Leah on the Line - 141: An episode for the SINGLE GIRLIES!

Episode Date: March 18, 2025

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Hello. Hello, you guys. Hello. Hello. Hello. Hello. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome. Welcome back. I missed you so much. How are you? Happy Tuesday Happy Tuesday. I'm feeling a little bit. I'm feeling a little bit shaky. You know what I mean? I'm feeling I'm feeling a bit fragile guys. You know what I've realized every like March or just like this time of the year. I get like well depressed like I don't even know this time of the year I get like well depressed like I don't even know what it is because like January February you guys know I always say it's like the worst moments like just get fucked like just piss off you know what I mean and then when March comes spring is coming the Sun is out temperatures have risen I should be

thriving happy love and life and I I keep getting the TikTok memories come up and I've realized for the last two years I've actually felt the same over this time of year and I genuinely feel a bit like I Just feel a bit sad Like I like, I like, lowkey feel a bit like depressed And I don't know what it is and I feel ultra sensitive like people's negative comments get to me more people's like

Meanness gets to me and I struggle with like how people can be so mean. Like and like I don't know I just can't explain it. I'm just like hella sensitive. And I'm just wondering like any of you guys feeling that, like am I alone in that? Are you guys feeling the same? You know, and if you are, I love you. I'm here for you. Why do we feel weird this time of year? Actually, to be fair, babes, apparently Mercury is in retrograde,

retrograde along with another one. Is it Venus? I'm not entirely sure. Oh my God, guys, it was so funny. The other day, I was on TikTok Live and I was doing fricking Tarot. No, it was so funny because I love going live on TikTok. I feel like we have the best laughs.

You always cheer me up, like when I'm feeling a little bit rubbish and then I go on TikTok Live, like I always feel so much better after. I always feel lighter and happier. So I've been doing that a lot recently and we were talking about like mediumship and Tarot and all of this or after I always feel lighter and happier. So I've been doing that a lot recently and we're talking about like mediumship and tarot and all of this and then somebody was like yeah basically just saying how they love it and I was like yeah I love it and I was like should I go

and get my tarot cards guys? Should I just go and get them? And people were like uh yes like just go and get them and then I did myself like a five card spread and I was getting Alexa to explain the cards to me I'd be like I'd put a card in the black Alexa What does the three of cups in reverse represent in tarot blah blah blah? Sorry if I've just set up anyone's Alexa Anyway, and then after I was like if people are just scrolling through their for you page now And then they see me sorry and they see me just like flicking through my tarot are people gonna think like I'm one of the tarot tiktokers and we was really laughing because I get the same like loyal viewers on my lives and like the people that I really consider

like some of my closest friends in life. It's really sad and I have like a really good relationship with them. We were just laughing so much about the thought of like people joining the live and being like um can I have a reading like pick me next and then I actually ended up pulling cards for people. What's wrong with me? Like and then I started getting scared thinking that like Spiria or Taro or whoever it is like I don't know I don't want to get that wrong but would think that I'm making a mockery of it and punish me later in life I don't know but it was honestly so fun and then I started doing like readings for people in in such a light-hearted way

Like I would just pull like one card and I'd be like right Who who's the first to comment the capital city of Turkey? Like you can get the you can get the next card and then somebody would put it and I'm like, yep you Let's go. You're going it's your go and then and then I'd pull them a card and I'm be like, Alexa, what does this mean? And then in the comments they're like, yeah, I can take that, thank you. And then I was like, let me try and see if I can just waffle and be like one of them fake tarot readers who can just like make up absolute shit. Let me see if I've got it in me to just like, lie. So then I pulled this card for one of the girls and I was like let me actually try that. Let me not make, take the piss. Let me actually see if I can channel some

sort of psychic energy here. Like let me see if I've got the powers. And I pulled this card and I asked Alexa what it represented and then I sort of dug deep and I was like let me think about this and I was fucking going. So I was like, let me think about this, let me think, and I was fucking going. So I feel like we're going through the same patterns in relationships in particular, and it's almost like that saying where you read the same book and you expect a different outcome. And perhaps rather than giving people chance after chance

after chance and hoping they'll change, maybe the change starts with you and realizing that you deserve more and to stop giving these people chances and the cycle will only repeat until you break it. And honestly I was like, how did I do? Was I right? Was I spot on? She was like, that was absolutely spot on, thank you.

I was like, well guys maybe I'm actually a little bit psychic but I think that was just lucky honestly. Nobody was just lucky, honestly. I didn't really, nobody was telling me those things. I just made it up. Maybe it's actually like, maybe there's people out there that that is just what they do. I mean there definitely is people out there that pretend they have powers when they don't. But listen, there are people that truly are psychic, and I refuse to believe that there's not. Like life can't be that simple, you know? Does anybody else get that feeling? Okay,

I saw this TikTok the other day and I need to know if you guys feel the same. I will look in the mirror and I'll be like, I'm not real. Like sometimes I expect myself to start like doing, you know that film Smile? It's a horror film where she does a really creepy smile. Sometimes I do that to myself in the mirror. And I just need to know if there is anyone else that does that because I know it's not okay, like I know that's not normal. I know that's not normal behaviour and I need to know that other people, at least one of you, looks in the mirror sometimes and tries to scare

yourself because I sometimes I just think you're you're not me like there's somebody in there like there's somebody in that in that physical body that is not me and I don't get it like and I saw this girl talking about it and she was like sometimes I look in the mirror and I expect like one of my eyes is just gonna like look somewhere else and I'm like I knew it and I'm like that's literally me and apparently it's called depersonalization it's actually quite a serious thing but I'm just gonna pretend it's not because I can't be dealing with that I can't be fucking you know like

giving myself this thing that it's just gonna cause me stress, you know. I think I'm normal. I think that's pretty normal, right, you guys? What else is new? I got my lips back, feels great, it feels so good. I also got a lash lift. As I said, I stopped my lash serum, so when I got them lifted I was like, oh, look so small and sad. Like my lashes look so short. But I think it's actually quite nice. Like I actually really think I do recommend a lash lift. I'd probably just bother getting one for like, special occasions. I don't think it's something that I would continuously pay for like in an everyday life situation, but like say I'm going on holiday, I'm probably gonna get myself a little lash lift yeah yeah so yeah I don't know oh sorry I'm yawning because

let me tell you why I went on a fucking run this morning what am I okay I just decided to download the runner app because I used to be Not like a runner Not at all. In fact, in fact don't even think that I was anything close to that because I absolutely positively was not but I was like Into it when when London was in tier 4 and you couldn't fucking leave the city or your own bedroom at that point, but you were allowed to exercise, I started running because I lived along the London docks along the river and it was beautiful at night and I used to need

to just get out of the fucking flat because I was depressed. Shock. So I was like let me try like the whole running thing, like let me see if I can just like run and I used to think like I'm 23 I was at the time, maybe 24 and I was like I should just be able to run, like why can't I just run a 10k, like I should just be able to run. So I started to just learn to run because I was like, I should just be able to do that. It is so hard. Running is so hard. So anyway, I got really into it and I downloaded that Couch to 5k app where it does like interval running. You know, it would be like run for one minute, walk for one minute. And I used to do that and I used to find it really quite fun because I like short goals, short attainable goals. That's why I like on the

Stairmaster at the gym I would do two minutes on level six, two minutes on level eight, two minutes on level ten, two minutes on level twelve, start again because these two minutes I can do. If you're going to tell me walk on that Stairmaster for forty minutes, I'm not doing that Do you know what I mean? I need short breaks short achievable breaks So I was doing that with couch to 5k at one minute run one minute walk and then it leads you upwards and then you go Two minute run two minute walk two minute run one minute walk and then before you know it you run in five minutes I'm walking one and blah blah blah and then I got to a point where I was doing it so often

I was so into it and I loved it, it was amazing for my mental health and I thought I'm actually loving life, like I actually think I'm just gonna run, like I'm just gonna not do the interval run in and I'm just gonna see if I can just run. And I really surprised myself because I was just like oh like I can just run, like I don't need to really stop as much as I was. And obviously at the time I thought, oh, I've been wasting all this time doing this interval running. No, the interval running is what built up my fitness to be able to just run. Listen, I didn't run far, I probably did a 5k back then, which is incredible by the way, absolutely fucking incredible. I did a 5k. I'm saying

that because it sounded like I was like, I can just run, like I can just run for miles. No, no, no, no. I was not fit as a fiddle, but I was impressed by the fact that I've gone from running like one minute at a time to like, oh, I've ran for like 10 minutes straight now, okay. Anyway, and then I got really into my running and then London's lockdown restrictions got lifted and I got my life back so I quit okay and then I fell out of love with running and I'd go on a treadmill and I'd be like this is just pure torture like it's just pure hell I just can't bear it okay and then what happened was I keep seeing Sophia Tuxford doing her gorgeous runs in Australia. I'm on running TikTok. A friend of mine, Megan Carroll, she does like these

beautiful running TikToks. I'm thinking you guys are amazing. Okay. I need to get out of the house first of all, get my fucking running gear on and go for a run and just see because I'm 27 now I'm not just gonna be fit anymore right not like when you're younger and you know like kids are just fit like kids can just run right and you're like why are you not knackered or they are and but they're just having fun when you're 27 it's not actually fun like if I'm running I'm I'm not highly I'm in danger right so I thought let me see if I've still got it like let me see if I if I can enjoy it again because it was really good for my mental health once upon a time this is now like three years later and I downloaded the app

runner r-u-n-n-a, and I put together this little plan for me. I thought gorgeous. I'm gonna start on Monday. I'm gonna start Monday. Let's go. Let's fucking go. First run 5k What do you mean? What do you mean? I haven't run in three years. You want me to run a 5k? Not sure. Let's also not forget the fact I signed up to do the London marathon last year like eh Anyway, thank God I didn't get in I would have done it as well Anyway, so I went out for a 5k run this morning

After and I keep seeing on TikTok people say the first 3k is the hardest What are you talking about? The first 3k was the easiest, not easy, it was the least awful. Like, the first 3k, I'm not that tired. Well, no, I was tired. When I hit 3k I thought, fuck me, I've got to do two more k after this. I was blowing, right? And then, obviously I and then Obviously I completed Obviously I completed it I did complete it because I have this issue where I can't quit things no matter how much pain I'm in or no matter How unhappy something is making me I cannot quit

So I did it in 34 minutes, which I feel is an incredible achievement and I'm very proud of myself However is an incredible achievement and I'm very proud of myself. However, I then went on to TikTok and I saw a girl um on her run on her running vlog which I love to watch by the way. her average pace was 340 and she did a 10k. I Ran twice as slow and I did a 5k. I thought Do you know what? It's just not for me. I Won't be making a habit of it. Like I'm not enjoying it. Like I'm out there. I'm thinking I'm not having a good time and you know people like the runner high like I'm on this runner high. I'm on this runner

I'm the only high I'm getting is I'm so close to fainting because I've I physically cannot breathe What are you talking about runner high and I know there's people listening to this that are probably on a run right now, and do you know what? You're everything I want to be. You're everything I want to be, and I'm just not you, and I wish I was you. I was literally in my head. I got about two kilometres in and I thought, I'm not making a habit of this. No, I'm not enjoying it. I'm not having a good time. And then I thought just push through because sometimes when I'm at the gym and stuff and you're on the treadmill or you're on the stairs or whatever, you get to the halfway point and then your body just gets this new, like, you get this wind and you're like, yeah, like, you get this new

fire and you can just go again and you've got like double the energy and don't know where it comes from. So I was sort of banking on that a little bit and I thought right when when we get to um when we get to the halfway bit I'll have my second wind and I'll be like let's fucking go. No no no no when I was in the second half I thought I've not quit much in my life but I'm thinking of quitting because I am not enjoying it. I'm not having fun. I'm not having a good time the runner-high I'm seriously not but It was for my mental health it was seriously for my mental health and I

Took walking breaks because absolutely I can do that Absolutely, what's wrong with taking a little breather? I mean, it doesn't matter. This is the thing Five K's are five K. It doesn't fucking matter how long it takes you It wouldn't matter if it took me an hour or two hours Five K is a five K. If you've run a five K I think that's an absolute achievement is something to be very proud of especially if you're a non-runner But it should feel rewarding. It should feel rewarding. The only reward I felt was like, I'm so glad that I didn't quit.

Like, I'm so proud of myself for not quitting. I did not feel like, wow, like, I've just run 5k, my mental health, I feel so refreshed. I feel fit as a fiddle, I feel young. No. No. I was like, I can't do, I've got one in my app scheduled for Thursday. I can't, I can't do. I'm gonna have to be ill on Thursday because I cannot run this again. But to be fair, I've got a shorter run scheduled on Thursday so I will give it a go. I'll keep you guys updated. Maybe we'll look back at this when I do the London Marathon 2026. As if.

The fact that I signed up for that and I fought to myself. Oh, that's my dog shaking in the background. I fought to myself. If I get in, I'll train, I'll put my life life I'll put my heart and soul into it and I will train Do you know why I wanted to do it because I wanted everyone to cry for me when I crossed the finish line and everyone To be so proud of me like I wanted all my family to be like wow, you're you're incredible. You're such an inspiration to us all To be fair my family probably would have just got drunk. I mean like, that's amazing because do you know my grandad ran five marathons? Yeah, my grandad has run five marathons. How incredible is that?

And when he came round the other day, he was telling me that like, they used to run from one town to the other. I won't say what the towns are because then everyone will know where I live but it's like a 30 minute drive, put it that way, in the countryside and he So that means it's a long way by the way because 30 minutes in London could be a mile It's probably about 20 miles they just used to run it and I was like For what and he's like just for fun for something to do For what? And he was like, just for fun, for something to do.

I was like, wow. That's crazy. You're crazy. You're crazy. But anyway, so that's the update guys. I'm a runner, I'm a track star! And also, can you guys send me your run and play list? Because I could really do with a bit of inspo. I did have Ariana on and a bit of Sabrina Carpenter and it did get me through. I was trying to listen to my audiobook for a minute, but I was just not listening I thought I've got to turn you off. I'm not paying attention. I can't be missing these pages Do you know what I mean?

So I did turn that off and I went to Ariana and Sabrina Carpenter and you know what I love running to And I love working out to this at the gym You should stay in my good graces I'm such an up like that so fast. That's such a good workout song I love it. I love it because I can picture her dancing in my head and it makes me like it makes me just go for it I love it anyway I'm exhausted just from yapping already and it's only the intro this episode is gonna be fun

It's gonna be one for the single babes I've had a couple of DMS recently saying can we have an episode for the single single Single for the single besties and I thought you're so right. We so need an episode dedicated for my single babes So we're gonna be talking being single and staying single and thriving in that singleness we're gonna talk dating again and and first dates staying staying over at someone's house for the first time and dating apps and first date ideas. So not only just being single and how incredible it is just to be completely on your own, unavailable, we're also going to be talking about the fun bit when you start dating someone and all

of this, okay? So if you're single, I hope you love this episode. If you're taken, I hope you just sit back and enjoy it anyway because listen No matter how happy and in love we are in our relationships, we can always spot a happy single glowing girl I always think that some people when they're single they just glow different like I spot one I think you're single and you look incredible Do you know what I mean? Like you just glow different when you're single and you look incredible. Do you know what I mean? Like you just glow different when you're single sometimes.

So and I think even if you're in a relationship or if you're if you're single no matter what it is like we love to talk about the single era and the date and because you can remember what it feels like to like go on those first dates and stuff and how exciting it is and like you never forget that. It's such a good time and if you're in it and in your single era now like it's such a good time and I'm excited for you and I thought you know what let's fucking talk about it. Let's get into it. Welcome to Lear on the Line. Join me every Tuesday as I dial your number for the ultimate

unfiltered bestie catch up. Whatever it is we will laugh together and guide each other along the way. Head to learontheline.com and follow Lear on the Line on Instagram to get involved. Love you! Okay guys, so what I actually did was pop up some things on my Instagram to get you guys proper involved in this episode. I love the episodes where it's just basically us having a big chat through my Instagram story question boxes. I love that shit. So First question. What is your favorite part about being single? Because listen, even if we're in our I'm single and feel lonely as fuck and shit era There are also so many perks to being single like even if we feel sad in it

It's easy to forget like all the amazing perks of being single So I thought maybe some of you out there you might need a forget like all the amazing perks of being single. So I thought maybe some of you out there you might need a reminder of all the things you have now that you you might miss when you eventually go into a relationship you know. So let's have a little look. The money I'm saving, yeah facts, I'm not paying for no one's birthday presents, I'm not paying for date nights, I'm not paying for these hotel nights and holidays and Tears coming down my face, you know, I'm not paying for dates and holidays and so lucky me That is literally the definition of like glass half full glass half empty because yeah, I'm not going on these dates

I'm not going on couples holidays and blah blah, but I'm not losing the money that it costs to do those things so I've got more money for me. Absolutely facts. Freedom somebody said yes no one is bringing me down I don't need to worry about anyone else's feelings I don't need to run things through with anyone to check they're all right with it I can commit to plans about having to get back and be like, oh Let me just double check if they're available or let me double check if we've got plans on that day. Lila You invite me somewhere. Yeah, I'll be there. I'll fucking be there. That's perfect. Thank you and What what a luxury to be so free, you know No one's son is me is I'm not crying in bed at night over no one's son.

You know? What a beautiful time. Coming home at the end of a working week, get a hot bath, pamper and food alone. Now listen, that- I'm a relationship girl and that is heaven. But that's because you guys know I love my own company as well every now and then. But that is so true, like when you're single, like you come home at the end of, at the end of your fucking working week is a Friday, you've come home, you've run in a hot bath, uniform is straight off, work uniform uniforms off. Bath's running. Bubbles are in.

Maybe even pour yourself a glass of a little something. Maybe even treat yourself to a little takeaway or cook yourself your favourite meal. Peace. Get your laptop in the bathroom with you. Put on Molly May's new vlog. Heaven. Do you know what I mean? Gorgeous. Gorgeous. The peace and headspace is unmatched. Okay, facts. Like when you're in a relationship, especially if it's not a very happy one, it can be so consuming. Like whether it's you're worried about the future, you're worried about

if they're cheating on you or committing to you or lying to you or they haven't texted you back and it's causing you stress or you're not seeing eye to eye over something and they're not seeing your point of view or you're not seeing their point of view or they want to go out with the lads on Saturday but you was meant to go on a date on Saturday. None of that. None of that. How beautiful. My headspace is pure bliss. Do you know what I mean?

Not replying to anybody and not explaining what I'm doing. Yes! This is the thing like sometimes it's so nice to just like my phone is so dry and it's heaven. You know when some people are like, oh my phone's so dry like and it's like a shit thing. Maybe we think about it different like maybe it's just a case of like, no I'm not worried about being left unread, I'm not worried about somebody texting me question marks because I've not replied. You know, I know if my phone buzzes, I've got no anxiety, it's probably a friend or a family member. I'm not stressing about what's in my phone and that's lovely. I love that for you. Meeting new people and having floaty conversations. This is the thing like when you're single and you start to go

out or you're starting today or you're starting to like interact in that way it's fun and I want you guys to enjoy that. Like, if you're not ready, definitely, you're not ready, do you know what I mean? And there is so much to love and enjoy about not being there and just being completely solo. Like, there is so much to love about not dating and being completely unavailable and actually I think it's very important to go through that in life and be unavailable for a period of time and just learn that You are all you need and that learn that self-love. I think that's so important But when you eventually are like, do you know what? I think I'm ready just to have a little mingle in the dating pool

So fun, so fun, and you have a little flirt and and you go out and you think oh my god I quite fancy them. Do you know what I mean? And you're like Oh, they're a little bit of a right and you make eye contact across the bar and you go out and you think, oh my god, I quite fancy them. Do you know what I mean? And you're like, oh, they're a little bit of a ride. And you make eye contact across the bar, and you think, he is a bit of me. And then it's a, he's looking at me, or if your friend's like,

that guy's really checking you out, and you're like, what, who? And you're like, go over, why don't you just go over? And he's already coming over to you, oh my god, he's coming over, He's coming over. Oh my god. He's coming over. Hey, okay, like oh So fun, you know the date in life is so fun Before the rumors start that I don't want to be in my relationship anymore I can confirm that dating relationship life is also very fun But let's not forget that being single is also fun for my single babes listening as well

Just before the room is stuck The ability to focus on yourself Absolutely, like I'm saying, I think it's so important like I think It creates the most strongest healthiest version of yourself when you can just take that time To love yourself because also it means that when I do go into the dating world I'm not gonna settle I'm not gonna allow anybody to disrespect my boundaries I know exactly what I want I know exactly what I deserve you know I'm not carrying past trauma I'm not carrying

the need to be liked because I like myself enough to not need it from you but you know it's nice from you but I don't need it. You're absolutely right, I love that. I love being independent and focusing on my future career, so true like it's such an incredible opportunity to invest all that love that you put into relationships in yourself, in your family, in your career, in your friendships, like all the love that you give to a partner, there's more of it now to spread around. You know what I mean? Like how nice is that?

Not feeling restricted and being able to be selfish with life decisions. That is such a good point and something I've not really ever thought about like you say you, imagine you've got like a job opportunity in Australia because we get these dilemmas a lot like where their boyfriend or you you've got an opportunity and you're like what do I do? You know like we had this girl recently who sent in the dilemma about nursing and she was like do I go and study nursing and the amazing thing about being single is like you don't have the dilemma of who you're leaving behind in areas of your moving and in life. Like, when an opportunity comes forward, the only question you have to ask is, do I want to do it? And is it right for me?

You don't have the boundary of like, sorry, the restriction of like, oh, but is it how's this going to affect my relationship? And how is this going to affect my relationship and how is this gonna make my partner feel which obviously? You should do in a relationship But it is also an incredible blessing to be able to make decisions in life that I've just purely based on whether you want to Or not Yeah, you're absolutely right. I think that's amazing Somebody just put I'm on day two of being single so I'm so excited for this app Oh my god, I love you think about all the amazing things you have to look forward to you're fresh out of a breakup. Congratulations

Good riddance, you know, I always say that you get to just focus on yourself and learn to love yourself Like I'm saying all the love that you put into your relationship imagine how much love you can pour into you and your friendships and your career and your family and yourself like imagine the version of yourself that you're about to become and then when you do feel ready to go into dating How fun how exciting you get to meet new people and have a little flur And like have sex again with someone for the first time and like they all these things are so exciting and so fun, you know Having my own bed and wardrobes wardrobe space Absolutely. Yeah, I'm not sharing the court with anyone. I haven't got any man making my fucking bed in the morning

By throwing pillows from the bottom of the bed up to the fucking headboard just tossing them up You know love it Being able to be selfish, yeah. I can sprawl out on my queen size bed all to myself, hee hee. As you should, babe. Looking and not feeling guilty. Yeah, you can have a little look. You can be like, oh, fancy them, fancy them.

Having a little flirt on a night out. As you should, babe. Okay, so the next thing I want to get you guys in on is advice or ideas, sorry, ideas for dates, like first dates if you hate going for dinner. Because this is the thing, I think I've said this a billion times but I'll say it again, I hate the thought of a first date dinner date. Oh my god, I can't bear it, it's so awkward and it feels so tense and like the thought of you walking into the restaurant and you've got to look for them

and they're looking for you or vice versa and like you can't see them and they can see you looking like oh god oh oh oh and you're like waiting and then you ask for the bill and like oh god I can't. So me personally, I can't, I'd rather not go for dinner. And I thought, what are some really nice dates? Because typically, I just love a little drink up, like I love a little cocktail bar. But what if you don't drink, and what if you don't want to be surrounded by alcohol,

or what if you don't wanna go out in the evening? I know there are bars that are open in the daytime, but like, you know. Or what if one of you is driving and stuff like that? So I thought, what are the first date date ideas that you guys really, really love or have done and enjoyed? And to be honest, a lot of you have said that you love a good bowling date, which genuinely surprised me guys, because I always felt like bowling would be a bit awkward, but obviously

not. Obviously I'm just a fucking weirdo because I would imagine- I always imagine that like I don't know it would like cringe me out like the thought of him like like a guy that you've just met going up and like having a bowl with the ball and say they like get a strike or something No, especially if they're good No, actually I think I'd rather them be good. But like, you know, like Jamie does this all the time and I always say like you, you really piss me off when you do this. He'll get a fucking strike. Sorry. He'll get a strike. He just won't celebrate. Just no celebrate. He just turns around and he's like,

he's like the fucking guy about it. I'm like I would rather you turn around and you was going Fucking get in there in your face in your face your shit your shit I'd rather that than you turn around and you're like fucking gelling your hair back like I'm the fucking guy Do you know what I mean? But maybe that's just my feelings towards bowling like Like I just, I just always imagine that would be cringe, but so many of you have said that it's an amazing first date. So I'm obviously wrong. Mini golf. Yeah, I'm learning that I'm obviously very shy because

and I care more than I should because these things for me, I'm like, oh my god, no I can never, that's so embarrassing. But like why is it, why am I so weird? Do I mean why am I so weird? Like just gonna have a fucking good time. I think you're absolutely right a mini date date a mini golf date would be perfect It'd be so fun I'm against day dates for the first date because you can't be flirty in a coffee shop Okay, I actually get what you mean. like there's something about a nighttime vibe that definitely

adds like sexiness so if you like a first date where there's like you know I'm sussing out if we've got sexual chemistry, if you're gonna have a proper little flirt with me, I get it like if you if that's the vibe then yeah I think that's probably maybe me as well, I think I'm probably like you like that. Like I think for a first date I'm more gonna lean towards the evening but everyone's different and I do think a first day date, first date day or first date, what was it, correct, who knows, is actually really nice and actually such a green flag. Like I think if a guy is like wanting to take you out in the daytime I think for some reason I feel like that feels like a green

flag to me. I don't know why. I don't know what I'm talking about to be honest. Coffee and a walk, honestly I love that. Like if me and Jamie was going to do our first date again and we and we was deciding to do it in the daytime I'm probably gonna pick that I'm probably choosing a nice a nice park a nice walk and a little coffee to go you know and just chatting and strolling and I think that's really sweet and then you can stop off a little bench and have a little sit down see if you put his arm on you on your hand on your leg or his arm around you. I think that's a really sweet first date But then again, like are we restricted to summer? we can wrap up in the winter to be fair and if we live somewhere cold like I

Can just get my big duvet coat on and a cute little cute little pair of earmuffs like so cute to be fair But don't bring the dog because if a dog poos on a first date and you're you're gonna bend down and pick the poo up with the poo bag I'm probably not seeing you again. I don't mean that, that's not true. Like no, actually if we took your dog out or my dog out on a walk, actually your dog, and and you decided to leave poo on the floor, I'm reporting you to the police. I'm not only am I not seeing you again That is one of my biggest pet peeves in life if people don't pick up their dog pee How are we talking about dog pee right now anyway, let's move on from that before we before I go down a rabbit hole Activities like Topgolf. Yeah amazing. I love that Topgolf is so fun. I love Topgolf, yeah amazing. I love that. Topgolf is so fun. I love Topgolf.

An arcade, yeah no that's sick. Such a good day. Me and Jamie love the arcade. We actually go crazy. Like we spend too much money trying to win the most pathetic toys that probably cost a pound and we get so many tickets, so many tickets and then we look at the prizes and we think what are we doing? So then we always just go up to a random family and say like we've got a thousand tickets do you want them? Yeah you can have them. We're really sad. Nice little walk with a takeaway coffee, yep. Walk or a picnic. Junkyard golf, yes. Gorgeous Lane 7. Arcade.

A drive, yeah, I think a drive. It can be a bit hit or miss. It can be a case of like, this is easy. Like it doesn't really feel like a day. It more feels like you want to just have a snog in your car and maybe even get a bit frisky in the car. Do you know what I mean? Like it just it does feel a bit like you haven't bothered but if we're talking I know this beautiful place that we can park up and watch the sunset, maybe pick up a pizza

on the way. That? Gorgeous. You know? Heaven. That sounds amazing. But then if we're watching the sunset, that's not a day, day is it? Anyway, my next question is, I was curious if my single babes out there, in your singleness currently, do you feel lonely or are you thriving? Because I think it can change day to day, absolutely, or you can go through phases of it. So I was just curious, like the majority, or if any of you had any other perspective on it, do you know what I mean? So let's have a little look. First response is loneliest time of my life right now, Lia Hun. And this is the thing, because being, feeling lonely when you're single This is the thing because feeling lonely when you're single

is actually a really horrible place to be in because it can affect who we choose because sometimes you just want that loneliness to go away so you will give somebody the time of day that might not even deserve it. Do you know what I mean? Why do I keep coughing? I don't even have a cough. To the single girlies, I'm in a relationship and still get lonely plus men stink. Protect your peace. I love that.

She's like, I'm in a relationship but men are pricks. No, absolutely. I would never disagree that you can be in a relationship and feel extremely lonely if anything. Sometimes feeling lonely in a relationship can feel even lonelier than being alone because you're in somebody's company and you still feel lonely and I have been there believe me it's the worst feeling but you're so right and that's not what I'm saying by the way at all both I'm thriving in the sense that I can focus on work and other things but equally I feel like I'm missing out on a connection and I'm craving it if that makes sense. Yeah

absolutely that makes sense. Like I'm thriving in so many ways and I love being, I love so much about being single but listen that doesn't mean I don't want someone to cuddle and talk to about my day, you know? And you're so valid in that so valid in that it's up and down but I found a new level of respect for myself and not settling I'm gonna need a round of applause for this response because I think it is just flawless like it's up and down yeah but ultimately I'm so proud of myself that no matter how lonely it gets sometimes I will not settle for someone Just to be with someone if you're not good enough and for that I think you're amazing. I'm so proud of you

Sometimes I feel lonely by embrace it. Yeah exactly Thrive in it feel like a relationship would hold me back Yeah, and you know what so in some situations it would and you're absolutely not wrong. Definitely feeling lonely at times. I broke up with my boyfriend three weeks ago so I'm feeling very lonely right now. Yeah the first bit's always the worst. Like I remember that feeling when you're going for a breakup and then you're scrolling through fucking TikTok. It's the worst. I'll literally click not interested in this. Not interested this content And it's like couple shit and somebody climbing up a boyfriend like a tree and just like seeing any Do you know what used to trigger me when I was single?

When I would see the videos on tik tok where it would be like a couple cuddling Oh my god, like cuddling to like an emotional song No, because that's what I missed when I'm single. That's what I missed. Sorry, don't know where these hiccups have come from. Like the cuddle, the connection, that human connection. But I think all you have to do is realize that just because you don't have a partner to cuddle doesn't mean that you can't give your mum a cuddle, your best friend a cuddle, you can't send somebody a text like a your friend a text that will give you that same emotional connection that a

physical hug could you know and I think replace that feeling with the people in your life that you do have that love you. Yeah. A bit of both. I crave intimacy, but being single makes me push myself more. Yeah, literally you you were literally you explained that perfectly What I was trying to say, I don't know how I couldn't think of the word intimacy. You're so right I love being single as I value my own company, but it would be nice to find someone Yeah, I think and I think that's a very healthy mindset to have like I love being single, I'm very happy on my own but being with somebody and having someone to share my life with would be quite nice. Yeah, I think that's very healthy. I'm thriving, it's taken me a year and a half to get to this point and

I'm so so proud of you. I think you're amazing. I'm on day two so I'm feeling so lonely right now but I know it will get easier. 100% I promise you now it'll get easier. I'm sometimes lonely but I'd rather be lonely than with someone out of fear of being alone. Period. I could not have said it better myself. Here we go guys I'm thriving but at times when I'm chilling I would like someone cuddling me. Yeah, we just need a little cuddle every now and then as humans. Did you know, this isn't gonna feel nice for the single girls but it is an interesting fact, when you hug someone, I think it's like for 10 minutes, your heartbeats sync up. Yeah.

Sorry about that. But listen, like I said, when we're craving that physical intimacy, thank you to the girl that brought that word to my brain, and physical connection and physical touch, we can go and get that from somebody else or we can text somebody, send somebody, or FaceTime somebody and have a physical connection that will replace that longing, you know? But yeah, okay, so it's mixed, but a lot of you, I'm so proud of your mindset, like to say like, yeah I'm lonely sometimes, but I'm so fucking proud of myself. I'm so proud of you as well. Okay, and then I think this is a very important question.

How did you learn to be happy alone? Because I know there are people listening to this that are like, give it to me, give it to me because I don't fucking know. And it honestly took me a while, like it did take me a while to be happy in my own company because I've never really been in my own company, like even when I was a little kid, I did not... actually no, that's not true because I was actually such a solo kid, but basically like I didn't like being alone, fully alone, like even when I would play with my toys, I wanted to play solo, I didn't want to play with my siblings, I wanted to play on my own, but I didn't want to physically be far away from everyone that I felt completely alone, so I'd sit on the stairs and play and I didn't like going to like school discos and stuff because

I didn't like being away from my mum, I didn't like sleeping at friends houses because I didn't like being away from my mum so although I was a solo kid in terms of like I didn't have like a bunch of friends and I didn't really want to be around anyone I didn't like physically being in my own company, like fully alone in the silence of my own company and as I got older when I was at uni and stuff that was like my idea of hell, like being on my own fully alone was my idea of hell. When it was summer and I used to come home from uni and I used to have to sleep in my own bedroom and stuff like as I was

in a relationship at the time and you have housemates and stuff like sleeping in my own bedroom shutting that door at night and nobody was in my room I used to find really scary and daunting and when it would get dark at night I'd think oh fuck like here we go like I can't I'm I've just be riddled with anxiety because I knew I was alone and now I'm 27 and I was saying this recently, I love my family, I do, but sometimes when that door closes and the house is empty I think, oh yes, good riddance. My auntie says this when when like my sister and all the kids around and they are chaos I love them so much and I love the chaos that they bring but then they they leave and like bye I love you bye I love you bye and then they shut the door my auntie

always goes fuck that and listen that that is low key me now. Like after I've been in anyone's company and I get home, thank fuck for that. And it took me a long time. And I think the way I learned to be in my own company was by forcing myself to be in my own company rather than running from it. I used to say I knew, right, no one's going to be home tonight, what the fuck am I going to do? I'd fill up all my schedule and I'd fill up my time and I'd make myself really busy and I'd watch something on telly and blah blah blah to make it less torture for me.

And then I slowly started to just sit in my own company and do things that made me feel calm, like put on my favorite YouTubers, put on a bit of Zoella, and watch her old vlogmas here and feel really calm. And then I learned to feel safe by myself, and I think that is what it took, and that is what I was missing, is I didn't feel safe alone,

I didn't have that feeling of safety and coziness and warmth. Sorry. What is going on with my voice? So yeah, if I was gonna give some advice, obviously I will read all of your responses as well, they're so important, but if I was gonna give some advice to you, that's the only thing I would say is to realize is it a safety situation? Like, I don't mean in terms of, oh I felt like I was in danger, like oh someone's gonna break into my house. Obviously I did have them fears as well, I still low-key

kind of do, but it was a mental feeling of safety, you know like that feeling you get when you hug your partner or your mum or your dad, whoever it is in your life that is your safety person, that feeling of safety. If I was alone that feeling was completely foreign to me. I did not have that feeling alone of that calm, safe, like your inner child feeling safe. So my advice to you is to spend that time doing something that makes you feel calm like What's your favorite youtubers or put on Keeping Up With The Kardashians and your favorite snack a packet of Cadbury's chocolate buttons Packet of sweet chili sensations mix them together if you're me because that is an elite combo by the way, please try it and Make it in a couple of hours that you are excited about like oh my god I'm buzzing I'm gonna go home I've got my favorite snacks waiting for me I've got

a new episode of the Kardashians to catch up on I'm gonna put on some new bedding I've got new pajamas to get into and and try to spoil yourself and treat yourself as like a as a little date I'm going going home on my own, no one's gonna be at home tonight and I've got so much to look forward to you know and then slowly over time and it does take time it takes years sometimes it took years for me that will just feel safe and it will feel like your happy place. Let's see how you guys learned. I think you can by creating a fulfilling busy life of your own. Yeah like your life is so fulfilling. Like I'm surrounded by so much family. My mum

always says this like my mum is so fulfilled because she's got four kids, a billion grandchildren, siblings, you know, like a full-time job, she's like, I'm busy, busy, busy, busy. So like, you're fulfilled in life, do you know what I mean? So yeah, you're so right. Find what makes you happy and how you want your life to be. Now that, I think we should all take that away.

How do you want your life to be? I Think whoever sent that in needs to take over and run this podcast because that's actually quite beautiful Being unhappy with a partner makes you look at being single differently. I love my company. Yes. This is the thing I think if you've spent time in a relationship where you are I think if you've spent time in a relationship where you are miserable and you look at yourself and you have lost everything you've lost your spark You've lost who you are you've lost all the things that people love about you and you're like wow This relationship has just ripped me from the inside out When you're free from that and you're alone Your company feels different then your company can feel safe Sometimes, leaving a relationship that makes you feel unsafe

can make you feel safe in your own company, if that makes sense. I don't think it made any sense. I've always been single, so I do love my own company. Yeah, I do think it's learn, like that. She's always been single, so she loves her own company. And I think if you're somebody who's always been in relationships Obviously, it's gonna be harder to love your own company. It's foreign to you. You know, I get it

Taking myself on solo dates and learning to enjoy my own company Absolutely. I'm doing a series on tiktok at the moment where I take myself on solo dates and I just uploaded episode 2 today where I took myself out for some food. So yeah, I 100% back that. Do things that make you happy, interests and hobbies you never had time for before. That's beautiful, that is so amazing. Guys, I really wanna do horse riding lessons.

I really wanna do that, and you just reminded me. I should look into that, thank you for that. Okay, so this is literally what I was trying to say as well. Being content in your own company and finding comfort in the silence. Yes the peace you know. Hobbies, time and keeping busy such as going out on solo walks, shopping trips, gym and drives. Okay, so true and I think busyness is really important and can seriously, seriously help but I do think it's important that you're not just filling up your time as a way to distract yourself from the fact that you're alone. You know, like if you are just ramming your schedule full of stuff to do and things to do and people to see and and

errands to run and chores to do and hobbies blah blah blah Going to the gym and then I've got this at five and then blah blah and working like Then you're not really enjoying it And I think it is important to every now and then just clear your schedule and just be alone and just enjoy the piece of that just clear your schedule and just be alone and just enjoy the peace of that. And then I wanted to finish on this question out of pure curiosity to be honest. So this question is where would you put your standards currently? My options are below the barrel. They're in the depths of hell. They are underground, under us all. My standards are that low. Or I just want a nice person to be honest.

It's that rough. I just want a nice person, you know. I know exactly what I want and I will not settle. Yep, or I fear they are so high that no one will ever be enough And I was just so curious because I think when I was single it I was in between of I just want a nice person and I know exactly what I want because I think like sometimes you get to a point where you're just like I've been fussy in the past I wanted someone that looked like this and did this for a living and blah

blah blah and lived on their own or lalala and then you get to a point where you're like if he's kind and he and he doesn't have red flags And he hasn't cheated on anyone then I'll give him a shot. I Think I was in the middle of that But the response is luckily 2% have said below the barrel which is fantastic just 2% 25% have said I just want a nice person to be honest That answer really makes me laugh. I don't know why because it's just it's just a mood in it and then 40% I know exactly what I want and I will not settle and 33% I fear they are so high that no one will be good enough and I don't think there's anything wrong with that at all

I'm actually quite pleased with that as an overall response. So, well done everybody. Give yourselves a fucking round of applause. Do you guys remember when your teachers in school go give yourself a pat on the back? I used to find that really strange. I used to really overanalyze that. And I'd be like, why would I physically pat myself on the back?

I truly, truly don't understand that. I used to really overanalyze things. I still kind of do. I still actually definitely do. Wow, my ear is really soft. No, okay guys, does anybody else get this? I've never known anybody else get this and it fucking drives me mad. When I do mascara, my eardrums throb. Like, it literally throbs. To be fair, My eardrums throb quite a lot Like my ears are very sensitive and you know what? My mum told me that when she had twins, right?

Me and my brother when they were babies. I feel like I'm talking really posh today I don't know why it's happened me and my brother. I don't know why I'm really well spoken I think it's because somebody pointed out that I always do this when I speak and it's really, it was an insecurity of mine that I've always been so conscious of and then when somebody pointed out I was like fuck I know, I know I do that and I've really tried, I'm really trying this episode not to do it, I hope I hope it's been better. You're absolutely right to point it out by the way. I agree. It's so annoying. Anyway, yeah, when we were twins, me and my brother, she said that one of us would like have this piercing cry. It was like a really high pitched cry.

You know when a baby just cries because babies cry. One of them was just really piercing and really high pitched and she said that it damaged her ears and quite clearly they've damaged mine whether it was me or my brother that did it but quite clearly it did some damage to me because I when I tell you even my own voice when I stop talking now it's like this it feels like this in my ear It's like this it feels like this in my ear That's what it feels like in my ear and it's hot it's such a horrible feeling Genuinely, it always feels like my ear my eardrums drop

But they pop and drop and jam and break Anyway, oh I'm gonna shut up but let's wrap this up guys, please stay for the outro. I really enjoyed this episode, I feel like it's such good vibes, I really needed it. I've been having some some negative thoughts about the pod, not in terms of like, I hate the pod, like I love this podcast, it's my pride and joy, but do I even want to talk about it? It's becoming... I'm starting to question if it's time to... If it's time to, you know, you know how like all good things come to an end? to you know you know how like good all good things come to an end I have started to just question if if it's approaching that time for Lear on the

Line I'm gonna be honest but I truly don't want to like this podcast was my baby like I birthed this out of my vagina like I carried this podcast for nine months and burst out my vagina that's how passionately I feel about it but I don't know maybe it's again like I said I said at the beginning of the pod like I've been feeling ultra negative and I feel like negative comments are getting to me and stuff like that and I I'm just starting to doubt like it's being received in the way that I want it to be and I'm starting to question like do the girlies need me anymore? Like have we outgrown Lia on the Line? I'm

not sure, I don't know. And that's not even about numbers or listeners, it's just about like doubts in my mind and I'm not sure. Because equally I feel like I'd be lost like I feel like if I ever Said like Leah on the line is finished Closed for business. I would be so lost. I I Can't even explain to you the amount of things that happen in my life where I'm like, I You wait till the girl is here about this on the part Like you wait until I tell the girls like so much of my life I think I can't wait to tell the podcast and I come up with these ideas and I think oh my god that would be such a good thing, a weekly debate, such a

good episode. So I truly feel like it would take me a long time to like let it go and I don't know if I could do it if I'm ready but I do wonder like I't know, I've got this thing, like this thing in the back of my head lately is like telling me, you know, all good things come to an end. And I've been really upset about it. Like, I've been really crying about it. I'm literally just laying it all out on the table. What the fuck's wrong with me? I did not plan to talk about this in this episode, but I truly don't know how else to approach the idea and I feel like as best friends I

Should just put my thoughts out there. Maybe Or maybe I should just fucking shut up and keep it to myself Because what if I change my mind, but okay, this is the thing. I've had these thoughts and they're obviously Prominent enough for me to voice. Like it's not just like I've had this thought of like oh I might stop the podcast. Like it's been a worry. It's like an anxiety thing. Like you guys know I said I can't quit anything and it feels like I'm quitting even though like people don't really do podcasts forever unless you're like the basement yard or like the girls bathroom where it's like it's absolutely popping. I don't know. It's a really tough decision to make and I feel like

I can't reverse it. I feel like I can't undo it. Like I feel like I can't go okay guys thank you so much it's been a beautiful journey and then like six months later I'm like I'm back. I don't know and then I've even thought maybe I should do seasons instead. Maybe I'm like, I'm back! I don't know. And then I've even thought maybe I should do seasons instead. Maybe I'm just burnt out, you know? Because I put so much work into this podcast, maybe I'm just burnt out. Maybe I need to do like 10 weeks of episodes and then I'll have 10 weeks off. And then it's season three and then it's season four, you know? Like a TV show. Maybe I, maybe that would be better but who would come back after all that time off it doesn't even need to be ten weeks

that was just a random number I just plucked out within her but I am voicing these opinions right now yeah I just I worry that yeah I worry that you guys maybe don't want it anymore. But I don't know. It could just be how I'm feeling recently. Like I said, I'm always low this time of year. So just ignore me. I'll probably be okay next week. But then this is the thing, I've had such a good time recording this episode. I've absolutely loved it.

So I don't know. I feel so sad about it. Like I said, I've been genuinely really upset about it. And I don't know what the right thing to do is I want to do the right thing for all of us you know so if you want to chat about it in my DMs come and chat to me what a depressing note to end that on sorry guys but I hope you really enjoyed this episode if you're single or not I hope you thoroughly enjoyed it I love you and to all my single babes out there think of all the exciting dating you've got to look forward to, whether that's now if you're ready now or in 10 years when you're ready. Think of all the incredible experiences

you get to experience as a solo person going through life. You're so free. You're going to be glowing different. You're going to be in your glow up era right now like amazing things, amazing things are happening. If you're newly single, congratulations. So excited for you. Alright babes, I love you so much and sorry about the, sorry about the bit of a bombshell at the end. Please don't take it too seriously. But yeah, I hope you have an amazing week wherever it is that you're getting up to and I'll speak to you on Tuesday for a brand new episode. All right, I love you. Bye.