Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman - How to Sense, Hear & Communicate with Loved Ones on the Other Side with Rebecca Rosen

Episode Date: July 16, 2025

The truth is, death doesn’t sever bonds. Love doesn’t end with a last breath. And if you’ve ever longed for one more moment, one more word, one more chance to say I love you… This might change everything.  In this powerful episode, I sit down with my dear friend Rebecca Rosen, a celebrated evidential medium and soul guide, for a live, unfiltered session that bridges worlds. Together, we explore how grief, while devastating, can also become a doorway, not just to healing, but to a connection far deeper and more enduring than you ever thought possible. Like so many of you, I’ve wrestled with the ache of loss, and I’ve also seen how that ache cracks us wide open to experiences that defy logic but speak straight to the soul. The truth is, our loved ones aren’t gone. They’re speaking… just in a different language. And once you learn how to hear them, you’ll realize they’ve been with you all along.  We dive into: Why mediumship isn’t reserved for a “special few,” and that we all have the gift of intuition How grief, trauma, and even daily stress can block your ability to connect—and how to shift it The difference between the 3D, 4D, and 5D realms (and how to access higher guidance) What the Akashic Records are and how they can reveal messages from your soul family How to spot signs from your loved ones and strengthen your trust in their presence Simple practices to raise your vibration, heal energetically, and create "heaven on earth" The truth about soul contracts, soul groups, and why even loss can serve your spiritual growth If you’ve ever doubted the whispers of your heart, this conversation will awaken you to a love that never dies. Press play. Open your mind. And prepare to meet them again, for the first time. P.S. Don’t miss Rebecca’s What’s Your Heaven?—a breathtaking guide to finding peace now, not just in the afterlife. Visit her website or Instagram for more inspiring resources. Your story matters. Have you received a sign? A dream? A message you can’t explain? Email me at [e-mail]—your experience could be the proof someone else needs to believe.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, I'm sex, love, and relationship therapist, Dr. Laura Berman, and for the last 30 years, I've been helping people learn to love and be loved better. Welcome to the Language of Love Sessions. This is where I get to work with you one-on-one, on air. You, my listeners, my goal in these sessions is to empower you to enjoy better relationships, both with others and with yourself, and to help you embrace how precious and sacred your body, your love life, and your sexuality really is. It's time we all become fluent in the language of love. Okay, so many of you know who Rebecca Rosen is. She's an amazing evidentiary medium. I forced

her to be my friend because I love her so much. Not because, I mean, I do love her talents, but I just really love her heart. Carla, I know, was on our last retreat, which Rebecca so generously, oh, and Jen, that's right, which Rebecca so generously came to. And today, you know, in this session, your loved ones may come in.

That's open if they want to come in. But one of the things that I really wanted to focus on is that the spiritual peace and connecting to our people on the other side. And I know we have a lot of mamas here, but we have people who've lost others as well. The Grief Healing Collective is for everyone who's lost someone. We tend to get sort of dependent. Assuming we can afford a medium, we tend to get dependent on mediums as our source of connection. And or we'll start looking for

signs, which is a really powerful way to connect with them. But we actually don't need a medium to be in communication and communion with our loved ones on the other side. And what I've seen happen so often, it's happened even for me, is that in that longing, because we can have that ongoing two-way relationship with them, it's a long distance. It feels a little more long distance, obviously, and we'd give anything to have them here in person. But you can continue a relationship with them.

And in that longing to be connected to them, And that often opens the door to be motivated to cultivate some of the spiritual gifts that all of us are born with. And for most of us get conditioned out of us, bad in life. And if you have your sound on, just put it on mute because weird sounds come through otherwise. But what I really wanted and what Rebecca also I know loves doing is teaching people how to be your own medium of sorts

and give you some of the tools that you can use. Hi, Ellie, go ahead and see there. Use some of the tools you can use to start connecting to them yourself and receiving the guidance, the wisdom, the connection, the messages. You know, a lot of times, I think we turn to mediums first to prove to ourselves

that they're still there and then as a jumper cable to them. and what I'm really excited about Rebecca is for you to take us through all that you've learned because I know you teach people this all the time that we can start cultivating in ourselves and if anyone comes through but let us know that too but you know what we can cultivate in ourselves so that we can start having a direct line yeah absolutely well first of all thank you for having me. I love you as much as you said you love me. And you and I just kind of connected because you're just so real and it's so refreshing. And yeah, and it was so amazing to be able to come

to your event back in October and, you know, have that live experience. And I love so much that you've brought this together and that you're offering this. So, yes. So thank you for having me, I love reminding people that we all have this ability. I'm not special. I mean, every single person has intuition, okay? It's really just a matter of believing that and then choosing to work with it or not. So, you know, we all have five senses and we also have the sixth sense. and that sixth sense is that doorway to intuition and to connecting with non-physical energy. And, you know, for me, I became aware of it

because I was in desperation a long time ago going through a really dark night of the soul. But, you know, it doesn't always take a wake-up call or something, you know, like that to recognize it and then work with it. So the fact you're here right now tells me that your team spirit, which is made up of angels and spirit guides and all of your loved ones who have passed on, including pets, they brought you to this. And I think my senses with this group,

some of you already use that connection. You know it's there. You may wrestle with doubt because we all do. That's that human mind or the ego that gets in the way. But I would just encourage you to open your mind to the possibility. Let go of the doubt long enough to make space and really all you have to do is set an intention. Because if there's one thing I hear more than anything from the other side is that they are waiting for you guys to pay attention, for us to pay attention. They flock to me and people like me because I'm just, I'm an empath, you know, I'm just ultra sensitive and I'm always on. And so if you start to like, again, set the intention to be open and then use the tools on a daily basis to strengthen the muscle, they're going to flock

to you directly. Okay. And yeah, absolutely. You can go to a medium, you can go to a intuitive, you know, get a psychic reading. And even I do, you guys on occasion, like it's sometimes really hard to be objective when you're so close to a situation, you can't see it. When my dad first died, I saw every medium there was, but at the end of the day, like you want to trust that's kind of disempowering. Everything you need is within you and your connection is yours and yours alone. Okay. And so I do think, yeah, my job here is I'm a medium and I am here to offer this to you, but more than that, I'm here to remind you and empower you to use your own connection. So I'm not sure how you want to do this, if you want to ask questions or you just want me.

Well, I think we can do both. I think you can take us through, you know, teach us how to do this and what the tools are and what muscles we need to really train and how to train them. You can be our mediumship trainer coach. But if you guys have any questions at any point, right? I mean, you tell me Rebecca, but I would think it at any point, just either, you know, say I have a question in the chat. Tina and I are both watching the chat. And as soon as she takes a breath, we'll say so-and-so has a question or you can type the whole question in the chat, whichever. But I think Rebecca, you're open to just being in flow and answering the questions as they come. Yeah, absolutely. And also, you know, you can wait till the end. I think we can be we can be in flow. Like I completely want to make sure we're all kind of tracking and connected. So if you have questions, put them in there. So I think probably the first place to start is just kind of identifying the different planes of existence, because, I mean, obviously, here we are in this 3D plane, right? This is Earth's school. That's what I call it.

And so this is the classroom of life. And so here we are, it's heavy, it's dense, it's a low, slow vibration. And there's a lot of contrast, but that's divinely designed. That's the whole point. Usually souls learn through contrast, right? So when you know what you don't want, you get clear on what you do want. So that's why we come into this earth school. and it takes a lot of work to keep that innate intuitive connection to the other side to the

higher planes so when we're babies and when we're little kids we naturally are intuitive and we're seeing spirits and it's easy until we're conditioned or we're talked out of that and so you really have to really pay attention and nurture that connection as you grow so we have a 3D plane. Then we have the fourth dimension, which is the astral plane. We all go there when we dream. Okay. So the astral plane is like where I go when I do readings. So the lower astral and the upper astral, the lower is the waiting room between heaven and earth. Okay. So essentially when you come see me for a reading, your loved one's dropping out of the higher planes on the other side into that waiting room. And then the mediums raising their vibration and hooking up

into the astral plane. Okay. And that's where we make the connection. And so if you're wondering, like, what does that feel like? What does that look like? Again, all of us dream, not everybody remembers their dreams, but you know, those days, like it happened to me this morning, actually, when you wake up and you're so out of it, you cannot place what day it is, what time it is, where are you? It takes 30 seconds before it comes back. Yeah. You were just out of your body. You were astral traveling. Okay. And so our souls leave our bodies at night a lot of times to go to the other side, to connect with our team and spirit, our counsel, our angels, our guides, our departed loved ones. That's where we can have visitations. And then when we've gotten what we

need, we come back into the body, we wake up. So, and then the upper astral plane, that is like, That's where a lot of souls go. Like when I connect with like the spirit guides and the kind of more like ascended masters or the higher light beings, sometimes your loved ones are included in that. Okay. It just depends where they're at in their evolution. Yeah. I don't want to interrupt you, but there is one question that we should clarify, which

was the question about the question, which is, do we ask about the process or ask about our loved one? They're asking. You can do either because I'll tell you if I'm getting a read about your loved one or not. I always tell people I'm not out fishing in the sea of the dead. I'm sitting here waiting just like open and I'll answer the call if they come. And so you absolutely can ask, but I may or may not get the connection. So we'll just see how it goes.

But yes, ask, ask whatever you want. Whatever you want. I trust you. And then you have the fifth and the fifth dimension. You guys have heard a lot. I'm sure about 5D, right? We're hearing all about old earth moving into the new earth, 3D to 5D. So the 5D and higher, because there's not just five dimensions, there's a lot, but 5D is higher heavens, okay? So it's like unity consciousness. That's where a lot of the

higher beings, archangels and angels, like the more ethereal realm. And so I meet people where they're at. I do a ton of readings where people are like, I'm good with my dead people. I want to connect to the Akashic records. I want to talk to my council. I want to talk to the higher archangels or Jesus or Quan Yin or higher ascended masters. So for me, that's a heyday. I love that. That's so fun because that is pure positive energy. It's pure light. You still have some of the lower frequencies in the astral plane, right? And so that is kind of the 5D and above. And we can access that. Again, you can access it in your meditations. You can access it. You can live your 5D. You can bring it literally into this dimension now. You know, I just wrote a book

called What's Your Heaven because the message was so strong and clear that I needed to help people understand you don't have to wait until you die to be peaceful and find purpose and connection and oneness. You can bring that sense of 5D unity consciousness oneness connection to earth and you can live it because everything is just energy and it's vibrating at different frequencies. And so you can be in a living hell here, right? Or you can cross over and continue that hell if your frequency is still really low and slow and unhealed. Or you can be in a living heaven here. So when we die, I don't even like the word die because we don't die. When we transition from physical to non-physical, we end up being, well, basically we're a vibration

and we go to the vibrational match that we've earned based on our level of consciousness. Okay. So you meet up with everything. And that's why I do a lot of work with suicide. And the common message I hear is, oh, geez, it all followed me. The only difference is, you know, you have to pick up where you left off. But the difference is a lot of souls were hurting and exhausted, and they just couldn't do it anymore.

And so they're in a more like supportive place in the 5D energy versus in this harsh, dense 3D world to do the work. Either way, though, you got to do the work. Okay, so I've broken down the levels. Are there any questions on that? Yeah, I just want to make sure we get to these. Well, first of all, Jen asked if you know what her son was doing a few days before he passed. But then Tracy also asked about the levels that she was told by her functional medicine doctor to connect with her dad through her Akashic records.

And does that mean that there's a message he has to share with her? I'm just kidding. That's a good question. That's a really good question. wait, who asked that question? That was Tracy. Hi, Tracy. Okay. So this is, I feel like we need to go there because what they're showing me is he has really important information to relay to you. Okay. We travel in soul groups, right? And we have soul families and in our soul families are certain soulmates and your dad is one for you. And in the Akashic records, you have your own

individual records and then you have shared like ancestral lineage right records and so like your soul group is working on certain lessons and your dad wants you to meet there because he woke up when he died and realized all the things like oh my gosh how did I not see that everything's 2020 in hindsight but you are the more evolved soul in this group and you have a chance to heal this balance this, not only for you, but for him and for your ancestral line. There's a lot of self worth issues and there's a lot of like, I'm deserving, I'm worthy and getting out of lack and scarcity. Okay. So your dad was really stuck at the end. Very, very either down on himself or just depressed. He's showing me, do you know if they're, okay, who is William? They keep screaming

the name William. Do you know if that's in your family line? It's on my mother's side. Okay. And then is your dad in our initial? No, but his brother is. Okay. So, and his brother has passed away. And if I said to you, there were three of them. So was he one of three? He was one of four. Okay. Are there three of them in spirit? They're all in spirit right now. Okay. He's saying the three of them.

Oh, God. Sorry. It's my mom, my dad, and my sister. Okay. That's okay. But they're all in the chills. Yeah. That's what he's trying to reference.

Oh, my God. Okay. Now, who had substance abuse issues or struggled with, like, I see AA. so they might have gone though my sister and I could say my dad too but didn't go but didn't go it's your dad showing me this and what he's showing me is that there was a tremendous amount of regret when he got over there because he was so close to getting this lesson right and he was he had too much shame and too much fear and he and he's showing me that you have gone a different direction. You're going down a higher timeline. And he's so proud of you. And they're bringing

up Emma's and Mary. So I don't know who she is. That's my grandmother who I was super close to. Her name's Marianne. She helps you go down the higher timeline. Like she's showing me and then I see a cardinal or I see a bird. So I show up as a bird to give you the sign. The breadcrumbs to encourage you to keep making choices in the frequency of light and love. Okay. So you have a lot on your plate because you're holding a lot of your ancestral line baggage. And that's why they need you to go to the Kaushik records. So I'm just like kind of an appetizer here. I'm just like opening up a doorway and you're going to go find either. You can do this yourself. You can do it meditation or you can find me. Like book an appointment. Yeah. If we do an appointment,

I can guide you and we can go into the records and talk to your guides. But that's another conversation. Yeah. That's different. Yeah. That's fabulous. Thank you. Thank you. You're welcome. Yeah, that's great. All right. So we have two more sets of questions. First from Carrie, which I think is a great asking you to elaborate a little more. Boy, I could dive into this juicy question too with you but elaborate more on how we can achieve heaven and peace on earth before we transition and daniella echoes carrie and adding to it when we're at a crossroads how can we connect with our spirits and how do we understand which path is the one we originally plan to for ourselves i guess for our soul plan how do we know that that's the path should i tell

the other questions too? Let's just start with that. Okay. So when we are born, we have a soul contract and we loosely have, I always say it's like choose your own adventure. You have free will choices, but you have certain things set up to like people you're going to meet and lessons you're going to go through. And it's up to you if you embrace those and you allow them or you resist them, right? And that's your free will. And if you go with the flow, you're going to more gracefully navigate your way through this. And that's where a lot of synchronicity happens and life becomes easy and magical. And you're like, wow, look at that crazy miracle that just happened. That's the way it's supposed to be. But guess what? We have egos. We self-sabotage.

That's just the human condition. And so it's on us to recognize that and to know if you're on a highest timeline because you have multiple timelines, you guys. There's not one destiny and there's not one soulmate. We have multiple timelines and a lot of people, what I see when I read them, they hit a certain point in their soul contract and I'm like, wow, you've done all the heavy lifting, all the hard work, gone through a lot of growth. But now moving forward, it's a blank canvas and you get to, you said in my soul contract, I'm going to leave this open-ended and decide when I get there. Now, how do you decide? You have to ask yourself, what lights me up? What brings me joy? The point at the end of the day is to elevate your soul, to become like God,

right? To become like the creator, to be more light, less shadow, to be more conscious, less unconscious, right? That's how you spiritually grow and evolve. And you do that through joy. You do that through the levels of consciousness that are higher vibration. And at the end of the day, I could say it all comes down to vibration. So you have to figure out, okay, what energizes me versus what drains me? And maybe the lesson is you need to learn boundaries because you have a lot of toxic people in your life, right? And so you have to figure out, all right, I'm being drained and I'm exhausted and I'm

definitely not flowing in my life. Well, that's a living hell. So then you have to say, okay, what is it that brings me joy? What lights me up? What raises my vibe? And there's so many things, right? It could be little things like sitting in the sunshine, okay? Reading a great book, things like that. It doesn't have to be big stuff, but then you have to practice that because it's basically an accumulation over time. It's a daily practice. You know, it's not like you go to the gym once and you can be fit. it's a practice. You go every day and build that strength and accomplish the goal. And so the same goes for creating your heaven on earth and going down the highest timeline. Okay, so I don't know

if I answered all of it, but... Well, can I ask you a follow-up question about that? Because I'm curious what you have to say about this. Because I feel like I have started, you know, at this point in my life to touch into what you're saying with regard to heaven on earth. I mean, I wouldn't say I'm living in heaven, but I can live there for periods of time. And I think a lot of it, I mean, that was all quantum love where I talk about vibrations and the different frequencies of different emotions. And I'm not just plugging my book, guys, if you want. I mean, I am plugging my book, but not so it's from 2017. I don't care about sales, but it's a really good book. So good for how to raise your vibration. And I and Sammy was still alive when I wrote this.

I wasn't even thinking about connecting to the other side. I was mostly focused on manifesting the relationship you really wanted. But it totally applies to what Rebecca is saying. However, what I've also found is key to living and sustaining a higher state of mind and more joyful, more peaceful, more optimistic, more of those higher frequency states. We often have to face the healing part, right? So you mentioned boundaries. That's an example, right? Sometimes it's a history of trauma. Sometimes it's, you know, the loss itself, the trauma of the loss itself, not necessarily leaving. I know Jen said grief fatigue is real. It is not necessarily living in the loss and identifying with the loss. and I'd love you to talk about that too, but being willing to be with the pain of the loss

enough so that we can process it honestly. And not just, I think so often we tend to bypass, right? And we're like, Ooh, I'm joyful. I want to connect to the other side. So I'm just going to be happy when really we feel like shit. Yeah. Right. 100%. Yeah. You're transparent to the universe. You can't lie. You can't hide. And your energy is your energy, but it is so true. We, myself included I'm going through a growth period and I was spiritually bypassing all this stuff until the universe has a way of dishing it up and throwing it in your face and saying deal and you've got to feel it to heal it yeah you just do and it's sometimes super uncomfortable and messy but my guides have shown me the point is to get neutral to neutral because nothing's

good or bad but to really say okay not why is this happening to me why am I in grief why do I feel awful? No. What is this here to teach me? And how do I find healing and balance in this? Because it's part of your soul contract. It's one of your soul lessons. And that's the point. You signed up for it. You chose it. So now it's here. It's a great opportunity. So you say, thank you. As messy and ugly as it is, you say, thank you universe for this gift. Because what it's going to do is it's going to raise your level of consciousness. Laura talks about it in her book. I talk about it in my book, David Hawkins, scale of consciousness, level of consciousness, right? The bottom of the scale is victimhood. It's shame. It's guilt. It's

grief is down in that too, right? But that's the human experience. They're not good or bad. They just are. But the goal is to move up the scale. And, you know, like you said, Laura, it's not every day is rainbows and lollipops. It's just not. But the goal is some days you may be down in grief. Okay, how do I choose for the next best feeling emotion up the scale? And the goal is to get to neutrality where you're just kind of accepting, like neutral or above, acceptance is above that, to eventually getting to a place of joy because your internal state, it's in such a place of faith and trust that there is a divine rhyme and reason to all of this. You just trust so much. You have your uncertainty, right? You just know all of this is for a reason. It's for your

soul's growth and evolution so that anything external doesn't rabble you. That's true heaven on earth. That's where, but I do think it's really hard, especially when you've lost, well, when you've lost anyone, like, but when you lose someone to old age, it's still tremendous grief and we still want to connect with them. And we can even see the natural course in that. But I've noticed that for a lot of us, myself included, I've grappled with this. I don't anymore because I've just really worked. This is one thing that I feel at peace with. And this is one place where I think mediumship can be really helpful is I experience resistance a lot and understandably so. Like, what the fuck do you mean my soul signed up for this? Like my soul signed up for my kid to die.

My soul signed up for my sister to be killed in a car accident. You know, my, like, how did my soul, you know, I believe you, but I'm wondering if you, and this is also related to, I think, Allegra's question, which is, are our soul groups, specifically those we have lost or those we're closest to, so my son would travel with those he was closest to in life, such as my father and paternal grandparents, when I'm trying to connect to them, would you encourage me to be open to connecting with any one of them? So others in the soul family or soul group, but this idea of soul plan, soul group, maybe you can speak to that a little bit.

Yeah, for sure. I know this is a hard one to wrap your head around, but your soul, I'm sure knows and feels the truth of this. It's the mind that has a hard time sometimes understanding or accepting. And that is our soul knows there's no death. Energy doesn't die. It changes form. So we know all of this is temporary and that in order for us to grow and evolve and become

more like the light of the creator, we have to work together with soulmates, part of our soul family, to be polishing stones for each other sometimes, right? You are my greatest teacher because you are the one who's triggering me the most, right? Or you're my greatest teacher because you are my beloved child who left this earth too young. And I am here learning these lessons on how to have faith and trust when I want to just crawl up in a ball and stay in bed all day, right? And die.

And so we, before we're born, we say, hey, you really need to learn faith and trust. So I'm going to sign up and play out this role with you so that this will give you the opportunity to firsthand be in that contrast, right? Because when you go through tragic loss, you either go one of two ways. You lose faith altogether. You become jaded, shut down for good reason, or you deepen faith and trust. You become open and expanded. And so there's an opportunity in that. And so I think the work I do, I do it because I want to show you, A, there's no death when I'm able to make these undeniable connections and give you evidence,

you're like, oh my God, he saw what I ate this morning for breakfast. He really is there. Then you're like, okay, so you're there and I'm struggling down here on planet Earth in Earth's school and you're up there on summer vacation in heaven, right? Help.

And so I don't know the answer to the question, but the point is we agree to these soul contracts for the sole purpose of learning the lessons to elevate our consciousness, okay? That's the bottom line. And honestly, you can't do it without contrast. Yeah, many of us signed up for our doozy. We were in the PhD level soul growth course,

but I do think a lot about, and I mention this book all the time. One of my other favorites is Anita Morjani's book, Dying to Be Me, when she went to the other side and came back. And there's this one metaphor she uses to try to explain it, kind of what you're talking about, is that when she was on the other side,

the best way she could explain this aspect was that she saw this huge, insanely intricate, gorgeous tapestry, like the kind you would see in the ancient castles. And she could see her thread of her soul, all the other threads, meaning other souls, other lives of this lifetime, right? Just the whole thing and the past and the future.

but she could see how her life touched and wove with and wove into the whole picture. And when we're here, when we get there, evidently, and I think you would agree, Rebecca, from your experiences talking to people there, that we see the whole picture. Yeah. We see the whole tapestry.

We can't see it here, right? And so speaking of soul contracts, that's part of it. There are all these reasons why we kind of generally sign up to have a lot of the experiences we have because of the soul growth we want to do. Carrie is asking, and this is relevant too to what we were talking about of raising your vibration through healing and through choosing something that shifts you out of a really dark place in an authentic way or to focus on things that bring you more joy. Shout out to joy because lots of us grievers struggle to allow ourselves joy.

So one of the big things I hope you're taking away from this is how important welcoming some joy in is for being able to commune with those higher frequency spirits we want to connect with. But Carrie is saying that she's assuming we have to accept that even as we move up to those higher frequency feelings, we will also hit low frequency ones, right? It's certainly not a straight line. No, it's fluid. It's fluid. And if you're being authentic, you have your up days and your not so up days and that's okay. But again, the contrast is the gift because you're like, wow, this was a rough day. And the next day you appreciate when you feel lighter and more peaceful. And so, God, I was going to say something, but we, no, no, it's totally good. We have spiritual amnesia.

There's a reason, you guys, that we don't remember the bigger picture, but that's when you make contact with your loved ones, whether it's through a medium or in your own meditation or in a dream, and they connect with you. Sometimes they give you kind of glimpses of re-reminders or even deja vu. When you have deja vu and you're like, wow, this has happened before, right? That's your soul saying, hey, reminder, this is supposed to be happening. It's part of your soul contract. You're exactly where you need to be.

Trust the plan. And so when you get those little tidbits, it gives you this faith. Okay, there is a bigger rhyme and reason behind the messiness of this. Okay, let me say this. I had a group reading today and I had this woman whose son, he was 24, four months ago, took his life. and the message was, mom, it's okay to find joy again. In fact, the greatest gift you can give me is to A, forgive yourself, forgive me and the situation. But then he said something, I said,

are you guys going to like France? She's like, oh my God, just this morning, we talked about going to France this summer. I was like, well, he's all for it. Go to France. I like, I said like five things. She's like, wait, we just did that. Or wait, we're about to do that. I said, do you see he's trying to say to you, not only is it a good idea, it's necessary because it's going to allow you to pull out of some of your grief, find more light, bring more joy in. And from that frequency, you can connect to me more because the biggest thing I find when people are grieving, they go to mediums because they can't connect. Your frequency for good reason is down here. If you're going to make a connection and they're up here, you got to at least meet them halfway and be up

here. Most of us have no idea how to move through loss. There's no roadmap to follow when you're trying to navigate grief. And I realized this when I lost my son three years ago. As a therapist who understood grief, a whole new level of pain opened up to me when I lost my 16-year-old son. And since then, I have been building resources that have allowed me to navigate through loss, not only in a healthy way, but in a way that has transformed me for the better. We can move through the most terrible loss with grace. And that's why I have created the course, Good Grief, Healing from loss with love. You can find it on my website, drlauraberman.com, right there on the homepage, as well as free resources letting you know how to support others who are going through

loss. None of us has to do this alone. And sometimes it's impossible because you're in so much pain. So that's a good reason to seek out some help. But the goal is to not have to seek out help because you're raising your vibe because you're finding more joy. And then when you're in those joyful places, you get signs and you have dream visitations and you feel them like you're in a space. You're like, I swear my son is standing right here right now. I can feel him, right? You've elevated your vibration and that includes bringing in more things that make you happy. You know, I've discovered this by accident related to raising your vibration. What I started noticing once again in the spirit of like promoting the healing work or the emotional work

every time I would let myself have a huge emotional release like I would intentionally or maybe unintentionally just have a really big cry or I'd beat the shit out of a bunch of pillows or just move some big emotion I would definitely feel lighter energetically and physically feel lighter and kind of like I always say like I took a big dump you know is what energetically or emotionally is how it would feel. But that is when all of a sudden I would start getting these little messages from Sammy or I would see hummingbirds, right? Like all these things would start happening and I started making a connection between the two because it would happen consistently. So it kind of makes sense, right? That as we let ourself feel it to heal it in a healthy way,

that in and of itself is raising your vibration absolutely yes and it's like if you make that a daily practice and it's over time it's cumulative you're going to eventually be vibing higher and then you naturally get more direct signs and connection to your loved ones sammy as you were talking he's always with you but he's talking about your hands in the dirt getting your hands in the dirt. So I don't know if you have a landscaping project or he's asking you to get outside. Yeah, I'm missing gardening. That's a big something we used to always do together. And in this new house, I was just saying to my husband, I want to plant some plants. I really like to garden. There's something very healing about nature. Yeah. So if you said, what is one

thing I could do that's going to raise my vibe? That came up in my group like five times. Go outside. Yeah. You don't have to do anything. Just sit on the earth, right? Yeah, because you'll automatically match. Nature never matches our frequency. Humans, we're all matching each other all the time and finding the happy medium. But Mother Earth does not change her frequency. It's real high. So if you just spend some time in her, you just match her, right? I mean, that is one of the coolest part. Go sit against a tree, put your feet on the grass, right? Even better, go move your body out in nature. They talk about moving meditation. When we're in hard places, sometimes it's really hard to sit still and meditate. I find that sometimes and I'm like,

I have monkey mind. I cannot get there. So I go outside for a walk or go do yoga or whatever it looks like for you. But if you move your body and you're outside, you're bringing she in, right? As you breathe. So you're naturally connecting to a higher vibe. You're clearing, you're grounding. When I first started this, I had a healer say, I'm just so naturally out of my body because I'm an empath and it's hard here. And I don't like confrontation. I don't like the energy of this world sometimes. So I pull out, but then I'm not, I'm like walking through life like half there and I'm missing out on so much. I every day have to call my energy back. So I say my name three times, Rebecca, Rebecca, Rebecca, and I call my energy back.

I intentionally center into my body. I get grounded and that's when my crown opens. That's how I'm able then to get the downloads, whether it's for me or for when I read you guys. And so I think a lot of us, when we're going through trauma and grief, we dissociate, we leave our bodies. And so like the somatic stuff you're talking about is amazing. If you can do that, it will raise your vibration. Because I really, honestly, if there was one thing you asked me, what would you suggest? I would say raise your vibration. Yeah. So Carla is asking, this is an interesting question. What happens to our soul's body? I guess the appearance of our soul. When we transition, what does spirit look like? And I mean, we're kind of getting into this.

What's the most effective way to talk to, well, she's asking specifically to talk to our loved ones. Yeah. So there is no body. Like people say, well, what does my son look like? And I'm like, I don't know, unless he was made like a picture of like a movie star or someone he like parallels kind of looks like. I don't see bodies. Some mediums do. But when we die, we're just energy. were light, right? But you can morph into a form. So like, you know, they may show up in a dream as their 20-year-old version self, but they died at 85, right? And so it's more a feeling like when you cross over, you could be in a room with them and not see them, but feel them and know their energy, right? Or they may show up as the way you last remember them. So you have the ability to

shapeshift when you're just energy? And then how do you connect with them? Or how do you talk to them? She specifically asks, but maybe it's connect too. Well, telepathically. So, you know, again, they don't, when they talk to me, I wish it was in voices and loud and clear. It would make my job so much easier. It's impressions of energy. They impress thoughts and feelings into our energetic field, into our mind and our body. So it's telepathic, right? There are no words. But they can hear us when we talk to them, right? They can. They can. And I always tell people, like some people are like, well, I can't talk.

I'm in a situation where, and I'm like, you don't have to talk. It needs to be heartfelt emotion. So when you want to connect, if you can talk out loud, great. If you can't, that's fine too. Just make sure it's coming from your heart, not your head, okay? Because they respond to feelings. It's like a bee to honey. When they feel you missing them, when they feel your gratitude and love for them, they come right in. If it's cerebral in the mind, it's not very powerful.

So yeah, you communicate, you can write. A lot of times they'll say, hey, sit down and just connect, whether it's with a pen or on your computer, but like start, just say, automatic writing is such a great tool if you guys wanna connect. That's how I started, actually.

I was journaling. I didn't even intend to connect with my angel, my grandma. I was journaling. So you could just start by journaling and just say, here's how I'm feeling. I feel like crap today and I really want to connect, but I'm so uninspired because it's nothing's working. Just start writing out your feelings and just set your intention. Please help me.

Help me feel you. Help me see you. Talk to me. I don't care how. Just start writing your feelings and then see what happens. and you might start getting a kind of like a poetic flow. It usually comes in a way, it's not your own writing style or your own words.

And that's when you start to notice like, okay, I'm connecting to something. So you have to play with it and see what works for you. Writing may not be your thing. Maybe it's talking. Go for a walk and talk out loud. I walk every day and talk to God. That's how I pray.

It always seems to be way more efficient. I get faster answers. So you have to play with it and see what works. but then put it to the test, you guys. Say, I used to do this all the time in the beginning because I'm like, I don't know if I believe this. Like it was in the first five years, I was doing readings and doubting it.

And I'd be like, I feel like what you just channeled through me, I wrote it out and I felt like I made the whole thing up. And I said, show me a sign. I said, show me sunflowers. And then the next day I had a client walk in with a bunch of sunflowers for me. It was amazing.

I'm like, okay, thank you. It will be. So ask for confirmation. Yeah. One day you won't need it, but it's really nice to have when you're struggling with doubt and not even doubting. I'm sure a bunch of you already know and believe this is real, but doubting your own ability, that's a whole different deal. Yeah. And I love you say this and our friend Susan Gross says this all the time that when they give you a message or a sign and you're like, no, no, no, I just made that up. It's not like you're hurting their feelings or anything, but they're also like, oh, she didn't get it.

I got to try something else. Where if you acknowledge it and you're willing to believe, which belief, you know, faith is believing in something you can't prove, right? So if you choose to believe and say, you know, thank you and really acknowledge it and believe it, even if it wasn't really them, which it probably was, then they're like, oh, she thinks, okay, let me give her more. and they feed you more in that vein. Am I saying that correctly?

A hundred percent. It's like when you give somebody a gift and they're deeply, authentically grateful versus they're dismissive. You don't want to give them more gifts. So, oh my gosh, yesterday I went for a walk and I'm like, I was going through something and I'm like, dad, I really need a sign here.

He shows me dimes and pennies. He shows me a lot of things, but those are two. And I said, just show me a dime or a penny. I go for a walk. I found a penny so covered in dirt, I couldn't even believe I found it, but I did. So I'm like, thank you. Now, can you show me a dime? Is that asking too much?

So I come home and I told my husband the story about my dad because I'm like, you know, I'm struggling with this, but my dad would always say this. Okay. I go into my bathroom and on my countertop in my bathroom is a dime. I texted my cleaning lady. She's like, I found it on the floor. I don't know where she found it, but it was there. and I was so excited.

And I told my husband, he's like, you're like a little kid. You still get excited about this stuff. That is why I keep getting signs. I'm genuinely grateful because I see, oh my gosh, I'm not alone. It's all gonna be okay. And I need to go through this, right?

And so I encourage you that maybe signs aren't your thing, right? Maybe it's something else, but whatever it is that gives you that sense of reassurance, You're not alone and that you're strong and that you're still connected on the frequency of love, okay? So you want to connect to your loved ones on that frequency. That is how you connect.

You can't connect on anything other than love. Only love is real. Everything else doesn't exist. It dies when they die. And so you want to get into your heart and call them in from a place of sincere love and gratitude and appreciation and just like, okay, I miss you. I really would love to connect with you. Maybe it's a sign. Maybe it's a dream. Maybe it's right here right now. Come to me in a meditation and help me get out of my own way and get out of my head and out of doubt and into faith

and trust. Start playing with this and see what works for you. And then when you have that, say thank you and then get into a place of expectation. These connections, miracles, signs are meant to be common and every day, many times a day. The only reason they're not is because we doubt and we forget to ask or we stop being aware. And we're not paying attention. Right. So this is an interesting and a good question. You started to speak to, you know, astral traveling in our sleep. Is our frequency higher in our sleep? And that's when our loved ones can connect with us easier. Yeah, it is because your mind is quieted and it's out of the way.

Yeah. So you're in a more neutral state. So for me to do readings, for you guys to connect, you have to get neutral. Meaning, like for me, when I go into readings, I have kids, I have a busy life. So I'm in my mind, in order to shift gears, I have to meditate and pray.

First I pray, then I meditate to just get neutral, to get still and quiet all the noise. So when you go to sleep, you're quieting all the noise. And I would encourage you to go one step further and pray and say, I'm going to sleep. I invite you, you know, just be very intentional. Say, you know, all beings of light, my team spirit, any of my loved ones, you can name them.

You don't have to invite them in. But I also always remind you, like when you call in energy, you gotta be discerning, like do not open the doorway to anything. There's dark energy. There's shapeshifters and false light. That's when you get into trouble. Don't even look at it. Just be very intentional. Call in light. Call in your specific loved one and then let go. And also one step further, say, help me remember this connection when I wake up. Yeah, that's a good one because I often forget. And I always say, whenever I call in anything angels guides loved ones spirit i always say only aligned with the highest frequency

of love that's like my safety net yes it's perfect yep only aligned with the highest frequency of love only those of god's light yeah now this is uh kind of relevant to what we were talking about with the healing but we can maybe there's more to say here diana says that she connected with the medium last week and what you said about connections. And she told me it's hard right now, I guess, for Deanna because there's so much grief and depression and my son's death is still too raw. How do I move on? I mean, first of all, let me just say, and then I want to see what you want to say. That's why I created this space. You know, if you check out the Six Pillars of Healing ebook and you come, you know, to the grief healing sessions and, you know, you can come to the

grieving mama meetups, come to the retreat, like this is all intended to help you heal. And as you heal, as Rebecca was saying, they're at such a high frequency when we're in our lowest of low where they can't reach us, right? It's about getting to that midpoint where they can come down low enough to meet us. And that's the frustrating irony that like when we need them the most, but it's really about like, I think you can still get signs for sure. And maybe you can speak to like, what is possible beyond going to a medium, which is one ass ability, but what is possible to receive that connection as we are really in these earliest, most painful stages of grief and are starting our healing journey. But I will just throw in there, Deanna, the healing

work that's available here, all the toolkits, all of that will not only help you, it's designed to help you heal and to raise your vibration so that you can connect more easily. Yes, all of that. And I'm hearing to say to you, having compassion for yourself and your process. Yeah. Because so often we go through these shoulds, like I should be better now, or I should feel different. Like you feel how you feel and you just have to really like honor this is real to you

and you're doing your best and give yourself grace. So that's specifically for you, Deanna, I'm hearing to say. There's a J name like Joey or Joe. I don't know who that is, but important for you. Anyone have a Joey or Joe?

Put it in the chat or raise your hand. And this will be someone on the other side. Yeah, but it might be for Deanna. So let's see if she can acknowledge it. Carrie, I was wearing that exact t-shirt yesterday. Carrie says she has a Jack, but not a Joe. Deanna, do you have a Jay, Joe, Jack? Yay, Kenner Ranch.

No, I think it's for Deanna. I don't know if Deanna, you can hear us. Maybe just a mute. If you could. She has a Joe, Deanna. Oh, Deanna has a Joe. Yeah, he's on the other side. Is that true?

Yes. I just unmuted. Yeah, we can hear you. And he was actually two of them. My daughter-in-law's close cousin, but Donnie, my son, was named after Joe. He was my youngest sister's fiancé. I have him there with your son. and what your son is saying to tell you is that he needs you to forgive yourself and he's working

on finding that same sense of self-forgiveness love and compassion so you guys are like going through it's like you're mirrors for each other going through a very similar lesson and he's showing me something about the pond or being out in your back like do you have like small like a pond or water my lake house i live right on a lake house yeah he wants you to think of him there like think of me at the water mom think of me that's my heaven it's peaceful yep and and he's saying he's does he have tattoos why do i see tattoos yes he does he has tattoos now i don't know why he's showing me them like he's pointing to them like maybe he's trying to say to you, like somebody's getting one in honor of him. It's not you. Hey, let me just say this.

He's saying to you, he loves you. I see a rose. It means make sure she knows I love her. I'm sorry. He had a hard time in this life and he didn't always know how to communicate, articulate what he was feeling. He internalized it and he's working on his self-expression, a healthy sense of that you were the one who supported him who believed in him and he's talking about his music was he huge into his music yes um i just saw signs with songs yeah that will be one way he gives you indication he's around well that's my favorite game to play with sammy the song i mean ask him to play a song on a random mix and he'll give you messages yeah and he's talking about your dad being with him and there's a lot of like catching up to do and the pocket knife do you know

if your dad or your son carried one my son did the pocket knife show me that it's like he's in the great outdoors with your dad right now yes my dad was definitely fisherman hunter and everything yeah and they're doing boy stuff so he's trying to say to you I'm okay mom I'm in an existence that mirrors the lake house with people you know that love me that I'm not alone but he has a lot of healing to do yeah and you do too but yours is more about forgiveness and letting go of being hard on yourself or the mind thoughts of the shoulds should have would it could have. And just knowing it was his path, his journey, and you could not have changed that and you didn't fail him. Was he ever in the service? No, he wasn't. Who was? Because they're

showing me the flag. My dad and his other grandpa was in it too. Hey, it's your dad. And he said he's the Don. Don? Yeah. Joe or something. I think he was Joe, right? Who would be? My dad's name was Don. Don, he was named after him. Don, it's your dad and this was the best. Yes. And he's showing me that they're doing a lot of good work. You'd be super, your dad's nodding his head. Like you'd be really proud. Like your dad's like a coach to him and your son is really working hard on being his better, best self and he loves you. So I want to leave you with that.

Okay, now I want to answer this question. If you're having a hard time connecting because your vibration is low and slow for very good reason, your job now is to work on you. Because what they're showing me is he's good and you now know that. Call your energy back from him. Because if you're still enmeshed with him, you're going to be feeling so many mixed emotions. It's going to be really hard for you to regulate your nervous system. and if your nervous system is not regulated you cannot ascend so right so what's happening now

is you need to now focus on what do i need to feel okay peaceful neutral you don't even have to feel great just get neutral yeah and then and he's saying i'll send her signs in the meantime with the songs so that's a way to connect without necessarily like actually visitation or feeling him right right away not ever but now yeah okay so does this group know who Matthew is Matthew anyone have a Matthew there's a Matthew with him or Matt so if it's not for the group Deanna it's with you it's with your son just you can look into it you say it's so clear I can see the name Matthew Matt yeah and I love well in case if anyone weigh in if you have a Matthew but I like what Daniela said to you uh Deanna that you know you don't we don't move on I know you asked how

to move on. We move through it by allowing ourselves to feel it and not bypassing it and getting the support we need and choosing the next best feeling thing. I always call it following the breadcrumbs of like, at first I was just like, I'm following the breadcrumbs of peace. Now I follow the breadcrumbs of joy because at first I couldn't even access any joy, but, But those breadcrumbs and support will definitely help so much. Yeah. But I love that comment. So thank you for that, Danielle.

That's good. Did somebody light a candle tonight? Jen is raising her hand. Jen, did you lose a child? Yes, I did. I lost my son Trevor. It'll be two years next week. Yeah, your son is standing there showing me.

I like the candle and thank you. He knows it's in honor of his soul. His soul light never being gone. He's showing me how much he loves how much you talk to him. So it's like every minute of every day, he's like top of mind. Yes. He's saying, this is how we connect. So it's what we were saying earlier, it's telepathic.

Sometimes you might walk around having conversations with him thinking you're crazy, but I'm here to say to you, you're not. And he wants you to keep doing it. And then Mike or Michael, who is that? He could be living. I have a brother-in-law named Mike. He's connected to him or something about like giving a sign to Michael. And then I see, who has like the motorcycle?

He was totally a motorcycle. He got his daughter, my granddaughter, who's nine, got her a motorcycle before he passed. He's totally into motorcycles. All over it. He's showing me he loves it. Yes. And he wants you to know it's all safe, mom. I always said it was not safe.

and he'd always say, mom, it's going to be okay. As you'd ride a wheelie a mile down the road. Oh, I know. But he's saying now like, I'm happy. I'm good. And did he drink beer? Do you know? He died from alcohol poisoning, but I thought he was sober when he passed. And so I was wondering what he was doing a couple of days up until then. Cause we used to talk every day and then I didn't was drinking from him and he was found in his bed but i didn't know if he was enjoyed his day or how i just want to know how his last day went because i always heard from him and i didn't hear i'm sorry he's showing me he was using again and he was pretty darn happy because he was able to numb some of the voices he had mental imbalance there was something in balance i don't know if it's

bipolar. He had multiple concussions from birth law. That is why he was so dysregulated and mentally imbalanced. And so he's saying, please understand, I didn't want this, but here we are. And he was so peaceful because it took the edge off. And he's showing me spending a lot of time. I see him just kicking his feet up, listening to music. Did he actually have a motorcycle at that time yes he's showing me his bike again so he was riding yeah okay okay so he was happy does he give signs to his brother because his brother's just got it he's going into fly fighter jets and he I want him to be looking after but does he get come around his brother any signs that he's given his brother that I could tell Jace to yeah keep an eye out for he's showing me pennies from heaven

Okay. Then he's flipping a coin. So maybe it's a quarter, but it's a coin. Yeah, it's, yeah, probably a quarter. I always feel like quarters are his. That's him. And then he's showing me, he keeps showing me Top Gun after you said that.

So he's like really excited for his brother. Like super cool. And he's happy for him. And he's saying, his signs kind of vary based on his mood. It's kind of like, what do I feel like messing with? He's showing me the cell phone right now.

So tell his brother he's messing with the phone. Maybe his picture pops up or something, his name. And whose birthday just happened or is about to? Well, his daughter's birthday was in the end of February and mine's May 24th, so. It's you. He's shooting me, your birthday's coming up. Happy birthday.

And he's showing me blowing a candle out, like make sure you celebrate this. Not just me. Remember we just talked about you lit a candle for him. Make sure you're honoring you. Yeah. And you have always known there was the potential of losing him. Yeah.

So when maybe he was younger, you had this fear, but it was your soul. It's that deja vu feeling. It's this something feels familiar about this. I don't know why I feel this. And so soul level, it's reminding you, preparing you that this is a potential timeline that could unfold if his free will chooses it. Yeah. He always said he didn't think he'd live to be 30 and he died at 29.

And that is his soul saying, it's an okay exit point, mom. Yeah. He did a lot of hard work and he was tired and done. And, you know, if a death is meant to be prevented because it's not their time, that's where divine intervention happens. Yeah. And it didn't happen because he was on a soul level in alignment with that. He was okay with that. yeah it's a true because i hear that a lot from people who work a lot on the other side that the

only time if the only reason we die is because the soul is ready to die the soul agrees to die yeah because if there's any shred of you that isn't sure or doesn't want it of your soul obviously your conscious person doesn't want to die but yeah it won't happen yeah i'm sorry is there anything he wants me to do on next week? Cause I'm dreading so much the 23rd, the day of his passing. I'm just, Oh, that's the celebration. The balloons are death or anniversary or birthday coming up. Okay. So yeah, it'll be next Wednesday's two years. That's it. That's he's saying, I want you to celebrate and light a candle on that day. Okay. But it's, you can light a candle every day. yeah he just wants you to carve out intentional time to be present with him he doesn't care what

you do yeah okay so hard oh my god you do it every day he just showed me go for a hike or a walk it's like get outside yeah i like that does the number 23 mean anything you know that means everything it was his football number and he died on the 23rd and his daughter's birthday was on the 23rd. Yep. He's saying, I'm going to show you the sign mom. Okay. So now you'll like see it and be relieved. Like you are communicating with him. Yeah. Yeah. I would just encourage you to, I mean, it's hard to say this, but you've got to find a way to get your energy back in your body. What they're showing me is half of you is here and half of you is dissociated. totally yeah like i don't want to be here there's i'm just like i don't want to be here

i get it and what they're saying to you is but your soul is here so be all in or all out but be all yeah in that you honor him because if you're half in half out it's like some of the lessons that you need to learn as a result of him exiting it's like he doesn't get the benefit of it if you're not able to integrate it. Yeah. He's not fulfilling his soul contract if we're not. Yeah, that makes sense. That makes sense to you, Jen. You guys have to do this. It's a dance together. I said this to somebody else. You're mirroring each other. So your job now is to say, okay, help me then. I call all my energy back. I will be fully here. I will seek joy as much as I hand. Be with me. Help me. Give me my signs because that brings me joy. Yeah. Help me feel you so I

don't feel a void, a hole in my heart. Yeah. That will help. Ask for those things. The archangels are really strong with you. So if you pray to the angels, it's, I can see it. Yeah. Ask for more of that. Thank you. Your maid can't help you unless you ask. You gotta ask. Yeah. And I do definitely feel connected to and it's part of the empath thing too is feeling connection and to other realms but well part of that is your soul saying when my son leaves i need access to the ethereal realm to get through this and so when he died what they showed me was a veil lifted and you had a stronger connection but what's going on is you've pulled away from the connection yeah in your grief totally and so each day you heal you open up more and more to that connection

but you can do it now like jesus when i see jesus he represents like a miracle so pray for the miracle it doesn't have to be to jesus it can be to any yeah i don't know i jive with jesus yeah this is my guy yeah so ask and you'll start to see more and more heaviness lift and more and more connection happen yeah i think part of it too just being close to an anniversary it's an amplified field of pain that anticipatory grief got that beautiful thank you so much you're welcome i needed that good rebecca i just want to i don't know if anyone i don't want to interrupt if anyone else is coming in but i also think you know you've mentioned a couple of times what they're doing on the other side. I have heard from many, and I think you're saying the same thing, that we kind

of create our own heaven, our version of heaven, basically. Like the places I've seen where Sammy is when I was guided to go there are so Sammy, what Sammy would create for his heaven. Is that true? Yeah, that is true. Just like in this world, you have preferences on things that you want to do, things that are comfortable or make you happy, you can create whatever heaven you want, but you can do it here and you can do it there. Now, some souls, I know this might sound crazy, they purposely create like almost like, not a hell, but they create a, like if you imagine sitting in a jail cell, my dad did this when he first died by suicide.

He would come to me in dreams and he was in this very stark, like eight by eight room with a desk and he would just be like contemplating. I just saw him because he had to do the work. He had to heal. He had to go in and work through stuff. My dad created that because he wanted to evolve. Okay. So they will create the conditions over there based on what they need.

And sometimes with the help and guidance of their spirit guides saying, maybe you need to go into solitude and do some contemplation, or maybe you need to go into what looks like a hospital ICU and heal, replenish your light. But a lot of times when people come to me, they're coming because they've done that. And so now they're in a heaven. It looks like Vegas and they loved Vegas or they're at a concert or they're on the beach, whatever their heaven is. Or the lake, as we were saying. Now, let me ask you this. Danielle is saying that you had mentioned a J and a tattoo, and it didn't seem to resonate with Jen. And she's wondering because it resonates with her, but she didn't want to interrupt.

yeah okay so jay and tattoo danielle do you want to mute so is that who is he to you your dad so if that i'm just saying my head to the spirit if that is you say more is he jay john no two people same name so do you know john like john jack like no everybody is saying that her son is jack and his friends are all getting tattoos in his memory and another one just messaged us with a picture that's it that's carrie carrie okay so jack is your son and then who do we have a john because there's definitely two and don't make this fit but there's something about was jack named after somebody no his hebrew name was but not jack but his there was someone named after him who just had a birthday today that's it because i don't know living or dead but that's it

so the the jack or the j name living just had a birthday today they turned one that's it that's it he's trying to come through and then the tattoo thing is him being aware of that but what he's trying to say to you he is life of the party man he is i mean he is happy i could just feel this like excited energy run through me so when i get that he's trying to say mom, I am happy. I am good. Don't worry about me. He was never either like settled, just like he needs like creative and expansive. On the other side, it's like his speed. Okay. This world felt a little too low and slow for him. And he didn't always fit in. And he's saying, I am in my element. I'm home. And he wants you to know he can eat what he wants. So I don't know if he...

I didn't know he didn't do that here, but. I was about to say, was anybody on his case about what he ate? Because he's, I just see pizza. So it's like his way of saying, I'm pretty darn happy being my own boss. Has your father passed away? He's with grandpa on mom's side is what he showed me. That's you. Yeah.

And then there was irony around the timing of his death. So it was like on or around a very specific day. usually that's like holiday birthday he died when we just figured this out the other day i mean we knew he died but jet one two twenty three like january we just figured that out the other day like wow that's why he's saying mention that he knows it just dawned on you the one two three okay now what's interesting is one two three my angels to when they talk to me it means everything's in divine perfect order. So what he's trying to say is, I'm okay. You're doing really well. He's showing me, he's like in awe. He's nodding his head like, yeah, your healing process is such

a relief to him. So whatever you're doing, keep doing it. I know it's a journey. Do you know who Lily is? Not in spirit or in spirit? There's a Lily and I think in spirit. Carla, can you unmute and tell me? Hi, it's my grandmother, Lily. All I know is she's up there standing here with her son jack so if she's chiming in and then carla did you lose a child yes sammy okay were you at the event yeah i was there were three sammies yeah okay our sammies are friends yeah that's amazing was your sammy a girl yeah why is she showing me braids the day that she passed away she was wearing two braids i braided her hair she's saying mom picture my braids right now. And she's telling me to tell you

we're picking up where we left off. It's like no time has gone by. And she's telling you she's into I don't know if it's dragonflies or butterflies. She's drawing them both. She's saying that's easy for her to play with to figure out how to

manipulate them to come in front of you. Yeah. Yeah. She's like a little alchemist. She's trying to figure out how to shift things. She doesn't want anyone to be sad. And so she tries to bring happiness and joy to you.

What movie did you just see? And you're like, oh my God, Sammy would have loved this. Or I know Sammy made me watch this. It could have been a show, but there's a screen. It's something you watched and she's all about this. And I want to say it's a musical unless you were focused on the music. If no, but it was interesting.

I was just with my other daughter in Florida And we watched a documentary type show about like a TikToker, YouTuber or something like that. And she, we, she loved that stuff, social media. That's what it was. And so with that, do you remember there being music interspersed in that? I think so. Bottom line is it reminded you of Sammy. And in that you were sitting there missing her and thinking about her.

And she's saying like, thanks, I'm here. She doesn't have to be fully like on the other side. She can come into this world a lot. He's telling me to tell you that for a reason. Sometimes they'll say that because you're feeling like, God, am I holding her back? Or I don't want to mess with her process. And she's saying, no, I'm good.

I'm allowed to be one foot in this world. Do you have a dog at home? Miles, yeah. Dog loves her, sees her, looks around. And then she's talking about you getting a tiny tattoo. Did you put her name on you? Not yet. I'm thinking about it.

Right there. And if you brought Sammy with a little like butterfly, she's just showing me something to kind of like make it your mantra, right? Unspoken invitation. Be with me now. She's with Lily and they know each other really well. And she's talking about you getting rid of some of her shoes. I don't know if you just went through the closet.

No, but her sister will wear her shoes sometimes. What does she want? She made me like throwing them out. Like, I just feel like I'm going through all the shoes. So maybe the sister like literally just was messing, rummaging through the shoes to ask her. She loves it. She just loves the fact that you guys still keep her around

as if she's like still very alive because she is. You're going to get two lips from somebody. It's through her. It's like she's, somebody's the messenger, but it's her sending you love that way. Do you know who Ron is? R-O-N? Ron is my husband.

So hi to him. That's not her dad. Is that her dad or no? That's her dad, but it's Rod, R-O-D. Rod. Okay, so it's send love to him. She's just showing me the rose. So that means a shout out to Rod.

Middle name was Rose, and my daughter just got a tattoo behind her ear of a rose. Risky move. So then literally it's a rose. And then she's saying to you, I know everything you guys do. I know everything you say. She's kind of nosy.

She eavesdrops and she loves it. it's beautiful so you're doing everything right like if I can bring them through easily it means there's no static in the line does that make sense I have to meet you where you're at everyone I worked with today was doing a great job because they were able to communicate and get to you and so I would just encourage you guys keep doing what you're doing to keep that line clean and clear. Keep healing, keep following the breadcrumbs. Can I ask you one last question? Because it came up a little bit with Sammy's stuff. It came up in our grieving mama meetup. It comes up in other grief healing sessions. A lot of us keep, if we, you know, assuming it's

not our parents' house that we need to pack up and maybe, but certainly if it's a child's room, what's the best way to get guidance? Because it's a really hard transition and a lot of mamas have brought this up. They're moving now or when do I want to keep the room this way forever or there were fires here and a lot of mamas were freaking out because the bedroom might need to be dismantled and evacuation. Do you have any wisdom to share about when or how, if there is any wisdom to going through their stuff, clearing out their stuff, putting away, whatever? Yeah. What spirit says all the time, there's not a one size fits all as to when. you have to feel your way through that one for some people it's right away for others it's

years later they don't care it's your process so it's not about them no they don't care so most i've rarely come across spirits that are attached to the things yeah how ask them to do it with you make it a cathartic process i've done this a lot with spirits who come through and say hey, you need, it's time, you're moving or whatever the case is. Pray, meditate, invite them in. So do a ritual, then go about the process. And then through that, I've had clients give me feedback. I found all these amazing things. And in a past reading, you told me this, it didn't make sense as I was cleaning this out. I actually found the thing in the drawer. so then it becomes almost like this like cathartic like healing process versus a heavy

you know dense which is naturally there's going to be those emotions but you can say to them help me do this in a way that I find more healing more peace more acceptance you guys the last thing I would say is this because everything is energy intention is everything so set intention whether it's cleaning out the room or it's connecting with them or it's needing to move on because it's been 10 years and you need to find joy again. Set an intention. Just say, my intention is this. I don't know how, you know, you don't need to know the details, but what and why, what do you want? Why do you want it? And then surrender the details to spirit. Say, show me. And energy follows intention. From there, you'll get signs, the breadcrumbs, right? The flow. Beautiful. Thank

you so much, Rebecca. This was amazing. Good. I'm so glad. Yeah. It's so funny, you guys. This week has been, it just started, but it's been so many young ones. I mean, I'm not surprised, I guess, for this group, but yeah. Yeah, there's a lot of people. And there's so much happening on the planet right now that the veil is thinner. And so we're all feeling it more. So I'm glad we could do this. And I think it's amazing what you're offering here. Thank you. And thank you for sharing your time with us. We're so grateful. Thank you guys for being here. I will post the recording as soon as I can get it processed and uploaded probably tomorrow or the next day. And I'll alert you on the network when I do. And just make sure to, you know, I think the community

piece is one of the things that I really want to cultivate on this platform. So reach out to each other. You've heard each other's stories, you know, respond to each other. Don't be shy. I feel like a lot of us are shy about commenting, but it's such a beautiful thing to support each other and to make these connections because we all are in this shit show together. We understand. And a lot of us are living in worlds or in communities or in families where there isn't the end, you know, that we're expected to be in a different place or it's uncomfortable. So this is a place where You can totally be yourself and be with others who intimately understand your pain. So take advantage of that.

I love you all. I'll see you soon. Anything you want to say, you're welcome. I don't remember when our next thing is, but I'll post about it. Tina probably does, but we'll see you all soon. Bye, everybody. Bye. you