Leave A Message with Ally & G - 41 - Wedding +1's, Rude Boyfriends and... WICKED!

Episode Date: December 11, 2024

Popular... we'll help you be popular! Well, maybe not Popular, but Ally & G are helping you navigate snobby partners and stalking exes... so that's got to count for something?! On this week's episode of Leave A Message, Ally & G are tackling the dilemma of being a +1 at a wedding... and what to do when you're maybe just incompatible? And: Do you have a rude boyfriend? Well, add him to the list, because we're tackling one of them on this weeks episode! We also have your honest, practical advice on how to stop stalking your ex! Plus... what really happened at the Wicked premiere? Ally & G are filling you in on their experience! Want to be a part of the group chat and featured on the pod? Send your voice note to https://wa.me/message/LLWFXNK4YXMHE1 (and please, don’t leave out ANY of the juicy details). NOTICE: Any advice provided in this podcast does not, and is not intended to, constitute professional advice or guidance; all information, content and materials presented are for entertainment purposes only. Any injury, damage or loss that may result from the consumption of this podcast is at the sole responsibility and risk of the listener. Follow Ally & G Instagram: @allyandg TikTok: @allyandg YouTube: @allyandg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to Girls in Low Places, the British country music podcast that your mum would not listen to. On Girls in Low Places, we discuss everything country music causes, whilst causing country chaos backstage at every UK country music gig. I truly believe I can reach Morgan Wallen and get him to go on a date with me eventually. Well, saddle up! And come and be a girl in a low place with us on Girls in Low Places. Yeah! I had a mango, a dried mango. Good, babe, that was good for the gut.

And I had a banana. Guys, why is eating a banana in public so dodgy? It is. When I was like deep-throating it, if it's girthy... I don't understand how people can just raw dog bananas actually. I find it really strange. What do you do to it? Caramelise?

Like I would never eat like just a plain banana ever. It's just not... How would you eat a banana then? Like... Like you'd have it on top of yogurt? Like on toast even. Oh yeah, delicious. I would never ever just eat a banana. I was just sat like necking my banana thinking this is a bit inappropriate actually.

It just gets like stuck in your throat. No babe. And like it's dry and like I like them like really almost like overripe. Eww. Mushy. Yeah. You like it mushy. Got so so much to tell you actually I literally don't know where to start We haven't been here for a while. So did we have last week off? Yeah funds. Yeah little rest was it guys? Should we talk about the fact that whiz radio massive was all This morning the whiz radio coffee tea a coffee with Ariana coffee. We said hi to Amber Did you see the post this morning? The Wiz Radio? Tear Coffee.

Tear Coffee with Ariana. Tear Coffee. We said hi to Amber. We said we've got a mutual friend, Amber James Gilmore. She was like, oh, and Poppy, obviously. We didn't really get the chance. She was caught up in Ariana Grande's dress. We didn't really get the chance to say hi.

Yeah, we couldn't interrupt that moment. Kiara. Kiara King. Yeah, the gang gang was all there. Love that for Wiz. Represent. Yeah, Wiz Radio represents. I actually feel a bit bewildered from the Wicked premiere.

For so many different reasons. One that we were there. No, looking at like, I actually had a moment of emotion in the shower because I was like, that shit is like, you know, tell us two years ago we'd be there. That would be like in your wildest dreams. Yeah. And then the celeb spotting was wild. We sat next to Beverly Knight. Beverly Knight! Honestly, everywhere you looked. Alan Carr, Amanda Holden, Nicola Roberts, Kimberly Walsh.

Oh my God. I mean, honestly, you... Celeb drip drip. Even if they didn't play the film, you could have a fun day out. Because all you do is just sit and watch people. I cannot wait to actually... The film was so epic and everything I wanted it to be, and now I can't wait to go and watch it in my pyjamas.

This is the mad thing about me is people forget. Like, you fully get dressed up to the nines, and you sit in a cinema and you watch a full length feature film. Also my dress was so tight, I had such a sweaty crotch. Me and my crotch are not getting on at the moment. No, that zippo under my armpit, I honestly thought it was going to burst a vein. It was hurting. I had to take my cuffs off because my huge biceps were just like bulging out.

Guys, there's this picture of that. Guys, I look like an Olympic weightlifter. Wait, I'm going to show you if you're watching this. There's this picture that someone obviously took from this picture of that. Guys, I look like an Olympic weightlifter weight. I'm going to show you if you're watching this. There's this picture that someone obviously took from the back of us. Hanny took it of me, Hanny. I'm going to sack you. Just FYI. Fucking snake. I honestly look...

You are doing a bodybuilding program. Baby got back. I literally look like I could lift like a 160 kilogram man. That's so impressive. Can we get back to Richard so we can put it in the arm? Yeah, I'll send it to Rich. To be fair, you are doing a bodybuilding program. I'm lifting heavy at the moment, yeah.

I'm peeing all over the place. I didn't expect to look like the Hulk from behind. Like, it's not actually what I signed up for when I started lifting heavy again. I wasn't like, oh, shall I become the Green Hulk? That's what happens, babe. That is what happens when you lift heavy. I took a picture of another one because I've baby got calf. My calf's fucking popping.

How would you have seen your calves? Well, next to yours fucking hell, it wasn't hard, look. Oh yeah. Anyway, the gym's working clearly. I look like I'm on roids in that picture, it's wild. I look like I'm eating chicken breast on roids. Creatine for dinner, baby. I look like a gym bro.

But we just want to say thank you so much to Sky, because honestly... Also, even that sentence, thank you Sky, can you imagine? Dead, like just dead on the floor. We're just so overwhelmed. The Sky Cinema Girls are lucky girls. That job is so fun. I know. They do all the cinema releases. Like that, what a job.

They just did Day of the Jackal as well, which if you haven't watched it, you have to watch. With Eddie Redmayne. It is, and Lashana Lynch, unreal. What's it about? It's about like, he's a hitman, but he's an assassin. But he's like a really cool swanky hitman in his back. But like, as in like he's got a family and he's like a normal man, but he just goes and kills people.

He's an assassin. And Lashana Lynch works for NY6. It's really, really good. Epic. Anyway, yeah, that's our goss really, guys. That's why today we're a bit like delirious because we've just had a crazy day. When you look back, like you don't realise how many people are actually there.

Like, how many people do you think that theatre seated? Two thousand? Yeah, easy. Two thousand? Oh, easy, easy. Oh, we can actually look. Also, babe. Maybe not quite two thousand, that shit's all capacity.

Was that Royal Festival Hall? It was at Royal Festival Hall. It could take you 20 minutes to walk up the whole carpet. Like it's absolutely, fans at every stage. 2,700 is the capacity. And it was full, not a single seat empty. Wow. It was mad.

It was great though. What are we calling the galleys this week? We best call them Gurlinder. Gurlinder. Gurlinder. And then next week will they be Elphaba. Oh, we might be over it by then. I want to call my, although sorry,

I want to call my dog Elphie now. I think that's a really cute name. Yeah, Elphie's a really cute name. But like E-L-F-I-E rather than P-H. Yeah, yeah, F. Like an actual elf. Elf. It's nearly Christmas, guys.

It really is. And Raw was having a go at me about the tree, but I am going to get it next week. I think it's... Holly won't let me, but I'm just going to do it. Well, what's she going to do? Tear it down. Wim Lard, what are you going to do?

Take it out? You know what I mean. Will you do a quick intro? Is it my turn?, but I'm just going to do it. Well, what's she going to do? Tear it down? What are you going to do, take it out? You know what I mean. Will you do a quick intro? Is it my turn? I can't remember. I can do it. Sorry, we got really waylaid by the wicked excitement there.

This is Leave A Message. We love you actually so much. We're feeling so unbelievably grateful for the galleys at the moment. Side note, whenever we, like, I cannot tell you how much, like, we actually love you. I'm obsessed with you guys, okay? You guys are such, like, legends.

I want to be friends with every single person we meet I want to be friends with. You're the most loyal gang gang on the planet. Yeah, you're a gang, like, I know I can go anywhere even with my back looking like Arnold Schwarzenegger. You're all going to be there, just like... No, but also, people comment on it all the time about how loyal our galleys are. I'm actually not joking. We've had multiple people in the industry on other content creators. They say that they've noticed how great the gang gang is, so we just want to say we're grateful. And if you are sending in your voice notes, also we keep bumping into people that are like,

I should send a voice note. Don't be scared. Send the voice note. It's a safe space. Rihanna's a safe pair of hands. And we want to hear from you because we love you so much. And don't ever feel embarrassed, guys. The one good thing about this podcast is that someone's always got it worse than you, I would say. Yeah, and normally one of us, sadly. And this week, the galleys are called Galinda. You've got to say Galinda.

Yeah, Richard. You must say Galinda. You've got to say Gurlinder. Yeah, Richard. You must say Gurlinder. Hey girls, I decided to leave a message. About two years ago, I want to say, I was still in uni. I was, you know, hinge, tender, meeting people, doing the thing, having a great time.

And I'm meeting this one guy and we really, really hit it off. And we ended up seeing each other. And about six, seven months in, we hadn't had the exclusive girlfriend boyfriend chat yet, but he asked me to be a plus fund to his cousin's wedding in Edinburgh and for context I'm in Belfast so that's like a flight away so I was like like, that's quite substantial. One, a family wedding and two, one that I had to get on a plane for. So I think I'm quite okay to assume that we're solid. So I was fun in my outfits and he was getting ties and stuff to match the color of my dress and all. Like it was all very cute. And a month later, we had been on a date night, you know, bottle of red wine, things were happening, we did the thing,

it was lovely. We were lying in bed and he ended up getting a FaceTime and I was like, he'll hardly answer that. He did. So I was like, right, okay, it was a girl and she goes, hey, Bea, how are you? And he replies with, I'm good Bea, thanks, how are you? And I was like, what the fuck? But I was so stunned that I couldn't actually say anything in the moment. So I'm just lying there in shock and they're having a full on conversation about how both of their days were, how he was so excited to see her soon, that she couldn't wait to come home. I was like interesting, this is wow. He then hangs up the phone, puts it down and then cuddles

into me again and I was like, what the fuck was that? He was like, what do you mean? I was like, who was that? He was like, oh, that's my actual girlfriend. And I was like, what do you mean actual? And he was like, yeah, that's such and such. And I was like, cool. Well, I think I'm going to go. And he was like, no, no, like, it's not like that. I was like, I think it is. So I left. And he then tried to be like, oh, I never meant to make you feel like that. Blah, blah, blah. Ended up blocking him. And then I seen the two of them out and I was like, right, interesting. So he had a whole proper girlfriend, apparently, the whole time we were together. So I just ended up blocking him. But I seen him like

two weeks ago and he's now bald. So I guess ended up blocking him. But I seen him like two weeks ago and he's not bald. So I guess a win is a win. Oh my God. Sorry, because I was going to say. I'm so confused. Like how? How has he got away with that? Also, I was going to say, is it like girlfriend or like a girlfriend? I was going to say, are they in an open relationship? Because that is just, that is bizarre.

Yeah, because he's answered the phone whilst he's post-coital with another woman. So they must be in an open relationship. Surely. She's not in the loop, our Belfast girly. What the hell? Do you know what I will say, and this is a lesson for everyone listening, it's not what you're doing and focusing, girls, you cannot assume anything.

A plane ticket means nothing, a wedding means nothing, until it's written in blood and diamonds. You can't assume anything. A plane ticket means nothing. A wedding means nothing. Until it's written in blood and diamonds, you can't assume anything. They didn't have the conversation. And actually, and I know that's the norm these days. Well, also, from experience, you feel safe. To not have the conversation. You can do whatever you want when you haven't had the conversation. Precisely.

You can get away with anything. You've got to have the conversation. Yeah. And don't, you know, put your big girl... I'm not talking about to Galinda, I'm talking in general. Yeah, Galinda, you were done dirty there because that's fucked. Put your big girl pants on and ask the question, are you seeing anyone else? Because maybe if she'd asked that earlier, she might have known him.

You might have been able to avoid the fucking cost of a plane ticket at least. Because he also might have been like, yeah, I've got a girlfriend. Like, he might have thought where he's from, that's normal. I don't know. No, but that is not normal to like ask someone to come as your plus one and be picking matching ties. That's such a boyfriend thing to do. I mean, I wouldn't even do that with my own boyfriend.

Do you know what I mean? Hell, yes, sister. You don't want people thinking he's with you. She's not wrong. Me and Ror are so cassey at the moment. It's so funny. What did I say to him the other day? Because basically we got gaso tickets and we were looking at the glam thing. There's this like little deck, like chairs like this with a little table and she was like, oh,

that'll be me and you sitting outside having a beer. And he was like, over my dead body. He's just fully hating it. It's jokes. I thought I actually really enjoy it. Oh, it's so, it's too good. Sorry. This is actually crazy. And I'm so sorry you had to go through that, but I think the lesson that we all

need to take away is like, communication is key. And at least if you'd have had that conversation, you could say, that's fucked. I mean, the fact that you just had sex with him and he picked up that phone call, I actually think phone activity post sex is a big no-no for me. I totally agree. You've just had your head between my legs. You're then going to check your texts.

Totally. Even if it's your mum texting about what's for dinner tomorrow night, it can wait. This bubble that we're in right now now where I'm disconnected from the outside world because I've just had an orgasm, I don't need you popping it. Or not had an orgasm. How long are we supposed to wait? Until we reach for the phone.

Until we reach for the phone. Okay, these days... Morning. No, no, for me. Morning! No, babe, not now. Morning? As in you had sex at night and you don't picture your phone?

It's bedtime! That is fucking me. It's bedtime! Fuck, that is the biggest news because I've had a text from her. She's so full of shit. Ah, the text was so good, five minutes later. Listen, no, okay, how long? Real talk then.

Okay, real talk. It needs to be... Once you've got up to have a wash. Yes. And done all the bits and kind of burst the bubble, then you can go on your phone. Yes. I mean, for me these days, that's a two or three minute turnaround. No, no, I want like a good 30 minutes. Yeah, exactly.

And then you can go on your phone. Yeah. But like you can't scroll on your phone. No, no, but you can like check it. You can have a little check and set an alarm, but if you start going on Instagram or like match of the fucking day, I'm going to have problems. No, you can't be scrolling, but I think that's like a general dating rule anyway.

Do you agree? Really? Yeah. I went home with a guy. Unless you like go for a wee in the loo and you take your phone with you, obviously then you can do what you want, you know, it's a free country. But other than that. This is bad, but I went home with a guy

and he didn't want to miss his Duolingo streak. So before we fucked, he did Duolingo. And I was just in bed waiting to be serviced. I think we... Did you see Jack Remainer's... No. What did he say? He was like at Coachella, like literally like side of stage,

doing Duolingo like that. No! Like this. What is wrong with everyone? Because his streak was like 2000 days. No, no, no, but... And he was like, this fucking owl has more power over me. The owl is powerful.

I'm there like naked doing a dance trying to get attention. Did he speak to the foe? Yeah, he spoke out loud. It was Dutch. It wasn't even like a cool language. Is this the ghost? No. Does it work? I think do you look like no definition.

He sounded good, but he didn't necessarily turn me on. I mean, I got there eventually. Okay, apart from the sexuality of it, can he actually speak Dutch? Like how long is his Duolingo streak? It was quite a long streak, hence why he didn't want to break it. But can he now speak Dutch? Because I just think it's... I don't think he's quite fluent yet, no, from what I could hear.

I don't speak it, but it didn't sound turn out then. You can't hear it. Anyway, Gelinda, I'm really sorry and just basically lesson for the future is you've got to... Don't ask, don't get, really. Also, six to seven months, sorry, we'll wrap this up. Six to seven months is too long to be in limbo. The fact that you're still dating him after seven months,

you can't assume, you've got to say, I hope you're not shagging anyone else. Agree. Can I just say something? Yes, you can. My friend, this year, she said to me that she was going to be really intentional about dating. Yeah.

And as of 24 hours ago, she confirmed that she may have found the man. And the way she described him to me was so like exactly how you'd expect a relationship to happen. And then I realized how different that is from all of my experience. And then it made you realize that you want to be more intentional. 100%. But my point is, the way he has affirmed her and been intentional and has told her that I'm going to make you...

We're going to do XYZ together because these are my intentions for the future. So we're doing things like it's very forward thinking. And if you're not getting that from a person, I just don't think. Yeah, they're being non-committal. Yeah. He's ignoring, he's enjoying the fact, like I say, he's enjoying the fact that you haven't had the conversation. He's using that to his advantage.

Yes. You're right. Like if someone wants to be with you, I think they will communicate as such. And it's okay if they're not communicating. It's got nothing to do with you. It's about them. Yeah. Oh yeah.

But if you're not happy with to fuck with that, basically, It's got nothing to do with you. It's about them. Yeah. Oh, yeah. But if you're not happy to fuck with that, basically, then you have to do the person to take the stand. You have got to expect. I would expect that every single person I'm dating currently is shagging other people because I have not had that conversation with them. Yeah. I would expect that. Yeah.

And I wouldn't be surprised or sad if they were on another date because I would expect it. Great. on another date, because I would expect it. Great. Welcome to Girls in Low Places, the British country music podcast that your mum would not listen to. On Girls in Low Places,

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Yee-haw! ["Girls in Low Places"] Before we continue with this week's episode of Leave A Message. If you want to be part of our group chat, make sure you leave us a voice note using all the details in the episode description. Now this can be about anything. Obviously, sometimes we ask you for specific topics. But if you've got a story that you think girls need to hear this, then get voice noting. Okay, number two.

Hey guys, I just wanted to leave you a message because I'm in a bit of a quandary. So I've just started seeing this guy and he met my friends a few weeks ago and on first impression he was really nice. And then my friend is a journalist and was writing an article on something that he had been involved in, like nothing bad, just like questions about stuff. And they met up one-on-one and he was really quite like rude to her and hostile. So now she's not on the best of terms with him. She is quite skeptical about his morals and his sort of general like ideological outlook on life. Basically, he was quite rude about state schools and the ideologies behind them, which seems like quite a red flag. But then he's been nothing but nice to me.

How much should I take this into account? Obviously, I love my friend. She's here right now. Woo! What are your thoughts? Have you ever been with someone that your best friend doesn't really like at all? Yes. Yes, I have.

She is the queen of this. I will defer to. I should get Holly on the blower because I wasn't there for this, but Colleen and I went on a ski trip with Faye, her partner, his brother and Holes, it was six of us. What a weird group, actually. Such a weird group. But fun. Yeah. Well, to my knowledge, it was fun. I was learning to ski, falling off mountains, so I wasn't really focusing on the group dynamics. But apparently, one day, Faye and Holes were on a ski lift together, and Faye literally turned to Holes.

I'm paraphrasing, and Faye can, you know, you can voice note him babe if this is wrong. Right to reply, Faye, don't worry about it. You've got a right to reply. But I'm pretty sure Faye basically said to Holes, like, he's not the one, I really can't stand him and I hate that she's with him. And Holes was, and I think this is what Holes said, I don't know, like, I can't remember exactly but she was basically like, I know but I think you've just got to let her figure

it out for herself. And I think that's kind of... I know, but I think you've just got to let her figure it out for herself. And I think that's kind of... I don't agree. Do you not? No. What you think if your friend doesn't like your best friend, you should just leave him? No, not that basic. It depends how willing the friend is, your friend is to like take your opinion into consideration. If you know your friend is going to do whatever the hell

she wants anyway, to avoid falling out over it, because that is the most likely scenario, is that you say, like, I don't like him, I think he's snobby in this instance, and she goes, you don't know him, la, la, la, la, la, then like, is it worth it? But if they sound like... You've got great dynamic, girls, so you feel like you can have the conversation and she can think he's a snob but still like how he treats you. Exactly. Maybe. And those are two different things.

Exactly. So like, I think it's very case dependent on like, it might be different if you thought like, I think he's a really nasty person. I don't like the way he speaks to you. It's different to like, I think he's snobby. They're different. Or if you found out, like if she was a journalist, she found out some real tea, like he was like human trafficking or something crazy. That would be bad. Sorry.

I don't know why I went human trafficking. I just thought that would be a lie. I don't know why I was going to go for tax evasion. Sure. Let's go for tax evasion. I don't know. I just think, do you remember when Paul Brunson was talking about our favourite man, the Messiah? Oh my God, he's just had Karen Gurney on, everyone needs to listen.

Was talking about how arranged marriages have some of the highest success rates because the people have actually been vested by friends and family. And often when we're in love and we're like, you know, like we've got our blinkers on and we're looking in the rose tinted glasses, we can't see the reality. And the people that love you the we can't see the reality. And the people that love you the most can do that for you. Also it's such a bummer when you've met someone and you think, oh my god, I really like them. This is it. And especially when you're like, because I think that often happens with the

wrong person when you're really looking for something. So you really want to be with someone, right? And then you meet someone. So you kind of accept a few things. You didn't even hear one of his snobby comments comments but he's probably made them to you too you didn't even notice then your mate meets him and brings up all of that stuff that you've been ignoring or blind to and you're like oh really I liked him I wanted to be with them and you ruined it for me. I think like it's really important like for close friends I really think it's important to like say it in a way that is not, like, judgmental or mean,

but, like, coming from a place of, like, I don't love it when he says that, do you? Well, also, it's funny, isn't it? Because I feel like when, if I was to think about myself at, like, 15, dreaming of my life in my 20s, we'd all be best mates. I would love your, like, our boyfriends would hang out together and la la la. Like that might not be the reality. And it's just being able to look at that in the face and be like, babe, if you want to pick him every day, that's good. But just so you know, I'm not going to get stuck in a corner with a part in a pub with him. And we're not going to do Sunday dinner every week. And we're not going to go on holidays

together. Just so you know. And then you're kind of, you are being forced a little bit to pick. The thing is, it's like as well, if it's things like snobby, he smells, I find him jarring. Yeah, or boring, I've had a lot of that. It's different too, I think he treats you like shit. That's something that like you, that's like non-negotiable, you have to tell her. But if it's stuff like that, that's just personal preference, same as you would with a friend, you kind of have to do that. And sadly put your friend in the position. Yeah.

But if he is snobby and you're not a snob, then it might end up becoming an issue. I kind of have one of those situations. You can't stand it though, can you? Let's call him Chris. Good. I can't stand him. I can't stand it though, can you? Let's call him Chris. Good. I can't stand him. I can't stand to be in the same room as him, but him and...

Because he's such a snob. Him and Porry Piot. Our mates. Really good mates. Good, good, good mates. It's really... That's annoying, isn't it? Isn't it bad as well because...

But the thing, God... Well, it makes you... Like, it always makes me... I think, well, you on crack. Exactly. It makes me go, Porry, you're better than that. Do better. Do... Right. You, you on crack? Exactly, it makes me go, Pory, you're better than that. Do better. Do, right.

You, you, but then Paul's seen different parts of him. Exactly, and it's not for me to choose who his friends are. It was hilarious, we were doing this thing yesterday with Pory Piot forcing him to pick his top five friends. Because he's just got mates everywhere and we were like, they're not your friends. Walking down the high street, oh, bumping into his mates. Every single time we talk about someone, yeah, one of my best mates, one of my best mates. You can't have that many best mates, Paul.

Yeah, I have that many best mates. Fucking thousands. Then we asked him to rate his top five, and this snobby Chris was in it. I was fuming. I was fuming. But then this is the thing, I've just now decided, like you can decide, I will not go.

Like if they have a party for like birthday whatever I just won't go it's fine. He's going to be in the groom's party. Yeah. She was that's why she was trying to get him out of the top five. And I'm praying to God this busy. Yeah, we'll just have to hack his diary. So like they you know he has a baby or something.

Yeah, ideally like you know plan on the same. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Same time. But the point is, it's not for me to tell him you can't be friends because it's his friend. I'm just saying I will not be there. So if you want to go, go and have the best time. I'm just not coming with you.

If you want to date a snob, hun, fine, but I won't be hanging out with the two of you and I'll just see you alone for girls' dinner. Exactly. That's fine. If you don't mind dating a snob, you don't mind dating a snob. I don't make it a secret that I don't like this person. So like, don't worry. Do you know what I mean? Like that's what I would say. Don't be fake. Don't say, oh yeah, I really like him.

No, no, no. I have a question. Please. So if G and War had met and War didn't like G. Yeah. Oh, you don't know what he says about her behind closed doors. I can fucking imagine, especially at the moment, he's saying it to my face. Do you think your friendship would have gotten as far as it has? It would have been way more difficult.

Do you think it still would have happened? Well, us. Yeah, because the actual... Well, also, you make time. I don't think it's about depth of friendship. I don't think it limits the friendship. I. I don't think it limits the friendship. I think what it does is it makes it harder. So, you would have to split your time more.

Whereas now on a Sunday, if you need to spend the afternoon with Raoul, but we also would hang out, we would just all be together. Whereas if we didn't get on, that becomes hard. Exactly. Your life has much more friction, but I don't think it would have stopped us, no. Either way. For example, I had a lot of friends that didn't like my ex, but Hol's actually got him. I think because she was the only person that would see him all the time.

So we could hang out. And that was a lifesaver. It made my life so much easier. Whereas with other friends or other groups, like I would never cross pollinate, really. And then it just, it just creates choice. But if you don't mind choice in your life, varieties of spice alive, then just keep all your eggs in different baskets.

It's a different, like it's difficult. It's more difficult. Yeah, it's definitely not easy to have a partner that your friends don't like. No. That's not like, that's not something people dream of. But also don't pick a partner for your friends It's a fine line that is because like what I like you won't 100% I don't know. I just think like if you're basic good level human and you can have a gag

I probably will like this thing is like it's not that difficult unless you're like into it if you're really into Marmite Yeah, or like if you're kind of into my you know what I what I mean? Like there are some quite a lot of nobs out there who just love themselves so much. I know, I love them. Yeah. No babe, that's not true. In your highest elevated self, that's not true. I'm really trying to figure out what I like at the moment. The one that goes to you, he's a good example of someone I probably, I don't know, maybe

I was... There's actually been an advancement. You're going to die. Are you going to tell me now? I'm going to tell you on TikTok. Okay, yeah, tell me on TikTok. No, tell me on TikTok. You on TikTok, girls. Uh, Glinda number three?

Yeah. Glinda number three. Hi girls. I thought I would leave a little voice note on here for you to help me out with my dilemma, bit of a backstory. I've been with my boyfriend for three and a half years now and I cannot stop stalking his ex-girlfriend. I stalk on every single social media platform and it's got to the point where it's at least

once every two weeks. I think it's actually an issue and it's giving psychopaths. So I need to know whether this is a common thing with girls or is it just me being a weirdo? Thanks Sorry, if you got up my tik tok search right now, you'd see a name that I wouldn't want to be read out My ex's new girlfriend. Yeah. Yeah I'm not proud. Was there anything good on there? No, she still hasn't posted since the New York Reel, which I like to watch occasionally just to self-harm. No Chris Ableton activity.

Nothing for Chris Stapleton. Okay. Has she got a following? No. She's just a loser. Also, helicopters are so lame anyway. She's just a lot younger than me. It's so jarring.

And he's a lot older, which is even more jarring. He's picked like a, you know, fucking... Child bride. Basically, yeah. Sure. But babe, no, you're not alone is what I would say. I've been there too. Yeah, of course.

Thanks goodness me, I was fucking four and a half years deep, babe still stalking the exes. You wear off. It wears off and also, you do have to be a little bit strict with yourself. Right, I've got some tips, right? Go on. Because I, guys, I used to be... Ali's like, psycho yourself. I've got some tips, right? Go on. Because, guys, I used to be... Ali's like a psycho girl. I'm sure that's not a shock to anyone.

Not anymore. Do you not think? Not anymore. No, not in comparison. But in the first three, four, five years... No, no, I was. I know I was. No, but it's so funny because it's like three, four, five years.

In the last year, I've stopped. No, since we've lived together, I think I've gotten less weird. But in the beginning, I was high, like 10 out of 10 prime. What was X is like? This is the thing, if you ask me that question, I'm going to be mean. I go to mean and I'm like, actually, what does that do for you? Okay, but exactly. So we've got to get deep. Yeah, being mean does run up. Like, actually, what does that do for you, babe? Exactly. So we've got to get deep. Yeah.

Being mean? Yeah, being mean does, Rihanna. It does. Of course it does. But like, I also... You two encouraging each other. No, no, I agree. Babe, listen, I'm the queen of mean. Queen of mean.

I think I could out mean you. No way. I promise you I think I could. Babe, you haven't got... I actually think, I back Rihanna here. I think she's more ruthless than you. You're a fucking softie when you get down to it. I'm a hardcore bitch.

No, are you fuck? You're so soft. If I was faced with that girl, babe. My one question to everyone is, because I'm looking at the next girlfriend, I understand where my jealousy is coming from. You're looking backwards, he's not with her anymore. But it's like that classic comparison.

It's Jolene, it's comparison. It's the same thing. Looking forwards, looking backwards, they're all other But it's like that classic comparison. It's Jolene, it's comparison. It's the same thing. Looking forwards, looking backwards. They're all other people that you share that person with. I think, right, I used to do it. But he has now picked you. I know the baby. I'm looking at the other choice.

Listen, I've got layers of trust issues. So he's picked me today, but he might not pick me tomorrow. He might go back. Yeah, I'm over that now finally. It only took me eight years. He's going to pee pee anyway. He's got pee pee on his bench. He's got pee pee on the bench.

Yeah, pee pee on speed dial. Fuckin hell. Parry Peevis on speed dial. Parry Peevis is on. Guys, if you can understand the code, Parry Pivis, we did some content with, and fuck me, Raw's never watched our content so much. Shut up about ParryPivis. If I was with ParryPivis, I'd be getting a chicken

pie and a blowee. What a combination. Sorry. No wonder you've got trust issues. He says it's banter, but he means it. I know he does. That is so good. Our biggest follower now. Anyway, you must, right, here's my actual tip.

Yes, sorry, back to serious, because it's not good, babe. Right, you've got to hide the mute and block them, restrict them, like restrict. Get rid, babe, you don't need to see. And do it in a moment of clarity. And then, like right now, babe, do it now. And then kind of like almost make it impossible for yourself to go and undo it. Number two, when you see it, when you find yourself going there, check yourself before you wreck yourself, babe.

Maybe I used to have it where like I would, I can't remember what it was, but like it was money related. So like every time I did it, I would like have to put a pound, it was like- Oh good, like punishment. I like it. Kind of, yeah, like penalty. It's like a penalty for me. But you can buy yourself punishment, I like it. Yeah, like penalty. It's like a penalty for her.

But you can buy yourself a new coat with it. Would you rather stalk her or buy a coffee, for example? Or pay a pound into your penalty pod. Something like that. Like actual penalties because it's so easy to just sit in your bed and rot and stalk her for three. It is, and we've all done it. Also, comparison is the thief of joy. So then you go down the rabbit hole.

Or you don't want to see it. The mum's aunts. Pictures of last Christmas. I know. I think every now and then a little check up with some of the exes and their new life or their... It's fine. I think whatever.

Don't worry about it. If you want to see their new baby, have a little look and then go out with them. But I think if it's incessant... I agree. Once every two weeks is quite a lot. It's too much, babe. It's too much. Love you, but it's too much. Restrict yourself to like a binge, like once every six weeks and like save it all. Oh, you get really dirty in there.

Thing is, you come out of it and you're like, oh, I feel rubbish now. I don't know why I did that. It is. I'll never forget when I was sat on the loo having a number two and my ex, Colin, was downstairs. And he accidentally, we joined each other's iCloud family. This is horrendous. Because I needed the terabytes for storage and he had it.

That was one of the really sad things I lost in the breakup. Maybe in future, don't do that, babe. I think you can afford £4.99. I couldn't at the time, though. I was so skinned at the time. We weren't famous then, babe. True. I was on my knees. I was on my knees working in the spin studio.

I was scrapping for every penny I could find. I was with him for money. I was on my knees. I was on my knees working in the space studio. I was scrapping for every penny I could find. I was with him for money. I was groveling. I'm joking, I wasn't with him for money. Anyway, I was on the toilet, he was downstairs, shared it, and once he shared it, all of his albums and photos shared and linked with mine, and what pops up is a little memory. And I see now, iPhone does that for you, Apple doesn't it? Were they't it? Little memories. Yeah, yeah, there were notes. Yeah. And it was basically them on holiday and like naked pictures them in bed together. I hope he doesn't have any needs of you babe. The next one will be getting those now.

He's got a lot of really bad pictures and videos of me. Actually that's a good lesson. I would not ever do that again. No. It's really no joke guys. That's your full body. If he wants to fuck me over... No, no, and actually, by the way... He can fuck me over. My face and my tats, so like... When we get really famous, he could fully make quite good money out of those pictures

probably. It's full sex tape. He can fuck me up. So don't do it. Sorry, I'm just giving him the idea. Go get it, honey. Go get your money. Yeah, but I tortured myself.

I sat on the toilet and I was like, I don't even care get it honey. Go get your money. Yeah, but I tortured myself. I sat on the toilet and I was like, I don't even care if he thinks I'm in here for an hour and a half doing something crazy. I'm going to look at these pictures. Why? Why would I need to see him and his ex having a sexy photo shoot? The thing is, when they're served up to you on iCloud, you've got to look. I mean, there's just no way of looking at where he is. Curiosity kills the cat girls. How would he do that?

Yeah, it was an accident, I think. And as soon as we all noticed, he was like, what the fuck? Why How would he do that? Yeah, it was an accident, I think. So silly. And as soon as we all noticed, he was like, what the fuck? Why are you looking at that? And I was like, wouldn't you? How did he notice? Because he saw that everything had linked, because he also saw my shed, but I had nothing. I always delete pictures of exes, don't keep anything. So there's nothing of me and my exes.

Crazy. Maybe we should hack his iCloud or something. We can't be having those pictures going live in 10 years. That really would be bad. Sorry, I saw some of your nudes the other day. At least I'm still with him. Yeah, thank God. If we get rich, he gets rich. Do you know what I mean?

Yeah, true. No need to sell them, Rory. You're on the PJ already. Nothing to worry about. Parry Peevis can come too. Parry Peevis on the PJ. Cue of the week. Question of the week. Oh wait, so sorry. Round up. Round up. Debrief.

What the fuck is it, Rich? Okay, question number one, not question number one, Kalinda number one. Fuck him and his mom. Lesson, a lot of lessons here, everybody. Yes. Lesson is communicate and ask the question about exclusivity, otherwise don't expect exclusivity.

Good point. Anyone that picks up their phone and asks, what's the best way to get your phone? I'm going to pick up my phone and ask, what's the best way to get your phone? I'm going to pick up my phone and ask, what's the best way to get your phone? I'm going to pick up my phone and ask,

what's the best way to get your phone? I'm going to pick up my phone and ask, what's the best way to get your phone? I'm going to pick up my phone and ask, what's the best way to get your phone? I'm going to pick up my phone and ask, what's the best way to get your phone? I. Yes. Lesson is communicate and ask the question about exclusivity, otherwise don't expect exclusivity. Good point. Anyone that picks up their phone after they've had intercourse with you is bad vibes. You don't need to pick up a FaceTime to your girlfriend or your mum.

Even if it's not penetration. Bits, any bits. Guys, we need to refame our language around this, Dr. Karen Gohene was saying. There's no such thing as foreplay. What? We don't say foreplay anymore. We donney was saying. There's no such thing as- As bits. Foreplay. What? We don't say foreplay anymore. We don't say it.

It's all play. It's all play. Penetration is not the only way to have sex. You don't need to tell me that. Yeah. Write it on a t-shirt, babe. Rub my clip. Because that's not the only way to have sex.

And basically when we say foreplay, we basically create this whole narrative that is building up to the penetration, but most women will not, orgasm will find pleasure from penetrative sex. Men will normally rate masturbation and penetration the highest and women will rate penetration the lowest and they'll do penetration and then toys like clitoral stimulation. So he's like, if I never had to do it again. Oh, it would have bothered me. Really wouldn't bother me actually. But that's the point, like you're still having sex.

Hey, listen, I have no attachment to it. She's queen of second base. She set up camp on second base. You don't really have to move for second base. You could literally lie flat on your back and watch TV and do it at the same time. What second base is that? Uh, yeah, yeah, that one. Yeah, guys, for anyone that's watching, Rihanna just did this behind the camera.

It's really good. That was it. That is second base. That's exactly second base. Yeah. And you can actually even do it with your eyes closed, ear plugs in. Do you know what I mean? Like it's so easy.

I feel like you need a lot of forearm strength for that. Yeah, and it can get tiring. Babe, have you seen my fucking biceps recently? I'm joking. Right, okay. Galinda number two. Snobby McSnobs. What a pickle.

Can I just say one thing? We didn't really talk about Snobbs. Snobbs have really, really, really bad vibes actually. No, I actually wouldn't date a Snobb. And if you went out with a Snobby man, not that you ever would. I don't think I could go out with a Snobby man, because I don't have great taste. I think he's a snob.

And I think that he looks down his nose at you. Yeah, well he would have to look down his nose at me. Especially at you. At me. You think you fucking chubby much have? Yeah, yeah, yeah, dragged up, for sure. I was. What are you doing here?

Yeah. No, I couldn't be the snob, but you know, good for you, baby. No, but also, listen, like on a level, I actually do, I don't know if you know, I actually know and grew up with- I'll actually rub along with a few Snobs. And I am fully allergic to them because I just think like, open your world, open your worldview. So I would say, like, you know, Galinda, because you're the one that's dating the so-called

Snob, just like bear it in mind that like, snobbiness translates to a lot of parts of life. This is actually a whole separate topic, but like, they're not just snobby about like state schools, they're snobby about like everything is the wine that you drink, the cheese that you buy. You can't live your life, take your shoes off and relax. Yeah, yeah. It's actually a really stiff way to live. I actually think your friend's right, Dumpim. Sorry. Took a hard 180 on that one. But also listen to your friend's opinion, especially as you get older and you feel like you can, like when you're younger, I feel like you just say, you don't know me and

blah, blah, blah. But when you get older, you think, oh my God, maybe you actually know me better than I know myself. Like, and actually listen to them because they love you and then she's not saying it out of spite. She's saying it out of a place of love, you know? And Galinda number three, get those settings on, babe. Get a meta work over time for you. You've got to stop, babe. Love you so much. You're not doing anything wrong and it's nothing to be ashamed of, but I think you should stop. Listen, it's just not very fun.

It's not fun for you. It's not fun for your current boyfriend. It's not fun for anyone involved. Do something else. Every time you want to do it, do something. Almost like a tick. Yes. Yeah.

Okay, question of the week. I miss Richard. I love how she says that we've never met Richard. I just miss him. Sometimes at night I think about him. Cut that. That is so... Hey, do you know who's going to edit that? That is so weird.

I do. Do you never have like late night thoughts about random people? Yes, but not about Richard. Sorry. Sorry, I've been reading Courts of... Akatar. Akatar. A Game of Thrones of Roses. A Court of Thrones of Roses. Is that one? The second one?

The second one. You're on the second one. I'm not even going to bother with... Is it better? I'm not even going to bother with the second one. I haven't had enough sex yet. I need more sex. I tapped out. That's going to be 16 hours to listen to.

Immediate sex upon page 10. Because I was lacking sex. Immediate sex, is it, woman? I needed more, you know, moist between the legs. Okay, good. Sorry, Richard. But yeah, sometimes I think about random people at night and you're one of them. Who else do you think about at night?

Who was I thinking about? Last night I was thinking about my old head teacher. I don't think that's normal behaviour I have to say. No, it's only because Marv had matched with him on LinkedIn or something. Do you match with people on LinkedIn? I've matched with my head teacher. He's actually quite fair. It's not a dating site. He's actually quite fair. I reckon it is. I bet there's people listening that have hooked up on LinkedIn.

There's a whole series, I can't remember if it's a podcast or a radio bit, about people that have met on YouTube, LinkedIn, RightMove, like gents moving in their rooms. Yeah, stuff like that. Yeah. Like love stories. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I won't be surprised. Was that a Trump? Sorry. Sorry, also last night. Trumping is not funny, but that is so wild that you just did that with your chest. In this cinema, babe.

In this cinema. Pull one out. I know, and you stank. Beverly Noyce is going to smell my fucking... Guys, yesterday in Wicked, Al was cracking me up because she kept jumping. She stank. I really did smell so bad. Brooke and Jersey, we were talking to Brooke and Jersey and I thought we have to leave because all we can think about...

Yeah, all she could do was smell herself and afterwards... There must be intoxicated with how bad I smell. I need to go to the doctor. So I need to get my stenches and I've got to go to the doctor. You've got something going on. Oh, that's funny. Oh, good, Rohana. God, you're good.

Do you still follow slash stalk your ex on socials? I'm shocked by this because I thought, what do we think everyone's going to say? I thought it would be yes. Yes. Like majority. Yeah. Spot on halfway. What?

49, 51%. People have lied. There is no way 50% of people have said no. No, they're live. They've lied. Wow. You've got liars. You say no. Is that true? lying, they've lied. Wow. You've got liars. You say no.

Is that true? But do you? Did you lie? There's like a gray area, because I haven't had a technical action. But you like check up sometimes on what everyone's up to. Maybe every year.

Every year? I just think like it is, like part of it is just, I am just curious. Like I don't know that I care. I'm just like, wow, you're married now. Yeah, yeah, I agree. I went on a wild goose chase for, is that how you say it?

Yeah. For someone that I was in a relationship with, I guess. And I just, off the face of the planet, planet of the face, Gone. Yeah, he was just gone. And then I ended up asking someone that I was seeing that knew who he was.

What happened to him? So good. Who was okay. I would, yeah, he's alive. Was he fine? Yeah, totally fine. Just what, like MIA on socials? Wow. It's very good to know what everyone's up to.

You've got to just keep your finger on the pulse. Don't be getting left behind. Exactly that. But also you don't need to be getting your finger on the pulse every week. No, no, no. Not an ex's ex. It's a check-in. It's a Christmas check-in. Yeah, it's a Christmas check-in to see whether they're engaged, pregnant or divorced. Not a X is X. It's a check-in. It's a Christmas check-in.

Yeah, it's a Christmas check-in to see whether they're engaged, pregnant or divorced. Do you know what I mean? Or they're well. Because we're in competition, so. Do you know what I mean? It's like who's going to get there first. To the destination. That is happiness and marital bliss.

Sorry, happiness isn't a destination, it's a journey. And also marital bliss definitely doesn't exist. I think that's going to be my next tattoo. Whatever you just said. Okay, that's brilliant gang. Thank you so much for joining us. Thank you, thank you. Thank you for everyone that voice noted.

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