Leave A Message with Ally & G - She HEXED Her Ex And A Witch Found Our Soulmates?!

Episode Date: May 20, 2026

It got seriously witchy over at Leave A Message with this week as Producer Izzy got in touch with the “spirits” cough via an Etsy witch cough to uncover everyone’s soulmates… PLUS, one Gally takes revenge on her ex by casting a hex, while another is fully spiralling after her boyfriend returned from a lads’ festival holiday with 10 new girl followers and a VERY suspicious “I was just being a wingman” excuse…FANCY SENDING A VOICENOTE/MESSAGE GALLY? Send your voice note to: https://wa.me/message/UH4DASEKPFQBA1 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Oh, and don’t leave out ANY of the juicy details!)OR, you can write us email an on [e-mail] us at @leaveamessagepodcast on socials!Listen every Wednesday wherever you get your podcasts or watch on YouTube.Leave a Message with Ally & G is brought to you by Love Honey. Check out www.lovehoney.co.uk. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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in need. Whether you've got a resting bitch face or you have a secret sibling. This is the podcast for you. I feel like we talk about or you have a secret sibling quite often. Because I'm manifesting a secret sibling. Babe, tell us about the wedding. Oh, it was really special. So basically, we have talked about Jack actually quite a lot over the years because I am a fucking firm advocate for the fact that a boy and a girl can be just platonic friends. Amen. And, and, And I always say Jack is the brother I never had. And he got married last weekend. It was so beautiful.

Ali was a groomsman. He asked me to be a grooms woman. A grooms woman. A groom's lady, as his grandma called it. Sweet. And it was really, really beautiful. Like, babe, when I got there on Friday, so basically I went on the Friday night and the wedding was on the Saturday.

When I got there on Friday, I couldn't see in front of my hand in front of my face. it was raining that much. It was sheet rain and I thought this is, this is weird. Did they do the sausage? Obviously. Thank God they did. Also, Jack wanted to do the sausage. I said, it's got nothing to do with you.

You're not allowed to touch the sausage. You're not allowed to touch the sausage. Do not touch the sausage. I was like, that's so sad and I was like, yeah, it's a bride thing. I think you just can't fuck with any kind of juju. So I said. Steph did the sausage. No rain.

But it was like, I honestly, when I, when I opened the curtains, I was like deserate to see the weather. Open the curtains. It was bright blue sunshine. Incredible. And it was really, really like, such a special beautiful day. I've known his family as long as I've known him and their house is always like so fun and chaotic. They've got, you know, there are so many people

in the house. Love. But on the Friday night we had dinner, it was me and the lads. And we had dinner with his mum and his stepdad. And I had made, do you know what? I'm glad I did it because it, you know, it was a nice thing to do. But fucking hell. A labour of love. Like, I don't know. I just, now I think I'm good. I don't. I don't. I don't need to buy my birthday present for like a couple of years. I know. But then I do think you have to think of it as a separate thing. Sadly,

I know. Me still no engagement present for Al. Don't worry girls I'm working on her. No, no, no. But like you do have to because like hopefully God willing that happens once. So then sadly it is still his birthday. No, no, no. And I do know that.

And I know that, you know, hopefully everyone only gets married one. It's hard to remind yourself when you're in the pits of like bridesmaids, grooms, or whatever duties because they're quite intense. I'm not going to love, babe. I literally, didn't love to finger. Being a groomswoman was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. Yeah, so actually the least you could do with make a book.

Exactly. Exactly. Because on the day I got off so lightly. Al was like, I've got to be in glam boys. I don't know what to tell you. All the boys' jobs was like lifting shit. Also, all of them were like, no, no, no, don't worry. And you thought, oh, chivalry's not dead.

Thank God. Works to my advantage sometimes. Yeah. Because they were all like, are you sure you want to come on the horse run? And I said to them, oh, I ain't no fucking bitch. But then when it comes to lifting a sofa, I couldn't possibly. I won't be seen there. But I will.

Right Side Saddle Boys. Yes. Yeah. Fine. Anyway, it was really, really fun. And the morning of the wedding, as I think I told you all, we went on a hack. I wouldn't call it a hack. It was a gentle stroll.

Fine. Really nice. It was beautiful. And we were like walking across the fields and there were these like hairs. They're fucking huge hairs. He's massive. Yeah. Running in circles.

Like all like, it was like out of a movie. Love. Anyway, then I went to get glam and they were doing stuff. And like, Mel looked so beautiful. They got married in the middle of, like, genuinely in the middle of the woods with like, it was surrounded by bluebells. Like, it was like out of a picture. It was so beautiful. They're on the honeymoon now. They're on the honeymoon now. I know.

Wow. It was just really, really. And I will never do that for anyone else, like be a groom's lady. Yes. I thought you meant the effort for the book. No, no, no. I think you'll find you will. But the other thing I said, listen, don't get me wrong.

I love those boys. I said to them, you guys should try... It's not like getting ready with the girls. You should try. No, it's not even that. The fucking book. I said, you should try being a girl sometimes, guys. Do you know, we do this for like just a random Friday because our friends had a bad period?

And they were all saying, I'm so sad that no one is going to do this for me. And I said, you should try being a girl sometimes. It is honestly the best thing ever. You will never feel underappreciated as a girl. Never. Ever. Ever. You will always have effort made for you.

And like, even like, the messages that they were writing, like, that's probably the nicest thing they will ever write to Jack in their entire life. I would send that to you like on a Monday. Amen. Do you know what I mean? Like I just, I really, you know, seeing it like up close, you just think, wow, I am fucking, I know we pull the shorts through on a lot of things. But my God, friendship is not one of them.

I'm not one of them. I mean. Anyway, sorry, the other thing I wanted to tell you because obviously then we had, oh, and they did their first dance to, um, they came into Kylie Love at first sight, which I thought was really good. Great song. Yeah. And then they did a first dance where like they entered and they like did a bit of

choreo first, which I love a bit of choreo. Yeah, you've got to do some choreo. And... When else will you do it? Never. Exactly. And she changed her dress and from like, so for the service she had like a lace cover up but like look like part of the dress and then she took that off and then under the dress she put on like those puff sleeves.

Love. Which I thought was clever as a two in one dress but like you don't she didn't really change her dress actually. Really nice because actually it's sad to take off your main dress really. Yeah. If you love it as well as well as. Yeah. If you get it right, you should want to stay in it all night, but then you need to be able to move. So I'm guessing then she could... Exactly. She could slay the moves.

Exactly. And she said to me, she was like, this course it is bruising about. I said, sis, I've been there. Oh, yeah. I have honestly, I've been there. It is hell. We say it many times. There's many a bride that struggles to have a personality on our wedding day because she can't breathe.

Yeah. It's hard. Yeah. It's really hard out there for the girls. But listen, if you want to look a certain way. If you want to look slay for the, you know, and look at the picture of the rest of your life, that's the price you got to pay. Oh, it's a sad truth. It is.

It is. It's a sad truth. So then we were talking about Raw was literally making me cry last night. So he came home. He was in a brilliant mood. Don't know why. Because he'd been to Bristol his favourite place on Earth.

On Earth, yeah. And anyway, he came home, he said, so I've had an idea for our wedding. Guys, okay, but I need to just preface this was this is the level of detail that Raw and I are getting at, okay? We're not thinking venue. We're not thinking Dave. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

This is why we were honestly planning, if we managed to put up. off a wedding it will be a fucking miracle okay he comes home he said so i've um i've had an idea i said oh come on he said i know what our first dance is going to be okay no sorry not first dance i know what the entrance song no when you when you leave when you leave and everyone close confetti the exits exit exit song yes say and georchad this will be an everlasting love this will be lovely right okay guys this is ruse big idea big idea good don't know when don't know where But we know this.

Good. It's the Chelsea tunnel exits. No, he actually needs to get in the bin. He's in the bin. I was crying. What is it? Do do, do, do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do that's all. I actually think we could let him have that to be there.

I said. I don't hate it. I said. Can we get it on strings? And then he was like, good. Okay, that I can get behind. Yeah. Then he was like playing it.

He was really making me long. He was like, so this is how we would practice. So he's playing the fucking song on its way. He's like, you may now kiss the bride. Doesn't kiss me probably because he's too excited to walk out. Other things on his mind. Okay. And then he's like this.

Practicing is all like this. And are we all meant to go, Chelsea? Yeah. Right. And everyone's meant to throw a blue. And he said blue convention. Fuck me. Okay.

This. So then we're creating a monster here, I fear. I'm worried. Oh, it was making me lot. And do you know what? The problem, not the problem. I actually don't give a fuck. Nah, that's fine.

I would let him do that because I think that's quite fine. I mean, the funniest thing is, is that Roe will plan his wedding as if he is a Chelsea footballer. Like, for a Chelsea footballer, that makes lots of sense. I know. Raw, you're a season ticket holder, I hear you. But you're not on the pitch.

You're not scoring the pens. I've not actually seen you set one foot on that grass. I've not seen you there. So it's a little, you know, fan girl of you to, you know, do an ode to Chelsea at your wedding. Then I said, why didn't we think about,

you know, if I said to him, I will consider that. It's not an immediate no for me. No, fair. I don't give a, this is what I mean, I genuinely, this is what, I think people get really, like,

heat up about this shit. It's quite, it doesn't really matter. Funny. It's funny. Personal touches, do you make a wedding? And I said, what, okay,

what about another option, just, you know, spitballing here. What if the tables were called either famous Chelsea players or like different parts of Stanford Bridge

like there's an area called like the shed end or like where he has his tickets as the Aussies every table could be I like it a lot like I think that's quite funny yeah

anyway that's honestly guys as far as we've got I want fortune cookie placeholders and we're going to walk out to Chelsea's exit song but Al is you know using this summer as research that's how we're looking at this

and then he said Oh, sorry, this was his other idea. Sorry. He wants to do a choreograph first dance. As he should. Because he can't freestyle. Honestly, that would be embarrassing. What was the song he said?

You're the one that I want. You are the one. And he said, we can do all of the like... Good. He could wear his leather, his fun leather jacket. He got at Greenwich. Pop it on top of the share. I said, Tim, if you want to do a choreograph dance,

I'll do it for you. we have to, we are going to milk that content. He said, yeah, deal. If we do it, if we can do it to, you're the one that I want, I will be in a video. Fair. I said it has to be of you learning the choreography.

Many trade-offs going to happen in the next year or two. I will do that. That is, that fucking, that will go viral, that. I'm ready. Anyway, so that's as far as we've got. Really good.

We know the fucking placeholders. We know the exit song and we know the first dance. It's a pretty good going, I'd say, when you got engaged a week ago. Do you know what I mean? Oh, it's too good. Anyway, Izzy, tell us.

We have something written down here that just says, Izzy's surprise, which is worrying because you never know what this girl's going to do. You need not be worried. You need not be worried. So we obviously, we love love on this podcast. We love love love all things mystical, magical. We do.

So, oh my God. A couple of people have... I know I wait. Well, can't... In a foret. Oh my gosh. She's putting her laptop down. So, yeah, put my laptop down.

Enter it, now I'm joking, no one's coming in. So I had a message from someone saying that there's an Etsy witch who draws his soulmates. I'm dead. So I paid not enough really. It was a bit cheap and I do possibly think it might be AI, but I don't mind. And I said, draw us to soulmates please. She was meant to give a reading. She hasn't sent that over yet.

That's fine. Oh my God. Is this for all three of us? of us. One each. I mean, I just, I wasn't going to do it for myself. And then I saw yours and I was like, I actually kind of want to do it for myself. As you should.

Oh my God. What if yours is raw? What if yours isn't raw? Well, it's not going to be raw. I bet you. Well, unless she's really clever. That's something that's don't turn it over yet. I'm dead.

Okay. So, um, obviously if you're listening, please can you describe what, what you see. So who wants to go first? Well, I think Al should go first, really. I'm scared. That's actually quite weird. Does I don't like him? It's not a million miles away.

Oh, yeah. Even the hair is quite, it's basically raw, you know, with a slightly more angular jaw. Yes, that guy hasn't quite got the Nordic jaw. Rour could also rock a goatee like that. Yes, Rour's facial hair is much better than this. And I would say Rour's eyes are much kinder than this man's. Yes, he's got squintyer eyes.

Rawls quite like round. Like wide. This man's a rat and Roles are frown. Can I just ask is what kind of information do you have to give the Etsy witch for her to know that this is your soulmate? Okay. Birthday name, status, relationship status and just not much else to be like. That is fucking funny. Guys, if this guy's fit when I turn this over, I'm just going to put a picture of it on my hinge and say an Etsy which said this is my soulmate. If you match the brief, please get in touch.

Okay. Are you ready? Yeah. Oh my God, their brothers. Yeah. I thought that they look similar. Oh my God, their brothers. Let me see.

They look the same. I'm just trying to think if I know him. Give me a minute. Do I know him? I'm not sure I do know him. Oh. They? That looks more like raw than this.

I've got the kinder brother, like the good brother, the good egg brother, and you've got the naughty one. Well, that would fit. That adds up. Oh my God, babe. Oh, my God, is he? I'm dead at this. And they both have tashes. Wait, I think I know this, man.

Find him. Hold on. Guys, if you know this man Okay, he's like White male I can't see as height I'm going to say six four He's actually quite slight

Slighter than I would normally You know He has a very familiar face this guy Really? Yeah He's got quite a wide neck I'd say kind of in line With his jawline Lovely jaw

Nice eyes I think they're light I can't tell this is like a white He's a very nice looking man He's got a strong hairline It's one thing I will say for the Etsy Witch which I'm grateful for. Lovely ears.

I'm great lips actually. Who is he? He do know him. I know him. Do you like a goatee? I don't like it. I've never really been with a goatee. I don't like a goatee.

I think it's a little bit try hard. He's wearing a nice t-shirt. I think, yeah, I think he's cute. I'm not joking. He looks really familiar to me. Okay, I'm going to put this picture. I'm not joking, on my hinge. Yeah.

My Tinder, my whatever, my field. And right, Annette's you which told me this is my soulmate, if this is you get in touch. Exactly. Really good. Is he really good? Let's see yours. So, because I thought, damn, yours looks similar. She's just sending me like the same person.

But mine actually looks different. Okay. Okay. I'm not glad I've got the best one, I think. I think he's so hot. Shut up. But he looks like the guy I am dating on Hinge right now. Do you not think?

Fitty McVitie. Yeah, he does. She loves this particular cart of handlebar mustache. Yeah, I love a strong mustache with a bit of a beard. His hair's really sexy. His hair is. And he's got a ris. The way he's like,

take my picture or don't witch. I do think mine's more good looking than yours. Yeah, I agree. But I think that actually adds up. This is fucking funny. Well done. From what you go for with men, you do put looks above a lot of other things.

I agree. You do? So it adds up that you would have the best looking guy. He's fit. And I would have the least. It adds up. I don't think he's the least. I think he's got such a nice face.

I don't think he's the least good looking. Let me see yours. I mean, I do think. Sorry, they are brothers. They are the same man. They're brothers. He's got a very strong nose, this guy. I love a strong nose.

He's got much smaller nose than I would normally go for. He knows like Raw. He does. That is kind of an ish what Rawl looks like. Kind of a bit different, but that's more close to... I literally have forgotten this. I literally have a picture of Raw. I need a picture of Raw. I need a Vig.

I've forgotten. What does all really look like? I've literally forgotten me. Basically that. Should I kiss him? Wow. What would you call him? Soulmate.

No, he's the name. S&M. What's a fit name that you'd love to call someone for the rest of their life? This is manifestation. Okay, I'm going to call him. Serious business. God, I feel like he's my pet. I'm going to put him on my wall.

Yeah. I'm going to call him. What's a fit boy's name? I don't actually like very many boys' names. Do you know what I quite like? Josh, Ryan. I think, I have a cousin called Ryan who's gay and I think Ryan's quite a gay name.

We've talked about it. Ryan's a gay name. I think it's like gay. Oh, right. I was thinking Ryan Gosling, I guess. Oh, yeah, of course. Oh, I don't think Ryan's... Ryan Reynolds.

Famous Ryans are quite fair. Yeah. Can't think of any other Ryans. Not Josh. I've been to way too many fucking Joshes. Okay, what about? Like an Aidan or something. Oh, no.

Aiden! Eden is the gayest of names. Aegean. Don't be silly. What about like Max? No. What about Darren? Shut up.

Shut up. What do you mean Darren? Shut up. What about like Elijah? Sexy. That's really hot. I don't think I can say that. I just like biblical names actually.

Noah. I love the name Noah. Babe, this is brilliant. Thank you so much. That's really good. I tell you what? If I find a man that looks like this and he's my soul mate, I will be giving that Etsy which a bonus.

Let me tell you. Wait, wait, we can do that this week. Yeah. Yes. Good idea. I know, I was thinking pop them up somewhere. Okay, we can do that. We can do that.

Yeah, great. We'll pin them up for next time. I can't be about him. It does look a bit like mugshoty as well. Yeah, but I like that. We love a bad boy. Okay, galleys, you can join us in part two for your galley messages. Gallies, welcome back.

What will we call? call the galleys this week, you better call them Ryan. Ryan. Ryan. Okay, let's have our first voice note. Hello, galleys. As a woman where my mum, my sisters and myself are all accused of being a little bit witchy. I had to just tell you about the time my sister did something absolutely incredible. So her best friend had a baby and now this little boy, he's now 14 and he was born with some very serious conditions and when she was pregnant and found out that he may have a very, very complicated life, his father decided to leave. Hey, I will leave those judgments up to business and he was originally from Scotland. So this man heard the news and like about out of hell

decided to drive to Scotland. And my sister found out the news from her best friend obviously. She called her up very, very upset. And my sister was like, I'm going to fucking hex him. I swear to God. So she hexed this man, like, went full Etsy witch. I wish I was fucking joking when I say this. When the man got back to his face in Scotland, I know word of lie, a crow had come down through the chimney.

shat everywhere destroyed paintings now actually i forgot to mention a key part of this this man is a really well-renowned surgeon so he's not poor okay so we can just picture the type of apartment the type of artwork on the walls the type of antiques and there and yeah this crow came in and destroyed quite a lot of it so hey calm as a bitch we love a witch what a right rhyme. Now we have it. Thank you. Oh my God. Babe, we don't hex enough. Because we don't have the power.

I've never tried. I need your sister's number. I'm not joking. We've got a lot of hexes to cast. I've got some serious hexing that I could get hexy with. What's your sister? I'm not joking. If she's an Etsy witch, she'll have a link. Not even an Etsy witch. She is. No, she's an amateur. She just went all Excy Witch. But she's just a bit witchy. Well, okay, even better. Because you could be our private Etsy Witch. I don't like it when the Etsy which has like spread their magic far and white

and they didn't need it concentrated. True. So good. Especially for hexing because you want to get the hexing right and you don't want to go too dark with the hexing. That was bang on.

That is perfect. How did they find out about the crow? The criminal crow? I don't know. Maybe he'd like message them. I don't think so much he x me. No, he probably messaged him being like

oh, woe is me. I've had a really bad day that crow came into my living room and they thought you've had a bad day. We. What a piece of shit. Have had a bad day and bad days to come

and you're here for them. If that was my sister I honestly would fear for the people in my life. Well the problem is you can't be greedy with your hexas you can't get drunk on that power.

You cannot. Because I would be drunk as fuck. I would. I would be litting. I'd be sipping from that cup on a daily basis. Yeah, yeah, yeah. You'd be a hexaholic.

No, but I don't know. Can you positively hex? No different thing. You can like, you can, um, What's the other one? Like not bless, but like... Basically, that's what they people paid the Etsy, which is for to do on their wedding day.

Exactly. You can like give like good spell, good magic, good karma, but you can't hex positively. Hexing is bad. What is it called when you don't do that? When you cast a... A spell? A nice spell.

Good spell. See? This is why we're not out there hexing because we don't know anything about the way. We're not witchy enough. We've got to get witchy. I cannot. But that is honestly unbelievable.

A crow as well is so good. You know how big crows are. You know how, like, also the symbolism of a crow. Also, it's just too perfect. It's perfect. Because he is a nasty, nasty man. He hasn't got goodness in his heart. And so what does he deserve?

A crow to vandalise his flat. That is amazing. Imagine being a part-time hexer. I don't part-time anything. I've got no special skills. When people say, what are your hobbies? I think, ask a different question. I've got no hobbies and I've got no special skills.

I couldn't write a CV now. That's not true. You can be a duck. I am famously good at the dark. You're good at the dark, yeah. That's the special skill. It's all I learn a year at drama school was how to be a duck.

What other special skills do you have? Like genuinely none. No. What do you have? Facial toning devices. That's not a skill. You're really good at using your facial toning device. You are.

Drinking chia seeds as if they're just water. Yeah, I am good at that. I'm good skill. Your skill is having regular arm movements. True, but I feel like your skill you should have control over. Honestly, we're skilled. No, hold on. You're always on time.

That's not good skill. You look at, babe, we're scraping the barrel here. We're really scraping the barrel. Like, yeah, a good skill would be to be able to help my sisters in arms and, you know, hex, all these fuckers. Imagine if we actually had this power on this podcast and every single person that voiced noted in that told us about a fucker, we could hex them. We would be millionaires by now. We would be hexing the hell out of the male population. That's like that fucking guy.

a hexer. But you know the guy. Because he would be a wizard. No, the guy that the famous, what was his name? Famous hexer. He wasn't a hexer. He was the one that spoke to dead people. And he did it in Hollywood. No. The guy, the blonde guy. I know the guy, the blonde guy that goes into a house.

The skinny blonde guy. Yes. And he stood in, he's freaky. He's freaky. And he's minted. Of course he is. Because he's saying things that, you know, they just, he couldn't have known. Everyone wants to talk to the dead. I know. Everyone wants magical powers. There's a really good witchy shop in Bristol. You know what's going of yours?

What? You always manage to find a table when there's no tables to be found. That actually is true. That is true. And that is a great skill. And often people look at me like I can't do it. No, no, no. And I think, don't worry about it.

Honestly, I'll just sit back. I'll just honestly sit here and wait. Exactly. Yeah. You are a very good parallel parker. I was just about to say parallel parking is one of my skills, yeah. Wow. Yeah.

No space too small. Yeah. She's like a contortionist. Yeah. She just folds up her Lexington. LBX as she gets into any kind of space. Yeah, I actually do. I actually can do that. So there you go. We've got skills. I mean, listen, they're not quite as useful as being able to hex. Excuse my French. Cuckus. Whoa.

Yeah, baby, say it. Yeah, give it where it's deserved, but not a good way, cuckabard way. No, no, it wasn't a f***. No. He was just a cucket. And that is two different things. We're really differentiating here on this podcast. We're really learning. We're basically words. at this point. Thank you. Richard Osmond, eat your heart out. Okay? Thank you. Come here for word meanings. Um, God, I love your sister. What a good girl to have around. I want to know her. I would love to have someone in my life like that. Thing is I wouldn't hex because I couldn't, but what I would do is egg. I would vandalize my, I would risk my, I would risk a criminal record to vandalize. You could do that now. Exactly. You don't need to be a witchy to do that. No, but I don't, like,

who's wronging you? Find me someone that's wrong you. I'll go and key their car. That's what I'm saying. Babe, I said that about that guy. Your two, no. guy. No, it has to be worth it. Babe, you are all fart and no poop. She gives it all the big one. Babe, okay, he left. This guy, I don't need to reiterate what this man did.

Okay, if someone did that to me, obviously, I know. Not wanting to go on a third date with me is not worth vandalism. I'm talking, I'm talking serial cheetah, secret family, you know, selling nudes of you. That's what I'm talking, okay? Selling stories. Yeah. I'm not talking, you're not my. tight. Yeah, okay, fine. And I don't want to go on another date with you

because you've got braces. We'll let them off. Fine. Fine. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, fine. All right. Amazing story. That is really 10 out 10. That's my day. That's brilliant. Tell your sister. We love her. Sorry, I need to tell you about my sister. A little anecdote for you. That little hexa. Because I wrote it down. She's not a hexer, but when she was younger, she was a little spooky.

I think we have spoken about this before that she saw faces. And she saw, I actually like, she was very witchy, which is weird because now she kind of doesn't believe at all. She's seen too much. But she was very... And you've seen that much? Oh, you need to tap out.

There were two occasions. One when we went to stay in a family friend's house, old, like really, like hundreds of years old this house. And we were tiny. She would have been like two or three. And we were in this little bedroom and our parents were in the next door bedroom. And all in the middle of the night,

my parents heard this loud, like, like it felt like the ceiling had fallen. in in our room. So my dad came in and we were fine, we were sleeping, but it was freezing in there, even though it was middle of the summer, it was freezing. And then in the morning, my mum was getting my sister dressed and Moes goes, where did that little, where did that little boy go? My mom was like, what little boy? There was no one else in the house, what little boy? And she goes, oh, there was a little boy sitting on the end of my bed. He was wearing a dress. And there was a boy, Victorian boy that had died in that room

in his sleep wearing his night dress and it was just too weird and then there was another thing where we were driving up to Scotland once and we stopped in this tiny air like Airbnb or not Airbnb like a B&B but like again like really like a medieval building and we were again sharing a room

and my dad and my stepmom were in the next door room and I remember so vividly we were a bit older and we were lying down we had two twin beds and it was like quite a weird room that were like paintings everywhere and it's like oldy wall walled. And she just got into bed and she goes, why are all these men looking at me?

And we found out that it was the place that men who were being hung, drawn and quartered would like spend their final night before they got executed and she could see them all. And so I just, yeah. Some people have the power. Some people are connected. Also kids often have it more because they're like not like conditioned yet.

It's like dogs. Yeah. Well, dogs can smell cancer. Yes. It's unbelievable. I know. Anyway, yeah. Amazing story.

Bloody brilliant. Right, it is time for an email from Ryan number two. Hey, galleys. I love the pod so much. It's genuinely my favourite part of the week. I just need a bit of advice on how to handle a situation. My boyfriend and I have been together for about seven months and I honestly see this relationship as the one.

But in September last year, he went to a festival in Malta with his cousins. The festival is coming up. up again and we might go together, which is why this has come back up. When he was there last year, he barely messaged me. I've met his cousins and they told me I had nothing to worry about, but I noticed his following followers went up by about 10 and they were all girls. I've got much to say on this. Apparently, as part of that, his cousin asked him to follow the friends of the girls he was speaking to on Instagram. Feels like a dodgy alibi to me. He reassured me that he didn't actually speak to any of them or message them and I do trust that. But I don't really understand why he needed to

follow them in the first place. Surely you can be a wingman without doing that. I'm not sure whether this is something I should actually be upset about or how to deal with it. I don't want to lose him over something that happened months ago, especially as I do trust him generally. But at the same time, it has hurt me a bit and I've definitely been making some snarky comments about it since. Oops. Anyway, I'd really love to hear your thoughts. Love you girls so much. P.S. You mentioned height differences recently. I'm 4-11 and he's 6.5. Oh my God, babe. Look at them. Oh my God Oh my God, babe, sorry for slagging you off

Love to your love Oh my god, look at them Babe, you're so gorgeous Wow Okay, can I be real And this is I know And I feel like I'm like

Love to give benefit of the doubt But there is one piece of behaviour in a relationship That I cannot understand And that is when you follow and interact with new girls on Instagram. I don't get it. Where are you finding them?

Like at least this guy, at least you know he was at a festival and maybe he was like engaging in flirty behaviour, giving out his Instagram, maybe he was Wingy Manning, whatever it was. But in general, when you're in a relationship and you're seeing new followers constantly come up and they're girls, I can't understand it.

Because in this modern world, that is flirting, that is advancing. If a fit single guy followed me and started liking my pictures, I would think he was interested in me. That is flirting. So if you're in a relationship, I do think it's like a gateway drug to engaging in, like, you know, fucking infidelity. I do.

I really do. I think it's bad behaviour. I guess the only thing in this situation is that you can maybe see that that hasn't happened since and it was like contextual. But even that, if my boyfriend was going on nights out and every time he went on a night out, that for me would be. Because something's gone wrong there.

Something has happened. You're crossing that line. Something there has been an interaction there. Yeah. That has led, like, you know, don't get me wrong. We all speak to people on a night out. Of course. You've crossed the line of the flying bit.

Like, the getting to know, they're taking the attention, the whatever I can swear it away. Like, finding the Instagram. Like, that is another level. Saying give me your Instagram. And then, like, afterwards, probably engaging with it is to me. Also, you're scratching some sort of itch inside you. What's that itch? Why are you itchy?

Also, different if it's one or two. I don't know. Sometimes you know when you meet people and they're like, oh yeah, I, I don't know. Sometimes there's a thing where it's like, oh yeah, I know a good plate. I'm going to Lisbon. I'll send you some, like, whatever. If it's one or two, but not like tens and tens every time. That's not right.

It's not right. And you know when you look at the little, they're private, but you look at the PeeP and you think, really? Like, you know it's just like a fit single girl and you think, what's gone on there? It's not trustworthy behaviour, is it? And we do know boys that don't do it. That's why I always think, like, guys, the bar is so low. Think about the stories we have on this part. The bar to be a good guy.

I know, is so low. It's so low. Like, and so we do know boys that hit the bar and then some. Yeah. It's not great. It's not actually that difficult. I think the only thing I would say to you is like, basically you have to either trust him or you don't.

Like now that he's told you his excuses, he's a wingman, he's doing whatever the fuck he's doing, whatever his like reason is, he's told you that now. You either have to believe him or you kind of have to take a stance, you know? I think the problem though is that I think, I'm sure you do believe him some part of you,

but there now is that seed of doubt. And you want to check. And you can't, you can't, I don't believe that it's possible to undo that seat. it's there now. You will be watching. You will know how many followers he has and how many people are following. And you'll be knowing, you'll know who it is and when, at what time of day.

Like, you know what I mean? I do. The problem is as well, like, what are you going to say? You can't follow, you can't, you can't, girls can't follow you. You have no control over that either. Yeah. So it's like, I think it's a much wider conversation within your relationship, if I'm completely honest.

I think this is not a, I think this is possibly like a platform off which to jump. to have a much broader conversation about like the behaviour of you both within your relationship and like respect what is acceptable and what is not acceptable and like listen let's give if we want to play devil's advocate

and given the benefit of the doubt maybe if you have that conversation it won't ever happen again but if I think as well if you've had that conversation and it continues to happen to that level that's different that is different because like you know

maybe again benefit of the doubt I don't know that I believe this but let's just say he's being like ditsy and dumb and he doesn't really understand the gravitas of it, let him off once you've explained it. And he says, I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to hurt you. I didn't see it like that. I understand now. If that, if that's it, then I think that that's okay. True. It never happens again. Fine. But if you have that conversation and that continues to happen, that's different. Because then he's actively disrespecting you. That's different. That's also, a lot of it is about,

like, I think in the beginning, you're only seven months in, like everyone's kind of, like, there are a lot of assumptions being made here and everyone's filling in the gaps based on their own, like their own perspectives and their own prejudices. And their own set of rules. Yes. And what you can only do, the only, like, as in the only way to like,

you know, make your relationship really strong is to have ground rules. But like that could be, you know, this is one example of a rule. Like, you know, there are thousands of places that that is applicable within a relationship. But you can only sing off the same hymn sheet if you write the hymn sheet together. and you haven't yet done that. So maybe that's a good place to start.

Really good. Yeah. Good luck, babe. And have fun at the festival. Thank God you're there this time. It's all I'm saying. Okay. This is The Galley Gossip,

our favourite section of the pod. It's time for the Galley Gossip. So this week in the Galley Gossip, sorry, the galley gossip is where you can message in and comment and we will respond to you. This is a two-way conversation, okay? we have had an email from Reese reminding us that life really does get better. Say it again.

Say it again. After a massive breakup with my first long-term partner which resulted in me leaving the city, I had built a whole-ass life in with a partner, apartment, career and my dog and having to move back home at 23 years old at the opposite end of the country and start again. Tomorrow I am moving back to the city into a new flat on my own. I turned 25 in January and have done nothing but work on myself since moving. And to top it off, I just found out my ex has been called cheating on the boy he left me for. They have broken up and nothing has changed in his life and I'm returning a brand new person.

For anyone listening that's going through it, take the time and choose you because it does get better. What a brilliant message. Yeah. I'm so happy for you. It really does. Sometimes leaving or being forced to leave feels like the harder decision. but in the long run I often think it's not. You first of all should be so proud of yourself

because that's not easy and a lot of people would just like succumb to defeat. And also never return. Sometimes it's really hard. Everywhere you look, you think, oh my God, that's where we got coffee together. Oh my God, that's where we had like a kiss and he told me, love me.

Everything is about them. To come back and to reframe it, it's really hard, but so worth it because you can. You make new memories. Unnecessary. Yeah. Don't let them own a city. Yeah, listen, say I get like fucking retweet all the above. Like, you know, I think that we get a lot of messages on this podcast from younger listeners.

And, you know, as two people on the other side of the hill. Speak for yourself. You're a whole year older than me. Of the 20s. We are, you know, you're also over the hill. It is, if you live right and you live authentically and you do genuinely manage to take. all the clouds that come and find their silver linings, every single year gets better.

This is why like, you know, aging, whatever, whatever, whatever. Even the heartbreak, like guys, I used to hate when people said this to me, so I'm really sorry to be like doing this. But it helps in the long run. Like having your heart broken like that is, don't get me wrong, painful. And for many people not necessary for growth, but for some of us it's necessary. For some of us, we have to learn the lessons harder. that's why I'm still getting parking tickets.

I'm not learning the lesson very well. That's not why. They're still coming for me because my lesson isn't being learned. Some people need impact to make change and it will only change you for the better in the long run. It doesn't feel like that in the moment.

It feels like it's hard to get up in the morning. It feels like you wake up and you remember again and you think there's no point in any of it but there is and the sun will shine again and you have to believe in that. Otherwise you literally won't get out of bed and we're really like, lucky to be living. I was really actually thinking that last week because we spoke about,

you know, the terrible Gettys at the BAFTA. Two years ago, that would have sent both of us into like, you know, the pits of despair. We were finding it so funny, but that's only because we've done this. Like, the more you do something and even if it's hard, the easier it gets. Like, you know, like now maybe, I hope you, I had definitely hope you don't get heartbroken again. But if you do, now you know. Yes. Also, your self-esteem will be so much better. Like, it feels like in the moment, especially when you're like cheated on, were disrespected, you're broken up with out of the blue. Like, it feels really easy to let that break you down, but actually sometimes to break down,

then you can build back up higher and higher. I was going back up higher and I was going back to yourself and like choosing you. Yes. That is a really power. You are unstoppable if you are living connected to yourself all the time. And if that's sadly the way it's had to happen. Yes. To be honest, what a fucking gift that person gave you.

you to free you of them and to get back to you. A lesson and a blessing. And listen, still we rise. Still we rise. And thank you for being our shining light for the galleys in need. Love you, Reese. If you want to get involved in next week's galley gossip, please send us a DM on Instagram or drop us a comment on YouTube or Spotify to be featured. You can also WhatsApp us. Don't forget. Right, this is what we loved and didn't love from this episode. Loved Etsy. witches. Love seeing our soulmates. Can't wait to meet him. Maybe I'll just take that on the tube. I'll just have it with me at all times. No, just take a picture. That needs to stay here. Easy can stay here. I'll take a picture. We'll be like this. We'll be walking around like this,

phone up like this. Yeah, just checking. Facial recognition. Love to hexes. I genuinely do love hexes because I just think, wow, power to you. Love to get hexie. Yeah. Loved, Izzy's written, love Chelsea Tunnel music for your wedding. I would put that in the not sure. to agree. Can we have a not so sure if we love or hate yet? TBC, let's see how it goes down on the day. TBC. Love, loved Raw's enthusiasm.

Love. Loved. Love, love. Love, love, starting to plan a wedding. Love. Chelsea Dunn will be. You've got to leave. You don't want to leave to silence.

Also, guys, you know, when people talk about weddings, they're like, there's so much to do. This is the sort of shit that there's so much to do. I'm going to be so, I'm going to be kicking back and relaxing because everyone's shit ideas are all for. Let rule do it. Honestly for it. I like it a lot.

Things we didn't love. Not having any special skills. It's really, really disappointing. Why don't we work on that? You're all meant to be DJing. When's the last time you looked at your decks? When... Sorry.

When would I have the time? True. Tell me one time. Problem is, I would do it at night. Everyone's asleep. She's not really a daytime mover and griever because I would say when I'm writing, but you're not there, are you?

First thing in the morning, I can't be doing that now. She's not there. She's not to be seen on the next then. Didn't love seeing ghosts. Didn't love seeing ghosts. Sorry, I would say loved seeing ghosts. You'd be happy to see a ghost now.

I would honestly, that, I would never stop talking about that. Yeah. Even if it happened once, just so that I could be like, I saw it. Yeah. Don't get me wrong. Obviously, I believe. You don't have to see it to believe. But if I saw it, I would honestly, I'd be like, fuck me.

I am chosen. I've told you about Emily, haven't I? When we were in Bali, Emily saw a ghost. Yes, you told me that. and she'd never seen one before or since. But were you there at that moment? I wasn't in the room with her. But I was there in the villa.

Maybe you would have seen it. I didn't see her. Don't love following girls on Instagram when you're in a relationship. Sorry, don't love. I'm just, I just don't love it. But did love over-communicating and making rules. We do love that.

In a relationship. Yes. A hymn book was a lovely way to say it, though. Yes. Okay, so let us know what you loved or hated in this episode by commenting on Spotify, YouTube, or wherever you're listening. If you've got a story or a dilemma that only we can help with, then please send a voice note to our WhatsApp on 07342-617-792.

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