Let's Be Honest with Kristin Cavallari - My First 72 Hours in LA That You Couldn't Write

Episode Date: October 24, 2023

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The following podcast is a Dear Media production. This is Let's Be Honest with Kristen Cavallari, a podcast all about getting real and open on everything from sex, relationships, reality TV, wellness, family, and so much more. And just a fair warning, there will probably be some oversharing. Welcome in to Let's Be Honest. I'm your host, Kristen Cavallari. And oh my God, do I have a good episode for you guys today? So Justin was over. Justin Anderson is back because he was just over. I just got back from LA two days ago. We were shooting the shit. And I said, you know what? I'm about to film a podcast about my first 72 hours in LA. And I think that

you need to be here for this. So. And I said, absolutely. No problem. I don't have any plans today. They're all done. I'm going to clear the calendar. My schedule's good. I'm staying. Okay. So I was just in LA for a week, but the first 72 hours were so fucking jam packed and so much shit went down that that's what this episode is going to be about. So to kick this off. And I'm here to make sure that you stay honest, keep all the details in and out of it. You might ask me to leave, actually. Well, I regret this decision.

Well, I'm still getting used to being really open about what's really going on, because this is new for me to be just like very vulnerable and very honest about every little thing. But I said this morning, we said right before we decided to do this, that we're going to just go there and say everything that happened. Well, when you were telling me about the three, when you were telling about the trip, I was like, literally saying, I was like, you have to explain it in the right way. Because the thing about this, and we were talking to this whole thing. I mean, we were texting all day long and you were telling me all these things and I was egging you on and all this stuff so we're talking about today it's like again I'm like no one would believe that all of this

happened in that short period of time I'm like you have to really tell all of it so I'm like I'm sitting in just when this was all going down you literally said to me you go this doesn't happen to anyone and it's like it really doesn't to anyone. The amount of stuff that happens in 24 hours with you in LA. I'm like, what is going on? Okay. So here's what happens. So I go a Friday. Okay. A Friday. This is like a week and a half ago. I land, I go straight in hair and makeup. I do a podcast episode with Dr. Sherry Campbell, who you guys are going to absolutely love. It was all about narcissists. So that was great. Are you healed? I'm healed. That's amazing. 45 minutes can do. So then, okay, there's a crew, my little,

my little LA squad of girls. There's four of us. There's me, obviously my friend, Brittany, who I went to high school with my friend, Charlene, who just had a baby and my friend, Chelsea. So Brittany and I graduated high school, moved up to LA and with, my friend Charlene, who just had a baby, and my friend Chelsea. So Brittany and I graduated high school, moved up to LA, and we met Chelsea and Charlene immediately in Malibu when I was dating Brody. So we've all been friends

for almost like 20 years, okay? And so Charlene just had her baby. So all of us girls meet at Char's house. The greatest group of girls too because they all are so different, but then you guys work so well together. And you've been together forever. Like your history is insane

yes and like that's the thing those are the friends where there's never any judgment like we can be our craziest wildest self and it's just like

yes and not seeing them for a while you jump right back into the friendship yes like there's no like how have you been

yeah it's like no small talk like we just go in so we go to Char's house meet baby Elle who's the cutest thing ever and then we go to girls dinner okay we're Pache, like one of my favorite restaurants in LA

and Brittany pulls up her Raya. And actually let me back up because Justin had been saying for a few weeks that you think I should join Raya. Yes, I do. I've been saying it for a really long time. And Kristen's like, I don't want to do that. I can't do it. Thinking about judgment. I'm like, we're in a time now where everyone tries dating online. And also you live on a fucking compound out in the middle of nowhere. You're not meeting anyone at all. I know. I know.

So so that's kind of in the back of my head, the conversations that we've been having. And then Brittany pulls up her Raya and she shows me a Raya profile of the hottest fucking man I've ever seen. I think we refer to him as, like, the hottest fucking man. Like my future husband. No, I'm just kidding. He's gorgeous. Like when she sent the pictures.

So I know you're not supposed to do this, but I'm taking photos of him on Britney's Raya. No, you weren't. No, you weren't. I was. I don't fucking care. I took two photos. I was like, you have no account now. They delete me.

But you guys, I was like, I have to join Raya. Like, I have to find this guy. I was like, if this is the caliber of men that are on Raya. They're really good looking on there. I have no idea. Because I was also telling you, I was like, very big celebrity clients of mine would sit in the chair and show me their Raya stuff.

Like these women, like big celebrity clients. And they would show me and I would look at these guys. I love it. The swiping is so fun. And they are. And I feel like Raya has a way of setting certain people up with the right people. It's like, it makes sense. It does because, well.

Like, are they setting hot people with hot people? That's really bad if they're doing that. But I think they are. No, they 100% are. No, they are. And like similar industries and stuff. Yeah. Okay. I want to do another episode about my Raya journey. Cause that's also a whole thing. Okay. We'll table that. Okay. So I'm like, I have to join Raya. So literally while we're at dinner, I'm

submitting my application on Raya. I'm like, I'm finding this, which is how you work. Everything's immediate. I'm like done. Fine. I'm joining. Okay. All right. So table that guys. Okay. All right. So now we go out.

We go to Delilah, which is like a really cool lounge in LA. Have you been there? I feel like you would. Oh yes. I did the best chicken fingers in the world. I didn't eat chicken fingers that night, but I love that you know that. I had one mission and one mission only. Men.

Dick. Dick. Dick. All right. So we walk into Delilah and we belly on it. The place is sexy, by the way. It's very cool.

It's like if you go to LA and you want to go to like a cool lounge, that's the place to go. So we go to the bar and from across the way, I see the hottest fucking guy. Have I told you this part?

I maybe didn't tell you this. No, you started to this morning before we decided to have me sit in. Okay. So I see the hottest guy and I'm like, holy shit. I'm like looking at him. He's looking at me. Okay. Then we, us girls finally go to our table and I decided to send this guy a shot because I have never made the first move in my life, but I'm like, what the fuck do I have to lose? I'll send this guy a shot, right? Send him a shot. You guys have to remember, I lived in LA for a long time.

Us girls know like everybody. So we've got all of our guy friends that we haven't seen in a long time that we're saying hi to. So hot guy. I'm honestly going to call him David Beckham because he looks like David Beckham. Oh my God.

And you're so on Beckham right now. I'm on such a Beckham kick. You're on such a Beckham kick. He had like the long hair and he was wearing a hat. And I was like, this is my David Beckham. I love this man. So we'll call him David. Okay. So his friend comes over and he goes, hey, he wants to come over, but you guys have all these dudes at your table. Because you had just sent him the shot. I just sent him a shot, but we're like, we have all these guys at our table. So I was like, oh no, no, we've known these guys forever. I was like, we'll come over in a little bit. Okay, great. Charlene goes home because she has a new baby.

Brittany goes home because she's dating a guy. So now it's just Chelsea and I, okay? Chelsea and I walk up to this table of men and just sit down. And this is David's table, okay? And we're having so much fun. These guys are great. David's great, but I'm kind of like,

you know, this was fun, blah, blah, blah. Wasn't what you were hoping. No. So Chelsea and I are like, let's go dance. So we get up and we start dancing. Next thing you know, we are flanked by the Australian rugby team. This is my favorite part. This is so hard. You guys, it is Chelsea and I, and now just like men all around. Because you manifest. I mean, I know rugby is not football, but it's like you manifested that athlete moment. You do this to yourself and then it happens. And then it I know rugby is not football, but it's like you manifested that athlete moment. You do this to yourself and then it happens.

And then it happens and I'm like, oh, no. Why is this happening to me? Get away, you. They have like a girl handler. I don't even know what the fuck is going on. I don't know who this girl is. Maybe she's like the team's publicist or something. Right. She's like clearly in charge of like wrangling all the men. Or she's like Heidi Feist. Like she's finding women for them. By the way. That's so creepy.

Could be the case. Yeah. Because she was the one who was like, we have a bus and we're going to go to Bootsy Bellows. So that's her role. Ew. LA is so gross. LA really is.

They hired her when they got to LA. By the way, I was all in on it. I'm never the victim. She's like, we're going to Bootsy Bellows on this bus. Why don't you guys come? We're like, okay, yeah. Chelsea and I walk on this bus with all these dudes.

And we're like, woo! I did not realize that you got on the bus. You left that out when you told me about it. Yes, we were all in. So now we're at Bootsy Bellows. You could have been kidnapped. No, man, I knew. I've got a good gut instinct.

Yeah, you're good with your intuition. She's got a great intuition. Great intuition when it comes to men. Not really. So we get to Bootsy Bellows and we're like at a table having so much fun. I've got my eyes on this one guy, right? Because he was- That's part of the rugby group. Part of the rugby team. You need to find a new guy there. No've got my eyes on this one guy, right? Because he was-

That's part of the rugby group. Part of the rugby team. You didn't find a new guy there. No, no, no. You're all, thanks for the ride. Oh my God. He just didn't want to pay for an Uber. Oh my God, that's so funny.

Okay, so this guy and I, let's call him Kyle. Oh, that's a good name for him. Kyle or Chad. He's definitely a Kyle or a Chad which is hot by the way. Okay. So Kyle and I are kind of sneaking off, going to the side to make out. So no one can see us. Like so fun. I love making out by the way. You love, well, we've talked about that all the time. I mean, I haven't got to do it in 10 years, but it's like the best thing in the world, making out with a stranger, nothing better. And we were like in the corner,

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order today. Next thing I know, because now it gets a little blurry. I'm not going to lie. Did he immediately want to leave or you have been partying for a while? No, we've been hanging out for a while, but I think like the club was like closing. You're always there when the club was closing. It's time to go home. Calamari style. You're always there when the lights come up. By the way, so Chelsea and I are now at my place. I think it's 3 a.m., you guys. We don't go to bed.

No, Chelsea and I don't go to bed. What do we do? We invite Kyle over. Oh, my God. By the way, I don't even remember giving my number to Kyle. But I think he got it from the handler. Like the Heidi Fleiss of the rugby team. Okay, okay, okay. So now he got it from the handler, like the Heidi Fleiss of the rugby team. Okay, okay, okay.

So now he's texting me on WhatsApp, by the way. I'm really right now learning the timing of all of this because I'm like, you are, I mean, I know that you stay up late like that and that's how you work when you go out. When I go in, like I go in. Exactly, but I had no idea. By the way, now I've been up for 24 hours

because my flight was like 7 a.m. leaving Nashville. So I woke up at 5 a.m., which is 3 a.m. Pacific Nashville. So I woke up at 5 a.m., which is 3 a.m. Pacific time. So now I've been up for 24 hours and I'm just like fucking Energizer Bunny, right? If there's men involved, I don't have an off switch. Yeah, when you're flirting,

I've seen that firsthand. There's no stopping you. Well, it starts with the fun. You have so much fun. Your energy freaks me out because every time we travel together, you always stay out way later with Scoot. Scoot becomes your chaperone.

Yeah. And Scoot will keep up with you. But like, I cannot believe your energy. It freaks me out. OK, if there's guys around, I can go. Says a lot about me. OK, so now Kyle comes over and guys, I'm going to keep it real with you to your place, to my place and Chelsea, me and Chelsea. But like, I don't to keep it real with you. To your place. To my place. With you and

Chelsea there. Me and Chelsea. But like, I don't even think the three of us hung out. I think it was like Kyle got there and we went right into my bedroom. And so what did Chelsea do? Like make a grilled cheese? Or did she go home? Did she spend the night? I think Chelsea was trying to find her phone. She lost her phone. Wait, this is actually so funny. Wait, so I'll get to that. I'll tell you where Chelsea was. So I had the second one night stand of my entire life. And by the way, before you guys want to fucking judge me. No one can judge that. You're allowed to.

I'm almost 37 years old. This is the second one that I've ever had in my entire life. This phase that I'm currently in is my like fun, single, dating. And you've been craving some excitement. Like let a girl live. And like we've talked about it the lack of sex I've had in my life over the last three and a half years is fucking sad so you know what yeah I had a one night stand fucking sue me and it was so much fun and I will say this a guy who cares so much about the girl coming is like, Oh my God, I need to go home. Like,

we love you. Okay. We love you. So. And he was very into that. And that big body with those arms that could wrap around you

and make you feel like the little lady that you are. Those rugby thighs. Like, I'm sorry. Oh, so hot. Okay.

So then, do you want me to walk you out? So we go down. Oh, it was like that. Like, I'm sorry. Oh, so hot. Okay. So then I'm like, do you want me to walk you out? So we go down. Oh, it was like that. Like, it's not like. It was a transaction. I forgot how it happened. It was transactional.

He's not going to spend the night. No, no. I always make people spend the night because I'm a cuddler. Really? Oh, I'm like, no, no, no, no. So I walk him down to the lobby and Chelsea's down in the lobby looking for her phone. I'm like, Chelsea, what are you doing? Chelsea, get back up upstairs.

OK, so that's that, right? OK, so Kyle goes home. Great. I go to sleep. OK, I wake up Saturday. Kyle and everyone's like, come to Nobu in Malibu. We got you a seat. I'm like, I'm not going anywhere.

I'm like, the only thing I'll be doing is getting multiple rounds of Postmates today and like going from my door to my bed, my door to my bed. So I'm like, I'm not coming. But like, that's so sweet. But, you know, Kyle and I are texting all day. It's cute. You know, we're like sending each other pictures. But like, it's a lot. It's like a constant text. Right. But I'm like hungover in bed. So I'm like, this is so cute. And he starts saying shit like, are you going to tell the part about how he didn't know who you were and all that? Oh, oh yeah. Because I think that's the biggest part for me. Cause you told me all this stuff in real time. And then when you told me that he made the switch to being super aggressive. Okay. You're right. Cause I think that's a good part of the story. No, you're right. This is why you're here.

So when I met him, he said a bunch of the guys told me that you were on a TV show, but he didn't know who I was. Great. We love that. And I will say this. When he left, he sent me a really sweet text. He was like,

you're beyond beautiful. Like, that was amazing. But like, so no, like the initial attraction was there. He knows you're hot. He was into you, blah, blah, blah. But but he had no idea who you were. No idea who I was.

The next day, all of a sudden there was a shift where it was like, this guy is coming on so strong, like wants to marry you. Literally was like, how do we make this work? And I was like, we don't. You live in Australia. And he goes, do you want me to change that? And I'm like, no. I'm like, what? It's like, it's starting to be a little batshit, right? Okay. But I'm still like, let's see, whatever. So you're like, keep saying that. How much do you love me? You respond to everything immediately.

Why does he keep writing back? But by the way, if I didn't respond, he would text me like five times in a row. And that was like, okay, this is trying to get like a little weird, but like whatever. So then what?

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Oh my gosh, you guys, just wait for this. Actually, let me back up. Saturday, when I'm making plans with X, we'll just call him X. That's a good name. That's a great name for him. Because he's X'd out forever, I hope. For fucking ever. So he's like, well, he's like, I want to see you.

I can't believe you're in town for a week. Like, we have to see each other. Reluctantly, I'm going Or fucking never. So he's like, well, he's like, I want to see you. I can't believe you're in town for a week. Like we have to see each other. Reluctantly, I'm going to be honest. I was like, all right, I'll get coffee with you. I'm like, how's Sunday morning? He's like, great. Where are you coming from? I said, I just got a new place in Beverly Hills, but I'll meet you anywhere because

I'm a fucking dumbass. And I said, I'll meet you anywhere thinking he would still come to me, right? This guy's been trying to hang out for like two years. Or at least come close to you. Halfway. Or say, can I pick you up? Even me, right? This guy's been trying to hang out for like two years. Or at least come close to you. Halfway. Or say, can I pick you up? Even halfway, right? Yeah.

Well, he sends me an address for Burbank. And I'm like, that's- Which is where he lives. That's where he lives. Yeah. Which is like fucking 40 minutes from me. So I'm like, oh God, like that should have been red flag number one.

Like don't go. Why didn't you say no at that point? Because I'm too fucking nice. You're not too nice. That's not it. You just were like, whatever, I'll go. Because I would be like, Burbank, suck a dick. I'll see you in West Hollywood.

I know. I don't know. I don't know. Honestly, I was just and I was so mad. Remember, I like I think I sent you a voice note on the way there Sunday morning being like, I don't even want to fucking go. I'm driving to Burbank right now. Anyways, OK, I text him when I'm two minutes away.

It's a Sunday now at like, you know, 855. And I'm like, him when I'm two minutes away. It's a Sunday now at like, you know, eight 55 and I'm like, Hey, I'm two minutes away. No response. Okay. Get to the coffee shop. I call him 9am. I'm all, Hey, I'm here. But I think that we should explain everyone. This is an ex from the past three years. Like since you've been newly single, it's not like an ex from your twenties. And before you saw him, I was kind of, I liked this guy, by the way, we all had so much fun together. It was a great person right after your divorce. Such a fun guy. Yes.

It was one of those things, like, so much time had passed. I was like, Kristen, why are you going? Like, what is the point of this? Like, why stir this up again? I know. And you were just kind of, I still, to this point, don't know why you were going. I'll tell you why. Because I'm, I don't, I don't know.

Because I felt bad. I think you've been to LA and it's just like, everything's fun. Like, I'll do anything. Yeah. Yeah. I'm just like, yeah, fuck it. I'll meet him for coffee. I'll drive to Burbank and have a coffee.

Oh, well, honestly, I'm kind of glad I did. Cause now I have the best fucking story. So I call him at 9am and I'm like, Hey, I'm here. He answers like all disheveled. Like, Oh my God, my alarm didn't go off. I'm coming. I'm coming. No, my alarm didn't go off.

My alarm didn't go off. First of all, it's nine o'clock and you're an adult. He's 40 years old. And you're going to meet coffee with a woman that you want to be with so bad. I would be there one hour early and like clean the coffee shop for them. I'd set up the environment like, oh my God, I think he'd keep going. Okay. So then he texts me and he goes, I'll be there in 20 minutes. So I'm like, so you're sitting by yourself in Burbank waiting for someone that you don't necessarily want to see.

Yeah, they're dying to see. Yes. Yes. That's what I'm just like. People need to get it. It's unbelievable. OK, so I'm like, fuck you. I hate you.

But I am waiting because I'm a fucking dipshit. So 20 minutes goes by and he walks in. OK, and he's like a little like and and he's like, oh my God, sorry. I was up until 530 at friends over. We were drinking all night. Just wait, you guys. Just wait for this story. But already I'm like, okay, you're up till 530 and we're meeting for coffee at 9am.

Like little aggressive. So I go, are you still drunk? Like reeked of alcohol, like the whole thing, right? It's such a turn off. And he was like, meanwhile, you're the same. I'm all of me too. This was like a clear the whole thing, right? Oh, it's such a turn off. And he was like. Meanwhile, you're the same. I'm all of me too. This was like a clearer head morning now, right? Yeah, I was sober at this point.

That was my Saturday morning. I'm judging him when the day before I'm like doing the exact same thing. I wasn't driving going to coffee though. So I'm like, are you still drunk? And he's like, yeah, kind of. I'm like, whatever. Okay, fine. But I will say this. I was like, damn, he is hot because he is hot. And he's so fun.

He's so easy to be around. Like I get the connection. Like he is a great guy. But okay. So we order our coffee and now we're standing there waiting for our coffee, just kind of shooting the shit. All of a sudden a police officer walks in and he comes up to us and he goes, did you guys drive here? And I go, yeah. And he goes, do you guys drive together? And by the way, it's like, oh, and by the way, I believe that. Oh, yeah, we should do that. And by the way, like not saying anything. So I'm standing there like, no, we didn't drive together. Okay. So he pulls out of the coffee shop, by the way, it's all windows. So everyone in the coffee shop, plus you're sitting at it. We're standing, waiting for our coffee. We haven't even sat yet.

We're like standing up. Okay. So they pull them out and then I can see the cop patting them down. Next thing you know, the handcuffs go on. So I'm like, what the fuck is going on? I go outside. As I walk outside, two more cops pull up. Now there's three police officers. We're standing on like the busiest street in Burbank. Okay. And so the only thing is saying is that because they're asking him questions and he's like not wanting to answer stuff, but he's like, well, now I'm embarrassed because, you know, she's here watching all of this, like all this shit. Right. So they put him in the back of the cop car now. And I'm going, what is going on? You're watching someone get arrested. Literally. And by the way, this isn't normal in any like I would start crying Sunday at nine thirty in the morning.

By the way, the entire coffee shop is watching this go on. Okay. So I go, can you guys tell me what is going on? One of the police officer goes, there was a report of a hit and run down the street and he matches the description of the guy. So I'm going, what? A hit and run. I'm like, oh my God.

So he hit and ran. And then he came to the coffee shop and pretended nothing happened. Nonchalantly walked in. That is so crazy. Just walked in like another day. Like what? So he's in the back of the cop car now. So I go, I'm going to leave.

I said, can I just say goodbye to him? They rolled down the window like an inch. I go, I'm leaving. And he goes, bye. Still like, this is just like. Not like I'm mortified. I'm so embarrassed. I'm so sorry, Kristen.

No. Like this is normal. This is just mortified. I'm so embarrassed. I'm so sorry, Kristen. No, like this is normal. This is just another day. I'll talk to you later. I'll catch up later. Grab me a latte. So I fucking book it. I'm like, I'm getting out of here now. I'm voicenoting you.

I'm voicenoting the girls. I'm like, holy shit. And everyone is like, well, he's going to be in jail all night. And when you tell me this story in my mind, it's so crazy. I'm like, what the hell? Blah, blah, blah, whatever. But I'm thinking like a little like bumper, like he like tapped someone. Right.

So I'm thinking like, oh, like he tapped someone. Someone reported it. The cops came and found him. So we're thinking it's really something pretty benign, which is still weird. He's behaving exactly. Why wouldn't you walk him? Like, holy crap. I just like bumped into a car.

I'm going to go write a note after this. Like that should be like you're leading. Like, talk about that. Also, you could blame that on why you're late. Hello. I just hit a car. I hit a car. I'm going to go write a note after this. Like that should be like you're leading, like talk about that. Also, you could blame that on why you're late. Hello. I just hit a car. I hit a car. I'm so sorry. She says none of this. That's a liar. That's a scary liar. That should be Hamer. Okay. So everyone's like, well, you're not going to hear from him for like a day. They're going to keep him in jail. So I'm like, damn, I'm not going to know the full story for a long time. Okay, great. That's my Sunday morning. So back to Kyle. Okay, my Aussie. So we're still texting

and it's getting like, it's I'm starting to be like, this guy is fucking nuts, right? Literally, if I wouldn't respond right away, I would come back to my phone and have missed calls, missed FaceTimes, a million text messages. I'm like, can I be honest for a second? I don't think it was I he was doing it nonstop and it was crazy but like also I would probably do that if I met you out I love you. I feel like I did that to Scoot like I just think he was really excited about you and he knew that you both

had a small window in LA. Yeah. He wanted to make the most of it. Yeah but the way he was talking though was like it was like how do we make this work like I want to make this work. Well that's why I think the shift is that after you guys hooked up and he says he didn't know who you were, he Googled you and then he got more excited. And then it became that's where I was kind of like, OK, that's gross.

Just calm down. Also, you're going back to Australia. Like, where is this going to go? This goes nowhere. So that's why I think all of his excitement came from that. Like, I want to have more of a moment with this girl who I know more about now. OK, but it was also Sunday night. I go to dinner with my publicist and two of my agents. And I told him, I was like, I have a

dinner, a business dinner at six o'clock. Okay. I come out of that dinner and you guys, I had 10 fucking text messages and all these missed calls and FaceTimes. That's why I'm like, this is insane. So I finally was like, Hey Kyle, listen, like I, I just don't see a future here. Like obviously you live in Australia and like, I just think let's end this now before like we, like, I just don't see a future here. Like, obviously, you live in Australia. And like, I just think let's end this now before like we both like, you know what I mean? Like before we're down so far. And he's like, he at first was like, okay, no, like, I respect that.

I get that. Which you're really good at ending things. Like, almost too abruptly. Like, sometimes you send me your ending message. I was like, whoa, girl, that was harsh. You do it like really, really quick. But then he wouldn't let it go. So that and great response at first, but then kept going and talking to me like nothing had happened. So and kind of getting more aggressive. Yes. And then I would have to be like, hey, Kyle, I just don't think that we

should be talking. And he would go, so you want me to stop texting you? I'm like, that's exactly what that means, actually. Yeah, that's, yeah. What else is it? You guys, what? Okay, so it's been a long weekend, right? Okay, I go to bed. It's Sunday night. Great. I wake up Monday morning to a voice note from X at 1.30 a.m.

And he goes, just got out of jail. That was a crazy day. Wow. What? The guys you're dealing with at this point. Oh my God. You guys, like just another day, like totally downplaying this.

Like it's nothing. So I wake up, send him a voice note. I'm like, what happened? Like, did you get a DUI? Like, did you lose your license? Like what happened? Also, what the fuck did DUI? Like, did you lose your license? Like, what happened? Also, what the fuck did you hit? Like, I need to,

I need more information. So he finally wakes up and he's all, so I hit a pole and he goes, I don't even know if I have a DUI. He's like, I blew over the limit,

but I don't know. I've got a court date in a few weeks. What an embarrassing day. And I'm all, okay, like the disconnect is like so unbelievable. So it's a little back and forth.

And then he goes, I don't even want to send you the photos. I go, you have to send me the photos of your car. You guys, the car is totaled. I was like. You can't believe it though. It's not like you bumped into a car. It's like you totaled your car and then left it there and then walked to the coffee shop to just sit down and have a normal coffee.

Because I go, you're lucky to be alive. Yeah, that car's totaled. Also, came out in the police report. He didn't hit a pole. He hit a fucking tree. Like, the whole thing is just like, oh, my God. You guys, the car. He wanted to see you.

That's like when they say, like, I'll walk through fire for you. Like, he literally did. He left. You guys, imagine seeing that someone totaled their car and then just get out and walk to a coffee shop. You're insane. And then the best part, he goes, I'd still love to get coffee. I went,

no, I'm never going to see you ever again. Oh my gosh. But there was still no like I'm never going to see you ever again. So there was still. Oh, my gosh. It's so good. But there was still not. No, like I'm mortified. No, no. Which is so weird.

He was talking about how cold he was in jail and how he used the food to keep himself warm. Like I like it's like what? The whole thing is so insane. Insane. OK, so that's that. He's not. No, that's dark. That's really dark.

That makes me sad. We need to get some help. You know what I'm saying? OK, so that's that. So still, it's dark. That's really dark. That makes me sad. Like, we need to get some help. You know what I'm saying? Okay, so that's that. So still it's Monday. Kyle is still a problem. He is still sending me photos, asking how my day is going. And now at this point, you guys, I'm...

This is all on WhatsApp, by the way. I'm not responding. So now he's texting me. So now I have to block his number. But I don't block him on WhatsApp still to this day because I'm like, it's kind of entertaining almost. And just to like his number, but I don't block him on WhatsApp still to this day because I'm like, it's kind of entertaining almost. And just like fast forward, you guys, this is a week later. He is still still texting me photos. And he goes, did you end up furnishing your apartment?

Miss calls me miss all the time. He's crazy. He won't anymore after this. After this, he'll finally leave me alone. It was fun, Kyle, but it's over. You're so hot in any other situation. After this, he'll finally leave me alone. It was fun, Kyle, but it's over. Kyle, it's fucking over. You're so hot in any other situation. It might have worked, but.

And he's back in Australia still texting me. Okay. Okay. So now. You love a pen pal though. I have been known to love a pen pal. She loves to keep a conversation going. Not anymore.

Okay. So now it's Monday late afternoon. Who gets approved on Raya, motherfucker? So I am like, this is my night. I'm creating my profile. I'm fucking swiping. I'm doing the damn thing. Which was a really big deal.

And I was so pissed that I wasn't there, but we were like sharing the pictures. All the pictures. I was telling her, no, we need more smiles. We need less sexy, more sexy. Not the white bikini. White bikinis are too naughty. I'm like, why not the white one? You always try to go a little too too naughty I'm like why not the white one

you always try to go a little too sexy I'm like tone it back do you want a husband or a hookup well I don't know you were in that LA moment where you were like all about hookup actually I just want a hookup you did say the white bikini photo you're like that's what that photo looks like something you like send your boyfriend

I'm like that's probably not a bad thing okay so anyway so I get approved. I'm so fucking excited, right? Your girl is swiping. Who pops the fuck up with that hot piece of ass? That's the whole reason I joined. I was like, oh my God. Match with him instantly. So the

guy from the bar the first night that she saw on the phone. The reason I joined. Yes. You immediately match with him on Riot right when you do it. Immediately. Right when you go on to Riot. So you guys, I am like,

I am so fucking excited. Like my life is made. And that's the first 72 hours of my LA trip. Your girl goes to bed super excited. And I am going to tell you about Riot. And I am going to tell you about this hot piece of ass because I did go on a date with him. So we're going to do that. And the way

that it happens is so you. The fact, I mean, you guys basically Monday she meets him. She gets approved on Raya. She meets this guy and then Monday they have a date. And not only a date, a double date. Just threw him right in.

So that was my first 72 hours in LA. Holy fucking shit. There you have it. Yeah. It's absolutely crazy. You are a nut bag and I love it. It's so entertaining,

but I can't wait for you to tell us. I'm excited to dish on Raya with you guys and this hot piece of ass because it was, it was and is great. So I will see you guys next week is Nick vile who I fucking love. And I'm actually going to give him credit for me making the first move, which we'll also get into later because he was the one who was like, I saw him right when I

joined Raya and I was like, I'm not going to DM someone and make the first move. And he was like, why not? So don't I always tell that to you? I like had this, well, we can talk about that. I'm changing my tune. I think, on girls making the first. Yeah, because yeah, it's not. You're hot. You can do it.

I did it. She really did it. I did it. You took it too far, actually. Now you're taking it too far. Let's reel it back in a little bit. This is a whole new me.

This has been a whole new world for me. I'm like, holy shit, I love Raya. All right, you guys, as always, thank you for listening

and I'll see you guys next week.