Leah on the Line - 6: Your boyfriend going to strip club & dealing with ’psycho’ ex girlfriends

Episode Date: February 22, 2022

HEY GIRLIES! Today's weekly debate is "how do you feel about your man going to a strip club?" and wow did the responses surprise me! The dilemmas this week were probably some of my favourite yet, from dealing with your boyfriend's ex stalking you to being able to trust again after being cheated on. As always send in all your thoughts/dilemmas to [e-mail]. Love you!!!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

🎵 It's getting closer to midnight, I try to get closer to you 🎵 Hello everyone! How are you? How was the Friday bonus episode? Did you enjoy that? Should we make that a regular thing? I mean, I already have, so I don't know why I'm asking you. It's already going to be a regular thing. You're welcome to those of you that asked for more content. I aim to please, alright? No, I'm joking. I really wanted to do it. I had a lot of fun, actually, on Friday.

It was a bit different, wasn't it? It's the usual dilemmas and debating. It was nice. I could just relax, take a deep breath, you know? So, let's have a little catch up as we always do. So I was meant to have a trial shift today, didn't go to it. I didn't go because it's quite far and they weren't sure if they had the hours for me. But then I had a phone call before. This is the reason I didn't go.

I didn't just go. I didn't just not go anyway. I had this call from a place really near me who have the hours for me and it was coming for a chat on Friday it sounds pretty promising so I was like you know what I'm fucking off the job today and I'm just gonna go in on Friday so it's actually not happened yet but when when you listen to this it would have happened so I reckon I've probably got the job. I reckon. So I will let you know next Friday. No. Yeah, on Friday, I'll let you know. So fingers crossed for me.

I think I'm probably going to get it. I'm pretty confident. I'm not going to know. I'm pretty confident that, because, I mean, it's not a hard job to get, do you know what I mean? Oh, don't jinx it, Leah. So cocky, aren't I? I just had to touch a bit of wood. All right. Apart from that, aren't I? Just had to touch a bit of wood. All right.

Apart from that, it's Jake's birthday. It was Jake's birthday yesterday when this comes out. I'm sure he had a lovely day. I'm sure. Actually, I bet I am so hanging right now. I'm going out to a all you can eat and all you can drink restaurant sushi restaurant in Covent Garden on Monday night I'm taking Jake there for his birthday dinner and it's unlimited wine and it's just lethal at the end of the day so I'm probably going to be really hungover on Tuesday when this comes out if you listen to this on Tuesday just send me some send me some love over the DMs, I hope you're feeling all right today Leah, I hope last night was good, I'm sending you positive vibes right now to you listening to me, I appreciate you and love you more than you will ever know, I love chatting to you on Insta DMs, I love when you tag me in your

stories, that's like my favourite thing when you tag me in your stories, because most of the time I can see where you are and what you're doing if you're like at the gym or if it's just like a screenshot of the Spotify or Apple or whatever you're listening on. Most of you always write like, oh this is getting me through my walk or getting me through my drive, hopefully you're not on your phone while you're driving. And I just love to know where you are, who you are as well because I talk to a microphone and I have no idea who you are, like what do you look like? Do you know what I mean?

Speaking of, has anyone seen the Tinder swindler? Wow. That bastard is out there. If somebody, if you are listening, call me. No, I'm joking. I'm not joking. Basically, would you go on a date with the Tinder Swindler if it meant going on a private jet? No, we wouldn't. Let's not joke about that.

We wouldn't. No. I'm also watching, what's it called? What's her face? Anna. Something Anna on Netflix. Anna something. You know her name. Anyway, it's really good, but I don't get it. Like, it's one of them shows where I don't have a fucking clue what's going on. I have no idea what's happening, but I'm hooked. I'm in a choke

hold by this Anna, and I don't even know what's going on. But I like it. I'm into it. So don't know if you're watching that let's get into the weekly debate I always feel like I chat too much at the beginning I'm gonna cut the the useless chat at the beginning and we're gonna get straight into the juice from now on um I hope you guys have had a great week or great weekend if you listen to the bonus episode it's only been a couple of days saturday sunday monday it's only been three days oh my god so nice that we're getting to spend a bit more time together you know get to know each other a bit a bit more bit more intimate level yeah all right the weekly debate this week is are you okay with your man going to a strip club now what the fuck firstly is my response when I read through your

responses I actually thought most of you be like no I fucking I'm not okay no I thought a lot of you would genuinely feel like that was cheating or like an actual sackable offence and boy was I wrong I don't know what percent of you I would say but most of you definitely most are saying yeah I don't care let me read these responses oh they shocked me I'm not gonna lie somebody said yes if you know about it in advance and it's a stag do, etc. I trust my man 100,000%. But I wouldn't exactly be buzzing off the walls if he told me he randomly ended up there. So, like, if he went out on Saturday night and then you saw him on Sunday and you were like, how was last night? And he was like, yeah, we actually ended up at strip club.

You were going gonna be like hmm you were, sorry I thought you said you just ended up at strip club then and he's like no I did what where like no

no no no no no no but then, I don't know let's hear a bit more from you before I start making it about me again. Oh my God. This girl, you, okay, you are bigger and better than me. She says, yes, I'd pay for him to go. I'm sorry. That is the last thing. I am not spending my money on my boyfriend getting a fucking hard-on over a girl stripping, getting her tits and fanny out. I'm not spending my hard-earned money on that. Okay? Oh my God. But then she said, as long as he's not paying for a private show, nothing wrong with it.

Imagine he paid for a private show. She's grinding on girls. All of you picture this right now. Girls of you that have a, girls of you, those of you that have a boyfriend, I need to shut your eyes. Think about this, okay? Should we try and make this like ASMR? No. All right. Picture this. Picture your boyfriend. He's looking hot. He's got a shirt on. He's got his best half shave on. He's smelling amazing. He's got minty breath. Yeah, he's looking hot he's got a shirt on he's got his best half shave on he's smelling amazing he's got minty breath yeah he's looking sexy we we fancy our man tonight he's at a fucking strip club there is a sexy girl with fake juicy bouncy boobs yeah and he's looking at him and he actually has to adjust his jeans because he's getting horny no are you joking me are you actually joking no actually that actually makes me fucking fume

you're telling me that's okay with you are you actually serious of course that's what's gonna happen they're getting horny. Oh my god, that actually makes my blood boil. Over boiling point. I cannot believe some of you are okay with the thought of that. Maybe you're not being realistic. Maybe you're just thinking it's like, oh, it's a laugh with the lads. No, no, no, no, no. They are horny. They are hard for these naked girls. You're telling me that's all right but then somebody said like what's the difference between that and porn and like i don't have an issue with any of my boyfriends watching porn obviously but yeah i suppose like what is the difference because they

are paid workers just like a porn star is just a paid worker and they're making the bag at the end of day major bag alert bag alert major bag alert no it i just don't like it somebody said do it no different to us having a stripper at a party as long as there's no back room we good yeah true true okay true so who's seen the magic might live show i saw a tiktok i've seen a few where they bring up a random girl off stage, right? And they are cock in face, right? I'm not even being dramatic. They are, he literally shakes his head in between her legs, if you know what I mean. And when I watched it, I thought, wow, pick me.

Do you know what I mean? And then I thought, Jake would fucking rage. Imagine if your boyfriend saw a video of you at Magic Mike Show, and he was doing all that to you. Do you think he would mind? Because Jake would be like, that would piss him off, I reckon. I genuinely think that would piss him off. I actually do think Jake would be like, I don't like that. Any normal guy would not like to see that. Do you know what I mean? So imagine watching a video of a girl grinding all over your boyfriend, giving it that. You mad? What the fuck? Somebody said,

I wouldn't mind at all if it was for a stag too. A lot of you are saying that I don't mind if it's for a stag. What's the difference? I'm sorry, imagine you're about to marry a man and the night before he's getting a boner over a stripper. I'm not gonna lie, a lot of strippers are absolutely 10-10, do you know what I mean? Their bodies are unreal. I don't need that stress in my life. Oh my god, oh my god, when I read this I could not believe my eyes. god oh my god when i read this i could not believe my eyes right listen to this okay this is what some girl has said who right if you listen to this and you said this i i you blew my mind okay she said yes for sure window shopping is not cheating okay so let's imagine um i'm in a club i'm looking around and i go oh my fucking, he is so fucking sexy, I would love him to, I'd love to go

home with him, oh my god, Jake hears me, and he's like, what the fuck did you say, and I went, babe, I'm only window shopping, it's not cheating, I'm just window shopping, hon, yeah, you think that's alright, is that not what window shopping is? You, you're looking. Oh my god, he is so fucking sexy. I'd love to... Oh, no babe, don't worry, I'm just window shopping. Ha! You mad?

Anybody else on the same page as me? Or am I just extremely insecure? Which I am happy to admit if that is the case, but... Is that the case? Because what? Um... Somebody said... If it was with people on a st stag i wouldn't want him to be on his own no no that's not an option here no that's strange somebody says absolutely he can look but can't touch wow just going in for a laugh i don't mind but if a single penny is spent in there, there's a big problem.

Okay, so this is where I could be persuaded because I understand it might be a bit of a laugh. And it would be a great laugh, but still... Like, look, put it this way, I'm not going to cause an argument about it, but I might sulk. Okay, that is the truth. I'm not going to cause an argument. I'm not going toulk less okay that is the truth I'm not gonna cause an argument I'm not gonna be like you're a fucking prick but I might have a sulk and feel a bit insecure for a moment and have visions and I might not be able to touch him for a minute because I would be having very explicit visions of it in my mind. Somebody says, yeah, if he wants to get dumped for cheating.

So we, she thinks it's cheating. Somebody says, I think, why are you paying to look at other women naked? Like that's cheating. Oh, that was the same girl. If the stripper is me and the club is our bedroom, then sure. Okay, Miss Queen. Somebody said, ew, no, it actually grosses me out thinking about my man cheering on another woman yeah imagine him like yeah babe you look fucking sexy shake that ass oh no somebody says you could get it at home for free why do you want to go and see another woman um somebody says again he can look but he can't touch somebody says yeah absolutely it's all about trust my boyfriend went to a stag do once and it was so chill yeah all right whatever no my insecurities would hate that yeah maybe it just comes down to an insecurity thing hey maybe i'm

learning a lot about myself somebody i know whose response does not shock me at all she says yes as long as I can go too um I mean as long as he doesn't get carried away and comes home to me yeah imagine I went to a strip club and went home with her oh okay absolutely not do you want to get stabbed oh geez why does he need to look at naked women? Lol, no. Why would I be? I like that. Why would I be okay with my boyfriend going to see naked women? Why would I be okay with that? I like that.

What do you single girls think about? Because I think if I was single, I'd be like, oh, it's a fucking strip club, girls. Stop crying. Do you know what I mean? But now that I actually am in a relationship,'m like are you joking no I'm an insecure queen so my emotions couldn't handle it no way I can provide him a show on there's no way I can provide him a show on the same level oh as the strippers somebody says I'm torn it's not like they are allowed to touch but why do they need to be entertained by someone else I I think going is okay, but paying for a private dance is maybe not okay. No bloody way. Somebody says, no, disrespectful. Somebody says, absolutely not. I'd break up with

him wanting to drool over other girls. No, thanks. Somebody said, I don't have a man, so don't care, lol. I mean, stress-free life, do you know what I mean? You don't have to worry. What the fuck? This or subscribing to OnlyFans is the biggest red flag. If he's in a relationship, why does he need to lust over another woman? So the OnlyFans one is really interesting as well. I do want to have that debate another week, and I want to hear some of your experiences with that. But we'll save that for another day. Somebody says, honestly, I don't mind. I trust him 100%.

He knows not to touch, etc. Love the podcast. Thank you. Somebody says, oh my God, I legit DM'd you this yesterday. Can I just say, something happened last week and all of our boyfriends, not mine, went to fucking strip clubs because I had about 10 DMs in the space of two days all saying my boyfriend's been to a fucking strip club and I'm not happy about it. Do I have the right? And I'm not saying like, wow, I got 10 DMs. That's loads.

What I'm saying is 10 people having the same problem within two days is strange. is 10 people having the same problem within within two days is is strange so something happened last week and all of our men went to a strip club and oh my god what if our men have actually been to a strip club and we don't know because they're not going to tell us are they why would they tell us i would tell jake because i would i would feel like oh maybe he wouldn't like it I don't want to keep that from him but I'm just an honest gal you know all right that is an interesting debate I was really really shocked by a lot of your responses I mean I'm glad that there are a lot of people on my side because now I don't feel like a complete psychopath but there are a lot of you that are just way more fucking secure in yourselves than me which you know I'm actually just happy for you to be honest good for you um as always send me in your weekly debate ideas need to hear them to be honest I've run out and I need all the help I can

get all right let's move on to some dilemmas okay let's start with this one i'm in such a mess situation so i met this guy about a month back my friend was trying to play matchmaker as she knows him but it wasn't working and that's fine we spoke a lot and still speak now but i told him how i felt and he said he was already talking to someone else and i know at that point i should have cut all ties but i didn't we kept talking and now it keeps going down the sexual chat path and I feel bad but also feel like I'm being used like he's told me he wants to see where things go with this other girl yet here I am being sucked in because I like him I'm going to be seeing him in a couple weeks as he works where I go out oh okay he works where

you go out am I a bad person because right now I feel awful and I don't know what to do. Love you. Love you too. First of all, you are not a bad person. I just think what the fact that he is entertaining two women at the same time, he's also admitting it shamelessly. Like he's fully said to you, I'm seeing this other girl. I really want to see where it goes with her. But then he's still having like sexual chats with you. My first thing is, what does that say about him? And do we actually want someone like that?

Second of all, what are you telling him about you? Like you're showing him what your boundaries are and your levels of self-respect because I think you should be going oh well if you're entertaining someone else bye do you know what I mean like I'm I'm not trying to I'm not trying to take anyone else's man like I'm not I'm not playing games I'm I just want an open mutual experience with someone I don't want to be in the middle of whatever this is with you and this other girl I wish you all the best I hope it goes really well you know I think if you'd said that he'd have some respect for you in terms of oh I can't get away with all of this like I, I can't have both. Like, basically, he is, what's that saying?

He's got his cake and eating it. Like, he's got both of you where he wants you. Like, he knows he can have you if he wants you, and he also wants a bit of her as well. And I think, first of all, that's the biggest red flag, red flag, as red flags go. But I know that feeling when you see red flags and you're just like green green everything is green all I see is green flags I know that feeling um but babe I just don't think he is good for you I don't think he's good for her

either um and I just think save yourself the the heartache um and walk away to be honest as a friend I'm telling you you deserve better than that you deserve someone that is all for you 100% not just sexually doesn't make you feel used doesn't um have you tied up in a in a situation shit with another girl like it's just bollocks like I just think cut that shit like it's really hard to do that so especially when you're into someone and also you want them to like you as well because you sort of feel a little bit invalidated when they don't um but also I think be a big strong woman and go do you know what I actually am embarrassed that I've give you the time that I have because you do you do not

deserve me like I am way too fucking good for this um and cut the ties save yourself a heartache save it for the other girl um you deserve better and so does she to be honest she deserves somebody that is all about her as well um you both deserve better and he's a prick look at me I hate men and love women but yeah um I agree I think you should cut all ties and you'll be so fine there are billions of people in the world like let's not choose him out of the billions of men that we can choose from let's not go for this one. Yeah, no need is there. All right, a little bit of a psycho ex dilemma. We love a psycho ex. So she says, so basically my boyfriend's ex is a bit of a this one because you actually do explain that she is a little bit crazy so let's

get into that before we got together she messaged me saying a load of shit about him etc no idea how she found out about me because they split up like four months before we started speaking and they had no contact lol okay i'm gonna stop you right there uh he told her he lied to you he said that they don't have contact but she somehow found out about your relationship okay i'm gonna go ahead and say no. Okay, I take it back, I take it back. I cannot make a statement like that because I have no facts to back that up. I'm literally gonna cause so much trouble

in your relationship if I say shit like that. But if it doesn't make sense how she found out, confusing to me, okay? But let's continue on with the dilemma. We then got together and moved in. Me and my boy both go to the gym at the same time every day and have done since, oh, and have done since we've been together. She's now moved gyms, which is nowhere near her house and purposely goes at the same time as us. What? She obviously knows his routine from when they were together. She follows us around the gym, purposely uses equipment so she can see me and him

and walks past in front of the camera when me and him are filming our sets. What? I'm not even joking she will stand less than one meter away from me and stretch in front of our faces not only that she wrote can i say that word on my podcast um i don't know what the rules are but i'm just gonna spell it out for you. She wrote this, the C word, on his car windscreen in Lippbaum when she first saw me and him together. Please bear in mind again that they have had zero contact for nearly a year now and she knows he's with me. Can I just interrupt? Do we know that for a fact? Because I don't know a girl that would write that on her boyfriend ex-boyfriend's car just because he's with somebody else if there was no mixed signals here no crossover did she have in mind that they were going to get back together did they recently have sex like why is him getting a new relation getting into a new relationship making her so angry

my gut instinct is like there was some sort of mixed signal or crossover I'm probably wrong okay I'm just being honest about my gut I have no idea who these people are so don't take what I say too too literally literally, but have you ever, like, quizzed your boyfriend on, if he's just said, oh, we haven't spoken a year, like, did you just take that as, as factual, or did you go, like, I don't know, did you ever push into that, like, did you ever question that, or did you just take his word as, as fact, I don't know, you just take his word as as fact i don't know anyway um and if it can't get any worse she got a job at his barber's are you joking oh my god she's obsessed with him they split up because he found out she was selling nude videos and photos of herself online which his sister saw

she also attacked him and threw plates at his head lol jeez she obviously realized what she had was good with him and is still caught up over him but she slags him off to me saying how bad of a person he is etc yet follows us everywhere makes zero sense not a dilemma just absolutely hilarious love the podcast keep it up oh my fucking god How have you not said something to this girl? Like I would literally be like, go away. I would have to say like, why are you so upset that he's got with somebody else? Like for me, something's not right there. Like she may just be very fucking strange. She may just be a bit obsessed with him she may

be really heartbroken and really struggling to get over it but surely does she not have friends being like um no laura you cannot get a job at his barber's that's fucking weird like i don't know if it was me i know you said it's not a dilemma so i feel like you probably you're not asking for any sort of advice but i'm just genuinely asking you as a friend like have you not spoken to this girl like when she's got her ass in your face at the gym next she's squatting away I'd be like uh Laura um do you mind if I talk to you about it I'd actually invite her out I'd actually invite her out for a drink I'd say you know me I'd say, let's go for a coffee. I genuinely would. I would be like, let's go for a coffee. And I would sit down with her for like half an hour, an hour and be like, is there a reason you've moved to his gym? Is there a reason

you were so angry that he moved on with me? Is there a reason you now work at his barber's? Is this all just one massive coincidence? And'd be like you make me really uncomfortable I find it strange I don't want to be a problem in your life please don't be a problem in my life I would just have to say something I don't know how you haven't oh my god how crazy is that but um yeah you said it's not a dilemma so I'm not going to go on too long because you obviously don't need advice you're obviously okay Your boyfriend must make you feel secure enough to the point where it's not actually really, really bothering you, which is really good. But yeah, fuck that, mate. Love you. All right, next one. I was in a relationship with a guy for seven years to find out that for the

last two years of our relationship, he was cheating slash messaging other girls, etc. of our relationship he was cheating messaging other girls etc we lived together also may i add and as a girl i had a gut feeling so started my investigation i love that can i just say i do want to say to my anxious insecure queens your gut feeling is sometimes separate to anxiety okay if you have trust issues it's really hard when you constantly hear people go, trust your gut girls, trust your gut. That is different. If you have trust issues or experience relationship trauma or some sort of neglect, like it's, it's different. Trusting your gut is very different because sometimes your anxiety is actually the voice. It's not your gut, it's anxiety and it's

not real. So I just wanted to make that point because I know how that feels to be like surrounded by people going, well, you know, they always say, trust your gut. Your gut's never wrong. Yes, it is. If you have anxiety or trust issues or neglection issues, any sort of rejection, yeah, it is wrong actually sometimes. So can we cut that? Because it's actually kind of a problematic thing to say. Anyway, back to you. She says, I couldn't find a thing though. I thought I was just being paranoid until one day. I was putting something in the bin outside

and I heard a phone ringing. He had another fucking phone. Was he stashing it in the bin? Oh my God. Oh, which he hid in his motorbike outside the flat. Vile. Hundreds, and I am talking hundreds of messages to numerous girls. Obviously, I left and I'm now living my best single life, but I worry I won't be able to trust again any advice. P.S. Love your podcast. Follow it at best season. I don't even know to trust again any advice. P.S. love your podcast follow up with Bessies and I don't even know you. I love you. First of all what the actual fuck is wrong with that boy? Like

that's not just a mistake. That's not just you got your priorities mixed up. That's just not that's not oh I was just being a bit selfish. I forgot or everything was getting to me. You are a bad person. Like to do that to someone like there's actually something wrong with you like you actually you don't care like you would come home to your girlfriend every night be like all right babe you get home from work you stash your phone in your motorbike you you put your key in the front door you're walking hello darling all right how was your day you freak there's actually something wrong with you what a fucking loser I'm so glad you binned him off like that and that could not have been easy like you said you live

together it's so hard to walk away from a relationship and I'm really really proud of you for being strong enough to leave and know your worth um you're worried you won't be able to trust again I just think it do you know what it may be difficult to trust again it may be that is something fucking shit and it's like how the fuck do you recover from that do you know what? It may be difficult to trust again. It may be. That is something fucking shit. And it's like, how the fuck do you recover from that? Do you know what I mean? It may be difficult to trust again, but at the end of the day, hopefully you meet somebody that is so amazing. And you know, you can tell him what you've been through in your past and hopefully he'll do what he can to make you feel that extra bit secure you know you'll just meet the right person that will help you um and do what you need to do in yourself whether that be

work on your self-esteem now if he's if he um you know if it took a toll or whatever whatever it did to you try and build that back up again in yourself so that when you do finally meet someone you're ready and you know don't rush into anything work on yourself so that when you do finally meet someone, you're ready and, you know, don't rush into anything, work on yourself. You said you're living your best single life, so I'm buzzing for you for that. But yeah, I just think don't let him do that to you. He took enough of your life, do you know what I mean? I can imagine it to be so so hard to trust people after somebody's done something like that to you but yeah let's not let him take away any more of your life like bye you fucking loser go away get away from me you freak hide in your fucking phone in a motorbike

grow up what the fuck are you doing with your life um I hope you can recover from that and you will of course you will um you're amazing and love you so so much oh my god okay listen to this hey girl loving your podcast thank you so I've been seeing my boyfriend what do you mean seeing do you mean you've been with because you said boyfriend anyway you've been with your boyfriend for two years now this girl that both of us know posted a photo in sexy lingerie oh here we fucking go i know where this is going it came up in conversation and my boyfriend told me he'd never seen the photo right later that day i found a screenshot of this photo of my on my boyfriend's phone in an album with a load of other girls are you kidding me but the rest of the photos were of porn sites or something what do i do are you fucking kidding me your boyfriend's got an album of naked girls

and girls and sexy lingerie on his phone yeah i don't know how to i don't know how to say this, um, he's wanking over other girls, what a prick, it's not normal, like, it's not, it's not right, it's absolutely not acceptable, um, is that cheating, girls, is that cheating, do you know what, cheating is one thing, but disrespecting someone is also another thing and they're both fucking bad it's disrespectful and it's not on and it's weird it's weird imagine somebody had a photo of you in their phone and was ranking over you and you didn't even know oh um yeah uh he's 100% masturbating over these girls and the fact that it's someone that you

both know makes it really not only weird but really horrible and not okay and not acceptable is not acceptable um I don't know you said what to do I don't know I You said what to do. I don't know. I, I would, I personally, I'm not going to tell you what to do because I don't know, but I would leave, I think, if I went on Jake's phone. Oh God, fuck off. I'd leave. Yeah. Are you fucking joking me? No. Vulgar. It's the thought of it as well. Like it's, it's the like, it's dirty and disgusting's it's the like is dirty and disgusting like she's a girl that we both know it's her instagram she's posting that because you know it might be a lounge ad or she might be feeling really good about herself it might be a power move it's not for you dirty men to masturbate over disgusting i mean i'm really sorry I should not be saying this about your boyfriend I'm sure he's a nice guy but it's not on hun it's not on it's not acceptable I'm afraid

it's not acceptable um yeah I would never tell you what to do if you know people are going to react to this differently there might be someone listening to this that goes oh I found that on my boyfriend's phone I didn't I didn't care I know he wanks I know he masturbates but for me to have an album like Jake has an album of me on his phone as he should do you know what I mean um but if if I went on his phone and he had an album of girls and some of them we knew um absolutely disgusting nah who agrees who's on my side there I don't know I'm I did speak to um Jake and Feb about it before when this dilemma came through and they they were like no that's not normal like that is weird like he should have an album of his girlfriend um and I agree so so you know i am gutted for you that would that would break me i'm gutted i'm so gutted for you that you had to find that um you deserve so much better you deserve someone that has an album of

you i don't know if i can do this podcast it just pisses me off i just want i don't know i just hate all of your boyfriends i don't really i don't some of them are lovely are your boyfriends listening right now hi hey boys look after them yeah treat them well okay let's go for one more maybe two so this one says i was speaking to this boy for a few months i know he has a busy life with work but we still saw each other a few times a week i love that he never pushed anything sexual it took a comfortable amount of time i love that um oh okay sorry and out of nowhere he said he can't commit um even though we haven't spoken about relationships speaking to him now when things are calmer he says he cares for me a lot and isn't done with us

but can't do it right now as he didn't want to let me down when he's so busy with work i understand what he's saying and it's sweet he didn't want to hurt me but of course it does what do i do i can't wait forever but he's special and i can't stop thinking about us together his actions say a lot you know oh well cop out no anyone else cop out like he's always been busy with work but he managed to see you a few days a week even that's a lot i can see you every every other weekend if you need my personal opinion is if you really like someone your situation will not get in the middle of it like your schedule whatever you will make it work because you it's not even a question

your situation is your situation and you will see them whenever you can see them it's just the way it is um i i think it's a bit of a cop-out i don't like that he said i'm not done with you but right now like fuck off do you think i live for you do you think i was put on this planet for you for you to be ready for me whenever you're ready hon you just let me know are you serious i don't like that i think it's really insulting actually you know i'm not done with you okay well if you're not going to give me 100 what do you expect me to do i want to stay here and wait until till you're ready you're joking fucking rude god sorry do you know what when you listen to this pop me an email send me some nice positive things that your boyfriend did for you this week because i'm starting to think that all

men are knobs but obviously this is dilemmas so you're not going to send me oh i've got a dilemma my boyfriend's just so nice like i just sound like i hate men don't't I? I don't. I love men. I love my boyfriend. Rubbing it in. Sorry. Rubbing it right in there. Sorry. Rubbing salt in the wound. Um, I think you are so sweet and lovely that you couldn't even imagine that a boy is lying to you or beating around the bush like I think you sound so sweet that you expect people are just as honest and kind as you and I just want to tell you that this boy is not being kind um he might be so lovely but the kind thing to do would be to say i'm really sorry you are amazing but it's just not working for me no bullshit excuse about like oh i'm just busy because then then you're holding on thinking oh well maybe if the situation changes or oh but he

does really like me it It's not my fault. It's not his fault. Like, it's our situation. Like, oh, the odds just aren't in our favor. No, like, he just doesn't want it. And that's okay. Like, that's fine. Do you know what I mean? Just be honest. He's not ready for a relationship right now. Or maybe he's just not feeling it. Maybe he's just not, he's not feeling where he thought he would feel with you right now. Just admit it. Or maybe he's talking to someone else. Do you know what I mean?

Maybe his head's turned. Just stop, just save me the bullshit. Like save me the like, I'm not done with you. Like, you know, maybe I can still shag you every now and then. Ugh. Just tell me it's not working. And we're not going to end up in a relationship and let me make my own decision. Like if I want a hundred percent from you and you're telling me I can't

give you a hundred percent, babe, that's fine. Let's, let's just cut this here. Yeah. It's not very nice that he's basically said to you, I'm not done with you, but I can't do it right now. Would you actually wait? You want me to wait? Yeah. Fucking rubbish, mate. Again, it's another situation. There are billions and billions of boys in the world. We are not going to sit around and wait for this one to want us. No, no, no, no.

No. I'm not going to wait for you to want me. Do you know how many billions of boys are out there that I can choose that one actually wants me and wants me now and can give me 100% give me everything i deserve yeah i think i'll pick one of them why is the ball always in the boy's court yeah why is everything got me on his terms no why does our validation come from men no no we're not doing it anymore okay love you all right guys i am gonna wrap up this week's episode i hope you loved it it's been so fun to talk to you sorry once again i just ripped into all your boyfriends but it's because i care about you okay i'm coming from a protective

older sister angle all right i'm not older or just protective sister i don't know how old you guys are how old are you guys i'd love to know my demographics say you're between the ages of like 18 and 30 which i love because i'm 25 nearly god i repeat myself a lot don't i anyway it's been amazing catching up girlies i hope you enjoyed the bonus episode last week. Let me know any more bonus topics or just any sort of episodes that you'd want. I think we've got all the freedom in the world on Fridays. I'm happy to hear all of your ideas. As always, send me in your dilemmas. They went a bit quiet this week, so I had to scrape back some of the old ones. Some of them I can't read because they have like certain topics that I can't discuss. If you've sent in a dilemma previously that I've never read, send it in again.

When I first started this, I got a ton at once. And the form on my website, it does work. I've had emails being like, oh, I sent in a dilemma on your website, but it just disappeared. I don't know if you got it. I do get them. A lot of the ones that i read out are from my website as well they all go straight to my inbox so don't worry however you want to send it on email or through the link on instagram which will take you to my website

whatever way you want to do it's fine um obviously everything always stays anonymous we always use fake names just be prepared for me to rip shit into your boyfriend, I think, is what we've learned from this week's episode. Yeah, stay safe out there, girls. No more bullshit from men, all right? And women. Women, we can be pricks too, can't we? So, love you so much. As always, send in your weekly debates. This week was a brilliant one. I had so much fun. It was nice to have more of a debate because obviously last week we all pretty much were on the same page and also the week before we pretty much all agreed. So this week it was really interesting. Some of you shocked me. Yeah, send in anything you want to debate. Send in your dilemmas. Send in your ideas for the bonus episode. Send in your weekly highlights, bad news, good news, whatever you want to share. I'm here to hear it. I love

you guys so much. See you next week to hear it. I love you guys so much. See you next week for another episode. I love you. Bye. you