going to just be myself you know uh a hundred percent and the only times i've ever regretted anything pretty much when i didn't feel i was being myself like in the beginning seasons were you know season two and like i was like and then i was like okay no no no no so i you know you have to be yourself 100 and that means you're going to say things you regret you may drink too much sometimes i mean but um you know i'm a good mom i'm a good wife i'm a good friend uh i'm i have a healthy lifestyle if you see me on the show drink a little bit too much sometimes that hey i

mean i do that that's that's my my my life so if i'm here to be honest you're gonna see all that stuff. I love this. All right. I never trust when people go, I'm not going to drink on the show this season. I'm like, well, then you're censoring yourself and we're not getting the good, the hundred percent. Yeah. Yeah. Unless you don't drink to begin with fine, but you've got to be yourself. Right. Okay. So before we have you figure out, um, our girls lives, we have a quick game, most likely to housewives edition. And I have eight questions. All right. Most like who's the most likely to throw a zoom happy hour and invite everyone me a mean of our cast yeah yeah oh me i've already been suggesting that and trying to get that together okay that's amazing who is uh the

who is most likely to say something totally inappropriate about quarantine and like how hard it is and then be like in their beverly hills house dory yeah who is most likely to donate to the first responders uh well we all did actually so i have to uh first responders but i actually sent a text out when none of a lot of us weren't talking and i sent a group text out asking the girls i didn't know if someone would respond or not that they wanted to with me donate um 8 000 masks to the hospitals uh and most in need in la and they all immediately even though we weren't talking we responded yes so i have to say that um you know all of us so yeah who is most likely to clean their own home during quarantine um well

let me think i think uh i don't know maybe who's like the least me teddy yeah that's what i would into who who in your cast has secretly snuck to the hairdresser to get their roots done i don't know but i have been with my looking glass and noticing some it's like some touch-ups i've been seeing meanwhile i had so many grades and i i did like too light of a color on the roots but whatever i know i i know that some of them have been sneaking but yeah i'm like what's going on over there i see that okay yeah and i'm like did you do that makeup yourself yeah it's too good it's too good

who in your cast is most likely to ask you to be a part of their instagram live like i'm doing an instagram live um um um um maybe teddy all in yeah yeah okay there's some tension but yeah some are okay last one who is most likely to go absolutely crazy during this time with retail therapy you know it's funny I say that me sorry I say that because which is so crazy but the the cast all say that I'm the biggest shopper so which is I would expect can you not say that on camera my husband watches the show I'm like literally don't want them saying on camera like shut up um and then actually they used it at one point and my husband like looked at me and i was like so silly but um oddly i have not been buying anything

online at all unless it's been like a birthday present to send to someone because honestly where are we going where are you i mean where are we going and i started like what support this company what to walk around no there's nothing there's no point my nails look like this I mean my hair has like roots that are like reddish I mean where am I going nowhere so I haven't been spending any money kind of on that note when we come back Kyle's gonna fix your lives because look at her so well adjusted during this quarantine I love it cannot fix anybody's you're listening to the lady gang well we're back and you're gonna fix some lives so okay here i'm gonna prescribe you all some lexapro

listen i really want when we when we tell our girls advice it's usually to down a bottle of wine so you're like right in line to to how our advice goes okay so basically our girls writing questions about anything, love, life, career, whatever, and we give them some interesting advice. So our first question comes from PJ Jolie Pitt. She or he says, my amazing wife is constantly in tears because she has a group of toxic quote unquote friends who toss her to the side whenever they want, leaving her feeling left out. She gives people so many chances and I know she'd be happier if she just let these bitches go and find some new girls. How do I help her move on from this group of friends by the way this is first of all they're not her friends because

if they were they would not be excluding her like that so the husband's right she does need to find your friends are supposed to lift you up make you feel good enhance your life and i always i always look at people personally and say all all the people that i'm attracted to in my life teach me something they inspire me somehow whether it's a design or you know they're a good parent or they're you know great at something that i you know that i admire like so if people are bringing you down all the time and i know that it's ridiculous because i'm on a show where you see some of that stuff but we also support each other and care about each other so um she needs to ditch those people and get into some place that she loves whether it's an activity and meet people

that she has an income with and she'll get a new group of friends and see ya to that other group that's ignoring her excluding her i think we also talk about the fact that um sometimes it takes people a long time to realize that friendship shouldn't be so hard and it shouldn't be such a chore with some people because it is with a lot of friends that you have in your earlier life so if it's constantly like pulling at your emotional heartstrings it might not be the best yeah I think that's a lot of stuff that happened with Lisa too with Lisa Vanderpump you know I I love her we had so much fun but sometimes I was like it should not be this complicated I mean I have my same friends that my best friends in second grade is still my best friend I have

my friends from childhood that I'm still friends with my whole life uh and I'm like and I've literally never had one issue with any of them yeah yeah I think sometimes it's like good to realize that you can have toxic moments with someone, like someone you might not always agree on someone, or you might, you know, have to take, take a step back. But, but, you know, there's a difference between that and then having someone in your life that is consistently like bringing you down to a bad place. And, you know, I look at it like, has it been a year where you're still looking back being like, this person's ruining my life. Like then it's time to really throw it in, you know? And I think anybody, a friend, a family, if I think that honestly,

that if it's something that constantly is bringing you down and taking you to a dark place like we're adults now we're allowed to step away from um and if i look at my kids or there's so much younger than me and they're so much smarter than that they just learn so much younger they're just like they're like listen i'm pulling away from this because this is a pattern here i'm like what why did i do that in my tool what the heck where did you learn all this from why are you guys so smart. Can you teach me some things? I love it. Yeah, it's really impressive. I learn a lot from my kids too. I love that. Okay, next question comes from Anonymous. She says, I'm 25, live in New York City, and I'm single. I've always had my sights set on moving to California growing up,

but I moved to New York after college and I fell in love. Most of my closest friends are in serious relationships and getting engaged, so I'm feeling a little bit left behind. Sometimes on the show, you compare New York to LA. Can you please talk about the pros and cons of the two and explain what you mean about being happy. You left and you left, left New York. That's probably for back in. Yeah. We both used to live in New York. Um, first of all, I just don't think you should ever feel like you're behind. Like there is no timeline for life. That's it. Especially because of a relationship. No. Cause they're going to be divorced by the time you're on your first marriage and that's fine. And by the way, there's better guys in New York than LA. So don't be thinking

you're gonna come back to LA and find anybody amazing because I'm sending all my single friends it is impossible to date in LA I have tried and failed miserably it's there's not a single good guy left there so New York is probably the way to go they just seem to be like walking around the streets all day you can like kind of pick them out on the ground it's so true nobody's a business suit and sharp which I really like a man in the business too yeah they're probably an actor coming out of an audition though? No, not in New York. Oh no. Oh no. Sorry. I thought you meant LA. I'm like, yeah, LA is like, no, the whole actor thing in LA would be a very big turnoff to me. Yeah. Sorry. Sorry. Actors. I would not want to ever, I mean, I, my first

boyfriend was an actor, um, is an actor. Have you ever had like a torrid actor love affair on the set of something that like nobody knows about that's going to be like in a memoir no i was married had a baby when i was 18 years old i missed that whole situation damn it i i know i i literally got married 18 a baby 19 years old i didn't get to have any sort of anything on the sets of anything you didn't miss i do now with my husband we have our or you know whatever You guys, you guys have somehow like maintained your spark. It's, it's very admirable. Look at her. I maintained my spark for her too. No, but, and she, him, like, it's very mutual. You can tell that you guys are both so into each

other still. And like, you got very lucky because after three years of marriage, sometimes I look at my husband and I'm like, you're still here. Well, you know, it's funny. Cause like, it's obviously hard for me to be objective I know I mean we both feel that we're really lucky and we do talk about that in private like not everybody's like this we're so lucky you know we see our friends going through problems and they're like they don't like hanging out together like we do so we know that but it's hard to be an outsider and like people say these things and and then I watch the show and like things will make me crazy about them they're like oh my god I love Mauricio and I'm like what I literally want to strangle them over this and everyone's like it's so amazing

oh my god why okay good his comment like it's like a purse man do you remember what he said i was like are you kidding me with that comment that dumb comment and everyone was like he's the best i'm like great just feel the fire thanks in mauricio's in mauricio's defense he did handle that awkward moment with denise's husband really well at that dinner yeah he did he did but i was like what are you talking about oh thanks that was a great explanation mo he was trying he was he was trying so nice he really was yeah yeah it was funny it was so awkward it was so awkward and actually i mean if it was even more awkward but we can only show so much in an episode otherwise we'd have you know a five-hour special we're okay with that

Exactly. All right. We have time for one more. Okay. Last question comes from anonymous. She says years ago in college, I snooped on my boyfriend's iPad and I saw that he'd been logged into some sexual chat room site earlier that day. No personal information exchanged at all. Just straight into dirty talk and basically talking out of porn scene. I was unsure how I felt, but decided to move on and forgive. It's been years since, but it sometimes still pops in my head and makes me feel unsure what are your thoughts and what would you do if you're in my shoes who's gonna answer this one i don't know i mean i don't kill smash my pad murder i would never be able to keep that inside ever it would just fester and explode nightmare i would never

be able to keep that in and trust again i would have to get it out and open and talk about that Yeah. Yeah. That's a weird thing. I mean, we've talked about like porn before and I, I mean, I don't personally think it's bad or like if your partner is doing that, but if you're engaging in it and becoming part of the store, the star of your own movie, then that's where it gets weird. But I think it would create jealousy and like, I, I, social media is horrible, horrible, horrible in that sense like you know my husband like he doesn't even know how the whole the thing works like he'll be like how do i put this here and how do i you know my girls and i will have to show him everything and like one time i like was going through his thing and i was like well

see here you know that i'd say the plus 99 for the dms um i don't i don't ever look at those because it's there's a lot of them when you're on a tv show so i i don't look at them so i'm looking and it's like you're so hot do you want to hook up here it's so disgusting and I was like ew block block block block fuck you block and like meanwhile men women are Ruth like women do that more than men I think oh yeah like there's not creepy guys messaging you being like it's so weird like why do women do that to men who are on tv it's so weird i have done that weird that's the queen of that she's i used to do that all the time when i was single all the time i'm like men men with wives no not no not men with wives just hot like deals after see them on the show and

they'll like write a message and they've sent pictures and i'm like i don't get anything like that i get like women where'd you get that top yeah i love your skirt you know gay guys that you know want to say hi we all think you know but just nice comments like yeah i don't get any of them yeah no no women are yeah they are ruthless i don't women are very it's just so weird to me because like i said i grew up with all women and i have all daughters but never ever ever ever i I mean, ever crossed my mind, not to me, like the lowest, the dirtiest, most disgusting, but like, cause I have no problem with it. And some people believe it.

Like there was a long time that I believe that if I messaged a backstreet boy that he would leave his wife and marry me, you know what I mean? Like, I want it that way, you know? And like, sorry. I mean, I never did that, but there was moments where I was like, Brian's definitely going to come off TRL and like come to my hometown and marry me. Right. You know, cause that's how we feel about television, I guess.

I don't know. Listen, Kyle, we're so excited. Of course you're already watching, but if you're not watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills comes on Wednesdays on Bravo at eight, seven central. You can follow Kyle at Kyle Richards, 18, um, to find out all of her going on. And we just like, just be gentle with yourself. You know what I mean? Don't worry. It's not, I mean, it's real life, but like you're lovely and you're so loved, right? Becca. Thank you. yeah as somebody who's watched don't be fragile if people have watched you for 10 years and you've had nothing but grace and people know your heart's in a good place so it's a tough time now but i'm rooting for you well thank you i appreciate that thank you ladies amazing thank you thank you and

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