Life Uncut - ASK UNCUT - HELP! I don't like my besties partner

Episode Date: March 10, 2021

Happy Thursday lifers! Oh how we missed hearing your problems and giving you our unqualified advice! (Mainly because well, hearing your problems makes us feel ok about our problems too, and everyone else hearing your problems also makes their problems seem not so bad🤣)Awww look at us! What a community! Just out here sharing our woes to make everyone feel a little less alone in the world! Not all hero’s wear capes! On the agenda today; how do you know when it’s time to walk away!? When you love your partner and you’re comfortable in your relationship, but the important things like social life, sex life and your ideas your future, like having kids, is different! HELP. I don’t like my best friends partner. At all. But I know they will be together for a long time. How can I fix the situation? Suggestions?Alright I have a tricky one. My bf’s mum added me on Instagram. The family is amazing but ultra religious/conservative, and I am not. So I blocked her from seeing my Instagram stories. She found out. I know she will bring it up. Do I make up a story that Instagram had a glitch? Do I just  suck it up and try to explain and tell the truth? Or do I sell everything I own and move to Alaska? Keep your questions filtering in guys! Send them to our DM’s on Instagram @lifeuncutpodcast and title the message “ASK UNCUT”If you guys love the podcast please hit subscribe and leave a review. And don’t forget to share the love, because, well, we love love xSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey guys and welcome back to another episode of Life Uncut. This is your down and dirty, quick and sexy, well sometimes it's sexy. Did you just say sexy? Sexy. Yeah, I got excited about the word and I stumbled. It's been a while since I've had any sexy. I'd like to say that, but for once I can say it hasn't been a while. Oh, girlfriend.

That's why you're glowing. Anyway, here we are. Guys, this is our Thursday episode. It is Ask Uncut. It's where you guys write in your questions and we do our darndest to answer them. I'm Brittany. And I'm Laura. And we give you all of our very unqualified but extremely enthusiastic advice that comes

from many years of very poor decision making. What they say is, if you can't do, teach. And that's exactly what we're doing here. That's exactly right. We actually had a very insightful conversation about that very recently, and that will be next week's episode. Should we tease that now? Yes, of course.

Don't leave the little carrot hanging. We interviewed, some of you guys will know this, this name might be very familiar to you, and some of you may not know the name, but you will definitely know the book. We interviewed Mark Manson, who is the author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck, which was the number one best-selling book for many years.

I think it still actually is on the list. I think it's the longest-running New York Times best-selling book ever. We interviewed him just the other day, and that's going to be next Tuesday's episode. And honestly, it was such a great interview. He has such an interesting and unique perspective on the world, and I got so much out of it. So I cannot wait for next Tuesday's episode.

But let's talk about today's episode right now. What have you been doing before we get into the episode? Do you have any goals? five-week-old child. Oh, you're like, let's just get in and get out. Yeah, I have a five-week-old child, which means I do nothing. Literally an event for me these days is leaving the house. So to set the scene here, guys, Laura's like, quick, I've just breastfed.

Get here, stat. So I have to bring my sister over. So Sherry is actually out in the lounge room and she's on babysitting duties while we're hoping Lola sleeps for hopefully 40 minutes or enough time for us to bang out this episode. So we're hoping we don't get any interruptions. Yeah, I was like forcing my boob into her mouth just to top her up so that I thought I'd at least squeeze 45 minutes out of her.

Anyway, we're going to wish us luck. We may get interrupted, but don't worry, we'll be back. Well, I have something exciting to share. Tell me. Let me live vicariously through you. And actually, this is a sign of the times if I say that this is exciting, but I just got the COVID vaccine. Which means that we're one step closer to international travel.

What was it like? Did it hurt? Is there any more different to a normal flu jab? Like, tell me how you're feeling. Are you lightheaded? woozy? Do you need to lay down? Do you want a glass of water? What is it? The people that have had it so far, everyone has said it's a really painful vaccine. So I was, I've had every vaccination, obviously for as a healthcare worker, I've always had to, or they don't let you work in

the hospital, especially internationally. But I was prepared for a painful vaccination because some of them are, and it was probably the least painful vaccination of any vaccination I have ever had. I barely felt it. I was like, is that it? She was like, that's done. I'd be interested to hear how you feel over the next couple of days. Cause you know how sometimes they say with vaccinations that you can maybe feel a bit feverish or you can feel a bit achy or you can have like you know some small very insignificant symptoms after having a vaccine I'll keep you posted I'll we'll talk about it next week's episode I'll say how I felt over the week but it's there's nothing actually live in it in that sense so no one's getting sick from it but people

are getting a lot of like localized repercussions and I'm talking like minimal I'm talking about a headache or they might feel fatigue and that's it and that's just usually for a day or two and I only know this because I was asking them and quizzing them when I was there today so that's what they've told me right now I feel absolutely fine my arm isn't even dead yet I have no pain I have no headache I have nothing so that could change over the next day or two and I will keep you posted and because Brit works in healthcare she's obviously one of the first people to be offered the vaccine so we have our very own guinea pig right here in the studio and by studio I mean my bedroom all right let's actually do you know what is is exciting we're currently sitting next

my bed which I had to strip all the sheets off and the mattress protector because I breast milk leaked all over my bed it's a really interesting time in my life guys no I have something actually exciting oh okay sorry it's way more definitely wasn't it hey it's way more exciting than that and it's way more exciting than a vaccine the new lover Jordan and I Jordan decided to put a bet on with me the other day and the bet was that if you are just joining us today Jordan is my new boyfriend he's also a tennis player. Brittany has a boyfriend. The bet is that he said there is no way that I could ever return one of his tennis serves like zero way. I mean like I know that I can't but of course I'm going to disagree with him because I always want to be right and I said

I reckon I can and he's like I will I will put a bet on. I was like great what do you want to bet let's do this and it got quite competitive because we're both very competitive. So he has bet me a house. Jordan has said that if I can return one of his tennis serves he will buy me a house in sydney and this is the most bougie unrelatable af thing i've ever heard what is this man where is his money i know it's so ridiculous what okay and where does one find one of these men on online dating please explain all of these things but okay before we get into it how quick does he serve a ball he serves about between 200 and 220 and i thought this was feet now but apparently it's kilometers per hour so if he serves a ball at 220 kilometers an hour you're either a going to get a

house or B, you're going to be dead. So there you go. So either way, he probably wins either way. All right, guys, let's get into your questions. You've sent us in a absolute shite load because we have five weeks worth of backed up questions to answer. But unfortunately, because we do have to keep to a timeframe, we are answering only three questions today and Brittany's going to kick it off. Okay. Question number one, guys, please help. How do you end a relationship when you rationally know it's what needs to be done and that is because we're just not on the same page anymore for the future and i'm talking about kids our social life and even sexually but emotionally i still love the guy and there are definitely parts of the relationship that

are amazing in that sense i'm talking it's a great company i am stuck i am confused i am drained also p.s we own a house together and a dog ah this is complicated as fuck that was her not me the last sentence so the first thing I want to say to this is that it doesn't matter what type of breakup you're having breakups are fucking hard and they are hard whether someone has done something wrong whether someone has done nothing wrong they're even harder when you still are in love with the person and there's nothing wrong with the situation except for the fact that you're not aligned I reckon that these are the hardest breakups to be perfectly honest when when you're like you know what on paper this guy is perfect or this girl is perfect but I know in my heart of

hearts that this isn't the relationship that is right for me and I guess at the end of the day if you stay in this the longer that you stay in this the longer that you kind of settle because this is the definition of settling the longer that you are robbing yourself of having the things that you want in life I think it's the same as any relationship unfortunately you need to sit down have a conversation and really explain to him how you're feeling I think the fact that like you can say he's a great guy but you're not sexually compatible either kind of lends itself that you've gotten into a situation where you are best friends who live together who had the label of being in a relationship and being boyfriend and girlfriend but you know it's not going anywhere

so sit down have a really honest conversation about those things and then unfortunately like all relationship breakups I think the most important thing is to have a time of and a period of no contact because that's the only way that you can really start to one get over it two to compartmentalize it and three to know whether or not you've made the right decision because if you're constantly in each other's space then you don't have any time to process your real thoughts about it for me I totally agree with what you said this unfortunately is the suckiest kind of a breakup when you do still love them and you enjoy their company and you've spent so many years with them you've never been able to picture your life without them but there are all these other road

blocks now where your paths are going different ways this is the hardest breakup ever and I have done it this was exactly my relationship with my partner of eight years we loved each other but we and we had the dogs and this was the roadblock we were just going different ways but I think when I read this question and I really think about it I think you should ask yourself because you did put a sentence at the end saying that you know we do have a house and a dog together and it's just so hard ask yourself if you didn't have the house and you didn't have the dog what would you do would it be easier to leave in that sense and I think that you'll probably find your answer is yes it wouldn't be as hard now you need to think okay the house and the dog yes it makes it more

difficult it makes it a bit more sticky but it's not a reason to stay in a relationship that's not made for you and the biggest thing that I also got from this is you said sure you're not compatible sexually in your social life I think it's okay to be introverted and extroverted in a relationship I think that can balance each other out to a point but my biggest red flag here is that you're not on the same page with kids for me that would be one of my deal breakers and I know it's a lot of people's deal breakers I know my brother's been in that position before I know friends that have ended relationships because one person wants a child and one person doesn't I think that that is a really really big sign for you that you need to reassess why you're staying in this relationship

because the fact that it's a nice company he's a comfort to you because you've been with him for so long and that's the life you know unfortunately and this is tough love but they're not reasons to stay totally I think you know the answer to this as well I think you're just I think you are maybe hoping for some insight a little bit but you know the answer you don't need to ask if you need to leave or stay you know deep down that you are looking for something more and you're ready to move on but it's very very difficult but I mean in a perfect world right and you kind of nailed this as well Brit in a perfect world we would only break up with people who we don't love you know we would get to a point in a relationship where we're like well I don't love you anymore

so I'm going to leave but we don't live in a perfect world you know and I have also been in this very similar situation and I think for me the thing that I loved I loved him I definitely was not in love with him anymore we'd been together for three years we lived together we owned everything together and I loved our life I loved the things we had I loved how comfortable the life that we had was even though we hadn't had sex together in six months but I loved our life and breaking up with him wasn't just breaking up with him it was breaking up with the life it was breaking up with what was comfortable and it was breaking up with all the things that I love that we owned together and that is fucking scary it's really scary because you have this moment

where you're like well I have to start again like who gets the couch who gets the dog who gets the bed like does he get everything because I'm the one walking away and like no he doesn't get everything like you guys can sit down and work out what's fair and what's even I at the time kind of thought because I was the one doing the breaking up that that meant that he got everything and I walked away with nothing and I think that's a really silly thing to do as well like just because you want to break up with someone and you're the one doing the hurting doesn't mean that you have to walk away from every single thing that you guys have together by staying in a relationship that you're not happy in not only are you robbing yourself of the type of relationship

that you want you're also robbing him of the type of relationship that he deserves as well also having a house and a dog and all these other things it I mean it's slightly more tricky but really not the end of the world as long as you're both having an adult conversation and you're both acting with respect I know for me and I will just be like I'll brush over it quickly but with the house we sat down as adults and said who actually wants to keep this because we weren't renting we owned it who actually wants to keep this what are we going to do with it I looked at my finances he looked at his we looked at what we wanted in our life where we're going to be headed and we made a decision and the decision was I decided to let him buy me out of the house so

he wanted to stay in it he wanted to renovate it he was a builder brilliant I knew that I wanted to go traveling for years so I made the decision to okay let's do that with the dogs it was the hardest decision of my life but I like was split it down the middle well we had two dogs and their best friends and I would never I'm such an animal lover I would like I would never take those dogs apart from each other because I was moving out he was keeping the house I was moving into a smaller house like an apartment and these are working dogs they were border collies and lasses he kept our huge house with a backyard that was on the beach literally on the beach he was like adventure man and I had to it was the hardest decision of my life but I made a decision to let them stay

with him because I knew their life would be better I knew that he could leave him at home together he would exercise him he would love them he was obsessed with him I was obsessed with him too but I couldn't take them to an apartment worst hardest decision of my life but as adults that's what you do you just have to sit down and look at it from an outside perspective and think what's the best for every single person in this situation so I think the fact that you have these little hurdles don't let that stop you guys from going and growing as people and and chasing what you really want in your life but I think at the end of the day the biggest thing to keep in mind is that it is really really hard like you've got to put on your big girl panties and do some really hard

things and breaking someone's heart it's hard to be broken up with but doing the breaking up can be equally as difficult oh way worse yeah because you're responsible for that person you're responsible for their feelings and you want to make them feel better at the same time as being the reason why they feel like shit and you can't do everything so you do have to do the hard work and then you have to walk away and let them heal you can't keep dipping back in you know what's funny when I broke up with my partner and I ended up being the one that called it quits because I knew that I wanted different things in life even though I loved him the hardest part it was I would have proper breakdowns and panic attacks I couldn't breathe over the fact that I was breaking up with

him and hurt and he was very hurt and that was the hardest thing but I all I couldn't get past the fact that I was my issue was what if he doesn't find anyone else all I could think about was him I'm not kidding I know and I was like well like I am the best thing to ever happen to him what if he's alone forever now because I am wonderful because I just thought what if what if he never finds anyone and I mean I thought that about me too but I remember that being such a big thing on my list like I just he was the best human in the world and I was like I just want him to be loved I want him to love someone yeah and I worry I worried about that anyway he was with someone else about eight months later 10 years later I finally meet someone so I had nothing to worry

about but that is the big fear right and I think that that's one of the reasons why people stay in relationships long past their overdue date and that's because there's this constant fear of like what if I don't meet someone else I think like that's so it's so like kind and um empathetic of you to think of that on the alternate side and think about like well what if they don't meet anybody else and I thought I'd meet someone the next day but what I think a lot of people live in this fear of like, well, what if I'm going to be alone? But by being in a relationship that doesn't, it's not on the right track. It's not going to result in what you want anyway, because you want different things. You're never going to be able to meet someone new because

you're not looking for that relationship that aligns with your values and aligns with what you want in life. Absolutely. And I think we have well and truly covered that one. All right. Next one. I've got a question for you. Here we go. Hey ladies, I'd like your advice on how to navigate mending a relationship with my best friend's boyfriend. For context, he and I used to be friends. A few things happened in their relationship that I didn't agree with and ultimately he and I are no longer friends yet they are still together. Anyway, I don't want to mend the friendship necessarily but feel as though I have to for my girlfriend. Even though she hasn't asked me to do it, we all know how shit it is to have your best friend and your boyfriend not get

along. Think for example if Brit and Matt didn't get along as there are children involved in my situation too. Any advice? This is a tricky one. You guys get along too well. Sometimes I'm like, Brittany, Matt, break it up. Stop. No, but I think that's great because I think anyone important in your life, the biggest thing that you want as a person is you want your friends and your family to like your partner and you want to like your friend's partner as well. So it's a tricky situation and it sucks and it would be awkward if I didn't like Matt or Matt didn't like me and we saw each other every second day. But also I think it's a really relatable one, especially if this guy has done something wrong and you're like to your friend you're like I want the best for you

I want you to be treated with respect and love and he's not doing that so of course you're then going to either verbalize it whether it's to your girlfriend directly or to him specifically and say you know the way that you're treating her is not right like that must be such a common thing that happens I know that I've experienced that in some of my relationships with my friends and their boyfriends oh totally but I think what you need to do here is if you want to salvage I mean not salvage because it's obviously not that you and your friend are having a rift over it she hasn't even asked you to apologize but there's always going to be that tension in the air no one wants to feel that tension when you're all together if you guys are that good of friends there are going

to be multiple situations that you as a group are at dinner or at a party or at each other's house or whatever it is I think you probably do need to address the situation and whether Laura and I were just chatting about this before on like what level you would go to at a minimum you probably need to just have the conversation where it's like hey let's just put it all on the table I know we got off to a rocky start I know there are some things about each other you know that we're not completely happy or comfortable with but let's put that behind us and try and move forward for the sake of everyone and I think that's what it has to be I think it just has to be a conversation and then hopefully you don't know that you guys might actually like each other and really get along

once you put it all to bed and you just let an organic relationship develop yeah and I think as well like just to add on to what Brit said is like it's it is so shit when your friend comes to you and says these are all the things that my boyfriend has done you know should I break up with him shouldn't I break up with him and you give them advice because let's say they've cheated or let's say they've done something that really like it compromises your values and your morals and then they stay together and then you've just said all this stuff about them you just said all this stuff you're like he's a deckhead you deserve better you can do so much hey welcome back you're still together it's so so awkward and what probably makes it worse is when you know your friend goes

and says oh well Sarah said this about you because you know you shouldn't treat me like that like that just inflames the situation and it ends up using your friends as ammunition in your fight with your boyfriend which I think when that happens it can cause the situation to be so much stickier and so much trickier but I think you need to reach out to him specifically and say hey can we have a chat can I give you a phone call can we get a coffee whatever it is and have a conversation with him it doesn't have to be I want to be friends with you again I want to be you know back to where we were it can just be like look you know how I feel about the things that you did and said obviously I think that you shouldn't have done those things whatever they are we don't know from

the question I only want the best for my friend I only want her to be happy and I only want her to be treated with the respect that she deserves so you guys are still together I want her to be happy and if you you know have made the commitment to not behave like that or not do that again then I'm willing to start as a clean slate and give you that second chance as well and I really hope that we can get back to at least being at a point where we're civil with each other and we respect each other so there isn't this animosity in the air whenever we're all together because at the end of the day the the one thing that you want is the best for your friend and that's a really really beautiful attribute and if anything he should respect that as well in addition please

I just want to add something extra to that I want you guys to just think about it next time you're having a discussion or an argument I say discussion next time you're having an argument with your partner I really believe and I used to be guilty of it I used to do it but I did it when I was younger and I don't know if it's an age thing or I don't know if it ever stops I'm not sure I don't think you should ever I know what you're gonna say and I actually think it's a personality thing I think some people like to complain so finish what you're gonna say and then I will jump in and say what I think well it's got two parts I think it's really important that you don't complain about every single thing that your partner does in a relationship Laura and I will

definitely like be like oh this happened this happened we'll always talk openly but it's not going to affect she could say a million things about Matt which she doesn't she could I'm never going to hold it against Matt but I know I know that I know Matt and I know our relationship but think when you're having an argument with your partner the worst thing you can do is bring other external sources like your friends or your family into it so don't be fighting with them and say to prove a point even laura thinks that you're shit even sheridan thinks you're an arsehole like the worst thing you can do is start to bring these people that are close into your life because you're not proving anything it's just your best friend's opinion you're not proving a point not

like you've gone and done any research educational research on it but all it's going to do is cause this awkward tension for upcoming encounters and the worst thing is the worst and this happened to me last week a friend called me and they're like uh broke up with my girlfriend and I was like me and another friend were like oh thank god like she was horrible like she wasn't great for you we hated her well not like that but I was their relationship is toxic and it straight up is toxic and I'll be the first person to say that and I was like and I was really honest I was like oh thank god like that was so toxic and you're not happy and you know you need something else you guys just aren't right and then a week later he was like oh we're back together and then you've

said all these things about the person I look I mean it's a gray area isn't it because if your friend is genuinely with someone who is toxic and they're constantly coming to you and telling you all the things that they're doing wrong then there does come a point where you're like do you know what I cannot continue to listen to you tell me about how badly this person treats you and yet you choose to stay because like that in itself is going to wear down the friendship but if your partner is actually like a pretty good guy or girl they're actually really reasonable but you just like to complain whenever whenever there's a fight or whenever there's a small irritation you want to get that off your chest by telling your friends I think that's where you have to

be really careful because you can end up skewing your friend's perception of your partner in your friends thinking that your partner's a bad bloke or a bad chick when really you're just dealing with the normal irritants that we all deal with in a relationship and some of that stuff you can just keep to yourself you don't have to speak badly of your partner to your friends all the time you know and I sometimes have to be conscious of that even when Brit says it you know like I have to be conscious that I'm not just like dissing on Matt because I'm tired or because he's annoyed me for some reason because I've had three hours sleep because it's not really a reflection of him being a bad fiance like he's a fucking amazing fiance it's more a reflection of

me being irritable but using him as a punching bag so sometimes be conscious of that as well she just needs to call the boyfriend have a chat that's that was the answer to all this call him have a chat see if you guys can get back on good terms yeah and go easy maybe we'll go do something fun together like a bonding session like laser tag you can shoot each other at the same time laser tag when you said a bonding session I'm thinking of one of those like trust falls or something no I go straight to laser tag that's fun and also you get to shoot each other and there's a bit of aggression there so you can shoot them in the balls before we get into the last question just an update just got a really cute photo that's coming hot from the lounge room

Sheridan holding Lola and she's in love so we're recording the podcast and Sherry's out there updating us that you know Lola's not crying Lola is fed Lola is settled Lola is still asleep this is good for us because we can still bang out the rest of this episode okay last question before Laura's boobs start leaking hey ladies I have a real pickle for you my boyfriend and I have been together for two years his family is so lovely but they're quite conservative and also very religious so I've always felt pressured to act a certain way around them even though I'm not. His mother recently started following me on Instagram so I hid my stories from her as I just don't think she needs to see me get a little rowdy on the weekends with my girlfriends. I'm going drinking

and I'm just being me. My boyfriend's sister recently asked his mom if she had seen some of my recent stories as I've uploaded some really cute couple pics. His mom quickly realized what had happened the fact that i had blocked her from seeing my stories now i know she's quite hurt by this fact i know she'll bring it up next time i'm around for dinner how do i explain this one away do you think i a just lie and say my instagram has glitched or do i be the old instagram glitch or do i be just be straight up on herself oh just lie just lie through your teeth lying is always the best solution to every problem i mean that's that's the advice we like that is incorrect Correct. I think there is no harm in being honest. I mean, the situation is a bit frustrating and

also like a little bit embarrassing because you have been caught out, but I think be honest. I think you can say, you know, to your mother-in-law or boyfriend's mom or wherever you are at in your relationship, I love you. And I love that you're a part of my life. And I love that you can see the posts and stuff that I put up, but I do go out with my girlfriends on the weekend. And I guess I would hate for you to judge me on something that I put up in my stories or that you might deem inappropriate, you know, and you can say, you know, it's not that I'm going out and getting blind and putting my butt on the internet or anything like that. And if you were to do that, that's fine. Also live your best life. You live your best life. You do you, but you don't owe it

to your boyfriend's mom to pander to her every whim. But of course you want her to like you and accept you and you want to be respectful to her as well. So I don't think that you have to change your settings. I don't think that you have to give her access. I think you just be totally honest and say I love you but there are some things I don't want to show you like me kissing your son yeah be honest but like let's be real sugarcoat that honesty yeah I mean I was fucking munted on the weekend I really didn't want you to see that mum yeah sugarcoat it I the most awkward thing when I think of this is I've I fully picture myself like walking into my partner's family's kitchen and having that conversation the awkward part is who brings it up like if is she definitely

gonna bring it up because I don't think you bring anything up unless she does that's what I think i think if it's a non-issue don't make it an issue totally if you're like don't walk in and be like look let's put it all on the table because she could be like what what do we need to put on the table but if she brings it up then yeah do your little glittery sugar-coated honesty and just be like oh i'll be like look i blocked my mom too he's like oh i don't think you want to see me making out with your son i just felt like it was a bit awkward i just play it off down that sense just be like look i love your son we make out sometimes we go out for drinks it's like i didn't think you would want to see that so i thought i was doing the right thing but i'm happy to show

you all the photos on because you've kept her on the Instagram like on her your actual page and I think that's the biggest thing I think like she's seeing the important stuff that you think is that everyone can see but maybe play it down be like look if it makes you feel better I blocked my mum too like put them all in the same basket but also I think you're probably a little bit more worried about this situation than you need to be no because like I think as a mum like she would get it she knows why you haven't allowed her to see your stories like she's not stupid she's not going to be like but I don't understand why you would not you're a perfect Christian child what are you talking about she you're on any she she gets it and it's probably a little bit

awkward for her too so there is a very good chance that she's not going to bring it up like I mean I know you say that you think she will I genuinely think I would be surprised if she was to sit you down and say hey why can't I see your stories because that is an awkward af conversation but also this question just came in meaning you're going to see her really soon meaning we want an update yeah absolutely tell us but I also think like what you have done there's nothing wrong with this so many people limit what their parents can see because you know what we're adults we live private lives our parents don't need to know every single thing that we do as a 35 year old or a 20 year old or an 18 year old or however old you are you are entitled to some level of privacy

and you don't need to ask for permission for that so I think that she should be accepting of that without you going in and being guns blazing but like Britt said you know play it down make it a bit funny I'm sorry lulzies I actually you're not seeing my Instagram okay I actually just had an idea I've got my hand up like I'm like we're in class Brittany literally put her hand up so she could speak I can't believe it this just came to me and I am a genius I have the solution I have a solution what I think you should do is you can create a close friends list on your Instagram stories put her on your close friends list remove his sister as well but put them on your close friend's list and just put some stories up that are like cute at the beach or whatever or this is

what we're having for lunch that are like your tamed down version and she's gonna think she's got access to your stories is that not a good answer i feel like it's still slightly manipulative though 100 but it gets her out of the situation how can you continue to lie in this and it'd be okay no i mean i agree with that but also you can have your or alternatively you can have all of your friends who you want to see you party and see like the things that you do on the weekend on your close friends. And you can kind of divide up the content that way. So you could put your mother-in-law can see all the things that are all PG and G rated. And then if you're out partying on the weekend, just share that stuff with your close friends so that she doesn't feel

like she's being left out. I do think at the end of the day, like you want to maintain a great relationship with your partner's mom. That's really important. So there is a part of this where you want to make her feel included so you can manage your social medias how you see fit moving forward but i do think be honest and don't lie and blame it on a glitch because she's gonna know you're lying and then that's so much worse than being like hey i just wanted to i wanted to protect you from my crazy side or you could just say johnny made me do it just blame it on the sun don't bring this advice it's terrible all right guys that is it from us this is our short sharp and down and dirty little episode where we answer all your questions if you have

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