Leave A Message with Ally & G - I Have A Secret SIBLING And My Boyfriend Is Following Girls Behind My Back?!

Episode Date: March 18, 2026

Have you ever shared knickers with your bestie? Turns out Ally and G have! And neigh way, Ally finds out she’s being forced to ride a horse the day of her best mate's wedding! Plus, one Gally uncovers her man’s secret X-rated IG account, while another discovers she has a full-on secret family… sorry, WHAT?!FANCY SENDING A VOICENOTE/MESSAGE GALLY? Send your voice note to: https://wa.me/message/UH4DASEKPFQBA1 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Oh, and don’t leave out ANY of the juicy details!)OR, you can write us email an on [e-mail] us at @leaveamessagepodcast on socials!Listen every Wednesday wherever you get your podcasts or watch on YouTube. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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This is a podcast where we help the galleys in need. Whether you're in a situation ship with a fast finisher. Or you're obsessed with having your hand off your last. That's true. You are. Sorry, I didn't pre-read that. That's me. They're all rinsing me.

All right. She's just constantly got a wedgy. I think I've discovered it's the pants. Some pants I can go longer without having wedging. Well, also, this is where Al and I, like, we're really different, like, in every single sense of the word. But with knickers, I would always go go. big or go home. Like if they can fall down great. Al will go like 55 sizes too small. Tight up my ass. Like she wants them like, you know, like suffocating her private parts.

Because I sometimes feel like when they're too big you can feel them and I don't like to feel them. I have so many now that just don't have elastic left. Like how old is you just like? If I would be deeply embarrassed if someone was to come and look in my pan draw because I just would think some of those have been in there for 15 years. I'm not joking. Yeah. And everyone's got those Who were we talking? Ben, producer Ben. Because he ran out of knickers. Oh, because he doesn't have a working washing machine. And I said how many pairs of pants do you have? He said nine.

And me and she were like, I honestly probably have 100 pairs of pants. Shock and horror. I've got so many. And like, I always go back to the same. Obviously you have like 10 that you actually wear. Like the M&S thong I just rebuy in that four pack. So I've got honestly 55 of them. Do they get stuck up for your ass? Maybe I should try those. No, no, they're brilliant. And I share pants. This is so weird. but I remember I wrote this in the book about one of the girls,

like, has like a communal, like, knicker basket in the house because she lives with her mum and her sister. And I didn't, like, blink twice when I wrote that because me and Holly have, like, communal knickers. I wouldn't know which were mine and which my holes from the M&S ones, like from all the, like, black thongs. Like, I would just take it off the washing rack. I wouldn't like, what would I do?

Like, put her name in it. Anyway, then my editor read it and was like, sorry is this meant to imply that they're sharing knickers? And I was like, you know, when you're like suddenly mortified that something you do that you think is normal is like not normal. Why would I borrow your knickers? I don't think it's that deep. Obviously if they're clean.

I don't go from the washing basket. I'm going to Holly's room and like pick the dirty ones and wear them. I wouldn't listen. It wouldn't be my preference. If we live together. Well, I wouldn't share your knickers now. Exactly. Exactly.

Good point. Exactly. You have to be the same size. Nicker lover. Well, this is a thing because you guys have the same size knickers. Yeah. I guess. But she wouldn't touch mine.

She wouldn't go near yours. And I wouldn't go near yours. They're so tight. That's why you're constantly picking them out your bum. Because the bigger a thong is, the more it just kind of sits. The kind of signs around a thong. No, but yeah. And I also think I was looking at a picture and I think I have got an odd-shaped bum.

Because mine is like, I've got quite long butt cheeks. I've never noticed that. When I look at your bum, you know, they're quite round. Yeah. But mine are actually quite long. So I think it's a lot, lot of stuff. Because you've given up on growing your bunder for a while. Not true.

In the gym. Babe. I saw my, I'll take a picture tomorrow in the gym. I saw my bum. Maybe One Rebel is helping now. Because for a while you were obsessed and then you slacked off. Not true. I'm in there every, I'm in there every day.

No. But in One Rebel, it's fucking non-stop for Romanian Deadless. I'm like, guys, I literally can't do this one more time. No more hamstring works. No, no, it's too much. I've currently got, I'm currently sporting an injury guys. Did you book in with this ear? I have not yet, no, but I will.

I booked in with my Therogun though. I'm using that religiously. You know when you like pull a muscle? You need some special stuff. Yeah, and then it goes elsewhere. So like I pulled it in my right ass cheek, but now my calf is in agony and I don't know what that's about. Maybe you actually need to have a sports massage.

Yeah. I had that one. I think I need a holiday. I do too. I'm at my limit now. I'm on my news. Guys, I've had a week. Have you had a week?

Or is it just me? I've not had really as much as a week as you. I am coming down with whatever everyone's got and I'm just like really ODing on like vits and echinacea. Would you just go harder? Yeah. Oh yeah. And I'm doing that too. But as in like that doesn't prevent it.

It just like lessens the symptoms. I'm trying to actually avoid getting it from like in its full force. Yes. Oh, don't worry. On my way home, I'll be at that pharmacy. Also. My sister, once in the US, the strepsels have numbing. Epic.

You can't get that here. You can only get it in the spray. Not good enough. Not strong enough. I love that diff lamb. I use it daily now. It honestly gets me through the day. Go on.

Tell us about your week. Oh, yeah. Guys, they say... Well, let's just preface this with. The world's on fire. So this is just not a problem at all. Yes. My problems are small and menial and I should stop whining about them.

But alas, it's just been one of those weeks where everything has gone wrong. Everything is a stretch. A lot of things. But, okay, the wardrobe is definitely jarring. Because my wardrobe broke, everything just collapsed. And then today, you know where I hang my bags? Fell off the wall. No!

Just all off the wall. I thought, there's a hole in my wall. I thought brilliant. Oh my God. Yeah, so that happened today. Anyway, thank God I've got Rory. he came and fixed my wardrobe. But like, you best say, brother, part two's pending.

Oh, I don't think he's going to be able to. There's a chasm in my wall. He's going to hate to see that. No, he'll have to put that special stuff. I know. I know. I'll have to redo that. He's not going to enjoy it. He's going to be cross at me.

Anyway, then I've got a flat tire, which I think is actually a puncture, because I filled it up and then it was getting flat again. I think, girl math, that means puncture. I agree. So I've got to go and see someone about my tire. And then my. phone just has stopped working. It basically says it's got storage but won't let me film anything or save anything to my phone and it stopped updating to iCloud. Anyway, went to O2. They were like,

yeah, sure, you've got the thing where you can upload easy, breezy. This was yesterday at 4.30 I get to O2. I'm still there at 10 to 9. And I left with the same phone with the same phone. And I thought, I did have a nice time with the O2 gang. Shout out to... What did you do? I was thinking about you. Chit-ch-chat. For five hours? Yeah, chit-ch-ch-ch-chat. At one point they said, why don't you leave your phones here and go? And I was like, I've got... Go where? Where will I go? Where will I go? Cite-Sah. So then they figured out a way to, like, get me my phone that I could use this phone while the other phone was doing something. So anyway, then I was like dinner in Westfield. It was really bleak, actually, quite depressing. Yeah, yeah, quite sad. What did you have, though? Because I saw the other day, but there's some nice things in there. There were nice things, but I wasn't very hungry. Not in the mood. But I was also depressed, so I had a pret. And then 55 of those. And then 55 of those. custard creams, thank God.

What did they say about the phone? Sorry, this is incredibly boring. Dull, dull, chat. And I don't understand it. Have they got the new phone? Are you getting a 17-brown? So basically, this was the whole pro. Yeah, Max. Slay!

It's enormous. It's like an iPad. Then, you know, when they're trying to upsell you. It was like, you're interested in an iPad. I said, I got one. This phone is massive, sir. So anyway, he, yeah, so got the big phone. Yeah.

And everything's fine. It's transferring. La-la-la. I opened the new phone. And you know, it's meant to open and like, look like your first. Yeah. It did not.

Funny screensaver, weird apps. I thought, brother, this isn't my phone. But like some of it had downloaded. So I like had my photos, but like no apps. I had like no Apple pay, but I had like my nectar card. I was like, this is all gone wrong. This is not what I need to get home. So anyway, then one guy was just useless.

He was like, oh dear. And I was like, yes. Oh dear. So anyway, then this really sweet girl came over and she was trying to help me. Then we had to reset it to do on iCloud. every time it got I got this error message where it basically said this has not worked.

I've had this once before. You have to plug your phone into your laptop and then back it up on the computer and then plug the new phone in. So that's what I've now done at home because then the whole thing was I was trying to leave with this phone and they were like, well that's now our phone

so you technically can't leave with this phone that's our property and I was like I can't go home. I'm stuck then in Shepherd's Bush and I just sleep here because I was like I can't get home with a phone that has nothing on it. I don't even carry a card. I was strapped.

No, no, do you all. But moments like that, I do often think, yeah. Really good lesson. And another lesson for you when I was doing my bloody tire pressure, which no one would have to do alone, was that some of those machines only take cash. Coins. Yeah, you've got to save up those pound coins. Pawn coins.

I haven't done my ties in nine years, so I honestly wouldn't know. How would one know? I'm so sad. It really reminds you. And it was so funny because I was like complaining about all of this on Instagram and my auntie who's like such a like, you know, hardcore feminist, like rebel, like alliance. She literally was like messaging me every day. Have you done that for yourself yet?

Sisters are doing it for themselves. Oh, sisters are doing it for themselves, but sisters need a fucking break to be honest with you. And sisters are reminded sometimes that they're single. Agree. One single tier down my eye when I was doing that tire, I thought. You often forget, that's what Pauli Pius for. It is, but bless him, you've got him working overtime. No, but I can, I've got nothing for him to do right now, so you can have him.

The Harry Potter is always at the post office. That's where you're finding. You're ringing him. Where are you? It's like, post office dropping off some of Al's parcels. Ask him. Ask him to do your wall because you will have to fix that at some point. And who are you going to, what are you going to do that's what you're going to do that's what I need to put on my field looking for? Handyman. Handyman. My kink is handyman. My kink is someone that's good with a screwdriver. Let me tell you. Anyway, how are you? Wait, the other thing we need to tell you because the question is, did GDM the Britsman? The answer is yes. However, I think it went quite well. Listen, I would say he's, you know, the top conversation list I've ever come across. Listen, he's a transatlantic man. I understand that, but that doesn't mean he, you know, can't have a normal two-way conversation.

It was a lot. He replied and he asked me a question. That, at the moment, is pretty elite. the question. Are you recovered? And I thought, yes, brother. Do better. Say better. No, no, I did DM him, but I thought it was a good lesson in just, you know, go for it. Why not? You got nothing to lose. What I did do was wait for a story to reply to. And thank you at Hannie Ray, who works on our management team. She came up with a very witty response. And I thought, brilliant. Brilliant. Yeah. So I text him. But anyway, I'll probably. He's away now. Yeah,

probably. So that's. But you're going to off any this week, babe. Can't wait. I'm so excited for you. Yep, so excited, although I thought he was going to break up with me. I know that was all a bit touch and go. Well, I double messaged him. Today. What did you say? Guys, I am living. This podcast is making me reckless because it gets a Tuesday morning I think I've got nothing to talk about quick. Let's message you boys. Download field. Download field. I'm literally doing it all. Basically, okay, context is, and I really hope he doesn't listen to this because embarrassing. Oh, not ideal to be honest. Right. If you're listening, can you just turn off now because there's no need for to hear this or see me like this. Also, if you are listening,

what are you doing here? Because this is for the girls. It's not for you. The girls, gays and those, and if you don't fit into one of those categories, I seriously hope. Producea Jackson. How rude. No, we have a small... This is his job. He's been paid to be here. But basically if you're dating me, you're definitely not allowed here. Because this is a safe space. If you know us, really, you shouldn't be

listening. Agree. Agree. Like, 1,000% please turn off. I know. One of Holly's friends, Thomas. He's. He's. He listens. Not for you, brother. No, no, no. Turn away. Definitely not for you. Goodness me, I'm trying to, I'm trying to share.

I'm trying to overshare in peace. Anyway, he had messaged me right. So, you know when you have like a date booked in but it's like a bit like far in advance? Far away. We spoke about this and I said put a pin in it. La la la la. So we didn't put a pin in it.

We were both just kind of talking just kind of like surviving, I guess, with the chat. Why did you not just put a pin? No one said about the pin. But you could have said about the pin. I was fine. until he got all prang city and was like, the vibes off.

And I was like, whoa, my vibes are good? Well, also, you're not my, what do you mean? I don't know. I don't know you. I don't know how you text. I don't know anything. I'm just keeping chat going until I see you. Right.

At the podcast show. Yes. Right, yes. Anyway, so he'd sent me that message like last week and we'd had a bit of a thing. And then anyway, we were like texting after that because I was like, no vibes off here. And he was like, cool, just checking.

And I was like, happy to put in a picture. in it and he was like no no need for a pin like just checking so I was like find no pin so then we were just like texting but not a lot like you know everyone's leaving yeah like a day yeah like a day so it's not riveting conversation I know it's dull as digital but it does have to be done you know it's like no one wants to do their washing you've got no but I do think you can put a pit I do like and say let's pick this up three days before yeah because that's another thing it's all a bit weird then when you turn up and you like if it had that long since you last it feels like the first date again No, I know.

Like you want a bit of something. You want a bit of excitement. But it's not excitement. No. It's the problem. And I suppose no one's got the time to like make it exciting. Right, so what did you say? Anyway, I messaged him and I just like replied to his message from like four days ago.

Because basically he was texting me on then on Saturday he just didn't reply to my message. He just hadn't replied this morning. And I was like, I'm not going to be called off for my vibes being off when you're not messaging me. So then I messaged him as when he replied to the message and I said, just going to throw this back at you. Then he replied straight away. I'm so sorry. That shit fucks me off because I just think you've obviously everyone knows you've seen my message. Why? Just reply like...

Well, you've forgotten about me, fine, but then don't tell me my vibes are off. Your vibes are off. Anyway, very interesting for the day. It might be a bit of the style. What a good foundation from which to jump. Yes, yes. I've gone right off at all. I think I'm going to retire again from dating.

This always happens. I do like one and then I'm like, nah, get up me honest. No, babe, I have faith in this man. Really? I do, yeah. I don't know, I just feel like you had a good, solid experience, yeah. And that's not always a given.

Sometimes you come and you're like, you come home and you're like, he did this weird. Like there was no weird, like nothing weird or out of the ordinary happened. I'm just trying to get another one in at the same time so that I can like, you know, have a bit more variety because that is the spice of life. And you can do a bit of comparison.

Exactly. Yeah, exactly. Have you got anything to share with us before we move on? all turn 30 I was saying to Jack on our walk here 30 club first of all

I would just want to shout out to the 21 year olds because how you are going out three four five nights in a row like it's nobody's business I just think you guys don't know how good you've got it I had four drinks on maybe five on Friday night and I wasn't actually that hungover but I did wake up thinking

I honestly could sleep for a week now it's not right it's absolutely not right but those 21 year olds aren't working but they're not getting up and going going to lectures? Hardly. And what do you have to do in a lecture? True.

Sorry. You were given the big one about us wasting your shoes alone? Yeah, no, you should go. Don't get me wrong, but you can be hung over in a lecture. Like, you can live your life. You are, babe. Very serious work we do. I'm not going to work.

True. But like, I mean, they haven't lived a life, like Monday to Friday. True. You're working. Oh my God. I remember my first year of work. I thought. This is why 23 is such an awful age.

How the fuck are people doing this? To what? We're 65. When can you retire nowadays? 71? Awful. That's a lot of years. Yeah, anyway.

I just, you know... Yeah, we don't have the stamina. If you're younger than 30, I just want to say, please relish in the ability to bounce back because I really... I did take...

I took it for granted and everyone said to me you won't be able to do this forever. No. And I thought you stupid bitch, cause I will. Well, do you know what? I was one of them

because I sadly have been cursed with like an old soul or something and I've never not had hangovers. Like you know like the kids like don't even really have them. I've always been like quite bedridden. Yeah. Really? I think I could be allergic maybe.

Quite possibly. Like if I went for one of those patch tests I think it'd be no good. I think I'd get itchy on the on the booze. I definitely am allergic to some alcohols. Yes. Like it's just straight up tequila. But like if I had no. You're doing vodka nowadays.

Yeah, vodka's okay. If I had a glass of wine, you wouldn't see me for three working days. I'm not joking. One glass. One glass would be enough. And I used to think I had gout. I'm not exaggerating because I... You know what Henry VIII had? No, no, it's like when your joints swell.

Yeah, basically. Because every time I would drink wine, I would literally wake up in like agonising pain. My wrists and my ankles, like genuinely I wouldn't even be able to do this. Maybe it's because you were like skanking too much. No, I think I am genuinely allergic to wine, really. And I feel sad about it. because, you know, sometimes I look at you all sharing your bottle of wine, I think, oh, I got FOMO now.

Jealous. Jealous. It's one of my favourite pastime sharing a bottle of wine, actually. One thing we do need to tell you about is the Sunday lunch club at Trinity in Tletham. Just the best Sunday lunch I've had in London. Yeah. By a country mile. And really good value.

Yes. Listen, it's expensive. It's special occasion vibes. But actually... It's not expensive for three courses, actually. No, it's not. Well, like we paid that before and we didn't have three courses. When we went to the Apollo arms, we didn't have starters.

True. But also it's like if you're feeling homesick, you have to go. Because it feels like you... Depends where your home is. True. My mum does not bring out food like that. True, true, true. If I'm feeling homesick, I'm going to super noodle bar.

Yes, fair. Yeah. No, sorry, if your mum does a good roast, that's where you need to be. Because it feels like family dining. Like, they come around, they chuck more stuff on your play. everyone eats at the same time. Like, it's amazing. Really, really recommend.

Yum. Right. I think it's time for some galley voice notes. Join us in part two. Okay, galleys, welcome back. What will we call the galleys this week, my friend? Good question. Wait, hold on.

My brain is not engaged today. That's okay. I can find a brain cell in here somewhere. Park you. R rattling around in there. I've got one somewhere in here. Don't worry. What about...

Wait, sorry. Trinity. Is Trinity a name? I think so. Trinity. Is Trinity a name? People call their kids Apple. True. Trinity's a name.

Sorry, one more thing, I'll tell you. It's that one of my best friends, Jack, is getting married and he asked me to be a groomsman. If you missed it, I'm going to be a groomsman with nine other boys. And he text, he voice noted me, actually, on Sunday night saying, don't overthink this, but can you ride a horse? And I said, yes. Oh, my God. Why? I haven't had ridden a horse in years.

I can. I can ride a horse. But like... No, of course, me too. But when's the last time you rode a horse? 15 plus years ago. I can ride a horse. But I think it's like writing a bike. Yeah. It depends on the horse that you get.

That's the problem. Is it sometimes when they're mental? You're going to go on a horse back to the wedding. No, babe. I said why. He said, I wanted to do an usher's horse ride on the morning of the wedding. Oh, what? Like a hack?

Not as in like dressed. No, not dressed. Fine. But either way. It's not ideal. It's smelly. Also, I've got to get glammed. Does he know how.

long that's going to take. I think you could leave that to the boys. I said. I don't know that you need to be there riding side saddle in your ball gown. But this is the problem with being like, you know, one of the lads. Like you have to do the shit that the lads do and I don't, and this is why I would... But you won't have time for glam. Babe. I know and I don't know how to

broach this subject with him. I think you say. Just FYI. Because you're not going to wake up at the crack of dawn to go on a hack, are you? To be fair, their wedding isn't until two... Oh, 30 is not even that late. 2.30? Middle of the early morning. The club starts at 11. I know.

When are you going to have you a brecky? I've got to be on a fucking horse. Catch me on the morning of that wedding. Have you even got job? No, I probably wear just, you know, a Lulu lemon legging. Wow, that is wild, isn't it? Isn't it? Yeah.

You best do it just for the gags. Well, this is why as well, like everyone asked me, Jack and I talked about this forever. Like, would you go on his stag? And I said, guys, you could not pay me? No. Like, a hundred grand. He's going with 21 boys.

Do you think I want to be there? Also, they don't want you there. No, no, mutual. Sometimes mutual. Separate is good. Agree. Yeah. And I said, Tim, I don't think you're going to want to come on the hem.

It's going to, on my hen. Oh, maybe he would have, because the thing is, girls are like way more chilled. Like, boys, like... Well, they're doing bad, naughty things mostly. Girls? Boys. So they don't want you, they're going, what you're doing? That is all I'm saying.

Anyway, yeah, catch me on horseback. 10th of May, morning of. Can't wait. Can't wait for that picture, actually, with you and a head. How wild. Okay, should we have our first voice note? This is Trinity number one. Hi girls.

So I've been dating a man for about six months who will call Alex. I fell for him pretty hard and I'm sure that he felt the same. We had a really, really fun relationship, which was sometimes problematic. But I was quite obsessed with him. So for context, I finished university last summer and obviously I have no idea what I'm going to do with my life. So what is a girl to do but go travelling? So I have my plane tickets booked. Alex and I, we had plans to do long distance for two months while I was away.

But then five days before my flight, I see that a notification pops up on his phone, just saying that someone's followed him on Instagram. But it wasn't his Instagram handle. So after some digging, we found out that Alex has a secret Instagram account that he just uses to follow women. So he followed about 180 accounts on there, and all of them were porn stars and models and only fans girls. So it's all explicit.

content. So when I asked him about it, Alex says that he made the account years and years ago when he was a horny teenager and he hasn't used it since, which I believed at first. But then the same day, I see that the number of women he's following keeps going up. I don't really have a problem with the content itself, although I do think it's quite gross, but I do have a problem with him lying to me about using him. So after a lot of conversations, we break up three days before my flight. So at this point, we break up three days before my flight. So at this point, he says he's logged out of the account and he's not using it and he's blocked it and everything to try and you know prove to me that it's not him but the number of people he's following it just keeps going up and up so if it's not him doing it how is that possible my friends have a lot of theories on it that it could be bots it could be people buying him as a follower or something else fishy going on like that so my question is is it actually possible that he was telling the truth all along

and my relationship has been ruined by bots on Instagram. I think either way, he decided that long distance wasn't going to work. So that's his loss. And I'm currently solo travelling with a very recently broken heart, but at least I'm getting a tan. So thanks girls. Amen. Worst places to be brokenhearted, my sister.

Wow. Call Meta Jess. Do we have her number? Can you buy? I wouldn't be able to be bought as a follower and Instagram would I. Because you're famous? I wish I was more famous. I've got a blue tick.

Do you know what I mean? I think if it's an account that has no... Because I'm guessing he's not posting. What, that's inactive? Yeah, I would guess yeah, actually. Sorry, we need to ask at least Google Gemini or something, because I don't know about that. Can you buy Instagram?

Well, I definitely know you can buy followers, obviously. But are the... Never done it. Just want to say that. Never done it. But who are the followers you're buying? They're bots. They're bots.

Exactly, he's not a bot. He's an account with an email address. For a bot. I don't think you can be mistaken with a bot. No, because the bot accounts also have email address. Cause you have to have an email address. It's just like XYZ at gmail.com, whatever. He's been mistaken for a bot.

Listen, one thing I'll say that I know about some men, hashtag not all men, is that they use their Instagram inappropriately if you ask me. When single, fine, go for it. If that's what you like to see on your few people. Who am I to argue? I like recipes, you like tits. Fine, whatever. Yeah.

But when you're in a relationship, if you are using it to follow girls and to show interest in other women, at least he's had the decency to create a burner account. I think if my view on it is, it's much better for, if you are in a relationship to be following porn stars and famous people who you might find attractive,

listen, I'm partial to Sydney with Sweeney's Tits. I like to look. I like to look. I think that is better. I'm not saying it's ideal than following girls you actually know slash have a link to slash could reach some way somehow

and using that. Like, sorry, a boyfriend liking Emeril, Emily Ratachowski's bare bum with her Gucci spray tan is no biggie. Like there are 10 million people liking that. She's never going to see that. Yeah.

I wouldn't worry. I think you'll say from, you know, Emily poaching your boyfriend. It's not ideal because it's the like, I don't know, I just think like, we're all so naive if you think that you can't appreciate something. Like, I have that. I'm in love of Benedict Bridgetton right now. Do you know what I mean? Like, we're all human and we can all appreciate a good looking person, man or woman, single or not. But it's the like, it's, in my opinion, it's actually way worse if it's someone that you have a connection to or no and you think is fit. And also, if they have like 50 followers, they're going to see your like. Yeah. Much worse. Oh, I hate it when boys are so naive to the fact that they think that is going up to a girl in a club now.

Like, following them, liking that. Like, that guy from the Brits, all I had to do was follow him. Then I'm in his DMs. Like, do you know what I mean? Like, he knows what that means. I fancy you. That's what I've just said. Like, that is that.

And I think the problem here is, like, whether he's, like, been, you know, hijacked by bots or not, babe. The problem is that you clocked it. And his, a council exists in his following. going up. Therefore, like, the problem is that he knows you don't like it and is still engaging with it in some way because also if he didn't want to engage with it until deactivate the account. Sorry, do we know how many followers this man's got now? He was following 182 people. But it kept going up. Following? Yes. Oh, he is following. Yes, he's following

girls. Oh, they're not bots? His following is going up. So she's saying could people be buying followers and he's one of the followers that is bought therefore his following is going up sorry he's you can cut all of this so basically so when it says followers

irrelevant following oh following means you have to follow them you're buying followers no no that's not how it works because if you're follow oh I see you're the big tip pawns I see you're buying followers

he's saying that he must be one of the followers that is able to be bought, therefore his following is going up because he's now following that girl. I think it's BS either way. Yeah, I think it's BS. Sorry, I misunderstood that. I think that that's, he's doing it himself. Yeah.

But it is a whole, it is a whole conversation anyway because I know that there are different remits that people are okay with. 100%. Like some girls don't mind that their boyfriends are out there liking lots of girls' pictures. Oh, who doesn't mind that? Some people don't because they're just like,

well, you know, it's just like watching porn or it's just like finding a person attractive in a bar. But like some people also think, I think it's like, I struggle with it because it's just like I know boys that don't do it and like actively can look but not engage. Yes. And I think it's a respect thing

because you know the girls that have boyfriends where you clock that every single bikini pick you see they've liked it. Yeah. And you think it's not ideal. Well, yeah. It's disrespectful to your partner in my opinion. But I think the problem is that you voiced a problem with it. and he didn't change it.

Even if it was hijacked by bots, that account is still active and still exists. And he made it in the first place. Do you know what I mean? I mean, sorry. It's kind of clever. It is, but also, I don't know many boys that would go out of their way

to make a burner account so that they could follow porn stars. Like, that's quite intentional. Also, it's like you know, you know that a girl, as we do, will do their due diligence and we'll go on your following and see what kind of people you follow

and we'll see that 182 of the people you follow a porn style. So instead of... Having that. It's a lot of porn stars to be keeping up with this all I'll say. Keeping a breast off. What they're up to. Well, I guess it's kind of genius

because imagine how much you'd be spending on Onlyfans if that's how many people you were following on Onlyfans. But yes. Listen, the moral of the story is don't have a burner account that your partner's not happy with. Yeah. Don't be liking girls' Instagram pictures.

Don't be following. Definitely don't be following them. Don't be having your following go up. I think the moral of the story actually is is that you dodged a bullet and you stuck to what you morally felt is right and that's all that matters

because if it matters to you and he won't change it then he's not the mouth for you and there will be boys that are I must ask you sorry I didn't even say on Sunday when you and we were on the sofa and you swapped four years

what was honest for you? You don't want to know now it like golf? No. It was girls It was no girls. It was, how do I say this? It was skits.

It was like skittie. Oh. Yeah. Right. He was literally watching God and it was like, Oh, I think he was like, why is this on my thing? Yeah, yeah, okay fair, yeah. No, no, it was fine.

No boobs. I know there's a lot of football shit on there. On his few page, no boobs. Thank God. Thank God. He's not very active on Instagram, your boyfriend, thank God. I like it that way. Sorry.

Baby he's got a bun or I don't know about. Who knows? If he's got a burner, I'll find it. He doesn't. He doesn't even, honestly. He wouldn't even know how to make a burner. Imagine him having to make a second email address, that'd be overwhelmed with him. She's a step verification.

He'd be like, oh, not worth it. Oh, can't be bothered. And then he just wouldn't do it. Babe, enjoy your travelling. Nothing like the sun and the beach to get over a broken heart. I did exactly that. When when she broke up with me, I went interrailing for six weeks. Yeah, yeah, yeah, that'll fix you.

That'll mend a broken heart. Yeah. That's the best time in my life. Go get it, girl. Okay. It's now the time for an email. Is it my turn? It is your turn.

Oh, I get so nervous. It's like being at school again. Do you remember in school when we had this maths teacher? Mr Pascoe, I loved him. But I was in top set, but like bottom of top set. I got to copy off a holly. How was the fuck? Did you get into maths top set?

Fucking good. I'm really smart. At school I was smart. I was just like the biggest in top set. If you taught me you were a top set in like English, I believe you. No, no. I obviously failed my deal. Masspaper, obviously. I don't think I even got a mark.

Because the whole time I just sat next to holes and copied it. Anyway, Mr. Pasco would make you stand up. So if I went to holes, I really don't understand up. And then he'd be like, oh, Georgina, what do you? Stand up. Then he'd make you stand and do the equation

aloud in front of the whole glass. This is what this feels like to me. Having PTSD. Hi, galleys. I absolutely love the pod. I've been since the start and it never fails to make me laugh. I've been debating sending a voice note in for a while. However, I've been told I have a very distinct voice, so thought it best I sent an email instead for this one.

Thrilled that we've let the emails in. For context, I'm 18 and have three older half-sisters who I share a dad with. My dad lives abroad and my parents split five years ago. In July 24, I was with my older sister and we were doing a Facebook stalk of a woman my dad was friendly with. Oh dear. We stumbled across a photo of her 11-year-old son. I joked saying he looked like my sister, since we have an ongoing joke that we have a secret sibling. Sorry, I don't mean to, you know, fetishise your family drama,

but I have been waiting for a secret sibling for a while now. We've not had one of these in a long time. Thank God. I love this shit. Following this, my mum told us that she had previously confronted the same woman about inappropriate messages between her and my dad back in 2011 just after they got married. Dirty dog.

Fast forward to September 24, my dad takes me out for coffee and says he wants to go for a walk first. Weird, oh no. Because walks are always when the big chats happen. Why do you want to go on a walk? You've literally never want to go on a walk with me ever in your life. You don't want to look me in the eye when you tell me when you're going to another other. You dog.

On said walk, he explains how he was unfaithful to my mum during their marriage. Something I didn't know but expected. It wasn't a shock. Thank God. He goes on to tell me that I have a brother. An 11-year-old brother. Can you guess where I'm going with this? On top of this, my mum didn't know a thing

and I had to be the one to tell her that her husband had cheated on her and had a baby. So it was all whilst they were married, this happened. Why are you telling... Why am I the first to find out? I'm the youngest. That's so jarring, actually.

Oh, sorry, because they're half-sisters. Sorry, sorry. So she had the three sisters from the previous. So she's the only sibling in this. Your dad is a top shagger, seems. He must have strong swimmers. Horrible imagery for you, sorry. At the time it was a huge shock

and took a lot of effort and time to wrap my head around the whole thing. Sure. Of course. I have not met my brother, but all three of my sisters have because for the sisters, it's less traumatic

because it didn't happen during her parents' marriage. My dad sometimes makes references to him. However, he won't typically discuss him as it can get quite awkward, I can imagine. Recently he bought up a holiday that he's taking two of my sisters and their partners on, as well as my nephew and brother, a family affair, if you will. He has invited me, but I'm unsure whether I will go. What would you do in my position?

Hope you enjoyed the stories galleys. Right. Well, we very much did enjoy. Tridity, you're a queen. You really are. And, you know, it's not easy out here for, you know, people's secret siblings. again, I'm so sorry for your loss, for your drama, for your trauma. Also your loss of like the image of your dad.

Babe, you're living, G's dream. I know. She used to pray. I did used to pray for an older one though. I never really prayed for a younger one. Babe, your only beggars can't be choosers. Fair, I'd have taken anything. I'd have taken that 11 year old like he was my pet.

I'd have been thrilled. No, I know. But it's not, it's so hard because it's like, you're like collateral damage of your dad's bad behavior. And you've now got this little boy who, it's not his fault. He did nothing wrong. Like how that boy came into the world. It's got nothing to do with you.

Nothing to do with you, nothing to do with him. Like you two are kind of victims in this. Totally. I think if you can find a way to have a relationship with him, it might be the cherry on top of a really shit cake. Agree. Because it's not his fault. It's your dad's fault that he was, you know,

sleeping around whilst he was with your mum. Yeah, I think, I agree. I think you can foster a relationship that kind of is not founded on the fact that you, you almost have to look at him like, okay, obviously he's your brother, but like totally separate from your dad. Because like, also I just want to give you,

you know, some validation that you are allowed to absolutely fucking hate your dad for as long as you like. Oh yeah, you need to go through that. And also I think there's a lot, isn't there? about like feeling protective of your mum. Yes. Because in that situation you're like, well, I don't want to make my mum feel any kind of way by like going on a fucking family holiday and playing happy families with my new brother.

And like, do you know what I mean? Because it's like you don't want your mum to feel like hurt by that. Well, it depends if you want to go. Because if you want to go on the holiday. Where is it? Listen, is it far away? Is it hot? Is it warm?

Is it white sand? Because then maybe suck it up, sister. Do you what I mean? If you do want to go, I think you have to say to your, like, there is also a conversation here to be had with your mum to be like, just because I'm choosing to go on this holiday doesn't mean I approve of what he did, like, la, la, la, la. But I really want to try and have a relationship with my brother and like, I really hope that you can see. Because I think sometimes in these situations, yeah, moms do think, like, what you're taking aside. And it's like, you need to make that abundantly clear. And also to be like, this is my prerogative and I am allowed to choose this.

He's still my dad. Thanks to you. Yeah, you picked him, Chris. I often think this. I often think fucking, I didn't pick him. I wouldn't have picked him. Here I am. If I had your time again and I could have been there, I'd have said, like, if I was a friend at the time.

I just said, no, no. I think this, like, God love my dad and thank God I'm half of him, what a man. But like, if my friend would have brought home a man 17 years her senior, I'd have thought, really, sis. Maybe. If you brought a man home 17 years. years older, I would honestly say, first of all, he needs to leave now. Who is this old man in our living room? Why have you brought your granddad over? Yes. And second of all, you need to do some serious

soul searching. Just think, where were your friends? Munch? I agree. No, but that generation, they didn't have friends like that. That's something I'm really learning is they didn't have, you know, everyone like, I don't want to generalise, but the goal was to get married. True. Well, I know, and also true. And like, you know, if you can add a man, even if he's 17 years old a good on you Lender. You get what you can beg us God for Jesus as we've seen.

Exactly. Right. You love what you love. So I think that you can have that conversation. If you don't want to go, it's really easy. You just say,

I don't want to get involved in this shit show that you have created. And I'll meet him for like a pop. Help me out. Peace and love. Yes.

On your merry way. I hope it's a shit holiday and I hope it rains the whole time. Like I don't want to be there for 10 days. I'll go and meet him for like a pizza hut. Do you know what I mean? Definitely.

Because it's like you don't want to be in a situation that you don't want to be in and you are within your right to say, thanks but no thanks. On the holiday. And you could let your sisters do the groundwork. Do you know what I mean? Let them.

Let them forge the relationship. You come in a bit later. Christmas time. Is the woman going as well? No. Is he with the woman? I don't even think we know. I don't think.

Actually, maybe he's not with the woman. He brought up a holiday taking two of my sisters and their partners on as well as my nephew and brother. No mention of the woman. Yeah. So maybe that is easier. Yeah.

Depends how much you hate him. Because I think, I think that, you know, going on a holiday like that, when you hate someone and like hate the situation, it's not the greatest environment, you know, relax and chill. Basically, you can decide either way. We don't know what's right for you. But I think you're within your right to do either. Yeah. So great.

You can make that decision. Nothing is bad from you. Going isn't bad. Not going isn't bad. Up to you, sis. And I hope it's somewhere hot at least. Imagine it's like, you know. Cool.

Sorry, one more thing I want to say. My dad sometimes makes references to him. However, we don't typically discuss him as it can get quite awkward. You need to look it in the face and actually have a really, if you, sometimes in these situations, you need to have the really uncomfortable conversation so that you can get over the hump so you can sit in a room and his name can be brought up and it's not awkward. Like, you can go to your dad and be like, you're a piece of shit. But this has got nothing to do with this boy, my brother,

but you are a piece of shit. And like, you can ask, if you want to know, you can ask, when did this happen? Was I? Like, you know, if you need that information. How old was I? Where were you when she was giving birth? Where was I?

Oh, I don't know that you need to know the details. But maybe, I don't know. I'm someone that like, it's just, well, I'm someone that needs information. But also, if you have that conversation, at least it's not awkward anymore. True. Because everyone knows everything. and there's nothing to hide. And then you can say, you know, how is he getting on at school?

Yeah. And it's not weird. Yeah. And it might like help. Yeah. Because it is what it is. Your dad did what he did. And now you have got a brother.

Gosh, wow. Fucking men. Sorry, Jack. Right. Are we ready? We're ready. Thank you so much for those messages. Okay.

This is our favourite segment because this is where we get to talk to the galleys directly. It's time for. The Gally Gossip So we put out a Q&A box on Instagram Make sure you are following us at Leave a Message Podcast So let's answer some of them now Also this is brilliant

Because we don't actually have the reins of the Leave a Message podcast inbox So we have not seen these That girl is, she's putting in a shift Leave a Message Podcast Yes, I know She's a good girl producer is in She's a girl unknown to me

Brilliant Unknown to me Couldn't be us Don't know her I honestly leave a message podcast Don't know her Don't know her. Right. Lydia asks, how tall are you at the Brits you look six foot five?

Well, Lydia, we were six foot five. Right, no. Okay, hold on a second. We were at least six two. No. You don't think they were six inches or? No. Do you know how long six inches is?

I haven't seen it in a while. I wouldn't know, girls. Four? Four. We were probably six foot, yeah. Six foot. We are five eight. Al is closer to five nine.

No, I think you're closer to five seven and I'm closer to five eight. I'm 172 centimetres and Alsa she's also 172 centimetres because I wear these args all the time No you're taller than me you are Okay I'm taller than you I am 172.3. I literally don't know what to tell you Point three there it is I'm 172

On the dots are you taller I will tell you though why we often look Gargantuan is because everyone in this fucking industry is absolutely tiny I don't know how to tell you this Guys Sharon Oswald is less than five friends Okay, no wonder we look six foot five. She had a heel on.

She was honestly five foot with a heel. Ashley Roberts isn't even that short. She was a head taller than us. Yeah. And it's shorter than us. Yeah. No, most of the time we're eye to eye with our male counterparts. Just.

And on I'm a celebrity, we weren't because we weren't wearing heels. We were sat down and we're all the same height lying down. No, like, yeah. Yeah. Okay, well, that's that then. Molly asks Go to excuse for not meeting up with friends I've got many of these

Sadly you can't use this But I often will use I've had an event put in the diary That I have to go to Yeah, work event Work event Or late meeting Zoom call

9pm Zoom call Ill, I'm very sick I'm not well I don't want to give you what I've got Because you know I'm a good human And I'm a good friend And I really would like to save you

My illness Sometimes I do genuinely just say babe, this week is actually just a bit hectic and I'm going to be like a way better person next week. I would not use that. I would go lies. All lies. Hold on, there are more.

What other excuse? Family. Yeah. Something, you know, friends, boyfriend broke up with them. I need to be there at their side. Just remember your lies, okay? Because like, you know, your grandma can only die one time. Remember that for work?

Remember that for friends? And save that for something really major. Like, that's not a Wednesday night dinner. No. Um, what else? I did an awful one once at work. This is so bad, but my uncle, God rest his soul, passed away. And at the time, I was just going through a breakup.

So I took the day off work to, like, you know, grieve my broken heart and my dead uncle. It was a bad day. Anyway, then he never had a funeral, but I kept the funeral in the back locker for when I needed a day off. In the next couple of weeks, I thought, I'll have my uncle's funeral today. You never had one? No, because he did that new humanist thing where they just pick you up from the, cremate you and you just get the ashes. Next time I saw my auntie, she put him on my lap.

I thought, odd. And now he lives in their living room. Wow. Have you never had a funeral? But I did have a day off work. Whoopsie. Other excuses? No, no more.

Food poisoning. Always works. No one will ask. As Alan Carr said, tell them you've got raging diarrhea. They won't ask why. No one wants to know about raging diarrhea. Can I just say sorry, and I know this is really out of character for me. But sometimes the thought,

of going is worse than going and you just have to fucking suck it up because you know but you can also say yes but can we go somewhere where I can wear trackies and no makeup like I definitely like make it work for you or like come to mine I do that often

good come to mine come to mine delivery on me yes yes good okay what album do you have on repeat right now I'm desperately waiting for Ray me too on the edge of my scene I don't really listen to albums actually. I'm more of a playlist kind of girl.

I'm more of a radio girl. Like a Spotify radio. Although I really need to train my Spotify to give me a bit more variety. She's very samey, my Spotify. Oh, mine is actually almost a bit too... Too random. Well, because it's like house,

then like Fred again and then like Ray. Slow. Cat Burns. Love. Love. What a woman. I know people are going to want us to say Harry Stiles. I haven't even listened to it.

I'm so sorry. Everyone. I simply have not listened to it. Sorry, we're not bothered. How do I haven't repeated? Where is my husband really, you know, to be honest, I'd probably listen to that three times a day every day over this year.

I know, it's a good song. Gee, tips for writing a book. Bloody hell, girls. Don't unless you're really desperate to. Don't. No, do-do. No, do-do if you really want to, you know, fucking push yourself to the cliff edge.

It's very rewarding. There's all these people out there doing high roxies. Write a book, girls. Oh my God, it's so challenging. Tips of writing a book. I'm just about to start writing my second, so I probably need to remind myself at these. Have a deadline.

Because everyone says everyone's got a book in them, but you're never going to sit and do that unless you have like a deadline in the diary to like I have to have this in by then. And like if you're like self-publishing and you don't have a publisher, it doesn't matter, you can like make that your own. What do I use?

Sorry, everyone this is going to take me a second to find it. I've got a good one. Go on. A good diary management. You need to, like, if you're like me, I can't just start. I have to kind of like have the right surroundings and shimmy in and lighten incense and like listen to music and then I can start writing. So if you just block time where you don't have your phone on you and you just sit and write and then I use an online website called pacemaker, which is where you can put your, writing deadline in and your word count and then it will spread out the words across the days so then you know

say like on a day where you have more time so i don't know at my monday juesday morning tuesday afternoons i might say i've got like three hours and then i know on those days i can write more words and then you just sit until you've hit your word count curate playlists about like the world that you're writing in and the characters Pinterest really help me like i make like Pinterest boards of all the characters and lots of planning. Because when you do all the planning and when you come to actually writing, you've kind of already done it

because you know the world, you know the characters. I used to think that at A level. The essay plan is the essay. Exactly, so don't sleep on it. It's tempting to just be like, oh, sod that, it's so boring. But actually, if you've really planned to a T, like your characters as people

and then their story arc and, yeah, I would make, like, I would make a meal out of that and then the writing should just be fun. But good luck. Really good. Okay, remember you can leave a comment wherever you're listening or watching YouTube, Spotify, ETC.

Or send us a DM on Instagram and we'll pick our faves to add to our weekly galley gossip. You can also send us a voice note. Yes, don't forget. Where is Lambeth Council? I'm still waiting on a response on that. Babe, I was running this morning. There's loads of posters up to vote. vote out the Lambeth Councilman,

whoever that is. So you must go. I better get there now. Yeah, you must get there and vote in your local election. The problem is Lambeth is the safest in the whole country. Well, not by the posters. The council. They're trying to get rid of the councilman, whoever that is. I don't know how that works.

God, I sound so thick. There can't be a mayor of Lambeth. Isn't it mayor of London? No, no, because I just saw today there's a mayor of Croydon. Oh my God, I hate this, stupid. There is, there's a mayor of Coyden. So it must be mayor per borough. They're the mayor of Lambeth. Mayor of Lambeth. Well, fuck him.

Good. Fuck him. They're trying to vote him out. So you need to make sure you're getting, you know, rally the troops. I should have taken a picture of the poster, but they're rallying the troops. I'm not joking. I can tell you where the poster was. It was on a bus shelter.

No, no, I can just look up. Mayor of London voting. Mayor of London election. Mayor of Lambeth voting. Mayor of Lambeth. Yes. Oh my God. This is my chance.

Good. Get that recycling taken. Right. Okay. This is. This is. Things we loved and didn't love from this episode. Quick fire, because we've been told, you know, make haste.

Yes. Don't love, start with the negative stuff. Burner account. It's suss. Unless you're a girl trying to look at your ex. That's fine. Don't love being allergic to wine slash getting older and having a hangover the last three days. Don't love.

Don't love. Don't love cheating dads. Don't love. Don't love odd-shaped bums and having my hand up my ass all the time. Don't love having to do my own DIY. Why? Yes. Don't love.

Don't love having to be one of the lads riding a horse when I should be in glam. Pardon me. Love the idea of Ali Mack on horseback at 8am prior to getting glam for a wedding. Love. I know we're meant to say don't love secret siblings, but in this instance I have to say, love secret siblings. More secret siblings on the pod, please. Love.

Love secret siblings. also how fun how fun you want a new pet to play with love getting over heartbreak when you're on holiday love the sun

love traveling love that for you love taking time out of normal life because guys do you know nine to five is five days a week for the rest of your life do you know that

yes I mean actually know I personally I'm not well acquainted with that not anymore a distant memory as Jack said to me early He said, do you know, Croyd?

And I said, ah, he said more as an idea. Yes, as an idea I know it. I understand the idea of nine to five. Yes, as an idea, I understand retirement age of 71. Love. Love. Sorry, circle back to don't love. Don't love the fact that we look six foot five because everyone is so small. Definitely do not love that.

One more love? Love, canceling on your friends. Love, canceling on your friends. Love, normalise canceling on your friends. Normalize not needing to lie. You should be able to say, I can't do it tonight, babe. Yeah. Got to go to O2.

Sheppers Bush. Got places to be. The best. Can I tell you, this is better than Norgasana. I actually mean this. You know, when you think I literally don't want to go and then they text you, babe, I'm so sorry, can't do tonight. They're like, ah! The universe is looking down on me today.

The best feeling in the world. Isn't it? Yeah. Okay, you let us know what you loved or hated in this app by commenting on Spotify, YouTube or wherever you are listening. If you have a story or dilemma that only we can help you with, then please send a voice note to our WhatsApp on 07342-61-7792 or click the link in the episode description and it will take you straight to the WhatsApp. You can also email us at hello at leave a messagepod.com. Love you. Love you guys. Thank you for listening. Yay!