LadyGang - Sarah Herron on the LadyGang - Ep48

Episode Date: October 31, 2016

You probably know Sarah Herron from season 17 of "The Bachelor" (Sean Lowe's season) or maybe from "Bachelor In Paradise," but she's also CEO of SHELift, an organization that empowers young women! Sarah shares her inspiring story... and also dishes a little secret, behind-the-scenes info about her reality TV experience - from her own audition to being locked away in a hotel for days on end to which Bachelor couples are most likely to make it. She's talking about Bachelor-to-be Nick, making out with Daniel, and Juan Pablo Galavis. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey guys, it's your Lady Gang, Jack Vanek, Kelty Knight, and Becca Tobin. Thank you so much for subscribing on iTunes, and thanks for supporting the great sponsors who make it possible for us to have this much fun with you every single week for free. Well, what is this? Welcome to the Lady Gang. That's amazing. Say that again. The Lady Gang. Things are about to change around here. Each week, we catch up with Hollywood's hottest girl posse, Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek.

hello hello hello welcome to the lady gang how are you guys to you guys i ask you every week and you don't answer me i feel like you're talking to the audience hi i'm becca tobin actress exotic dancer tap dancer extraordinaire across from me kelty knight entertainment journalist she's on every red carpet she's really famous she's super famous follow her on instagram she'll ask you and to my right jack vanik ceo and clothing designer of jack vanik hi guys hello i'm just so excited about this we're excited oh my god this is exciting um but before we get to that it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no um i am going to start this week off and um i am going to start with my good week you seem unsure can you talk a little bit faster i couldn't

decide if i was going to do good or bad week first and then i realized i should do good week because okay so remember the time i talked about my good week being that i was on celebrity armpits yes yes guess what you're back nope celebrity feet celebrity yep celebrity feet celebrity feet get a hold of these puppies was it a good foot picture yeah i have great feet i actually get told all the time how pretty my feet are really yeah what shoe are you wearing oh and they're a cute shoe celebrity feet what size are you six and a half that's perfect size small feet and a nice manicure i have a i have great feet despite doing ballet for many years i still don't have congratulations do you feel like you've made it i do how what other body parts can we feature

what other celebrities are on this i mean yeah what other feet are there there's some a-listers guys don't be upset okay there is can tell to get on that's probably not it's way out of my league maybe i'll like start sending them subtle messages about your arm my feet are gross though but isn't it kind of flattering the two grossest body parts of you of anybody i'm actually being featured with my armpit and my foot because those are things people like fetishize fetishize fetishize they fetishize fetishes about is that a word anyway congrats becca thank you you really made it thank you so much okay bad week um so i went to this woman to get me skinny so it's this whole method from canada shouts out to your people it's called the polyquin method and it's

this trainer from toronto and they have this algorithm that figures out exactly like what your body needs to be the most efficient and the skinniest basically so i go and i have all of my body part like 12 measurements all over your like your face your thigh like your labia everything head to toe so you put on your things and we're doing the my measurements and the woman who was doing my measurements i last saw her like last november was when i met her for like three minutes and then not again and then i just saw her and she's like and we're talking about it i'm like well i'm definitely like heavier than i've ever been and it's like really kind of crummy and she's like yes you were probably oh no she's like you were probably about 13 body fat when i last saw

you and and now i think you're about like 19 and i can see it in your face i was like oh my god what a bitch i was like i just paid 160 for you to tell me that i got that i know i got that like it's i look in the mirror that's all relative but yeah but but still wait when was this this was recently recently and i'm like i've only i met you for three minutes and you looked at me and you were already like oh how can she tell the difference but she could i feel like this is a scam it's not a scam but it's true i've gained a ton of weight since a ton i mean for me it's crazy being a midget i've gained a lot okay am i allowed to say midget i don't think so i feel like you're gonna get shit for this whole segment so it doesn't matter how am i gonna get shit it

was awful it was like okay so what are you doing so i'm just doing everything she tells me to do because i just feel like i have to do you feel better i mean i maybe i don't know i mean no sure i'm sorry it's it's a successful method i've seen many people use it like a star deal no it's actually like my friend in atlanta who my zach's sister does this and lost like 10 body fat really yeah so there you go keep us updated i think you look great fun thanks all right i'll go um oh my good week is dedicated to becca i am officially obsessed with the real housewives of orange county yes i watched the entire last season in like three days uh what'd you think well okay so basically my whole like life's goal is to know somebody on reality tv that's why i've like

tried to push every one of my friends i know to be on the bachelor that's like all i want well this is great even more reason why we have to get me on the real housewife oh i know it's amazing but so we went on heather's podcast yep so we know heather kind of heather's our friend and then i grew up with vicky's daughter she was like one of my best friends growing up so i'm like i know people why don't i watch the show and now i just get the inside scoop of how crazy becky is she's crazy she's nuts but so fun and i don't understand why megan is on the show she's i like megan she's a potster is she yeah yeah i like and she's smart yeah she is smart i don't know it's so good i love crazy congratulations thank you i'm really proud

to a full woman i know what was your bad week okay so my bad week i went to brunch this last weekend with three of my friends and i'm not going to say the name of this place because i love it and they have great food but i had an interesting experience we go there we're like super hung over and we're like we just need some like any kind of carb whatever so we ordered two avocado toast between the two of us and um our server is like one of those guys that doesn't write stuff down but then you like he doesn't seem to remember what you're ordering you're like i really just wish you'd write it down you're not really impressing me so they give him our whole order 10 minutes goes by he brings out one avocado toast and we're like okay well we ordered another one if

you can you know get the other one out so we give the one to my two friends 10 more minutes goes by no avocado toast we tell the guy again like can you you know we had another avocado toast come out and he finally brings it out and he's like this one's on me it's fine sorry it was late pubic hair it'll be taken off the menu so we get the avocado toast and i don't know if they ran of bread but it came out on like an uh it was like an avocado english muffin that was buttered and they didn't tell us that it was this your bad week yeah are you done i'm not done okay good why is there a punch line avocado english muffin is your bad week no there was a chunk of pubic hair thank you a chunk like what's a how much there was like a good there was a good like

five collection hairs you know you went back there i was like i'll give you your avocado dink and pulled out i just uh but it's not my fault you can't remember the avocado toast that's amazing it was disgusting i ate the whole time can you tell me where you ate because i really don't know if i want you ate the entire thing until i found the pubic hair on the last bite where was this i can't say because i really do love the place okay i feel bad kelty um i was in philadelphia last week and i finished a very long 13 hour shoot day and i was driving in the cast van back to my hotel and i was feeling really tired and i had my head sort of rested on the seat looking left out the window and all of a sudden i see this woman on top of these stairs like five

stairs leading up to like a church door or something and i was like what is ha oh oh guys what's happening so the four of us turn and look full-on woman she has her like sleeping area homeless, pooping full on pants around the ankles, but squatting, but peeing. And it's coming out like a race horse amount of piss, but it's, I didn't know women could pee like that. She was squatting, but it was not coming out forward and it wasn't dripping down her leg. Like it normally does when I have to squat. It was like projectile peeing out her backside. Like I actually thought it was like a wet poop at first. Don't worry. I have a video and a picture. I'm going to post it the secret facebook group it'll probably get taken down right away but it was so disgusting and i was

like what first of all if i was homeless and i was making homeless people decisions i would not piss right next to where i was gonna sleep all night there's a reason that a lot of them are homeless it's because they don't make good decisions i understand wait i have to say that exact same thing happened to me and was on my list for good week bad week it was week yeah the exact same thing in philly well no it was an hour peeing it was a homeless lady that was i was walking up steps and she had vagina out peeing everywhere like peeing forward this woman was like in a squat and it was going this way in a like a powerful stream did she have a dick i don't know i don't know it could have been a penis sometimes i'll go into the bathroom and if zach's in there

i'll like forcefully pee like just to make it really loud and he's like i cannot believe that you can do that maybe it's what i can do maybe you have talent i don't i can't pee that hard you guys i have the best best good week ever in the history of the lady gang podcast we've heard this before but please tell us i got a photo of jeans man oh please let me guys i saw him again at the gym i was on the uh not the local can you give a brief summary okay if you haven't listened to the podcast before i work out every day at 11 o'clock on the set and go find her she'll get she'll give you autographs you guys want a picture no you don't okay um anyway so this hot man who wears who's so sexy except for his bedazzled 90s bootcut jean always comes in

and does like a six minute power workout and then leaves and he's like a mystery and then i recently saw him like drilling magic mike style into cement outside the studio and i wanted to give you a newest update okay there's three pictures start this way swipe this way here's him first picture i'm gonna post these on the secret lady gang group he's doing abs he's in a deep squat what do you think becca i just don't think he was wearing his best bedazzled jeans yeah don't throw it away no no he's cute he's cute and he has like a whole tattoo his whole arm is tattooed Yeah. So I'm going to post it.

Shaved head. Shaved head. So Jeans Man is back in my life. I have an update. I'm going to post the photo so we can all salivate. This is exciting. And I, everyone has been asking for so long to put Jeans Man on the podcast. We're not there yet.

I don't know. This is not how I imagined flowing hair. I told you he had a shaved head like Paul Walker. I don't think you did. I imagined like a cowboy hat for some reason. I kind of did too. What? And Flames on his Swarovski crystal denim is like a good combo.

No, everything is perfect except for the jean. Okay. Anyway, I'm sorry to disappoint you. Coming up, we're very excited because we have a member of Bachelor Nation here. The Lady Gang Inquirer. Okay, you guys were very, very excited. Jack Vanek has hooked us up with our guest. She is the founder and executive director of SheLift,

which is an organization that empowers young women through sport and experiences designed to help discover and develop confidence, which we really need. Sarah was born with one arm due to a condition known as amniotic band syndrome, and she's become an inspiration since appearing on season 17 of The Bachelor, starring Sean Lowe, P.S. missed a bullet there, and later appeared on Bachelor in Paradise. We're very excited to welcome her to the Lady Gang. Get ready.

Welcome, Sarah. Whoa. Thank you. That sounded badass when you said it. I'm like, can you say that all the time? Girl, I'll make you a t-shirt. She really is the best at introducing. The queen of intros.

I love it. We're so happy you're here. Thank you. First of all, you're our second Bachelor Nation guest ever. We had Caitlin. No, Allie. Oh, Allie. I forgot about her.

Allie Fetiski was our first guest ever. And we had Caitlin on early on. And now you're here, which is exciting. You're our second blonde. And you know how much I love The Bachelor. So I just want everybody to come on. Jack's like the biggest fan. Sorry if she like, so basically you got to know each other because she stalked you online,

I'm sure. Well, no. No, I was a fan of Jack. Since like MySpace. Since MySpace? Yes. I just Snapchatted that too on the way in. I was like, funny story.

No, did I know that? Oh, you had said it once. I've told you for sure. For sure. That's amazing. And then we met through Elon. Yeah. Oh, yes.

Okay. Well, first of all, I want to talk about the foundation because let's be honest, most people after their time on The Bachelor sell sponsored posts and you have actually created and are going around and using your superpowers for good. So what is SheLift? How can we get involved? Where should we go? Thank you.

No, so SheLift is an organization that I started recently, but it's been a long time coming. After I appeared on The Bachelor, I started getting a lot of girls reaching out to me just expressing that they finally had someone that they could relate to on the show. Because, you know, we've watched the show and it's like, you know, it's taking more of like an entertaining turn, but it used to just be like you had to be perfect and have perfect hair and a perfect wardrobe. And then I came on and I was not perfect by definition, really. And so girls were like, I finally have someone I can relate to.

Thank you so much. but at the same time i was like well no like i am just as insecure and like have so many issues as everybody else and but i saw a really great opportunity to connect with girls and use the platform and the reach that i had to to hopefully help some girls so that's kind of i don't mean to be crazy but like your face is perfect oh thank you speaking of like no i'm just like i mean it's crazy and all i do is interview celebrities all day long and i'm just like i mean i have a lot of makeup on right now like a lot I like that answer you're like you guys are okay too um so what has been the most surprising thing seeing yourself through the lens of the public eye

I think the most surprising is my transformation because really and truly when I first went on the show um like I said I had a lot of self-esteem issues and a lot of insecurities and and I like couldn't even date I couldn't even go to a bar and let alone ask a guy for his number and and that's kind of how Alana and I got so close is because he had to coach me through like getting to know sean and putting myself out there which i was just totally freaked out about and since then you know now it's like i i wouldn't say i have all the confidence in the world but like i definitely have confidence and i can talk to a guy and i can carry myself and i'm proud of who i am and i do own my flaws and my strengths and um so i you know even just looking back over the four years i can

see how i've transformed and i think that's a really cool thing not everyone gets to have that transformation happen on national television did you on the bachelor did you like being so how is your sign-up situation i don't know if you know this about me but i appeared on the bachelor yes for one she's very embarrassed about it i never talk about it yeah i was on brad womack season and i got kicked off after the first rose wait was it womack one or two two okay best season that was my favorite season ever it was well you don't remember me because i was only on for a week She did a high kick out of the limo though I found it very difficult

Because I thought there was a lot Of like fakery Like I thought there was a lot of girls Appeasing a situation that like They probably weren't feeling right off the top Like it was like literally night one and everyone was like He's amazing and I was like he's wearing a purple tie Like I'm not even sure this is a man for me

He wasn't that great And then I feel like all the producers come and talk to you And if you're not really feeling it They like kick you out right away because they're like they only want girls that are like really obsessed with him and i was like i think you might be right homosexual which is great like do what you do you but like i don't know if you're the man for me yeah anyway but your experience was different you actually loved it i loved it i wouldn't say i loved any of the guys though but i loved the experience i

liked going through it but that's kind of what happened to me on my second stint in paradise is like i just wasn't into it and i wasn't why not i love daniel well i love daniel too and fortunately we're still super super close but like i didn't want to make out with daniel and that's a problem would you make out with him well i have a boyfriend if you didn't have a boyfriend i was single he seems like a guy that i would have dated before my boyfriend because he was like really weird but probably really smart no yeah he is yeah i mean he's great he's amazing he was a weirdo what do you think about nick being the new bachelor i'm really excited i did not see it coming at all well he wasn't supposed to be it was supposed to be the other guy and then they

pulled him out yeah did anybody know because i know when they're announcing it on after paradise even the people that were there were like no we were all shocked like shocked i think it must have been they had been telling him you know i did a press tour with nick and he was like yeah yeah they're like dangling bachelor in front of my face but they do that to all of us they do it to all of us it's it's a way to get us to like be good for press yeah and oh i like that and secrets yeah and uh manipulation and so he said he's like yeah they were talking to me for bachelor and i was like okay all right like they'll never make you bachelor it's you've been on four top three times yeah and then they did it and i mean i'm excited i think he's gonna be a great bachelor i do too

because he's gonna be mean or he's gonna be because i think like he's provocative enough obviously we know that and um i like that he's a little bit older and he's really he's just he's articulate he knows how to talk on he like knows the drill he's just gonna be good i just don't think he wants to get married he does not seem like the kind of guy he seems like he is so excited about being on the cover of us weekly and he's gonna meet his girl be engaged for six months leave and then date demi lovato like it does not maybe not demi lovato but you know what i'm talking about like a victoria's secret model it's hard to say because i spend time with nick outside of the show and he's real yeah i do because he's like whenever we're together um

he's not like no like have you ever made out with him no huh but like he's not like a you know he doesn't have like he's not hanging out with all the hot chicks like he's kind of a loner and just like you can tell a little bit he's he's awkward a little bit yeah yeah i think i don't know if he's ready to necessarily get married but i think i think he's ready for i think there's a genuineness to him that there i think is missing from a lot of people of all the bachelor couples that are now currently in a relationship or married who do you think is going to break up first these are like her friends i know i know currently together are caitlin and what's his face gonna make it they seem like i think so they're like obsessed with each other yeah

i think what about lace and oh well my only hesitation for them is they're just young they're really young yeah lisa's like 21 nope it's over okay um the last thing i wanted to know before we play a fun game is do you get hit on like crazy now online and people asking you out absolutely not i think actually bachelor like ruins your chances with guys because they're like oh you're a crazy chick you went on the bachelor are you three times well i mean what do you think becca a lot of guys it's a little a little bit of like a red flag if you will but it's not like a blanket statement i just know a lot of guys are scared by it yeah yeah i feel like it's a time passing thing i think yeah the week after it all ends like and your name is still in the news and

headlines etc etc but like a year you know what i mean like it's not gonna be a video yeah if they watch the show with you on it you were never crazy yeah you were never crazy i feel like same person on that show pretty much is there anyone from bachelor nation you want to like hang out with because um like date yeah because i know a lot of people date after like other people from other seasons like you can branch out but i'm just saying you're always around each other at all the charity events and whatever there's no one right unfortunately because i've been around so long now i'm like you know you're tired of all those that i've met everyone and and especially i will say jojo's guys were like the worst i mean just this like the locker room stories i hear

about those guys just like slutting it up is gross i can't so i'm what about guys in like the non-profit world that's what i'm thinking because i feel like all the non-profit things i know a wealthy man who just likes to do good in the world um but what about online like twitter and people guys aren't like going crazy i would assume they would be well because what kind of guys who's gonna date a guy they meet on twitter i'm not saying that she's gonna date them i'm just saying like do you ever get a dick pic yeah there's like some creep that just keeps sending me the same one on snapchat right now yes that's probably gonna listen to this that's amazing and it's like i'm not kidding my penis a micro penis micro why do you hear that weirdo yeah i want to

Stop sending her dick pics. Now back to the Lady Gang. We're going to play a game. It's called Rose or No Way. I made that up. Love it. Sounds like you did. So this is going to be Rose is yes, No Way is no on some former Bachelor people and also some interesting gossip of the week.

Okay. Okay. Are you ready? Ready. Juan Pablo. No way. No. he was the worst

how did he get cast as the bachelor because he was like a fan favorite wasn't he yeah wait why did the fans love him

because they didn't show him at all on Dez's season and he was like sexy Latin guy yeah he maybe spoke twice yeah

then everybody's like oh my god I'm on Pablo and then they put him on and they're like oh my god this guy's on the socialistic page he was so mean

yeah the worst just like Becca so mean okay mine's no way as well Becca do you want to vote I don't even know

who he is okay so So she doesn't watch The Bachelor. No way. But based on his name, no. Okay. Chris Soules. That can't be real, though.

That name can't be real. Is he single? Chris Soules? Yeah, he's single now, right? Yeah. Is there, like, what's in between? Because I love Chris. Like, he seems kind of dumb, but cute.

He seems dumb. He seems dumb. He's so fun, though. He seems simple. Like, simple. I used to say that, too. He's not dumb. He's simple.

That was the exact word I used to use. He's a simple man. He just likes mowing the lawn. Just the grains. He likes mowing on that John Deere. Yeah. um so he's nice but not dateable he's really funny i think he could be he needs to like he needs to settle down a little bit though he's kind of he's too crazy yeah how old is cocaine

is that with them no no i think he just likes his wish usually when we say our friends need to stop partying it's like okay stop doing cocaine okay so unfortunately i am a stickler for the rules sarah so you can only rose why not he's hot simple simple man no way okay no he also doesn't have an upper lip but what are we talking about like marrying or hooking up i don't even know i don't know the rules are we just accepting them as human yeah we're not killing him off like the perch okay what do you think about ben the wine guy i actually watched that i did not watch that season what wait no yes i did he was kind of he's shaky hair he lives like hockey hair yeah he had courtney was on the season yeah yeah courtney won right yeah yes and then they broke

up yes okay back has no way yeah dude he kind of looks like um doofus what's that who does he look like from uh uh josh groban josh groban but he's not funny like josh groban so no he's that's his redeeming quality that's funny that's not no do you think he's funny did you ever meet him at any bachelor thanks i know but i met him i met him at elan's one night just hanging out how was he normal i would say rosé because he's not because he's normal he might not be funny but he's normal you know and a lot of those guys are not boring so like normal like how like a real human like down to earth like simple yeah maybe i like this simple clearly you need a simple guy hey all the men that are listening all five men sarah wants a simple guy um no okay he seemed

kind of like he thought his poop didn't stink to me oh okay i thought that that was the season you were on for some reason no well who else was on that season my season no i know your season courtney courtney and uh bad girl and then there was a blonde opposite her yeah the good girl versus bad girl ending lindsey it's always a good girl versus bad girl on my season it was no it was michelle money was no there was a girl chantelle versus emily yes oh oh i was thinking about rock of love for some reason yeah that was not the show okay what was the one with um flavor oh yeah flavor of love flavor of love okay um pumpkin spice everything this time of year No way.

No way. No way. I love pumpkin spice. I mean, I had a latte. Rose. I had a latte, and they're just very underwhelming. They are. You have, like, one sip, and you're, like, over it.

What's crazy is the amount of pumpkin spice items. Like, I saw a Reese's peanut butter cup that was pumpkin spice flavored. Oh, everything. I don't need it. I don't need a pumpkin spice face cream. Yeah, no. Okay. John Mayer and Demi Lovato are hanging out and reportedly dating.

Oh. So we confirm if it's true or not? Or how we feel about it. Just do you like them together, Rosé? You don't like it together? No way. No way. I don't really care.

Does John Mayer have an STD? How old is John Mayer? Rosé. Allegedly. Rosé, he has an STD. I support that coupling, though. You do? Yeah.

They're both talented. Sure. Wow. And they've both been around several times. So, you know? Sexual malpom. How old is he? Isn't he old?

He's old-ish. He's getting old-ish. He's not even 40 yet. Oh, my God. Yeah, he's just sad. if he is because i remember him being like like 19 remember when he was like in a college your body's a wonderland do you want pablo i'm not saying jack no way it's not no it's rosé or no way i want to say i don't really care so no way yeah fine okay i don't know if you guys follow

dj khaled on snapchat no well his wife gave birth this week and he snapchatted the entire birth like i'm not kidding you everything was snap and he's like the most popular snapchatter that exists really i think that's foul yeah that's not the game rose or no way no effing way how like i'd be so pissed like you're not even paying attention to my childbirth right yeah your daughter doesn't care because he's making so much money just she's like sure get my gaping vagina oh make us another mill babe i'd slap him at this point i might do the same so who am i judging jack rose or no way no way no way i i feel like if there was a personalized filter like it could be interesting like the baby pops out and it has like a dog face on it yeah like it's like

that's horrifying okay i just licked the mic so that was um okay well jack do you have any other bachelor questions before we get to ask the lady gang i know you want to ask them do you want to Can you talk about how you get on the show? How normal people are? Yeah. Like, just how everyone is? Like, how did you get on? Yeah, did you send in the tape?

No. My girlfriend that I worked with applied, and she got called in for a callback, and I was just like, Mandy, oh, my gosh, I'm so jealous. I'm so jealous. That's, like, my dream. And so she went in, and she told the casting guys, she was like, my friend Sarah would be great for this. And they were like, cool, can she come in tomorrow?

And I, like, asked my bosses. I was like, can I go in tomorrow? I swear, like, I'll be good and make up the time. And they were like, sure, go ahead. You don't get it. Did you get picked right away? Yeah, like on the spot. They were like, you're amazing.

Because I was just so green. And I was like, I believe I can fall in love on TV. And they were like, uh-huh. Perfect. Yeah, you're on. So, and that was in May. So I had to like. Was it at the Sheraton?

It was. No, no, no. Their office is over off Olympic and like Bundy. But we do spend a ton of time at that Sheraton. Yeah, did they lock you away for like four days? Yeah. What did you do during your time? It can make you crazy, huh?

So they lock you in this room, and this is probably against a contract I signed at some point in my life, but they lock you in a room with no television. And no phone, right? Oh, you didn't have a TV. Why can't you watch TV? We had TV at least. I had TV, but it was like four channels. Don't they just want to make you go insane, like have cabin fever?

Yeah. They do it to you every time. Even before Paradise? Oh, yeah. And I'd say it's worse in Paradise, because there you don't have English-speaking TV channels. You just got to start learning Spanish. So what did you do all day? So...

Did they take your books? Yeah. no books no journal no cell phone well that's how they make you fall in love with the guy too because you just have to think about it you're like i'm so bored yeah and this time in paradise they at least put us in an amazing resort and i had this huge balcony so i laid out on my balcony all day long and it still sounds boring oh it is it's horrible jesus we have a question have you watched um ben and lauren show i watched the first episode what do you think uh you've watched it so i love ben i think he's just so sweet and i'm like oh you're so sweet it's obviously like

really staged but i think it's cute i don't know i think they're so boring they're so boring oh really ben and lauren happily ever after on free for the whole of all the bachelor couples in history these are the two we give a spin-off to they should have given it to the twins yes it's unacceptable no and the whole first episode is basically about her being insecure that he's like still in love with jojo even though jojo was like engaged to jordan it is very yeah i would say it's very because they're boring if they had anything fun going on they wouldn't have to be making up they there was a promo i'm just i'm vented there's a promo for the show happening on facebook free form i love you i support all your shows but this one and like it's a promoted post every time i go

on facebook it shows up this lame ass video of ben and lauren sitting there and they're like hi i'm ben i'm lauren you think we're boring you think we're boring yes i do ben and lauren you are boring i'm so bored and this is the promo to your show if you're not showing you like hand gliding and then fighting and slapping throwing a wine in someone's glass i'm bored i'm bored on the 20 second facebook promo i'm not bored with the fact that i fell into a instagram hole one day and i didn't watch this season and it was i see this picture of the two of them like they look familiar but then it's not on either one of their instagram accounts it's somebody else it turns out to be her sister

who's like sticking up for her sister for Lauren being like she's always been this skinny you guys stop body shaming my sister she's always been super tiny and I'm like this makes me want to blow my brains out this is awful I love it so much

on that note Sarah's gonna stick around with all her inspirational selves and help us figure out our lives Okay, before we start our Ask the Lady Gang, if you guys want 20% off jackvanek.com, use code LADYGANG, and Sarah wears Jack Vanek, so don't you want to be twins with her? I love it. I love it. And you've been buying it probably since 2009.

Yeah, it was 1999. What's your favorite Jack Vanek item? My new favorite one is the nail polish bag that I picked out last night. What does it say? It says so many fingers, not enough nail polishes. no it's like so many nail polish oh yeah not enough fingers i was like that's amazing so many fingers it's perfect for me okay oh but i also love my shirt that what's it say um my head says jim heart says loaded cheese fries at the saturday ranch yeah that's a good one okay so for this part

of the podcast you're gonna help uh answer some questions written in by our lady gang cool good so our first question comes from anonymous and they say i have been dating my boyfriend for three years and we're totally in love i'm positive he's the one we're on the same page with this we talk about our future lives together all the time i've recently been hinting maybe not so subtly that i want to be engaged i know we're ready but he's dragging his feet because he feels too much pressure is it pressure it's been three years and we both have always known this is where it's heading does she give her age no that's what i was wondering too when i was reading through it hmm is it too much let me tell you a story here we go the night before chris and i got engaged

we went to the kings game downtown la and i'm not joking you i was so ready to get engaged and i thought it was never gonna happen hashtag no hash also totally freaked out and i started singing the single ladies beyonce song on the street corner on the way the kings game being like if you like it then you should put a ring on it when you gonna put a ring on it I was so embarrassing and his friend was there too did you know he was going to propose that night no I was just acting like an

asshole like putting the pressure on him meanwhile he has the whole thing planned for the next day and then we got engaged I was so embarrassed and I was like I'm such a dick my advice is he's gonna marry you when he wants to marry you sit back let him do it it might be in a year it might be in five years

you can't rush it and the more you make a dick out of yourself pressuring him the more you're gonna feel like a total asshole like just chill there's only one thing in their entire lives that men can control and it's the proposal so just let him plan it the way he wants to plan it if he's truly the man for you it will happen yeah but what if he doesn't want to get married i mean that's the thing she seems he might already be planning it it's true i think it also depends i mean it depends on age if she's like 21 and they've been together since they're 18 then it's like you can spend some more time dating each other because you're gonna change so much your 20s or whatever but if

she's like in her late 30s it's like if you want a family and if your biological clock's ticking then just get pregnant girl yeah then you're stuck with them yeah that's what becca what live your best life um i'm gonna say three years is not that long i mean i get you but i just had a girlfriend get engaged after 10 years and the reason for the wait is because it's like he just needed to get there and it's and and that's fine and as soon as she accepted that and knew like hey you and me were going to the same place like let's just know that we're both on the same page don't look at me in a year and be like i don't want to ever get married and have a family so as as long as you believe him and trust him if you sit down with him and say like i don't need a ring tomorrow i just

need to know that that's where you see us going and like you know just be patient maybe he's saving up money maybe he's stressed out about like getting you the perfect ring like you don't want to crap all over that and ruin it for him if you know it being a typical basic bitch begging for a ring yeah yeah i agree well you know what i haven't been in a relationship for three years let alone like five days so i can't really answer it but i think she should wait it's age contingent i don't know that's hard to answer without knowing her age i love it i agree okay all right our second question comes from another anonymous and she says i think i might be bi but i'm a little too young to experiment and i would like to figure out my sexuality how would you

recommend i figure that out oh i don't know if you think you're bi you're probably bi let's just go there yeah for sure right i mean if you're attracted to both men and women you are bisexual yeah and there's nothing wrong with that down on a girl do a girl do it here's the thing though i think that's the deciding factor it is because i have a great love of women like i love looking at beautiful women and being like your hair's amazing your butt's amazing like i have a great appreciation but the minute someone's like you're gonna have to kiss you're like okay i could kiss her and then they're like put your lips on her vagina i'm like no and that's how i know that i like boys right i mean i think it's it's i mean it's a good time to live i guess with that because

it's 2016 and it's not like frowned upon like it used to be but you know i think just i don't know how young she is but experiment in the normal kind of way you would experiment with a guy i mean i don't think it's like something that you have to do differently it's just if you like a girl and like she likes you then it happens i wouldn't be like go try to have sex with a girl and you're Just a scene? Yeah. I don't know. I think it's just, yeah.

Just think of it as a normal. Agreed. Have you ever made out with a girl, Sarah? I kissed a girl in high school. You didn't? No, you didn't feel anything. No. But did you kiss her, like, behind closed doors?

The two of you were feeling, like, whatever. It was, like, hot tub with, like, a bunch of friends. It was a show off. Yeah. I've only done it in, like, a truth or dare. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. Have you kissed a girl?

Not in a moment of being, like, oh, my God. Not in a moment of passion? No. Kind of in a moment of passion. It's been, like, a moment of, like, drunk and in a group of people. Like, let's make out. Everybody will love it. Yeah.

Never kissed a girl. Do you want to kiss after? No. That goes straight. Okay. I'm about, yeah. But the other thing is, like, this, you don't have to get so wrapped up in, like, what you are.

It's just do what you want to do and then fall in love with whoever you want to fall in love with. It may be a woman. It may be a man. But, like, you definitely don't have to have a label. Yeah. You don't have to figure it out. No.

Yeah. There's no rush. And you can change, too. i plan on being a lesbian in 20 years screw it all right our last question comes from claire she says i'm in high school and i have a semi big group of close friends however i have a problem of always trying to please everyone and saying yes to whatever they ask me i tend to always be on both sides of an argument between friends what should i do oh god i don't i don't know i'm like the opposite of that i had this problem i mean i still if i know it's hard to believe but i am a

people pleaser really um yeah with people i love and care about perfect um okay so i think this is the thing is like i forgot to take care of myself and i think i got so wrapped up in like doing everything everybody wanted and saying what everybody wanted to hear and like then i realized that i would leave these situations and be totally drained and disappointed in myself for not being my own advocate i think there's something to be said for like always putting yourself first don't be like a selfish asshole about it if somebody truly needs you like be there for them but you have to kind of sort through and filter out what's important and what is not and sometimes you can't even be there for the important stuff if what you have going on is a priority and people just have

to accept that and i actually think that people start respecting you more when you do say no i was gonna say and there's yeah people will appreciate your judgment and whatever you have to say if you're actually being honest because like some people yeah they're like yes men being around and you agreeing with whatever they're going to say but you're almost doing your friends a disservice if you're just agreeing to something just for the sake of not you know being confrontational or starting an argument or whatever so i think it's yeah you just got to be honest yeah everybody is more attracted to that in the end anyways yeah and i think it shows like if you have people in your life and they're always saying yes and they're always on your side and they're the first ones to

be like, oh my God, did you see this? This is, you know what I mean? Those are the people that are like probably doing that about you behind your back. You know what I mean? And so you want to make sure your friends know that you're like a trustworthy person and they're going to get honest advice. Like you don't want to be that person that's like, yeah, yeah, everything's fine. You know, I think you have to chill. You have to chill. No, you want it. You want to be someone that's like impeccable with your word. So if you mean something and you need to call someone out on something, you also are going to love them up at a different point in their life and they're going to know they're getting the real you.

Yeah, I think I'm just going to echo what all you guys are saying too, and I'm trying to, like, think of scenarios in, like, Bachelor and The Mansion when it's, like, different people are on different sides of things and you want to make everyone happy, and, like, trying to just keep everyone happy is never going to work out. So just find what – You're always going to piss somebody off no matter what. Yeah, it's never – so it's just, like, be neutral, do what's best for you.

Girls are crazy. Girls are – yeah. We're so crazy. on that note i wonder why guys don't want to date anyone on the bachelor the craziest of the crazy um last thing did you get a whole lot of free stuff though did you get a big suitcase full of like junk goods yeah you get it you get like a carry-on size suitcase when you it's actually good stuff you'd want to use i still have a lot of it i still use the suitcase and there's one dress that i still wear um and like some good jewelry and

stuff, and I think we got some of your stuff, maybe. No? No, I've just sent you stuff. Oh, okay. I made that up. On that note, you guys, we want to thank Sarah for being here. Please check out her site at shelift.org, and you can follow her on social media at Sarah Haren. S-A-R-A-H.

It's not the other Sarah. It's the Sarah with an H. You can also follow us on social media at TheLadyGang, at Kelty Knight, at It's Becca Tobin, at Jack Vanek, and don't forget that we have very exciting news about our lady box that's coming out week by week so make sure you follow along so you can find out

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