Life Uncut - ASK UNCUT - HELP!!! Binge drinking, porn and dirty cheating dawgs

Episode Date: June 16, 2021

It's Thursday so let’s get into your deep and dirty Q’s! My friend loves to party, and has progressively taken it further and further. It’s now at the point where she gets so drunk and carries on that I’m starting to resent her. What can I do? How do I bring up that I want to spice up my relationship by watching porn with my partner?My friend’s boyfriend broke up with her and she is heart broken. There are rumours that he cheated on her and I’m unsure if I should tell her now or not. Should I?See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hi guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. I'm Laura. I don't know why that was funny. I'm Brittany. because we've already done this episode like three times or the start of this episode and every time I've tried something different. This is our short, sharp and sexy little episode where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions. It's a Thursday. It's Ask Uncut Day. It feels a little bit strange because we're actually recording this a little bit ahead of time. And by a little bit, I mean a few days. Usually we are scrambling around trying to keep our head above water, bringing you these episodes the night before, because that's just how we've

rolled from day one. Our motto at Life Uncut, and this has just become like the unofficial motto. We're going to get it stuck on some t-shirts that just Brittany and I wear. It is, we thrive in chaos. Mine's also risk it for the biscuit. But yeah, we do thrive in chaos and I do risk it for the biscuit. Do you know why we're recording this early? I'm going to tell you. I have a little bit of like pent up resentment and fear that I'm going to be left alone and lonely. Britt, as you guys know, is going overseas, but she's actually going overseas very, very soon. And this is the last episode that we're going to be recording face-to-face in the same room yeah oh I don't even know where to start I'm super excited obviously to go and see Jordan it's been a

couple of months now but I haven't really let myself be that excited we have had so much to do in order for me to go like and I just need to say thanks Laura for like helping me out on that sentence it has been a manic I'm talking like thriving chaos waking up at seven and putting our phone back down at midnight recording all day doing business doing everything for this to go and it's like, everyone's like, are you excited? I'm like, not really. I just need to get through the next week. I have wild anxiety about everything. The reason why we've been working over time to be able to bank some really amazing interviews with some really, really awesome people and they are going to be still coming out. We didn't want to have any time. Okay. We're having

like a mid-year break, which is like standard, but we didn't want to have any unscheduled time off the podcast. And we know that maybe remote recording might have its own challenges. So we just wanted to be super, super prepared, which is very unlike us, but look at us being more adult-y. but when we say we're having a mid-year break guys we will still be releasing content it just won't be like the regular content so don't be scared just like shit for lols it'll be it'll be just lola derby is yeah accidentally unfiltered stories that's where we're gonna be at have your panel already because you'll probably need it did you just say lol that's my new one also like i am gonna scum like my poor child lola is just who's lola you mean lola derby yeah like i've

just i've ruined my child i know that like i really got stubborn i dug my heels and i was like no i don't care if britney's gonna call her lola derby i'm just gonna keep calling her lola and i'm gonna name my child that and that's gonna be it but now you guys all message me and dm me and everyone calls it lola derby and it really hurts my soul it doesn't she loves it i get messages too with hope lola derby's okay and i'm like she's doing fine she's just riding the roller coaster so you know that this episode is where we answer all of your questions thank you to every single person who's been writing in we pick out the ones that we think we can add value to that we think are the most relevant that you guys could maybe empathize with or get something

out of and we have picked our I don't know if I can say favorite because that sounds really weird we have picked three questions for this episode and are we going to get into it before we do get into the questions I just wanted to say something funny I wanted to read out something funny I'm just going to paraphrase it I got an Instagram DM I love it when you guys slide on in and it was from a listener she had I don't know if you guys remember if you haven't listened to last week's Ask Uncut there was a question that came in about should or shouldn't a woman buy her husband for their anniversary Viagra and we were a bit like oh I don't know if it would be if he would take that as a bit offensive or anyway also we received so many responses on Instagram from people who

work in the medical industry who are pharmacists or who like you know whatever whatever they do they they're people who actually know what they're talking about and the response to that question was that you cannot just go in and buy Viagra which I think most people know that but if you want to get Viagra, you have to actually get a script, which means that the partner can't go and get him Viagra anyway. He's got to go to the doctor and get it for himself. It also means even if you tried to go and do that, the poor guy's going to have erectile dysfunction on his medical record when he doesn't have it. Surely there's like some black market Viagra out there. Look, we're not endorsing. Don't do that. Silk road. Terrible idea. The deep whip. No, we were talking

about in that conversation and Laura was talking about something that Matt had said. She went and asked Matt, what do you think? You know, Matt was like, oh, you've got to be ready to go to pound town if you're going to get by agra so this woman wrote in saying she just picked her kids up from piano lessons very innocent piano lessons they get in the car and life uncut playing that episode don't play life uncut around your kids and as soon as they got in the car they heard you saying well you got to be ready to go to pound town the five-year-old daughter in the back seat pops up he goes hey mum where's pound town that sounds wild she goes done that's a place that you don't need to visit for a very long time pound town is wild you're not going to pound town for

quite some time girlfriend no like 15 years plus surely well i mean 20 whatever 16 so i don't know how old are people these days well i think they're getting younger younger i think it's a chicken have you seen how old younger girls look now did you say i think it's the chicken yeah like the hormones chicken haven't you seen these young girls now and guys I did not look like 16 year olds look now when I was 16 let me show you I was like at 13 I was walking around a hyper colored t-shirt that changed color depending on how hot or warm I was and I had a pair of fluoro fucking bite pants I also like the other thing everybody used to have like branded teeth like billabong was cool or like I did not everybody had like branded t-shirts I will

never forget being 13 and going to a surf shop and I was like mom I really want that t-shirt and my mum was like Laura it's a t-shirt I can make you a t-shirt and we went home and my mum fucking sewed me a t-shirt and then put a decal on the front from spotlight that's what I wore to mufti day at school honestly it's really expensive like a t-shirt back then 60 70 dollars for one t-shirt that you wear once you're a kid you will ruin it add that to four kids like looking back there's no way do you know what I used to do when I look at a 13 and 14 year old now and they've got big boobs they've got makeup they've got beautiful hair they've like had extensions designer clothes I used to every day I did that thing where you would twist your hair into

hundreds of twists in little circles and put butterfly clips on them I had I reckon I could fit a hundred butterfly clips in my hair and that's what I wore to school that's it that's literally the teenager that I was yeah but that's the teenager you're supposed to be that's just shit's character building that gives you a personality imagine every time I see a 12 year old walking around a pair of sass and bides I'm like you will not be funny you have no stories to tell there is nothing dysfunctional about your life you've got too much shit together I still don't have sass and bide genes actually Laura and I were talking about this last night too Laura Sheridan and myself we were like this is the shit that you do as a kid that actually gives you

stories and makes it funny when you're older and it really really is character building like if I was walking around in designer clothes as a teenager i would have no stories to tell no butterfly clips no stories well i mean very like far less relatable stories to tell but the one thing we were talking about last night and i feel like all of the older listeners is gonna get this i mean maybe some of the younger ones will as well but i don't think it's quite such a fad at school these days because there's a bit more of a health star rating in primary schools and okay do you guys not remember devon like just devon on a sandwich i don't think our parents would send us to school white bread butter devon and sauce that was lunch wait but it was pretty

lit because you don't know what it was sucked up devon was like a loaf like a big loaf of meat that came like it was a log of meat and you just had to cut your slabs and then you splattered it on your bread with sauce it was delicious it was like really low grade ham but one step above spam that's what we're talking about and that's what we all ate for lunch as kids but anyway do you this is not a trip down memory lane we need to get into the questions shout out to devon this episode is brought to you by devon that's not sponsored devon devon don't add us okay let's get into some questions here we go okay girls i have this friend that loves to party but it seems every time we go out she's getting more and more drunk to the point where she's falling

asleep and can't walk or talk it's getting to the point where i'm starting to resent hanging out with her because she gets so drunk. I have to carry her home. Like last night, we went to a football game. She got so blind that we had to sit and rest from recovery for two hours so she can sleep it off and then peed her pants. The taxi wouldn't even take her. We had to get the cops to help transfer her into the car. I took her back to my house because I was so scared that she was going to choke on her own vomit. And I woke up this morning and she wet the bed too. It's just getting progressively worse and worse. And I don't know how to bring it up that she needs some serious re-evaluating the way she drinks and I'm not saying this happens once in a blue moon it's

like every time we drink she is getting blackout drunk I'm worried for her safety I'm worried for her health and I just don't know how to talk to her about it this is a I want to say this is a tricky one but it probably actually isn't that much it does sound like your friend unfortunately actually has a problem it's not that she's maybe just partying a little bit too hard it sounds like she's doing it all the time every time but also like I think anybody who's getting to a point where they're blackout drunk and that's the default you have a problem yeah she's got to reassess her baseline of what is a normal night out if your normal night out is blackout drunk and that's for a multitude of reasons that's a it's not healthy it's not safe but it's also a

really big inconvenience to the people around you and I guess that's something that she hasn't actually considered that her doing that isn't just her it's affecting you guys you have to take your night out spend hours looking after her making sure she's okay worrying about her stressing about us so I think there definitely needs to be a conversation that's had well I guess like there's so many parts to this and I've spoken a little bit before on this podcast about alcohol abuse and it's something that I actually genuinely really care about it and I don't in any way think that I was an alcoholic when I was younger but I definitely drank too much and I definitely put some of my relationships at risk because of the way I behaved when I would drink and I look

back on that now and now I know like I never ever want my relationships to suffer because I'm partying too much and I think about this girl and I'm like there is a misconception in Australia and I think there's a misconception around young people that you can only be an alcoholic when you're older no you can be an alcoholic when you're in your 20s you can be an alcoholic in your early 30s being an alcoholic doesn't have to mean that your life is falling apart around you what it means is that you have a dysfunctional relationship with alcohol and you struggle if you're in a social environment where there's alcohol you always take it too far and there's so many ramifications from that but I think when people start to realize that actually maybe they're

an alcoholic it's when it's taken such a huge toll on all their relationships and it's affecting their work and it's affecting all these other facets of life that they then will acknowledge that they have a problem you need to sit down with your friend and have a really genuine heart to heart and explain to your friend one what they're doing because if they're getting blackout drunk that they don't remember everything they need to be made fully aware of their behavior which hopefully in their conscious state they will be quite embarrassed by and also if you do know the triggers if you go out to certain venues or you do certain things at night time that that's going to be environments where she's going to drink if you guys are all drinking around her that she's

going to be drinking more I think creating an environment or doing things with your friend that don't necessarily involve alcohol as a way of deterring her and I'm not saying that you need to like avoid it in all instances but having a really honest conversation with her saying I don't want to be around you when you're drinking it is such a burden on us and not only a burden but also I am worried for your safety I'm worried for your health and the person that you are when you're drunk is not the person that I want to be friends with I really think she needs to be made very very aware of how this is going to impact her relationships and for me and for like when I was in my 20s and I was getting white wine wasted and I was you know drinking too much when I was out

with my boyfriend at the time and he would say to me oh like I hate the way that you behave when you're drunk I hate when you do this it was only when he really started to explain to me what my behavior was like and then other people would say yeah you said that or you did that that it made me realize holy fuck I don't want to be that person I don't want to ruin my relationships and now I'm really really conscious like yes I still love a glass of wine I'll have a glass of wine when I cook dinner I am very conscious about how much I drink now there's a lot of points in there there's I was like, what, where do I, what do I get to first? I literally agree with everything that you said. I, on the other hand, I can't relate that much because I never have had a drinking

problem. I was probably the opposite. My long-term relationship when I was the eight-year relationship, he didn't drink at all. He was like an athlete to have someone in your life that's so healthy and he was older than me. So he was like my influence. That's who I hung around with. So I didn't really drink. I also wasn't around people that were like that. I think that my group of people growing up we were all the same we're all really healthy we're all into surfing and bike riding and just being active and getting up at the crack of dawn so I haven't had the experience with trying to help a friend through this situation but like Laura just said sometimes people need to be made aware of just how severe the problem is if they're not realizing it on

their own and if you don't have a sit down and say as a friend and like a loving chat you want to be there to support her because something is obviously going on in her life you just need to say hey like I'm not sure if you're aware of what actually happens when you go out because she might not she might think it's not nearly as bad as what it is another point I really like that you said Laura is that you don't have to be old it's a common misconception that alcoholism is something that comes when you're older and with all these troubles there are a lot of really young very inspirational famous people actors that you probably don't know but that are sober and I remember reading something recently I know Lucy Hale is I know Zac Efron is he's been sober since

like 2013 because they literally said i wasn't a good person when i was drinking and i didn't want to be like that i didn't want the world to view me like that and i think that that's really great to take inspiration from people that are looked at to be very inspirational and i guess the gold standard someone like zach efron he's just like young hot successful beautiful i mean kayla it seems that we've had her on the podcast she's exactly the same she hasn't had a drink in years i don't think she's actually ever had a drink from memory oh yeah she's never had that's right I think she had tried wine and didn't like it. Definitely a product of your environment.

There's a good chance that your friend struggles with social anxiety. The only reason why I would drink too much when I would go out was because I thought I was like funnier or louder or more entertaining or like I had more confidence once I'd had a few drinks, but I just didn't know where that end stop was. Did you get drunk through The Bachelor, throughout The Bachelor process? No, I was pretty good in The Bachelor. I think there was only like one or two nights, one or two cocktail parties where I probably had too many drinks because it had kind of dragged on a bit too long and it was more so

yeah like it was still it was like three in the morning and we you know there's nothing to do except have a few glasses of wine by then you're kind of like mixed with tired and alcohol but when we filmed The Bachelor I was 31 years old like I'd already kind of lived that life and I already knew the person I was when I'd had a few too many wines and I was like I'm not fucking doing that on national tv same I just think alcohol is such a it's such a big topic in Australia. And I really do think that we have such a binge drinking culture here that we glorify and we still think it's really fun to go out and get really wasted. Australia is the worst. As someone that's traveled the world, Australia is literally, and I'm very patriotic, I love Australia, but we

are probably the worst for binge drinking. It's almost ingrained in us that that's the cool thing to do growing up. And then it's not until you're a little bit older that you realize it's not that cool. The last thing to think about if anyone does have a friend or is in a situation that's very similar it's really important that maybe you create situations for yourself that aren't going out and getting drunk so instead of all catching up at a bar or going out for the night be like hey let's catch up for lunch and a walk let's go play cricket in the park let's there's like a thousand things you could do let's go to the cinema like you could do anything other than creating the environment that allows that to happen so that's another food for thought but

I think we've covered that all right let's hit me with the next question have you ever watched porn with your partner what are your thoughts on it ways to spice up sex life my partner and i have been living together for nearly three years i want to know how to spice up the sex watching the sex watching the bold type i love that i hope you're watching that because of our record watching the bold type they talked about watching porn together i think it would be awkward but would love to hear opinions and options have you ever watched sex with a partner i don't watch other people have sex with a partner have you watched porn with a partner Yeah, I have. It doesn't really do it for me, but porn doesn't really overly do it for me anyway.

We've spoken about that before. For me, it's not my thing, but I also didn't find it awkward. So why did you watch it if it's not your thing? Was it for them? To try. Did they want to try it? I'm open to try lots of things. And I was like, well, how do I know if I don't like something, if I don't try it? It wasn't that it was awkward by any means, but it just like, I don't find the need. It doesn't add any value to my sex life. And I would probably try other things than watching porn but what I want to say for you is I hope that after three years with your

partner and you live together so I hope that after this time you wouldn't ever feel awkward in a situation like that I hope that you guys are open enough to want to try things and then be really honest so I think that I wouldn't worry about you thinking it's awkward I would just say hey do you want to oh you don't even have to ask him I guess you could be like getting sexy and be like want to put some porn on you could just say it in the moment if you want or you could have a sit down and be like hey why don't we watch some porn later what do you think about that like just plant the seed if at any time you're not liking it or you're feeling uncomfortable he's feeling uncomfortable after three years just be like whoa this is not for me and move on I don't think it

has to be a big deal I think it's interesting though that you say that after three years of being with someone it shouldn't be uncomfortable to have these conversations I almost disagree with that and I'll explain why so the reason why is because I think that when you have been with someone for such a length of time you've got your baseline of what's normal like your sex is probably maybe i'm not going to say it's boring but you you've got your safe sex that you generally have and sometimes to then if you're kind of doing the same thing every time you have sex and it's become a little bit monotonous to just out of nowhere be like hey i want to watch porn you're worried that like they're going to take that to offense or it's going to startle them like i know that even like

with me and matt now and what we've been together for i'm just under five years if i was five years four and a bit yeah bonkers i have two kids like whatever we waste no time people i know that if i was to just out of nowhere be like hey we should watch porn that would be weird for our relationship we don't watch porn together so he would be a little bit like where did that come from but would you I mean like I have been a viewer of your relationship for a long time now sometimes it's like I'm not there I'm sitting on the lounge and it's almost like they don't know I'm there we're just having really missionary sex in front of her but he's like sometimes I watch the sex but only at Laura's house your people I've seen the way you two interact with each other and I've seen

some pretty like funny questions be posed to each other i don't think it would be awkward i think you could turn around and be like want to watch porn later and he'd be like well that was weird but i don't think you'd find the awkwardness that's what i think totally and i think that was where i was gonna go with this i don't think it's in the spirit of the moment i don't think it's when you're having sex that you're like hey do you want to put porn on because now he's like it's like too fast too soon i think it is something that has to be raised outside the bedroom in a very light-hearted manner you know and i don't know what your relationship's like maybe you guys aren't as jokey as what matt and i are but i would say to matt i would be like hey want to try

something new and then press play on the big screen but i'd be like so i have an idea uh i want to watch some porn in our relationship like i want to watch porn and see if that turns us on but i want you to go away and find your favorite porno and i'm gonna go away and find my favorite porno and then we can watch each other's favorite porno together and i think like making it a bit more of an activity like that could perry stay out he's just like looking at me like you i'm like this doesn't have to be no i think like i think you can could be like confusing and also maybe a little bit befuddling being there going like oh well what porn and then you're in the moment then you're trying to google porn i think like have your link know what porn you want to

put on get him to figure out what he wants to watch and then come together and watch some consensual porn together oh god I'm like shivering in my boots another thing is maybe does your partner watch porn do you know he watches porn or if you don't know he watches porn can you ask him if he watches porn in conversation if Matt watches porn I feel like he probably only watches it when he's hung over I think what you could do is if you know he watches porn you could literally be like hey next time you watch that let me know just like a throwaway comment that will plant the seed he'll be like oh she's she wants to like I can tell you he's gonna be keen as beans it's something new like he's not going to say no if he doesn't watch it and you don't know that ask him be like

hey do you watch porn like super curious like i think that's a normal question you can ask your partner and i think one of the big things to take home from this as well is like if you've been in a long-term relationship and you feel like your sex is a little bit boring or monotonous there's a good chance your partner feels the same they're not going to be offended by you wanting to bring something new or exciting or try something different in the bedroom nobody is going to be offended by that unless you're like here's some Viagra happy anniversary no but I really don't think that like you could offend your partner especially if you take baby steps like maybe bringing in a toy or watching porn or whatever it is but like if you're wanting to

spice things up in the bedroom watching porn is not the only way to go about it there are definitely other options but I think have a light-hearted conversation about it bring that to the table and then bring it to the bedroom yeah because it could be really fun okay question next one i was like i don't know where we're at okay the next one this is similar to something we had in the past but i think it's got a kind of slightly different answer so i'm going to bring it to the table i also think that a lot of us have probably been in a situation where we don't like our friend's boyfriend or ex-boyfriend so let's go my best friend has been dating a guy for just under a year for some context i have never gotten along with him and she knows that not everyone

agrees with their relationship not only this but we were so incredibly close just before she started dating this guy and then just was not as close due to her relationship, which I know it's totally fine and relationships move in waves. However, I have recently found out that he could have been cheating on her. I don't know for certain, but I'm in a pickle of whether to tell her that these are the rumors that are going around or not. They broke up less than a week ago and she is completely heartbroken. He broke up with her not relating to cheating because she is not aware of this still should i still tell her and let her know so she can move on and not hold on to the fact that she wants to get back with him so badly i just don't know if it is worth telling her now

that they are broken up and will make her heart more broken than it already is this is really hard i've got some like views on this one i'm gonna say don't have views on everything yeah it's not a hot take here there's something different i'm gonna give you my opinion on this one guys i think don't tell her on this one and the reason why i think don't tell her is because you don't have facts and it's not 100% and you're basing it on rumours. And I think if you're wrong, it could cause more hurt to your relationship with her than it will to her relationship with him.

And what it could actually do is if you're wrong, it could actually galvanise their relationship more. Galvanise, that's a good one. Thank you. I liked it too. Do you know where I heard that word used first? That song, Galvanise. No, it was...

Is that not it? No, that was not it. I am tone deaf. It was when I was sitting with Sam Wood and Snezana when Matt and I and Sam Wood and Snezana had to do an appearance on Matt Agnew's season. You don't need to rub it in that the successful people went back onto The Bachelor.

Yeah, that one time when everyone who ended up happy on The Bachelor did a reunion. Sam Wood described his relationship with Snezana as being galvanised by the experience of The Bachelor. And I was like, that's a fucking good word. Yeah, clocking that one. Yes, so I put it in my little kitty and I pop it out every so often. So there you go.

I look I feel the same but I'm going to add something it's definitely important that you don't if it's just a rumor and you don't know for sure like I don't think it's worth going to plant that seed because it will be very tumultuous what I do want to say is if you know deep down that it's true like sometimes you might not see it happen but you still know like I have had friends like that where I know that one of them has been cheating but I've never seen it with my own eyes but you just know but this isn't even just like not seeing it with your own eyes or just knowing this is like a rumor that's been heard in the mill exactly so i think there's probably validity to it but but do you want to be the messenger that gets shot the only time i would consider

telling her in this situation is if deep down like i just said okay it's just it's for sure it's a rumor now but if deep down you really know that he's just a shit bag and inside you're like yes i'm so glad this is finally over if they then go to get back together and you know that it's not right I think then is a time that you could have the conversation but you want to be very very sure of what you're saying that's all I want to say it's not good enough for you to say you don't like him as a person and as your friend's boyfriend you don't want him to be like if she loves him and he's actually a faithful boyfriend you just don't like him that's not up to you to try and ruin that but if you know he's a really really bad egg and he's doing the wrong thing

and then she all of a sudden wants to go get back with him I think then you could have a conversation for sure because i would want my friend to tell me if she knew that my partner was cheating on me and i was about to get back with him because i would want the option to make an educated decision only if i want to get back with him knowing he's done the wrong thing or not yeah but you know what's going to happen she's just going to go and speak to him and he's going to say no and then the girl who is the partner is then in the situation where she either has to believe her friend who is basing this conversation off a rumor or believe the person that she loves who says i never did this yeah and the reality situation but but you know like i mean i think we can sit down here and

unpack the person who she's going to believe is the partner who she's still in love with like we've all made that decision before we've all prioritized especially without proof the only reason why i have a different take on this and why i'm kind of like challenging this one a little bit is because i think with just saying that you're basing it off something you heard or something from a friend from a friend from a friend chinese whispers can happen and they do happen and like yeah i'm sure he's done some wrong things and he may have cheated there is a very good chance of that and there's probably a really good reason why you don't like him I think as someone's friend you don't just instantly dislike their boyfriend unless it's based in something but I just think

be very very careful about having those conversations because I think it can really deteriorate your own relationship something that I can relate this to from my own personal experiences and you guys all know that I've spoken about the very toxic relationship that I was in for a couple of years where I got cheated on multiple times. And this happened just before going on the bachelor. So I had two really close friends when I started that relationship. And one of those friends I'd been friends with since school, like it'd been one of my longest friendships and the other one we'd been friends for over a decade as well. Now, both of these friends had said to me independently, we think this guy's a really bad guy and we don't trust him. And we

don't like think he's good for you. And I, because I was so blindly in love, of course I chose him and I chose he lied he said he had never cheated on me I chose to prioritize that relationship now one of those friends I'm not friends with anymore because the relationship damaged our friendship so much but it was also because she couldn't accept that I had chosen him and to believe him over our friendship but sometimes when you're in a relationship you've got to ride that wave yourself you have to come to a point where you're making those decisions for yourself not just because somebody else is telling you the things you can't see now the other friend who I'm still really close with. She rode the wave. She saw me out on the other side of it. And if

anything, it actually makes me so much more grateful for the friendship that I have, because I know that no matter what comes up, no matter what gets thrown at me, that her intentions that she has is always to support and love me. And it's just like, I just think that this could go really badly for you. If you give her an ultimatum, if you tell her these things, and then she chooses her boyfriend or chooses to get back with him, it could be very damaging to your friendship. conversely I it's the same thing my partner that was cheating on me I had someone tell me that probably a year or a year and a half in and they were adamant they were like it wasn't a rumor they were like he is like he is cheating on you and I did the same thing I asked him he said I

would never do that and I believed him because like you said love is blind that's you want a relationship you romanticize it that's what happens but I genuinely believe that if I had come out of that relationship and I had a bunch of friends come forward saying oh I'm glad it's over we knew he was cheating on you the whole time I would be off the friends for sure I would be like why the fuck who knows if I would have believed them but I'll be like you all knew my partner that I wanted to marry was cheating on me the whole time I would be really disappointed in that friendship if they didn't tell me so this is why I'm torn because you could tell her and she doesn't believe you and that's something that you have got to decide within yourself are you able to

live with the fact that your friend is going to go back to a jerk bag if you really really believe that he cheated on her there's a lot for you to consider here and ultimately I think Laura and I have just presented both sides there are pros and cons absolutely to both sides but the only person now I want you to take everything that we've said into consideration the only person that can really decide what to do now is you, because we don't know your friendship. We don't know the ins and outs. We don't know where the rumors have come from, how substantial they are. And I mean, you know what they say, where there's smoke, there's fire. Usually if there is someone walking around saying this guy's cheated, they're not saying it for no reason. Very few people are

out there to try and fuck up other people's relationships for no reason and purpose. Like I genuinely believe that. But when you're so deep in a relationship and you love someone so much, you just don't want to believe the rumors. But healthy relationships don't have rumors that circulate around them so for me I am going to say unless you think she's going to get back together and unless you think that the rumors are really really true or have a very strong basis to them don't tell her just let her mend her own heart on her own I think it'd be easier for her to move on just knowing that maybe she did have a great relationship that didn't work out so that's what I'm going to say for this however if she is thinking about getting back with him and you're

worried that they're going to kind of like you know reignite that then maybe there is a bigger conversation here but i think just be very careful with the delivery if you're basing this entirely off chinese whispers yeah but just say hey babe just so you know this is something that i have heard i don't know anything more about it but i just feel like i want you to know that's all it has to be relationships are so hard they're so hard that's why especially when you go through from one to another and you're like am i getting cheated on is this guy a douchebag is that a red flag or just a color of pink like if they're so hard and we've done it brit and i have been there we've we've rode the way we've ridden the wave we're both in relatively healthy relationships

right now yeah would you call mine a relationship it's on the other side of the world you're like it's the healthiest one i've ever had fuck you and he's not here well guys that is it for today that is our ask uncut down and dirty episode please keep the questions coming in to the instagram at life uncut podcast and just put it at the top ask uncut also keep your accidentally unfiltered coming in same thing accidentally unfiltered up the top and any other funny stories. Go and wish Brittany safe travels. I mean, I know that there's going to be a lot of people out there who were like, actually, you know what, Brittany, fuck you going to Europe and America. But you know, there's a reason and purpose why as you guys and anybody else who's

doing long distance at the moment, it's really, really hard. And like I've seen Brit have her good days and her bad days in this relationship, just because doing long distance takes a huge toll on relationships. And we will do an episode on long distance at some point while Brit's away. Totally. And I do, I have been getting a lot of questions about how I'm going and just, so you guys I mean like not how I'm going but like how I'm literally leaving to go to Europe just so you know 95% of the time I will be in a bubble I don't get to leave the hotel it's like it's a proper athlete bubble so I know it's really like I want to be really sensitive about it because I know there are so many people that haven't seen their families overseas for a very long time and

my heart goes out to you like I feel very emotional about it and I feel very lucky that I can go and see Jordan but I don't want people to get the wrong idea and we will have a few days between countries where we're traveling to the next tournament where we're free because you literally have to get to the airport and you have to do those things but I do want you to know that I am going to be it's going to be a pretty lonely existence I'm going to be literally not being able to leave my hotel room so not the room the hotel sorry the hotel bubble so I just wanted to add that in there I don't want you guys to think that I'm going just to be gallivanting around and having a bougie holiday totally so anyway i mean yeah we're gonna do updates as i go we're still

gonna be talking we're still gonna be bringing the podcast you're still gonna be hearing i'm just like i just can't wait to kiss his face and that's another episode from us guys so tell your mom tell your dad tell your dog and share the love because we love love We'll be right back.