Life Uncut - Ask Uncut - Are Men Taking The P*ss With "Wet The Heads"?

Episode Date: October 12, 2025

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack all of your deep and burning questions. Britt has an aeroplane/travel dilemma of her own - who owns the space UNDER the seat? Is it the person whose designated seat it is? Or is it the person behind whose legs go underneath? Vibes for the week: Britt -  __mrsinthemaking Bridal & Hens Personalised Jewellery Keeshia - Great Company with Jamie Laing Podcast - Spencer Matthews Our First Honest Conversation About Our Friendship  Then we get into your questions! ARE TOPLESS WAITRESSES NORMAL?I recently found out that my husband and his mates sometimes ‘order’ topless waiters during their Saturday night drinks. He says it’s only happened 2–3 times over our 6 years together, but I can’t help feeling like it’s a bit sleezy and icky. He never mentioned it to me before, and I only found out after poking and prodding when I could tell he was hiding something on the weekend. He insists it’s never his idea and that he just goes along with the group. It’s usually 4–5 friends, none of whom have wives or kids at home (unlike us), and I guess I’m wondering… am I overreacting for feeling put off by this? Would this bother anyone else, or is it something I should just let slide MY FIL IS A PIG BUT ALSO HELPS ME OUTAm I justified in being frustrated with my filthy father in law, or is it the price I have to pay for a reliable pet sitter? For context, my partner and I have been together for 10 years and are in our late 20’s. My partner’s father is much older, aged in his 70’s, and will pet-sit for 2-3 weeks when we go overseas for an annual holiday. He is always very willing to house sit as he loves the fur-babies, and he lives by himself in a caravan park, so he enjoys the space and company. We of course give him a bit of cash (usually $50-100) to use towards take out. Now here is my dilemma. Every time we return home from a holiday, I am extremely frustrated with the lack of cleaning and things I find around the house that give me the ick. Certain things are probably outside my FIL’s control - like his dandruff skin flakes all over the couch. However, there’s things that have frustrated me and I can’t tell if I’m being unreasonable. Examples include: Tobacco flakes spilt on the floor and kitchen bench. - Food spillage on the kitchen floor and down the cupboard doors. - Putting dirty greasy Tupperware away because he refuses to use the dishwasher. Drapping his wet bath towel on the bed instead of 1 of the 3 towel racks in the bathroom. - And here is my main cleaning frustration. My FIL has a stoma bag (which I of course am not judging him for) and he obviously has to empty it. However, on multiple occasions, including most recently, we’ve come home to find a little bit of shit splattered on the toilet seat or even dripping down the bowl onto the floor. My partner will always clean up the toilet because I’m disgusted, but I also don’t think it’s my partner's responsibility to clean up after his dad when he is still mobile and capable. I have tried to say things as they arise, for example, asking my FIL not to smoke directly next to the clean laundry outside. However, I don’t feel like I should have to say this to a grown man. I am trying to see the other side of it, including the fact that he lives alone, so maybe my FIL doesn’t realise how messy he can be. However, I would be mortified if I house-sat for someone and left shit on their toilet for them to clean when they got home. My partner it’s not confrontational and does not want to embarrass his father, but I think his father is a grown man and should have more respect for our home and cleaning up after himself, even if he is doing us a favour by looking after the pets. So - should my partner and I say something to him? Or do I just suck it up, bite my tongue and clean up when we return home from a trip?   IS EVERYONE A LITTLE UNHAPPY IN LOVE?Is everyone struggling just a little bit in their relationship or is it just me?!? Lifers I need help. I love my partner, we have been together for 5 years and he is exactly what I was looking for in a lot of ways. He’s thoughtful, emotionally available, loyal, affectionate, hard working, funny and just generally a good partner. And although most of the time I truly feel he is my penguin. There are also times where I completely question it all, lately a lot more. I sometimes feel he’s a bit immature, with his favorite activity still getting drunk most weekends with “the boys”. He’s not very present (completely hooked on his phone) and is very snappy/impatient. And sometimes these traits really make me question it all. Do we want the same things (I rarely drink)? Do I want kids with someone who is so snappy and impatient?  Anyways, I’m worried i’m just striving for a perfection that doesn’t exist, that i’ll always feel the grass is greener and I need to stop being so critical. So my question is, are most couples just slightly unhappy? Do we all question our relationships from time to time and just not talk about it? I feel like most couples I know are all struggling with something, but i’m not sure if that’s how it usually is/or if it’s just my circle HUSBAND WANTS TO ‘WET THE BABY’S HEAD’ AND I THINK IT”S UNFAIR AND JUST A PISSUPI want to know your ladies thoughts on a ‘wet the head’? For context, my husband and I are expecting a baby in April next year. We aren’t the first in our friendship group to have a baby, so therefore my husband has been to a few wet the head celebrations before. Here’s the kicker; it always turns into a huge piss up. I’m talking bulk beers and hours at the pub while the new mother is at home alone in the absolute trenches of having a new born baby and navigating postpartum hormones. My husband was talking about his ‘wet the head’ a few days ago when I mentioned I wasn’t keen on the idea. He was quite upset by this when I stated that I don’t understand why the men would get a celebration after childbirth when respectfully they’ve done nothing I understand their excitement around having a new born baby and them having a proud dad moment, but wouldn’t it be better received if they were at home being a supportive father/husband. What are your thoughts?   You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! XxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode was recorded on Camaragal land. Hey guys, and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Brittany. And I'm Keisha, and this is Ask Uncut, where we unpack all of your deep, dark and burning dilemmas. We do our best to maybe relate, maybe give you a little advice, tell you what we do in that situation. I think we undersell it. I think we are very qualified by now. I know Laura's thing is always like, hey, we're unqualified. And I was like, actually, we're not. I did psychology subjects at uni. So did I. I didn't do well at them, but I did. I did well at them. I failed neuroscience, but then I passed it the next year. Okay. Yeah. Got my degree. That's all that matters.

But hey, before we kickstart, I wanted to ask you something. I know there's like a really common question about traveling. It's like, you know, when the questions are usually when you're in a row of three people who owns the armchair in the middle and there's all those questions, can you recline your seat, blah, blah, blah. I have a new question, something that I experienced that I hadn't experienced before. You buy your seat on a plane. You purchase that. That is prime real estate. You own that. But who owns the space under your seat? So who owns the space under your seat? And what I mean by that is in my head, you've bought your prime real estate. You're in your chair you can recline technically speaking you should be owning the space under you i don't agree

with you on this no no i i don't either but i think it's like obvious that you own your seat but you own the person's seat in front of you's under seat yes i actually think that that's probably what anyone who works on for the airline would say as well because you know how you got to put your bags underneath it yeah it's like put it under the seat in front of you yes unless you've got so much stuff under there that you're bumping the person in front of you's feet why I thought that was like a standard right so like I flew back from Italy it's mate 28 hours you always forget how long it is I planked right I have to plank I'm old I get tight hip flexors I can't sit for too long so like I'm planking if you're on YouTube you can see me but like you know what it's like

right you're so uncomfortable you put your seat back this is a good look they're playing this is reminded me of that time that you were actually wearing your shirt much like the one I'm wearing right now it's a boucle jumper do I have a camel toe no you don't have a camel toe and you were wearing a whole set in this boucle material and you matched the chair so much that I took a photo it looked like a thumb but like so I'm planking in my seat and then your legs go out as far as possible under the seat in front of you now I thought that was my prime real estate until hill I touched something and I was like and I was like what is that my toes now to be fair I had socks on but my feet didn't protrude out the front like you have the rule is you have to stay

within the confines of the under seat but my feet hit something now this person for some reason their company this is grossing out but their comfortability for this person was not to plank get their legs out under the seat in front of them it was to curl their feet their legs under now I don't know what kind of psychopath does that I've never met someone on a plane that is like bending their own feet and legs under their seat you have tall privilege I'm five foot two and there are many times that I have to put my feet on it because there's a little foot rest bit there's a little bit you tuck your feet under your own seat sometimes well you're the problem like Because you've got to move around.

You've got to mix it up so your hips don't get tight. And so sometimes I will rest my feet on the little provided for foot rest that goes underneath your chair. Okay, sorry. No, sorry, you're in the wrong here. Sorry, if I was sitting on a plane and someone's manky, some stranger's feet. Sorry, I'm a radio host.

I'm not a stranger. And their toenails, they probably have hair growing out of all of their toes. Ew, I have no hair. And it reaches forward. Everyone has hair. it reached forward and touched me bro i think i'd squeal i'm like a sphinx cat you know those cats the hairless cats i don't have hair when i last went and got my laser she's like what do you want she goes you want your butthole done i'm like yeah why not nothing much there and then she's

like you want your toes done and i said don't need to she said everyone must be nice no she must be nice not having that pecos life she goes everyone needs their toes done i said mate go free have a look she went down there she's like you're right you don't need them done i do not have a hair on my toe and I am I will nothing wrong with it if you guys do toe privilege and foot privilege I know I have a little fat sausage feet but um I don't have hairy toes but so I'd planked out hit something we had a moment where like we were going for it tootsie toes tootsie toes like tootsie push back did it flick you back and I was like well just a little bit I was like oh and then I was like no hang on I'm pretty sure this is my space I know you paid for your seat

but the whole flight we were like mills away from each other and it kept like brushing past each other and I was like I don't know if this is passive-aggressive or if you're flirting with me I don't know if you saw my toes and you actually thought that they were great I was like now you're trying to have some little footsies underneath yeah I was like are you telling me to fuck off are you into this like I didn't know which one it was I would have been ropeable there was one time on a plane and Laura does this so I know her toes go everywhere I love you Laura but this is actually one of the most disgusting parts of your personality I was sitting there I was sitting there against the I was on the window so you know how you get like the cabin bit like it's like a

plastic kind of cave right and I I lean up against it I try to get myself comfortable and and try to get myself to sleep and this one time someone tried to shove their foot through to like stretch their foot out on the armrest you can't have a foot next to your face words came out of my mouth and I'm not ashamed of them. I was like, sorry, sorry, no. Like I don't care that you're my boss. It was the firmest boundary I've ever had. I was like, no, no.

Was I maybe a couple of wines deep on the plane? Yes. No. But you can't. You can't have those toes go through onto strangers. People have foot aversions. Laura's not here so we can say it. That is a complete misuse of her power and her position.

To be fair, Laura didn't do that to me. I've just seen her stretch her foot out before. I don't think she's stretched it out to the point I'm probably, like, describing this in a way that makes her look worse than what it actually was. But I've seen her stretch them out before onto it, but I don't think she's pushed past the barrier of the chair. She has. She's pushed it.

I've been on a plane before where I'm in front of her because we often don't get seated together when we're, like, going on, like, business trips or radio or whatever. We're often, like, in different rows. That's deliberate. She plans it that way. I actually think she phones ahead. Yeah, I do.

But she has put, I have video footage of me sitting there filming straight down next to my lap and her toes are like, and they're always splayed out. They're always like spread or something. She's probably got a banana in them. She is a toe spreader. She spreads them. Yeah. What's that about Laura?

I don't know, but let's not talk about Laura anymore. She's not here. She will be here in two days. We're going to have the episode where Laura talks all about Poppy's birth coming out for you in two days time. If you're listening to this on the day of release. Yeah. Can we call it Poppy Popped?

Sure. you know I love to make these anyway so that's my question I just want everyone to think about it I do think I'm in the right I think once you like once you put under the seat once you push past and you've come out the other side that's too far and there's a boundary and you've crossed it but I think as long as your toots stay within the under seat then it's every man for themselves I disagree let's poll it can you poll it I love it we can poll let's get into our vibes for the week. What are you vibing this week, Brittany? So my vibe is actually something that I used a long time ago at my wedding. But the reason I've rethought about it is our friend, in case she's

my friend Beck, and she's also one of Delilah's dog walkers, is getting married. She had a hens last week. She's getting married in the next few weeks, but that's why it's come back up in my mind. And I was like, it's such a good vibe because she asked me about it and I recommended it to her. So you guys might have seen when I got married, both at my hens and at my wedding. So for my, third look for my third look of the night i had a necklace on that looks like from afar it's like they're diamantes right but it looks like diamonds it looks nice like if you're it's like a manet you look look at it from afar but it's a necklace and it says like it's really sparkly it's like a choker and it says mrs seagrass on it and for my hands i had the same one but it just said mrs

and so it's just a local girl that reached out to me she reached out and said hey this is my business I'd love to make you one and she in complete transparency she sent it to me for free she dropped it to my house and she was like look if I can give it to you as a wedding gift beautiful if you like it great if you never want to speak about it again that's also fine and I tagged her in my photos I loved it I thought it was such a good idea so she will make them for bridesmaids so she'll make them that says bridesmaid she'll make it if you're just want to do it for hens she'll make your surname if you want to wear it to the wedding as a look so yeah i wore it for both and i recommended it to beck and she got it made and i saw her she wore it at a hens and stuff i

think she might have got one as well for the the actual wedding the instagram and the brand uh is called mrs in the making like as in mrs we will link it but it's because it's got the actual instagram handle has like an underscore at the front underscore mrs in the making and it's personalized bridal and hens jewelry and I just thought it was really cute and Ben absolutely loved it when I walked out and it had Mrs. Seagrist on it and I had my little cocktail he was just so chuffed he just thought it was the cutest thing that I had thought to like go and create something like that so I just thought what a brilliant idea and she's a small business so yeah that's that's who I want to um shout out yeah I actually saw Beck wearing that

at her hens I thought you must have given her yours but I think she got one of her own because like you said I wouldn't be surprised if she took one over she's getting married in Europe so I wouldn't be surprised if she took like a different one over there yeah it's really they are really really cute and it's so nice to support like a small female-led business totally my vibe this week is a podcast episode it's actually quite funny that I'm recommending this when Laura's not here because it is her new celebrity crush Jamie Lang yeah she's replaced Joseph Momoa sorry she has spoken about he does a couple of podcasts one of them is with his wife Sophie this one is the other one so this one's called great company with jamie lang and it's a particular

episode that came out on the 23rd of september so just a couple weeks ago and it's with spencer matthews and now the two of them became friends they were on made in chelsea for nearly a decade i actually haven't seen made in chelsea so i don't know i've only seen clips of it floating around on like instagram and because i follow them sometimes like i think it must be in the algorithm like flashbacks yeah they're big in uk media yeah and spencer is married to vogue who we have had on the podcast before, Vogue Williams. Yeah, who hosts My Therapist Ghosted Me. Vogue and Spencer used to do a podcast together.

Spencer's story in itself is quite interesting. So when he was 10, his brother went to climb Mount Everest and he never came back. So he is presumed to have died on Mount Everest and he went on to have some real issues with alcohol. Like he defined himself as an alcoholic and he's now sober and he's doing these ultra marathon runs and he's become quite like an endurance athlete, which I think is, again, And another really interesting story where you see addicts, and I say this from someone who has a brain that could pretty easily go down that path.

You're not running any ultra marathons, Kish. I mean, like when they transfer that obsession or like that dopamine craving into something that's actually quite good for them. So those parts of Spencer himself, I find quite fascinating. But the reason that this episode was like no other conversation I've heard on a podcast before is because Spencer and Jamie were really good friends, like really, really, really good friends. and then they seemingly had this friendship fallout and neither of them really knew why

you know they've both got different perspectives as to what kind of led to them feeling uncomfortable with each other and what was kind of like the final straw that made them want distance from each other but essentially Spencer wasn't invited to Jamie's wedding and he found out because there were photos of it put in the UK press and Vogue actually was the one who showed Spencer these photos so that was about two years ago and this is the first time that they have sat down and had a conversation about it and what was most interesting to me is that I can hear both of them coming to realizations about each other and about what happened within them in the actual episode it was not clean cut there were parts where as a producer I was like all my days I

would have been so tempted to cut that out because it's it's just so uncomfortable I feel so uncomfortable listening to this people want to listen to totally right but I was like you know if you if it was my job to protect the person whose podcast it was that didn't make him look good you know and and it was just fascinating to me that it felt very very honest whether it was I don't know we've all got versions of our different truths but I found it a really really interesting conversation about friendship about evolving friendships about how friends can go through different stages. Spencer himself is quite an interesting cat to me. Like the way he processes emotion, I don't think is particularly common. I think he has quite a unique way of having emotion

and the way that he conducts himself. And I just, I really, really liked it. And there was a part of me that I was like, whose side am I on? Like who? And I feel so even handedly about it, but I just thought it was a really interesting conversation about friendship that we do not see happen much and we specifically don't see it happen much with men yeah I have tried and I'm still trying to get Spencer on the podcast yeah I'd love to chat to him tried to get him for a long time he's a very interesting character and I think he's got a really amazing story that not many people have but um watch this space still hustling yeah still trying but that's it's a great episode yeah so that podcast episode is called Spencer Matthews our first honest

conversation about our friendship it's great company with Jamie Lang right let's get into the questions. Question one, are topless waitresses normal? No. Okay. Question two, a long-term lifer here loved the pod. So I recently found out that my husband and his mates sometimes order topless waiters and waitresses during their Saturday night drinks. He says it's only happened two to three times over our six years together, but I can't help feeling like it's a bit sleazy and a bit icky. He has never mentioned it to me before and I only found out after poking and prodding when I could tell he was hiding something on the weekend. He insists it's never his idea and that he just goes along with the group. Of course

he does. He's not gonna be like you got me I order it. It's usually four to five friends and none of his friends have wives or kids at home but we do. I guess I'm wondering am I overreacting for feeling a bit put off by this and like it's not right would this bother anyone else or is it something that's pretty normal and I should just let die I don't think I've got a hot take on this I think most people would feel pretty uncomfortable by it but I also think that the main thing that I feel uncomfortable by is the fact that he knew it would make you uncomfortable enough that he hit it it's the lack of transparency about it like whether you know we have conversations about this a lot of the time when it comes to entertainment, particularly if it's like

box parties or guys hanging out in groups and whether they want to go to the strip club or whether they want to have a dancer come around or like any type of kind of men's boys, boys, boys style entertainment. Would this be okay for some people? Sure. Would it be okay for you if you knew about it? Maybe. But the fact is that you didn't, you weren't considered in this conversation and he didn't really bring it up with you in the sense where it was like, Hey, I just kind of wanted to check like what's your gauge on this are you okay with this or do you find that this is a little bit of like a blurring of a boundary that makes you uncomfortable you know there's a few layers here for me and like I agree with you Keisha's like he's not gonna come

home and be like hey saw some titties tonight like you know it's not the standard conversation I guess there's a few parts I want to unpack everyone has different levels of what's okay in their relationship like some people are okay for box parties for strippers to be there and to go to strip clubs and have lap dances because it's a box and the idea of it being your last hurrah and whatever some people strict no's like for their partner I don't want you to be a stripper like you don't need it whatever whatever we don't want to yuck anyone's yum it's okay as long as you're all across it the reason this is weird to me is because it's just nights out like you guys are just going out for the night like why are you do you feel the need to be going and getting these

topless waitresses on a normal boys night out like just go to the pub watch the footy like normal people but like why is that and I agree with you because I feel exactly the same but I'm trying to wonder why I'm more okay with it if it's like an event does it need like because you know what I mean I would be more okay with it for Ben at a box so would I then I would if he just went out on the weekend because it just hits different and I know it's everyone some people are going to think and say like listen to me say that and think that I'm crazy it's just me I'm like cool if you're going to do it it's a one-off you can all get your little joys off and have fun and be like titty whatever yeah but like i'm not phased by there that's also because i really trust ben

and um also he's got no friends getting married so i'm safe but um so i say that but like i'm saying that from a perspective where i also feel the same way but i do find it a bit weird that i feel like they're different because they're not because it takes it from being i don't want to say a special occasion but a one-off special occasion to being a really normal okay thing that you're allowed to go out and see naked women every weekend and he's not doing every weekend she said he's done it three times in their time together that he has said which is questionable the other part that I want to say here is and I want to be careful with how I say it but I'm just going to like verbal vomit the dialogue out we'll cancel you no it's like I understand

that we should be saying as a man you know that your partner at home is not going to be comfortable with that you should be big enough and bold enough to be like I'm gonna leave I'm not okay with it But I also understand when you are the, it's not five men with wives and kids at home, right? It's five single people that technically can do what they want and it's not a problem. If they want to go to a strip club every weekend, they're not hurting anyone's feelings. They're not crossing any boundaries. They've got no one they owe anything to.

They don't have to consider anyone else's emotions. And I imagine when you are a really tight group of friends, five of you are in that situation and you are the only one, it's definitely harder to be like, okay, well, I guess that's me tapping out for the night. Like I understand why maybe three times in the six years he's been like, oh, I'll just go along with it. It's like the boys, we all want to hang out, whatever. Different if it's every weekend.

But I understand it's harder for him to like, and I'm not saying it's okay. Of course he should still man up and be like, no, my wife wouldn't be happy. But I sort of get why he's like, oh, I'll just go along with it. Yeah. Save myself the drama because if she doesn't find out, then I don't have to deal with it. Also, I want to hang out with the friends and that's what they're doing

tonight it's a gross attitude isn't it like it's not good no it's not it's not good but i it's different if there were six men that all had wives and girlfriends at home and they were all doing the wrong thing every weekend but like when six of your friends are it's okay with what they're doing i understand how they're getting swept up in it now that's not making excuses he should have told you about it for sure and now that you've said it's a problem it needs to be a problem you've told him that you don't want him to do well if you have i don't know if you have but But she said, am I overreacting for feeling put off? Another aspect of this that I do find kind of interesting is that it appears, like the

way I've interpreted this, and sorry if this isn't correct, it appears as though they are going to one of the guy's houses and they're inviting or hiring these people in. Well, she said here that him and his mates sometimes order topless waiters during the Saturday night drinks. Yeah, I don't think, I mean, maybe. I don't think they're ordering to the house. I think they're just going to somewhere where you can get a booth or something and you're waitress that's how I imagined it like they've got a booth and your waitress is topless there

was something where I grew up I grew up in Newcastle and it was called tits on toast and I think it was like a brunch vibe where the waitresses were topless tits and tater tot I just wonder if there's an element of because it's in a home that it makes you feel more uncomfortable because again I don't know why but for some reason it adds a layer to it well it does it's it's different if you're going out and you're in a booth and your waitress that brings you the drink is topless. And I don't, again, it's for me so different if you're just going to someone's house. You know why? Because it creates opportunity and it's a different level of ick when you've gone onto a website to book them and deliver them to your house. It's just different layers for me.

And again, some people are going to be okay with different levels, but if I always try and relate to how I would feel, right? And I think that's what everyone needs to do in this situation. If Ben went out with five of his single friends and they were in a booth, a private booth that they paid for and the girl that was bringing them drinks had her top off I'd be like not ideal Ben but like whatever it was one night cool if Ben then told me that hey we're going to my mate's house and we got topless waitresses coming over I'd be like what the fuck like it just I'm like no you're not like it's just different yeah I don't know if I'd have a huge reaction to it I think what I would have a reaction to here is the fact that you didn't know you know and you've kind

of just found out because he was acting a bit sheepish and he was acting like he did something kind of wrong. That to me is the part that would be making me feel the most uncomfortable. So look, I don't know how you're going to want to approach this in the future. Maybe it's the case where you can just say, Hey, I don't so much have a problem with the fact that this is happening. I just have a problem with the fact that you hid it from me. So if you could just tell me if that's going to be the case in the future, I'm going to feel a lot better about it. And I also find it kind of strange that you order them to a house, but like you do you, you know, I went to a hen's party two weeks ago and there was a stripper there and I didn't really bat an eyelid at it

because it was just that's what she might have wanted for her hands that's what they booked for it wasn't a big deal I'm trying to think of if I went to a friend's house imagine if I had a dinner and there's a dick there I was like hey I've got someone serving us canapes with his dick out like I would find that really fucking strange then it would be like excuse I'd probably leave I would actually I think I would be like I'm okay being the one in the group that finds this very odd you had a frankfurt serving frankfurt you're not saying you're okay with it you're actually saying like you obviously have a feeling you've been put off am i overreacting there is no such thing as overreacting if it's something that you feel like your feelings to this are going to be

very different to your friends feelings to our feelings it's whatever you feel if it's not okay in your relationship then it's not overreacting just to validate you no i don't think it's normal for groups of friends to be going out just for fun constantly and getting topless waitresses. In my life and in my friendship circle, it's definitely not normal. If you're okay with it, cool. If you're not, you're not overreacting. You can tell him straight up. You don't want him doing it anymore. And then you're going to have bigger issues down the track. If you find out that now you've had the conversation, you've made your boundaries clear and he's still doing it, then that's when the issues are going to really arise. I agree. All right. Second question.

my father-in-law is a pig but also helps me out. Am I justified in being frustrated with my father-in-law or is this the price that I have to pay for a reliable pet sitter? Oh, this is interesting between us, Britt. What are you saying? I'm a pig? No, I'm saying that I'm your pet sitter. For context, my partner and I have been together for 10 years and we're in our late 20s. His father is much older, his age in his 70s, and he will pet sit for two to three weeks when we go overseas for an annual holiday. That's pretty solid. He is always very willing to house sit as he loves the fur babies and he lives by himself in a caravan park so he enjoys the space in the company we of course give him a bit of cash usually about 50 to 100 bucks to use

towards takeout now here is my dilemma every time we return home from a holiday i'm extremely frustrated with the lack of cleaning and things i find around the house that give me the ick certain things are probably outside my father-in-law's control like his dandruff skin flakes all over the couch however there are a few things that have frustrated me and i can't tell if i'm being unreasonable. Now she's gone on to list quite a few examples. Examples include tobacco flakes spilt on the floor and the kitchen bench, food spillage on the kitchen floor and down the cupboards, putting greasy, dirty Tupperware away because he refuses to use the dishwasher, draping his wet bath towel on the bed instead of the one to three towel racks in the bathroom.

And there is also a main frustration. My father-in-law has a stoma bag, which of course I am not judging him for, but he obviously has to empty it. However, on multiple occasions, we've come home to find a little bit of shit splattered on the toilet seat or even dripping down the bowl and onto the floor oh like the outside of the bowl yeah my partner will always clean up the toilet because it grosses me out and i also don't think it's my partner's responsibility to clean up after his dad when he is still mobile and capable i have tried to say things as they arise for example asking my father-in-law not to smoke directly next to the clean laundry outside and not to shit on the floor. However, I don't feel like I should have to say this to a grown

man. I am trying to see the other side of it, including the fact that he lives alone. So maybe my father-in-law doesn't realize how messy he can be. However, I am quite mortified. My partner is not confrontational. He doesn't want to embarrass his father, but I think his father is a grown man and he should have more respect for our home and cleaning up after himself, even if he is doing us a favor by looking after the pets. So should my partner and I say something to him or do I just suck it up, bite my tongue and clean up when we return home from a trip? No. I want to say he's doing you a solid. Like he's staying at your house for two to three weeks. It's a long time. He's really helping you out. I think you've got to give him some grace. I think you can,

I mean he probably doesn't even know his dandruff skin is flaking off like that's one thing okay you vacuum the lounge the food on the ground is weird like are we talking like a whole broccoli or we talk about some crumbs I mean they're different I don't know what level and the tobacco flakes again it's not the end of the world you can wipe them up I would be letting those slide but the shit thing is weird the shit's just a bit gross for me part of me wants to say like okay he's elderly he probably doesn't know 70s isn't that old but well it can be you can be an old 70 and you can be a very young 70 my dad's 68 works six days a week does 100 push-ups every morning like there's different levels of 70 but you've said he's self-sufficient anyway he lives

alone and I have to be thinking like he has to not know the shits on the toilet because who is believing that like some people don't care on the outside of the toilet on the floor if you're happy with shit on your floor there's something's not right so I'm either saying he doesn't know it's splashed down maybe or otherwise yeah he's really gross and you need to say something and if he was if you were saying he was like an elderly elderly 70 and he can't look after himself he doesn't know I'd be like don't embarrass him like you know that's unfortunate but the only thing that I would be trying to bring up I would probably try and bring up the poo a little bit but I would probably try and say it like it's up to probably your partner because it's his dad

and I think it'd be like hey dad you probably didn't know you might just have to be a bit careful when you're emptying your stoma like we there was quite a bit of poo like it's cool like but it was like I don't know if you knew it was like down the outside on the floor and stuff and like just something to be aware of I think that's all it has to be is like you didn't know I'm not blaming you something to be aware of but I think the rest of it like the dandruff and stuff you're not going to go tell him to clean up his dander if that's part of just him living in your house sorry i kind of feel as though you can't say anything i think looking after pets for two to three weeks as someone who frequently looks after pets for two to three weeks

if i was staying in your apartment and you came back and you roused on me keish if you were shitting on my floor i would say something sorry if i had a stoma bag i'd be like get over it like sometimes I would be over it but there's dog sitting and I'm not cleaning up if you shit on my floor you don't get to say hey I'm mine I was mining Delilah we'll deal with it like you shit on my floor I've cleaned up her shit and I've cleaned up your dog shit on my floor but there's my point being is that that's a pretty long time to be doing a favor for someone totally I would feel as though you were being so ungrateful to me if you came back from a trip and I was living at your apartment and you were like hey by the way you actually put the greasy Tupperware back in

the cupboard I'd be like shut the fuck up like I actually looked after your dog for 21 days and 21 nights you can just run that stuff through the dishwasher and I'm not trying to come down on you hard I just obviously have the perspective of someone who would be in your father-in-law's position and so that's kind of why I'm like I get it it would be frustrating I get it when you come home from a holiday the last thing that you want to do is deep clean your own house I totally get that but if you want to kind of utilize the fact that he's looking after your pets for three weeks sometimes you've just got to let that stuff go if you're able to maybe a solution could be that you book a cleaner for the last day that he's there yeah that's a good idea you come home to a clean

house I know that again that's a financial outlay I don't know what your situation is but I just don't think that you can I don't think when someone's doing a favor like that for you which is a pretty big favor you can impose your standard of cleanliness onto them yeah I agree like his general level of living is something that you need to accept because he's done you a solid because if you booked that dog into three weeks of care that is so expensive yeah and also you don't know who's looking after your dog you don't know the safety anxiety the dog's out of home like you also might not feel safe having some stranger in your house house sitting as well yeah and also the poo thing I wouldn't go and say something now I would wait to see if it's a common

occurrence if it's like because it might have been an act splashback accident once off if there's constantly poo on your floor then I think you can bring it up I think that's genuinely okay because it's just unhygienic at the end of the day yeah and you don't need to embarrass him but I think that's okay I don't think that's something you need to accept because he's dog sitting it's just not clean like you can't have people shitting on your floor how long is it there for was the shit there for three weeks I don't know so I think that that's okay to bring up down the track I also want to interrupt and say he's not shitting on the floor there was emptying a bag yes I know I'm being dramatic but squatting down I know I'm being silly he's not taking a dump on the ground but

also it's enough that it's she literally said it's dripping down the outside of the bowl to the floor so there's it's not a little one speck and I don't think he's done it intentionally no one's doing that but I think it could be something that you bring up if I was accidentally pooing and it was splashing onto the floor at someone's house and I didn't know I would want them to tell me so I make because you'd be mortified yeah you'd want to make sure it never happens again so anyway there's too much poo splashback we're talking about for now you gotta fucking leave it he's doing you a solid yeah and maybe like I said maybe the solution could be that you book a cleaner for the last day yeah before you guys get home from holidays I get it I get when you get home from holidays and you

got to do all your washing and you're like oh I've got the post-holiday blues I've got to go back to work tomorrow like that is not a feeling that you want to have but think of it you saved money dog sitting yeah this question I found really interesting is everyone a little unhappy in love oh hey guys I really want to know is everybody struggling just a little bit in their relationships or is it just me life is I need help I love my partner we have been together for five years and he is exactly what I was looking for in so many ways. He's thoughtful, emotionally available, loyal, affectionate, hardworking, funny, and just generally a really good partner. And although most of the time I do feel like he is my penguin, there are also times where I

completely question it all, lately a lot more than usual. I sometimes feel he's a bit immature with his favorite activities still being getting drunk on weekends, going out with his friends and the boys. He's not very present. He's completely hooked on his phone. He's very snappy and impatient. And sometimes these traits really make me question it. Do we want the same things? I rarely drink. I don't like to go out and party much. Do I want kids with someone who is so snappy and impatient? These are all the questions I've been asking myself recently. Anyways, I'm worried I'm just striving for perfection and maybe that doesn't exist, that I'll always feel like the grass is greener and I need to stop being so critical. So my question is, are most couples

just slightly unhappy? Do we all question our relationships from time to time and just not talk about it with each other? I feel like most couples I know are all struggling with something, but I'm not sure if that's just normal and how it is, or if it's just my inner circle. I think this is a really great question. I do too. And I want to validate you in the sense that I think that the majority of people, myself included, have had questions about this. and probably will have more questions about this in the future. It's something I've really struggled with myself to be like, fuck, is it normal to feel like this? Is it normal to question things? If you're questioning things, does that mean that it's not the right person? Does that

mean that I need to make some very big changes? You know, and there's a lot of anxiety that comes along with kind of facing that question as well. And I have wondered whether everybody does feel like that. And I'm starting to realize that the majority of people do. Look, I don't actually know if this is, it's an ADHD thing, whether it's a mental health in general thing, or if it's something that quite literally everyone experiences, but maybe I've got a little bit more hyper awareness to it because I've been in therapy and I've kind of been diagnosed and gone down those paths. I have had to learn that happiness is not a great or reliable indicator for me of whether something in my life is good or whether my relationship is good because my happiness can

quite literally be changed by a pill. And that's something that is really hard to grapple with when you're someone who maybe experiences depression, anxiety, all of those kinds of things, because you can be feeling really, really unhappy in a situation. And it's not necessarily because of your partner or because of your job, because of your friendships. It can unfortunately just be the way that that's how your brain chemistry is. And so for me, happiness is a really fleeting feeling. And I've really worked on in the past couple of years, trying to not let my kind of like radar of happiness be something that points me in a certain direction. I look for other things, do I feel calm? Do I feel safe? Do I feel supported? Do I feel as though we are in line

for different aspects of what we want out of life. And I think reading your question, that's probably where you're starting to have a lot of question marks. I'm hesitant to answer this in a way because happiness is subjective. Perfection is subjective. Relationships are subjective. I am tempted to rephrase the way you've asked this. Is everyone a little unhappy in a relationship? I would change this to, is any relationship perfect? because the answer is no. No relationship, and I do not care if they tell you that it is, they're lying. No relationship ever does not have its issue, does not have compromise. You know, one person's growing in one direction and you have to come back and work and meet in the middle.

Like there is just no such thing. And if they say that they are, you are one in a million because two humans are never going to be perfectly aligned and matched at all times of their life. Maybe you are when you meet, but that's always going to change. Relationships take work. It's a job. My parents, we were just saying, my parents this week celebrated their 47th wedding anniversary. 47 years they've been married. So they've been together for 50 years. They are amazing. Like they're so happy still and they've grown together, but it has taken so much work and compromise along the way. I think here it's really important. You've been together five years. It's normal to have a feeling of, okay, is this forever? I am assuming there's

a lot of monotony that's come into your relationship. Five years is a long time. You've said he's amazing in so many ways. You think he's your penguin. He's hardworking. He's loyal, affectionate, emotionally available, funny, and generally a good partner. They are all pretty amazing things. And you've said you're still in love with him. The issues are he is drinking a lot with his friends on the weekends. So you haven't said all week. You just said, you know, on the weekends, he's a bit immature and he's very snappy, impatient and hooked to his phone. Now I would go so far as to say that they are all connected. I think a lot of the snappiness and being impatient, I think would be connected to being hung over. The anxiety that comes with

hangover, drinking, the dopamine down. I think all of those are connected. We also live in a society where we live on our phone, right? It's very easy to get sucked into that. Everyone is guilty of it. Can you sit down and just tell him how much it bothers you when he's not giving you the attention? And maybe you set some boundaries around, hey, when we have dinner at night, our phones aren't here. Or that hour after work, we're not going to look at our phones and we're just going to talk to each other or we're going to go for a walk or a lot of people implement those I've had to sort of try and implement that with Ben we are both guilty but me probably more so because my whole life is on my phone like everything I do for work is on my phone but even

Ben the other day you know I had to say hey let's put our phones down because we were just chatting and I saw him pick up his phone and I could see his finger scrolling so I knew it was just scrolling I knew he wasn't doing anything and he didn't even, he goes, sorry, I didn't even know I did that. But that's the attention deficit society that we live in now. He sounds like a really great guy. And the problems that you have in your relationship, a hundred percent feel like they can be fixed with a conversation. They're not huge things. People are going to want to go out and have fun with their friends. Like that's okay. It depends what his behavior is like when he's doing it. Is he not prioritizing you ever and prioritizing them? There's a lot of things

that come with it. And I don't want to say, you know, going out drinking is fine. If you're not fine with it every weekend, it's not okay. But we do have to be really careful with falling into this trap of the grass is always greener because it's definitely not. The grass is greener where you water it. And I think we can be very lucky if you have found somebody that fills your cup in so many ways and ticks so many boxes. I think it would be remiss of us to say, well, do you know what like you're fucking on your phone too much I'm out of here on the other hand the antithesis of that is like it's not normal to always be unhappy as well like you can also have somebody that ticks every box and you're not happy in that relationship so you only you can decide

what parts of that relationship are teetering over to not being okay with you long term like when you want to have kids do you ever think he's going to give up drinking is that going to be the issue for you do you not feel connected at all ever like is he never giving you attention does he not make eye contact when he's talking? Does he not ask you how your day is? You know, is he more interested in scrolling Instagram? Of course, they're long-term issues, but no one should be always unhappy in a relationship. And I don't believe it's something that you have to accept, but relationships aren't perfect either. And it's a tricky balancing act. Yeah, look, I kind of, I really actually do appreciate that you've written this question

in because I think that we overall have a little bit of fake expectations of how frequently you're supposed to feel happy in a relationship I think it is so normal to wonder whether the grass might be greener I also think it's so normal to look back on previous experiences with rose-colored glasses and think oh but this person didn't do that or maybe maybe my life might be better in in this aspect if I was with this other person or if you know I actually think that that's a pretty common experience yeah but I think it's a common experience to feel very rarely you shouldn't be feeling that every week of your relationship definitely not and I reckon if we kind of look for a percentage mine I would kind of say do I feel happy 80% of the time do I feel content in

my relationship like it's a good relationship obviously there are going to be exceptions to this but it's just something that I've had to learn that that is how my brain is and I don't have this brain where I can feel immense amounts of dopamine and happiness all the time and la la la we're off in fairyland even though I've got a really good relationship and I know that it's a really good relationship it's sometimes just how I feel about certain things in life and and in the past I probably would have blown shit up to be like not I want the thrills I want the buzz I want to feel happy all of the time if I don't feel all happy all of the time that's an indicator that we're not meant to be together. I don't think the feeling of the grass is always

greener should be a common occurrence in your relationship. I absolutely don't. I think if you are consistently wondering if there is something better out there, then you need to take a deeper look at your relationship. Of course, it is something that is going to cross your mind at some point, but that shouldn't be something that filters into your life consistently. I truly believe that. That's not saying you can't have moments where you're unhappy because it's normal to be unhappy with your partner's behavior or where you're at or feeling stuck in life or wishing you were traveling more or financially we're not hitting our goals like you are always going to have these struggles and feelings in a relationship but it's not normal to always wonder

what it's like to be with someone else maybe grass is greener isn't about someone else though maybe grass is greener could be like if i was alone or if i totally know and there are going to be certain parts of single life that you miss in a relationship i think that's perfectly normal I don't know if this is a normal feeling but I've heard a lot of people say it I've read it a lot and I have felt it before life is easier on my own and a lot of people say that because logistically speaking you're worrying about one person and I say that from a relationship that's I don't have kids I don't have anything else to worry about like as two people my life was way easier before I met Ben because I'm I'm not having to deal with someone on the

other side of the world I'm not having to work so hard to meet in the middle and make someone else happy and make some like I just woke up in the day I thought about myself and that was it like you have to work and I think sometimes we romanticize relationships too much and we don't realize how much work they can take now work shouldn't be a struggle it should just work I think there are some words that fall under work in the subcategories which are things like compromise and communication and things like that work is not accepting things in your relationship that you never would have accepted you know and I say that you guys yeah I'm definitely not encouraging people to lower their standards exactly behavior that you shouldn't but like

statistically the happiest and most successful people are married men second to that single women yes exactly my point exactly you know what I mean so I think there is a lot and it even sounds like in your relationship it sounds as though to me you're taking on a little bit more of the emotional load and it sounds as though you could potentially be entering a different stage to what your partner is at. So for me, those are the questions that you need to kind of nut out and maybe just give yourself a little bit of grace. I think give yourself a bit of grace of the fact that it is normal to have these questions. It is normal to not feel happy all of the time. And that's not necessarily an indicator that you need to end your relationship.

Yeah. And also like, I wonder how old you guys are. You've been together five years, you know, is five years from when you were 16 or was five years from when you're 30? Like, are you in your early twenties or early thirties? And I say that because if you're saying he's going out a lot with his friends and drinking, that's, you know, that checks out for someone in their early twenties, you know, that's the phase that they want to be at, which is okay. It's, there's no judgment anyway. I have ended relationships in the past because we haven't aligned on drinking and partying because they wanted to go out every weekend and I barely drunk. So for me, I was like, I'm not vibing it. We don't have any connection. I want to be doing

different things on the weekend. So it was a deal breaker for me. But if you're getting your cup filled in other ways in the relationship, fine. But this I think is an easy fix. The things that you're worried about, speak to him about. Maybe he needs to break up the every weekend drinking and you say, Hey, I want date weekends every second weekend. If you're happy with that. And I need from when you get home from work until we have dinner, I want to be talking to you with no phones. Maybe that's going to fix everything. And if it doesn't, and he's like, couldn't care less about you and he's more interested in the girls on Instagram, then that's something that you need to take into account. I've said it every episode that we've ever done. It's somebody's

reaction to a conversation that means the most. So it's not necessarily what they've done before because that's done. You cannot change it. It's somebody's reaction when you tell them what is upsetting you and what you want, that is going to be the be all and end all of your future decisions. All right. Last question. My husband wants to wet the baby's head and I think it's unfair and just a piss up. I want to know your lady's thoughts on a wet the head. For context, my husband and I are expecting a baby in April next year. We aren't the first in our friendship group to have a baby. So therefore my husband has been to a few wet the head celebrations before. Here's the kicker. It always turns into a huge piss up. I'm talking bulk beers and hours at the

pub while the new mother is home alone in the absolute trenches of having a newborn baby and navigating postpartum hormones. My husband was talking about his wet the head a few days ago when I mentioned that I wasn't keen on the idea. He was quite upset by this when I stated that I don't understand why men would get a celebration after childbirth when respectfully they've done, just put this in stars, nothing. I understand their excitement around having a newborn baby

and them having a proud dad moment, but wouldn't it be better received if they were at home being a supportive father and husband? what are your thoughts? I think it's just a piss take I do not think the man needs to go and wet a baby's head in terms of goes and needs to get pissed with his friends at the pub that's what it is right a modern day wedding of the head men go to the pub and they get drunk but interestingly I googled the origin of wedding the baby's head and that's not what it always was so it's an Irish and British phrase referring to the tradition of a new father celebrating the birth of a child by

having a drink, typically alcohol with friends. But this custom stems from an old Irish tradition where a father's wedding cake soaked in whiskey would be sprinkled over the baby's head at a christening. So it was always like a group event. It wasn't that the men went away. The men sprinkled this alcohol cake over the baby's head. The rest of the cake was then eaten by the adults. But somehow along the way, it has transitioned to the women are at home. It's not a christening and it's just like a piss up I understand like men should be able to celebrate it's exciting for them as well like they've had a baby it's a new addition but I just think no pun intended I think we're taking the piss with it there is no reason that the men can't go and meet up for an hour

an hour not come home drunk go and celebrate if it wants to be drinking whatever but I just think it's an excuse now and I think the timing is terrible like the timing of waiting until your partner has gone through the most traumatic thing her body and mind can ever go through than saying, fucking see you later. I'm going to go get wasted, then be useless for the next two days because I'm so hungover in order to celebrate the birth of my baby. I think it's rubbish. I just do. I think that you should be at home looking after your partner. Of course, you're not going to stop going and seeing your friends. I just think our society and generation has taken it too far. I agree with most of what you've said. The only semi-controversial thing

that I have to say about this is that I think as a culture we are really good at bringing women together to celebrate a baby and we are really not good at bringing men together to celebrate a baby. They all wet their head they all get together. Yes so my point being I think that these types of celebrations I actually think that it's really important that we kind of put more attention on the fact that men are also going through this transitional stage of their lives and that, you know, having connection with their friends and having that kind of men's group attitude and having people that they can also turn to to talk

about the different parts of becoming a father that, you know, are going to be specific to dads, I actually think we could really benefit from having more strength in that. It's the timing of the wetting of the baby's head or wet the bed, wet the, not wet the head, wet the baby's head that I have a problem with. I would much, much, much prefer that these celebrations take place before the baby's born like we have baby showers and that kind of thing why is there no men's

equivalent why can't we like you know why can't we actually put a bit of a spotlight on this and acknowledge the fact that yes they're not going through a physical transition but they're going through a huge life transition arguably the biggest they will ever go through and they might want to have a little bit of a connection with their friends but this is the thing right i am all for a father's group go for it you need to have people that you can connect with and bond with and go through it that's not what this is they go and get blind at a pub and exactly what you just said quiche yeah women get to do it but guess what they do it before so if the guy wants to go meet up with his friends and buy each other baby's gifts and talk about it fine but i just have

a problem with leaving your partner at home when they've gone through such a traumatic event so that you can get pissed i think it's an excuse i do you do you just don't need it like you don't need to celebrate if that's how you think you need to celebrate the birth of your child fine I personally have issues with it I just think go out before the baby's born and be there for your partner that's maybe five years ago I would have felt differently and I would probably feel differently if it wasn't so centered around alcohol because it doesn't just take you out for that time that you're out for you know the actual drinks it's also that how you're going to feel after whether you're going to be able to show up as a good father not just for the baby but for

your partner as well. And, and I know that we have all of these contradictions and some of them are physical. Cause if you are breastfeeding, you know, you can't have alcohol in your system and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Maybe I would feel differently if the partner was like, we're going to go and play around a golf. We're going to go for a special surf to go and celebrate, you know, like I really do think that we need to have some shift in the way that we speak about fatherhood and the way that we support dads in that phase, because, and rightfully so a lot of the attention is put onto the women because we experience, you know, the physicalness of that transition, I think we could really benefit

from having more attention put on the fact that it's a big transition for men as well. But why can't they just go and have breakfast and actually go and catch up? And I know, I know there's going to be so many women who are like, shut the fuck up. You don't know what it feels like. No, but I'm also one of them, Keish.

I think we're giving too much fucking leeway to men right now. Like, do you? Yes, your wife has run a marathon every single day of the pregnancy. That's the same energy. it's a marathon every day. That's the energy you've burnt. She's just had a vagina and cervix ripped open. Her hormones are never the same. Her whole life has been turned upside down. She's keeping this thing alive. She's in pain. She's not healed. She's got stitches. She's been cauterized. She's got something attached to her for the rest of her life. And you feel like you're

the man that's like, I'm struggling with this. I need to go get pissed for the fucking afternoon with my friends. No, I'm not giving that leeway. And people might think it's too much. I'm not saying don't celebrate but this all stems back from a time where and I know this might be looking too much into it women had no rights women were there to serve a man those times have changed that's when that used to be like it used to be like oh this is too much for me as a man like you're the housekeeper you're the mom like I get to do what I want those days are long gone like you do not need to go and get pissed at the worst time of your partner's life completely agree with the pissed part but I genuinely I know I feel this is probably I'm probably in the minority here

I really genuinely do think we need to have more conversations about supporting men through this transition as well but I said have a father's group have it don't fucking get pissed on the day your wife is having a baby like nothing anyone's gonna say is gonna make me feel differently but I I super encourage father's group I agree with everything you've said it's a huge life change for them but it doesn't need to be stemmed in what it used to be like in the history of wetting the baby's head. I actually think we're agreeing more than what maybe it might seem. I genuinely think that if he wants to go out and get drunk,

do it before you have the baby. Not so close that you could go into labour, but before you have the baby. Yeah, I don't know. I'm just not about it. It's got to be at least a month out. I'm not about it, yeah. Well, that's it.

Britt's looking at me shaking her head going, some of the shit you come out with, mate. Just pull your head. Not you, man. Just pull your head in and be there for your partner. It's like not fucking rocket science, is it? Put the wet baby's head in. Cool, yeah.

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