Let's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari - A Man Crawling On My Bedroom Floor

Episode Date: December 17, 2024

I start off this solo episode with very exciting news... I'm taking Let's Be Honest on tour! Then we discuss this phase I'm in with my kids of them pushing the boundaries and why Jaxon is grounded for the next few months. Plus, I think I have ghosts in my new house and a story about waking up to a man crawling on my bedroom floor. Then we end with setting intentions for 2025- 2 exercises I find incredibly impactful to set yourself up for success in the new year. Kristin Cavallari's Headline Tour tickets are available now for the following cities:March 7, 2025: AtlantaMarch 8, 2025: ChicagoMarch 12. 2025: BostonMarch 13, 2025: New YorkA word from my sponsors:ServPro - Visit SERVPRO.com or call 1-800-SERVPRO today. Ritual - Get the good stuff to your gut, with delayed-release capsule tech that supports a balanced microbiome. Feel the difference, daily, with Synbiotic+. Get 25% off your first month at Ritual.com/BEHONEST.Quince - Get cozy in Quince's high-quality wardrobe essentials. Go to Quince.com/honest for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.Wayfair - Set the scene for new holiday memories with Wayfair. Head to Wayfair.com right now to get your home holiday ready.Gatorade - Put your water to work with Gatorade Hydration Booster. You can use code BOOST20 on Gatorade.com to try it yourself for 20% off. Blue Nile - Go to BLUENILE.com to shop Blue Nile, the original online jeweler since 1999! For more Let's Be Honest, follow along at:@kristincavallari on Instagram@kristincavallari and @dearmedia on TikTokLet's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari on YouTubeProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. This is Let's Be Honest with Kristen Cavallari, a podcast all about getting real and open on everything from sex, relationships, reality TV, wellness, family, and so much more. And just a fair warning, there will probably be some oversharing. Welcome in to Let's Be Honest. How are we doing, guys? I have really exciting news. Just going to start us off here. So I'm going on a podcast tour and I could not be more excited. So it will be in March. Let me pull up the exact dates for you guys here. So I'm doing, it's a small tour because it's during spring break for me and my ex has my kids this year. So I really

only had that one week available and it's St. Patrick's day, the second weekend. So it just gets a little tricky, but I'm going to do four cities. So I'm starting in Atlanta, March 7th. Then I go straight to Chicago, March 8th. Then I have a few days off and I'm going to go to Boston, March 12th, and then New York City, March 13th. So I'm going to post exactly where these theaters are, but you guys can get your tickets on Ticketmaster and my podcast listeners get the code honest that you can use on Ticketmaster to be eligible for VIP tickets. So I'm only giving that code to you guys. I'm not going to be posting that on social media or anything. I, of course, just want to give my real listeners

the chance to come meet me and hang. And I am so excited to be able to connect with you guys and be on the road and do this. This is nothing that I ever thought in my wildest dreams I would do, but I am so freaking excited. So I will see you guys in March on the road. Come out. We're going to have some fun. I'm going to have special guests. I am calling it my headline tour. As you guys know, I love clearing up headlines and talking about what was really going on. So what I'm going to do on the tour is I'm going to have some of the people I've been in the most scandalous, biggest headlines with over the years. They're going to come out and we're going to talk about what's really going on. Plus just

have some fun. And these are all going to be people that you guys love and we'll be really excited to see. So I cannot wait. And I'm just thankful that I even have this opportunity because of you guys listening at home. So it'll be fun. Okay. So that's the first order of business today. And now you guys can see I finally got furniture in my house, by the way. Very excited about that. Still waiting on a couple things, but we're getting there. And the construction is coming along swimmingly. But I got to tell you, I have all this brand new furniture, you know, and I've got three kids and three dogs. And that's just a recipe for disaster. I don't know if you guys growing up had friends or maybe your own parents did this,

they would put plastic on the couches. I remember living in Barrington, our neighbor, they used to put plastic on their couches. And I remember thinking how insane that was. I thought their family was so weird. I really was like, this is so bizarre, especially for a kid because plastic on couches is obviously so uninviting. It's cold. It's a weird feeling for a kid. It almost makes you feel like you're in a museum. And so I just thought it was like the weirdest thing ever. I was like, what is the point? And now as an adult with three kids and three dogs, I'm like, no, I get it. I want to put plastic on my couches because furniture is insanely expensive and dogs and kids trash everything, everything. So I have a new rule in my house that food

and any drink other than water cannot leave the kitchen. You cannot take food outside of the kitchen. Also, side note, because my kids would have snacks in their rooms and my dogs would go in there and they would eat all of them. But not only would they eat the chips and the candy and whatever else, they would eat the fucking wrappers.. Teddy was puking up bits of a basketball, which is a whole other story, and wrappers. Like, what? So between me not wanting to destroy any of the new furniture and the dogs just getting into shit, I've banned food from leaving the kitchen. Although I will tell you, my kids are in a bit of a phase right now where they just don't really want to listen to me. Sailor, well, the boys have been really good about food in their room,

but Sailor does not give a shit, quite honestly. And I still am finding rappers in her room. And it really pisses me off. And the other thing, so Jackson, my sweet little Jackson, my middle child, my little rebel, he's honestly my little mini me. This kid figured out how to, well, let's start with this. He has a green light debit card. I've talked to, I've done ads for them actually on the podcast before. So maybe you guys have heard me mention it, but if you don't know what they are, they are basically a little debit card made for kids and the parents can monitor it and it's really easy. I've got an app on my phone. You can transfer money over. You can see what they're spending

their money on. It can teach them how to balance their money and save money. And I've really liked them. Well, Jackson somehow figured out how to save my credit card, I guess, on his Greenlight app and transfer money over from my credit card to his debit card. So just found that out. That had been going on for a few months. And I actually had no freaking clue. Saylor was the one who told me. I was like, wow, Saylor, thank you so much for telling me. And the kid spent a lot of money and I am not happy about it. He got his phone taken away. He's grounded for a few months. Like that's how much money he spent. He's grounded for months. And it's just like that phase of kids right now. So 12, 10 and nine, and they just test you. Right. And I mean, I get it. I was like this. I did all the things.

But, you know, it's funny because as a parent on one hand, I'm like, well, that was smart. I'm like, Jackson, he's really smart. You know, like, got to give him some credit. But he can't know that. Right. I'm like, what you did was very wrong because obviously it was very wrong. But it's just interesting as a parent to now see the things that your kids are starting to do. And, you know, it just reminds me of being a kid. Just, yeah, it's just wild. The other thing is, too, I've started making my kids do all their own laundry. So since we moved into this new house, I have not touched their laundry, quite honestly, because it's a lot of laundry between me and the three kids. I would be doing laundry. I was doing

laundry 24 seven and I'm not doing it anymore. And they're old enough. And it's like such a pet peeve of mine that especially boy, cause this is going to sound so sexist, but most girls know how to do their own laundry. Right. But a lot of guys, like, I can't stand the guys whose moms did their laundry, like all throughout college. And like, they like, don't know how to do their own laundry. So I was like, my boys will not be like that. My boys are going to know how to do their own laundry. And Camden actually took it upon himself to do his own laundry. Probably like almost a year ago, he just started doing it, which was great. But so the kids have to do their own laundry. Well, guess how many times Jackson has done laundry since we've lived in this house. I've lived in this house for almost three months. The kids do laundry one time. I'm not exaggerating. I am not making this up. If you walk into his room,

his little closet is on the right when you walk in and the door always slams into the closet door because his closet is just full of dirty clothes. I don't even know how he has clothes anymore. He's wearing pajamas to school. He's stealing Camden's clothes. I mean, he'll get lucky once in a while. I'll wash like one pair of sweatpants with a sweatshirt. If he leaves them somewhere, I'll just grab them and throw them in the laundry. But this kid is not, he stole laundry one time. So another thing I said to him was, you have to do laundry. You have to clean your room. You have to do all of that. Because for a minute I was like, fine, if that's on you, like if you don't want to do your laundry, you're not going to have clean clothes. Because part of me is like giving them that

independence and that freedom to make decisions. But I also understand they're still young and they do need obviously a parent to be like, no, this is not going to fly. So now that he got in trouble, I'm like, no, this is actually what you have to do. No more messing around, kid. So that's what he's going to be doing all of Christmas break because he's got, I don't even know if he has this many clothes, but the kid, well, he's wearing socks with holes in them. I mean, it's a disaster. So that's what's going to be happening. All right. Let's talk about Servpro. Servpro can make any disaster like it never even happened. If you guys haven't heard of Servpro, well, then let me just tell you. Servpro is the number one choice in cleanup and restoration, and they do construction

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That's Q-U-I-N-C-E.com slash honest to get free shipping and the other thing that I just found out about my new house and this property, which I'm honestly a little freaked out about, is there are two graves on my property. I only found out because I actually just recently met my neighbor who they just moved in. They just built their house. And it's a a woman and her husband and they've got an eighth grade girl at school with my kids. And I met her and she was telling me, oh yeah, no, there's, there's these two graves on your, on your property. They're kind of in between ours, but they're definitely on my property. And I was like, what? I have graves on my property? So already I was like, not ideal, but okay. So she sent me a photo of the graves. I have it. She did a little research. It was a dad and a son. It's from

the 1800s. Dad and a son. The son was 19 when he died and the son died before the dad. That's all we could really find out. So, okay. I know this and I'm like, you know, it's fine. I've sort of like put it in the back of my head. Well, Cindy, my medium who was on the podcast last week, she came over to do the podcast. And then after the podcast, we did a proper reading and she was picking up on these other energies, these other spirits that were around. And I didn't even say anything about it, you guys. And I was like, oh my God, no. Yeah, there's graves on the property. And she was sensing the dad and the son, but also either the wife or the mom, which would make sense because it was both, right? It was the wife to

the dad and obviously the mom to the son. And she was the one that was like really present and like trying to do the talking, you know, for her spirit to come through. Again, Cindy is a medium. And so she can connect with spirits who have crossed over. And we, she started piecing things together because I told you guys on the podcast when I moved in that my oven was all messed up. The first time I tried to use it, it was like flames coming out the side. Okay. And long story short, they just hadn't converted the oven over to propane. I'm the first person to live here full time. I bought the house from a couple who built it, but they were never here full time. They live in Florida. So I was the first person to use the oven. Okay. So the flames, I was freaked out because my whole

house smelled like gas. The kids and I had to go over to the guest house. I was like so scared to sleep in my house that night. Okay. So that's number one. My kids showers. Well, my kids hot water was not working. This is like maybe three weeks ago. Okay. Their hot water was not working. And then the heat in the guest house wasn't working. So Cindy is like, these are all related to heat. And she was like, I'm feeling like the sun died in a fire on this property. So I am like, what? Oh my God. I'm like freaking out. Right. And she's like, they're, you know, Cindy is so great because she has a way of sort of putting a positive spin on everything. But she basically was like, they are trying to warn you. They don't want the same thing to happen to you. But I'm like, no,

they're trying to get me the fuck out of here. They're trying to scare me away from here. Because again, I'm the first person to live here full time. And then also, I found out from the builder. So the same builder who built my house is actually doing all of my renovations. And they told me that there's a house, like a little house on my property. And so I'm like, I'm a little freaked out. I'm not going to lie. And you guys, the part that I like actually really hate, my kids, all of my kids' bedrooms are in one wing of the house and I'm totally on the other side. And Cindy was like, oh, okay. Well, here's the other thing. All of my kids' bedrooms have French doors that just go outside, which I knew when I looked at this house, I was like, come high school. That's not ideal because

they're definitely going to be sneaking out. I would have, that's, I'm like giving them, serving it to them on a silver platter. Like, please sneak out and go have a great night. So Cindy was like, I don't like that they all have these doors. And she was like, you should figure out a way to lock all of these doors. And I'm like, wait, what do you mean? Like, what's going to happen? I'm like freaked out. So I actually ended up getting bike locks and I'm going to put these bike locks outside of their doors, which is genius. Because hey, in the spirit world, if they want to fuck with us, okay, well, then at least the doors can't go blowing open in the middle of the night and

scare my kids. Because honestly, at the end of the day, I feel like I can handle this. I just don't want my kids to be scared. And I have not told my kids this, by the way. So I can't post this as a clip. That's for damn sure. But also that helps when they're in high school that they can't just sneak out of their rooms in the middle of the night. So that's good too. So I'm getting these bike locks and I'm locking their asses in. But that's the other thing as parents is the things that we... The information that we withhold from our kids for their greater good. My kids do not need to know that there is these spirits, these energies around us and how everything is heat related

that's been going on at my house. And my kids know that the graves are there, but that's fine. As long as they don't know that Cindy was quite literally scared in a lot of ways when she was channeling these spirits. I've never, I've known Cindy almost six years. I've never seen her kind of get in her head a little bit. Like she was talking to her spirit guides of like, I am not, no, I am not talking to these spirits because these spirits who are on my property were trying to come through. And it's the first time I've ever seen her be like a little rattled or a little scared. So that did not sit well. Okay. The only reason you guys know I'm okay talking about Blue Nile is because they are a high end jewelry line, very different than Uncommon James. So my gosh, what a year it's been. I love looking back on the whole year and taking it all in. And I do feel like right now is a good

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really cute swing that you hang from the ceiling that has these little twinkling lights in it. So that's going to be her big gift this year from Santa. I feel like every year I love to get new serveware, Christmas themed serveware and appliances, like all just all the fun kitchen stuff. And that's another reason why I love Wayfair so much. They have beautiful tableware and serveware also for the living room. Their throw blankets are great. They've got washable rugs, cozy lighting. Also, they have the decor covered. So from garlands and candles to tree trimming lights, I mean, you name it, they have it. Okay, guys, so check them out. Set the scene

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gated resort. And we were in a condo. And then the last week or so that we were there, we switched into a house. And I had all of my uncommon James jewelry in the closet, just laid out, you know, like on one of the counters. And our HVAC unit broke. So we had workers in our house that day. They were fixing everything. Okay. Well, that night I had Camden in bed with me. Camden and I were sleeping. I went to bed early too. Camden and I went to bed early before everybody. So I didn't really know where everyone was in the house, but I woke up to my bedroom door opening and it woke me up because of the light from the kitchen. And I woke up to a man crawling on my bedroom floor. And I was so out of it because obviously I had just woken up that I go, what the fuck are you doing? Like I said it like that. And this man stands up and runs out the door. And you guys,

he had a ski mask on, full black arms, black pants, like the full thing, right? And then I went, oh, fuck. Like that was not Jay or that was not like, I don't know who that was. But because Camden was in bed with me, I didn't yell. I didn't scream. You actually, you think in those moments that that's what you would do, but your instincts just kick in. I honestly felt like I was in Mission Impossible. Like I was like, you know, getting it. And what I did was I picked up my phone. I texted Jay. Well, obviously Jay didn't respond. It's like 1am or something. So I'm like, you know, getting it. And what I did was I picked up my phone. I texted Jay. Well, obviously Jay didn't respond. It's like 1am or something. So I'm like, fuck, I have to go out into the house by myself and leave my son here in bed. I'm like, okay. Again, you're in state,

like you like, don't think you're just like, go. I felt like a Navy SEAL. So I go out in the house and I don't know where anybody is. I go look in the bedroom across the way. No one's in there. I'm like, what the fuck? I go upstairs. Jay was upstairs with Jackson and Sailor, I guess. Now that I think about it, I guess they both were up there with him. And I woke up Jay. And once I woke Jay up, then I got really nervous. Then I started like really scared. I started shaking and I was like, holy, like I was able to process then what just happened. But until that point, I was not scared. I was really calm. And I just like, again, you just are running off of instinct. And my kids still don't know that story too, because again, that's just one that I think

would really scare them that someone broke into our house, was crawling on the bedroom floor, and he was crawling on the bedroom floor, going to the closet to get the jewelry, to get the uncommon James jewelry. Long story short, he took all of the cash that we had in a backpack. We ended up getting it back. We found out who it was. It was the HVAC guy. And there you have it. But that was one of the scariest things that I went through. And so these two things, my kids still don't know. And I will not tell them probably until they're adults, you know, because I just think some things kids do not need to know. And those scary stuff like that, I will take that one. I will hold that one in and take that with me.

So anyways, guys, we are fastly approaching Christmas, which I just, I still can't even believe that this year is almost over. I have no plans for Christmas or New Year's, which makes me really happy. I typically travel a lot and I have not been this fall or this winter. And I'm so happy about that. I'm actually going to LA on Thursday for the weekend. I'm going to do some podcasts out there. I'll work a little bit, but I'm also going to see my girlfriends and get my hair done, all of the important things. So I'm excited about that. Otherwise, I'm here and I have no plans. New Year's Eve, I am going to dinner with Justin and Scoot at 5 p.m. 5 p.m. Yep. And so I will probably be asleep by 930 p.m. It will be like any other night. And I'm honestly really happy about that.

I'm excited to wake up not hungover on the first and start the year strong. And, you know, this year, so I have so any divorced parent can relate to this and understand this. So I didn't have them for Thanksgiving this year. So I do have them leading up to Christmas, Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, which I prefer quite honestly. And so that'll be nice. But then I don't have them for a week, Christmas day at noon, they go to Jay's and then I don't get them until the second. So normally I would go somewhere, you know, I would, or have friends in town or whatever I would do, but I'm not going to do any of that this year. What I'm going to do is I'm doing like microneedling one day and I'm going to do a facial one day. And I'm, what else am I

doing? I'm going to like get coffee with a girlfriend I haven't seen in a while. And I'm just, I'm in this mode of rest and taking care of myself. And I feel so much better that I haven't been on a plane every other week because honestly, that's what I used to do. And with this tour coming up in March, I'm just trying to be home, especially since I got this new house. You know, I just love being here. I'm just trying to relax. And then come January, I'm going to really start planning out the tour. Just, you know, all the fun things. And it's also my birthday, January 5th. I'm turning 38, which is also hard to believe. And again, I have zero interest in doing anything. Quite honestly, I might just take my kids to dinner. I don't know. I'm not a big birthday person. I really

don't care. I think I'll do something really fun for my 40th. I had a huge 30th in Mexico with all of my friends, which was fun. I also, Jay, threw an awesome surprise party for me in Chicago, which was very cool. That was incredible, actually. Like literally all of my friends from every state and my family. And I was completely surprised. That is the key to a good surprise party. If the person is surprised and it was the best birthday party. So I don't care about any of the numbers in between. I really could give two shits, especially because my birthday is January 5th. So after Christmas and New Year's, like no one wants to do anything, including myself. So

again, I plan on just being asleep at 930 still. So it is almost 2025. And the end of every year, I love to set goals, set intentions for 2025 and reflect back on the previous year. Cindy and I actually talked about this last week on the episode with her. But so my big thing for 2025 is I want to live in the energy like I already have everything that I want. And they say that's the key to manifestation really is living as though you have the thing already. So if you want a relationship, it's living in that energy like you already have it. You want that dream job. It's living like you already have it. It's dressing for it. It's living like you already have. It's dressing for it. It's, you know, it's moving throughout your day as though it's already yours. So I just recently did two exercises that I loved. A friend actually told me about these and I want to give them to you guys because I think they're

really impactful. And so, okay, the two things are, okay, the first one is think about the thing that you want. So if it's a relationship, if it's a job, if it's a certain amount of money, whatever it is, okay. And you say, we'll use a relationship, for example, because I feel like that's just sort of the easiest one for people to understand. So I want to be in a relationship. Why? You ask yourself why 20 times. And I just did this, you guys. And it was fucking crazy because after a few times, you're like, I don't know. But you just... If you just write and you don't even overthink it, you will get to the core of it. I got to the core of why I wanted a relationship real quick, guys. And it all stems from childhood usually. And mine was wild. It was really eye-opening. And then from there, what you can do is you can...

I think really getting to the core of it and figuring out the why takes the power out of it. Yeah. It just... It takes the power away from it. And it makes it not seem so daunting in a lot of ways. And you can usually break it down to a feeling, right? Like a specific feeling of why you want this and how there are other ways to achieve that feeling. So after I did this exercise, I was like, oh, I'm totally cool. I don't even like feel like I need that thing anymore, which is awesome. Okay. And then the other one is you're going to ask future you questions as though you already have everything. So let's, I was asking myself questions in the future saying, how did it feel when you sold Uncommon

James? How did it feel when you met Uncommon James? How did it feel when you met your now husband? You know what I'm saying? Like these types of questions. So it's you in the future who already has everything that you could ever possibly imagine. And because again, it goes with what I was saying a minute ago is living in that energy like you already have it. So asking yourself questions, how did it feel when you sold Uncommon James? It felt fucking incredible. And then you obviously elaborate, you go into it. And I really believe that the power of writing something down is really where the magic happens. It's different than typing it into a computer and putting a note in your phone.

The act of writing, it resonates in your brain a different way. So I really believe in writing things down. Write your goals down for 2025. And I love keeping my goals every year and going back and looking at them. And they always happen. It might not be in the way that you initially said, but they always do happen, which is really cool to see. Hopefully after the new year, I'll just have like another couple of weeks with the closet and the bathroom. They're getting there. The framing is done and now they're getting it. So anyways, try those because I'm on this kick of 2025, taking all of our power back by moving throughout our lives as though we already have everything we want. That is the

key to manifestation. So happy holidays, you guys. I really appreciate you being here every week, listening. It is not lost on me that all of this is because of you guys and this tour I get to do because of my listeners. So I really appreciate you guys. I hope everyone has the best holiday season, the best New Year's, and I will see you in 2025. I have some great guests right out of the gate. And next week is Gabby Bernstein, who is so incredible. If you guys don't know who that is, go look her up on social media because she's a great follow, but very inspiring. We talk more about manifesting next week and she's just, she's incredible. So I'm excited for you guys to listen to that episode and I will see you guys in 2025. Oh my gosh.

All right. I love you guys.