Leah on the Line - 76: It's been THREE YEARS and we still haven't met!! It's giving Catfish...

Episode Date: July 24, 2023

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Hello. Hi, everyone. Welcome back to a brand new episode of Lear on the Line. Happy Tuesday. Happy Tuesday, everybody. How are you? How are you feeling today? How was your Monday? Did you start your week off well? Was it positive? Was it a negative start? It's all right. Either way, we have six more days of the week. So don panic isn't it funny how like you think just because it's a new week it's like a different experience like it's just a continuous set of days but for some i don't know i'm one of those people that like when it's monday i'm like okay this is brand new brand new i'm like it was it's just no different to yesterday realistically is it anyway

i am currently loving life i've got my beautiful gorgeous dog missy sat on my lap she's sleeping on my lap right now so i'm feeling really cozy i've got an iced white chocolate mocha with hazelnut syrup to my right i will say though i know people say they taste like white bueno it's giving bueno like for sure like a little bit but it is so sickly like oh god it's heavy on the stomach it really is but I'm enjoying nonetheless anyway how are you guys anything to update me on send me a dm let's have a little catch up um I am feeling a little bit anxious today because I called the doctor and I've booked an appointment I know that's a normal thing just to go and see a doctor about any concern but when you have health anxiety it's like really freaking scary I feel like when you have health anxiety

like you are one of those people where you either are like me and are petrified of even going to an appointment because it just is like impending doom or you're like you want constant reassurance so you're constantly at the doctor's. And I'm not that. I don't know what's worse, to be honest. But yeah, feeling a little bit shaky. But I'm happy to be sat talking to you guys. Thank you for having me in your company. Thank you for being in mine. We have the usual Tuesday episodes today, weekly debate, dilemmas. The weekly debate is the one that I mentioned last week about would you let someone have sex with your partner for money so I'm looking forward to getting into that but

yeah I won't drag out the intro too much today it's only Tuesday not much to fill you up when to be honest had a really nice weekend hope you all did too and uh yeah let's get into the episodes thank you so much for listening to Leah on the line head to leah on the line.com to send in your dilemmas and confessions remember to follow on socials to see visual clips and get involved with the weekly debates enjoy the episode love you okay everyone i am so excited about this i feel like this is just gonna be so funny like what you guys have to say so i have already said said it, but I will remind you. The weekly debate today is, would you let someone have sex with your partner for 100k? Because listen, right? I was going to say,

obviously when Jamie was on last week, we were talking about like a mil. And I thought, I feel like a lot of people would do it for a meal do you know what I mean I wanted to make it a difficult question so at first I said 100k because I thought I need a good amount of money that could potentially be life-changing you know it really could 100k it could change lives let's be real so I went with 100k and this was your response okay so, so I'm just going to scroll. Let's have a look. I will be honest. I think 80% are saying absolutely fucking not. Big fat no, basically. No, I'd be fuming for the rest of my life. No, fuck that.

No way. My dignity is worth at least 500k. Nope, nope, nope, and nope. A lot of you did say who gets the 100k. And I thought, come on, babeses it's not him is it and it's definitely not the other person do you know what I mean I was like a little bit you know come on guys obviously you get the 100k you know could you imagine like your boyfriend or girlfriend they get to have sex with somebody else and they get 100k for it. And you just get nothing.

No, you get the money for sharing your partner, essentially. No, I'd never be able to sleep with them again. No, no money is worth that distrust and taking away loyalty. Absolutely not. I'd rather sell feet pics. Absolutely not. Could be crippling in debt and I'd still rather die than let this happen someone says now there were a few of you that were you know they were considering it so let's have a little look for you guys somebody says

for upfront payment yeah shrug emoji for upfront payment fuck it 100k have a go as long as I get half of the money why not babe you get all the money of course um yes defo would be scared of them catching feels but 100k sounds good okay so your is your issue is more like if they enjoy a little bit too much, you know what I'm saying? Okay. A lot of you saying no, make it 500k and sign me up. I need the money, but no. Mood. I could do it 100k, but no. Yes, I'd do it for the mortgage. If he was blindfolded and thought it was me, don't judge lol oh my god i'm never judging don't be silly um fuck no somebody says fuck yes like they're excited by this fuck yeah 100k in this economy no mood um no i wouldn't do this for any amount of money i want to stop thinking about it if we get to split the 100K, then yes.

Babes, you get the 100K. You know what I'm saying? Imagine somebody said, you can have sex with someone and we'll give you 100K. I mean, it is a great question to say, would you cheat on your partner for like, I don't know,

it'd have to be a substantial amount, wouldn't it? How much would you guys cheat on someone for? Obviously, the answer is nothing no amount of money but it's a good weekly debate we're talking a meal nah no one could do that could they other people out i mean there are definitely people out there that could but personally i could never and you know what i always say this right the reason i could never cheat obviously one of the main reasons is you don't want to hurt someone but the biggest reason i could never cheat or even be disrespectful in any sort of way like that is because i could not live with myself i would hate myself i would hate

hate hate hate myself so yeah okay as long as i get Wait, as long as the money benefits me too. Oh, what guys? Did I not word this well enough? Because I feel like, come on babes. Of course you get all the money, you know? Yeah, but I ain't splitting it. You get the sex, I get the money. Yeah, that's fair to be honest. 100K is life changing. If they were up for it and we never saw that person again, then yes. Yes, if I'm involved. Yes, that's a lot of money. Nope, that's how much I hate the thought. Somebody says I'd be mad if he didn't do it, honestly. If I got to keep the 100k, yes. He ain't getting 100k and sex obviously guys um no just a thought of it makes me feel sick no amount of money would change my mind let me watch babe but only someone

neither of us know you'd want to watch okay this is a good question so you took the deal right your partner is going to have sex with someone for whatever amount of money it is that you have agreed to do you want to watch or do you just want to just call me in when it's done because that is a good question part of me would want to watch so that i can see whoa don't look at her like you love her do you know what i mean oh don't do that we do that don't do that but the other part of me would rather just stand outside the room and pretend it's just like really crap oh no no imagine it's do you know what it's the hearing it no i wouldn't do it for a penny when you actually deep it you hit you hear the moan you they orgasm no no amount of money i am with you the guy saying no i'm with you absolutely fuck that imagine hearing them moan imagine seeing them their face their orgasm face and it's someone else

does that make everyone so angry right now I mean a lot of you guys are saying you do it so I get it somebody says of course we do it for free. Pineapple emoji. Is that a thing? Is the pineapple emoji like a swingers thing or like an open relationship thing? I need to get with the, get with the cool guys. Okay. And then I put up another story saying, how about 500k? Because a lot of you were like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. And I was like, all right, all right, all right. How right how about 500 i've times it by five here and i just put a poll saying not for any amount exclamation mark exclamation mark exclamation mark exclamation mark exclamation mark or i put tempting kiss tempting and 49 have gone with tempting. So pretty much half, half of you were like, okay, I reckon going through those responses, it was 80% saying no. I upped the price to 500k and half of you are saying,

yeah, it's tempting. It's definitely tempting. I'll definitely think about it. Because you've got to be honest with yourself. 500k, you could buy a house, you could buy two. You could buy two houses and maybe a flat or a bungalow, to be honest. You could have a wedding, you could buy your house, and it would set you up for your first child, you know, if you're at the point where you kickstart you know or it could pay off your debt pay off your student loan pay off your credit card it could take you abroad take you traveling whatever it is that you are aspiring to do 500k bang just for 10 minutes 10 minutes with your man or your woman just 10 minutes and let them sort you out up front

it's hard it is hard when you think about 500k and what what it would do for your life and how much it could really set you up or undo any sort of financial debt financial mess that we're in because we're in our 20s most of us that listen it's rough out here right it could sort you out what 10 minutes how long do they take 10 minutes or maybe they'll take an hour because they just aren't going to be into it because they love us so much do you know i mean it's going to be so hard for them to actually finish because they're going to hate every second of it because they love us so much i couldn't do it i know for a fact i couldn't do it but i one million percent understand how people could one million wow what a debate that's a good fun

question thoroughly enjoyed thank you guys so much for sending in your responses thank you so much for answering the poll love you guys let's get into some dilemmas okay everyone we have some great dilemmas today thank you everyone that sends them in keep them coming learontheline.com everything you need is on there we do have some new buttons now so there is a button for dilemmas confessions uh dilemma updates and weekly debate ideas so get on there submit whatever it is you fancy. Love you. All right, let's kick off with this one. It says, hi Leah. Hi babes. So I've been talking to a guy for nearly three years now. Whoa, pull up. Talking. You've been talking to a guy for three years and wait, and you're not his girlfriend.

What the, okay. There better be a valid fucking reason why he hasn't wiped you up, okay? It started on Tinder during COVID, so we weren't able to meet up. We talk all day, every day. We still haven't met up, despite me asking him many times oh my god babe come on come on darling gotta go now time to go because i'm sorry three years we talk all day every day for three years and you haven't even met me and you you think you're going to waste any more of my time. Okay, reading on. There's always been an excuse like work or he's falling asleep. Oh, fuck off then.

Falling asleep. Get fucked. He lives in the same city as me. Oh God, it just gets worse. Darling, you deserve better. You know? I know at this point it isn't healthy. It's not that it's not healthy. It's just that he's really wasting your time and it's not nice, you know? I know that this isn't healthy, but there's just something about him that I can't let go of. I'm not interested in getting to know anyone else.

about him that I can't let go of I'm not interested in getting to know anyone else and I believe him when he says he isn't either but what makes like this guy could have a whole girlfriend like what makes you believe he doesn't want to get to know anyone else when he hasn't even took five minutes out of his life an hour in the last three years gone for a fucking coffee you falling asleep like actually it's worth considering this guy could be a whole catfish um three years it's giving catfish uk it's yeah it could be anyway i really want to see i really want to see him and if it doesn't work out then at least I know. I just wish he would see me and make plans. I am going to be so brutal with you here and I know it, I know this is not nice. This situation is nasty. Like someone has taken three years of your life and they don't want to meet up with you what the fuck is that you know like

we need to switch up our mentality here do you know how unreal i am do you know what i mean do you know how sick of a girlfriend i am do you know what i bring to the table a lot and i think we need to show more self-respect in these situations you know like let's not sit around and go oh i wish he would just want to see me like i wish he would just want to meet up with me he's shown you he doesn't and this is the thing right as brutal as it sounds don't listen to anything a guy says don't listen to it don't listen you listen to how he treats you how he acts around you first of all and how he shows up for you that's what we listen to and this guy isn't showing up this guy hasn't met you it's been three years he's a waste in your time

and you deserve better than that and to be honest i think you need to do something that's really difficult and really hard and just go bang i'm done with that what a waste of time three years and you haven't even met me for fucking 30 minutes in the last what's 365 times by three three six nine six twelve eighteen it's over a thousand days darling over a thousand days and i couldn't have one of them that is like a statement saying you're a prick as chloe would say you know what the fuck like I I think it's so easy for me to say this I know your feelings are involved and I know it's that feeling of like I've said this before actually you know when you're in a situation ship and that ends and that doesn't

develop into a relationship that can hurt more than a relationship because it's like you never even chose me you never even wanted me like I couldn't even get to it with you you never actually validated me and now i feel double shit because it's not even like we were together and it didn't work out we fell out of love we cheated it is you didn't even want to be with me in the fucking first place and that's shit and i was stuck around and stuck around and stuck around hoping you was going to choose me and want to be with me and you haven't and i think we listen to that and we say yuck like you think I'm going to message you all day every day for three years and you're taking him seriously you're taking him seriously you're not getting to know other people you're holding yourself back from something

potentially amazing for somebody that isn't even willing to show up for you and I just think you live in the same city as me your excuses are shit i'm gonna take what i see at face value you don't want me and therefore why would i want someone that doesn't want me there's loads of people that would want you you know like i just think be brutal with this be really strong and block the fucking prick to be honest how can you talk to me all day every day for three years and you don't even want to meet up with me and you're just you're not even being up front and just saying like oh i you know i'm not too serious about this or i think you know we should just i think it's just nice to have someone to text and talk to on the phone and stuff you're not even being honest like you're just

leading me on and leading me on and it's been three years now be honest with me you know it's obvious we can't listen to the things they tell you because they they know what to say oh i'm really serious about you i'm not interested in getting to know anyone else how can you mean that if you haven't even met me the fuck is this you know maybe he's insecure maybe it's maybe it's a confidence issue but at the end of the day i feel like you can have one last conversation with this guy and be like look respectfully I don't really want to waste any more time on this situation like if you're not interested in meeting up with me I'm willing to walk away here and he should be too because he's wasting his own time he's wasting your time you're wasting your own time it's just like why are we doing this and I think it's worth having that last conversation and just being like, why are we doing this? If you don't want to meet up

with me, just say, and I can deal with that. I don't need you to want me, you know, just be honest, be grown up about things. And I think, you know, don't listen to, oh, I do, I do. Well, do it then. I want to see you next week. This is a waste of my time. I want to see you next week or that's it. I'm I want to see you next week or that's it I'm not wasting any more time with you it's been three years at this point how can you have an excuse for three years you know that's my feelings on that situation I love you so much you deserve better way better and I think give him an ultimatum and just say enough's enough, darling. I'm not getting any younger, babe. I love you. Please, especially this one. Keep us updated. We need a dilemmas update on this one. LearontheLine.com. Send it in, darling. Love you. Good luck with that one. You're amazing. Never forget it. Okay. This one is difficult. So I took to Instagram stories to ask for your advice i put a poll up so i'll read it

out first hey gorgeous hello beautiful long time listener here and submitting this dilemma a bit wine drunk or wine drunk is different okay you get drunk quick with wine did you know like a large wine is three units that's a lot like a single vodka is one unit. So like a large wine is like three single vodka and lemonades. Yeah, crazy. Anyway, which means maybe overthinking the situation, but it's been on my mind. Essentially, I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half years now. Okay. A healthy, a healthy length. What? Does that make sense? A healthy length. Yeah. Which began at university then i graduated before him and i've been working back home whilst he finished his final year at uni i'm so in love

with him and i know he's obsessed with me too but our relationship has been semi-long distance which comes with some challenges in his final year at uni he made a new group of friends, which included some new girlmates. Great. Oh, can't wait to meet them. I got to meet them only once at the end of the uni year when I went up to visit. As a girlfriend with a boyfriend who's been spending lots of time with other single girls and guys, I think it's natural to worry slightly whether there's any flirting going on. Two of these new friends are single girls and I can't help but think in my head they're pretty girls, my boyfriend's so sociable and friendly so who's to say that no flirting has happened between them. I just feel like what I can't see

means I'm never to I am never to know. Does that make sense? I'm yeah it does um yeah I'm never to know if this has happened. Skip forward to now and one of my boyfriend's friends has invited my boyfriend and three other girl mates to his holiday home for a few days i couldn't help but think why only invite him and three girls yeah uh okay it just seems like a weird combination of people to invite, which I know is the case that he, which I know is the case that he invited just them because I asked whether they're the only people who could go,

to which he was told, which I was told, they're the only ones invited. And I know that their friendship group includes a lot of other guy mates, so why just him and three girls? I can't help but be worried about this trip what it involves and just the fact that everyone there will be single except my boyfriend three girls to two boys seems a suspicious ratio and i just don't know what to think of it should i raise it with him as a concern i think deep down i know that he just

sees it as a good opportunity to go on holiday and have free accommodation and some laughs with friends. But I can't help but feel uncomfortable with the dynamic, especially when I don't know the girls. Should I speak to him about this and how should I go about it? So I put it on the story because this is the thing. You guys know where I stand with the guy-girl friendships. I believe guys and girls can be friends a hundred percent I get on with guys so well I love hanging out with guys there's no competition there's no bitterness there's no bitchiness there's no digs and I enjoy the company of guys right but I could never be best friends with a guy it just hasn't it never fucking happens for me and I know a lot of you out there say I'm best friends of a guy it just hasn't it never fucking happens for me and i know a lot of you out there say i'm best friends with a guy it's never been like that we've had this debate okay

i get it and i know there's loads of people that are really good friends with the opposite sex right but just in my experience there's always deep down even if it's deep, deep, deep, deep, deep, deep down, right? There is the potential for a little drunken kiss, a little drunken shag, a little drunken flirt. The lines always have blurred every now and then, right? Eventually. You can be friends with a guy for years. This is again, just me speaking from experience, right? You think you're really good friends with a guy, you think you're on the same page, and then the lines get blurred and then you're like oh okay right so it depends on how close he considers himself with these girls is it just that you know we all hang out in a group blah blah blah we'll just get on or would he hang out one-to-one with these girls

that's when i get a bit like so because I've got such strong opinion on it I thought let me go to the listeners because I know that my opinion is just going to be well what the fuck do you know what I mean so I was like let me go to everyone else because a lot of you guys can think more rationally than me a lot of the time, especially when it comes to the male-female friendships. However, I did a poll that says, seems innocent to me or not on my watch, darling. Yeah. And 95% have clicked not on my watch, darling. So I think that sort of validates your, think that sort of validates your what's the word discomfort with the situation you know you're not the only one in fact pretty much all the listeners almost all of the listeners would feel the same way as you so I think that gives you that validation in those feelings and those doubts to have that conversation with your boyfriend and

just say like look I'm not accusing you of anything please believe me I'm not I just want to express the discomfort I feel in this situation I don't really like it like and also you can spin it like well imagine if I went on a little holiday with some single lads you're telling me you wouldn't be like oh well they're obviously going to try and crack on with our because i'm fucking gorgeous yeah say that to him no i'm kidding but you know it could 100% be innocent but i think you have every right to express your concerns and ask for that reassurance you know um and see how he responds to it because if he's like oh babe i totally get that like if you drive i didn't go i'm happy to not go or if he's like you know i totally get it why don't you come why don't you come with us gorgeous you know as he should but if he's like oh you're being fucking

ridiculous it's a joke what the fuck what i can't have friends that are girls now just so i got a girlfriend whoa didn't say that didn't say that just asking for a bit of reassurance bit defensive what's with all the defense you know I think his response will be very telling so bring it up you you've got us all backing you up over here and please update us please please please I'm begging you let us know how it goes down. We love you. We got you. And good luck. Love you so much. Okay, let's do another dilemma. Picture this. You're at a picnic with pals and bam, you suddenly feel unwell. But going to the clinic, not the ideal weekend plan. Well, those days are over. Maple's virtual care has got your back.

With 24-7 access to licensed doctors and nurse practitioners within minutes. Need a diagnosis or prescription? Sorted right from your phone, right in time for your next picnic. Download the Maple app today and have more summer this summer. Okay. Hi, Leah. I'm new to your podcast and absolutely loving all the episodes I've listened to so far. Oh my God. Welcome. We love you. Okay. I was hoping you could offer some advice slash your opinion on my current dating situation. I'm sorry if this

is a long one. I've been talking to a guy that I met through Tinder for about a month now. Let's call him Sam. We were texting for a couple of weeks on and off. And to be honest, I wasn't really interested in him at first until we spoke on the phone and then I began to take it more seriously. We decided to meet in person and just to be safe, I stalked all his social medias beforehand, discover he has had a very, very recent,

we're talking a matter of weeks, sorry, he has very, very recently, we're talking a matter of weeks sorry he has very very recently we were talking a matter of weeks come out of a three and a half year relationship with his ex-fiancee not the engagement fuck okay they were obviously very serious about their relationship as they purchased their own house together back in 2021. I confronted this in person. To be told that the relationship was on the rocks for a few months and they broke up as they simply fell out of love for each other. He has also discovered two weeks prior to us meeting that she had been cheating on him for the past six months. Ouch, that's gotta hurt. Six fucking months. How do people do that shit? How do you go home to them, you know? And she has fully moved out of their home together and

moved back in with her mum back in Bradford. Bearing in mind, we live in Wales, so I'm loving the fact there's now distance between them. Gorgeous. Definitely helps. Sam has fully reassured me that things are fully over between him and his ex-fiance and he was ready to move on. He's also fully assured me that I'm not a rebound and he's looking for something serious, which I believe considering his last relationship shows he's not afraid of commitment. Absolutely. Since then, we've been seeing lots of each other. I've stayed at his place about four times now. Absolutely no sign of anything that belongs to a female there. I snooped. Good job. We're also very affectionate towards each other, cuddling and kissing. And it's going really well to the

point where I'm getting quite attached. Where is the butt? Because I'm scared. Oh, okay. Then suddenly, out of absolutely nowhere last week week he texts me in the morning saying we should leave it as he didn't feel a spark not the spark honestly once somebody said that to me it was game over you can't go back from it okay this came as a huge shock to me because i thought we were getting on so well wanting to see each other all the time and being all over each other in person however being the girl I am I turned around and said thank you for your honesty I hope you find someone you do have that spark with I could never okay that's queenship I fucking love that from you thank you for your honesty

well I hope you do find someone you get that spark with. Goodbye. Brave, strong, love you, incredible. Let's all take notes. Okay, I'm like, well, what the fuck do you mean? How can you not find a fucking spark? Wasting my time. I've been around your house four times. We've had sex.

Are you some kind of prick? Typical Leo, can't take rejection. Okay, you handled that like a fucking pro. I love that wasn't gonna sit there and beg for him even though it really upset me that he wanted to end things so soon yeah oh my god i love you he then responded with but i want you surely there's a way to find a spark smash my head into the wall you might as well because what the fuck you're fucking with me are you seriously are you seriously are you seriously saying that i think we should end things i don't feel a spark but i want you surely there's a way we can find a spark right okay right after literally saying we should leave

things where they are 10 minutes prior he reeled off loads of compliments about myself yeah yeah yeah i know i know but then proceeded to say that he wasn't good enough for me and that although he wants me i deserve better as soon as a guy or a girl tells you that you deserve better you walk away okay because that means they feel things towards you whether that be the ick or they feel things towards somebody else deep down, they enjoy attention from other people, they're disrespecting you, they're being unfaithful to you, that's when they say you deserve better, right? After loads of backwards and forth, we came to the conclusion that we still wanted to continue talking and see where it goes. This happened on the Friday and I

next saw him on the Sunday in person in which I in which I brought it all back up wanting to qualify a few things he basically sat there and explained that not feeling a spark was an excuse as he was afraid he was going to hurt me afraid that I thought I was a rebound and proceeded to say he regrets what he said and it won't happen again he does feel a spark and I'm really enjoying how it's going right okay so you're not honest you're chatting shit to me now. You were either chatting shit when you said you don't feel a spark or now you're chatting shit. So either way, you talk shit.

It's what we've learned. Borderline is, I'm getting really attached to Sam and I'm just afraid of getting hurt. He's genuinely everything I want in a guy and more and he's someone I don't wanna lose. Although I don't wanna rush things and we've both agreed to take things slow, I'm really hoping he finally asks me to be his girlfriend soon.

But it always, in the back of my mind, is that he's so quickly out of an engagement into a brand new relationship with me. Maybe that's where the spark comment came from. He's always reassuring me that he's over his ex and he's really enjoying where me and him are going. I'm sorry this is so long. Just so much information I wanted to get across to you. Any advice or your opinion on the situation would be massively appreciated thank you so much gorgeous

i love you right here's my suspicion i feel like you know right i don't know if anyone else has been there but you come out of a relationship a lot of the time we can dive onto the dating apps dive into the dms just go i'm fucking single let's eat this shit up yeah and before you know it you've caught feelings and you're in a whole new fucking relationship you're a whole girlfriend again right and sometimes you're a bit like jesus that was fucking quick didn't fuck around there and i know not in this situation by the way very happy in my relationship i mean when I when I've been like dating someone really quickly after a breakup I will call things off when I realize oh shit I've

actually got feelings for you now I don't want to talk to anybody else but that's not good for me right now I feel like I need to be single for a bit longer but it's kind of hard because you are a fucking nice guy but still you end things because you think right I know it's best for me I know I'm not ready for another relationship yet I know I need what's best for me. I know I'm not ready for another relationship yet. I know I need to be on my own. And I know I'm not done being single yet, because it's only been two, three months. So I feel like it could be a situation where he's come out of the relationship, and he's just been not really deep in the dating world and just having a good time. And then he's met you, who obviously you're fucking unreal. And he's got feelings for you. And maybe it is, this is me taking a total guess here.

Maybe it is a case of like, he's just come out of an engagement. Like that relationship ended. And then he's found out she's a fucking cheater. And now he's got feelings for someone really fucking quick. And he's like blinked. And he's like, whoa, fucking hell. I've basically got another girlfriend already how have i managed this and he might just think deep down that he's not ready for another relationship maybe he feels like he just needs to enjoy being single

and that doesn't mean like going out having sex or flirting and kissing maybe it just means like just having a breather and just being on his own because he's just been with someone for how many years been engaged then that didn't work and i was like oh fucking hell i've just blinked i've basically got girlfriend and sometimes that can just be a bit like oh shit but bit soon and that doesn't need to be for any reason other than just like it just feels like you you didn't have enough time on your own do you know what i'm saying does that make any sense i'm really hoping it makes sense because i know what i mean so i feel like maybe you are so incredible that he cannot possibly let you go

however part of him is a bit like oh fuck what have i got myself into here like you're just that nice and you're that good looking and you're that, you're just that great that he's probably not ready, but also you're too kind of great to risk losing and letting go of. That's just one suspicion I've got. Um, I honestly don't know what else it could be. Like what other reason you would be like oh you know i don't feel a spark and then be like oh wait no i do do you know what i mean like well which one is it darling because if you don't someone else will be snapping me up so yeah that's my personal feelings on that one um again it's difficult but i feel like maybe just have a conversation and be like i just need a bit of honesty Cause you did obviously fuck my head up quite a lot the other

day when you said you didn't feel as marked in 10 minutes later, you do. So a bit of clarity would be nice. God, I sound like someone off Love Island. Clarity. Molly, Molly. Who am I? Obviously I really like Molly. I can't do an impression of any of them this year. um i can't do an impression of any of them this year i'm normally quite like on it with the impressions i can't do um wait what does ella sound like i love ella i want ella and ty to win i think um go on and see babe no don't say babe ella yeah anyway thank you guys so much for sending in your dilemmas. I hope you found this a little bit helpful. I have no clue. But thank you for your help on one of the dilemmas, everybody. Really needed it. And yeah, I love you. Good luck, everybody who sent in your dilemmas. Keep them coming. LeahOnTheLine.com. Remember to send in your updates. We love to hear them.

And yeah, let's get into the confession diaries okay so the confession diaries do you guys remember in the last confessions confession diaries do you guys remember in the last confessions section I read out a confession that said that she cheated on her ex with her now boyfriend and then she went to confess but the guy she was with was like oh I cheated on you so then she never told him and I was confused by it I was like wait what so she sent me in the full story so I haven't read this yet so let's read this together it says hi babes I sent a confession that you were confused about on this week's episode so I thought I'd clarify for you it's a juicy story let's call my boyfriend at the time Josh so in Australia oh she's Australian maybe I should read it like this to be more authentic

no that's just annoying sorry everybody I just wish I had an Australian accent I just love the Australian accent so much I actually love it all right we have this big graduation holiday called schoolies okay fun typically you go with your friend group from school and so I went with the girls and Josh wasn't present so Josh had BF at the time not at schoolies right while I was on the week-long holiday a guy who I'd always had a bit of a crush on and who I was also friends with told me he was also on holiday with his friends about five minutes away from me let's call him Matt keep in mind me and Matt had a thing for about six months during COVID lockdown before I

got with Josh but never met him in person and I never really got over him so me and Matt hung out with each other in a group and decided to smoke a bit of oh oh I don't think I should talk about this you know what I started to feel really sick so me and matt sat in the car together not driving don't worry i should bloody hope not and he was letting me rest my head on him and was being really sweet it was at that moment i realized i still had feelings for him but i pushed that feeling deep down because i didn't want to disrespect josh i mean i'm not being funny if that was my boyfriend in the car with a girl I'd fucking I'd end it. After three nights of hanging out and getting flirty he told me he still has feelings for me. Yeah that's the thing this isn't just any guy okay you guys had a

thing. I immediately knew I needed to break up with Josh and vowed to do it the next day when I got back from holiday as I didn't want to be with Josh whilst having feelings for Matt. However, in a moment of very intense conversation with Matt, we kissed. There was no sex. I'd also had surgery on my vat the day before the holiday, so sex wasn't even an option. Oh my God. We just kissed. That night, I called Josh and told him him but if he didn't have the surgery

would you have had sex that is the question but anyway that night i called josh and told him that we need to talk the second i get back oh my god can you imagine your partner calling you while they're in holland again look when i get back we need to talk i'd be sick i'd like just say it just fucking say it well well okay the second i get back but he pressured me into telling him what was up yeah i don't blame him to be honest when i told him that i still have feelings for matt oh my god he knew who matt was because i would talk to him regularly and josh always saw our conversations this This is crazy, okay? If I was chatting to a guy I used to be seeing in a relationship, I wouldn't consider that acceptable, to be honest.

But, you know, it doesn't matter now because I'm assuming you're now with Matt. So, fuck it. Josh then went on to tell me it's okay because he went on a date while I was away. So it doesn't matter if I still have feelings for someone else. Look, in that moment, I saw red because he sounded so carefree about it. And he admitted that he wouldn't have told me unless we had that conversation. Holy shit. Okay. Well, I am glad that you and Josh have ended because, you know, you've, you've hurt each other. Wasn't meant to be. I was honestly going to confess

everything to him when I got back, but instead I broke it off with him that night. Well, we kind of, we kind of saved you a favor there really. I mean, did you a favor? Um, me and Matt have now been together for almost two years and he's the absolute love of my life the most amazing guy anyone could ever ask for and i'm truly so so so lucky to have him he's my best friend and although i regret how it happened i'm glad it did of course anyways i love you so so much bye oh i love you i mean i'm so happy it's a good happy ending it's just that's a crazy story and you're right it is juicy've thoroughly enjoyed. Thank you for sending it in. But yeah, I mean, you and Josh were not right for each other, both cheating on each other. Do you know what I mean? Now you're with Matt, man of your dreams, the guy you always wanted. It's a stunning love story, even though it is a bit fucked.

So I'm over the moon. Love you. All right, Next confession. Okay. I heard the dilemma about a boyfriend wanting to join a swingers club and I have a related confession. I was with my ex three and a half years and over two years and sorry, over two years in, he confessed me that he fantasized about me with other boys and got off on other guys wanting to have sex with me. I had no interaction. So what? I had no intention of acting on this fantasy. But gradually I agreed and it started with online chatting and ended with me meeting up with guys from a swinger site and sending pics to my boyfriend. However, I started to get feelings for one of the new guys. He was really hot and studying at a local uni. We ended

up having an emotional affair as my boyfriend knew about the sex but he was really hot and studying at a local uni we ended up having an emotional affair as my boyfriend knew about the sex but he didn't know we were forming a connection safe to say i ended it with my boyfriend and saw this guy for about a year after moral of the story is don't get pressured into doing things you don't want i quickly realized i can't do meaningless sex and i regret doing anything just to please a man love you love you I mean proud of you to be honest for standing around and saying do you know what I don't want to fucking do this I don't know why I'm even fucking doing it for you so yeah love you well done for sticking up for yourself in the end I'm sorry that you ended up doing it just out of pressure

that's really fucking shit and not acceptable from your boyfriend at the time but i'm happy i'm happy for where you are now it's it's crazy that's a good story thank you for sharing i love you hey grillie i love the podcast and you so much i love you so much not much of a confession but the most mortifying story from this weekend i went to a house party with my boyfriend oh my god, I miss that days of house parties. They don't happen around me anymore. They were the best days. And you know what's funny? I remember going like being in my house party era, like at that age, and people my age now would say like, oh, I remember house parties, the good old days. And I'd be like, okay, just because you're old and boring do you know what I mean and now I'm that I am her so it was his friends who I get along with so well so I was really looking

forward to it I was going to go to the nail shop on Friday but work was so busy I just didn't have the time my nails were looking so minging so I decided to just get some from Primark to just stick on and do a job for Saturday night good as new or so I thought got to the party all nails intact got to about 10 p.m and realized I'd lost one I don't know how people manage to keep stick on nails on I will put them on as soon as I start putting the fucking box away it breaks but you know they do look pretty slow it off pinged off without me realizing and I just thought fuck it who cares yeah absolutely who cares it got to about half 11 and the girls whose house it was declared as loud as possible there's a fucking fingernail in my drink she'd complimented

me earlier on my nails so as she was fishing my nail out of her body coke i knew she would know it was mine and of course she fucking did. I was so embarrassed. That is so funny. Like, it's obviously pinged, right? It's actually gone ping. How? I'd love to watch that in slow motion.

The way it lands in her drink and she like lifts it up to her mouth. That is so fucking crazy. Of all places. Of all places. And also of all people. The one person that has looked closely at your nails and gone wow i love your nails yeah hopefully they taste nice let's just say i'm lucky she was drinking through a straw because she would have choked on my fingernail love that for me sending

so sending much love from a mortified girly oh it's a funny story but yeah i can imagine it's embarrassing oh i love you of all people as well fucking hell okay next one i'm getting married today and no one knows i don't know if it's giving romantic or if it's giving rebel i kind of love it though oh crazy oh my god congratulations though happy wedding day my boyfriend broke up with his ex of six years for me the same day we got together fucking hell six years can you imagine someone ended your relationship after six years and had a whole new girlfriend the same day within 24 hours that would hurt that would really hurt how long have you guys been together i'd love to know that okay let's do one more oh christ okay i've had a crush for probably six or

seven years on and off now he's way out of my league and now he has a girlfriend of only two weeks on saturday just gone he was flirting with me all night i kissed him bad i know but it was a rare opportunity lol and i've got him out my system now i mean i'm glad it's out your system but poor girl i mean he's a prick for doing that but oh god guys can we just make like a pact as as besties as women guys to whoever's listening whoever you are can we just make a pact to never go near someone in a relationship oh great confessions today guys thank you so much for sending them in love you appreciate you let's wrap up the episode okay everyone thank you so much for coming all the way to the end of this episode thank you for listening if you're still listening now i love you we're truly truly best friends

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