Life Uncut - Ask Uncut - Britt's Going Into The Jungle!!

Episode Date: March 20, 2024

Hey Lifers! We will get to your questions but firstly, BRITT IS GOING TO SOUTH AFRICA and entering the "I'm a celebrity, get me out of here" jungle!We talk about how it came about, what it's going to entail and which charity Britt is going into the jungle for! You can check out the charity Rize Up Australia Vibes for the week: Britt - watch I'm a celebrity on channel 10. It starts on Sunday! Keeshia - Ultra sonic cleaner Zima dental pod Laura - One Child Nation on Prime Video Then we jump into your questions: -Last month my family & I were at the beach and we set up our Cool Cabana and 3 beach chairs. We were there for a few hours but decided we wanted to have lunch so we packed up our beach towels but just left the cabana and beach chairs underneath it. A few hours later we returned and a whole family was sitting under our cabana on our beach chairs. They had their rash shirts all hung up on our cabana. We said ‘what are you doing here?’ and they said they asked people nearby if anyone owned it and when they said they hadn’t seen us in a while they thought it was fine to use. When we asked them to leave the mum rolled her eyes at us and only the young boy apologised. When I told my friend about this she said they had every right to use our cabana and beach chairs. This isn’t correct beach etiquette is it? -I had a friendship of 10+ years who was my best friend and had been through everything with me, this friendship ended last year. The friendship in itself got quite toxic towards the end so it’s definitely a relief that we are no longer friends, however it’s hard to not look back on all the good memories and good times we had. I feel like I’m coming out of a toxic romantic relationship. I know I'm better off without her but it’s still sad. Now that I'm out of this friendship, I find myself looking around at other female friendships and feel sad. I have friends but I feel like it's all on a superficial level, and I'm never truly myself like the way I was with her. My question is how do people make good pure friendships in their 20’s? It's just making me so sad lately -My partner has had a declining sex drive for a while now. I've noticed that his instagram explore page is full of raunchy bikini models. After confronting him about this, he admitted that he jacks off to these pictures. I want to know whether this is a problem to most people or if it's me overreacting? You can watch us on Youtube If you have an question please send it on it to life uncut podcast on Instagram Join us on tiktok Or join the Facebook Discussion Group Tell your mum, tell your dad, tell your dog, tell your friend and share the love because WE LOVE LOVE! xxSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Life Uncut acknowledges the traditional custodians of country whose lands were never ceded. We pay our respects to their elders past and present. Always was, always will be Aboriginal land. This episode was recorded on Darug Wollamutta land. Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura. And I'm in the jungle! And I'm a celebrity, get me out of here. Well, you're actually not.

I'm Brittany. I'm not Jungle. I'm Brittany. You're sitting in a studio with me right now. What the hell happened? Do you remember when- Hang on, people might not have heard the news. I'm getting there.

I'm getting there. I'm just baiting them for a bit longer. And I think the Jungle thing may have given it away. Do you remember when we very first started this, we were like six months deep, and then you fucked off to do The Bachelor in Paradise? Yeah, because you made me. I did.

I didn't want to do it. You held something to my head and were like, get out. And then you ended up in a relationship with Tim. Fucking lol. Don't even. No. Cut that out. I don't want to talk about that.

I'm so far gone from that. We are not bringing that back into this episode. That's so funny. Oh, bless. Bless. Look at you now, babe. Going into the jungle. I'm a celebrity.

Get me out of here. Yeah. Brittany Hockley. I feel so weird for you. And I also. I feel weird for me. I feel so weird. I also am going to be very sad.

So for anyone who doesn't know, Brit is going into the jungle. The show starts on Sunday. So this girl is out of here. But it means that Brit will still be on the interview episodes. But when it comes to our Tuesday and a Thursday episode, it could be two weeks. It could be six weeks that Brit's gone. It depends on.

No, you exaggerate. It's only a month if you win. Is it? Yeah. The whole jungle. Brit may never come back. unless i get eaten unless i get like eaten by something it's funny so straight away they said to me what are you most afraid of in the jungle and i said a hippopotamus and they're like what

and i was like yes i'm afraid of hippopotamuses or hippopotami which one is it hippopotami i think it's hippopotamuses with a plural it sounds so dumb i am because they are outside of the mosquito they are the most dangerous animal in africa I yeah I think that the hippopotamus is the closet danger the hippopotamuses is the closet dangerous animal that people don't realize yeah have you seen I'd petrified of them also what did they run through the camp a whole herd of them have you seen their teeth yeah they're like they need a brush do you know what they need their teeth are humongous and they just chomp and they'll crush you in half they need to go on a reality tv show and get some free veneers

after the fact that's what they need oh my god that was the worst joke I've ever heard Usually I'm the dad joker. Could be you after this new stint. Look at my teeth. I don't need teeth. Just so you know, I mean, to give you guys the way that this is going to work over the next few weeks, producer Keisha is going to be filling in for Brit. Yo!

Delilah might make a few appearances. Delilah may also be on mic. It'll be us. Things will be exactly as normal, but it will just be producer Keisha and I doing the episodes while Brit, you are gone. But genuinely, how are you feeling? It hasn't sunk in properly yet. i always said if i was going to do any other reality show the only ones i'd do would be

dancing with the stars like you did or i'm a celeb because i just feel like they're in a different category they're wholesome their family like i'm done obviously done with the love but i'm done with drama like i don't and i hope to god there's no drama in the jungle but like historically speaking the show is not about that like people going from all walks of life they're supposed to be friends they're supposed to be working together to try and earn your dinner because you only get fed if you win stars together it just looks like a lot of fun and i'm super excited to meet the other people in the in the jungle like do you have any idea who's going like is there any part of you that has an inkling or are you just completely kept in the dark hand on

my heart it is so secretive you do it's impossible to know there is nothing leaked and i have google searched the shit out of it i was like what's been leaked who's out there's nothing there's speculation of so many different people we know all the hints like we know there's olympians afl players comedians hollywood do you know what's going to happen people are going to get papped people are going to get papped going in that's what happens every year there's always some sort of leaks that happen leading up to just before it starts because they have to physically get them to africa and so that usually is like oh we have to physically go i mean no not metaphorically going to africa well last time they just chucked them in the center of australia or something

didn't they they just made a fake set and Byron that's so depressing it was COVID though they did what they could do that's true and also this year so Dr Chris Brown the vet he's not on it this year this is his first year of not doing the jungle I know and Robert is so cute like Steve as in everyone knows Robert Irwin Steve Irwin Terry Irwin's son brother to Bindi I feel like if there was ever a TV show that he was perfectly made for it's this show don't get me wrong I like the show and I have watched it in the past but sometimes I don't enjoy how contrived parts of it feel like how contrived the dynamic between the hosts like oh it's what they lean into totally but I actually fucking love Julia Morris very funny and she we've we've been so lucky in the past like

having really intimate conversations with her outside of just being you know in the world of media and she's always been really honest and she's such an oversharer and she's she's just real salt of the earth and so i think her partnered with someone like robert could be a really awesome dynamic a really cool thing is robert has said like you can only eat on the show now like farmed animals so you know how you have to always do those gross eating challenges where you're eating like an eyeball or something oh my god i feel sick yeah but also when they used to do the whole like eating a zebra penis like no one okay it's disgusting and like everyone's like the penis but like no one actually wants to see someone eat a zebra penis no one wants to see that well i think

people do i think people love it but people love the animals as well yes but people want to see us in the jungle vomit i want to see you eat zebra shit instead honestly wow okay tell me what you really think laura no that's my this is what i'm dreading the most right on this show i'm so excited to go i'm so excited to meet people the challenges look so fun like the actual physical challenges i don't care about you know when you get a question wrong and you get all this sloppy shit dropped all over you like whatever not going to be great but the one thing i don't want to do two things i don't want to skydive yeah because i've got a height problem so i'm hoping i don't get any of the heights and i don't want to do the eating challenge

and now you're not going to be able to avoid both well which is the worst hear me out i can avoid the eating challenges if you guys are voting for me on the right days because i think what they do is say like who do you want to see in an eating challenge and you have to vote. So don't you fucking vote for me. Life is different. Don't you fucking vote for me. Oh, part of me is like do we –

No, of course we do. You don't do me dirty, bitches. Sorry, Brit. We're here for the content. If you're like I don't want any drama and I don't want any challenges, I'm like sorry, pal. I want to see you eat that zebra poo. No, because what it means, seriously,

what it means is that you're always in the lowest amount of votes to go out each week as well so it's like that's how it works the whole show is based purely on public vote if you don't get enough votes you're the person that leaves that week and it just goes like that until the end the person with the most votes wins the entire thing now obviously guys i'm not going to sugarcoat it i want to win no but i think it's this is so interesting to me because i always thought it was rigged right like i 100 believed that i'm a celebrity is rigged so there's two things that came as a surprise to me i thought it was rigged it's absolutely not because it has to go through the same sort of like advisory board that lotto goes through so it is what yeah so it's it's

because money's involved for charity yeah yeah so in australia because because once you have a monetary amount that's attached to it there's rules and regulations around how you can conduct what's called like prize winnings and so it goes against everything i thought but that was like my thing that i learned and i was like oh my god that's so interesting and brit your charity is so beautiful i'm so proud of you for choosing who you chose so that's what this whole premise is in case you've never watched it is like you don't as the celebrity which i hate even using that term even though every year people are like who the fuck is that and you know what okay this is the other thing when i get announced i mean like when the people post more shit people are gonna be like

Who is that? This is what I need you guys, you lifers, to band together and be like, oh, that's Brittany. She's a podcast star. We love her. I feel like the opposite. Like the most rogue comment wins. Yeah, okay.

Keisha, why are you both against me? Keisha, I challenge this. Because it's funny. Funny for who? Not for me. For you fuckers. Guys, this is not just about you, Brittany. This is about all of us.

No, no, this is about me. Okay. I'm not sharing this one. I challenge you. Write the most random fact you know about Brittany when people say the most random who is she you need to write the most random fact that you can think of about brit and put it underneath i don't want people to be like oh she's from life on cup podcast i want people to be like as well i want people to be like oh she's the chick who's really

into chicken nugget dinosaur chicken nuggets whatever you know i want like the most random thing you know about her after all my life achievements that's what pops to your head yeah when you need to describe me it's my chicken dinosaur nuggets yeah it's so sad also that you change your hair so often that i can't keep up but anyway let's get back to charity yeah so that is the premise right like you don't as the celebrity win money at the end that's not what it is you don't win a dollar but your charity does i think it's a hundred thousand dollars you guys know over the last four to five years on this podcast it has been very important for us to highlight women and to speak about domestic violence from tempted murder from a partner

we've spoken to a woman whose sister was murdered in her relationship we've spoken to somebody that survived honour killings. We've spoken to Jess Hill who was heavily involved in making coercive control illegal. We have tried to cover so many different aspects of domestic violence because the fact is it is so prevalent in Australia and that is why I chose a charity called Rise Up which basically helps families as a whole. So it's not just women, it's families and children but it's predominantly women because we know that that's who it affects. They help them leave these situations and do whatever they can to help them start fresh. And that's a range of different things. Some of them will be set up in your accommodation. Some of them will be given a

cash advance. Some of them will be just given things that they need, like clothing and appliances. Or just the support network to be able to leave abusive relationships. Rise up. That's what I'm going into the jungle to be eating eyeballs and stuff for. Hopefully, I'm there at the end and we can hand over a huge amount of money. this is an area of which we have spoken about so deeply on the podcast and it also is just part of the fiber of what is dna both of us we have spoken about personal reasons as to why we care about this space but also it is just something that is not going away in the australian landscape it is something that you think male violence against women how is in today's world in 2024 it's

something that is as prevalent as it is but every week there is stories about this and so this is an organization that helps women leave some of the hardest situations to do so and i i like if anything if you don't want to vote for brit vote for the charity just vote for her because she's doing good things for a charity that's amazing moving on from the charity aspect of the show which is obviously one of the most important things the reality is that you're going into the jungle and you're going to be doing all of the fucking wild stuff that you have to do in terms of the things that you can take like i want to know about the logistics of it and how it works like what do you get to take with you inside what do you get to like because you get

given a list of the stuff that is and isn't okay to take yeah so you literally i'm not exaggerating the packing list is hilarious because there's nothing on it you don't take anything you get given your uniforms like that you're wearing there those terrible cargo shorts and that shirt yeah you're allowed to take six pairs of undies and six like bralettes or whatever you want to shoes like a sports bra i might try and smuggle in some extra undies and then a few pairs of swimmers two or three pairs of swimmers or that's it but then that is literally it they provide you with everything so then in terms of contraband every year people sneak stuff in like you what do you do do you shove it up inside yourself do you shelving like lollies guys i feel bad if i

put this on and i hear they can't search you down so you've got to pack it onto your body but like what do you want to take in like what would be your an espresso machine strapped to my stomach what will you try and take i i don't know i've been thinking about that because i need to go this afternoon to get it i need to get some masking tape well it's super glue chocolate i'm thinking not coffee because that's silly because you can't have it for the rest of time in there anyway so maybe like a hot chocolate or something sweet maybe some like but you want a few right because you don't want to go in and not have any for anyone else you can't go in you gotta share you gotta make friends you're gonna be the dealer you gotta be a dealer do you think anyone's gonna

want to have it snakes alive after you've pulled it out of your vagina and people would pay for that are you kidding yourself that's top dollar do you guys remember how shade worn after he went on he had the condition that he was allowed to smoke in the jungle and after that they were like no more he was given special privileges because he's shane warren well also kerry and kennely was allowed to take her whole makeup baggie i think the big dogs are allowed to i i'm not big enough I have got no negotiation skills you didn't try and negotiate anything I did they said no do you know what I tried to negotiate this is how sad it is I was like guys I need to take a hairbrush I was like because I have hair extensions I can't go in without a

hairbrush or my head will get knotted and you'll have to shave my head you know what the fuck has said shave it oh that'd be great content I was like well Brit we will man the fort while you were gone and also i'm i'm so excited for you it's it's so fun doing these things that put you so far outside your comfort zone that make you kind of like just like saying yes to stuff it's where really cool new things happen and you know and i and i say this from going back to like bachelor days saying yes during the bachelor changed our lives forever yeah you know saying yes to quitting my job and starting tony may have changed my life forever i also just really want to go to south africa it's just really but it's also really cool i think sometimes you know you get big opportunities

in life and it's so easy to say no to things because there's other reasons and things that come up but i mean us even doing this podcast like you saying yes to this is something that is admirable i'm so fucking excited for you i can't wait to laugh at you on tv and the thing that i think i'm the most excited for is the fact that we get to see the real version of brit like every day on this podcast well you get to see the version that you hear on the podcast yeah and like well you're a loser and it's great and we know but you're gonna be a winner no i don't want to lose please you're gonna be a winner no but what i mean by that is like i said this to you the other day because sometimes i think people look at your social media and they think that

you're a you're perfect they think that you're this perfect i don't think anyone thinks i'm perfect this is also an opportunity for the australian public not to sound like a wanker but to see the version of you that we get to see every day and that's really cool and i'm really excited for you so just be exactly the version of yourself that we get to see because we love you And if there's ever a time I need you guys, it's now. Let's make you the queen of the jungle. We can do it. I believe in our lifers.

We can make you queen of the jungle. Okay, well, I literally need to go. So let's get this episode going. All right, let's answer your questions. But before we do that, we've got vibe and unsubscribe, baby. Britt, what's your vibe for the week? Watch. My vibe, guys, I'm sticking to it.

My vibe is watch I'm a celebrity. Get me out of here. It's starting Sunday, this Sunday, the 24th. I think it's probably on at 730. But like that is my vibe. Please watch the show. It is on channel 10 in case you didn't know and now you do. Keisha, what is your vibe for the week?

My vibe for the week is potentially a little bit niche, but it does cross over into two territories as I have learned. If you're the type of person who wears teeth retainers, you know, those plastic ones, Invisalign is the main company, but there are a bunch of other ones. I have them and I wear them to kind of keep my teeth straight. Maintenance phase. They get scummy and gross over time. so i ended up investing in this thing it's called a zimmer dental pod it's zima and it's ultrasonic

cleaning and so look they're not cheap it's 150 bucks they do not give discount codes i tried really hard to find one but basically you whack them in they're like aesthetically quite nice you put a bit of water in you can also put a dental pod tablet in and you press the button and it essentially vibrates heaps and it cleans your teeth plates really really well the worst thing about having those I used to have Invisalign and then I stopped using my maintenance plate is how funky they smell yeah there's nothing less sexy this is Matt every time we're about to get it on because he'll put his retainer in then he'll get into bed and then we're like I'll know that it it's sexy time if he's like that's it that's our foreplay Matt ripping those stinky retainers out

He's so rank, isn't he? But that's what you do, right? If you haven't prepared. No, he does. He puts him in that sterodent stuff, like that cleans dentures. But if he has – Dentures? Well, no, it's a denture cleaner.

I know, but it makes him sound so – He cleans his dentures. No, but if he's in bed and we haven't thought, oh, tonight's the night, and he's like, oh, fuck, you called me off guard, then you're getting a little bit hot and heavy, and then he has to slop those things out of his mouth. Well, anyway, if you don't want Matt to have any gross ones, we'll get him a Zimadental pod because I've also learnt they double

as jewelry cleaners wow yeah so I don't know if I would recommend that oh yeah ultrasonic cleaning does yeah yeah so it's an ultrasonic little cleaner so I've put my um I like are you like I don't know if I recommend that Laura this is me telling you I have put my Tony May rings in plenty of times and they are going great just don't put any products or chemicals in there with it and then that's okay all right I have a recommendation today it is a documentary that I watched on the weekend it is not a new documentary though so I just want to make that known because it came out in 2019, but I did not hear about it in 2019. And Matt brought it up the other day and was like, I'd be really interested in watching this. And it is called One Child

Nation. It's an American horror documentary. Now I say that because it documents the one child policy from China and the realities behind how that was mandated. It is truly horrific. This is not light viewing for anybody especially if you are pregnant or if you have been through pregnancy loss or even just for anyone it's really hard it is not light viewing whatsoever but it is incredibly incredibly interesting and i also think it really lifts the veil on a policy that i think from the outset and and from a western culture we don't understand how it would have been easy to maintain and you know there was a lot of conversation around there being fines that people would have been subjected to if they were to have more than one child. But this goes into

the immense cover-up and the propaganda and also child infanticide that occurred, forced abortion, forced sterilization of women. And it is a very comprehensive documentary. Basically, it is a Chinese woman who has left. She's had her child in China. She goes back and she's interviewing midwives. She's interviewing her own family members, some of the atrocities that they did in order to maintain a one-child policy and I don't recommend this because I think it's something that you're going to watch and you're going to be like oh wow that was you know it is truly horrific but like I said the way that this documentary is done is an incredible story to watch that will be news to most people who view it I don't think most people understand what happened during that period

and it was so recent the one-child policy was so incredibly recent and it's been lifted now and people are being recommended to have two children because of the the aging population so the issue that's happening in China now is that it is yeah that the population is aging and it is predominantly men because at the time nobody wanted to have a daughter as their only child which means that now there is an overpopulation of men in China there's not enough women and that population is getting older so they're going to be in for a situation where there is a complete reverse in what was happening 20 years ago. Yeah. Well, that is on Amazon Prime. It's on Prime Video if you do want to watch it. And it's called One Child Nation. Let's get into the questions. Question number

one. Last month, my family and I were at the beach. This is such, okay, I know we said there's no dumb questions, but this one is a little bit dumb. We set up our cool cabana and three beach chairs. We were there for a few hours, but decided we wanted to have lunch. So we packed up our beach towels but just left the cabana and the beach chairs underneath it a few hours later we returned and a whole family was sitting under our cabana on our beach chairs they had their rash shirts all hung up over our cabana we said what are you doing here and they said they asked people nearby if anyone owned it and when they said that they hadn't seen anyone using it for a while they thought it was okay for them to use when i asked them to leave the mum rolled her eyes at me and

only the young boy apologized when i told my friend about this she said that they had every right to use our cabana and the beach chairs this isn't correct beach etiquette is it no it's not no it's not no i disagree sorry you're at a beach and there is a very expensive cool cabana and beach chairs and towels and someone says no towels they took the towels with them just chairs and a cabana okay set up okay different story then laura so there's a beach club there's a cool cabana and there's beach chairs expensive at the beach and somebody says excuse me does anybody own this no no it floated down and sat there on its own yes someone owns it they're probably swimming because they're at the beach oh I haven't seen them in a while because they're

doing beach things they're playing with their kids they're in the ocean they're getting an ice cream they're having lunch whatever no no you're incorrect here Brittany I am don't you are you're incorrect the reason for this is that there's nothing else there that indicated that people were around. There was no bag. There's no towel. It doesn't have to be. It's their personal belonging. I know. But if you're going to go away for three hours and have lunch, she said she'd gone for hours, hours and just leave a couple of chairs and a cool cabana. Let the family seek some shade. You're not using it. It's just a chair and a cool cabana. Like I would feel differently if it was a towel. I would feel differently if these people dressed in your clothes. No, you

wouldn't that if like no if you went to the beach and you put your beach chairs i would never leave my kookaburra at a beach for three hours yes you would unattended yes you would you go and play with the girls in the pool all the time for hours you get ice creams you walk your kids don't just go and sit and kick back and relax under a kookaburra i strong disagree i have never been to the beach with children where i have left my belongings for hours at the beach that doesn't that doesn't happen there's also toddlers so we're underneath the kookaburra there's not a time limit on your belongings there's no one policing that you're like oh they're two two hour limits up i'm taking i'm taking the cabana i'm saying you can't take it i'm saying if they were like my cabana

got stolen i'd be like that's a bit rich they moved in they hung up a washing line and put their clothes on there they were like drying they're squatting i think they were what's the what's the time limitation on squatting someone's good cabana i think it is i don't have a problem with it i think if there is a shade at the beach and no one is using it at all no no what is wrong with you if you need to seek shade bring your own fucking corkabana and your own umbrella you don't just get to go and say i'm gonna take this shovel and i'll take this bucket from this girl i'll take this towel from me that's what happens you don't just go and collect people's belongings to make your little house that's what happens at the beach though if i go listen listen oh my god you are so

listen linda listen linda's out there are offended if i go to the beach with my kids and i take all of their shovels and spades and stuff by the end of the day i have to fucking walk up and down the beach trying to find all their bits and pieces because every other fucking kid has taken it right always complain about it you always yes you do true but i also steal their stuff okay i'm not saying it's normal i'm not saying that you should run out and do it i'm just saying that if i had left all my things at the beach I'm not saying I would even do it but what I am saying is that if I left my cool cabana and three chairs and nothing else at the beach for hours hours and I came back and a family was using it I would say oh hey sorry that's our stuff but I wouldn't be

like can you leave how dare you touch my cool cabana it's just a shade cloth who fucking cares nah you're so far removed from what is normal it's wild like the fact that you think that anyone can come that your personal things belong to anyone on the beach is not normal people spend eight hours at the beach that's why they take a cool cabana because they want to be there all day it's why they take their beach chairs it's why people take eskies it's why they've got a piece of string to hang up some clothes like that's the whole point who's hanging up their clothes this is not survivor They did. They just hung them over the back of the chair.

They said that they hung up their shit to dry. Like they've settled in. They had their binoculars. They waited till a family left. They're called cabanas. Do you know, okay, when she said the woman like eye rolled her when she asked her to leave, I think it's probably because you asked her to leave with some tone.

You were probably like, excuse me, this is my stuff. Can you get out of here? Yes, like the three little bears when they sleep in the bed. Get out of my bed. What? You can't just move into someone's shit and expect them not to be a bit like, hey sorry like what are you doing in my cabana if you if you somewhat if you came back to your little setup and there was an entire family that had moved in you cannot tell me that you wouldn't

be like sorry sorry guys what what are you doing i just come back and say hey guys this is my chair my cabana which is probably what she did that's probably what she did and she got the attitude and eye roll like this family thinks they're squatters they can squat anywhere they probably just moved down to cheryl's cool cabana down the beach like get your own cool cabana i get it if it's like i get it can we say kookaburra one more time it's not even sponsored i know kookaburra you should sponsor this episode how dare you they don't even need the sponsorship every single motherfucker has one of those at the beach these days it's just a sea of kookaburras let's stop saying the name okay shade shade cloth okay let's insert shade cloth into every kookaburra i

genuinely this is what i would think right if i had a kookaburra and i came back and there was a mom with a little baby under and she's like so i'm so sorry i was just seeking some shade i'm like of cause of course it's fine that's not the problem like totally fine my kookaburra my shade cloth he's always good it's your shade my shade cloth is gonna be casa cloth your casa cloth yeah i think that that's fine the thing here is the the entitlement this family had to think that it was a free-for-all and the audacity they had to roll their eyes when the owner asked them to move i just the question is do you think that this is correct beach etiquette no i don't I just genuinely don't and I think this is going up as a poll anyway I think that's okay okay

that was hectic poll it okay question number two I had a friendship of 10 plus years who was my best friend and had been through everything with me this friendship ended last year the friendship in itself got quite toxic towards the end probably the last few years I'd say where I found that I wasn't happy in the friendship and I felt I was stepping on eggshells all the time so it's definitely a relief that we are no longer friends. However, it's hard not to look back on all the good memories and the good times we had. I feel like I'm literally coming out of a toxic romantic relationship. I know I'm better off without them but it's still really sad. Now that I'm coming out of this friendship, I find myself looking around at other female friendships and I feel

sad. I have friends but I feel like it's all on that superficial level and I'm never truly myself the way I was with her. My question is, how do people make good, pure friendships in their 20s? I love this question because I think we give so much airtime to romantic relationships, but big female friendship or big friendships of any gender are the same as going through big romantic relationship breakdowns, right? And they feel the same. Sometimes they feel worse because you don't have any of the tools to figure out, okay, well, what am I supposed to do here? Or how am I supposed to feel here? The thing about when you lose a big friendship like that, a friendship that's taken up so much space in your life, someone who's shared so many memories,

someone who's like connected with you on so many things, what you can't do is you can't compare your new friendships or your friendships that are quote unquote more superficial to that friendship because they never, ever, ever will stack up. The intensity of the connection is never going to stack up to the friendship that was a decade long because you spent a decade building that connection you spent a decade getting to that level of comfortability it didn't exist when you very very first met each other and it's not going to exist when you very first meet someone new and start a friendship there either and we do this in romantic relationships too we can get out of long-term relationships especially if you're the one broken up with you start dating and you go

nothing compares to them no one I've met nothing I have experienced compares to that person who you hold up on this pedestal and it's because of course no one's going to compare to the many things that you have invested and shared with them. So I think firstly, knowing that this is very normal and it's a normal part of a friendship and relationship breakdown, whatever that relationship is, but also you have to give it time to invest in those, in the relationships that you say are superficial or in the friendships that you say aren't necessarily giving you what your past one did. You have to give it time to allow for those friendships to evolve into that too. And I do think it is a kind of a bit of a balancing act between finding the friends that

you have the same or similar chemistry with but also giving it time and doing things with them that will allow you to get to that place where you feel as though they're your best friend at the end of the day I do think it is way harder to make those deep friendships in your 20s and 30s as an adult it's harder to meet someone that's on your level and it's harder to find the time to make those connections it's harder to find the time because you're an adult and adults come with responsibility adults come with families and they come with a more of a workload and more pressure and more I hate to say this but really serious things happen in people's lives as adults like you're older your family's older people are passing away like I don't know that sounds

really serious but like it's just different when you're in your your teens and your early 20s life's different to 20s 30s 40s so I have often found that that's probably why I have a small friendship group like Keisha and you Laura are some of my closest friends and that's because we work together because we are forced to spend those time together butter boy don't look at me like that I'm sure you worm your way in as well but also when you say we're forced to work together like we came together as friends you made that sound so grim I'm only friends with you because we're forced to spend time together I don't mean forced but like we get to spend eight hours a day together because we work together so there's no other relationship in my life that I have eight

hours at a time to spend with a person to develop the relationship totally and also like our situation is very unique because the lines are so blurred because what we share as friends became our work. So we talk about all the life stuff and then that also is part of our job. So it's a very unique situation that most people wouldn't have in their workplaces. I agree with you, Britt. I think it is harder to be able to reach that depth of friendship when you are a little bit older, but I definitely don't think that that's impossible. There are loads of people who, you know, make new friends in their twenties and in their thirties and those friendships, you know are soul connections where they feel this you know very very deep friendship with that

person but you have to make time for it you have to make space for it and has to be somebody else who also is in a similar time of life who can make time and space for you also and I guess knowing that this is your priority I just think be gentle with yourself in terms of of thinking you know I look back on this relationship and I think about our friendship that we had and you're always going to have fondness for it and I say this because it's from my own experience one of my closest friends all through school all through my 20s we were you know literally inseparable best friends and I would have compared our friendship to a romantic relationship in terms of like the intensity of friendship we spoke all the time every day did everything together

we had a big friendship breakdown and it was just before her wedding and it really ended quite terribly I'm not sad that she's not a part of my life anymore because I think that in some ways it's easier but I absolutely still think of her in the same way that sometimes I reminisce on like you know the really great things of ex-relationships that you think about and you go I can't believe that person was so important to my life and now I never ever get to speak to them and you never know maybe in time this person will come back into your life and you will get another opportunity to redo your friendship sometimes friendships just need breathing space especially if they turn toxic but also what you've said is really normal just to reiterate that like friendships are like

relationships they come and go and the that cliche laura you would have posted it in your quotes era friendships uh for a season not a reason like there's all no it's a season a reason or a lifetime whatever laura would know she probably the apple never falls far no it really is a season to water yeah first in best dress so what you said earlier Laura is very important that when you are seeking out friendships it's not imperative and it's not the end of the world but it goes a long way to make sure that the people that you're hanging out with are in your stage of life even when you think of like when you're going out in a group of friends you're all single you're partying you're having fun you have

so much time to catch up with each other and then one of them gets in a relationship and you realize it's so much harder they're still around but not as often because their priorities have shifted they're in a different stage so that's the one thing that I want people to keep in mind when you're searching for friendships because it's a question we get a lot women want to have friendships in their 20s and 30s and they don't know how to do it that is like a key part but I do think most people and I don't want to say most because I want anyone who hasn't experienced this to feel left out but a lot of people do have a friendship or friendships throughout their lives that are a different level to most friendships there is that intense friendship which is almost

like they are your soulmate you speak to them all the time and that's the comparison I made where I'm talking about they almost feel like a romantic relationship but without the romance I don't think that those friendships with that level of intensity where you're completely entwined in each other's lives can stay at that level forever I think that that eventually either something implodes something turns toxic or you both move into different stages of life and the friendship mellows in a way that is more manageable because you simply cannot maintain a friendship of that intensity for forever without anything ever changing and I think often more often than not it changes in a healthy way in terms that you aren't like you know part of the same DNA you

start to kind of just have other things that are priorities in life whether that's new relationships whether that's kids whether it's work whatever that looks like for you but often what can happen in those types of friendships is that for one one person a new priority has popped up the other person feels deeply jealous and left out and that causes a lot of the toxicity as well so I think it's a very big thing around like managing friendships and friendships are such an important relationship that we have in our life but we don't have anywhere near as many tools to manage them as what we do romantic relationships and they get so little airtime the only other thing I want to add to this is you asked how do you make new friends as an adult we've spoken about this loads we've

spoken about you know do new things try new hobbies go do sport like those types of obvious things that you can do recently we interviewed Ali Walker on an episode on loneliness and we spoke about this idea of friendship and like how do people make friends in their 20s and their 30s and she even commented on often the advice is things like do a new sport open up your circle in order to make new connections but one thing she mentioned which I think often gets forgotten and it was such a great point is the repetition showing up at the same time doing the same things so that way you can build those networks so say it is that you're doing a sport but you're doing it with the same team you're doing it on the same day because often you might go okay I'll join a

gym class but then the people who are in that gym class are transient so it's making sure that you are doing the same thing where you're being exposed to the same people and it's over time that gives you the opportunity to build those deeper connections and to really figure out who you have a connection with and chemistry with okay next question this was a long one i think it's a good one and i'm just going to like summarize it into a nice little package very short sharp cute good job sexy surmise surmise it surmise summarize um so long story short this girl and this boy have man and woman have been together for a for a little while his sex drive has been declining she has noticed and she's also noticed that on his explore page on his instagram it was

just like chock-a-block of bikinis half nude you know g-strings very sexy paint and like just use porn hub why the fuck use instagram well she has said it's obvious that the explore page gives you what you look at right so she's like i've seen a page of all this sexy shit i know that obviously that's what is feeding him because that's what he's looking at so she asked him straight up and he admitted that he jacks off to instagram models i guess i don't have any models chicks in bikinis is on Instagram that's what he is jacking off to oh yuck now she wants to know if this is a problem or if she's overreacting I have thoughts and feelings but you can hit me first Laura I think if it's a problem to you it's a problem if it's affecting your relationship it's a problem if it

makes you feel insecure it's a problem like all of those things to me feel like yes it's a problem my thing with Instagram and the reason why I have way more of an issue with my partner jacking off to chicks on instagram than i do to them doing it for porn for example and we've spoken about this i know some people are not comfortable with porn and they don't want their partners to use it at all i don't mind i feel differently about porn because i feel like it's purpose built for that the people who are on there know that that's what people are doing with that content i also feel like the people like it's exactly that it's purpose built on instagram it's different for a couple of reasons one it feels exploitive of the women who are on instagram the fact that

there's some dude in his bedroom jacking off which that wasn't the purpose of it being posted but the other part of this is and the thing that I think is the bigger issue is that women on Instagram especially like influencers girls in bikinis whatever they are also accessible people do you know what I mean and actually maybe that's not the bigger issue but it's something that would make me feel insecure they're accessible people you know and I remember a girlfriend of mine telling me that her boyfriend was really like looking at this one girl's Instagram a lot and she was an influencer and she's like but the reason why I have an issue with this is because she lives in the same suburb like we've seen her at the beach she's not this like unattainable you

know Angela White person on YouTube or on porn or whatever she's like this is someone who is accessible to him and so it feels weird to me that that's where he's shooting his shot haha literally but also I think in general and this goes beyond Instagram if someone is masturbating so much that causing an issue in your sex life, in your relationship, regardless of what the content is, that is a reason to be upset. It's impacting your relationship. And how did he respond when you said that you're upset? You know, when, when you said that this is something that hurts me and you're like, am I overreacting? He first lied about it. Okay. Did he make you feel like you were overreacting? Did he gaslight you? His response and the way that he deals with that information

and deals with your feelings of hurt says a lot about him more so than it says about your reaction to the situation yeah and so some extra information there they're 25 and 27 they both still live at their respective family homes they're going to move out next year but she said she only tries to initiate sex as it is once a week because that's just their situation and it's still a problem so 100 the problem isn't even just that it's instagram women the problem is that he is preferring and prioritizing masturbation through the week to things that are on a screen as opposed to putting that effort and time and energy into the relationship and come into your relationship into you into you yeah so that is the issue here I don't have a problem with my partner masturbating

at all I mean even if I lived with him right like I know I'm in a long distance relationship so it's different I don't have a problem with him doing that he's going to need to do that but even if I lived with them I don't have a problem if they want to do that if it doesn't affect our relationship like I don't even want to know about it to be honest I don't care I'm like as long as I still feel like I'm getting what I need and that intimacy and the chemistry and the excitement or whatever is still there but when you're not living together in your relationship you're only seeing each other once a week if they are still not wanting to have sex and you do want to have sex then that is the problem he is not meeting your needs and you need to figure out why is he

not meeting your needs because he's masturbating too much or is he not meeting your needs for a different reason like you guys are not connecting on some level has he got other things going on because it might not be like men can masturbate and still have sex one doesn't have to cancel out the other so I would be trying to find out the exact reason why he feels like he doesn't want to be with you in that moment yeah i'm so glad you said that brit because there's definitely a few ways to split this question i think the very obvious place to go to and it's where everyone kind of thinks originally is like oh well he's looking at these girls on instagram he's a bad guy and therefore it's affecting your relationship and he's not having sex with you and it's just

that he is the problem and the instagram's the problem there may be other bigger issues in your relationship and yes he is going to instagram and looking at models in order to pleasure himself does but that no everyone doesn't necessarily do that but what i mean is is that that might not be what the bigger issue is in your relationship and the intimacy it could be caused by him masturbating too much and then not wanting to have sex with you but there also could be something else that's the reason why he's not wanting to so it's really having some very important conversations around why is his sex drive so low when it comes to being with you verse why does he feel as though he wants to prioritize pleasuring himself rather than prioritizing your relationship they're big

questions and there could be very different reasons to the ones that seem so obvious to us at the moment but just going back to this idea of like dating a guy who uses instagram as a channel for following hot chicks it's pretty juvenile and it feels pretty gross like if that's his only if that's his entire explore page is chicks in bikinis i would what is yours open yours right now. Oh my God. It's a hundred percent plants. It is so many plants, but that's his entire, entire Instagram feed is that Instagram algorithm is saying, oh, this guy just wants to look at chicks in bikinis. I would feel like that really sort of shows the quality of the person, like that that's what is on his mind. That's what his interests are. And it wouldn't make me question

him as, you know, as a whole. So, and I don't want to go too deep because we know at the end of the day, it is just Instagram, but it is not normal for your partner's Instagram to be 90% chicks in thong bikinis. It's just not. I don't have one. I just opened my explore page. I don't have one male on my explore page. My explore page is Taylor Swift, Margot Robbie, fashion,

a bit of tennis, and that's it. That's my page. Okay, my explore page is, Britt, I'm not joking, plant, plant, plant, plant, jewellery, plants, paintings, plants, more jewellery. This says a lot about us. More jewellery, more jewellery, self-help. one chick in a bikini and she's a mum she's holding a baby but the other thing I want to say on this is that some people might think that this is normal because it's normal to them like

they open their boyfriend's phone and it's just chicks in bikinis and that's become normal and you think oh that's what all guys phones are like I guarantee you that I open Matt's phone and I look at his explore page and there is hardly any chicks in bikinis let's do that let's go make Ben and Matt show us their explore page take a screenshot and see what it is everyone go and Ask your partner what their explore page is. Yeah, go and get your partner's phone and look at their explore page because it does give you an indication of what – No, we're starting fights over nothing.

Don't do that. Go and fight your husband. It's not healthy. Don't do it. Okay, yeah, that's true. I think producer Keisha's looking at hers now, is she? It is true. He can look at whatever he wants.

He can. But I don't know. It does make me question if you're using Instagram for that sole purpose of perving on other chicks. For most people there is a line as to how appropriate versus inappropriate that is. Yeah. I mean, I'm definitely happy for Ben to look at chicks.

I think it's healthy because I know it doesn't affect our relationship. Yeah. I'm never going to say it like I follow hot dudes reading on trains. That's hot dudes reading books. It's like my favorite page. It's just a. Hot and smart. Yeah.

It's just a plethora of hot men. That's what Brit's masturbating to. Yes. Anyway. Well, that is it from us, guys. We've answered your questions for the very last time. Well, we haven't. Yeah.

You guys will still be answering questions, but I am out of here. I'm heading into the South African jungle. I'm a celebrity. Get me out of here. I can't fucking believe it. I actually can't. No, I actually am in disbelief. I refuse to.

I'll see you here on Monday. Yeah, you will see me, but on the TV. Oh my God. Which is so, it's going to be so weird. It's like the Truman Show, right? Like you're locked in a little bubble and everyone just gets to watch on. I can't wait for them to like get some video of you just like picking your nose or doing something really gross.

Picking a wedgie out. Yeah, that's fine. Wedgies are fine. But nose picking's a bit gross on national TV. I have seen a lot of past contestants pick their noses because you just live day to day and like you get stuff up there you gotta get them out you got no tissues i would be screwed because i have particularly blocked sinuses so i'm always picking my nose as a sponsor anyway guys that is it from us we will be reminding you keisha and i will be taking over

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