LadyGang - LG QUICKIE: The Lady Line

Episode Date: February 23, 2023

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Let's make this quick. Hello, hello, hello. Welcome to The Lady Gang Quickie. I am Becca here with Jack and Kelty. Hello. Hello, ladies. I'm so excited to be joined by you again. Oh, thank you. um something special to share well no i mean the last quickie that we did um you asked me about my renovation and i felt like you were in a downward tailspin spiral so i really we needed to focus on keeping becca but now i want to focus on my own spiral i knew that came with some strings yeah

of course um but actually before we get into that i do want to share with the lady gang community you something really cool that we're doing. So we reopened the lady gang telephone line and we called it the lady line, but I think people are confused because they don't know what to say when they call. So this is essentially a voicemail ask the lady gang. We used to ask you to write in your questions. Now we're making it easy. You just dial a number, leave a voice memo. Nobody's really using text anymore, right? You're using voice text. So you just leave your ask the lady in question on the lady line. And then we are going to respond to them on the show. Like we did ask the lady gang for so many years because people have been asking and they've been saying we miss

ask the lady gang. So we got lots, but we got one that I love and we're going to try it out today on this quickie, just to give everyone an example of like, this could be you. Oh, I didn't even mean to write that. I didn't even mean to press that. Here is our first caller on the lady line. hi guys i'm trying to figure out planning a wedding i'm six months into wedding planning six months away from the wedding and i just feel like i've done everything but nothing how do you just navigate like all the small little details of your wedding and you know what's going to be timeless and what's going to be a time capsule into 2023 i'd love any advice thanks excellent question caller let me know what's so good that's great zach martin planned most

to our wedding however this is what i'm gonna say he loves planning he loves it how did he but was he like choosing like aesthetic choices and stuff and you just trust his style yeah i mean there wasn't a lot of aesthetics like it was really just kind of the place we were at yeah where we were at um okay so i will say this about worrying about if it's going to be a time if it's going to look like a times capsule of 2023 i have news for you it will there's no such thing as timeless no it will always look like the time around the time that it happens so just pick what you like pick what you like looking at what brings you joy let's pull it back to maria condo is that her name marie condo marie condo like if you i personally i love peonies peony flowers like

i just have always looked at those and they make me happy so boom i'm doing it was it trendy at the time. I have no idea. So there's always going to be trends and it's perfectly fine. I know the people that used Mason jars all over their weddings in, you know, 2010 aren't sitting here today being like, darn it. I wish I didn't use Mason jars because now they're so cheesy. It's just it. The reality is, is that you have to enjoy it for now and it's really doesn't matter. So what you love just to its core yeah and i guess like i mean i she's farther along than i am i haven't even started to do like details i haven't even picked a photographer or anything yet but um like at the end of the day nobody is noticing your napkins or nobody is really even noticing

your flowers like people are just looking at your dress and they're making sure there's an open bar and that they're fed and there's good music to dance to and that's about it like nobody is sweating the small stuff. So that's what I'm telling myself is to not really worry about like the little minutia of the details. Cause I'm like, cause I can spiral into that shit. Yeah. As the list maker of the group, I would say my first resource would be going to Pinterest and they have these great list things, which are like three months before one month before one week before. And like, yes, maybe not everything applies, but I found that when I was doing our wedding, that like that kind of thing really brought me a lot of peace because

I was able to go through and like actually physically like write down what those lists were. You can just copy them. I think they probably have printables and stuff on, on Pinterest. And like, I was able to cross off and be like, Oh, I'm not so far behind, but like, oops, I forgot this thing. And then the other thing I would say is that you, this is for every party you throw, but weddings too, you have to trust the people you hire. Like at a certain point, the the place you're getting married this is not their first wedding the photographer this is not their first wedding the florist this is not their first wedding they understand what a wedding is if you say my ceremony's at five they're gonna have the wherewithal to like backtrack it back

like you don't have to you can micromanage if you want to but for the most part like the best thing you can do is like make that choice like becca said like make the choice and then tell them when it is and trust that they are professional enough to figure it out and be on time and get the sound system. And you know, like unless you're doing like in Canada, we do a lot of like hall weddings where everyone's responsible for every single thing. And so you're literally like buffing the silverware and stuff yourself. But like, if you're doing a wedding and you're kind of like having people and it sounds like you are like the, let the professionals do the professional thing and just keep asking them, is there anything else you need for me? Is there anything else you need for

me and then you can just focus on those little homemade or cute details that are going to make your day really special for you but you don't have to focus on like the balloon placement you shouldn't be focusing on balloons at all to be honest with you don't have balloons at your wedding because that's gonna do a time capsule in 2023 because i'm sure those are going to be illegal in about five years because people do balloons at their weddings people are chloe kardashian is doing a lot of balloons at her children's birthday parties well that's different than a wedding you're about to see a lot of balloons in my kids birthday party um i lisa barlow was recently on the lady gang and she's a big event at the real housewife of salt lake city

real big event planner she brought up something that i remember i was at a wedding once and she said something that reminded me of a time that i was at a wedding where it was like worst case scenario oh no we were outside we were outside having dinner the sun was setting and when i tell you this was in the fall when i tell you the sun was blinding half of the wedding party as they're sitting there you can't escape it you're seated at a seated dinner and the sun is literally burning your skin your eyeballs everything the bride included they had to come over with this crazy tent blah blah blah and i'm like shame on that wedding planner yeah but she says the lighting if you're outside at all at all go there not the same time of year because you know the sun changes

like within days of your wedding be there and you make a note of every place that you don't want people to be standing like it is that that actually was like it could have been the most beautiful wedding ever and it ruined the entire dinner yeah that's my biggest nightmare well getting married and direct sunlight because you're you're usually gonna have this ceremony i think in the early afternoon right so you can have time for the dinner and the cocktail party and like whatever and i've seen so many like videos from weddings that people just get married in the blasting sun number one jared not great he's literally gonna be a tomato in 20 minutes no and he sunburns like immediately like you put him out in the sun for five minutes and he's a tomato

like as he's walking back indoors that's also his biggest like fear is sweating at the wedding like that's why we're doing it in september like he could not do like a summer summer wedding he'll still sweat because he'll be like nervous he'll look like ben affleck at the grammys a little different i told him he should get botox in his head so he doesn't like sweat because i guess you can get it like above your hairline and it stops you from sweating down your forehead anyways then does it come out other places yeah yeah but i'm like at least it won't be your forehead like you know whatever but yeah and then also just the light like for a photo my 35 year old face a 36 year old face and a harsh direct sunlight no thank you um that's we're looking for

we have to get married like in like some kind of a tree like a greenery or something like that because yeah i had a girlfriend who had the most amazing wedding and she was kind of like a maker is a similar situation becca is where she like she had the most amazing dress and she helped i helped her like do the alterations in the dress because i'm really good at gowns just saying um i'm really good at like figuring out what you're going to wear under your gown and how it's going to walk and like worn the most gowns of anybody ever oh yeah i was right and different actresses 10 years ago certain seasons of award seasons you have been there i've been there in a gown i know what works i know what photographs well i know what you know and what fabrics are good what

fabrics wrinkle anyway. So I'm really good at gown. So I helped her with a gown, but then she was kind of a maker and she was like, Oh, I'm going to be one of those people just goes to the flower mart and gets the flowers. And I'm going to be one of those people that just like has a stereo system. And like, listen, I know a lot of people are doing that kind of thing for budget, but I do believe there is a professional for every budget. And you like, there's a re like, so her wedding was outside on the beach is freezing cold. Like did not visit during this time of the year what time of the year was so windy i can't it was like fall it was early fall that's my name you know because it's colder by the ocean too but it was so windy that she had

done her own flowers so she had just done vases with a little bit of water and then her the flowers she'd gotten from the flower mart every single one of them completely fell over water all over every table because a real florist is like no no no we got to put rocks on this if it's going to be outside or we have to have these leaded bases so that they don't fall over like there's something about an expert that they just know shit that you're never going to think about. And so that's my advice. This wasn't meant to be a quickie about weddings. This is meant to be a quickie about my house, but I'm just letting you know. I don't think we needed a full quickie about your house. So I think this is perfect. Probably true. All right. When we come back, me.

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started to talk about it I was saying that it's just a commitment like if we're gonna if I'm gonna follow your journey along I I have to really commit to it because it's a lot of content you have to turn the sound on like it's a whole thing and yeah I haven't four saved highlights of fixing houses now yeah I haven't not done that yet so I'm kind of learning this for the first time yeah yes so you all right so here's the thing I bought this house a couple years ago I've been fixing it up for a few years at a very slow, terrible rate. And now I'm ready to sell this house and I'm ready to move to a new house because I get that itch every few years. Chris and I started looking at property in Topanga. Maybe we want to live up on it. Like, I don't know. So

I'm not, I can't sell this house for a while. I got to sit in it, but you just consider the fires when you're looking at houses. Yes, I promise I will. Thank you. So, um, I think is risky no i'm yeah i made a i made it for like the malibu fires yeah just fires very brushy there that's what makes it amazing so anyway i made a promise to myself coming into the new year that like this is the year that i'm going to create a non-chaotic space for myself because i've been living in chaos for three years i've had floors not done i've had some sort of renovation unpainted walls like i'm just living in chaos at all times moving shit from one closet to the next because this closet is, you know, um, and I've had a lot of problems, not problems with this

house, but like I've had leaks and floods and all this stuff. So I was like, 2023 is the year I'm going to finish this house. I'm going to make it into a wonderful, welcoming, safe space for me where I can welcome people to dinner. I can have kids over to the pool. I can, you know, have sleepovers, like whatever it is. So I'm like gung-ho and I hired someone to do my bathroom, which is going to be done very soon, which is, I think it'll be done by the end of February, which will be amazing.

That's fast. Yeah. he really, Corey really rocks. He really rocked it. Um, and then I'm, I'm, we're redoing the lady gang office so that we can film video content here. Um, which is so exciting. And then, you know, I'm painting upstairs and the kitchen's almost done. And so there's just like a lot been going on, but I, the reason it's so chaotic is that I, instead of doing room by room, which is what I normally do, I'm just like full on the dining room is a mess. The kitchen's a mess. the i'm sleeping the spare bedroom everything needs paint my bedroom and my bathroom are so

we're down to one i'm gonna sound like such a fucking asshole we're down to one shower one bathroom one working bathroom we have four in this house and one of them works so chris and i are showering in the anyway yeah i mean yeah i know it's such a dick one bathroom champagne problem i have a lot of retinol and it doesn't all fit in one bathroom okay so anyway you know what's been sorry that just made me think something that's been like depressing me I want other people to weigh in on this to see if I'm alone there's like a voiceover that someone's been doing on social media somewhere along the way where it's like things that are great about getting older you know it's like yeah this you're that you're wiser you're what you're richer and

I'm like it really bumps me out because now that we are rich we are old you know it's like why couldn't i have been rich young and like 21 yeah and that is upsetting like i can actually if i wanted to i don't want to but if i wanted to i could go to a club get the best booth exactly get bottle service and dance on that and banquet or whatever it's called but like unfortunately we all see for it we also know but we should we should do it they have like let's do like a fun like a tulum yes day like we can't ever go to tulum what i heard some real news about tulum what about the seaweed the septic tanks all of them in tulum have completely leached into the ground so like now just don't go to tulum oh the water leaked leached so like that it's like your

septic's kind of made of concrete and so it like sucks into the ground and so basically like all of tulum is toxic waste and they're like don't go over there because like literally all the swamps and rivers and everything are just full of shit oh is this like a is this like an insider knowledge just insider knowledge because i was gonna buy some property there maybe oh oh my god see shit there's there's too much there there's too much wild card shit going down over there yeah that's seaweed is like stacking up like 10 feet yeah you know why because of the sewage yeah it's a big problem stinky over there i'm not making this up i got dengue fever in tulum so i have bad memories anyway okay we should go somewhere else other than tulum no i do agree that now it sucks to be like

financially stable and also like old old because it's like yay i have this great house and all these clothes but i don't want to go anywhere like i have to be at home by 8 p.m or else i turn into like a pumpkin yeah no it's awful we got invited let me just tell you something no no we got invited people want to be my friend okay i'm not going to tell you who but after the grammys you definitely know who this person is like magazine cover famous okay um i got invited to a personal birthday party of a very very famous a-list well i didn't chris did But I was going to go. And we looked at each other and we're like, we don't have it in us to go to West Hollywood and go to this birthday dinner.

And you know I know love nothing more than going to a place where I'd probably get paparazzi'd and be around famous people. Like, that's my calling card. And I was like, I'm too old. Like, I have the right dress to wear. I have a fancy handbag. I would have fit right in. Don't have the energy. No.

I barely do anymore. so are you gonna sell your house soon or as soon as it's done no i'm gonna do the whole house and then i'm gonna see but i i don't think i'm gonna sell in like five years i'm gonna stay yeah didn't you say you wanted a non-chaotic space because you know you would do the same thing that you move and try to renovate and then still live in chaos no no that's what you do i'm redoing the backyard next which starts in like two weeks and i'm redoing my pool and it's going to be like a spanish mediterranean like raised lip white plaster square pool with like olive tree and all the pea gravel and like it's going to be a dream so i feel like once it's done

it's going to be super dreamy over here and i need to live in it for a long time yes i have five more years then i go to the hut anyway i love you guys um this was really fun we weren't here for a long time we are here for a good time bye thanks for listening the lady gang is produced by alex ingber steve delameter and jared monaco make sure you subscribe rate and review our podcast and if you love it share it with your friends on social media like oh my god i just listened lady gang this episode's so great swipe up to listen and if you really want to which we know you do please follow us on social at kelty at becca at jack vanek and at the lady gang sign up for our newsletter at the lady gang.com and join our secret facebook group it's super fun see you next tuesday

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