LadyGang - The Secret Life of a Dominatrix

Episode Date: January 7, 2020

This week we’re getting a little kinky with our super special, sexy, secret Dominatrix guest. Learn the ins and outs of how it all works, common misconceptions, some gossipy kinks from some very important clients, and maybe even a thing or two for YOU to try. Shout out to today's sponsors! Daily Harvest – Get $25 off your first box at dailyharvest.com using promo code LADY. Fabletics – Get 2 pairs of leggings for just $24 at fabletics.com/ladygang.   Purple – Get a free purple pillow with your purchase of a mattress by texting LADY to 84-888.  Stamps – Start your trial including free postage and a digital scale by going to stamps.com, clicking on the microphone at the top of the page and enter code LADYGANG.  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Well, what is this? Welcome to the Lady Gang. That's amazing. Say that again. The Lady Gang. Things are about to change around here. Each week we catch up with Hollywood's hottest girl posse, Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek. Hello, hello, hello, and welcome to the Lady Gang.

I'm Becca Tobin here with Jack Vanek and Kelty Knight. Hello. Wow, that was like almost a harmony. I really want to tell you my good week. okay well it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no guess what sock haters socks help you orgasm huh oh sock haters sleeping and do socks help you orgasm here's why this random trick actually leads to hotter sex sick because your feet are actually hot sex socks help you orgasm because it turns out that wearing them during sex keeps your body covered

and it helps you to feel more satisfaction. There was a study that did and it looked at people's brains when they're climaxing and the people that had socks on felt a stronger scan. Who's paying for this study? Where did you find this study? It's probably like a sock company. I know. It's probably a sock company.

Yeah. What website's that? Only 50% of the regular. It's like socks.com. You know, only 50% of the couples regularly achieved orgasms. And when you put socks on them, 80% achieved orgasms. That's such a lie. If you want to wear, have an orgasm, wear your socks to bed.

Bad week. I'm in neighbor jail. I went down to the park with my dad in a hacksaw. We tried to cut a tree that was falling on my yard, but technically was in my neighbor's yard. And my neighbor yelled at me. This is the third time this year I've been in neighbor jail. I think it's me. You think?

Common denominator. I fucking hate neighbor jail. is there because you can never leave well stop you can't also just stop angering your neighbor stop doing shit that is outside of your fault my you drove too fast down my street that was the first time i was a neighbor number one i did not you can't drive fast on your street because it's tiny and it just you just cannot well you were driving too fast your neighbor is a dick no he's not brad i love you so much sorry about your tree he was pissed that we were same neighbor no he was pissed that we were filming lady gang tv and we had 50 people at your house not that my one car

was driving eight miles an hour instead of five i have like the nicest neighbor ever who has a fluffy white dog and he was like hey man like i just gotta tell you like i'm a pretty cool guy and this is pretty annoying yeah it was annoying for us yeah okay anyway anyways okay i'm gonna go number one i'm never going to accept that sock fact well i'll be sending you the article from psychology daily from socks.com from buy these socks to orgasm.com okay my good week is uh our lord and savior hoda posted my quote on instagram what yep hoda hoda cobb yeah posted copy oh copy copy copy posted jack vanek quote no with my name in it no you're so famous did you get more followers didn't tag me so no i didn't get what quote uh very long it's you're the books you read

the films you watch it's like this long quote i wrote when i was emo when i was younger i had it in the back of a jacket i think oh did you what's crazy to me is i was like what's the title to our book and jack's like i don't know and i'm like but you can birth this 15 sentence quote for hoda the title for a book is just never gonna happen okay my bad happened it's too late there they're still asking us what okay anyways my bad week i was on the plane the other day i get up to go to the bathroom and i'm walking down the aisle and i look at my left and there's this girl that is eating a full bowl of ramen ramen is a weird choice for a for a plane did she get it from a restaurant at the it was in i would have to it would no i don't it's a liquid that's true

but it was in a plastic seemed like a not throwaway plastic bowl she brought her own b-y-o-r b-y-o-r ramen but you can't she added the hot water at the airport maybe i don't know but then Anyways, I go to the bathroom, I come back, the ramen can spill all over her seat. Hit turbulence while we're in the bathroom, walked back out, a total mess all over her lap. But that's why you don't eat ramen on the plane. I'm sorry. What do you expect? That's a terrible plane food.

There's no soups, please. Just as a reminder, never accept the coffee or tea from an airplane. Yeah, I just read that whole article about it. My girlfriend told me like 10 years ago, she's a flight attendant. And it said that sometimes they accidentally put the bleach that's supposed to go in the toilet one in the water one and they have to clean it out. And then you're like basically drinking chemicals. No, it's not the chemicals.

It's the poo. Yeah. It's like. That's why they say not to. Because they use the airplane water. Right. But if you're. They can probably get away with it.

Poo is everywhere. They probably can get away with it because if you boil water enough, it's supposed to kill the bacteria. It's true. But I. If I'm desperate, I'll still drink it. We're all showering in poo water. I got on a JetBlue flight actually a couple days ago.

Terrible. in flight by the way um and the flight attendant the pilot was getting off like he had obviously they'd all flown there together and they they were loading us on and he's like do you guys need anything from the airport and she both flight attendants asked for a hot cup of water oh and i was like they won't even drink they won't even drink they know so bad anyway maybe i should talk about my bad flight yeah bad week bad week i am very loyal to delta because i'm I'm from Atlanta, and I just think that their planes are newer. I think that it's just better.

But then I was flying to New York, and I was like, oh, I'm going to do JetBlue. And also JetBlue now flies to Burbank. And Burbank is a much better airport than the shithole LAX. It's much smaller. I'm closer to you. I get on this plane, and I'm in an exit row. I don't have an armrest. Like, you know how you book a window so that you can put your arm on the armrest

and then lean against the window. No armrest. Rude. The TVs were like two inches and there was no Wi-Fi. Because you flew out of Burbank. They put the shittiest plane at Burbank. They put the shittiest planes at Burbank. I knew they would do that because Chris was like,

I should take it out of Burbank. I was like, nope. That's where planes go to die. They get you. It's the shittiest plane I've ever been on. It was such a bummer. Like no Wi-Fi, no movies to order. Such in the six hours I was trying to get in touch with you

and I was like, there's no way she's not on her phone. You always Wi-Fi on a plane. Six hours. You have to Wi-Fi on that flight, especially. No Wi-Fi and no movies. You're just sitting there staring at the ceiling. You just have to think about yourself. And no chargers for your phone.

I was on a plane like that the other day. What is this, the Dark Ages? Yeah, I'm sorry. I was fully planning on having power. That airplane belongs in a graveyard. Trash it. Let it die in Burbank. Delta forever.

Okay, here's my good week. I am obsessed with a TV show. I don't even know if my blood has felt this titillated in some time. It is a titillating show. It's called Rock the Block on HGTV. What do you do? It is. Is it like a punk rock?

No. It's four of their design stars. Yeah. You know, Leanne Ford is like. Yeah, sure. She's like my special godlike figure. Leanne, this girl Mina that does Good Bones, that show. Oh, Good Bones, yeah.

And then there's the girl from Chicago. Oh, that does Restores the Old Houses. Yes. With the beautiful hair. Yes. Beautiful hair. And then there's a girl named Jasmine who does another show. And they all compete.

They're given the same exact spec house on the same street. Four houses. And each week they compete. For room to room. For room to room. And it is. I love that. So good.

I love that. Guys, you're home for the holidays. get that shit on demand rock the block but you're welcome rock the fucking get leanne ford on our podcast i'll make a note right she's a dream she's leanne ford the problem is she's just so much cooler yeah you know she's got vibes her cool factor is just so good she's like you to me yeah totally that's how i felt when i was watching it yeah you're like i'm definitely the leanne of this group um okay when we come back it's time to get sexual now back to the lady gang all right so today's episode is a little bit different than anything

we've ever done at the lady gang before for the first time ever our guest is going to be anonymous our guest today is a dominatrix she's been trained by the top doms that's like dom speak in the world and is a member of the most illustrious house of domination in los angeles she's taught classes at domcom didn't know that existed and has been in numerous fetish publications and films she has multiple celebrity and high profile clients and she does this all while living a totally normal and separate life to the outside world please welcome to the lady gang our anonymous dominatrix well we are so excited we talked about this since we were doing the tv show we're like oh we should have someone come and tell all the secrets so we're so excited

to have you thank you for being how um i didn't even know this existed till i watched season two of pose do you watch pose no you've asked me 800 it's so good and you would love it anyway so on pose one of the girls who's like a model makes her side living from like being a dominatrix and then she puts a guy in a suit and he ends up like choking on his own barf and dying but i think that's like just the tv world that is a uh dramatized version of what goes on yeah okay so what exactly is a dominatrix um great question i'm probably gonna use some words and language that is you might not understand so feel free to stop me if there's something that you need me to clarify okay a dominatrix is a bdsm practitioner that stands for bondage discipline sadism and

masochism so people visit a dominatrix for a fetish experience typically there is no sex involved this is what surprises most people buster that is everybody thinks that yes that you're having sex with these clients and you're not at all no sex and no nudity i never get naked whoa so what's the difference between a dom and a sub so a dom also known as a top is a person who is in charge in control of the situation they're the leader and the sub the submissive or the bottom those words are all used interchangeably okay is the person who is uh having the experience essentially done to them but like it's a so it's not a sex but it's a sexual experience right it's a power exchange are these subs getting off are they like climaxing to orgasm so great

question that varies practitioner to practitioner okay it depends on the scene it depends on that person's fantasy what they want some people love the denial of it some people don't it varies personally i am typically one to withhold most of my sessions do not end in climax i have a question so you're part of the like one of the most the illustrious house of domination in Los Angeles like what is it like a real is it like a house like yeah can you explain this can I ring the doorbell it's considered like can I ring the doorbell it's considered a dungeon right a quote-unquote dungeon is it an actual dungeon um do you go down the stairs you do not go down the not underground it is a dungeon yeah um it is a beautifully appointed and decorated warehouse

in downtown los angeles in a secret location okay that you cannot get to unless you have an appointment with someone who works there it is absolutely gorgeous maybe later i'll show you guys pictures of it okay how do people find you yeah um there's a number of ways there are websites that um people can advertise on i no longer run ads because i'm not i don't take new clients anymore oh you have too many clients i just i don't take new clients because my my books have actually been closed for about a year and a half um damn but you can run ads um on certain websites social media up until recently actually was a huge um business platform for me and my instagram after having it for five years and having 12 000 followers got deleted

by instagram because they said that it was inappropriate when in reality i had no pictures that were even suggestive suggestive of nudity and is this this is the dumbest question ever is this legal not a dumb question because it's actually a legal gray area no it's not illegal um but it's one of those things that kind of rides the line of is this um is it an exchange range for of sex for money which it's not but a lot of people think that it is and it's kind of in a gray area so it's a tricky question right because they're not getting sex but they are it's a sexual but that's that's it's subjectively sexual i think right exactly depending on the person and the act and the thing that's why it's like cops can zing you for it right but um

typically they don't go after doms okay so a celebrity comes in does like let me stop you right there yeah celebrities don't just come in okay they only come to me by referral okay so you it's not like like brad pitt george clooney everybody's lining up to get into the dungeon well okay well here's my question a lot of times when you go to celebrities houses they make you sign an nda at like the gate before you even get to their house so i assume when they make an appointment with you that there's some sort of non-disclosure happening we both sign one with each other mutual does every client sign an nda for your like on your there's an an agreement it's an like a it's almost like a waiver oh how much like can you say like how much

money can you make doing this it's obviously you can ballpark like yeah ballpark so like how do you somebody that's starting off how much do you think they'd make and then the the like number one dom how much would they make and where is the you can easily make your entire living six figures plus doing this easily is it a per session type of fee like you go get a massage typically it's per session and then on top of that you can do other media so selling videos photos i make a ton of money just selling photos of my feet this is why we found you yes should we start selling feet photos um not unless you're prepared to deal with the type of people who want to buy your feet photos and and is that an interesting type do you think typically actually

they're i maybe i'm just really lucky but i've dealt with some of the loveliest clients just great guys who like the way my feet look and i'm happy to make send you a custom set of photos for a hundred dollars for six pictures wow okay ever fallen in love with a client i played amazing um have your clients ever bought you gifts tons of gifts it's one of the big perks yeah one of the biggest perks is that um there's a thing called a tribute and a way to get a mistress's attention is to tribute so a tribute is a gift of cash or off your amazon wish list so i have an amazon wish list and if a client sends me an email or and i don't reply or wants to get my attention for a session like my books are closed so if you want to get my attention you

really have to what's the best gift um i have a client who lives in italy he comes to see me flies in from italy to see me he has a high heel fetish so every before every session he sends me a brand new pair of italian shoes that is tight um okay do you wear one of those latex outfits oh hundreds of them like okay because are they the most uncomfortable yeah is your sweat real talk they're gross they probably smell but i went on glee or the cat one right did you sweat into your shoes i sweat to the point where it was shooting out of my wrist like at the end of the sleeves every time i moved is that why the latex outfits are considered sexual because they're like you know your body's all wet in there or is it just the way it looks it's the way it looks it's

the way it feels it's knowing that there's nothing in between you and another person except for rubber I mean it's turned on right now if you guys want to hear kind of a story that might freak you out as if you're a vanilla but actually it's kind of hilarious I did a session once in a latex cat suit and I had my client tied to a table and I dripped my sweat into his eye on purpose no way that sounds like an eye infection oh no he loved it oh my god what is the weirdest thing that somebody has requested from you that's a pretty weird he didn't request do people get to request or do you just do whatever they can absolutely make requests so before somebody books a session they fill out an application on my website they talk about what they want they've obviously reviewed what i want

and then we have a negotiation before it starts which talks about where what do you like what do i like where do we meet in the middle what's a hard no for you yeah you know what are your limits okay always the first and foremost thing is everything is consensual so they're allowed to make requests but i'm also allowed to not grant them because i'm allowed to have limits too the weirdest thing that i've ever had like the weirdest kink somebody's had pooping on you that's a hard limit for me yeah no poop it has been requested but that is absolutely a no um this is gonna sound really simple but i had a guy who had a knee fetish and he wanted to come and rub lotion on my knees for an hour and that's

all he wanted to do but my knees are so ticklish i could never do that a knee fetish and so i said of course you want to rub lotion on my knees for an hour they're kind of ashy come on over no way guys are so weird do all these appointments happen at the dungeon yeah i um i've done what's called out calls in the past meaning i'll go typically to a hotel um i don't do them anymore i just it's too much work sounds like it could be sketchy um yeah okay so you how do you come up in this like how do you get discovered and then trained and then like how do you get your first session or you go to mall and then someone's like oh my god it's you you're a star i'm queen um so how do you come up in this i started because i took a class oh with um i'm gonna

leave names out just for the sake of everybody but one a very very well known um dominatrix And I had met her in my real life job, just kind of cross paths. And we had chatted a little about what she did and what I did. And she was like, you should come to my class. It's like a women's empowerment class. And I thought, maybe. It sounds kind of fun. And I could use a little boost.

And so I took her class. And I realized, oh, I'm actually so good at this. This is a thing that I've been designed for my entire life. and so I thought well I mean what if I could make a little extra money on the side and I guess I'll put up an ad and right see what I can do and so you know it's a very small community so once you get connected you um you know I had found a met a friend who would let me use her space this was before I was at the house that I have now and you know it just kind of snowballs from there social media is a big um yeah conduit for growing your business is there an archetype

of a certain client that wants this type of experience like in billions you know how he's like a high-powered whatever and he wants that exchange of power well it has to be somebody that has money because it's not cheap so you would think that it's always these super high-powered people with tons of money which I'd say that's a third of my clientele I would say it's all different kinds of people i had a client who was an uber driver who would save up his money he could only see me twice a year but he would save up to see me wow and i had people from all different walks of life i had guys who invented apps i had guys who are distributors i had a guy who was an alcohol distributor who always brought me bottles of champagne every time uh academy award winners

uh high ranking um government officials in the city of los angeles that's what i believe now if if a guy comes and he's married since it's not sex it's not really cheating um his relationship and disclosure to his wife is none of my business we're doing a business transaction if he feels comfortable telling her cool if he doesn't cool it's none of my business i typically don't even ask and or no sometimes they want to share that information right what do you think of 50 shades of gray oh that movie god that movie really hurt us it did it made bdsm accessible in a way that i think was great because it made people want to explore but also so much of that was just an abusive relationship that is so true there was that

meme where it was like if christian gray i don't remember how to i don't remember what it was something if he was poor he would just be an abusive boyfriend yeah he was that whole that it's true it's true or like not as hot as he was he would be like right just be like um do you have a safe word is it like monkey banana mango i'm gonna i'm gonna bust another myth here and this is gonna make everyone really disappointed but there actually is a universal safe word in the community what is it red red red is like a universal safe word for almost everybody uses that because they'll use like yellow and red as like assessing if your client i also use mercy is the one that i'll use a lot mercy means like you need to back off but i don't want to stop

yeah so like if it's too much you can say like mercy and i'll back off a little bit but red means like session over we're done everybody drink some water let's talk it out and you have for a debrief um okay now if you're married to kelty and you're just having some regular old sex like is that so boring now if i was married to you okay well no so like can you like now that you're in this world can you go back and like just have like normal everyday married person sex civilian sex is a great way to say it um or did you even ever have civilian sex i did for a long time huh um i've always been a little kinky yeah i was thought that i was more of a sub when i was younger and then there's this thing kind of once you switch it's hard to switch back um when i

first started doing this professionally i had a lot of trouble dating and i'm sure it was a it was uh a disaster yeah um but now my uh partner is very understanding of all of it and there is an element to kink that runs threaded through our entire relationship so um what would advice would you give to someone who is listening and they're like wait this could be good for me um don't be scared to do your research okay and also don't be scared by what you find because there's varying degrees of everything that you could be interested in and talk to your partner about it and do the research together and don't spring it on them because that scares people and just take it slow dip your toe in one one one foot are the rooms red one of them is okay and then do you have like

i'm just thinking of that rihanna song chains and whips excite me oh nana come on so do you have handcuffs and chains like what props do you have like paddles literally hundreds of implements in the dungeon everything from um your classic bullwhip four foot six foot twelve foot oh vloggers in varying sizes paddles of wood of acrylic of steel we have one that's made out of the bottom of a shoe we have one that's an from a boat it's an oar we have a classic fraternity paddle we have canes of every material so bamboo acrylic plastic metal uh rattan oh i love rattan Oh, like a chair? Yeah, like a nice little retention chair.

But I'm going to beat you with it until you cry. Like a broom? Like a broom? Is there an on-site medical professional in case things get too, like, there's injuries, I imagine. No, there's no injuries. I'm sure something has gone awry. You're getting hit with a cane that's made of steel? You think everyone's going to walk away bruise-free?

No, they're bruised, but they're not like. I'm sure you've, there's, somebody has definitely gotten hurt doing this. at some point they pour like pour like hot wax to do the wax oh i love wax so we are all um everyone who works at the house that i work at is actually first aid certified oh that's a requirement of the owner wow but not everyone is like that i have a question do you have ball gags right do you reuse them we sanitize everything we use medical grade sanitizer on every surface in every implement are there std checks so no because there's no sex and this is the thing that actually kind of makes it a gray area is we put condoms on the client to protect them and us that's where it

becomes a legal gray area there you go that's smart though because like you can't keeping it clean and you can't stop somebody from not from having an orgasm right i mean if they're gonna But accidents happen, I'm sure. And you don't want all their sploogey everywhere. Try to act like a little bit nice around our guests. A little fancy. Sorry about Jack. She's trashy.

I have a question. Are they always naked when you're performing on them? So when I start a session with someone, I invite them into the room. And then I say, please undress to the level of your comfort. It's like a massage. Some people, it's everything. Some people leave their underwear on. it it varies the sensory impact is better if you have less clothes on

have ever turned down a client yes because they're too poor too ugly too ugly i typically actually don't know what they look like until they show up has somebody ever showed up and you're like you were so hot yeah like unexpectedly hot yeah someone shown up and you're like oh my god i just watched your movie last night yeah um okay what lessons have you learned in the dungeon that you take out to real life so i think the biggest lesson that i learned is whatever you look like and whatever you're insecure about there is someone out there fantasizing about that exact thing who thinks that you are the hottest thing on the planet.

I love that. Whatever it is that you're like, oh man, I have weird knees. There's a dude out there who wants to rub lotion on your knees for an hour. He's out there. It is true. We're all like tailor-made for someone else, right?

Yeah. Someone like loves a big horse face, right? Or my giant feet. I have huge feet. Size 10. But there's someone out there who wants my size 10 feet. That is so true. Oh, I love this.

I'm getting a bunion on my foot. Somebody's going to love that. Again, with the trash. Okay, last thing before we have you fix our girls' lives. What is one thing you want people to know about what you do and, like, the stigma around it? Oh, there's so much stigma about it being this scary, weird, freaky thing. When in reality, we all have these quirky urges deep down inside of us. People are just so scared.

there's so much shame around it and I think the biggest thing that when you're in the BDSM community and around all of these people is there's no shame it's a completely judgment-free zone everyone's allowed to be their truest weirdest self and if we could all be five percent less judgmental of other people the world would be a much better place and on that note well said When we come back, we're going to red your life. No, the other one. No, we're going to green your life. We're going to green.

Right, right. Red's the stop. Right, right. Okay, we're going to red your life. You're listening to The Lady Gang. Okay, we're back. So we have girls writing in questions, and we try to give them the best advice we can. All right.

Question one. We picked these questions for you. Great. Question one is from, is pegging for me? so i've been friends with my best friends since high school he and i are each other's quote one who got away we never really got our we've never really gotten our shit together but we did take each other's virginity and have a marriage pact yet we've been in and out of each other's lives for over 16 years i am so to say at least absolutely in love with them i've recently

gotten gotten out of a six-year relationship and guess who popped back up the sweet old sweetheart well we got a little tipsy and we were texting when he stated i know you've been having issues in your relationship and i like to be pegged it's clear you want me inside of you but maybe we can work something out that's mutually beneficial i am shook i guess my question is do i go for it even if i feel like i'm being a bit used and i'm in love with this guy or do i tell him that i'm not a piece of meat what's pegging it's where the girl wears a strap on and then has sex with the guy in the butt yeah how did i not know that existed i don't know not know that i mean i knew it i knew the strap-on existed we're really revealing how truly vanilla is right now in

this moment rude okay have you ever pegged anyone no wait do clients ask you to stick things in their hineys constantly really yeah all the time i have a huge request i have a disgusting question i must not be the only one thinking this but does any like i know does it get messy so experienced clients who who know the process clean themselves out beforehand they take an enema yeah yeah i'm aware of what they do i just wanted to clarify oh i don't know if they just wash their bowl no it's an it's an enema yeah yeah okay got it okay um what do you think this girl should do pegging oh does she peg no not in this situation no that is way too messy and complicated if you've never done pegging before please don't start there please don't start there don't peg with

emotions involved no peg a random guy you took home from the bar and just practice i couldn't have said it better don't start with a strap on start with a butt plug and work your way up because that hole is not prepared i mean but just not amen he seems like he might be prepared he seems prepared she's not though and that's more important okay that's true okay i just learn something every day here on the lady gang pegging okay second question comes from young and confused i'm 23 and my boyfriend is 30 we've been together for five years and have lived together for two up until about six months ago my boyfriend and i are on the same page about marriage and actively talk about what our wedding would look like but recently something changed and

now my boyfriend doesn't want to be married at all he thinks it's a waste of money he says it just makes for a more expensive breakup my heart is set on marriage and i'm not looking to get married tomorrow it could be five years from now i love my boyfriend but i'm afraid if he doesn't at least open his mind again to marriage then this might be a deal breaker you're not on the same path oh dump him dump him there's a big difference in my opinion between a guy that's like i want to get married i'm moving slower than maybe the plan you had in your mind is and a guy that's like, I don't believe in marriage. Those are not the same man.

You will end up married to one of them. You will not end up married to the other one. Well, also, if they've been... It's a more expensive breakup. If that's not the biggest red flag I've ever heard, you're 23. You've got your whole 20s to date douchebags. Just go date a couple more douchebags.

Get married in your 30s. I know. You don't need to get married anytime soon, girlfriend. Give yourself like 10 years. And also, I feel like all of my girlfriends who ended up with that guy that, quote, didn't really want to get married and didn't really want to have kids, they're kind of on a lone journey. Even though they're technically married to this man, they are pretty much raising the children alone. And they can't even ask for help because then the man says, this is what you wanted. So it's a very lonely ride if you're trying to talk somebody into.

They're never going to get there. You should never have to talk somebody into it. And I remember there was a point in my last relationship when things started going downhill where I remember thinking, well, I guess I'm in this alone. Yeah. And I'm sure that's how so many of these women feel because it's like you shouldn't have to make anybody try to marry you. They've got to want it more. They've got to want to marry you more. Yep.

Last question. They've got to want to peg you. Nope. No. That's not how it works. Not the right use. Okay. Okay.

The last question comes from Jane Doe. i've been dating my boyfriend for four years and i love him so much we don't really fight at all but the one thing we do argue about is that he really likes getting oral sex well i'm surprised the problem is i really hate giving it also surprise i'm just really freaked out about the taste of it and knowing what is causing that taste i also find myself gagging after just a few seconds of doing it any advice on how to make blowjobs not suck so much do it in the shower oh yeah yeah because then when they when they because then it's like you're eliminating the smelly ball odor that could be you know present present you don't have to swallow you

don't have to swallow you just spit it out right there or you even let him just do it finish it off himself yeah and so do you just get on your knees on the tile yeah i mean you're not like he's standing yeah okay he lays down like yeah i mean yeah you have to be on your knees but like it's not that bad okay and also i feel like if you're in the shower they're already kind of hurried a little bit so they'll probably like get off faster yeah it's not going to be like a nice long experience leisurely blowjob yeah but like yeah lather them up in some really good smelling soap that hopefully will be a distraction from the ball you know what becca tobin great advice That's why I like shower sex, too, because then it's like you have sex in the shower.

You're all you're cleaning yourself off the best. You don't have to feel gross after. You don't have to go get in the shower. Yeah, I'm so sensitive to smell that, like, even in New York when I was dating and I would like not necessarily be having sex with these guys, but I was like hooking up and getting frisky. My roommate, my best friend, Peggy, would laugh because she'd be sleeping. She was like in medical school at the time and I was a tramp running around the city. she would hear the shower go on at like 3 a.m and she would know that i was like hooking up with a guy because i would always be like let's take a shower that was your move yeah because

i'm like i don't know what's lurking below the surface yeah no and i don't in new york it's like 90 degrees we're on subways we're drunk yeah everybody's feet smell a recipe for a ball so that's my jam with the shower that is that is smart very clever what if i what if one of your clients is stinky have you ever done i'll make them go take a shower we have a shower there oh i've done it before basically a becca yeah i've done it but i don't need to show you need to go you're like i can't get out of this latex suit i will tell you something interesting what's the secret to getting out stress sweat and other kinds of sweat smell different yep what smells worse stress sweat so when somebody comes to a session and they're nervous and they start

sweating because they're nervous it's stress sweat and it smells really bad it's different than like workout sweat or just like bo oh so true yeah damn i get stress sweat it's bad okay well on that note have you ever had to put a cigarette out on someone's penis uh i've done it on someone's tongue oh someone put cigarettes out on my bike seat two people i have my bike seat here at work and like then two different one time i noticed i was like oh it must be one of those things where the sun hit someone's glasses the wrong way and burnt a little hole and now it's a thing they're doing that doesn't just accidentally happen number one that's so hard to do to start a fire with glasses no when you were a kid you had like

the little glass that takes so you have to have it there for like 20 minutes in the same spot cigarette that's all right well lady game dominatrix it's red time time to stop thank you for being here i learned so much come back anytime with all the stories and here's to pegging and flagging and we will see you next tuesday don't roll your eyes at me thanks for listening and make sure to rate and review this podcast wherever you get your podcast we have new episodes of lady gang every tuesday and thursday follow us on social media at the lady gang uh follow us personally at Kelty, most importantly, at Becca, and at Jack Bannock. The Lady Gang Network is produced by Will Sterling, Steve Delamater,

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