LadyGang - LG QUICKIE: Prozac & Dancing

Episode Date: January 26, 2023

It’s Keltie’s birthday and while she may not be perfect, she’s Kelt-walking through her best era with the perfect mermaid hair. Celebrate with the ladies as they focus on true happiness and ballet core. This episode of LadyGang is brought to you by Progressive Insurance! Quote your car insurance at Progressive.com to join the over 29 million drivers who trust Progressive!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's time for a quickie podcast one presents the lady gang the hollywood girl posse with lady gang quickie here's kelty knight becca tobin and jack vanik let's make this quick hello hello hello welcome to lady and quickie i am becca here with jack and kelty hello hello everyone. Welcome to my birthday episode. No, I was just saying like, I, I love, I hate the passage of time, but I love the passage of time because, and because I'm, you know, not to say I'm the best at recording life, but because I journal, I have so much like written nonsense about where I was at different points of my life mentally, like that no one knows. And so, you know, here I am turning 41 and it's so crazy to me that a year has passed, um, since my big four Oh, and I truly,

if you'd asked me on January 27th, like was, and I wrote about in the book, devastated to turn 40 thought my life was over, was like, Oh, my career is over. This is like the best has been and what's coming will just be whatever. And 40 was a very difficult year for me for a lot of things behind the scenes, but it was the best year. I think Kelty at 40 is my favorite Kelty. She is doing her best. She's not perfect, but I really liked 40 overall, just reflecting on the year. Really good things happened to me. I got like a really cool job offer out of the blue. Wasn't even trying like, you know, after years of hard work, like, I mean, it's not without its challenges of course, but like, I don't know why I was so scared of being 40. Like, I think I'm, I'm, I'm doing okay.

Because it's scary in general as a woman, just no matter what societally, but then in entertainment, it is the scariest place to live. If you are a woman who loves her career and you are about to be 40 it's not real it's all made up it's all like this weird you know pressure we put on ourselves but you're it makes perfect sense why you were terrified to be 40 like we're given sent the message constantly that we're like useless after 40 but you and your long hair on e-news and your kilt walks they are saying something quite different about 40 to the entertainment industry okay we're crushing it we have not talked about this yet but i've talked to jared about it many times mostly anytime you post an instagram reels of your outfit i'm like every twice a day every

day yes yeah multiple times a day yeah um i was like kelty is thriving right now i'm like this is you like in your like happy place like you are wearing the outfits you're doing your catwalks you're getting the hair and makeup you're on tv everybody is seeing you do the things i'm like this is where you truly thrive. I'm like, I, that is my actual version of hell, like personally, but I'm like, that is where you thrive. And it's really a permeating through everything that you're doing. So I'm happy for, I'm very happy for you with this new job. Yeah, I agree. I mean, I think that that's like really what it is, is like, you're doing exactly what you want to be doing, which is a little bit of moderation. Yeah. If you think about it,

you're getting to do lady gang but you're not like living sleeping breathing stalking lady gang you're like doing it feeling good and then you get to go be beautiful do all the things like jack was saying that you love to do work a little bit be around really fancy famous people and then like also you're thriving at home so yeah this is your best era i was also gonna say like i think you need to be around celebrities like i think that there's something that like you need like that, that fulfills something in you to like be amongst the celebs. Yeah. I mean, I gotta be honest. The celebrities, celebs are, they're not as exciting as they used to be. No, but like, like even like when I was at the Palm Springs festival, which is amazing, but it's like kind

of the start of award season. And like, I have been there in the past where I'm like, let me interview Brad Pitt. Let me interview, um, let me interview Julia Roberts. And, um, and like, you know, and this year it was like Austin Butler, who's amazing, but like, it's not Brad Pitt. You know what I mean? Like, it was just, it's a different kind of award season. And I think like, again, we're past that like golden age of like, where there's a star for everyone. Like, you know, like it's so funny, like on Tik TOK, it's like, nobody cares about Michelle Williams. And yet she's like an A-list celebrity who, you know, is an Oscar winner and like people do, you know? So it's like, I'm such an interesting thing, but I do like to be

in the middle of the game. Yes. I think, I think at my heart of hearts, I am still a fierce competitor at this game of life. And it was, I mean, I did have everyone muted, so I didn't really know what was going on, but like, I like to be in the middle of the game at this career. Like I like to be at the things, but I'm not at all the things, which is perfect. Like I did Palm Springs, but I didn't do the Golden Globes. And like, I'm doing Critics' Choice, you know, but I'm not doing the Oscars. Like it's, it's actually the perfect amount. You're absolutely right. Moderation is key. Because if you were doing all the things, you would be desensitized already. Well, and you'd be burnt out and you wouldn't be doing any of the other things in

your life properly. And it would be where you used to be like back in the day and where you're just like scrounging, like trying to like make it through. Yeah. Right. Exactly. So, you know, and then, and then on the flip side of it, 40 was really difficult. Like I, um, I just went home for, for Christmas and I was, you know, in my, you know, expectations versus reality where you're like, Oh, like this is what's going to happen at the end of the year, new year's. Like I went home and I was really hoping that things with my brother, like we've just worked so hard for him this year. And I was hoping I would like get off that plane and I'd be like, you're fixed. You You know what I mean? Like, Oh my God. Yay. Like I did it. I set my mind to like getting you great.

And it wasn't like, he's not there. And it was really hard. And it's like with the good comes the bad. But I think what is nice about this era of my life is that with the moderation, it still gives me time for my family and time to do the other things. You know what I mean? So it's not all like all or none or this, like, I know this is going to be hard for a long time, but I'm like, okay with, you know, make slicing time out of my life every day to help and be around, you know, something that's like come up a lot that sort of like touches on this. I don't know if it was like it, it wasn't in the Jonah Hill stats thing. Maybe it was, but then I've been listening to him, the psychiatrist on a bunch of different podcasts and like mediums or whatever.

And I had the same like weird expectations in a different way for like holidays. You know, I think the reason I've hated Christmas so much is because I learned so early on that it was like never meets the expectations that you have in your mind. And that's what it is, is like the snapshot. So Stutz talks about having like in our minds, we have this one dimensional snapshot of what we think is going to make us happy, the perfect Christmas or the perfect job, the perfect this. It doesn't exist. And when you get it, you're like, wait a second, this isn't perfect. It doesn't feel perfect. And there's like all these tools. It's amazing. But the little thing that resonated with me was like, happiness is finding the little moments of happiness is like

the little moments throughout your day. That's happiness. It's not like this one big grand arrival at this thing that you've wanted. So like over the holidays, it's trying to figure out that like, yeah, 90% of that is just hustle bustle bullshit. But then there's 10% where you're like sitting in your kitchen with your family and you're like whoa we're all together right now you know we're all in the same place right now and we're like laughing and eating olive oil cake that little tiny moment you have to do an olive oil cake guys it's a journey the best it's the best cake even the one i fucked up didn't hit up it was amazing delicious i'll talk about on another episode but it's finding those little moments and i think that's also part of like growing up and

getting older is you're better at that like you know kelty that this e-news job is like you were not like this is the snapshot of my favorite perfect whatever you're like it's gonna be a job and i'm gonna thrive because it's what i do really well and i'm gonna like enjoy the people more and i'm gonna enjoy my outfits and i love the fashion so i'm gonna lean into that moments of the fashion so you've done a really good job i feel like of not falling into that like snapshot bullshit anymore. Well, even, even you like negotiating your contract for that job where you wanted a limited number of hours, it's like you have this self-awareness to be like, this job isn't going to fulfill whatever the cracks of my life that I have. Like, this is just something

that I feel like I need for myself to feel normal. And I feel like you've done, you really are the best version of yourself this year. Like, I think that we've seen so much growth from you and especially in a lot of tough moments with us on tour and things going awry and like a whole lot of bullshit like the kelty back in the day reacting to some of the shit that went on when we're all together would have been a fucking nightmare like yeah it would have been like a hurricane and you you've just done such a good job at balancing a lot in your life including like your emotional response to a lot of things so you should feel very proud of yourself because 41 Kelty will be even better.

It's going to be even better. I mean, I do miss the like 25-year-old Kelty singing, hey, Mickey, you're so fine in a New York City audition studio. I mean, I'd give big money to see that. This episode of Lady Gang is brought to you by Progressive Insurance. Most of you listening right now are probably multitasking, just like me. While you're listening to Lady Gang, you're probably driving, cleaning, exercising, grocery shopping, painting your nails, whatever.

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and my word for the year is ballet core. And so I, like everything I do is like, is ballet core. Like I, cause I did the avatar premiere and I saw Zoe Saldana come down the red carpet. And I mean, yes, is she the most beautiful person on the planet? Of course. But like the way she holds herself and she just has like such a gracefulness from her dance career. And like, it's just so beautiful.

Like, you know, she doesn't, it's just the way that she just exists in a space is so lovely. And I just really want that for myself. So I started taking, um, well, I, you obviously sound on Instagram, but I started taking Broadway dance center, like live stream classes. They have a camera in the corner. Becky won't believe this. We used to go to BDC all the time back in the day. They have a camera in the corner. So like, while they're teaching the ballet bar, there's actual people in the class. You're just like tuning in. You can have your camera on, you can have your camera off. And I have like never been

happier in my life. Like it is, I am meant to be ballet core. I love it so much. And I was doing, I'm doing like a ballet bar once a week and I'm doing the ballet bar and it was like it's like I'm in a black hole of time like it's like an hour and a half goes by and it's like nothing I have not thought about work I have not like I can't meditate I sit there and I'm like I hate this so much I can't meditate slow down your brain you suck at meditating like this is ballet a ballet bar and a ballet class is the meditation for me and I really am happy I'm doing it I love that and next I want Becca and I to do a musical theater class from home put on your ladukas do still have them. I have nowhere to do this. You have a whole gym in your... What's a musical theater

class? Maybe when you come to LA. Well, Jack, it's like if we were dancing to Hamilton, your favorite musical. I don't want to dance to Hamilton. I want to listen to it in my car. You can sit in the corner and cry. I will. But yeah, now that I know that Broadway Dance Center has these classes, I am going to try to dance more. I'm happy when I'm dancing. And I don't know. It's also the Prozac, guys. You're in your flow. I'm in my flow. It's Prozac and dancing. it's Prozac I love that it's you know

like is that the theme for 41 Prozac and Dancing Prozac and Dancing I'm gonna just put that in my bujo right now

that's the title of this episode yeah and I will say like it's not without fault like I totally f***ed the Lady Game

book club this month like we didn't choose the book until way too late and then we chose Spare by Prince Harry and no one could get it because you're like

I'm number 1400 at the library on hold like you know so I kind of f***ed up but it's fine we're gonna you know not everything can be

perfect all the time can i ask you a question about the prince harry book there was like a viral tiktok moment going on about him talking about his penis and uh i haven't got to that part yet yeah but him like he was like somebody told me to put nivia on it but nivia is what my mom used to use so i decided to do it and when i opened the jar i got all these like emotions of emotions about my mom, but then I stroked my penis with like, it was very bizarre. Yeah. Um, so the book is incredible. I'm only a third way through and I just have to say, I mean, they've been trying to change the perception of like them and Megan and you know, I'm a Royalist and I love the Rose

and I know a lot of people don't care about it, but so I'll be fast. But, um, all the things they've done, like the Oprah interview did not hit the way that it meant it was supposed to hit where you were like, I really understand where this guy's coming from and where Megan's coming from. The book absolutely does. Like this is someone who at 12 years old, his mother was, was killed. And he, for seven, five to seven years after that thought that she had chosen to go missing and was hiding out until the paparazzi was going to leave her alone. and she was going to come get the brothers again. Like he, who told him that he made it up in his mind. There was, it was like your mom, Prince Charles comes in, puts his hand on his knee,

says your mom is dead. And then like he leaves no therapy. He's never hugged his grandmother. You don't hug in the royal family. No, no one helped him. It was like she died. And then no one spoke of it. He had one friend at school who asked about the mom. William didn't speak about it. Charles didn't speak about it. No one spoke about this thing. And he was 12 years old. He is so brutally traumatized by this. So it's like the entire book is him like coming to terms with his mom did not run away to get, find safety. And then was going to come back and get him. He held onto that for so long. And then it's basically like every single thing when he has his picture taken when the paparazzi is around him being on a boat, like anything that he did with his mom

is like laser done into his brain. And it is so triggering for him. Like he has never dealt until he met Megan. He never dealt with anything. He was like crazy into drugs, crazy and alcohol avoidance. He knew from the moment. This is like half of the American people's story. This is why I'm not like upset for him because this is what people go through on a daily basis all over the world. And they're also not rich and famous. People's parents die all the time. People don't get treatment for the trauma. People go to have to do things that are triggered by the dead people that they think about. Like I, I, I just for like a moment want to remember like the perspective of everything. Like, yes, this is his story and I know everything is relative and this is his

experience, but it's also like, okay, but everybody has trauma. Everybody has had something on the spectrum of awful things to have happened in your life station. His is not that bad. For sure. And it's because I love the Royals and I love Harry. And it's so crazy. When Harry got born. Do you know what Charles said to Diana? Allegedly. Yes. His mom told him this. So allegedly your mother's telling you something about the man she hates. Okay. Go on. He said, Oh, my job's done. I gave you an air and a spare. That's where spare came from. Right. The whole family, grandma, the aunties, everyone literally called him spare, but that's fine. People like Zach's older sister

Zach was an accident and they called him the accident you know what I mean like that's what your fucking family does they joke about shit anyway

so 40's been great love the rules happy birthday to Becca happy birthday to Kelty um Jack we I still don't know

when your birthday is but that's okay um we weren't here for a long time but no we were here

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