Life Uncut - Ask Uncut - Britt has a HUGE SURPRISE 💍 💍 💍

Episode Date: June 12, 2024

OUR BRITTY IS ENGAGED!!!!!  Today's recording included a HUGE surprise for Laura and Keeshia and we're all crying so you're welcome to too.First up, Laura wants to help her friend know how to avoid catching the feels for her 'friends with benefits' pal. Vibes for the week: Britt - Netflix "Geek Girl"Keeshia - Unsubscribing from The Kardashians. Vibing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck podcast The Harsh Truth About Self Discipline ft Rich RollLaura - Tony's Chocolonely Caramel Sea Salt Milk Chocolate Block Then we get into your questions and one little surprise: I WANT TO KEEP THEIR DOG My friends have a 2.5yr old toddler and a newborn. To help them out, I agreed to look after their puppy for 18 months as they raise their kids as the puppy can be a bit much. I’m currently two months in and realising I did not think this through. The thought of giving him back in a year is really upsetting. The timing of me taking on their dog has come after A) the death of our family dog, and B) I am healing from a toxic relationship so I really needed a little buddy to latch onto and that has been my friend's dog. I also feel like I’m a better home for him as he has my full attention and has made so many friends at my local beach/dog park. The husband is keen on me having him, but the wife is on a very different page and wants the dog back in a year. I genuinely will be heartbroken if I have to give this dog back. How should I approach this with them to convince them that I should keep their dog? PORN SHOWER My husband was in the shower and I needed a lil wee so I went in to do that. As I was on the loo I was perving on him in the shower… he looked good, a potential semi, so I decided to strip off and jump in. We had sex in the shower. When we finished I turned to get out and something dropped on the floor. It was his phone. It had been propped up in the shower. So essentially when I had come in to use the bathroom he was watching porn on his phone in the shower and about to have a wank. He was interrupted. I felt weird, like a bit used, as in he was semi hard from watching someone else and then I finished the job. Should I feel weird about this? And then Britt's own question! You can watch us on Youtube Find us on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura. I'm Brittany. And this is Ask Uncut, where we answer your deep, your dark, and your burning questions, but usually talk about a whole lot of shit at the start. I love this episode. Speaking of shit, sorry. Oh yeah, no, perfect segue. Laura's been shitting herself for days. What a segue. Sorry, talk to us about it. No, I, okay, I thought I had gastro and then it went in circles and I think I just had a viral bug because after it all stopped, I came out in a rash.

There's nothing like having gastro and then coming out in a rash to really humble you. Yeah, I don't know if you listened to the episode that Keisha and I did while you were away, but we did talk in depth about your. Did you? Because I haven't listened yet, but guys, I am going to. Into how much depth did you go? No, we just said you're unwell and pooping.

And then I did say that I confirmed you were unwell because you sent me photo that well you've definitely looked better brit said that you had sent her a photo and she's like here i'll show you and i was like i don't fucking need to see that and she was like it's not a photo of the toilet or of anything like that it's a photo of laura and i was like yeah okay they're two very different i wasn't just head to toe rolling around in my own gastro no because i could see how it was taken the wrong way because we were talking about how i was like oh she's proper unwell like her poops are proper unwell actually i was like she sent me a photo and And Keisha's like, well, I don't need a stool photo.

To be fair, though, I was so nauseous. I was very sick on Monday. It kind of hit me on Sunday night, Sunday at like 7 p.m., and then it just continued. And then Monday morning came around and we were supposed to come in and record for, was it a public holiday? It's the King's birthday. Yeah, I wasn't sure if it was the King's birth. I can't keep up.

People couldn't believe that we had forgotten that there was a long weekend. And I was like, oh, if you don't believe for us to not realize it's a public holiday coming up ahead of time, I feel as though maybe you don't know us as well as what I thought you did. I think it's different when you run your own business because public holidays, weekends, they don't mean anything to you. And Keisha's like, they mean something to me. To Laura and I, public holidays don't exist.

What are they again? Keisha's like, what about me, you fox? Christmas? You will work award wage on Christmas Day. Hey, I have a question. Okay, this is something that I do want your thoughts, advice, feelings on. so on the weekend I was talking to a girlfriend she's in the throes of dating right and she's just come out of a long-term relationship and well not just come out but she's been out for

about six months and she's now like back into the dating game and she started seeing this guy and he's definitely not right for her but she is quite happy having the physical side of a connection and a relationship again and she asked the question because she's like oh I can see myself starting to get feelings for this guy, even though I know he is not the person that I want to be in a relationship with. She's like, it's just, you know, we're doing the hangs and the hangs and the hanky panky. I got that really mixed up my mouth. We're doing the hangs and bangs and it's turning into me catching feels. So the question is, how do you have a friends with benefits relationship without catching feelings at all? I mean, I think we've spoken about this in different

capacities so many times, but I think you just have to set the boundaries with each other and with yourself straight up like if you want to friends with benefits and just a bang well then you can't lame bed stroking their face after and like giving them little hair massages and like little sweet nothings in the ear you can't do the extra like romantic stuff you just gotta fuck and fuck off it's the f and f this is the thing right because i remember back in the day i used to always catch the feel so i'm like do as i say don't do as i do because i would date them but be like oh this is just casual but we would go out for dinner we would wine and dine I'd like sleep over their house for the night we were literally acting like we were boyfriend and girlfriend but

then trying to convince each other that this was just hangs and bags it was for them and for me like I'd get six months into it and be like what's what's happening why don't you why don't you love me yet why do I love you so much why aren't we getting married I don't understand why we're not committed it's because you're doing relationship things when it's been clear like even if you say to yourself humans are not smart enough to differentiate so even if you say to yourself this is not going anywhere this is just sex if every other aspect of your life is leading towards a relationship so if you're actually doing relationship things and going to dinners and hanging with friends and going to the beach and swimming together and doing all this extra stuff

that you'd be doing when you're dating you are going to catch feelings whether you like it or not yeah you're also doing things that are like core memory stuff you're like spending like beautiful time and creating memories Keisha's like I don't catch feelings I'm laughing because I am walking into this conversation I was like oh it's just personality dependent like it just depends on the type of person you are because I cannot tell you how opposite I feel I feel as though more often than not when I've slept with someone I get that like post-nut clarity and I'm just like oh now I've got the ick for you I think I mean I've done that too but I think and I don't want to out you here Keisha but we've been besties for a long time and I can recall so many times

that you've started hooking up with someone casually and caught feelings definitely like there would be people that I've caught feelings for because I like thought that you know it could progress into something absolutely but we would also be going on dates and that kind of thing however there would be the opposite of that too where maybe I'd been on some dates with someone or we were hanging out in like a friendship group and then we'd slept together and I'd be like oh no this is not it yeah like it's not it and for me if someone fucked and then fucked off like you said I would find that really offensive I'd be like that's disrespectful what are you doing I think that there's a fine line right because obviously if you're going to have an

ongoing there's a difference between one night stand which if you get the ick after having sex with someone once you're not going to go back and have like a friends with benefit relationship because you don't want to have sex with someone and then feel repulsed afterwards that's a terrible feeling but if you're having like a casual relationship with them there is a fine line between at the end of it when you're finished navigating that in a respectful way right like what's the appropriate amount of time that you need to spend with them to do the aftercare of the sex so that you're not just being like cool thanks for that you're like wiping yourself off with the towel as you're walking out the door the detail no but you don't have to spend the night

and you want yourself off with a sock and he's like I need that I need to leave but you don't have to have a sleepover is what I'm saying you don't have to cuddle for hours like the cuddling for hours is where the relationship starts to form it's where when you're laying there and you're all cocooned after like having a great orgasm and then you're like oh my god maybe I really like this guy who has just a pile of clothes on the floor that we're sleeping on and just I do want to clarify no sheets on his mattress I don't want to swear anymore because I've been swearing a lot but like when I say the F and F off I don't literally mean like you've just pulled out and leave like do a runner out the door with like a semi-hard on still

it's just I just more mean like call a spade a spade like it is what it is so obviously you always are going to stay and be respectful not everyone will do that but that's what I mean by like let's just do what we're here to do you be respectful maybe you want to have dinner whatever but you don't further it with the cuddles and the sleepovers and making getting coffees in the morning and like the no hand holding the no kisses in public like the things as well that are just but people doing that with their friends with benefits me what okay here's a story so when i met ben like that beautiful weekend a couple years ago right 12 months 18 months i'm joking when i met ben this uh wonderful weekend a couple of years ago when i met ben a couple

it was a couple of years ago no but it was because we're in 2024 anyway when I met Ben calendar years financial years when I met Ben on that glorious weekend it was you guys have been following along you remember it was supposed to be a one-night stand like I was supposed to be getting back on the horse I was going to ride that into the sunset then he was going to leave we ended up seeing each other for a couple of days I remember him and I appreciated at the time very clearly laying out the rules, but it was not rules. It was like, I just want you to know that I'm getting into this for nothing but sex. Basically. He's like, I'm only here for a few days. I just want you to know, I'm not looking for anything. This is going to be what it's going

to be. And if you're not okay with that, that is super cool. And I was like, yeah, I want the same thing. And I really appreciated that there's not going to be any lines that are crossed. Then he like doubled down. And the whole time he was like, I don't do PDA. Like I don't want to, you know, I don't want to cuddle after. I don't want to. And it wasn't in a nasty way. He just knew that if he did he might catch feelings and I know that in hindsight and he says to this day we spent three days together and then he left and he says he knows the moment that we were going to be together and that he was in trouble was because we had had sex in the day and we left to go across the road to get a coffee and banana bread and as we were crossing the road we reached out because

there was really busy traffic and we grabbed each other's hand just to like run across the road and he's like as soon as we held hands in public in public he goes I was fucked I was like this is it and that's because he's like this is why I set the boundaries not to have those like romantic moments yeah got you yeah I think this is the problem and I spent so much of my 20s thinking that I'd be the one who changed their mind you know like it would be the player who you know had so many girls on the go and they were always non-committal and like you had that idea in your mind that you were going to be the exception and i think a lot of people whether they're cognizant of it or not i think a lot of them hope that that is going to be the case that

they're going to be the one who changes and brit that is the situation for you because like ben was like i don't want to commit to this and then yeah you're like i'm gonna change your mind maybe it comes down to picking the person that you are going to be friends with benefits with maybe you've got to pick someone who wouldn't be like top tier date candidate maybe you've got to bring it down a bit so that you're not like, they've got to have flaws, you know, they've got to be like not that attractive to you in a romantic sense. I had this conversation with Matt and Matt was like, cause Matt has said in passing many times that he had many friends with benefits back in the day and managed to not catch feelings. Right. Which he says that his trick was always

to date people who he didn't have like an intellectual or emotional as in, and I don't mean intellectuals in like, they're not smart. Some of them were incredibly smart, but as in he didn't feel like he intellectually clicked with or like had humor with and all those sorts of things he's like we were just like very very fundamentally different but obviously I thought they were hot as hell or whatever so we physically got along but he's like we just didn't vibe so for me the conversation wasn't free-flowing it didn't feel easy but like we didn't have to talk because all the other things were good so that's kind of how he described it but I think for me I was trying to think like functionally how I managed to have like the friends with benefits that didn't turn

into anything romantic. For me, one of them was like, I called him my Wednesday night guy. You guys might remember I've spoken about him for a long time, many years. Wednesday night guy. He was great. He was so beautiful, right? And at the very start I caught feels and that's because we were dating. We met on dating out, we were dating, but then as things kind of progressed, I relegated him to Wednesday nights to keep my weekends free for the person I might actually date. And that's it. Don't have your hangs and bangs on a Saturday night. Get satisfied on a weeknight. Look for your relationship on a weekend that's like a good that's a good solution to the problem it's also like just to delve into that a little bit deeper laura but it's also like if you've been seeing

someone and you're wondering what it is and you're wondering if there's anything more there if they don't want to give you their time on the weekend that is that is the reason that is enough to be like oh i'm a wednesday night girl or i'm a wednesday night guy like people that give up their time on a weekend are invested in you in some capacity yeah i agree anyway good luck for out there dating and trying to not catch feels it's this dangerous space get it get it get it get it it is time for vibes and unsubscribes brit what is your vibe i'm gonna give you the lightest most wholesome little vibe this week it's a netflix show that i've been watching it is trending so you've probably seen it it's in the top 10 it's not what most of you would probably watch you've

probably clicked on it and thought not for me i was hook line and sinker and so obsessed it's called Geek Girl. Have you guys seen it? I haven't seen it. It is such a feel good. I feel like it's probably aimed more at the younger, like maybe early twenties, but it's so good. The storyline is basically surrounding this girl that's a geek, right? At school. She's in the last couple, she's in high school and she gets picked on a lot, like really, really bullied. She's really intelligent. She's beautiful. And it just follows her life being scouted as a model outside of school and her coming to her own on the outside whilst you're being bullied at school and just this full circle moment of like a bit of a really nice kind of like fuck you I'm gonna overcome all

of these obstacles and she had a lot of other things going on in her personal life I loved it I loved every second Ben loved it Ben was watching he goes can we finish the end of Geek Girl so that's my recommendation this week it's super easy you don't need a lot of brain power to watch it it's one of those sort of like the bold type or younger you know those kind of shows that we used all talk about all the time so that's it netflix geek girl can i tell you why i didn't watch it why because i watched the trailer and i was like oh i've just seen it like you know those trailers that give too much away the whole storyline i was like now i don't need to watch the show i know what happened well i didn't watch the trailer i just was like this looks cute and put it on yeah

i haven't unsubscribed this week and i feel as though it could actually be something that maybe a few people were a couple of years ahead of me to unsubscribe from the Kardashians have dropped another season and this is the first year that I have absolutely no interest in watching it you have watched every season not every season I kind of picked it up maybe like five years ago like I would watch an episode here and there and then last year I would watch it but maybe all in one go you know it wouldn't be week by week and I was kind of hanging on by a thread this season I just actually couldn't give a shit anymore you know what do you think has changed you think it's just that it's they're on the way out now do you think that it's your appetite for what you want

to consume has changed like do you think it is a reflection of how most people are feeling what is different I think an oversaturation yeah a bit of all of the above I think also how contrived it is and how we know it's so contrived I know that you know over the past couple of years everyone's like oh it's not real reality tv but it just seemed as though it was becoming this massive advertisement for each of their businesses and it wasn't interesting and it wasn't fun and they didn't really like go into anything that they hadn't already done on I don't know for me it just feels so staged I also think when you have to mine your life for content that furiously but also want to have some privacy at the same time it's the two parallels that can't be achieved and

so I guess it comes to a point where it has to feel contrived because it simply is and I also think that what would be real about their lives now has a lot to do with their children and the children are on the show but without it being exploitative of those kids and of their lives I don't think that you would be able to actually get into the depths of their lives anymore but I also think that the world is caught up and I and what I mean by that is when the Kardashians broke onto our screens there were no other ginormous reality shows where you had such an insight into the other half totally Hollywood how they live now there are so many reality shows there's so many families doing reality shows i do however if you're also unsubscribing from the kardashians

have a really good podcast recommendation it is one that i've recommended before it's the subtle art podcast subtle art not giving a fuck by mark manson they did an episode with rich roll have you guys heard of ritual before he's one of the og podcasters no okay so he was a full alcoholic like an addict he he's very very open about his flaws and his downfalls and he in his forties turned into this ultra endurance athlete. And I know that when you kind of paint that picture, you get an idea of this person who's going to be really preachy and very like, I don't know, a bit cringe. No, for me, it almost makes me think that he's someone who's got like a hyper addictive personality. So he's taken his addiction for alcohol and put it into

being an athlete. So interesting you say that because that is exactly what this episode was about. So it's called The Harsh Truths About Self-Discipline. And Mark opened the episode by saying, hey, question, have you just turned a bad addiction into a healthy one? Is that what we're doing when we create habits? Or are we just trying to numb and distract ourselves from something whenever we make any type of habit, whether it be healthy or unhealthy? And that's kind of the main topic of conversation of the entire podcast. They talk about pain being a catalyst for change, how addiction exists on a spectrum. They go into all different types of addictions, but it's not, it's just so easily consumed. Like saying these topics makes me think

that it would be this quite heavy conversation. It wasn't at all. It was such an enjoyable listen. Rich is such a likable person. And I think it's because he's so open and truthful about his own flaws and he comes to it with like a really non-judgmental attitude i fucking loved this episode i listened to it from woe to go it was like an hour and a half and i just put it on while i was in the shower and i put it on while i was on a walk and i just didn't want it to stop i love that conversation also like circles back to what emily weir spoke about when we talked to her around sobriety and around how she realized that once you're an alcoholic you're always an alcoholic you just transfer addiction into other things um and being cognizant of that is so important

the way she spoke about it if you want to go back and listen to that episode is truly amazing as well it's the subtle art of not giving a fuck podcast harsh truths about self-discipline with rich role you can also watch it on youtube and then you can put life uncut on after you subscribe i have a very dumb recommendation so it's going to keep it brief and tight it is a food it is something that i have become obsessed with and it is called tony's choccoloni and if you have seen it in the shops go and fucking buy it this is not sponsored it is their salted caramel specifically not all of the chocolates are great but the tony's choccoloni salted caramel it is absolutely bloody delicious in our office at tony may

it's like the hit thing at the moment and one of our staff went and bought like 15 blocks of it sitting in the cupboard it's so fucking good so if you want a new addiction that's not alcohol tony's choccoloni get onto it i've literally you showed me the package i've never heard of it or seen it and i don't know how because you know i love a sugar you can get it from woolly's get from everywhere. I'm shocked. But it's, Jono's not on board. He doesn't like it because the squares are super chaotic. They're not like normal squares. It's like a weird, like organic-y looking, whatever. Yeah, where they're not even. Yeah. I don't even know how to describe it. Anyways, if you're someone who likes things to be super symmetrical, the block's going to wig

you out. It is not highbrow, but that's my recommendation. Perfect. Let's get into the questions. All right. Question number one. My friends have a 2.5 year old toddler. 2.5 year question one my friends have a two and a half year old toddler and a newborn to help them out i agreed to look after their puppy for 18 months as they raise their kids the puppy can be a bit much so it made sense i'm currently two months in and realizing i did not think this through the thought of giving him back in a year is really upsetting the timing of me taking on their dog has come after a the death of our family dog and b i'm healing from a toxic relationship so i really needed a little buddy to latch onto and that has come as my friend's dog i also feel like i'm a

better home for him as he has my full attention and has made so many friends at the local beach and dog park the husband is keen on me having him but the wife is on a very different page and wants the dog back in a year i genuinely will be heartbroken if i have to give this dog back how should i approach this with them and convince them that i should keep their dog this is tough this to me and I know that a lot of like animal lovers are going to feel strongly about this it is very hard when you have a newborn to give the same amount of attention to your animals as what you would have given them prior to having children it's hard to give your first child the same amount of attention that you would give your child before having another one

and so I understand a little bit why she felt as though especially with a newborn maybe she was not coping. Is that an excuse? No. And I say this as we had two children really close together and we have a dog who is literally our third child. Or first child. He's my first child. He's my baby, my buster. But I also saw how, and especially during COVID when things were just absolutely fucked in general, I did see how he didn't get as much of my attention as what he got when he was my only child. So part of me is like, I can understand a little bit while this mother has been like, look, can you help me to be able to make sure that my puppy, because puppies take a lot of attention, get as much attention as possible whilst I focus on my

kids. The thing I don't understand by this arrangement is the length of time. 18 months is such a huge amount of time to have somebody else take care of your dog and then expect to have it back. But the reason why I am actually on the dog owner's side is because they have made those parameters. They have explained that and you have accepted it. Even if I think it's weird, even if I don't think that someone should be giving up their dog for 18 months, the fact that the two of you agreed on that situation to start with, and now two months in you're saying, oh, I want to keep this dog. I think that unfortunately it's probably not going to go your way. Now, what I would think is probably the smartest way for you to navigate this,

because it isn't your dog and you don't have microchip ownership of it. You don't have legal ownership of it. You didn't pay for the dog. I'm sure they're still financially contributing to you having the dog at your house. What I think you need to do is if you feel as though you're getting so emotionally invested that you are going to be completely bereft when you have to give this puppy back in 18 months time, I would say you give the puppy back now. I would say, look, I didn't think this through. I didn't realize I was going to get this emotionally attached, but this is not going to be good for my mental health. Well, yeah, because the difference is you're not helping your friends out with their family dog that they've had for five years. This

is a puppy. It's a brand new puppy who is learning everything about life. It's learning who its family is. It's going to need a lot of training, a lot of attention, and it's going to get its own attachment issues to you. So both ways, I think this is a strange setup. And I agree with zebra. So it's strange because as the family that's giving the puppy up for a small amount of time, I understand why for sure. But the dog, because you paid for it, doesn't make it yours in a way where it's like this other person, this other woman is going to be raising it. It's going to be nearly two years old and you haven't even had it. The other family hasn't even had it at all. It's got no attachment to that family. So I don't even think it's fair on the dog to start

with before we even get into humans the dog's not going to know what weighs up secondly I agree with you Laura if you think you're going to get an attachment to this dog which you already have after only like two or three months then I would say I don't think I can take this dog because I already don't want to give it back to you like as a joke you know like I'm already obsessed and thinking of moving away with it anyway like ha ha ha but seriously I don't think I can take this dog because in 18 months like I'm going to have a real attachment to it there is a part of me that and I don't want to say this because there's a high chance it doesn't happen but there's a part of me that thinks like 18 months might come around and they might understand that wow this is actually

your dog and they might start fresh and get their own dog you don't know but you can't bank on that yeah this is such a weird but also I wanted to say like and I'm not on the owner side like I think this whole setup is so fucking weird if you've got a two and a half year old and you've just had a newborn baby why are you getting a puppy like why are you purchasing a puppy for your family or acquiring a puppy for your family and then shipping it off. And when I say I understand that they're not able to take care of it, I do understand because it's such a huge responsibility to have a newborn. It's such a huge responsibility to have a puppy. Put those two things together. It's unmanageable. But the thing is, is why would you make that decision

when you knew you were having a baby or assume you knew you were having a baby? So there is part of me that kind of thinks that that was such stupid management on the dog owner side. The only other thing I do want to say though is like I know that you've had these things happen like you've had the death of your family dog you've also been through a really hard time which is why you're feeling more connected to this puppy and you really really like emotionally need him but that's not their problem you know and I think what you need to do is sit down and explain to them that because of these big things that have happened in your life you're feeling way more connected and you're feeling way more attached than what you thought you were going to be

and I know you say that you've already spoken to the husband the husband's okay with it but the wife has very different plans. I just would be having some very, very honest conversations because it sounds like everyone is on completely different pages. And maybe if you turned around and said, hey, look, if it comes to the 18 month mark, I would want to keep this dog. Maybe the owners would say, okay, well, we'll take it back now then, because they might not realize the severity of this for you. The whole situation is weird. Also, I do want to say, don't get animals that you can't take care of if you're having kids, because it's so unfair on those animals. And just because you have children, your pets shouldn't become like second grade

citizens. And at the end of the day, you're close enough with this woman and this family to take their animal for 18 months. So you're close enough to say, hey, I actually think I made a mistake and I can't do it. You're close enough to have that hard conversation. And you've also, if anything, you've figured out that you are ready for a pet, which is great. Like if it doesn't work out with this dog, you know that you can go and get a dog for yourself that's going to help you get through whatever it is that you're going through because they do like there's a reason we call them emotional support animals because you do get attached to them and they do help you through so many things of life but you've got to do what's right for you because if you know in 18 months

it's going to be so much more detrimental to your mental health at that time bite the bullet now brit i have a question for you what are your thoughts and this is going to irk some people what are your thoughts around people who have dogs or cats or animals in general and then they re-home them once they've had children it makes me really angry and i understand why some people might do it if i know of a friend that did it because they had a cattle dog that had it for a long time so it's not like they got it they already had it then they got a child and the cattle dog they had a child then they got a child they bought that one they got a child no but they had a child and the cattle dog's behavior changed it was too nippy and they had to make a decision

there that broke their heart to rehome it to a farm because they're like we can't actually trust our animal now around our child that breaks my heart still but I understand that more but when people get an animal you have to understand that is for life like that's how I feel about I feel like an animal comes into your life as a family member I completely agree I also and I do want to be careful with this because I know that there will be people listening to this who may have had to rehome their dog who they loved so much because it was the best thing also for the animals. Maybe it was, it was stressed out. Maybe it became aggressive when it was around kids. And also as a parent, you have to prioritize the safety of your children. You don't know how old, you know,

some dogs are not compatible with small children, right? That's just the case. But I do think it is a very, very stressful situation. And I, and I also think that sometimes we are a bit too casual in how we deprioritize animals when we have kids come into our lives like some people are and that I have a real problem with and I know that for us there was definitely a period that was challenging like when our kids were really really little it was challenging to give Buster like all the love and affection and nurturing that he deserved and that he'd always received alongside our kids but that was only a small period of time you know and now we're back to a really great balance where everyone is, everyone is happy. Everyone feels loved. And we've also been able to raise our

children in a way that they know how much Buster's a part of our family and how much they respect him. So they get up in the morning, they go and hug him. Then they come and hug us. You know, they treat him as though he's a family member as well. It is tricky though. And I, now that we're talking about it, I want to highlight it. There are definitely so many reasons that people do need to eat up their animals. And there are, you know, I know some elderly people that weren't old when they got their dog, you know, they've aged with it, but they've gotten to the point where they've taken turns in their health and they physically can't look after that dog anymore. And them giving their dog up is because they love it enough to give it the life it needs. So I have

seen that as well. Cost of living, like you might get a pet or you have your family when things are amazing. And then financially we've seen over the last few years, so much has happened. And there are a lot of people that can't afford to live. And so the first thing that's going to probably go in that situation unfortunately is maybe a pet that has cost you too much money because there are things in your life you can't change right you need the roof over your head you need to feed your family and you've got kids I'm not saying that like I support that but I 100% understand why sometimes it has to happen yeah and look I do agree completely with you and I know that there are going to be like I said people who were listening to this episode who had to give up

their animal after having children and often it's because behaviorally it doesn't match up with having kids. It's non-compatible and it's not safe for everybody in our household. So I totally understand those instances, but far out. It's really hard. And I do think that some people, maybe to a lesser extent, but some people are too casual around the place in which an animal sits within their family. All right. Question number two. This one's a little bit spicy. My husband was in the shower and I needed to go and do a wee. So I went to the bathroom and as I was on the loo I was having a bit of perv on him in the shower he looked so good and he had a potential semi so I decided to strip off and jump in we had sex in the shower when we finished I

turned to get out and something dropped onto the floor it was his phone it had been propped up in the shower so essentially when I had come in to use the bathroom he was watching porn on his phone in the shower and he was about to have a wank hence his semi he was interrupted and i felt kind of weird about it like i had been a bit used because you know he already had a hard on and he was watching someone else and then i was just there to finish the job should i feel weird about this and have i been used i just find it strange you were turned on while you're doing a week no i don't why are you sitting on toilet you're on the toilet and then you look over and you're like oh that man i married him definitely not the moment that i would get the juices flowing but

understand it if you're perving on your husband. Anyway, this is interesting because I think this is going to be different for everyone and their thoughts around porn as a whole. Not even the fact that you finished it for him. I think some people are against porn. Some people, it doesn't matter if their partner watches porn. And we've spoken about that in the past. For me, I don't care. I don't care if my partner's watching porn unless it was going to impact my life. He doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. The sex is worse. It's changed. It's turned into porn type sex whatever it is but for me if I walked in and found my partner watching born in the shower I'd probably be turned on I'd probably like damn and want to get in on it so for me when I hear this

and and hear you say you felt a bit used that makes me a bit sad because I don't think that that's the case at all like he didn't do it and then invite you in to finish it it was very situational like he was having the time of his life you stumbled in and he was like hey I'm seize the day seize the opportunity uh let's roll with it so it makes me sad that you feel used by your partner, husband, boyfriend, whatever, like if you're in this situation, this isn't screaming used for me. This is screaming opportunist. Yeah. I agree. Also, I think it would be a way bigger problem and a much different question. If you were to say you walked into the bathroom, your partner was watching porn. He had a semi, you tried to have sex with him and he was

like, actually, I just would rather finish myself watching the porn. Like that's when I would feel upset that's when I'm like oh okay well now I mean unfortunately in this situation this is a lose-lose situation for your husband and you have to think of it like that right like he well so okay you're upset with him because he was watching porn and he was going to jack off but then you came in and he was like oh my god my beautiful wife who I want to have sex with yes I'll do that yeah right you're upset about that scenario but you would be equally as upset if he turned around and said oh actually I'm not that interested and then finished himself off in the shower right like he can't win in this situation he did he finished so hey I mean he he won but now you're angry at

him so I'm like I understand that you might feel the way that you feel and I'm not invalidating that at all but what I'm saying is is the alternate option is way worse like that would have made me feel far more insecure I don't think that in his mind at all he was like thinking oh yeah I'm still watching porn like I think that was just an easy option for him to get off he was in the shower he didn't think you were up for it you walked in to do a wee you know at no part of no part of that situation was he like yeah yeah we'll play that's my point so he was probably shocked that you actually were like yeah that you were like ready to get it on and then he was like cool that's way better than having to watch porn in the shower i don't know i wouldn't

be annoyed good on you for like snapping into it i would just i would have seen him and i would have been like god that's a lot of effort right there but that's because you got two kids the kids are downstairs watching cocoa melon you had diarrhea for a couple days i'm just like i'm emotionally spent but yeah i personally don't think that this is a problem although at the same time i don't want to invalidate you when you say that you feel this way it is okay that you feel this way and it does also come down to what are your views on porn like you said, Britt, what are the rules in your relationship around porn? But I definitely personally wouldn't be taking this as a personal insult. As we said, this is us speaking surrounding

our thoughts on a relationship and porn. We don't know that you haven't had discussions with your partner before around porn. Like, does he watch it too much? And it is an issue. There are so many things like this is a surface level answer for you. But with the information you gave us, I think embrace it. The sex was probably better, to be honest. Sure. Okay. Question number three. This one came in on email. I've been single for the better part of 10 years and I was always a single friend watching all my friends fall in love, which made me so happy. But it was definitely hard because I love love and I started to think maybe it wasn't

for me. We love love. We love love. Then in 2022, I met this amazing guy, but he lived overseas. My friends were really concerned because long distance is never easy and I've always had commitment issues. But this time it felt different and I thought he was worth it. flash forward to now and I've never been happier and last week on a beautiful island he asked me

to be his wife and I just want to know what's a cute way to tell my friends that I'm getting married spoiler it's me how did you leave it to the third question because you've got diarrhea i was gonna tell you on monday because i wanted it to be real i got you Are you crying? I'm like, in the question. Yay!

I've been waiting so long to tell you guys. I'm not joking. Because you've got diarrhoea. I was like. Your shit ruined my shit. My shit ruined your. Your diarrhoea ruined my moment. Your diarrhoea overshadowed my engagement in true life this time.

Can you believe it? Oh, my gosh. Was it on Laundry Hill? I have. No, what are we going to do? What are we doing now? Because there's so much and this is not getting tacked on to the back of an ask and stay tuned for Tuesday's episode.

Yes, no, we are. Tuesday. Oh, my fucking God. I literally was just thinking, we didn't get this email. This has been in my pocket the whole episode and I keep putting my hand in it because it's not insured yet. I keep putting my hand in it. Is it still there?

Oh, my God. No, I'm shaking. I've been waiting to tell you guys. Oh, my God, honey. I can't believe you kept it in. Oh, fuck, Ben. We're so happy for you. We're so happy for you.

Jono with the confetti? Jono, you told Jono before you told us? Yeah. You told Jono before you told me? Oh, Jono. Oh, my God. You're the cutest. Oh, my gosh.

That is so sweet. I hate, okay, Britt. I hate how much I was just like doing admin work on my laptop and I was like listening to this. And then when you got emotional, I was like maybe she's emotional because like, you know, she really hopes that this is her. And I looked up and I could just see this massive ring on your finger and I was like, wait, fuck, what?

I was reading the question and maybe when you go and listen back, you'll hear it. I was looking for it in our email so I could copy it over into the show notes. That's so funny because I was like, what? You know, I've waited my entire life for this moment. Five years of this podcast we've spoken, I love, I can't stop shaking. So I was like, I need to tell them in a really cute way.

I can't stop laughing. Laura's laughing. I'm still crying. I'm about to shit myself. Meg, you've overshadowed my moment once with your poo. Keep it in. This ain't it. I can't.

Oh, my God, I'm leaking from everywhere. I'm so happy for you. I love you so much. I just never thought it would happen. I'm so happy for you. Oh, my God, I have so many things, but we have to keep it for Tuesday. That's a real fucking cliffhanger, guys. Breadcrumb.

Tuesday, yeah, we'll unpack it all on Tuesday because what I will say is, like, it was the most incredible day of my life. i can't believe you kept this a secret for a week dude it's been eating me up inside i only told jono because when it fell through on monday he didn't know first when he felt when it fell through on tuesday's episode i was like okay john i'm just gonna tell you because let's just make this a thing i'm gonna have to restructure how i tell them i'm gonna put it into an ask uncut that's why i told him so i was sorry it's funny it's more content so jono jono is amazing So I told him, I was like, I just want you to make sure the camera's on.

He's like, I'm going to one-up you. He's like, I'm going to get confetti. I didn't know about this. I'm wearing a veil, guys. John have brought me a bride to PK. So, yeah. Oh, my gosh. That ring looks so good on your finger.

Dude. Dude. Dude. Who are we? Dude. We're not answering any more questions on this show. No, that's us done here. I'm not even doing any more work.

This is going out raw. He's just quitting. We're all leaking from every hole. I'm shocked that neither of you – I'm not taking it off. No, pass it to me. Yeah. So how do I sign off now? Is it like, hi, guys, bye, fiancé, signing off?

All right, everyone, listen to Tuesday's episode for more. And you know the drill. Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your friends, tell your fiancés and share the love. Because Britain is a game! Because Britain is a game! We'll be right back.