Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman - Your Life is a Result of Energetic Frequency

Episode Date: December 5, 2022

Welcome back to another Language of Love Bite!  This week I’m taking a few minutes to talk about frequencies, manifestations, and how the two are related. We’re all like human tuning forks, which means that sometimes our moods can be brought up or down just by being near others. This experience is very human, but I want to help you learn how to adjust, maintain a higher frequency, and attract abundance with a few of my tried-and-true tips.  In this episode, I’m sharing: How your frequency and ability to manifest your desires are related The different levels of frequency and how they relate to your mood and the moods of others Why holding your own energetic frequency is necessary to reach your desires and manifestations Tips to raise and maintain your frequency How to create room for sadness, loss, anger, frustration, etc. and then move beyond Try out any of my guided meditations to ground your system and regulate your energy, and then check out my book Quantum Love for a deeper dive into this topic.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hey, I'm sex, love, and relationship therapist, Dr. Laura Berman, and for the last 30 years, I've been helping people just like you learn to love and be loved better. Welcome to the Language of Love Bites, where I tackle your most asked questions and requested topics. These episodes are designed to be fun, quick, and to the point. It's time we all become fluent in the language of love. So here's the deal. We are all manifesting our reality 24-7. It's just that most of us are not consciously doing so. But everything that shows up in your field, everything that shows up in your reality is vibrating in energetic harmony and a harmonic frequency to your body.

Otherwise, it wouldn't be in your perception. Your five senses wouldn't be able to pick it up. This is what I share a lot about the science behind this and everything else in my book, Quantum Love. If you want to geek out and really understand what I'm saying. But here's what I wanted to focus on with you in this moment that I think is so important

is that you are manifesting your reality and you have desires and you have wishes and you have longings that you want to manifest. but what you are going to manifest really has nothing to do with what you do. I mean, that plays a role and you have to obviously take action in the right direction. But when it comes to the manifestation piece, the magic that's available to you, that's available to everyone, every single one of us, it's a matter of what frequency you are holding and does that match what you want to create. Now, here's what we know from quantum love, that the higher your body's

energetic frequency, our body's energetic frequency is constantly shifting and changing, usually in relation to people around us, because we're always like human tuning forks. We're all matching each other and reaching a happy medium. This is also why bad moods are contagious or why you sometimes notice hanging out with certain people, even all other things being equal, you feel lifted up versus brought down with nothing necessarily happening. It all has to do with you in training, aligning with their frequency. Now, the key is in you holding your own frequency and knowing that the higher your energetic frequency, think of it as like an old fashion radio dial where there is the station, the frequency you're at, and the volume, how intensely

strong that frequency is. And our body's frequency is fundamentally set by our thought and feeling state. It's either that that's changing our body's frequency or we're unconsciously matching the people around us or the places around us. So the higher your energetic frequency, the more amazing things you're manifesting in your life. The highest frequency state of being is joy, love, elation, bliss, those are the highest frequencies. The lowest frequencies, shame, guilt, resentment, unforgiveness, these are low frequency states. Now, does that mean you never want to be in those states and it's wrong to be angry or it's wrong to feel shame or guilt? No, but it's certainly not going to help you manifest what you most desire. If you really want to become

a master manifester, you have to harness and gain control as much as possible of your body's energetic frequency and make it a practice to consistently hold your own frequency in the presence of other people in situations and raise your own frequency on a regular basis. So how do you do that? Like Coffee Plus B12 to help support immune function and Coffee Plus B6 to keep your day moving. Or go with the flow and choose Ginseng Delight, our new double espresso with ginseng extract. Whatever lies ahead, don't change your morning. Let your morning change you.

Discover Coffee Plus on Nespresso.com. Hey, don't forget to go to DrLauraBerman.com. You can find so much great information there and sign up for my newsletter So you get weekly updates on how to love and be loved better. And also on my website, you can get my brand new ebook. You're not crazy. You're just ascending. It's a practical guide to spiritual awakening that many of us are going through right now.

And it's enough to make you feel crazy. So check it out. I'm here for you. Always helping you learn to love and be loved better. All right. So I'm going to walk you through some of my favorite ways to raise my frequency. because it's always going to come down or we get unconscious or we get stressed or we get tired. Okay. One is to spend time in nature. Nature has an extremely high frequency. It always holds

steady. It never entrains to us. We entrained to it. That's why when you go out in nature, you end up feeling so much better afterwards. So even if you're just going and sitting on a little patch of grass in the city where you live or hugging a tree, it is worth it. Okay. And even better, if you can ground your frequency, ground your body's energy by being barefoot on the earth in some way, in the grass or the dirt or the mud, I don't care. Another wonderful way to attend to your frequency is water, shower, bath. Even better, if you can swim in the ocean or the sea, there are tons of ions there that are really good for your body and your mind.

But you're also, there's something about washing and rinsing. And, you know, some people say this is just for water signs, but I find it's for everyone that really does reset, help reset our energetic frequency. The other thing that really helps is to spend time in quiet every day with conscious awareness and intention. And if you go and check out my manifestation meditation on drlauraberman.com, you will find a meditation that will take you through the process of moving your body into the frequency of what you want to create. So it doesn't take long at all, five to 10 minutes. But if you start out your day rather than hopping right out of bed and getting on your

phone and thinking about your to-do lists and looking at your emails and getting stressed out. If you just took five minutes to ground your system and decide how you want to feel today and move into the energetic frequency of that feeling and pay attention, especially when you're around stressful situations and people of not letting yourself slide back, but hold your own frequency, everything in your life will change. If you are living at a higher frequency than you usually do 51% of the time, everything in your life will change for the better. New from Nespresso. Blend wellness into your coffee routine with the Coffee Plus range, infused with functional benefits. Choose the coffee you love with added B vitamins,

like Coffee Plus B12 to help support immune function and Coffee Plus B6 to keep your day moving. Or go with the flow and choose Ginseng Delight, our new double espresso with ginseng extract. Whatever lies ahead, don't change your morning. Let your morning change you. Discover Coffee Plus on Nespresso.com. But what's important is knowing what those higher energetic frequencies, really anything above curiosity. So it can be curiosity, forgiveness, excitement, passion, joy, play, all of these kinds of feeling states. Playful, I guess, would be the feeling state, are all high frequency feelings. And when you start paying attention to it, you learn what they feel like in your body and you can anchor those feelings. And in another

video, I will share with you a kind of biofeedback system that you can create for yourself so that you can shift out of low frequency states into higher frequency states really easily. Because the better adept you get at that, the easier it is to hold your own frequency and to move back into your high frequency when you want to, or when you've been pulled down by someone or something. Now, all of this is not to say that you shouldn't let yourself feel quote unquote bad, right? Because we don't want to set you up for bypassing the truth of the things that you are releasing or struggling with.

There has to be room for you to absolutely process feelings of sadness, grief, anger, loss, frustration. all of those are really important feelings to allow yourself to process and feel and let it move through your body with authenticity. The key is not staying there. And most of us stay there unconsciously in a low-grade anxiety or depression until it spikes, right? And that is what is really keeping us stuck and keeping us, blocking us from manifesting the life we most desire in love, and work and abundance. It's all available to you. We are all creating our realities. Also, if you want to learn more about how to manifest, make sure to join our Manifestation

Mondays Club. You will find the link for that. We meet the first Monday of every month and then halfway through the month just to check in with each other. It's an amazing group of fellow manifestors and it's all about keeping that vibration high, getting clear on what we want to manifest and removing the blocks that are in the way. We support each other in that. So make sure to check that out. You can find the link to that on drlauraberman.com. And as always, I'm here for you. Whatever's on your mind, just give me a shout. I'm always here to help you learn to love and be loved better. I wanna make a move, I wanna make a move

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