Let's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari - How to Manifest Your Best Year in 2025 with Gabby Bernstein

Episode Date: December 31, 2024

Join us to talk about turning a dark place into your dream life. We cover how to navigate those difficult moments in life, how to change negative thought patterns, what exactly manifesting is and how to do it the right way, how trauma affects us today, what triggers mean, and how everything is energy so how we can stay in a high vibration. Check out Gabby's newest book 'Self Help'. Join Gabby on her Change Your Life Tour in New York, L.A., San Francisco or Boston!Come see me on tour! Headline Tour tickets are available now for the following cities:March 7, 2025: AtlantaMarch 8, 2025: ChicagoMarch 12. 2025: BostonMarch 13, 2025: New YorkA word from my sponsors:Nutrafol - Whether you're gifting to yourself for a loved one, give the gift of great hair growth this holiday season! Right now, Nutrafol is offering our listeners $10 off any order! Enjoy free shipping when you subscribe. Go to Nutrafol.com and enter the promocode HONESTGIFT.Gatorade - Put your water to work with Gatorade Hydration Booster. You can use code BOOST20 on Gatorade.com to try it yourself for 20% off. YNAB - Listeners of Let’s Be Honest can claim an exclusive three-month trial, with no credit card required at www.YNAB.com/honestO Positiv - Take proactive care of your health and head to OPositiv.com/HONEST or enter code HONEST at checkout for 25% off your first purchaseARMRA - Go to Tryarmra.com/HONEST or enter code HONEST to get 15% off your first order.LMNT - Get a free Sample Pack with any drink mix at DrinkLMNT.com/HONEST. . For more Let's Be Honest, follow along at:@kristincavallari on Instagram@kristincavallari and @dearmedia on TikTokLet's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari on YouTubeProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The following podcast is a Dear Media production. This is Let's Be Honest with Kristen Cavallari, a podcast all about getting real and open on everything from sex, relationships, reality TV, wellness, family, and so much more. And just a fair warning, there will probably be some oversharing. Welcome in, guys, and happy New Year's Eve, which is crazy to even say. This year has flown by. I'm a little under the weather, so I'm sorry I kind of sound like this, but we're just going to make the most of it. And today's episode is absolutely perfect for the new year. I am so excited about my guest today. She's a spiritual leader and a number one

New York Times bestselling author, which I know personally is a massive accomplishment. She's a spiritual leader and a number one New York Times bestselling author, which I know personally is a massive accomplishment. She has the Dear Gabby podcast. She's a motivational speaker, and she's the queen when it comes to manifesting practices, which is exactly what we're going to get into today to set everyone up for the new year. Gabby Bernstein, hi. Finally. Finally. We've been talking about this for over a year. I feel like I've been DMing you. Well, I'm really excited excited to have you here I've been such a fan of yours for years and years which I want to tell you a funny story about how long I've been a fan of yours for but we'll

get to that but I want to start with your story for the people who may not be familiar with you you are very open about the dark times you've been through the struggles you faced and how you were able to turn that into love and so I'm curious because I know when people are in such a dark place, it's really hard to find the light. It's really hard to think there's any hope and that you're ever going to get out of that. So how were you able to do that? I think I've been doing that over and over and over, you know, rinse and repeat. But I believe that my first really big life bottom was when I was 25 and it was 19 years ago where I was really struggling with alcohol and drug addiction. And at the time, I was running a business here in New York City where I was representing nightclubs and

really in the scene and really thinking that that was what life was about, right? Being seen, having president on my business card, getting past the velvet ropes, like just the bullshit. I was also 25, 20 years old. That is important at that time, I suppose. But for me, it was a blessing that I hit such a hard bottom so fast because my drug of choice was cocaine. So using cocaine will take you down. And thank God I was using it then and not now. I mean, I would have been dead. Definitely would have been dead. So that drug took me down. And I, even when I was using, always had stacks of self-help books next to my bed. And I would always be reading spiritual texts and really wanted another way of perceiving the world. But obviously that was the opposite of where I was.

And I remember I was at this after hours party right before I got clean and there was people in my apartment. I was like in this like one room studio apartment. It was like so dingy. The trash was outside the window. It was awful. And I was looking at these people and I'm like,

I'm gonna be a motivational speaker and a self-help book author. And they were like, nice fucking try. And I realized then, because I would look at those books, I knew that there was something more for me. I knew it. I felt it psychically. I just, I had a call. And by the grace of God, I made the decision. We talked about this earlier. It's, you know, getting sober is about making a decision to choose a different path. And on October 2nd of 2005, I asked for a miracle. I was like, I need a miracle. And then I heard an inner voice say to me, get clean and you will live a life beyond your wildest dreams. Wow. And that's the path I chose. That's incredible. 19 years.

That's amazing. What do you say to people who are in that dark place though? Is it like ask for a sign, like find that inner knowing, like how do you guide people through that? No matter what you're facing. And you know, that was just one of many bottoms to come. There was definitely difficult moments, as we all experience difficult moments in my life. And in each of those moments that I see as these opportunities to transcend or an opportunity to detour in the right direction, I would say to anyone, all you need to change is the slightest willingness to change. And it's the folks who don't have that willingness or they are often, it's too scary, right? People are saying like, well, I don't want to

have to do what it takes to make that healing happen. And that's why I really believe that healing should happen slowly. And we have to give ourselves permission to just slowly titrate into things and come out and then go a little bit closer in and come out and to be very gentle with ourselves, which is really a lot of what I'm teaching today is that process. That makes sense. Yeah. Healing is not just a straight line. It's ebbs and flows and it takes years, which actually, so your book may cause miracles. I was gifted in 2013. So this is over 10 years ago. And that was the very first thing on my spiritual journey, my self-healing journey. Because I think, and I included, went through life not being aware of my thoughts

and negative thoughts. And that book was the first thing that made me take a step back and be like, wait a minute, am I doing this all wrong? And that book, what it does is it really shifts your mindset around everything from self, love, relationships, money. And so I just think sometimes having someone kind of wake you up is the best thing. And so when you were writing that book, what was your intention and how did you know that this is maybe what people needed to hear? It's such a funny thing that we're talking about May Cause Miracles. So my new book is 10 books in. Yeah. You've got a ton. So I'm like, it's almost like babies that you forgot about. You're like, oh, I had a child. And it's like, I don't remember their name. And it was so impactful in my life. That's just really meaningful to me to hear you say that because I haven't touched into that

content in so long. I think at that stage, I think every book I've written, I've written for myself first. So I'll write about what I'm living and what I'm experiencing and what I'm needing and knowing. And that book was at a time when I was really new to my, well, deep dive headfirst into my metaphysical beliefs and really training my mind and reprogramming the way that I chose to perceive the world. And that was what that book is all about. It's, I mean, May Cause Miracles. My husband actually gave me the title for that one. And it was really designed to help people go through a 40-day mental reconditioning,

as are all my books, really. It's about reprogramming your thoughts and rethinking things so that you can unorganize or undo the belief systems that hold you back. And as I've gotten older and as I've continued to write, the depth of these books, I think, has gotten even deeper and deeper in that my own personal recovery has gotten deeper and deeper. Absolutely. Well, what I love so much about that book is there's just easy takeaways. Simple. I used to put in my calendar every Monday, believe in miracles. And like you said, it's just shifting that mentality. So if people are listening and they're sitting there going,

wait, I don't I'm not aware of my thoughts. I don't know the negative thought patterns. Maybe I'm telling myself where can someone start on that journey? I think that they could first notice how they feel. Okay. Right. So it's like, how's it going? How are you feeling? And usually the answer is I feel anxious or I feel overwhelmed or I feel fearful all the time, or people don't actually even tune in to even inquire what's happening on the inside. And so if you don't have any idea of what the thoughts are, and I think a lot of people do have a good sense of those repeated thoughts that they keep thinking, you know, like, oh, that I'm not good enough or I'm inadequate or I don't have enough money or I'm never going to have the relationship that I want. And so those stories, I think that people

are mostly familiar with those common stories. But if you're not, what is it that you're feeling that's undesirable? And what thoughts or sensations might be attached to that feeling? Let's start with the feeling. Okay. And then, okay. So it is a new year. We're going in here to 2025. So it's the perfect time to manifest, right? We've got a clean slate, a new year ahead of us. There's so much information out there about manifesting that I think it just overcomplicates everything. Really, when you break it down, it's fairly simple. So let's start simply. What is manifesting? I think that there's a lot of bullshit about manifesting. Okay, right. Right. Okay. So manifesting is the natural state of who we are. We are all what I call super

attractors. And we have within us the capacity to create what we believe. We do create what we believe. We manifest what we believe. And people think, oh, if I do this thing or I repeat this idea, then something magic is going to come to me. And maybe things will change because you're changing your point of your intention a little bit. But will you be able to keep that thing you attracted? No. Or is it just a game that you're playing with the universe? And that's bullshit. Because the bottom line is that we are naturally manifestors. We are naturally super attractors. And what's happened in our life is that we've built up all these false belief systems

based on childhood wounds. You and I are both very vocal about our childhood wounds that create beliefs. And those beliefs we protect against forever. So we do all these kinds of different ways of protecting against these very uncomfortable feelings from our childhood. And we're living in that mode of being triggered and protecting ourselves and being triggered and protecting ourselves. And that dance that we're playing day to day, it's just blocking that natural state, which is that super attractor state, which is the state of joy. It's the state of inspiration. It's the state of creativity. It's the state of connectedness. And that's the truth of who we are. We already have it. And everybody thinks, oh, I can go make a vision board. I can go say affirmation a thousand times. And all those

things do help because they adjust your attention. But the real work is to address the belief systems that are blocking you from being the super attractor that you are. So if we're manifesting from our subconscious, so what we're putting out. So if we have this negative belief, I'm not worthy. Let's just take that as an example. How can someone shift that? How can someone do the healing work to work on, I am not worthy? Yeah. Well, my 10th book, self-help. It's out today. It is out today. I mean, happy new year. This book is all about the unwinding and unburdening the core beliefs that you have carried for a lifetime and the core beliefs that have held you back, that have kept you addicted, that have kept you in the wrong

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And I'm going to simplify this as much as I can. This is my gift. My journey was I used IFS in my trauma recovery and my sober recovery. It was a therapeutic practice that I had that my therapist was using with me. And then I went on to get trained in the model because it was just so awesome. It had done such a great gift. It done such a service to me. And so I became trained in it. And then it was very clear to me as I was preparing to write this next book that this book had to be about democratizing this therapy because not everyone's going to have

the access to therapy or the desire to go that fast and that deep or the commitment to it or the time or whatever their story might be. And so my job as the translator and the demystifier was to take this very big, very important body of work and make it self-help. And so here we are. It is a four-step practice that addresses these young wounds within us. So you know this. You've spoken to this in your own words. We have these experiences from our childhood that are too extreme for the child part of who we are to actually manage. Our brain can't handle it.

We don't have the ability. We don't have, we have no idea how to manage these extreme emotions. Without a proper caregiver to help us move through that naturally, we become burdened by it. And it becomes a belief that's so scary to face and the beliefs and the feelings and the trauma and the shame and the inadequacy becomes too scary to actually ever touch. And so we just shut it down. And the way that we shut it down is with all these different protection mechanisms. So, you know, even as a little kid, right? Like maybe, you know,

it's like bullying so that you don't have to feel like you're not good enough or starting to judge other people so you don't have to feel inadequate or perfectionism so you can feel like you're being seen or overdoing it so that you can have that attention that you desire and long for. And these become these protection mechanisms that we use from childhood to the present. Yeah. Okay, so those little parts of us, like my controller part or my rageful part, these parts of me have been around for 45, 40 years. Yeah. Right?

Yeah. Because I've lived the experience of these repeated behaviors, right? So that's what's called protector parts, is the repeated extreme behavior that we act out with on a day-to-day basis to protect ourselves from the impermissible feelings from our past. Oh, God, it's so powerful. What are the four steps in your new book? So the four steps are about letting this energy of what's called self with a capital S. And so some folks

might think of self as their God within them or their Buddha nature or their spiritual essence or their inner guidance system or intuition. And in IFS, self is these C qualities of curiosity and connection and compassion and courage and commitment and knowing that you are just in that essence of love. And that is an essence that we all have. Okay. So it's what we're born with. It's what we're born with. It's who we are. It is our true nature. And the practice here is about helping these younger patterns, these protector parts, remember that self is there and make that connection. So the first step is to maybe identify that there's a part that you have that maybe like, have you ever said like,

oh, a part of me gets really freaked out when so-and-so does X, Y, Z or whatever. Right. You know, or a part of me gets really controlling at work or whatever the story might be. And for those of us who are trauma survivors, we have a lot of parts. And so they're protecting us. And becoming aware of that or just becoming aware that maybe you have a feeling or a sensation that is undesirable in your life. Okay. Yeah. And so when you notice that trigger and you notice that you want to respond to that trigger by acting out or lashing out or whatever it might be, the first step is to choose to check inward, to check in rather than check out. Right. Right. Which is what a lot of people do. It would look like raging or drinking or binging or whatever it is. And so choosing to check in is the operative,

operative word choice, right? It has to be our choice to do the work. So choosing to check in. And then when you do that, you just focus your attention inward and you just notice inside what, and do this with yourself right now as I talk to you, you don't have to say anything. Just think about a part that's pretty active. You know, there's stuff that's going on. Yeah. And so just think about that part that might be up right now and just choose to check in if you feel called and just become a little curious about that part of you. So where does it live in your body? And you don't have to respond just for yourself.

Where does it live in your body and what does it feel like and what do you know about it? You can say to the part, you know, how old are you? How long have you been around? Oh, wow. Yeah. And also just getting a little bit more curious. You can say, show me any images or some kind of story or thoughts that might be associated with the part. You could ask it to speak to you. And then is journaling during this? Journaling with this is a whole other process you could do. Yeah. And then the third, once you feel

a little bit connected to that part, which I even noticed that you got that connection, you can connect even further by saying to the part, compassionately connect and ask that part of you, what do you need? Yeah. And then you'll hear often the part where we'll say, I need a hug or I need to rest or I need to dance or I need to play or I need to be seen. It's taking care of that inner child. You're giving it the attention that it always wanted. Yeah. And then the last step is really just a nice step. You can just check for those C qualities of self. Like, do you feel a

little bit more calm? Yeah. Do you feel courageous? Do you feel more connected? Yeah. Do you feel curiosity? Because isn't it true that like when you do the inner child work, your body doesn't or your brain, I guess I should say, doesn't actually distinguish between time of today and, you know, 35 years ago or whatever. That's right. Yeah. So those little inner children, that's the language you want to use. That's totally the same thing. Those little inner children are very blended with who we are as adults. And when we get triggered, we become them. Right. We can, you know, if you've ever like had a fight with a spouse or you just like lose your shit. Right. And you just really was that. Yeah. You've ever said to yourself like, whoa, who was that? Yep. That's a part. Yeah, I've been there. Yeah. I mean, I feel like it's gotten better over the

years, but there is still those moments. And, you know, because I've done a lot of work on myself in the last, I'd say like five years. And even though I've done the work, there are still moments. It's an evolving thing, right? You're never fully healed or are you? I can say right here, right now, 45 years old, I am not fully healed, but I feel fucking awesome. I love that. And I have devoted my life to undoing the fears of my past so that I could live in the light and the love of who I am and in the devotion of myself. And then of course, in the devotion of my readers. And if you asked me if I was sitting here two years ago, I wouldn't be saying the same thing I'm saying right now. Even a year

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what do you want me to know? How long have you been around? Any images? The same thing. And then I'd say, what do you need? And then I'd notice the shift because the activated parts of us, the things that get activated are usually because of a childhood wound, right? There's a trigger for a reason. I might not give a shit about somebody talking shit about me in social media, but maybe you would, or not us, but like, or like I might lose my mind if somebody like says that they're not going to like do the thing I want them to do, but maybe that would blow off your

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with some people and people are like vibration. What are you talking about? But you and I are very similar. I believe everything is vibration. And like you said, we're all love. But so explain to me what vibration is and how can we stay in a high vibration? Well, we're all energy. Yeah. And the beliefs that we carry inform our feelings and our feelings are the energy that we extend. And so if we're on that repeated path of that hamster wheel of the same belief of I'm not good enough or I'm inadequate or no one's going to help me or I'm never going to have the love I want, we're repeating it and repeating and repeating it. Ultimately, we're feeling it. And that feeling is the vibe. And those vibes speak louder than our words.

Yeah. Because you could meet somebody like we just dropped in you and I today, right? It was like we just met each other. We dropped right in because both of us were just sort of, you know, excited to meet each other. We were very disarmed, you know. If I had come in with like an agenda or I was like having a bad moment from earlier today, like that would have affected that connection that we made right when we walked in.

Yeah. And so that's the vibe. Yeah. Okay. That's such a great way to put it. And so staying in high vibration is just, is it just having positive thoughts? No, it's feeling it. It's really. Yeah. It's not just having positive thoughts. The positive thoughts are a step. Affirming how you want to feel is a step. Yeah. But I'll keep coming back to it. I think that, like I said earlier, the real flex is just getting to the inner healing. But that's a small step each day. It's not a huge rip off the bandaid. And so if your vibe is off, you could maybe do one small thing today to adjust that vibe. So it could be that you listen to one of your podcasts because it lifts you up or someone listened to you. Or it could be that you read a passage from a book or open May Cause Miracles to one of the days in that 40-day practice, right? These little adjustments

absolutely shift our energy, shift our thoughts, and then we start to add up the days in that 40-day practice, right? These little adjustments absolutely shift our energy, shift our thoughts, and then we start to add up the miracles. Yeah, okay. Add up the miracles. Practicing gratitude is probably a great one. Appreciation for what you do have because that ultimately creates more of what you want.

Right, exactly. And then so the flip side, obviously, staying in low vibration is anger, jealousy, just anything talking shit about someone like all of those negative things. Yeah. I mean, judgment, attack thoughts, jealousy, comparison. But again, we don't want to put down those aspects of ourself either because those aspects of ourself, once again, have a lot to reveal to us.

Right. So when you judge yourself for judging, you create more judgment. Right. It to reveal to us. Right. Right. So when you judge yourself for judging, you create more judgment. Right. It's just a cycle. Right. So instead, you could maybe sort of get into a story of like, well, I'm noticing that I'm judging. I'll check in with the part of me that's judgmental. And then what do I know about it? And it's like, oh, well, this doesn't feel good. Or this reminds me of when I was in high school and somebody else got the thing I wanted. And, you know, so you start to unpack it for yourself. Yeah. Okay. That makes sense. Okay. And then going back to manifesting, because I do want

to give the listeners real concrete things that they can do to have the best year of their lives. So when it comes to manifesting, first of all, is there anything that we can't manifest? You can't manifest something for someone else. Okay. Okay. But you can manifest a job, love, a trip, like whatever it is that you want. And is it the same practice for everything? Yeah. Okay. So what are some good steps for us for manifesting this new year? Well, I would say first and foremost, recognizing the thoughts and beliefs that are misaligned with what it is that you want to attract, right?

Because if you're like, I want to attract love, but all day long you're thinking like I'm unworthy of love or no one's ever going to love me, then you're in the way. Yeah. You're in the way. Notice if you're manic manifesting also, like a lot of people are like, I'm doing all the things. I'm doing the vision boards and I'm listening to the podcast. I'm doing the meditations and blah, blah, blah.

And they're just like kind of just crazy energy. That's not going to manifest. So is it because like what I've noticed in my own personal practice is that if I'm trying to manifest something, the hard part sometimes is that waiting period, right? Of like, okay, I want X, but now I have to sit here and wait. And then I'm focusing on the fact that it's not coming, which then only makes it worse, right? That's right. Yeah. I think that one of the secrets to manifesting is surrender. Yeah. And in my book, Super Attractor, there is, well, actually I think it was in The Universe Has Your Back. There's a chapter that's when you think you've surrendered, surrender more. Oh, okay. Because the secret really is to forget what you think you need. Yeah. And really just

open your heart to what is of the highest good. Okay. Because when you're so focused on, I need it this way, I got to make this happen. You leave no room to the universe to surprise you. You don't. You don't. Okay. So what you're supposed to do is let's say you want to manifest a new job. You get very clear about what you want and then you let it go. Yeah. You would have a vision. You'd have clarity. You would align with what the joy that that job would bring you. You could hold visions of that job and seeing yourself in it and let the energy. Feeling it. Yeah, because the feeling again is what manifests. So let the energy get excited. Be in joy. The other thing I would say is if you're trying to manifest a job, make sure you're having fun in your current job. Or if you're unemployed, make sure you're doing

things that bring you joy in the realm of the work that you want to do. Okay. Because again, it's that vibration. Exactly. Okay. Yes, exactly. What about someone who's single and wants to be in a relationship? Same thing. Just still enjoy being single. Have fun using the app. If you're not having fun using that app,

shut that shit down. Got it. Okay. Have a great, enjoy being with your friends because when you're having fun, that's the sexiest energy. Yeah. Right?

Like the happy girl, the fun girl is the sexiest energy in the room. Yeah. Okay. And so just have fun. I love that. Yeah.

Have a lot more fun. Yeah. And just stop thinking about when it's coming because it will come. You've got to let it come. Have fun along the way. Have fun along the way. Okay. that. Yeah. Have a lot more fun. Yeah. And just stop thinking about when it's coming because it will come. You've got to let it have fun along the way. Have fun along the way. Okay. Yeah. Okay. I love that. What else can you give to my listeners just going into the new year? What advice do you have for them if they want to go after what they want? Well, my best advice is I've got so much advice, Scott. Well, yeah, you do. Well, it's New Year's Eve and

tomorrow is my manifesting challenge. It starts tomorrow. It's a 21 day manifesting challenge. There you go. It's like this, it's this perennial event that I do and people lose their shit. I want to do it. Okay. So it's 21 days. It's 21 days. And I'm guiding you each day in a very simple manifesting practice that you get it. You download my app and it's on the app and it gives you a daily practice every single day. It's an audible practice. They, and it works. Like I put 150,000 people through this challenge. Oh, wow. Yeah. And I've got, people have come to me saying that they've got pregnant. They've found their marriage. Like people will send me pictures of themselves at their weddings. Last week I got an email, something in the mail,

not an email, a letter in the mail with a wedding invitation to someone's wedding who actually got engaged because of the challenge. Oh, I love that. New jobs. It's the cool, one of the coolest things I do every single year. Okay, I'm doing it. Yeah. And if you're listening, they can go to deargabby.com forward slash manifesting challenge. Perfect. Okay. Yeah. And then talk about your app because yeah, you do have this app.

So people can work directly with you, right? So I don't do any one-on-one, but having the Gabby coaching membership app, it's like having me in her pocket as a coach. And when, you know, actually, Rhi, give me the app. Give me my phone for one second, if you don't mind. I'll pull a card for you. Oh, okay. There's like card pulls.

You can do card readings. I love that you do that on social media too. You guys, Gabby's a great follow on Instagram if you don't mind. I'll pull a card for you. Oh, okay. There's like card pulls. You can do card readings. I love that you do that on social media too. You guys, Gabby's a great follow on Instagram if you don't follow her. It's, yeah, it's just, I don't know. Seeing the cards that you pull and you just have such positive energy, it's just nice to see. It just shifts your whole perspective sometimes. We need it. We do need it. Okay. So here's what happens. You open the app. Okay. So you're right here and you open the Gabby app and pull oh I'm gonna get you back to center okay so you'd open you'd have like two minute daily practices and you'd have your challenge in there but pull a card okay so you just swipe it and then

tap it just swipe or oh like this okay oh I communicate with ease and grace people are willing to embrace what I have to say okay that's hey oh my god I love that that is really really really good I like that and you're doing it actually right now I know that's why yes this is so cool you're doing that right now oh remember this I'll read this for you so communicate with ease and grace people are willing to embrace what I have to say I think this is also coming to just also this, you can use this here in this moment when you're communicating with your community, but also I think just in your personal life as well. So recognizing that the clearer you are and the more simple you are in your words and your actions, the more you'll be received and to, to witness if there's charged energy behind things and just keep it simple, keep it clean,

keep it clear. I'm channeling for you now. So love that. Wait. Okay. Yeah. Well, I'll pick another part for you. Let's see. Okay. Yeah. No, I do channel. So when I'm in alignment with the love of the universe, peace cannot be disturbed. Okay. This is yours. Okay. I love this for you again. Look how pretty it is. It's so pretty. Oh, I love this. Yes. So I'll get you in the app like immediately. Yeah. I'm literally joining right now. I'm going to put joy in it. Um, but what's nice about this one is that when, when I'm in alignment with the love of the universe, peace cannot be actually, it cannot be disrupted. And I like this very much for everyone listening because the peace that I was speaking about when you're like,

oh, well, does anybody ever get there? I actually was on a podcast earlier today and I was like, you know, the there that we talk about, I was like, I'm at the, I'm there, there, like I'm at the there now. And, and I mean that, and it doesn't mean that like shit doesn't go down. It doesn't mean that I'm like literally not in like deep perimenopause, like dealing with like fucking hormonal upheavals, which every woman listening, go get your hormone panels checked. Yeah. We'll talk about that later.

But it doesn't mean that real shit's not going down. Right. It doesn't mean that I haven't had, I don't have so much on my plate or, you know, been away from my kid or whatever it might be. Right. But it means that I'm staying in that alignment and in that alignment, peace is natural. Yeah. Okay. I like that. Yeah. You're, you still have shit like everybody else. It's just how you respond to it. Your faith holds you in the moment. Yeah. Going through things.

That is true. It is true. That's why I've been working on that for the last four and a half, five years. And it's huge when you can make that shift. It will shift your whole life, actually. I needed to hear those. Those are great. Okay. Well, you are amazing. I'm so happy that we finally did this. And then you mentioned a little bit earlier, but I want everyone to know exactly where they can find you. Your new book is out today. Self-help. Definitely get that. And then Instagram, your app. Tell everyone again. Yeah. So Instagram's at Gabby Bernstein. The app is the gabby coaching membership i think people should definitely check out the challenge and it's like the day they can

they can still get until january 5th i think oh this is the fourth or the fifth perfect so deargabby.com forward slash manifesting challenge amazing and if you really want to know the manifesting flex of all flexes i've never really thought about that way but yes the true manifesting is to do that deep inner work and so I would recommend self-help for everybody. Amazing. Yay. And you guys, happy new year. I can't believe I'm saying that. Go have the best year of your life. And I'll see you guys in the challenge with Gabby. Yes. Thank you so much. I love you. I love you.