LadyGang - LG QUICKIE: Keltie + Her Mom!

Episode Date: April 25, 2024

Leading up to USA Mother's Day, we are taking the time to learn from the OG MOMGANG. Each week, one LadyGang host will sit down with their mom for a unique conversation and to answer the same seven questions. This week, Keltie gets candid with her mom and finds out the secrets to life, the Keltie era her mom hated most, and what her mom is most proud of (hint: it's not the Emmy awards!) Check out our amazing sponsors!! Just Thrive: Feeling stressed? Go to JustThriveHealth.com and use code LADYGANG20 to get 20% off a 90 day bottle of Just Thrive Probiotic and Just Calm! StoryWorth: Need a Mother's Day gift? Save $10 on your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/lady  Nurx: Take control of your reproductive health at Nurx.com/lady  Huggies: Get your baby’s butt into Huggies best fitting diaper! Huggies Little Movers. We got you, baby!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's time for a quickie. Podcast one presents the Lady Gang, the Hollywood girl posse with Lady Gang Quickie. Here's Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin and Jack Vanek. Let's make this quick. Hello, hello, hello and welcome to this special Mother's Day episode of Lady Gang. I am Kelty Knight and if you're new to the Lady Gang, we strongly suggest that you go back and listen to one of our past episodes, the AI gang, um, any of the past episodes that feature all three of us, because we're doing something a little out of the ordinary on this

episode. It's not a typical episode of lady gang, but it was actually Becca's idea a few weeks ago. She came to us and she said, Hey, for mother's day this year, let's each sit down with our moms for our 20 minutes and ask them the same questions. And let's see the difference in answers and get to know the people who, you know, made the Lady Gang what it is with our amazing personalities and deep personality quirks. And so, and Becca wrote the questions. And so I'm up first with my mom and we're going to do this today. And each week leading up until Mother's Day, you're going to get a different mom interview. So without further ado, please welcome to the Lady gang, the icon of my life, the Mama Kelty Sheila. Hello, Mom. Hi, hon. You've been on

the podcast before. And I'm thrilled to be here. No, you're not. She did not want to do this. And that's okay. Because she hates the sound of her own voice. But there's only one star in this family. What's the reason? Well, there is only one star in this family. And it's you. And it's you. No, it's you. Okay. So first of all, we've been together now for three weeks, which has been amazing.

My mom was in town. She's been helping me after my hysterectomy. What has this experience been like for you? This. Okay. Don't do Sheila, the teacher. Do real Sheila. I think that was real Sheila.

Okay. Be real. It has been fabulous. I, although it has been, you know, heart wrenching to see you suffering, but I cannot remember and I'm sure that there has not been a time since you left home that I have had you for three weeks all to myself. We have done a trip together. We have had some holidays together.

You've come home, but there's always been other people around. And this has been absolutely amazing because it has just been you and me. It hasn't been projects. It's been laying beside you, holding your hand, rubbing your head, sitting and reading, just absolutely being. And my heart is full. Yeah, it's been amazing. And I do think that my, you know, process of how well I've been healing and the fact

that I can already go back to work like is a hundred percent. Cause I had a mom nurse. Like I think of all the people that have written me online that are like, Oh my God, you know, my husband gave up taking care of me after day four and I had to get the milk for my kid. And I just hurt myself. Like I have not, I did everything perfectly. I haven't lifted more than a towel in three weeks. I mean, the only really bad thing about having you here is that you stole Callie. I know I did, but that was okay because you didn't need to pay attention to anything except yourself. And I think that was why your healing went so well. You didn't have to worry about the house. You didn't have to feed Callie. You didn't have to turn on the dishwasher

or think, Oh my God, is there a parcel? None of that. It was just 100% you focusing on you. And I think you felt safe. And I think that that emotional stability adds as much to your physical healing as anything. Doesn't it ever look at this. Okay. So without further ado, here's the questions in honor of mother's day. What you know, in the lady gang, we have so many moms. What is the biggest piece of advice that you would give? First of all, I did tell you those questions a couple of days ago, so you could prepare. And I don't remember them. And I was going to ask you for them again. And then I knew you'd be mad.

Did you not lie awake and plan these answers? I couldn't remember the questions. But you would have, right? I would have. Yeah, exactly. Well, a true interview never reveals their questions before the interview. But I was being nice to mom. But then I knew she'd Kelty it.

There's a reason Kelty's Kelty. Like she would have had the whole plan of what she was going to say. I'm glad you forgot them. Had I been prepared, I would have written them down while you were telling me, but you kind of surprised me with them. Okay. What is the biggest piece of advice you would give another girl mom? Ah, gee whiz.

You know, girl moms, I think, need to understand that your relationship is going to go through stages. and um i don't it certainly hasn't happened for us uh but lots of people i know have real struggles with their energy with their girls and um i think you have to know that they are modeling themselves on you but they're also modeling on their dad um they're trying to find themselves they're trying to get their own place in the world and sometimes that's going to come as backlash against you you've always been a pretty self-centered kid and so you you knew from the get-go what you wanted yeah and you didn't you know there have been a few times like the time that

you put that retainer in the napkin when we were on a dance trip I didn't do that on purpose I I swear to God, mom thinks I put my retainer in a napkin on purpose to get rid of it because I hated my retainer, but I really didn't. I promise you on my marriage. Yeah. Well, you seem pretty unhappy when I made you go back into the restaurant kitchen and find the garbage and get it out of the garbage can. Because it's disgusting.

But yeah, okay. You know, I think my advice would be just ride it out because in the end, it's pretty likely you're going to be best friends. Yeah. I love that. Aw, you're my best friend, Mom. We're best friends. Okay, what phase of mine has been the one that you're the most proud of?

I mean, there's so many. How could you even whittle it down to one? That is a very, very difficult question with you. Of course, I am always proud when you post or I hear about things that you have done to increase the spirit in other people. Like, for example, that one that you posted where you were on the red carpet, but you were with a bunch of girls and you were showing them how to rock the red carpet. Yeah, it was all the girls from Make-A-Wish. They all had cancer. I know.

And I sent that to my best friend and said, now this makes me proud. having said that because you're always doing things like that like yesterday when you emptied out all of your cupboards to look for the vases to give away to a lady gang girl who's starting her own business I mean you didn't have to take your whole morning to do that but those are the things you do having said that I think my most proud is is this the most proud thing you've created like is that what you're talking you're asking me about what era yeah so I think is it lady gang it's your lady gang era it's your lady gang era and I say that because lady gang is something you've created from a seed of an idea that was 100% yours you birthed it you grew it

you chose the girls purposely to be on that journey with you and you have made it into something so incredible you have a you are all of you are currently affecting women just all over the world by the things you talk about and the the you bring your zaniness and your wit and your your kindness um and i i'm so proud of that because you created that by yourself from nothing and it's turned out to be something beyond expectation so it wasn't when i went finally made a best dress list it wasn't when i won an us weekly who wore better you were pretty proud of that well you know what it always makes me laugh about you winning the best dressed in grade 12 when i knew that you only shopped at value village so i thought well i don't know

who's picking these but okay for style i guess it's not what you wear it's how you wear it how you wear it and by the way actually mom is being sent home of course with a project because i'm project she has many projects but i don't know if you guys saw there's this viral tiktok video where this girl was in a thrift store and i've always loved to thrift shop um and uh you know we started my best friend katie and i started thrift shopping because we didn't have any money We were like teenagers and you got 20 bucks a week or whatever, and you want all these clothes, but you could go to Valley Village and get a whole outfit, you know, it's amazing. And then I've just, now I thrift shop, you know, secondhand Prada, of course, darling.

In Paris, it's a bit different. Yes, it's a bit different. But anyway, so this girl was shopping and she saw the Harry Styles, this like Harry Styles cardigan. And she was like, I like this. Should I take it? And she didn't take it. I'm sure lots of people have seen this viral video.

I can't believe that. Um, and, but anyway, I found on Etsy a pattern for the Harry Styles cardigan. So I've sent my mom home with all the right, um, yarn and she's going to crochet me the Harry Styles, uh, uh, pattern or cardigan. We'll keep you posted. It'll probably take months. You may see that in a value village somewhere after it's completed. No.

The lady gang. What phase of mine was the most challenging to witness? I already know what you're going to say. I bet you do. That would be the whole New York phase. The 10 years you lived there. All 10 years? Well.

I just was going to say the marriage. No, no, the whole 10 years. From the minute we put you on that bus where you would not go on a plane, you had to go on the bus. this is kelty night vintage kelty night already writing her memoirs knowing that a bus trip to new york for three days is going to read much better than getting on a plane and being served food um and those whole those whole years because i didn't know how you were doing yeah those were the days before cell phones yeah and uh we'd get letters we'd write letters occasionally you'd get phoning. Um, by the time we got the letter, you were already somewhere else. Um, and it was

heart wrenching for me because I'd lay down my head every night and I would know, not know where you were in the world. And I remember looking at the moon so often and sending out energy to you and saying, Kelty, honey, look at the moon, look at the moon. Mama's looking at the same moon as you because I just didn't know. And, um, I knew you were struggling and you would never tell us because of course you'd gone off on this without asking or, you know, you were going to be successful. So you're not going to tell us that you're struggling. It was only a couple of years ago that I found out that your brother sent you money because you didn't ask us for any. I'm what like are you kidding so um yeah those whole yeah that whole stretch of time was difficult it was

it is crazy and I think about that like now parents like I know seven-year-olds that have cell phones just because you want to be able to text well not seven-year-olds but like 12-year-olds seven-year-olds for sure they do because I have to be in contact with my kid right I like I need to know where to pick them up or where they are. And we just, I mean, I don't even know we had a phone and then you had to get a lot. Anyway, it was just wild. Like it was, it was just such a, it was such a weird time, but like, I think, um, I wouldn't be who I am like the twenties in New York. And I think that's why Becca and I are friends, you know, because we went through that same thing. I think she was a little more supported. Like her parents were like, we'll

help you with your apartment and things like that. Cause she allowed that, you know, I was like, oh no, I'm doing this on my own. You would have sent me money. I just didn't want anyone to know that it was hard or that I was even close to failing. Well, this is the whole thing about you is that you, dad always says, well, what do you mean? She said that, you know, she lies because absolutely you do. You tell us what you think we want to hear. And that is the end of the story and that is how you handled the whole thing and you know maybe we should have been more forceful and been sending you things and making you but that wasn't who you were but it's also like I just finished reading RuPaul's memoir and he's talking about when he was in New York

City and he's in you know Avenue A and Avenue B and has no money and like you know um and is like just figuring out who he is. And I just, I'm so glad that I didn't have it candy coated or I didn't have it in any other way. Because I think back to like dating this guy, Wes Hutchinson, and he had this shitty apartment in the East village. And like, he was a musician and like, I thought it was such a big deal that he had his own apartment. Meanwhile, it was a studio with a bathroom, not even a kitchen, no windows. It was internal. Like, and you were just like, Oh my God. And we would, you know, we couldn't even afford to go get lunch, but you'd walk around the East village. It was like just so magical. And so I'm so glad I had that experience. And I'm because then later

on life, I was like, Oh no, no, no. I will never not be able to pay my rent again. Like, you know, it made me so sure. I think it really brought you strength of character. And when they say character building yeah that was clear okay is there a life lesson that you wish you had learned sooner in your own life boy is there ever shit doesn't matter I mean I don't know what else to say I have spent so much of my life just going crazy over things that I couldn't control. And that I wish I had known a long, long time ago, because it would have saved my own stress level 100 times over. Like what kind of things? Like nothing except how you react. Nothing except how you live your life, how you are in the world, how you treat

people. You can do nothing about how other people react. You can't do anything about whether that job is coming, whether your kid is going to do okay. You just have to do what you do. And that's it. I wish I'd known that. Yeah. Well, I think it's interesting because like one thing that I learned from you, which is kind of weird that I live in this big old house and I'm keeping up with the Joneses now, that was a strength of character. And I don't think the decision you guys were necessarily making on your own, but when we were growing up, everyone sort of at a certain stage in their life everyone moved out of where we had our house and went and bought these really nice houses in like the new area of short park and we stayed in you know the house that dad had

before you got married you got married in the living room and it's a great house you know but and i remember when we were young you were always like oh my god these people with these two level houses and my friends with these beautiful head we drive by the houses and you were always kind of jealous or pissed off we went and bought a lake cabin right instead of buying a new house but yes forever I always felt like you had a shitty house wanted a newer house you know a bigger house am I ever glad we didn't do that because now all our friends who are living in their big houses are saying oh my gosh we now have to downsize yeah and it's expensive and we are so happy that we exactly did exactly what we did but I think like you oh dad was always so

good with money. And so like, even though you could have gone out and had these things, you guys just socked it away and you didn't care about it all. And you went on nice trips when you could and whatever. Um, but I, I just really felt like that was such a good lesson for us. Cause I still feel like, you know what? I think that we, you would have noticed or, or didn't, or maybe now notice um we have always lived dad is a guy who lives within well within the means of the money he has yes he's one of those guys that has way more money than you would know because at which means we could have bought anything we could do anything but i still drive my car that's going to be 25 years because i love that car um i also have that little sports car to run around in in the

summer of course but yeah we didn't we didn't just buy anything because we wanted it those weren't that wasn't how you did things in those days right but I think it's a really good lesson you're you're retired now to be like hey when you're looking around and you're thinking I need all these things when you get to be your age it's like none of that shit really counted nobody wants your things you can't get rid of your things that you've collected I'm glad that I didn't collect a whole bunch because it's just going when I'm gone. What is the legacy you hope to leave behind? I hate this question, Becca. I'm just letting you know, it's so morbid and dark, but we're going to answer it. Really? Well, you wrote me the whole book of Sheila, which is iconic by the way.

We, we still have, um, story worth as a sponsor on lady gang and people send that, but you talked a little bit about legacy. Yeah, I did. You know, and also I think we should mention if it's okay with you that you're someone that lost your mom when she was, when you were young. Yeah. And so you had no lesson in raising kids menopause even going through this hysterectomy no help you had no help but you didn't have a mom to grow old with like now I don't know does that make sense yeah yeah it does I don't know a legacy um I would want my legacy to be just exactly the way I am I'm kind. I'm good-hearted. We live, you know, carefully. We let you be you. And I think that's important. We haven't made our kids into something that we thought they should be. I think we've been

really good at standing back and letting them come out the other end as who they are. And I think that's important a legacy to just sort of let it be well I think you're off the I mean those are all things but I think your legacy is that you're radically accepting the coming out of the generation the 50s that you're from you as a child you had lesbian friends you had witch friends you have so many girlfriends you have you never judged people you were a teacher you're you had the, and we come from the Texas of Canada, you know, um, you are radically accepting of all races, all religions, all people, how they want to live their life. The good kid, the bad kid, you were, and I think that comes from being a teacher too. There was never a kid I didn't like,

and there was never a kid that, you know, was, as a matter of fact, I've had, um, admin say to me, you are a master at bringing those kids in and dealing with them and letting them be themselves. And so, yeah, I think that's right, Kelty. That's, I'm glad to hear you say that. Absolutely. Because I still have, even on Instagram, when I post things about you, you know, everyone knows that I like to keep my family kind of close to the vest because when you're a public person, it's like, it's just a lot of, you know, I just, it's not for me, you know? Well, it's not for us. So we appreciate that. Yeah. And, um, but when I do post about you, um, your students have found me on Instagram

and they'll be like, Oh my God, this is, you know, Mrs. B, I can't believe it. I love her so much. She was my, my favorite teacher in fifth grade. And they're like adults with kids now. Isn't that wild? Okay. The question that you do not know the answer to, but it's on the list. Last one. You're doing so good by the way. Oh, thank you. Um, what is the meaning of life? Wow. Becca. Becca, Becca, Becca. I'd like to hear what you say about these. You know the meaning of life. I will tell you, and you know this from the book of Sheila.

The only thing I can say is that when I was 17 in my first year of college, an English professor introduced me to this poem called Desiderata. It was written in 1927, and it just simply spoke to me and I have held that close to me my entire life. It has kept me steadfast, it has helped my soul, it has healed my soul, it has helped my spirit because the words are iconic. Words like be gentle with yourself,

you're a child of the universe, you have a right to be here and to trust that the universe is unfolding as it should. And I don't think there's a better call on what the meaning of life is, is to know that everything is unfolding the way it should. You maybe don't understand it now. It's a cooler way to say when one door closes. um but for me the meaning of life has simply been made up in those words and um i find it

incredible that it was written in 1927 and it's probably more or as iconic today so the meaning of life for me there you go also winning emmys just kidding no i had to ruin the moment i had to ruin such a beautiful moment mom i'm so glad you did this i love you so much give I love you. I love you. I love you. Um, okay. Happy mother's day to mom. And that was so fun. Kelty. It was just sitting here having a cup of coffee and a chat. Well, you'll have to come back. Um, thank you so much, lady gang. And you, we have to do the outline, which is we weren't here for a long time. We're here for a good time. We say it together. Are you ready? Five, six, seven, eight. We weren't here for a long time, but we were here for a good time.

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