Life Uncut - 72. My boyfriend can't make me orgasm... Therapy Thursday

Episode Date: October 28, 2020

Yikes is it therapy Thursday again already!? Our quick, down and dirty ep is here and on today’s menu we have: A listeners crush has just jumped ship and is now boning her friend.... Yikes! A deep, soul searching question about what’s more important, instant chemistry or a deeper connection HELP! My partner can’t make me orgasm, but I’ve never had this problem before! All in a days work Lifers!Enjoy the ep and if you haven’t subscribed stop being cheeky and go hit that button!Have a great weekend and share the love, because, well, we love love xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi guys and welcome back to our second episode of the week, our Ask Uncut episode, our down and dirty episode where we answer all of your deep dark and burning questions. I know I've always said that this is unsolicited advice but this is actually solicited advice because you ask us it's just unqualified advice comes from many many years of very poor decision making and I am reformed guys that's why I'm here. I also used to be that annoying person that would give advice and then never follow my own advice and I've learnt lessons in that as well. So I a little like super quick update guys. I went on a date last night. It was great. I like that I didn't even ask you and you just came straight with it. You're like, so everyone I'm dating someone and we're getting

married. It's going great. I've picked out my baby names. Well, because I have had a little hiatus of sorts. So I haven't really been dating much. So it was exciting. I knew you were going to ask me. So I just got in there anyway. I walked in the door. Laura's like, how'd you date last night? Britt has this thing that she always says after she goes on a date with anybody who's hot. She's Like, and he doesn't even know how hot he is. I'm like, Brit, they all know how hot they are. Every single one of them know how hot they are. And then I'm like, no, but this one doesn't.

Yeah, but this one is different. And is this one different? Well, I think it's, I'm really attracted to someone that doesn't know they're attractive. And he, I don't think he really knows. They all know. They just play humble because then they all like, okay, I'm like going to give Brittany some hard advice here because at least 70% of the ones that you've been on dates with recently have not turned out to be great guys which makes me think they're acutely aware of

how fucking hot they are okay he turned up in I love this there's gonna be a lot of people and you guys if you know me well and if you've been following the podcast for a while you know that he's probably my soulmate because he turned up in a turtleneck a white a white turtleneck and I was like be still my beating heart I think we were made for each other and I had a turtleneck on too don't at me it's really cold weather in Sydney at the moment I had a turtleneck on we were matching we looked cute I felt like our babies would be cute so you're like he has a heartbeat so he's absolutely my soulmate the man is breathing and he responds to my text messages I love him on a serious note it actually did he was really sweet it went well um and the turtlenecks were real

something else actually happened to me yesterday I again guys if you've been following on the podcast for a little while you will know what I'm talking about I walked into my local coffee shop with my sister I heard his voice I heard it I didn't see him and my whole body stiffened and you know that feeling when you've like run into an egg and you feel sick because it's like it's not a good ex it's like oh my you know that feeling yes every single person knows that feeling it's horrendous I heard it and I was like okay this is all microseconds I'm like what are you gonna do here you're gonna turn around and fight or flight fight or flight what do I know where do I go I hadn't ordered yet so I was fight or flight so I did this like really slow turn my

sister turns around and looks at me she's like are you okay you look like you've seen a dead person like I was so dramatic anyway I turned around and there in front of me was meat raffle so if you guys don't know you haven't followed along from the podcast at the beginning meat raffle was like our season one this is this guy that Britt was dating for a while well he bought me he purchased her at a charity event and he turned out to be a real doozy of a fella wow you know what you're the third person this week who's told me that they've run into a trauma ex oh like we did not end well we were like blocking each other it was it was disastrous it was mean text mainly from him anyway I saw him and I was like fuck has he seen me yet and I don't think he had

so I looked at Sheridan and I was I literally looked I was like run she's like what I'm like run and we ran out and that was it my heart was beating I felt like I'd had a heart attack and I was like how ridiculous that there are still people like this that can make you feel like that like I shouldn't have had to have done that but my body was like panic mode no but i think that even though you're so resolved from that time in your life and like it's not something that you think about on a day-to-day and no one wants to be thrown into an awkward situation where they have to be confronted by somebody who really hurt them and like just for anybody who's like more recent to the podcast who's jumped on board

it was a guy that brit was seeing for a few weeks or a few months or something but then when she tried to break it off he reacted like a crazy person and was so angry and so abusive and so disgusting in his messages and responses that yeah it ended in a whole lot of blocking unsubscribed from you pal yep you also he knew that was my cafe that was that was my thing I was like I was like you know that this is my domain so what you doing up in here you know I have the this is from so many moons ago but like when when we finished filming bachelor all right so like I hadn't seen anyone for three and a half months I'd been in lockdown I'd been dating Matt obviously we were out together but no one knew about it and the day that I came out of lockdown I came back to Sydney

and I caught up with my sister and she lives in Paddington I went straight to her house and then we were like we'll go get a coffee so we walked across the road and down Oxford Street and as I'm walking down Oxford Street my trauma ex is walking towards me I was like of all the people I could possibly see right now in this place at this exact time that I'm deciding to get a coffee like I have not seen anybody for three and a half months and here is this one person who's caused me so much pain and hurt. And there's probably nowhere you could go. Well I ran into assembly label and I was like I just want to try these things on. Grabbed like seven things and ran into a change room. I want to try these onto my face right now. Anyway guys what we realized on

Tuesday's episode was that it was a super long episode. We covered lots of different topics but we didn't get to bring you our favorite segment which is accidentally unfiltered and I had a really cute actually unfiltered saved and so I'm going to jump in and say it before we get into answering your questions this week. So here it is. This happened to me several years ago when I first moved to Japan. Now my Japanese skills were pretty terrible so I used Google Translate a lot while shopping. Anyway I was looking for a quick snack and I saw a small bag that looked like rice crackers. It had a picture of cheese and fish on it so I thought yeah this is just some unique Japanese flavor. I used picture translate and it said something like a healthy

cheese. So I bought it and I loved it. And I went back a few days later and I bought two more packets. I ate one of the two packets a week later. And then one day, one of my Japanese friends came over to watch a movie and I was like, Hey babe, do you want a snack? She looked at the packet and said, are you fucking kidding me? What do you mean? And then she began to explain to me that my favourite new snack was actually cat food. I was so surprised and told her how delicious it was. I sometimes still get cravings for that cat food. I mean, was it organic?

What flavour are we talking? Fish and cheese. Yum, I love tuna. I think she was thinking it was like some sort of tuna and cheese flavoured cracker. But anyway, I was like, this is adorable. That's actually so, I wonder how many people have done that. Well, Marley eats dog food all the time. This is my point.

kids eat cat and dog food all the time it actually can't taste that bad. Molly will pick up Buster's dog food and carry it around like four little pellets in her hand and just eat them like they're sultanas or snacks and every so often I'm like what's in your mouth which is like the most common phrase that any mother says to their child what have you got in your mouth and she's just chomping away on some dog food. Well if you to be fair if you were buying really good pet food these days it most of it is actually real meat and it's organic and it's you can get really great stuff So it's probably not anything bad in there. I mean, like Buster is an eastern suburbs dog.

His dog food is premium shit. But also we sound like we're hocking dog food now. Which we're not. And things aren't that tight that we need to eat dog food. Okay. I've actually got a really cute one that just came in too. Girls, this just happened. I love that they come straight to us.

I just text my boss. Why do I always get the runs when I've got my period? So rude. Which was actually meant to go to my bestie. I want to die inside and I'm calling in sick tomorrow. Hey, question. Did you get that Excel spreadsheet? And also, oh my God, I cannot stop shitting myself.

How much did the period suck? It's literally the worst thing when you've pressed send on a text. And it's like, as soon as your finger goes down in slow-mo and presses the button, you've clocked that it's the wrong person. But it's done. There's nothing you can do. Unless you can be the biggest ninja in the world. Look, what you can do, especially if it's on like WhatsApp or something that takes that

extra second to send. if you press send and you you've noticed as you're pressing it you can swipe down real quick put airplane mode on and it will stop it from sending but what if you just think it stopped it from sending and the person's actually still gotten it and you're sitting there in this like moment of like because you know how it comes up like not delivered so it's but you have to be a ninja jedi like it's it's almost impossible to do but i feel like gmail at least it's got our back where it's got like you have like at least 10 seconds to unsend an email the amount of times yeah kind retards laura burn unsend unsend that anyway should we get in to some questions

hit me question number one all right question number one hey girls i need your help i met this guy on a night out and we started sleeping together and messaging each other every day for about a month one night after going to the pub he went home with one of my friends and he slept with her now she didn't know that he and i were sleeping together he's now messaging her every day and asking to see her all the time i value my friendship with her but i also have feelings for this guy do i tell her how i feel or do i let it go please help what a dirty dog i mean this guy's a dick if he knows that she's your friend and he's sleeping with her then i don't know i i want to say to you cut him off straight away yeah i'm gonna say like i'm with

you bray i think like the relationship that you had with him whatever it was whether it was you know obviously it was just sleeping together and you were hoping for more that's done now like that's 100% put to bed I think like the most important thing for you should be to prioritize your friendship and I don't think that there's any harm in telling your friend if your friend doesn't know that you guys were sleeping together I think if anything she would want to know that because imagine if they then start dating and she finds out six months later that actually you fucked her boyfriend weird crazy things are going to get out of control so I think be honest and say hey, this is the situation. I'm telling you this because there's a part of me that was really into

him and I'm pretty sad about it, but I don't have any, I'm not holding you to any account because like, obviously this is not your friend's fault at all. So I really think you prioritize your friendship in this, but definitely have a conversation with her about it, but you don't have to talk to him about it anymore. And I definitely don't think that you should be trying to pursue a relationship with him because he went and had sex with your friend. Like he knew what he was doing he made he made that bed he laid in it had a good old time what i think about this is firstly i wonder how good of friends you are with this girl and i'm only asking you this because if i was seeing someone and sleeping with them for a month and i really had feelings for them

my friends would know brit we literally dated the same guy and it was only after you had been dating him for weeks that i was like i i had sex with him a few years ago but that's well we tried to have sex it didn't really work out but that's because that is because not because I didn't tell you that's because we were referring to him by a different name so I still straight up went to him like dating this guy because I think that's what friends do so my point is like usually you're telling each other good friends about what's going on in your life but let's let's just give her the benefit of the doubt that they are still good friends and she just genuinely hadn't told her friend yet you know like sometimes you want to keep your your sexual escapades private I mean

Yes, I keep my dating life very reprioritized. I mean, I know that that's like a foreign territory for you, but maybe she doesn't want to tell her friend or didn't want to. She was waiting to see what it eventuated into. Or maybe she was feeling like, okay, I like this guy, but clearly this is a bit of a hangs and bangs situation. I don't want to be embarrassed. So she chose not to talk to her friend about it,

but that's obviously created this little pickle-dickle of the situation. Yeah, straight up, you just need to tell her, and it doesn't have to be a big deal and a big sit down, we need to talk. it just needs to be like hey i didn't really want to tell you at the start because i i didn't want to make you uncomfortable or i didn't want to stop you from doing what you're doing but i've actually been seeing this guy for a while and i have feelings for him and ultimately you need to have the convo as friends and you need to she needs to be aware of it also and you need to decide what you want from that conversation like are you doing this because you want to date this

guy and you're in love with this guy and if that is the case i feel like you need to think seriously about that because he doesn't sound like the kind of guy you want to keep around and take home to your parents but also i'm just going to give this guy the benefit of the doubt for two seconds you would i know no actually i would i don't want to sit here and shit on him because like if you guys were literally just sleeping with each other just you know going out at night time hanging out maybe having a drink or two going home and hangs and bangs he had given you no indication that there was going to be a relationship that was going to transpire from this like then that's kind of on you that you became emotionally invested if he really said like I'm not looking for anything

this is what this is and you were hoping for it to be more and then he's moved on to somebody else I mean granted it's your friend that's a really shit situation and it definitely shouldn't be the case but I I think you know we can't punish him and sit here and say like that he's the shittest guy on earth because like really he wasn't emotionally invested in this in the first place I also think that you need to be transparent with your friend and say hey look we were sleeping together. And then he totally ghosted me. And now he's sleeping with you because you don't want to give the impression that he's trying to play both of you at the same time, which is not what it sounds like he's doing. It does sound like he kind of went, oh, okay, well, I'm going to stop doing

this thing over here. That doesn't really mean anything to me. And I'm going to invest some time over here. And maybe that does mean something to him. So like, I think be careful with how you have this conversation because like, yes, what he's done is a bit shit, but it's not like, we're not gonna like hoist him up and set the guy on fire yet no which is why I think the best thing to do in these situations is always just to tell the truth don't don't embellish it and don't act like you guys are in love and up until yesterday he was messaging you just be like hey I was seeing him for a while um I really liked him and now he's sort of seeing you and I still like him and this is awkward but what what I what I want to drive home here is and I say this all the time

and I stand by it. If a guy wants to see you and if a guy wants to speak to you and if a guy's interested in you, if he likes you, if he wants to pursue something with you, he will 100% make that obvious. He will let you know. He will be clear because men don't sit back and say, I really want that. I'll just wait for it to come to me. They don't do it. If they are keen as beans, you will know about it. And there's this saying, you know, if you're confused, if he likes you, chances are he doesn't and it sucks to hear but you need to know that to hear and I'm sorry but I feel like he doesn't want to push you anything serious with you and maybe you guys are friends and you got along really well and you probably actually did have a connection and you had a lot

of fun together but I think that's where it stops for him by the sounds of it from what you've said do you know what weirdly Brit the guy that we both dated yeah has actually dated three of my friends you included as one and two other girls shut up but I was first guys you all got my sloppy seconds no you were only first because I didn't live in Sydney yet so true it went nowhere it went downhill fast but also that's that's not to say anything bad about this guy at all that's that is what happens in the eastern beaches no it's like a small world every and especially if you're single in the eastern beaches it's an even smaller world so I think that's what happens these pool of people end up sort of dating people that you know have dated someone else but also it's

it's online dating it's tinder it's bumble it's like you know we I had absolutely no connection like when when you know this guy what should we call him Fred so when I matched with Fred I had absolutely no connections to him like we don't have any mutual friends we don't have anyone in common and we hit it off we you know we we dated for a little while um we tried to have sex there was some things there that didn't really work out for us anyway look just didn't work out um and then he matched with somebody else on tinder who by chance was a good friend of mine and then they started dating and it was only after a couple of months when she was like hey I'm dating this guy and we can't seem to have sex and I was like oh I feel like I know this story and then the same

thing happened to you there is a real common narrative in this which makes me feel a lot better about myself because for a while there I thought it was me so for example of how small this world is the guy that I went on a date with last night um we've been talking for like two weeks online dating because that's where everyone meets these days um and someone else last night I got like a like from someone else online dating and he looked sort of cute and I went onto his profile is this while you're on your date no this was before the date though in the afternoon and I was like this guy looks cute and I was sort of scrolling the page and then I saw the one of his profile pictures was the exact same profile picture of the guy I went on the date with like there was

like three friends in a profile picture and I was like oh shit anyway I delved into it and they're really good friends were you like unmatch unmatch unmatch unmatch well I had yeah and I was like okay uh do that you know when you have that feeling and I always go to the worst I'm like all right are they do they both know what's going on here and they're both is this like a test to see because I've been talking to one of them for two weeks is this a test to be like is she going to talk to this other guy anyway I didn't I didn't even go there but my point is I was like literally two people that I've seen in the last half an hour are best friends and have the same profile pictures. It's just how it is online dating. You just have to be really hyper aware

of it. Okay. Let's get into question number two. Yeah. We sidetracked so many times. I think we're not answering this question anymore. I love that. We're just having a conversation. Hey girls, I have a question. How important do you think instant attraction is when you start dating someone? Is it more important than a deeper connection? Do you think instant attraction is imperative to the relationship? I really like this question. I had this conversation last night on the date. The way I feel about it personally is different to what the experts say. Like for me, I need to feel instantly attracted to the person that I'm dating. I need to have something there. And when I say instantly attracted, I don't want to be like misunderstood. This is not necessarily

about a physical aesthetics. This is not like that this guy needs to be drop dead gorgeous. there needs to be something about their energy which makes me sound real woo woo but there needs to be something about them maybe it's their conversation maybe it's their humor they need their presence like whatever it is there has to be something about them that makes me see them in a romantic light like I haven't ever personally been in the situation where I've met someone had zero spark and then it's grown I say that about myself like my experience and like my dating history is no way an attack on your dating experience or your dating history I'm sure there's loads of people out there who have met someone had zero interest in them and then because they have built

this friendship and this connection and love that it's it's developed into something deep and really really special so I think that the full spectrum is completely valid but for me I like there to be something that makes me want to rip their clothes off yeah and so you've said instant connection that's the words you've used like this that's the words the listener has said is instant connection now yes i do think you have to have an instant connection but that doesn't have to be physical like a spark something it's got to be for me personally i think there has to be a connection straight away but that could be on so many different levels that could be humor is probably the biggest thing for me you if you make me laugh you're halfway there yeah i love it when a guy's

just a big joke story of my life wait that's why i say make me laugh because my whole dating life is a joke um no you have it for me it's like you don't have to be drop dead gorgeous I mean it helps but you don't have to be drop dead gorgeous but if you are drop dead gorgeous I'd really like you to not know how hot you are you don't know how hot you are please which they don't Laura except when you wore a white turtleneck love that so I think a make me laugh that's a really good connection for me too if you can hold a conversation and if they have a level of intelligence and they can engage you and they're interested in you I think that that is a connection too everything else can come from that I dated a guy once I think I've told you guys maybe

in Scotland I dated him I rented his house while he was away I needed somewhere to live he was away on a football tour and a mutual friend was like you can rent this guy's house for four weeks till he comes back brilliant then I was like I could set up a new house by the time he gets back moved into his place he started to Skype me periodically to just make sure I know where everything is in the house like I've never met him so he's like hey I'm not gonna say his him hey i'm c i'm brad um like make yourself comfortable what's you know what's mine is yours in the house and there's a really good cafe down the corner and he was just being a gentleman and i had zero attraction to him he's a big flanker that looks like he's been hit in the face a hundred

times because he has been what's a flanker it's a position in rugby okay right yeah but it's like they're the big boys that get like they take a lot of hits anyway there was just no physical attraction. But I was only talking to him on Skype. I was like, oh, you've got. Anyway, he periodically started to Skype me more frequently over the month. Then he came back and I was supposed to leave and I could tell he had a crush on me. Figured out how to use the toilet. You can stop texting me. I know where the pantry is. So then I get back. He gets back and he's like, do you know what? You don't actually have to leave. Like there's two bedrooms here. You can, do you want to just like live together for a while? And I was like, in my bed. No,

because it's two beds. I was like, okay, cool. And we became really good friends. Still no physical attraction but we started to hang out as friends we go to the gym we went to coffees we were watching tv and movies and after about two months I was so attracted to him all of a sudden because he was so funny and he was such a good person he looked after me really well I would come out in the morning my coffee would be made how I wanted all this stuff and we ended up dating for you know on and off for about six months because I went from zero to a hundred with him because of his personality and it was a slow burn so I don't think to answer this girl's question I don't think it has to be day one this intense all-consuming feeling for it to be successful

I agree and I also think that sometimes and I've said this before when you meet someone and on day one you had that overwhelming all-consuming sense of like oh my god this is my soulmate red flag red flag like it shouldn't be that intense I think it can be look it can be there are times and chemistry can be very, very misleading. And chemistry can also be the thing that completely clouds your judgment and your ability to make sensible decisions. So you meet someone, you have this overwhelming sense of like, oh my God, I am in love with them. And then they start showing you the red flags, but because you're so busy being absolutely blindsided by this feeling of obsessiveness with them, you're not open to the red flags. So I think that that can be just as

dangerous. I do want to say that I think it depends on how you've met the person. So if you've met the person on online dating you've gone had a coffee had your first date and you felt zero spark zero nothingness then I don't see the point in pursuing that in the hope that something's going to develop very different if you fall in love with your friend because over the years or over the months or you know someone who you work with because you've gotten to know their personality I don't think you should be investing time in something with a total stranger and going out of your way in the hopes that something will grow the last part of your question where you said what's more important is it instant chemistry or a deep connection I don't think you get a deep connection

with someone who you don't know and you haven't met yet a deep connection is built on shared mutual experiences a deep connection is built on trust it's built on actually knowing that person for who they are their values their beliefs if they're a good guy you know if they treat you right or a good girl like all of those things so I I think obviously a deep connection is way more important it is the most important part of a relationship it's the foundations for staying and being in that relationship even in the times when they do your freaking head in. But you don't get there instantly.

And I do not confuse chemistry with a deep connection because they are very, very different things. To be a whole package, it can't just be one or the other. I think it's a holistic view when it comes to dating. When it comes to your man or your woman, it is a holistic view. It is holistic, y'all.

Question number three, I reckon we've answered that to the best of our ability. So let's, I'm gonna hit you with question number three, Britt. Okay, I'm ready. I feel weird being on this end when you ask me the question. It's a sexy question. Well, actually, sex is happening, but the big O isn't happening.

Okay, so I'm just going to ad-lib this one because I read it earlier and then I couldn't find where this person had written it in to actually read you it verbatim. But this listener has said, I know I can have an orgasm. When I masturbate, I have orgasms. I've had orgasms with my ex-boyfriends. I've had orgasms with one night stands. my boyfriend who I have now who I've been with for eight months has never given me an orgasm

and to be perfectly honest sex is just not that great but I really love him he's a wonderful guy we have so much in common I don't want to break up with him but what do I do because I would really like to have an orgasm yeah this is a proper pickle I guess straight up I have a sneaky suspicion you are probably I could be wrong correct me if I'm wrong I have a sneaky suspicion you are probably faking your orgasms when you have sex with him which is your first and biggest problem because if you're doing that if you're faking an orgasm and faking how much pleasure you're getting how much you like something we're trying to think that oh okay this is this is how she likes it this is what gets her off oh yeah you're reinforcing bad behavior oh 100% like

you're your own worst enemy you just need to be I think that's the first thing is to stop faking it and maybe just start to take a different approach where you're a bit more honest you don't have to be, you don't have to be blunt and brutal and rude, but you can be like, I just don't think this is going to happen for me like this. I don't think it's going to happen for me tonight. I don't think it's going to happen. Let's try this. You can start to introduce different positions or different things you like. Like you have said that, you know, what gets you off. You've spoken about that. You know, you've done it in the past with other partners, you do it with yourself. So why not just show him? Why not talk about it and educate him? Because he's not going to know.

men aren't mind readers we want them to be and we wish they would be but they're not they they've learned behavior so he's learning what works for you when really it's not working but also he may have dated someone before you who enjoyed that who said like this is what i like or maybe he's been watching loads of porn and that's what he thinks a chick wants like there's a lot of reasons why a guy does or maybe he's just doing it because it gets him off like maybe he he jackhammers you because jackhammering is the way that he comes and he's not actually prioritizing your pleasure at all. Like there's loads of different things to unpack here, but I agree with you, Brit. I think the number one thing is physically show him and don't be afraid

to verbalize whilst you're in the bedroom, what you like and what you don't like. Obviously you're not going to be like cold, not it. But like what you would do is like, I like it when you touch me here. I like it when you do this. Hey baby, try this. Like you can be very encouraging in a very sexy way whilst you're having sex and exactly what Britt said if he has been doing things which you have been giving him the impression that you like it there's a bit of work that you have to undo there and actually maybe you will have to say like oh I faked it for you no that's what not to say maybe say like you know actually for like you know I feel a bit uncomfortable when you do this or like that hurts a little bit can you try this and try something different I really

think that like a very open communication also physically showing him you've said that like you masturbate and you can get yourself off if you know what you like and you can physically do it to yourself and show him go for it do not be afraid of showing him physically on yourself with either your hands or his hands or all the hands whatever suits you like show him what what gets you off the fact that you love him and you've said he's such an amazing guy to you in every other way and you don't want this to be a problem but ultimately it is a problem because sex is a crucial part of any relationship making love and and having that intimacy is very very important and if it's lacking it will slowly grind away until it becomes a really big issue so what you

have to do is get in there and attack it now you can't let it go any longer and it doesn't have to be a big deal I think you just really sit down and have the conversation say but don't don't make it a big deal like sorry don't sit down and have a conversation like we need to meet about this I was gonna say do you recognize I don't think you sit down and talk about it outside of i think you do it in the bedroom it's it's not like instructional in a way where you're like try this you do it with your dirty talk like you almost like you have to like explain it to him whilst you're talking in a very sexy way if you know the position that that does it for you do it throw him down jump on top do whatever it is and just take control of the situation like you are

ultimately in control he'll try different things you know if you know what gets you off do what gets you off, show him what that is so that he can, you know, see you do it and then kind of copy and it makes life a lot easier. And trust me, you'll be grateful for it when you're getting a few big O's in there as well. Guys, that is it for today. That's our quick down and very dirty three questions. We hope you liked them. Please, we want your questions to keep rolling in. We do get a lot of you writing saying, where do I actually send my Ask Uncut questions? The best place for you to send them is just to our instagram at life uncut podcast put at the beginning ask uncut and then at the bottom as well ask uncut so that it doesn't matter how long your messages are

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