LadyGang - Sophie Simmons on the LadyGang - Ep45

Episode Date: October 10, 2016

Sophie Simmons went to school for computer engineering & ended up in show biz! Hear how THAT happened, along with what it's like growing up in a Hollywood family, modeling & loving her body and curves, her greatest drugstore find, songwriting, and the true meaning behind "a tall tower on a cloudy day." See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey guys, it's your Lady Gang, Jack Vanek, Kelty Knight, and Becca Tobin. Thank you so much for subscribing on iTunes, and thanks for supporting the great sponsors who make it possible for us to have this much fun with you every single week for free. Well, what is this? Welcome to the Lady Gang. That's amazing. Say that again. The Lady Gang. Things are about to change around here.

Each week we catch up with Hollywood's hottest girl posse, Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek. This song makes me want to shimmy. Where's my palms? Hi, everybody. It's actually pretty funny that this is our theme song with the amount of, like, trash we talk about Taylor Swift. It's so true. Oh, my God, I never even thought of that.

Yeah, right? I like Taylor. I like her music. I love this song. I like her music, too. Hi, guys. We're not Taylor Swift. I am sad, lonely, unemployed actress Becca Tobin.

I'm not lonely. I'm engaged. across from me kelsey knight television host happy nice gal nice gal canadian her fun fact is that she is mohawk indian yeah i bet you didn't know that huh my grandmother was mohawk indian yeah so she's like what a fourth mohawk indian i guess do you think that's why my eyes are so squinty and small i don't think i just feel like i should have better hair yeah you did get the short end of that stick to my right jack vanek clothing designer and she can't fall asleep at night without watching curb your enthusiasm that's my lullaby it is your lullaby and um oh my fun

fact is that i am obsessed with flipping out on hgtv chip and joanna gains i want to be him i've never watched it oh wait flipping out is not chip and joanna oh my god not flipping out fixer upper it's hard there's so many great shows on that channel but i was watching flipping out last night and i think that's why i thought of it but which i also love yeah fixer upper what do they do fix up apartments they're in waco texas and they just take old they take the worst house on the block block and they turn it fix it up for free like the husband is like so jolly he is and then like and you can tell they still have like a crazy sex life oh that's cool do you and she's so friendly i watch them all the time and i'm wondering if they do have sex a lot they

definitely have sex a lot i wonder about old people just in general they're not old they're not old they're like our age oh yeah maybe a little older i assume they're old she's also like come sit down at my farm table and here's what we could do with your last five thousand dollars and it's always like at a cobblestone walk like it's just like in your dreams do they take the people's money or do they pay for it they know the people's money the people have a budget and then chip and joanna fix up just check it out just jack we can't this is the lady gang podcast not the fixer-upper after show come on all right so on that note it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no i'm starting okay okay so my good week

zach and i were driving down sunset and we're seeing we see one of our favorite topless buses star tour like the the the like vans that have the roofs cut off and there's all this like hot miserable fat people from the midwest yeah so we're driving down and we're at a stoplight and next to the on the other side of the tour bus is jeremy piven in a brand new like ferrari or some shit jerry piven does not have that much money that is a lease no he definitely does yeah he's getting residuals from entourage he's super rich but anyways he probably has a small wiener because he was driving like some sports car and he for sure is a small wiener guess what he did he got out he honked at the tour bus and waved oh he loved it he loved it yeah when you're

jerry me piven like what would you kelty knight would you do that of course you if you shot up to stardom and you were the next shot up cat katniss ever deemed in in the hunger games there's been many times i have driven up to the star van and been right beside it and thought you don't even know who's beside you right now oh my god i bet you have kelsey's like putting on her sunglasses like they're gonna miss me she probably rolls her window down like it's halfway out of her car like a dog i can't talk right now it's jilly roberts on the line that's amazing anyway i was like jeremy bivin you've just proven to me what i thought you were everything you were just like kelty that's amazing my bad week is this i think i've talked about this i'm sure i've talked about

this social media sometimes makes me hate people i love like i really but not us not you guys although jack you could settle down with your scott and snapchat i'm just gonna be honest right now i don't even i don't have anything else i follow you on snapchat because i want to see what you're doing okay i'm too boring by myself but watching scott when he was on the old mtv show that was good it was i'll take more of that that was gonna be my good when he would date my mom okay anyways so there you go there's a harsh reality but you're not actually the person that i what if it was so you're just like taking this moment to publicly no clearly i'm not passive-aggressive because i just told you that you put too much of your boyfriend on snapchat

whatever but i have friends multiple i'm not even thinking of anyone in particular but like i'm so sick of their social media personalities it's awful like made up like not made up ones but just like you're like you know you're not like the things that they post the like the the like i just i don't know it's just it's so weird you know and you're like i don't give a shit it's national reading day go go i only use that kind of stuff if it's relevant to my business i did use national donut day i just think it's hard i get it i think it's hard for me i'm just gonna say personally because a lot of people send me free dresses to wear on the inside and they expect an instagram and then i always have to post pictures of me like standing in a dress and i'm

like there's no good way to do this and then i feel like a douche bag no i don't think you look like a douche bag you do it in a way that it's like hey i'm at work and here's my cute dress guy and again that's part of your work it is and it's like it's not you being like look how fabulous my life is don't you wish you were me yeah it's like nobody wishes me i go to work at 4 15 in the morning like legitimately no one is like i'd love to be at work right now but but just p and it's not even people in the industry either it's like some people in the industry and some people that or not and i'm just like oh i wish that you could just not follow people and and not tell them or not have them know yeah that's what i like about snapchat like nobody can see who i'm following

right nobody can see who you're following but people can see if you look at their snap i can see if you looked at my snaps which you haven't been i'm just looking at your snaps all the time also you've way too many people looking at your snaps to know if i'm looking you do or yeah like a normal person well i'm just gonna play dumb and when they ask me why i'm not watching them on snapchat i'm gonna be like i don't even know how to work it i don't know whatever okay so anyways that was just my tirade yeah kelty all right here we go um so i saw this woman she's a very um well-esteemed broadway dancer named mary ann lamb do you know her she's a little five four beautiful beautiful woman now i feel like i'm outsing her but she'll never listen to this so

it's fine. Anyway, she was like big in the Fosse days. She's been in like a thousand Broadway shows and I ran into her and her skin, like I think she's in her late forties. Her skin looked insane, like good, amazing, so beautiful, so radiant. And I was like, Mary Lamb, what is your face secret? And she's like, I shave my face like a man every day. I've heard that's amazing. She's like, I shave it every day and it's like, I don't know what it is. So then of course, like any beauty junkie i go home that night and i'm like i'm gonna shave my face but i got like the little face shavers you know they come in like a tri-pack there's like a pink and yellow and a green from the beauty supply and so i start shaving my face and i was like yeah you know what this does make

sense less like little peach fuzz my makeup my cleanser like everything will get closer to my skin i like this idea and then i cut my face like litter like a giant cut across my cheek and that's like just literally my bad week have you been trying it after like to do it every day Does your face hair grow back a lot? No, it just grows back like little white peach fuzz. Like, I could do it again now. That's weird. It feels nice.

I heard that it is the most amazing thing to do for your face or make it go down way easier. Yeah, I agree. I think it looked great. And also, you don't know all the weird hairs you have on your face. Like, I did my mustache. I did my chin. I did my whole face, even around my little eyes where my latisse, like, had me grow some, like, dark hairs in my, like, below. Anyway.

Damn. Here's my good week. It's kind of not that good, but it meant a lot to me. So I had a little fight with my husband. That was a bad week because he was like making fun of my red lipstick and then also like sort of making fun of my dress. But he thought he was flirting and we had to have like a marriage discussion of like when you're teasing me, it's not flirting.

Like that's just making me cry. And then I cried for a while anyway. So I, I educated him on what a real compliment is and like when you should say a real compliment and not do a tease compliment. Like boy, you know, boys used to like punch you on the playground when you're a kid. I love a teasing compliment. i do too no i can't i'm not strong enough and so my husband i was driving home like we can't joke ever we can joke but it can't be like can't be like don't bring that red lip near me and i was

like you hate me anyway i'm very sensitive um so anyway i'm driving home from work and my husband sends me a text he's like great job on the show tonight and i was like oh wow thanks because sometimes he watches the show when i'm at home and he goes he goes you looked really hot in the blue dress oh he noticed and that's really nice and like number for two reasons a it was a nice compliment and two you understood my love language that's nice i think we're on versus coming up so we got another i feel like we got another year we can make it another year i think you can make it okay you can do it that's nice communication is key um okay so my good week is well kalty mentioned it a little bit ago but i keep forgetting to talk about it um but scott was on an episode of

date my mom when he was like 19 years old and his parents had like the vcr tape of it somewhere like hidden in their garage and they found it the other day and we watched it and it was the best thing i've ever seen in my entire life i don't know could you have sex with him after seeing that he's so cute on it he is yeah because he's like a little surfer like 19 year old kid from santa monica that thinks he's like the shit oh so it's like little bb scott but he was saying all these like sexually innuendo kind of comments on it about his mom no

so the date my mom it's the boy goes on a date with three girls moms and then mortifying and he's like setting the moms up with his dad no he dates the moms and then from the mom's dates he chooses which daughter he wants to date so does Scott want to be

famous did he have a little is that your snapchat his like is that his he's trying no but when he did you know how he got on the show are you being used i'm being used shit he got discovered when he was working at abercrombie and fitch he worked at abercrombie and fitch yeah says explained so much i know he's such a douche but it was so funny and i'm like you're adorable um so that was my good week i want to know how scripted was it because he was like actually

pretty good because he looked right at the camera he's like hi i'm sky i'm 19 and i'm things that are dangerous i like to do things that are like it was like is there a teleprompter like did you have some coaching i think that they they feed you lines because they fed them all these like stupid sexual lines i'm like your mom probably doesn't like that but um okay my oh okay i forgot what my bad week was but now i remember because it's really terrifying so everybody that's listened to her podcast probably knows how i feel about kitten heels they terrify me i think i almost have a phobia of them at some point in my life my mom was cleaning out um our house or their my parents house and she's going through all these old photos found a photo of me in kitten heels

i need to see it looking real good in high school holy shit these are real you chose these you wore them i chose them they're pointy toed kitten heels with the smallest little nugget aggressive heel i mean it's an aggressive shoe with a tiny little heel they were so pointed that they almost looked like elf shoes and they that's what it is at the front they look like but you're also wearing a shirt that says a sweatshirt that says danse i know let me see that i puffy painted it myself oh my god hold on i was a fashionista in high school oh my god yeah that's awful it's like a it looks like it's worn down are you wearing pearls oh my god you work instead of you cut those jeans yourself oh yeah that's back in style i ripped the jeans oh the bottom of them

yeah i cut the jeans i puffy painted the shirt i threw on some pearls and a kitten heel you looked great everybody check it out on the instagram account because it's at the lady gang the worst part of this though that i will end with is i know that picture is in my yearbook so i can never get rid of that that's amazing why would you want to get rid of it fashion icon what's coming up oh well we're very excited because today we have an outspoken activist famous daughter beautiful burnett and she's going to um tell us some really good hollywood stories because she's part of one of the most famous hollywood families around you're listening to the lady gang you guys i'm very very excited because we

finally added a burnett to the mix it's about damn time it is about the damn time our guest today is a reality star model songwriter singer did i say songwriter wrong no right songwriter singer instagram queen a famous air and anything but a boring brunette please welcome to lady gang sophie simmons yay welcome i want to start the interview by telling um you that i met your hot brother at a charity event this week i hear this a lot can i can i put in a fun fact really quick yeah you dated he was my roommate for a year really yeah whereabouts um in silver lake he lived with me for a year and i think he stayed at our house like twice yeah where did he go the rest he like half moved in yeah there was a mattress and like a trash bag full of clothing

and then he never like really moved in yeah that's why where was he still at with you was he staying at your parents house yeah at the parents house but we were also like i think it was his last year of college or something yeah he was had like half his stuff at college half at home and then he was like i don't want to live at college anymore i'll live in silver lake which he because did he pay the rent yeah yeah he paid the rent so you lived alone no we lived in like a six-bedroom house it was him and like five girls it was a really pretty house yeah it was beautiful that's hilarious and haunted but whatever honestly he came up we were at this charity at the hospital and he came up and like in his scrubs and i was like damn that guy's fine and then kids yeah for

many kids and i was like looking him up and i was like damn he's fine and then he was so tall i was like i'm sure he's a basketball player like i didn't really know him he hates when people ask if he plays basketball because he's like the opposite of an athlete he's so cerebral and like yeah he's a writer incredible writer yeah but anyway it's not nick nick simmons it's not about your hot brother it's about you being hot that's why you're here forget your brother he's out um but my first note i do want to note that my first note on my notes was brother is a babe now i'd like to go into this so you come from a showbiz family and you grow up in los angeles and you're in la and you can really choose to do anything and so why have you chosen this route

and why did you not shy away from show business um yeah i kind of chose all of the things like songwriting well if you can do everything everything was all the things right um luckily you can do all the things right would it be terrible if i like couldn't do anything yeah but i chose all of them i just like had to pretend i wasn't awful all the time um no i i did avoid show business for a long time and that's why like i went to a regular high school and a regular college and i went to school for computer engineering and i thought i was gonna like move to san francisco and like be a coder and like be mr robot pretty much um and then i just it wasn't something my heart was in like i just really hated what i did every day and i was like

this is probably what i'm not supposed to be doing because i don't like it um so i tried to find something where I would actually like showing up to work. And it started with going into the studio and writing songs. And I loved that because you get to kind of choose this endless buffet of options where you want a song to go. And I just thought that was so neat. And with coding, it's really just like you have to do it one way. You can create all these things, but you can't enter the code wrong or else nothing works. You know, it's a little limiting. But is there pressure though because dad's a musician so everyone's like well you'll never be your dad no i mean it's harder for my brother because he's a boy and there's like that that comparison yeah um and

he also my brother writes more of like rock-ish music i would say it's like blues-ish um and mine is like alternative pop so like it's not even on the same station it's not on the same shelf at a record store which don't exist because i'm old like on spotify we're old now yeah seriously um talk to me about the modeling because it has not been without its controversy yeah apparently like if you're above a size two and you model lingerie like it's raunchy or scandalous or sexy which is so crazy so i want everyone to know this this is an instagram photo of um josephine scriver who is a big victoria secret angel and you next to each other they're in the same pose wearing the same type of like a lacy thong kind of like a high-cut thong and like you get torn apart like what a

whore and josephine's like you're an angel she's also topless in the photo and i'm not what but like somehow everyone was like she looks beautiful and classy and she's a victoria secret angel but like this girl she's a whore and i'm like i don't understand why you would think that because we're both like really just trying to sell you underwear yeah um and in her photo she's actually like straddled on a bed and i'm just like standing smiling so there's like oh my god it could not be more different it could not be more different but there's this huge stigma of like if you have more butt that it's like worse and if you have a little butt then it's okay but it's such a triple stigma because it's like you want a little butt is okay if you have more butt it's

not okay but then if you have a big fake butt like you're a celebrated instagram model like it's so strange that you're like a regular woman trying to sell some money yeah because it's like the girl with the ass implants made out of cement has five million followers like it's just very bizarre true i hope please don't put cement in your butt don't do it please don't do it it's not good for you that's a good takeaway from the podcast please don't just don't yeah um are you ever embarrassed of your family's antics yeah of course i mean everyone's embarrassed of their parents i feel like yeah whenever your parents are like look at my child except like minor lingerie photos it's like a little bit more embarrassing like at thanksgiving dinner yeah

my mom will be like at the nail salon showing her nail tech she's like look how beautiful my daughter is and i'm like that is my butt and i'm right here like maybe not right now maybe like not right this minute that's cute but what have you learned because some people go crazy when they grow up in a showbiz family they like fall off the deep end because it's like we you you're used to a certain kind of life and so you lose your mind what have you learned my parents weren't real like showbiz parents they didn't let us do whatever we want and they didn't give us unlimited funds like we had to work for everything we had we didn't have allowance they didn't believe in that they didn't think we should just get money for no reason um so did you have to do jobs around

the house jobs around the house but actual like real jobs like go get a job like i watched dogs and i babysat and then i was old enough i'd be so pissed if i were you i mean like if we all like wish our parents could just take care of us for a whole life but i'm i'm thankful that they started us early because then i wasn't afraid to go into job interviews and like be rejected or you know like a work ethic yeah yeah and it's scary going into the workforce out of college if you've never done it, but because I had already done it, I was fine, like filling out applications and applying for things. And that didn't scare me at all. Um, so what would you say to our girls, all of our girls that are graduating from college one or two years that are going to have to be in your

position, like going out into the world, finding jobs online, applying, sending resumes. I mean, I would say start early and don't be afraid to fail. It's okay to apply for a job that you're super underqualified for. It's good that they're seeing you now. And then when you come back and apply again and you are qualified they'll see that you've grown um and a lot of people just are they say i don't have that skill set i'm not going to apply but you never know yeah maybe you have something that they're looking for and so what if you didn't take the class that they wanted you to take and i feel like more often than not people are getting jobs that they aren't necessarily on paper perfect for and if you let that limit you and stop you inhibit you from going after it

it's like you're you're a sitting duck and like you just have to jump at the opportunity nobody's going to be the perfect person for any job yeah i mean i wasn't i'm not the perfect person to be an underwear model i'm not i'm not a zero and victoria's secret was like we don't want her but adore me the company i work for was like we love you because you're not that thing so you're going to find that job that fits you perfectly even if on paper it's not so much what they were looking for most importantly talk to me about your eyebrows god i know we can't it's all honestly we want to know about your life but i know the three of us very well and we're brow obsessed what have you did you ever have a bad brow stage have they been like this since you were a child

i accidentally waxed off half my eyebrows like a year ago and they grew back yeah sorry jack i didn't wax them like too short i waxed them like this way like oh like like laterally who did someone did it to me only on one side i was like oh no everything has shifted left it was just it was bad and so i had to like pencil in half of my left brow for a year oh my god and those trick was i just didn't touch them for a year and they were gross and like there was hair all down here and over here but i just didn't touch them and then the other day i like went into the place to get them done again and i had them pencil it first and then wax it off went back to the same place no i went to a different place okay i'm not gonna go back to my girl i'm back to that same

girl who whacks my face no and and they and they fixed it where the trick is to not touch it um i went to anastasia's and beverly hills to fix it yeah yeah yeah i mean they're they didn't wax it off some of the best brows i've ever seen would you agree yes yep thanks okay what has been your ish moment what's the moment where you thought i have made it this is it um i i mean i got a call from my modeling agency and I thought like I'm really not going to ever book anything for modeling and I had gone on several hundred go sees and they were like yeah you're not the small enough person and or you're not big enough like I'm kind of that in between and I thought you know maybe I should just not model anymore because I'm just not ever gonna

get booked and then I got the call from a dormie saying like we want you to be the face of our thing i was like are you sure is this a mistake did you mean to call someone else like i was just because it i didn't feel like that was something that would happen for me especially in modeling like lingerie you have to be really in shape because that's you're selling how good a bra looks on your body and there's nothing to cover it up um and then they were like yeah we're sure it's you i was like okay cool and then i like immediately started eating salad and like trying to be healthy at like the last minute yeah you have 24 hours and you're like juice i love it it's so good i was like yeah i've been juicing for 12 hours i'm such a veteran

that's amazing do you have a mirror message an inspirational mantra that you perhaps write or print out and tape up to your mirror i do i do you know what hold my hand a lot hold my hand it's us together sophie i wish i had a photo of that i do these a lot i don't know why more people don't maybe because you look nuts when people come to use your bathroom and that's what becca says all over your mirror that's like i love myself they're like yeah um but i take them down when people come over because they don't think i'm nuts they're on sticky notes but i have one that says tall tower on a cloudy day and it's just about like being higher than than the crap underneath you i like rising i like that yeah

I like that because it's a metaphor. It's a metaphor and it's like no one else will get it. It's just for me and that's what they should be. I'm literally writing it down. I'll find a new one. It's going on my mirror tomorrow. It's fine, Kelsey. You can have her mantra.

I love that. That is a really good one. Yeah, that's not lame. I mean, it shouldn't just be like love yourself today because you don't really connect with that. It should be something like only you understand. You know what? I'm going to be Instagramming a picture of my mirror message inspired by you.

You're going to look at my mirror and think I'm a psychopath. Slightly tall tower. all my sticky notes well since i also have like don't forget to pick up milk all those two that are up for like like where do you get the power from yeah change your sheets yeah um when we come back we have a like a lady the question about being fake rich now back to the lady gang we're back the like a lady question of the week is i think gonna help a lot of people out there because we can't all afford to go to bloomingdales to buy our products sometimes we have to buy things at the drugstore so i want to

know what is one drugstore item that you swear by jack vanek um i have two i'm gonna break the rules shocker jack wants to break the rules of the show the only child um one is i have seven my first one is uh from sax it's la mer eye cream it's three hundred dollars um that saint ives apricot scrub oh yeah that's the bomb it's like five dollars it's the only exfoliator i use and then this burt's bees tinted chapstick yeah i love a burt's bees bomb when you go on a vacation a nice tinted lip balm okay i know it's good i love a good becky tobin mine is l'oreal mascara which one the one in the just basic gray with the voluminous yep voluminous i feel like all drugstore drugstore

mascaras are better than like designer mascara they say that the drugstore makeup that doesn't have to do with like color pigment pigment is actually just as good as something you'd find it i use that mascara too yeah yeah um i recently found these makeup brushes at right aid i don't if anyone has discovered these yet well they will now but like you know right aid like revamped their floor plan and they're all like super nice inside now so if you like venture into that like cosmetic section on the side there's these black and purple brushes and they are the best brushes i have ever found i i threw out like my mark jacobs brushes like they they like look like crap compared to these organic weird brushes yeah and they're going well i trust you because your brows look

amazing mine is um the nivia enriched lotion in the blue yes yep yep i have been using that forever there is not a lotion that i would rather slather on my dimpled ass than that nivia it's very good so we figured out your drugstore finds and when we come back sophie's gonna help us figure out our lives well not our lives we've already got this figured out your lives ask the lady gang all right so you're gonna help us answer some of our questions written by our fans um but before but jack what before you do that where can people write in their questions oh you guys can write in your questions at hello at lady the lady gang.com just the website or just no jack no he's like our tutor right now and giving hello lady gang at gmail.com and

the lady gang.com 10 months guys 10 months i can never remember that email address for the life of i know it's tough maybe you should send me more love notes continue okay um before we start if you guys want 20 off jack fanning.com use code lady gang and buy yourself some shit i brought you some presents yay okay our first question comes from felicia bye bye actually it's felicia b so it is felicia bye felicia bye probably hate i'm so sorry i really like the name felicia hates to be named felicia oh no okay i've got a huge problem the only time i've ever been able to orgasm is when i'm solo and watching porn i'm not in a relationship but i feel like it's becoming an issue any tips on how to improve my situation i feel like if you're not in a relationship it's

not an issue yeah because that seems like it's fine um but my my best friend actually has this problem and she like wasn't able to orgasm until she met her recent boyfriend and we've decided that it's because she's never actually liked anyone that she's slept with and i feel like for me whether that's just like physical attraction or emotional attraction like there has to be that spark for you to get going otherwise like you're just kind of laying there thinking about something something else i was exactly like that i don't be like she's sleeping with the wrong people is what i'm saying yeah i think i like that especially if you're an emotional person even if you're just having sex and it's like a physical thing i think that there's

still something lacking like that happened to me i don't think i could have an orgasm for like two years until i met my boyfriend what i'm with now that i'm like in love with and there's it's like an all-encompassing thing it's not i mean it's not an uncommon problem i feel like a lot of women well because when you watch movie when you watch movies when you watch movies she's so classic what's this fancy movie i hate you all and you're new and i hate you too with the nivia no when you watch movies it looks like these women orgasm in five minutes yeah there have been times like literally this week i'm watching tv it's 7 11 and my show is

coming on at 8 and i'm like we have 49 minutes you've cut that's 49 minutes and like it took that long sometimes it takes a long time what the hell are you doing literally what are you doing like brushing feathers on each other like is this the most insane foreplay ever it was you guys we've got 50 minutes. No, but we have got an orgasm. I feel like I could get pregnant and have a child in 50 minutes. I feel like I have this similar thing

except I'm like, okay, we have 10 minutes. The bachelor comes on at 8. We need to hurry up because this commercial break is only going to be five minutes long and I need to get snacks before it starts.

I just think you've got to fit a snack in too. You have to cut time for snack and also getting dressed after. And going and peeing. Going and peeing. A little wipe. A wipe see-through. We did finish with 10 minutes to spare.

You had to finish for 30 minutes? That's for 39 minutes. It's not a race, okay? But here's what I'm going to say. Clearly. It's not a race, but I'm going to say that some... Is it the most sensual, beautiful experience you've ever had in your life? I really want to know.

I feel like it happens in slow motion. Can we watch you guys? It was amazing. I have to happen in slow motion. But I think there's... I take a little bit of time to orgasm. But was he, like, going down on you for, like, 25 minutes? No.

You're having sex the full 40 minutes. No, no, no. There was, like, kissing. There was making out. and then there was like level two then there was like close off

then there was like some zhuzhing with the hands so it was a full on seduction happening is that a full seduction I just call that sex I feel like Felicia could use some of that

yeah because I feel like a lot of people after being with someone for like even a couple weeks they kind of get over like the making out thing

yes making out is very underrated I hate making out what I do too I don't like drinking someone's spit I don't either

I can't get past it I'm a spitaphobe and I really don't like it I'm too oh we've talked about that I also don't like when people like kiss your body and leave a little spit mark i hate the smell of spit on skin i hate it's just

it's all gross you know what i know you're new to the lady gang but i really like you when you had that bachelor comment it like cinched it in for me that i became an instant yeah no super i could hate somebody and they said something about bachelor and i'd be like well how do you feel about the fact that i hate the bachelor i don't really like you we all love to hate the bachelor i hate that i watch it so religiously have you ever watched it though yes that's the worst have you ever had like a checkerboard like where you scored people and stuff that's what makes it fun you gotta turn into that but you know what i do is i follow everyone in the beginning and then as they say something like i pretend like i'm the bachelorette

and then as they say something i don't like i unfollow them and then i have my final choice wait like on twitter yeah that's brilliant because i'm verified and they can see that i followed them and then unfollowed them oh so it's really an elimination you're so mean you know what i should do i should start tweeting out roses every week to the people that stay you should and i followed chad for all of five seconds oh my god he got out of the limo and i was like okay chad blah blah looked him up follow and then as soon as he said something i was like and unfollow and we're done my god you know you should do is tweet them the everybody arose and then a skull for the person that leaves or palm tree because they're gonna go to bachelor in

paradise yeah i'm too invested i love it so much okay we have to move on or else i'm gonna keep talking about it um thank god our next question comes from britney and she says i've been friends with this girl for over 10 years and we've both been through our fair share of bad experiences we both are usually there for each other but lately she's been putting me down and taking her bad luck out of me i'm not a sensitive person but she has recently said things that of rubbing me the wrong way i've tried confronting her and she just makes it a big deal i would like to save this friendship but it's just making it almost near impossible help i'd say cut her out of your life there's nothing wrong with that i've just started cutting people out of my life and

then when they decide to be a good like not saying i'm cutting you out of my life but just stop talking to them you tweet them the skull i treat them the skull and then they're off the island um no just stop talking to that person and then when they want to be a real friend they're gonna reach out and ask you to go to lunch or something but it as you get older there's no reason to waste your time on trying to make other people happy yeah yeah life is too short to be friends with shitty people it's yeah if she's making a big deal that you've brought up a feeling you've had that's incorrect because feelings are neither right nor wrong they are how you feel and no one can tell you that you're incorrect in feeling that way so you've brought it up that's

that's the most you can do yep and now that you've acknowledged it just stop talking to this person don't be the first one to reach out putting you on ice i like to put people on ice you're not killing them you're not throwing them away but you're just letting them chill and you can go back and there's nothing wrong with that that's actually part of growing up and relationships go through a lot of ups and flows yeah and a lot of stages and like you know you putting her on ice and her feeling that maybe she'll have a little bit of a come to jesus about what why she's driving people away or she will just not contact you and then you'll know yeah for real and then you won't have a shitty friend yeah and it sucks it sucks learning like that your friends are flawed because

when we're younger we think our friends are the best things in the whole world yeah um but everyone's just people yeah so it's all right and as you get older it's like your friend group gets really small super small and you just want those like people that are your people and i just always say life is stressful enough and i'm trying to just only add non-stressful people into my circle so if you make it hard for me like i don't care if you have the best intention like i'm a texter so don't call me like i anyone who ever makes me feel guilty about not hanging out like that friend that's like oh my god i haven't seen you in so long i hate that are you alive are you alive you're like yeah you would know if i died all right i'm alive the only reason you would need

the i'm alive text if you were like i'm in a scary uber i'm texting you a license yes like please check that i'm alive no you should i'm alive that's true if the person might be dead don't send me don't make me feel so guilty it is hard sometimes because i think our friends especially they see us on social media and so you're like well if you have time to post an instagram you have time to call me no it's my job this is my job like this is different like i didn't you know i'm anyone that makes it hard you're out i don't even put on ice also the entertainment industry is really weird too because we work literally all day long and you're going like meeting to meeting to set to haunt like you're doing things all day long so when someone's

like just take an hour out of your day i'm like i don't even eat lunch bitch i cannot take an hour yeah like i will see you on sunday when everyone is home maybe maybe yeah if i'm not at hot yoga trying to get zen about my life mic drop okay our last question comes from danny uh i don't know if this is a girl or boy i guess we'll figure it out um she or he says i'm 19 years old and i just completed my first year of college in manhattan back in november i met this guy at a club and we hit it off very well we see each other out often and every time we do i go back to his apartment with him he probably thinks that i'm just a booty call i want to tell him i have i want to tell him i have feelings what would you guys do in this kind of situation and what's the best way to get

over him if i should just move on clarifying questions how long have they been doing this back in november she met him so a while getting up on a year kind of um you know i i feel like nowadays booty calls really aren't a thing and if it is then you know that you're that one because you really get like almost disrespectful line crossing texts um or like dick pics i feel like you only get unsolicited dick pics if you're like the side piece well unless that's like a thing you guys do but like anytime any person in my phone that sends me a dick pic first of all gets put in an iCloud folder oh yeah and I'm waiting for it to get hacked but they get put in the folder but I know that like that's a booty call person yeah but there are people that I see out and like

you've always had that person and feelings for them and you always go home with them like I feel like we all have that person and it's okay to be like you know I really like doing this with you we should try doing this not starting at a club yeah i feel like that's fine and he obviously likes you enough to keep going home with you for nine months i disagree i think if it started as a booty call you're always going to be in the booty call zone did it start as a booty call though they said that they met in a club but that's not that's not a booty call a booty call is like they're calling you late at night after you hit it off they see each other and every time we go back to his apartment that's because you're the girl that's out at the bar yeah why are you out

so much sorry what is it i think there's men men look at women and they're like this is my wife this is wife material and this is material yeah yeah and i think they put you in a different category you can sleep with someone on the first date and still end up marrying them yeah it seems like this is a year-long night time only red light zone i think that men are really simple if he unless he's a total pussy if he wanted to pursue something with you he probably already would do you do you sleep over that's another valid question right do you pack it up you're like let me put my stuff back in my backpack do you like go to the club going i know i'm gonna see ryan or whatever his name is and like bring your stuff with you because then that's a booty

call yeah but if you like both know that you're both gonna be there and it's almost like a planned we're gonna meet and like have a then does that count as like a modern date night we need more clarification i need i need more and we need to talk about this she's becca sitting there just rolling her eyes i didn't roll a single eye i am doing a head shake only because she's 19 or he yeah he or she is 19 and if he wanted you to be your your boyfriend or if he wanted you to be his boyfriend or girlfriend i think this is a girl named danny i don't know um i think that it would have come up already and i think that he would have tried to see you like i don't know in daylight or you know but he it it don't take it personally because he's probably pretty young too

well he's just having fun there's nothing wrong with that she said she met him at a bar and she's 19 i know that's the thing they're probably all might be canadian oh it might be canadian yeah yeah wait that's our that's good idea oh my god either way i don't know if this is your long-term person so just chill i would just put it on ice but also like anytime you have a feeling i feel like my feeling says that you should tell them because it's it'll also just take the worry out of it because then you've said it and then you'll know like i don't know why people spend nine months wondering if someone likes you back and you keep going home with them yeah when on probably month three you should have been like look i like you um if not i still want to go home with you

because i have fun with you but like what are your thoughts on hanging out yeah yeah just be honest you know what you're coming back thanks where can people read because i know you have blog as well i do i have where everyone can where if you want more of these gems of wisdom that you have not been getting at the lady game podcast you have some good soundbites that we don't have we might need to go to for a second opinion where can we read you can go to no filter.la which is an online magazine i run but it's not all just it's not all me it's we have 25 contributors from eight countries so you get a lot of different people's perspectives but you can also write in there's like a contact thing so you can ask questions or you can just like tweet at me or instagram me

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