Life Uncut - 65. Thirsty Thursday - ASK UNCUT

Episode Date: October 1, 2020

It’s Therapy Thursday lifers!Gosh it comes around quick doesn’t it! We hope you’ve had a more exciting week than we have this week! Britt almost dated Zac Efron but didn’t because Laura forgot to tell her he was eating dinner across the road from her house. Once we got past that slippery little detail that was so easily forgotten we jumped in to answering your questions!! This week we have a work dilemma. How to tell your boss you’re uncomfortable with some of his vocabulary. A girl that was broken up with by the love of her life and didn’t see it coming. She wants to know “what she did wrong so she can avoid doing it again” and girl, you did nothing!! And a realllllll pickle... how do you tell the guy you’ve not that long ago started dating that he’s going bald because he may not actually know.... or do you even tell him at all? What a predicament! Thanks for tuning in lifers! We love and appreciate every one of you!See you next week!Please share the love, because, we love love xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut, it is Thirsty Thursday, I just made that up, it's actually Therapy Thursday, but Thirsty Therapy Thursday also works. Does this mean you're going to be dropping some half-nudes on your Instagram, Britt? You got it. That's my intro to OnlyFans. I say this, but I'm not even really joking. There's a nice mix of thirst traps on your Instagram from time to time. Look, I don't think they're thirst traps.

I think they are beautifully curated content photos of my fashion experiences because I create content and I don't influence people. It's actually showing my versatility in a bikini. Do you know what, actually? I think I told you, I don't remember. I'm not going to name names. But when I went up to Byron Bay two weeks ago, you know, in Byron Bay, put a bikini photo up, wasn't even sexy bikini, had denim shorts on, had a hat on, sunglasses. It was just literally like, look at me, I'm having a great time. And this one guy that I'd been talking to on and off for a long time, but

literally just talking to, had the audacity. Okay. So he called me like 15 minutes after I put this photo up that was not even sexy. You could go back on my Instagram and have a look. You'll know the one and I'm like hey it was actually a FaceTime and he's like well I just saw the photo you put up and I was so confused I was like and and he's like well obviously that was so I'd call you so here I am like he thought you were first trapping him he actually thought it was and I was in hysterics and I was like oh babe this guy just sounds like he's super horny and like he's the kind of guy that you're nice to at a party and instantly thinks that because you're nice to him that you must want to fuck him like he's that guy I was like I was like a that that's not a thirst

trap b I'm sorry to disappoint you but you were the last thing on my mind like you were not on my mind when I posted that photo I'm really sorry and he was like don't believe you I'm like whoa you have to get out of your own butt so I just remember something that I can't believe I didn't text you on the spot and tell you that happened to me last night what do you know who I saw in bondi 100 like 100 i'm gonna stand by these guys like okay i'm gonna describe this to you there's this little restaurant that is on bondi road and this guy he's very famous he currently lives in australia was sitting facing the window if you say zach effron fucking effron and i'm not joking i'm okay how oh my god okay so how did this slip your mind not to message me when i leave across

the road or i called matt like three times so what i did was i walked you called matt the man that's married to you he didn't care but so what happened was is I walked past and I saw this guy in the window and I was like oh he's good looking and I looked at his face and I was like holy shit that's Zac Efron and he saw that I saw him and he saw that I recognized him does that you know when you have that moment where like you see someone who's famous and you you kind of like had that shocked face and then you know that they know that they're kind of sprung right so he was sitting with another guy and he was facing the window I walked past and then I obviously like had that moment where I was like holy shit so then I was like I'm just gonna casually walk

past again and this is like quite late at night so there was no there was no one on the street so I walked back past again and I was like holy shit it's 100% Zac Efron and then he stands up and swaps seats with the guy who's he's sitting with so that his back is now facing the window which I'm like if you're not a famous person you're not doing that you don't care if someone walks past and looks at you yes but the restaurant was quite busy but the street was dead so I think the reason why he faced the street was because there was hardly anyone on the street and he'd obviously been in the restaurant long enough anyway it was 100% Zac Efron he's in Bondi all you single ladies get down here now okay I I wish you guys could see my face right now I just I'm I'm just in

disbelief at how it slipped your mind not to message your only single friend that literally talks about Zac Efron all the time. How did that slip your mind? I feel like you're actually trying to keep me single. Speaking of thirst traps, Brittany just walks down the street in a bikini at 9pm. That's exactly what I'm taking my clothes off now. Hear that? The highs and the lows. I do have another question for you actually. I feel very sprung today. I feel like you really dumped that on me yeah I'm sorry I'm sorry sorry to add that to your to your morning it's too early and pre-coffee for you to have to deal with that sort of disappointment in your life honestly have you ever had an orgasm while you've been asleep and woken up to an orgasm okay this

is funny that you have asked me this because not because I've done it because I've had this exact conversation with friends like four days ago hands down no it has never happened to me but my friends that I was speaking to, I'm not going to name their names. They say it happens to them all the time. And I'm like, what? I thought this was a normal thing. So I don't have to do that with you. You just orgasm in your sleep. Yeah. And don't have to do anything. Just having like a sexy dream, have an orgasm, like a 14 year old boy, and then go back to sleep. There's going to be a weird little section of our listeners who have had this happen to them. And then there's going to be a whole lot of people listening to this thinking that we have issues I feel like

life betrayed me I feel like if why can't I orgasm asleep when I'm in bed without doing anything I actually didn't know it was a thing I thought that was a thing for guys when they were 12 and also women when they're 34 is it just a pregnancy thing when your hormones are up or is this for you all the time well I mean okay so well this is way too much overshare but I'm gonna tell you anyway so I'm guessing for me it's definitely more so during pregnancy because I think like everything is I think like everything is kind of heightened you've got more hormones there's more blood circulating there's a lot of stuff going on I've told you all about it you don't need me to go into detail so like this happened to me the other day and I then obviously

told my girlfriend so I was like haha I had an orgasm in my sleep the other night thinking it was really funny and she looked at me like I had just shat in her bed well you that's exactly what it is to someone that's never done it that's like telling them you just saw Santa I'm putting up a whole guys I want to know who of you have just had a totally rogue like and you don't I'm talking like you're not touching yourself you're not like doing you're literally asleep and you wake up going oh oh that was all right go back to sleep like yes I didn't even have to do anything I think Matt's annoyed by the whole dream isn't it and once again I can't wait for Daily Mail's article on this I mean perfect you threw yourself into that one I really did but also I mean I think

these things are relatable. Like I said, I'm going to put up a poll. I want to know what percentage of people have actually experienced this or not. It's anonymous guys. No one's going to know if you tell me. Absolutely. Everything, everything you guys ever write to us in relation to anything is anonymous. Unless you say, feel free to post it. Speaking of anonymous, thank you to every single person who has written in a question for today's Ask Uncut. We have picked out a couple of doozies. You guys know this is our short, sharp and real sexy episode for you, where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. So we have three and we're going to get right into it. All right, jumping straight on in. Please help. I'm feeling so lost. I was

just dumped and I don't know what went wrong. My boyfriend of two years has just dumped me out of nowhere and I was absolutely blindsided. We're about to move in together and had just applied for apartments. We were planning trips together. He just convinced me to join his Spotify account. I thought we were happy and in a loving and strong relationship. We met up for a walk last week and he suddenly told me that he couldn't move in with me he can't imagine marrying me and that recently he has had a gut feeling that I'm not the one however he also told me that he thinks I am the perfect girl confirmed he was in love with me and agreed we would be happy together if we got married one day he also confirmed that he doesn't know what his type of girl actually is

he even agreed with me when I said that he would regret this breakup one day and he told me that he thinks we would happily date and live together for two more years but he knows he would eventually break up with me I am so confused looking back he's been a little bit withdrawn the past few weeks calling and texting less and wanting to spend more time with his friends we had some small arguments about it but nothing major I don't know how I missed any sign that the relationship was going downhill and I don't want to make the same mistake again what did I do wrong that pushed him away how can I trust future partners and trust that I won't do the same thing and that they suddenly won't decide that I'm not the one tell me what I've done wrong it sounds like your partner

has unnecessarily pushed the whole moving in together you know joining accounts doing big life things that would indicate that he was really ready to make those commitments and make that move maybe things started to steamroll in the relationship and progress and he didn't know how to put the brakes on it really he was quite fearful of that commitment and moving the relationship to the next stage and so instead of being able to communicate which clearly he hasn't done which is why you feel like this has completely blindsided you because the guy clearly has the most shocking communication skills in the world he hasn't communicated with you that he's not happy with that and so instead it's it's all in and then it's all out and I think that that when

that happens to you in a relationship it makes it so much harder to deal with the fact that you're going through a breakup to actually rationalize what the fuck we were happy yesterday you were fine yesterday and all of a sudden you've changed your mind but the thing is is that he probably has been feeling like this for a long time he's probably been thinking this for a long time and has been too frightened to actually verbalize that but that doesn't mean that you did something wrong that doesn't mean that you created this this is his him and this is his issue I think it's really important to remember in these situations that there is such a thing as really really loving someone being genuinely in love with someone loving spending time with someone

but they're not the one I've been in that situation that's a thing I remember being with someone he strung me along for years because he genuinely he's like I just love being around you I love everything about you but then he was like but I know you're not the one for me and I think that's what's happened here I have no doubt that he loves you I think that's really obvious you don't spend time with someone like this and you don't have these level of commitments so I think that him wanting to take the next steps in terms of moving in he probably felt like okay well it's it's the next thing because I do love you know spending time with you and then when pushes come to shove and he's actually thought hang on if we move in together I this probably means that you're

going to be my final relationship and once he started to sit down and analyze that and realize that he doesn't think you're the one for him he's brought it up so sure I think he's brought it up too late but I think it's I don't think it's anything that you've done I don't think you've done anything wrong there's nothing you should be changing about yourself to suit him and that's that's the part of the question that really struck a chord with me is where you wrapped up your question and you said what did I do wrong what mistakes did I make I don't want to make these mistakes again the thing is you haven't done anything wrong it's literally coming down to two souls that love each other but they're not meant to be you can't go changing yourself

drastically for a relationship fixing things that aren't wrong with you because it doesn't suit someone else to fix the relationship because it'll never work it'll prolong it for another year and then ultimately you're going to end up being your authentic self again and it's not going to work so I don't think there's anything wrong with you there absolutely isn't it's just that you're not a perfect match for this human and that's okay see I'm gonna jump in here one thing that you said earlier and how you said that like you know you can be in love with someone you can love them you can be with them for multiple years but no they're not the one see I personally think that that's a really jerk move I think if you don't think that person's the one and you don't really

want to spend your life with them and your goals aren't aligned and you know that your goals aren't aligned then I think that's a conversation that respectfully if you actually love someone you need to have because if you're gonna if you're gonna waste someone's time for four years because you love them and you love spending time with them but they're not the one then I think you're a selfish prick like I'm gonna put that out there I agree but I'm not saying that in this sense that's exactly what he's done I know I'm saying I think he loves her he's realized he's not the one so I don't I'm saying to this poor girl don't think he doesn't love you because he said he doesn't want to marry you I think he's just realized you're not the one but it doesn't

mean he's not in love with you yeah I mean yeah I get that and I do think that there is love there but I I do and like we talked about this and I'm not going to keep referring back to the bachelor because not everything has to do with that but I'm going to say that you know there are things that you do with your words and with your actions that create a whole lot more hurt down the line And I think when we're very reckless with the way that we use our words, we're very reckless with the things that we commit to. And then we take that back because we've changed our minds or maybe we haven't even changed our minds.

Maybe it's because we never really wanted it anyway, but we got caught up in the emotion and the love and the excitement and that feeling of, you know, intensity when you're around someone. There are people out there who aren't really in check with the way they're feeling and the things they're saying. and that's a really important thing to keep perspective on because it creates so much more hurt and this guy was obviously never at the point where he felt like he could actually move out because he would have gotten further down that rabbit hole but they've been having those

conversations they've been making those commitments and so the fall for the person who's written the question in and the heartbreak is just so much greater because she feels so blindsided and so I genuinely just want to reiterate what Britt said like nothing you have done is your fault nothing that you did created the breakup you know unless you know that you behaved badly in the relationship but if you were just being you and loving someone and hoping that this relationship was going to progress there's nothing that you can change and unfortunately you just have to take time block this guy for a little while go no contact heal and then there has to be some part of you that learns to trust again in order for you to be able to have that relationship that will be

your happy ending that was really long I think we got that in the bag I do feel for her but it's fucking sucks but this is one of those ones where you have to let it go and you have to just start to heal yourself and accept that as hard as it is this this one's not for you and this guy's not your penguin but also don't you think it's such a cop-out when you're going through a breakup and a guy goes I know I'm gonna regret this in three months you're like oh like yes you are but don't say that to me so i sit around waiting for three months for you to come back to me i just hate it oh this brings up some repressed trauma oh she's getting so aggressive all right question number two hit me this is a really hard one actually but i wanted to address it i didn't

want to scoot around the fact that it's hard to answer just because it's hard to answer because i think a lot of women and a lot of young girls would be in this situation and don't know what to do about it and that's why we're here laura to help you all out we're gonna get you with the hard-hitting questions, guys. I don't know what accent that was. Neither do I. Don't do it again. You're fired.

I recently got a very casual cash job. A friend of mine recommended me for this job because he knows the boss. I was desperate for this job because I'm a uni student and the pay and hours are quite good. So I called the boss, got the job, and the only people that work for this boss are my friend and myself.

Now, everything was all good and well. I enjoyed the work and I was quite good at it. No complaints with the work side of things. As I started working there, the boss just started calling me nicknames like darling, sweetheart, instead of my name, which made me quite uncomfortable as I was the only female there. Later on, he just did a few other things like a few little phrases here and there and a few little gestures that made me uncomfortable. I'm not really sure what to do about it as it was never enough to say anything about, but I still just didn't feel okay about it. my friend who also works with a guy asked me if I felt comfortable with what he was doing so it must have been pretty obvious that he was doing it. The catch is that I will likely see

this boss around as he's in my close community so I don't know what to say because I don't want to make anything awkward or weird but I do want to stay in the job. I can't really find a good excuse to quit because the money is good and I need the hours. He knows I need the hours too. Any suggestions have either of you ever been in this similar situation and how do I deal with something like this? I think that this is such a common thing that so many women have to deal with in the workplace and it's 2020 and men should know better and you know call us by our names don't call us sweetie or whatever other term of endearment you're having to like put up with at work. I'm going to make a generalization and maybe this might not sit with everyone but I think we

can all agree that if you find it inappropriate it's inappropriate like I mean it's inappropriate full stop but if it's an issue for you then it is something that you should attend to so I think that there's two camps of people there are men who genuinely don't say it with any malicious intent they you know it's for them it's a term of endearment it might even be more like a father daughter relationship that in itself though can be pretty patronizing I think so on the other side there is this very patronizing or also a bit of a creepy thing that could be happening and by the sounds here it's like a bit more of a creepy thing and I think either way both of them you can call them out but you can call them out in very different ways I think for the one where you know

the person's not meaning it with an intent and you know their character you know that they're not a bad person you know they're not hitting on you you can approach that one by the next time they do it you can say look I'm gonna call your boss Dave Dave like you know I I love working for you I think you're a great guy I just want to say I really don't like it when you call me sweetie So if you could just call me Beck, that would be great. He would probably feel embarrassed and it would be like no hard feelings. He would absolutely change. The other guy, the creepy guy, the guy that's not appropriate, I think you do need to be

a little bit more firm with that. And you can still say it in a way that's not super confrontational. But the next time that he's saying, hey, darling, hey, sweetie, you just say, my name's Beck. And that's it. It can be a sentence that just cuts the paragraph in half or cuts his speech in half. and then the next time he calls you sweetie you go my name's Beck and I think that like that in itself really starts to set the tone for what's appropriate and inappropriate I think when you play along with it or if you like you know or try not to make him feel uncomfortable

then he could take that as that being it's okay to call you that and the more that you are trying to make him feel comfortable the more uncomfortable you're going to become and isn't it crazy that we are okay with ourselves being in an environment as women where we feel completely uncomfortable and we hate it but we don't want to offend the other person who's making us feel like that because we don't want to make them feel like that so I think you know you really do have to actually nip this one in the butt because it's only going to get worse it's definitely not going to get better it's such a hard one I'm trying to put myself in a situation and now it would be a lot easier for me because I'm older wiser lol but I've more experience but I know I've been in a

situation before where I'm younger where I definitely have been a person that's like I'll us put up with this semi-uncomfortable situation because I don't want to draw any more attention to it I don't like confrontation I don't want to make him feel uncomfortable ultimately you don't have to ever be in a position that you're not comfortable with now I know that it's easy for us to sit here and say just say something tell him you don't like it but it's a very different situation to actually do that to approach someone and say in your workplace when there's three of you that work there I don't like it when you call me this I get that that's a that's a whole lot harder but you're entitled to it like Laura said you can say it in a way that is a little bit

softer doesn't have to be it doesn't have to be a big deal it can literally be like Laura said hey it's actually Brit that's it at least that that plants the seed and if it continues then you can kind of you know be more firm I have another thing that I want to say if this is just a little side job and a cash job and you're that uncomfortable and you don't know what to do I am sure there are other jobs out there like if you're if you actually don't want to go to work because you're so comfortable and the thought of confronting him makes you so uncomfortable it is always the option to be like you know what I'll look for another job I'll get another job if you're not in any immediate danger at the workplace like you don't actually think that he's threatening or a predator

or anything like that and you can just start to look for another job why don't you do that and that will leave the whole situation but you don't have to be in a situation like you shouldn't be the one that has to quit because you're uncomfortable I'm just saying it's always an option and I'm just trying to put myself like I'm trying to think of my dad for example my dad would call my friends if my friends come over he'll be like hey sweetheart give him a kiss hello so he would use that term but he would use it in a term that's like you know it's not creepy you know it's comfortable and he's never made any of my friends comfortable feel uncomfortable so there is that as well maybe he's just looking at you like a bit of a if you're young and he's an older

man he might be looking at you like it's a term of endearment like like you'd call like your daughter I don't know but I do think that there's a very big difference between speaking to someone your daughter's friend or speaking to your employee like I mean as an employer I think that there are very very different codes of contact conduct as to how you can speak to someone that you work with and work for also secondly I and I'm going to disagree with you on a point Brit but you know it's okay that we have different opinions on things hit me only because I actually I actually experienced sexual assault at my workplace when I was 22 my CEO So he, at our Christmas work party, he was a 60-year-old German man, stuck his hand up

my dress and into my underwear. Hideous. Well, I mean, that's fucking next level, isn't it? Yeah. And at the time I was so upset and so embarrassed that I ended up quitting my job. He told me he'd always found me attractive and then he, you know, went way too far. And I, oh my God, I can't even, I can't even tell you how infuriating it makes me now as a 34-year-old woman that I didn't stand up for myself.

but at the time I was 23 I think and I quit I quit and I went to another job and he never ever ever had to deal with his workplace conduct he ended up moving to another career in the states and I look back on that and I think because I was too young to actually verbalize how I felt and I told my my people who I worked with but I didn't ever tell any of my superiors because I was too worried about me being fired that I think you know you really have the right to feel comfortable in your workplace and you never ever ever should have to quit a job because somebody in your workplace makes you feel uncomfortable because they're the one that's behaving inappropriately and I'm really like now as an adult feel very passionately about that so I know that age can make it very difficult

to express how you feel but I think that with that comes experience and with that comes a newfound confidence for you to just stick up for yourself a little bit and as women we really need to do that we really need to set boundaries for the way that we want to be treated and if you're not setting any boundaries at all and you're not not calling someone out even if it is in a polite way saying like hey I don't like that can you please not call me this name then what that ends up doing is it gives that person validation and justification that it's okay and they can continue to do it so I think be really mindful of that and don't feel too embarrassed to just say hey I don't really like that I want to make it very very very clear that I would never ever ever ever tell you to quit a job

if you have been sexually assaulted like you report that shit you go to the police you go to your superiors you do everything you have to that's not what I meant I just meant if it's to the point where she just doesn't want to confront it which I think you should because you're entitled to it 100 but if this is your side cash job and you're like I just don't want to deal with it the stress in my life I don't want to bring it on I don't want to confront him whilst I think you should and you're entitled to it you can always just take yourself away from the environment like that is an option if if the thought of confrontation is too much which for a lot of people it is that is an option as well but ultimately I think you could have the simple

conversation hey it's actually back don't love it when you call me that and then just sort of not make a big deal about it get on with your day and see if it continues if it continues you're going to have to take more drastic measures you know what just like I'm going to tell you the last of that story so after I quit so I told a couple of people from work and I ended up staying for a while because he had never been inappropriate to me during actual work like during our day-to-day work I barely ever passed him like he was the CEO of a very big company so I never actually had to experience him really in the office and then a couple of weeks couple months passed and I was like okay I guess we'll just pretend like that never happened and we'll let that go anyway the

next time we had a big like it wasn't a Christmas party but the next time we had like a big work event where there was lots of drinks he tried it on again and did the same spiel and was all over me and um the actual the general manager ended up stepping in and getting me into a taxi to get me away from him and then I quit the next day I came to work and I was like okay I can't do this I'm done and then I got given a pair of diamond earrings when I left my my tiny shitty sales job that I got paid $30,000 a year at the time for I got given a pair of fucking ball up sparkling diamond earrings and I was like how did this happen pre me too movement because at least I just wish I'd been a bit older a bit wiser a bit more confident I wish I'd understood that

even if you're in a very junior role you still have power that you never need to be treated like that but I just left because I couldn't deal with it and I didn't know how to respond to it and I didn't know what to do or say it's like that was like hush money it's like it was a literally that fucking sucks man and I just can't believe it's still happening obviously we've had this whole me too movement it's so infuriating that women have to go through this at all at any level whether it's just being uncomfortable with a name that they're calling you or like you Laura like I just it makes me so mad I'm sorry that happened to you but being physically touched in the workplace it's so inappropriate and you absolutely you know what fuck it just tell him straight up just be like

don't call me that and how many I'm so mad now don't call me sweetie patronizing piece of shit all right guys question number three let's get into it that was a really big one that took a dark turn and I have never shared that story publicly so I'm sure that'll raise a few eyebrows but it happened a really long time ago it happened a decade ago so it's not something I ever think about but when I talk about workplace conduct and when people talk about being harassed at work it really triggers me and you know it happens so I'm not gonna I'm not gonna keep that a secret no I think it's important to talk about so thank you for sharing you're welcome okay this is slightly different lighter tone okay question number three um it was a really long one I'm

just gonna summarize it but long story short this girl has been dating her partner for only about six months so they're close enough to be you know pretty open with each other and they're moving in the right direction but it's not like it's long term and you can be like farting you can't be like so open with him yet where you literally fart on each other so long story short he's starting to go bald you can't laugh a lot of men go bald and i'm laughing because of how different this question is oh okay i was like stop bald shaming this man no i'm not he's starting to go bald but her question is I don't really know how to approach it I want to say something because she's like I don't actually know if he knows it's going bald like obviously this bit's at the back she thinks

he should shave it because she thinks he'll look better and she thinks he'll look good with it shaved but it'll also stop the patchy baldness she's what do I do she's like can I tell him how do I tell him do I just leave it is that too offensive are we there yet like there's so many aspects to this question babe I'm also going bald and Matt tells me all the fucking time Matt constantly makes jokes of like well at least I'm gonna have more hair than you when we're in our 80s so maybe when you get to our point in the relationship you'll be fine with making those comments I'm gonna say something um obviously like you've been with this guy for six months you have strong feelings for him blah blah blah all that aside this is gonna sound cliche and dumb

but I'm gonna say it anyway you need to love him and however he looks and be accepting of whatever he's comfortable with and you never want to do something or make your partner feel uncomfortable because aesthetically you want them to change something about themselves like you're obviously looking at him and it's triggering you that he's going bald but maybe he's totally freaking fine with it maybe he realizes and he's just comfortable in his alopecia I agree like you you just need to accept someone how they are and love them how they are but what I do think you could do in this if he doesn't know he's bald like if I was going bald if I had a bald patch you know about it which i've got no i've got a double crown guys if you guys don't know what a

double crown is look it up but if i don't hardcore brush my hair one specific way i look like i've got a bald patch because it's like you know like rhodesian ridge backs you know on their back how their hair spans out i have that and i look like i have this huge bald patch because my hair goes one way if i was like proper going bald at the back and i didn't know i would want you to tell me laura or i'd want someone to tell me so what i think you could do is in case he doesn't know maybe next time you're like he's sitting down or you're behind him or you're giving him a neck rub or whatever be like like you've just noticed babe i think you've got a ball patch just make a joke about it like it's light-hearted and then imagine someone being like no babe i've just

noticed you've got cellulite no i mean it's different to sitting them down being like we need to talk you're going bald i mean just and then just be playful about it be like okay grampy like whatever that's what i would do i would just make it a bit light-hearted he's probably like i know don't give me a hard time he's it's gonna be a joke but I think the way if you really wanted to bring it up would be like make it like you've just noticed something and be like oh I think you've got a bald patch see I would worry that that would play into some insecurity that he already has so I I kind of like think a way of getting someone to do something that you want is like a compliment them so maybe you could just say I think you would look really really freaking

sexy with a shaved head have you ever shaved your head I've been thinking about it and I think you would look so fucking hot like I think that is like a nicer way of approaching something than being like oh my oh my goodness I just noticed that this has happened to you it's it's a disaster for sure that's another option like I'm all about the compliments but I think in a relationship like this when you've spent six months with someone this is and guys this is just our opinions like yes heaps of you are going to be like I would never do that it's wrong I would be playful and be like lol I think you've got a ball badge that's so funny but you're still going to be kissing him and loving him being like look at your cute little ball patch whatever but also it also

totally depends on the type of relationship you have like I mean Matt and I we we have a very joking we make fun of each other kind of relationship and so for us like if I was to point something out like that of him and I was like hey babe nice ball patch you got happening he would laugh and he wouldn't be offended so I think I do agree with you it completely depends on your relationship and where you're at and and how open and how far you can push the envelope with how much you can kind of torment each other but at the same time if that's not what you're like in your relationship and like maybe you're a bit more a personality type maybe you are more respectful in the way that you speak to each other I think that it can be done from an affirmation

side of things then and in which case I really think that positive encouragement and positive reinforcement is a really great way of manipulating people into what you want them to do oh well I'll remember that Laura this this situation is if the bald patch is at the back of the head he can't see it he doesn't know it's there i don't think guys look at the back of their head i'm not saying if he's got a really obvious ball patch at the front that you're pretending like he the guy knows it's there he knows he's not fucking knows like he's not blind he's just accepting it and also i mean like look like britt said if it's at the back of his head and he doesn't know about it tell the poor guy he might want to know and there are things he can do maybe

you know he can run in the whole footsteps of who's that cricketer who got a whole lot of hair plugs done. Warnie? Yeah. Maybe you can follow in the steps of all the Warnie ads and go and get some hair transplant, whatever it is that they advertise on TV constantly. This is not an ad for them. We're not sponsored by hair transplant guys. I honestly just think I 100% think, and I think there's everything in life. It's in your delivery. It's in the delivery of how you give it to him. So I would make it a bit lighthearted, but I don't know your relationship, but if it's at the back of his head, tell the guy, just tell him, let him know. Done. I reckon we've covered all basis we really went from like the lows to the real lows back to the highs back to the shining

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