Lenny's Podcast: Product | Career | Growth - From managing people to managing AI: The leadership skills everyone needs now | Julie Zhuo (Facebook VP, Sundial CEO, The Making of a Manager author)

Starting point is 00:00:00 We're seeing this kind of flattening of orgs. Everyone's becoming an IC again. It used to be, okay, I don't have the skills to do 10 different jobs. But now with AI allows me to do many of those jobs myself. We need to dissolve the boundaries of these traditional roles and call ourselves builders. I'd love first to get to the world where that's the title. I also just saw a stat Google let go so many of their middle managers. Management is still really critical.

Starting point is 00:00:24 You have a North Star. You have a vision. And you're just trying to figure out how to use the resources that you have to get that thing. done. Used to be people, but now it's basically models and different models have different strengths. You kind of have to assemble the adventures so that you can use the right tools for the right purposes. What do you feel as the biggest change in the role in life of a manager these days? It's always been manager's job to manage change. I just think the rate of change is accelerating. Today, management is really about this idea of be sturdy while being flexible. So I think about this

Starting point is 00:00:53 metaphor a lot of the willow tree. It can survive a lot of storms, disasters, etc. But it's also very flexible. You have such an interesting trajectory from being head of design to now being obsessed with data and analytics. You want to diagnose with data and treat with design. Data is not a tool that's going to tell you what you should build. I don't actually think a lot of the fast-growing companies are using data well at this point. Traditionally, things just didn't grow that fast. These companies are totally getting by on just good instincts and good vibes. But what always happens is eventually things stop growing. Today my guest is Julie Zhu. Julie was my first ever guest on this podcast, which I recorded over three years ago.

Starting point is 00:01:34 So this is a very special conversation. As I've shared many times before in other places, Julie's newsletter, The Looking Glass, was the inspiration for my newsletter and basically led to everything that I do now. If you're not familiar with Julie, she was the longtime head of design for the Facebook app used by over 3 billion people. She's also the author of the bestselling and very important book, the making of a manager, and most recently she started her own company, Sundial,

Starting point is 00:02:04 which is an AI-powered analyst used by companies like OpenAI, Gamma, and Character AI. Julie is one of the most thoughtful and insightful product leaders that I've ever come across, and she's also got one of the most interesting perspectives on product building, having worked at a mega-large corp like meta as head of design, and now as a founder at a tiny startup that's all about using data to help you make decisions. It's really rare for someone to have this spectrum of experiences. In our conversation, we talk about how learning to be a great manager directly translates to learning how to use AI tools extremely well,

Starting point is 00:02:39 which specific skills will become more valuable in the next couple of years, her most valuable and timeless advice for new managers, why she's not hiring product managers at her startup, her simple heuristic for knowing when to use data and when to use intuition in making decisions, there's something in this episode for everyone. And if you enjoy this podcast, don't forget to subscribe and follow it

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Starting point is 00:05:10 To learn more, visit DX's website at getdX.com slash Lenny. That's getdX.com slash Lenny. Julie, thank you so much for being here. Welcome back to the podcast. Thank you, Lenny. I'm so excited to be here. I've been looking forward to this all week. I love your podcast. I love where you've taken it since our very first conversation. And I'm super excited to have a fun and engaging chat. Can you believe that first episode? The very first episode of this podcast was over three years ago at this point. Holy shit. I'm not sure you had that fire in the background back then. So funny enough, I don't know how many people have noticed this Easter egg that I've stuck with. In that, first studio. I was just watching the episode. I had like this funny little mirror. I don't know if I had in

Starting point is 00:06:00 the first episode with a fire place that was showing up in that mirror because the mirror was showing something stupid. And so I've just kind of kept this fireplace across every studio I've moved across in my various places. I even remember we chatted. Video was like kind of a newer thing. You're like, we'll record it. But like it's really about the audio and now we moved into the video era. So as you were saying that, I realized my fire was broken. So I just had to turn that on. So we just cut a little piece. Yeah, that fire was my little funny strike for myself. And I don't think anyone's ever realized this. It's very cozy. I love it. That's the idea. I was actually just looking at the stats. So since that first episode, this podcast has done over 20 million downloads.

Starting point is 00:06:40 It's approaching 30 million downloads. It's really incredible. I think it's a testament to just your curiosity and how much you really care about the craft of building great products and sharing that with the world. And I know I listen to your podcast and read your newsletter. My team does. We're constantly sharing things from all the amazing speakers that you've had. So thank you for doing this. My pleasure. I really appreciate that. So the reason we are chatting again three years later is you're re-releasing your incredible book,

Starting point is 00:07:09 The Making of a Manager. I've got it right here. You've sold a bazillion copies. It's been on every list I've seen. You're releasing paperback version. You're adding some chapters. I guess first of all, just how do you feel on reflecting back on the success of this book? It honestly went beyond my expectations, so I'm super happy with it. My big motivation to write it was, I think, largely because I felt if I had to write this thing, I was likely going to become a better manager. And that was actually a huge part of it. Because thinking about and writing something, I've been blogging for a long time. And I know that part of my process is when I really sit down to try and put down everything I feel and write letters to myself, it really helps me. And so that was honestly a huge motivation. I hope that it was.

Starting point is 00:07:54 would go out there and it would sell some books. I was thinking about that maybe for people who grew up in companies like mine, like Facebook, you know, high scale Silicon Valley, it might resonate. I couldn't have expected that it would have much wider reach than that. And that's been really awesome. And just how many people will tell me things like, I thought I was the only one who felt this way. But this book made me realize that, hey, these are very normal feelings. And that's certainly how I felt just stumbling through and feeling like an imposter for so many years. And so it really is very gratifying to hear that from readers. I feel like it's the modern day high output management. That's the book that's been mentioned most on this podcast. And it feels like this is just like a modern

Starting point is 00:08:36 version. I feel like that book is actually out of date in a lot of ways. So I can see why people are really drawn to it. And this is a great segue to the first area I want to spend some time on, which is it feels like a lot of the skills you learn as a manager. translate to being really good with AI and using AI tools really well. And I want to talk through a few trends that I want to get your take on that relate to this general theme. The first is it feels like just everyone is going to become a manager in the near future because of agents being so integrated into our workflows. There's this agentic society that we're coming to.

Starting point is 00:09:13 And it feels like the same skills of being a manager make you really good working with agents. Just thoughts on that and where you think that's going to go. I 100% believe that and agree with that, which is that management is just about, in my mind, having an outcome. So you want to get something done. That's the thing. You have a North Star. You have a vision. And you're just trying to figure out how to use the resources that you have to get that thing done.

Starting point is 00:09:37 And typically when we talk about management in traditional settings, we talk about the resources being people and getting the right talent and making sure that they're, you know, you've got the like, assemble the adventures. So you've got the right mix of skills that you need. The second lever is around, okay, what's the purpose? Does everyone know what they're supposed to do with their talents? Like, do we have a goal? We have a purpose. And then the third thing is process, which is how should all of these different people and tools come together? And these are still the fundamentals of working with agentic systems.

Starting point is 00:10:11 Like you still need a goal. You need to be very clear about what the outcome is. And you have to understand the strengths of, you know, used to be people. but now it's basically models and different models have different strengths. So it's like they have different personalities and so you kind of have to get to know it like develop an intuition for it so that you can use the right tools for the right purposes. And I mean we talk about agents but we also talk about like what are the tools that agents have access to so you still have to make decisions around that.

Starting point is 00:10:39 And then there's of course process which is how you do it. Now I think with better and better models perhaps the agents get smarter so they can deal with higher and higher levels of figuring out how to do something, but I think it's still very important for us to be able to provide the right context, provide the right high level instruction so that we get what we want. So really, it's the same principles. And I absolutely agree with you that more and more of us are going to have to double down on these skills to be able to use these tools very effectively. So on those lines, I have your book right here. You have this list of a manager's job is to build a team that works well together, support members in reaching their career goals,

Starting point is 00:11:16 and create processes to get work done smoothly and efficiently, which is basically exactly what just said. Interestingly, that middle bullet is the part you don't have to worry about it anymore with agents. You don't have to worry about their career development and progress. That's true. That's true. Though some people do joke that if we don't treat our agents nice, what's going to happen when AGI comes?

Starting point is 00:11:34 And maybe it still might benefit us to be kind. I'm one of those people that says thank you to the way Mo when I leave. And just like, thanks chatypte when I'm in voice mode. Just like, thank you. That was really helpful. So along these lines, I know there's a lot of ways to go here, but just in terms of skills that are important to a manager, which do you think are most valuable to develop in working with agents and AI systems? I think about things like clarity, communication, just like what comes to mind when you think about like, here's the things you want to double down on as you're learning to be manager that will also help you be really good at AI tooling and working with agents. The first is defining the goal and defining the outcome and being really, really crystal clear on what does success look like.

Starting point is 00:12:26 I mean, there's obviously lots and lots of, like if you ask a company to do this, we'll know that this is challenging for humans, right? I think a lot of times when you talk about, you know, why is alignment so difficult at a big company, it often comes down to this question, which is different people may have different pictures of what success looks like. And even if I describe in human words, oh, you know, Lenny, I want to build this product and it's going to be amazing. Or, you know, this podcast episode, which you ask me, well, lots of people to hear it and take away things. That's very general. Like, how do we get even more specific so that we know without question whether we've hit it or not? This is actually a really, really difficult problem. It's a difficult question for us because, again, we tend to think very high level.

Starting point is 00:13:09 So figuring out how to boil it down so that an agent can really understand. what success and failure looks like is a lot of the game. And I think this also relates to things like, well, that's why we have to write e-vows. And that's why they're so important because they're helping us understand what is the objective criteria. And these days I work in data and my company is all about trying to automate data analysis. And the forever question goes, the whole point of data and the whole point of metrics and KPIs is we're trying to put a little bit more of an objective measure or get as crystal

Starting point is 00:13:42 clear as possible about what success looks like. And I think it's really an art more than it is like a science, but that's like the first thing. I think if you're really unclear about what success looks like, the prompt, you're probably not going to get the most amazing work. I think that's true for managing teams and it's very much true for managing AIs. Okay. So let me actually flip this on you and talk about another trend that we're seeing, which is this kind of flattening of orgs, managers being let go, everyone's becoming an IC again. I just have. had the CEO of Airtable on the podcast, and his whole schick was that CEOs have to become ICs again.

Starting point is 00:14:19 He's coding more than he's ever coded again. And his feeling is you have to know what's possible by being in the weeds in order to figure out what your product should be. I also just saw a stat that Google let go of so many of their middle managers of smaller teams. It's just like this flattening trend. So do we even need managers, I guess, is one question in the future. And then just thoughts on how this will play out. Yeah. So I think the real promise and magic of AI that we're seeing in the workplace is that it leads us to each individual is far more empowered.

Starting point is 00:14:52 So it used to be, okay, I don't have the skills to do 10 different jobs. So I need to supplement by hiring people to do these jobs. I need someone who's really good at design. I need someone who's really good at Cody. I need someone who's really good at data analysis. And then I'll assemble that team. But now with AI and my companion, it's like, wait a second, AI, makes allows me to do many of those jobs myself now i'm not going to do them at the it's called the phd or the highest 1% 10% level but if i was you know at the zero or 10th percentile it can certainly get me even today very quickly up to like the 60th 70th in terms of um what the state of the art is and i think that that ummocks so many doors and so the main thing that i felt so excited about and this is something i tell my team all the time is we need to dissolve the boundaries of these traditional roles.

Starting point is 00:15:48 So in the past, again, we would have a traditional team, engineers, product manager, designer, researcher, data scientist. And I think now the teams can look more like, well, it's just two people. And again, they could be any of these traditional disciplines. But the key thing is they can now use AI to help themselves do a lot of the things that the other folks used to be able to do. So in some ways, we can drop all of these different role distinctions and call ourselves builders. I think that's sort of the most general purpose way of thinking about what we can all be. We can all be builders. We can all be builders. And I love for us to get to the world where that's just, that's like the title. That's funny. That's the term I've been actually using more and more.

Starting point is 00:16:32 I used to orient this podcast as a newsletter around product managers. And then I started using just product to be a little more broad, and now I'm actually using that term builder. And I love that term because it's exactly what you're saying. And this is very much a theme that comes up often in these conversations more and more, just the lines are blurring. I'm curious at your company, how does that look? Like, what are you doing differently? What are you seeing on the ground within your company that maybe would be different from a few years ago?

Starting point is 00:17:00 So we have eliminated more roles. For example, we thought we would need. a bunch of product managers. It's turned out that actually, if you don't have a product manager, I know this might be going against a little bit of the ethos of where we go, where Ledy started, but I find that sometimes when you have like a designer or product manager and let's say I'm an engineer, then when I have a problem, like, oh, I need to figure out the product definition. My default will be, well, I've got these people and that's kind of their job description. So I'm just going to delegate that to them. And I think that in,

Starting point is 00:17:37 In doing so, again, where we want to be polite, we want to respect everyone's lanes, I think that's a missed opportunity for that, you know, if I'm the engineer, to be like, wait a second, I should probably focus a lot too. Like, I need to understand and have an opinion about what to build or what the user experiences. And so we found that if we actually make teams smaller and we kind of even like in the past, you know, pre-I, like just to have fewer of these, it allowed everyone to be like, oh, wait, we don't have a product manager on the team. Okay, so communications up to me, figure.

Starting point is 00:18:07 out how we get greatest value to users is something that is now strictly in my charter. And so that's why I'm such a big fan of like, we can make teams smaller and we can eliminate these lines. Sure, again, they're still, I'm not trying to say like everyone has to do everything. We still can respect the fact that you might be much better at this particular skill than me. But it's less about the role and it's more about the specific context that we're in. And I find that whenever you have teams and you empower them to be able to take more action on their specific context, rather than having these higher level of rules or policies or like, this is how it's supposed to be, then you get better work, you get faster work,

Starting point is 00:18:48 and you get happier employees because, you know, people feel like they actually can, you know, have the power to create the thing that they want. That's really interesting that just that constraint of not having a PM makes the engineer realize they're not going to wait for someone else to do it. They have to figure it out. the obvious kind of trick there is they have to be good at good at this. It's a very different job from engineering to be really good at articulating. Here's the problem we're going to solve. Here's why it's important that we're solving. Here's how we're going to prioritize everything we're thinking about. Here's how do we get in alignment. Is there something you do differently when you're

Starting point is 00:19:23 hiring these engineers knowing you're going to probably not hire PM? And just that feels really hard to hire for someone that's really good at all these things. It is true. And I'm not trying to say again that everyone needs to be good at everything. I don't think that's a lot. very realistic. I do think, for example, if we're going to create a team and we're going to have a couple of engineers and none of them are very good at thinking through product requirements or what the user angle is, we probably do need to supplement the team with somebody with that skill set, right? And that might be a designer or that might be another engineer who's really good at that, or that might be a traditional product manager or even sometimes a data analyst who's really good at.

Starting point is 00:20:00 So that skill is still important and the team still needs to have that skill, other was it's probably not going to produce the best outcome. But I like to think of it as like, what are the skills that are needed for this? And can we now find a couple people? But it doesn't mean we just automatically go to that script of need a PM, need a designer, need three engineers, need that, you know? Another example for us is like even thinking about front end back end engineering and used to be like, oh, some people are front and engineers. So if you have a project and it's got some front end and some back end, the shortcut is like, I need one of these and one of these and that's how it's going to go. But if you say, look, you're an engineer, your builder, you can,

Starting point is 00:20:37 this has a little bit of front end, but you know what, you can probably figure that out. Like use AI to help you figure it out, you know, get obviously someone who's a specialist to review the code or to give you some high level guidance on things, but just do it. And ever since we started to implement that as well, we see, yeah, again, a little bit of, you know, you have to kind of invest a little bit in the beginning. So people are not as comfortable. they have to learn. So initially, things take longer. It takes a little bit of extra time, versus if you did slot in a front and specialist, and this is a front and project, it probably would have gone a little bit shorter. But in the long run, that investment really pays off

Starting point is 00:21:15 because now you have a lot more people who are, again, a little more well-rounded and can take on many more pieces just on their own. And then in specific scenarios, oh, this is super front-end heavy, sure, let's still bring in somebody who is more specialized in that particular skill. that you've had the experience of working at a mega large company at meta, and now you're building your own startup that's small and in the middle of this trend of just staying very small and and staying really lean and just everyone doing more things. It's so cool that you're experiencing that. So a couple questions there, just which functions are you seeing most accelerated with all these AI tools? Is it engineering? Is it something else? And then are there tools that have been

Starting point is 00:21:57 most helpful to you, just AI tools for folks who'd be like, oh, I should check it out? Like, I'm guessing cursor, but I'm curious if there's anything else. Yeah, certainly engineering. Engineering is one that we, I mean, most of our company is engineers, so that's the one that we focused on a bunch. I certainly do see more people also prototyping things. And so it's not just, we have not, we have like two designers, but we also see engineers. We have one, we have a team that's called product science, which is this interesting blend of, you can think about as like a forward deployed person who is, has a lot of data analysis background and is kind of playing a customer success role

Starting point is 00:22:34 and also kind of playing like a product role. And you see them starting to take on building more prototypes or getting into some of the engineering. And so it's really lovely to see that blend. If everyone can do a little bit of everything else and we're all encouraging each other. The other thing that recently, we've also been trying to do a lot more

Starting point is 00:22:54 is just, you know, obviously we say, hey, engineer, now you can do analysis. And their first thing is like, oh, I don't really know analysis. This is where ChatGBTGBT comes in. And it's like, well, traditionally we would say, well, I have to learn that from a human. I have to ask this person. And now I'm going to take a bunch of their time because I want them to explain everything to me. And in fact, I think these days, you know, Chat ChbT or these other AI tools are better teachers.

Starting point is 00:23:17 I find that we tend to maybe not use them quite as much, you know, just for the purposes of accelerating our education or even going through something. Like sometimes what I'll do is I'll find. a curriculum online. And, you know, if you like, take a course, it'll be like this, whatever, 12-week curriculum. And I'll just feed it into chat. And I'll say, help me customize a program for me, you know, using the ways that I like to learn. Like, I am a person who really needs examples. I need a lot of, like, explain like I'm five.

Starting point is 00:23:48 Give me an analogy. And I know some other people on my team, they're like, I don't get like, these examples don't make any sense. Like, we're different types of learners. And so the idea of like a, you know, a, a, you know, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a, a tool that personalizes learning for each of us really helps us, I think, accelerate and just learn these skills much faster than before. So, yes, the tools are great. We can use cursor. It helps us. It auto completes. It writes a bunch of things. But the acceleration of learning, I think, is another

Starting point is 00:24:15 maybe underutilized tool in all of our arsenals. Just because I know whenever I talk to people, we just, we forget. Like, we don't, we don't think that like, oh, wait, yes, we could be doing that and just sitting down and probably in 30 minutes or an hour. learned so much faster than what we used to be able to do before. That's such an interesting point. There's like these tools that are in the, just in time, helping you move faster. And then there's, but you also need to learn how to do something. Like to some foundational lessons.

Starting point is 00:24:44 What's an area that your team did that? Like, what did they work on learning? So I'll give me an example. I was just talking to an engineer this morning. And he's written a bunch of these algorithms. So one of the things our company does is we're trying to automate data analysis. So one of the things we have to do is obviously understand the best practices. Like if there's a type of question, hey, what features are really the ones that people pay for?

Starting point is 00:25:08 We need to kind of figure out what is the right analysis to do. And so the engineer was saying to me, you know, Julie, I feel like I really understand the how. Like I know the algorithms. I know we do root cause analysis, like how we do that. But what I don't really understand is why or when this would be most useful. Like in what context in a company would this company come up? Because he's an engineer. He hasn't done that job of being like a PM or an executive that asks these types of questions.

Starting point is 00:25:37 And that was like the perfect thing where like, yeah, you know, traditionally you might have asked someone. But this is more general purpose. Like there's so much resources in the world on the internet about it. This is like the perfect type of question where if you just talk to chat GPT, it's probably going to give you a much better answer and allow you to go deeper. And a secondary thing we've been learning too is this. idea of almost like as a using chat GPT it's like you test your learning so it explains a bunch of things and so what i often like to do is like okay i read this so this mean i'm trying to explain back

Starting point is 00:26:09 what i heard right so does this mean is the right way to think about it that this is kind of like this analogy and chat gpte will critique me yes that is right or no you didn't quite get that right like in fact and it always tries to say it nicely this is a funny part i'll be like that's close And then eventually it's like, you were completely wrong, just in the style. But like, it helps so much because it's interactive. And so we can really test whether we really understand the concept by trying to retell it back in our own way. It's incredible. Just how many ways all this AI breakthrough is helping us in advance and do more and learn more and become better.

Starting point is 00:26:48 I know there's some downsides, but this is incredible. So many ways of getting better and faster. I want to spend a little more time on this data now. So again, you have such an interesting trajectory from working at a big company to starting your own small company, from being head of design to now being obsessed with data and analytics. So let me spend a little time there. What do AI companies that have kind of figured out how to use AI for data analysis and data work doing differently?

Starting point is 00:27:17 What can people, what are people missing and sleeping on in terms of getting better at working with data? And let me just ask, add this point, I feel like, We're almost working through, here's all the blockers to a team moving forth. There's like waiting for the PM to write the PRD and then there's like waiting for the data scientist to give you answers analysis. So this is like another really cool unblock that every team member will have. So your first question was how are a bunch of AI companies using data?

Starting point is 00:27:41 So the funny thing, my funny answer to this is I don't actually think a lot of the fast-growing companies are using data well at this point. And the main reason why is because traditionally things just do. didn't grow that fast. And so, you know, if you got to 100 million users, your company has probably been around for a while. And if your company has been around for a while, you've had time to set up things like logging and you've hired a growth team at that point and you've hired a data team and they've like done a bunch of work to log an instrument and then transform the data. And like, we've talked about like, what is the observably for our business? And you just usually had years

Starting point is 00:28:21 to build and develop that because of the rate of growth. And so today we see companies that are growing insane. And they're still about 10 people or two people or however many people, but they've got hundreds of millions in ARR and hundreds of millions of users. And you know what? They don't actually have all of that infrastructure, that logging and all to be able to truly do data analysis. So I would say that these companies are totally getting by on just good instincts and good vibes. And we see that, right?

Starting point is 00:28:52 Like you don't really need data analysis. to sometimes make something that works. But I think what data helps us do is it just, in my mind, it's sort of is like helping us reflect back what is really reality. And so of course, if AR is growing, awesome, you know, great, keep doing what you're doing. But what always happens is eventually things stop growing. Growth does not happen forever. And usually when growth stops, everyone has this question of like, what's going on?

Starting point is 00:29:20 Why did it happen? And then you start to be able to see the power of if you've instrumented everything very well and you have a very good observability model for your business, it's much easier to start to get into the root cause. It's easier to even predict whether growth will slow down at a certain point. It's easier to catch these trends earlier. If you don't have good observability over how your business runs and what the company's key levers are, then you will be scrambling. And at that point, that's usually when people start investing a ton in data. So I wouldn't say that a lot of these hot companies are quite there yet. But what I also think is a trend is that every time there's a new technological shift,

Starting point is 00:30:04 we actually have to change the way that we think about analysis has to answer the questions that we have. And if technology changes or context changes, we need new methodologies of analysis. So, for example, when mobile came to the forefront, looking at sessions or sessions per day or time spent on mobile or kind of length of sessions became something that was important for us to understand, are people getting value in this new medium? I think that's the same with what we have today. Conversational analytics is totally different.

Starting point is 00:30:37 Used to be, let's say, in the Google world, right? I knew you were interested in shopping if you clicked the shopping tab. I know you're interested in maps. if you click the Maps tab, we can measure clicks. Today, it's just all conversation. And so it's actually harder for us to tease apart what is the user intent. If I worked on any of these LLM, I would say like one of the probably the biggest questions is, hey, what use cases are growing or what use cases are shrinking?

Starting point is 00:31:06 And that's much harder to tell today because it's not just clicks on tabs or pages. It's like we have to probably use an LLM to or a machine learning model to bucket user. intent, we probably have to ask questions, like, is the flow going really well in conversations? You know, like a, like, if I just ask one question and I don't go back and forth, like, did the user get value, right? It's always trying to get back to like, we're trying to figure out if this was a good experience, but now it's, it's like, we need to actually invent new methodologies to help us analyze that. Yeah, I think there, the question is always, like with conversation, do you want it to be a long conversation? You want to be a short conversation?

Starting point is 00:31:45 Like, what's the right answer? What's better? I had a head of chat chip E.T on the podcast, Nick Turley. And it turns out one of the ways they found the most common use cases early on was watching TikTok comments and things going viral on TikTok after they launched. How about that? Yep. Yep. Okay. So I want to come back to this really interesting, unusual path that you took from being a head of design at Facebook. You're an inspiration to so many designers. Now you see. spend your time on a data startup, obsessed with data. I don't know. Classically, designers aren't the biggest fans of experiments and data and making decisions based on data. When you look at designers and you hear designers kind of push back, I'm like, no, we

Starting point is 00:32:29 don't want to be super data driven. We know better than we have a sense of what's beautiful and great and intuition, all these things. What do you think designers are missing when they feel that and say that when they're afraid of writing experiments and data and kind of want to push that out. There's one phrase that my co-founder and I would always discuss with us months ourselves very early on in which we shared with like a lot of the companies that we work with, which is what you really want is you want to diagnose with data and treat with design.

Starting point is 00:33:01 So data is not a tool that's going to tell you what you should build or what the solution is or how we're going to cure the fact that you don't have really great retention. It's just not. But it can tell you if you have a problem and where that problem, or opportunity might be. But you still need to go back and undergo a very creative process to figure out what's the best way to solve that. So that's the first thing I would say is this framework of data helps you figure out what's actually happening. What do people like? What are they engaging with whatnot? It's just it gives you a story that better reflects reality. Because again, we all have stories. We're like, oh my company is amazing. People love us. That's a story I want to believe. But reality may be a different

Starting point is 00:33:45 picture. And so what data is trying to do is capture reality. And by the way, I don't think of data just as like it's a B test and it's quantitative things we can measure. It's to me data is also, well, what did people put onto TikTok and which things went viral and what are they saying in the Twitterverse or Xverse, I guess is what's called now. And, and what are, you know, and if you do a customer interview, like what like that's still all data. It's just that that is, you know, a little harder to distill and quantify, although now with AI, you know, we have better, better tools for synthesizing. So that's all data in my mind, and it's just all trying to help us understand what is really happening, what is the phenomenon that's happening in reality and how do we understand it.

Starting point is 00:34:28 You still have to go and invent and create and dream, and there's no formula and there's no science that will tell you exactly how you're going to make a hit. You can experiment, which just allows you to try more things maybe and more rigorously understand what that does in the short term. It's all very contextualized, right? Because it has don't tell you what will happen in the very long run. And that's still, again, it's all still data. You still have to synthesize and figure out what to do. So that's this thing I'll say, diagnose with data and treat with design.

Starting point is 00:35:00 I think the second thing I will usually tell designers about is I find that sometimes maybe it's the, let's call it the false precision of numbers that we kind of fall into, right? Because it's like, okay, we got these numbers and the numbers go up. It's like, no, the fact that you still have to choose which things you look at is an art, not a science. And your interpretation of if the number went up 5%, is that good? Is that not good? Is also an interpretation and is an art, not a science?

Starting point is 00:35:33 It's just that sometimes I think we can give ourselves this feeling. And I get it. Like sometimes there's this instinct to want to control things and we want everything to be buttoned up. And we want to know that if we did ABC, everything will be great. Our career is going to be awesome. Our product's going to rocket ship. And I think designers are rightly often pushing back and saying, no, the reality is like this stuff is ambiguous. And there's uncertainty.

Starting point is 00:35:58 And we can never know for sure. And I think all that is quite true. So the other thing I would say that I really support is like you just actually can't make a really great product by thinking you can A, B, test your work. way into it. So that's, I fundamentally believe that. But I don't think we should throw the baby out with the bathwater. I think there's actually, you know, it's not either or. It's not like data or design. It's like these are just tools for us to use. And I would say every amazing designer that I've ever met is absolutely obsessed with trying to get a better understanding of reality. They want to know what users really think. They want to know what they're really doing. If they could, read every

Starting point is 00:36:34 user's minds. That's like the thing we would all want, right, as a designers, like if I could just know what everyone is thinking and feeling every time they used it, my life would be a lot easier because then I would be able to build better and better things. And so that's what it's trying to help us do. It isn't perfect. No metric is going to tell you whatever we hope that it can in terms of the true certainty and precision. But it doesn't mean we can't use it to better our product development. I was going to say exactly what you just said, which is every great designer that I've worked with was obsessed with data. in the most leaning into the data versus designers that are just like, nah, I think I'm going to,

Starting point is 00:37:13 I have a sense of what's right. And why would we let that tell us what to do? It's your point. It's not going to tell you what to do. It'll tell you where opportunities arise. Let me take us back to the management chat and maybe just let me ask something broad. What do you feel is the biggest change in the role and day-to-day work and life of a manager these days with the rise of AI? I think that managing change, it's always been made. manager's job to manage change and there's always the chaos of what's going on. I just think the rate of change is accelerating. And we've seen that over the last couple of decades. And so I find that there's just a great deal more uncertainty that people have about things. Like we all, you know,

Starting point is 00:37:55 where is there going to be in two years from now? I don't know. Who really knows, right? And so, you know, are we going to have AGI in five years? That kind of changes a lot about the landscape. Not to mention, I think there's quite a lot of fear that many organizations are feeling. It's like if my career has always been in design and now these tools are getting better and better at what I'm doing, then holy shit, what happens to my career and my future? And do I need to pivot? Do I need to learn different things? And so it's this change. It's this feeling of uncertainty. And I think a lot of times managers have to deal with that in addition to what you were saying before, which is they also have to learn.

Starting point is 00:38:35 these new skills, which is managing AI and managing kind of like these more powerful tools in their arsenal of trying to get things done. So that is very different, I think, than maybe, you know, 10, 20, 30 years ago. And so I think that the skills that become more important are obviously communication, feedback, compassion, but just being able to work with humans and to have them understand that like, yes, we are in a state of change. I think every leader has to do Now, every startup founder that I know, every CEO is how do you land this message that things are changing and we need to be very, like we need to be very open to change. If we go and stick to our old ways, we're probably going to get left behind.

Starting point is 00:39:20 Our product's going to get left behind. Even our way of doing things is going to be left behind. So we need to change, right? We need to change our product and we need to change the way that we work, as we all talked about in terms of smaller teams, more nimble, blah, blah, blah. But at the same time, it's like, how do we do that in a way that doesn't just freak everyone out? It's like, ah, it's chaos. Everything's changing.

Starting point is 00:39:44 So I think about this metaphor a lot of like the willow tree, which is like the willow tree is a very sturdy tree. You know, it's it's it, it can survive a lot of storms, disasters, etc. But it's also very flexible. Like the branches are very, very flexible. And that's in some ways what allows it to be very sturdy. I think today management is really about this idea of like be sturdy while being flexible. And that is a very hard thing to pull off. But I think that's like at least when I even go into me.

Starting point is 00:40:13 I think like be like the Willow Tree, Julie. Just imagine the Willow Tree and like try and channel that as the kind of feeling of what it is that we're trying to do together. This reminds me of a couple things from other guests. I had Mark Bennyoff on the podcast and I asked them just how do you deal with all this change? things are, it's like agents now. It was, I don't know. There's AGI coming, as you said, just like, how do you survive?

Starting point is 00:40:37 There's, and his advice is just, he's like, I'm always just like, good. This is great. This is what we want. This is exciting. We have so much opportunity. It's just not boring. We can always reinvent and he's always embracing what this is good.

Starting point is 00:40:52 I just, I'll never forget the way he responded to that. I think if you don't think it's good, it's kind of a painful way to live. It'll be very, very difficult. over these next. So I do think that all things be equal, lean into it. Like if you can wake up every day and see it as opportunity and excitement rather than fear, again, they're all flip sides of the same coin, but I think if we can lean more into what could it be while recognizing that the other side does exist and it's still there. And I think of managers who try to pretend like it isn't there, like it's all good, no one's upset, et cetera. There's something also missing about just addressing.

Starting point is 00:41:29 And being able to be like, yeah, it's hard. Change is hard. We're probably going to get upset. We're going to have some chaos. Like, this is going to happen. But we will work through it because we're going to be flexible and we're going to be able to put our eyes on the big picture of what is possible, which is exciting. There's another quote that stuck that coming came up as you were talking. I forget who was exactly.

Starting point is 00:41:50 Maybe Kevin Weill, maybe Mike Krieger. They said that this is the most normal things will be ever. Like, it will only get weirder. And I think giving people that sense of like, okay, just enjoy this normal because this is going to be only weirder. Well, at least give people an expectation, real expectations where things might be going. Yes, yes. What a time to be alive. What time.

Starting point is 00:42:14 Okay. Let me zoom out even further and chat about, I want to ask you just outside of AI, management in many ways is unchanged. It's still a lot of the same work managing people, helping to be successful, producing great work. What are just some of the, I'd say, maybe most timeless, most important lessons that you think managers, especially new managers still don't totally understand, need to hear more? What are just some that come to mind and then we'll see where this goes? The first thing that comes to mind is the importance of managing yourself and understanding yourself. This was chapter five in my book. It's called Managing Yourself.

Starting point is 00:42:53 In fact, when I wrote it, I kind of wanted to be chapter one. And then my publisher was like, well, maybe you should get into some of the tactical. people don't necessarily think managing other people or managing team starts with them. But I really do fundamentally believe this because I think all of us are, of course, like any human being, we have things that we're strong at. We have things that we're weak at. And I am a very big believer that every strength is its own weakness and every weakness is a strength. There's no such thing as you're going to somehow, you know, get every dimension to be 100%.

Starting point is 00:43:23 In fact, I think one of the most interesting concepts that we can, like a more frameworks for myself and also even this is also kind of like a data framework concept is this concept of dimensionality. So what dimensionality means is like you're a human being, but we can kind of look at you in infinite dimensions. There is, for example, how good is Lenny at throwing an axe? That's one dimension. Pretty good. How good is Lenny at being a podcast moderator? Fantastic. So-so. Okay, thank you. How good is Lenny at doing a zero-to-one type of project in the AI space? Right. So again, just you can think about these as infinite dimensions.

Starting point is 00:44:07 And the reality is each of our profiles is very unique. It's like a fingerprint. So for you, it's like these are all these areas that you're really great at, you know, much better like in the top 1%. And then there's some areas where in the top 10%, then there's some areas where like kind of average and then some dimensions in which you're worse than average compared to other people. And that's just true for all of us.

Starting point is 00:44:29 And what I like about that is, therefore, if you take that as the model, right, things that then you realize that none of these dimensions are you entirely. So we can be, you know, I can make a comment like, Lenny, your axe throwing really could use some improvement. And ideally, you're not like, Julie is saying I'm a bad person. I'm a, my identity is at risk, right? Because it's just one dimension of who you are. But what happens sometimes is that we can get very attached to certain dimensions because we start to think that that's who we are.

Starting point is 00:45:04 And I think managers can do that and clearly individuals on their teams. And when that happens, it starts to get very difficult to have, I think, more objective conversations about, okay, what can you get better at? What can you get worse at? And so I say all this because I think this framework, for me at least, and many people that I've talked to, has helped them realize that somebody can give you feedback or you. You can be maybe not great at certain dimensions. We can have room to improve. And that's not who you are, because you are all of these infinite dimensions and want. And none of them is representative of like your true worth as an individual.

Starting point is 00:45:41 I am a big believer that we are all beautiful and worthy. And sure, we have all of these skills. And yes, we want to improve those skills. But it does not speak to like who we, whether we are worthy or not by saying whether, you know, we are strong or weak in these skills. And so I think if you can take that and really internalize that, then you can look at yourself a little bit more objectively as a manager. And you can realize that there are areas where you're going to be really strong. There are areas where you have biases. And often they are one and the same.

Starting point is 00:46:10 So I'll give an example. People have often told me, as I would get this in my performance reviews from managers in the past, like, hey, Julie, you're really thoughtful. So, you know, when you think about something, you have like a way to think about it, you've clue to thought about it in depth and you've got like these frameworks and all this, that's a great thing. And then on the flip side, I'll get feedback like, well, Julie, you know, you don't really say a lot in a dynamic discussion. Like you're kind of quiet and, you know, you don't really think that quickly on your feet. And what you realize is like these are kind of, again, too, like, because I don't do that and I'm not just off the cuff, that's what allows me to oftentimes be very, very thoughtful,

Starting point is 00:46:55 or like that at least again when I was younger like it's sort of it's very clear that that particular weakness also very much speaking to a particular strength which is I am the kind of person that doesn't always have a snap judgment I have to really think about it and internalize it and sometimes get to how I feel and then I can share it and present it in the world and so just knowing that about me is supremely helpful now doesn't mean of course that I can never get better at this thing but what what I often think about is mastery is where we realize that both of these we can get better at and what we want to do is just figure out in the context what makes sense to be. So I got this feedback and I'm like, cool, one of the things I need to work on is figuring

Starting point is 00:47:43 on how to be more open in person, how to speak a little bit more clearly in person, maybe say things like, I don't know exactly how I feel about it yet, but this is what I'm thinking right now. There's still clear tactics that will allow me to be a more effective team member and to do a better job in the context of what I'm trying to do with my team. So I've tried to build those skills. But the meta skill is now being able to step back and say, okay, in certain context, it is really important that we move fast and we are decisive and we just do something. And even if it's not perfect, we just kind of have to do it. And if I struggle with that, I should realize that that's an area to improve upon. But there are other contexts in which

Starting point is 00:48:25 which the right thing to do is actually to take a step back and be very thoughtful and to not rush into decisions. And so that's like, so what I want to get to is not like, let's reject the strength or this weakness, but just know that that's like where we come from. That's naturally we might be wired in a particular way. Our growth often looks like getting better at doing the opposite, but not rejecting again, the thing that we're good at, but rather over time getting to this balance where we can read the context and the situation. and know, should I lean a little more thoughtful? Or is this a time where I need to try and be a little more decisive and just share what I need to, what's on my mind right now?

Starting point is 00:49:03 I love this advice that things that we are incredible at have a downside. And oftentimes the feedback we're getting is something we're not great at. There's like a good version of that that people appreciate. And I was going to ask you, and I think you answered most of this, but just when you got this feedback of, hey, Julie, you're not speaking enough in these meetings. you're not contributing quickly enough. It sounds like, so one option is just like, okay, cool, that's me. That's how I am.

Starting point is 00:49:29 And I'm just going to solve the problem this other way and then just not going to change anything. What I heard you say is find opportunities where that's actually, you want to actually change that behavior, even though it doesn't come naturally in specific situations where things are moving fast. I guess just how far do you recommend people push themselves in things they're not great at versus leaning further? further into their things, their strength, let's say.

Starting point is 00:49:54 I think that's a really great question. So the way I think about it is it is very dependent on what is your goal. So for example, let's say that you are, let's even take, for example, ICs versus managers. I think often about the pathway of an IC, an individual contributor, as wanting to deepen a craft. Like you just, you love this thing and you just want to get better and better and better at this very specific skill or this craft, right? So think about in our dimension, infinite.

Starting point is 00:50:22 It's like you pick a couple dimensions. Like, I just want these to be, I want to be like the top 0.01%. And that's, that's kind of the pathway of extending as an I see. Now, if that's your high level goal and you're like, I want to be able, let's say your high level goal is I want to be able to do this, you know, 10 or hours a day because I love it. And I want to be able to support myself doing it, meaning I get paid and I have like a great job. and I want, you know, to have a bunch of impact in the world by doing this thing, right? So again, you still have goals. Then you have to see, okay, does my strategy of just deepening these things,

Starting point is 00:50:59 is there a pathway to reach my goals according to that? And if there is, awesome. Then if someone's like, hey, do you want to be a manager? You're like, nope, don't need to because these are my goals. And this pathway actually allows me to do that. But if somehow you get to a point where, you know, the skill you really want, want to perfect is not something that may be commercially viable in the world that's going to somehow allow you to buy the big mansion that you want to buy to support your family.

Starting point is 00:51:27 Then I think you have to ask yourself, okay, so if I just do this, it's not going to cut it. I might actually need to learn some of these other skills in order to be able to fulfill the job that is going to be valuable enough that people are going to pay me a bunch of money at this certain level so that I can afford my mansion. So I just think it has to go back to like, what are your goals? And there are cases in which, yes, it supports, you'll support your goal to do this and to deepen your craft. And there are cases in which it won't. And I think it's important.

Starting point is 00:51:56 It's a very individual question for each person. But what I often think suffering is is when these things are not aligned. So what you want is like the giant mansion and all of that. But you're like, but I also just want to spend all my time perfecting my egg omit. And then you're just like in this tension place. And it's very hard to feel satisfied and fulfilled because you're a little bit like, oh, why doesn't the world value my deep egg omelet skills? Like, okay, you can be an egg moment. You just have to, you know, maybe not do this thing.

Starting point is 00:52:28 Or if you want this thing, you may actually need to be better at just egg omelets. Like perhaps you need to expand your repertoire of cuisines and, like, go and build a Mechlin Star restaurant or something. This is really good advice. It's not just like definitely always work on your weaknesses or don't worry about them. It's if you need to do this thing to achieve this goal that you have, make sure you understand what your goal is and then is this thing, a thing you need to work on. For example, if then I become a VP, you probably need to be really good in big, important meetings and not being on the spot and just not, you know, waiting until everything's over and then sharing an email, all your thoughts. That's right. Yeah, for me, I actually went through a period where I was like, I do not want to get promoted.

Starting point is 00:53:06 I'm so happy in this very specific role, just like, leave me alone. And that path is very different from the skills I need to build to be a manager. and then things change. And then, okay, now these are the things that you need to work on. Yeah, I love that. You knew that about yourself because I think it's so easy for, you know, a young person to go into their careers and everyone is telling them. Maybe their whole family has been telling them like, you need to get, look, you need to level up. You need to get paid more. You need to get that manager title. You need to get a VP. And a certain point, I think sometimes people opt into this without knowing what they're actually signing up for. Like, what are the tradeoffs? And is that really what you want to do? Does that really a lot? line with your passions. And of course, you know, sometimes we have to, again, it's like, it's a compromise for us, right? But we get to design. Like, we get to design what are our goals and what's the right pathway. And I go back to usually when people are unhappy, it's because these things are a little bit out of sync. Like they want this big thing, but they don't actually,

Starting point is 00:54:02 they're not actually excited about what it takes to do that thing. And therefore, it's just going to be a mismatch. And along those lines, it sounds like, oh, sure, I can, design my life and design my role. But what I find is if you at least first of all know what you'd love and ideally do and then at least mention that's your manager, it often is a lot more possible than you think. A hundred percent. I think it's so important to be like we often also have this mental model like, oh, our managers are a judge and they're going to judge me on whether or not I got it. I did well. I should get a promotion. I should be fired. So there's this sometimes fear that people have. But I think in the very best relationships, the manager is like a guide.

Starting point is 00:54:47 It's like, look, the manager has a job. And if you understand your manager's job, which is how to get outcomes, better outcomes from the team. And also you understand what exactly would your manager consider success for the team. It also makes it easier for you to then be like, oh, well, if I do this project, then that clearly seems like it's very direct path to creating value for the team. And that also is a kind of project that suits my skills. something I'm excited about, like you should suggest that to your manager. But the other is true, right? So you would know that if you actually asked your manager, what is your job and what do you

Starting point is 00:55:21 consider success to be and what is your greatest hopes and dreams? And then you might be able to help your own career and yourself because you know that context. And conversely, if you say, hey, manager, these are my hopes and dreams. This is what I think I'm good at. I really want to get better at this skill. You know, I really want to get that VP promotion, but I don't know what it entails. Can you tell me, like, what does it take? That's a really wonderful conversation as well, because then you'll get all of that context. And then you can actually decide whether you want to do it or not. And if you want to, then ask your manager for help. Okay, if you see opportunities that are going to help me become a better presenter or increase my communication, please tell me. Even better, if you

Starting point is 00:56:05 have feedback for me about communication, I want to hear it because that's what's going to help me grow in this particular skill. And so it becomes this collaborative relationship much more so than this almost like adversarial. Like I'm trying to get you to give me a promotion and you're trying to get me to like work harder. Like it's yeah, like that is not a very good vibe. There's a, it reminds me of a guest post by Ethan Evans that I'll link to that has a really good framework for how to actually do exactly what you're talking about called the magic loop where it's kind of a framework for figuring out what to work on and how to help your manager see your capable of stuff and earn that trust.

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Starting point is 00:57:45 That's posth-h-o-g.com slash Lenny. So along the lines of timeless manager, especially new manager advice, you've shared a bunch. Is there anything else that you think is really important, really interesting, valuable? Feedback is one of the other topics that I am super duper passionate about. And my general impression for both myself, everyone I've worked with is that we don't value feedback enough or we don't kind of think about enough. Again, companies have these performance cycles. And so we're all like, yes, every six months, we're going to go and do these reviews. That's when I'll get feedback.

Starting point is 00:58:21 But feedback really, in my mind, ideally should be like a daily practice. Because the thing that matters for us in the long run as a team is how quickly are we getting better. So a team that just gets 1% better every week compared to a team that gets 1% better a month is even if they start off at a much lower baseline is going to outperform in a very short amount of time, the team that doesn't get better. And so what is the best tool for us to get better? It is feedback. And what I think about in feedback is it's very similar to what we said earlier about data metrics. It's essentially trying to put your hypotheses and test them against reality. So as an example, maybe I have this perception right now that I am a positive and

Starting point is 00:59:10 engaging speaker. So I have this sense that like I'm smiling and I'm very engaging and I'm telling great stories. But is that really true? I don't know. Like the reality is that I'm often biased and we all have, you know, we know these like psychological effects, right? We're like sometimes the Dunning Kruger effect, like people think they're way more expert at something than they actually are. You ask people, hey, are you better than average driver? And it's like 70 or 80 percent of people like, yes, I'm better than average. How could that possibly be? We have biases. And imposter syndrome is a bias on the other side. It's like me feeling, oh, I suck. I don't actually belong here. Whereas that also is a bias. Like it may not actually be true. In fact, I might very well be here

Starting point is 00:59:53 and other people value my contribution. So we are just wildly out of sync a lot of times in our perceptions of ourselves, our strengths, our weaknesses, what's going on. And the way that we're going to understand and truly get better is we need other people to reflect back what is actually their truth. And the way I think about it is like, I'm going to ask you for feedback after this podcast episode and you're going to tell me something. And what you're going to do is you're going to give me a gift. Because it'll be a gift of reflecting something back of what you see that I can't see,

Starting point is 01:00:27 right? just like if I have a leaf in the back of my head, I can't see that. And so if you tell me, hey, Julie, have a leaf. Oh, wow, thank you. Okay, maybe I can get rid of the leaf or whatnot. But that is what feedback is. It is essentially reflection back. It helps us calibrate to reality. And it allows me to get this information about whether or not I'm moving in the direction of my goals. I love that. I completely agree. The challenge for most people, as you know, is giving feedback. that people receive and don't feel defensive about, and then receiving feedback and not being like, oh, no, they don't know.

Starting point is 01:01:03 They don't know anything. How dare they say this about me? Could you give us maybe a tip or two for delivering feedback well and for receiving feedback well and maybe even just like seeking feedback? How do you get more feedback? Because this all makes a lot of sense. Most of the time people don't get any feedback. The best way, the first tip on getting feedback or delivering hard feedback is

Starting point is 01:01:24 first go and actually establish that our relationship. is one in which we value each other's contribution. We want to help each other grow, and therefore we're going to be the kind of people that want to give feedback to each other every week. So when you first start working with someone, don't wait until something bad has happened. I have given feedback that's already a pressurized situation. Start by saying, hey, really excited to work with you. I feel like our best collaboration is, I want you to help me get better. I think I'm good at this stuff. I'm not so good at this stuff. What about you? okay, you think you're good at this stuff.

Starting point is 01:01:56 How about we just work together and we just help each other get better at these things? And the way we're going to do that is all feedback is open. I want you to tell me everything. Ideally, you're going to then say, yeah, I want you to tell me everything. And we've already established that. And this is colleagues or a manager or all colleagues. It's like everyone. It's like people you're dating.

Starting point is 01:02:15 It's like, you know, your children. Like it can be with everyone just establishing what kind of relationship do we want to have. I think most people want to opt into a relationship where you can. can be close. You can be tight with one another. You can say things to one another and not have to hide behind. Like I think most people will opt into it. And if you opt into it, everything gets easier down the road. So the first thing is get everyone to opt in that like this is the kind of relationship that we want to have. One trickle throughout that I've heard that worked really well along these same lines as asking people, would you prefer, do you prefer feedback in the moment or

Starting point is 01:02:49 do you prefer it kind of everyone's in everyone, every month or every week or something like that? And Everyone's like, no, no, in the moment and just like tell me as soon as something happens. And then that gives you that freedom to just, okay, yeah, let me give you feedback here. Yeah. So if you get people to opt in, yes, I want us to have a great relationship. I want us to help each other get better. I want feedback. That's 60% of the hard part of delivering difficult feedback later on.

Starting point is 01:03:13 So then the second tactic I will say is that when you actually give the feedback, it helps a lot. First, you have to check, am I actually giving this feedback? because it's in the spirit of trying to help one another. And if the answer is yes, then we've moved from 60% to 80% it's going to go well. But what can often happen is I'm feeling like something happens. You do something. It triggers me because I don't know.

Starting point is 01:03:43 I had like a bad experience about that type of thing before. And so I'm kind of feeling mad. And I want to be right. Like if my my real rationale for why I want to give you feedback is I want to validate myself. I want to be right. I want to tell you you're wrong. I want to punish you. It's not going to go well.

Starting point is 01:04:05 It's just already there. There's no way you can deliver it. And somehow, unless you're a tremendous actor, it's just not going to go well. So you have to first check your intention. But if you've done that, you're like, no, no, no. I thought about it. I'm calm now. I'm not like seeing red.

Starting point is 01:04:21 I really think that Lenny is just not aware that when he says this, it makes me and other people feel left out or whatever it is, right? Then I need to be able to give it to you. And so usually then if you're like, okay, now I might be nervous because I don't want to offend you. I really value your relationship. How am I going to tell you? You know, I don't want you to get defensive. Then the third tactic I have is just say that out loud.

Starting point is 01:04:47 Like if I sit down with you and I say, Lenny, I'm so nervous right now is I want to give you some feedback and I'm really worried that it's going to impact our relationship. And I so value our relationship and I don't want that to happen. But I also feel like it's just going to help you to hear it if you can. That does so much of the work of it's humanizing. It's like you're going to be, you're going to realize that I'm going on the limb. I'm being really vulnerable. and likely you're going to hear that so much more than if I just find a way to like drop it. Like it just like lobby it over because it's so difficult.

Starting point is 01:05:25 Just actually lean into the fact that it is difficult and expose that because that builds a lot of human connection. This is amazing advice. Very tactical. Okay. Is there anything else? So we've talked about a bunch of timeless pieces of manager wisdom, things that people need to hear, especially as new managers, is there anything else that you think is really important? They think people are just not fully grocking for being great managers.

Starting point is 01:05:52 I think the idea of win-win. I think about that all the time in my mind. And I go back to because I think that often we have the story in our heads that sometimes things are adversarial. As a manager, I'm trying to get people to be more productive. So I'm trying to get them to do a thing that maybe they don't want to do. I'm going to try and get them to work harder or I'm going to somehow put more pressure on them. If you start thinking like that, that's not a win-win way to be thinking, right? That's like you're saying, my getting better outcomes has to come at the expense of somebody else losing something.

Starting point is 01:06:32 And I think if you start thinking like that, it's very difficult to come up with a strategy or to truly be successful. But if you say, look, actually, my job is to figure out how to create win-wins. So I actually don't want. I don't want somebody over the long run to feel like what I've done is just create a ton of pressure for them. And now they're super burnt out and they're quick because that's not good for our team. That's not good for me. That's not good for our long-term relationship. How do we find a, like how do we find the solution that can be win-win?

Starting point is 01:07:05 And I think if you think like that, a lot of things get easier. So, for example, with new managers, I think this is true for me, too. The first time I had to tell someone that they're not, they shouldn't be a part of this team was extremely fraught for me. And the main reason was because I'm putting myself in their shoes and I'm imagining that this is truly horrible. And I've just done a huge disservice to this person. And that's like the most awful thing. But there's another way to look at it, which is, hey, if this person's on the team,

Starting point is 01:07:36 they probably want to be successful. They want to do great work. They want to be valued. They want to grow their career. If this is not the place for them, because it doesn't align with their true interests and the things that are going to help them be successful, it's just not the thing that they either want to do or can do at this point.

Starting point is 01:07:56 It doesn't do that person any good for me to somehow try to continue to make it. It's actually going to be miserable. Like I'm going back to like prolonging that misery state. And so sometimes a win-win thing is to just say, look, it's not working. And I know I respect and value you so much that I know you want to do something that you can be proud of and you can grow in. And that's going to be really valued. And right here, what we got, this isn't it. That's like a win-win way of looking at the situation, not a like, you know, oh, my firing them is just definitely going to be a horrible, you know, I'm not trying to say it's not going to be hard.

Starting point is 01:08:32 Obviously, it's hard, but it's in the mentality and the, you know, the mentality. the mental model, I think, makes all the difference because it's going to be different in the way that I convey it to them. It's going to be different in why this actually in the grander scheme of things may be great. And it's going to reduce this adversarial feeling where they're now going to see me as like an enemy or somebody with all this power who's making, you know, choices that impact them and they feel powerless. It has to be a collaboration. And I think if it's not win-win, and I could be wrong. I would say, I don't think it's right. The person could actually say, no, you're wrong. And that would actually be great information because then maybe we can go back

Starting point is 01:09:09 and we can find a way to make it win-win. Yeah, I was just going to say, they have to believe this. You can't just make it sound like this. Here's the win. You're getting let go. It's a huge weed for you. But in reality, what we phrased it is actually almost always true. Like, this is just not a place that you will be happy and succeed at. And it's better you go do something else. Yeah. Okay. I'm going to keep fishing in this pool to see what else we got. But when we run out, let me know. Is there anything else that you think people should know, should hear, especially me managers that they're still not fully getting? I think being aware of your own energy and conviction is really, really important. So a lot of these themes, as you can see, go back to

Starting point is 01:09:51 like you have to first understand this about yourself and have the right mindset. And when you do, it becomes much easier to be able to be impactful with other people. So this is another one. I think it's very difficult for managers to be able, you know, we talked a lot about the three pillars of what are the major tools of a manager. The first is people. And so we talked a lot about like the importance of dimensionality and feedback and helping reflect and grow people. I think the second one is around purpose. Purpose is like, what are we here to do? What's our North Star?

Starting point is 01:10:27 And I think it's very hard to actually convey that if you don't have convenience. conviction yourself. And so watching your conviction is really important, particularly since a lot of people who are managers, you often start out not as like the founder and the CEO of the company, but you might be like a middle manager. So in some ways, you don't even like create the vision, but you are in some ways expected to execute it or take a piece of it and do it. And I find that sometimes what new managers don't pay attention to enough is what is their true belief? Like they feel like they might have to be like a soldier. So they just get orders and they have to execute it. But it really makes a difference if they themselves have gone through the work of thinking through,

Starting point is 01:11:13 wait, why are we doing this? Do I believe the strategy doesn't make sense or not? And if it doesn't make sense to go and actually have the conversation with their manager or whoever else, just so they they can get to alignment on like, I really believe in what I'm doing. Because if you don't really believe in what you're doing and or you're just kind of parroting the thing that got passed through the organization, it's very hard for you to then be able to help other people see what that magic is or to be actually really effective as as a person who can hold that vision and that purpose. So I just think you have to really check in with yourself on like, I know we're told to do this and this is what we have to do, but how do we really feel about it? Because if you don't

Starting point is 01:11:57 feel good about it, then it's not going to be very likely that the project. going to succeed. I can tell you right now, every single manager I've ever managed where they're like, I don't really think this is a good idea. There's no case where I can think of with the project somehow turned out to be wildly successful. This is such a classic challenge of managers is getting things done that you don't really agree with. And I can't help but ask you for advice on someone that isn't in that place of just, okay, we have a feature or CEOs prioritizing. This is not a good idea. but I need to have a brave face and not make it sound like I'm just being told what to do and I'm just reporting orders.

Starting point is 01:12:35 I don't believe in this. Like you don't want to do that. You've become a terrible unsuccessful manager and people who's trust in you. What's your advice to folks that are in that place of just how to find that balance? So I think first, if you feel that way, you've got to actually find a way to get it out and engage in dialogue. So I think my manager told me to do this. I think it's a terrible idea. You got to talk to your manager about it or you got to talk to the CEO or who.

Starting point is 01:12:58 whoever and feel, because once you engage in a dialogue, what will often happen is you'll learn more. Like, you'll have new information, you'll have new assumptions, and maybe you'll have influenced a project in some manner. But often, the more you can learn about, okay, why did some other smart people feel like we should do this? And what parts of it do I believe and what parts am I more skeptical about? Like, you can probably decompose it from a blanket, it's good or bad, to like, okay, this is a hypothesis. This is a hypothesis. This is a hypothesis. It's a hypothesis, I might kind of believe this one. The reason I don't like the proposal, I don't believe this particular hypothesis, but I believe these other ones, right? And so when you can start

Starting point is 01:13:37 to get one level deeper into breaking it down into a set of assumptions, that makes it much easier because then you'll likely find something that you do kind of resonate with. And you might be able to then steer things like, okay, if that hypothesis doesn't, you can't, I believe in disagree and commit. But now we can be very specific. We can isolate the thing that, like, And what we can also often do is like, okay, the reason I didn't like this proposal is because I have this, like, I believe that this assumption is wrong, right? So for them to come up with like a really stupid example, but, you know, your suggestion is, I know, we have a great idea. We're going to go and put a lemonade stand on every block. And my core assumption is people do not like lemonade.

Starting point is 01:14:20 That's not the hot beverage right now. And so therefore I think this is a stupid plan. But if I talk to about it, and you're like, no, no, this is the core assumption we disagree on. on, likely what starts to unfold is like, well, let's just, can we get some data? Can we some information? Like, can we just, is there a quicker way to validate whether people like lemonade? Perhaps we should just test it in one market before we go and open up the lemonade stands across the entire 50 states.

Starting point is 01:14:45 And so what happens is we can likely get to the actual specific area and come up with something. And then if I have to now share with my team, you know, we're going to try this hypothesis. I'm not sure how I feel about it, but I actually. do think, like, I don't know for sure. And, you know, our, our CEO seems to think this is, but we're just going to test it. And we're going to do the test in a way where that's what we want to find out is, like, do people really love, like, do 18 to 25 year olds love lemonade if we put them on these neighborhood, whatever, college campuses, right? So it becomes very specific. And everyone's like,

Starting point is 01:15:18 well, yeah, I don't know for sure, but like, I'm happy to go in and test that and commit to it. It's such a good advice. And there's also, you could layer on, here's the things I do agree with and believe. Here's the ways that I see this is totally right. Here's the piece that I'm not so sure about, but that's why we're going to run this test, and here's why it's the smallest version of this test, and why it's a great idea just to figure it out. And we'll show them. I mean, you probably don't want to say that. As you give this answer, it's so interesting. I just want to do a whole new episode with you later of just like common conundrums managers have, challenges that every manager runs into that are really difficult to figure out on the spot.

Starting point is 01:15:54 we could save that for the future. Okay, I'm going to take us to a couple of recurring themes on this podcast, occasional recurring that every episode corners that we take guests to. The first is I want to take us to AI Corner. And what I like to do in AI Corner is ask, what's a way that you've figured out to use AI in your work or your life? That's just really interesting, really useful. Well, I already shared a lot about education and learning,

Starting point is 01:16:21 but I'll share maybe a more fun story. So it's my kids' birthdays. One of them just passed, and my middle son's birthdays in two weeks and my daughter's birthdays. By the way, the birthday just passed. The kid didn't pass. Okay. The birthday passed. That's right.

Starting point is 01:16:35 That's right. The birthday passed. My kid's birthdays. And one of my goals this year was to try and build them something. So give them a present that has me going back to being the I-Ce and making something for them. And AI makes this really fun. And so I just, for my youngest son who was six years old, this is an idea that I still, from Eric Antoneau. And if you know, Eric, have you had them on your podcast? I haven't. I'm trying to. He

Starting point is 01:17:02 actually sent me the, what is it? The, what is it? Methaphone. Yes. Methaphone. Check this up. Yes. It's like, instead of holding the phone in your pocket, you hold this thing and then you walk around with it and everyone's like, what the hell is that? Yeah, I too am the proud owner of a metaphone and the next version upgrades with the little stickers. But Eric is great. You should definitely have him on your on your he's such a creative character and one time I saw him with a parrot on his shoulder and I was like why do you have a parrot on your shoulder and he's like well you can talk to my parrot it's a talking parrot and then I spoke to the parrot and the parrot spoke back to me and what had happened is that he had hooked up a microphone he like kind of surgically went into the parrot

Starting point is 01:17:45 and added like a microphone a speaker and connected it to a voice mode on chatb t so that and it spoke I think like a pirate voice. I was like, this is the best idea. And like my six-year-old son is really into raccoons. He is like a huge amount of raccoon stuffies. I was like, I want a raccoon that can talk to him. So I made that using the Eric Antenone method. But it was great.

Starting point is 01:18:09 It was a huge hit. And now my middle son's birthday is coming up. And he is really into parody. He loves video games, so Minecraft. But what he often listens to on his Alexa are these parody songs. So it'll be like, Justin Bieber's hit or like Gundam style, but they've changed the lyrics so it becomes like a

Starting point is 01:18:28 video game parody of some video game that he's playing. And they're horribly sung. They're like off-toed. It's just like some person who produced it. And I was like, well, if he doesn't seem to mind off King's seeing, I'm going to create him an album of video game parody songs. And I'm going to create like an, so I created an app on Replit that, that what it does is it, you just give it a song.

Starting point is 01:18:52 like, you know, this is Justin Bieber's baby and you link to Spotify song. And I give him some context. Like, Oh, Locke likes playing Kingdom Rush right now. We have like an inside joke about, you know, the gargoyles being free money. Like, whatever it is, I just give it a bunch of content. I'm like, write me a song that just kind of personalizes it and it's a parody of this particular video game. And it writes me the lyrics. It's pretty good at doing this.

Starting point is 01:19:15 It's like pretty high quality. And then, you know, again, it does it according to the beats of the music. And then I just sing it and record. it and that I got myself a song. So I'm creating an album of this, which I'm going to give to him. He's not going to hear this podcast, so no one spoil it to him. I think he's going to go publish after his birthday, but I'm very excited about this. Wait, so you're going to be the one singing?

Starting point is 01:19:36 Yes. The song? Yes. I thought you were going to use Suna or some AI thing to actually sing it. No, I think I'm going to sing it myself. And it just, like, all of this made it so easy. Like, all I have to do is just read, like, record. And again, he's not into, I'm not a very good singer, but he's not into, or he's not,

Starting point is 01:19:51 it doesn't turn them off to hear off kids. Wow, that is so beautiful. This gave me so many ideas for gifts I can give to kids in my life. And I just love how AI is making it, I don't know, easier to be a parent in some ways, more delightful. These are awesome examples. Okay. I'm going to take us to a different corner, contrarian corner. What's something that you believe that most other people don't?

Starting point is 01:20:17 Most other people would disagree with. I believe that. believe that there's infinity in every direction. So that makes me pretty contrary on pretty much everything that anyone says. So if someone says something, like on Twitter, I sometimes play this game with myself, which is in what context would that actually not be true? And I think the reality is that the world is so, or at least my reality, and my understanding of the reality, is that the world is just infinitely complex.

Starting point is 01:20:50 And so, for example, if my kids say something like, going outside is boring or taking a walk is boring or doing something is boring, my general response will be, well, it's because you're not seeing the infinity that's in that direction. So even, for example, something really mundane, like staring at a blank wall, I think that you can make that actually deeply, deeply interesting because you can use that as an opportunity to go into your own mind and to figure out. like how you can make time passed or you can meditate on the existence or meditate on your breath or just be grateful for the purpose of being alive and like two people right one person you can say sit in front of a wall for an hour and they will like my kid they will super complain and be like this is the worst thing ever but you can put somebody else like a monk and they'll have a wonderful experience and so it's not really about the environment or the wall it's really about how we see it's and whether we can find the thing that is deep and rich and infinite in that direction.

Starting point is 01:21:56 Wow. These are some deep answers. This is very, I don't know, Buddhist, very mindfulness-oriented. I did a retreat once, and their advice was just, yeah, anytime you're bored, just notice all the things that are going on around you. Like, what does your seat feel like right now? What does the air feel like like? What are you hearing right now?

Starting point is 01:22:15 And it's exactly what you're saying. There's infinite things to pay attention to and keep you interested. it's hard and hard to actually do that for a long time and practice. That's why it's a practice. That's why it's a practice. But I repeat that to myself because oftentimes if I have a bad experience, I'm feeling a certain way, it helps me to realize that like it's often probably in my head. Like it's because I haven't gained the skills to be able to see the richness and infinity in that.

Starting point is 01:22:42 And that's so like I can maybe work on that. And that feels better than feeling like, oh, I'm a victim of my circumstances. This thing happened to me and like that's so awful, but not powerless. I can't do anything about it. Like that to me is a worse feeling than the alternative, which is I just don't have the skill yet. I can recognize it for what it is. I don't have the skill yet.

Starting point is 01:23:02 But I can grow. I can maybe get better at it. There is a person out there who could do that, who had the same situation as me and feels much more positively than I do. And don't I want to be more like that person? It's such a beautiful circle back to our very first episode, which a lot of it was on imposter syndrome. and overcoming that and your story there.

Starting point is 01:23:23 So I love that that's maybe a way to close this conversation. But before we do that, and before we get to a very exciting lightning ground, is there anything else that you wanted to mention or share or double down on that we've talked about? I just want to say thank you, honestly. I'm so inspired by the work that you do. We've known each other for quite a while. And I just think from the very first idea that you had for this newsletter, for the podcast, it's been incredible.

Starting point is 01:23:47 And I think the world gets so much from it. I'm sure you hear that a lot, but I am very grateful. Well, I really appreciate that. And I say this every time we do a chat is just, this wouldn't have been possible without you, Julie. I was inspired by your longtime newsletter, The Looking Glass. That's essentially my idea was, what if I do this for product? And I started on Medium, just like you did. And then I moved to Substack.

Starting point is 01:24:12 And then it's like, what if I charge for this? And then that worked. And then I'm like, what if I do a podcast? And then that worked. But it all began with your, your, your, concept. So thank you, Julie. And I think you do it with so much kindness and curiosity as you always have. So I love that. That's just who I am. Well, with that, we have reached our very exciting lightning round. I've got five questions for you. Are you ready? I'm ready. What are two or three books

Starting point is 01:24:37 that you find yourself recommending most to other people? The first is Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. I absolutely love that book. It's beautifully written. It's so deep. My whole philosophy around quality is beautifully, it really comes, a lot of it comes from that book, the idea and even all the stuff that we talked about, change. What does it mean to be at that, that forefront of change and dynamic quality? I think he just talks about so beautifully and so masterfully in that book. So, an old classic, but I try to reread it every few years or so. Second is conscious business. It is my favorite management book. It's a little bit bit of a sleeper hit because I actually end up recommending this one far more than my own book. Oh,

Starting point is 01:25:23 wow. I read this one after I wrote my book, and I always tell people that if I read it before, I'm not sure I would have written my book because I would have been like, conscious business is really the book that will, that, that, that, that, um, really, really so much resonates. And I think what, um, and all of the, many of the things I talked about, this idea of win-win, the idea of, like, being a player, not a victim. Um, and how to think about work, not just it's a job. It's, but, Like, how do you really think about aligning it with your own personal values and what you want to do in the world? I think that this book really speaks to that so beautifully. It is also very tactical.

Starting point is 01:25:58 It's got a lot of really wonderful examples. I will tell people the cover isn't very attractive. And I think that if you judge a book by its cover, like this seems very corpority. The title also seems like kind of like, what, conscious business? And the first chapter is a little bit more technical. But if you just get past it and get into chapter two and you start, you know, with examples of the soccer team. It's just like the best management book.

Starting point is 01:26:22 That is good advice to get people over the hump when they look for it. You're like, okay, okay, I'm going to stick with it. Yes. And okay, third book, I love the book, Good Inside by Dr. Becky. It's a parenting book and is a very wildly popular parenting book. So I really recommend it to all parents. But I also think it's just a wonderful book for thinking about relationships. And his parenting is that.

Starting point is 01:26:47 It's like a very, very deep and intense relationship and interaction that you have with another human being. And there's so many things that I read in parenting books, including Good Inside by Dr. Becky, that I think like could just have as well been like a management or a team leadership book. I'm thinking about trying to ask Dr. Becky to come on a podcast. I feel like there could be a lot of synergy exactly for that reason. And she uses this term sturdy, which you, which is inspired maybe your willotry. I probably got it. I mean, I think she talks a lot about sturdy.

Starting point is 01:27:17 and that just incepted right in here. Yes. Yeah, her whole thing is creating being a sturdy parent. Strong but flexible, I imagine. Yeah, I love her and I love her stuff. I watch all her videos on TikTok and Emily Oster. Okay, next question. Is there a movie or TV show you've recently enjoyed?

Starting point is 01:27:34 I have not watched anything. I have no good answer for you. I think the only thing I watched this year was a rewatch of La La Land, which I do truly love. So delightful. Okay. Is there a product you recently discovered that you really love.

Starting point is 01:27:48 I don't think there's anything too new. I love granola. I love Replit. I've used all of the different coding apps. Cursor is big on me for now. I just got a Madic Robot. I think that's been really delightful so far. At least the setup, I haven't used it like a long, long term.

Starting point is 01:28:08 But it's the setup, the way that it worked, the fact that it had little stickers and you could make it into a dog or a cat was like a wonderful experience. Nomatic robot will link to it. I am also a huge fan. I'm not an investor that's essentially Waymo meets Roomba for folks that don't anything about it. It's like a very sophisticated robot vacuum built by like AI vision people. Oh, I just thought of one more as well.

Starting point is 01:28:34 The Limitless pendant. So disclaimer, I am a small investor in Limitless. But what I love about it is that it's okay, it's a pendant, you wear it. and it just records everything that's going on. And later it summarizes things and it gives you feedback. And I don't usually wear it out because I find that maybe other people feel like awkward that I'm recording everything. I usually try and get people's permission.

Starting point is 01:28:57 But I do wear it at home when I'm with my kids. And one of the best things that the pendant does is it gives me feedback on parenting. What? Like automatically or use it into chat GPT? No, it will automatically like if there's an app and it will sometimes notify me or if I check it, it'll, or I can also engage with like ask it. But what it does is essentially, it's like granola, but like for your life in, in terms of capturing everything, summarizing it, and then giving you tips and feedback.

Starting point is 01:29:24 And it said things like, hey, there was that time you were talking about the game and you cut your kid off a lot. And maybe next time think about letting them speak fully and listening better. The app itself natively does that? Yeah. I did not know that because I have one. I haven't used it much recently. that is incredible.

Starting point is 01:29:42 I wonder if it gives you relationship advice too if you're talking to your partner. I wonder how you know this. Yeah. It's so I, anyways, it was, it was,

Starting point is 01:29:49 it was did a pretty good job of inferring, you know, that, I think it's a person too, but it was, it was like kind of eye opening for me. Incredible. Something,

Starting point is 01:29:58 so there's a recent episode of the, our How I AI podcast, or sister podcast, where somebody, where's that in their meetings with COs, with their CEO, and automatically turns what they're asking for. into a prototype from the meeting notes and then sales teams can start showing it to people to see

Starting point is 01:30:17 if they're interested. How about that? That's awesome. That is super cool. Holy moly. Yeah. We don't even, what is even happening? Okay, I'll keep going. Do you have a favorite life motto that you find yourself repeating to yourself sharing with others? I like make it happen. Just a reminder that at the end of the day, we can do a lot of, we can have a lot of motion. Maybe this is another one that I really like, I think about this poster. It used to be a poster at Facebook. that says don't mistake motion for progress. So there's this idea of like, be the change we want to be in the world, I guess.

Starting point is 01:30:48 There's all other ways of saying the same thing, which is like, you know, I can do things. Like we can all do things. We have better and better tools to go out there and make things happen, make it happen. Like the common meme on Twitter, you can just do things. Final question.

Starting point is 01:31:04 I like to ask this question of folks that are really deep in AI, I've been working with AI and kind of getting a sense of where things are going. Is there something that you teach your kids or teaching your kids? Think about encouraging them to learn, knowing that AI is going to be a big part of their life? Emotional regulation is still really, really, really important.

Starting point is 01:31:23 That's probably the thing that I think about the most in terms of what I want my kids to learn. I want my kids to be able to introspect, to have a better understanding of where their state of mind is. Because we're still human. We still have the same hardware that humans have had for thousands of years. and that's not changing even as the tools and the environment around us change. And so I feel that you have to really understand yourself and you have to understand what's going on for you and where you are biased and where you are not.

Starting point is 01:31:52 Because AI can make it, and this is my great fear, is that it makes things so much more comfortable. And I have this great fear that this has been the trajectory that we've been on with technology, right? This is, again, going back to like every strength is a weakness. Technology makes things a lot easier. That's why we invent. that's why we create.

Starting point is 01:32:10 Like we're always, human race has always been about trying to better our circumstances and in some ways control our destiny, like control our future. But at the same time, all of that control gets to a point where we have so many shortcuts in our lives. And you can shortcut a lot of things. I can shortcut relationships. You can shortcut like hard feelings because now you can just watch TikTok instead of actually dealing with the very difficult emotion or attention that you had with a colleague or with your

Starting point is 01:32:38 partner or with your children. And AI makes it even, I think, more attractive because now there's a person who can or there's a thing that can be very, very personalized. And if you're like, I want a distraction, I want to do something, you got that. But how do we actually still learn to sit with what is our true biology? That's not changing. And how do we continue to be the kind of people that want to take on the freedom of doing challenging things? Because I find that if we don't do challenging things. We just, we suffer. We suffer in a different way. And so to me, true freedom is you can pick the things that are hard and you can feel pride in becoming the thing that you want to be. It's not forced upon you. Like it's not for survival's sake anymore, but you still have to pick.

Starting point is 01:33:22 And I want to figure out for my children the fact that like it is really important to still find the challenge. Yes, you can use AI to do that, but really don't think about it as a shortcut tool. because if that's the case, I don't actually think that they're going to be able to become the kind of people they want to be in the world. What a beautiful way to end this conversation. Julie, it feels like this is just like some kind of huge milestone of this podcast, just like having you back three years later.

Starting point is 01:33:50 It's like a, I don't know, a chapter in the journey. I appreciate you coming back. I appreciate you sharing all this wisdom with us. Two final questions. Where can folks find you online if they want to reach out and maybe chat about maybe Sundial, maybe whatever else you're up to you. And then how can listeners be useful to you? Well, I would love to work with people who are at companies building really cool things

Starting point is 01:34:11 and want better answers to how we build better. And so if you think your company would be interested in working with us at Sundial and figuring out how do we make every single decision maker into their own expert analyst, please reach out. So that's one area. So sundial at sundial.com. I am on X, so I've been tweeting a lot more, sharing thoughts, you know, going back to that skill of practicing, just share what's on your mind. But for the long form stuff, I have my blog, The Looking Glass. It's on Substack.

Starting point is 01:34:44 I share articles and thoughts about AI, product building, leadership periodically. And then, of course, I have my book. The revised edition with two additional chapters. One is around managing remotely. and the other one is around managing in a downturn or managing in difficult change scenarios. That will be coming out in two weeks' time. The new content will be in the paperback.

Starting point is 01:35:11 That's important. And I'll send you a version of this when I get a copy myself, Lenny. But the paperback has a gradient type of cover. The hardback will eventually get the new content, but it just takes a while to phase out from all of the different retailers. So if you buy one, I cannot guarantee that it's going to have the new content. but certainly the Kindle and the paperback will have all of the new content.

Starting point is 01:35:32 And then so just for the published day because this might come out later, what's the date that's coming up just for folks? September 9th. Okay. Amazing. So I think it'll be out at the time. This is out. So go buy it.

Starting point is 01:35:43 I imagine available Amazon, all your local retailers. Yes. Yes. Amazing. Julie, thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much, Lenny. This was so fun. I hope to be back in another three years or whatever the next chapter is.

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Lenny's Podcast: Product | Career | Growth - From managing people to managing AI: The leadership skills everyone needs now | Julie Zhuo (Facebook VP, Sundial CEO, The Making of a Manager author)

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