Leave A Message with Ally & G - Threesome Fun, Banging In The Office And Menopausal Moments!

Episode Date: February 4, 2026

This week on LAM, we’ve had some very important questions asked… Is shagging weird? AND, have Ally and G ever had a threesome?Plus, one Gally gets an unexpected text from her best mate’s girlfriend after her name is mentioned during the deed, while another is dealing with her partner suggesting… a third party? Uncomfortable conversations all round really! FANCY SENDING A VOICENOTE/MESSAGE GALLY? Send your voice note to: https://wa.me/message/UH4DASEKPFQBA1 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ (Oh, and don’t leave out ANY of the juicy detailsOR, you can write us email an on [e-mail] us at @leaveamessagepodcast on socials! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello! You've reached Leave a Message with me, Ali. And me, G. This is the podcast where we help the galleys in need. Whether you've been doing some investigative journalism on your ex's new girlfriend. Or your date literally had to swing by boots for some Viagra on the way home. You're in a safe space here, is all you need to know. So, babe, what is new with you since I saw you and Mia?

Eight hours ago. You've got Fisher tickets? I've got Fisher tickets, thanks to G. Big up. What's new? We've actually, guys, this last week I got Whiplash. Have you? I honestly, the life we've lived in the last week,

sorry, this is really funny. Izzy's notes, did admin Monday last? Double question mark. The answer is no. No, no, no. The answer is... We had one admin Monday. No, no.

That was not our fault and we won't name and shame who ruined admin Monday, but we were meant to do something. Well, actually, there was more than one culprit. Yes, there was two culprits, I would say, that ruined admin Monday, but no fear, because we're going to have admin Tuesday. It's this afternoon.

I have fear. And you have admin to do, you've got to edit that video. I've got so much like that. What else have you got to do? I've got to do our reels. I've got this new, right. Guys, we hit 40K on Instagram. The pace at which we move on Instagram is really,

a lesson for the tortoise and the hair, let me tell you. Good babe. We are the tortoise. I've got to go to the post office. Big job. I've got to... I've got to pay my tax return. You've got to pay your tax return. I like to leave it straight away. I haven't been... She hasn't sent it to me. You sent it quite late, didn't you? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I sent it last week. This is my problem. I've been like this all my life. If the deadline is the 31st of

January, I will send it to you on my 30th of January. We are literally opposite. Oh my God. This is what I wanted to talk to you about. Sorry. I watched this video, but from this, it must have been taken from like a podcast or something, from this psychologist who was basically saying, like, that's a good example of, I'm always late and G's always early and about how it's quite indicative of actually how you see the world.

Because late people are optimist because you always think I'm not going to encounter any obstacles on my journey. I will get there quicker. I can do this. I don't think I'm a pessimist though. You, but when you leave, you leave time because you think, oh, well, maybe that will go wrong and maybe this will be delayed and maybe... That's not my reasoning.

What's your reasoning? I don't like to be rushed and like I would rather have time being... Like today, I want to have time to get the coffees. I want to have time to me yander. Do you know what I mean? But like even your tax return, like you've done it before because you're like, well, what if? No, because I'm just like, well, I suppose what if I spend the money?

Fair. It's a little bit of my thinking with the tax return. Well, I just think if I'm just think if I'm... the money. Best find it elsewhere. Yes, well, you best. No, well, I best. Yeah, you best. No, I understand that reasoning, but I don't, I don't, I don't, um, I don't see myself in that. I'm just saying that that was the, that was the, um, the research that they,

like, when they did all this, when they interviewed lots of people who were like generally always early and generally always lay. And that does make sense. Yeah, it does. If you're always late, you just like, obstacles aren't, you know, you don't even see them. But then you, that you're saying that as in like quite like chilled, laid back. I know a lot of late people that are like so like, rushy, rushy. Oh yeah, yeah. Auxy. Do you know what I mean? So I never, I never know with these, um, these things. Like who are they, who are they interviewing is what I want to know? To the general public? I know, but are they? This is why I always think, who of the general public do you know that's going to sign up to do one of them? Do you know, well, when I was

really skin, nah, when I was, when I was really, when I was really, you know, when I was really, broke. Oh my god, sorry, I've got great news. I've just seen on my phone. Sophie Borthwick replied. Oh, thank God, where have you been? Guys, Sophie Borthwick is just, we speak about her all the time, but she does PR for Larry King. So like, when we need a haircut,

Sophie Borswick's the girl to go to and we thought she was ghosting us but alas, she's back, thank God. Thank God. Like God, you're here. My hair needs... No, no, I look like a dog. It's a joke. When my front bit started to get really long, I do look like a dog. Also, I don't know what I'm going to do. I walk in and I show Zoe Clark this, she is going to be like,

you're going to have to cut a bang in, I'm afraid. You're going to have to go to that. Yeah, yeah, you're going to have to do it on both sides. Yeah. Love it. I've been waiting for you to do a bit of layering, shaping around the front. Because when I tie my hair up, it doesn't go in and that over... Yay.

Yeah, yeah. That's right. Today, I was doing my little hit workout in the living room. And my hair... You need a bobby pin? I can't stand it. I can't stand it. Alice Band.

Come on. All these obstacles. Do I like the kind of girl? All these obstacles to your optimism. Alice band, Bobby Pinn, many things to do. A hat. A hat, yes, yes, yes. A cap. A cap. You could train in a cat.

In the gym. This girl yesterday, I was at the gym. A knee gym. Oh, what? There is also a girl at your gym. Yeah, I know. She's cool. I don't know her, but.

I know I know. I was at a new gym. And we were kind of, you know, having chats about the lack of squat racks. And she just walked. You spoke to all random girl. Yeah. Well, I saw her.

It was hilarious actually because I'd done what she did. Why is that wild? Speaking to someone in the gym is so odd. No, no, like, rate that, but I just would never. I could never. I was making friends. What did you?

So you just went up to her? No, squat her. So I'd kind of hovered for a bit and then I'd clocked that this girl was not going to leave that squat rack. She was going to do every single exercise she could on the squat rat before she moved on. I could just tell, do you know what I mean? Yeah.

So then I started on a bench, did something else. I see this cool girl walking, two flats. Cap, I think, cool. Gym Bunny, you know, like... Yeah, yeah, yeah. Matching set, stacked. I think, cool. Anyway, I then see her clock the girl,

leave the rack. I know the girl's just going to get another, something or other. I've seen her many times, you know what I mean? Because I've been around. And she jumps in. So I see her kind of jump in

and then realize no time she jumping because the girl's walking back with another way and I go, nightmare is no when there's so few racks and she was like, honestly, hate it, I can't do anything else and I was like, no. I just have to wait.

She was like, no. So did you just wait? wait. We were friends. No, I was already training but she waited, yeah, for a rack. I just would never wait. I would just do something else, yeah.

Yeah, I moved on with my life. But then, sorry, this is such boring chat, but then I had to squat last. I thought I was going to die. I had to stop at the bottom. Yeah, you must eat the frog. Eat the frog. Do the hard thing first.

Exactly. So then I was definitely at the end. That's why it's admin Monday on a Monday. Because imagine if we had admin Friday, that would be all wrong. It's flexible Friday. It's no admin on a Friday. It's flexi.

Friday, thanks very much. Guys, it's very serious. I don't know why you're laughing. This is the point of doing this job. Do you know what I mean? To make it enjoyable. Yeah, babe. And Flexy Friday is highly enjoyable.

Also, lots of people that are employed do Flexy Friday. They just don't like say it because they have to pretend they're working. We just don't pretend. But we kind of do have Flexi every day. But specifically on Friday, no rules. All bets are off. Do whatever you want. So don't be putting anything in on it.

Like, don't be putting a call in. Don't be something there. Like, it can't be anything that needs to be done on Flaxi-Darley. Like, it can't actually be a job that, like, if it's not done, it's a problem. No, when Hannie Wray texts our shit at 4.30 saying, can you do this? I think, babe, ask anyone else. Do you what I mean? Look at the timetable.

Sorry, can I just tell you this really quickly? Yeah. Holly sends me this this morning and I don't know if you experienced this with your mum. BBC News. Menopause linked to Alzheimer's. Oh my God, I heard this on the radio today. I heard this on the news. Because why are they all so mental?

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Menopause and then we've lost them. Yeah. My mum, honestly, sorry, Carrie-in- No, no, please go on. No, well, that's all I had to say because I just think, now I've got that knowledge,

I just think, I'll take you with a pinch of salt, sister. No, it's, I saw it all on the news this morning. Basically, yeah, they've all got Alzheimer's. I don't know what to tell you. No, no, I can see it. All it did was like, you know, verify it for me.

Because I've been saying to my mum, literally I saw her Sunday. Oh my God, I remember you saying last Christmas, because she came home and she was like, I'm really worried about her. I said her you need to get tested and she's like, don't be stupid. It's not Alzheimer's, it's, just test. Where I'll be like, she'll be like, oh, you know, what's his name? I go, go on, try.

What's his name? Because I don't know. What is it? Because she'll be like, oh, you know, the thing you were Bob from the What's the name? Too easy. Tell me, what is it? And she can't, she can't do it. She can't do it because she's got Alzheimer's.

I know. Menopauseal Alzheimer's. I know. Has she finished, how old are you when you finish, I don't know. I don't know. I honestly think it goes till you die. No. No, babe.

80-year-old women aren't menopausal. They're just old. I don't... Cuckoo. Cuckoo. How long is the actual drying-up process? I think my mum's pretty dry. It's like 10 years.

I swear it's like 10 years, menopause. Let me just get some facts up. You best get Davina McCool in, she'll know. Last night, she's literally, she must have been like, to do you really thinking because she's sending all these things like every single London Fashion Week show she's just sending in the group. No context.

Obviously just like to management like get us to London Fashion Week. Well do you know I was really, I've been deep in the like couture pictures of all this stuff. I'm literally my whole Instagram algorithm which I'm obsessed with is just fashion week. And I was seeing how basically and the reason I sent that is because London Fashion Week is basically falling off you know the grid

because everyone, all designers now want to go to Paris and Milan because the fucking UK economy is so shit and if you look at the fashion week schedule, it's low on the ground as it? Well, there are like, it's literally Burberry, Simone Rocha and Roxander are the only three big names. That's what I mean. Sorry, no defamation to Paul Costello,

but if that's the highlight, it's the only invite we can get. I don't see Versace, I don't see Balenciaga, I don't see Scaparrelli. Also, look at Vicky B getting that bloody knighthood in France. I know what was that? For contribution to Franklin? culture. Do you know what I rate so much about the beckhams?

They get up, brush themselves off, go again. Still they rise. Still they rise. Sorry, girls. Al at dinner on Saturday night. I'm not joking. I'm going to message that guy. I'm absolutely not joking. I'm not joking. Still. Yeah. Actually, yeah. I would have honestly thought that she would have honestly thought there's

She was like, made her way out of like a war zone into a second life. The way she said it, so right, we're at supper. And it was really fun. We went with Honey and Nivia from our team because it was hashtag gifted.

Thank you, the Palm House. Really recommend for a very silly night. Yeah. I'm looking for serious. But for silly, silly girls night, it was 10 out of time. We had many, many margaritas. And we're talking about,

I've got this new tattoo which you can't show anyone yet. of wraps because it's we've done a whole TikTok on it and anyway well we've just done a whole TikTok on it you know just out with her really it's scheduled for Friday 6th if you know you want to set your alarms

anyway I was talking about the guy that did it Mets at London Social he's amazing love for him look him up if you need a tattoo I was like anyway I'm gonna go and see that guy I'm like next she's like yeah I'm going to see Mets and we're all like you know a bit too also I'm like notoriously like I will not get a shit tattoo like I've

when we were in Australia they were like oh let's all get I was like, no, I'm not doing that. Like, I'm not... She's very picky. Yeah, very. She's not very like, you know... I'm not as far of the moment at all. Lasse fair when it comes to ink.

No. Do you have a tattoo? I have one tiny heart behind here. But my God, what it took to get her to do that. Yeah. Yeah. Anyway, so she's deadly serious with many margariters in at this point. I'm thinking, all right, sis, what are you going to get?

Then she's like, so sorry, takes a beach. She's like, still I rise. Because if she survived, like, you know, stage five cancer or something. No, but it's just like the mentality. When you said it, I couldn't help but think, rise from what? Right.

And then Olivia was like, you never rise. You're constantly sleeping. We can't get your weight in our bed. You stupid bitch. You rarely rise. True. But yes, still I rise. I think it's brilliant.

And Mets will do it really nicely. Italics. But the Beckham's day still rise. do and Vicky should really get that tap because she does. She rises every day. Vicki B, come on, me and you. Off to Mets at London Social. You could get still we rise together.

Still we rise. I am going to get two, two, two, two. Yeah. Whatever. Oh, I like that. I am going to get a toad and a frock dancing, so that's the next one. This is the thing. A toad rat.

So narcissistic about me. I don't mind if they're about me, obviously. My shit dads. Yeah. The car. You did mind. No, no, I mind. I mind.

I still mind. My buddy is a scrapbook. Had Olivia Outward talk about this the other day. She was like, you know, my face is so frozen. And then, you know, like people say, like, oh, the memories are etched onto my face, like with the line. She said, I've got no lines, so I've got ink.

And I was like, I like the way you think. That kind of rhymed. Sick. Will we have your surprise voice note? Yeah, so we have a little surprising. We were talking last week about how you had a bit of swore into Riverside Radio. So I've had a bit of a deep dive.

Oh, my God. Oh, no, I'm dead. No, I'm not. Oh, no. Oh, no. Oh no. Issy, how did you even do that? I've got contacts.

I've got contacts. I know people in places. I know people in places and I thought, let's just listen to what Ali and you were up to. Oh, fuck me. Okay. Yeah, let's. Morning, Southwest London.

You are here with Ali and G on our brand new breakfast show. So exciting. If you weren't awake before, you are now. We're here seven to ten. We've got so much good stuff coming up for you this morning.

We're going to be talking all things, We've got loads of new games and segments that we've been busy planning and we're very excited to share them all with you So tune in guys keep it Riverside and happy happy Monday Like too much yeah why are you doing that? Yeah I just want it to taste good just why you showing off like that? Yeah Oh my goodness me That is so loud do you know why that's just happened because I'm on the decks If Ali was on the decks that would not have happened

I love how you call it the decks as if we're like in a nightclub. What do you call it? The desk? Oh, desk, fine. And last one, I didn't wake up with a hangover. The dream. Yeah, the dream. The dream.

That is actually... Especially after four days of, you know, popping the bubbles for their old Lizzie. It's been a big one, hasn't it? So guys, celebrate those little wins. Today and every day this week. We will see you next Monday. We've got a couple of songs coming up. Space Man by our Eurovision star.

Sam Ryder, we've got, I got you babe, by UB40 and we're not going anywhere, we've got some news coming for you at 10 o'clock. But if you're needing some positivity this Monday, guys, think of those little wins. Yes, please do. Oh my God. Oh my God.

Why are you not on radio on breakfast, guys? Do you what I mean? That's what I'm saying. Now I know why. Now I've listened to that. Well, do you what I mean? Do we really sound like Monday? That's what shocked me the most.

Was it Mondays? Yeah. unlike us. I can't believe that. I think it was Monday. Monday breakfast. Because I remember every single Sunday I would think of an excuse why we couldn't go. And then G would always be like, no, no, no.

Like I remember so vividly one day it was snowing. Yeah. And I was like, well, we just sack it off and you were like, no, no, no, I'm in the car. And I was like, fuck, I'm sitting there. Oh my God, that's crazy. Do we sound like that? That is fucking jar. I'm really...

No, your voice sounds different there. I don't know what's happened. But that doesn't sound like you. I think my voice has dropped. Your balls dropped. You hit 30 and your balls dropped. Finally. No, I'm really glad because that,

no wonder we never got a job in radio. Does he sound less posh now? I must be rubbing off on you. No, no, I think I definitely. Also, but it's that thing of like a simulation where like if you spend loads of time around posh people, you get more posh. Oh, 100%.

I even notice that when I go up for dinner with my friends. Yeah, yeah, yeah. When Al's around her friend, she's posh, so I. Yeah. Yeah. If I go like, I can't even think who my pot. I don't really have any posh friends. You, I guess. You're my only.

Posh friend. No? Oh yeah, I am. No, thingy. Who? Oh, yeah. She's quite posh. I know, but she's all like London now.

That's what I mean. I also think, like, yeah, if you only hang out with posh people. If I go to the races, which night to TD, then I might pronounce my T's. Do you know what I mean? If I'm an owner's and trainers.

If I was with my parents, I would, like, I would say like a lot if I'm, like, in my normal life. But if I was at home, I might say a lot. Oh, yeah. See, when I'm, at home, I'm more Gloucester. Yeah, of course. Of course. Oh my god, that is too funny. That's

brilliant. That's killing me something. That is brilliant. Never forget where you come from, guys. Don't be embarrassed. I can't believe we did that. That is too... Was that our demo? Did you make that? Yeah, well, there was a 25 minutes to go out, so I had a little cut there. Where did you find that? It's really easy to access online, guys. Just type in Ali and Cheap, every sudden it comes up straight away. I literally hate to hear that. I hate to hear that. The first thing that comes up when you died,

an L and J. No. Yeah. Oh my God. Someone got on the SEL. Get Carver on that. On the SEO. No, I think it's sweet.

I think it's sweet. I think it's sweet. Oh my girls with a dream. And now look here we are. Well, do you know what Jimmy Carr said? He said, don't follow your dreams. Follow your talents. Don't chase your dreams.

Chase your talents. That's it. Because listen, we've, we've had a little detour, if you will. And thank God. Thank God because we were chasing the wrong time. I wasn't good on the decks. Clearly. Desk.

Decks. We've crossed radio off the vision board anyway, to be honest with you. We actually have. Because we just think we're not going to be shackled. To a station and be, you know, chained. Ain't no golden handcuff here? No. ITV.

We're still available for a little. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Shackle away. Chain me up, baby. Chain me. If it's to surfers paradise, chain me up. Oh, chain me. Chain me to the bed, all four legs.

I watched this. He was, again, on a podcast. And he was basically saying, like, show me some. who's never had to work for anything in their life and I'll show you a tortured salt Brooklyn Becker. And about how it's basically, it's not about the pursuit of happiness,

it's about the happiness of the pursuit. And I really, that's why we're all doing this. It wouldn't be fun if it just got handed to you overnight. That's why they all, like child stars that blow up overnight. Look at them all now, having a mental breakdown. Well, Amanda Binds isn't well, is she? Bloody hell, Amanda Binds.

Is someone checking on her? No, and I don't think enough, people are checking on Amanda Vines. It's Lindsay Lohan this, Lindsay Lohan, where's Amanda Bynes? Lindsay Lohan's fine. Lindsay Lohan now is fine, but she wasn't at that time in Iberth when she was on the stage. No, I know, but I think that there were people checking on her.

I feel no one's checking on Amanda. Agree, and I think they should be because I saw a picture of her the other day. I saw, I saw it. He used to love Amanda Binds. Imagine what a girl wants. That was a great thing. What a girl wants, what a girl needs.

Is Colin Furt out of his best? Do you know what I mean? Yeah. Where is she now? Not where is where she is where she is. No, no, she's not well. Okay, enough of this chid-chat. You can join us in part two for your galley voice notes.

Guys, right, this is really exciting then. We have our first ever email. Just a reminder, if you want to email us, you can email us at... Go on, you can do it. I'm looking at Izzy because I don't know it. You do. Do I? Hello at leave a messagepod.com.

Correct. One more time. Hello at leave a message pod.com. If you're basically too scared to send us a voice note, which by the way you shouldn't be, because the history of this podcast is that it's voice notes only. Yes, but listen, we're always up for a little adaptation. Adaptation.

Exactly. Okay, this is very exciting. Yeah, go on, Sarah. Right, Amanda number one. Hey, girlie, so glad the pod is back. Last year at my sixth form leaving ball, my best guy friend asked me out and I said no. Oh.

I tried to be so nice about it. I just didn't feel the same. He said he understood and then ghosted me. No. Like genuinely nothing. We went from texting and going out all the time to nothing. That was last June and now we're both at different uni's. I saw on Insta that he has his first proper girlfriend.

I barely thought about him but then I received a message from her just before Christmas. A message from her? Goodness. She's... What's her business messaging you? Let me tell you her business. She said, she feels weird telling me this and doesn't know who else to talk to, like literally... anyone else on planet earth.

But apparently on his birthday, when they slept together for the first time, he said my name. Insects. Insects. People don't do that. That's a myth. She's written, what the actual fuck. Three exclamation marks. You're fair.

That's not right. Have you ever done that? I've had it on the tip of my tongue, yeah. I love dropping the name. But someone else's name. Yeah, I have. I have done that. I have accidentally almost done.

I have never, the words have actually never left my mouth, but I have accidentally almost done that, yeah. Yeah. She said, sorry. Shock horror. She had to ask his mate. Like your brain's not engaged when you're... I am engaged in the moment. Yeah, but the penis in front of me.

Yeah, but like sometimes a name like Jack Jake. Yeah, well fair. Listen, I've been known to get a name. Jack Jake, James, it's all the fucking same thing. This is like Whitney on Love Island where she was... She was Connor. That's so cheap. That is so me.

I have nothing but love for Whitney. And if you did that to me in front of someone whose name I'd forgot, I would literally be like death staring you. I'd be like, you snake. And you would never do that to me. Of course I would never do that, she. So Jess was wrong. I'd be like, hey, I'm gonna like cover it up to me.

You'd be like, what's her name, gee? Like, imagine with that girl at that event. What girl? Many, bag, got, babe. What's her name? There are thousands of these instances. Genuinely still don't know her name. Couldn't tell you now.

Yes. Imagine if we were chatting to her and you just said, um, gee, what do you think this girl's name? I'd have been like, we're no longer friends. Obviously. Guys, I'm so sorry, but this happened, like you had the same thing happened yesterday. We will leave this social interaction. I will turn my head and she'll go, honestly, gun to my head.

No fucking kidding. Doesn't miss a bee. Honestly, she hasn't even inhaled. Sometimes I don't even say, I just go, guess what? I'm going to say. Sorry, carry on, please. Okay, she had to ask his mate who I was. She had to ask his mate who I was.

Oh, yeah, so she had to say to like, Oh, right. His mate, like, who was that? He said Helena, he said Amanda in bed, who's Amanda? She says, Madeline. She says he denies it and says it didn't mean anything, but they keep arguing about me. Who's they?

Wait, I'm so confused now. Don't be confused. The guy, the best friend, and his new girlfriend arguing about an anger. Oh, sorry. Remember, I am someone he hasn't spoken to for months. Because they sell out at prom. I replied and told her nothing has ever happened between us and that I never had feelings for him.

I tried to shut it down and be decent about it, but what do you actually say to that? She must feel like utter shit. This is the worst part, though. Hearing this made me feel this very weird mix of validation and regret. I feel like I'm living rent-free in a relationship I'm not even part of. Now I can't stop thinking about him. Part of me wants to message him, not even to start anything, but just to see why he disappeared so completely.

But another part of me knows that reaching out could blow up his relationship and make me look like I'm inserting myself into something I already said no to. I said no, I moved on, so why does it feel unfinished? Am I wrong for wanting to contact him? Wow, sorry, that was very well written. That's why they like to email, because, you know, you can get some more thoughts down on paper. Do you know what you've really done there? You've given us a very good picture, Amanda one. Thank you.

Very much. That was good. Can I, um, a bit of a blanket statement. Do you mind? Please. Even if I didn't mind, she was going to say it anyway,

so don't worry about it. I don't know if you agree, but I think with, um, friendships that are of different sexes that... Oh, I know what she's going to say, and I don't agree. Oh, that they fancy each other.

No, no, I just mean like, if you're straight, say if you're, this situation, right? You're a boy and a girl and you're both straight, right? so you could technically fancy each other. I think the longevity of that relationship relies on either party's new relationship, being okay with that friendship. 100%.

As soon as they're not, sadly, your friendship will be put to one side for their new relationship. And I think that's so sad and so hard. But I've been in loads of situations where it just isn't the same, and I know it's because their girlfriend feels a certain way about me.

Whether we've slept together, never slept together, I fancied him, I haven't fancied him, there's history, there's no history. If the girlfriend feels a certain way, agree, that's kind of friendship over. Well, also, it's like the parameters of your, like, I have a best friend that is a boy, Jack, I don't think he'll mind me saying his name.

We have, like, I love him dearly with all my heart, but like, we've never crossed a line. And I've never even, like, thought to cross the line. Whereas if you're, the premise of your friendship, even if you've been friends 15 years, if you used to do bits or you used to fancy each other or you used to send flirty messages, like already the boundaries gone. Like you have to be so brotherly and sisterly from day one and have never, ever, ever even like, walked up to the line.

But even that, I think even if you haven't walked up to the line, if Jack's partner had an issue with you, whether it was based on fact or not, your relationship, I think, would suffer. Agree. And I think that's just facts. And that's really hard. So I kind of think it might be that the friendship has to just be something of the past. But to answer your question, are you wrong for wanting to contact him?

No, baby. No, because he's your friend. That's really human to want to like, also, you know, if you want some validation of your toxic feelings, it's quite nice to feel like, oh, he still thinks about me and he said my name. You know, like, that's also really okay to feel like validated by that. Although a bit weird to think about your actual friend saying your name in bed when you've never done anything together. It's kind of crazy.

It is kind of crazy, but like not that crazy considering about what he said. Yeah. Like you already knew. Yeah. He gave you a big. Yeah. A declaration.

Yeah. I just fear that you might be fighting a losing battle because if the girlfriend feels a certain way about you, you can't convince her otherwise. Agreed. Completely agree. You can't tell her he's not into you. Can't tell her you're not into him.

Like it's kind of irrelevant. so I think the only way that messaging him would help you is just to kind of like... Well, that's what she said. Part of me wants to message him, not even to start anything, but just to see why he disappeared so completely, I can tell you why. He was embarrassed. Yeah, cool. That's honestly all there is to it.

Like, no need to, I'll respond to you. No need to ask. He was rejected. Let me do that for you. Like, his ego was bruised. He felt really embarrassed. He also, like, I don't know how old you are, but like, there is an age where boys, like, you know, go out on a limb.

and that's like the biggest, like, thing that they'll ever do. Because also, like... It's really scary. It's really scary. And it does kind of alter the friendship. Like, I've got many male friends that if they told me they liked me, I would find it then difficult to be mates. Even if nothing, like, even if you say no, 100%.

Even if we never spoke about it again and it was a drunk night, I'd still be a bit like, that, that's crossed the line. 100%. So I think maybe he's right to distance himself. It's just annoying that he did it without articulating that to you, but that's classic lack of frontal lobe, do you know what I mean? I think you can leave it. Like just let them play out.

Like just watch, you know, like a spectator from the sides. Yeah. Let them move mad. And then, I don't know, whenever, like, if not now, there will come a point, I'm sure where, like, you see him or whatever, whatever. It might be three years that you can have a conversation, like, a bit more of a mature conversation to be like, it was really sad that that happened and like that our friendship was ruined.

And like, I obviously didn't mean, like, you can have a bit more, like, it just doesn't need to be right now, basically. Or even if you never do, like I've got, I can think of one guy that we were such good friends. We had slept together, so that's an issue. But I remember distinctly him sitting me down and being like, my new girlfriend does not like me being friends with you because of our history. At that point, we hadn't done anything for like years. We, to this day, will not speak. Like, I don't think we'd even speak if we're in a room together really. So that's just, they're still together. And so that's the rule.

Do you know what I mean? I've also got other friends where they kind of, head and flow. When they're still together, like, it's off, it's off limit. It's really sad that your friendship has to die, but I just think that is the way the cookie crumbles. Well, it's the way the cookie crumbles if it's messy. With certain partners as well.

And also, babe, getting involved and inserting yourself is it way more drama than anything good that will come out of it. And how good is your friendship going to be now anyway with all of this history, like, bit murky. Do you know what I mean? And you might not actually need that in your life. Agree.

So Al's right. Let us respond to you. And I think I wouldn't send the text. Also, I think this about many, many situations. You think, like, you want to send the text because you want his response. His response will be shit. You're never going to, he's never going to say what you want to hear. He's never going to give you a straight answer.

Like, it's just, just make it up in your head. Make that, make that. Whatever it needs to be for you. Write it in your notes up. Text him every day on your notes up. Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Just get it out of you.

But yeah, his response because of the situation with his current girlfriend, probably won't be the one that you are. No. Sadly, for you. Amanda. Brilliant first email. Amanda won.

Thank you. I enjoyed that thoroughly. It was the reading. How done, babe. Thanks, babe. Should we have a voice note? Okay, let's have our voice note then. Amanda too.

Okay, so this first voice note, they wanted to be kept secret. So we've used a disguised voice. Hi, girls. I'm 22. I'm both in with my boyfriend, about a year and a half male. The both of us are very open and honest about sex and what we're both into and, like, what we would be into in the future. And during one of these conversations, he mentioned that he'd be interested in having another male involved in, like, any purity sexual. activity like he doesn't want a polyamorous relationship this would just be purely like once in a while

in a sexual way because he likes the idea of me being the saddened her of something and then I being too manned I felt like I would feel definitely comfortable um the anything I'd be like slightly worried about is our dynamic changing your tool but he's reassuredly and said that us and our dynamic is separate to this thing but I felt positive about it and I feel like I'd be willing to fix explore that. I was kind of wondering what your guys' thoughts are on it and if you have any advice of kind of like navigating it together or even just opinions.

Love you babe. Oh my God, thank you so much. That's a really, really like open good sex positive chat. I love it. Thank you. Okay, well you're in a relationship so how would you feel if that was brought to the table? I mean

I'm fucking thrilled. How would I feel? Well, like, I think I would personally find that really difficult because my main concern would be... It's the same as hers. What does this mean about the two of us? Afterwards. Yeah.

Like, not even, like, obviously bring it to the table. And, like, I actually kind of would, like, so appreciate and respect the, like, thinking outside the box. A hundred percent. Attitude. And, like, experimental. Like, I don't know how long... Oh, sorry, you've been together a year and a half.

like perfect, you know. It's actually a nice time to do it because you're still learning each other. I think with any kind of like kink or fantasy that you bring to the table in a relationship, number one, amazing that you've even been able to have the conversation. Totally. Because I think a lot of couples keep that in

and they feel like it's not a safe space to say I've kind of been imagining this and I think I'd really like it. I think with anything, it's all about the boundaries before so like exactly like like to the minute like how are we going to find them and how are they going to come into our like is it going to be here and then when he comes in

are we going to have a drink like are we going to drink or are we going to go straight to the bedroom like it needs to be so prescriptive is it kissing in the mouth is it oral sex is it like they're positions that are really like into not to you that you wouldn't do with someone else like you have to go into like

I agree microscopic detail prior so everyone knows of course in a moment like that exploration happens and maybe, you know, but you'll know your big boundaries that you're not going to cross. And then I think once you've done that, it's all about the aftercare. So it's all about like how do you to reconnect afterwards and how do you speak about it? And there might even be like for you guys maybe like a bit of a gateway is the wrong word. But you know what I mean?

Like a bit of a trial wrong. Well, because I was going to say like you mentioned that he wants you to be the centre of something. like I don't have the answer but if there is a gateway like halfway house exactly like oh today we're just gonna do like even if it's just like you're just gonna watch me get with someone else and that's it like the first time like in a club yeah and then you know the fallout from that

and how that feels agree because also his fantasy might be that he's like constantly involved and he's not like having that kind of like an onlooker yeah so then you just need to know and explore that before you start agree but I think like you're not alone in that reservation, I think most people, when going into something that is outside of your normal sex, is how will we be after? Because you can have that after anything, like any kind of fetish or kink, like, you're in a different mindset when you do it. I think that's even like just sex.

Like, you know, when you come, especially when it's someone that you actually, arguably, when you do know them, it's, it's worse, because it's like, you then have to snap back. That's why sometimes, like, you know, when you're like, I don't know, this is why I can't understand. why when people like shag in the office because I'm like, then you have to snap back and go and sit in a meeting and be normal people together and I'm like, that feels so alien because sometimes when you're like in the moment

you feel like you're not really you. Of course and like you're exploring and you're in a different like completely different like capacity and headspace and just every like you're just rules are out of the window and like I think it's really normal after like experimenting to feel a bit like oh but I'm saying like not even after experimenting Like if you have sex in an environment with someone that you know, like in a normal setting,

then to like snap in and out, it's like, whoa, I've got like a bit of whiplash. Like, yeah. Well, you're right. Like even like as two adults, like, I don't know, if I go home with someone now and a one night stand, I'm like, wow, like you're a stranger and I've just done things with you. They're extremely intimate. And now we're just lying next to each other. I have that with rule guys sometimes.

Honestly, that's why I mean I think it's almost harder. The longer you've known someone, that's why I think it's good that it's only been a year and a half because then you have to like go back to like fucking like I don't know loading the dishwasher and it's just like wait what I was just bent over and now we're like it's just weird don't you love those flashbacks though when you're doing something really like menial and then you imagine yourself yeah it's what it's fucked I love it that's honestly my small kicks is that I just find honestly I just find it's so weird because if you really think about it like as two adults yeah that we just like go from that extreme and then we just do all of that and then we just go back to lying on the sofa and

just like not touching each other and eating snacks. Like it's just weird. So. And it's all in the, for this especially, it's all in the comms, the before and the after. Almost more important than the middle bit. The middle bit will be what it is. It'll be great.

Like also you might love it. You might hate it. That's another thing I think. I think people put pressure on trying new things to enjoy it. And it's so fine that you could experiment with something once and not enjoy it. And it doesn't have to ruin your relationship, end your relationship. Like, It's just another thing to overcome and to talk about.

Like if someone hates it, someone loves it, then that's just your next step in your exploration of how you're going to be together. Do you know what I mean? So no pressure. But I think the most important bit is the bit before and the bit after. The bit in the middle will just be what it is. Yeah.

Well, good luck, babe. Oh my God, let us know. Let us know. Can't wait. How will you find him this third party? This is my main question. How do you find people like this? Oh my God, I will never forget. Once Raw and I were at this house party,

this was years ago and this girl came up to us. It wasn't because she was fucked like off her head but she asked each of us individually three times each throughout the course of the night

you guys like I really love your vibe but it was just God get it girl like fair play tough no no and she was meant business she hustled she was hustling she thought go on one more time.

One more elevator pitch. But also like, then I would go and get a drink and then she would like follow me to the kitchen and then she would ask me. It was like fair play to you. No, but she must learn no because three times just won too many. Sure I mean. Yeah. And then... One for luck you're allowed.

But I did think like if Raw and I were looking, you're the only person that's ever asked. In nine and a half years. Where are you? Where are you? I had it once where like I really, we were out and my... Guys, sorry. This is actually so funny because so many. of the DMs that we get.

Ask if we've had a threesome. I know. That would be funny aftercare, wouldn't it? We'd have to go for a roast. That's how we'd like bond back together after doing some things. After we went on holiday in the summer last year, all the, like, so many, because

poor Roar. Because Gee and Moore are like, they're so like, I love it. They're like, oh, Jill would be like, oh, you look so handsome. And all the YouTube comments were like, Ali, do you not mind? I know, because also I'm, So I'm so tactile and raw, like, raw isn't.

No, he's not. He just takes it from me. Yeah. Well, like he loves, but like he really, he likes it, but he would never respond. He would never do it back. No, no, no, no, no. He wouldn't.

But yeah, so he obviously, I'm sure from the outside, it looks like we're just swinging away. No, if we went on holiday because of one, oh my God, when I was on holiday with my family, there was this, I don't know what they were. They must have been a thruple. I really. Because it was, like, they were in their 50.

man and two women that looked, it was like basically me and you. And rule, yeah, pretty much. And every night we would go for dinner at a different restaurant and they just always happen to be on the table next to us. So then one night my sister and I

started like, followed them like out the pierge. We were like pretending to take pictures. Did they have their own room, two, the three of them? Oh yeah, they had, they had, they were all three sharing a room. And then we were like, are they a thrap or is it me,

is it me, G and rule? Yes, like she's just on the camp there. But do I mean, shagging? Everyone would think that we were a thruff. Oh, yeah. Everyone in that resort would think that we were a throuple.

Listen, we'll let you know if that ever does progress, but thus far, no. Thus far, no. Apart from that one time she gave him a blowjob because I was too tired. There was one time. I'm always up for a blowjob. Do you know I was thinking this?

Because you know I'd been to see the kids. I was talking to Vic. I used to nanny, anyway. I'm still like in the kids' lives. The youngest is my god daughter. They have one boy, three girls. I was talking to Vic about the boy. And I was like, surely the boys are easier.

and she was like, honestly, I don't know. Like, yes and no. And then she was talking about like boys just needing to feed. And obviously when they get older, you know, whack, shag, whatever. And I was like, I think I'm a boy. I love to be fed and I think I need a lot of sex. But what does she mean by that?

Like... Then they're fine. Whereas girls like the emotional rollercoaster. It's not like you go out, have a shag and then everything's fine. I do feel better after a wank. I had to have one yesterday because my mood was a bit funny. I know. It's a bit different boys.

Like, it's like... I know, but what if that's what I'm having? I've got this pent up and I don't have a... You know? I don't think that's it. I don't have the same culture. I think I need to get involved in the wanking culture, no, because you're...

No, I don't agree. You're so many one night stand. You're so introspective. You will take this one thing that happened three years ago and think about it for ten... Like, and dissect it and like... Do you what I mean? I can 100% confirm that boys don't do that. All I'm saying is next time I have a bit of a mood wobble on my PMB...

Yeah, why do you just... I'm just going to have a meal and a wank and see how it does. Okay, all right. Let me know. All right. Feed back. Feed back. Okay, let's do a galley.

And Amanda Roundup. Amanda won. Thank you for being our first ever email. Really good. And out really well read. Thanks, babe. Don't text him. Keep your hands clean.

Yes. And just, you know, relish in the fact that, you know, you are still living rent free in his mind, I guess. There's no harm in that. There's no harm. That's not your fault that you were a turnout. turn, you're the one that got away. The one that got away, exactly.

That's not for you to worry about. Let him worry about that. Let him. And Amanda number two, love that you were just so open with us. Thank you, we appreciate that because that's what we're trying to do here is create a safe space. You have had a threesome put on the table with your partner and another boy, and you just wanted to know our thoughts on that. And we had many. So thank you. Okay, now it's time for what we loved and what we didn't love from this episode.

Things we loved. Things we loved, obviously, receiving our first email. Obviously. Things we loved, no kink shaming here. Yes, good. Anything good.

Get your fetish aired. Things we love, still we rise. Yes, good. Things we love, Riverside Radio. Things we love, Izzy surprise voice, though. Things we love. chasing your talents.

Yes. Things we love, it's the happiness of pursuit. Things we didn't love. Listening to ourselves back, mortifying. Yeah, agree. Agree, strong agree.

Things we didn't love, the Audi tattoo on the back of G's arm. That still haunts you to this day, it's not even on your body and it really does sit with you. I just look at it and I just think, in what fucking world did you? It's because we're one.

It's like what I do, you do so you feel it. Like a twin. What's that thing called? Like if I'm hurt, you or her? We have that all the time. A tuned empathy or whatever. You said it really well the other day. You said, babe, when you bleed, I bleed.

And I thought, I know. God, I'm so deep. And you think, that's what I mean. And you think, oh, yeah, I'll just have a wine and can like shrug that off. You're fucked. Things we did in love. G, big, so misaligned about the state of her identity. Imagine seriously saying to something.

Thing is, babe, when you bleed, I mean. I would have said that with my chest with full seriousness and I mean that and I love that I feel the same way when you believe I believe maybe I'll get that oh my god maybe I'll get that

I must go and get aligned right that's what I hated from this episode my misalignment Gallies more importantly if you've got a story or dilemma that only we can help you with then please send a voice note to our WhatsApp on 07342 617

7992 Or click the link in the episode description. Tate's you right there, dead easy. That's much easier. I honestly would just do that. Can I just talk about one more thing that we forgot to mention and it has been living rent free in my mind. Nigella Lawson. Oh my God, I know!

For God's sake. How are I gone it? Oh for God's sake. Oh for God's sake because actually, can I just say? My wee is actually so close to coming out. Guys, things we didn't love, the size of my bladder is so tiny. It's a P. When you're pregnant, you're going to have to just hook you up to a catheter. I already told you, it's she we,

oh my God, a catheter. Catheter for you. Then you'll have to carry the bag. Weel it around like that. When I were you. Exactly. The thing with fake off is, Paul Hollywood obviously is the one that sells sex currently. Not the Prue Leith isn't, you know, a sexual being.

Does Paul Hollywood sell sex? Yeah. Does he? I would. Okay, but I don't, sorry. That's not a good barometer of selling sex. You would literally shag anyone. Do you want to be the centre? Do you want to be the centre? of the universe with me in war. Is he under 19? Does he have a pulse? Would you shag him?

Yes. Fair. Would you shag call Hollywood? No. Sorry, but Nigella is going to bring some more sex. Baby, you better know that top in the post. I will and she'll actually have some boobs to fill it. That'll be nice. It will be V-nex only. Oh. Oh my God, I can't wait. V-nex and beaded necklaces, I bet. I cannot wait. I actually love that woman. Something sexy about a beaded necklace, isn't it? What's that about? I agree. thinking the same.

Especially when it's look but you have to have a big boob. Buzum. Yeah, bosom. I do not. I know Jella's bosom is overflowing. Wow, they are going to be innuendo after innuendo. I can't wait. Imagine her. I love her. I think that was

a genius hire. Genius and I hope they're paying her well. Channel 4 I don't know that they are. I don't want... The Beacov must be one of their flagships. We can find it out. How much does Paul Hollywood make? How rich... How rich is Paul Hollywood? That's what I need to know. before I shag him.

Jokes. Oh, that's not jokes. Jokes. I think he's married. Maybe they're looking for a third party. Must you. I know, no.

Oh my God. You know to the doctor about that laugh. No, no. Put that in hand to Monday. Babe, you lose your voice and I get this laugh. He earns a prox

400K per series. I thought it'd be more than that. His annual earnings are reported to be over 14 mil. Oh, that's pretty good from Paulie. Yeah, it's a 1.2 million across a three-year contract. That's actually not enough. He should be earning more. I mean, for God's sake, he's eating cake. What does he even do? He gives a handshake or two. And it's not even a full cake. They don't even have to eat the whole thing. It's a bite. It's a bite. 1.2 mil for a bite. Yes, please. Right. Sorry, Ali Matt, carry on. Okay, sorry. You can now

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