LadyGang - Tia Mowry joins The LadyGang - Ep20

Episode Date: April 18, 2016

Tia Mowry, host of the "Mostly Mom" podcast, joins the LadyGang to talk love & marriage, kids & career, nearly bare butts, and cyber-bullying! She's passionate about cooking, date nights, family day, and vision boards, and shares some stories about what it's like being a famous twin! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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because every Tuesday you get a little bit of light into your email box and reminded about a new episode And that's where you can submit your Ask the Lady Gang question. We're very excited because Tia Mowry is here today. And she's a mama bird. And she's also one of the most authentic, cool ladies in Hollywood. I can't wait to talk to her.

But before that, it's time for… Good Week. Yes, it is. Bad Week. Oh, no. Okay. I'm going to start this. Yes.

Do it. For once. Yes. Yes. Okay. So here's my Good Week. My Good Week is very simple. do you guys ever like fantasize about getting a coffee and like walking around somewhere like

i always i always see pictures of people or like watch tv or movies and like people are just like walking around a christmas tree lot holding a coffee cup and i'm like it's just something it's so simple but like i never do like i don't think about it i don't know why um probably because i'm the laziest human ever um so to like actually make one stop to go to the coffee place but here the other reason is because i only like coffee in the morning so my for the afternoon i don't ever know what i want because i want something like a little sweeter i don't really want like a bitter coffee what do you get you guys it's probably been how long has starbucks been around a million years a million it's the dawn of time i have finally found my

afternoon coffee drink what is it it's called a london fog and it's a secret item it is earl gray tea with milk so it's like an earl grey tea latte yeah with milk and then you get a pump of sugar so it's i mean of like the vanilla of vanilla sorry sorry i'm like they have a sugar they do actually have just a sugar pump but it's a pump this the vanilla you know sounds so good it is like a it is the best thing ever and i'm not joking like when i my i took my first sip my friend tracy told me about it and i was like i feel like something has completed full circle in my life yeah i can i can be that girl again you know like now you can go walk around central park or something super stupid i know i think i'm gonna start doing it i like it but earl grey tea tastes

like this it's amazing like yeah but here's the thing in in canada where i grew up we're a british monarchy right and we would drink earl grey tea with a spot of milk and a little bit of sugar like every day my mom was always like a cup of tea can literally heal anything like your heart's broken you have pms like come here darling let me give you a cup of tea and it's always the earl grey so is that the feeling you got like just a safe place in your earl grey tea it was just so good can you do milk though milk is so good i i usually do like soy or almond or starbucks doesn't do almond milk which is like they do coconut coconut yeah yeah that's good but anyways so i just feel like you're a basic i figured it out i'm a basic bitch and i can go walk around

any like like vintage flea market with my london fog okay so here's my bad week this is super embarrassing let's hear it okay so i love jewelry i haven't i'm not the girl who has fantasized about like my engagement ring or my wedding or whatever like my whole life but i definitely love jewelry so much and i love giant diamonds so anytime i go to this jewelry store in beverly hills that i get like little small things here and there and like i treat myself um i always go to the same guy he's this awesome guy and he one day when i was there with my girlfriend she was trying on engagement rings like just sort of like seeing some stuff because she was getting close to that time in her life and then i was like oh i've always wanted to see like a really pretty like i

think i like emerald cut diamonds so like that day i tried on i think like four emerald cut diamonds with him this was a year ago so i'm with my boyfriend and we go to the store because i have to go get some rings sized and we walk over and i'm like hey jeff like my jewelry store guy and um he's like hey and i was like i just wanted to uh look over here because i wanted to look at another ring and it happened to be like next to the engagement rings and he's like oh are we looking at more emerald cuts today oh my god in front of your boyfriend yes and i was like first of all that was like a year ago like i don't even think that my boyfriend was in the picture at the time i was just trying things on and i swear i saw my boyfriend literally break up with me in his head

oh my god and i was like no i don't think i was and i said like a million awkward things you're like that crazy bitch that's shopping for engagement rings before you don't have a boyfriend oh my god you're a crazy person but yeah there you go i'm sorry i like jewelry you've always been so like on the outside of anything cheesy i know you're like don't have bridesmaids don't what your engagement pictures barf yeah but you're secretly into it because you were trying on engagement rings because i love i'm jewish it's the only thing that my people could smuggle in their vaginas when they were getting ousted from their country like there's something in me it's so deeply rooted that i see it is genetic it is my grandmother was crazy about

jewelry she left me all this beautiful jewelry because i was a psycho i would sit on her lap when i was like three and she'd be like what do you want when i die and i would point at her tennis bracelets you're just trying to really survive that's all it's just survival it's survival like i don't know but i love diamonds i love diamonds there you go that is pretty embarrassing yeah i know wow okay i don't even know you anymore i don't know i don't know my Becca has transformed into a basic bitch today. She's so basic. Diamonds and Starbucks.

Isn't being a basic bitch, like, really fun? Becca, she's just like us. She's just like us. Stars. They're real people, too. I'm going to hate myself when I hear this. Okay, so my good week is I found out about a new beauty product thing, and I'm very excited about it.

What is it? So I'm not, like, into, like, makeup or anything. I don't watch, like, beauty bloggers or whatever. But there's this thing. it's eyebrow gel from it's like a korean product and basically like put it on your spots of your eyebrow that you need color let it sit for like 12 hours and then peel it off and it dyes your skin oh i love this so for me okay so i over plucked my eyebrows growing up so i have like big gaps where no eyebrows growing i've been proud of you because you've been trying to grow them out for a

long time for a year and a half how do you girl and how do you girl way to commit don't worry nothing's grown in wait nothing's happening product called uh it's called it's from like it's etude house or something like that is the name of the it's like a korean it's like take your glasses off let me look at your eyebrows i filled them in with pencil i don't have it on oh you don't so i ordered it on amazon but it takes like a month and a half to get here oh because it's kind of so wait you paint it on and then you go to sleep you paint it on you let it sit overnight it's like a gel okay and i think it's basically like dye it's like henna like dyes your skin and it looked good or you don't know i don't have it i just found it let us know

after you try it well i'll try it when i get it but that is like for me you're gonna look like groucho marks i know you do look like groucho marks when you have it on though because it's like dark black yeah yeah yeah but then it ends up dying it like a nice brown or so they say or maybe stay tuned i might have really really bushy eyebrows but for me it's like i need that because i hate wearing makeup i'm like if i could do that and let it sit for like why don't you just go get your eyebrows oh because there's no hair but sometimes the tinting of the eyebrows does color so i can't live without eyebrow tinting yeah and you know it's illegal now in california you're so basic i also got botox this afternoon i am the most basic it's so good it feels the most basicist

basic is the basicest bitch of all time will you make a t-shirt that says that i really wanted to make a t-shirt that says we're all basic bitches on the inside oh i love that i would wear that i know we're getting to work and get fired getting really sidetracked today okay so my bad week so being the commoner that i am i don't usually get stopped in public for people that know who i am oh this is your bad week but so good no this is a bad week i mean it's a little embarrassing week okay so but when i do and i have a couple times but when i do it's always when i look like garbage okay and i i'm like you know i always put my best photos on instagram that's the only place people really know me from how do you recognize me when i'm not wearing any makeup

and my hair is wet like i don't i feel like i look like a potato with eyes and somehow people recognize me so the other day i was scott and i went to greenleaf she said potato with eyes she always says she has a potato face i always think i look like a potato you don't look anything like a potato i do a little bit okay so the other day scott and i went to greenleaf it's like this cute little restaurant yeah it's super cute aesthetically has like old rustic wood and whatever so we're there doing work and I take all my own Instagram photos of my products and stuff so when I'm in an aesthetically pleasing place I will take photos of my stuff so I'm like all right this this is awesome I bring out like all my stuff I have like a phone case I'm taking a

picture of I go to the other side of the room I'm taking a picture of like my zip pouch then I'm taking selfies of my shirt I'm like all over the place in this restaurant just thinking like i don't care or whatever and then there's the i feel like my i'm being watched by somebody and i like kind of like turn over and i'm wearing the too late to be crazy flannel and i give away and i like turn over to where i feel like there's eyes burning in the back of my head and this girl goes is that flannel available on your website yet shut up oh my god and i was like oh god i was like how'd you catch me and what she said she well number one she's a huge fan of our podcast hey girl yeah thanks for listening girl i think her name might have

been rose i don't really sorry jack is walking around town embarrassing us i like a potato head i was i was a walking potato taking instagram pictures all over greenleaf nothing is more basic than that so but yeah i'm doing it for my i know it's for your business but nobody watching well she does she knows she knows why but i can tell her it's available right now use that yeah i was like you can get 20 off a lady gang but yeah it was really it it was good because i'm like that's cool to like be recognized but then it was also embarrassing because i was taking 500 instagram photos what does scott do when you're doing this um he was just working but i make him take pictures of me all the time right yeah i couldn't date you for that reason

he's an instagram husband he 100 is he loves it he does he loves you he's obsessed with me yeah anyways i saw you the other day driving in the car and his face was so giddy and he was just picking you up from work and i was like oh god they also have coordinates rings which Don't even get me started There are these rings you can buy And you can put coordinates Like on the map Like 22 degrees by 44 degrees

By blah blah blah And they have coordinate rings That they made for each other 34 degrees north 118 degrees west It's just in Malibu Like where we want to end up In our future

Like when you bury your bodies I want to be like No actually when I die I would like to be shot up into space oh i okay all right kelty moving on moving on um oh should i start with good or bad you guys vote uh good good sure okay so you guys know i'm obsessed with dolly parton and i think she is basically the closest to god that you can get agreed um so dolly and i have a special relationship a couple weeks ago i was in nashville and i was interviewing her and did i tell you the story

about when she wore my coat no no okay so i went and i have this like great boda skins leather jacket and it's so cute and i was wearing it to the shoot and i took it off and i was just hey like putting it on the table or whatever and our publicist kirk comes in and he goes where's that jacket you wore in and i was like oh so they're on the table and he goes can dolly borrow it and i was like yes so anyway she takes my jacket she puts it on she looks so fierce he's like come here come here guilty and he pulls me to the other room she's doing a photo shoot for oh magazine in your jacket in my jacket oh my god holding it i mean her boobs were like it was wide you know and she's like holding it being so cute and she was like looks pretty good right and she's

like got five inch louboutins and like a leather pant she's like a poly pocket she's your size becca she's like a tiny little human she's so amazing so then she comes to interview me and she brings it actually back like oh thank you so much this is so sweet great jacket and she gives it back to me and i was like oh my god i'm never washing this jacket not that i would wash a leather jacket but anyway so then i leave and i write the publicist and i was like listen i know dolly really loved the jacket i would love to send her one because i'm friends with the company and I wrote the company. I was like, will you send Dolly a jacket? They're like, for sure. So they sent me it. I wrapped it up. I put a note like, thanks for always being so great. And I sent it

to her. I'm like, I do send thank you gifts to certain celebrities after they give me a great interview all the time. And I never hear back from them ever. No, not even a thank you. So then I'm on the, um, country music awards, red carpet, and here comes Dolly. And she comes over to me, she grabs both shoulders and she goes i got the jacket i want to say thank you so much for thinking of me i wore it all day yesterday did you see the pictures she was on instagram she wore it for the whole press day at the acms the leather jacket she looked so cute but the fact that she came up remembered whether her publicist was like devil wears prodding her in the year this is the girl that sent you the jacket i don't know but she grabbed both shoulders and looked me right

in the eye and was like thank you so much it's so sweet of you and i was like you're everything good in the world dolly like she's just the sweetest that is amazing and like no one is ever really that nice to the press and she was just amazing and i just felt like dolly's my friend now and everything's good in the world she's a classy lady she's really really hot um okay here's my bad week so i've had a pretty awful week this has been one of those weeks where i've been really hard on myself and everything's kind of falling apart a little so i've been pretty tired and so i um i went to work one morning and i put on like my yoga stretch pants you know my leggings and i was wearing them around all day and then i changed for the show and then i put my leggings

back on um and you have so many legging problems but no this is so intense so i put the leggings back on and i was like do to do whatever so then i go and um so then i go and um i have to go the dentist i have to have like a root canal and so i'm at the dentist and after work i'm laying there and i'm getting my root canal and i'm kind of have like my legs propped up because i'm like here for like hours right sitting in this dentist chair i get home guys and i this is snail trail story no i have put my leggings on inside out with the opposite way with no underwear and an outward snail trail oh no and had been sitting with my legs up in the like fold backer chair like this with all the doctors coming in and out for like five hours now listen i don't think

people when they're coming in and out really look at people's vaginas and it wasn't a major snail it was a tiny snail but like it was for sure happening but it was awful you need to start wearing underwear i know the second mishap with your vagina leggings yeah you need to wear some underwear with your leggings girlfriend oh my god so uncomfortable is it though i am wearing underwear with these leggings to get a nice lace hanky panky oh god seems like so much work well you guys it was a really uh eventful week for us sure was now back to the lady gang we're very excited about this miss tia maury is here p.s she has a new podcast that i think launched last week yeah oh no actually two days ago oh my god it's called mostly mom with tia maury which is very

exciting so all the mommies out there make sure you subscribe to that honestly this lady is one of the most down-to-earth authentic babes in hollywood and you know we call out those bitches that we hate um if you're an 80s baby like me you know her from starring on sister sister but honestly she's done so much since you got the reality show uh movies television best-selling author and now you have the cooking show i know can you believe it i mean i don't know how you had time to have sex and a child during all of this but congratulations on your work-life balance thank you um how do you have time to do everything um you know what i prioritize okay i really do i'm kind of like ocd with my thoughts um so i have them all kind of like

organized and i just prioritize what's like the top of the chain um which is family for me okay so and then i'm not afraid to say that my husband also you know is really important um in the family dynamic sometimes people who have um kids who are you know moms or whatever it's like all about the kid kid kid kid kid but for me it's about making sure that that relationship is healthy as well that's important yeah so i just prioritize so once once a week i have date nights with my husband once a week we have family night or family day which is on sunday and then you know and then i have days where i need to work out and as you can see i'm in my workout gear so after this you look great though girl thank you so you know i just prioritize um there was this amazing buzzfeed

article so we have this word that we hate called relevant because people always on our instagram are like why are you trying to stay relevant i'm trying to work right now can we just chill but the buzzfeed article's title was how tia maury stayed relevant for 20 years i remember that yeah damn girl how you do it you know what i think how i do it is number one i think i'm true to myself so there's authenticity there um and then number two um i kind of just go with the flow in regards to whatever i'm going through in life um my journey or whatever i become really passionate about whatever i'm going through so that's why with example um the cooking show i'm now you know a mom and i have a family and cooking is really important to me and now you know it's all about

trying to find that balance yeah um so i'm like well let me go ahead and you know figure out how i can inspire and you know do something with cooking so i think you know it's it's all about authenticity and then being passionate about whatever i'm doing um and just kind of like going with the flow we hate that word we think that word is so ridiculous which one relevant relevant but you did it girl i know you stayed relevant the reason why we hate it is because everybody thinks that we're just like trying so hard to be relevant oh and we are well we are i'm just trying to make a buck you know trying to make wait i have a question for you thinking of like mommies and you growing up in the spotlight okay did you see the hillary duff

picture that she posted that's getting a lot of flack on instagram no you know what i saw an article it was on my twitter feed um but i didn't click on it so what's going on what is it so she recently posted a picture of like the perfect like this is my favorite uh carpool or like drop drop luca is that his name luca luca off at school like i and it was like her in like little short shorts and tennis shoes and like a like a duster jacket okay and the shorts were you know la short like girls wear short shorts in la and i guess there was an uproar because she's a mother oh my Not allowed to wear short shorts. Can't wear shorts anymore.

How do you feel about that? That must feel like infuriating. Oh, my God. Let me just tell you. Yeah, it is because, number one, and this is also my motto, I feel like just because you are a mom, it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to lose yourself and lose your sexiness and lose your ambitions, lose your goals.

Number one, this woman is divorced, okay? And number two, she's young. Like, just because she's a mom, it doesn't mean that she still can that she can't get her groove on yeah you know what i mean like she's i don't know if she's dating i don't know if she wants to feel sexy and you know she's feeling herself sometimes you you you have to do that for yourself yeah you know what i mean like you still have to feel sexy just for yourself i feel like the mommy trolls are crazy it's worse than like the regular trolls like the mommy shame of like you're doing the wrong thing yeah it's

like you could judge anybody for anything do any of you guys have kids no no well the park is like prison okay the park well i say that or let's say like the grounds for these mommy trolls let's just say that as opposed to prison that's where you'll meet you know moms that for the first time or even moms that you know go to your sons or kids same school or whatever and they're like so do you breastfeed how long do you breastfeed so you know what i mean it's like it's just they just start asking questions and you know a lot of them are judgmental but in the beginning you're like oh my god like you know yes no like leave me alone but after a while you start to get you know confident about whatever choices that you are making because it's it's it's what's best for you and what's best

for your family and who cares about what right you know what i mean like who cares about what other people are saying it's like how do you even have time to like judge other people when you're a mom like pay attention to your own family i know it's it's it's it's bad god yeah not looking forward to that oh i can't wait um there was this this beautiful before we get to the all our hollywood questions i like this champagne by the way is it okay and it's like pink for like girls we're so girly we love our sparkly rosé yeah um you had posted this absolutely beautiful black and white photo on your instagram or no wait maybe your husband posted it and it was like 16 listen to this 16 years later my wife still looks at me this way we met when i didn't have

a car sleeping on the floor in a studio apartment with no furniture just a young man from chicago pursuing a dream she saw my heart and believed in me when others doubted i would give my life for you oh my god no i i find this is first of all that's so romantic but i find this so interesting because you've been very successful and famous from a young age and so i can imagine that when you found your husband and it's like the guy sleeping in his car that there was some upheaval about this oh choice oh yeah there was a lot and you know what it's so funny that you're talking about this because i actually had a conversation with my husband about this a few days ago because you know he knock on wood his career is going very well right now you know american sniper

battle los angeles yeah he's an actor and he just booked this uh pilot on hulu uh and the producers from revenant and um spotlight or you know so he's doing very well but what's so funny is now girls or just you know social media or whatever they're like girl you found the right one but yeah but before when i first introduced my husband you know whether it was on a red carpet or whatever i was getting a lot of heat you know what i mean like who is this guy you know uh oh he's an actor i've never seen him in anything like i was the people were judging him and it was just terrible so now it's so funny to see the what is it table's turn full circle i'm like really guys like and i i it's it's i don't know it's just mind-boggling because for me um you

know it's it's about love i'm all about that kind of like romeo and juliet besides the you know but if you love someone and their lives aren't perfect um you know in regards to whether they're struggling financially or whatever as long as they have faith ambition um goals in life i mean of course they're not like a couch potato and sitting there and you know just playing video and chill yeah all day then okay you know why not give that guy why not even give him a shot give him a chance you don't know what he's gonna be like you know also you were probably it was 16 years ago you were five i was like well you're so young so it's like how you you know when you're young everybody's kind of finding their stuff out so it's like you can't judge somebody for

yeah and then money comes and goes as you can see money doesn't keep marriages you know what i mean no. So in a marriage, you're always going to have challenges always. It doesn't matter if it's money, whatever. So it's all about, you know, if you really, really do love that person and how you work through those challenges. So a hundred percent. Speaking of challenges, you are quite in the headlines, my friend lately about this whole thing. Now this is crazy. Now we tell it like it is. And listen, we get in a lot of trouble in this podcast because our job on this podcast is to give people a real look at hollywood and we don't give the pc and i always say that there's like regular skinny and there's hollywood skinny and there is it's very hard to be anything but

a size two in hollywood and then you're current and there's and now this week has been insane with amy schumer and all this stuff but you were at kind of the forefront of this because yeah you know and then you stood up to them so how do you do that because i feel like anytime a girl has a burger they're like is she pregnant like what you know it's crazy you know for a while i thought about it because you know and my husband he told me this he was like tia you know you are a celebrity and there's kind of like some sort of spotlight i don't even want to say it but you know like people are looking at you and looking at what you say and what you do so for a while i mean i i mean i think ever since i started social media i've been cyber bullied you know whether it's calling

me too skinny like i one person when you know i was extremely thin they said i was too skinny or them making fun of my husband you know who i'm dating or even my son but oh yeah oh it's disgusting you don't really like no i know but to be honest with you i became extremely emotional or i was emotional at that time because of what was already in the headlines kaylani was just admitted into the hospital because of a i guess suicide attempt because people were coming at her calling her a whore and calling her names then iggy azalea had also said that she wanted to no longer be on this planet because people were coming at her so i am i'm a nurturer and i i was just like oh my god like some people just don't get it how you know in high school somebody could

call you a bitch or call you something like and it's just like maybe four or five of them gang up on you yeah but when you have thousands and thousands and thousands of people coming at you you're only human so i personally feel like i have to be responsible for what i say or do on my instagram so you do too if you're gonna come over to my house if you want to talk about me talk on your page talk elsewhere talk on a blog whatever i don't care yeah but if you come to my page knock on my door and i open up the door and you say getting fat then i'm gonna have a i'm gonna have a response to that you know what i mean and i know people are like oh well you know everybody has the freedom of speech yeah that's fine but there are also consequences to whatever

actions you do and so i was just i was fed up with it i was like you know what i feel like there should be i personally feel like there should be some sort of guidelines or just something you know what i mean if you wouldn't say that to my face then let's just think about saying it to talk about it amongst your friends talk about it you know whatever but don't do you know what i mean so that's the problem with the internet it's like people just think they have this like anonymous shield of armor and also i see a lot of people who are bullying celebrities and their response is they asked for this they put themselves out there to be criticized it's like no that person that musician that artist like they actually are just following their passion yes

and trying to make money like every other person on the planet yeah it just so happens that it's there's a platform and there's some publicity and it doesn't make it okay yeah that you should be able to bully bully somebody and see i put derogatory um words the words that i put in that category is gay slut fat ugly all of that you know what i mean and just because you are out there doesn't give anybody else the right to say you're gay or you're like really like what's the point also it's like you're still human just because you're more well known than somebody else i think people forget that celebrities are still yeah just as human as the people that are like trying to bully them and i'm not saying that you don't have being in the spotlight everybody has

right to have an opinion if she wants to call me fat okay whatever but if you're gonna come like i said to my page no get off my instagram go talk about me on your own page don't come on my page and say that and i think i would want to burn her down her house down i also just think you'd be burning it i would i think because you know you're in the public eye people think that you somehow don't hear it or don't see it and i think like you know it's it's everyone internalizes it and people they're like i don't let the haters get me down you can't unhear it you can't unhear it you're human and just because they are or you know i mean they're human we're human beings you know what i mean you look hot so for everyone you're hot and i'm a size six so if you're calling

a size six fat you got something wrong with you yeah she also like grew a human in there so in all the years of being in hollywood what has been your hollywood heartbreak what was the gig you were up for that you auditioned for that you thought you were gonna get and then someone else got it oh my god who got it yeah and let's okay let's burn her house down um it was actually just recently it was actually this really it was a branding deal like you know like you know how of like endorsement deals and it was an amazing endorsement deal i was really really passionate about it and i had it i had the contract and everything right in front of me and i was really excited about it and then all of a sudden it was like it went away they said oh we're going in

another direction oh that's the worst i know what direction what do you mean and then i did they yeah they did no well do you know who got it yeah well how i saw it was i saw the celebrity like on people.com with this with the same you know the brand oh my god it was like was it was it a really different direction from you was it a different direction or was it like someone else it was a little bit of a different direction let's just say i'm an actress this person was a reality star of course yeah real stars taking over yeah i'm sorry well listen i think you're still doing okay but it is disappointing it wasn't meant to be no yeah you'll find something better but it is interesting that like at any point in your career like because

often we talk about people and they're like oh well when i was first starting out but you're like last week well yeah because a lot of people think they only see the good they don't really see what goes on and that's what your guys show is all about they don't really see the struggle and the rejection it is true like you literally get a hundred rejections to one yes like i mean it's just a part of this business and you just have to you know have thick skin and keep on and never give up oh do you have um an ish moment the moment where you thought you were the cat's pajamas where you walked a carpet or someone paparazzi chased you or you were on a cover like what like i know i'm the ish ish yes okay what is it yes yay like this okay it was god what

was that it was the focus premiere and i was in and i'm gonna be really honest with you guys please i didn't know my butt was showing okay like was your dress like tucked up in your like my dress we can pull it up let's see if we can pull it up oh i love this did your butt look great um i had this uh stone cold fox kind of like see-through dress jealous yeah and i was just wearing this like leotard um and i thought it was covering my butt and it wasn't i found out later and then i had this like balmain blazer on with these like really sick um what kind of shoes did i have on yeah i think i had on like these stewart weitzman shoes or whatever but i felt sexy okay it was your moment it was my moment and then good outfit yes and when i walked down that red carpet

it was like boom boom boom boom boom boom boom boom and they're like turn around to you turn around and i was like no you know how you like see all of these like what is this you know you know you have a good outfit on when the photographers go crazy because they know they're gonna make money i did not know though that my butt was showing did you and that's why i have this dress you do yes okay it does not look like that on me so oh my god oh look at you we're gonna we have to post this on our instagram okay oh my god great so but i was like oh my god and you know this is they love me yeah but it was because my cheeks yeah like turn around turn around yeah you also your booty

you look fantastic though thank you hello hello yes that was that was wow i felt great yeah that's amazing it's so hot whatever you meant to do that yeah she's like she's like i didn't know yeah you do um do you have a mirror message do you have a personal mantra that you like have written up on your mirror to keep may help you keep going or do you think that's lame like becca does no i don't think it's lame um i do have this um vision board oh i love you you're speaking kelty's language yeah i have a vision board you love this don't you i love it tell me about your vision board okay oh god actually and and what's really cool is my vision board is not of pictures it's of words i love words yeah so um whatever my goals are um whatever i need to kind of like hear like you can

do it um faith um focus uh just whatever yeah and what's really cool is it's not just my vision board it's the family's vision board so it's my god it's so deep it's it's my husband's as well so you know every day we walk by it and we see it and it and you know at the end of the year we actually check off things and it's a chalkboard so we can erase it once it's been completed and we've been doing it probably for like maybe three or four years now and it's mind-blowing how you're like oh my gosh that happened no oh my gosh that happened yeah no manifestation is real yeah here's why i can't get on board because i recently went to an open house okay like house shopping okay that bitch didn't take down her little vision board or her mirror mess it

hers was a mirror message okay in her closet okay and it's just like when you don't know somebody and it's such an intimate thing for other people strangers to see and hers was something like does this spark joy like it was one of those like very which is great like i asked myself those things on the inside yeah but like to be walking through someone's open house and be like i just basically saw so much of you and so for me my house is somewhere where there's people in and out got it they go and like i that is too intimate i can't have you don't worry about her no i need her advice i need her advice put it like in a place that's very like private and you know i used to say it's in my thoughts right but it's not as powerful no it's not and i'll tell you why because

i actually i'm a psych major i studied psychology and we study like cognitive therapy and just how the brain and all of that how it works when it's just in your brain when you're going through the day 1500 thoughts and messages are coming through right so sometimes you even forget when you actually see it like you're i'm looking at podcast one right now right but sometimes i could just be doing this and i may not even realize that i just saw podcast one but my brain did yeah do you get what i'm saying so it's it's like a it's a picture you're registering it it's like supplemental messaging yes basically so that's why i was like okay you know what you know i read this book called the secret and i was like yeah the secret i was like this is just such a face this is so

ridiculous but after i read it it's almost like the whole kind of vision board situation manifesting and i'm telling you it works get on board becca i don't know where i'm gonna put that where someone's not going to see it. You should watch The Secret movie. Have you ever seen it? No. It's so cheesy. You would die.

I watched it when I was like 16. You know who I watched that movie with? Who? Our mutual ex-boyfriend at his house. Did you guys try to manifest this together? We were like making out to The Secret. I'm just kidding. We totally weren't, but it is intense.

Okay. Let's move on to our like a lady question of the week. Okay. And this one's kind of deep. Okay. It is the best advice I ever got was from. so you have to fill in the blank what's the best advice you got and from who jack me first yeah god um i think well basically anything my mom tells me but my whenever okay so whenever i i have like a

like a bi-monthly panic attack about life and about work and it's really i own a clothing line i own my own business okay cool so and it's very very stressful and like every couple weeks i kind of feel like what the hell am I doing I feel like this is all gonna like implode and like I've wasted all of my life like trying to build something whatever and my mom like the one thing that she like always says to me is she's always like we're gonna get through this like we're this isn't the end of the world we'll get through this and it's not even that it's like the advice but maybe it's more so that I'm not like alone in that kind of situation because I do feel very lonely and like what i do because it's kind of just me yeah but it's kind of knowing that i have that support

system and i think the world is going to end like every other week so it's nice to know that it's not awesome yeah oh i love that um basically anything my therapist says to me but i will say kind of along those lines because i think in my 20s i was really ruled by my fear like i was like i can't do that it's too scary or i you know i'm gonna do this because it's not as scary um but in all this like really expensive therapy i've been going through she's like got something resonated something resonated she's like fear is false expectations appearing real so like in our minds we fantasize the worst case scenario yeah and so we just automatically go to that place like this is going to be the worst thing that's going to happen and it's going to she's like why

not win at your own fantasy like why not when you're looking at that thing that scares you You be the winner. Be the winner of your own fantasy. Oh, my God. Because it's our fantasies. We might as well make them good. And guess what? It's kind of like almost like the secret situation.

It is. It is, yeah. Becca, you're on it more than you think. My advice that I got was from Gwyneth Paltrow. Oh, interesting. No, just kidding. Not in real life. I read it in a magazine.

I read it in a magazine. I cut it out, and I have it on my board at work right beside my head. And it says, have permission to be everything. Ooh. And I love that because, you know, when you're trying to like build your own career and do your own thing, it is very scary. And there's everyone telling you like, you're not enough or you're not good enough or like this stay in your lane or you're not this all the time. And I've always had an interest in everything like, right. I work on TV, but I had the blog and then we started the

podcast and like, you know, and then we have such big dreams for our project. Like who are we not to make a tv show to make a blog to make a wine like we can do anything we want and so it's like you have permission to be everything it's how the real housewives operate 100 and the car skinny girl no you're you're absolutely right and that kind of like wow that that's that that's amazing thanks gwenny um no carb gwenny role model no food oh yeah erin sadness tia what is your who's your best advice and from who um let's see i think my the best advice that i i mean i feel very blessed to be surrounded by just supportive you know people yeah um and they're you know i think number one my biggest supporter is my husband but i don't want to sound

cliche or cheesy so let's just stop trying to stay relevant yeah like i don't want to be relevant anymore um no um it would have to be from my trainer actually um and she's a friend of mine and her name is Jeanette Jenkins oh you go to her yeah she does everyone yeah like Alicia Keys she's a badass she's oh my god like she doesn't play so anyway um a long time ago she had me uh we were doing yoga and she had me look in the mirror while we were doing yoga and she told me to tell myself i love you oh i know and i feel like it was a life alter oh my gosh like if you literally just like calm yourself down you know because we were like relaxed or whatever and then look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself yeah it just like yeah it

was just amazing i i had never felt so great in my life and i think it ties into you know forgive yourself and i think a lot of the times we're perfectionists um and we feel like we don't deserve certain things like kind of like what you were just saying um but we aren't perfect people no one's perfect and when you forgive yourself or whatever you've done you know um you let go of bitterness you let go of resentment and you just let go of a lot and you allow joy and happiness to come inside um and that was the best advice that i had like it was just like i was like i it was like heaven had opened up like i just saw god no really it was like a weird and it was you know we could say okay just love yourself but if you actually look at yourself in the mirror

like in your eyes you're taking like responsibility you are it was it was just i was just like oh it was amazing i love that speaking of advice now that we know so much about life we're gonna give advice okay to all of our lady gang members in one second hey ladies get funky ask the lady gang all right guys welcome back we are gonna do this fun little thing called ask the lady gang where you're gonna help us answer all of our listeners questions okay life and love okay spotlight's on oh god i'm scared before we start though um if you guys want to get 20 off jack vannick.com use code lady gang and i brought you these things by the way oh my gosh this is so cool i love this i don't want to adult today this is so awesome that's a good mug that's a good i

love it i was gonna go to the gym but i decided to get ice cream instead oh yes i thought it was it was pretty relevant i love this so relevant so relevant okay so if you guys want to write us in a question go to our website right that's the ladygang.com best way to do it or hello ladygang at gmail.com okay so the first question is from gabriella on email and she says what do you do when you feel like you're in a relationship you aren't sure of where it's going i'm 23 and we've been dating for two years i'm getting tired but he's my best friend and i don't want to hurt his feelings do i take a break and possibly lose him or just stick with it get out get out i say take a break oh yeah 23 too young oh yeah you're too young to be in a relationship yeah and then

also if she says that she's confused right or she doesn't really know yeah i think when you do take that break oh it's gonna you're gonna figure out you'll know yeah yeah and even though we're such like hard um cold bitches on the show and they're like you're too young you're 23 granted i have a mother and a sister who met their husbands who are still their husbands at like the ripe age of 15 and 18 you're so southern i'm so southern but they're still together they're still i was 20 when i met my you were see so the thing is is like he could he could be that person yeah but i think that you're right when you say like you gotta take a break yeah because if you're already feeling that way and you're 23 like life is long and also here's the thing especially in

the wrong relationship and i also hate it when people say i'm worried about hurting their feelings the thing that hurts people's feelings is when you're not honest oh 100 and then it's like if you just tell me if you are having those feelings of doubt and then you still try to go with it yeah it's bad yeah why are people so i don't know i remember britney daniel i don't know if you guys know who she is she was on the game and she's um britney and cynthia twins the sweet valley high twins um yeah she was telling me just this is a long time ago like about relationships and how she was reading this book about honesty how if you're not honest in a relationship you've just built and created a life that's just not real do you know what i mean yeah there and there's so

much like i was saying before bitterness resentment you're just a really unhappy person and she's like you know it's just all about just being honest and just you know tell the truth yeah every guy that broke my heart in my 20s you should just tell me you didn't want to date me like it would have been fine i would have found someone else i was hot i had a nice body like you wasted all my damn time i think it's like get those years back in that kind of situation it's like the one of the only times that it's like good to be selfish like worry about yourself yeah yeah because you're going to end up staying with them for more years and then it's going to be even harder and you're going to have kids you're going to you know and you're going to hurt them more so it's like if

you're worried about its feelings then it's all about honesty from the beginning cut the cord cut the cord okay our next question is from elizabeth on email and she said i'm about to graduate college next month my sister is blowing off my commencement in case she has something better to do she's really sensitive so i can't say anything or she'll get mad at me but she's also extremely self-centered and selfish anytime i try to talk to her about anything it turns into herself all i want is this one day the rest of the 364 days can be about her i feel belittled and disrespected how should i approach this now you have a sister so go this year oh my gosh well see this is okay number one honesty is is is the is the best thing but i think what i've learned

And, you know, with my with, you know, having a sister and not only that, a twin sister, which is even crazier because the bond is just like like amazing. First of all, be honest, but also be sensitive or have empathy or sympathy on how you say it, because no matter what you say, she's going to take it personal. She'll get defensive. Do you know what I mean? And so really, you know, think about how your sister is and just, you know, just kind of like be sensitive to how you say whatever it is that you, what you, what you want to do instead of just like, you know, I don't know, not being sensitive. But also, again, I think you really just have to be honest because you don't want any resentment

there either, you know? Yeah. Obviously it's like a big thing. And she's your sister. She'll forgive you. the things that we say um i will say that i had a sister our our age difference was the same as yours i think you said you're four years apart she's younger um that's my sister and and i was younger and actually she taught me a lot about myself um because she did tell me when i was

being a selfish self-centered brat and um that's pretty much the only advice in that time in my life she's the only person in that time that i would take seriously um because i knew she did have my best interest at heart and so i think that you're doing her a disservice if you don't point it out because you know she could grow up to be that self-centered selfish adult like i am my sister she should have told me more times and it doesn't seem like that hard of a thing to like asked me to go to well her sister's 18 though like you know life just wants to snapchat snapchat to the kids get give blowjobs if she's anything like me she's exactly snapchat blowjobs oh my god kelsey anything no dad i got a brother i'm an only child so i don't really have any

yeah all right our last question is from alissa on email and she says i'm finally about to graduate from college after six years and i am freaking out because i'm moving home to live with my parents i basically have no job prospects and i feel like my life is not together what is the best way to handle this should i try to travel take a break from everything for a little bit or something else well here's here's what i'll tell you i've been there it gets better i would say in in america there's like this weird thing where everyone has to you know go to college right away and they kind of like get out of college and you're like i don't know why did i do in canada everyone kind of like takes a couple years and they go to australia and they travel and then you go back

to college when you're like 22 so i i think the travel is not a bad idea because you'll meet tons of people from all over the world and you'll see you know what you really want to do and i think being worldly really puts a lot of things in perspective and there's only one time in your life you can really travel the world inexpensively backpack and not care and it's like early in your 20s because by the time you hit 30s you're like i need a feather bed and i have a baby and i'm in a relationship like you just go like a little bit when you're older and also like get out of your parents house as soon as possible yeah go sleep on somebody's couch yeah i don't know if going back to your parents house is kind of like a good idea well because some people end up getting

like in that rut once they go to their parents' house. Yeah, can't get out. But then it's too easy because their parents are doing their laundry and their basement for life. Yeah.

I like the idea of traveling because I traveled abroad while I was in school. But I always say that I'm so happy I did that because I was out of my comfort zone and I really discovered who I was

and really who I am today. And not only that, what i really wanted to do um so i have to agree with you get out there travel meet people because you'll learn a lot about yourself also it's like once once she gets a job it's not gonna be as easy to go travel that's true you have this freedom that a lot of people wish that they had yeah becca has so many things to say i can see i honestly have nothing to offer um but i love when sometimes we think that you have something to say and you're like blank no you're like i have to burp i literally was just burping i'm not kidding i must have like a really

focused face when i'm burping you have like a resting burp face resting burp face no i mean i second all of that like i i still have regrets now that i'm older and i have so many responsibilities and i have to like do stupid adult things like remember to take the cushions off my patio furniture when it rains like kill me and like today i just walked out of my house and i'm like when did i become the person who has so many things to do i don't even have a kid yet like i cannot imagine how you're doing excuses and so i i i did take a lot of time and do those things but i mean honestly you can't get enough of it like just do it yeah just do it do it love your best life but don't forget to have health insurance that's important when you travel

maybe mom can help you out with that um we're so excited that you stopped by to you know give us all of our love and congratulations on your new podcast mostly mom with tia maori you guys can check it out you're also on podcast one right you're like a yeah you're like we're like label mates yeah we're family which is so great um and if you guys love podcasts and you only get lady gang for like an hour a week so you may as well get another podcast which is very exciting and where can everyone follow you on instagram it's just tia maori right yeah tia maori on instagram am i saying it wrong maori like morby maori povich i've said maori forever i mean the way it's spelled everyone says it in the entertainment

in business everyone says yeah it's oh my god that's so annoying i know wait that just blew my mind every time i've heard your name it's been yeah maury but it's maury like maury povich and i have this weird story my dad was like tell us because we're gonna clean this up in all of hollywood yeah so we were like dad why is it pronounced maury as opposed to maury because the way it's spelled it sounds like maury and he was like well you know growing up you know i realized that my family is from italy and our real last name is morentini but guess what that was all bullshit that's like that's not even my sister and i we ended up doing like this you know family whatever and there's like no italian blood in us at all we're like and the door where did

that story come from he was like well that's what my dad or my mom told me so i don't know why so it's hold on but has it bothered you for 20 years in the business like people saying your name wrong no forever honest with you i was just like whatever whatever you know like oh my god that's so funny that is hilarious i'm gonna go and you're the most low maintenance celebrity i think i've ever met that's insane i learn something every day i know i'm gonna go back to the office and be like hashtag our pronouncers wrong for 20 years anyway okay well live your best life we're big uh journalists over here okay um well anyway you have to check out mostly mom with tia mori yes exactly it's a new podcast on podcast one and thank you so much for being here and guys don't

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