Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman - Debunking Big O Myths!

Episode Date: December 25, 2023

It’s time for another Language of Love Bite! Let’s delve into the heart of human connection, breaking down barriers, and challenging long-standing misconceptions surrounding one of the most intimate aspects of our lives. In this episode, we shed light on a topic that's been shrouded in myths for far too long. Join us as we navigate the landscape of pleasure, discussing and debunking the top five orgasm myths that have lingered in our collective consciousness for years. From the misconceptions about how women reach orgasm to the truth behind vibrators and the surprising revelation that men are not immune to faking it— we're leaving no stone unturned. Let’s continue to explore, learn, and debunk myths about our love lives. Keep the conversation going, and remember, there's no such thing as a silly question when it comes to love and intimacy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, I'm sex, love, and relationship therapist, Dr. Laura Berman, and for the last 30 years, I've been helping people just like you learn to love and be loved better. Welcome to the Language of Love Bites, where I tackle your most asked questions and requested topics. These episodes are designed to be fun, quick, and to the point. It's time we all become fluent in the language of love. top five orgasm myths. Number one, that all women reach orgasm through intercourse. Not true. Only 30% of women reach orgasm through intercourse. And that is usually because they're

getting clitoral stimulation either through the position or through some sort of manual or vibratory position at the same time as having intercourse. Number two, that vibrators can replace men. Not true, okay? Most women, especially women over 40, need more stimulation in order to reach orgasm, and often vibrators are a woman's best friend for that, but they can be incorporated into sex between the two of you. They by no means replace a partner. Why? Because part of her arousal is the connection and intimacy she feels with the person she's having sex with. That's a huge predictor for her sexual satisfaction. So even though the vibrator is a machine and no human can create that kind of intensity of stimulation, it is really about the whole experience with the

person she's having sex with that arouses her. And vibrators can be a wonderful way to enhance her sexual arousal while the two of you are enjoying an intimate sexual exchange. Hey, it's Dr. Laura Berman. I've been a sex, love, and relationship therapist for over 30 years. And the main question I always get asked is, how the heck do we spice it up in a long-term monogamous relationship well if you want to take your love life your sex life to the next level whether you're in a relationship or not check out my free course on quantum sex it's going to teach you how to take your sexual response to the next level capable of full body orgasms how to use sex magic to manifest your dreams and how to connect on an even deeper level sexually with your partner

Just go to Dr. Laura Berman dot com and you'll find it right there on the home page. The quantum sex free course. Check it out. Let me know what you think. Third myth, if a woman can't reach orgasm, something is wrong with her. Not true. Not all women can reach orgasm and certainly don't reach orgasm every time. Even the most orgasmic women do not necessarily achieve an orgasm or reach orgasm every time

they have a sexual encounter. So for most men, they can't imagine a sexual encounter without ejaculation, right? Without orgasm. That's kind of like the punctuation mark in their minds. but that is not necessarily the case for women. That's not to say it's not a worthy goal and something you should work toward, but by no means are you somehow wrong or bad if you don't reach orgasm every time. If you don't reach orgasm at all through any means, then we should talk. Fourth myth, that only women fake orgasm. Not true. Men fake orgasm too. It's true that 70%

of women have faked orgasm. I hate to break that news to those of you who believe that every woman you've ever been with has reached an orgasm because that's probably not true. But guys fake orgasms too. They can and they do. So don't think it's just women who do it. The fifth myth is that the goal of every sexual encounter is orgasm. As I said earlier, that's simply not true. It's a worthy goal. It's a great thing to strive toward. But when I did national research on what the most sexually satisfied women had in common, it wasn't how often they reached orgasm or what kind of orgasms or if they reached orgasm.

It was the emotional intimacy and connection they felt to the person they were having sex with. Something to think about. If you have questions about this or anything else on your mind about sex, love, and relationships, you know I'm here for you, always helping you learn to love and be loved better. i went to the doctor said i'm crazy for your love wrote me a prescription but there's no cure for