Let's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari - How to Get Answers from the Universe with Medium Cindy Luffred

Episode Date: December 10, 2024

Cindy Luffred, the psychic medium from Revealing Soul, is back for another spiritual boot camp. We talk all about soul contracts, destiny vs free will, soulmates, how to get through a challenging time, how to know if you should go out with someone again, getting the life you want, what to expect for 2025, when it is time to walk away from something, how to navigate grief, and how to build our own intuition. A word from my sponsors:Hiya Health - Get 50% off your first order when you go to hiyahealth.com/HONESTGood American - Shop now at GoodAmerican.com. Use Promo Code HONEST for $50 OFF your first pair. Don’t forget to select “podcast” at checkout and choose our show to let them know we sent you.Bon Charge - BON CHARGE is having their coveted end-of-year sale, where you can save the most dollars all year! Go to boncharge.com and use coupon code HONEST25 to save 25%Gatorade - Put your water to work with Gatorade Hydration Booster. You can use code BOOST20 on Gatorade.com to try it yourself for 20% off. Foria - Get 20% off your first order by visiting foriawellness.com/HONEST or use code HONEST at checkout.  For more Let's Be Honest, follow along at:@kristincavallari on Instagram@kristincavallari and @dearmedia on TikTokLet's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari on YouTubeProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. This is Let's Be Honest with Kristen Cavallari, a podcast all about getting real and open on everything from sex, relationships, reality TV, wellness, family, and so much more. And just a fair warning, there will probably be some oversharing. Cindy, welcome back to Let's Be Honest. Oh my God. Thank you so much for having me back. I'm so excited.

By the way, your community, they are amazing. Every single person who has found me through your podcast, our first episode, so lovely. So amazing. Like your people are ride or die and just like good humans. Oh, that makes me happy. Like give me faith in humanity. Wait, I love that.

I'm not even kidding you. Like the DMs that I got were so lovely and sweet. The messages, the email, like so like, again, it renewed my faith in humanity. Wow. Yeah. Okay. That's awesome to hear. Yes. Let's be honest, crew. We love you guys. Oh, that makes me so happy. Well, if you guys are listening and you have not listened to our first episode, I highly recommend you go and listen to that. It was titled, I'm Definitely Getting Married. And that came out March of 24. So last March. Yeah. And it's a great introduction to psychic mediums. Yep. So go listen to that one if you have not, because today I feel like it's going to be sort of a part two to that one. Yeah.

And so just to jog everybody's memories though, tell us again what a psychic medium is. Yeah. So a medium is, I just find myself as someone who connects with souls, spirits from the other side to deliver messages straight from them to you. And my big thing is I love to provide evidence and validation of who it is that's coming through as well as provide some like signs or things to look out for in your day-to-day life to let you know that they're around you with you watching over you. Because I always say you don't need me to connect with them. You can do it on your own too. Amazing. Yeah. Yes. And that's actually what I love so much about you is the validations that you do give. And we've talked about some of those

on the previous podcast, but everything you say comes true. So we've been working together for over five years. And what we do is we have a session. You record it. Yep. Send it to me. I go through and I sort of take down the highlights and I will periodically go through and look at my word documents as the stuff starts to unfold and everything is spot on. It's so wild. And in fact, on the first episode that we did, you did a little, you call it a tune in, right? For me about the last guy I was dating. I went back and listened to it. Everything is exactly how it unfolded. That's insane. I mean, it's sometimes I freak myself out. It's so cool. I just asked you this off camera too, but you said you can't, you do this stuff for yourself. It's hard to,

like for other people, I really have to, especially for you, like when I was doing that mini tune in, like I so wanted to like tell you what you wanted to hear and be like, this is it. This is the forever. But that's just not what my gut, what I was hearing or what the cards were essentially saying. So I have to be really like honest and take away my filter of like my emotions, which is why it's so hard to read for myself because of course I'm emotionally invested. It's like my love life. Yeah. Yeah, exactly. It's like, I'm aware. Is he already? Like, I feel like Charlotte and sex in the city. So, yeah. So it's just hard. It's just, well, I like that you don't influence a decision one way or the other. Like even when I was listening to that,

I could sort of tell in the moment, cause you're like, he's really close to what you want. So I was like, okay, but he's not what I want. And then it was like, just give it six months, give it six months. So I sort of knew in the back of my head, but I still was able to go and be in it fully and experience it. And we've talked about that where I had to sort of train myself not to live my life by what you were telling me. And that's common for your other clients, right? Yeah. That's a huge thing. And you do, you're so good at this where you take it with a grain of salt. Like you're listening and you're digesting the information and you're taking it in, but yeah, you can't live it like to the T because then you're taking away free will. Then you're living on based on something that someone else told you to do. Even if it's a loved one or a medium or someone you really, really trust, even like a friend, because you have to be living your life

based on your intuition and your gut and your decision in the moment. Otherwise, these lessons are just going to keep coming back around and around because then you're not actually living for you. Oh. Okay. So talk about that because I've heard that lessons will keep happening until you learn the lesson, right? Yeah. And sometimes that can happen within a few like months that you get something down and that sometimes it can happen over like a lifetime where you're like, oh my God, I'm still learning this damn lesson. I always say that the, and this is even when we're doing readings and stuff, the goal is not to never have something bad happen or never go through a breakup or never have a

conflict in your life. That's not the goal. That's not living life. We grow through contrast. So you're going to have things like that happen, right? But the goal is to be able to respond in a more evolved or like calm or whatever like emotion that you're looking for when something like that does happen, where it doesn't throw you off or trigger you or, I mean, it can for a moment, but it doesn't like take you down or cause you to spiral for like weeks on end, which has happened to me. Like, I mean, we've all been there, right? Yeah. But the goal is hopefully over time that you develop tools and techniques or like, you know, have people to go to like a medium or a friend or a therapist or a life coach that can help you through those things where, again, the goal is

not to never have contrast or conflict, but to move through it in a more graceful way. Okay. Yeah. And that's where, again, like when you're making your own decisions and listening to like the insights, even if you're doing like pulling cards for yourself, you have to really be careful with the questions you're asking because it could tell you something different, which is when I'm pulling for clients, I'm really specific about the way we're phrasing questions because I want to make sure I'm giving the information that you're actually looking for, not what you want to hear. You got to be careful that you're not just like

taking the parts that you want to hear, which I think you're also very good at that. You're like, okay, no, I got to really listen to this and not just twist it the way I want to hear. And it can be really easy. It's so true. So true. So the one gray area sort of sometimes is actual dates, right? Like timeline. And you're saying that's because of free will. Yeah. Right. So the way that I like to describe like dates or meeting people or events in your life is that there are things that you decide as a soul to learn in life. I call them blueprint items where they're big, huge life lessons, like a marriage or divorce or kids or, you know, like starting your own business. Like that's a huge, I mean, huge being on a reality show, like big, big life decisions, right? Those are things that you plan ahead of time. Where the free will comes in is

when it shows up in your life. Like I have a feeling you would have probably been in the spotlight and on TV no matter what. It just happened when you were what? 17? Yeah, it just happened really young. It happened really young. But at some point in your life, that was like free will came in. I guarantee you if it hadn't happened at 17, it would probably happen at 20 or 21 or 24. Like it would have kept happening at some point or the opportunities because you're destined for that. Interesting. Yeah. And the same thing can happen with people where it's, there's soul contracts where you're destined to meet somebody. And again, they'll come back around again. It's like the invisible string theory. Have you heard about this? I love this theory. Love this theory. This is real, right? I mean, I believe in it. It hasn't

happened yet for me. So same. But I do believe in it where it's like the universe and you're meant destined to be with someone. They'll keep coming back around like you can't miss what's meant for you. Yeah. I love that you say that. Well, OK, so because we've been working together for so long. So right after my divorce, I remember we had a session and you were like, I see you in meeting your forever around like age 36 or so. I'm about to turn 38. And so I, for a long time, we've had this conversation, but I was like, what did I do? Did I mess something up? Like I didn't learn a lesson that I needed to learn. So, and you say no, maybe some, well, okay. Explain it. Explain it. Well, I always say it's

based on your thoughts actions decisions in that moment so that was probably I mean probably four years ago right so I'm usually pretty accurate within two years of a reading at beyond that other free will like the other person's free will and stuff starts to get involved the other person's free will was what I did not take into consideration. Yeah. And it'll be so fascinating when you do meet this person, because I know you're meant to be with someone else again in this lifetime, to go back to that age or two years ago, whatever it is, and be like, okay, what was going on in your life? And I guarantee you there's going to be something kind of big. Like maybe they lost a loved one and they just weren't out and about and dating or ready or whatever. Who knows? So it's not. Okay. So let's say he

got hung up with whatever it is. Okay. Let's say he was supposed to get a divorce. He hasn't gotten a divorce yet. Yeah. So is that a situation where the universe, the spirit guides will have me wait for him or will they send in someone new? Because you've talked about how we all have multiple soulmates too. Yeah. And I do. I wholeheartedly believe that. I'm not just saying it. That there are multiple people in this life that are meant for you. And I would say he probably… The guy I was picking up at that time probably has a window.

Like I'd say by maybe like… You're turning 38, you said? I'd say by 39, if that person hasn't figured it out, there's gonna be someone else that comes in. Which is maybe why I was having trouble pulling just now. Where I'm like, nothing's coming in. I don't really understand. Who the hell is this guy? God. Yeah. So they'll send you someone else. There'll be someone else that comes in. And by the way, it's not worse or better. I truly believe that there are many

people in this life that can be compatible and can be a good companion and can be a great partner. It doesn't feel that way sometimes when you're out in the dating world and it's hard to meet people. But I do, I mean, I have to believe in that or I mean, what are we all doing here? Like, you know, like otherwise it's like having faith. Like I talk about that with when I give validations, like we talked about in the last episode is I'm really helping people to have faith. Yeah. And when you have faith that the universe is on your side, that you can manifest what it is that you want in your life and it's worth it in the end, then that's a game changer. Totally.

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transits that are happening. And the big ones like Pluto, Jupiter, and Saturn that are all the big outer planets that don't normally happen all at once. They're all happening all at once. Okay. And then literally the next, like the first six months of 2025, I'm kind of paraphrasing a little bit, but that's essentially what's happening. So all the breakups too, I think were Pluto and Capricorn, which it's moving out of. And I have a lot of placements in Capricorn, which you do too. And literally my life has been like insane since like Pluto moved out of Capricorn into Aquarius. I'm like, thank God. And it's been there since 2008. And I was like, thank God it moved. Like my whole life has changed. I'm like, okay, I feel really confident now. Even if you don't have anything big in Capricorn, I just feel that

this energy is really opening up like new doors, new vibration. In order to attract in the new, you have to let go of the old, which is why there are so many breakups, people quitting jobs, people moving, people feeling uncertain or unsure. And that's okay. But that's usually a telltale sign that your soul is asking you to get outside your comfort zone. Oh, I love that. Yeah. So how would you guide someone who is going through a breakup, who lost a job? You know, we go through these challenging times in our lives and it can sometimes be really hard to keep your eye on the prize and get yourself out of that funk. Yeah. So what do you tell people who are going through that? Yeah. I mean, the first one is you got to like, it's allowed, like you got to feel your feelings.

You got to, it's okay. If you just try and like rush through it, I feel like it's, it's not going to work. Okay. The second thing I say is that remember, it's not about never feeling this way again. It's about, you know, finding the tools to move through it in a more calm or way that you feel more confident. And then the third thing I always like to tell people is this situation is showing you, it's throwing you off of your vibration, right? It's throwing you, it's something you don't want or something that you were excited about and it didn't happen. So you're disappointed. So I like to redirect people to not necessarily feeling joy, but what makes you feel more like you again? Whether it's a hobby or hanging out with friends or something that makes you feel

like coming home. I love that. That can really help you to get back in your vibration. And it's not, I mean, it takes time. I mean, I hate to say it, but it takes time. But that can help you to feel back in your vibration. And the sooner you can do that, then the sooner you can attract in more things that feel more aligned, which is going to help you to move forward and, you know, meet more people or get a new job. Because again, it's all about vibration, right? Like you talk about all the time, like fake it till you make it. And I like to say, there's that saying, dress for the job you want, not the job you have. So I like to say dress for the life that you want, not the life you have or dress for an act in the reality that you want, not the reality you have.

So if you're going through a breakup, you know, what would you be doing if you weren't doing that? Like, how would you be moving through the world? And I don't just want to give everyone permission to spiritually bypass everything because that's not good either. Okay. We're not doing, I'm not doing that. But what would you be doing if you were like in a happy relationship? How would you be moving through your day? Okay. That makes sense. What would you be wearing? Yeah. How would you be talking? Exactly. Yeah. Exactly. Okay. Okay. I like that a lot. Yeah. And then just quickly for people who are maybe new to the whole vibration of it all, talk to me about that. So I, this is actually proven in science and like quantum physics too, but we're all made up of light and we're all made up of energy, right?

And that can be felt when you're around people. So it's literally your vibrational like frequency. That's why there's also like sound healing or when you go to like a sound bowl bath, you ever done that? I love a sound bath. Yeah. Or, you know, the tuning forks or wands that people use. Like it's literally realigning you to your vibration or to different vibrations. That's why they say like beekeepers never get cancer because like the… What?

Yeah. Have you heard this? No. Yeah. Like having a… I was thinking David Beckham. Like, oh my God. I'm a beehive.

You do? I do. I mean, I'm not putting a bee suit on and doing it, but they're on my property. Does that count? Sure. Do you ever go like work with them? No. I'm scared.

I'll walk by it. Okay, sure. Well, maybe you could just like stand near it. Far away, but like near it. The energy. Well, they say that the vibration of the bees in the hive is very healing. Cool. So that beekeepers who work with bees like literally don't get cancer.

That's amazing. Yeah. I have not heard that. Yeah. I love that. So this is all to say that we're all energetic beings that are vibrating. And so when you connect with other people or out on dates or talking to people, you can literally feel other people or out on dates or talking to people, you can literally feel other

people's energetic vibration and it can either make you feel good and lift you up or it can drain you and exhaust you. Okay. Let's talk about this. We, before we started taping, we were talking about a date that I went on and I couldn't quite put my finger on how I felt about him. Yeah. Right. And then he texted me and I read you the text and you immediately knew it was a vibration thing. Yeah. Yeah. So.

And then I asked you, I said, were you tired the next day or like almost felt hungover even though you weren't really drinking a lot? Yeah. That's exactly how I felt. Yeah. So those are two telltale signs. I always say it's not how you feel in the moment

when you're with the person. And this is not just dating. This is for, you know, friends, people that you're meeting. Okay. It's not so important how you feel when you're in the moment. It's how you feel afterward, the next day. If you're drained, tired, or feel hungover, even though you went to bed early, you slept, you know, you didn't drink that much and you shouldn't feel that way, that is a sign that the person you were with is a different or lower energetic vibration from you and they drained you. That is so wild to me. And then when you said that, I was like, that makes sense. Yeah. Because I couldn't quite figure it out. But then it was like a light bulb went off. Yeah. And it's not that they're a bad person. Like I'm sure this guy was great. Yeah,

he was. I'm sure he's like an amazing human. Yes. But it's not a match for you. Okay. So then my other question is, cause I'll go out on dates with great guys. Yeah. They really are great. And I sometimes will be like, how do I know if I should give him a second chance? Because I don't know. You always hear those stories about people that are like, you know, I didn't know at first. And then all of a sudden, you know, the attraction grew where I've always taken the stance of I know immediately if I like someone and that really never changes. But now that I'm getting older, I'm like, should I be giving these people a second chance? What do you say to that? I think that if you're feeling drained, exhausted or home next day, it's probably

not a match. Unless they're having a really bad day and they walked in saying, I'm having a really bad day. I'm not my normal self. Like if they walk in saying that, then maybe give them a second chance. But otherwise, I'd say in that instance, it's not it. I think a second chance is deserved if you're still curious, intrigued, or if you may not have been feeling your best self and you're like, hey, maybe I just need to give him a second chance. I think if you don't have that curiosity or you're not at least a little bit excited still, then I mean, yeah. Curiosity. That's a good, I like that.

That's like my, I shouldn't say new thing, but that's like my biggest, I think kind of like life hack right now is that can even be during a breakup too. It's like, what are you curious about? What's fun? What's inspiring? What do you want to learn more about? Like pick up a new hobby, get back. Because curiosity is how kids are, right? It's getting back into like being open. When you're curious about something, you're being open, not closed, right? And so again, on a date, like if you're curious, then that tells me you're energetically a little open to hearing more, receiving more from that person. If you're not at all curious, then that's a telltale sign that you're deep down. You're not interested. Okay. That answers a lot of questions for me. That's going to be my 2025 thing. Curiosity.

Oh my God. I love that. That's amazing. I'm into this. Great. Speaking of 2025, obviously the new year is vastly approaching, which is so insane. It's amazing. I'm into this. Great. Speaking of 2025, obviously the new year is vastly approaching, which is so insane. It's a little scary. It is scary. I feel like this year flew by. Yeah. Do you, what are like your new year's rituals? Do you set intentions? What do you do? I love to write down goals. I'm a big goal. I'm a Capricorn. I'm a double Capricorn. And I own my own business like I gotta write down I gotta write this shit down

I gotta know that I like accomplished something in the year and have you seen that quote that says write it down and watch it become real I have not seen that there's like

the actual is it a TikTok thing no probably I see every I live and die by TikTok I'm like the tarot card you changed so much

from like when you started this podcast on that by the way I'm not judging youot card reader said. You changed so much from like when you started this podcast on that. By the way, I'm not judging you. I'm just saying. You can judge me. It's fine. No, I love it. I mean, I get a lot of, I think, I think I get everything from TikTok. It just, I just wait until it trickles to Instagram and then that's smart. Yeah, that's great. Yeah. But they say like the form of writing, like you can't like type it in your phone. It's like the act of writing. Oh, I have heard this. I have heard this. Then it like puts it into the universe and then it becomes true. So I'm a big believer in writing down goals. I love that. I would also then put it in my notes app because I lose that piece of paper.

Fair. But at least I wrote it down at one point. Yeah. So New Year's rituals, intentions, writing things down. Yep. I also like to reflect on what I wrote for like the year before and like either roll it over or cross it off. But it's actually really like I have some stuff that's happening now, like very specific things that I'm like, oh my God, I wrote that down and now it like might be happening. It's crazy. It's so fun. And then the other thing for New Year's is I like to reflect back on anything that like I'm letting go of, like limiting beliefs or something that I thought I needed that I'm like, wow, I don't, like I don't, like setting boundaries essentially, right? Around like people having access to you or yeah, that's a big one. Boundaries I think is going to be huge for 2025 in general. It's a nine

year in numerology. So two plus zero plus two plus five equals nine. That's how you get to nine. Nine is an endings year. But I always give the example of in a personal year nine for me, I started my business, Revealing Soul. So it's like the beginning of the end of things. That's how you can look at like 2025. It's the beginning of the end. So like if you've been single for a while, it's like the beginning of the end of the single, like you're done. If you've been trying to get pregnant, it's like the beginning of the end of your fertility journey. It's like, yeah. So it's a, it's going to be a big year. Wow. And so writing down some of those things that you're ready to let go of as well as the things that

you're calling in is very important for me when I'm doing intention setting with my clients. And December 30th, there's a black new moon, essentially. You know, I saw blue moons and then they do like, it's a black moon is when there's two new moons in a month. A blue moon is when there's two full moons in a month. So this is a black moon, huge for intention setting. And it's two days before the end of the year. Yeah. That timing is incredible. Yeah. Okay. Okay. I like that a lot. What else? Well, what was the big thing, the big theme for 2024 in numerology? It was an eight. So in numerology, which is relationships. Oh, interesting. Yeah. Well, I like to think of eight as like infinity symbol. So it's like relationships. It's also business. So like businesses, work, career. So

a lot of people may have been finding their purpose or feeling if you've loved your job for a while, you may have almost felt like you were plateauing or feeling bored lately. Okay. Like less inspired. Yeah. But you're like, I love it. You can make still like like it, but maybe not as like excited as you used to be. That was the theme of 2024 was kind of reevaluating all that. And now things are going to be.

Well, now it's like if you decided that you liked it, then OK, then you're going to kind of get hopefully get renewed or re-inspired. If you decided that you didn't like it, 2025 is a year for, again, to begin new things. Cool. Yeah. Cool. I feel that energy. Yeah.

This exciting energy of like what's about to come. Yeah. It's going to be a little bit of a wild ride, but it's going to be, it's going to be fun. Well, I don't like to fear monger. I'm one more. I just like to, yeah, you don't. I mean, I know. So I feel like that was, I don't want to fear monger. I'm just saying, and I, for anyone that like is following things and they don't know what to believe in social media, blah, blah, blah. All of these things, all of the numerology, all of the transits that are happening, there's high vibe and low vibe to all of it. So I believe it's a choice. You can like choose to focus on how you can capitalize on this energy and use it for something good to fuel your life.

Or you can get dragged down to, yeah, like nines are ending. So you could be like worrying all year in 2025. Well, seriously, exactly. Like if you choose to focus on that, then you're going to keep being provided examples of that. Right. Because life is a mirror, right? So everything that you're putting out is what you're getting back. Yeah. So that's why it's important to be positive and do all the things. Yeah. Well, that's why I say there's like a choice. It's high vibe and low vibe. You can choose to focus on the positive or you can choose to focus on like the negative, which is why in like readings, people are always like, oh, it was actually kind of positive. I'm like, yeah, because you can, there's good in things. Like I just, I'm not here to like,

like, I just think life is kind of tough enough. Why? Like why? I'm not going to focus on all that stuff. No kidding. You know? And so the low vibration stuff is fear, jealousy, anger, right? What else am I missing? Imposter syndrome. Oh, okay. Like that can be a little, but like again, flipping that would be like the fact that you have imposter syndrome in the first place means that you've stepped outside your comfort zone. And it means that you have integrity because you're worried that someone's going to think that you don't deserve it. So the positive side of that is that the fact that you even think that means that you do have integrity. Oh, I like that. Yeah. And that you do deserve to have it. Otherwise, you would not have manifested it

in the first place. Like you're more ready than you realize. And it's also just an indicator that you're outside your comfort zone. It's different, which is a good thing. You can't have growth if you don't move outside your comfort zone. Totally. And gratitude is an easy way then to write, stay in high vibration, just being thankful for everything in your life. Yeah. Or something. Like sometimes it's hard to, when you're going, again, going, the exam, going through a breakup, it's hard to be grateful for anything, but just find one thing. Okay. One thing you're like, okay, this was a good thing that happened, or I'm grateful for this friend, or I'm grateful for my kids or whatever, you know, like whatever it is. So, but that's where like even a low vibrational feelings, I feel you can shift it. Like there's something to be learned

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thing. So what is your higher self? What does it mean? I mean, the higher self is the, like, I believe we're all souls that are just living a physical, having a physical experience here on earth. And when we die, we go back to their side, right? That's why I can channel them and connect with them. So your higher self is that part of you that still remains connected to the other side. Like it's a part of you that's eternal, everlasting, and your soul. Yeah. Your soul. It's a higher self is another word for soul. So how, what can we say? I say it. Yeah. No, I love that. I'm sure everyone has maybe a different definition, but I love that. What can we be doing in our daily lives to be moving from our highest self? Yeah. So I think what I get asked a lot is how do you

tell the difference between your mind, your ego, and your higher self or your soul or your intuition, right? Like I get this question, like, because exactly what you're saying is how do you move from your higher self or your soul or your intuition versus your mind ego, right? Yeah. So whether you're meditating or pulling cards or, you know, sitting and asking, like journaling, your mind ego tends to be a stream of thoughts. It'll be like, well, this, and then maybe this, and what about this? And then this might happen. And oh my God. And then all of a sudden you're like potentially on this, like catastrophizing, like, oh my God, the world's ending. Totally. How did we get here? How did we get here? We took a left turn. We took a left turn.

That's your mind ego. It also tends to be more like fear-based, like a little bit like, if it causes you to feel worry afterward, like if you hear something or pull, or like you think you're meditating on something and you're all of a sudden like worried, that was probably your mind or your ego. Okay.

Okay. Your soul or your higher self or your intuition is more succinct. It's usually really simple. It's usually really simple. It's usually very calm. The emotion you should feel when you're like receiving it or journaling on it or meditating on it should be very neutral to loving. And it tends to be something that you're like, oh, like again, it should be, it's a little bit more like, I never thought about that or I haven't tried that. Like your mind tends to loop through the past or stuff you've done before or a fear from the past. Your higher self intuition

is usually going to try and get you outside your comfort zone and try something new. Curiosity. Exactly. Oh, that's interesting. Yeah. Okay. So how to move from that, I think is like how to live your life that way is I really like to say like when I'm feeling nervous about something or scared, I'm like, okay, wait, is this an actual fear? Like I should really be worried or am I just getting outside my comfort zone and it actually feels okay. And I'm just, this is just my system saying, Hey, this is alert, alert. This is different. Yeah. Like, are you sure you want to do this? And in fact, I always tell people or my clients, if it doesn't scare you a little bit, if it doesn't make you a little bit nervous, then this ain't it. Yeah.

Even with dating, if the guy, if you don't get a little nervous or don't get a little bit like, not like full on butterfly, just a little bit like. I'm such a nervous wreck for dates. So dumb. Well, if you're not a little bit,

then I would say don't go on it because then you're not excited about it and you're not outside your comfort zone. And most likely it's probably a cycle from the past then because you're comfortable with it. Interesting. Yeah. Okay.

I've read some things, though, that people say, like, you shouldn't be, like, always having butterflies nonstop because that's just, like, a… You're attracted to the drama then. Yeah. I don't know if I really… I mean, like, I think you should have a healthy dose of it. Yeah. I mean, that's what makes the beginning so much fun is all those butterflies and, like,

the excitement. I also tell people who are dating that this is the best part. If you talk to any couples that have been together for a long time, 20 years, 30 years, 40, 50 years, they still talk about how they met. They still talk about those first few dates and like what they did and getting to know the person. Like that's the best part. I know.

It's so true. And so like, again, when we were talking, when I was talking about like fake it till you make it or like, you know, dress for the life you want, that's what you're looking forward to. That's what you want. That's the kind of vibration you want to be in. Even if you just write it down or think it to yourself or repeat it a few times before you go on the apps or before you go on a date, that is immediately going to like up-level the type of people that you're attracting in. Okay. I love that. When you're in like that vibe. Yes. Yes. Like take a moment to get in that vibration before you open the apps, before you text, before you're DMing. No, the DMs are off

the table. Okay. Sorry. Okay. I'm passing that. Everyone except for Kristen. I'm not. They're off limits. I told you, I just got a really, a really hot guy DM me and I was like, no, I'm not. I'm proud of you. I'm proud of you. Thank you. Everyone else is allowed to do DMs though. Okay. You guys are allowed. For me. Just Kristen is on a DM band. Yes. I'm meeting someone in real life. IRL. Determined. I mean, it will happen then.

Yes. It will happen that way. Yes. If you like, I believe it. Now, it might not be in the timeline that you want. Okay. This is where you have to make a fucking timeline. I need to rip it up, throw it out the window.

It'll be worth it. It's going to be worth it. It'll be worth it. It's going to be worth the wait. Okay. The flip side of all this. So the fun, flirty, exciting times. What about when you're in a relationship and you're unhappy? I think we touched on this last episode too, but I feel like this is a consistent theme for a lot of people or a job that you're just like kind of what you were just saying. I like it, but is there more for me? How do you know when it's time to walk away from

something? So I want to say when you feel like you've learned all the lessons, but then it's kind of like, how do you know that? I'm always like, I do not want to repeat this. So I'm going to stay in it until I've learned everything in this thing. I'm just kidding. So this is where I'm going to say what I like to do, which I like to then like kind of bargain or talk to the universe. Like I like to talk to my guides like they're like they're people because I do believe in the energy. And like when I was getting ready to quit my job, I basically bargained with the universe and I was like, okay, like I wasn't happy for a long time. I had my business for about almost a year and a half. And I was like, okay, universe, if my, I was in sales, I'm like, if my sales bonus is enough to cover my like student loan debt, I was like, I'm not going

to start a business with debt and enough to to fund a business, which you talked about in your podcast with starting a business. I needed money. You got to have money to start the business. You know, I self-funded. I was like, I will do this then. I will buy this camera. I will do the thing. To the dollar amount. No. Yeah. My sales bonus covered both. And it was not an even number. I still have chills talking about it. I love that. And so then I was like, damn it. I guess I'm doing this. I was like, I got to do it. That's what I said. And it was not an even number. I like still have chills talking about it. And so then I was like, damn it, I guess I'm doing this. Like I was like, I gotta do it. Like that's what I said. And then it just took off from there. So yeah. Okay. So instead of just being like, give me a sign if it's, cause that can also be confusing.

Yes. Of like, should you say, what's the sign for? 100%. So you have to be specific. Yeah. I get this all the time in the DMs of like, I asked for a sign. I'm not seeing it. I'm like, okay, you got it. Like, what's the timeframe? What's the, like, what's the sign mean? If you see it, like you got a specific or your guides are don't want to lead you down the wrong way. That totally makes sense. I also, what I've realized with signs too, is like, you have to ask for your sign, but then let it go. Like, forget about it. And then I feel like it comes so quick when you actually forget about it.

100%. And you can pick a sign or you can let it be. And then the other thing with two relationships, just to go back to your question about like, how do you know when to leave? And I think truthfully, it's when you are going to regret staying any longer. When you feel that leaving or being on your own is going to benefit you and if you have a kid, your family more than staying, then there's your answer. So what if you feel like that? Let's say it's a relationship and you feel like that and you leave, but then you are still thinking about the person and you know in your head like that was the right decision, but you're

having a hard time, I guess, in your heart letting it go. Yeah. I always say sometimes it's not like I think you have to release the judgment because if you're judging yourself for still feeling that way, then you're giving that more energy. Oh. And it's bringing it back around again over and over and over again, that feeling. I feel seen. I got you, girl. I got you. But if you're judging yourself for having that emotion in the first place, then you're giving it power. You're giving that feeling more power. If you're looking to release it, then it's kind of about forgiving yourself for feeling that way in the first place.

And then I also like to say it's not about the length of the relationship, but the depth of it that people sometimes have trouble getting over through. And I mean, I myself have had relationships that lasted like two, three months that it took me longer to get over than the ones that lasted like three years. I know. Do you think that's like a past life connection too? I think so. Yeah. I think that that's someone that you've had met in a past life or knew or were together with in a past life. And then in this lifetime, it just, for whatever reason, again, free will, it just didn't work out or the timing wasn't right. And so that, that was it. And it's hard. It's hard to, yeah, it's hard to let those, let those ones go. Yeah. Yeah. God, that kind of breaks my heart a little bit.

What about losing a loved one? How do you, well, this is why I love seeing you in general, because like you said earlier, you just give people so much faith. Yeah. But if someone lost a loved one and they're having a really hard time, what do you say to those people? So again, let go of the judgment for yourself of like how you're moving through it. And then the second thing I would say is that your loved ones don't want you to keep replaying the final moments. A lot of times that's what keeps people stuck in grief is those shoulda, coulda, wouldas. Wish I had gotten there sooner. I didn't get to say goodbye. The last thing I said to them, we were arguing. I wish I had told them more how

much I love them, even if they did get there in time. But your loved ones in spirit, that's just one blip. It's one blink of a timeline. I know it's really important to the people left behind because it's the last thing that you remember. But for your loved ones, they want to remember all the other memories and all the other fun things and like experiences that you had together. So one of the things I'd like to say is can you shift and maybe bring in some of those memories and things when you are starting to feel sad versus constantly focusing on the thing that you regretted or the shoulda, coulda, wouldas with them. Number one, that's going to help you.

But number two, that makes your loved ones on the other side, like, more happy. Like, they want you to be happy. Yeah. So I always like to have people kind of focusing on the joy, the fun. That's why I like now that people are doing, like, celebration of life instead of funeral or whatever we used to call it. I love that. Like, I think that's great.

And that's also what makes everyone a little bit on the other side happier too. And then I think just looking for signs. Like, this is where I wasn't going to share many signs, but I had a validation come through from a client. I like have to share with everybody. It was her husband that I passed. So she was, they were young. And he came through and he said, he's like,

don't you love that you still get to look at my eyes? You still get to gaze at my eyes. And they had kids. So I was like, oh, you must be talking about your kids. And she's like, don't you love that you still get to look at my eyes? You still get to gaze at my eyes. And they had kids. So I was like, oh, you must be talking about your kids. And she was like, okay. And then I said, his sign for you is the infinity symbol. And he left you jewelry. And she was like, we donated his eyes.

What? To like someone who needed them. No way. Literally, his eyes are still like walking around the earth. Whoa, that is wild. Oh my gosh. I was like, that's insane. I didn't even know you could do that. Well, I mean, that. Whoa, that is wild. I know. Oh my gosh. I was like, that's insane.

I didn't even know you could do that. Well, I mean, that's what she's… I don't know. You could donate to her. Yeah. And then she said she had just bought a Cartier bracelet and put an infinity symbol engraved on the inside. And she's like, no one knows that.

And I was like, well, he does. See, I love that stuff so much. And that's where I say like, I think if someone's really, really grieving, like hearing those messages. And again, even if you're not the one… Because I'm doing a lot of groups now, like with clients, like even if you're not the one hearing or like receiving it for yourself, just hearing other people receive things like that can be really powerful. Oh my God.

Very much so. Well, because it makes you realize they're okay, you know, and I really believe we'll see them again. Exactly. Because obviously their soul is somewhere okay. Yeah. You know, and I really believe we'll see them again. Exactly. Because obviously their soul is somewhere around. Yeah. That is a time where you could probably be a little bit more loose with a sign, right? Like, give me a butterfly, get whatever it may be.

And then that gives you so much peace. Yeah. And don't forget to ask. Like, I feel like in life, going back to the conversation about like, if you're feeling stuck or when should you leave, like, ask your guides, ask out loud or write it down if you're afraid to say it out loud. Like show me a sign or when am I meant to leave or what's next for me? Because if you don't ask for it, again, the universe doesn't know what to do to help you. They're like, okay, what do you want? Like,

yeah, it's like throwing everything at the wall. See what sticks, which doesn't feel great. And being really specific. That's where I've gotten messed up. Like, wait, wait, wait. They weren't bad mess ups though. They were just like, you're going to have everyone freaked out. No, we're fine. It's all good. But well, I mean, I'll just say I went from like dating someone really young. So I was like, I'm going older. And then I met someone that was like too old, too old. Reel it in guys. So yeah, you went from one extreme to the other. Yeah, we need to be a little bit more specific. Let's talk about the cards because we are going to do another little mini tune-in. But Cindy, I told you, I'm a tarot card reader now, you guys.

I bought tarot cards and oracle cards. It's actually so silly. But I've been reading cards for my friends and they're spot on. And I'm clearly like, I don't even know what the hell I'm doing. I just saw it on TikTok. So I'm like, I think I can do this. That's great. But so how does this happen? Is it just the energy? Like how do these specific cards come out? Yeah. So whether you're using cards or a pendulum or I don't know, like even having your horoscope, it's a tool to help like concentrate and focus your energy to help you receive the answers. Like, it's just a tool. I would say it's just, it's just helping you to like discern or interpret like in school, like you're interpreting what the guides are telling you. Right. I love that. Right. It's

nothing new. It's not there and it's just helping you hone in on it. A hundred percent. Okay. And I would say that you're very intuitive by nature. I mean, you have got, like you said earlier, you've got intuition about people and it's rarely ever wrong. So you're going to have an easy time with the cards and it's going to be really simple, especially when you're reading for other people too. This is where I say like, it's always easier. It actually is. Yeah. It's going to be easier for anyone really to pull cards for other people because you're not as emotionally invested. Right. Right. Okay. I actually totally understand it now. Yeah. Do you see what I'm saying? I'm going to have you pull cards for me later. I will. It's become my morning routine. I'm like, but it's also like calm the fuck down

and just go live your life. I'm like, what's the message today? Well, sidebar too, if you are grieving missing someone, you can even pull a card from that person. Like if you're missing like your grandmother or your grandfather or brother or husband, whatever, you could say like, hey, so-and-so like John over, like, can you, what's my message that you want me to have today from you? I love that. And you can pull a card. I'm going to do that with my brother. Yeah, you should.

Oh, I love that. Okay. That's very cool. And just see what comes through with Oracle or Tarot, either one. I find Oracle a little more approachable. Yeah. It's just, there's usually a guidebook that comes with it. It's usually a little more simple.

Tarot can be like super in-depth and like. Well, I have got my book out and I'm like reading every description. That's great. But that's how you're going to learn. Yeah. And then you can kind of like piece them together and whatnot. A hundred percent. Yeah. It's interesting. It's just a new hobby of mine, you know. Hey. I am proud of you. I love it. I also love doing it in the morning when you're like fresh. And it's also a moment for you to, again, connect back in with your soul, your higher self. Like

you're, without even realizing it, tuning into that part of you. And then you set yourself up to like have that. Yeah. It's become like my meditation in a lot of ways. I love it. Yeah. I also think that is a great way to start meditating, by the way, because it's something to look forward to. Again, if you're not curious, if you're not having fun, you're not going to meditate. Exactly. You're not going to do it. I had actually the craziest meditation. I haven't been meditating. I kind of go through phases, but I meditated like right over here in the sun one morning, like sitting on this little poof. I was sobbing for 10 minutes straight. It was like, I just needed to do that. And I felt so incredible afterwards. So I just, I do think that stillness, that quiet sometimes is like

exactly what we need. Yeah. I'm fine, but it's nothing dramatic, but I just needed to get a good cry out. Yeah. I mean, sometimes, yeah, you do. And I don't even, you probably weren't even thinking about anything in particular. Not really. You know what it actually was? My mind was blank. I just needed to like get it out. Yeah. Yeah. So well, tears are very like cleansing, right? Like water's cleansing and healing. And that's kind of like, yeah, you know, self self-cleansing. Yeah. Self-cleansing. Yeah. Love it. Okay. So we're going to do a little mini tune-in. Yeah. And since we're not pulling on anyone like specific, we're just sort of being a little bit. So the biggest thing that's coming up is 2025. And like the first,

again, all these changes that are happening in next year are really like huge for you. Okay. Like energetically. And then the person that's going to show up is like loyal to a fault. Like they are, they are so loyal to you and even to the other people in their life. Yeah. And there's something coming up around the house. Like, cause the, in the one card, the dog is sitting in front of a house and I also got the house card for you. So I don't know if they're in real estate or like, I don't know. I'm doing work to my house right now. Do you think it's going to be someone that, well, I don't think it's someone who works unless you're like maybe it's the pool guy or something the pool guy

no I mean like I mean if that's the journey you want to like an architect do we want like do we want like an architect I've done all the architectuals okay okay

so that's not it that's not it I'm making okay that's not it I don't want to just like throw okay there's something about the house

so I don't know if or I don't know if you're gonna be hosting any parties you don't have to say anything I want. Okay. There's something about the house though. So I don't know if, or I don't know if you're gonna be hosting any parties. You don't have to say anything. I want to have a party when my house is done. Well, somebody could bring a friend and you might meet someone through that. Because there's something going on with like the house.

I'm calling my builder like, we need to speed up all of the construction. You're like, I'm meeting my person at this party that I'm going to throw. I need this done in two months. So like, again, you, this could also be like, if you get invited to someone else's

house for a party, you have said that to me before. Have I? Yes. So we did a zoom in October with one of my other friends. Yeah. And you did say that you saw me going to, was it, or was it in October? I don't even, you've said it to me before. Great. Like you see me going to an event or a party or something. And it's not for me. It's not like, Quinny. She likes this. Are you validating that? Yes. Oh my God. Quinny likes it. Quinny likes that. Yeah. She's here for this. So say yes to every party. Got it. I'm going to every event. I'm a social butterfly. Okay. Again, we're going to talk about free will and you can't, don't do every, don't take it so to the T, but yes, I feel like there's like, if you're excited about the party, you should go to the party. Okay, great. I also just think it's going to be through like out and about through like a

fun environment. I don't think it's going to be when you're like doing a work thing or I don't know, or like, it just doesn't feel like that. It feels like it's going to be more like a fun environment when this person comes in. Love. You're still letting go of something from the past or like grieving something, I would say, that needs to clear. Yeah. And the other thing that's showing up is that you're not going to question it when this person shows up. Like, I feel like I'm not going to get a question from you about, can you do a tune on this

guy? It's going to be like, I met my person. I can't wait for you. I can't wait to talk about it. Every guy, basically, I've ever dated. I'm like, what do you think about this guy? I just really just sent you a photo. I'm like, what about this guy?

Yeah. And now I've gotten to the point where I'm like, okay, we're eliminating. I'm not even going to bother if you don't have, if he doesn't have this, this, this, and this, because that's what I do with my friends. And I'm like, is it this? And they're like, no. And I'm like, I'm not. We see my energy.

I'm like, we're not going down this road. You can go down the road, but I'm not joining you on the journey. You get to do it on your own no I love that I love that yeah you're on you're on your own which again is that's where I think like it makes me different like I'm not gonna sugarcoat shit which I love I'm not gonna tell you I'm not gonna validate your bad not that you make bad decisions but I'm not gonna validate people's yeah yeah no I need you know like I'm not I'm not doing that like because it's not there are some decisions where I'm like, this isn't, you've learned

this lesson, like move on. Like you don't need to go through this again. Right. Like, and there are times where you're like, you do need to experience this. Like totally. We've had those in the last few years where like you encourage it because there's something in there for me to learn. Yeah.

Yeah. Yeah. And then there's other times where I'm like, we're done with this. We're not doing this. We're not doing this again. You literally said that to me yesterday. Yeah. I'm like where I'm like, we're done with this. We're not doing this. We're not doing this again. You're, yeah. I'm like this. I thought we were done with this. I literally texted her. I was like, she's going to get mad. I'm like, whatever. I'm not. I loved it. And I was kind of right. Yeah, you were. You guys see that intuition.

Again, like my gut thing with people is, and it's, it's hard. It's hard when like, I think we talked to us maybe briefly last time it's hard when people like how do what do you say the skeptic you know and it's like when clients literally tell me that I'm wrong or do the thing anyways and like I'm gonna prove you wrong and then end up being right like I'm like you can't explain it in any way then I'm tuning into your guides that are trying to yeah trying to warn you stay away way back to the car so one there's a lot of work stuff coming up for the guy too so I into your guides that are trying to. Yeah. Trying to warn you. Stay away. Wait back to the car. So one, there's a lot of work stuff coming up for the guy too. So I, I will think it'll be really fun when you do meet him or start dating him that to see what's going on in his life at this time. Cause he's got a, he's like building an empire. I love that. Yeah. He's doing a lot. I respect that. Yeah. Yeah. It's going to be, it's going to be big. I also

think you travel a lot with him. Like you're on trips a lot with him or he likes to like take you places. So yeah. Okay. Is there a timeline on that? Even though we already established timelines are great. I still like July. I like next summer. I'll finish my house.

Yeah. I was going to say it seems like when the house is… There's a lot that's going to be happening in the next few months. You're going to be a little busy. Yeah. You're going to be a little busy. Like with work stuff? Yeah.

What? I don't know. Am I dating as well? Like just casually? Possibly. Possibly. There's some like, I feel like people, I think this is actually, this is a good thing. I feel like guys are, I don't want to say chasing, but chasing you over the next few

months. Love that. It's not you reaching out to them. Great. We love that. So you- But am I into any of them? Well, I-

Because that's annoying if they're just blowing me up and I'm like, how do I get rid of them? You have to set boundaries and just either not respond. I've gotten better at that, honestly. I've been not responding to people. I feel like a real asshole when I do that though. No. Do you know them?

There's someone- Are there people that you, I mean- I mean, yeah, yes. There's a guy that I'm going to have asshole when I do that though. No. Do you know them? Are there people that you, I mean. I mean, yeah, yes. There's a guy that I'm going to have to. I would say if you don't know them, you don't owe them anything. Agreed. If you do know them,

I think it would be dependent upon like, do you want to like, do you care if this relationship continues or not? Or you just say like, oh, I was really busy. Sorry. Sometimes you do just miss a text. I mean. Yeah. Okay, I'm the worst at text.

Boundaries are going to be really important in this next year. And I always say, it's not hard to set the boundary. sometimes you do just miss a text I mean yeah okay I'm the worst at text boundaries are gonna be really important in this next year and I always say it's not hard to set the boundary it's hard to enforce it yeah so when you're saying like I'm not doing any more dms but then you're like worrying about responding to the dms like I know I'm done I'm literally not entertaining dms at all I'm not yeah okay good I'm proud of you I'm proud of you but it's yeah it's just I feel like the way these are laying is that guys are gonna to be pursuing you. And then you, it'll be a fun little test, I think, for you to be like, when you change your vibration or when you're like, before you even open apps or responding to things, when you start getting that vibration we talked about of

like, I'm excited and like, this is me, the best part. I'm excited for the first, this is the last first kiss I'm going to have. I'm like, oh, cute. Yeah. I'll be very curious about the quality of guys that you start attracting in when you're living in that vibration more frequently. Do you not think I'm there right now? The cards say no. The cards don't say no. I feel, I feel like you're trying, I feel like you are for the most part, but you're distracted. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. If you, that makes sense. Yeah. I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. That's a good way. So just, I feel like January timeframe, things are going to shift around that. And then I would be so curious to see what types of

quality of men that you're attracting in at that point. Okay. Yeah. Okay. I also feel like this guy notices you before you notice him. You've said that to me before too. So I'm telling you. I can't wait to see who this is. Yeah, I swear. Yeah, this guy notices you before you notice him. Like at a party. Yeah, at a party or even like, I don't know, out and about around town. I don't know.

Okay. I don't really know. Or like traveling. I still think that yes. Okay, cool. I still think that's like a yes. Okay, we love that. Yeah.

Okay. Or at least he's like got a second house here or something. I don't know. Has a reason to be here anyways. I don't think you're like jet setting all over the world for this guy. Thank God. That's not working. Okay.

That's not working. Okay. I love this. Yeah. We'll have to do this again then in six months. I will say, can I say one more thing about that? Which is like sometimes people, and everyone can like think about this in their own lives, but there are certain times of the year where you're more magnetic and attractive to

call in certain things, which is why like you might meet you might really go on dates a lot in the spring or something like that or in the fall. Like if you think back to when you meet certain people, is it more in the fall? Like that's your time of year that like. Oh, OK. So everyone's is different. Like yours might be winter. So everyone's is different. Like, yours might be winter. Yeah. But mine is spring. Mine's not winter. Mine is definitely not the winter.

That is not… I'm like, dreading it. This is not your season. This is not my season. Spring tends to be like… May, honestly. Like, it's so funny. Like, April, May is like…

Like, guys come out of the woodwork. How funny. Yeah. So there are certain… And even the same thing for like job opportunities. Like, you could think back to like when you started all your jobs or when you switched or when you start business opportunities or when like… Okay.

Like when you started on Common J… When you started the podcast. Like… Interesting. It'd be very… Spring is busy for me too. Yeah. So there's usually…

And a lot of times it has to do with like the equinoxes. So the spring equinox and then the summer solstice and the winter solstice. Like it tends to be around or soon after those months. So my point is, is like, don't, it's not necessarily like, you don't necessarily want to be manifesting something big every single month of the year. Like it's okay if there are times where things aren't happening. That's okay. Yeah. Agreed. It's a quiet time. Yeah. You have to have that. Like where you rest and recover. Yeah. So I just like to like caution people on like, you're not, you have to have some slow down time. Yeah. Okay. And again, think back to when those moments are in your life. You can even do it in the new year, like reflecting on that because that time of year is gonna be

really good for you. I mean, I once had a client that I literally told her like in July, she was going to go on a trip to the East coast and I'm like, you're going to meet your person. And we did the reading in June, July, she went on the trip and she didn't meet anybody. A year later, she did the exact same trip. She met her husband. You told me that. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Like, I don't know if I did in the last spot. Sorry, I'm repeating it. But I'm like, that's insane. I think you may have. But no, it is. That's such a great story. Yeah. I know. I love stuff like that. So how can we work on our own intuition, which I guess is like a gut feeling, right? But like, are there tricks that we can be doing to really build that trust with ourselves?

I mean, I love the practice that you just started pulling cards in the morning. That's a huge one. That's kind of how I got back into it. When I took a break, when I was in my corporate job, I started pulling cards for myself in the morning and started because I hate meditating. Like I do this all the time and I hate it. Yeah. But pulling cards is like a great way to get back into it. So that's one thing.

Another thing is meditating. Like if you have meditation practice, going for a walk though, or like a moving meditation is great. With no phone, like no distractions, right? Isn't it all about like getting still or not still, but quiet? I'd say it's quieting the mind. So like if you, if your mind quiets when you're listening to, I don't know, classical music or the ocean or something, then do that. That's what helps. Or a lot of people like gardening as a way to like meditate. And that's what they do in the mornings in their like me time, right? All of those are, if you like having a mantra or like listening to something, there's apps out there, like the Calm app and things like that. I mean, the biggest thing is learning to trust it, right? It's like, it's going to get stronger when you're like, oh, I put, or even reading, I pulled that card and it

was spot on. Right. That creates more trust in your intuition. Okay. Or like, again, going to see a medium or a psychic or something. It's like, oh my God, I was thinking the same thing, or I was picking up on that, or I just did that. Like, I just made that decision. How do you know? Like. Then you trust yourself. Yeah. Okay. I love that. Yeah. I love that. decision. How do you know? Like, then you trust yourself. Yeah. Okay. I love that. Yeah. I love that. Yeah. You're the best. Oh my God. I just love you so much. Thank you. Okay. Thank you for coming. No problem. Of course. Remind everyone where they can find you on socials, your podcast, but also where they can book with you. Yeah, of course. So I'm revealing soul on Instagram and TikTok. Instagram is what I mean. And I have an Instagram subscriber group

now. So you can click the little button and I do readings for free like once a month now. I pull cards every like throughout the month for people. I also answer those DMs a lot faster if you're in the subscriber group. So highly recommend that. And then there is a wait list for one-to-ones for booking now, but I'm doing groups every month. So small groups and large groups, that's the best way to get it. I'm going to be offering a code for 20% off for those for you guys again, just for the groups, just for groups, large and small. So yeah, Revealing Soul on Instagram, joining the newsletter, and then I have- And the podcast. And the podcast. So slightly spiritual. That's a great way if you're looking for extra insights. And we also answer

questions a lot. So if there was something that we didn't talk about, you're like, oh my God, I wish you'd explain this more. You can DM us or write it into the podcast and we can answer it on there. Amazing. Oh my gosh, Cindy, I just love you. Thank you so much. Oh my God, love you. Thank you so much.