Las Culturistas with Matt Rogers and Bowen Yang - “Why Are We Single?” (w/ Marie Faustin & Dave Mizzoni)

Episode Date: July 12, 2023

It’s the DATING EPISODE of Las Cultch with some good old-fashioned LC fan favs. Marie Faustin and Dave Mizzoni, the host and producer of the terrific new live show “Why Are You Single? Starring Marie Faustin” are here to talk red flags, bad dates, good sex, when to approach and when to walk away. All this, Keke Palmer, Threads, Insta Prison, compliments during sex, kinks, and brutal honesty with family members. Also, a performance of Usher’s “Burn”. Go see Why Are You Single? and check out Marie on instagram @reeezy to participate.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Wow. Look over there. Wow. Is that culture? Yes. Las culture. East. Ding dong. Las culture. Eastistas calling la culturista still bowen is still on break but that's okay for today because i've

actually got two people in the studio two heads to not only do an episode of las coach but to also answer the question why are you single um i think that question is going to be pointed at me and maybe we'll even point it back at them because that's what we do here at lost coach we sort of of course we have conversations but we point it back at you the readers we're going to point it back at the guests and by point it back i mean the question not anything you could point at someone one of my guests is opening their mouth wide um sort of making a very crass allusion to maybe me pointing my penis over towards him. I had an ex-boyfriend who called penises penis, and I didn't like it. You're still together.

I feel like we are not currently together. I'm single, and like I said, we're going to get to the bottom of that. I saw the show that my guests today are producing and hosting, respectively, the other day at the Elysian here in LA, and I had a time. It's a wild show. It's what they call one of those shows to watch. They're going to be hitting it hard,

actually tonight at the Bell House in Brooklyn, if you are around. I do believe the show will be sold the fuck out, but, you know... Check. But check. And by check, I mean, of course, get on the website. But also, you know what?

If you're in the downtown area of Brooklyn, if you're in the greater Gowanus area, roll through if you're in the greater Gowanus. And that's actually a real culture. If you're in the greater Gowanus area, roll through the bell house. You never know what's happening there. You never know what amazing comedians, both established and upcoming, are going to be there sort of rolling the dice seeing hey does this work um what i'll tell you what works is this show why are you single like i said i had the best time and i have two guests both returning to the show many things have changed in both their lives since they last were on the show i mean we'll get into it but what hasn't changed is the charisma, uniqueness, nerve, and talent that both of them possess.

They both possess cunts. And I am very excited to welcome back to Las Culturistas, Dave Mazzoni and Marie Faustin, everybody. Wow. An introduction. Let me tell you something. I was sweating. They said he's not going to be able to do intros by himself. I said, watch me, bitch.

I said, watch me try to land the plane every time I start speaking. Into the Hudson, you landed it. Did you rehearse that? No. You just had off the dome. That's sort of what makes me a dynamic podcast host. That's which is my new line. I'm never really sure when I start a sentence if the plane's going to land.

Oh, as a passenger, we were buckled in. And Marie and I were saying our final words to one another, but it's so nice to have landed in the Hudson. Where are the life rafts? Well, we're jumping into the waters of lost culture. Now you guys, the show was so fun.

We had a blast. I've never done a show at a Legion before. Actually you either Marie, right? Uh, no. When I got there, I was like,

Oh, I have. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I'm still that person in la just because i perform so much less here live that i'm not exactly sure what everything is called

like and i also don't know what still exists right i don't know the name of places i'm like that with people too i don't know i don't remember your face i'm definitely not gonna remember your name i have a very bad memory blame it on the queen i think i i do as well matt you're pretty good at that i'm okay but i will say that like there are times now where, especially like in the age of Instagram, where you want to look someone up, like someone that you talked to or DM'd at a certain point, or like maybe someone that you met and you're like,

oh, that guy was really cute. What's, oh my God, I don't know their name. Right. Like that's a new phenomenon. You're like, I think it's just with a C. It's for sure like something in the area of Chris. And you're never right. You're never right.

My thing is I've introduced myself to people, like, six times over. And they're like, we've met before. We've met. Well, this is a big controversy. It's that thing of, like, if you have met the person, are you that person that says, we've met? Or do you just let it roll off your back? Oh, everybody knows that I'm not going to remember them. Unless you did something memorable. Like, did you shit your pants in front of me are you really really fine like did you

defecation sticks did you pay for the table like i don't i'm probably not gonna remember defecation or did you pay for the table yeah did you shit in front of me or did you cover the check i remember both things forever i will straight up remember like people's names from my third grade class. It's like I miss my little third grade mind that soaked it all up. That could remember things. I remember even some stuff from like school in third grade. I don't remember things that happened last week. And I blame it on the weed as well.

What were we learning in third grade? We were learning, you know, sort of arithmetic. We were learning sort of, you know, complex. I think whales. I think I remember spending some time on whales. Did we learn cursive? Cursive was second grade for me. Okay.

Scripts. We learned how to write a script. Script. Wow. And that was, I remember something I thought, well, now we're really leveling up. Now that we all know how to write cursive, now the world can really begin. I haven't written in cursive. I do think that can separate current generations though like take a millennial and

a gen z and be like okay someone write in cursive yeah give me a show me a z in cursive they're like cursive you want me to write curses oh my god you know what it was like fuck ass damn capital g in cursive was like a nightmare for me it was like what is that i think it's like a big circle and just a little it was a six flags like prototype yeah is that? I think it's like a big circle. It was a six flags like prototype. Yeah. I have no idea how it looked like the Olympics. Yeah. The only one that it feels like they got to the end of the alphabet and we're like,

now we have to make something up is the Z though. The lowercase Z is literally a little, it's like a little tiny little half circle and then a squiggle swag. Oh, I don't even know what the Z. It's like a little look Look up the cursive under lowercase Z. You will be shook for weeks. You will be shook for weeks.

You will be shook for weeks. There are two Zs in my last name and I do the lowercase Z when I do my signature. So I actually have a very personal relationship with the lowercase Z cursive. Not two Zs one cup. M-I-Z-Z-O-N-I. Two Zs one cup. It's a frontrunner for title of ep. Okay, yes.

Come with something better. I dare you. Come with something better than two Z, one cup. It's a front runner for title of app. Okay. Yes. Well, the app is young. Come with something better. I dare you. Come with something better than two Z's, one cup. The gauntlet has been thrown down. Oh God. I never thought about that. You'd be writing two Z's your entire life in cursive.

I feel like a little bitch when I do it. I love my signature. It's like. Do you live for the fantasy of your own signature? This is a major topic. When I practice my signature, when I'm not doing something official. Yeah. Gorgeous. Stunning. Yes. signature this is a major topic when i practice my signature when i'm not doing something official yeah gorgeous stunning yes as soon as i have to sign something i'm like oh i forgot how to spell the m's not connected for me if i get going if there's a bunch of things to sign in a row like a lease like by page three i'm on my shit i'm a stamp yeah yeah yeah yeah wow i have to say

one of the things i live for about myself is my signature. I live for my signature. I inherited my cursive R's from my father. It's something passed down from generations, the way we write our R's. And sometimes when I'm just by myself doodling, I'll do my own signature. And then when you come of age, you realize every fucking thing you sign is on DocuSign or Electric. So you are trying to copy what is a cool natural signature on docu sign you feel like a fucking freak like dragging the the mouse around i know you really wish you had a stylus you can send it to your phone sometimes and like sign it with your finger but oh that's good

okay maybe i'll do that and like here i am like all the way down the rabbit hole like in tech like just trying to sign something but like also at the same time in like grocery stores when they ask you to like do a little signature I'm always like this is stupid and I'll always just do a line like I won't even do anything

I'll just be like this is dumb the pens don't even work I can't even believe it's acceptable you gotta do a giant the first letter has to be giant and then the rest can be like yeah

yeah that's how mine is it's a huge big R that announces itself is the R bigger than the M? the M is kind of big and then the ATT is itself. Is the R bigger than the M? The M is kind of big and then the ATT is small and then the R is big and the O-G-E-R-S

is small. My M is massive. The M stands for massive. You know the M, we all deal with the letter M. I love. For first and last name. The M, it's a powerful, powerful letter. Certainly. It's a powerful sound. M. Money. M. Mansion. Men. a powerful sound. Muh. Money. Muh.

Mansion. Mm-hmm. Men. Men. Muh. Men. As we all connect. Which brings us back to the topic at hand. Off of cursive.

So here's the thing. In preparation for this episode, because I know we're going to be discussing why are you single the live show, which everyone really should go see and keep your eye out. I believe if you're not able to go tonight in Brooklyn, they're going to be starting up again in September. Yes, we'll be at the Bell House going forward. Probably every couple of days. This is a really, really fun show. And I was thinking about it and I genuinely tried to ask myself,

why am I single? Then I said the more interesting question for right now, because I know we're going to get into it with me, but two people who are curating this show, you have to have like a relationship with your own singledom why are you single marie oh people ask me every day yeah well why are you single yeah i'm like why am i single i'm low-key like a perfectionist i think in that i want you to look perfect next to me right um your face just has to fit next to my oh so we're in we're living in aesthetics you're

casting i'm a libra okay it needs to be aesthetically pleasing to my eyes i get it it needs to make sense in like a way that you're like we're appearing as a couple right i want to walk in with somebody and people gasp they're just like oh i don't want you to gasp bad like i don't want to be like that's who she's with? So it's visuals first when you're like making a date. Like that's what you're looking for. If you're talking to me, I'm looking at your face. I'm trying to see if you have all your teeth.

I'm seeing if the hairline and the beard connect all the way around. Like, don't come at me with scraggly beard. You always say that. And my hairline and beard don't connect. They can't genetically. They don't have to connect to each other. Oh, my God. Yeah, they don't connect. They don't. No, no, no, no. Your hairline is all one piece. Okay, okay't genetically. They don't have to connect to each other. Oh my God. Yeah, they don't connect.

They don't. No, no, no, no. Your hairline is all one piece. Okay, okay, okay. There's no gaps in the forehead. I have a panic attack every time you say that. The beard is all one piece. You know how some people just,

they can't beard like they want to beard. They can't connect. If you can't connect, we can't connect. We can't connect. All right. So do you think maybe your preoccupation with aesthetics is really why you're single? No.

Perhaps it's the denial of that. Diane Sawyer on you right there? No, because hot to me is not hot to everybody else. I see. Right? Your hot is not my hot. No, that's certainly not true. You just got to look good to me, but also be able to put a little outfit together.

When's the last time there was a relationship? That was hot? That was one that you fondly remember. When we say relationship. Okay. I'm talking about something that's more than a situation. It was not just fucking. It was a relationship where you were like a little bit more invested in this person than everyone else.

It felt like that the beginning of this year. I started out. I met this guy on New Year's Eve. And we started strong. Strong. It was like, oh, this is cute. This guy, he was kind of like a certified lover boy. It was giving Drake.

It was giving Drake. He was very like, I don't know, like emotive. He was very like communicative. It was a little bit annoying. I was like, why are you telling me this all up top? So the transparency was popping off immediately. Clear. Crystal clear.

I love that. Yeah. And then he was a little too clear because he told me he had him in pain, his rant. And I was popping off immediately. Clear. Crystal clear. I love that. Yeah. And then he was a little too clear because he told me he had him in pain, his rant. And I was like, yeah, you should have stopped. You gotta go. Yeah. So. So basically, like, how long was that a situation?

Oh, like three months. So three months. Yeah. May he rest in peace. Have you had a proper boyfriend to you? I actually don't know this about you. I've had a boyfriend before. I've had a boyfriend before.

And that was when? What year is it? 2023, you. I actually don't know this about you. I've had a boyfriend before. I've had a boyfriend before. And that was when? What year is it? 2023, baby. The year of our Lord. I had a boyfriend like 10 years ago. Wow. Okay. But we were together for three years.

Uh-huh. So you're someone who prefers to be able to do whatever the fuck you want. Sure. Yeah. Sure. But now I want to like have a person that I travel the world with and do wild and kinky fuck you want. Sure. Yeah. Sure. But now I want to like have a person that I travel the world with and do wild and kinky and crazy cool things with.

Yeah. And it's my person. Like I'm not, like I don't want to be out looking around to see who's in the- That's my thing is I don't want to look anymore. I do that now and I never used to do that. I used to just go out and be cute with my girls

and it was like somebody would come over and it was like, I'm with the girls. Now I'm like, where are all like, why is nobody coming to talk to me? Why is nobody sending drinks to the table? Like, what's going on? And, you know, I blame dating apps. You think that it like made the culture more difficult to navigate?

I think dating apps and I think the pandemic has made it like scarier to talk to people in real life. I think you're right. And it's like, just come talk to me yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah I actually don't know what it's like really to just show up someplace well actually you know what it happens more than I say but like it's now a thing like it's not the first way you'd think about going to meet someone is like just going someplace and hanging out and then you meet like there is this thing now of like you would talk to someone on dm you plan to be at the same place like oh i'm gonna be here with my friends you're gonna be with your friends or you

just like use the dms as a hookup app which happens more and more you know i mean i haven't been single for particularly long and all i see is people using instagram it's like people are pre-screening and being like well oh you're in this friendship group. And I can see that. I can pre-stalk you and say, oh, you fit into my life already. Like, there's no spontaneity with like, oh, my God, you're friends with my friends. I had no idea. It's like very quickly, especially through Instagram, you're just finding out like exactly that person's thing.

Yeah, you could do background checks. And we're checking tagged photos because we want to see what you really look like without the Paris filter. Oh, yes. You know what I did the other day which was mortifying? Someone that I used to have a thing with,

I went into their, and this is how you know Twitter's got to go. It's just got to go. I've never done this before. I know the point's so good, though. I went into their Twitter likes. Oh.

And that's when I was like, what are you doing? I was like, what are you doing? I was like, why have you fallen so far? And I want you to know I feel horrible about myself the entire time I'm doing something like this. But looking at their Twitter likes and seeing what they've liked, I was just like, oh, no, no, no, no, no, no. I need to touch grass.

I need to get the fuck off my phone. And that's why I'm like more inclined to like go out and have that be the way I meet someone but it's also like my energy for that is so low but also maybe that's just because like that's right now I keep pushing myself I'm relatively newly single like it's been like a year and a half almost two years and like I feel like I am the kind of personality that will go up to people even though really yeah like I think people kind of personality that will go up to people, even though. Really? Yeah.

Like, I think people find it refreshing. Yeah. I'll go up to somebody. All of the people that I've, like, bagged, if you will, or, like, people that I've gotten to know better have been because I was very unafraid to be like, so, like, where are your friends? Who are you here with? A lot of people are like, what?

Yeah, you are very social. You just seem sort of like a different breed. That's what you're saying? You're coming up and being like, where are your friends? Why are you here? Actually, I'm just thinking about this pride interaction that I just had where it was really like I saw this guy from across the dance floor. He looked at me and gave me this big, bright smile with these really cute dimples and like literally waved me over. And in that moment, I was like, I either ditch all my friends and just go say hi to this person or like, I don't know what, like wait for him to come into my friendship group.

I was like, I'm leaving. I like sped away from my whole group. And the two of us like just got to know each other. It was great. I mean, there was drugs involved. Right, right. That's the sprinkle on top. Yeah.

I mean, in that particular instance, it was pride. But I don't know. I guess I'm finding that like I'm not so afraid to go up to people but there is a mixed bag of responses that you get like some people it's like it does not compute when you come over and make a big swing of like so where are you from also I've been finding that as even as like a sort of a bottom sexually for like most of the time I'm making like top swing moves yeah that is a top swing move and to even engage in any way like first i feel like it's like oh i don't know and that's maybe me speaking from where i'm at like as someone who prefers to be

approached like because if you give me a signal though i will really give it back but i am never gonna make it's not that i'm never gonna make a first move i rarely make a first move but if you if there is a vibe there and you make a move i respond and then i feel like i can sort of run things once things are very clear but i need things to be very clear what's the signal to go for me and this is my love language to physical touch if we're talking and it's a vibe and you put your hand on me in any way and i'm into it, it's a go there. And that's kind of how I am in relationships too. Like I recently was dating someone and we were talking about love languages because we don't have the same one. And mine is very like when I'm in a relationship with someone like mine is physical

touch. Like I like to be very affectionate and this person is like not like that. And so it's been a little bit interesting getting it started. But like, that's me. Like, if you make it clear in a way that's very clear, and I'm not saying just come up and touch me to anyone listening to this podcast. I kind of am. They're just going to like start caressing your face. Yeah, I know, right?

I hand to the lower back, like I get what it represents. And I get like that it sucks. But like for me, if we lock eye contact and I bat my eyes at you twice you can touch me let me see the eye bat bat your eyes dave's dave's new line has been he's had a couple new lines like one thing that he's been saying and this is not the line i'm talking about but he'll text me about game show which we host together and he'll be like hey i was noodling on this idea and he's like i'm still noodling i'm just noodling well i was noodling before and i was just like noodling i did not invent this and i invite the readers to defend me because this is noodling on something is like something my kindergarten teacher said like use your noodle yeah but like i don't know

it's just so funny to hear you repeatedly use it and it was like i hadn't said anything about it he just kept saying noodling and then i was i was kind of finally like you really are just a noodler aren't you you're just a little noodle head now when you use it i'm gonna be like i'm gonna like it yeah i know okay um but the other thing he's been saying is he goes i'm a kitty and if you pet me i will purr that's what david's been saying that's my real housewives turnaround i'm a little kitty and if you pet me i will purr it's you know what i mean it's like in certain points or at least in this chapter like my motto right now is no boyfriends till 2025 like i i'm tapped out i was in a seven and a half year relationship and it broke we broke up about a year and a half ago

it's been a really wonderful but really difficult journey back to my own self-confidence. And also like getting back into touch with a person who hasn't been single in like closer to a decade than like 23 years old. Being single at 32 is so different than being single at 24, 25. I met him in a completely different period of my life. I had a completely different set of needs and my needs changed. And when I tried to readdress and refocus, you know, yeah,

the whole, the thing came crashing down. I heard completely different set of knees. Oh, needs. I got a completely new set of knees to be on them again. New year, new knees.

Marie told me yesterday at the pool that my, my knees looked very clean. It looked like I'd never been on. I was sitting right there. I was like, and it came out of nowhere and I was just like. Okay. I was like, damn. Clean.

No scars. No bumps. No bruises. No. I have a nice padded little mat. A yoga mat. I was like, he's on his knees all the time. Shut up.

But anyway. Matt did say that. My father listens to every episode of this podcast. Hi, Mr. Dave's dad. Hi, Big Dave. Big Dave. Your son's on his fucking knees constantly. He's picking tomatoes right now.

He'll never hear this. Hi, Dad. Are you ever honest with your parents or anyone in your life that's like an older person that you're supposed to like, you know, have like that degree of removal with about what a whore you have been? Because I recently, my mother, she said the most iconic thing like three years ago. Like I mentioned that I have a friend that I used to hook up with. Like, oh yeah, like he's in my friend group, but we used to hook up, not a big deal.

And she just goes to me, Matthew, are you a slut? Did you answer honestly, bitch? And I was like, mom, I'm not talking to you about that. So I didn't say no. In the script I'm writing, you take a long, hard look in the mirror and then maybe we cut and we don't know whether or not you answer her. You were just on the phone with your mother when you were rolling up. I wonder what were you chatting about? Well, I was talking to her.

No, not whoredom. My mom doesn't ask me anything about anything that I'm doing. Okay. That's it she's like you're not asking me for money great great love it listed great my aunt who is my mom's younger sister anytime i speak to her she's like do you have a man yet because you gotta have these babies you gotta get married oh they're on you in that regard yeah she's on me in that but then like i'll tell her about guys that are bums or guys that i'm like, he didn't know what he wanted to be when he grew up.

So he's dead to us. And she's like, well, maybe you got to start dating, you know, not black guys. And I'm like, oh, yeah, I see that. I've done that. And she's like, yeah, girl, maybe get you a nice, well-to-do beige man. And I'm like, yeah. I would love to identify as a well-to-do beige man well-to-do beige oh my god like how do i apply do you want a relationship i would like to be in a relationship

yeah you're saying you want someone to travel with and do things with i don't want one but also it's 2023 summer 2023 feels different it just feels like this is a summer to do any and everything um so i'm leaning into that because i'm trying to live my very best and also like here's the deal not to swing back in like a weird way but like you do have this new project and watching it i can see it leveling up in a way like there's so much it's so clear like it throws back to like singled out it throws back to like because it feels like there's like a fun community on stage where it's like, you know, Dave is like the producer behind,

like almost like a DJ board. You have a special guest. The other day, we all know it was your bestie, Sydney Washington. And then you had fun contestants. It really felt like a throwback to like those like really fun dating shows of like MTV or like, you know, like it was like-

Like messy on purpose. Yes, absolutely. And so like you know like it was like like messy on purpose yes absolutely and so like what i saw there was like something that could be something i could see on tv very easily and so i'm like you know what while you were on your upswing don't invite anybody new in because the egos of especially men straight men i mean we're seeing it right now with kiki palmer oh my god like can we talk about this oh my god like i think i think it's completely done because they stopped following each other on instagram because he dared shame her for what she was wearing the mother of his

children and this is what i'm saying these guys who are in it and they're getting a free ride everyone especially women who are like really on the up and up don't allow these people who are like you see you just see it all the time where like people talk crazy to their partners like when they start to have some success or they start to like look extra good or do extra good like the ego jumps out and it's so disappointing so i almost feel like you know what continue to get yours and establish what you are and then when someone is like really down for that or able to handle that then link up i think matt preach i'm like emotional i gotta go well no because like i know we i just i feel like for me i i know that the universe wants

me to win yeah absolutely and i feel like that's your star all aspects of my life my personal life my career everything that i'm supposed to sell and book and create i'll do it yeah which is why i think i'm able to kind of just be like chill about everything because i'm not worried about it yeah and i think the same thing about like my dating life yep like the universe doesn't want me to be with a loser no no absolutely not not somebody who's gonna be like that you're a mom first of all no go home and watch kiki's child because that's your only job sir yeah i mean can you imagine knowing the platform that like you and her have and you have by the way because of her right and that you were gonna go out and like that to me just shows like a true lack of respect and

understanding that if he's willing to do that publicly what is happening privately and we're talking about kiki palmer the big boss the star the number one and friend of the pod and like i just can't imagine someone like her whose star shines so bright and is obviously such a force of positivity who everyone seems to love like i think is on her way to legend status it's like you're gonna talk to her crazy that just makes me sad like wow even the best of us will attach to someone because matters of the heart they're very crazy they're crazy because i thought he was like a football player or a baseball player or something i mean i have no

idea who he even was to be honest honest with you. I knew that she kind of kept it more low-key. And I don't think anyone really knew who... I know very little about it to be honest. Well, all I know is that after she had the child, it was more of a public thing. And then we all kind of knew who he was

and then he said this crazy thing and now everybody knows who he is. Because he came out and said that. It's like, wow, you really defined yourself in the public eye. And now you've been unfollowed, cut off. Well, I heard in the pool yesterday where Dave's knees were out. I heard in the pool yesterday that he was cheating or he was with somebody else and had her have an abortion or something before that. Because Kiki was having a bit like. The moral of the story to me is exactly what you said matches that you just never know what people

are dealing with you never know you just never ever know and that's why you really can't rely on like what things appear like you have to go off gut yeah you can't be working towards something better it's not there yet there's cracks we're disagreeing here you have to acknowledge those disagreements because for a very long time

you can let things go on until they just spiral out of your control. I guess what I'm saying is, I learned it. Your gut is always correct with this stuff. And it's just unfortunate. Go with your gut, not with your butt. I'm telling you,

their red flags are there and we sometimes will ignore them. But sometimes I see things as red flags that aren't necessarily red flags. This kind of started the show. The red flags, we passed them out to the audience. of started the show well yeah the red flags are we pass them out to the audience yeah that was a really fun element so everyone in the audience gets a little red

flag and whenever there's red flag behavior on stage from a contestant or whoever the fuck is talking like you Marie yourself were getting red flag waves quite a bit I didn't really I didn't recall the show is about celebrating the red flags that we all possess because red flag to us is kind of like it's something that just raises awareness as you're getting to know somebody.

It doesn't necessarily mean bad or good initially. It doesn't mean bail. No, it doesn't mean bail. It doesn't mean bail. But it means like, you know, when you hear I've got to go home tonight because I'm staying at my mother's. Yeah. The antennas are up. The antennas are up.

It means get the keys at least in your hand. How long are you staying at your mom's? Exactly. He could be in for the weekend and have a beautiful home somewhere else is your mom staying with you i mean yeah like people will come to the show and they'll say things like i live in new jersey that's a red flag for me yeah but you know how big's the house and like i don't care they could be living in the good part of who knows what's the good the good part of new jersey is new york What's the good? The good part of New Jersey is New York.

North New Jersey, it's no lie. I mean, honestly, I've been to some pools in Weehawken and absolutely given it. Weehawken, I don't even want to talk about Weehawken. I don't want to know how to spell that. We ain't talking about Weehawken. We ain't talking about Weehawken. But also in this show, we bring three contestants. They volunteer themselves.

They fill out this very long questionnaire that asks them questions about their dating life, their sex life, what they think their own personal red flags are because we all have them. Okay, so let's go through the show. You guys are going to go through the show with me. We're going to play a version of the show. Okay, we'll figure it out. And by we're going to do that, I mean that we're

going to figure it out. So for the first couple things, we would typically interview our contestants and they have them fill out a questionnaire and we ask them a few key questions so i guess why don't we ask some of the questions from the questionnaire to matt and see what his responses are let me pull up the uh the sheet this is basically like when someone is like you're looking for like a contestant for the show you're not looking for someone that's like hey we can get them to like you know no we want honesty we want people who are dynamic proud of themselves personalities we want people who

are cool with oversharing oh yeah don't worry i have a podcast oh yeah some people are very well it's funny that you were because i was at the show and you were like what's a red flag about you like that's one of the questions what you one of the questions you asked is what do you think your own one of your own personal red and when i was sitting there thinking about it because of course everyone in the audience and this is why i would say go to the show and engage with the show is because it actually gets you to assess your own behavior is like i think that one of my biggest red flags is probably the fact that i'm someone that externalizes a lot of information about my life it's like been a problem actually in my last two relationships. Actually, all of my relationships has been an issue. You overshare? Just the podcast

and just the visibility of you as a person? Yeah, just like I am someone who not only just on this podcast, but certainly on this podcast, but like to my friends, I talk about everything that I'm going through. So like if you're dating me, it's not like I'm going to put you on blast publicly. In fact, I think I've learned and been a lot better about that like I'll talk about like in vague terms what I'm going through but I won't be like you know this week Henry did this like I did when I first started the podcast

yes but like he did be doing that I was and I was like I had to learn I'm like you know you're using names and you're using person license poor Henry and Jared Henry and Jared like Henry and Jared, like, I would say first, last,

and whatever it was happening. And I had to learn from both those relationships. In my last relationship, he really did not want, and I've never, you know, said anything specific about him, really.

But the thing is, like, I also went through a pretty rough time in the aftermath of that breakup, and it's what I'm going through. So it's like a walk you have to do about like, you know, this is the way I connect with people that are my guests, my friends, like the community of people that listen to this podcast. But then it's also like it gets to a certain point where you have to decide like,

oh, certain things are going to be more important than that. But I am a talker. And I think my red flag is our business is a little bit like my friend's business. It's a little bit like, you know, something I have to work through because I'm a big externalizer. That and probably, you know, just overall clinginess. You're a clingy beach. When I'm really, really obsessed, when I'm really, really, really loving someone, I think I do need a lot of validation back. Okay. So is it like you need that text first thing in the morning? You need that text last thing at night?

I think that if I text you and you are my boyfriend and it takes you hours and hours to get back to me, we're going to have a serious problem. And I need to know why. I mean, that's real. I can appreciate the honesty there like hours and hours is too much time yeah I agree just like and I'm just reflecting on my own behavior I'm kind of that guy right now I'm kind of I think that's well you're not in a relationship

no no but I'm like you in these streets I'm in the streets and like I actually something I'm realizing about myself is that I don't know how to really be like an asshole I don't know how to like leave people on read right right right I like give people too much and I think that's one of my red flags right now is that like i'm actually not as interested as you might not as interested as i might seem because i am i am protecting myself a lot i mean i was just in a very very long very serious relationship i came

out of it very bruised and i have my guard up hard but i'm'm horny. So I'm just kind of like. But also, I think that that's fine to say. And here's what I would say to anyone out there. This is a sentence that has gotten me really through it, which is expectations are a recipe for resentment. Like if you have no expectations, you can't have any resentments. Right. So expectations don't have any resentments right so expectations don't have them just like take people at face value and don't color in the lines too much

because that is when you'll be disappointed but also be honest yes if you don't really like somebody that much don't lead them on um right yeah it's just a delicate balance and i guess like something i'm realizing is a red flag for me is that I'm talking about my past relationships still or like I can feel it still massaging the way that I behave and like influencing like how I approach new relationships

well you have trauma are you in therapy? I do have a therapist she's amazing I'm in and out I just like have a weird relationship around the whole thing. I thought I had a really strong sense of self and was like really heavily gaslit into a lot of behaviors. Like I was on antidepressants at one point. Like there was things that I was doing that didn't align with my true heart felt.

And it wasn't until the ceiling fell down on top of me that I realized that. So now at this phase, I'm just like a lot more reserved and very upfront about not wanting anything too serious. Yeah, well, then they can't be mad. Listen, I'm an honest person. I'm also an outward facing, you know, I'm a comedian.

I have, I do videos about dates. Not every date I go on gets the video. Only the ones that are really funny are really bad. Yeah. But guys that I go on dates. Guys that I go on dates with assume I'm going to talk about them. And it's like, well, you're best feeling your best behavior.

Please don't wear basketball shorts to this date. But I'm not talking about everybody. I'm not using names. I don't have to talk about everybody. I can go into the vault and tell a story about something that happened five years ago. And people are like, that must have just happened today. And it's like, no, no, no, no. Yeah.

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Yes. Worst date. And now, this actually might, does this mean you have to expose somebody that we just talked about not exposing? Okay. Name them Mickey Mouse. Here's what I'm going to say. Okay.

I haven't been on too many bad dates that were memorable because if I've been on bad days, they've just been boring. You know what I mean? And like what I'll say is that one time I went on a date where it was at his house and it was very explicit that like this was like going to be a fun thing and it was going to be like a sex thing. You know what I mean? Like it was going to be like sushi and sex kind of, which was very hot for me.

I love that. The guy was so fucking hot and I was into the vibe. So I get there and it wasn't that it was a bad date. It was lovely, but it was memorable because he told me pretty immediately that he was not over his ex. And that was so different than the energy that I had been getting, which was like so excited that I was coming and so kind of horny. And then it was not only was he not over his ex, but he played me a song that he wrote for his ex on a guitar.

Like we just like talked about the ex so much. And I was just like, at a certain point, it's just like, oh, you are a sweet person, but you have something to deal with. You know what I mean? Had they just broken up? Was it? It was pretty fresh. And I think a lot of the reason why I was there was because I had hooked up with his ex years prior. And I think he was so wrapped up in the thing of the ex that like, it was just very clear that like night was not about me and him. It was about him and someone else.

And I was there as a sort of a guinea pig trial of, can I even date someone new? Safe, familiar, but also like... And he was so sweet and so great, but it was just like a thing of, I'm not going to be here as a way for you to test yourself if you're ready. Now, was there sushi? There was sushi.

There was no sex, which was disappointing. What kind of sushi? Are we talking basic rolls or was there like a specialty roll? It was like sugarfish. You know what I mean? Like it was like we got a blue crab roll. You know, we went to pound town in a certain way. I played pound town for Matt last night and he's upset.

Pound town. Pound town greater than padam padam. Pussy pink. My booty whole brown. Yes. But there was no sex which was actually fine and I remember

I left being like listen I'm gonna go it's like 1.30 in the morning because I stayed for too long and then he was like oh I'm so upset like I was so excited that you were coming

like I feel like I've been such a bad date and like I feel like it was irresponsible for me to ask you out and I was like look I've had a really nice time. Well my dick is hard for this communication honestly. Well it kind of got there because like I said he was a very sweet nice guy but the thing is like by the end I was like look I had a really nice time getting to know you this was fun

and I would just say that if we're gonna hang out again make sure that you've got this figured out. Make sure we go to pound town. Yeah and And then I'd like to go to pound town, you know, at some point, ultimately. At one point during it, I was like, do you want to just like hook up and it doesn't have to be like a deep thing.

And then he was like, he was, he was, I'm picturing him like blubbering, being like, I don't know what to do. He never cried. He never cried.

He was just like, and then he said, he's like, I just got a text from my ex. Can we just kind of like hang out and watch TV? I was like, of course. Okay.

Was the breakup on a Tuesday and you were there on a Thursday? Well, then, then this is the best part. So a few days after the date, he calls me and says, I just wanted you to know that we got back together. And then they were back together for like,

literally like a few years. Do I know who this is? A few years. few years you do but i i'm not gonna say no no no definitely not now but like and the thing is like it was not a bad date at all but it was the most memorable way a date went left for me and what i learned from it was just like the second it looks like a date is going in a certain direction you you can just go. Like, I probably should have just gone home. You don't owe it to them to, like, complete the whole thing for their own personal ego. I don't think I needed to be there from 8 p.m. to 1.30 a.m.

No, babe, that's a shit. If you're not going to Pound Town, this is a one-way ticket to hell. And the thing is, just because the expectation had been set that we were going to, like, fuck and it was, like like a thing that he was like excited about and for it to turn that way i was kind of just like sitting there waiting in anticipation the whole time like when is this gonna turn into the other thing and it never did and like i said i had a lovely time hanging out we're actually friends now but it's the kind of thing where i'm just like that was a memorable way when the guitar came out that's when you knew someone was in crisis when they pulled a guitar out right babe

i really can't do that like i wrote a song for you it's like full cringe for me it's full stop calling uber i gotta go i don't want to hear music i think here's what i say it wasn't about me it was about the x that's my god no that's what i'm saying is like for you to show me a song you wrote about your ex yeah i'm like okay well why am i here well this is the red flag i was speaking to about myself but i'm not here i i'm just it's something that i talk about or like i think a personal red flag is they might be like how'd your previous relationship end and it's like and you're like okay how much time do you have six years we opened up our relationship and it's like those things to me feel like red flags yeah it involves a very long walkthrough of that situation which

is way too much to do on a first, second, third or 20th date. I think the farther I get away from it, this is why I know boyfriends till 2025, the farther I get away from it, the less it's a part of me and the less that I'm worried about being this guy that you went on a date with. And I think that's why I haven't been dating a lot. Well, I have been dating more lately, but like it took a few months because I was so wrapped up in what that was. And the second you are talking about someone else to someone who you know is there for like a dating purpose, that is you can just hear yourself being. You hear yourself, but you can't stop yourself. No, you can't stop. It's very relatable.

That's why you need to rent an apartment in Pound Town. I'm currently I have a two bedroom condo in Pound Town. I have a two-bedroom condo in Pound Town. Which is another good question from our questionnaire. So by the way, all of the contestants are asked ahead of time to submit. The link is in Marie's bio. It's on Instagram. If you want to fill out this quiz, you should fill out this quiz. If you live in New York or LA, we do the show all the time.

We would love to have you as a contestant. Here's the question that's on the thing. What's your biggest strength? What do you bring into the table bitch i think that when i care about someone i care about them a lot okay and also i'm a lot of fun i want to have sex pretty much all the time okay great and full of calm i have really nice sweet funny people around me and I am extremely communicative. So like I would say like my overall personality in a relationship, like I'm a big lover. Okay. You also have a lovely family. My family is great. I just mean like the people around me are good. Like I have a really good

sense of people and like judge a character. And like if I'm close to someone, it means that they're also worth getting to know okay okay here's what we want to know if you could date anybody dead or alive who would you date if i could date anybody dead or alive that is an interesting question i think that like probably right now i would date someone who was and you're asking like a famous person if you say the name and everyone's like who that doesn't really help yeah i know so basically like i i'm now a type i'm now at this place where it's like i don't want to date someone who's in the who does the same thing as me at all right no actors or like other comedians certainly or like maybe not even someone that's like creative

primarily i really want someone who gets it but like does something totally different like i would actually love to date someone that was in like architecture i would love me a little architect i want stanley tucci yeah like stanley tucci in one of his gay roles would be fabulous you know i also like have been dabbling with the idea of like dating an older guy because in porn I've been into it. How much older? Twitter will never collapse

because of it. How much older? Yeah. 10, 15 years. As long as everything still works, I think that works. But also maybe

that's not something I would want all the time. I think honestly, if I'm being really honest with myself, I want someone who probably is just a very figured out person

who brings a level of comfort to the table who looks like I don't know the guy from Reno 911? No not Reno 911 the guy from 911 Lone Star here let me google this you get on that

one of the gays from 911 lone star rob low oh i would love to date rob low someone someone looks like demographic yeah like him at a bar coming up to you hey there little one oh so that's daddy i was talking about um the people who play like his sons his son is in a gay relationship and both of them like they're like i guess they go by tarlos like harlow because the one of i like they're like I guess they go by Tarlos Tarlos because one of I don't know like that

one of those guys you're a vault but Roblo back in the day and Roblo now like Roblo 10 years ago perfect

I'm crying Parks and Rec Tarlos oh Parks and Rec Roblo yeah when you come in you just be like

this man is perfect yes absolutely I have another one another question for you from the questionnaire what's sexual kink that you save for the one that you save for him? He doesn't see it until you're ready for him to see it.

And then you let it out. I might know the answer. Um, okay. This is a safe space. I am really. Now it's, it's group sex for me now. Group sex. I like sex with other people, like multiple people.

Like it's fun. And it's like an actually an interesting exercise in like how safe you feel with your partner. And it's something I will never do again until I know I've got the one and we've signed, we've signed the emotional contract. That makes sense. That's probably mine. I don't really identify as like a kinky person. I actually, we can remove the word kink i guess but like it's like something that you wait and you hope that they like that you like this is interesting because for me it's like when it's the one when it's someone i really care about and this maybe makes me like uncool for the question but like it transitions out of sex into more like love making

and like when things get very very intimate like i can be like very very like romantic and intimate and like i'm that kind of person that's like it's giving eye contact yeah yeah yeah i actually get off when people say i love you you know what i mean like it's like okay i can see that like i'm like it doesn't mean we can't like you know have like rough sex or it doesn't mean that i can't go there but it's like i'm not a person that when I get more comfortable, it gets like dirtier and nastier. Like when I get more comfortable, it gets like sweeter and even more connected. Sweeter and gooier.

I like that. Okay, man, that's cool. But I mean like, you know, but like I'm not anti kink. Like when I'm out here,

like it's just interesting who I am sexually with someone I don't really know and who I am with someone that I do really know. Like I actually need the reciprocity of like, hey, I'm here and I really care about you. You know what I mean? Otherwise, why do we keep doing this? It's harder. But also when you're with somebody that you care about, especially if you guys have been together for a while, it just it is better because you guys know each other's bodies. It's just like less work.

Less work needs to happen when someone is like really into you and you don't need to like elevate it to a place of like how do i keep this interesting like i don't know like i just i feel like i've had situations where like two two and a half months in new kinks get introduced like new ideas get introduced and you're like oh i didn't really necessarily need it to go there and there's that thing you go through and you're like, oh, I didn't really necessarily need it to go there. And there's that thing you go through where you're like, do I have to try this? Do I have to like be okay with this in order to keep him interested? Like,

is this something that he needs? And that's where it starts to get interesting. Like, because I'm not really someone that wants to get like slapped. You know what I mean? I'm not really someone that likes to get like, yeah, not here for a golden shower,

a harder end of the spectrum. I don't really want to be peed on. Would you pee on somebody else? I don't think I've done a lot of things because somebody else has requested me to. Yeah. And if they really want it, I think I'm a people pleaser in that way, where as long as it's not like,

as long as it doesn't involve heavy cleanup, I'm down. Yeah. For the most part. Why? What about you? What? Pee? Yeah. Marie's got a Marie. For the most part. Why? What about you? What? Pee?

Yeah. Marie's got a Marie. Marie's. Actually, I don't want to say. No, say it. Girl, them feet. You be tossing them out to men. They go straight in mouths.

No, I mean, I don't. I'm not tossing my feet out. You know, I don't have a wiki feed or anything like that. Don't Google Marie's feet. Yeah, but I bet there is a wiki feed for you. There's not. I'm there. Oh, maybe there is. There's got to be. There's one for me. If there's one for Matt, there's a wiki feed for you. There's not. Oh, maybe there is.

There's got to be. There's one for me. If there's one for Matt, there's got to be one for you. There's not one for me. I'm going to Google it when I leave. Yeah, literally. No, but yeah, I'll put my feet in somebody's mouth. Sure.

I mean. But you're not putting anyone's foot in your mouth. A man's foot? No. With the hairy big toes? No. Yeah. I've done it.

I mean, I've tried it okay see the thing gotta be a pretty foot i was hooking up with someone during the pandemic and i think like you know just to try to like see what was up like i did put the foot in my mouth and it was so funny because we locked eyes and we both in that moment realized it was not for us it was like we don't do feet i don't think i don't think we do feet together i don't think we do feet apart i think you and i we don't do feet oh that's that's something nice to figure out yes high five it's nice when you can align like that i'm also really attracted to like the spontaneous stuff right now the sort of like no strings

attached i mean i've had like a few hookups on vacations like vacation hookups are always hot i had i hooked up with a kayak constructor in Puerto Vallarta in the closet. Oh yeah, love that. Love this story. That was amazing. I was like, when I went for a wedding too, I was in Mexico and I was in like a broom closet. A proper. A lot of closets in Mexico.

Yeah, a broom closet. And then he left me a no, asked me to order a bagel to my room for room service and then he came to my room. With the bagel? Did he bring the bagel? What? No, he didn't bring a bagel. Oh, come on.

Did he eat the bagel? He ate the bagel. Okay. Your bagel's king. The bagel got ate. Oh, no. That bagel was everything. Oh, it was delicious.

It was an everything bagel. Mmm, is that poppy seed? No, honey. Ew! No, honey, plain squeaky clean but no it's just like that's something that I guess is something that I'm enjoying right now it's like sort of spontaneous

like connections especially on vacation I'm just like you just know you're never gonna see them again it's just like this could never be so it's just like you get a piece of me but also it's like a good story to drop into the group chat let me show you what I just did in Austin, Texas. This is what I'll say. On vacations,

I do become like, I go through the gamma radiation and become like a Hulk version of myself in terms of being a whore. Like, when I go on vacation, it's like carte blanche. I turn into a different person. Like, I put like a vacation hat on and I click in. And I'm thinking now, like,

maybe that is a little bit of a kink that's like not super is like hooking up with people that I probably shouldn't. Oh I mean there's a whole app dedicated to this. Do you have sniffies? It's not necessarily like anything I'm doing sexually it's who I'm doing it with. Like I'm a little

attracted to this idea of like oh I shouldn't hook up with my teacher I shouldn't hook up with my teacher i shouldn't hook up with my boss so maybe role play honestly i and i famously i started a role play recently and the guy told me i think you might be too good at improv oh you said yes and i bet he wanted to do a scenario that was like coach player and so we had a date we were in the car going back to my hotel and i literally just go he no he said he's like you did really well in practice today and i was like oh my god we're doing it we're doing it we're doing it so so so i said yeah um i give my all on the field because

you know things have been really hard at home oh my god and then he goes yeah really and i go yeah and i think that when i look at you i see you as a father figure and i really want to impress you and then he goes i think you might be too good at improv yeah yeah you're creating like sort of like a at home like a abuse like wait a minute yeah a little bit too much i was just saying like it abuse. I was just saying, like, it's tough with my father. I'm closeted at home. I want daddy. Can you be daddy? That's hot to me. I want to fuck daddy.

Come on, coach. Things that have been real hard at home means two things. Or it could be. Like, he maybe, you know. I'm just saying, like, you know, my dad. I think I said, like, you know, my dad and I, it's a tough relationship. I'm looking for a father figure. I can't.

I can't. I'm crying. I'm sure. Like, he, like, goes to get lube, turns around, Matt's in full wig. Matt has on shoulder pads. I can't. I'm crying. I'm sure. Like, he like goes to get lube, turns around, Matt's in full wig. Matt has on shoulder pads.

I'm also now realizing, you know, another one of my kinks is I kind of like, I kind of like armpits. You like armpits? You don't have to whisper that. That's like, I kind of like a man's smell.

Or do you need them to- Like right after like a workout man smell? I don't know about all that, but just like- He's been out for the day? Just like you don't know about all that, but just like. He's been out for the day. Just like you don't necessarily, if I'm really into it, you don't necessarily have to be like squeaky clean like deodorant. Like have, you can have shower, like the hole should be clean.

But like if I'm smelling armpit and it smells like man, that's actually good. Well, I think if you like the way someone smells naturally, I think that means you really like it's on because some people I've I've been with. I didn't like how they or they didn't smell like anything. And that was like weird to me. Like smell is sex. I don't know. You can smell like Le Labo and I'm not mad. I like I like them to smell good.

Yeah. Smelling good is sexy. But you were talking about this in the show. It's like if you're ugly, but you smell good, you're cute. If you're cute, but you smell good, you're hot. If you're cute, but you smell good, you're hot. If you're hot and you smell good, you a hoe.

That's the math. Oh my God. Wait, I got to write that down. Yeah, write it down, write it down. That's amazing.

I've done the work. A squared plus B squared equals you a hoe. Yeah, okay. All right. So I would say that's my thing.

I have like an intimacy kink with people that I'm really interested in and then potentially some roleplay. So after we get to know our contestants for a little while

Marie like basically roast them we do a deep dive on their social medias we ask them to surrender over their profiles they send us screenshots from all the apps so

many apps these days so many apps like field we hear about all the time farmers only. Oh you mean like apps like dating apps that are like for

specific things. Yeah yeah yeah there's so many specialized ones we saw what was it farmers? Farmers. It's like dating apps that are like for specific things? Yeah, yeah, yeah. There's so many specialized ones. We saw, what was it? Farmers? Farmers. It's like for people who are interested in people who are interested in agriculture. It's wild. I didn't even know there was that many farmers in America.

Yeah. There's communities all over the place in the dating world. But we ask after we get to know them a little bit, then we start to put them against one another. Because we are looking for the person with the least amount of red flags. Okay. To be crowned a winner. Right. And we're not saying that you have no red flags you do you just have less than the two people who's the most eligible out of out of the bunch i get it that we pull i get it so basically like it's a thing of the audience sort of dictates an energy

in the room of like we're not feeling this person because and it was interesting like when people just start talking and you give them a space to talk, they will say a crazy thing. Oh, absolutely. And that's what we're looking for in the applications. When, when we get them in,

it's like, we love a little crazy. This person's ready to talk. We love a little crazy. Dave and I will be looking through them and we'd be like, okay, she, yes.

Um, Jeep, Jeep last show. We, and our show in New York, we had a contestant named Jeep who was like giving us all these crazy answers about guys that she'd went on and boys that had like tried to take her crazy places. We were like,

this girl spills. But the next chapter is that we go through questions that Marie asked for Instagram that are a little bit larger scope and just we need an answer from you. So I have one now. Gorge. One would be, how long have you traveled for sex? How far? How far? The farthest have you traveled for sex how far how far this you've

traveled for okay actually i oh my god i flew tommy i flew from new york to la okay like in 2018 okay i was coming for a week and it was should i say say his name? Sure. I think it would be contradictory to the beginning of this podcast when you said how much you've grown from doing that. I'll say yes. Put this man's name on blast and if you have to bleep it, you bleep it. Right. I'm just gonna, I feel messy.

That's what this show's about. Do it. So this was in 2018 and I was I'm gonna say it. I was talking up with Louis Vertel and I was I'm gonna say it I was talking with Louis Vertel and I flew I flew across the country to hook up with Louis and then I remember I flew

New York to LA and then I remember it like didn't really work out like I think I didn't even realize we were more friends but I did fly from New York to LA to stay for a week to hopefully fuck louis vertel for a week and then louis vertel's a sweetheart so that was we love now now we're good friends but like this was you were investing in a friendship you didn't know

ah okay i googled him got it see it yes keep it we first hooked up like years and years and years prior and then like it was one of those things where we didn't really know each other but there was like an intense connection. You thought you were in love. I thought I was like in love. And so I came back and I was like, but that's your thing, man.

You love hard girl. You go. And I also decide who people are before I really get to know them. And like, I love who Lewis is now, but he was not who I thought I was. You know what I'm saying? It's like when you put in all the effort beforehand and you're like

you're really thinking it's one thing and you build it up in your head and all of a sudden the castle is built and you walk in and you're like oh this is just a soundstage you know there's nobody in the on the grounds but I think the mind is very powerful right we build things that we

want to build we see things we want to see sometimes you can blur things out that are there that you should be looking at that's what it is but the answer to your question is 3 000 miles for friend of the show lewis well the most popular answers online the fourth most popular answer was international these people have crossed countries yeah that was flying from australia she had like hundreds of responses yeah it was wild i think about it i really do i definitely certainly like someone will get in the dms and i'll be like where are you and they'll be like london and i'll be like oh i'm almost there i'm almost there i can

almost justify like me traveling the way i like to travel comfortably like to go all the way there beautiful and i love to see you so 3 000 miles currently is i'm trying to convince the boy i met over pride to go see taylor swift in europe with me oh my god wait go with me i would i want to oh my god don't go with him okay i want to go to like paris because i didn't see her when she was in when is she gonna be in paris oh not till next year it's like she just extended like yeah she just she was like you know i'm guessing you're not a big swifty you know i'm not wouldn't that be the most amazing thing to learn here on this pod i did just watch her tiny desk the other day oh my god wait her tiny desk is great i mean she didn't have nobody back there

with her it was just her just the girl and her guitar and her piano and she sounded fucking great oh look at you like being all like oh about it i love you know i watched a couple tiny yeah yeah i love that tiny tiny desk is incredible i have to watch moon is still moon is fantastic i can't wait i want to watch it when we saw them in new york they were just about to go film it and i just know it's going to be fantastic what did i recently watch i think there's an old jasmine sullivan one too which is like oh yeah yeah there's oh usher's tiny desk oh i saw that one too Usher's tiny desk Is amazing You remind me Let me tell you something There's so much narrative About Usher

You forget His voice Is like I mean of course It's an instrument It's a voice But like it is so It's like a finely tuned

Instrument at all times Like he just finds the notes And he's been doing this For so long And his face looks Almost exactly the same He was my first crush I knew I was gay when I saw

Usher's abs. That was like the moment. He was formative for sure. Oh my god. Formative. Might be a piece of formative culture for me. Honestly. She likes it my way. Oh yeah. I mean you also forget how good some of the songs on Convessions were.

Oh Burn is so good too. Burn. Yes. Even the lyrics. conventions were. Like Burn. Oh, Burn is so good too. Burn, yes. When you're feeling it. Even the lyrics. It's gonna burn for me this day and age. It's coming from the heart. Been a long time coming. And the beat fell apart.

But it won't work this time. But I don't think it's, wow, it is good. I do what you do. Go on separate ways. Yeah. I can stay in this relationship When I'm hurting, baby I ain't happy, baby Cause there's so many other things I gotta do

I think that you should let it burn Say nobody don't want you But no, gotta let it go Cause nobody ain't doing like you used to Even though that's my bro Let it burn gotta let it go. Cause the body ain't gonna be like it used to. Even though that's my bro. Let it burn. Let it burn. Gotta let it burn.

Deep down you know it's not. No, I gotta stop. Wait. It never stops. It's so good. Wait, it is so good. But people listening on 2.0 or 1.5 are going to have a really fun experience. Oh, man.

I'm going to, let me add that to my karaoke playlist. And don't forget about well, no one will ever forget about. Yeah, because that was inescapable will always be a classic. But my sessions part

to my with him and Alicia. Yeah. My boo is another really good karaoke song for like if you and a buddy. Yeah.

Yeah. But confessions part to our song. Yeah. Oh, my boo. Oh my God. Go back and listen to that album. I might do that in the car.

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I don't travel, I host. I don't always want people in my house. Nowadays, I don't travel. I don't travel. I keep a nice home. And if you don't know how to want people in my house nowadays I don't travel I don't travel I keep a nice home and if you don't know how to handle yourself in my home I love being able

to throw you out so I don't like going to unknown territory unless it's like a hotel that is exactly right and the thing is I hate hate hate

because you never do know like recently I did a grinder hookup and I traveled like 45 minutes for what I was positive was going to be a fire hookup and I traveled like 45 minutes for what I was positive was going to be a fire hookup.

The guy was pathetic. Pathetic? Oh my God, it was horrible. It was horrible. You're just saying like really hot but no sexual energy?

Well, I get there and the first thing he says is, hey, I actually like I have a bruised rib so we can only do it missionary and I'm really coked out and my dick doesn't work but I definitely am horny

so I wouldn't do this. Whoa, whoa, whoa. I was just like, wait, what? You could have said this to me before I paid for the oobs, babe. doesn't work, but I definitely am horny, so I wouldn't do this. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. You could have said this to me before I paid for the oobs, babe. Well, no, he was so down. The rib was bruised before I came over. And then I'll tell you what the really stupid fucking part of it was, was after we had sex for like 20 minutes,

it was a boring sex that he was like not even, he also, we had barely made out. He didn't want me to eat his ass. But Grindr, I don't actually want to kiss always. It's like kissing is actually like for me, it's comes after sex isn't that fucked it's like blowjobs are like high i love making out like making out is like sure but like kisses eye contact sex kisses that's like see that is my kink i have an intimacy kink but anyway you gotta be right afterwards he goes to me can you follow me on instagram my My friend will freak out. And I was like, oh, this is what I hate.

And this has now happened to me. And this is like whatever ghost to talk about, but this has happened to me between five and seven times. Someone will say after that they knew who I was. And I'm like, I guess that's a weird thing

for you to navigate, but I guess I would have rather known that. And now I think I'll do Grindr, I guess I would have rather known that. And now I think I'll do Grindr less just because people are fucking crazy on that. You hear that readers? Identify yourself before you try to fuck Matt on Grindr. Yeah, don't be. Well, what I love is like when they say, I don't think so, honey, if this is not you, ha ha ha.

And then they send a picture of Hole. I'm like, what if this wasn't? Oh God, that's fucking hilarious. I actually love that. Grindr is a zoo. It is a zoo. I had one guy try to take a selfie after sex. I pulled a hat trick at the Moxie Hotel,

aka I had three interactions in one hotel. Yeah, it was a really wild night. And one of the guys, the first guy tried to take a selfie with me afterwards. Absolutely not. He was like, I'm visiting the city. Absolutely not. It was an absolutely not situation. and i went down to the lobby and then i got a text from somebody else who was in the same hotel and i did a quick like i like fixed

my hair gone right in the elevator i went straight back up you said don't mind if i do uh yeah with of course being safe but at the same time like giving into that like horn devil random kink that exists for me it's like no strings attached. Who are you? Let's just try it. Yeah, I get it. With safety, of course. You know what my kink is?

And I don't know if it's a kink or not. I just, it's really hot. When people tell me how much they like me during sex. Like, tell me how good it is. Tell me what it feels like. Tell me, just praise. Like, I think it's like a praise kink. Yes.

Like, don't be like, I love your pocket. Like, no. i don't want to hook up with people who've like seen me perform just be like but just like in the moment just be like oh my god your eyebrows are like even your cat eyes like your teeth are so white honey if he's inside you and says your eyebrows are even i'm not i'm not that i love your cat eye Oh my god Mary-Kate and Ashley They're exactly the same That's not the pussy I want complimented No no no no

But I'm just saying Like just Compliment me Yeah yeah yeah That's so So so hot Do you like when people Call you baby

I say baby a lot And someone Like in a baby voice No No no no First of all I can't stand baby voice We not doing baby voice

No never baby voice Never ever ever But like I say that and recently someone had a problem with me saying the word baby during sex he's like oh it's like too much and i was like okay and so i was just like all right oh see baby you like that baby feels safe baby feels safe dude um i can fuck with bro not gonna lie oh i was called little bro one time and i shot my cum to God. Little bro. Little bro. I mean, the readers know my story about, you know, big bro on Fire Island. He called me little bro during sex and we were fucking outside like in the backyard of his house.

And I swear to God, it was seconds after he called me little bro that I was like, it was like that scene in Scary Movie where he finally comes and he's like, it's like an avalanche that I was like it's like break my arm it was like that scene in Scary Movie where he finally comes and he like it's like an avalanche like a geyser I was like go let it burn I like baby

I think that that's it can be romantic also I like to like I'm good at cooking and like I love to host like I said so like in the morning like I'll make a little egg

I'll make like I'll do something like really casual and cute on the stove are you sneaking out of the bed early to do that or are you guys like no I'm making it look effortless I'm getting up in the morning and he wonders why people are like oh he really likes me it's like you made him a full fucking well it's gonna be nice listen you made a California breakfast but you're right Matt

that is actually something that I'm trying to manage is like how quickly I roll out the red carpet for boys that I don't really know that well because I've been taken advantage of before and it's like you got to protect all the good pieces of you because if you make it look real good over there I don't know they're going to tell you what they need to tell you to get you to fall in love I like when guys come to my house and then they cook for me in the morning it's like well what do you have I'm gonna run to the store real quick I'm like this happens that's true queendom that's happened to me before yeah wow yeah That was nice. Also, you don't got to cook too.

If you just want a seamless, like some Mr. Chow for the evening. Like, it doesn't matter. Like, I also love a guy who like, just kind of takes control. Sure. And just like, it's like, I ordered something really hot about you being in my kitchen cooking for me. And you know, I'm like this.

I'm in the sending pictures to the group chat. Like, girl, look at his butt. He making eggs. Is it butt first for you? what's the hottest thing on a guy uh i like a guy with a nice butt that i can like you know but i like shoulders back chest i need it to be like oh my god this is a man i need you to be shaped kind of like you know a little marvel-y you know little like yeah okay i get that it's a grown-ass man it's so weird for me like i could be into anyone it's just an energy thing it's just i don't have a type i do also think hot for me is also guys that like know

who they are and what they want and where they're going like just somebody who's like yeah i do this i do this charisma i'm i'm gonna build i don't know i'm an architect and i'm gonna do a sistine chapel to whatever like whatever it is that you do you're just like that is who you are and you are very confident. Yeah. Oh, yeah. Confidence will get you. Sexy. Yeah.

Sexy. Yeah. And that's the thing is it's like that's my thing about like being approached and like when someone comes in and is just like undeniable, like I'll fall for that. Yeah. And I have. undeniable like i'll fall for that yeah and i have and i guess a piece of that for me right now is like falling back in love with myself and reconnecting to my star power and reallocating all that energy that i was putting into previous relationships back to myself has made me feel this sort of like confidence and it's like when i go over and make a first swing and like uh

approach somebody else i feel like i'm getting off on my own confidence even before the conversation starts. Got it. It's powerful. It's like a power move. You feel like you could talk to anyone just because you literally are doing it. Yeah. You know what? Why not? Like if anything, if they spin it into like a pleasant conversation, they're not into it.

It becomes like a friendly conversation. I know how to handle that. And also I have a good read on those types of things when it's time to step away when it's not going the way that I thought. And like I think every time I do it in this post breakup world every time i've done it it's gone well in some capacity so like i'm like sort of high on that confidence and like trying to keep that ball rolling yeah i made a list of the people that i hooked up with or that i dealt with last year i have one too and i saw yours the other day i couldn't believe how long mine was when i did

this recently i'm like whoa i called my mom back i I was like, I am a slut. Oh, yeah, she's right. I was with my sister on vacation and she told me her number and then I told her my number and I think she had an asthma attack. Yeah, yeah, yeah. She flew home early. She was like, I have to go.

It's like, gotta go. But half of the people that I talked to last year is because I approached them and I initiated a conversation. But I've also been told that I'm intimidating and that's cool. Yeah, you were talking about this at the show.

Well, because it keeps away some of the riffraff. Right. But like when a guy is confident enough to approach me, that's sexy. Yeah. Because it's like some people are scared, but look at you being a big boy. But here's the thing. They get in their mind that they are like, when they see you like up on stage, when they see you like out on stage when they see you like

out there doing your thing confident on the internet like projecting like you know marie faustin and they're like i'm gonna go up to that and i'm gonna like pursue marie it's this thing of like they by nature of like what we do and who we are, they have colored in the lines already. And it is like weirdly about them being like, I'm going to get that. And then all of a sudden, it's about acquiring. And I've, you know,

it's a thing. And so then all of a sudden when you're a real person and they're a real person and that element of the chase and that element of that thing of like, you know who I'd like to of like you know who i'd like to date you know who i'd like to see myself with this person then all of a sudden they stop performing which they are whether they know it or not and they're just the boy they're just them and all of a sudden you're like how much of this was actually about us and me and us together and how much of it was about your ego personal

conquest you want to show up and be like marie faustin's one it's given she's all that remember when he was like it was like that bet and he was like yeah i could get anybody to be popular whatever yeah like pick one sure pick one but it's like they pick a specific person well i hope it doesn't happen to me that sounds horrible well it's just a thing where it's like when you are someone who like decides to to be someone that could be known at all like then there's this element of like okay dating has changed now it's different now especially like especially in the gay community i've kind of accepted now that like if i'm if i'm in the gay scene in brooklyn or la like likely at this point like they may have some idea of like what so and then there also comes

this element of like okay so now they're coming over to talk to just talk to you as a stranger but they know they have hours and hours and hours of your personality that they are already so it's like is anything authentic or are they just coming up winded up with what they know you already would respond people have said it on like the third date i feel like i finally have to come forward and say like i do this that the other thing this is what i know this is what and i'm just like oh now it is hard to so yucky to me when i hear that too though it's like oh you watched my video it's not to me if they're honest it's not to me if they're honest it's a little icky to me i think it's but i think it's because i date men you know like as a as a tiny kidnappable person it's just like i don't like when it feels like you know more about me than i know about you

right so please please this is why i'm keeping my gay fame very tight um i'm managing you know just how quickly i blow up i don't want to be. It's why I want to date someone that doesn't, that's not in the industry and maybe has very little understanding of it. They have no social media. That would be nice. Yeah, I mean, my ex didn't have social media. I'm sorry, no social media is not sexy to me.

If you have no social media at all, you have a finsta, you're lying, or you're cut off from like an entire money market that it really depends on what job you work in because for most careers, I feel like if you're off social media, you're missing out on money. Well, maybe you have a social media but it's just like pictures of windows that you like on buildings i just i can't do a boy that's like oh no i don't

really do like online i can't do that i'm gonna the online of it all i'm gonna get into it in my i don't think so honey in a bit but like there's a certain pivot happening from twitter away to something else and i have questions about it um all right so that's that that was that question what else there's a question about like how long sex should last yes what is the ideal amount of time for sex now so basically i was really shocked that so many people think sex should be so short i was surprised too the number one answer is 20 minutes i felt 30 minutes and then people were like then someone on stage i think courtney who won the show was like five minutes of foreplay 15 minutes i'm sex i'm like five minutes of foreplay that's not enough

time i like foreplay i like a lot of i like the build up suck it in fucking i like i mean i if you do foreplay right you can kind of like weave it throughout like a day. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. We're building up to it. We make out in the bathroom restaurant. Then we stop. Not the bathroom restaurant, girl.

You know, I love a little closet. Yeah, my girl is up in the public. Yeah, in the public. Not at Ralph's. Like, I don't know. Just like, I want you on the dance floor. I've been doing crazy shit. No crazy shit that to me is all foreplay leading up to and then you know

when we get to it it should also be more foreplay but I'm also like a round you know I'm like let's hook up let me do what I do and then let's take a break let's get a drink let's smoke oh yeah I know for sure I mean I love all three of us are weed people do what I do and then let's take a break let's have some water let's smoke period

oh yeah I know for sure I mean I love I love all three of us are weed people yeah 100% yeah that's amazing Dave was actually very formative in my

your weed I brought weed I was the main flower I brought it I brought it in and gave it to well actually it was Dave and Sudi

Sudi smoked me out for the first time and then when I started hanging out with Dave Moore we were high pretty much constantly. It's a beautiful way to move through the world.

Watching TV high, having sex high, eating food high, it's beautiful. Eating food high really is beautiful. I remember like... Is that a deal breaker for you? If they don't smoke weed? No, that's not a deal breaker for me at all, but I will say it's also just like and I hate that it really helps, but when someone tells me like, and I hate that it really helps.

But when someone tells me like, oh, yeah, I smoke weed or like I would be into smoking together. I'm always like, yeah, you can be cozy. And but the thing is, like, I wouldn't want anyone to think like I need that. Like, I also don't need you to drink. I don't need you to need to go out a lot. I don't need you to, you know, smoke weed. I don't need you to party. I don't need you to do anything. What I don't need you to party i don't need you to do anything what i need you to do is love me that's it yeah and have a good relationship with me and just communicate with me about what it is because guess what like i don't need to be out all the

fucking time i don't need to smoke every single day i don't you know what i mean like i don't need to be the balance i don't need to even have a drink at dinner like why it can be a balance like i'll do what i do you do what you do it's just like not everything has to like eat itself but it helps but like through all this conversation where i think we're realizing is that like you know there are it's like well this is a no but also actually if it's kind of like this then it's okay like you don't have to smoke weed but also you can't be like this with drugs or you know the red flags like initially when you like list them out you're like no this, this, no, this, there's actually a lot more disclaimers

and a lot more like shades of gray in those than you realize. And that's why I think dating is hard is because when you go on an app, it's like, yes or no. Yeah, there's no gray area. There's no gray area. And it's like, actually, sometimes what we find

is that contestants on our show with lots of red flags, we end up falling in love with them. Everybody on the show. It's really a celebration of straight people who put themselves out there and who are fucking- You said straight people. We've got plenty of gays on the show.

What I meant was- You got your shows confused. I got my shows confused. I looked at Matt. You got your show with me confused. It's really- Dave started doing the- A celebration of straight people.

He started doing the Quibi press tour. I'm sorry. I just keep trying to reshuffle. It's single people is what I mean. Yeah. Like, you know, that are have shades to them. And like you. I just want to be with somebody fun.

Yeah. Don't take yourself too seriously and know how to use your words. Yeah. You know, I mean, I've also been with people who I feel like maybe smoke too much. Oh, yeah, for sure. It's just like you got everything you got to do is high. It's wake and bake and go to bed. You also dream high.

I can judge that because I was there at a certain point in my life in the pandemic. I was high for like one calendar year. But the pandemic doesn't count. Like we were supposed to just be like sober the whole pandemic. Raw talking the world. Certainly not. No, no, no, no, no. Definitely not.

People were doing drunk Zoom happy hours. Yeah. I mean, you know, not I said the cat, but people were doing that. Right hours yeah i mean you know not not i said the cat but people were doing that right every thursday or friday or whatever yeah i mean it was just what it was i mean you just got through the way you got through exactly well you have no you have no opponents today matt so you win i know i kind of win i guess i was the last thing i was going to say was like one thing i love and you know that here at Las Colterasas, we love a one minute countdown. What I loved was when you said you have to sell yourself for a relationship in one minute. And it was very funny, but also the three contestants like in one minute all felt like they were very

genuinely like, this is like what I offer in a relationship. And it was actually really sweet to hear people like advocate for themselves, root for themselves. And I felt like how much in our culture, like in how much in our dating sphere do we really talk about the positives about us and what we can offer? We so often fixate on the things about us that are wrong, that are the reason why we're not in a relationship. And sure, there's like much to like pontificate on about that but i think that something that we don't do very often is say hey here's what i offer here are my strengths here's what i think is attractive about me and a partner here's what i can offer you and i thought that was like a really good way for you guys to end the show because it makes it very

positive and it's very genuine and i think that that's actually a very attractive thing and so you leave with like this very this idea of these people in this very positive attractive light and so I would flip it on you guys could you sell yourself in one minute yes we can I feel like Dave's gotta go first cause I sell

myself on that show regularly Dave sell yourself in one minute we are gonna do but we're also gonna do, I can sell myself. Dave, sell yourself in one minute. 60 seconds. We are going to do Out of Things Honey, but we're also going to do this. Dave, this is your one minute to sell yourself as someone who should be dated. Go. My name is Dave Mazzoni. I am an Italian-American with a heart

of gold. I can cook. I enjoy cleaning. But more importantly, I know how to care for you. I have been through a shit ton. I've been in a very long relationship. I have made mistakes. But one thing I know how to do,

and the most important thing for me in a relationship is communicate. I will tell you everything. How I'm feeling right now, how I felt yesterday. There is no gray area when it comes to my feelings. 30 seconds. Even if they're in process. And if you are looking for somebody who knows how to communicate, I'm

right there. Also, love sex. Also, very adventurous with traveling. Love to go different places. Also, my parents are really nice. We have an above-ground pool that's really cute in the suburbs. What else? I just moved into a new apartment

in Brooklyn. I have big, beautiful lips and i get my hair faded every two weeks without exception and that is one minute wow hey at dave mazzoni on instagram yeah come for me to a two z's come on come over to my neighborhood that was very good okay marie now you have to go. Marie, sell yourself in one minute. Your time starts now. How you doing? First of all, you hear my voice? It's sexy. My name is Marie. I am fun.

I am funny. I am fantastic to look at. I'm a good time, right? I read books sometimes, but I'm not, I don't think that I'm better than you. I just want to be with somebody who wants to have a good time. I'm trying to travel. I want to eat'm better than you. I just want to be with somebody who wants to have a good time. I'm trying to travel. I want to eat. I want to smoke.

I want to bang. I want to laugh at people together because I'm really good at stopping and staring and being mindful and being like, why are you wearing them shoes? I can cook, but I probably won't cook for you. I like to go out to eat. You could order mad things for the table and we'll eat it and have a great time. Sex with me. So amazing. And I'm a charming ass, charismatic ass beach.

So if you're going out, you're introducing me to whoever you're introducing me to, your friends, your family, your pastor. They're going to love me. You're going to love me. And people are going to be like, be like oh my god you're dating her and that's one minute oh my god when you show up with a partner properly that's the first thing i'm gonna say is wow you got marie it's like you got marie wow you got marie a hundred percent i can't telling you i can't i see it so well okay matt is it your turn now Now it's my turn. Put me on the clock. Matt, it's time for you to sell yourself. Go.

Okay. I'm Matt Rogers. I'm a blast. And I will share everything I have with you. That's something I would say is if I'm dating you and we are like in a good place, I will make you feel like a king. I am a really good motivator. I also like to have sex all the time. I've even been told that it's an issue. Sometimes I like to have sex all the time. I've even been told that it's an issue.

Sometimes like I like to have sex at night. I like to have sex in the morning. I like to have sex in the middle of the day. That's 30 seconds. So basically we can be on your schedule. Just know I kind of like I'm always sort of available in that regard. I have a really fun friends. You'll really like them. And I think that I'm also really good at adapting to your social situation I can be put in any situation and pretty much socially be okay I keep it together in terms of my body and my mind I'm always busy I'm actively activated in the things that I do I can respect the things that you do too I'll give you space I can also be all on top of you so that's why

see I agree with you Matt Matt, that like this moment always ends up being like kind of sentimental. We had a contestant two shows ago that was just like, he was one of our straight male contestants

that are hard to get on the show. If you're a straight male and you want to- Because you were saying it feels like straight men walk into a situation like this, especially where you're the host, Marie,

and you're like, you know. They just think it's a trap. They think I'm going to roast them the entire time. The show is not a roast. Everybody's getting low-key roasted but like it's not

we're not attacking any of the straights because we need the straights yeah absolutely but we had a straight guy in the cell yourself say I am in therapy I've been in therapy

for years oh yeah the audience stood up screaming it was a standing ovation for the straight man well that is huge screaming

that's also one of my things like if we're dating and I'm 33 years old now, if we're dating, you need to be or have been in therapy. 100%. And it's so funny because I only started like two years ago. Same. Same. But now it's like, wow, I know it's so important.

Well, because it's like therapy for me is something that like I never thought that I was going to do or need to do you know i'm a black girl with caribbean parents therapy is like you gotta go to church but i started during the pandemic and it just changes how you think about how you feel yes and like sometimes i'll be mad about something and i'll be like well why am i mad about that and i'm only asking that because of therapy and sometimes it's like oh i actually don't even really care about this. Take your ass to the therapy. Absolutely.

Go. Even if you think you have everything figured out, like I was somebody who, especially towards the end of my relationship, that's when I started going to therapy. Almost like every two days I was going, like for a couple of weeks. you got good insurance.

Well, no, I was paying out of pocket for my brain. And it was really helpful because I was just going to her with like all of this stuff that I was trying to sort. And she was like, you're correct. Like you are correct. And sometimes when you can't write the ship, you have no idea where North is for whatever reason. It's really nice to have somebody that you trust and that you respect. I will say, I think you said this to me or somebody did that therapy. It's like therapies for everyone, but the barrier for entry is finding a therapist that you respect, that you fuck with. And I found one and I could

not have done that period of my life without one. Well, you know, this is an interesting way to think about it. It's like when you're talking to your friends about what you're going through, like it's you in the conversation, sure. And you're talking about you, but also they're receiving it as a friend. And so they are going to filter it in a certain way. They're going to filter it through certain things. Like how do I respond as a friend? How do I respond as me who's also gone through something, who's not a therapist, and it's not just my job to listen. I can have an opinion on this.

I can have a take. And that means that it's not always super safe to be talking to your best friends like this about certain things, especially because you are, by nature of the fact that you do want to look a certain way to someone that you care about certain things, especially because you are by nature of like the fact that you do want to look a certain way to someone that you care about and respect. You're filtering with a therapist. You don't have to filter at all. You can just do it. You can say whatever the fuck you want to say, and they have a take on it in the regard of their thinking about you. Like it really is just a space to really have a conversation with yourself if your therapist is

worth their salt and they can sort it out what you're saying and they can spit it back to you and be like do you realize this is something you've said a lot do you realize this is something that is that raw data do what i'm seeing and picking up on is this like you use this word like i notice you look this way when you say this. A hundred percent. Shout out to Lydia, my therapist. Mine's Maria. Loving Stacey. Stacey, Lydia, and Maria. Honestly, those are all really good therapist names.

Yeah, she looks like Marissa Tomei. She's really nice. And I completely agree. She was like, I went into therapy to talk about like my career, some things that were going on with like my personal career life. And she was like, all you talk about is your relationship. I just want you to know we've had eight sessions. We have not discussed anything you're working on. All we discuss is your relationship. And it was that

click moment where I was like, I keep displacing. I don't want to deal with my relationship. So I keep trying to push the problem into other places that are less fixable and that require less of a drastic life change in that moment. But when she finally was like, this is the issue and you've known it since the moment you walked in the door here. Yeah. I was like, wow. And that's when my life changed. Wow.

Well, I mean, I dated this guy. I'm being vulnerable. Yes. I dated this guy who needed therapy and I would tell him he needed to go and he refused to go. And finally it was like, well, you know, it's not my job to fix you. I'm not here to do that. I'm not getting paid to do this. and so we stopped talking and he texted me recently and was like

i just wanted to let you know that i have my fifth therapy session tomorrow and thank you for always encouraging me to go and it was like it's about time it's such a game changer unfortunately you're still dead to me i was gonna say is he fine like he listened to you that's really me sober it's just like wow he listened to you he took action he did something wow it sounds amazing it only took him two years oh my god i need help doesn't it suck though when they become the better version of themselves after oh i don't know what that's like. Yeah, allegedly. I mean, he could still be, you know.

I don't keep up with the Kardashians as far as my ex goes, but it's actually what to me, the harder part is watching them remain the same or watching them just stick their heels into the ground and be that person that you were hoping the whole time they weren't, especially when it was all coming down. It was like, I just kept feeling like, hmm, this can't be it. And when it remains that way years later, it's like you just have to be like, well, okay. You know, it's like I was showing Dave Vanderpump rules.

And it was just like something that like Ariana Maddox said about after all that was she was like, you know, she was answering actually a question on Watch What Happens Live. The question was, how do you deal with the fact that this person, even though they did something terrible, was someone that you loved for like nine years, eight years, however long they were together? And the answer was,

well, you just realized they were not actually that person. And this is what I'm saying is it's like, this is what's scary about dating is like, you can pretend you know someone else, but you don't. You cannot be in their head. And that's where dating is really scary.

It's like you are literally putting yourself out there, especially as people who are obviously interested in this topic, like the three of us sitting here because here we are, like here you guys are with this show. It's something you're actively engaging in all the time, which means that we are trying to figure out and wrap our heads around it for ourselves probably, if you actually were to answer the

deep question. Sure, sure, sure. And that is what makes it so difficult is because baseline, it's fucking scary because it is the unknown. Other people are always going to be the unknown. Even when you think you know every single fucking thing you literally can't and that is what's so scary and that's i think yeah you

have to take people's word for it you have to believe them for what they say it's having faith it's having faith and when you're coming back from a massive trust break it's like when you go into these things it's like how do you believe somebody How do you believe what they're telling you and what they're presenting to you is not some, especially with our generation, not some manufactured sort of curated persona that they think is going to get you. Yeah. I think you have to go into it believing what they're saying, unless it feels like they're lying. I don't want to date somebody and be like, everything they say is false or fake or not real. You have to believe them to a point. And you have to believe also what they're doing, not just what they're saying. Yeah.

I mean, I said at the beginning of the podcast, follow your gut and your gut always knows. Sure. I've watched multiple episodes of Law & Order SVU where the girl is like, she doesn't want to hold the elevator, but she holds it. And now she did. And it's like, now, girl girl you should have just leaned on that button cause your gut told you to lean on that go with your gut always

cause you could be dead cause you could be dead rule of culture it's rule of culture 5,000 lean on that button cause you could be dead and I'm gonna put in

parenthesis elevator elevator at the end so people can have contact yeah yeah yeah the real housewives of salt lake city Yeah, yeah, yeah. The Real Housewives of Salt Lake City are back. I love that. I love that.

Oh, my gosh. Welcome. And last season's drama was just the tip of the iceberg. You're recording us? I am disgusted. Never in a million years after everything we've been through did I think that you would reach out to our sworn enemy. We were friends. How could you do this to me?

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Speaking of rural culture and things that happen on this podcast, we're now going to do I Don't Think So Honey. This is the one-minute segment that we take to rant against something in pop culture that we absolutely don't think so, honey. I am going to go first because that's traditionally what happens. I'm going to ask Dave, my sister, to time me and call out at 30, 15, and 5 seconds left. Gorge. I'm ready.

Your time starts now. I Don't Think So Honey threads. Okay, I understand us moving away and wanting to replace Twitter. I just feel uneasy because while it took Twitter a long time to become a hellscape, it did become a hellscape. Why? Because you were giving people carte blanche

a place to put any old opinion. Of course, you want to be able to engage with each other on social media, but suddenly there's this prevailing thought that threads is a is like a healthier twitter i'm like yeah for now like i'm almost like stop talking about it then because then the unhealthy people are going to hear about it and they're going to come here to threads and they're going to fucking ruin it and now i already hear about people starting to be mean on threads and i'm like well what did you think it was the same setup as twitter which became shitty threads is gonna become shitty i

don't know if you've seen instagram like we're all talking about instagram like it's fucking heaven and twitter is hell it's not it drives people fucking crazy too why wouldn't threads drive people crazy i'm waiting to join threads because i also heard i don't think so honey that if you join threads seconds left and then you want to delete threads you have to delete your instagram i don't think so honey this trap that's one minute minute so this is what i did hear about that i didn't click the article because it can't be real i heard that if you get threads the only way to not get threads is to delete your instagram that's what i heard oh i don't think so honey i don't think so honey and i just feel like you know my thing is like yeah okay i get it like twitter's done like it feels like it's officially kind of

done especially with the Twitter limits, whatever the fuck is going on. Yeah, I'm reading tweets. I don't even... My thing is the move to thread so quickly, it just means it's going to become Twitter faster. That's 100% what it is. I mean, I haven't...

I literally just heard about threads three days ago, so I'm not really... I guess people don't... I'm on it. What's the vibe? The vibe is like no one's around yet clean Twitter like let's just do whatever

but there's bots on there already and no one really knows how to use it it's just the thing of every platform is the same like what photos do I put here what is my persona on this corner of the internet

and most people are just going slut with it myself included honestly I don't care you slutty on threads? um like I'm toying around with it I think I'm gonna

I don't really use Twitter I never really liked tweeting it just felt like really contrived and also I felt like I was writing jokesying around with it. I think I'm going to, I don't really use Twitter. I never really liked tweeting. It just felt like really contrived. And also I felt like I was writing jokes that I really liked. And rather than give them out into the universe, I was like, let me write these down and put them into my work instead of just blasting them out into the internet for no reason. I use Twitter just to read what other people are saying and like things.

So if people look through my likes, I don't know what's up. I mean, I use the Las Colas Twitter with Bo and we kind of share it. We don't have our own personal Twitters and it's kind of just like a retweet fest we're not really tweeting on there and most of the time if I am tweeting it's like I have to be conscious of the fact that I'm also speaking for Bowen and I and like he'll sometimes tweet from the account and I'm like sometimes I'm like maybe it would be helpful to have our own Twitters just because we do have two very different voices, even though we both have the podcast. So it really just becomes a retweet fest

and neither of us really tweet unless we both have something really good. But usually if it's about video games, Bowen has said it. Yeah, that makes sense. And if it's some dumb bullshit that's like broken English, it's probably me.

Yeah, I think your readers know. Yeah, okay. So Dave Mazzoni, you ready to do i don't think so honey yeah sure this is dave's i don't think so honey his time starts now i don't think so honey instagram meta jail that i am currently in and i have been in for the past six months i don't think so honey instagram flagging a post that i put on my close friends that was a very vulnerable photo of my friend cory naked in 2009 a 19 year old which i

captioned underage twink for sale the ai bot has now put me into a folder of sex traffickers on meta and now my content is unable to be shared i cannot monetize all because my friend cory was on my close friends and it is ruining my life you shouldn't have an instagram jail you should also use human people to assess posts before you just group me in with a bunch of people who are stopping my content

from reaching the masses. I could be bigger than Antony by now, but instead, I'm in jail. I have sucked dick to try to get out of here only to find out

that this person's sister who works at Meta is on vacation in Turks and Kinkos with severance because she got fired. Yeah, I've done a lot of things to try to get out of here. And honestly, I'm tired of asking people if they work at Meta,

but please get in my DMs if you do, because I don't think so, honey. Instagram jail. And that's one minute. So you put up a photo of Corey, who was 19 at the time, when he was just posing a little coquettish. He's sort of getting this little like, ooh, face. And you labeled it underage twink for sale. On my close friends, which i thought was a safe space

i thought it was a private place for me and 350 gay men across this country to share information and yet i have been completely banned and been sent emails that i'm on my last leg can't change my passwords can't do i'm like if my phone is lost instagram has lost me forever i you know what i'll say i'm very sorry that this is happening to you, but at least you know that if there are people who are trying to do crazy shit on Instagram, that at least they're on it. I mean, I guess, but like... But he's like, I want to be bigger than Anthony.

But like, come on. Like, I have content I want to release. Readers, if you work at Meta, just like, just flick the switch. I swear to God. Dave swears he'll never traffic again. I swear to God. My friend Corey he'll never traffic again i swear to god my friend cory is safe in astoria he's probably reading right now he's totally fine god damn it

i'm crying well okay so meta and instagram please help dave yeah like let us out of threads and let me out of jail we need to see that cooking that is happening yeah there's a lot going on there's a lot going on that we could be having. Okay, Marie Fausen, are you ready for I Don't Think So Honey? I am ready. This is your I Don't Think So Honey.

Marie's time starts now. I Don't Think So Honey flying coach, okay? Coach is a scam. Everybody should fly first class. I flew first class for the first time last week and beach my life

has been changed. The whole plane should be first class and first class seats should be firster class okay if you have a jacket in first class they hang it up for you in coach they throw it out the tiny window you they don't even wake you up when that little golf cart comes by in coach because they don't want to feed you that little bag of chips that keeps shrinking every year oh i agree I agree. The sun chips were small. In first class, they gave me a real fork, a real spoon. They gave me a tablecloth to put on my table.

I said, bitch, this is nicer than my home. First class should be for everybody. And I truly feel like if you make us fly, coach, it's because you hate us. I am trying to live my best black bougie life. And being in coach is just like riding a bus with an ugly child kicking the back of your seat while you're trying to live my best black bougie life and being in coach is just like riding a bus with an ugly child kicking the back of your seat while you're trying to watch coco okay that's one minute i will say ever since i have a little bit of money now and since the beginning of this podcast i did

not have any money and i always roughed it like i broke matt is such a fun matt broke matt was me broke matt mountain yes so broke matt mountain and so now now that yes so now that um jesus so now i so now i have a little bit of money and one of the things that i treat myself on is when i fly i do fly first class and the difference is so crazy. Astounding. Me sitting back and being like, well, okay, I was in the exit row on my way here and I thought to myself, wow, how comfy.

This is nice. I love all this extra leg room. But going back to coach after flying first class, I flew coach to LA and I was like, what is this? I don't think so, honey, going backwards. So I guess what we're saying here is if you've never flown first class

and it's really not something, just stay where you are. Don't let them upgrade you because it'll just be very hard to come back. You're going to lose your mind. Well, I guess that depends on the airline. Yeah. Also, I have AirPod maxes and those things. I mean, like a bomb could go off and I'm listening to Kelly Clarkson on the top of a mountain. Not on my plane.

No bombs on my plane. No snakes on my plane. No babies on my plane. Listen, all I'm saying is it's like when you get that little extra check, how do you treat yourself it's that one area of life where you're like i'm choosing to indulge in this area for me that's travel yeah that that is just i don't want a situation where i'm traveling uncomfortably that's just for me so i will spend more money doing that than i will on like food i don't really

buy groceries it's just like all these other things like but travel. I don't fuck around with travel. You also drop money on Broadway. You're keeping Broadway live travel and buys five tickets travel and vacation. I mean when it comes to the economy, I'm a major helper when it comes to traveling and vacation lifestyle distributes that wealth. It

goes right back into the economy. I say here take it here. Have it. Wow. Call me the heiress tour. Have it, Moulin Rouge Broadway. Oh my God. Physically responsible. Take this, Chicago, again. One of my great regrets is I haven't been able to go see Moulin Rouge.

JoJo and Moulin Rouge. How dare I pick the show that you haven't seen? JoJo is in Moulin Rouge now? Yes. Get out. Get out of me. Yes. Right now.

Talk about another bop and a half. But apparently she's like playing Satine and killing it. You know who just went to go see the show? Luke Marinkovic. Because you know who's the male lead of the show? It was Derek Kleiner. Oh, yes, yes, yes, yes. I know this.

This hot Broadway star who Dave and I years ago did a paintball gun bachelor party with. We played paintball for like four hours in Pennsylvania out in the woods. It was actually really fun. I shot Matt in the face it was no you didn't shoot me in the face you shot me in the ass and i had a bruised ass and not in a good way i should confuse his ass with his face no but it was like it was like half gay men and half straight men like all playing paintball together but the straight men were like broadway straights so it's that like sort of frustrating hot straight man that's like down to hang with the gays. No, but they're not.

And so this guy, I remember Derek, we thought he was so hot. He like changed his shirt in front of us and Dave and I were like teen girls, really? Yeah, he was and still is one of the most beautiful men. He's so gorgeous. And also so sweet. A father now, it's really tough what he's become.

And he's so talented. A father. And right now now he is starring opposite JoJo Joanna Levesque in I'll text him after this I would love to

do you have his number what yeah we went on a girl I get the numbers quick Dave always gets numbers and he's also

you connect with straight men I do I do if I can access them it's like a big turn on for me I'm like I don't know it's like this weird part of me from my past it's like yes you can pass for me. I'm like, I don't know. It's like this weird part of me from my past.

It's like, yes, you can pass. And that's why I'm going to go back to therapy right after this. I'm going to call Maria. Right after this break, we're going to go call Maria. This is really fun, girl. I miss Bo, but I'm glad to have you. I know. Thank you guys for coming. Like I said, Why Are You Single is a hot show. And if you can't see it tonight at the Bell House, you can see it.

September. We'll be back. And also now they're traveling coast to coast like it's if you can't see it tonight at the Bell House you can see it September we'll be back and also now they're traveling coast to coast like it's me for dick yes we want to do festivals

just did the show in LA you guys should definitely do it in festivals I want to do it in London I feel like the girls will go crazy in London for it oh for sure

and my favorite part of it is just hearing from all of the people who are submitting themselves like if you even if you're curious like submit the questionnaire let us know what date you can do it and we would love to have you because getting to know all the single people all across the

country has been really one of the most fun parts about this and we read all the applications and i'm telling you reading them is like wow it's not just me no she's just like me i mean even we were looking the other day like at a couple of the answers like i was blair dave was reading me a couple of them and it was just like i had to grab my heart because i was like oh my god people are so genuine and sweet when they fill it out and i i just think it's a really great show it's very positive but also you drag each other and we know a little bit of something about that on this show so absolutely I wanted to, what did you call it? A signal boost.

This is a great show. Why are you single? And my guests were Dave Mazzoni and Marie Faustin, two legends. Had a lot of fun. I might come back to this town. Yeah, you might come back to this town. It's pretty fun. And we actually are going to end every episode the same way we do with a song. And it's going to be a reprise of something we sang earlier.

When you're feeling it. The same way we do with a song and it's going to be a reprise of something we sang earlier. When you're feeling it The same way nobody don't want you, but you know, gotta let it go Cause the party ain't jumping like it used to Let it burn Let it burn Let it burn

Deep down you know it's bad for yourself, but you hate the thought of it being with someone else Cause you know that it's over Let it burn Let it burn Let it burn Wow, so listen, if you want more of Bird, listen to Usher's Confessions

And DM us with what that one lyric is none of us knew Yeah, I don't know The lost lyric Okay, bye Bye The lost lyric. Okay, bye. Bye. Hey, I'm Jay Shetty and I'm the host of On Purpose. My latest episode is with Jelly Roll. This episode is one of the most honest and raw interviews I've ever had. We go deep into Jelly Roll's life story from being in and out of prison from the age of 13 to being one of today's biggest artists.

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