LadyGang - LG QUICKIE: Life’s a Highway

Episode Date: June 23, 2022

The ladies are packing for their show in Tampa this weekend and can’t wait for the upcoming tour! And although they are on the journey that they were supposed to be on two years ago, they��re ready to live on a tour bus now.  This episode is brought to you by Hyundai! Learn more about the 2022 TUCSON and SANTA FE Plug-in Hybrid EVs at HyundaiUSA.com See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Calling all Tampa Lady Gangers or really anyone who wants to fly into Tampa to see us live at the Tampa Improv on June 26th at 3 p.m. We're going to have a grand old time and head over to theladygang.com to get your tickets now. See you there. Everything is better electrified and Hyundai has the widest range of electrified vehicles on the market, including the first ever Tucson and Santa Fe plug-in hybrid EVs. Visit your nearest Hyundai dealer or learn more at HyundaiUSA.com. time for a quickie podcast one presents the lady gang the hollywood girl posse with lady gang quickie here's kelty knight becca tobin and jack vanik let's make this quick hello hello hello welcome to a lady gang quickie it's quick it's quick it's quick it's quick because

we have to pack because we're going to tampa like in a day guys oh i've never spent time in florida So this is like my first. In your life? Well, like other than a Warped Tour parking lot. For real? Yes. I've never been to a Florida beach. Florida's so special.

Florida's my backyard in Georgia. That's true. You can't beat a Florida beach. I'm excited. I'm really. Except there's not one in Tampa. No. Is there?

I don't know why we decided Tampa, but you're welcome. I spent a lot of time in Miami because my cruise ship used to port there. Oh, yes. Yes. This is the first palm trees I ever saw in my life. Oh, that's cute. Yep. You got to take a palm tree.

so we're so excited and um and obviously we are what's wrong i'm laughing at callie because every time we're here she jumps on jack's lap and it's always she always jumps on the person who wants it less yes jack has no interest in callie i love callie but like sometimes she stinks i know she's a little scraggle monster sometimes she stinks she has a ibs anyway we're so excited to be heading to Tampa and our friends at Hyundai are helping us get there, which we're so excited about. And we have many, many more special things coming up with them. But what's really cool is that we were, I was thinking about like, you know, going to Tampa and our life. And then I'm obviously driving my Hyundai and I was just a passenger in the Hyundai. Yes, you were so great. And I think

that our brands collide because they're all about sort of like, you know, your own personal journey. And then I was thinking about the journey that we've been on and I can't believe like we're about, we did our show in Austin, but like we're really about to be out on tour again and like new season, new era of lady gang with this new book. And I was so excited about it. And the thing is, is that if you would have asked Kelty 2019 at the start of the pandemic, when everything got canceled, it was 2020, it was 2020. Yeah.

Oh, okay. When you asked me there, I would have been like, it's all over. Life is ruined. like we, you know, like we're never going to get to do anything fun again. And then now I'm like, Oh, life is not always a straight line. No. You know what I mean? It's not always many detours. It's not always a nice highway with no one else on it. Sometimes you're on the four Oh five. No. Well, sometimes you're on the highway to hell. Life is a highway, you know, do you know, I did a, I did a really fun dance in a skirt short to my fourth grade class.

called a score to life is a highway. I love that song. It is honestly one of my biggest pump off pump up songs. You know, in the office when Michael Scott and his girlfriend, he's moving her across the country and that's the song he made a mixtape for it, but it's like an eight hour drive and the mixtapes like four songs. So they keep hearing life as a highway over and over and over. It's like, really, that's all I think about when I hear that song. Um, well we are on the journey that we should have been on two years ago so we're back here kelty's getting her her whole you know everything that she needed in life which is just her recognition and validation i'm just so i need applause i'm just so excited and it's it just feels so good and i love that we're

at the place where we're like where do we want to go we picked tampa we did tampa because we have so many listeners from florida and we're like let's go to florida because it's a very hard market to tour and allegedly nothing comes there. Yes. So rude. We're there. Um, and it's just nice to like give back, you know, to the community, to the gals. I'm just giving back, but okay. Okay. So, all right. So I want to talk about a couple fun kind of things today. So the first is like our different journeys. So Jack journey to Jack, I feel like you are best, most happiest, most productive, most chill Jack that you've ever been. Absolutely. I started off when we started lady gang, I was a disaster. I had, I was like lacking a lot of identity, which I feel like

I've found through the past, like six years, I was single and sad and, uh, insecure. And, you know, I feel like I've come a long way. Does it make you excited to know that this journey of yours is kind of like coming at the same time as like getting married, starting this new part of your life. Well, I feel like a lot of it has to do with that and finding a person that like really fits in with my, like my personality and my spirit, like finding somebody that is just like my puzzle piece makes it easier. I think that's the first time in six years that I've heard jack say her spirit my spirit you know what i was i was actually trying to reference a quote that i that i saw the other day tell me more about your spirit no the quote was stop trying to act

your age and start trying to or not stop trying to act your age if you don't want to act your age no i don't remember the quote it was something about acting your spirit instead of acting your age okay like my spirit is young and i'm probably gonna always act like a young idiot see my thing with you is that I believe, okay, I have a question. So you're supposed to like, I don't need a man. You know what I mean? Like I don't need a man to become better, but like I was kind of a disaster before I met Chris too. And I do feel like meeting my person and getting grounded in that relationship helped me flourish in other ways of my life. Do you feel similar? I definitely feel similar, but I also feel like you have to be at a decently stable point in your

life when you meet that person for it to work in that way. And let's be honest, there are very few men out there who are going to enhance your life. Yes. So we found third, three, three. So ladies, if you haven't found him and you want to fulfill your own life and your own destiny, go get it, girl. Yeah. Do not wait for the guy to fulfill you. There's a, there's a lot of women who actually become their worst selves with, with their partners. We met our partners way later than most people do uh yes wait didn't when we had the um the astrologist our gal on didn't we all find out that we met our partners around our saturn return yes yes i think the love of your life comes at a saturn return which is like around 28 years 28 27 29 when how old were you met jared

i was well i was like 21 but they're like 31 i think we started dating again okay how old were you when you met Zach? I think we started dating when I was 29. Yeah. 28. You know, what's weird is that I am that elder where I'm like, you know, it was just a few years ago. And then I'm like, I graduated high school like 22 years ago. Oh my God. Yeah. That's so weird. Cause I'm like, oh, when I was in my twenties and I'm like, I was like, yeah, 28. And I'm like, wait, now I'm like, I skipped over a whole decade. I do that all the time. Oh my God. Time is moving too fast. time we're in a warp um becca journey with the podcast sorry i gave you a hard topic well it's not it's not a straight line like you know just

the ups and downs of all of this and like the fact that you now live you have a baby you live in austin and we still have the podcast yeah yeah i have cycles of like seven i think it's It's an eight year cycle for me where I've found that every eight years I've moved from a city. Oh, so I did eight years in New York, eight years in LA and I'll probably do eight years in Austin. Oh, isn't that weird? That is, I don't know, but I'm into it because it's like the perfect amount of time to get

to know a city, really put your stamp on it, enjoy it, suck the life out of it and then move on. Also, you know, you develop new allergies every seven to eight years. So maybe, oh my God. Wow. Maybe it's like aligning. There you go. You do?

Yeah. Like, so if I was allergic to gluten at 21, would I not be allergic at 29? It might change. Like I never used to be allergic to horses and now I'm allergic to horses. That's such a sad thing. I found that out going to medieval times. Wait, that's weird. Cause I used to be allergic to horses.

And then the most recent times I've been around them, I've been fine. Wow. Maybe a new city. Whoa. talk about life's journey what you see ahead and how our lives are not a straight line i was not expecting horse allergies to get in horse girl do you know that i took horse riding lessons when i was i think i told you this before didn't i and then we didn't have a lot of money so my mom made me wear my bike helmet instead of getting me like the horse helmet and so i was just like with my

neon green and blue bike helmet on the horse oh that's cute i wonder if it's the same safety standards i feel like maybe not well also like it wasn't even you didn't have to wear you didn't even have to wear a bike helmet. Like I used to do so many things without helmets that you have to do with helmets now. People in Texas still ride motorcycles without helmets and Florida full circle, Florida and Texas. You can wear a helmet. I'll see you there. It's a journey. You don't have to wear a helmet. Everything is better electrified and Hyundai has the widest range of electrified vehicles on the market, including the first ever Tucson and Santa Fe plug-in hybrid EVs. Their turbocharged engines have quiet, rapid acceleration, and you can use

electric when you want it or gas when you need it. It's your journey. Evolve it beyond the pump and in the 2022 Tucson or Santa Fe plug-in hybrid EVs. Or you can be like me and get the Kona, which is 100% electric, and I love my little Kona so much. Visit your nearest Hyundai dealer or learn more at HyundaiUSA.com or call 562-314-4603 for complete details. The lady gang. Okay. So I wanted to ask Jack, who is your main support system? And when do you feel supported? I mean, I feel like everybody knows that I am so close with my parents. So my parents and Jared, and I'm lucky that I have like a really, really good group of friends. I have a group chat that is constantly going. Like right now I probably missed 50 texts in it. That gives

me anxiety. But the good thing is there's like 10 people in our group chat. So you don't really have to keep up with it you just like pop in when you need to pop out like if you have a busy day but we're constantly there for each other and we're sharing like the highs and lows of everything so it's just like such a good way to keep in touch with all my friends that live like all over the country and be there for each other right i love that how about you becca my support system yeah i call my sister like eight times a day are you calling her more now that your mom for advice probably the same okay wow um i just for some reason just she i call her a million times and then depending on the topic it's sometimes her and it's sometimes zach and that's

i have and then i have friends for certain yeah things like i have one friend for when i'm having a nervous breakdown and we have we call each other when we're having those that's it though The supported trick that I learned from Becca actually was the no need to respond text. It's something that I got, I stole from you. I have used it in my own life and I appreciate it so much. It's like when, so like, when do you feel supported? My answer is like when I'm going through something or it's just busy, like it doesn't have to be that you're going through a big meltdown.

It can just be like, I know it's soccer season and your kids are in soccer and it's crazy. Like no need to respond. I'm just thinking about you. is like the gift that keeps on giving. Yeah. So you can just like it. You can heart it. You cannot respond. Cause you said no need to respond. Yeah. And hopefully you know the person that you're writing it. Like you have that kind of a relationship that they, if they don't respond, it's not a no need to respond, but I'd be pissed if you don't respond. No, because there's people that are like, well, like passive aggressive. You're like, I know you're busy, but when you get

no no sir are you alive is the worst text oh that's the worst text that anybody could send every time i get that i respond delete nope really died i actually died unalived unalived um okay the question is how can we better support our friends well I can answer I mean a million things there's a million things I um I know for me I'm struggling right now um because I have I have had a couple big things happen in my life and so I have been so in my own little tornado where I'm still talking to people and I'm still like doing the best I can, but I have a couple of friends that have other really big things happening. I have a girlfriend that's celebrating a big milestone birthday. I have a girlfriend that's getting

married. My best friend from Katie's getting married in like three weeks. And like, there's just a lot of different things where other people are having big moments in their life. And I don't feel like you're showing up as much as you would like. Exactly. Yeah. Like if I was like, I just saw the venue for like the first time for this wedding, like last week, I mean, it's a small thing in Winnipeg, but it's like, I saw the dress a little bit a few months ago, but like, I have not been in it anywhere as I should have been for best friendness. And I feel like we're older. So it's a little different, but I feel like, like a schmuck, you know? And so I'm trying to like wrap my head around, like, it's not all just me. It's not all just me, but that's like such a hard

thing because it is me. It's my life. That's your reality. I know. Yeah, it's true. It's hard. It's like, I want other people's big things to seem, I want to put, make them big. I heard, I, I think for me, I'm learning that I need to start asking for certain friends call me for advice or for like tough love. Cause I, I have a tendency to make the same friend over and over again. And it's the girl who is, and I love her and I have a few of these in my life, but they're a little indecisive they are a little bit um like i'm trying to think of the way to put it they they are a little self-proclaimed and i would probably stamp it as i agree um crazy

but not not like i'll burn your house down crazy very loop around way i'm trying to think of how to like really put it, but kind of crazy, you know, like one is really, really much, she's, she's very much a hypochondriac and she knows she's irrational. And so she calls me to talk her down from whatever ridiculous things she thinks she has. And then I have enough, like I kind of serve the same, play the same role in a lot of these friendships. And so it's a dynamic that I just naturally fall into when anybody in my life comes to me with a complaint, a problem, whatever it's like I get into this mode of tough love yeah and I think I need to start asking friends up front like do you want me to try to give you advice do you want to just vent do you

want me to just say I understand or so like meeting them where they're at and and being more communicative of like what they want from me yeah because I just assume that it's that when you're asking a question you want a truthful answer well and it's the way that i commute the way that i communicate with people i love is really harsh like yeah i'm actually way gentler with people that i barely know or care about yeah but with people i really love like i mean today jack walked in and i said something very rude to her but it was a place of like i i know you so well and this is how i communicate like there's no frills it's a little kelty-ish maybe well but also no offense taken. Cause if we're close with you, then you're going to know that you don't

mean something in an offensive way that if somebody else said that to me, I would be offended. Oh my God. With the people that you like are close to and you feel like you have a trust, you're like to the core. You're like, let's do this. I want to do this. Do you want to do this? But then like, when you need to show up for them, you're like, they're showing up too. But with people that are on the outskirts, I need to be gentler. You're no, you are gentle. Oh, I know. But I'm saying yeah with some friendships no with some friendships i need to say like if my sister calls me with nine times out of ten she wants me to be like shut the fuck up this is an excuse like she's looking for me to like really rally get her up and rallied but sometimes i need to

be like do you want this right you know yes people need a little bit more gentleness nowadays and i don't i can't offer that as well as i would like to i love this so much all right that's why we love you no that's why we love you like literally yeah um and I also am the same okay so the final question is what do you want every lady gang member listening to know and understand about their own journey life is a highway and I'm gonna ride it all night long yes you are yes you what do we want them to know about their journey um I think it's I mean we've talked about this so many times but the fact that everybody is on their own journey and are really it's like what kelsey was talking about earlier she's like very consumed with the things that are going on in her life

which are very valid things that you for the stuff that you sweat that's small nobody else is noticing it so try not to focus so much on that and let it weigh you down in a way because nobody else gives a shit. Yeah, that's good. It's true. And I also think that the universe and the world has a way of evening the score in some way. And I think it's like, are you thinking about your old colleague right now? Yes. I'm thinking about journeys. I know, I know you went there, but I'm thinking about like what I want you to know about your journeys. I see in the Facebook group, like there's so many girls are having trouble at work where they and it's just like from a workplace journey like you feel underappreciated you didn't get the raise you hate your job you can't believe

this is what like your life's work is going to be and I think that like nobody like loves their job I mean I love our job but like I don't like I would still rather sit in the backyard and like reading us weekly do you know what I mean like obviously so so it's like I just think so it's suddenly 1999. Well, my, my thing is like, if you're on your journey, it's like, nobody is as happy as they seem. And that the seasons of your life will always come back. So if you're in a job you, you hate, probably your home life is like, maybe good. Your relationship is good. If your relationship is in the shitters, your career is probably going great. Like it can never all be great at the same time. And that's why it's like, never the journey's never a straight line. Becca

close this out, close this out. Um, you know what I want to tell everybody about their journey and something that I don't have regrets about my journey, but if I could have told myself something like 10, 15 years ago, like when I was in high school, just like yesterday, yesterday, like I blinked and it's over. I would say be present on your journey because I've spent so much of my life on the journey being like, I can finally relax and be happy when I get to this destination. and then guess what? You get to the destination or you don't. And really life is not you. It's not better or worse or whatever. You just kind of get there and then you set another goal. So you're always just looking ahead to like whatever that milestone is, as opposed to living in the

moment and being present. Amen. Yeah. Boom, boom, boom. I had a very, I had a great time on this journey with the both of you. And, um, I'm very excited. The Lady Gang is proud, proud, proud, proud partners of hyundai and um we're really excited to see tampa florida i can't wait to see your hot selves in tampa on june 26th at the tampa improv tickets are available at the lady gang.com thanks for listening the lady gang is produced by alex ingber steve delameter and jared monaco make sure you subscribe rate and review our podcast and if you love it share it with your friends on social media like oh my god i just listened lady gang this episode's a great swipe up to listen and if you really want to which we know you do please follow us on social at kelty

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