LadyGang - Think Like A Man 2 on the LadyGang - Ep54

Episode Date: December 13, 2016

Uh oh... Keltie's having heart palpitations and it's not because jeans guy is stopping by the podcast! It's because the #1 hot guy in her life is this week's guest! That's right, Keltie's husband (aka swoon) brings his "Think Like A Man" insight to the LadyGang! He's helping you decipher what guys really mean when they do and say certain things. He's got plenty of advice, some words of wisdom, and a few tough truths to dish out! He's also sharing what life is like with Keltie Knight! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hey guys, it's your Lady Gang, Becca Tobin, Kelty Knight, and Jack Vanek. Thanks so much for subscribing on iTunes, and thank you, thank you, thank you for supporting the great sponsors who make it possible for us to have this much fun with you for free every week. Well, what is this? Welcome to the Lady Gang. That's amazing. Say that again.

The Lady Gang. Things are about to change around here. Each week, we catch up with Hollywood's hottest girl posse, Kelty Knight, Becca Tobin, and Jack Vanek. Hello, hello, hello, everybody. Happy Tuesday. Hi, Kelty. How are you? I'm pretty scared. Are you scared? I'm terrified.

She's so nervous. Our guest is something that is near and dear to Ms. Kelty Knight's heart. But before we get to that, I'm going to introduce her properly. Entertainment journalist. She's on every red carpet interviewing every important person in Hollywood. and uh to my right jack vanek clothing designer ceo of jack vanek and um i'm becca tobin actress singer dancer model just kidding not model um and um how are you guys i'm very good kelty i've never seen you so like subdued i know and and she's like crazy she this is weird um all right well in that case it's time for good week yes it is bad week oh no kelty good week bad week well you

guys here's the thing when i was thinking about what i was going to say on this episode i realized that my bad week has to do with something that i didn't even tell my husband who is here today as our guest so now it's gonna be a double bad week because you guys don't communicate because we have no communication so i'm gonna start with my good week here's my good week i recently went on a trip to new york city and i had to check a bag which i rarely do and it was definitely overpacked and when i got to the scale i put it up and it weighed 49.5 the best that is the best feeling 50 you have to pay 49.5 well when you're a medallion member with delta you can have 80 pounds and they don't charge you really yeah you really feel like a medallion member it's when you're like a frequent

flyer i'm a frequent flyer with american so actually i probably wouldn't have had to pay either but i still felt like it was really like i felt like no your week is so what was your bad okay here we go um so i came home the other day and my dog hobo who i love so much was munching on something on the carpet and i was like i don't know and she was like she was like kind of cackling on it and i was like is this her bone and i thought maybe she had like a bone stuck in her mouth and i pulled it out and it was a bloody tampon oh my god what what the okay how how honestly i have no idea because i don't know if you're supposed to or not but i always flush my tampons me too and honestly was it bloody or was it blood from her throat like i don't know

how does a tampon get out of the toilet i don't know did it get wrapped in toilet paper and then thrown in the trash maybe it wasn't my tampon i don't know like i don't know if it wasn't yours that's disgusting i don't know did you touch it with your hand i had to yeah because she was choking on it so i had to reach down her throat and pull it out and i thought it was a bone and i pulled it out and i was like that is a tampon string that's a weird oh my god um all right jack can you follow that okay um my good week i had a bleak week so this is a really stupid good week but there's this facebook group called nicholas cage's face on things and all they do is just put his face on different things so there's like

pickless cage on a pickle look stop it nicholas cage on beyonce no nicholas cage on anna montana's face it's really good you guys i recommend everybody going to follow it right now and only has like 5 000 followers so i don't even know how i found it how does the nicholas cage's face on things have more followers than the lady gang facebook group i don't know that is not okay we're just not innovative enough no we gotta start putting our faces on stuff i guess what was your so good was your bad week okay so my bad week is okay my bad week is almost more so like an ass lady gang question because something weird is happening and i don't really know what it is again jack this is it's a bad week bad week it's a bad week but i'm not

assolating it's a bad week but i need advice if this has happened to anybody because i don't understand so the other night i was like looking at i was like looking at myself in the mirror whatever and i like turned to the left and on my left shoulder i have this like white mark dr pimple popper in no no this white this i'll show it to you guys this white mark in the shape of a band-aid like mark like i had a band-aid on my arm you see it let's investigate right there it's dark in here so you might not be able to see yeah yeah so it's like only the part that would be sticky is like a mark on my arm i have no idea where it's from have you ever had a band the only thing i can think of is when i had that like allergic reaction like months and months and

months ago i got a shot on my arm but the shot was like six inches below because it's numb and it hit a nerve so i know exactly where the shot was and it was like four months ago so i don't know what the hell is happening if i was like allergic have you been spray tanning five months ago it's so weird so i don't know what it is so if anybody has ever had like a random band-aid mark on their arm and they're being like pro by the lady gang not good week bad week back up it's a bad week what's happening to me um good week i was on an instagram account a picture of me and the name of the account is celebrity armpits 2.0 and this is a photo me too yes maybe we'll re-gram this on the lady gang i just feel like

our like our whole lives don't you feel like you always you never want someone to see your armpit never never even if it's freshly shaved it's red and bumpy no one to see it yes it's if you have just shaved it's ugly and if you haven't shaved it's uglier and it's like you just you can always catch an armpit in a bad moment well i have to say guys it looks pretty good have you seen that i think armpits are disgusting i would rather look at a ball sack than an armpit yeah and they're smelly have you seen that um so are ball sacks no have you seen that thing where it was some magazine cover and they were yelling at whoever the person was for like photoshopping somebody's armpits yeah super smooth what was that i don't

know i don't remember who it was first of all i appreciate that no who's ever choosing the picture don't pick an armpit picture for the cover no that's a fourth pager yeah she had her armpits up like that and they like smoothed them out i don't like that i don't know it's weird okay here's my good week i recently went to a concert with some friends and i was sitting in this section where it was like a lot of like hollywood girls like a lot of so you're on vip it was like a vip sanction meaning none of us paid for our tickets and like we were being paid to wear like the same thing anyways so we're all in the same section and i am like 100 the least important person in this section like without a doubt and next to me a couple people over is this like i'm

not going to use her name she's young she's beautiful more she's who blonder brunette more hints blonde quick like lively no she's young ashley whatever her name is from pretty little ours no young ashley's like our age anyways she's and she's she looks like a mom like she's no i'm talking like looks like a model looks like one of those hollywood girls like a skinny skinny skinny skinny tall tall could be a model but she's an actress okay and she's young so like all the things that make like an old withering away housewife jealous as such as myself so i'm standing there and we're like dancing and it's like a really good concert and like everybody's around dancing and i just she catches my eye and i look over it's like elaine from seinfeld like yes the

worst dancing worst and the worst part about it is she's not even she's trying to be sexy she thinks she looks so good and she thinks she looks good and she's like moving her hair around and she has no rhythm and it's just like all so bad but then i just looked at this guy and i was like god is fair there you go well that sums it up kelty it was a good week how do you feel i'm feeling heart palpitations my husband is here to really describe what naked stretching is now back to the lady gang i don't know why i did this honestly when zach came on i was like becca it's no big deal. Just be chill. And now that my husband is sitting here, I'm feeling like this is a bad idea. Um, he is the most handsome man in the world and so lucky to be married

to me, but he's also incredibly shy. So even though I've probably said his name a million times on this podcast today, we're going to call him swoon because that was our code name. We first started dating. Is it cause he made you swoon? Yes. Why do you need a code name? Well, because he's very shy, and he has a private Instagram account, and he doesn't like to be in the public. He doesn't like to be known. He likes to work his miracles behind the scenes. And so when we first started dating, for a long time, he wouldn't even put his head in the pictures. He would cut himself off at the necks.

Like when all the paparazzi was following you guys around? All the paparazzi was following us. No, it's when Kelsey was late at night blogging about her whole life. He was like, maybe not yet, babe. She's like, I'm at the love of my life. we started dating three days ago you should talk jack yeah god wants to be in every picture um anyway so he's going to help us understand our fellow relationships even more please welcome to the lady gang swoon swoon my husband welcome swoon thank you are you nervous yeah i am actually kind

of nervous you are why is that weird you can take your shirt off if it's hot in here whoa not that nervous this is kind of like a chippendale situation um okay so i have some really you don't get a lot of guys in here i understand no take it down wait wait hold on before we go on we have to talk about the incident you just described the tampon i mean what the is that for real yeah sorry i didn't tell you i wanted to save it for the lady game because you guys might not know this but he listens to us religiously this is true you've left every episode long time listener first time guest love you long time um okay first question yes what is it like to be married to kelty should kelty maybe not ask these questions no because they're not all

about me i like that she's asking what's yours like to be married to you what's it like uh well i don't see kelty all that often to be honest like we kind of you know have different schedules and she travels a lot i travel a lot but which actually makes it great because you know we do get to spend time together it's awesome yeah i think that's the key to a successful relationship dolly parton said to you right yeah dolly parton said this key to successful marriages to never see each other i also heard dolly parton is a lesbian so i don't know yeah i know um okay second question why is kelty so crazy that's rhetorical right it is no there's listen there's this is my honest place the lady gang they know all my flaws they know i'm crazy so you can talk

about it why am i so crazy it's so weird i don't know if you're that i mean to me the crazy is like entertaining and it's like kind of fun it isn't we try to explain that to our bunch there's like never a dull moment with kelty because it's always something you know whether it's something great or something horrific is happening to her on a daily basis it's like okay you know roller coaster i think the best thing about your crazy is it doesn't affect other people it's not like it like pisses anybody yeah no she's not malicious yeah it's all self it's just entertaining inflicted And she has this thing called 10% where life is just 10% harder for her, but it doesn't spill over to me, which is good.

You know, it just continually explains some of the things that happened to me. I mean, if you're trying to find a parking spot, like there's none left, you know, or you're trying to like go to the grocery store to get milk and you buy the one that's expired already or like, it's just like, that's the kind of stuff that happens to her on a daily basis, but like on a daily basis, I think it's cause your brain is all over the place. Do you think that's maybe what it is? Yeah, maybe. but no they really are i mean those are bad examples but um or maybe you're just a masochist

no can you explain to me when she gets down on herself what is that like this we're getting deep yeah because as kelty's friend who thinks she's beautiful and successful and has it all and when she talks about feeling like she doesn't as her husband like how does that make you feel and what do you tell her in those moments that you think is the most like successful pumper up well first it's just ridiculous when she's down on herself about how she looks i mean come on i know she's a hot babe get down what do i say baby girl do i say that yeah i mean it sort of depends on the situation a lot of times like it'll just be swirling around like madness and it's just like she needs to take a pause and like okay that's not real like the

things you just said about yourself are completely not true like take a step back like you are beautiful you are amazing you are hardworking and talented i remember the one of the times like Chris was like, what do you really want? I was like, I just want to be first on someone's list because like, you know, when you're like a C-lister, you're like eighth on everyone's list. Like you're never the one that everyone wants. But on the stupid lists. No, it's a stupid list.

But I remember like I got a gig once and Chris left me a note on the table. It's like your number one on the list. Like it's exciting. You know what I mean? You do little thoughtful things. I am crazy. I feel really bad. Chris is a great husband because he really does pick me up and I have had many a time

just crying on the floor. Does it make you less sexy? like am i less sexy because you've seen me like ugly cry and have like panic attacks on the floor no i don't think so are you attracted to me in those moments like if i was like does that like if i'm having a panic attack and i'm like crying and then the next second i'm laughing would you go for it uh like sexually um sure i guess like i'm always attracted to you no matter what so that's sort of relevant yeah this is a good look well okay not that but okay um with the glasses and the top knot

okay one of the things that Becca look at him with that lingo top knot oh we've talked about it many times Chris loves a top knot and a pony

nope pony men love a ponytail they do love why do men love a ponytail does it make you think of like younger girls like being a creep and like

whoa hey no none of that it's just fun and bouncy and playful and so younger yeah I get it I don't think it's like that

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annoying thing about each other was so here we go what is the most annoying trait about me i just love that you're asking these own questions okay the most annoying thing is that like when we're having a conversation you just don't listen to me for sure like we'll be talking and you'll just be like doing something else and i know you're not listening i'm like kelty you're like what i'm listening and then but you're really not that's true i do that i'd have to say scott does the same thing and i'll be like you're not listening to me at all and then he'll repeat the last like three minutes of what i said she can't repeat

I can't because I don't remember what's your most annoying trait me you have so many just kidding I don't know

well Chris used to come home like I try to go to bed and he would shower in the bathroom and then the fan would stay on for like four hours

and I would I'd be trying to sleep but now I got a face mask and earplugs so it's like a little bit better oh another thing Chris was had an annoying trait

he was a terrible gift giver have you gotten better And I had to train him how to give a gift. This is a very interesting conversation though, because I remember on my 30th birthday, Chris was like, what do you want for your birthday? And I was like, I'm so depressed about turning 30. I don't want anything literally for my birthday. What'd you get me?

Nothing. Nothing. Yeah. Because men just, he listened to me. He listened to me. He said, you don't want anything. I want to make her happy. Then I learned that I can't do that fake girls talk and like respect him to read my brain.

So now what I do is I cut out things from magazines or I'm like, when you have to buy me a gift next, this is what I would like. and i told him and now he gets me the best gifts ever because they're really curated by me so for the last time i got you a gift you didn't like it what was that those shoes oh i love those shoes but they didn't fit it's a bummer they're awesome shoes yeah i think i remember those okay um next what is one thing now being a married man that you wish you could tell everyone in relationships so all the girls that are about to get married that have boyfriends that are writing and oscillating in questions does he like me how can i ghost him what is one thing you wish everyone knew

um i think you just it's all about timing you got to be patient so for example i think there's like boys and then there's men and you got to decide if you're dating a boy or dating a man like because a man will be ready to do and settle down and do whatever you want and be invested but a boy is you know just having fun so what was that thing that brian howie said about like i've met the perfect woman a million times before but it was the wrong time yeah it's like all about timing especially did you ever meet someone you thought you could marry but it was the wrong time no no actually they know if you want to stay married no i was actually thinking about you like i think when we first started dating you didn't want to get married that's true and i

like had to stick around and be patient like why didn't you want to get married just you weren't didn't think feel like you're in there i just come out of a bad breakup and i really thought if i don't make anyone my boyfriend then i won't ever have to have an ex-boyfriend again so i didn't want to put like labels on things you know what i mean like i just kind of wanted to be like we're having fun we're hanging out like whatever and you know um okay why didn't you marry any of your ex-girlfriends they weren't you barf can you be real honestly stop trying to impress people okay done so the real answer no i mean what's the real answer because chris dated some hot girls yeah i saw them on facebook and married a hot girl yeah i married a hot girl but

it was like the wrong time you know i mean like i think you have the right mix of like super hot But also super talented and super smart Kind of a rare combo Especially in Los Angeles Because girls would be hot Do you ever think like sometimes Why I wish I would have married that girl with the huge boobs Because I have no boobs

No I don't think men are like women Women sit there and pine for things that they don't have I think men appreciate what they have They're like dogs When I give my dog a bone She's not like I wish it was a salmon flavor today She's like this is the best thing ever

Is that true? that's true yeah i don't think about like trying to what would have happened if i'd married that girl or this girl never or like i'm never picking somebody apart do you care about your ex-girlfriends do you stalk them on social media have you run into them and thought what would have been i feel like this is an interrogation i feel like i'm in couples therapy yeah okay never mind we're gonna go back no we're gonna go back um what is it like to propose because a lot of girls we dream about our proposal our whole life and it's really the only thing that we can't plan what is that like as a guy preparing well super nerve-wracking especially to get the ring that's why the most

nerve-wracking part about it wait did you know what kind of rings you wanted well kelty of course was very thorough and what she wanted but very contradictory so she we were at dinner once and she wrote on the back of like the check like it was like a giant circle sort of pear-shaped one and the next time she did it like same sort of thing out to dinner she wrote like a giant square one so then i was like great well i don't really have much of an idea so i went and found a guy who would make the ring for me and I designed it on a piece of paper

and took it down and then he would send me like a CAD drawing so like the 3D model of it but it's so huge and the diamond's like the size of your head in the picture

so you really have no idea what you're looking at and I just sort of had to be like okay sure it looks great let's go for it and then hope that she liked it turned out great

it was good well this has been fun so far we're going to take the topic off me and we're going to get you to answer some real boy questions from our secret

lady gang Facebook group which if you're not a part of yet You can go on Facebook and can search Lady Gang and become a part of the group. These are all questions that the girls in the group answered, and we'll be right back with those. Okay, what's going on? Now, here's the Lady Gang. Okay, we're back with my husband, who's going to now answer all the secret Lady Gang Facebook group questions.

So basically, all of our girls in our secret Facebook Lady Gang group have asked their questions, and they want to know what they should be doing with these boys. Are you ready? Ready. Okay. Okay. Do guys like it when a girl makes the first move, or is it bad? No, of course.

Why not? Why wouldn't you like that? Really? Yeah. Because we think we're supposed to play it cool. Why? To make the guy look like an idiot? I don't understand.

What do you mean? Like, if we're at a club and I'm like, hey, we should go out sometime, give me your number, is that bad or good? Or should we wait for you to chase us? No, I think absolutely. I mean, other parts of the world, that's the norm. Like, a woman chasing a man is not a big deal. Like, why?

I totally see why there's a double standard. Why wouldn't you ask? I feel like all guys like it. They do. But I feel like women are just too intimidated to actually do it. Well, I mean, maybe a guy's intimidated, too. That's why nobody meets anybody. That's true.

What tends to be the biggest insecurity for guys? Probably going bald. More than penis size? Well, I mean, no one's going to know except for the girl you're sleeping with. Oh, I know. You know what I mean? It's not that bad. No one else is going to know.

I also, like, guys don't really compare. So, like, you have no way of knowing. You don't. No. There's no locker room measuring? Whoa. Whoa. I don't think guys do that.

In what fantasy are you talking about? Also, some guys are growers. how are you supposed to know yeah that's true okay what can an unattractive girl p.s there's no unattractive girls in the lady gang facebook group so i hate that you said this but i'm gonna ask it like it is what can an unattractive girl initially hook you in with the way an attractive girl hooks you in with her looks first of all that question's crazy but um i'm just be cool and funny and smart like that's just as attractive as like a hot girl i mean there's there's been plenty of girls that are not you know who i'm not attracted to but are super fun to hang out with

because they're just fun and cool or whatever and that's just as just as exciting confidence confidence confidence for sure yeah what is a fun thing a girl can do in a relationship to catch you off guard who's asking this secret lady gang facebook group tonight um it was me no this was not for me i already asked all my interrogation questions chris i mean swoon swoon i mean okay go ahead um i don't know i guess it sort of depends on the person i like going away on a trip or whatever that's always fun you know i think just i think guys like to be surprised just as much as girls do they do yeah of course you don't think so yeah is that true yeah of course i feel like that's true i guess i've never surprised you okay thanks have you not not even with like a

hey how you doing lingerie show yeah i have sure yeah yeah yeah that's true that's true yes why are boys always playing hard to get that's completely not true guys are never playing hard to get i don't think that's true i think they're only playing hard to get when they don't want to be caught me too like i think girls interpret a guy's aloofness is hard to get but it's really they don't like there's not interested yeah i mean i guarantee if if you went up to a guy at a bar and you're like hey do you want to go home they'd be like cool when right now great let's go yeah and if they say no then just move on obviously but and if oh i guess if you're in a relationship or you're trying to be in relationship with this person they're not calling

you back they're either one just lazy or two not interested or three they're just a boy like they're just not ready to be a man yet because they could be interested this is where it gets confusing they could be interested but they're a boy right that's the confusing conundrum because like a man is interested you know a boy is disinterested you don't know but there's like a boy and he's half in half out and that's very confusing sometimes i think i think you just have to decide if you're willing to wait until that boy becomes a man and if you are cool great but if you're not then just move on you know try and find someone else but don't you think like all of my friends that dated the boys and like me in the past and blah blah like i feel like those boy

boys turn into men with new women like all of my girls that are dating guys that are just like afraid of commitment and just not ready to settle down and blah blah blah blah like they finally break up with the guy and then he starts dating somebody else and he's finally like the man that he should have always been and like gets married six months later it's like your friends are the fixer yeah well they just move on comes back to like the timing for especially for a man because it's like and the person because it's like obviously in that relationship before the guy hasn't met the woman that he wants to be with so he's probably going to be one foot in one foot out in the whole situation until he meets the person that he wants to actually or just not

ready you can do about that yeah you are the fixer unfortunately and like that's like i hate that we should do a movie called the fixer the fixer and we just fix people's boys but do you but do you want the boy after he's already been fixed like isn't it a challenge for the here's the thing sometimes it's hard because i see people that were boys in my life later in life and they're now men with families and have grown up yeah and you're like oh you weren't so bad like i had put you in my head i've categorized you as boy but now you're a man and it's weird like what you weren't that for me you know what i mean yeah and then i have some that just stayed boys forever yeah some guys will stay boys forever boys will be boys chris yes tell us about naked stretching before we go

ask the lady gang okay i think the name naked stretching was definitely started here right no it was started by rebecca my makeup artist yes that's true uh well first off it's amazing and if you haven't been there try it because it's awesome kelty gets a great stretch and i get a great show what's not to like great yeah what's your favorite move uh there is no bad move in naked stretching which is really can you think of one how much does a guy want to see a girl's butthole probably a lot yeah like a lot or no yeah why not okay guys don't care about that i don't want to see anyone's butthole ever either um so there's no guys do there's no bad naked stretching there's no bad pose wow it's not like the seinfeld where like she was naked too much that's what i

was thinking and then she sneezed and he was like i saw things that i didn't want to jiggle well maybe it hasn't happened to me so you're all good so far how to sneeze while you're stretching do Do you notice cellulite? Like when I'm naked stretching, do you look at me? Guys don't even know what cellulite is. No. So when girls are like, oh my God, I feel so insecure because when I'm naked with my guy, so you've never been like looking at me and been like, wow, she's starting to get dimples in her ass?

No, never once. Really? Do you have them? I don't know. Good answer. I mean, to be honest, like if you're in naked stretching and that's your focus and you really got a problem. You should maybe be asking boys in naked stretching. Okay.

So naked stretching is great. You don't have a favorite move? No. Any and all are good. Wait, you guys have not tried naked stretching? I could never. It's just the way. I mean, I'm not flexible at all.

It doesn't matter, the flexibiltiness. Ask Scott tonight. See what he says. Well, he's not here. All right. Well, whatever you say. I'll do a naked stretching Skype sesh. Ooh.

Yay. Kinky. Is there anything you guys want to ask? I have a question. Okay. Yes, ma'am. When you're married. Yes.

everybody's joke is that like married people don't have sex blah blah blah blah and i'm wondering and like with with friends of mine you know i i have asked about it it's always the man being like we i never get laid anymore like and like joking around that their wife or whatever never puts out but then i had a conversation with a friend of mine who's married and she's like he's dead he says that like for show because we'll get in bed at night and we'll have played like been with our two-year-old toddler and it's been a really long day and like neither one of us wants to do it it's like do men i know that like our libido is probably lower as women just in general but like i think men also once they're married for a little bit if the libido is down wait doesn't

a woman's libido get better as she gets older that's bullshit i think that might be bullshit i think it goes up after her divorce and like she's running around i think that's where they got that statistic that makes sense so what's the question so the question is like the men that are like i never get laid anymore because i'm married it's like when you go to bed at night do you want sex more than kelty on usually like or would you say it's an equal amount that you each want sex well when we first started dating i think it was a little uneven like i was always trying to get laid yeah i was really hot then there she goes yeah exactly um i'd say now it's pretty pretty even don't you think

yeah really yeah i feel like that has to deal with like the person too because like a one man's libido is going to be higher than another's or a woman's well you know what's really fun for me now is like if we'll go out and do something then it's like oh that's a moment like we're gonna go to like a date night and a dinner or like we're gonna go to a wedding we're gonna go to whatever then it's like okay let's get up it's like a thing you know yeah i think that's good i think that for us we're so busy but i had this conversation with chris before and i was like you know i feel like i'm so busy and i'm so tired during the week and my schedule is crazy and like i think a lot of women out there can attest to that as well and i was like i just feel bad that

i'm not the person giving it up like five nights a week and he was like i only enjoy it when you enjoy it yeah so if you enjoy it once a month so true if you enjoy it once a day like whatever that is but like i would imagine there's nothing worse than like someone just having sex to have sex you know what i mean like you know what i mean yeah it's like it's fun because you know we don't always get to see each other but on the weekend if we do something we go to a wedding we go hang out or whatever then we like get real crazy and then it's like a memory you're like i can't stop thinking about it like you kind of live off that moment for a minute you know and i'm sure you wouldn't want have been in the moment and wanted to do it then if like your significant

other was like trying to force it on you all the time all the time you would be just thinking of more excuses do you know what i mean and also i will say like as a woman who is married one of the things i've had to get used to is just to say yes do you know what i mean because i think no but listen no but listen because sometimes like the thing is is that sometimes we take longer to warm up for sure and so like we're so in the moment of like trying to figure out what our excuse is that it's not going to happen right now that instead of doing that i like got out of my own way and i was like just say yes because you're gonna enjoy it you just have to get over the like i'm exhausted or i don't it's light out i don't want anyone to see me naked like i feel ugly

my hair is greasy like whatever like obviously he doesn't care so it's just like you just have to say yes and then you end up enjoying yourself you're like why did i fight that so much you know i think it was like was it emily that had said something like that that sex is kind of like exercise where it's like you just have to start doing it and you'll enjoy it rather than like thinking about dreading exercise or whatever nothing's worse than the limp fish so like that's you like never mind just not not interested my favorite was we were with two of our friends we've been married a couple years and they were talking about on saturdays how they'll order like hibachi like literally they'll eat like a hibachi dinner from bed and they're like and then we have

fat sex but then it's just a race to the bottom and then they realize no one wants to get on top and they go to sleep and i was like that is the best picture of marriage that's ever been described yeah that sounds pretty accurate fight for the bottom fight for the lay down i'm always fighting for the bottom always okay um we've really learned a lot that's it no you're gonna help us answer a lot of great relationship questions that our listeners have sent in got it ask the lady gang okay at this portion right now jack's gonna say if you go to jack vanek.com and enter the promo code lady gang you get 20 off oh you just did it for her thank you do i get a gift do i get a mug shit i didn't bring you again you're treating him the way people at showrooms

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How rude. I know. I'm an asshole. He's never coming back. Are you ready to help us with questions? Yes, ma'am. They're all relationship-y questions, so put your thinking cap on. Our first one comes from Dabney, which is a cool name.

Oh, that was my friend from growing up. I wonder if it's her. Is this her? Hey, Dabs. I don't want to say her full name. I don't want to color out. Anyways, okay. So her question is, a few weeks ago, I met a guy who seems pretty great and has all the

qualities i look for in someone i am always the single girl in my group of friends and it takes a lot for me to get excited about a guy this guy and i have several friends in common so obviously i've done some investigating to make sure he's single and not a total jerk since i have friends in common with this guy is it weird to ask one of them to give him my number how do i make that happen without coming on too strong and scaring him away do i go first yeah yes it's lame why would you just pass your number to a friend why don't you either just go find him if you're friends with a person already or have mutual friends

why don't you just go and see him what if you can't see him what like show up at his work what if you're an adult why don't you go out together go to a barbecue

go to a movie you have to set that up you have to call each other to set that up she doesn't have his number or like any way of contacting but they have mutual friends right

yeah so you should say mutual friend one yeah let's have a barbecue and you invite yes I used to do that stuff

all the time yeah okay how do you think I met you and then you go up then you go to the guy at the party and you're like

hey here's my number let's go hang out well if they've never actually talked before then just sort of get a vibe and like oh do i actually really like you in person or do you just look good on paper you know say hello that's my advice that's good advice thank you you usually facilitate yourself in the right situation yeah put yourself in a position to succeed you know don't just be like okay here's my number because then the guy doesn't know you then it's awkward for him yeah but it's like a cold call but if they've met before see this sounds like something i would have done in my single life so let me make an excuse i say yes well no i mean if they've met before and they like seem to have hit it off i don't think that there's anything wrong with like

passing on your number yeah you've already met yeah that's true if it's a random guy that they've never met before yeah that's weird and i think yeah maybe manipulating a situation is it to see weird though for a girl to give her number to a guy like if i met you at a party and i was just like hey we should hang out sometime here take my number i would think it's very forward like oh hey maybe it's like a booty call kind of thing i wouldn't think relationship right away what about really what if you have to ask for the net the number no just the impression that she's like hey you know you giving me your number i think it's more of a booty call what about if you've had like you met at a party and you like hit it off and had like a great time at the end of the

night the same thing like no then maybe it's a different situation yeah because some guys are nervous and i feel like would be like oh i don't know it would be like your opening be like oh she is interested in me okay cool because guys are pretty dumb like we don't read the signs like we don't really pick up on that stuff no i agree when you're twirling your hair like this you know it doesn't mean anything to us we don't we don't pick up on you don't understand what flirting is no we do not okay so give the guy a number your number i think is the just have a card and a headshot ready at all sign it give it away okay the next question comes from ainsley and she says i've been with my current boyfriend since high school and we're both juniors in college for the past

Last year, I've been having doubts about my current relationship and can't help but wonder if I deserve to give myself the opportunity to meet other people as a young, independent woman in my 20s. On top of all this, I met a really sweet guy at a local coffee shop the other day who turns out to be a super successful neurosurgeon. All right. Hell yeah. Do I sacrifice history and genuine love for the opportunity to see what else is out there? I'm going to speak from personal experience, Ansley. so there was a young becca 19 and 20 years old and i started dating this douchebag and we dated for like about a year and my 21st birthday was coming up and i thought to myself

i want to have the freedom to dance on a bar maybe make out with a random stranger i just felt like there was something past that point in my life similar to you feeling like maybe there's some other things out there mine was more like whiskey shots and not a neurosurgeon but same thing i dumped my boyfriend because i just knew i had this intuition that something better was on the horizon and i think that this is your cue neurosurgeon might not be your forever guy but he's quite possibly the little you know bump you need to get you out of your comfort zone and into a really new exciting life with new people i agree and also you can always wrap back around to high school guy at the five-year reunion you know what i mean like you won't want to you won't want to but there

i do have people in my hometown if you grew up in a small place that married their high school sweetheart and have four kids and are like super happy right now so you can do that but you should definitely go out there and live a little bit of life before you settle down because you'll always wonder what if life is long marriage is long i love you so much um but like if you have 50 years with someone it's okay to have 40 and like live a few lives first well and she's young she's a junior in college so she's young and i think if you have these thoughts about other guys and if you're like actually interested in somebody else and like wondering where that could go i think that speaks for itself which is pretty normal if she's only been with one dude since she's been in

high school you gotta experience some other things try it out and also neurosurgeon sounds fun i know who is how okay i have so many questions he sounds old okay last question comes from anonymous oh this is gonna be good i'm 24 and my boyfriend and i have been together for about four years and we are living together recently i found out he has been on tinder messaging a bunch of girls and snapchatting them on a different account that i didn't know he had that is sketchy he says he loves me and wants to be and wants to spend the rest of his life with me and i know he is being honest was it dumb of me to forgive him how do you say enough is enough what do you mean a different account she didn't know about was there like one she did know about maybe i guess

he has a hit like a secret snapchat that he's snapchatting biatches from chris that's a boy i mean swoon uh move on next yeah yeah i mean he could have been stupid and just sort of trying to figure out if he was in that transition from boy to man but i say move on what do you guys think i mean if he was on tinder and he was doing the snapchat thing like i i don't know that's like super sketchy and i don't know why you think he's being honest when he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with you when he's talking to other girls but i think that i believe him because haven't you ever been like that in your like early 20s and you've been with somebody and you're like i you are the person that i would want to spend the rest of my life with but i have so much life

i want to live and you're holding me back so like yeah it's like it's like the girl who asked the question before it's like you he does believe that i'm sure and i'm sure he's he's a nice enough guy but he's dishonest he clearly needs to sit some time to be alone and well you don't need to you don't deserve to be there while he figures it out and i think it comes back to like how we're always talking about timing it's obviously not the right timing even if he is being honest he's obviously doing some other things that are dishonest in a relationship one time i had a guy dump me and he said it like this he said i don't want to date you but i don't want you to date anyone else love that and that like really sums it up i felt that way about so many guys you have yes i hate

you so much i haven't said it oh but it's like it's like the guy is like he doesn't want you to date anyone else like he did he wants to be just meet you and him but on his side he wants He wants to, like, go and date other people. Who wouldn't want that? Is it just me or is Kelty always talking about, like, the hot guy she just saw wearing jeans at the gym or, like, the guy she used to date or, like, is it just me? Am I, like, hypersensitive to that? I feel like we all kind of talk about, like, I, Zach has heard, like, episodes where I

talk about how hot somebody else is. Yeah, same. It's you're hypersensitive because you're married to me and you're upset. And I'm actually pretty cool with it. Like, it's fine. You are? You want to self-proclaim that? yeah i'm cool with that are you are you jealous of jeans man i was just gonna say are you jealous

of a man who has bedazzled pockets please don't be mad here's not that guy here's the thing i harry styles well they've only kissed twice i mean come on true amazing but here's the thing when you really love someone it's like nothing can compare i mean your job that's part of your job like this is what you go and do for a living is flirt with guys on the red carpet yeah but all Those guys are so gross. I mean, I get it. And he knows that. They're disgusting.

It's non-threatening. Sorry, no offense, Becca, but like, actor guys are the worst. I'm the first person to say that I absolutely think actors are gross. Yeah, I think Becca said it like 10 times. I've never dated a male actor. Gross. Narcissist. Like, they're gross.

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of advice you would like to leave our ladies with? Or some inspiring words. Oh, man. Yeah. Leave us with a quote. A mirror message. You must have some in your... I have zero mirror messages. I could steal one from Kelty. She's got a bunch. What was your favorite one of Kelty's? Let's end with that.

Well, the last mirror message I remember from her was like the list of 10 things she was going to do for the year and she crosses them out as she does them i love that and like the coming end of the year and she's got all nine or ten of them done i'm like i have zero but one of them was something on our list really hilarious and it's gonna kill me that i don't know what it is better bangs no that's old oh it was something like get better hair yeah it said grow my hair long and healthy and shiny yes goodbye

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