LadyGang - LG QUICKIE: MANDLE It!

Episode Date: October 1, 2020

Who the f*ck puts rose petals on a bed thinking it’s romantic? From this, we bring you…green flags. If it’s not a red flag, it should be a green flag. So what gets us, and you, going? It’s attractive to find a partner who gives the green light. And Becca invents a perfect new word for the LadyGang dictionary.    Thank you to our sponsors! ABC/The Bachelorette – The Bachelorette premieres Tuesday 10/13 at 8/7 central on ABC.  Hammit – Go to hammitt.com and enter code LADYGANG at checkout for a complimentary leather cleaner with your next Hammitt purchase.  Martha Stewart CBD – Head to ladygang.marthastewartcbd.com and use code LADY15 for 15% off.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's time for a quickie. Podcast one presents the Lady Gang, the Hollywood girl posse with Lady Gang Quickie. Here's Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek. Let's make this quick. Hello, hello, hello. Welcome to the Lady Gang Quickie. I am Becca here with Kelty and Jack. Hello.

Welcome to the quickie. What are we doing, Kelty? Well, I'm very excited about this episode. No, I thought it would be great. So, you know how we are like haters, even when Paris Hilton was on the podcast a few weeks ago, we were talking about how her like asshole ex-boyfriend like put rose petals on the, have you ever had rose petals put somewhere for you? No.

Only by like a hotel staff. And like loved it. Not by like a partner. Yeah. Yeah. By a hotel, it's nice, but by a partner, it's creepy. Is it nice at a hotel? Yeah.

I mean, yeah. Any kind of extra razzle dazzle. Listen, I love a little chocolate, a little mint chocolate on my pillow. I'm like, this is worth the 200 extra dollars a night. You know? See, I love when I get to the room and then neatly on like a side table is like a bottle of champagne and a beautiful, like little chocolate selection that says like, congratulations, whatever it is on your anniversary or whatever you're celebrating. But for me, any type of like loose flower leaf anywhere on the floor bed is like one other thing OCD style that like I need to clean up before I can enjoy the room yeah I mean what do you do with those flowers they start wilting they smell like are you gonna have sex on top of the rose petals like how does that work

a loose petal is weird and then also I mean it's the thought that counts I guess but like it's it's kind of like it just just feels juvenile to me i don't know it feels like the thing that your like 14 year old boyfriend does to ask you to prom yeah like i heart you in flower petals i would just be like anyway so she was like in paris anyway back to paris in the documentary she was like this is like you could tell on her face that she was like what the and we were talking to her about like you can't date a guy that like does that kind of shit like you need to be a little more like, let's get the next level. You're Paris Hilton. You're a billionaire. Like you, I'd rose petals on the bed. It's like not the level of man I want you to be dating.

And, um, then it led me to thinking about an episode that we could do called green flags. So we always talk about the red flags in our book, act like a lady. We're like, red flag, red flag, red flag. Like these are all the things that you should absolutely be like hiding from. And like, you see this guy and then like run, but like, what are the green flags? Wow. This is good. Kelty. I have a good green flag that I just thought of. Um, not having to be a center of attention in every room that they walk in. Oh shit. Yeah. Because as somebody that has dated a very charismatic person before that likes to be the center of attention, I think as women, we are drawn to that because it's just like a natural masochistic instinct, I guess,

that we have but that is always not it's not always a good thing it's actually usually a terrible thing because then you'll always be like the thing that's following him around behind him always like in the background and that to me that's a red flag but a green flag is but do you either but do you think that there i think there are some women who would like to follow like not every you know it's like if that's your thing but you can't be an us and then have that guy. Right. I actually wish Zach was a little bit more like that when we're socializing. Cause he loves to socialize so much. But then when we get there, it's like, he just chills and stares at people. And I'm like, I would love to be able to

sit back and just stare at people. Like, no, he just like, likes to like have, he's like, let's just sit there and like chill talk to who he wants to don't talk to who he doesn't want to dance if he feels like it sit down like it's so annoying so then we can't both be those people because then we look like we're dicks and we don't want to be there right yeah this is the issue i have same exact issue with chris is that like he doesn't need to be the center of attention which is a green flag and makes him an incredible partner because he does not want to be like influencing anyone on Instagram about like beard oil but he will go places and with his people like his family his friends his co-workers and then all of a sudden it's like he's just sitting

there and like he loves to just watch he's such a thinker that like the other day we did a drive by birthday party for our nephew and like Chris didn't say two words to his entire family and I'm like oh my god you're seven what is it like and then i have to like be the show pony and i'm like you know what this is your people these are your people don't take me here these i mean we're all family of course but like but not really more than family and 90 your responsibility baby so i will say that is where zach shines is with his family really it's like he has his own he's like Ellen DeGeneres. He just is in his element. That's nice for you. At least that. But then when you guys feel like you go out in like a social situation, you're over, you're overexerting

because it's awkward if two people are both just sitting there. More than that. I've had friends come to me privately and asked me if Chris hates them. Really? Yes. Multiple times. This is like the nicest guy ever. He's very quiet in public. And like when I'm my dancer group, like we have a pretty large, like group of dancer friends from New York and LA. And like, when we get together and we're at weddings and stuff, like he is, we'll sit in the corner. And I've had multiple people from that group be like, Hey, did I do something where Chris is like, and I was like, I had to yell at him. I was like, Chris, you're like making people think you hate them just by your stoic peaceful energy you're too pleasant does chris drink at all he does and and

does it help his like socialness no really no then he's just a horny then he's just a horny level of quiet he needs an upper like a little adderall or something in his system like i can't say that i've ever seen chris knight on a 10 he does like what about your wedding he loves dancing at he loves a wedding like okay i feel like at my wedding he was on a 10 yeah yeah no you're right at a wedding at a wedding lower than everybody his 10 is kelty's four yeah not even probably like a two yeah um becca do you have any green flags green flags oh in the beginning of zach and i's relationship like if i had a friend who he had never met

like ever and she needed help with something like one of my friends was moving and like needed to get out of an apartment because her she found out her boyfriend was cheating and was like i need all my shit to be out before he gets back wow and like zach just like got a u-haul handled it like mandaled it and he just handled it wait what have we heard this is that a new word no i just thought of it you guys thank you i'm writing on the bujo right now he mandaled it which is like obviously i could have done it too i'm not gonna be like a crazy like whatever but it was so nice i was like this guy can do anything and he's doing it just simply because he needs, he knows it's important to me. Like he didn't write me on it. Um, and he didn't complain like, who is this person? I've

never even met her. Like he was like, Oh, if this is something you need to do for your friend, like I'm there. And he does that for like all of his friends. So it's like the guy that people call when they're like tire blows and they're on the side of the road. Like if that's the guy, he's probably a keeper yeah being helpful to people when you get nothing in return exactly huge green flag for sure yeah i love that oh i love a green flag um i think a good green flag is um when you first are with someone and they're kind of along what you said back a little bit like they're kind of excited to get in with your group. You know, it's like, I think anyone that's like looking for a real relationship is like, you know what? Like I'm excited for the day I get to meet

your family or your brother or your best friend or come to you with the group to the group dinner or whatever it is. And I think that guys are in it for sex or like using you or are not that into you that just kind of need like someone they're not going to invest that real time in your people yeah those are like the parts of your life that go like outside of you yeah it's really easy to kind of circumvent those if you want to especially when you like first start dating so yeah like I've had I had boyfriends I had one boyfriend that I had for like three and a half years and he never met my parents that's I mean my parents are far but like it's it's still like that's aggressive of, you know what I mean? Like I was living with you. So, well, and then it gets to a point where

it's been so long, but now it's like, you've surpassed the time in which it was appropriate. And then it's like, well, now you can't meet him at your four. That's too weird. Be like, we're married. Bye. Yeah. I always love that. Like when I got really, really busy, um, and like my group, my friend group has these like kind of family friend dinners or whatever. And I couldn't go. Cause I had a shoot or something like that. Chris would go. And I mean, I think he just sat there and ate and no one talked to him, but, um, that's, that is, that goes above and beyond. I would, he would go and like, just check in on everyone and say hi. And then he'd come back and like report to me. And cause like everyone would bring their boyfriends at the time. It was like

a lot of boyfriends now it's husbands, but, um, and he'd like sit with the other husbands and it was really cute. I thought that was like a really sweet thing. He'd go without you. Yeah. That's Wow. Um, what about period green flags, like girl stuff, like when girl stuff comes up? I mean, I think any guy who's grossed out by having period sexes. Oh no, that's not, that's a red flag. No, you need a green flag. Like I had horrible cramps and he went and got me this thing at two in the morning or guys that don't, that don't get weirded out by buying tampons, which is so stupid because you shouldn't cause who gives a shit, but there are so many men out there that are so embarrassed to go grab a tampon box i'm kind of embarrassed to grab a

tampon box why i've actually never i don't know if i've oh no yes i have i have asked zach to get it i've never asked chris to get anything i do have exactly i have an amazing story i was going to use it as a bad eating well shouldn't be complicated but somehow it turns into recipes prep cleanup and half your sunday gone factor solves all that these are fresh ready to eat meals designed by dietitians, delivered to your door, and ready in just minutes. No prep, no clean up, no excuses. And it's not just about convenience. You're getting real food, balanced nutrition, and zero artificial stuff. Meals that help you stay on track for all of your goals without the grind of doing it all yourself. Grilled chicken, roasted veggies, steak plates, pasta bowls. They

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so this literally happened to me yesterday so i've been using like the diva cup but like a different diva cup it's like the whole foods one um yeah anyway so i i had it in and then i started to get like really bad stomach ache and i was like i just think like maybe my uterus can't take this pressure this month like maybe i'm just gonna put on a think panty you know and so i like was like came in and I'm like I'm gonna shower before dinner and Chris is like okay and so I'm like in the shower and I'm like should I go to the toilet and take this out or should I just like empty it in the shower you know what I mean like and then wash it what that's not gross it's all the same probably saving water but okay anyway so I did like a full squat in the shower in the

water stream and we're like had my hand up my vagina trying to grip the thing to like pull it out and Chris walked in no and he instantly walked out and we haven't talked about it yet and I wanted to be like did I terrify you because I was literally you wouldn't said anything to him he hasn't said anything and I was like just pulling like with my own you know how it's not a pretty sight to get a deep like a this is why I have not tried it yet oh I tried it once and I was like this is not for me I can't love it when it's in like it's so easy and you don't feel it and then there is a i don't know i don't think it's diva cup but there's some cup a period cup that has like a string not a string this one has a yeah this one is like has a really long tail on

it but no so this one has like it's like a string with a little circle and it's a hook and you pull it and then it un-suctions so that's good so you don't have to do the whole hand up because sometimes the diva the diva well that's how it works it suctions into your and then you have to break the suction to pull it out. But that makes me feel like you're going to pull so hard that you like rip your uterus out. Well, no, because when you, okay, so say for this new one, when you pull the little thing, it un-suctions and then it's, so it's not pulling, suctioning out your insides. Gotcha. It just pulls out your blood. Anyways, you should try that one because it looks like it's a little bit more like. Yeah, maybe. I mean, or I could just close the door when I'm

in the shower. Like if I just close the door and Chris would know it's like a no enter zone cause I, you know, so what do you do when you're in a public bathroom? You do do it. And then you walk out in front of people and you wash it. You just leave it in, right? No, you leave it in. Like you put it in the morning and then take it out late at night. Cause you can wear it for like 12, 14 hours. Oh, okay. That's what makes it nice. You don't have to worry about anything. Anyway, Becca, do you have one more? I'll stick to my natural tampons. Okay. Um, Becca, do you have one more green flag before we're done? um a green flag oh i have a green flag go okay well this is more so when you are in a serious

relationship and you're thinking about like the next steps but having the man want things a little bit more than you do like if you want to have kids or you want to get married if the man wants it a little bit more, I feel like that's a pretty good green flag. Yeah. And I think men get a bad rap of like, of not wanting to commit, you know, it's like, Oh, I got to get tied to the old ball and chain. Like, that's not true. Like Chris really wanted to get married, you know? And I feel like Zach really wanted to marry you, Becca. Like, you know, it's like, and Jerry, like Jerry wants to be in a relationship with you. Jerry's just waiting for the day that I say it's okay that he proposes. Right. But it's like, there are a lot of guys that like family and being a couple

and, you know, being in a relationship is like very important to them. And they're cool to like have that. That's what they want. So it's like they get, you get all the boys kind of ruin it for the good guys. But there are guys that are like, when you talk about getting a house or getting married or having a vacation or meeting family or spending Christmas together, like they'll be excited. And I feel sad that like we ruined men by thinking that they're never into that and we're like dragging i mean we didn't ruin men men ruined themselves by a lot of them being really fucking shitty so that's don't put it on women it's kind of true like i don't think that zach and all of our years together or like married hasn't he i don't think i've ever heard

him like reference the man like being married as being a bummer you know what i mean like he's never like oh gotta take check with the wife like right or like oh like i have a free weekend like boys weekend like let's go he gets excited to go on trips with his friends but he's like i'm gonna miss you the marriage yeah yeah i think that that's like a really bad sign and if their friends are like that because all of zach's friends are like pretty decent humans like none of them talk like that they sort of i mean he'll bitch and moan about me but like in front of me for good reasons but it's never like begrudgingly against the sanctity of marriage right and i think just like we do is like when you get with your girlfriends they probably bitch about us

and are like oh god like this happened this happened this happened but like anyway um this was great and so what i'd love the lady gang community to do is in our facebook group or on instagram um send us your green flags i want to like make this collection of these this is what i'll do when this episode comes out i'll make a post a master post in the leading facebook group and everybody can share their green flags yeah because i think this is like let's be positive this the world is on fire like let's let's really make them like a lovely i knew my guy had a green flag when kind of or or lady whatever your situation is um you know a green green flag cool all right well we weren't here for a long time but we were here for a good time

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