Leave A Message with Ally & G - 61 - Sorry, WHAT Gave You Thrush?! (& More Safe Sex Tips)

Episode Date: April 30, 2025

You know what time it is... it's Leave A Message with your hosts Ally & G and this week, in our quest to answer all of life's most burning questions, we're asking: To pee or not to pee? Well, peeing is usually the answer. As we once again take to the streets to solve the Gally's problems - from public embarrassment to big life changes and even some advice on keeping thrush away when it's time to play! How do you separate the truth from the fantasy when navigating the dating world? What's the best way to navigate the university world? And sorry... what did the strap-on do to you?! I would say we have an itchy desire to listen to this episode... but that might be triggering! Want to be a part of the group chat and featured on the pod? Send your voice note to ⁠https://wa.me/message/LLWFXNK4YXMHE1⁠ (and please, don’t leave out ANY of the juicy details). NOTICE: Any advice provided in this podcast does not, and is not intended to, constitute professional advice or guidance; all information, content and materials presented are for entertainment purposes only. Any injury, damage or loss that may result from the consumption of this podcast is at the sole responsibility and risk of the listener. Follow Ally & G Instagram: ⁠@allyandg⁠ TikTok: ⁠@allyandg⁠ YouTube: ⁠@allyandg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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there's still world-class dining and distilleries, shops and spas, museums and more. Find your new golf MO in Missouri. Start planning your golf getaway at visitmo.com. Should've had a wee. And now here I am. It's the age old thing isn't it? When to wee? How long to hold your wee? It's a nightmare. I'm on the side of holding. I know people don't agree with that. It's good because it makes your kegels stronger. Like I never bothered to whee. Unless it's like coming out of me. And when it comes, it comes. No, it's like a waterfall. It's

like I must go now. Whereas you will take a whee whenever you can. Yes. Yes. There's a toilet and I'll be like, might as well pop for a whee. You'll squeeze one out. I get worried that I'm going to need, I get like, and the anticipation of needing a wee is actually worse than being awesome. Weeding my knee. Once we were on this brand trip, guys, and I got off the train and I was like, I can't do this. I actually can't hold my wee.

And I went behind a billboard in the station, in the train station and we were with Beauty Influencers and the first fucking impression they got of me was that I went to do a piss behind the billboard. And the PR girls were literally looking at me like, oh, my God, like, so mortified that I had, like... Done that. Well, not even done that, because I think they feel so, like, responsible for you having, like, such a perfect time.

So they were obviously, like, so mortified that you were, you know, out on the brink of about to wet yourself, so you weaved in car Park behind a billboard. And I was like, guys, she's not barbed. Don't worry about it. Don't worry about it. She's fine. She's just weaving.

Guys, we go to Liverpool in a couple of weeks. Sorry, I said this yesterday on the vlog, but they asked if we wanted separate rooms. Why the fuck would we want separate rooms? Nail was like, I just want to double check that you don't want separate rooms. We were like, obviously we want to share. Oh, so would people, would normal people? Yeah, normal people would have their own room. You see, the work colleagues.

Yeah, probably. Experience, yeah, have same share, same different rooms. No, I know they share because they share on the blog, don't they? Yeah. They share. And and they definitely share. And and they can't be sharing. Do you think?

No. It's different. I think, no. It's different, I think though. It's different. But they don't have to sit, but I'm shh. Very good, thank you. We have to put that out, Rich. So, I love that. That's great.

You could do our PR more often. Girl bands, I know they normally don't. They would have separate dressing rooms. Because there's like more than two, so it's a bit awkward. And yeah, sometimes they have separate dressing rooms. One dress to free entrance, they have one dressing room. They have one dressing room. So you and Ant and Dex have one dressing room. You wouldn't have separate dressing rooms. One dresser free entrance, they have one dressing room. They have one dressing room. So you have one today.

You wouldn't want separate dressing rooms either, like it's so dull. What am I going to do? Sit there and fucking plait my own hair. What would I talk about? What would I play with? I guess you'd have to get to the point where you had all your own separate team. Yeah. And you just loved your team and then you just didn't really see the other team.

No. Two sports team going to like battle. Kind of crazy. You know, wild. I know that is wild. Guys, I was going to say last week, but I thought I'd save it. I'm like so single at the moment and I didn't really know how to like get back into it. But I've started reading this book, this fantasy book, that's really getting my nimorance going. Do you know what it is about like a

attention building romance that really gets me going? I think it's because it never happens in the real world. Yeah. You never flirt for that long. I think that's why people like Ari. Yeah. I think that's why people like work flings. You're so much forbidden. And you can fruit, you can spend all day just flirting. Yeah, that's so true. Just little bits of flirt and it's so sexy. Like so true. I thought I was going to have that with the boys upstairs and then they've really gone

quiet. The problem is I sometimes think when the flirting goes on too long, the reality of the actual thing is not as good as it would never be as good as you thought it would. I was talking to Ali Day about this the other day because we were talking about Field, which is obviously a dating app that kind of... How do I say this? It's based on your sexual preferences rather than like... Yes, that's the forefront of the information is what you... As opposed to like a dating preference.

And we were talking about it and we were like, isn't it funny because almost like knowing that straight away takes away the element of suspense that is quite sexy about meeting a stranger. Like obviously it's nice to know, like especially if you have like quite a niche kink, it's obviously quite nice to know that someone shares that. But at the same time, like if you know like, your date likes tantric sex,

the tantric sex you then have isn't going to be like... Well, they're surprising or maybe even exciting. I think maybe that's why dating your friends isn't very sexy because there's no element of surprise. You know them. You know them so intimately as a person. And so the only thing that could surprise you is sex. And if you know all of that about them, you're like, well, I kind of expected... Also, you allow yourself anyway to expect the best, especially if you know all of that about them, you're like, well, I kind of expected. Also, you allow yourself anyway to like expect the best, like especially when you're like fantasizing about someone, you know, you imagine like, oh my God, it's going to be X, Y, Z.

And then if they've already set your bar here by telling you that they're like a tantric sex god, your like imagination is going to be here. And then your reality could be so different. And I think that's why I'm having a love affair with a book, because my reality is never going to be shattered. I'm never going to experience that. I'm just imagining it. Unless it's not as good. Unless what they do is not as good as what you think it might be.

Yeah. They haven't actually done anything yet, guys. I'm halfway through the book and there hasn't even been a kiss. Now that is sexual tension, right? Yeah. But then that's life, isn't it't it? Like you know I haven't had a kiss in months. So if you've been sexual tension building with someone babe for that long as they haven't it's been weeks. I would love to sexual tension build like that but I've got no one to play with. No one will do it with me. So no offence to you lots of love. You haven't got that self-restraint. It would just have to be with someone that really didn't fancy me and didn't want to

have me and I was just like playing one-sided. Basically, yeah. Oh yeah, I forget about that. Well, because I go so long and then I just think, oh, I'm desperate now. That's what I mean about dating in the real world. It's just so, listen, so you were lied. Yeah, I'm not going to date for 250 pages before I even get a kiss. Yeah, yeah. Because I've got things to do.

Things to do, places to be, people to see. Needs to be. Have you been on field? No. Are you going to? Don't know. My friends have recently been on it. Two of them both have got very different experiences.

One of them went on a date with a guy who was drunk. No. And was saying some very wild things. She didn't feel like he wasn't inappropriate with her. It was more just like a wild date story, like you're weird. Yeah. And then the other one's having a great time. So. Really. Like dating multiple people. Yeah.

I think there's always that like horrible thing as well. I mean, I, you would hope on the field that everyone is really good at communicating and like setting boundaries because obviously they're so like open with it. Yeah, and like sex positive. But I don't like the idea of the like kind of sex de-chat before and then getting there and really not being in the mood for it with that person. Do you know what I mean? And then having to articulate because with field you really have put sex on the table for us. Like that's what you've done. And you haven't, I guess, because that's not like, it's not saying you have to go on the date and you have to do your crazy kinks the first night you meet them. But it does feel a tiny bit like, wow, we've really like laid

our cards out here. No cards to be unsold. My hand is clear. I've got a flush. Do you know what I mean? And then it's like, if you don't engage in that, then it's kind of disappointing for all parties, I suppose. Because you've gone in with that in mind, at least. Yeah, I know I need to start swiping again. I'm just having a bit of a... Or I need to start going out again. I'm so knackered. I can't go out.

Babe, you don't need to do it if you don't want to. The thing is, I think a lot of it is like, it's not going to be fun if you're not in the mood. But I don't want a relationship. I do want a shag. So I need to solve that. Because I'm feeling here. Sorry, wine gum is in your DMs. I don't know what you're doing sleeping on him.

Will I really though? Yeah, why not? It's easier than going out. Do you know how? You're knackered. We did have good sex. He's a guy. Because basically, how crazy is this?

One night after a date, we'd got a bit like, I think we must have got a bit bed. So we stopped at Tesco Express on the way home. He was like, should we get a share bag? I was like, crazy, yeah, let's get a share bag. Come on. And he picks up a bag of winegums. And I was like... As a share bag, that was his choice. I've never known anyone pick a winegum share bag as the share bag of choice. I've never known it. I've genuinely never known it.

I actually also hate winegums. Like, I really would judge you. Maybe like my nan at Christmas might have wine gums. Like genuinely that's the only time I've ever encountered a wine gum. I don't know wine gums. Well I actually forgot that they existed because they're so obsolete. What's the normal choice? Ash amulti, or a minstrel. Last night. Those aerobubbles. Oh my god they were delicious. The aerobubbles. Minty, delish. Yeah. Or M&M's. I love. Oh, peanut M&M's. Now that'll get me going.

If I was to pick a sweet, it would be Tangfasta. Haribo Starbucks. So what's the one with the little people? We like them. Yeah, that's the... What's that called? Oh, they're not Starbucks. They're not Tangfasta. What are they called? Guys, what are they called?

Yeah, the jelly men, yeah, we like them. Jelly men, we love the jelly men. I could eat my body weight in jelly men, actually. What are the sweets? I was making me hungry. Candy kittens, I do love them. Really, I find them a bit chewy. Sorry, Jay. That's why I like them. I like a chewy sweet. That's why they're not as chewy as a candy kitten.

They sink down. Jelly babies. Jelly babies. I love jelly babies. Do you? Jelly baby sits with a wine gum for me. No, because a wine gum doesn't even have any flavor. And it's like, if you're then going to snog someone, do you know how much they stick to your mouth? It's matte. That's my main issue with a wine gum. It's matte. It's matte.

And it's hard. Yeah. That's what I'm talking about. They're not all jelly for them. No. No. You know, you don't even know a wine gum, sis, because no one eats wine gums. I thought that's what they were talking about, the little jelly pan. No. No. You don't even know what a wine gum is, because no one eats wine gums. I don't eat sweets. She's such a temple, that girl behind there.

And I just eat chocolate. I'm a chocolate girl for sure. I used to devour sweets and then I had to stop because my dentist said your teeth really are going to fall out. Because you did really have to get a tooth removed. No, I've got a fake tooth. Because that genuinely is because when I started working, I genuinely, I reckon went through three or four packets of sweets a week. I'm not joking.

I was a sweet. What was your sweet, sweet kind of go to sweet? Candy Kittens. Really? There's nothing in a Candy Kittens. Isn't that the point of them? Aren't they like no sugar? No, they're vegan. Okay, there's lots of sugar in Candy Kittens. Oh really?

Yeah. I thought natural sweeteners or something. They're definitely vegan. Oh, babe, there's lots of sugar in candy kittens. Oh, really? Yeah. I thought natural sweeteners or something. They're definitely vegan. I know that. I thought they were like fruit based. Yeah, but so was their fruit based. He's so good with his marketing. I like a jelly snake.

You know, the natural jelly snake. Oh my God, I used to love those. Sorry, I love a Percy Pig. No, I don't like it's too foamy. Oh, I love foamy ones. I like the fizzy tails. Yeah, very good. Yeah.

Candy kittens have honest ingredients. No nasties, no gelatin, no palm oil, no fake flavors. A bit of sugar. Lots of sugar. Oh, right, well I message winegums then. Just so I... I think if that's what you're after. I'm really sexually frustrated, Jane.

If you don't want a boyfriend for a date. I think that's why I'm so angsty at the moment. I just had that's what you're after. I'm really sexually frustrated, Jane. If you don't want a boyfriend or a date. I think that's why I'm so angsty at the moment. I just had that big period. I'm just feeling a bit like I need my needs met. Yeah, treat yourself. Yeah, that's what I need.

I think that if that's all you're in the market for, then why not as much? I definitely don't want a boyfriend. Do you know what I mean? Then it's easier than getting on the apps. What are you going to do? Fucking message someone new. Well, that's why I was talking about field.

Yeah, but what are you going to... Sorry. What was my game? Yeah. Scored. Bum stuff. No judgment. You're bum, not mine. She's so voice will be like... Don't say anything. No, but that's the problem. I don't know what I'd put. This is the thing I think, like, who would have anything not that, a bit of that? Do you know what I mean? But this is what I mean. I do think field is only good if you are really specific.

You have a kick. Yeah. Because otherwise it's just like, huh? Did they just put like sex pose? Like whatever you want. I finished with some... yeah. Yeah. I like kick.

And I like it now. Yeah. Maybe that could be my king. No strings attached. Yeah. And I genuinely like it. And I like it now. Yeah, maybe that could be my king. No strings attached. Yeah. And I genuinely like it. Three shags max. Yeah, three shags. I just want to shag them on.

Also, you have to consent to being a TikTok topic. Sorry. I will talk about you, but I'll give you a nickname. Yeah, I could write all of this down. Maybe people would find that kinky to be spoken about after. Like you never know. You never know. What was the white lotus king? Sorry, Rihanna, we will start.

When he, Gary, wanted to... Have a threesome. I know, sorry. He wanted to watch his girlfriend... Flirting and like picking up a guy. Is that what it is? It's called cuckold, King. Cuckold, yeah. Yeah, because then she would take him, start shagging him, he would break in on them.

And then start doing it her. Get rid of the guy. No, no, no. He'd then get with the girl. Yeah, he'd shag his girlfriend. Yeah. Yeah. My nails just broken.

One has ruined so much. What has? Porn. Porn. Because that is such a porn-y thing. That is so porn-y. That is classic porn. Come home.

Also, the fact that he watches for a bit because he like, looks, he likes it and then he gets to be like the big man that like, takes her away from the other little man in the corner. Yeah. Classic. Yeah. I don't know why I'd write Rihanna just like, up for a good time probably. I would be like, can you make sure that you're like, you know, here that did nice to me. Well say you're not allowed into my house, I must come to you, so make sure you've got a clean bed. I know, yeah, I don't like, I actually have never,

like confession, I've never had sex in my bed. No, I don't think that's a confession. That's a flex. I think that's a flex. Do you think? Yeah. No, I think it's good. It's like, you know, sanct,

Yeah, it's safe space. Yeah. And no memories, no lasting memories. If I ever think of anyone, I think about their space. That's quite nice. Yes. I don't think about my own bed. And it's a brand new bed. So I ever think of anyone, I think about their space. That's quite nice. Yes. I don't think about my own bed and it's a brand new bed. So I've actually never had sex on that bed.

This is what I always think about. Sorry. This is so, we're so off topic here. I can't get that. People that get divorced or... You've got to get a new bed. I just always... Oh, the widows, maybe. You need a house. Do you know what shocks me? When people...

Who the marital home. So say you're dating someone and he used to be married. Oh, in bad news. He stayed with his wife. He stayed with his wife. He stayed with his wife. He stayed with his wife. He stayed with his wife. He stayed with his wife. Do you know what shocks me when people get into the marital home? So say you're dating someone who used to be married. Oh, that is wild.

And you move into the house. The ex has a kid. I agree. You have to at least change the locks. You know what? Ours is wild. Well, I hope that we haven't intruded. Injured.

Sure. All right, guys. Welcome to Leave a Message. This is not a kink podcast. Nor is it my therapy to try and decipher what I need from the world. Right guys, welcome to Leave a Message. This is not a kink podcast. Nor is it my therapy to try and decipher what I need from the world. Sorry. What it is, is a good time space. A safe space.

For the galleys. An open space. It's like field for female friendships. Garmin, anything goes. Yes. Anything goes. Absolutely no. Yeah, put whatever you want on your profile here. Voice note, whatever. Like, literally, we've had it all, guys.

You cannot shock us. This is what I always think. I think people get nervous. I think guys go back and listen to some of those episodes. You won't believe the shit that people send in. Don't worry about it. It's safe. You're safe here.

This week, the galleys will be full. What? Candy. Yeah. Yay. That's brilliant. Um, this week, the galley is what we thought would shh. It can be. Yeah? Hey. That's brilliant, Ron, and that was quick. Quitted, I like it. I don't know why I'm so nervous sending this,

but hi, Annie, hi, G, hi, Rohan. Um, I just went into the bike because I've been lost it. I'm late that year, and I've gone back from Thailand for two months, I know, so it's the origin. And like I got my bike back one month ago. Pune, now I'm moving house. And then the name seems to be Union East September. And none of these things are like, to be fair things are like to be fair. They are all big things

they are all big things and Yeah, I basically just want advice on How to deal with big Instructing that it's hard to like Move house and not think about everything that's happened over the past seven years. Like seven years doesn't even feel that long. It feels like time's moved so slowly yet so fast and I feel like I'm looking at my room. Like I've done so much in this room. Like my GCSEs, my A levels. I've cried, I've laughed, I've done everything

in this room and it just like freaks me out. I kind of ignored it. Anyway, sorry, Rahata, I think this is too long, but I love you as well. You're all amazing. Oh, babe. You are. I know. I know I can say this with my chest. You are not alone. Like, I know multiple people going through various transitions at various ages. And hearing you speak like that, I can literally remember being 19, 20. Like, I can't remember. I was so old when I went to uni. Also, I just want to be like, I don't know. I know we can't do this, but I want to give you all the other galleys and RDMs to be like, guys, you're all in the same bones. The everyone's feeling the same way and like it's 18, 19, 20, 21 are genuinely,

you couldn't pay me a million quid to go back there. Because you go through it, don't you go through it twice. So you go through your first transition where you decide to go to uni and you, and that is, fuck me, that first year. Your first day, that first week. I sobbed. When my parents left Hors. Me too, I just sat on my bed and just cried. I cried, I just cried.

And then you just feel sick, like nauseous, like, Connie can't sleep, can't do anything really. I mean, I was so lucky, this is so funny, but my first day in Hors, I was sobbing. And she had this knock at my door, and it was little Enes, who's like, and literally got me through, I wouldn't have stayed without her. And she was like, I was sobbing and she had this knock at my door and it was little Alice who's like literally like got me Through you know wouldn't have stayed without her and she was like I'm feeling a bit weird

Do you want to go for a drink just met her and I was like yeah And like honestly, she was like my best friend for three years. I was so like lucky to have her I was lucky. But like it is the most isolating scary Confusing time and then I hate to say it, you go through another transition when you leave. Well, I actually think that you're like, what? No, because then I think uni like is one big fat transition itself because you're kind

of transitioning. Every year you transition because then you're like, are you living with and what are you? But also like, there's so much to, I don't know, you transition into someone that you think people want to be friends with, but like maybe that's not actually the person that you want to be. And then like you mold yourself, you become such a social chameleon at uni. Yeah. Where, yeah, to live with people then like... Well, you do some things that might be out of character to you

because you're trying things and you're experimenting and you're trying to fit in, trying to fit in, or you're just trying to figure it out. Like, do I like it? Do I not like it? Like, and also you feel it's such a weird time because you feel so way too young to be doing any of it. But you also feel so grown up. But it's yeah. You feel both at the same time.

I just felt like it's so unanchoring. You've got nothing really to like ground you. Like even when you go home, you're like, this is weird. Yes, it is. Because like, what is my life? Or even home friends. Like even when you go home, you're like, this is weird. Yes, it is. Because like, what if my love... Or even your husband or friends, like that dynamic changes. And then you're like, wait, what? Like, why does something that's been so normal to me feel strange? And then you leave. And then you leave. And then you have to get a big girl job. And then you have to transition into

like the real world. And it's normally a job you don't want. Yeah. And that pays you nothing. Always pays you nothing, you've got no money. And then you just have a big fat identity crisis because you're like, well, who am I and what do I actually want to do with the rest of my entire life? When I look back now, I fully think I spent five years of my life in survival.

100%. Fight or flight survival. Me too. And don't get me wrong, I low level still have that, but oh my God, so much less over the past two years. Also, I do think when you're young, you think you have to have it all figured out by 30. There is this, I just remember feeling like, oh my god, I'm 21, what am I going to do?

Time suddenly goes so quickly. I remember really, because I had two years out when I went to drama school and then I had a year out. I don't really remember. I was like, when I meant to just write this essay, I literally remember being like, sorry, I don't know that I can do that. Even the work is so different from what you've been doing in your A-level. Right, babe. Here's the thing. Number one, you will get through it. No matter what, for a fact, you will get through it. One foot in front of the other, one day at a time you'll get through it.

Number two, okay, if we're talking specifically about going to uni, because I feel like maybe that's contributing a lot to your anxiety right now, which obviously fair enough. Yes. First of all, it hasn't happened yet. Worry now, worry twice. You might get there, babe, and have the most life-affirming experience of all time. Like, you just meet your people, enjoy your course.

Yeah. And number three, if you stop, like, I think, I actually think in general, this whole thing about uni is that people put this, and I definitely did this to myself, you put this pressure on yourself to be like, I'm going to have the best three years of my life. And this is where you meet your best friends. This is where you fall in love. And this is where you get to find who you are. And like, this is, fuck all of that. Because who cares? Do you know what I mean? And actually, I do think so much of the beauty of the messiness of uni is the messiness. Because you come out the

other side and you think, God, I wouldn't do that again. Yeah, because you're allowed to do stuff that you don't get away with when you get into the real world. You're really allowed to be like, it's a training ground. That's all that uni is. And you have to use it as that. Just practice. If you get it wrong, if you shag someone you're not meant to, if you say something bitch, it doesn't matter. None of it matters. Yeah. The only thing that really matters is that you show up and that you work hard for you.

Yeah, that looks like. Give it your best shot, honestly. And that you go with good intentions. Honestly, babe, that's all that anyone could ever, like, you could ever ask of yourself. Also it's so fine, like, now and throughout your life to feel a bit funny during times of transition. Like transition is really difficult, especially if you're like a creature of habit. Yeah. It's really difficult to suddenly being thrown into a completely different environment. And also uni is for most people, the first time there is a transition in your life. Yeah.

So it's like, it's so unnerving. So early and they bring you in that box room and you're like, I went to sleep here by myself. Like it's the concept of's so unnerving. Sorry, and they put you in that box room and you're like, I went to sleep here by myself. Like, it's, the concept of it is obviously so weird. Like, especially if you've never been to like, boarding school or anything, like it is weird. Yeah, it's weird. Suddenly being homeless, it's like, sorry, I don't really understand what this is.

And it just takes a minute. Like, that's what I would say. And like, what, like, me and my friends used to talk about all the time, it's like, like, for lots of us, it didn't click straight away. Like we had to wait to get our like, to find our people, to get in our groove, to find a rhythm that we like, to enjoy ourselves. Like we really had to like take our time. I just want to say, even if it like, I don't think it ever really clicked for me. And that's why. Yeah. Like I, I went to uni, I made friends with, I was meant to originally live in a house

of eight girls. Then four of us, we split into two. I then didn't become, like I wasn't friends with the other half of that group the whole time. Then I lived with these girls that, you know, dropped me like a hot potato the second that we left uni. And now I don't really have any friends from uni. I'm like, because I'm fine.

Yeah. So it's just at the time, obviously, it feels like the rest of your life hangs on this one thing. That's the thing. There's so much pressure like from jumping from GCSEs to A levels to uni, it constantly feels like, okay, if I don't get this right, the next bit won't be right. And it's like, guys, I want to just tell everyone I do not use my fitness class degree in journalism at uni. It doesn't mean anything.

It does not matter. I also graduated in uni and I think that's why I got a fitness class. I'm sure I should have got like a 2.2 or something, but I think they went easy on me because we weren't there. Do you know what I mean? I just think you think it matters so much and I get it because they also make you feel like it does. Well, also, from even a career perspective like they make it out like the degree you choose is going to dictate the rest of your life. And you can only ever do that job or that next step or that and it's just the bullshit. It's just bullshit.

Yeah. Sorry, I was just thinking about your like childhood bedroom. I like just just take bits you really do love and like make it feel a bit like home in your new space. Or if you don't know anything in your childhood bedroom, take this opportunity to make it completely your own. Yeah. And make it your space.

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make sure you leave us a voice note using all the details in the episode description. Now this can be about anything. Obviously sometimes we ask you for specific topics. But if you've got a story that you think girls need to hear this, then get voice noting. If you've got a story that you think girls need to hear this, then get voice noting. Penny number two. Yeah. Hi, Gallies.

Love the pod. I just wanted to give a message to see if you could offer any advice and guidance for me. So I've been with my partner for about a year. They're a non-binary lesbian. So, you know, we both have the lady parts. And we do have an ex at a sex life. But a few months into the relationship, we decided that we should spice things up a bit by purchasing a strap on kit. We've only used it twice and both times it gave me thrush. Not ideal. Nothing

like having thrush. I am quite prone to thrush, but I also have very limited experience with panacea sex. So I just want to know if you Kelly's might have any better ideas into how my partner and I can make better use of the equipment we have invested in. Do you just seem to lube up a bit? Should we get a different one? Maybe build out of a different material? Is that what's irritating me? I'm quite convinced too. Any advice that you have as people, you know, more familiar with the penetrative sex would be much appreciated. And I'm also more than happy to send a follow-up voice note to let you know if the advice works if you use this one.

Lovey gallies. Yeah, between the two of us, we've got a vast amount of experience in this area and we're not lesbian, so that says something. Actually, that I like in your comment section. What? Where you guys are together. Yeah, oh my god, every comment, yeah.

Maybe one day we'll still compose it, I don't know, guys. Put it behind a paywall. Yeah, that'll be our only fans, We're just the road girls. Okay, lots to discuss. My first thought was the lube you're using. Are you using enough or is the lube irritating you? It's got to be water-based. It's got to be water-based, 100%.

No funny smells, scents, anything like that. Hank's do a really nice lube that I swear by. Durex also do a natural one. A natural one, yeah. You need to just make sure, but yeah, I think definitely lube up. Don't be shy on the lube thing. No, I'd go heavy on the lube. I'd go heavy, heavy lube.

My other thing about thrush, I have to say, is that you can actually just be prone to it. My, I won't name her, the woman that gave birth to me. Oh yeah, thought. That really mysterious lady. She prone to UTIs. And oh my God, my mom can eat too much bread. I'm not joking.

And get thrush. Like it just happens. Yeah. Also, I do think thrush can be quite ebb of ebb-y flowing. Yeah. I used to get thrush, well, I should say that, maybe that's why. But I used to like even in like different relationships, I used to get thrush more often than not. So I feel like you can also like get a bit easty.

We've talked about this before. Oh, I know. They would say that, listen, I'm sure that this is not the case in this instance, but just to throw it out there, they would say that that means Juju is awesome. I know, because when I have I told this story before, I can't remember remember. When I was working on Saturn Returns with Caggy Dunlop, she had this woman on the podcast and I remember listening to the episode and being like, oh my God, I need to break up with my boyfriend.

To the rest. Because they had thrush. And this woman was literally like, It's your body rejects it. If your body is telling you that it does not like your sexual partner. I don't think that is scientifically correct. And I think that you can get thrush from someone you love

and then just thrush from someone you love. And just thrush from someone you love. You can get thrush from bread, okay? Don't worry about it. Guys, the weeing, once you've done your pharma, your penetration pharma, you sit on that toilet. Oh my God, I would sit there for half an hour. You've got to get it all out. And that is genuinely because we're actually doing something

about UTIs at the moment for content. I've been doing a lot of research. This is great timing. The weeing is pretty seriousish. You have to. You have to. Flushes it out. Yeah. Yeah. And obviously the equipment you're using isn't bodily and doesn't have any fluid coming out of it, but still you've been penetrated. So I just think it's best to just sit and

if you are using lube, you want to just flush all of that out of your system. You've got to do a big old weenie. You want to sit there. Okay. My other thing is when you wipe, this is the obvious thing, front to back, always, especially after penetrative sex. Probably no one does that often. No, but you might just do like a little tap. Or you might just like, you've got to actively wipe. You might wipe back to front of just your nerves because you're trying to scoot the

lube out. You've got to go. You've got to go. All the way. Yeah. You could even hop straight in the shower. That could become a part of your sexy routine. You could get in there together afterwards, make sure everything's douched out.

Don't wash your face. Not with soap. No, never. So get in the shower, but I would just get the shower head and just do a rinse. Yeah. Oh, I'd have a little rinse. Yeah.

Maybe it's worth them having separate toys. Yeah. So you have your own strap on. Just in case you're passing it back. Yeah. Maybe do you have a look at the material? I don't know. I don't know.

I couldn't tell you. I actually did have a strap on and I couldn't tell you what it was. Yeah. Just some... Sorry. I was going for my own. I don't have it anymore. I left it with my actual partner at the time. So we don't have one now. So I can't look at the... Anatoly.

Thank you. Yeah. But yeah, like that's a really good point because actually it goes in you, in someone else. It's going everywhere. So it's good to separate the two. Yeah, we're grating under a one-way system here. Yes. Currently, there is a one-way system. So that's different. Cranberry juice. Are you drinking lots of cranberry juice? I don't know whether that's a myth. They used to get thrush a lot.

That's holistic. Because before they had meds, guys, people were getting thrush in UTIs. And using herbal medicine. You could also make sure you just have some of those sachets in, milk canister. It's not ideal, but you know. Yeah, it's really the pits, I have to say. It's awful. Thrush is awful.

Oh, it makes me feel sick. Especially when it's reoccurring. Yeah. And you feel like you can't get rid of it. It's really bad, by the way. Go to the doctor because they will give you some medication. Like genuinely, that is what you have to do, sadly. Because you've got to be able to play.

It's so sad though when you just get rid of it and then you like get scared to go again. I know. That is really sad. Yeah, you don't want to fear your strap on, do you? UTIs and thrush are two different things though. Yeah, sorry they are. So UTIs are much- It's like cystitis.

Yeah, and like that is stuff, something that you can get meds for, but canneson is for thrush. Yeah. And doesn't lather. The cream is the best in my opinion. No, I love the pill. Well, you got to take it all in tandem, but definitely the cream. When you put that pill up your phallus, then it's all in your knickers the next day. Oh my God.

It's so wild. Have you not? No, I don't like the suppository. That freaks me out. Because I used to get so much thrush, but babe, honestly, it's like it sucks out of you and it's all in your knickers the next day. It's wild. Really? White powder.

I would take the oral pill and the cream. Oh yeah. You don't like the cream. Okay, so we have done this before, so she comes in that weird plastic thing. Oh yeah. No, that is so spooky. It's spooky. And you wake up and you're like, well my thrush is in my pants. That's crazy.

Yeah. Should we do a round up? Let's do it. Okay. Right, candy number one. Candy number one, firstly, thank you, because I feel like there might be a lot of people listening that are going to really resonate with that. And that's really nice. I know that you're not alone and we are obviously sending you all our love, but I don't know

how we can join you all together. I know we need to join forces. Make our ways. Well, we do know actually, we're working on something. The freshers. I know, but it needs to be an online, you need to be able to talk to join forces. Make a way. Well we do know actually we're working on something. Refresh us. I know but it needs to be an online, you need to be able to talk to each other. We need to make a forum. Yeah, we need to make Mumsnet for the gals.

We need Mumsnet for all these issues, good point. Love you. Love you and one step at a time. And candy number two. Change your lube. Change your lube. Number one. JIC. And candy number two. Change your lube. Change your lube. JIC. Pee after sex.

Not for peeing. Wiping front to back. Canister on tap. Wincing but no soaping. Yes. One dildo each. Yeah, one way system. And anything else?

I think that's it. Have fun, girls. Also, Scent Fresh is a miss. Yeah. Wait, a myth which way? Sorry, because it's not good for your pH balance. Thank you. Yes. Sorry, I just didn't know whether you were saying it was a myth that it's bad because I think it's universally known that Femme Fresh is not good for the intimate area.

I think people know. You're just not really meant to put anything. It's like it does fully, guys, it's meant to look after itself. It's meant to clean itself. She's an independent woman, the person between your legs. So just let her be. Let her execute her independence. Right, should we have question of the week?

We wanted to just hone in on voice note number one because we feel like lots of people will be feeling in a period of transition, maybe at the moment or have been. The question was, Do you have any favourite quotes, mantras or bits of advice for a galley going through a hard time? Rejection is redirection. Everything happens for a reason. Everything happens for a reason. Love that. If you won't worry about it in five years, don't worry about it for five minutes. What else in five years will it really matter?

That's really good. Oh, I like this. The grass is greener where you water it. Nurture what you have. Yes, good. A problem shared is a problem halved. Make sure to hold your loved ones close. Or your favorite podcast hosts.

I don't know. You know? Oh, I like this. Fate loves the fearless. Wow. Look for it, babes. Fate loves the fearless. Wow. Look for it, babes. The universe will reward you for your courage. I really do believe that.

Wow. No rain. No flowers. So true. The tulips on my balcony are thriving at the moment because we've had a bit of rain. And I was trying to be miserable about it this morning. One day of rain. Exactly.

And I woke up this morning on my tulips. Really? Quite orange they are. And I spoke to Roger yesterday, my downstairs neighbour, sorry, I just hijacked this lovely little bit of advice and mantras, but I spoke to Roger and I said to him, God, those flowers are looking gorgeous. You know those flowers at the front of the garden, aren't they pretty? He said, God, they're amazing.

He said, well, they could be brighter. And I said, Roger, do not bring out the pessimism in the phones. You need to read Roger some of those. Yeah, I like this. Without him. Those that mind don't matter and those that of those. Yeah, I like this. I need to read this out to him. Those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind. I love that.

Oh, this is for you, babe. Candy number two. This is just a chapter, not the whole story. Keep turning the pages. Really good. You already made your past self proud. Sweet. You're the only one who remembers that weird thing you said in a conversation once. Yes, so true. That is so true. You're the only one who remembers that weird thing you said in a conversation once.

Yes, so true. That is so true. You're the only one that remembers. This one's nice. We try again tomorrow. We just wake up and we try again tomorrow. Storms pass. Storms do pass. This too shall pass. He's just a boy. Anyone struggling with any F boys out there. Just a boy. At first I cared, but then I thought, fuck this. Brilliant. Brilliant. Hopefully that helped. You can play that little segment yourself when you're feeling sad.

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